If you have 4 men it's time to rethink leaving them ALL. You're trying to find the perfect man in all different ones. They are ALL wrong for you. Time to find the right one.
@@evanauli8092 No. There wasn't any fun. He liked to flirt. I'm more serious, I didn't trust his flirting. I thought he probably flirted with a lot of women. That made me uneasy and uncomfortable.
A person who does or says disrespectful things. Just because they think they can get away with treating another person disrespectfully. That says a lot about the person doing the disrespect. It says that person has no integrity or self-regulation. I personally find that highly unattractive and not a high value person. I immediately set a boundary of no contact and blocked that sort of mess.
I realize my feminine was overpowering my masculine and last night i set a boundary out loud and it was way overdue i feel a little shaky this am, fear of retaliation... But I realized I keep getting victimized not bc lifes not fair but bc i have been living w no backbone, saying yes to everyone and trying to belong. And i keep getting disrespected but its bc i feel like someone who is uncertain about her value. Im the only one who can stop the bleeding and punch sharks in the meantime
I can go through a healthy form of conflict but I have been self sacrificing too much so I have released the source of stress and anxiety from the man I was in love with he is unhealed and it’s not my place to be his target. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
🔥👏👏👏👏💪🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 Be proud of yourself because it's so hard when you're in love with someone so well done! I hope you find genuine relationships and positive rapport with others who treat you respectfully!
In a new relationship, and I let it slide twice when they disrespected me, and ofcourse they proceeded to cross the line a third time...that's when they saw me switch. They tried to play it off like it wasn't too much of a big deal but I wasn't having it, the first two errors, was just me giving them a chance to check themselves before I had to check them. Me breaking the nice, docile demeanor made a mark, especially because they remember that they had two chances.
Yes, me too. I'm starting to realise (not because of this vid, but generally) that this had been my problem. I'm too fucking nice and they end up not fearing to lose me.
Consistent conflict is what ended my last relationship. He kept being distant and started creating conflict on purpose. I fell into the chase somehow, not going to lie. I have more time on my schedule now and making more money so I naturally wanted to spend more time together and hopefully do things together. I wanted things back to how they were at one point before I started my RN program. Thought things would be better after. That was clearly not the case.
I was worried about becoming a flight attendant because I thought it would turn men away .. but the more I go to these “safe” jobs I feel less fulfilled.. applying to become a flight attendant because it’s what’s best for me and it’ll create a good bit of conflict and excitement
I’m a flight attendant and I’m telling you it makes men MORE excited about you you’re not always there you have your life you travel more often even it changed my personality I care less about people now I’m more independent emotionally and I’m most of the time busy focusing on my life which is a blessing🤍
I liked your story with the landlord. I also like this theme you introduced about conflict resolution and wd be interested in hearing more. Recently my nephew was being bullied at school, 1st grade, and it went on and on until finally a counselor stepped in to help us. I thought nothing wd work. But then she put the kids around the table to talk and now they are good friends and play together all the time xD None of the punishments like no recess or the calls to the office worked. In the end, it was this talking it out.
after dating men, they all have a similar pattern 1. They flirt with you for a month and you always say yes to what he wants to keep it going. 2. They start to pull away after a month or 2. Don't get triggered, don't ask what happen, let them be. 3. Men ghosting is different from Women ghosting. Men come back but when we ghost, we ghost forever. 4. Learn to say "No" after they disappoint you. They ghost you they come back, they pull away for a short time and come back like nothing happens, say no to all their offers. "Let's hang out?" "No!" "Let's talk?" -No! "Can i call?" No! Can we start again? - No! Let them work hard for your "Yes"
A woman doesn’t tend to create or allow conflict when she inherently knows it could put herself in danger from the man if she does so. A woman who confronts feels quite comfortable with you as a man, that you’re not a sheer senseless egotistical brute, OR she feels you’re the type of man she can beat up if necessary.
Ok to start a discussion one time needs some strenght but what if he tells you "Yes my love,you are right,i will try to change it" and then you see its getting better but then again its the same. And you start a discussion again ..and again. And you start getting tired of even mentioning it.
I have not heard the video yet, but… I have been fighting with a guy we had a night of almost all passion… since then we have been fighting about me not wanting to be just a fling for so long and we have not even had a third date. It has been over a period of 3 years, that means he super in love? lol 😅
That makes you a good person, however you’re gonna have to learn to deal with it or you will always lose. …“It’s better to be a warrior in a garden then a gardener in a war.”
great i seem on a good path then... currently in conflict with 2 of 4 men yay
Lmfaooo what a great problem to have I guess?? 😂
If you have 4 men it's time to rethink leaving them ALL. You're trying to find the perfect man in all different ones. They are ALL wrong for you. Time to find the right one.
@@Jennifer-di4nl she's in the vetting process. 😏
@@Jennifer-di4nl girl it's dating, not relationships 😀
But even if it was relationships... i mean, i'm not polyamorous, but everyone as he she likes.
@@Gisctz not so sure, i find too much conflict tiring. give me PEACE !! ; )
I love conflicts ..i used to be scared to confront people...people know they are fucking with you
@@tabithamuthoni9722 ohhhhh !!!!! I forgot, they KNOW they're. doing it purposely!!!
I chose my battle. You show me who you are, I believe it. No need to discuss it. The end.
We started with conflict.
We had conflict.
I LEFT.
It been 24 years.
@@dittehompoth1469 We weren't married or dating. He was just some guy that kept approaching me.
Same, we started with conflict, I became a crazy bitch. And here we are 14 years later
I bet its fun doe
@@evanauli8092 No. There wasn't any fun. He liked to flirt. I'm more serious, I didn't trust his flirting. I thought he probably flirted with a lot of women. That made me uneasy and uncomfortable.
A person who does or says disrespectful things. Just because they think they can get away with treating another person disrespectfully. That says a lot about the person doing the disrespect. It says that person has no integrity or self-regulation. I personally find that highly unattractive and not a high value person. I immediately set a boundary of no contact and blocked that sort of mess.
agreed no explanation just block
Father alex is like a therapist for me
Well why aren't you paying me?? 🤨😒
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@@MindfulAttraction2.0 you should do a video how to heal 😂😂
I realize my feminine was overpowering my masculine and last night i set a boundary out loud and it was way overdue i feel a little shaky this am, fear of retaliation... But I realized I keep getting victimized not bc lifes not fair but bc i have been living w no backbone, saying yes to everyone and trying to belong. And i keep getting disrespected but its bc i feel like someone who is uncertain about her value. Im the only one who can stop the bleeding and punch sharks in the meantime
I can go through a healthy form of conflict but I have been self sacrificing too much so I have released the source of stress and anxiety from the man I was in love with he is unhealed and it’s not my place to be his target. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
🔥👏👏👏👏💪🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌 Be proud of yourself because it's so hard when you're in love with someone so well done! I hope you find genuine relationships and positive rapport with others who treat you respectfully!
In a new relationship, and I let it slide twice when they disrespected me, and ofcourse they proceeded to cross the line a third time...that's when they saw me switch. They tried to play it off like it wasn't too much of a big deal but I wasn't having it, the first two errors, was just me giving them a chance to check themselves before I had to check them. Me breaking the nice, docile demeanor made a mark, especially because they remember that they had two chances.
Yes, I love your explanation. I'm in a bit similar situation now.
I hate confrontation..
Hate that explaining and alllll that mental energy..
I rather ghost or leave them...
Because u cannot win
Yes, me too. I'm starting to realise (not because of this vid, but generally) that this had been my problem. I'm too fucking nice and they end up not fearing to lose me.
Your genuineness is so enjoyable. Thanks bro ❤ i don’t take crap from anyone because of you lol
Father Alex you are so right
Consistent conflict is what ended my last relationship. He kept being distant and started creating conflict on purpose. I fell into the chase somehow, not going to lie. I have more time on my schedule now and making more money so I naturally wanted to spend more time together and hopefully do things together. I wanted things back to how they were at one point before I started my RN program. Thought things would be better after. That was clearly not the case.
Wow same, once I was aware that it was literally a cat and mouse game 😤 it was a complete turn off.
Peace of mind over conflict.
I was worried about becoming a flight attendant because I thought it would turn men away .. but the more I go to these “safe” jobs I feel less fulfilled.. applying to become a flight attendant because it’s what’s best for me and it’ll create a good bit of conflict and excitement
I’m a flight attendant and I’m telling you it makes men MORE excited about you you’re not always there you have your life you travel more often even it changed my personality I care less about people now I’m more independent emotionally and I’m most of the time busy focusing on my life which is a blessing🤍
Girl.. don’t EVER base your life decisions on men. EVER!
@@LiLo1993ify - ☝️what I was gonna say 😉☺️
I liked your story with the landlord. I also like this theme you introduced about conflict resolution and wd be interested in hearing more. Recently my nephew was being bullied at school, 1st grade, and it went on and on until finally a counselor stepped in to help us. I thought nothing wd work. But then she put the kids around the table to talk and now they are good friends and play together all the time xD None of the punishments like no recess or the calls to the office worked. In the end, it was this talking it out.
Nice topic, good psychology❤
Holy spirit tells me im about to make waves and you want waves with your partner..it brings the feelings forth.
after dating men, they all have a similar pattern
1. They flirt with you for a month and you always say yes to what he wants to keep it going.
2. They start to pull away after a month or 2. Don't get triggered, don't ask what happen, let them be.
3. Men ghosting is different from Women ghosting. Men come back but when we ghost, we ghost forever.
4. Learn to say "No" after they disappoint you. They ghost you they come back, they pull away for a short time and come back like nothing happens, say no to all their offers. "Let's hang out?" "No!" "Let's talk?" -No! "Can i call?" No! Can we start again? - No! Let them work hard for your "Yes"
Perfecto, muchas gracias Padre alex!! Keep them coming
❤you are such a good psychologist!
Great video Alex ! I come here for reminders- when I'm unsure of dating conflict LOL
So right. I tried it, it works 😅
@9:23 I can't stand you sometimes!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 you're so poker faced. Hahaha. The Bronx has been very crazy lately though so I can't be mad.
Haha great video! Love your sense of humor 🎉
Father Alex! much love ❤ from Singapore.
The caption is so messed up, but I can't say it's untrue 😂
"If you're from the Bronx" took me out lmboooo
A woman doesn’t tend to create or allow conflict when she inherently knows it could put herself in danger from the man if she does so. A woman who confronts feels quite comfortable with you as a man, that you’re not a sheer senseless egotistical brute, OR she feels you’re the type of man she can beat up if necessary.
Im thinking the same. But i gave realised that 90% of people falls into this category, there is sonething in a human nature per se. Sadly.
Love your bedhead! Slow down on the weed maybe...sending love. You're Awsome
💀💀this was not a compliment Miss Passive Aggressive lmaoo just be straightforward
4:20 chris Hanson lolllll
Does it mean having conflicts with an avoidant is complete waste of time 😕
avoidants should stay single
Yup facts
It was fun.😂
Time for a haircut.
What happened to „ be his peace“
i dont see how anyone can be mad u😂ur too cool of a person
Ok to start a discussion one time needs some strenght but what if he tells you "Yes my love,you are right,i will try to change it" and then you see its getting better but then again its the same. And you start a discussion again ..and again.
And you start getting tired of even mentioning it.
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Aye Alexis, ya girls newly divorced and single and ready to mingle! 😂 I’m serious, I like you. Holla at me if you’re ever in LA soon 😉
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I have not heard the video yet, but… I have been fighting with a guy we had a night of almost all passion… since then we have been fighting about me not wanting to be just a fling for so long and we have not even had a third date. It has been over a period of 3 years, that means he super in love? lol 😅
Psycho Bronx?! Tell me more . . .
Not everyone likes confrontation
That makes you a good person, however you’re gonna have to learn to deal with it or you will always lose. …“It’s better to be a warrior in a garden then a gardener in a war.”
Did you say psycho Bronx?😅
Not Chris Hansen😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
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The story of the landlord kicking you out on the first day is a lie smh
Why you got to make all women sound like Marge Simpson? 😅
It’s temporary tho. This doesn’t work for a long term relationship 👎🏼👎🏼👎🏼👎🏼👎🏼
It absolutely does. I checked :)
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