abby- change is hard. and i’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. stay strong. i’m so glad you have a husband as amazing as matt to support you and comfort you. i promise it will all work out in the end. i love you guys!💗💗
There’s nothing wrong with being a Midwest girl! I had the same problem when I went to college. I didn’t realize how much I needed familiarity, community, family, etc. love you dudes!! Hang in there. The best is yet to come!!
When y'all look back on this part of your life, you'll appreciate the experience of having 'grown up' together in Hawaii. I was born and raised in South Alabama. My husband was born and raised just outside of Tallahassee, FL. We got married when I was 19 and he was 25. We started our family in Benton, Arkansas with family/friends being 8-12hrs away. It was hard but was 100% worth it. The experiences we had there brought us closer and taught us to depend on each other more. We're back in Mobile, AL now but my heart is still in Benton.
Praying for this transition for you both! Change is always hard. The both of you have been such a light and breath of fresh air on the internet and I’m so thankful to have found your channel.
For both of them, they have been through a lot of changes since they started their lives together as husband and wife. Hawaii was one of the 1st places they have lived as a married couple. Settling into a routine and establishing friendships there, all those things you become attached to. But they have matured so much in such a short time period. It makes sense that they are looking to started a new chapter to prepare them for plans they have for her future. You both are in my prayers.
We are also from the Midwest (KC) and we totally understand the need to just have the extra people. You need to always feel connected and have a community no matter where you are. Being in China the past three years have been extremely difficult for us away from family, but we've made sure to create a family away from home which has made our life here just a tad easier on the holidays.
you guys had me on edge the entire time, i didn’t think your suitcases would close 😅 but also i know it’s hard to move away, but i know y’all will be so happy closer to your family ❤️
I’m praying for you both! I’m from America but I moved to Australia for a year and when I moved back to America I had no idea what was next, but I had to remember Romans 8:28 He works ALL things together for the good!!
Literally watching on my living room tv, while typing this. I am so happy for y’all. Honestly, this timing seems to be perfect cause it’s the holidays (happy time) and you get to visit with family and really having those private conversations that are needed to determine your next location on where you’re living ♥️ I can totally relate to you on the mental health…. I’m proud of you and respect you so much for acknowledging it. Family is so important to me, just like for you, so being close to them, really helps out!! Like you said, you can always remember the Hawaii days forever and always go back. That’s something you’ll never get back and I’m so happy for you guys. Keep staying true to yourselves. We are always there for you guys and love y’all ♥️🥰
Abby----I totally understand how hard of a year it's been for you. While I can't say I was as far from family as you were when I lost a family member this year, I felt super isolated and separated from family when I had to come back to college after I lost my grandpa! Sending love and prayers your way and safe travels this holiday season to see family ❤
I was in the exact same situation as you guys! I got matched to an internship in Hawaii (Oahu) last year, and lived there, by myself and away from all of my family and friends, from July 2020 until July 2021. And I also had a family loss during my time there, that I felt very removed and isolated from. I moved back home after my internship ended, and I have been so much happier, even though Hawaii is beautiful and wonderful, and so fun! I don't regret my year, there, but even looking back on that year now, there are still a lot of feelings and emotions wrapped up in it. So thank you for sharing your thoughts and feeling on your experience there... It makes me feel less alone in it, and hopefully, if you see this, you feel validated in your feelings about it too. ☺️❤️
I'm excited for you guys, I will miss Hawaii a little because it's nice to live vicariously through you guys(I live in Minnesota and it's quite cold here), but I can't wait to see what is next for you guys!! This video made me tear up even. Hopefully you guys end up in a place where you both have peace and happiness and everything you need in life. The openness you had with us in this video made me feel so close to you guys even though I have never gotten to meet you. Thank you for your honesty and just how amazing of people you are. Abby, I know this past year was hard for you, but I just wanted to tell you that I just went back and watched a bunch of your old videos and TikToks, especially from when you first got to Hawaii, and you have grown so much in the past year and you are just an amazing person, and like a sister I wish I had. Matt, I hope you are able to kind as much joy as Hawaii brought you, and that you never lose your happiness and love just for life.
Just found your channel from your “shorts”. I’m also from the Midwest originally and lost my brother this year. My husband and I lived in California at the time and it was the hardest thing being away from family during that time. We recently moved back and it has given my heart so much peace. I pray the same for you both. ♥️
My husband and I lived in the Cayman Islands for almost two years and I felt every single thing Abby was saying when I was there. I always say it was the best and hardest season for me. My husband was like Matt, he would have lived there forever 😂. Praying for you guys as you transition back to the mainland. Praying for lots of family time and real community that you feel you’ve been lacking!
Moving is hard. I had moved just 7 hours away for college fully expecting it to be a stepping stone to moving further after. The second I graduated I turned around and went back home. Learning to appreciate where you came from more is still growth, just as much as learning to be away from home is.
I’m from the Midwest too! I am from Nebraska , but moved to Tampa Florida on my own at 18 to attend a Bible college. I still live here 3 years later. I think living far from family really shows how strong you can be, but My husband and I are wanting to maybe start having kids soon too so it’s just hard when you’re far from family. I completely understand how you feel!
Years ago I tried to make TH-cam videos about my passions and it was great when almost noone watched cuz everyone watching had interest in the content, but once I started pushing over 100 viewers then the odd negative comment or criticism crept in and it could be nasty. I know the algorithms have changed so if anything it's harder to monetise now than it was back then, but particular in the early days you would be making content to entertain, essentially for free, and people could really hurt you with words. So I understood your pain there. See my way of improving my mental on that aspect was to walk away, so the fact you guys can keep going strong and have this huge channel and awesome community on here is inspiring to see. I'm sorry for your loss and separation, sounds like that was pretty hard too, but please know you guys are awesome, and you can always overcome. Sending love and on the plus side you'll be with family for Christmas so focus on that, enjoy and next year you'll be able to build on the lessons learnt here and now. Peace and love guys.
Thank you for sharing your hearts... I'm a missionary kid so I know a little bit about how it feels to move to new places, have some great and not so great memories and move again. What I've found helping is just holding on to God through it. Yesterday, today, forever, He stays the same. Kudos to y'all ❤️🇰🇪
It seemed to me that Abby was not happy in Hawaii. It’s okay sometimes we do things out of our comfort zone and they are not what we expected! I’m glad you guys got to move to Hawaii as an experience! A lot of people don’t have that opportunity to do that :)
I lost my grandma while being across the country getting medical help to save my life and it was the worst thing to go through. I feel for you Abby and send you lots of love!
I experienced similar feelings when I went abroad to the US for a year in College. The pressure that you set yourself under "why don't I enjoy this enough?! Why am I not happy here? I HAVE TO BE happy!!" - No you don't! No beach, no ocean, no paradise can ever change where you truly belong. And to me that is - just like for Abby apparently - with my family and closest friends.
I moved 1000 miles from where I grew up when I got married . I've been married 5 years now and I'm homesick a lot especially around the holidays. I understand completely! Merry Christmas 🎅
Ahh I love your videos so much! Moving is always so bittersweet but it sounds like you guys are making the best choice for you! I admire your positive attitudes and also your realness during difficult moments. It is extremely refreshing to see people being their genuine selves!! Safe travels 💕
First time commenter here, don't let the negative comments get to you. I always have fun watching your shorts. Also, look at how many strides you've been able to make on youtube. This is quite the accomplishment.
I think it’s important to know that you tried living in Hawaii and although it didn’t workout forever, it is more important that you tried it instead of wondering “what if?” So proud of you guys for getting out of your comfort zones!
Y'all are so sweet and we so appreciated seeing this real moment and for opening your lives to all of us. So excited about your next step! Much love :) PS. Come by Chicago sometime, dudes! We'd love to hang :)
Awww, it will all work out! Change is hard but having your family closer will quickly fill up any voids from missing Hawaii. This should have also been a LL Bean ad, every time you brought more stuff to put in, I was like - no way that will fit in there! I was amazed! Good luck, it is all going to be just fine!
You guys are going to do great when you land where you are going. Member of the military here who moved constantly, and it has always been challenging. But you guys have a very special connection. And not every married couple has it. It's a connection of compromise and agreeability combined with hope. Hope endures all things. And I can also tell you as someone who used to go to the muny, someone who misses Ted drews, someone who has traveled the world and continues to spend about half of my month living out of a suitcase, there's a feeling of home that is sometimes really hard to capture, but when you are with your person, home is wherever You are together. Enjoy the adventure. And matt, you will surf as a family someday, and then you might ski as a family, and then you might camp as a family, and you will cook as a family. And each one of these things will fulfill parts of your heart you didn't know you had. And Abby, it's great that you let your feelings be known, and it's even better to feel your feelings, don't back off this ride. You guys are good at this. Enjoy the travel. See you guys soon!
You are such a beautiful and inspiring couple. I, myself, have been living abroad for 5 years due to work. The income is great, but my mental health (being alone in a foreign country) without my family and friends, is really getting to me. I’m so afraid to leave due to not being able to find another good job in my home country, but life is so short and the unhappiness I’m experiencing right now is so painful. Thank you for sharing your journey! You lift my spirits tremendously!
I can’t believe it’s already been a year! Yall lasted longer in HI than I did. I stayed a month before I was ready to come back to the mainland 😂 Life is such an adventure and I’m glad y’all were able to have that experience!
I recently moved to the big city for college after growing up in a small town my whole life and I am definitely feeling far from home. I grew up SOOOOO close to my family and it hurts my heart to be away from them. I'm just telling you Abby so you know that you aren't alone in this struggle and you have support to lean on! I'll be praying for you and your next chapter in life guys!
Guys, you are both SO YOUNG and have so much time to experience so much together. Be proud that you had the courage to move 5,000 miles from your families and created new friendships and life skills. It seemed to me that you need to be true to your roots, especially if you are struggling emotionally. But, you have each other and you appear to be very strong together. A good Pro's & Con's list can help you decide where to go next. Be safe and Merry Christmas!!
I trust you can consider this a part of a your journey together. Great that you did it when you are young and without kids. You are right, having a child without the support of family can be tough. I have always believed that it takes a village to raise a child. Take the help as offered. There are many beautiful beaches in the states that you can explore with and without your kids. I love that you are free spirits. Stay open to all the possibilities while you enjoy holidays with your family. Trust you will be guided and shown the next stepping stone on the journey. The perfect next place to live. Blessings.....on you journey. 🤗
This is gonna be such a good year for you guys, I'm excited for you to find somewhere that you both feel at home in! Looking forward to seeing what 2022 brings you two :)
I just started following you based on a cute Reel. I got the feeling there was something special about you. I wasn't wrong! The love and wisdom you share with yourselves and then your followers is just amazing. Life is always changing and always will. You discovered and shared you have to move forward as one as you balance your individual needs with what is best for your future as a couple. Also, your comments about friends and differences should be heard by everyone. True happiness in The Game of Life is about staying balanced. You taught me a married man of 33 years a few things. Keep doing Life together.
I’m so sorry that you went through that Abby, I think you are both are so strong, and thank you for being so honest, love you both! I completely support your decision
Matt: You okay? Abby whispers: Yeah, just feeling my emotions. 😂 sounds exactly like a convo I would have with my partner too. It’s hard to own your emotions and allow them to pass through. Have loved watching both of you for nearly a year now and I’m excited to see where the two of you end up next!
You guys moving in with family for the holidays reminds me of me and my husband in between moving from PA to NY we spent about 3 weeks with family over Christmas and it was sooo good! Enjoy yourselves and it’s ok to feel and take a while to take In the emotions… praying for you guys and your new home wherever that is:)
I am so sorry people have been so mean to you and honestly for some people it’s just easier to be mean to you to make themselves feel better. Your both awesome and you have awesome families.
You guys are a great couple , just don't worry about the people online or anyone else . Most of the people who post hurtful comments are just insecure and are suppressing all the hurt that they themselves experienced . Live life to the fullest and take joy in the little things .
It’s very refreshing to see that both of you can share your real feelings and emotions. It makes me feel better about my own hardships ❤️ There are always going to be people who disapprove of who you are or what you are doing in your life. This is YOUR life and you get to choose how you spend the time you are blessed with.
I watch your videos all the time I'm literally 65 years old and I think the world of you kids just come home I know your grandpa and your family need you when you're back in Missouri would love to meet you guys my wife and I have been married 45 years yeah we're just old people love what you guys bring to our hearts be safe
Thank you guys for always being so real, and honest with your followers. I can feel your genuine spirits and emotions through your videos, and I am so happy to be able to experience your journey with you. Your videos have truly brought so much happiness and joy into my life, and for that I thank you from the bottom of my heart! This coming year is going to be so amazing for ya'll. Like I always tell people- the world needs more people like you two!!
Hawaii will always welcome you! It has been and will always be a part of your lives.❤️ Mahalo for all the great videos you shared with us while you’re here in 808 state.
Aw guys! I'm so proud of you both for sharing this & so excited for this next chapter! We love following along ☺️💞! Speaking it into existence that this next season will bring onto the best! God does everything for your GOOD, even if it feels hard, it's followed with blessings! I'm a military wife from the sweet state of GA but my husband and I moved to Germany this year for 4 years and honestly it's been SO TOUGH. I know it's a really difficult adjustment to make, and I can't imagine adding the family loss and online criticism on top of the pain and discomfort I know already. I am so proud of you two for stepping out and trying something exciting. It's so much harder than most people realize and takes so much courage! People that are mean on the internet really grind my gears! I'm so sorry you had to experience that, esp while dealing with so many challenges. It always comes from jealousy and bitterness, but that's no excuse. Misery loves company, but I'm glad you guys were able to see the positives and feel community! Wishing and praying nothing but the best things in life for you!
Abby and Matt! You are such an encouragement. Hawaii may have made your marriage stronger than u know bc you didn’t have family around, just each other to lean on. It’s okay to shed tears. Y’all are such a special couple and I am praying for you now to have a smooth transition to your next adventure.
You guys are two beautiful souls no matter where you end up as long as you're together everything will be okay. As far as surfing goes we do have surfing in the United States on the coastline so you don't have to give up surfing and you don't have to give up family. Family is very important in so many ways, just stay true to one another and no matter where you are it will be a life worth living happy holidays to all of you and God bless
I know moving is hard. But you will always have the wonderful memories of Hawaii. Being closer to your family will be great. Now you get to go make wonderful memories somewhere else. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you both. Love you guys ❤
Love the reflection on your time in Hawaii! Abby I love your heart! It’s so hard to move away. So many positives and negatives and growth with it. I so felt that when you said “maybe I’m just a Midwest girl” I’m also from the Midwest and something about it just captures a heart 💛💛 So excited to see what y’all do next!
I know how you feel Abby since we just moved back to our hometown. I do feel lost and overwhelmed, everything will be fine. We will get through it together. Love you guys ❤️
Love y’all. I’m doing something similar so I can relate. Im 24 and I graduated college in may 2020 and moved out to Indiana for a job from Florida. This year has been so impactful, so much growth for me has occurred and I’ve knitted together a small little community and starting walking with God again which I am abundantly grateful and While I treasure this season of my life, living alone working all the time and being away from family and close friends has been really really hard. The whole starting over piece alone can really make you look twice at yourself in the mirror. So I understand and empathize with you guys because those emotions are real - we’re all just human. Thanks for sharing your story. Let’s continue to grow and learn more and more about ourselves.
Thank you for sharing your journey, y’all are always so genuine and honest. You give such realistic and real life advice. Thank you for being you Dudes!
I kept watching you guys load those suitcases wondering how it would all fit! So excited for you guys to transition into new things! What a blessing to have had a year in a new place making great relationships!
can’t believe you dudes are leaving hawaii... i’m going there for spring break and thought maybe i’d see you 😂 but praying for you through this transition 💗💗
I’m so excited for you guys and this next part of your lives! Love how open and vulnerable you are about this time in your life. Love and prayers sent your way🤍
It’s going to be so weird seeing you dudes not in Hawaii because that’s how I discovered y’all but I totally get it. It’s so great that you have such a strong bond with family! Community and small town vibes is so important. Y’all will adjust and thrive! Keep living your best life Dudes!
We're with you, dudes!! May God direct you and provide peace wherever you go on this next adventure :) I'm a Midwest girl who grew up 4 houses away from my cousins for the first 8 years of my life, Abby - I totally understand
OK RIGHT THERE I LOVE HOW MID SENTENCE MATT SAW HER CRYING STOPPED TO COMFORT HER!!! ( That shows how spouses should be with one another!) I really wish people would leave others alone!! I have followed them since day 1.. They are perfect together... Way to go Matt husband points all around! I wish mine would act like that when I cry ....
Thank you for always showing your real, authentic, and beautiful selves. Thank you for saying that you can differ in opinions and still be friends. Thank you for sharing your emotions and letting us into your lives. Thank you guys for being the precious blessings you are. You don't know how many people y'all impact with your realness, energy, and kindness :) Will be praying for you journey to a new home! God bless y'all!
Awwwe you guys! Abby I totally understand being away from family! I live in CO with my boyfriend and my whole family is in MI so I understand how hard it is to not be able to get back home for something important! It sucks and it’s so expensive! I’m so glad you are making this decision for yourselves!! Proud of you for doing a year away in Hawaii! It will be 3 years in CO coming up and it’s really hard. Wish the best for you both!!! Don’t let the haters get you down!!
Yayy! So excited for yall to come back to the mainland! And Abby I totally sympathize, I hate being far away from family, and even if I am independent from them, they are such a constant and true source of love and support. ALSO - I 10/10 recommend you preorder “Find your people” by Jennie Allen. I preordered and she sent me the first 3 chapters and it was eye opening on how we were created for deep, intentional community. You would love it!!
Thank you for your vulnerability abby. You are so eloquent in expressing your emotions, high emotional IQ! I just wanted to reach out and hug you. wishing you a wonderful holiday wirh your family and all God's blessings in the coming year.
Wish ya'll luck!!! We are moving back to Midwest in Feb and lost my papa last month (still being away) ....I totally get ALL of what you are saying. Lots of love! Nothing wrong being a Midwest girl ❤
thank you so so much for speaking so much wisdom and good life lessons. it is so true that your spouse doesnt complete you or fill you up 100% and that is so hard to see and realize. it breaks my heart to know that you have been having such a hard (but awesome) year. thank you so much for being real and honest and so vulnerable. I'm 19 and I hope that one day I can live like you guys do and have a marriage like yours. so much love and prayers going your way this holiday and for new housing and friends🧡🧡 love you guys the most!!!
Abby change can be hard! I moved 2 months ago from everything I loved but I can't keep holding on to the pain and hurt it brought to me!! The many nights I cried myself to sleep, Abby I can't hold on to the pain!! I needed some change!! I can't do what I did back home it's way to hard for me!! Abby I understand the heartache and sad but Abby remember the Lord is already their!! Look up God's already their by the inspirations!! It helped me!!
I know how you feel with loss. I live in GA, mine and my husbands family lives in NY. My dad had a heart attack my first Christmas here (2018) and I lost my grandpa 23 days (October 24, 2021) after we got married. He didn't want a service and unfortunately I couldn't afford to go home or take the time from work. Sometimes it hurts in indescribable ways being so far away, but I have learned so much within those times.
Y'all leaving Hawaii is a sad thing. Missing out on the beautiful beaches, surfing, and most importantly the people, your friends. But if you want to see on the +ve side you will be obviously closer to your family and ofc have new friends and a community. You will experience so many different things which you may have not gotten when you were on the island. I kinda teared up when Abby was crying 😔. I really hope y'all settle down nicely and be happy 😄
Abby, your heart is so sweet! I’m praying for you! You’re living a very YES AND story. Yes, it’s hard to leave AND God has been so good to you through it. Praying for y’all!!!
I feel you, I’ve been on Oahu basically my whole life, moved to Vegas by myself for 3 years. It was definitely hard to be away from my family & I came back. Abby I feel you. Randomly came across your videos yesterday and I love you guys already. Aloha🌺
Do a Pro and Con of places you would like to settle for your forever location. A lot things to factor in weather conditions,region,logistics to family,education capabilities for your children,progressive state ,interests,history,is it conducive to your life style,what will I benefit from living here,is this a place I want to live my senior years at ? 2 hearts mending together will make the right decision. It is what (both of you) make of that decision that matters. What is best for the both of you is your goal.
I love you guys so much! and it made me really sad to see Abby cry but I know that deep down this will be the best decision for you both 💞 and I can't wait to see where you go next!!
abby- change is hard. and i’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. stay strong. i’m so glad you have a husband as amazing as matt to support you and comfort you. i promise it will all work out in the end. i love you guys!💗💗
There’s nothing wrong with being a Midwest girl! I had the same problem when I went to college. I didn’t realize how much I needed familiarity, community, family, etc. love you dudes!! Hang in there. The best is yet to come!!
When y'all look back on this part of your life, you'll appreciate the experience of having 'grown up' together in Hawaii.
I was born and raised in South Alabama. My husband was born and raised just outside of Tallahassee, FL. We got married when I was 19 and he was 25. We started our family in Benton, Arkansas with family/friends being 8-12hrs away. It was hard but was 100% worth it. The experiences we had there brought us closer and taught us to depend on each other more. We're back in Mobile, AL now but my heart is still in Benton.
that’s sounds like grooming
Praying for this transition for you both! Change is always hard. The both of you have been such a light and breath of fresh air on the internet and I’m so thankful to have found your channel.
For both of them, they have been through a lot of changes since they started their lives together as husband and wife. Hawaii was one of the 1st places they have lived as a married couple. Settling into a routine and establishing friendships there, all those things you become attached to. But they have matured so much in such a short time period. It makes sense that they are looking to started a new chapter to prepare them for plans they have for her future. You both are in my prayers.
10:38 Awww, how sweet. When Matt realized Abby was crying ☺
We are also from the Midwest (KC) and we totally understand the need to just have the extra people. You need to always feel connected and have a community no matter where you are.
Being in China the past three years have been extremely difficult for us away from family, but we've made sure to create a family away from home which has made our life here just a tad easier on the holidays.
you guys had me on edge the entire time, i didn’t think your suitcases would close 😅 but also i know it’s hard to move away, but i know y’all will be so happy closer to your family ❤️
Haha I was thinking that too!! 😅
Omggggg me too I was like no not ANOTHER SWEATER lol I love them
Hahaha those suitcases are the best ever!! And thank you so much for the love and support!!!
Same
I’m praying for you both! I’m from America but I moved to Australia for a year and when I moved back to America I had no idea what was next, but I had to remember Romans 8:28 He works ALL things together for the good!!
Amen!
Literally watching on my living room tv, while typing this. I am so happy for y’all. Honestly, this timing seems to be perfect cause it’s the holidays (happy time) and you get to visit with family and really having those private conversations that are needed to determine your next location on where you’re living ♥️
I can totally relate to you on the mental health…. I’m proud of you and respect you so
much for acknowledging it. Family is so important to me, just like for you, so being close to them, really helps out!!
Like you said, you can always remember the Hawaii days forever and always go back. That’s something you’ll never get back and I’m so happy for you guys.
Keep staying true to yourselves. We are always there for you guys and love y’all ♥️🥰
This comment means so much! Thank you Alicia!
Abby----I totally understand how hard of a year it's been for you. While I can't say I was as far from family as you were when I lost a family member this year, I felt super isolated and separated from family when I had to come back to college after I lost my grandpa! Sending love and prayers your way and safe travels this holiday season to see family ❤
I was in the exact same situation as you guys! I got matched to an internship in Hawaii (Oahu) last year, and lived there, by myself and away from all of my family and friends, from July 2020 until July 2021. And I also had a family loss during my time there, that I felt very removed and isolated from. I moved back home after my internship ended, and I have been so much happier, even though Hawaii is beautiful and wonderful, and so fun! I don't regret my year, there, but even looking back on that year now, there are still a lot of feelings and emotions wrapped up in it. So thank you for sharing your thoughts and feeling on your experience there... It makes me feel less alone in it, and hopefully, if you see this, you feel validated in your feelings about it too. ☺️❤️
I'm excited for you guys, I will miss Hawaii a little because it's nice to live vicariously through you guys(I live in Minnesota and it's quite cold here), but I can't wait to see what is next for you guys!! This video made me tear up even. Hopefully you guys end up in a place where you both have peace and happiness and everything you need in life. The openness you had with us in this video made me feel so close to you guys even though I have never gotten to meet you. Thank you for your honesty and just how amazing of people you are. Abby, I know this past year was hard for you, but I just wanted to tell you that I just went back and watched a bunch of your old videos and TikToks, especially from when you first got to Hawaii, and you have grown so much in the past year and you are just an amazing person, and like a sister I wish I had. Matt, I hope you are able to kind as much joy as Hawaii brought you, and that you never lose your happiness and love just for life.
The coolest thing about this video. Is that you are open, honest and genuine!
Just found your channel from your “shorts”. I’m also from the Midwest originally and lost my brother this year. My husband and I lived in California at the time and it was the hardest thing being away from family during that time. We recently moved back and it has given my heart so much peace. I pray the same for you both. ♥️
My husband and I lived in the Cayman Islands for almost two years and I felt every single thing Abby was saying when I was there. I always say it was the best and hardest season for me. My husband was like Matt, he would have lived there forever 😂.
Praying for you guys as you transition back to the mainland. Praying for lots of family time and real community that you feel you’ve been lacking!
Moving is hard. I had moved just 7 hours away for college fully expecting it to be a stepping stone to moving further after. The second I graduated I turned around and went back home. Learning to appreciate where you came from more is still growth, just as much as learning to be away from home is.
Abby crying makes me so sad, especially because she always is so happy and makes me feel happy.
I’m from the Midwest too! I am from Nebraska , but moved to Tampa Florida on my own at 18 to attend a Bible college. I still live here 3 years later. I think living far from family really shows how strong you can be, but My husband and I are wanting to maybe start having kids soon too so it’s just hard when you’re far from family. I completely understand how you feel!
Years ago I tried to make TH-cam videos about my passions and it was great when almost noone watched cuz everyone watching had interest in the content, but once I started pushing over 100 viewers then the odd negative comment or criticism crept in and it could be nasty. I know the algorithms have changed so if anything it's harder to monetise now than it was back then, but particular in the early days you would be making content to entertain, essentially for free, and people could really hurt you with words. So I understood your pain there. See my way of improving my mental on that aspect was to walk away, so the fact you guys can keep going strong and have this huge channel and awesome community on here is inspiring to see.
I'm sorry for your loss and separation, sounds like that was pretty hard too, but please know you guys are awesome, and you can always overcome. Sending love and on the plus side you'll be with family for Christmas so focus on that, enjoy and next year you'll be able to build on the lessons learnt here and now. Peace and love guys.
Thank you for sharing your hearts... I'm a missionary kid so I know a little bit about how it feels to move to new places, have some great and not so great memories and move again. What I've found helping is just holding on to God through it. Yesterday, today, forever, He stays the same. Kudos to y'all ❤️🇰🇪
It seemed to me that Abby was not happy in Hawaii. It’s okay sometimes we do things out of our comfort zone and they are not what we expected! I’m glad you guys got to move to Hawaii as an experience! A lot of people don’t have that opportunity to do that :)
It was a 2 year Experience for Me and I Said enough I am Moving !!
I lost my grandma while being across the country getting medical help to save my life and it was the worst thing to go through. I feel for you Abby and send you lots of love!
💖💖💖💖🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
That must have been so tough! So sorry you had to go throught that!!
I experienced similar feelings when I went abroad to the US for a year in College. The pressure that you set yourself under "why don't I enjoy this enough?! Why am I not happy here? I HAVE TO BE happy!!" - No you don't! No beach, no ocean, no paradise can ever change where you truly belong. And to me that is - just like for Abby apparently - with my family and closest friends.
We all support you guys!! This is a part of your life adventure! Praying for you both!! Love y'all!
I moved 1000 miles from where I grew up when I got married . I've been married 5 years now and I'm homesick a lot especially around the holidays. I understand completely! Merry Christmas 🎅
I love how much Matt cares and the way he looks at Abby. You can tell their love for each other is so strong.
Ahh I love your videos so much! Moving is always so bittersweet but it sounds like you guys are making the best choice for you! I admire your positive attitudes and also your realness during difficult moments. It is extremely refreshing to see people being their genuine selves!! Safe travels 💕
Will support and follow your content wherever you decide to stay in. Wishing you guys all the best! 💗
Wow thank you so much! This means a lot!!!
First time commenter here, don't let the negative comments get to you. I always have fun watching your shorts. Also, look at how many strides you've been able to make on youtube. This is quite the accomplishment.
Y'all finally made the decision 🥳🥳 i'm happy for you guys 😄
You two are seriously the sweetest! Someone would have to be a special kind of messed up to hate on these two.
I think it’s important to know that you tried living in Hawaii and although it didn’t workout forever, it is more important that you tried it instead of wondering “what if?” So proud of you guys for getting out of your comfort zones!
Y'all are so sweet and we so appreciated seeing this real moment and for opening your lives to all of us. So excited about your next step! Much love :)
PS. Come by Chicago sometime, dudes! We'd love to hang :)
Awww, it will all work out! Change is hard but having your family closer will quickly fill up any voids from missing Hawaii. This should have also been a LL Bean ad, every time you brought more stuff to put in, I was like - no way that will fit in there! I was amazed! Good luck, it is all going to be just fine!
You guy’s are blessed no matter where you decide to live! Sending lots of love ❤️ 🥰
You guys are going to do great when you land where you are going. Member of the military here who moved constantly, and it has always been challenging. But you guys have a very special connection. And not every married couple has it. It's a connection of compromise and agreeability combined with hope. Hope endures all things. And I can also tell you as someone who used to go to the muny, someone who misses Ted drews, someone who has traveled the world and continues to spend about half of my month living out of a suitcase, there's a feeling of home that is sometimes really hard to capture, but when you are with your person, home is wherever You are together. Enjoy the adventure. And matt, you will surf as a family someday, and then you might ski as a family, and then you might camp as a family, and you will cook as a family. And each one of these things will fulfill parts of your heart you didn't know you had. And Abby, it's great that you let your feelings be known, and it's even better to feel your feelings, don't back off this ride. You guys are good at this. Enjoy the travel. See you guys soon!
You are such a beautiful and inspiring couple. I, myself, have been living abroad for 5 years due to work. The income is great, but my mental health (being alone in a foreign country) without my family and friends, is really getting to me. I’m so afraid to leave due to not being able to find another good job in my home country, but life is so short and the unhappiness I’m experiencing right now is so painful. Thank you for sharing your journey! You lift my spirits tremendously!
I can’t believe it’s already been a year! Yall lasted longer in HI than I did. I stayed a month before I was ready to come back to the mainland 😂 Life is such an adventure and I’m glad y’all were able to have that experience!
I recently moved to the big city for college after growing up in a small town my whole life and I am definitely feeling far from home. I grew up SOOOOO close to my family and it hurts my heart to be away from them. I'm just telling you Abby so you know that you aren't alone in this struggle and you have support to lean on! I'll be praying for you and your next chapter in life guys!
This whole video made me cry!! Y’all are the sweetest couple and I wish y’all nothing but the best!! 😭❤️🥰
Having a washer and dryer inside the house is totally normal! y'all are too funny!
@Kathie Catch I know haha!
Guys, you are both SO YOUNG and have so much time to experience so much together. Be proud that you had the courage to move 5,000 miles from your families and created new friendships and life skills. It seemed to me that you need to be true to your roots, especially if you are struggling emotionally. But, you have each other and you appear to be very strong together. A good Pro's & Con's list can help you decide where to go next. Be safe and Merry Christmas!!
The way Matt instantly comforted Abby after he realized she was crying. Abby one the best husband award 🥇
Good luck guys, when one door closes, another one opens so good luck and have a safe ride when it’s time! We all love you guys!
So True 💯
I trust you can consider this a part of a your journey together. Great that you did it when you are young and without kids.
You are right, having a child without the support of family can be tough. I have always believed that it takes a village to raise a child. Take the help as offered.
There are many beautiful beaches in the states that you can explore with and without your kids.
I love that you are free spirits. Stay open to all the possibilities while you enjoy holidays with your family. Trust you will be guided and shown the next stepping stone on the journey. The perfect next place to live.
Blessings.....on you journey. 🤗
This is gonna be such a good year for you guys, I'm excited for you to find somewhere that you both feel at home in! Looking forward to seeing what 2022 brings you two :)
I just started following you based on a cute Reel. I got the feeling there was something special about you. I wasn't wrong! The love and wisdom you share with yourselves and then your followers is just amazing. Life is always changing and always will. You discovered and shared you have to move forward as one as you balance your individual needs with what is best for your future as a couple. Also, your comments about friends and differences should be heard by everyone. True happiness in The Game of Life is about staying balanced. You taught me a married man of 33 years a few things. Keep doing Life together.
I’m so sorry that you went through that Abby, I think you are both are so strong, and thank you for being so honest, love you both! I completely support your decision
Matt: You okay?
Abby whispers: Yeah, just feeling my emotions.
😂 sounds exactly like a convo I would have with my partner too. It’s hard to own your emotions and allow them to pass through. Have loved watching both of you for nearly a year now and I’m excited to see where the two of you end up next!
You guys moving in with family for the holidays reminds me of me and my husband in between moving from PA to NY we spent about 3 weeks with family over Christmas and it was sooo good! Enjoy yourselves and it’s ok to feel and take a while to take In the emotions… praying for you guys and your new home wherever that is:)
A part of matt's heart will always love to live in Hawaii.
I am so sorry people have been so mean to you and honestly for some people it’s just easier to be mean to you to make themselves feel better. Your both awesome and you have awesome families.
I’m a Midwest girl too! No shame Abby! I love my neighborhood and town. I balance my love of living in the Midwest with vacationing often!! 🥰🥰❤️
Gods got you guys. Be steadfast. I started watching this because my girlfriend and definitely see why she likes this channel so much.
You guys are a great couple , just don't worry about the people online or anyone else . Most of the people who post hurtful comments are just insecure and are suppressing all the hurt that they themselves experienced . Live life to the fullest and take joy in the little things .
It’s very refreshing to see that both of you can share your real feelings and emotions. It makes me feel better about my own hardships ❤️ There are always going to be people who disapprove of who you are or what you are doing in your life. This is YOUR life and you get to choose how you spend the time you are blessed with.
I watch your videos all the time I'm literally 65 years old and I think the world of you kids just come home I know your grandpa and your family need you when you're back in Missouri would love to meet you guys my wife and I have been married 45 years yeah we're just old people love what you guys bring to our hearts be safe
Thank you guys for always being so real, and honest with your followers. I can feel your genuine spirits and emotions through your videos, and I am so happy to be able to experience your journey with you. Your videos have truly brought so much happiness and joy into my life, and for that I thank you from the bottom of my heart! This coming year is going to be so amazing for ya'll. Like I always tell people- the world needs more people like you two!!
Hawaii will always welcome you! It has been and will always be a part of your lives.❤️ Mahalo for all the great videos you shared with us while you’re here in 808 state.
You both are incredible! Thank you for being on here and being you! I can’t wait to see what happens and where this leads!!! Thank y’all!
Aw guys! I'm so proud of you both for sharing this & so excited for this next chapter! We love following along ☺️💞! Speaking it into existence that this next season will bring onto the best! God does everything for your GOOD, even if it feels hard, it's followed with blessings!
I'm a military wife from the sweet state of GA but my husband and I moved to Germany this year for 4 years and honestly it's been SO TOUGH. I know it's a really difficult adjustment to make, and I can't imagine adding the family loss and online criticism on top of the pain and discomfort I know already. I am so proud of you two for stepping out and trying something exciting. It's so much harder than most people realize and takes so much courage!
People that are mean on the internet really grind my gears! I'm so sorry you had to experience that, esp while dealing with so many challenges. It always comes from jealousy and bitterness, but that's no excuse. Misery loves company, but I'm glad you guys were able to see the positives and feel community! Wishing and praying nothing but the best things in life for you!
Be happy always Matt and abby . Love u both , love from INDIA
Hiiii from fellow Indian!!!🇮🇳 Love u matt and Abby too, absolutely the sweetest, perfect, caring couple on TH-cam, tik tok, and insta! ❤️
Watching Abby fold and pack was so relaxing. Blessings to you both!
Abby and Matt! You are such an encouragement. Hawaii may have made your marriage stronger than u know bc you didn’t have family around, just each other to lean on. It’s okay to shed tears. Y’all are such a special couple and I am praying for you now to have a smooth transition to your next adventure.
You guys are two beautiful souls no matter where you end up as long as you're together everything will be okay. As far as surfing goes we do have surfing in the United States on the coastline so you don't have to give up surfing and you don't have to give up family. Family is very important in so many ways, just stay true to one another and no matter where you are it will be a life worth living happy holidays to all of you and God bless
I know moving is hard. But you will always have the wonderful memories of Hawaii. Being closer to your family will be great. Now you get to go make wonderful memories somewhere else. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you both. Love you guys ❤
I Have Memories Of Hawaii some Good some Bad But To Stay There NO 😌
when matt said sweetheart I almost started crying he’s so sweet to Abby
Love the reflection on your time in Hawaii! Abby I love your heart! It’s so hard to move away. So many positives and negatives and growth with it. I so felt that when you said “maybe I’m just a Midwest girl” I’m also from the Midwest and something about it just captures a heart 💛💛 So excited to see what y’all do next!
I know how you feel Abby since we just moved back to our hometown. I do feel lost and overwhelmed, everything will be fine. We will get through it together. Love you guys ❤️
Love y’all. I’m doing something similar so I can relate. Im 24 and I graduated college in may 2020 and moved out to Indiana for a job from Florida. This year has been so impactful, so much growth for me has occurred and I’ve knitted together a small little community and starting walking with God again which I am abundantly grateful and While I treasure this season of my life, living alone working all the time and being away from family and close friends has been really really hard. The whole starting over piece alone can really make you look twice at yourself in the mirror. So I understand and empathize with you guys because those emotions are real - we’re all just human. Thanks for sharing your story. Let’s continue to grow and learn more and more about ourselves.
Thank you for sharing your journey, y’all are always so genuine and honest. You give such realistic and real life advice. Thank you for being you Dudes!
Hey Bro 😎 we Meet again 😃
@@coa21 yo yo buddy!
@@ragingblazemaster 😊😁👍
I kept watching you guys load those suitcases wondering how it would all fit! So excited for you guys to transition into new things! What a blessing to have had a year in a new place making great relationships!
can’t believe you dudes are leaving hawaii... i’m going there for spring break and thought maybe i’d see you 😂 but praying for you through this transition 💗💗
I’m so excited for you guys and this next part of your lives! Love how open and vulnerable you are about this time in your life. Love and prayers sent your way🤍
I’m new to your channel and I’m so uplifted by seeing how you two interact together 🤍
It’s going to be so weird seeing you dudes not in Hawaii because that’s how I discovered y’all but I totally get it. It’s so great that you have such a strong bond with family! Community and small town vibes is so important. Y’all will adjust and thrive! Keep living your best life Dudes!
Yes Same I lived there for 2 Years and Left !!
@@coa21 I’ve never been west of the Mississippi, but I’ve been up and down the whole east coast.
@@ragingblazemaster Trust Me you Don’t want to Live in Hawaii unless you’re RICH I Live in Texas Now And Was So Glad I Moved Back I DidTravel a lot !
@@coa21 ohhhh I believe you, I’m not a beach person in the slightest. I love mountains.
We're with you, dudes!! May God direct you and provide peace wherever you go on this next adventure :) I'm a Midwest girl who grew up 4 houses away from my cousins for the first 8 years of my life, Abby - I totally understand
OK RIGHT THERE I LOVE HOW MID SENTENCE MATT SAW HER CRYING STOPPED TO COMFORT HER!!! ( That shows how spouses should be with one another!) I really wish people would leave others alone!! I have followed them since day 1.. They are perfect together... Way to go Matt husband points all around! I wish mine would act like that when I cry ....
You too are so honest and wise. Love you both
Really impressed with the amount of clothes you can fit in your suitcases 😂 My favorite couple, love you guys!
Thank you for always showing your real, authentic, and beautiful selves.
Thank you for saying that you can differ in opinions and still be friends.
Thank you for sharing your emotions and letting us into your lives.
Thank you guys for being the precious blessings you are.
You don't know how many people y'all impact with your realness, energy, and kindness :)
Will be praying for you journey to a new home!
God bless y'all!
Awwwe you guys! Abby I totally understand being away from family! I live in CO with my boyfriend and my whole family is in MI so I understand how hard it is to not be able to get back home for something important! It sucks and it’s so expensive! I’m so glad you are making this decision for yourselves!! Proud of you for doing a year away in Hawaii! It will be 3 years in CO coming up and it’s really hard. Wish the best for you both!!! Don’t let the haters get you down!!
Yayy! So excited for yall to come back to the mainland! And Abby I totally sympathize, I hate being far away from family, and even if I am independent from them, they are such a constant and true source of love and support. ALSO - I 10/10 recommend you preorder “Find your people” by Jennie Allen. I preordered and she sent me the first 3 chapters and it was eye opening on how we were created for deep, intentional community. You would love it!!
Thank you for your vulnerability abby. You are so eloquent in expressing your emotions, high emotional IQ! I just wanted to reach out and hug you. wishing you a wonderful holiday wirh your family and all God's blessings in the coming year.
Sending you love and light on your new journey!!!
Wish ya'll luck!!! We are moving back to Midwest in Feb and lost my papa last month (still being away) ....I totally get ALL of what you are saying. Lots of love! Nothing wrong being a Midwest girl ❤
thank you so so much for speaking so much wisdom and good life lessons. it is so true that your spouse doesnt complete you or fill you up 100% and that is so hard to see and realize. it breaks my heart to know that you have been having such a hard (but awesome) year. thank you so much for being real and honest and so vulnerable. I'm 19 and I hope that one day I can live like you guys do and have a marriage like yours. so much love and prayers going your way this holiday and for new housing and friends🧡🧡 love you guys the most!!!
Abby change can be hard! I moved 2 months ago from everything I loved but I can't keep holding on to the pain and hurt it brought to me!! The many nights I cried myself to sleep, Abby I can't hold on to the pain!! I needed some change!! I can't do what I did back home it's way to hard for me!! Abby I understand the heartache and sad but Abby remember the Lord is already their!! Look up God's already their by the inspirations!! It helped me!!
I know how you feel with loss. I live in GA, mine and my husbands family lives in NY. My dad had a heart attack my first Christmas here (2018) and I lost my grandpa 23 days (October 24, 2021) after we got married. He didn't want a service and unfortunately I couldn't afford to go home or take the time from work. Sometimes it hurts in indescribable ways being so far away, but I have learned so much within those times.
Y'all leaving Hawaii is a sad thing. Missing out on the beautiful beaches, surfing, and most importantly the people, your friends. But if you want to see on the +ve side you will be obviously closer to your family and ofc have new friends and a community. You will experience so many different things which you may have not gotten when you were on the island. I kinda teared up when Abby was crying 😔. I really hope y'all settle down nicely and be happy 😄
So happy for you guys. Marriage is tough because of decisions like this and you guys are killing it (even if you feel like you’re not).
Abby, your heart is so sweet! I’m praying for you! You’re living a very YES AND story. Yes, it’s hard to leave AND God has been so good to you through it. Praying for y’all!!!
You’re emotions are so precious, accept the way you feel and follow it the way you are! I love you guys, you do you❤️
I feel you, I’ve been on Oahu basically my whole life, moved to Vegas by myself for 3 years. It was definitely hard to be away from my family & I came back. Abby I feel you. Randomly came across your videos yesterday and I love you guys already. Aloha🌺
Do a Pro and Con of places you would like to settle for your forever location. A lot things to factor in weather conditions,region,logistics to family,education capabilities for your children,progressive state ,interests,history,is it conducive to your life style,what will I benefit from living here,is this a place I want to live my senior years at ? 2 hearts mending together will make the right decision. It is what (both of you) make of that decision that matters. What is best for the both of you is your goal.
I love you guys so much! and it made me really sad to see Abby cry but I know that deep down this will be the best decision for you both 💞 and I can't wait to see where you go next!!
You two are absolute sweethearts! I hope you find happiness wherever you land!
I’ll be praying for you both as you go on this new adventure! 💕
Supporting and praying for y’all in this new journey! Y’all are the best!