I feel like I have never heard Dr. Peterson speak about this specific topic in this way. I am currently writing out my own past traumatic experiences with my therapist. And at first I didn’t know why she was having me do it, but this helps clarify that process
I started a professional writing and editing course and boy did I get in touch with emotions that I would prefer to have left alone given their intensity.
All it did was trigger the experience over again. Before I would freeze. If I have an episode of PTSD I tell myself this has triggered past trauma. I accept it, I comfort myself, and move forward. This is life and you will have problems but they are temporary. I am training my mind to be more positive.
Over many videos by Jordon, and, more recently, for me, also those by Tammy, I feel I have been getting to know two people who provide me with familiarity and integrity that I can trust. To experience this incredibly healthy communication between this husband and wife, in this interview mode, is somehow so resfreshingly reassuring. And, delightful too.
Lots of love for this man and his family. Truly a gift of reason in modern. Always important to pause and be grateful.... Thank you and all the best to you and yours reader. Xxx
... I swear my comment was modified... "There is a fine line between paranoia and instinct".... Think for yourself, question authority... - Timothy Leary. X
I am also understanding my emotions better- I could feel myself going into a depression and tell myself that was the emotion - but it wasn’t it might be disappointment I was feeling. I am picking friends better too & setting boundaries for my friendship.
I’m so proud of you Mrs.Peterson. You are always so supportive. It’s wonderful to see the archetypal good mother take a lead role with the rest of her family.
On this topic, something that was life changing for me is Havening Techniques. It works miraculously. Through touch of certain parts of the body, namely the face and arms, while recalling a traumatic event, biochemically the fight or flight response gets depotentiated. From personal experience it works extremely well. Lots of info on TH-cam about it. 🙏🏻
I'm very embarrassed to ask because it's obviously way too demanding but i have a question for Pr. Peterson and i have no idea if i'll ever get a response but i'll give it a try. Professor Peterson, first of all my heart rejoices seeing you happy as well as in good health next to your beloved lady! Your suggestion of writing about past trauma sounds very sound and logical. I used to be very tranquil and enjoyed mental stability and self-control when i kept a journal and wrote in it every morning. But who do you hypothetically talk to when you put pen to paper like that? I've struggled with trauma related to severe child abuse that i went through as well as witnessed in my home country Syria and my memory haunts and torments me every night when i go to bed even though i've grown up and moved to Sweden with my immediate family. I still fantasize about physical and verbal love and being cuddled and caressed like i've done always despite being a 24-year-old grown-up at the moment. I recieved almost no physical affection at all as a kid and it's become my biggest shame in life as i see an architypal mother in every woman i see or meet. How do i write about my trauma exactly and what should i do? Thank you immensely in advance! I'd pay everything i earn and even starve just to talk to you for a couple of minutes. Life is so cruel and lonely (especially as an autistic migrant in Sweden) without someone that cares about you and believes in your potential and i reach the climax of mental torment every night as i weep myself to sleep. The only thing i want in life is someone saying "I believe in you and i believe that you can do this!", but i have no one except the daily presence of the very two at whose hands i both suffered and sometimes, thrived. I haven't taken my life because i have siblings that i love to death and i'm trying to achieve and progress as well make something out of my life.
Get his self authoring program, it tells you clearly how and what to write. It's straightforward and very helpful. Also, if I can recommend a couple books: (1) Iron John by Robert Bly (2) The Boy Crisis by Warren Farrell
Hello Joseph I just read your comment and I hear you as to how it is at night when your on your own always relieving memories that you dont want I too have so much trauma that still today is like a deep sadness that others have no idea about but its always in my eye's lots of people still say to me you look sad, and at those times I thought I was looking ok but trauma gets caught in us and we wear our pain and suffering on our faces and our eyes dont lie, I don't know about you Joseph but I know that by listening to professor Peterson is and has been the best information to come into my life, and my faith in God as I do believe their is millions like us just trying to feel safe for once and that only happens for me when I'm home in bed and watching videos that are truly motivational or watching something that feels magical but I'm a older lady now and the past traumas are still their but they are slowly going away but I'll never forget certain ones I just tell myself no not this thought and I replace it with something positive that brings me laughter but what do I really know is nothing I just feel that maybe we all truly are bothered by our past. God bless
say, you know how can one be so broken and so far apart be still so close though distant, remote still be near to one’s heart? like me, perhaps hurt if you speak something as though was me, I make you feel better and you me. that is when the broken can feel acknowledged- if only others can… “see”.
I am confused. I have traumas from when I was 8 and now 8 years later the memories are still are as bad as then. However I still have the limitations I had at the time, so what should I do to map out the territory and overcome the fear?
Mapping out the dangerous territory is a way of overcoming those limitations. So take Jordan's situation for example: if he were bullied for being disabled, hypothetically, and those disabilities still existed you could say he "still has" the same limitations. But being able to navigate social situations and know who/what to avoid would count as a way of overcoming those limitations. Our "limitations" are only threats to us relative to our surroundings. You could be an awkward dork in one social circle, but utterly fascinating and respected in another. As the old saying goes, "know thyself."
Hi Tamara, sorry to hear about these challenges. Pennebaker has an excellent method and Andrew Huberman has an excellent breakdown on the structure of this. I highly recommend checking it out.
Hi,I wanted to comment to Dr. Peterson that I've listened to him speak about self reflection . I wanted to suggest ( IF he has not read or practiced) The Spiritual Exercises by Saint Ignatius of Loyola; They are wonderful . Thank you
Does ones genetics store and recall ..ie is there memory of acts, experiences stored in genes ??and what if the possibility of past dangers exist still , in present recent history and increasing ,yet in different format ?how what to do to counter and unjustify the suffering ?
I got to sit front row in Sioux Falls SD on your husband’s last tour. When you came out I felt it a great honor to be in your presence. Your grace, intellect and whit are atributes of yours that I have admired. Sorry to gush so much. I just wanted you to know that I think you are a cool lady.
Yeah, in rehab, you write a life story and share it. Anxiety is your bodies desire to run and stand n fight at the same time. Like you said, how ur brain remembers traumatic experiences, ur subconscious does it crazy well. Most people have hypersensitivity without realizing it. What pushes it to delusional states is say you hear a noise that your brain doesn't recognize and you can't see. Your subconscious, if hypersensitive enough, will actually register that noise as something you have heard that is a threat, basically just to be safe n keep you on your toes. Meth or opiates and other speeds can cause this hypersensitivity. That's why temporary schizophrenia is a symptom. To make sure i could differentiate the two i found hydroxyzine paomate helps with this. It acts similar to a benzo like xanax but without the particular stupefied effects. Doesn't get you high and will reverse hypersensitivity. After 18 months of use, it permanently changes ur brain, so it's settled in unless more legitimate trauma is implemented.
What if your trauma happened before you were cognizant of what was happening so you have no 'visual' memory of what happened. Sexual abuse before the age of 5 can remain hidden, cause many, many problems later in life and one is unable to realize where they come from and what to do to recover. Therefore triggers can be anywhere everywhere.
I'm not hearing what writing about the situation does - specifically and explicitly. Sounds like he is dancing around the issue without actually stating it.
sorry to nitpick, but this would have been a great vid instead of a good one if he had not been repeatedly and unnecessarily interrupted. still, there is great value in it. thank you.
Thanks, Tammy. This can, indeed work for punctual instances of trauma. This doesn’t work for me, though, for two reasons. Firstly, for one to recover there must be something else outside of trauma. Secondly, one must be outside of the traumatic experience. Since 2020 it’s been constant for me. And the traumatic factors are everywhere. Literally; it’s not like I could take refuge in another country. I saw what humans are REALLY like and capable of. I don’t trust anyone or anything anymore. I just cannot wait to leave this world behind. It’s a horror show.
I feel like I have never heard Dr. Peterson speak about this specific topic in this way. I am currently writing out my own past traumatic experiences with my therapist. And at first I didn’t know why she was having me do it, but this helps clarify that process
Writing is formalised thinking
It's a form of what therapists have described to me as self authoring
I started a professional writing and editing course and boy did I get in touch with emotions that I would prefer to have left alone given their intensity.
…and now, a year later, how are you doing?
@@merryindiana2754 he died unfortunately... too much to handle
@@merryindiana2754 he's fucking dead Merry.
I don't think i have ever heard anything that made so much sense in my life
All it did was trigger the experience over again. Before I would freeze. If I have an episode of PTSD I tell myself this has triggered past trauma. I accept it, I comfort myself, and move forward. This is life and you will have problems but they are temporary. I am training my mind to be more positive.
Over many videos by Jordon, and, more recently, for me, also those by Tammy, I feel I have been getting to know two people who provide me with familiarity and integrity that I can trust.
To experience this incredibly healthy communication between this husband and wife, in this interview mode, is somehow so resfreshingly reassuring. And, delightful too.
I totally agree with your thoughts.
Lots of love for this man and his family. Truly a gift of reason in modern. Always important to pause and be grateful.... Thank you and all the best to you and yours reader. Xxx
... I swear my comment was modified... "There is a fine line between paranoia and instinct".... Think for yourself, question authority... - Timothy Leary. X
❤️ great people talking about great things.
Absolutely great ,I'm only discovering this and I'm 42years old, a true man with a great wife. Thanks guys
THE MOST IMPORTANT FOR ME 4:24 to the end, Thank you Mr Peterson, and thanks to the uploader
I am also understanding my emotions better- I could feel myself going into a depression and tell myself that was the emotion - but it wasn’t it might be disappointment I was feeling. I am picking friends better too & setting boundaries for my friendship.
I didn't know Tammy had channel. It's nice to see her interviewing him / asking him about his interests
I’m so proud of you Mrs.Peterson. You are always so supportive. It’s wonderful to see the archetypal good mother take a lead role with the rest of her family.
Thank you for these two effective resources, systematic Excercise and Writing about traumatic experiences...everyone can do both!
On this topic, something that was life changing for me is Havening Techniques. It works miraculously. Through touch of certain parts of the body, namely the face and arms, while recalling a traumatic event, biochemically the fight or flight response gets depotentiated. From personal experience it works extremely well. Lots of info on TH-cam about it. 🙏🏻
Thank you for sharing about Havening techniques . I will check this out.
I'm very embarrassed to ask because it's obviously way too demanding but i have a question for Pr. Peterson and i have no idea if i'll ever get a response but i'll give it a try. Professor Peterson, first of all my heart rejoices seeing you happy as well as in good health next to your beloved lady! Your suggestion of writing about past trauma sounds very sound and logical. I used to be very tranquil and enjoyed mental stability and self-control when i kept a journal and wrote in it every morning. But who do you hypothetically talk to when you put pen to paper like that? I've struggled with trauma related to severe child abuse that i went through as well as witnessed in my home country Syria and my memory haunts and torments me every night when i go to bed even though i've grown up and moved to Sweden with my immediate family. I still fantasize about physical and verbal love and being cuddled and caressed like i've done always despite being a 24-year-old grown-up at the moment. I recieved almost no physical affection at all as a kid and it's become my biggest shame in life as i see an architypal mother in every woman i see or meet. How do i write about my trauma exactly and what should i do? Thank you immensely in advance! I'd pay everything i earn and even starve just to talk to you for a couple of minutes. Life is so cruel and lonely (especially as an autistic migrant in Sweden) without someone that cares about you and believes in your potential and i reach the climax of mental torment every night as i weep myself to sleep. The only thing i want in life is someone saying "I believe in you and i believe that you can do this!", but i have no one except the daily presence of the very two at whose hands i both suffered and sometimes, thrived.
I haven't taken my life because i have siblings that i love to death and i'm trying to achieve and progress as well make something out of my life.
Get his self authoring program, it tells you clearly how and what to write. It's straightforward and very helpful.
Also, if I can recommend a couple books: (1) Iron John by Robert Bly (2) The Boy Crisis by Warren Farrell
Praying for you that you get the help you need. Know that you are much loved.
Hello Joseph I just read your comment and I hear you as to how it is at night when your on your own always relieving memories that you dont want I too have so much trauma that still today is like a deep sadness that others have no idea about but its always in my eye's lots of people still say to me you look sad, and at those times I thought I was looking ok but trauma gets caught in us and we wear our pain and suffering on our faces and our eyes dont lie, I don't know about you Joseph but I know that by listening to professor Peterson is and has been the best information to come into my life, and my faith in God as I do believe their is millions like us just trying to feel safe for once and that only happens for me when I'm home in bed and watching videos that are truly motivational or watching something that feels magical but I'm a older lady now and the past traumas are still their but they are slowly going away but I'll never forget certain ones I just tell myself no not this thought and I replace it with something positive that brings me laughter but what do I really know is nothing I just feel that maybe we all truly are bothered by our past. God bless
You are not alone
@@faznafaheem5086 Thank you very much!
Amazing content. Thank you.
say,
you know
how can one
be so broken
and so far
apart
be still
so close
though distant,
remote
still be near
to one’s heart?
like me, perhaps
hurt
if you speak
something
as though was me,
I make you feel better
and you me.
that is
when the
broken
can feel acknowledged-
if only others can…
“see”.
Brilliant! Absolutely brilliant!🙏💕
Wow awesome and hes right. Past trauma can create pain now. Or other symptoms. We must deal with it
I am confused. I have traumas from when I was 8 and now 8 years later the memories are still are as bad as then. However I still have the limitations I had at the time, so what should I do to map out the territory and overcome the fear?
Do shrooms about it lol
Mapping out the dangerous territory is a way of overcoming those limitations. So take Jordan's situation for example: if he were bullied for being disabled, hypothetically, and those disabilities still existed you could say he "still has" the same limitations. But being able to navigate social situations and know who/what to avoid would count as a way of overcoming those limitations.
Our "limitations" are only threats to us relative to our surroundings. You could be an awkward dork in one social circle, but utterly fascinating and respected in another. As the old saying goes, "know thyself."
Hi Tamara, sorry to hear about these challenges. Pennebaker has an excellent method and Andrew Huberman has an excellent breakdown on the structure of this.
I highly recommend checking it out.
Damn, that was the best video I see in years. Thx Dr Peterson
Hi,I wanted to comment to Dr. Peterson that I've listened to him speak about self reflection . I wanted to suggest ( IF he has not read or practiced) The Spiritual Exercises by Saint Ignatius of Loyola; They are wonderful . Thank you
Does ones genetics store and recall ..ie is there memory of acts, experiences stored in genes ??and what if the possibility of past dangers exist still , in present recent history and increasing ,yet in different format ?how what to do to counter and unjustify the suffering ?
Are you talking about epigenetics?
Very useful explanation. Thank you!
I got to sit front row in Sioux Falls SD on your husband’s last tour. When you came out I felt it a great honor to be in your presence. Your grace, intellect and whit are atributes of yours that I have admired. Sorry to gush so much. I just wanted you to know that I think you are a cool lady.
Great clip!
Thank God for the Petersons , to help us keep our sanity,because the world is gone to hell in a hand basket.💕
I wonder if tracking cortisol levels might be a good indicator of healing.
Thanks to both of you❣️
I want this whole conversation please.
So the point is journaling about your traumas helps to understand yourself in the present?
Are there instances where you shouldn't do this? Certain psychological/mental health problems? The level of trauma?
If the topic is too hot, write one sentence. The past authoring start with the distant past. That shouldn’t be too much.
Yeah, in rehab, you write a life story and share it.
Anxiety is your bodies desire to run and stand n fight at the same time.
Like you said, how ur brain remembers traumatic experiences, ur subconscious does it crazy well.
Most people have hypersensitivity without realizing it.
What pushes it to delusional states is say you hear a noise that your brain doesn't recognize and you can't see.
Your subconscious, if hypersensitive enough, will actually register that noise as something you have heard that is a threat, basically just to be safe n keep you on your toes.
Meth or opiates and other speeds can cause this hypersensitivity.
That's why temporary schizophrenia is a symptom.
To make sure i could differentiate the two i found hydroxyzine paomate helps with this.
It acts similar to a benzo like xanax but without the particular stupefied effects.
Doesn't get you high and will reverse hypersensitivity.
After 18 months of use, it permanently changes ur brain, so it's settled in unless more legitimate trauma is implemented.
Cognitive excercises absolutely do help, seems JP is quite under researched on that subject.
Yeah I was confused about that part. If he’s right then gym bros would be smarter than studious people but that’s clearly not the case.
She’s so sweet.
yep what he said. it truley works. but is work.
What if your trauma happened before you were cognizant of what was happening so you have no 'visual' memory of what happened. Sexual abuse before the age of 5 can remain hidden, cause many, many problems later in life and one is unable to realize where they come from and what to do to recover. Therefore triggers can be anywhere everywhere.
It took me 3 minutes to realize he was talking to his wife.
💯💯💯💯
💞
I was young for my age, that made me laugh :D
I'm not hearing what writing about the situation does - specifically and explicitly. Sounds like he is dancing around the issue without actually stating it.
Exactly 🎉 fam
sorry to nitpick, but this would have been a great vid instead of a good one if he had not been repeatedly and unnecessarily interrupted. still, there is great value in it. thank you.
50yo body with a 30yo brain reminds of the sci-fi scenarios
Please stop interrupting him
It's his wife. Thats what wives do, interrupt all the time
She’s not interrupting in a bad way and she’s literally silent the whole time…. Calm down y’all
Her interruptions were brief, sensible, and helpful, actually.
Why is this rude woman interrupting all the time?!? 😳🙄
Don’t be an arsehole. She is trying to help him to make some sense which is a near- impossible task.
this family is so attention seeking its INSANE.
How are they attention seeking if it’s their profession ? And they create content around it?
So INSANE how ridiculous your comment is 😅
This family is blessing countless numbers of people in an age of confusion and chaos
Thanks, Tammy. This can, indeed work for punctual instances of trauma.
This doesn’t work for me, though, for two reasons. Firstly, for one to recover there must be something else outside of trauma. Secondly, one must be outside of the traumatic experience. Since 2020 it’s been constant for me. And the traumatic factors are everywhere. Literally; it’s not like I could take refuge in another country. I saw what humans are REALLY like and capable of. I don’t trust anyone or anything anymore. I just cannot wait to leave this world behind. It’s a horror show.