The thing I learned is that there is now somebody more important than me in my life. And I just have to show up for her hour after hour, day after day. No matter how last night went, the next morning I’m up, doing it again. There’s no time off, there’s no laziness. It truly turned out easier than I thought it would be. Somehow, I’m just up. I used to be so lazy. With my baby needing me, it’s easy. She depends on me showing up even when I don’t feel like it. I have never done anything that tests me to this degree and succeeded. And as such, I’m actually quite proud of that. There was more to me than I knew, and becoming a mother taught me that. It meant that I could be better and do better in all aspects of life and I want to always live this way.
Thank you for your comments about breastfeeding! I was unable to breastfeed after trying to so hard and desiring to, and I was extremely hard on myself for not being able to. Sometimes other people can be so pushy and make you feel that you aren’t being a good mother if you aren’t breastfeeding. It made me feel absolutely horrible, until I came to the realization that it’s about making sure my baby is fed and formula is just as good as long as the baby is healthy and gaining weight.
The way she says “my son” after all the work and struggles she went through to be a mother and create the perfect environment for him gives me chills. Love or hate the political side of her channel, no one can deny that that is one top-notch mother and one very lucky baby.
I’m a new mom too! So exciting!!! Thanks for all the tips and support. It was honestly really cool to watch you go through pregnancy and now motherhood on about the same schedule as me
I always love when someone gains perspective. Like how being a mother is really hard, and therefore it isn't something to assume everyone is prepared to do at any given time.
@@dustinsindledecker154 do you think Ben is evil though, or just wrong? Put more simply, do you think he’s TRYING to “destroy America with lies,” as you put it, or do you think you and he just have different ideas about what’s best for a country you both love?
Biggest shock: I did not think it was possible to love someone as much as I love my son, and having a baby really changes your priorities and perspectives on literally everything.
Yes my firstborn is a son too and I feel this 100% . The love is beyond comprehension. This is why God wants us to have children because it shows to us a glimmer of what His LOVE for us is like! And then when I had my daughter..its limitless what you feel 😭😭❤🥰
I used to obsess over how much sleep I was or was not getting & when I was going to sleep next. I eventually stopped letting myself think about it and was so much happier (we have six, oldest 11 & youngest 3mo) I also stopped thinking about schedules after the first two and they really do just get into their own routines and their circadian rhythm kicks in. At least all of mine have.
I feel like I could also see myself being someone who is stressing about napping instead of cuddling in those early weeks 😅 Congrats on your new baby Abby ❤️
AMEN! My husband and I are married 4 years and just had our second. What you are saying about going with the flow takes next level skills with 2, and accepting it now is such a service to your family. Being a wife and mother are your most important responsibilities, so of course when more are added to your family, thanks be to God, the demand of you and your gifts increase. It is beautiful. But yeh, so very difficult lol ❤️
Also, we were committed to exclusive breastfeeding, and the biggest shock to me was how much I wanted my husband to be able to help more in those early days, and realizing that he just straight up didn't have the ability to be to our baby what I was. But, being honest with him about where I was at, and allowing him to be there however he could was a gift.
My babe was born a couple weeks before yours! My biggest shock was how some days I truly can not even find the time to brush my teeth. It's wild! All I'm doing is feeding, changing, and rocking to sleep but wow that consumes my entire day!
The little sneezes tho 🥰 Sounds like you’re doing a good job, and loving it along the way. Colossians 3:23-24 23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.
My son is going to be 10 months old next week. The biggest thing for me was prior to him being born, I had so many expectations and I feel like I set myself up for failure in a way. Like “I’m not going to do XYZ” and “I’m ONLY going to do XYZ.” Babies are obviously unpredictable and having those expectations set before he came, made me feel like a failure when I didn’t meet them or stick to them after he was born.
I'm so happy for you, Abby!! My youngest is now 25, but I will always remember how joyous being the mother of an infant was, and just how fast it goes. ENJOY EVERY SECOND OF IT, ABBY-- BEFORE YOU KNOW IT, THEY ARE ON THEIR OWN!!
Congratulations on the baby Abby 🥰 I would love a full video on breastfeeding and your journey, I really think is important to hear more moms' experiences with this! Hugs and blessings for you, the baby and your entire family 💙
Being a mom is The. Best. Job. you will Ever. Ever. Ever. have. PERIOD! Enjoy EVERY SECOND because even tho 18 years seems like eternity now, you will be mind-blown at how fast it goes. :)
It brought a smile to my face when I heard you call your son "Booboo" that's my nick name for my grandson. Congratulations again to you & Jacob & thank you for making a video with the reality of the 1st weeks of motherhood.. Beautiful and exhausting 🙏 🌺 🌷
What you said about motherhood being practical is apot on. Learning to be as efficient as possible while still enjoying your baby. My mil told me something so spot on before I had my first child, boy, she said some activities you will return to after your son is more grown up, but some activities you will never return to again. She was 100%right. There are so many things I did before I had my children that I can truthfully say, wow that was stupid, why did I waste my time on that? P.S. I slept with both my children with me both in the recliner and in the bed. Dont ever feel like you shouldnt hold your baby or that your baby shoupsnt be with you. That is a mothers instinct and to not have your baby next to you is not only emotionally wrong but biologically wrong. Follow your new mothers instinct, it never fails you!!!
I also never used any apps, that's just stupid. If you want to track what they are doing use a baby log book. This is what I did. But I did it more for memories. To be able to read the books 3 or 4 yrs later and see what we dis together. I highly recommend a baby log book !!!
i love this i'm due in August and my friends also say what you are saying.....lol....we've already planned to have my mom stay with us the first month home which i am grateful that she is willing to do for us
love this. mazal tov on your new prince. what you said is so real and i experienced the same thing with my three sons. hatzlacha with it all, you deserve the best . may you see never ending nachat from him and all those who will follow. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤❤❤
"Sleep when the baby sleeps"--but WITH the baby, yes!!! I can only nap with my newborns next to me. And that's FINE, don't feel like you have to separate from your baby to get your own rest. Rest together.
A friend of mine is a scientist and tracked her child’s infancy in lab notebooks. She weighed input and output. We all just assumed she’d lost her mind.
I feel like motherhood is not so much fun as it is fulfilling and rewarding. As I saw in a book recently oh, parents are not actually more unhappy on average then non-parents. They just have higher highs and lower lows. So the best of being a mom has been better than the best of my not being a mother years. There is a great sense of satisfaction and joy
First full day home (day 5) I thought I would go crazy, I actually told my husband to watch me for psychosis. Clusterfeeding for the first time... It was ROUGH... but it was fine later. Took me 2 weeks to get confident breastfeeding though.
I had to have a crash course in sleep hygiene when I had my first baby. I was sleep deprived when he was born because I've been in labor with back labor for 3 days. I had not slept more than 15 minutes at a time. So figuring out how to sleep when I had to take care of a newborn was a huge challenge
Actually such good advice! I agree with all of it and would never have been able to come up with it myself. This video would have been helpful 2 years ago 🤣
😧"keeping this person alive". 😄 yes for the next one it will be rote, you won't analyze every thing you do, it's easier ☺️ and the breastfeeding will become easier and easier, congratulations!
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The thing I learned is that there is now somebody more important than me in my life. And I just have to show up for her hour after hour, day after day. No matter how last night went, the next morning I’m up, doing it again.
There’s no time off, there’s no laziness. It truly turned out easier than I thought it would be. Somehow, I’m just up. I used to be so lazy. With my baby needing me, it’s easy. She depends on me showing up even when I don’t feel like it.
I have never done anything that tests me to this degree and succeeded. And as such, I’m actually quite proud of that. There was more to me than I knew, and becoming a mother taught me that. It meant that I could be better and do better in all aspects of life and I want to always live this way.
Thank you for your comments about breastfeeding! I was unable to breastfeed after trying to so hard and desiring to, and I was extremely hard on myself for not being able to. Sometimes other people can be so pushy and make you feel that you aren’t being a good mother if you aren’t breastfeeding. It made me feel absolutely horrible, until I came to the realization that it’s about making sure my baby is fed and formula is just as good as long as the baby is healthy and gaining weight.
The way she says “my son” after all the work and struggles she went through to be a mother and create the perfect environment for him gives me chills. Love or hate the political side of her channel, no one can deny that that is one top-notch mother and one very lucky baby.
I’m a new mom too! So exciting!!! Thanks for all the tips and support. It was honestly really cool to watch you go through pregnancy and now motherhood on about the same schedule as me
I always love when someone gains perspective. Like how being a mother is really hard, and therefore it isn't something to assume everyone is prepared to do at any given time.
@@dustinsindledecker154 hate is a really strong sentiment. I disagree with them both but hate?
@@dustinsindledecker154 do you think Ben is evil though, or just wrong? Put more simply, do you think he’s TRYING to “destroy America with lies,” as you put it, or do you think you and he just have different ideas about what’s best for a country you both love?
Biggest shock: I did not think it was possible to love someone as much as I love my son, and having a baby really changes your priorities and perspectives on literally everything.
Yes my firstborn is a son too and I feel this 100% . The love is beyond comprehension. This is why God wants us to have children because it shows to us a glimmer of what His LOVE for us is like! And then when I had my daughter..its limitless what you feel 😭😭❤🥰
I used to obsess over how much sleep I was or was not getting & when I was going to sleep next. I eventually stopped letting myself think about it and was so much happier (we have six, oldest 11 & youngest 3mo) I also stopped thinking about schedules after the first two and they really do just get into their own routines and their circadian rhythm kicks in. At least all of mine have.
I feel like I could also see myself being someone who is stressing about napping instead of cuddling in those early weeks 😅
Congrats on your new baby Abby ❤️
AMEN! My husband and I are married 4 years and just had our second. What you are saying about going with the flow takes next level skills with 2, and accepting it now is such a service to your family. Being a wife and mother are your most important responsibilities, so of course when more are added to your family, thanks be to God, the demand of you and your gifts increase. It is beautiful. But yeh, so very difficult lol ❤️
Also, we were committed to exclusive breastfeeding, and the biggest shock to me was how much I wanted my husband to be able to help more in those early days, and realizing that he just straight up didn't have the ability to be to our baby what I was. But, being honest with him about where I was at, and allowing him to be there however he could was a gift.
Abby, this is SO true. I had my baby last year and I had no idea how crazy the first few days are. Really enjoy your thoughts!
My babe was born a couple weeks before yours! My biggest shock was how some days I truly can not even find the time to brush my teeth. It's wild! All I'm doing is feeding, changing, and rocking to sleep but wow that consumes my entire day!
The little sneezes tho 🥰
Sounds like you’re doing a good job, and loving it along the way.
Colossians 3:23-24
23 Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, 24 since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.
My son is going to be 10 months old next week. The biggest thing for me was prior to him being born, I had so many expectations and I feel like I set myself up for failure in a way. Like “I’m not going to do XYZ” and “I’m ONLY going to do XYZ.” Babies are obviously unpredictable and having those expectations set before he came, made me feel like a failure when I didn’t meet them or stick to them after he was born.
I'm so happy for you, Abby!! My youngest is now 25, but I will always remember how joyous being the mother of an infant was, and just how fast it goes. ENJOY EVERY SECOND OF IT, ABBY-- BEFORE YOU KNOW IT, THEY ARE ON THEIR OWN!!
Congratulations on the baby Abby 🥰 I would love a full video on breastfeeding and your journey, I really think is important to hear more moms' experiences with this!
Hugs and blessings for you, the baby and your entire family 💙
Bless your beautiful family 🙏🏽
So happy for you!!!! Blessing to you and your family!!!
Being a mom is The. Best. Job. you will Ever. Ever. Ever. have. PERIOD! Enjoy EVERY SECOND because even tho 18 years seems like eternity now, you will be mind-blown at how fast it goes. :)
uhmm nope. goodbye
It brought a smile to my face when I heard you call your son "Booboo" that's my nick name for my grandson. Congratulations again to you & Jacob & thank you for making a video with the reality of the 1st weeks of motherhood.. Beautiful and exhausting 🙏 🌺 🌷
What you said about motherhood being practical is apot on. Learning to be as efficient as possible while still enjoying your baby. My mil told me something so spot on before I had my first child, boy, she said some activities you will return to after your son is more grown up, but some activities you will never return to again. She was 100%right. There are so many things I did before I had my children that I can truthfully say, wow that was stupid, why did I waste my time on that?
P.S. I slept with both my children with me both in the recliner and in the bed. Dont ever feel like you shouldnt hold your baby or that your baby shoupsnt be with you. That is a mothers instinct and to not have your baby next to you is not only emotionally wrong but biologically wrong. Follow your new mothers instinct, it never fails you!!!
I also never used any apps, that's just stupid. If you want to track what they are doing use a baby log book. This is what I did. But I did it more for memories. To be able to read the books 3 or 4 yrs later and see what we dis together. I highly recommend a baby log book !!!
i love this i'm due in August and my friends also say what you are saying.....lol....we've already planned to have my mom stay with us the first month home which i am grateful that she is willing to do for us
love this. mazal tov on your new prince. what you said is so real and i experienced the same thing with my three sons. hatzlacha with it all, you deserve the best . may you see never ending nachat from him and all those who will follow. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽❤❤❤❤
I actually didn't mind your son's cooing sounds throughout the video. 🥰It was so CUTE! What a little boo-boo!
"Sleep when the baby sleeps"--but WITH the baby, yes!!! I can only nap with my newborns next to me. And that's FINE, don't feel like you have to separate from your baby to get your own rest. Rest together.
Congratulations abbie , all the best to you and Jacob👍
A friend of mine is a scientist and tracked her child’s infancy in lab notebooks. She weighed input and output. We all just assumed she’d lost her mind.
Lol, made me chuckle 🤭
I feel like motherhood is not so much fun as it is fulfilling and rewarding. As I saw in a book recently oh, parents are not actually more unhappy on average then non-parents. They just have higher highs and lower lows. So the best of being a mom has been better than the best of my not being a mother years. There is a great sense of satisfaction and joy
First full day home (day 5) I thought I would go crazy, I actually told my husband to watch me for psychosis. Clusterfeeding for the first time... It was ROUGH... but it was fine later. Took me 2 weeks to get confident breastfeeding though.
YAY CONRGATS ABBY
congrats
I really did not know you have to wake them up to eat. I always thought that they would wake up because they’re hungry lol
Congratulations!
I had to have a crash course in sleep hygiene when I had my first baby. I was sleep deprived when he was born because I've been in labor with back labor for 3 days. I had not slept more than 15 minutes at a time. So figuring out how to sleep when I had to take care of a newborn was a huge challenge
Same!
Congratulations 🎊
Congratssss Abby!! 🥳🥳🥳
Biiiiggg Congrats🤗🥰❤️❤️❤️
Actually such good advice! I agree with all of it and would never have been able to come up with it myself. This video would have been helpful 2 years ago 🤣
I was wondering how you were doing!
Starts at 1:57
Actually it started at 0:00
Honestly, I think people say that you shouldn't hold your newborn while they sleep is an absolute shame! Its called bonding!!!
I admired you, you make me cry, I wish All women were at least a bit close to what you think.
😧"keeping this person alive". 😄 yes
for the next one it will be rote, you won't analyze every thing you do, it's easier ☺️
and the breastfeeding will become easier and easier, congratulations!
Do you think mothers who adopt can have the same type of relationship with their child as a biological mom?
I've always wondered that
Of course
Yes 👍🏻
As an adopted child, yes
Absolutely. Love is a commitment and can transcend beyond blood also I feel like there is the parental instincts that play factor
Pro life huh? First week of motherhood is first week after conception
No one really believes that.
@@Fearlessly91 yeah they do and it's true
You just had him and you are a first time parent so don’t act like you know what you’re doing
first