Maid Party had an update: Roommate went to party where all the Richies made fun of her for her outfit and then excluded her from most conversations, her "boyfriend" basically ignored her the whole time, talked to all the other girls at the party and treated her like crap. She came home with smeared makeup(most likely from crying). Roommate told OP she was right not to go to said party. Roommate still didn't apologize about the fight but OP doesn't really care about the apology.
My read on the situation is that the roommate is super nervous about impressing her boyfriend’s friends and just says yes to whatever he’s asking. Unfortunately for her, he seems to have the mindset that women and partners are something to be shown off. Sounds like he just wanted her to stand around and look pretty.
Roommate learned the hard way to not brush off the concerns of a friend. But roommate was so blinded by “love”, that she’d allow herself to be degraded and treated poorly by her so called “bf” and his friends. Don’t degrade yourself for the sake of “love”.
These people were dumb eniugh to think that a woman would pack up her life, Move herself and her son to a country where she didn't speak the language so I don't put it past them.
“Hey kids! If you have a problem come to me!” “Ok, my dads abusing me” “OH MY GOD I DONT GIVE A SHIT, GO AWAY” Like, seriously?? She tries to build up this fake ass image of herself, as this affectionate, welcoming, kind person who anyone can come to if they feel alone, but behind closed doors she drops the mask and shows her true colors.
@@ItsMeBarnaby And whats funny about that us that nobody beven gives an F, its all about her own self image, like really no one cares if she is or isn't the next mother Teresa, but shes not about that life Sad about those girls Op should have someone check on them
Idk, pretty sure I heard another channel read this post and it was more like she couldn't provide what was needed to the one girl bc it was too much, not playing a status game just for looks, andddd OP was deemed to be jealous and unreasonable, since her sis isn't a therapist or half way house 🤷🏾♀️
@@chanson8508 are you talking about Vincey? I also watch his videos, and he made one about this post and it was so clear that the "cool mom" wasn't annoyed about the abuse situation, it's just that she couldn't provide the kids enough for a situation like that. and yeah, the OP was being bitter and jealous about it
Seriously, the EXACT FIRST MOMENT I am forced to respond from someone's nagging while I'm eating, I'm gonna do the most childish "OM NOM NOM!" with food flying out of my mouth just to balance the scales. (Granted she'd probably kill me right after I do that, but I was raised to troll those who piss me off)
@@ItsMeBarnaby basically this. She likes the image of being akin to a suburban mom who makes food for people and people are comfortable coming to with their problems. However, she does not actually want to do any of the work required in actually being such a person.
I don't know...people do have limits to how much they can handle, especially if they aren't well off and it happens daily, and she did mention that she feeds the girl most days, so perhaps we don't know all of the situation and OP may be quick to judge, like we all dismissed it, rslash included? It is easy for external persons to judge when they aren't in the situation and don't know all of the details is what I am trying to say. Many reddit posts have been found to have 2 completely divergent versions of the same story that changed completely how they ended up being viewed. Please remember the grandparent rights Karen who wanted to squatt in her DIL and son's house to prevent them from selling it and moving, or the guy who rslash recently posted about who was rating breasts and giving relationship advice on reddit when his was tanking. Just a thought, is all.
Story 3: Yeah, I don't think I could stay in a relationship with someone that ENDLESSLY COMPLAINS and makes people around them miserable. Is this a call for therapy? Maybe, I'm no expert, but she is exhausting to be around based on this post
My mom when I used to work morning shifts (I worked food service at a fast food restaurant) and when I’d get home literally as soon as I walked in she’d say “hey I need you to take out the trash, I need you to do this, I need you to do that” after awhile I ended up telling her, “mom I JUST got home I’ve spent 8 hours talking to people give me a few moments to decompress before you give me a list of chores”
I think I would have left months earlier already. If she can't even give him a moment's peace after him asking for it.... why are you still with her, OP?
Idk why he's still with her. Not only does she constantly rant in general, but they're quite often directed at OP. If OP did what she did to him, she would lose it. He needs to leave her
“I’m sorry your father is abusing you and your sister, but you didn’t sit with my daughter at lunch that one time so I can’t help you. By the way can you tell your mom to like my most recent post about how my house is such a safe and loving space to all neighborhood children? it’s not getting enough attention.”
@@Dan_Hazard You obvidouly either didn't watch the video or have horrible memory because all the OP was doing was making fun of the wanna be super mom.
Story 2: NTA. I am all for supporting your friends and love ones, but there's a LIMIT to that! And asking you to wear a skimpy maid outfit is way, WAY beyond the limit. If he thinks it isn't a big deal, why not he get someone ELSE to wear that outfit? Ruining everything? Just get SOMEONE ELSE to wear it! Killjoy? Oh, pardon me for having self-respect!
If it’s not a biggie, he can pay escorts to wear those “uniforms”. He doesn’t see it as a biggie only because he doesn’t see OP nor her friend as people which is disgusting
@@lorilancaster5917oh but then that may ruin his plan because he had time to manipulate the friend into doing what he wants. He can’t manipulate an escort with only two days till the party
@@sayadiva123 plus he figures recruiting his squeeze and OP would be cheaper. This guy is a living breathing red flag and so is anyone associated with him
Story 2: anyone else feel like the rich dude is setting the ladies up to be SA? Like something bad is definitely going happen. Don't let your friend go, I honestly feel it's going to end horribly.
I think that eager friend is pretty much accepted this outcome. She knows people will treat her in an unsavoury way, but maaaaybe one of them will agree to date her, maaaybe she'll baby trap them and maaaybe she'll get money, so there you go.
Story 2: OP's friend has the self-respect of a wet rug. Hence why friend's bf said that OP has the "right attitude". Yeah, that relationship is going to be "fun". The kind of "fun" I would avoid like that plague. Story 3: OP's girlfriend needs emergency therapy and a class on boundaries. It's TRIVIAL to wait like 10-15 minutes to talk. If her motivation is pettiness or spite, especially malicious instead of playful, she's going to be a difficult partner. Story 5: Yeah, OP's husband needs to either get more involved in conflict resolution or set clear boundaries, because I would hate to know that my own family mistreats my spouse like that.
OPs friend is too blinded by this guy’s resources to see that she is just a play thing to him and also wants her to recruit other play things for his friends. Hopefully they won’t be as horrible to her at the party as I think they will but I doubt it especially with the pics showing the women in bed together. Story three: lady needs to read the room. If OP is fleeing from her just to eat in peace, she’s the problem and needs to find another outlet for venting. I don’t think spouse knew OP knew the language which makes it worse. He knew he needed to stop their bs since OP didn’t know but chose not to. What a knight 🙄
@@lanychabot-laroche135 I mean, depending on the circumstances this could be genuine (like if her things are expensive, or she has some history of people disrespecting her things). But she definitely NAGS the poor guy.
I feel like in story 2 the ending is going to be bad no matter what. Best case scenario is that the friend's boyfriend is a stuck up rich dude with classist views but isn't dangerous and the friend doesn't care about this red flag. Worst case scenario is that this boyfriend is dangerous and the friend can't see it until it's too late. In any way OP's friendship is on thin ice at the moment because she can either go to the party against her wishes just to make sure the friend is ok, or not go the party and hope that the friend doesn't come back in bad shape. There is also the possibility that the guy doesn't mean anything bad but, judging from the post, it's very unlikely.
Story 3: why are you with her? Op if i was you I'd leave she's being super controlling and rude, you deserve so much better then someone who won't give you the basic respect.
Simple, because OP seems like one of those people who wants to help her change and improve to become a better person because that's how much he loves her, as this is how most relationships work, but if the relationship doesn't improve at all and the spouse refuses to change, that's when the relationship becomes hopeless, and it's clear that this relationship had react that point and there's nothing OP can do to get her to change no matter what.
Last story: you know, even if you don’t speak the language, usually can still sell your crap talking them. Because disrespect you thinking it’s cleaver, you don’t switch from one language to another, during this conversation, just talk about any random thing. OP didn’t have to say anything, and the only reason they’re mad is because they got caught and embarrassed.
Eh that's a pretty limited view on a bilingual family, sometimes my parents drop into their native language if they're talking about something they don't have the English for, or if it's about something that literally doesn't concern anyone else, like they might quickly ask me a question like "what time do you have to leave tomorrow?" Also they sometimes double check with me if I have a friend over, like they'd ask the friend in English if they want anything to drink, and if they say no they might turn to me and ask "is he sure? Or is he just being polite?" In another language. So there are plenty of reasons to drop to a different language.
@@internetuser969 Yeah, this. Heck, I drop into English with my Finnish friends, to whom Finnish is also their native language just like me, just because the topic shifts to professional shit and English is our working language (in addition to being my 2nd). We - as in my fam and friend circles - can have convos in a few languages at once. Maybe one of us just can't recall the word in another mutual language and someone pipes up with the correct phrasing (fun fact, code switching like this temporarily also unblocks your brain to let you access info you got stuck on much faster than just remaining stuck on that one word in that one language - neat!). Or someone has an aside that has nothing to do with anyone else for a particular person, and does that in a mutual language they jive with without care if everyone can understand "hey remind me to tell you about this thing I bought you might like". Heck, I've had an entire holiday trip with two people in Japanese, Spanish and Finnish simultaneously, because we didn't have a single common language we three could all comfortably speak (as in I spoke Finnish with one, Japanese with the other, and the other two spoke Spanish with each other). None of us spoke all three fluently, but could muddle with some of the other two with context clues for the duration, so actually a lot of convos involving all three of us had surprisingly little repetition aside from quick translations by one to clue in the least fluent person. lol, one of my fave bonding moments with a neighbour was realising they speak one native language with their siblings and the other with their parents, unless they wanna piss of their mom and then they switch to English for arguments with the parents, or exit out with the second native. Cause yeah, it makes multilingual situations much quicker sometimes to have like a go-to you speak with a specific person? That's just how multilingual works sometimes. But yeah, with this story I'm just shocked at the husband - how little does he speak about his spouse to his German family? How little does the family know about the OP?? Like to not even know they speak the language in the country they moved to, like at least a little? If I've ever learnt anything is that you can never assume someone in the most surprising setting can understand you, especially when you bitch about something.
Seriously, if my SO's family knows a language other than English, I would spend so much time just to study the language, all so I can be aware of what they try to hide from me
Story 5: Based on them making so many negative comments at OP in German (until OP called them out) they just don't really like OP, judging absolutely everything about her. That's just not good
I found it strange that OP knows the language but never tried to communicate in German with them. They only saw each other 1 time before she lived there. Didn't they even try to Skype or something? Honestly I think the story is fake
@@lorilancaster5917 meh i kinda feel like parts of the story are made up. in germany, the stereotype of canada and hockey is not a thing - the german stereotype of canadians is about flannel shirts, maple syrup, mounties and lumberjacks. and calling someone a quote "fat ugly hockey addict" would translate to "eine fette/übergewichtige hässliche hockey-süchtige" which is quite the mouthful and would take a while to say out loud in german. i've seen this wordy insults in writing, but never heard anyone speak like that here, even when talking trash. i've also never witnessed trashtalking someone who does not understand the language - and i m an immigrant myself. i ve never been to hannover tho, maybe that region is special lol.
Unique taste? Yeah, it's called a fetish. This is the scariest sounding situation I have ever heard anyone be asked to participate in. I am so glad the girl stood her ground.
I have neighbors like that first story. The kids aren't abused but just fosted off on the neighbors when they are bored. The little girl used to come over to my house every 15 minutes. She's 8 years older than my daughter and was very mean to her. Broke her toys, would make her cry constantly and laugh about it. When my best friend was killed, i asked her mom to keep her home for a few weeks...that kid knocked on my door every 15 mins. I finally had to tell her mom if she came over again without being invited, i would call cps on her. I was very close to a mental breakdown at that point. My daughter was 2 and TERRIFIED of that kid. Any time she saw her coming, it was a screaming fit. That kid didnt leave me alone fully until covid and i STILL had to fight with her.
But the situation described in this story seems completely different from yours? The only "bullying" Kimantha can describe is "kicking dirt at Petal at recess" and "sometimes not sitting with her at lunch". There's NO indication whatsoever that Annabelle is behaving the way you describe your neighbour's kid behaving. And combined with the thing about Betty choosing to sleep out on the hard, cold porch rather than inside the house in a bed just to get away from her father... yeah, no. These kids definitely aren't just bored and bothering random neighbours for the hell of it, they're desperate to be somewhere other than with their parents.
Story 2: But that’s just it, they aren’t dating she’s just running after him, and he’s taking advantage. He’s your stereotypical rich guy think he can do whatever he wants whoever wants. He probably thought that desperate girl hang together, so OP would just do it, or could be bought off. But her refusal made her a “ challenge “, which made her more attractive. Because the one you have to work for is like a test to your skills.
@@bigjalapeno7061There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
Exactly and I would see what I can do to get out of the deal. Buy her out or let her buy my part of the deed because this lady needs help and OP isn’t a therapist
Common issue with women. Sometimes she just needs to vent. Most men want to solve the problem. This is stressful. Some men ask "Is this venting, or is this a problem you want me to solve" then act accordingly. If she really needs to vent, tell her that you are available now, before dinner to discuss, but during dinner, you want to enjoy it, and not venting. It's okay to vent, and in any relationship you will get some. It is okay to not want to deal with venting while eating. you guys need to get on the same page here.
Yeah... it sounds a lot like those stories of human tracking where the boyfriend starts very nice and showering with gifts, then once she's reeled in, forces her to do "stuff" for money and just moves on to the next girl to recruit. Seems like OP was a possible next prospect... Especially if the guy was a rich guy dating a 22yo, especially if he suggested to PAY OP for her to do it. I wonder how he became rich...
Story 4 Inheritance: Do not co-mingle your inheritance with your household accounts unless you truly understand the long-term implications. Legally, doing so takes your funds from the mine realm to the ours realm, and God forbid; if there is a family problem, that money becomes as much his as yours. In this case, his sisters can have expectations as well. Good luck.
O my The Mama Kay story! I knew adults like that when I was a teen! And later as an adult myself. They are manipulators, full of charisma, attractive to vulnerable people, avoided by healthy people
I had one of these too. Mine was a neighborhood mother who insisted the same things. She was a cool mom. She was there to help. She even took me in when I had a parental issue. However, she collected kids like trophies. so too in plenty of kids. Even when there wasn't any abuse or situation going on. Just a dispute between teenager and child and insisted that her house was the best option for all of these children... She then proceeded to claim them all as foster.Children get foster paychecks for them,Temporary and long term, and proceed to take out utilities in their names and ruin their credit. Her son has a very strange relationship with her. Her daughter still thinks she hung the moon and that she is amazing. Her daughter's friends( who minds you along with her daughter are all well into their 30s) Still think she's the cool mom and everything's cool.However those of us who were the foster children all had to call the police at some point to file reports of credit fraud.
@DianaWanMa didnt find out about the fraud until i was trying to get an appt , so thatvwas awesome. But that was 20-25 years ago ,all good now, both parents died, married, home owner , mother of 2 kids and one gorgeous dog 🐕
I get the feeling that the party is specifically to humiliate and belittle people. With an emphasis on breaking people with pride and self respect. Which is why he was willing to pay OP to attend regardless.
There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
@@ReptillianStrikeThere was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
*Last Story:* Why is it OP's job to tell people what languages she speaks? Her in-laws thought they were being sneaky when they tried to badmouth her in German. They're just mad that they were made to look like fools, and OP now knows _exactly_ how they feel about her.
4: OP should make sure her name is on the deed as well, and then put her foot down and tell her husband that he can either get his priorities straight, or lose half the property (the half that would be used to build homes for his sisters).
3: OP should secretly video recording his wife complaining as soon as he starts eating, and how she treats him during that time. Then, after making sure that there are copies of the video in secure places, play it back to her. If that doesn't work, send out copies to her friends and family. I can guarantee that the schtuff will hit the fan in a massive way, with her being humiliated and instead of it blaming herself for her own behavior, she'll blame OP for exposing her behavior.
Story 1: I heard this story on the never seen a lot of the comments are more upset OP was more focused on the hypocrisy and not the kids are being abused. A couple comments asking why she doesn’t call CPS. To were where she explains that she lives in another state and only knows what her sister told her. She did tell her but she gave some pathetic excuse. But even if OP tried, would it even help? I mean all this info is second hand and she’s not even in the same state. Also I know everyone is concerned about those kids, but I don’t think OP is a monster for pointing out the hypocrisy of advertising your a safe space for all kids. Then hiding in the bathroom trying to avoid one’s the clearly need your help.
One can be tired from time to time after being helpful. What I didn’t really like was the facebook posts. It’s weird when someone pictures themselves like that, telling to the world that they are a saviour.
Complainer OP is being emotional, mentally and verbally abused by his gf. She is saying she will take the door off the hinges. You know, like abusive parents do to their children. She is abusing him.
I kinda wished he kept on chewing and ignoring her while she yelled her "hellos", but also if OP was that type of a person this situation would not have gone that far in the first place anyway
I've learned that every woman I know who posts about what a great mom they are or a certain type of mom, are the worst type of parent. Mostly neglectful. It's like they're so focused on projecting stuff to the world that they forget about their kids. That's the number 1 way I spot a bad parent. Decent parents don't feel the need to brag.
What got me is that there were commenters on XO calling OP an AH for not reporting Petals situation to CPS knowing that OP lives out of state and is hearing this story from a third party, aka Kimantha.
I would have called as soon as I saw the 15yo sleeping on the porch. How uncomfortable do you have to be and how awful is a parent that your child would rather SLEEP ON THE PORCH than even be in the house with you??? I would have these kids in my house daily. Oh my god.
1) To be fair, Kimantha shouldn't have to be feeding and taking care of Annabell every day, but yeah HOW has she not called CPS by this point?? 2) OP's friend is in for a rude awakening... this is gross.
Story 3: If there isn't something big being left out of this story, OP, get the hell out before you get her pregnant. The likely reasons she waited until you started eating to start complaining were because you would be less likely to be able to argue because, well, you're eating, and you were likely to be pinned down in the one place for long enough for her to get all her grievances out. That would be annoying in the best scenarios, but when the daily list of problems starts with you kicking her shoe while you were getting dressed and it wasn't on her foot at the time? People tend to start with their biggest problem in times like this. I'm not sure if there's trauma about shoe kicking there or what, but if the bar is that low for figuring out what she wants to have a confrontation about, she's either inventing /magnifying things to have a reason to get in your face at dinner, or she really lacks the ability to let go of even the most petty things. Is there a chance this is a kink she has, and she wants to get into an argument that devolves into a food fight with an angry sex session after? If you're going to stay with her, she's going to need therapy.
I only speak to people in english, but I am fluent in 2 other languages and conversational and 2 more. Nowadays my kids usually give me away.Because they'll speak to me in another language in public
Mostly because OP was hoping that he can help her change and improve because that's how much he loves her, but even so, there are people whom no matter what you do, you just cannot get them to improve at all and so at that point, that's when they should end the relationship. This one has defiantly reached to that point where I'd tell him "Look, the truth is you just cannot get your girlfriend to change and improve at all and so you should just end the relationship".
For the last story, what did the family think when hubby went and told them off for insulting his wife? Didn’t he tell them that she heard and understood the comments? How did they not connect the dots that she might speak their language??
Story3: Break up with her. Get her out of your life. She sound beyond exhausting and honestly more than a little annoying. I'm going to be honest and say i think she is just using him for a place to live .
*3rd Story:* I'm surprised that OP didn't take the "return their energy back to them" route with his girlfriend. Maybe firing back with complaints about all the small & annoying things she does as she's eating will make her see how awful her behaviour is. And if that doesn't work or if she gets mad & fails to see her hypocrisy, _then_ dump her butt.
That's what I also commented but at the same time I realize that if OP was the type of person to do that, this situation never would have gone so far that he would have posted on reddit
Complainer story: Yes, she is doing this 100% on purpose. And WHY would OP give you a key when the entire point is to lock you out? But for real: WHY ARE YOU 2 STILL TOGETHER!?
The name Peter first reminds me of the story about the boy who cried wolf and second a word for male genitals but only because other people have made that a thing. So, It's like a curse on your kid, calling them a liar the second they come into the world and people not believing anything he says "Look everyone, Peter's says there's a wolf carrying Kenny into the forest. Stop telling stories, man! LOL!" as he grows up which could lead to the boy ending up very alone and in danger.
German Family Story: NTA The German Family thought that since OP couldn’t understand German, they can talk sh*t behind her back about her whatever! But when OP tells them off, IN GERMAN, they have to act all OFFENSIVE because they DARED to talk crap about OP’s OWN baby daughter! The hypocrisy and entitlement in the husband’s family is majorly disgusting! I hope both OP and her husband cut ties from them until THAT family can learn to be decent and caring, and not act like they’re “above” OP and her kids!
Complainer: Eat in the-? Hell no, screw that, deliberately waiting until *you* physically start eating to run her mouth? Leave her, or, if you’re feeling vindictive, start complaining and random shit when SHE tries to eat
Last Story: hold on, why is OP having to _ask_ her husband to intervene? Does he not speak German or something? Why isn't he proactively shutting that crap down?? regardless of whether OP even understands or is aware.
“She said that I’m lame, boring and not being a supportive friend” - this is classic - but often subconscious, everyone does it almost constantly - manipulation/coercion. ‘I want, you won’t, so I will say/do whatever to shame, guilt or browbeat you into giving me what I want’. People often get angry or defensive in response - but it’s worth learning to ‘hear’ the ‘why’ behind accusations like this, so you can respond to the underlying matter and not waste time or energy on nonsense. Of course, the person reflexively trying to pressure you into compliance probably won’t do the same. They’ll continue reacting instinctively to the probable feeling of betrayal (‘I’m shy to do this but I want to and I expect you to do it with me so I won’t be scared and I’m hurt/offended that you won’t because I expected you to agree’) and may feel attacked if you respond by trying to drill down to the underlying issue… but hey, if you’re wasting your time anyway… 😅
Lilith in Jewish lore is the first “Eve,” who fell to sin and is synonymous with “demon woman.” For context, it would be like naming your daughter Jezebel.
@CerebralSupport to be fair (by which I _only_ mean providing context from the same source because I think it's just demeaning) there's a lot of stuff in the Old Testament/similar books of the Abrahamaic faiths that talks about how women *should* be subservient to men. As far as the authors of those books are concerned it was sinful, even though it's really just called "no being a doormat".
Story 2 - the first thing I thought of, after OPs friend said "they're sort of dating" reminds me of a comment one of Benjamin Bratt's characters said. "Either you are or you aren't."
There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
I've lived with the meaning of Peter as a slang term for my entire life. It's not a heavy burden. At least I'm not named after a toilet like my brother John.
German Story: Using Lilith is a bit of a weird name because of all the evil connotations many cultures and belief systems have over it. I like the name too, but it'll definitely catch a LOT of judgement because, in most cases, Lilith is a succubus who sleeps with married men to ruin relationships and murders babies. It has nothing to do with "ghost" or "of the night" unless the second one is about being loose and a homewrecker.
Story 4: If you set up trusts, make sure your husband isn't the person overseeing them. And if you don't have a will, get one asap. Unexpected things happen and it will help preserve your inheritance and your portion of the farm, for your kids.
Story #1 TL, DR; "super mum": 'all the neighbourhood kids, you can come an crash here. My home is open for all of you!!' - kid comes because it's ab used at home and searches for a save place- - "super mum" hides in the bathroom and pretents to be not home- 🤦🏾♂️
Last story I literally said “this gonna be another story where they’re talking shit cuz they think she doesn’t know their language, isn’t it?” And lo and behold, I was right.
"When you left for work this morning, you kicked my shoe." I can only imagine what else she could possibly complain about. "You left a spoon in the sink." "There were toast crumbs by the toaster." "The glass was not turned exactly 180° clockwise after it was placed in the cupboard." "The dish sponge had a drop of water left in it." "You talk too much when you eat. I try to have a conversation with you, but there's always food in your mouth. You're doing it again. Well, answer me!"
Story 3: OP, my dude, just end it. She brings no peace, complains about everything, and focuses on herself. You can't even have a meal without her griping about every little thing. Let her find someone who will put up with the whining, and give yourself a chance to have normalcy and quiet.
Sun peaks resort used to be called Todd mountain resort. Well, they were bought by Germans. Tod translates to death. They decided death mountain resort wouldn't advertise well. Made the locals laugh for months.
My grandma's house really was the safe haven for everyone. A few my friends actually did live in abusive or not. That great situations and my house is a safe haven at the time I lived with my grandma One time me and Grandma came home from shopping to find my friend's dad standing on the porch pounding the door trying to get in. We talked to him, tried to get him to leave. He wouldn't so I brought up my trump card. I pounded the door And called for my dog. He pounced at the door, made it shake violently and then growled at the man. he ran for the hills ah the good old days that dog passed away many years ago He would never hurt a fly but boy could he put on a good act
I think ESH in story 1, OP would rather be petty and shit talk her sister instead of actually caring about a girl that is showing signs of parental abuse.
There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
There is an unspoken rule 9:12 No talking at the dinner table. If it was me, then I would get on her case, berating her for not shutting up, and demand she get out.
That 'momma to all kids' is not nice at all! Years ago we had 'friends'(I went to high school with the woman and hubby knew the husband from somewhere) that moved nearby. They had a few older kids, and a daughter close to our daughters age. They became fast friends. The little girl wanted to be at our house all the time, and we allowed it. We soon learned why. The parents were hard partiers, not just alcohol, but coke, acid and drugs you take with a needle. They had people in and out of their house constantly, and there was no structure for the kids. The little girl stayed over often. She so desperately wanted a 'normal' family. One night the father came by insisting we give his child to him(it was long after the girls went to sleep, somewhere about 2am). We showed him she was sleeping, but he took her anyway. It occurred to us the father was abusing her. We moved away, but we let her know where, so if she needed us, we could help her. She showed up at our door, when she was 15 and pregnant. She had an older man 'boyfriend' and was heavily into drugs now too. She told us about the pregnancy before she even told her own parents. The last we seen her was on the front page of the newspaper, with her mother saying how her own drug abuse, got her daughter into the same drugs. She had overdosed and died, at 17. The father overdosed not long after too. When a child needs help and comes to you, don't push them away, you may be the ONLY person they trust, and can come to. We did all we could to help her, but her story was already written, when she was born. Rip Katie. Hope you're in hell Rick!
Story 4: Not only should OP stick to her guns, but she needs to keep and eye on all the bank accounts because if he wants to build a house and pay the texts on it, then he’s probably giving them money behind her back. Or will try to steal it.
Those poor kids in the Mama Kay story. It truly does sound like they're being abused. They probably secretly hope she'll SEE them. Even if they're afraid of that at the same time. I hope her sibling's words got something going in her brain and she does the right thing. Maybe I'm just putting too much of my childhood in that story, but i really hope someone does something for those kids before it's too late (that's from watching too much Evil Lives Here).
Story 1) Yeah no, if you're gonna 'be' that kind of mom on social media, you gotta live up to it. You can't just claim that you're that kind of parent and then ignore the kids who ACTUALLY need you. Why hasn't she called CPS? Those kids are 100% being neglected! NTA. Story 2) NTA 100%, he is basically using this as an excuse to have his 'flavor of the month' present (as he likely doesn't want anyone knowing he's 'dating' a poor person) but also seeing an opportunity to make his friends night. This is literally just a party meant to have sex while shitting on poor people and I can guarantee you will regret going to that party. Story 3) Your gf is psychotic and you need to leave her. Someone who says something like 'you're not meeting *MY* expectations', is a straight up narcissist and deserves to be lonely if they're going to be that bad about it. NTA. Story 4) Yeah no, definitely go with the divorce option, no sane partner thinks 'oh, my S/O is getting a crap ton of money! I know *exactly* what I want to do with money that doesn't belong to me!' Honestly, I've kind of been in that situation before, my grandfather passed away almost 10 years ago and left us about $85k, up until that point, we hadn't been paying rent because the house is a double that was owned by my stepdad's father. But once my stepdad blabbed about the inheritance, suddenly we owed rent backing up until the day *we* moved into the side and we ended up forking over $25k. Money that was supposed to be in case of emergency. And worse yet, my stepdad (being a spoiled brat of a daddy's boy) wouldn't defend when my mom put her foot down. He just sided with daddy dearest. If he wanted rent, that was fine, we'd work it into the finances, but the fact he was demanding our inheritance money for rent? (He literally wouldn't take anything less than $10k up front and then another $15k the next inheritance check) It boils my blood when other people think they're entitled to someone's inheritance money. NTA. Story 5) They're just mad they've been outed. Like honestly, who the hell thinks they should be allowed to hide behind their language? If you can't say something to someone's face, then don't say it at all, you cowards. NTA, they need to mind their own damn business.
Story 2: Step 1 - Prepare for a breakup. Step 2 - Talk to GF. Agree to try one more time if GF swears to a peaceful, complaining-free dinner. Step 3 - When the GF inevitably breaks her word, stage a "Nearly choking to death" performance Step 4- GF will either ¹care she almost killed Op and change/act accordingly, or, ²not. Step 5 - Eat all future meals as Op sees fit. Safety 1st (See step 1!)
Story two it sounds like the bf wants the two girls to actually acts as maids during the party. Thus the offer to pay. Also the attitude she has he and his rich friends think it's entertaining for the "servant" to be sassy and talk back etc.
Story 2 That is the perfect setup for a girl to let all her bodiehair grow out, cleaning your house in that outfit and going without showering You wanna maid, mate? Got you
The name Peter is a name that means "rock" or "stone". It's derived from the Greek name Petros, which is a masculine form of the Greek word petra and also means "rock" or "stone"
Story 5: German Here. Yeah, we get a bad rap for complaining about virtually everything, but what Peter's family is saying about OP makes them total trash. Wenn man nichts nettes zu sagen hast, sollte man lieber die Fresse halten.
Ich finds eher erschreckend das das Pack konstant nichts besseres zu tun hatte als über OP herzuziehen. Und eigentlich noch schlimmer ist, das der Mann nicht sofort die Klappe aufgemacht hat und seine Familie(damit meine ich nicht Mutter und schwester) verteidigt.
Story 3, I empathize with the guy. It's for different reasons, but I really hate not being able to eat alone in peace. I've had to learn to white knuckle my way through in the last couple years, I wanted to change that so my kids can enjoy a meal together. With someone lambasting me everytime I go for a bite? I'd call it, for sure
There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
Story 2 is so many major red flags and they get creepy as the story goes on. OP absolutely avoided being SA'd at that party. If the friend wants to put herself in danger by ignoring the danger signs that's on her. Buttrying to manipular her into playing along to make her predator BF happy and being mad when she chooses her safety instead shows that she's not a friend. She's a hazard that should be avoided along with her scumbag bf.
The last inlaws sound like incredibly difficult people. Though, giving your child a name associated with the mother of all demons and a baby eater is a bit... strange. If she didn't know that and only knew the meanings she gave, then I can see why she thought the name is harmless 😅
To the Oppressors and Tyrants, Lillith was a Sinner! To the oppressed and Rebellion, Lilith was a Hero! Lilith is neither evil nor a baby eater! She is only the first to stop being Adams Sex toy, demanding free will!
@Robin93k No, she definitely became demon known for being a baby eater and is regarded as the mother of demons. Trying to plaster titles like tyrants on people who mention it doesn’t change that. And she wasn't kicked out because she wouldn't sleep with Adam, it is because she rejected the plan God had for her. Since she didn't want to live by God's plan, she didn't get to stay in God's paradise. Don't be a demon apologist. Do better, make better choices. And God bless you.
Yeah, as a mom of 3 kids, I dunno where it says you know nothing about kids if you don’t have any. What I’ve never understood is how anyone reaches adulthood knowing nothing about kids. You… were a kid. For literal years. The years that formed you as a person (on top of the personality you were born with, that is). How does anyone who had even a marginally stable childhood not know anything about kids? You might not know what modern kids have going on but you should remember what it was like to be one. And don’t suggest they need to mind their business. I know a guy who refuses to have kids because he and his twin were abused by their mom. He doesn’t trust himself to be a father after the examples he saw. But best believe he knows when he sees a kid in a bad situation. He knows far too well how to recognize that. And I am actually the “cool” mom… not because I’m actually cool, but because I’m down to earth. No pretense, no trying to stay looking young, no head games or trying to live vicariously through my kids. If my kids say a friend needs to get out of the house for a while because things are turbulent and they’re lashing out at each other, if I can make time, we head over and get them. Bear in mind… this was when they were teens/adults, with parental approval where applicable. They’d sleep over or we’d drive around a bit. And my daughter’s friends have some pretty difficult parents to deal with. I don’t have demands or expectations of them and that’s relaxing for someone whose parents pick fights over nothing, or whose step-dad is always making demeaning remarks (mom finally kicked him out), or whose adopted parents treat you like freaking Cinderella because they gave you a home out of “Christian duty.” And yeah, we’re Christian, too… I just really hate it when people throw the name around for appearances but make no effort to live up to the values. You adopt a kid, that’s your kid, you love them and raise them as yours. Full stop. But I digress. Tl;dr… Everyone was a kid once, and there’s childless people who care more about kids than some proud parents. No sense getting elitist about either. It’s just a choice.
In the complainer story: Fucking sad OP doesn’t realize he’s in an emotionally abusive relationship. She complains about him and tells him how he’s not good enough, attempts to manipulate him by using her tears, and *_THREATENED TO TAKE THE DOOR OFF THE HINGES_* to force him to basically sit there and take her abuse. Poor guy. Also, RSlash, maybe you didn’t realize, but guy’s in an abusive relationship.
2nd story..sounds alot like a variation of a "nerd" party. Thats when a bunch of pretty girls all invite a bunch nerds to a party and whomever brings the biggest nerd wins. Its just a flex for them and humiliation for the poor guys. I'm thinking this was just a party for rich ppl to see who could humiliate a non-rich person the most. NTA.
Good rule of thumb don't speak a foreign language and assume no one understands you. I know a little French and Spanish and going to Disney world is a riot with people having massively insulting conversations about the people around them as though no one could possibly understand them
Considering I’m fluent in Portuguese & Spanish, I loved working at WDW & hearing Brazilians talk shit about me, only to then be told (in Portuguese) that just because I’m Whyte & American, I’m not an idiot & saw them shoplifting. Got a whole tour group trespassed from Epcot this way 😂
@FigmentForever nice profile image. Epcott is probably the last place I'd expect people to try this stunt considering they hire people from around the world to work in relevant areas.
Maid Party had an update: Roommate went to party where all the Richies made fun of her for her outfit and then excluded her from most conversations, her "boyfriend" basically ignored her the whole time, talked to all the other girls at the party and treated her like crap. She came home with smeared makeup(most likely from crying). Roommate told OP she was right not to go to said party. Roommate still didn't apologize about the fight but OP doesn't really care about the apology.
I hope they broke up.
At least it wasn't what we all thought the party was. I hope she dumps him.
@@audreym3908yeah the saddest part is, this was still the GOOD ending
My read on the situation is that the roommate is super nervous about impressing her boyfriend’s friends and just says yes to whatever he’s asking. Unfortunately for her, he seems to have the mindset that women and partners are something to be shown off. Sounds like he just wanted her to stand around and look pretty.
Roommate learned the hard way to not brush off the concerns of a friend.
But roommate was so blinded by “love”, that she’d allow herself to be degraded and treated poorly by her so called “bf” and his friends.
Don’t degrade yourself for the sake of “love”.
Karen: *Insults OP in foreign language*
OP: “Hey, that’s rude”
Karen: *Surprised Pikachu face* “Wow, so rude for not telling me you understand me”
They did nazi that coming
These people were dumb eniugh to think that a woman would pack up her life, Move herself and her son to a country where she didn't speak the language so I don't put it past them.
@@SabreSix1980 💀😂
It's crazy just how many bilingual people do that with every language. They almost always react the same way too
“Hey kids! If you have a problem come to me!”
“Ok, my dads abusing me”
“OH MY GOD I DONT GIVE A SHIT, GO AWAY”
Like, seriously?? She tries to build up this fake ass image of herself, as this affectionate, welcoming, kind person who anyone can come to if they feel alone, but behind closed doors she drops the mask and shows her true colors.
Yeah I’m sure when she meant if they had a problem it was more along the lines of having too many cupcakes than they can eat
@@ItsMeBarnaby And whats funny about that us that nobody beven gives an F, its all about her own self image, like really no one cares if she is or isn't the next mother Teresa, but shes not about that life Sad about those girls
Op should have someone check on them
Idk, pretty sure I heard another channel read this post and it was more like she couldn't provide what was needed to the one girl bc it was too much, not playing a status game just for looks, andddd OP was deemed to be jealous and unreasonable, since her sis isn't a therapist or half way house 🤷🏾♀️
@@chanson8508 are you talking about Vincey? I also watch his videos, and he made one about this post and it was so clear that the "cool mom" wasn't annoyed about the abuse situation, it's just that she couldn't provide the kids enough for a situation like that. and yeah, the OP was being bitter and jealous about it
@@chanson8508 link please, I couldn't find it
Story 3: OP if you have to lock yourself in the basement just to have a nice meal, then you need to seriously think about this relationship.
How Homer Simpson would deal with this situation: Can't talk. Eating.
Seriously, the EXACT FIRST MOMENT I am forced to respond from someone's nagging while I'm eating, I'm gonna do the most childish "OM NOM NOM!" with food flying out of my mouth just to balance the scales. (Granted she'd probably kill me right after I do that, but I was raised to troll those who piss me off)
So she just likes to be the “cool mom” and not actually have to do anything involved.
She’s a fair weather mom
more like a lukewarm mom
@@christopherandresen9790I’m thinking Florida swamp summer weather mom
@@ItsMeBarnaby basically this. She likes the image of being akin to a suburban mom who makes food for people and people are comfortable coming to with their problems. However, she does not actually want to do any of the work required in actually being such a person.
I don't know...people do have limits to how much they can handle, especially if they aren't well off and it happens daily, and she did mention that she feeds the girl most days, so perhaps we don't know all of the situation and OP may be quick to judge, like we all dismissed it, rslash included?
It is easy for external persons to judge when they aren't in the situation and don't know all of the details is what I am trying to say.
Many reddit posts have been found to have 2 completely divergent versions of the same story that changed completely how they ended up being viewed.
Please remember the grandparent rights Karen who wanted to squatt in her DIL and son's house to prevent them from selling it and moving, or the guy who rslash recently posted about who was rating breasts and giving relationship advice on reddit when his was tanking.
Just a thought, is all.
@@JoyZoneYT She could call CPS
Story 3: Yeah, I don't think I could stay in a relationship with someone that ENDLESSLY COMPLAINS and makes people around them miserable. Is this a call for therapy? Maybe, I'm no expert, but she is exhausting to be around based on this post
I'm just curious why he's still with her at all. I don't think I could stand it even if she was the most attractive being I had ever seen.
“Is someone holding these poor souls hostage and forcing them to be together?” - /r/AreTheStraightsOK subreddit description
My mom when I used to work morning shifts (I worked food service at a fast food restaurant) and when I’d get home literally as soon as I walked in she’d say “hey I need you to take out the trash, I need you to do this, I need you to do that” after awhile I ended up telling her, “mom I JUST got home I’ve spent 8 hours talking to people give me a few moments to decompress before you give me a list of chores”
I think I would have left months earlier already. If she can't even give him a moment's peace after him asking for it.... why are you still with her, OP?
Idk why he's still with her. Not only does she constantly rant in general, but they're quite often directed at OP. If OP did what she did to him, she would lose it. He needs to leave her
All* kids* are welcome* anytime*!
*conditions apply.
*well-fed children from wealthy families only.
*abused kids stay away.
*business hours only.
*batteries not included lol
Don't bully* my daughter
*Bully includes but are not limited to
1) playing in any way that upset my daughter
2) having other friends
@@Gabriel-lh7gy 🤣🤣🤣
@@shadowmewfred09 Sounds like Cool® Mum™ is a bit uptight & might actually need some batteries for her flexible friend.... 😜
Offer valid only in the contiguous United States. Void where prohibited.
“I’m sorry your father is abusing you and your sister, but you didn’t sit with my daughter at lunch that one time so I can’t help you. By the way can you tell your mom to like my most recent post about how my house is such a safe and loving space to all neighborhood children? it’s not getting enough attention.”
@@Deusaisishelenabarbosadasilva Wtf are you on about?
@Dan_Hazard I think hes trying to say every story rslash covers is fake, while blaming him for it
@@BeefMeisterSupreme oh ok, just weird response I guess 😅
He's heavily paraphrasing the mum in the story with the girl sleeping on the porch.
@@Dan_Hazard You obvidouly either didn't watch the video or have horrible memory because all the OP was doing was making fun of the wanna be super mom.
Story 2: NTA. I am all for supporting your friends and love ones, but there's a LIMIT to that! And asking you to wear a skimpy maid outfit is way, WAY beyond the limit. If he thinks it isn't a big deal, why not he get someone ELSE to wear that outfit? Ruining everything? Just get SOMEONE ELSE to wear it! Killjoy? Oh, pardon me for having self-respect!
If it’s not a biggie, he can pay escorts to wear those “uniforms”. He doesn’t see it as a biggie only because he doesn’t see OP nor her friend as people which is disgusting
Note how he says OP’s attitude is what they’re looking for… these guys have “fantasies” that are extremely immoral and illegal.
The fact she can’t smell it’s a potential trap is the most alarming part
@@lorilancaster5917oh but then that may ruin his plan because he had time to manipulate the friend into doing what he wants. He can’t manipulate an escort with only two days till the party
@@sayadiva123 plus he figures recruiting his squeeze and OP would be cheaper. This guy is a living breathing red flag and so is anyone associated with him
Story 2: anyone else feel like the rich dude is setting the ladies up to be SA? Like something bad is definitely going happen. Don't let your friend go, I honestly feel it's going to end horribly.
took the words right out of my mouth
Honestly not even surprised. That's the kind of entitlement that people in certain tax brackets feel they can do to others.
@@thebrightphoenixx classism at it's finest
@@talantus For which part? You have to be more specific
I think that eager friend is pretty much accepted this outcome. She knows people will treat her in an unsavoury way, but maaaaybe one of them will agree to date her, maaaybe she'll baby trap them and maaaybe she'll get money, so there you go.
Story 2: OP's friend has the self-respect of a wet rug. Hence why friend's bf said that OP has the "right attitude". Yeah, that relationship is going to be "fun". The kind of "fun" I would avoid like that plague.
Story 3: OP's girlfriend needs emergency therapy and a class on boundaries. It's TRIVIAL to wait like 10-15 minutes to talk. If her motivation is pettiness or spite, especially malicious instead of playful, she's going to be a difficult partner.
Story 5: Yeah, OP's husband needs to either get more involved in conflict resolution or set clear boundaries, because I would hate to know that my own family mistreats my spouse like that.
OPs friend is too blinded by this guy’s resources to see that she is just a play thing to him and also wants her to recruit other play things for his friends. Hopefully they won’t be as horrible to her at the party as I think they will but I doubt it especially with the pics showing the women in bed together.
Story three: lady needs to read the room. If OP is fleeing from her just to eat in peace, she’s the problem and needs to find another outlet for venting.
I don’t think spouse knew OP knew the language which makes it worse. He knew he needed to stop their bs since OP didn’t know but chose not to. What a knight 🙄
The complaint was about how he moved her shoe.
That's not even a real complaint. That is malicious.
@@lanychabot-laroche135 I mean, depending on the circumstances this could be genuine (like if her things are expensive, or she has some history of people disrespecting her things). But she definitely NAGS the poor guy.
I feel like in story 2 the ending is going to be bad no matter what. Best case scenario is that the friend's boyfriend is a stuck up rich dude with classist views but isn't dangerous and the friend doesn't care about this red flag. Worst case scenario is that this boyfriend is dangerous and the friend can't see it until it's too late. In any way OP's friendship is on thin ice at the moment because she can either go to the party against her wishes just to make sure the friend is ok, or not go the party and hope that the friend doesn't come back in bad shape.
There is also the possibility that the guy doesn't mean anything bad but, judging from the post, it's very unlikely.
I actualy respecs the bf for saying that to be fair
Story 3: why are you with her? Op if i was you I'd leave she's being super controlling and rude, you deserve so much better then someone who won't give you the basic respect.
She sounds so much like my mom due to the description op provided
Simple, because OP seems like one of those people who wants to help her change and improve to become a better person because that's how much he loves her, as this is how most relationships work, but if the relationship doesn't improve at all and the spouse refuses to change, that's when the relationship becomes hopeless, and it's clear that this relationship had react that point and there's nothing OP can do to get her to change no matter what.
Last story: you know, even if you don’t speak the language, usually can still sell your crap talking them. Because disrespect you thinking it’s cleaver, you don’t switch from one language to another, during this conversation, just talk about any random thing.
OP didn’t have to say anything, and the only reason they’re mad is because they got caught and embarrassed.
Eh that's a pretty limited view on a bilingual family, sometimes my parents drop into their native language if they're talking about something they don't have the English for, or if it's about something that literally doesn't concern anyone else, like they might quickly ask me a question like "what time do you have to leave tomorrow?" Also they sometimes double check with me if I have a friend over, like they'd ask the friend in English if they want anything to drink, and if they say no they might turn to me and ask "is he sure? Or is he just being polite?" In another language.
So there are plenty of reasons to drop to a different language.
@@internetuser969Oooh, thanks for sharing. Good points I didn't think about, as my home is not bilingual
@@internetuser969that’s right but also the attitude have no language, and sometimes you can clearly see that someone is talking 💩about you
@@internetuser969 Yeah, this. Heck, I drop into English with my Finnish friends, to whom Finnish is also their native language just like me, just because the topic shifts to professional shit and English is our working language (in addition to being my 2nd).
We - as in my fam and friend circles - can have convos in a few languages at once. Maybe one of us just can't recall the word in another mutual language and someone pipes up with the correct phrasing (fun fact, code switching like this temporarily also unblocks your brain to let you access info you got stuck on much faster than just remaining stuck on that one word in that one language - neat!). Or someone has an aside that has nothing to do with anyone else for a particular person, and does that in a mutual language they jive with without care if everyone can understand "hey remind me to tell you about this thing I bought you might like".
Heck, I've had an entire holiday trip with two people in Japanese, Spanish and Finnish simultaneously, because we didn't have a single common language we three could all comfortably speak (as in I spoke Finnish with one, Japanese with the other, and the other two spoke Spanish with each other). None of us spoke all three fluently, but could muddle with some of the other two with context clues for the duration, so actually a lot of convos involving all three of us had surprisingly little repetition aside from quick translations by one to clue in the least fluent person.
lol, one of my fave bonding moments with a neighbour was realising they speak one native language with their siblings and the other with their parents, unless they wanna piss of their mom and then they switch to English for arguments with the parents, or exit out with the second native. Cause yeah, it makes multilingual situations much quicker sometimes to have like a go-to you speak with a specific person?
That's just how multilingual works sometimes.
But yeah, with this story I'm just shocked at the husband - how little does he speak about his spouse to his German family? How little does the family know about the OP?? Like to not even know they speak the language in the country they moved to, like at least a little? If I've ever learnt anything is that you can never assume someone in the most surprising setting can understand you, especially when you bitch about something.
Seriously, if my SO's family knows a language other than English, I would spend so much time just to study the language, all so I can be aware of what they try to hide from me
Story 1: Kimantha has a savior complex, but doesn't have the guts to actually BE a savior. What she's doing is incredibly messed up.
Story 5: Based on them making so many negative comments at OP in German (until OP called them out) they just don't really like OP, judging absolutely everything about her. That's just not good
And not only not like OP, they show no respect for her to even let her know how they feel. And where was dear hubby in all this?
I found it strange that OP knows the language but never tried to communicate in German with them. They only saw each other 1 time before she lived there. Didn't they even try to Skype or something?
Honestly I think the story is fake
@@lorilancaster5917 meh i kinda feel like parts of the story are made up. in germany, the stereotype of canada and hockey is not a thing - the german stereotype of canadians is about flannel shirts, maple syrup, mounties and lumberjacks. and calling someone a quote "fat ugly hockey addict" would translate to "eine fette/übergewichtige hässliche hockey-süchtige" which is quite the mouthful and would take a while to say out loud in german. i've seen this wordy insults in writing, but never heard anyone speak like that here, even when talking trash. i've also never witnessed trashtalking someone who does not understand the language - and i m an immigrant myself. i ve never been to hannover tho, maybe that region is special lol.
Da stand hokey nicht Hockey. Hokey heisst Fake/Falsch und ist ein Adjektiv
@augustaseptemberova5664
The maids are definitely going to be used at the party
Ogled best case scenario. Illegal and traumatic worse case scenario
@@lorilancaster5917 sadly there are worse case scenarios that i can think of based on the boyfriends request...
At least OP isn't going to be one of them.
Maybe not for their intended purpose
Unique taste? Yeah, it's called a fetish. This is the scariest sounding situation I have ever heard anyone be asked to participate in. I am so glad the girl stood her ground.
Story 5: NTA. "Oh how dare you not warn us that we can't insult you in front of you!" What trash.
I have neighbors like that first story. The kids aren't abused but just fosted off on the neighbors when they are bored. The little girl used to come over to my house every 15 minutes. She's 8 years older than my daughter and was very mean to her. Broke her toys, would make her cry constantly and laugh about it. When my best friend was killed, i asked her mom to keep her home for a few weeks...that kid knocked on my door every 15 mins. I finally had to tell her mom if she came over again without being invited, i would call cps on her.
I was very close to a mental breakdown at that point. My daughter was 2 and TERRIFIED of that kid. Any time she saw her coming, it was a screaming fit. That kid didnt leave me alone fully until covid and i STILL had to fight with her.
Letting your kids run wild sure sounds like some kind of abuse to me. At the very least it's not gonna end well for them.
But the situation described in this story seems completely different from yours? The only "bullying" Kimantha can describe is "kicking dirt at Petal at recess" and "sometimes not sitting with her at lunch". There's NO indication whatsoever that Annabelle is behaving the way you describe your neighbour's kid behaving. And combined with the thing about Betty choosing to sleep out on the hard, cold porch rather than inside the house in a bed just to get away from her father... yeah, no. These kids definitely aren't just bored and bothering random neighbours for the hell of it, they're desperate to be somewhere other than with their parents.
That must've been rough
"Kimantha"
"Petal"
I really hope those are changed names for reddit.
Given the name Abcde is real...
Kimantha has to be a fake name, I really doubt a name like that is real
Petal is a perfectly fine name. At least it is an actual word and has actual history to it. Kimantha is a tragedeigh though.
Petal's not a bad name but Kimantha is awful.
I actually really like "Petal". Kimantha is a total tragedeigh though.
Story 2: But that’s just it, they aren’t dating she’s just running after him, and he’s taking advantage. He’s your stereotypical rich guy think he can do whatever he wants whoever wants. He probably thought that desperate girl hang together, so OP would just do it, or could be bought off. But her refusal made her a “ challenge “, which made her more attractive. Because the one you have to work for is like a test to your skills.
That's messed up
@@bigjalapeno7061There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
Story 3: I'd never have the energy to deal with someone who is complaining all the time.
I can't stand it, it wouldn't last long
Exactly and I would see what I can do to get out of the deal. Buy her out or let her buy my part of the deed because this lady needs help and OP isn’t a therapist
Common issue with women. Sometimes she just needs to vent. Most men want to solve the problem. This is stressful. Some men ask "Is this venting, or is this a problem you want me to solve" then act accordingly. If she really needs to vent, tell her that you are available now, before dinner to discuss, but during dinner, you want to enjoy it, and not venting. It's okay to vent, and in any relationship you will get some. It is okay to not want to deal with venting while eating. you guys need to get on the same page here.
@@mattatwork2904she’s specially waiting for him to start eating to vent and expecting him to reply while he has food in his mouth
@@bibigamer502 Did she forget one of the lessons from Table Manners 101?
I, unfortunately, anticipate story 2 having a traumatic update for the friend who went to the party... 😢
I may be paranoid but I think OP should send an anonymous call to the police the night of the party for a wellness check and a heads up.
@@lorilancaster5917 right? Check on that friend asap
I agree. That's enough red flags to wrap an apartment building ☹️
Yeah... it sounds a lot like those stories of human tracking where the boyfriend starts very nice and showering with gifts, then once she's reeled in, forces her to do "stuff" for money and just moves on to the next girl to recruit. Seems like OP was a possible next prospect...
Especially if the guy was a rich guy dating a 22yo, especially if he suggested to PAY OP for her to do it. I wonder how he became rich...
Yeah. I immediately started thinking sex trafficking or something along those lines
Last story - "HOW DARE YOU EMBARRASS US BY LETTING US FINALLY KNOW THAT YOU KNOW WE LOATHE YOU?!?"
Lol yea
Story 4 Inheritance: Do not co-mingle your inheritance with your household accounts unless you truly understand the long-term implications. Legally, doing so takes your funds from the mine realm to the ours realm, and God forbid; if there is a family problem, that money becomes as much his as yours. In this case, his sisters can have expectations as well. Good luck.
If anyone ever calls you a prude, start talking about your bowl movements during a meal and when they act revolted tell them theyer being a prude.
O my The Mama Kay story! I knew adults like that when I was a teen! And later as an adult myself. They are manipulators, full of charisma, attractive to vulnerable people, avoided by healthy people
I had one of these too. Mine was a neighborhood mother who insisted the same things. She was a cool mom. She was there to help. She even took me in when I had a parental issue. However, she collected kids like trophies. so too in plenty of kids. Even when there wasn't any abuse or situation going on. Just a dispute between teenager and child and insisted that her house was the best option for all of these children... She then proceeded to claim them all as foster.Children get foster paychecks for them,Temporary and long term, and proceed to take out utilities in their names and ruin their credit.
Her son has a very strange relationship with her. Her daughter still thinks she hung the moon and that she is amazing. Her daughter's friends( who minds you along with her daughter are all well into their 30s) Still think she's the cool mom and everything's cool.However those of us who were the foster children all had to call the police at some point to file reports of credit fraud.
That's pretty messed up
@@kp2223wow I’m so sorry. Hope you are in the clear now
@DianaWanMa didnt find out about the fraud until i was trying to get an appt , so thatvwas awesome. But that was 20-25 years ago ,all good now, both parents died, married, home owner , mother of 2 kids and one gorgeous dog 🐕
That "right attitude" comment made my skin try to crawl off my body 😳
Seriously I audibly shuddered
He can't take no for an answer because he's desperate to humiliate people he thinks are beneath him.
I get the feeling that the party is specifically to humiliate and belittle people. With an emphasis on breaking people with pride and self respect. Which is why he was willing to pay OP to attend regardless.
There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
@@ReptillianStrikeThere was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
*Last Story:* Why is it OP's job to tell people what languages she speaks? Her in-laws thought they were being sneaky when they tried to badmouth her in German. They're just mad that they were made to look like fools, and OP now knows _exactly_ how they feel about her.
Because you know they don't like to be called out on. And just want to shift the blame even though they know they been caught
4: OP should make sure her name is on the deed as well, and then put her foot down and tell her husband that he can either get his priorities straight, or lose half the property (the half that would be used to build homes for his sisters).
3: OP should secretly video recording his wife complaining as soon as he starts eating, and how she treats him during that time. Then, after making sure that there are copies of the video in secure places, play it back to her. If that doesn't work, send out copies to her friends and family. I can guarantee that the schtuff will hit the fan in a massive way, with her being humiliated and instead of it blaming herself for her own behavior, she'll blame OP for exposing her behavior.
Story 1: I heard this story on the never seen a lot of the comments are more upset OP was more focused on the hypocrisy and not the kids are being abused. A couple comments asking why she doesn’t call CPS. To were where she explains that she lives in another state and only knows what her sister told her. She did tell her but she gave some pathetic excuse.
But even if OP tried, would it even help? I mean all this info is second hand and she’s not even in the same state. Also I know everyone is concerned about those kids, but I don’t think OP is a monster for pointing out the hypocrisy of advertising your a safe space for all kids. Then hiding in the bathroom trying to avoid one’s the clearly need your help.
Yea
One can be tired from time to time after being helpful. What I didn’t really like was the facebook posts.
It’s weird when someone pictures themselves like that, telling to the world that they are a saviour.
Complainer
OP is being emotional, mentally and verbally abused by his gf.
She is saying she will take the door off the hinges. You know, like abusive parents do to their children.
She is abusing him.
"You don't let me bother you when we eat anymore. It makes me feel sad."
I kinda wished he kept on chewing and ignoring her while she yelled her "hellos", but also if OP was that type of a person this situation would not have gone that far in the first place anyway
I've learned that every woman I know who posts about what a great mom they are or a certain type of mom, are the worst type of parent. Mostly neglectful. It's like they're so focused on projecting stuff to the world that they forget about their kids. That's the number 1 way I spot a bad parent. Decent parents don't feel the need to brag.
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Bad parents never worry about whether or not they are being bad parents.
1st story I side with op. Those kids need help and the sister is to focused on herself to care
What got me is that there were commenters on XO calling OP an AH for not reporting Petals situation to CPS knowing that OP lives out of state and is hearing this story from a third party, aka Kimantha.
I would have called as soon as I saw the 15yo sleeping on the porch.
How uncomfortable do you have to be and how awful is a parent that your child would rather SLEEP ON THE PORCH than even be in the house with you???
I would have these kids in my house daily. Oh my god.
@@journeehyde9128 OP even told Kimantha that she needs to contact CPS only for her to say she doesn’t want to get involved
@@lorilancaster5917 That's awful.
It's not about being in someone else business. It's about protecting those who need protection.
@@lorilancaster5917I think you meant Annabelle, Petal is OP's niece.
1) To be fair, Kimantha shouldn't have to be feeding and taking care of Annabell every day, but yeah HOW has she not called CPS by this point??
2) OP's friend is in for a rude awakening... this is gross.
Story 3: If there isn't something big being left out of this story, OP, get the hell out before you get her pregnant. The likely reasons she waited until you started eating to start complaining were because you would be less likely to be able to argue because, well, you're eating, and you were likely to be pinned down in the one place for long enough for her to get all her grievances out. That would be annoying in the best scenarios, but when the daily list of problems starts with you kicking her shoe while you were getting dressed and it wasn't on her foot at the time? People tend to start with their biggest problem in times like this. I'm not sure if there's trauma about shoe kicking there or what, but if the bar is that low for figuring out what she wants to have a confrontation about, she's either inventing /magnifying things to have a reason to get in your face at dinner, or she really lacks the ability to let go of even the most petty things. Is there a chance this is a kink she has, and she wants to get into an argument that devolves into a food fight with an angry sex session after? If you're going to stay with her, she's going to need therapy.
Yea you're probably right
5: Another story where people hate to have their own bad behavior exposed.
Story 5: Knowing multiple languages is probably the biggest life skill flex because it means that nobody can insult you and get away with it
I only speak to people in english, but I am fluent in 2 other languages and conversational and 2 more. Nowadays my kids usually give me away.Because they'll speak to me in another language in public
Story 3: OP…
*_WHY. ARE. YOU. WITH. THIS. WOMAN!?_*
Mostly because OP was hoping that he can help her change and improve because that's how much he loves her, but even so, there are people whom no matter what you do, you just cannot get them to improve at all and so at that point, that's when they should end the relationship. This one has defiantly reached to that point where I'd tell him "Look, the truth is you just cannot get your girlfriend to change and improve at all and so you should just end the relationship".
Pussy!
Don't over interpret shit~
That second story the girlfriend is blind as a bat at the eye doctor.
For the last story, what did the family think when hubby went and told them off for insulting his wife? Didn’t he tell them that she heard and understood the comments? How did they not connect the dots that she might speak their language??
OP in that maid outfit story successfully dodged the "Freak Off"
Story3: Break up with her. Get her out of your life.
She sound beyond exhausting and honestly more than a little annoying.
I'm going to be honest and say i think she is just using him for a place to live .
Imagine getting yelled at for knowing a language I'm just glad the husband isn't backing them up
*3rd Story:* I'm surprised that OP didn't take the "return their energy back to them" route with his girlfriend. Maybe firing back with complaints about all the small & annoying things she does as she's eating will make her see how awful her behaviour is. And if that doesn't work or if she gets mad & fails to see her hypocrisy, _then_ dump her butt.
That's what I also commented but at the same time I realize that if OP was the type of person to do that, this situation never would have gone so far that he would have posted on reddit
Complainer story:
Yes, she is doing this 100% on purpose.
And WHY would OP give you a key when the entire point is to lock you out?
But for real: WHY ARE YOU 2 STILL TOGETHER!?
Genetalia > Brain
The name Peter first reminds me of the story about the boy who cried wolf and second a word for male genitals but only because other people have made that a thing.
So, It's like a curse on your kid, calling them a liar the second they come into the world and people not believing anything he says "Look everyone, Peter's says there's a wolf carrying Kenny into the forest. Stop telling stories, man! LOL!" as he grows up which could lead to the boy ending up very alone and in danger.
German Family Story: NTA
The German Family thought that since OP couldn’t understand German, they can talk sh*t behind her back about her whatever!
But when OP tells them off, IN GERMAN, they have to act all OFFENSIVE because they DARED to talk crap about OP’s OWN baby daughter!
The hypocrisy and entitlement in the husband’s family is majorly disgusting! I hope both OP and her husband cut ties from them until THAT family can learn to be decent and caring, and not act like they’re “above” OP and her kids!
I'll take "Things That Never Happened" for €350, Ken.
Complainer: Eat in the-? Hell no, screw that, deliberately waiting until *you* physically start eating to run her mouth? Leave her, or, if you’re feeling vindictive, start complaining and random shit when SHE tries to eat
Last Story: hold on, why is OP having to _ask_ her husband to intervene? Does he not speak German or something? Why isn't he proactively shutting that crap down?? regardless of whether OP even understands or is aware.
“She said that I’m lame, boring and not being a supportive friend” - this is classic - but often subconscious, everyone does it almost constantly - manipulation/coercion. ‘I want, you won’t, so I will say/do whatever to shame, guilt or browbeat you into giving me what I want’.
People often get angry or defensive in response - but it’s worth learning to ‘hear’ the ‘why’ behind accusations like this, so you can respond to the underlying matter and not waste time or energy on nonsense.
Of course, the person reflexively trying to pressure you into compliance probably won’t do the same. They’ll continue reacting instinctively to the probable feeling of betrayal (‘I’m shy to do this but I want to and I expect you to do it with me so I won’t be scared and I’m hurt/offended that you won’t because I expected you to agree’) and may feel attacked if you respond by trying to drill down to the underlying issue… but hey, if you’re wasting your time anyway… 😅
Lilith in Jewish lore is the first “Eve,” who fell to sin and is synonymous with “demon woman.” For context, it would be like naming your daughter Jezebel.
She didn’t ’fall to sin’ she just wouldn’t be controlled. MAJOR difference!
She didn't fall to sin, she just refused to be subservient to Adam, who in return threw a tantrum to God
@CerebralSupport to be fair (by which I _only_ mean providing context from the same source because I think it's just demeaning) there's a lot of stuff in the Old Testament/similar books of the Abrahamaic faiths that talks about how women *should* be subservient to men. As far as the authors of those books are concerned it was sinful, even though it's really just called "no being a doormat".
Interesting
To Oppressors and Tyrants, Lilith was a Sinner!
To the oppressed and Rebellion, Lilith was a hero!
story 3, just get out man, out of the basement, and out of that relationship
I can't imagine being around someone who constantly complains. I'd shut that down instantly
Story 2 - the first thing I thought of, after OPs friend said "they're sort of dating" reminds me of a comment one of Benjamin Bratt's characters said. "Either you are or you aren't."
There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
@@TheMadagascarqueenwhat did she expect honestly....
Definitely saw that Peter joke coming from miles away 😂😂
The truth hurts, doesn't it, Kimantha? Don't like when your house of cards falls down when people know the truth, do you?
I've lived with the meaning of Peter as a slang term for my entire life. It's not a heavy burden. At least I'm not named after a toilet like my brother John.
Why do they think someone would MOVE TO GERMANY without speaking a word of German? 5/5 on the idiot scale.
German Story: Using Lilith is a bit of a weird name because of all the evil connotations many cultures and belief systems have over it. I like the name too, but it'll definitely catch a LOT of judgement because, in most cases, Lilith is a succubus who sleeps with married men to ruin relationships and murders babies. It has nothing to do with "ghost" or "of the night" unless the second one is about being loose and a homewrecker.
In your culture it might but it apparently does in her culture, although I find it stupid to name her kid that only because of the JR stuff basically.
Story 4: If you set up trusts, make sure your husband isn't the person overseeing them.
And if you don't have a will, get one asap. Unexpected things happen and it will help preserve your inheritance and your portion of the farm, for your kids.
Story #1 TL, DR; "super mum": 'all the neighbourhood kids, you can come an crash here. My home is open for all of you!!' - kid comes because it's ab used at home and searches for a save place- - "super mum" hides in the bathroom and pretents to be not home- 🤦🏾♂️
Last story I literally said “this gonna be another story where they’re talking shit cuz they think she doesn’t know their language, isn’t it?”
And lo and behold, I was right.
Complainer: she clearly wants to find literally any excuse to complain and be mad. She's a mental patient
"When you left for work this morning, you kicked my shoe."
I can only imagine what else she could possibly complain about.
"You left a spoon in the sink."
"There were toast crumbs by the toaster."
"The glass was not turned exactly 180° clockwise after it was placed in the cupboard."
"The dish sponge had a drop of water left in it."
"You talk too much when you eat. I try to have a conversation with you, but there's always food in your mouth. You're doing it again. Well, answer me!"
Shes refusing to sleep in her own house WHEN HER DAD IS AROUND. There definitely is something going on with that dad.
Aggressively refreshing TH-cam to receive my daily rslash video
Story 2: OP, he's put you both as a part of his menu, to "share" with his friends.....
Story 3: OP, my dude, just end it. She brings no peace, complains about everything, and focuses on herself. You can't even have a meal without her griping about every little thing. Let her find someone who will put up with the whining, and give yourself a chance to have normalcy and quiet.
Maid story: Men know that a woman is always more trusting of another woman. That's why her 'boyfriend' did that. Huge Red Flags.
Sun peaks resort used to be called Todd mountain resort. Well, they were bought by Germans. Tod translates to death. They decided death mountain resort wouldn't advertise well. Made the locals laugh for months.
So in German: ♂🦊 = 💀
9:48 lock the basement from the OUTSIDE??? My BROTHER, lock this woman OUTSIDE of the HOUSE and OUT OF YOUR LIFE
My grandma's house really was the safe haven for everyone. A few my friends actually did live in abusive or not. That great situations and my house is a safe haven at the time I lived with my grandma One time me and Grandma came home from shopping to find my friend's dad standing on the porch pounding the door trying to get in. We talked to him, tried to get him to leave. He wouldn't so I brought up my trump card. I pounded the door And called for my dog. He pounced at the door, made it shake violently and then growled at the man. he ran for the hills ah the good old days that dog passed away many years ago He would never hurt a fly but boy could he put on a good act
I think ESH in story 1, OP would rather be petty and shit talk her sister instead of actually caring about a girl that is showing signs of parental abuse.
Is that party A P Diddy theme
Fr. Damn diddy party
@@TheMadagascarqueen thank god
Story 2: NTA. This is giving Diddy party vibes. DO NOT go to the Diddy party
There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
@@TheMadagascarqueen Thank god
There is an unspoken rule 9:12 No talking at the dinner table. If it was me, then I would get on her case, berating her for not shutting up, and demand she get out.
That 'momma to all kids' is not nice at all! Years ago we had 'friends'(I went to high school with the woman and hubby knew the husband from somewhere) that moved nearby. They had a few older kids, and a daughter close to our daughters age. They became fast friends. The little girl wanted to be at our house all the time, and we allowed it. We soon learned why. The parents were hard partiers, not just alcohol, but coke, acid and drugs you take with a needle. They had people in and out of their house constantly, and there was no structure for the kids. The little girl stayed over often. She so desperately wanted a 'normal' family. One night the father came by insisting we give his child to him(it was long after the girls went to sleep, somewhere about 2am). We showed him she was sleeping, but he took her anyway. It occurred to us the father was abusing her. We moved away, but we let her know where, so if she needed us, we could help her. She showed up at our door, when she was 15 and pregnant. She had an older man 'boyfriend' and was heavily into drugs now too. She told us about the pregnancy before she even told her own parents. The last we seen her was on the front page of the newspaper, with her mother saying how her own drug abuse, got her daughter into the same drugs. She had overdosed and died, at 17. The father overdosed not long after too. When a child needs help and comes to you, don't push them away, you may be the ONLY person they trust, and can come to. We did all we could to help her, but her story was already written, when she was born. Rip Katie. Hope you're in hell Rick!
5:43 how much are you willing to bet the 2 girls would be the ONLY ones in a 'costume'?!?
10 million dollars
Diddy party
Story 4: Not only should OP stick to her guns, but she needs to keep and eye on all the bank accounts because if he wants to build a house and pay the texts on it, then he’s probably giving them money behind her back. Or will try to steal it.
Hope he divorces her and takes half the inheritance. Op sounds greedy
Those poor kids in the Mama Kay story. It truly does sound like they're being abused. They probably secretly hope she'll SEE them. Even if they're afraid of that at the same time.
I hope her sibling's words got something going in her brain and she does the right thing. Maybe I'm just putting too much of my childhood in that story, but i really hope someone does something for those kids before it's too late (that's from watching too much Evil Lives Here).
Story 1) Yeah no, if you're gonna 'be' that kind of mom on social media, you gotta live up to it. You can't just claim that you're that kind of parent and then ignore the kids who ACTUALLY need you. Why hasn't she called CPS? Those kids are 100% being neglected! NTA.
Story 2) NTA 100%, he is basically using this as an excuse to have his 'flavor of the month' present (as he likely doesn't want anyone knowing he's 'dating' a poor person) but also seeing an opportunity to make his friends night. This is literally just a party meant to have sex while shitting on poor people and I can guarantee you will regret going to that party.
Story 3) Your gf is psychotic and you need to leave her. Someone who says something like 'you're not meeting *MY* expectations', is a straight up narcissist and deserves to be lonely if they're going to be that bad about it. NTA.
Story 4) Yeah no, definitely go with the divorce option, no sane partner thinks 'oh, my S/O is getting a crap ton of money! I know *exactly* what I want to do with money that doesn't belong to me!' Honestly, I've kind of been in that situation before, my grandfather passed away almost 10 years ago and left us about $85k, up until that point, we hadn't been paying rent because the house is a double that was owned by my stepdad's father. But once my stepdad blabbed about the inheritance, suddenly we owed rent backing up until the day *we* moved into the side and we ended up forking over $25k. Money that was supposed to be in case of emergency. And worse yet, my stepdad (being a spoiled brat of a daddy's boy) wouldn't defend when my mom put her foot down. He just sided with daddy dearest. If he wanted rent, that was fine, we'd work it into the finances, but the fact he was demanding our inheritance money for rent? (He literally wouldn't take anything less than $10k up front and then another $15k the next inheritance check) It boils my blood when other people think they're entitled to someone's inheritance money. NTA.
Story 5) They're just mad they've been outed. Like honestly, who the hell thinks they should be allowed to hide behind their language? If you can't say something to someone's face, then don't say it at all, you cowards. NTA, they need to mind their own damn business.
Story 2: Step 1 - Prepare for a breakup.
Step 2 - Talk to GF. Agree to try one more time if GF swears to a peaceful, complaining-free dinner.
Step 3 - When the GF inevitably breaks her word, stage a "Nearly choking to death" performance
Step 4- GF will either ¹care she almost killed Op and change/act accordingly, or, ²not. Step 5 - Eat all future meals as Op sees fit. Safety 1st (See step 1!)
Story two it sounds like the bf wants the two girls to actually acts as maids during the party. Thus the offer to pay. Also the attitude she has he and his rich friends think it's entertaining for the "servant" to be sassy and talk back etc.
First story: NTA and op isn’t the butthole here
Uhhh... damn. Those kids are 100% being abused, 15 is avoiding Dad _for a reason_ and it isn't anything wholesome.
Story 2
That is the perfect setup for a girl to let all her bodiehair grow out, cleaning your house in that outfit and going without showering
You wanna maid, mate? Got you
The name Peter is a name that means "rock" or "stone". It's derived from the Greek name Petros, which is a masculine form of the Greek word petra and also means "rock" or "stone"
Inheritance story: Remember, gentlemen - her money is hers, and so is yours. Never fails.
And at this point I would recommend OP use her inheritance to start a new life away from spouse and his lazy sisters
@@lorilancaster5917 she can try to do that with her half of the inheritance
@@GreenBeret1903 you do realize that inheritance don’t get redistributed in the event of a divorce?
@lorilancaster5917 depends on the state, but it most certainly can be
Story 5: German Here. Yeah, we get a bad rap for complaining about virtually everything, but what Peter's family is saying about OP makes them total trash.
Wenn man nichts nettes zu sagen hast, sollte man lieber die Fresse halten.
Ich finds eher erschreckend das das Pack konstant nichts besseres zu tun hatte als über OP herzuziehen. Und eigentlich noch schlimmer ist, das der Mann nicht sofort die Klappe aufgemacht hat und seine Familie(damit meine ich nicht Mutter und schwester) verteidigt.
I believe the Poms complain more than you guys.
Second story was basically her and her former friend getting an invite to a Diddy party
Story 3, I empathize with the guy. It's for different reasons, but I really hate not being able to eat alone in peace. I've had to learn to white knuckle my way through in the last couple years, I wanted to change that so my kids can enjoy a meal together. With someone lambasting me everytime I go for a bite? I'd call it, for sure
Story 2: In light of recent events, the only thing I could come up with for a name was "Freak Off"
There was an update: there was no SA, no rape (thank God). just the roommate being humiliated and ignored while he chats with the other girls. She comes back makeup smeared (Probably from crying) and admitted the OP was right about not going to the party. The roommate didn't apologize, but OP didn't care about the apology.
Story 2 is so many major red flags and they get creepy as the story goes on. OP absolutely avoided being SA'd at that party. If the friend wants to put herself in danger by ignoring the danger signs that's on her. Buttrying to manipular her into playing along to make her predator BF happy and being mad when she chooses her safety instead shows that she's not a friend. She's a hazard that should be avoided along with her scumbag bf.
Am I the only one thinking that the story about the whole skimpy made costume sounds like an invite to a P diddy party? What, too soon?
2nd story gives strong "Don't blink" vibes
The last inlaws sound like incredibly difficult people. Though, giving your child a name associated with the mother of all demons and a baby eater is a bit... strange. If she didn't know that and only knew the meanings she gave, then I can see why she thought the name is harmless 😅
To the Oppressors and Tyrants, Lillith was a Sinner!
To the oppressed and Rebellion, Lilith was a Hero!
Lilith is neither evil nor a baby eater!
She is only the first to stop being Adams Sex toy, demanding free will!
@Robin93k No, she definitely became demon known for being a baby eater and is regarded as the mother of demons. Trying to plaster titles like tyrants on people who mention it doesn’t change that. And she wasn't kicked out because she wouldn't sleep with Adam, it is because she rejected the plan God had for her. Since she didn't want to live by God's plan, she didn't get to stay in God's paradise. Don't be a demon apologist. Do better, make better choices. And God bless you.
Yeah, as a mom of 3 kids, I dunno where it says you know nothing about kids if you don’t have any. What I’ve never understood is how anyone reaches adulthood knowing nothing about kids. You… were a kid. For literal years. The years that formed you as a person (on top of the personality you were born with, that is). How does anyone who had even a marginally stable childhood not know anything about kids? You might not know what modern kids have going on but you should remember what it was like to be one.
And don’t suggest they need to mind their business. I know a guy who refuses to have kids because he and his twin were abused by their mom. He doesn’t trust himself to be a father after the examples he saw. But best believe he knows when he sees a kid in a bad situation. He knows far too well how to recognize that.
And I am actually the “cool” mom… not because I’m actually cool, but because I’m down to earth. No pretense, no trying to stay looking young, no head games or trying to live vicariously through my kids. If my kids say a friend needs to get out of the house for a while because things are turbulent and they’re lashing out at each other, if I can make time, we head over and get them. Bear in mind… this was when they were teens/adults, with parental approval where applicable. They’d sleep over or we’d drive around a bit. And my daughter’s friends have some pretty difficult parents to deal with. I don’t have demands or expectations of them and that’s relaxing for someone whose parents pick fights over nothing, or whose step-dad is always making demeaning remarks (mom finally kicked him out), or whose adopted parents treat you like freaking Cinderella because they gave you a home out of “Christian duty.” And yeah, we’re Christian, too… I just really hate it when people throw the name around for appearances but make no effort to live up to the values. You adopt a kid, that’s your kid, you love them and raise them as yours. Full stop. But I digress.
Tl;dr… Everyone was a kid once, and there’s childless people who care more about kids than some proud parents. No sense getting elitist about either. It’s just a choice.
In the complainer story:
Fucking sad OP doesn’t realize he’s in an emotionally abusive relationship. She complains about him and tells him how he’s not good enough, attempts to manipulate him by using her tears, and *_THREATENED TO TAKE THE DOOR OFF THE HINGES_* to force him to basically sit there and take her abuse. Poor guy. Also, RSlash, maybe you didn’t realize, but guy’s in an abusive relationship.
THREATENED TO TAKE THE DOOR OFF THE HINGES.... Yes, I would call her unhinged. (Bad joke... sorry/not sorry)
@@SPJPapasan nah, that was a good one lol
2nd story..sounds alot like a variation of a "nerd" party. Thats when a bunch of pretty girls all invite a bunch nerds to a party and whomever brings the biggest nerd wins. Its just a flex for them and humiliation for the poor guys. I'm thinking this was just a party for rich ppl to see who could humiliate a non-rich person the most. NTA.
Good rule of thumb don't speak a foreign language and assume no one understands you. I know a little French and Spanish and going to Disney world is a riot with people having massively insulting conversations about the people around them as though no one could possibly understand them
Considering I’m fluent in Portuguese & Spanish, I loved working at WDW & hearing Brazilians talk shit about me, only to then be told (in Portuguese) that just because I’m Whyte & American, I’m not an idiot & saw them shoplifting. Got a whole tour group trespassed from Epcot this way 😂
@FigmentForever nice profile image. Epcott is probably the last place I'd expect people to try this stunt considering they hire people from around the world to work in relevant areas.
@@93lozfan You would be surprised. The Brazilian Tour groups circa 06-11 were a rough bunch.