I Was Diagnosed With Borderline Personality Disorder

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  • Wanted to open up about my borderline personality disorder (BPD) diagnosis. As a Christian, I have some insights.
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  • @PaulandMorgan
    @PaulandMorgan  ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Hey Fam, this is my journey with mental health. Some journeys might be similar and some different. If yours is different, that’s okay! Comment below and share how the Lord has walked with you through yours!
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    • @KenSweckard
      @KenSweckard ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Prayers for you i.n learning to live with it. My brother and mother both had it and I had to learn to deal with how it manifests in our families lives .. I missed out due to I didn't realize why it was the way I was seeing my family ..

    • @Corinthians--ek4kt
      @Corinthians--ek4kt ปีที่แล้ว

      Morgan l Love how transparent you are,Can I ask you the name of the video where you stopped taking meds? GOD BLESS you Paul and Morgan and Lil Luca❤

    • @Corinthians--ek4kt
      @Corinthians--ek4kt ปีที่แล้ว

      JESUS delivered me from sexual sin, I know its off topic, but the Power of GOD is so Real and Amazing ❤

    • @blane1814
      @blane1814 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing this. 🌷🌷🌷🌷

    • @sambailie4773
      @sambailie4773 ปีที่แล้ว

      I left a comment asking for prayer days ago but seems to have been removed.... Could someone explain why? I thought we were all here to support and love each other. I've been supporting this wonderful channel for years now and look forward to the content.....

  • @Hawaiianstyle65
    @Hawaiianstyle65 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Thank you for talking about mental health and being Christian. I have anxiety and depression diagnosed. Nothing worse than a fellow Christian saying “the Lord says don’t be anxious in anything”. Ummmm thanks so helpful.

    • @Hawaiianstyle65
      @Hawaiianstyle65 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Then guilt sets in like am I a horrible Christian cause I have mental health issues?

    • @cromeo187
      @cromeo187 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I so agree! I was diagnosed by a Christian Psychiatrist as BPD with generalized anxiety but not offered that therapy Morgan discussed. There is this stigma attached to you as a child of God that says you should NOT have to take meds and be suffering from this. Guess I’m the exception. 😮 I am so glad Morgan and Paul are discussing this very important, controversial topic with the Christian community. Glad to hear I am not alone.

    • @cromeo187
      @cromeo187 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Hawaiianstyle65 Yeah and you know there are those finger-pointing Christians that say if you have some type of mental disorder you have some hidden sin. SMH.

    • @sambailie4773
      @sambailie4773 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm praying for you. Please pray for me too. Anxiety and depression is awful

    • @lenin1949
      @lenin1949 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You mean like how Morgan describes her anxiety and depression? Those aren't real, only BPD for some reason

  • @mikaeladonegan2430
    @mikaeladonegan2430 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    I'm a trained .mental health professional and I approve this message!
    But in all seriousness this was a great breakdown of BPD and your experience. So often when we look at mental health we look at the mental, physical and emotional but so many people neglect the spiritual aspect of mental health and I think Paul did great checking in on where your spiritual life was during Morgan's experience!

  • @lethalprincess2087
    @lethalprincess2087 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    So glad you opened up about this! I'm actually Autistic, and was missed for the first 18 years of my life, along with OCD, ADHD, and PTSD (anxiety and depression as well) at 19, and as a Christian, it can also be hard sometimes! In fact, just yesterday in church, the Spirit of God kind of just moved, and knocked a whole bunch of people to the ground, and as an Autistic, I processed this as something bad happening, despite the way the atmosphere had felt. So, I would love to continue to hear your insight of how you cope with what you deal with, and how you seek comfort in the Lord-like maybe what you look over in the Bible for you guys specifically would be awesome! Like one question I have, do you change your daily reading based on how you feel sometimes? Like for me, when I have a flashback or something one day, I'll switch gears and read and study verses that have to do with resting in the Lord and relying on His credibility as a source for my consolation. Again, this is so encouraging to hear about! Thanks again, guys! Love y'all!!

    • @whitterbug3357
      @whitterbug3357 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm in the process of being evaluated for autism. Something you wrote really struck me, and I'm definitely going to have to seek the Lord on this.
      I had an experience at a charismatic conference. Tons of people praying for the Holy Spirt to fall on them. I started to feel something happening in my body, it felt like I was on drugs. I automatically shut it down and started having a meltdown, and I walked straight out of the building and had to call my sister since the people I was with just wanted to pray with me. I always thought I was experiencing something demonic, and after that experience I wrestled with my beliefs and went from hyper charismatic to straight up cessationist.
      Lately God has been leading me to a middle ground, I'm starting to believe in spiritual gifts and present day miracles again. Now after reading your experience, I'm wondering if my experience wasn't demonic, it was just maybe to much for my brain to handle? It was a crowd of hundreds, so I'm sure I was already overwhelmed from that. But, wow... Thank you for sharing your experience.

    • @mikaeladonegan2430
      @mikaeladonegan2430 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@whitterbug3357 If you are wanting to experience being filled with the Holy Ghost you may want to ask a pastor if they can meet you at the church on your own to pray with you. That is how my husband received the Holy Ghost. Just him, the pastor and the worship leader.

    • @whitterbug3357
      @whitterbug3357 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@mikaeladonegan2430 Thanks, but I'm not sure if I want to experience something like that again. I know I'm filled and sealed with the Holy Spirit already because I'm saved. I experience a pleasant peace from the Holy Spirit quite often, like a warm tingly hug. What I experienced that night felt very wrong, which is why I thought it was demonic. I've done drugs in the past, and I felt like I was on MDMA or the beginning of a bad acid trip. It was a very out of control, scary, electric feeling. Not one of joy or peace.

  • @katiehagan2066
    @katiehagan2066 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I have BPD aswell and this definitely gives me hope but also sad that this hasn't happened to me I have tried to take my like several times first at 14 I prayed so much for a sign that I shouldnt do it 😅. Also I think it's rough that christians and Paul thinks ADHD isn't spiritual but BPD is like they are both Nero divergent. Very proud of you for speaking out 💖

  • @j.reesebradley4771
    @j.reesebradley4771 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    There’s no way you’ll remember but I messaged you when you were pregnant saying if you have to go on medication after you have the baby, DO NOT feel ashamed.
    It’s something with the creative mind, these “disorders”, and they flare with trauma and HORMONAL CHANGE (having a baby!)
    Completely COMPLETELY possible to live symptom free. ❤️❤️❤️
    But give yourself tons of grace, Morgan. You have a beautiful mind! Blessing! Keep us posted. ❤

  • @dazza8551
    @dazza8551 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you so much for talking about it, it isn't easy dealing with this as a Christian, people in church don't understand and instead of love and support I'm getting judgment and criticism. It's great you have such a supportive husband, it's rare to find.

  • @annathompson3034
    @annathompson3034 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you for sharing your story and perspective on mental illness, Morgan. In Christian communities, it's rarely talked about, except in the context of "If your faith was real and deep, you wouldn't deal with this". I don't believe that at all. I have had an ongoing struggle with depression and anxiety. As a teenager, I was in therapy and on depression medication. There were periods of time in my life within the past several years that I felt they had gone away and I experienced a lot of joy, gratitude, and freedom. I had panic attacks starting in my teen years, and they were awful. I sometimes had numerous ones in a day. I even passed out while volunteering in my church's kindergarten Sunday school class due to a panic attack. I was miserable most days. I had no panic attacks for about a year and a half, and recently they have come back, although less frequently than they used to. My depression has gotten worse in the past year, but I am in therapy again trying to cope with it and hopefully one day I won't have to deal with that at all. The struggle seems like it won't end, and it can make me feel really weary, but I hope one day I am completely delivered. Thanks for giving me hope in complete deliverance.

    • @himmelblau23
      @himmelblau23 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It can be really hard when things you thought had gone away for good come back again. I'm sure Satan finds it very entertaining to watch us feeling dismayed and exhausted as we once again face things we believed had been conquered. For myself, I was not able to get lasting freedom from the worst aspects of BPD until I let God heal the very deep roots that lay behind it. This was a process, not an instantaneous deliverance, but it was a very joyful process. I pray that the Holy Spirit guides you to the deep healing which you need. Life in this world will always be a bit tough, but it is not God's will that we be crippled with tormenting depression and anxiety. God bless you on your journey.

  • @nikkimeizlish8128
    @nikkimeizlish8128 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for sharing! I feel like there is such a stigma around mental health issues, especially as a Christian. Even though we have eternal hope in Christ that more than compensates for any struggle with go through, Christians are not immune to mental illness so it’s always great to hear stories of these experiences. I was diagnosed with OCD in middle school, and recently my therapist let me know that I show indications for BPD, also. Like you said, it was such a relief to know that these thoughts were due to something real, and it wasn’t just something I was making up. Even though I didn’t know it at the time, I definitely think my behaviors as a young adult pointed to BPD, and I don’t struggle with certain impulses like I did back then. When my therapist and I were talking about this diagnosis, I said that it’s scary to think how much worse off I would be now if I didn’t walk with Jesus. She is a Christian too, and she emphatically agreed. Kind of like yours said, she told me that this is not something that I’m doomed to and it does not mean that it can’t get better. Finding this out brought me so much more peace and it just reminded me even more so that Jesus is always walking ahead of me, no matter what I go through. And that my story can be used to draw people closer to Him,

  • @ashleycollett9036
    @ashleycollett9036 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    We are whole people. Our bodies, minds, emotions and spiritual sides are all part of the whole. I’ve noticed a lot of times in the Christian community we try to compartmentalize ourselves in almost gnostic ways. Healing often involves the spiritual and physical in conjunction. That’s why Christian counseling has been such a gift to me in struggles with anxiety and chronic illness in general.

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Great comment, thanks for sharing🙏

  • @alexsimone804
    @alexsimone804 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    How interesting. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder a couple months ago and have been searching for information on how to life as a Christian with this. And then saw you posted this. You gave me a lot to think about, thank you :)

  • @IamHisHeismine
    @IamHisHeismine 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’m not sure if I have this disorder or not. I’ve been diagnosed with it but thank you so much for this video. The amount of times that that information in my personal life has been Weaponized against me. The diagnosis used against me to say that I’m always wrong being accused of doing things. I’m not doing giving people an excuse to abuse me using this disorder to say that, that’s why they treat me the way they do. One of the reasons I’m not sure I have this disorder is when I’m being treated right and generally loved respected by the people who are in my life saying that they love me claiming to anyway I’m actually fine. I still struggle with some sad depression from time to time because of memories, but it’s something I can manage and I remember a time when you couldn’t even tell that I really had any trauma, but I’m being mistreated. I become a wreck, especially when it’s abuse. Diagnosis to say you have a perception issue they accuse you of doing things they are doing to you. And in reaction to being abused, you become confused and overwhelmed and more and more disregulated. Any point the finger at you and tell you that something is wrong with you. They use this information that you told them to weapon you against yourself and then somehow nothing they do is wrong.. also thank you again for this video because there seems to be so much misinformation and demonization of people diagnosed with disorder. I actually have this disorder even though I’ve been diagnosed with it but either way I do notice the way people talk about people who have this disorder. I work at a hospital in the psychiatric department and the nurses talk about patients is just so ugly. Especially if they have that disorder. Blowing off steam is one thing, but that’s not what this is and these are people that I honestly wish would quit. I did to kill myself when I was being severely mistreated by the people in my life, and there were a lot of other circumstances that were very painful that I couldn’t seem to fix no matter what I did. Sadly, I thought that was the best option. And there are people who I work with in Hospital like I would say things like this is awful. There are too many times in my life in the past 10 years or so since hearing the diagnosis that I have been dismissed and frankly emotionally and spiritually bullied by clinicians and people in my personal life weaponizing this information. There’s been too many times when I have been made to feel like I’m not allowed to have any emotional response to something sad or bad or negative or being mistreated. Heck it seems like I’m not even allowed to have a positive emotional response of excitement without being told, I’m doing something wrong. It’s exhausting and frankly I feel like I’m dealing with a whole bunch of abusive jerk who have a disorder. But then they’ll turn it back on you and say well you just have a disorder and you have a perception issue. And like you mentioned, it feels like some kind of spiritual warfare, just like a constant battle of so many lies being spoken over you. Your accountability standard seems extremely disproportionate and anytime you try to say that you’re being mistreated you’re doing something wrong….. I’m so glad you found someone who doesn’t do that to you. I’ve still yet to find loving supportive people who aren’t going to Weaponized this information. One of the reasons I don’t think I have this disorder is what I’m on peoples good side they like me a lot and they think I’m actually a very calm, stable, loving person and they kind of use me to lean on a little too much. But then when I start to drop boundaries, they start to pick me apart and try to find something wrong with me including this information. I’m tired of being Weaponized. I wish I was just allowed to be myself and be loved and I’m so glad you have that. It sounds like you have some good supportive people who genuinely care about you.

  • @BHALT03
    @BHALT03 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I can't explain to you how grateful I am for your story and your proclamation of Jesus. There are not many sources out there for Christian border lines, and I understand why!! The white and black thinking the contradictive thoughts are so powerful that I have struggled in questioning everything about my faith and the existence of God. I have felt so labeled and damaged since this diagnosis. Thank you for sharing hope!

  • @lethalprincess2087
    @lethalprincess2087 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    8:47 And the hard thing with having those type of things as kids, is that you don't know what it is, but you know you don't like it. My clinical depression was obvious, but no one knew what it was. I just knew that I felt dead sad and brain dead. And then that with ADHD kind of makes you feel like you're coasting through life, and your brain floating wayyy above your head than it normally should 🤔 so yes this is so, so relatable.

  • @tgiese209
    @tgiese209 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I completlt agree. I also was freed from anxiety. Once I understood that I am given everything I need in Christ Jesus for godliness and I am his child. It was life changing. GOD is good. I wish more people believed that their diagnosis is not their identity.
    Last month my doctor finally removed my anxiety from my chart. 3 years free now. And 3 years with Christ.

  • @amandatheresa6495
    @amandatheresa6495 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    So so grateful for this open and honest conversation about BPD. As someone who has suffered with this and the accompanying depression-you’ve given me hope!!!

  • @mollysmiles3213
    @mollysmiles3213 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    How did I miss this video?! I’ve been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder as well and have been REALLY struggling with it. 😔 I’m excited to hear someone else talk about it especially someone who is a Christian 💜

  • @ourblissfulhaven
    @ourblissfulhaven ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you for sharing Morgan! I have a very close friend who was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I can see how painful it can be for people with mental disorders. I am so happy that God is with you and you depend on Him. Also, praise God that you have a loving protective husband! 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼 God is good! 🙏🏼🙏🏼 Praying God continues to bless you and your beautiful family! ❤️❤️

  • @ashleyr8738
    @ashleyr8738 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Hmm. I'm not sure if i totally agree. I could have just misunderstood, but it sounds like you're saying God wants to and will heal everyone of mental health struggles. But couldn't that be the suffering he allows some people to go through to help sanctify them? Their "thorn in the flesh" that will demonstrate God's great power in their weakness? I do agree with you that many diagnoses are physically and spiritually related, and that God can completely set free. But in his perfect sovereignty i don't think he does for everyone. Maybe that's not what you meant; it's just what i heard. 😊 I think our hope is not in healing, but in Jesus and in heaven. That whether he heals us on this side of eternity or not, we WILL one day be healed.
    Again, i don't think you meant for it to come across like you did, but to me it felt a little name-it-and-claim-it-y.

    • @annie_banann_e
      @annie_banann_e ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I can't speak for Paul and Morgan, but as for me... I do truly appreciate you noting the important nuances in how God works in our lives. Specifically regarding mental illness and the concept of "healing."
      If being "healed" means to find and receive a cure that frees you from all chains of your struggles, or returns you to some preafflicted state, then I myself will certainly not be healed.
      Due to over 2 decades of repeated severe traumatic events, beginning in childhood, I suffer from multiple serious trauma disorders/mental illnesses. I have been in therapy for over 15 years and have been medicated through that time. The intensity if that medication and therapy has ebbed and flowed over the years and as the events occurred. I try to keep medical intervention at the lowest level necessary to function safely in the world in a way that is both productive and safe, as well as joyful. But I will never be in a position where interventions/maintenance care is no longer necessary.
      Yet, I do not feel as though God has abandoned me. I have no need to look anxiously to the future, hoping to be delivered from this all. Because I have been delivered *through* it. Looking back at my life, it is the darkest times in my life - the times when many would question His existence, that I felt nearest to Him. I have been asked many times how I can still believe after all that has happened to me - and I ask, how can I *not* believe? It all has happened, I continue to struggle, yet I live with joy and unwavering love - and that is to live with His Grace.
      Of course I see Him shine bright in the positives of life. But for me, the darkness made the light brighter.
      ...
      John 1:5 - The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.
      ...
      I am so grateful for Morgan's health and for her openness in sharing her story and her journey. ❤

  • @whaddoyoumeme
    @whaddoyoumeme ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Love you guys! So thankful for your space on YT. Thanks for always being real, honest, and authentic. 🙏🏾

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Bro means a lot. We greatly appreciate your support❤️

  • @judithbebeyi
    @judithbebeyi ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Paul was so compassionate listening to her in this video can't imagine why he was different when she was talking about her past sexual experiences...

  • @GinKirk7256
    @GinKirk7256 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is so troubling to me. Your video that I watched a year ago popped up on my feed again and I watched for the second time today. You definitely received the wrong diagnosis. I’m thankful you’ve been healed of frightening anxiety, dark depression and thoughts of harming yourself, but there’s NO way you suffered from BPD. Living on our privileged planet, not one of us can escape mental illness to some degree, and we are all prone to depression due to what we’re forced to endure in our temporary home in this fallen world! Most individuals with severe mental illness have brought it upon themselves by their own sin. Of course, there are other causes such as: trauma, the evil treatment by others, imbalances in the body, drugs, unhealthy living. Those with BPD are exceedingly nasty individuals, in a very dark place, to their victims. I know this all too well cuz I’m acquainted with many such folks! They’ve steadily become worse as they age, and continue choosing to treat me diabolically! At the same time, many others find them to be “angels.” They are quite cunning and adept at turning it on and off so most don’t have a clue as to their depravity. Those with BPD even have a sadistic streak, which has been directed at me, even by those near and dear who purport to follow Jesus Christ!
    I implore you to read the list of traits those with BPD are prone to display at the website OUT OF THE FOG.

  • @rachelhmstn
    @rachelhmstn ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you so much for the advice and for sharing! My sister is at a really dark place with BPD and I am not even speaking with her right now. Please pray for her mental health and that she would find Jesus again, thank you 😊❤

  • @rachelashalen1868
    @rachelashalen1868 ปีที่แล้ว

    Morgan, thanks so much for sharing, this video was really great and you guys hit on a lot of good points. I have struggled with (undiagnosed) borderline at least since my early 20s. It started with post traumatic stress and keyed off all these issues. I didn't know what borderline was until after I went through it, read the symptoms, and felt super understood and known at that moment. It isn't easy, it can be a long path of redirecting thoughts, confronting with truth (even hard truths) and letting go of things. But it IS possible to work through things. I'm still working on it, and the heart thing has been an issue this week due to stress, and that never occurred to me to be part of it. Eating has been an issue a bit. It's nice to know we're not alone. Looks a little different for everyone, but we can get through it together which much prayer and solid helping of community. God bless :)

  • @amandapanda316
    @amandapanda316 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Thank you for talking about this!!
    I was sexually abused by a family member when I was a child and diagnosed with PTSD, depression, and anxiety as a teen. I spent 7 years in therapy and only left because I couldn’t afford it when the financial responsibility was given to me. I was not a Christian, but when I finally came to faith 2 years ago, Jesus healed me! I don’t have nightmares, my triggers no longer effect me, I actually practice personal hygiene and want to take care of my body that god made for me. Jesus is such a miracle worker and we are so blessed to have Him. Praise Jesus for the healing he has given to you Morgan!

    • @tannerdefelicis4356
      @tannerdefelicis4356 ปีที่แล้ว

      Look up Dr. Doug Weiss if you are married, and find yourself not being able to personally connect with your husband (intimacy anorexia). His TH-cam channel is with the same name. Abuse can negatively effect your romantic life, and destroy your marriage. It unfortunately happened to two family members of mine, their marriages did not make it.

  • @LausDeoSemper
    @LausDeoSemper ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi I’m so happy you posted this because it sounds like me. Side note - just because you’re diagnosed with something doesn’t mean your walk with the Lord has to be wavering. I think God gives us the strength to work through our demons, but everyone still struggles with their own. Sometimes our walk with the Lord is reminded to be strengthened when we do struggle. I was also in a not so ideal relationship before my husband (we were not walking with the Lord) with previous experience with extreme depression, and that not so healthy relationship exasterbated my BPD immensely. It’s actually what made me realize I had it. Sometimes it’s our environment too, God makes us intolerable of what’s not meant for us. I still needed to work through my issues upon being with my husband because like I said, depression is one of my struggles I believe. The devil knows I am a deeply emotional person and tries to twist that into something unbareable for me - but the fantastic thing was that my husband helped me in a far healthier way than my previous relationship. Maybe because he was helping me walk with God… wink wink ! Anyways, thanks for posting!

    • @LausDeoSemper
      @LausDeoSemper ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My son also healed me from this. He gives me purpose. Also courtesy of God
      - he is the giver of all good things.

  • @Sim77j
    @Sim77j ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hi, I study psychology. If they told you that you have BDP but you can overcome it, it’s because you were 25 or younger. Anything above that it’s already setttle because that is the maximum spam where the personality fully develops, it’s not up to us, it’s our brain. The brain ends settling everything up at 25 max. You could overcome it because it wasn’t definite yet, when were teenagers or young adults we are still settling our personality, so we can change, it’s not definitive, but it is true that BDP it’s not something you can overcome, that was an exception. I hope you could turn it around before 25! Good luck with everything 🤍

    • @himmelblau23
      @himmelblau23 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I have to say that I disagree with this. I have seen a person who was diagnosed with BPD at age 18, and who suffered from it for over 30 years be completely set free. With God nothing is impossible.

  • @aew2001
    @aew2001 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I disagree with y’all about most things, but I have to say that it’s refreshing to see Christians talk about mental health and mental health support. Your journey is important and valid and having struggled with mental illness for so long I’m proud of you for learning how to cope with it and continuing to live.
    I’m in the process of being tested and possibly diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder, which has a lot of overlap with BPD. Support is important from all sides and this was so good to hear from y’all. I also have abandonment anxiety.

    • @aew2001
      @aew2001 ปีที่แล้ว

      Although from a public health standpoint, getting better isn’t the same thing definitionally as being cured. I think that’s how it was misconstrued in the past.

  • @jdkayak7868
    @jdkayak7868 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm glad you've proactively taken care of your mental health, I've watched the channel for a while and kinda didn't believe when you mentioned the borderline diagnosis but I understand you actually have it under control compared to many others.
    I myself had an extremely abusive childhood due to my mom's uncontrollable BPD, she was/is extremely selfish with an addictive personality but I don't really think your like that.
    If the diagnosis is real than your the most resilient/responsible woman with BPD! I really commend you on your perseverance.

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Appreciate the comment🙏 sorry to hear that about your mom

  • @makaylabrown7652
    @makaylabrown7652 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I struggle with BPD and this was a huge eye opener. I think one I need to walk closer with the lord two I need a mindset change. I’ve never seen someone overcome bpd the way you have Morgan and it gives me hope if I press on and keep trying and pray maybe I can eventually get undiagnosed as well. Thank you for sharing your story ❤

    • @clc8610
      @clc8610 ปีที่แล้ว

      getting undiagnosed? If they could do that... but I don't have a large amount of experiences with Psy things...but if they are paid...and they live from people being sick...?You know what i mean? They might prefer not undiagnosed because they risk (if smething happen to the ''patient'', or they might lose an amount of time, money...to live of?!) Is that so bad to say? Could it be?
      I probably wrong..but it is.

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you for sharing, Makayla❤️

  • @morriswilburn9858
    @morriswilburn9858 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am a Christian. In my 20’s, I recognized that I had mental health problems due to emotional trauma that I experienced growing up. I sought out professional help, and it helped me a great deal, both personally and in my career. Having a mental health problem also impaired my spiritual growth. I also found that discerning whether anxiety and depression are due to mental health or to sin is more easily said than done; it takes learning about medications, deep self-examination and time in The Word.

  • @nia5128
    @nia5128 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Sister,
    Would you advocate for meds at all?
    What if you feel your church isn’t a safe place for you with bpd or they are too afraid to handle you? Where do you go?

  • @aleccaprio
    @aleccaprio ปีที่แล้ว

    I felt like the Lord asked me to subscribe to your guys’ channel and I’m so glad I did. saw this and immediately felt so seen and understood. I’ve been diagnosed with BPD bipolar and OCD. 1000% agree it’s physical AND spiritual. thank you for opening up about this and sharing your thoughts and experiences. It really encouraged me to know another believer was diagnosed with BPD. there is freedom in Jesus, he’s brought me so far. Thank you again.

  • @morganlittle359
    @morganlittle359 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Appreciate this video!! When Jesus saves you “old things are passed away, and all things become new” (2 Corinthians 5:17). We still battle our flesh of course, but we have the power of the Holy Spirit dwelling inside of us!

  • @nia5128
    @nia5128 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have fought it spiritually for years but have not won yet. I had lost hope...I hope you’re right sister and I’m glad you touched on this x

  • @kaylamo2509
    @kaylamo2509 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh my gosh thank you for sharing this. BPD is extremely difficult and painful to deal with. I was diagnosed with BPD a couple years ago and I'm doing better now but I'm still extremely ashamed to tell some people that I have it because I was afraid they would look down on me as a wife and would feel bad for my husband. You opening up about it helps me feel more brave to tell my story. You were not crazy and neither am I but some people think we are even though it's not our fault or even after getting better some people still judge.... which is sad
    Im so happy for you that you don't have BPD anymore! I don't know that freedom yet but im getting there!

  • @easttowest5984
    @easttowest5984 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I can tell how hard it is for you to share this but how brave! Just wanted to say as someone who is older, that this stuff does seem to chill with age. I’m not 100 yrs. old or anything but it’s far better than when I was a confused, scared kid. Sometimes it circumstances as well. Remember Jesus went through His own mental torment. The devil attacks in anyway he can, mentally and physically. Because you are going through something doesn’t mean you don’t have faith or it’s permanent (look at all the people in Bible with these issues) Although pills are not always the answer and FAR over prescribed, each person has to do what’s best for them. God can handle anything and it can get better! Glad it did for you. ❤ 🙏🏼 Happy Resurrection weekend 🤍🕊

  • @remmalina
    @remmalina ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It looks so much like ADHD😮 I have it and I have not been diagnosed, 😅but I just know … My mom proves I have always had it. Intrusive thoughts of being helpless and useless are also a part of it. Emotional regulation and self awareness and self image too. And I’m a Christian too. I am planning to get diagnosed soon to get medication because it will help me organize and focus ^^. Hope you’re feeling okay and feel better with the time^^

  • @Joseph__777
    @Joseph__777 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Finally they’re not talking about sex 🥲

  • @NTGreekGal
    @NTGreekGal ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Morgan, I'm sorry that you experienced trauma. I also have BPD. I get the struggle and darkness. So glad DBT was helpful. It has helped me so much. Paul, you are spot on! Everyone could benefit from DBT. Hugs! 🌻🌞🌷

  • @isabellamccarthy-womeldorf2844
    @isabellamccarthy-womeldorf2844 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    ❤❤❤ like I cannot tell you how great this is and I should be praying more and more on deliverance anxiety, but more than that believing it a little bit more and pushing myself to believe it in a little bit more. I kind of just went through an anxiety summer week and I’m slowly getting better and out of it, so this was like super helpful of like I’m not gonna let this thing get to me I’m not gonna let this thing tear me down because I always get through it and then I go through a really long period where I’m like totally fine

    • @isabellamccarthy-womeldorf2844
      @isabellamccarthy-womeldorf2844 ปีที่แล้ว

      So yeah, I’m gonna have to kick my butt into more faith and really push so thank you I’m going to try to keep calming my anxiety and my thoughts and it’s not that I’m gonna shut them out. It’s more like I’m gonna be like I am a child of God and I can control my thoughts in a sense that I am a child of God and God can deliver anybody including me, and including people that suffer.❤

    • @PaulandMorgan
      @PaulandMorgan  ปีที่แล้ว

      🙏

  • @yusufalsanad
    @yusufalsanad ปีที่แล้ว +7

    From one BPD individual to another, you did well regaining control of your life, Morgan. It's a never-ending battle, but well done! :D
    Funnily enough, the last therapist I saw, a black woman, said something similar. "You're aware of what you're dealing with. This is something you can handle. I believe you can." and she was right. As an Anti-medication kind of man, I naturally got the hang of myself at such an early age, which I do say with pride. Haha

  • @destineyhopkins7097
    @destineyhopkins7097 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm so grateful you guys share this stuff with us!

  • @Loforshort29
    @Loforshort29 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have BPD and it doesn't go all the way, Way, but I agree that DBT is so so helpful for it. That being said I struggle everyday but there are multiple aspects of my bpd that have gotten so much better

  • @mj12a58
    @mj12a58 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Good video, you are a warrior! Thank you for opening up and sharing your battles.

  • @Angry_Toe
    @Angry_Toe ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are allowed to share your journey! So why do you think it’s okay to actively deny others the opportunity to share theirs? What if someone told you that what you were going through was a result of a sin? What if your doctor told you that what you were feeling wasn’t real or worse, wrong. Next time you share your struggles, you should think about how your videos affect other people. I hope you overcome this, get a REAL education and become a true christian who respects and loves everyone.

  • @rebekaah777
    @rebekaah777 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you so much for talking about mental health... I feel so much judgement for struggling with mental health like I shouldn't stuggle because I'm a Christian 😔

  • @mariannehavisham8323
    @mariannehavisham8323 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Depression is a symptom of bpd. Everyone with bpd has depression but most people with depression don't have bpd. Self harm, suicide attempts are symptoms of bpd, part of the poor impulse control. Also high rates of eating disorders and substance abuse among bpd sufferers (ed's and sybstance abuse are also bpd symptoms), that is largely due to the depression bpd sufferers experience

  • @GinKirk7256
    @GinKirk7256 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow, what you’re describing is nothing like the BPD I’m well-acquainted with!

  • @kayleeowens1707
    @kayleeowens1707 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have it too! God calms our storms ❤ amen

  • @mariahmesser6293
    @mariahmesser6293 ปีที่แล้ว

    A thought I had at 11:28 of the video….
    I was reading John 9 this morning and there was a blind man who Jesus healed. The Pharisees told the man that he had been born blind because of sin, but in the beginning of the chapter Jesus told the man it wasn’t because of sin that he was born blind. He was born blind so that the will of God could be done.
    So here’s the thought I had. Sometimes God will put people in valleys not to punish them, but to give them a story that will glorify God. Morgan was walking with God when she was diagnosed and having “dark thoughts” but out of that she gets to tell a story of how God works.

  • @shalom4l
    @shalom4l ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Does she mention what caused BPD because in my experience it happened because of abnormal things that happened to me

  • @bonezbaaaby
    @bonezbaaaby 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Oh WOW!!! I didn't expect to see you guys pop up!! I'm a fellow Christian with BPD and appreciate you guys mentioning this. I searched Christians with BPD because it's exhausting dating with BPD.

  • @gwengwen4535
    @gwengwen4535 ปีที่แล้ว

    My was diagnosed with this as well as depression and anxiety, many years ago. At age 30, he has been delivered. He surrendered to Jesus and got on supplements and changed his diet etc too. I cannot believe the difference!!

  • @JustSheilz
    @JustSheilz ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Everyones journey is different.

  • @madisheppard9190
    @madisheppard9190 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    God bless you, I’m a believer and I have BPD as well. It is a painful illness but God’s love soothes that pain

    • @himmelblau23
      @himmelblau23 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Totally agree with this. God's love (and his truth) is really the only remedy.

  • @divreenable
    @divreenable ปีที่แล้ว +4

    That’s so weird I also went through the thick of my mental issues 18 to 22 😂 I honestly think that a lot of people get diagnosed at that age and then they just grow out of it because your brain is still developing during that time

  • @RedPanda819
    @RedPanda819 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Depression and BPD are comorbid into aht they very often go hand in that. In that, if you have BPD you most likely have depression. However, if you have depression it does not mean you have BPD. (I'm a psychological associate and aide psychologists with assessment to diagnose various things)

  • @lornatw
    @lornatw ปีที่แล้ว

    I believe mental health can also be a spiritual thing to and spirituality should be considered by individuals struggling. For example those with BPD often look to people for their identity and turning to people to lash out or to attach to, those with anxiety struggle with trust and letting go and not in control, and many with depression struggle with a purpose or self love or belonging and judgement. The bible and developing faith can help all of those things a huge amount! Once medication and therapy finish there has to be something else that holds you up and keeps you steady and I personally have found my faith does although my faith has also faltered before and has its own ups and downs too but then I seek my faith community and all sorts of areas of care that I need.

  • @Naliyah.christine
    @Naliyah.christine 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing, I struggle with splitting so much, and I feel that it’s a setback. The first thought is to let it happen but I am learning to pray, and ask God for help. But I still split really bad especially when overwhelmed.

  • @1912mrberns
    @1912mrberns ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wonderful way to explain how to overcome any mental illness. It has alot to do with mind set. That's why there s a verse in the bible to renew your mind,
    And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
    Romans 12:2

  • @theannajoycreative
    @theannajoycreative ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for talking about borderline as a Christian, theres so few resources from a faith point of view, and if there are- they're super dismal.

  • @VictoriaM689
    @VictoriaM689 ปีที่แล้ว

    Morgan, I have the same condition. I have bipolar, bpd, and anxiety. I wish you the best of luck and your in my prayers.

  • @lifeofbeautyk
    @lifeofbeautyk ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Borderline personality disorder is one of the only mental illnesses that can be cured. I can't think of her name but she's a popular psychiatrist she has blonde hair and she kind of has a baby voice. I can't actually watch her because of that but she even said that borderline personality disorder is very hard to treat because the people who have it don't want to admit that they have it but if they're willing to go to therapy that it is the only mental illness that is curable.

    • @tehshzz
      @tehshzz 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Do you recall her name or channel???

  • @ErinBowling
    @ErinBowling 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Thank you for making this video. I also have BPD

  • @korilemay7877
    @korilemay7877 ปีที่แล้ว

    I also was diagnosed with BPD! you’re not alone 💓

  • @RachelWorld333
    @RachelWorld333 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One of my all time favorite videos of your guy’s channel. Thank you for posting.

  • @keng9377
    @keng9377 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think it’s most helpful to just deal with the symptoms, the diagnosis etc… and not try to make it OK by trying to pin point the how it came about like oh… watching too much true crime stuff etc. That would more excuse the behavior & I think only Pride would be the reason to try and do that anyway. In all Humility just be like, it is what it is - and take treatment seriously, get that DBT or CBT whatever, but take that seriously 1-2 + times per week with your therapist & be honest about your anger with her so she can help you. Don’t paint your husband black and try to make it sound like of course you got angry, anyone would have gotten angry at X,y,z etc… and do Christian MFT appointments together as well. It’s HARD being married to someone with BPD symptoms, It’s like accepting daily emotional abuse, and as a man, it’s as if you’re not allowed to feel abused, you’re just supposed to take it. No one has your back, it’s alllll on you. Until your Wife starts articulating everything accurately & throwing herself under the bus with everyone you know, she will make it seem like you’re the problem. Paint you black to everyone you know, even your pastor. Until she starts being 100% honest, about her uncalled for anger to everyone, the husband will feel like the world is gas lighting him. And were called to love our wives even if they act like non believers all throughout the day, every day. It’s the hardest thing in the world to do, and we get no respect, no acknowledgement, nothing. No one would walk a mile in the shoes of a Christian man Married to a woman with BPD symptoms, not even her. You feel so alone, not even the people counseling you (like your Pastor) knows what you’re going through, they can say “here’s what to do” But they’ve never done it. You don’t know anyone in the that has had to do what you do, every, single, day. What would be the worse, most disrespectful day of any Christian Man’s life is a typical Tuesday for you.

  • @elfelf5810
    @elfelf5810 ปีที่แล้ว

    I was diagnosed 23 years ago and i still i struggle every day. I don't believe in god, but happy you're talking about BPD. Best of luck to you

    • @xxjulia0xx341
      @xxjulia0xx341 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      you don't get better just because you're a Christian. you only get better if you work for it and help.

  • @DeliveranceIsReal
    @DeliveranceIsReal 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I know someone who was misdiagnosed with this condition and it caused her a lot of stigma. Thank you as a Christian for speaking up about this. I do not really like the term borderline personality disorder (think about the words you are actively speaking about yourself) does God call your personality disordered? Personally... I do not like the wording of this diagnosis surely there would be a very less degrading name for such a disorder
    Just my thoughts...

  • @sweetKatieGirlie
    @sweetKatieGirlie ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I feel like I have been dealing with anxiety for 3 years meaning also dealing with intense attacks honestly for me I don't feel like it's a thing God necessarily has to free me from meaning I am able to still semmi function with it idk how that works tho as far as cause anxiety attacks are triggers infused so idk is that really domething than can eventually go away??

  • @tessah.7641
    @tessah.7641 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I had bpd, depression, gad, and ptsd. I'm feeling better from my medication. I just don't see myself ever getting off them. I'm afraid of what would happen if I did

  • @peggy9300
    @peggy9300 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Paul your perspective is so valuable. It’s so hard to know what to do sometimes.

  • @shannoncheh6323
    @shannoncheh6323 ปีที่แล้ว

    the deliverance discussion is so important, it is okay to be in a good spot with the Lord and struggle, thank you for sharing this.

  • @Hannah-me3wu
    @Hannah-me3wu ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There is a sermon by Voddie Baucham called Nebuchadnezzar Loses His Mind that is about mental health that is definitely worth watching!! He talks about meditation some too!

  • @justpeachy4393
    @justpeachy4393 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That rewinding sound 😂😂😂

  • @rebecaiacob4642
    @rebecaiacob4642 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this take. I’ve had a very similar experience and I completely agree with Morgan that there is true freedom in Christ👏🏼

  • @shawnmendrek3544
    @shawnmendrek3544 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I could be utilizing my time better but oh well. Here I am. I am happy you have a husband that supports you with this. A lot of folk would run for the hills(this is not to be mean, but people are scared of BPD and bi-polar I&II ect. God is good. I do believe it takes guts to share this, considering the comments that people can leave. Have you tried praying this stuff away? I am NOT saying mental heath is fake, because any sane person knows peoples brains are different, from person to person. I honestly can't tell, but I am glad you did not kill yourself.
    6:54 geez Paul you got good vascularity genetics.
    I like how endeared your husband is when you talk, he really is attentive @ 9:32, he cares. Good guy, you made a good choice for a husband.

  • @xxxCHLOE1004xxx
    @xxxCHLOE1004xxx ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I did dbt as a teen as well and I totally agree, everyone could benefit from dbt. They should teach it in school lol

  • @Corinthians--ek4kt
    @Corinthians--ek4kt ปีที่แล้ว +1

    . GOD BLESS you both for this honest and much needed video.

  • @barnabycat7002
    @barnabycat7002 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dramatic irony is usually my favorite type but not in this case.

  • @LittleAsian_
    @LittleAsian_ ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you soo much for sharing. And not just saying just pray and read the Bible, while those are helpful it doesn’t just make mental ill health go away. Soo thank you so much for sharing this. ❤❤

  • @nataliaxiap-jelkes3269
    @nataliaxiap-jelkes3269 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Haha, I just noticed Paul was on the chosen movie during the party of the wedding. 😅

  • @kita3256
    @kita3256 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel like you guys are gonna get attacked by other TH-camrs after this video. Stand firm.

  • @mosaic-mind
    @mosaic-mind ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I healthily disagree with your religion, stances, etc. but glad Morgan is speaking up about her BPD. We are a polyfragmented system whose members fundamentally are different (different sexualities, genders, perspectives, etc.). Despite our moral disagreements we are glad Morgan is speaking up and speaking out! (and no we're not possessed, just traumatized)

  • @haydenchisum1272
    @haydenchisum1272 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I also was diagnosed with bpd. I love this, you guys are so real. Mental health is a spiritual battle.

  • @esimmons2018
    @esimmons2018 ปีที่แล้ว

    Morgan can you please elaborate on what you mean by that God healed you of BPD anxiety and depression? How did that happen exactly?

  • @clc8610
    @clc8610 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have had the same ideas...but that was because of what i heard and what i saw...because of the influence they produce on my spirit
    nothing is devil. The lexical proposition that doctors advance..is an hypothesis. Your, we are all allowed, to put it, when its understood (what is a symptom, the recurency), to express it however we need to..even if its to scream for a long time...i don't know.
    You know?

  • @tannerworship
    @tannerworship ปีที่แล้ว

    Great video! I may have this too and am also Christian. Thanks for the insight!

  • @nia5128
    @nia5128 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ty so much for talking about this!
    You’re very courageous and it’s very helpful for many of us x

  • @katiehoward7242
    @katiehoward7242 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Amen! Thanks for touching on this Morgan!

  • @tannerworship
    @tannerworship ปีที่แล้ว

    Really good insight on the deliverance part too about the tug with the flesh. Agree that it is a constant battle. Thanks paul

  • @divreenable
    @divreenable ปีที่แล้ว

    What year did your anxiety and depressed start to get better ?

  • @BHALT03
    @BHALT03 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am curious about your opinion on mental illnesses such as dissociative identity disorder and schizophrenia? I believe that you are 100% correct on all mental illnesses being spiritually rooted, I say that cuz even someone like myself who has struggled since child at 5 years old; I believe generational curses are involved as well as genetics which probably fall under generational curses. And praise Jesus I do believe that they can be broken! Sadly, some of these mental illnesses are caused by volatile, complex, comorbid, and years and years of abuse. Someone with schizophrenia or dissociative identities disorder have a lot of healthy choices they need to make such as to abide in Jesus,take their meds, exercise and eat healthy... Also, the reality is there are subconscious triggers that will set these people into psychosis to a point they don't have a choice.
    With borderline I struggle with some moderate dissociation, so I don't hear voices, end up in psychosis or get triggered into a "safe" alter their brain created to keep them detached from the horrible abuse in the moment... But with moderate dissociation myself, I pray, I use DBT skills, CBT skills, I speak in meditate on scripture over my life and my current state during those times... I do struggle as to how to choose to not dissociate when my subconscious brain is so used to doing it at a young age. So for those with even more complex mental disorders than my own, my heart goes out to them! They have spiritual and personal choices to make, and I feel that their subconscious mind is triggered to a state they aren't even aware of and snap into out of subconscious habit after years even decades of abuse.
    I'm respectfully asking your thoughts on this. I am so blessed to have found your channel!

  • @Kingdomwifestyle
    @Kingdomwifestyle ปีที่แล้ว

    You can overcome and you can do that through deliverance in the courts of heaven. I have been there and I understand. But you don’t have to battle that you’re whole life. Just pray about it. Love you guys! I know how much courage it took to let the world in on your personal struggle.

  • @tatianakidd8510
    @tatianakidd8510 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bipolar disorder , schizophrenia, ocd, and other disorders

  • @fixitgary5657
    @fixitgary5657 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for sharing!

  • @zyleebowlin2791
    @zyleebowlin2791 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you so much P&M!!! 💙

  • @Missjokelly
    @Missjokelly ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you Morgan! This helped a lot! I don’t want to sound patronising but Paul you did so well at listening
    ❤ God bless you both

  • @remmalina
    @remmalina ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Wait, did Paul just say he has ADHD.?😮