Your dad is correct. One year by them- which is the hardest year for brand new parents- birth, newborn stage and all the hard stuff. Go with what Dad said. He’s right on this! And then move where you KNOW FOR SURE you want to be. Take the year to Pro/Con and really research it.
Honestly you guys... having a child is going to change everything, and right now being away from family may seem bearable and easy breezy, but you might think differently once little dude actually arrives. Being close to family and having that support system near by is very important. You two are the only people that can make this decision though. You have to do whats best for your family. We love you guys!!!
I'm a mother, and I totally agree with you, the first two years of the baby is always good to be close to the whole family, especially you being first-time parents. 🌟💜
I second this. I needed my mom with me Monday to Friday for over a month while my boyfriend worked just so i could heal. I still need help while my boyfriend works and my daughter is almost 10 months old. I vote stay close to home for at least the first year!!! Mental support is really nice to. Especially if your struggling with postpartum anxiety such as myself
If Abby is saying she wants St. Louis, she wants St. Louis. It doesn’t have to be forever, but you guys have already said that you can’t buy a house right away because of proof of income. Stay near family for the hardest parts of welcoming a new baby, and take that time to get everything in order to buy a house that you love, in a city that you’ve researched and understand more and are positive you want to move to.
Matt seems pretty set on not moving to St. Louis, but as a mom who’s parents live half way across the country, it is so hard. The memories, support and help alone is sooo needed in this next adventure. Being around friends is fun but when they’re married and with their own kids realistically it gets pretty lonely still🙈 if Abby wants to live there I really think it’s worth a shot! You’ll be happy you did!!
From an aunt with a sister a few states away, it's tough raising a child without a large support system. Having family close by is a must... I can really feel the anxiety from Abby. She's pregnant and is going to be delivering a baby in a few months and doesn't even know where she's going to be. Make your lives easier and be close to family and move somewhere adventurous in a year or 2.
Thats correct. Matt needs to listen to Abby. I sure hope he does! Family support close by is incredibly vital with a new born. The magnitude of this is clearly heavy. Just hope and pray they make the right decision.
As a mom and fellow “St. Louis-an” I would say stay near your family for that first year! You will really appreciate the help and support as you transition to new parents. Having family close is such a blessing ♥️ especially when you have great relationship with them!
You could really tell that Abby just wants to be with family, and the only reason why she's not saying no to Utah is because of Matt. It's so tough but you have a baby coming, being close to family and friends who can suporot you will really help for first time parents...
Awww, I can tell that Abby really wants to move to Arizona. Abby is so sweet that she would sacrifice her own happiness for Matt’s just like she did when Matt wanted to move to Hawaii. Matt don’t let that happen again. Your wife and baby are the most important things right now, not the seasonal changes, adventures, or friends. Arizona is a great choice. You can always move anywhere else when the baby is older and things are a lot more stable. I feel like Abby is the voice of reason at the moment.
Take it from someone who had the same situation. I really wanted to live in a mountain town where I could have the possibility of snowboarding. Had that option in Wisconsin. My whole heart was for that decision. However, my wife loved the idea of being close to family as we haven't lived near family in years. The houses, nature, and activities in Wisconsin seemed so superior in my eyes. I didn't want to let it go. With a baby on the way, having a family support system where you live really is important. They can help you with the very hard task of raising a child. Your parents will allow you to have days off for some much needed rest. That time is coming. So my question is, in Phoenix, will your friends be able to take place of that?
As a fellow St. Louisan, my opinion on your move is to stay here for a couple years to allow friends and family to bond with your baby (FREE child care). You can still travel every month and that allows you to do so with the option of taking the baby or not. You still get the seasons but with an added bonus of community. It’s not like you have to live 10min away. You can be 1hr away from your parents and still be in the STL area. then, re-evaluate in a couple years and maybe move to a fun state but in my opinion family is the most important foundation.
Honestly, I think I agree with your parents. Living close to home with having a baby would be awesome for you guys! They’ll be there to help, babysit, anything you guys need. I know you have friends in Arizona but it’s not the same as family, especially grandparents. I can’t imagine how hard it is for you guys (especially Abby) being pregnant and trying to figure everything out like this!! I hope the best for you guys, I know you’ll make the right decision that’s best for you and your family!
I don’t feel there is much of a decision to be made. Matt needs to realize that he is about to have a kid, so traveling and all the things he wants to do is not going to be as easy. I find it crazy enough that they are about to have a kid for the first time and considering moving AWAY from family and the support system. That being said if St Louis isn’t an option then they need to go with what Abby wants and that’s Arizona. You need to get settled and realize everything is not going to be the same and I feel like Matt is not thinking about that but rather about himself and where HE wants to live. Your gonna be a young dad Matt, it’s time to realize it and put your family first. Also realize that Abby is so sweet she will do whatever you want, so read between the lines.
I think he’s just young and doesn’t get it. They posted on their Instagram yesterday that it was moving day and they were on a plane so they definitely didn’t choose to stay in Saint Louis. Guess we’ll see :) happy for them either way !
i don’t think that’s true, i’ve been following these two for a couple years now and i don’t even know matt, but i do know he really does think through everything despite what one video might convey in a way
When they say it takes a village it really does. Being around family that first year is crucial. Parenting is EXHAUSTING. Love you guys and know you will chose what’s best for your family no matter where that is.
Poor Abby! All she wants to do is get settled and prepare the the baby to come. All this going back and forth about where to move is stressing her out. Abby is going to need/ want help from family when this baby comes. You can always move once the baby is older if you still feel the urge to move. Much love to you both and hope y'all figure it out soon so Abby can rest and stop stressing. All three stress will accept l affect the baby and Abby.
I think Abby’s momma instinct is shining through all of the decision “noise” to put down roots in St. Louis for the time being. You could give it a year or so living near family. It’s important for the parents and baby to have a nearby support system. Plus it gives the grandparents and grand baby time together to bond too. That would also give you some time to figure things out and save some more money for a house. I live in the Phoenix area and the housing market is booming but highly competitive for the buyer because of the influx of people from other states vying for real estate. I’ve had friends who couldn’t afford to buy houses they were putting offers on because the bidding wars were driving up the price by several thousand dollars (sometimes $10k more). The market here really needs to stabilize. My husband and I won’t buy a house here until it calms down. Praying for divine guidance in your decision making.
I think if you move to Utah or Arizona right now Abby will feel similar to how she felt in Hawaii. Becoming a mom can easily be a very lonely season of life so having family and familiarity can really help that first year! After that first year, I think she would feel way less anxious for a move.
I had my first baby at 24 just like you guys. She is 7 now and our son is 4. I had horrible post partum depression with the first. Literally as fantastic as my husband was it was something different to get help from my mom, a person who understood what I was going through. Now that the kids are older I feel ready to travel the World again but especially that first year I couldn't imagine not being close to my family. When you're all alone at 3:00 in the morning with the baby who's screaming and It's being over a month since either parent had got a full night's sleep..... In most situations no one's going to come and rescue you other than a grandparent :p
I truly love you guys, and admire your passion for adventure. However, having a child is going to change your dynamic completely. At least for the first year or so. Abby made it clear in Hawaii how homesick she was, and how much she missed her family. Having a baby is just going to make it even harder for her to be away from them. 🥺 I’m with your dad on this one Matt! You’re making this decision for you, Abby, and baby. As much as you love your friends, this isn’t for them. 🤍
I do have to admit Matt, it does seem like Abby just wants to settle, enjoy her pregnancy, and start focusing more on her, baby, and nesting. But at the end of the day, you guys and your baby are the most important and we all know whatever decision you make will be perfect for YOU.
I'm in AZ and love this state. Wouldn't ever leave it and could list a bunch of reasons why I love it but honestly as I became a mom I realized how important and how much we relied on our family and how amazing it was for grandparents to be apart of our kids lives. You guys can always move as baby gets older and still travel and visit AZ or Utah. Friends are important yes but as I became a first time mom it was sooo nice having the gramdmas support. Whatever is less stress for the mama to be!
Idk how you love it here. The cost of living is ridiculous compared to other states. I work for insurance and make plenty of money. But from comparing my salary to what it could provide here compared to how I could live in other states I plan on moving. The cost of electricity alone is half a mortgage payment.
@@hayleygritters9540 absolutely! Its part of the must haves. Mom and dad will need a break ever so often. It will be a beautiful thing to have grandaddy and grandmother nearby to provide emotional and physical support.
Matt, you need to start considering your future arrival and the lady who is bearing the burden. Mothers need to “nest” - it’s an important survival mechanism. It’s time to be there for Abby. Years 1 and 2 are so critical for your child and you have no understanding of the demand that is soon to be on your lives. A parental/family/support mechanism is vital to young parents. You will have years to travel and teach your little one. The time is now to think of the baby and momma. St. Louis is an easy central airport to anywhere - literally 2 hours from everywhere in the US (and most National Parks).
I think living in St Louis for a year sounds like a great idea while you adjust to being parents. It’s built in help from family. Sometimes it’s nice to have someone close by so you can nap during difficult times
It’s hard choosing where to live. But as a mom myself the closer you are to home the better. Especially for Abby. When the baby comes she’s going to need her a lot more. ❤️
While there’s barely a nickels difference between Ut and AZ it’s super important to have baby sitters/grandparents near by that you trust. Daycare is expensive. These two do give off a Utah vibe though.
I couldn't agree more!!!!!! I lived away from my family for 10 years and 4 kids later I moved to my family and it has been so so so much better being near family!
That is very very much correct! You will thank yourself later on in life. Matt should listen to Abby AND Matt's parents. The core family foundation is just soooooo very important especially early on.
So TRUE!!! We live a few states away from all family, and we didnt dream of moving back...until our son came along. It would be SO much easier with family support.
St. Louis for sure!!!! You will LOOOVE having family to help with your baby. Babies are hard work and it’s so nice to have family close when you are in a tough spot with such a life changing event.
As someone who does not live near family, I would do anything for the family support, free babysitting, and my kids to know their family better. Think of games, school events, and holidays and wanting your family there. Your friends shouldn’t be a deciding factor bc their minds may change as well.
James and I were living in another state when we got pregnant and decided pretty quickly that we wanted to move back and be close to family and we although hate the cold and aren’t big fans of Michigan in a lot of ways, we are SO glad we moved back to be closer to family to raise our little guy. Visiting looks so different when you’re states away from each other and I feel like it’s so much easier having family near by 🧡
I had my first baby at 24. My husband and I also love to travel and are very independent, but having a child changes you. I couldn’t imagine my son not having his family around the first few years. Traveling will always be there when you are ready, special moments with the grandparents, uncles, and aunts are priceless.
It’s pretty clear Abby should be mainly making the decision here. I say if she wants St. Louis because of the baby coming then she should get that. Rent for a year. They can ALWAYS move if they hate it.
As an ARMY wife for 23 years, if you can be near family DO IT! Moving to be close to your friends makes sense…for now. But I’ve learned that when/if your friends move or if you grow apart, you’ll be bummed. Best of luck deciding!!!
My husband and I moved last year and had this debate so many times. Honestly I can tell when Abby is talking about it that her preference would be close to family, as was mine! The relationship between my daughter and her grandparents is priceless!
I just moved back near my in laws. It's so lonely being a new mom even if the city is exciting. Grandparents are more willing to help than friends too.
This video actually made me super sad 😞 I thought the reason you came back from Hawaii was to be close with family!!! I agree with Matt's parents and Abby to say close to home! Especially since you guys are first time parents and Abby with be able to have the support she needs! Also like others said in the comments you can move somewhere cool in a few years when your kid is older and can actually know what's happening and enjoy the activities with you guys! It seems like Matt is being selfish and I do not like it 😞
You asked so you got your answers. I agree with everyone else that staying near family is the best option for at least the first year. Don’t think about your TH-cam content in some fabulous place. Think about Abby and the baby. We will be here for you.
I hope they have a real life plan after TH-cam. All fun and games being young with nice money coming in. Eventually this channel will die and the well will dry up.
@@Ferrari-sw7nl that’s a very rude comment. They are the sweetest couple and they will continue to flourish. My comment wasn’t meant to be mean at all so I don’t agree with you. They’re my favorite TH-cam couple.
Matt, I agree with your mom that it’s time for you to go with Abby’s choice. Especially if she came to Hawaii for you. Whether that’s St. Louis or Phoenix
I completely agree! I actually felt quite uncomfortable watching this video. It was a new side to Matt that we haven’t seen before and I’m not sure I like it… it seemed like a very selfish side that was far more concerned with pleasing friends and being able to snowboard whenever he pleases, than his wife wanting to be close to family for their support (Abby saying she would definitely move to St. Louis if it was her choice was shut down immediately without real consideration). Didn’t necessarily seem like the attributes of a man ready to be a father…
@@muppetm1999 100%. Matt doesn’t seem like a selfish person at all from what we see, and I’m willing to bet he’s not, but that just seemed out of character for him. I get wanting to live somewhere you truly want to, but marriage and being a parent is all about sacrifices. I don’t think he realizes how important having a support system is when you have a baby. Especially for a new mom with the possibility of postpartum depression. My wife got pregnant when she was 19 and I was 20. We wouldn’t be where we are today without that support system from our families.
I love you both. I am a 48 yr old,dad of 2. I hv started watching ur videos, and I love how much you love each other! I rmbr finding out, both times, that I was going to be a daddy. There are no better feelings(up & downs) as being a parent. You both are amazing parents!
The first year with baby can be hard. If you are currently torn being with family for now would be less stressful. After baby and adjusting to the new life of being a family of three then you can move. You both are young and free spirited you will go where ever, I don't think you'd get stuck somewhere you weren't meant to be! ❤️ Sending love from Idaho to all three of you!
To me it sounds like Abby just really wants to settle. And if in Arizona everything is set up for you guys, then I think now it's your turn, Matt, to do what your wife wants to do. After all she moved to Hawaii for you. She would have never done that if it wasn't for you. So now as a father to be it's your job to make your wife feel safe and secure, and give her room to nest. And if she wants to do that in Arizona, then so be it. It's not like you'd have to stay forever, there's always the option of resettling sometime in the future. But damn Bro, it's time to grow up, and fast!
@@charlesbrooks5003 Yes, exactly. I mean the decision's been made, today is moving day, but tbh I wouldn't be suprised if he overlooked her again. I'd be super sad, but not suprised. She's too quiet about her preferences, and he's too occupied with his. Fingers crossed this is going somewhere good 🤞🏼
I know its a broken record in the comments, but that first year being around family is so special. My vote is St. Louis. You guys will appreciate it in the long run. ❤
Being near family is EVERYTHING! I agree with Matt’s dad! Give it a year with them or around where they are.. you will need your mom/family more than you realize. I seriously don’t know what I would do if I wasn’t near my family. I have 3 kids. They are obsessed with their grandparents. They get to see them grow and see their activities. It’s so fun!
Thank you for your comments and support. We want them to make their decision. However, we know that family is super important. It is especially important in the early years of child development. Matt’s dad.
@@jhoward7772000 I did what they want to do. I was pregnant with my 1st.. My husband and I moved back to where I’m from (WA) from Nevada. My parents live here along with my siblings. I thought it would be great being by my friends and my grandma and uncle. It was ok, until I had my son. My mom came to visit when Connor was born, and after 6 weeks, she went back home. I was heartbroken. We made the decision to move back to NV to be with them and my siblings. Best decision I could have made! My kids are now 8,6 and a surprise baby. My parents get to see them grow up and go to their activities. I hope Matt and Abby make the right choice for them. But also make the right choice for baby. Thank for replying!
@@ameliamh.23 I’m kinda thinking he meant to respond to everyone in a comment, but accidentally responded to me. I did that one time too. Lol. But it was pretty cool to see that he responded. I hope Matt and Abby see these comments too.
@@jamiecoutts5188 I want them to make their own decision. However, Their family would love to have them in the Midwest. We are excited to be privileged to become grandparents. 😊🙏😍😎
I’m going to agree with literally every other comment I’ve seen so far. I REALLY think you guys should rent something in St. Louis for AT LEAST a year because of little dude on the way. Then take it from there. If in a year from now, you still want to move to Utah or Arizona, do that! If you decide you want to stay in St. Louis because family is nearby and can help with little dude, do that!
The first year of being new parents will probably be the hardest on you both individually and as a couple. It’s nice to be around family for at least that short year! It really takes a village to raise a baby and you’ll be so thankful for them around to help when you need them even if you don’t think you will. Praying for you on whatever you guys decide & excited to see the next journey!
I’m a mom of a toddler and have another one on the way and have had to move during both pregnancies. Its hard, and I didn’t really want to live where my family was but I am SO SO grateful we did. Live by your family! You’ll be so grateful when your baby is here and you have help/support.
I agree with Abby and Matt’s parents. Matt made the Hawaii move, Abby is pregnant and should be the one to make the next move. I’m sure being near family and in a place she’s comfortable sounds very nice to a nesting mama 🥰 plus you can always move whenever, after you’re sure about where you want to be.
I think that if the Beestons were actually living in Utah, that would be where you should go. I actually think you should stay in Missouri and rent a house till the baby is born so that you’re with your family. Then decide after that. Having a child is going to change everything!!
I am from Utah and what Abby was saying about the culture is 💯 it’s super fun if you’re playing in the mountains but the valley life can be hard and the air quality is terrible. I love Utah but just things to consider with a new baby. 💗 love you guys
Just had a baby two weeks ago and wow it honestly feels like I’ve been slapped in the face. The transition from 0 kids to 1 is so much harder than I thought it would be. Being by my family is saving me! So I would choose to be by as much family as possible for at least the first little bit. Then during that time I’d try traveling a few more times to Utah and Arizona to see why you like best. I’m pretty sure you guys have only visited Utah once which might be hard to really figure out if you want to live there! I live in Utah and think it’s GREAT btw lol but it’s definitely a decision you should make on your own and feel comfortable about
I have always had the desire to move around, and - like Matt - I always seem to fall in love with a place once I visit and envision myself living there. However, as a mom now, I am so grateful that we stayed close to family! They get to have a really awesome relationship with my child, they're available and more than happy to babysit whenever we need, they were a support system through pregnancy and in postpartum, and when that baby is born you are so going to want to introduce it to your family and have those special moments together.
I couldn't agree more! Matt, listen to Abby and please try to do the responsible thing here. She will most certainly need to be near family when the baby arrives. Stop being selfish and grow up...having a baby is going to change everything about your lives. It's time to stop travelling so much and allow Abby to nest and be peaceful throughout her pregnancy. Catch your breath, Matt, and stay with family for the first year of your baby's life, you won't regret it. Wishing you guys less turmoil and more peaceful moments.
Karen MC I agree with you!! I’m pregnant also right now and I feel so bad with Abby. Because my husband letting me rest and even had me leave my job for now I left job at 6months, because it’s tiring and stressful.. and I see Abby I feel bad to her she look soo stressed and tired she needs a rest, and Matt is not even understanding that, he needs to grow up and be responsible and take care of his wife… Abby spoiling him so much, this time he should do the same to her.. Matt is just all about himself that’s what I feel like. There’s some videos I get annoyed of him becuz it’s all about him I only keep watching cuz I love Abby..
I agree with Matt’s dad!! Baby does need family and as first time parents you will highly appreciate having family close during hard first time parent times!!❤️
What’s best for each family is so different but as a mother to two little ones in my 20s, I can definitively say it would have been nearly impossible to navigate this stage of life without being 30 (at most) minutes from family. I’ve always been close to my mother but becoming a mother just adds to the relationship and the necessity to have their wisdom and nurturing care (for baby yes, but more for mama- I needed my mama to take care of me too). I think Abby would find the transition to motherhood (a high anxiety time in the best of circumstances) more peaceful living with family surrounding y’all.
Put Abby first. Being a new mom is filled with challenges. You can tell she wants to be near family- move to St. Louis. You have the rest of your life to move to random places on a whim.
Yep ! It’s now time for Matt to man up and listen to her. Her heart is speaking clearly and loudly. St Louis makes a lot of sense. I hope she puts her foot down and declares it.
This kind of makes me sad… it almost sounds like Abby is second-guessing her decision to move far away from family. As a future mom, I also agree that being close to family is SO important. I was so far away from my grandparents growing up and it was so difficult!
The problem is obvious, Matt wants to live in Hawaii, Oregon, Utah, Arizona and all the other cool places a young single guy would want to live. But I feel you will regret not staying close to home for a while. There are millions of places in the world to visit, but you each have only one family and trust me you will need that support with a new baby.. Love watching you guys!!
I dont think you realize how much support you will want/need with a new babes in the picture. Your dad is correct. Close to family is going to be important. Good luck guys! 💛
Something to note about living in the Phoenix Valley - AZ does have seasons, you just need to drive a bit to get there. Depending on where you live, Payson or Flagstaff are just a quick hour or two drive and then you’ll get changing leaves and snow. But you just get to decide when you want to go there!! It’s also sunny all the time which is super good for mental health😊❤️
I actually agree with dad and when Abby said it… St. Louis. As a parent of two young kids, being close to family is essential. Those first couple of years are so hard and exhausting that you really need your family support system by you to help raise and give you support.
I agree with a lot of other people. I have a toddler and one on the way, live in the same city as my in laws but wish I was closer to my mom. Change can be hard and lots of change plus postpartum emotions and sleep exhaustion can make life feel unbearable. You don’t need to live in someplace “new and exciting” to make great content. I think your subscribers love/appreciates family vibes.
I 100% agree with you and I hope they’re not doing this for new content opportunities. I started following when they were in Springfield and would not care if they lived in MO or IL. As long as they’re happy!
Whatever decision you make will have its pros and cons. I agree with your Dad. Just for the first year, it will be a lot easier if you’re near family or with extremely support friends. Family can help you decorate and baby proof, they can come over to watch the baby give you much needed time to rest, they can help you with resources if something goes awry, and they can be there if there is an emergency. When you’re out of the newborn stages then you could pick move, travel, or buy a house wherever you want. Best of luck!
I’m with your dad, even though I love AZ and recommend living here! I just personally would give yourselves a year near family. When you have a baby, there is so much changing and you will be so tired. Trying to get settled in a new state and doing it all on your own is do-able, but it’s tough with a baby! I would seriously consider your dad’s idea and focus on the baby…and then make plans to move. If not a year, at least 6 months…just consider! ❤️
When I had my first baby I lived away from family and friends and it was really hard. When the baby was a few months old we moved back to my hometown and everything changed for the better! When we were getting ready to try for baby number two we were also in the process of relocating. I knew that even though I wasn't excited about moving to the state my inlaws lived in, I knew that the best thing I could do for myself and my little ones was to be near a support system. We still live here but may not always. Its good to remember that even buying a house is not a permanent decision! I think that in the season of having a little one its so important to prioritize your in-person support system. Especially in case there is any postpartum depression. Praying for you guys as you make your decision!!!
Renting in st Louis is an amazing idea. You will need so much help in the early years of having the baby. Not that you can't do it alone, it's just easier and it really takes a village. You can plant real roots as the baby gets older. Plus the relationship between your child and your parents is very important.
this ^^ it would be so easy for them to settle for a year or 2 in st louis i grew up far from my grandparents, and i never had a relationship with them
We were in the process of moving when I was 8 months pregnant and I couldn’t nest when I had such a strong need to and it was so hard. Once I was finally able to set up the nursery I felt so much better and ready for the baby. You have a good point. I hope they decide soon too.
UTAH is amazing, it has great seasons and the mountains are so gorgeous! there is a lot of chillness to it and lots of grocery stores everywhere, there's lots of country and beautiful views, but also enough places that you can have fun! the winter is beautiful, and the summer feels amazing, so my vote is UTAH! but overall it's all where you guys want to move
Being from Arizona and living in Utah for college I love both states so much. Utah has a great community sense that you won’t always find in Arizona, although I love Arizona for how relaxed and chill the people are. Both are amazing! Skiing/snowboarding in Arizona is not even comparable to Utah hahaha
Just from my experience: I lived 30 minutes away from my family and I felt at times that was too far. When you need help, a babysitter, or want to share memories, it makes it harder when you aren’t close. Today, my kids are school aged and my mom picks up my kids for me since I work until 5. If there’s an emergency, I have support. Plus seeing my kids and their relationship with their grandparents, uncles, and cousins grow is priceless.
I dig the idea of moving to St.Louis even if it's for a short time. They would be closer to family to help out with the new baby, & both families would be close enough drive time to be able to be a bigger part of the baby's life. With their grandparents getting up in age, it would give them time to share with the new great grandchild. Being a young couple with the first child, it can get stressful. If they're in a whole other state, they won't have the support system they would if they were closer. They can always move in a year or so. Either way I know they're gonna be great parents & I pray God blesses them each day, & gives them the wisdom on where is best to go. 🤍
Honestly I feel like Matt constantly lives with his head in the clouds and it’s making it 10x harder on Abby. And I feel like his mom feels the same way. You’re starting a family, you need stability, not flightiness.
Yeah. You may be right. Abby is a gem, and wants Matt to be happy, but I think Matt needs to look at the situation in a little bit of a mature way. Since I have started watching the pregnancy videos, I realise that Matt isn’t mature enough to understand Abby’s needs, and looks like it’s making the pregnancy harder for Abby.
Everyone in the comments is staying stay near family… but I consider some of my closest friends family more than some of my actual family members 🤣 We live far from my parents and they come visit us and the baby all the time ♥️ We absolutely love being surrounded by friends in the same stage of life as us. Go where your heart is leading you! And guess what… this isn’t permanent. If you move somewhere and change your mind years from now you can move again ♥️
When you have a baby there’s nothing better then living close to family because they can help you. My mother in law helped me so much. It would have been so difficult without help. Good luck guys!
I’m anxious with you Abby!! I want you to be able to just settle down so you can start to nest. This is so tricky because they are so different. I know whatever you pick though will be right for you then, and if not, you can always move, as hard as that is.
Abby, I truly feel for you. My husband and I made a move when I was 7 months pregnant and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. It's such a change going from thinking about just you and your husband, to you, your husband and your unborn baby. Being close to family might not be the most exciting thing and you will probably miss being in a new and exciting town. But the best words I ever got as a new mom was there is nothing like having your mom close by for you first baby. You both seem so wonderful and such a great support to each other and whenever you move you will probably be absolutely fine. But it really is special to be with your family. Sometimes annoying haha, but mostly special ❤️
Nesting mama’s time to choose 😁❤️ St.Louis ! Family is everything 🌺 It’s important for children to have that security, support and special bond with grandparents 🏡 Praying for you guys 🙏
Phoenix for sure. I think you would get real tired of Utah after a few months. I've lived in bothv& I'd go back to Phoenix in a heartbeat. I can only tell you it's your decision and be happy wherever you are as a family. Luv ya!
Honestly, when my husband and I had our son...I dont know what we would've done if we had been far from family. When Abby said St Louis, it seemed like that was what she genuinely wants. Its really hard to explain how much everything changes when you have a baby. When you have a support system close by, it benefits the child getting to be close to family, whenever you're maxed out and exhausted, you can take an R&R night/day/afternoon (which then helps you give your best to your son or daughter), if theres an emergency, you have people who can be there ASAP. Even though it wasnt the plan - Its definitely worth considering St Louis IMO. Wherever you choose, I hope you guys are super happy!
This video showed me a new side to Matt and for the first time, it wasn’t great. He is pretty much the only one that wants to go to Utah and even though he should have a say in where they live, continuing the stress of where they will live (after they already figured out Arizona) at this point seems unnecessary. I can’t imagine how badly Abby wants to just get settled and feel secure and comfortable as she finishes her pregnancy. Heck, if anything, they need to pick the fastest option so she can see a doctor asap! It was also really sad to hear that she was interested in moving to St Louis but Matt didn’t even know that or consider it as a real possibility.
Love you guys, but Matt the selfishness and immaturity on your part related to where to move isn't a good, and is suprising and not good for your child or marriage. Hadn't seen this side of you before. Gotta grow up fast man. There is sacrifice in marriage and having a family.
She's almost half way through her pregnancy and she needs a birth plan in a hospital or at home with doctors or midwives she knows and trusts and she can't do that while trying to choose between two places
I agree with this statement 100%. And of course, I don’t mean to offend them or disrespect them in any way. But it’s clear to a lot of people that Abby just wants to be settled already, most likely be near family, and enjoy the rest of her pregnancy.
Don't underestimate how important having your parents close is, not only do they have invaluable experience in raising children to help you but I can tell you from experience it really sucks being a plane flight away from grandparents, although people just expect you to you just can't have anywhere near as close a relationship with them as you would if they were around all the time.
Utah!! Or somewhere higher in elevation in Arizona… Phoenix is so hot in the summer, you can’t even really enjoy outside, especially with a baby! Utah is also home to one of the best lakes ever… lake Powell! And gets plenty warm. Also, there’s nothing better than snuggling up with your family next to your fireplace on a snowy night!
Arizona has seasons BUT... in the valley (Phoenix metro) you won't recognize them as much. 1 hour away is prescott with all 4 seasons and 2 hours away is flagstaff with all 4 seasons and great snow for Matt's snowboarding adventures! The beauty is that you will live in great weather all year and anytime you need to get away... We have everything we need right here in our state. Plus you will have plenty of activities close by and it's a great place to raise kids... especially if you home school because there are alot of local activities that your kids can join that can be done year round 😊 hope that helps!
I agree with Matt`s parents! I know with my own parents, having family so close by was a huge lifesaver! My mom was able to call up grandma and she would be there within minutes. They couldn`t imagine life without them. You won't get that in Pheonix or Utah. Stay home for a bit close to family and give yourself more time. I feel when you have that baby, you'll know where to go
In the first year of your baby’s life you’re going to be so grateful to have family around. While your life doesn’t end… it does change significantly. All the things you love about Utah and Arizona will still be there in 5 years when your children will be old enough to enjoy it with you. But your child is only a baby once. You guys do what is best for you. But my vote is to stay near family for a 1 or 2. It will fly by.
I know it’s really hard for Matt to consider going back to St. Louis. He seems very free spirited. But I agree that being around family makes a huge difference. Abby will need that support. I’d love to be around family but I don’t have that luxury. Military life doesn’t allow that right now but there’s nothing I’d love more than to go home to have my baby. Matt please consider it. Sacrifices are necessary and this may be one of the most worth it ones
Arizona has seasons. I went there during the spring once and it had snow on the ground. We went to flagstaff, and it had so much snow and mountains/volcanos. As you guys know, it gets hot in the summer too. At the end of the day, you guys need to do what's right for you guys. God bless you and your family.
Normally I don’t comment, but this video actually made me really sad. Your life has been nothing short of amazing but it’s about to change in a big (even more amazing) way. You have got to listen to each other and decide what’s best together. It seems really one sided at the moment and that just isn’t fair. I hope you can find a good compromise - you both deserve to be happy ❤️
I completely agree! I actually felt quite uncomfortable watching this video. It was a new side to Matt that we haven’t seen before and I’m not sure I like it… it seemed like a very selfish side that was far more concerned with pleasing friends and being able to snowboard whenever he pleases, than his wife wanting to be close to family for their support (Abby saying she would definitely move to St. Louis if it was her choice was shut down immediately without real consideration). Didn’t necessarily seem like the attributes of a man ready to be a father…
Actually this is also my first time that i feel uneasy by watching their video. For me, Mama Abby and the baby should be the main consideration. Anyway i believe they will find the best decision.
I would highly highly recommend moving closer to family!! If you need a day off call grandma, no flights no long drives to your fam it just makes the most sense, but you guys do what you feel God has called you guys too!!
St. Louis seems to be the best option especially while the baby is young. Mama Abby seems drawn to St. Louis since family will be close and very helpful during this year especially.
FAMILY IS EVERYTHING. There is nothing like the love of your own family and sharing that with this precious child that your about to bring into this world. Friends are great, but that unconditional love of family can never be replaced.
I currently live in Phoenix and love it the lakes are fun and there is so much to do ALL year round plus the colder weather with snow is not far away! Plus the forest and camping is also not far away! Its a pretty sweet place.
I vote for St. Louis!!! I think you guys would love being my family especially with a little one. Plus, free baby sitting whenever you need a night out!
I know that moving is hard but I know that you will make the right decision for yourself and your future child! You both are incredible people and I love you so much. Good luck with whatever you decide ❤️❤️
You can tell that Matt is adventurous but that Abby is ready to settle. Think of your little one on the way. She/he will need family and Abby will need her mom/family more than ever when the baby is here. Missouri/Illinois is your best choice. My sister just had my nephew and It takes a village to care for a baby.
I moved to Phoenix last year and love it! Downtown is wonderful on the weekends. The downtown farmers market, the Churchill, and the coffee scene is amazing. So many beautiful mountains and Cacti to see. Tons of young families live in downtown. Hance park in downtown has a wonderful park for kids and the children’s museum is amazing. Would not recommend living in the burbs only live downtown or Midtown other wise you will be driving all the time. Traffic is HORRIBLE In Phoenix. Definitely recommend going to Banner Medical Center in downtown and Phoenix Children’s Hospital for medical care.
AZ native here!!! I’ve lived out of state and moved back because I missed my friends and family too much. I think you guys will want your family and support system near with a baby on the way. You guys could always become snow birds and come here in the cooler months! Summer is brutal unless you’re swimming and inside all the time but winter is beautiful!
Your dad is correct. One year by them- which is the hardest year for brand new parents- birth, newborn stage and all the hard stuff. Go with what Dad said. He’s right on this! And then move where you KNOW FOR SURE you want to be. Take the year to Pro/Con and really research it.
Yes
Couldn’t agree more with this comment!!
Great advise from Dad!❤️
I agree
Same. It’s honestly the best decision , especially for Abby so she can start getting prepared
I think you guys should stay where family is. You don’t realize this now, but when that baby comes, you’re going to want your family around.
I completely agree!
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Honestly you guys... having a child is going to change everything, and right now being away from family may seem bearable and easy breezy, but you might think differently once little dude actually arrives. Being close to family and having that support system near by is very important. You two are the only people that can make this decision though. You have to do whats best for your family. We love you guys!!!
I'm a mother, and I totally agree with you, the first two years of the baby is always good to be close to the whole family, especially you being first-time parents. 🌟💜
I second this. I needed my mom with me Monday to Friday for over a month while my boyfriend worked just so i could heal. I still need help while my boyfriend works and my daughter is almost 10 months old. I vote stay close to home for at least the first year!!!
Mental support is really nice to. Especially if your struggling with postpartum anxiety such as myself
If Abby is saying she wants St. Louis, she wants St. Louis. It doesn’t have to be forever, but you guys have already said that you can’t buy a house right away because of proof of income. Stay near family for the hardest parts of welcoming a new baby, and take that time to get everything in order to buy a house that you love, in a city that you’ve researched and understand more and are positive you want to move to.
Matt seems pretty set on not moving to St. Louis, but as a mom who’s parents live half way across the country, it is so hard. The memories, support and help alone is sooo needed in this next adventure. Being around friends is fun but when they’re married and with their own kids realistically it gets pretty lonely still🙈 if Abby wants to live there I really think it’s worth a shot! You’ll be happy you did!!
From an aunt with a sister a few states away, it's tough raising a child without a large support system. Having family close by is a must... I can really feel the anxiety from Abby. She's pregnant and is going to be delivering a baby in a few months and doesn't even know where she's going to be. Make your lives easier and be close to family and move somewhere adventurous in a year or 2.
Thats correct. Matt needs to listen to Abby. I sure hope he does! Family support close by is incredibly vital with a new born. The magnitude of this is clearly heavy. Just hope and pray they make the right decision.
Amen! 🙌
Totally agree!
As a mom and fellow “St. Louis-an” I would say stay near your family for that first year! You will really appreciate the help and support as you transition to new parents. Having family close is such a blessing ♥️ especially when you have great relationship with them!
Yes indeed! Sooooo very important
You could really tell that Abby just wants to be with family, and the only reason why she's not saying no to Utah is because of Matt. It's so tough but you have a baby coming, being close to family and friends who can suporot you will really help for first time parents...
Ong lmfao Matt’s the best but idk what he’s doing trying to force utah
Awww, I can tell that Abby really wants to move to Arizona. Abby is so sweet that she would sacrifice her own happiness for Matt’s just like she did when Matt wanted to move to Hawaii. Matt don’t let that happen again. Your wife and baby are the most important things right now, not the seasonal changes, adventures, or friends. Arizona is a great choice. You can always move anywhere else when the baby is older and things are a lot more stable. I feel like Abby is the voice of reason at the moment.
Take it from someone who had the same situation. I really wanted to live in a mountain town where I could have the possibility of snowboarding. Had that option in Wisconsin. My whole heart was for that decision. However, my wife loved the idea of being close to family as we haven't lived near family in years. The houses, nature, and activities in Wisconsin seemed so superior in my eyes. I didn't want to let it go. With a baby on the way, having a family support system where you live really is important. They can help you with the very hard task of raising a child. Your parents will allow you to have days off for some much needed rest. That time is coming. So my question is, in Phoenix, will your friends be able to take place of that?
As a fellow St. Louisan, my opinion on your move is to stay here for a couple years to allow friends and family to bond with your baby (FREE child care). You can still travel every month and that allows you to do so with the option of taking the baby or not. You still get the seasons but with an added bonus of community. It’s not like you have to live 10min away. You can be 1hr away from your parents and still be in the STL area.
then, re-evaluate in a couple years and maybe move to a fun state but in my opinion family is the most important foundation.
#truth
Yes couldn’t have said it better
EXACTLY!
Honestly, I think I agree with your parents. Living close to home with having a baby would be awesome for you guys! They’ll be there to help, babysit, anything you guys need. I know you have friends in Arizona but it’s not the same as family, especially grandparents. I can’t imagine how hard it is for you guys (especially Abby) being pregnant and trying to figure everything out like this!! I hope the best for you guys, I know you’ll make the right decision that’s best for you and your family!
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I've discovered that sometimes friends can be just as or more helpful than family.
I don’t feel there is much of a decision to be made. Matt needs to realize that he is about to have a kid, so traveling and all the things he wants to do is not going to be as easy. I find it crazy enough that they are about to have a kid for the first time and considering moving AWAY from family and the support system. That being said if St Louis isn’t an option then they need to go with what Abby wants and that’s Arizona. You need to get settled and realize everything is not going to be the same and I feel like Matt is not thinking about that but rather about himself and where HE wants to live. Your gonna be a young dad Matt, it’s time to realize it and put your family first. Also realize that Abby is so sweet she will do whatever you want, so read between the lines.
I think he’s just young and doesn’t get it. They posted on their Instagram yesterday that it was moving day and they were on a plane so they definitely didn’t choose to stay in Saint Louis. Guess we’ll see :) happy for them either way !
i don’t think that’s true, i’ve been following these two for a couple years now and i don’t even know matt, but i do know he really does think through everything despite what one video might convey in a way
When they say it takes a village it really does. Being around family that first year is crucial. Parenting is EXHAUSTING. Love you guys and know you will chose what’s best for your family no matter where that is.
Poor Abby! All she wants to do is get settled and prepare the the baby to come. All this going back and forth about where to move is stressing her out. Abby is going to need/ want help from family when this baby comes. You can always move once the baby is older if you still feel the urge to move. Much love to you both and hope y'all figure it out soon so Abby can rest and stop stressing. All three stress will accept l affect the baby and Abby.
I think Abby’s momma instinct is shining through all of the decision “noise” to put down roots in St. Louis for the time being. You could give it a year or so living near family. It’s important for the parents and baby to have a nearby support system. Plus it gives the grandparents and grand baby time together to bond too. That would also give you some time to figure things out and save some more money for a house. I live in the Phoenix area and the housing market is booming but highly competitive for the buyer because of the influx of people from other states vying for real estate. I’ve had friends who couldn’t afford to buy houses they were putting offers on because the bidding wars were driving up the price by several thousand dollars (sometimes $10k more). The market here really needs to stabilize. My husband and I won’t buy a house here until it calms down. Praying for divine guidance in your decision making.
I think if you move to Utah or Arizona right now Abby will feel similar to how she felt in Hawaii. Becoming a mom can easily be a very lonely season of life so having family and familiarity can really help that first year! After that first year, I think she would feel way less anxious for a move.
YES to this! I am so thankful I am close to family.
Your dad's advice about being near family when the baby is born is solid advice! Having a supportive family is a blessing!
Bingo!
Yes , not many have this and go through it alone .
I had my first baby at 24 just like you guys. She is 7 now and our son is 4. I had horrible post partum depression with the first. Literally as fantastic as my husband was it was something different to get help from my mom, a person who understood what I was going through. Now that the kids are older I feel ready to travel the World again but especially that first year I couldn't imagine not being close to my family. When you're all alone at 3:00 in the morning with the baby who's screaming and It's being over a month since either parent had got a full night's sleep..... In most situations no one's going to come and rescue you other than a grandparent :p
I truly love you guys, and admire your passion for adventure. However, having a child is going to change your dynamic completely. At least for the first year or so. Abby made it clear in Hawaii how homesick she was, and how much she missed her family. Having a baby is just going to make it even harder for her to be away from them. 🥺 I’m with your dad on this one Matt! You’re making this decision for you, Abby, and baby. As much as you love your friends, this isn’t for them. 🤍
I know right. Its so obvious where she wants and NEEDS to be.. With family... at the very least for 1 year.
I do have to admit Matt, it does seem like Abby just wants to settle, enjoy her pregnancy, and start focusing more on her, baby, and nesting. But at the end of the day, you guys and your baby are the most important and we all know whatever decision you make will be perfect for YOU.
I'm in AZ and love this state. Wouldn't ever leave it and could list a bunch of reasons why I love it but honestly as I became a mom I realized how important and how much we relied on our family and how amazing it was for grandparents to be apart of our kids lives. You guys can always move as baby gets older and still travel and visit AZ or Utah. Friends are important yes but as I became a first time mom it was sooo nice having the gramdmas support. Whatever is less stress for the mama to be!
☝🏻This!! Totally agree!
Yeah but I can tell you from experience having to move as a kid and having to make new friends again absolutely sucks
Idk how you love it here. The cost of living is ridiculous compared to other states. I work for insurance and make plenty of money. But from comparing my salary to what it could provide here compared to how I could live in other states I plan on moving. The cost of electricity alone is half a mortgage payment.
Having friends, especially close ones with a baby the same age is VERY important.
My vote is for St.Louis or Quincy! The baby needs family - so important to have that support system ❤️
Could not agree more!
Yes the baby needs a family!!!!
@@hayleygritters9540 absolutely! Its part of the must haves. Mom and dad will need a break ever so often. It will be a beautiful thing to have grandaddy and grandmother nearby to provide emotional and physical support.
Matt, you need to start considering your future arrival and the lady who is bearing the burden. Mothers need to “nest” - it’s an important survival mechanism. It’s time to be there for Abby. Years 1 and 2 are so critical for your child and you have no understanding of the demand that is soon to be on your lives. A parental/family/support mechanism is vital to young parents. You will have years to travel and teach your little one. The time is now to think of the baby and momma. St. Louis is an easy central airport to anywhere - literally 2 hours from everywhere in the US (and most National Parks).
I think living in St Louis for a year sounds like a great idea while you adjust to being parents. It’s built in help from family. Sometimes it’s nice to have someone close by so you can nap during difficult times
It’s hard choosing where to live. But as a mom myself the closer you are to home the better. Especially for Abby. When the baby comes she’s going to need her a lot more. ❤️
While there’s barely a nickels difference between Ut and AZ it’s super important to have baby sitters/grandparents near by that you trust. Daycare is expensive. These two do give off a Utah vibe though.
Abby literally said I’d rather live in st Louis, listen to ur wife
I couldn't agree more!!!!!! I lived away from my family for 10 years and 4 kids later I moved to my family and it has been so so so much better being near family!
That is very very much correct!
You will thank yourself later on in life. Matt should listen to Abby AND Matt's parents. The core family foundation is just soooooo very important especially early on.
So TRUE!!! We live a few states away from all family, and we didnt dream of moving back...until our son came along. It would be SO much easier with family support.
St. Louis for sure!!!! You will LOOOVE having family to help with your baby. Babies are hard work and it’s so nice to have family close when you are in a tough spot with such a life changing event.
As someone who does not live near family, I would do anything for the family support, free babysitting, and my kids to know their family better. Think of games, school events, and holidays and wanting your family there. Your friends shouldn’t be a deciding factor bc their minds may change as well.
James and I were living in another state when we got pregnant and decided pretty quickly that we wanted to move back and be close to family and we although hate the cold and aren’t big fans of Michigan in a lot of ways, we are SO glad we moved back to be closer to family to raise our little guy. Visiting looks so different when you’re states away from each other and I feel like it’s so much easier having family near by 🧡
Yepper! Thats ohhhhhh so true. The transition in and of itself is a huge burden initially. Family is much needed and wanted.
I had my first baby at 24. My husband and I also love to travel and are very independent, but having a child changes you. I couldn’t imagine my son not having his family around the first few years. Traveling will always be there when you are ready, special moments with the grandparents, uncles, and aunts are priceless.
It’s pretty clear Abby should be mainly making the decision here. I say if she wants St. Louis because of the baby coming then she should get that. Rent for a year. They can ALWAYS move if they hate it.
You literally took the words out of my mouth.
As an ARMY wife for 23 years, if you can be near family DO IT! Moving to be close to your friends makes sense…for now. But I’ve learned that when/if your friends move or if you grow apart, you’ll be bummed. Best of luck deciding!!!
My husband and I moved last year and had this debate so many times. Honestly I can tell when Abby is talking about it that her preference would be close to family, as was mine! The relationship between my daughter and her grandparents is priceless!
Thats sooooooo very true! Family is vital especially in the early stages.
I just moved back near my in laws. It's so lonely being a new mom even if the city is exciting. Grandparents are more willing to help than friends too.
This video actually made me super sad 😞 I thought the reason you came back from Hawaii was to be close with family!!! I agree with Matt's parents and Abby to say close to home! Especially since you guys are first time parents and Abby with be able to have the support she needs! Also like others said in the comments you can move somewhere cool in a few years when your kid is older and can actually know what's happening and enjoy the activities with you guys! It seems like Matt is being selfish and I do not like it 😞
being by family is EVERYTHING once you have kids. especially in those years when they are little. ❤️
Matt you're making a decision for you and Abby not for your friends, they will love you either way!!!
You asked so you got your answers. I agree with everyone else that staying near family is the best option for at least the first year. Don’t think about your TH-cam content in some fabulous place. Think about Abby and the baby. We will be here for you.
I hope they have a real life plan after TH-cam. All fun and games being young with nice money coming in. Eventually this channel will die and the well will dry up.
@@Ferrari-sw7nl that’s a very rude comment. They are the sweetest couple and they will continue to flourish. My comment wasn’t meant to be mean at all so I don’t agree with you. They’re my favorite TH-cam couple.
Matt, I agree with your mom that it’s time for you to go with Abby’s choice. Especially if she came to Hawaii for you. Whether that’s St. Louis or Phoenix
I completely agree! I actually felt quite uncomfortable watching this video. It was a new side to Matt that we haven’t seen before and I’m not sure I like it… it seemed like a very selfish side that was far more concerned with pleasing friends and being able to snowboard whenever he pleases, than his wife wanting to be close to family for their support (Abby saying she would definitely move to St. Louis if it was her choice was shut down immediately without real consideration). Didn’t necessarily seem like the attributes of a man ready to be a father…
@@muppetm1999 100%. Matt doesn’t seem like a selfish person at all from what we see, and I’m willing to bet he’s not, but that just seemed out of character for him. I get wanting to live somewhere you truly want to, but marriage and being a parent is all about sacrifices. I don’t think he realizes how important having a support system is when you have a baby. Especially for a new mom with the possibility of postpartum depression. My wife got pregnant when she was 19 and I was 20. We wouldn’t be where we are today without that support system from our families.
I love you both. I am a 48 yr old,dad of 2. I hv started watching ur videos, and I love how much you love each other! I rmbr finding out, both times, that I was going to be a daddy. There are no better feelings(up & downs) as being a parent. You both are amazing parents!
The first year with baby can be hard. If you are currently torn being with family for now would be less stressful. After baby and adjusting to the new life of being a family of three then you can move. You both are young and free spirited you will go where ever, I don't think you'd get stuck somewhere you weren't meant to be! ❤️ Sending love from Idaho to all three of you!
To me it sounds like Abby just really wants to settle. And if in Arizona everything is set up for you guys, then I think now it's your turn, Matt, to do what your wife wants to do. After all she moved to Hawaii for you. She would have never done that if it wasn't for you. So now as a father to be it's your job to make your wife feel safe and secure, and give her room to nest. And if she wants to do that in Arizona, then so be it. It's not like you'd have to stay forever, there's always the option of resettling sometime in the future. But damn Bro, it's time to grow up, and fast!
Relax bro
This! Yes!! Thank you, Nathalie, for saying what needed to be said!!
I was gonna say something like this but Nathalie already did. I’m telling you Matt this is the truth ⬆️⬆️⬆️
Abby said clearly what she wanted multiple times and Matt still acting like she hasn't yikes 😬
@@charlesbrooks5003 Yes, exactly. I mean the decision's been made, today is moving day, but tbh I wouldn't be suprised if he overlooked her again. I'd be super sad, but not suprised. She's too quiet about her preferences, and he's too occupied with his. Fingers crossed this is going somewhere good 🤞🏼
I know its a broken record in the comments, but that first year being around family is so special. My vote is St. Louis. You guys will appreciate it in the long run. ❤
Being near family is EVERYTHING! I agree with Matt’s dad! Give it a year with them or around where they are.. you will need your mom/family more than you realize. I seriously don’t know what I would do if I wasn’t near my family. I have 3 kids. They are obsessed with their grandparents. They get to see them grow and see their activities. It’s so fun!
Thank you for your comments and support. We want them to make their decision. However, we know that family is super important. It is especially important in the early years of child development. Matt’s dad.
@@jhoward7772000 I did what they want to do. I was pregnant with my 1st.. My husband and I moved back to where I’m from (WA) from Nevada. My parents live here along with my siblings. I thought it would be great being by my friends and my grandma and uncle. It was ok, until I had my son. My mom came to visit when Connor was born, and after 6 weeks, she went back home. I was heartbroken. We made the decision to move back to NV to be with them and my siblings. Best decision I could have made! My kids are now 8,6 and a surprise baby. My parents get to see them grow up and go to their activities. I hope Matt and Abby make the right choice for them. But also make the right choice for baby. Thank for replying!
@@jamiecoutts5188 omg Matt’s dad responded to you
@@ameliamh.23 I’m kinda thinking he meant to respond to everyone in a comment, but accidentally responded to me. I did that one time too. Lol. But it was pretty cool to see that he responded. I hope Matt and Abby see these comments too.
@@jamiecoutts5188 I want them to make their own decision. However, Their family would love to have them in the Midwest. We are excited to be privileged to become grandparents. 😊🙏😍😎
I’m going to agree with literally every other comment I’ve seen so far. I REALLY think you guys should rent something in St. Louis for AT LEAST a year because of little dude on the way. Then take it from there. If in a year from now, you still want to move to Utah or Arizona, do that! If you decide you want to stay in St. Louis because family is nearby and can help with little dude, do that!
The first year of being new parents will probably be the hardest on you both individually and as a couple. It’s nice to be around family for at least that short year! It really takes a village to raise a baby and you’ll be so thankful for them around to help when you need them even if you don’t think you will. Praying for you on whatever you guys decide & excited to see the next journey!
I’m a mom of a toddler and have another one on the way and have had to move during both pregnancies. Its hard, and I didn’t really want to live where my family was but I am SO SO grateful we did. Live by your family! You’ll be so grateful when your baby is here and you have help/support.
I agree with Abby and Matt’s parents. Matt made the Hawaii move, Abby is pregnant and should be the one to make the next move. I’m sure being near family and in a place she’s comfortable sounds very nice to a nesting mama 🥰 plus you can always move whenever, after you’re sure about where you want to be.
I think that if the Beestons were actually living in Utah, that would be where you should go. I actually think you should stay in Missouri and rent a house till the baby is born so that you’re with your family. Then decide after that. Having a child is going to change everything!!
I am from Utah and what Abby was saying about the culture is 💯 it’s super fun if you’re playing in the mountains but the valley life can be hard and the air quality is terrible. I love Utah but just things to consider with a new baby. 💗 love you guys
Just had a baby two weeks ago and wow it honestly feels like I’ve been slapped in the face. The transition from 0 kids to 1 is so much harder than I thought it would be. Being by my family is saving me! So I would choose to be by as much family as possible for at least the first little bit. Then during that time I’d try traveling a few more times to Utah and Arizona to see why you like best. I’m pretty sure you guys have only visited Utah once which might be hard to really figure out if you want to live there! I live in Utah and think it’s GREAT btw lol but it’s definitely a decision you should make on your own and feel comfortable about
I have always had the desire to move around, and - like Matt - I always seem to fall in love with a place once I visit and envision myself living there. However, as a mom now, I am so grateful that we stayed close to family! They get to have a really awesome relationship with my child, they're available and more than happy to babysit whenever we need, they were a support system through pregnancy and in postpartum, and when that baby is born you are so going to want to introduce it to your family and have those special moments together.
So so so true👌!
I think it is time for Matt to understand that life is changing. He has a pregnant wife, and she needs family support and to nest.
I couldn't agree more! Matt, listen to Abby and please try to do the responsible thing here. She will most certainly need to be near family when the baby arrives. Stop being selfish and grow up...having a baby is going to change everything about your lives. It's time to stop travelling so much and allow Abby to nest and be peaceful throughout her pregnancy. Catch your breath, Matt, and stay with family for the first year of your baby's life, you won't regret it. Wishing you guys less turmoil and more peaceful moments.
He can be immature and a tad annoying i think it’s time to calm down and realize your whole life is going to change
Karen MC I agree with you!! I’m pregnant also right now and I feel so bad with Abby. Because my husband letting me rest and even had me leave my job for now I left job at 6months, because it’s tiring and stressful.. and I see Abby I feel bad to her she look soo stressed and tired she needs a rest, and Matt is not even understanding that, he needs to grow up and be responsible and take care of his wife… Abby spoiling him so much, this time he should do the same to her.. Matt is just all about himself that’s what I feel like. There’s some videos I get annoyed of him becuz it’s all about him I only keep watching cuz I love Abby..
I agree with Matt’s dad!! Baby does need family and as first time parents you will highly appreciate having family close during hard first time parent times!!❤️
What’s best for each family is so different but as a mother to two little ones in my 20s, I can definitively say it would have been nearly impossible to navigate this stage of life without being 30 (at most) minutes from family. I’ve always been close to my mother but becoming a mother just adds to the relationship and the necessity to have their wisdom and nurturing care (for baby yes, but more for mama- I needed my mama to take care of me too).
I think Abby would find the transition to motherhood (a high anxiety time in the best of circumstances) more peaceful living with family surrounding y’all.
Put Abby first. Being a new mom is filled with challenges. You can tell she wants to be near family- move to St. Louis. You have the rest of your life to move to random places on a whim.
Yep ! It’s now time for Matt to man up and listen to her. Her heart is speaking clearly and loudly. St Louis makes a lot of sense. I hope she puts her foot down and declares it.
Except they can't necessarily move around a lot with a kid.
This kind of makes me sad… it almost sounds like Abby is second-guessing her decision to move far away from family. As a future mom, I also agree that being close to family is SO important. I was so far away from my grandparents growing up and it was so difficult!
As a mom of two I feel like being close to family is a must! Especially with a newborn! So I would move back to your hometown
The problem is obvious, Matt wants to live in Hawaii, Oregon, Utah, Arizona and all the other cool places a young single guy would want to live. But I feel you will regret not staying close to home for a while. There are millions of places in the world to visit, but you each have only one family and trust me you will need that support with a new baby.. Love watching you guys!!
I dont think you realize how much support you will want/need with a new babes in the picture. Your dad is correct. Close to family is going to be important. Good luck guys! 💛
Something to note about living in the Phoenix Valley - AZ does have seasons, you just need to drive a bit to get there. Depending on where you live, Payson or Flagstaff are just a quick hour or two drive and then you’ll get changing leaves and snow. But you just get to decide when you want to go there!! It’s also sunny all the time which is super good for mental health😊❤️
I actually agree with dad and when Abby said it… St. Louis. As a parent of two young kids, being close to family is essential. Those first couple of years are so hard and exhausting that you really need your family support system by you to help raise and give you support.
I agree with a lot of other people. I have a toddler and one on the way, live in the same city as my in laws but wish I was closer to my mom. Change can be hard and lots of change plus postpartum emotions and sleep exhaustion can make life feel unbearable.
You don’t need to live in someplace “new and exciting” to make great content. I think your subscribers love/appreciates family vibes.
Bingo!
Same
I 100% agree with you and I hope they’re not doing this for new content opportunities. I started following when they were in Springfield and would not care if they lived in MO or IL. As long as they’re happy!
Whatever decision you make will have its pros and cons. I agree with your Dad. Just for the first year, it will be a lot easier if you’re near family or with extremely support friends. Family can help you decorate and baby proof, they can come over to watch the baby give you much needed time to rest, they can help you with resources if something goes awry, and they can be there if there is an emergency. When you’re out of the newborn stages then you could pick move, travel, or buy a house wherever you want. Best of luck!
South Utah, St. George and you get warm, warm weather year round and the mountain views of a lifetime. Skiing is so close. Best of both worlds❣️
I’m with your dad, even though I love AZ and recommend living here! I just personally would give yourselves a year near family. When you have a baby, there is so much changing and you will be so tired. Trying to get settled in a new state and doing it all on your own is do-able, but it’s tough with a baby! I would seriously consider your dad’s idea and focus on the baby…and then make plans to move. If not a year, at least 6 months…just consider! ❤️
When I had my first baby I lived away from family and friends and it was really hard. When the baby was a few months old we moved back to my hometown and everything changed for the better! When we were getting ready to try for baby number two we were also in the process of relocating. I knew that even though I wasn't excited about moving to the state my inlaws lived in, I knew that the best thing I could do for myself and my little ones was to be near a support system. We still live here but may not always. Its good to remember that even buying a house is not a permanent decision! I think that in the season of having a little one its so important to prioritize your in-person support system. Especially in case there is any postpartum depression. Praying for you guys as you make your decision!!!
Renting in st Louis is an amazing idea. You will need so much help in the early years of having the baby. Not that you can't do it alone, it's just easier and it really takes a village. You can plant real roots as the baby gets older. Plus the relationship between your child and your parents is very important.
this ^^
it would be so easy for them to settle for a year or 2 in st louis
i grew up far from my grandparents, and i never had a relationship with them
Aww Abby seems to know where she wants to move. And she will want to start nesting soon. Hope you guys decide what's best soon! Az
We were in the process of moving when I was 8 months pregnant and I couldn’t nest when I had such a strong need to and it was so hard. Once I was finally able to set up the nursery I felt so much better and ready for the baby. You have a good point. I hope they decide soon too.
UTAH is amazing, it has great seasons and the mountains are so gorgeous! there is a lot of chillness to it and lots of grocery stores everywhere, there's lots of country and beautiful views, but also enough places that you can have fun! the winter is beautiful, and the summer feels amazing, so my vote is UTAH! but overall it's all where you guys want to move
Being from Arizona and living in Utah for college I love both states so much. Utah has a great community sense that you won’t always find in Arizona, although I love Arizona for how relaxed and chill the people are. Both are amazing! Skiing/snowboarding in Arizona is not even comparable to Utah hahaha
Just from my experience: I lived 30 minutes away from my family and I felt at times that was too far. When you need help, a babysitter, or want to share memories, it makes it harder when you aren’t close. Today, my kids are school aged and my mom picks up my kids for me since I work until 5. If there’s an emergency, I have support. Plus seeing my kids and their relationship with their grandparents, uncles, and cousins grow is priceless.
I dig the idea of moving to St.Louis even if it's for a short time. They would be closer to family to help out with the new baby, & both families would be close enough drive time to be able to be a bigger part of the baby's life. With their grandparents getting up in age, it would give them time to share with the new great grandchild. Being a young couple with the first child, it can get stressful. If they're in a whole other state, they won't have the support system they would if they were closer. They can always move in a year or so. Either way I know they're gonna be great parents & I pray God blesses them each day, & gives them the wisdom on where is best to go. 🤍
Honestly I feel like Matt constantly lives with his head in the clouds and it’s making it 10x harder on Abby. And I feel like his mom feels the same way. You’re starting a family, you need stability, not flightiness.
Yes! Yes! Yes! Matt needs to put down the camera and quit talking about it and do what's right for his wife and child for once.
Yeah. You may be right. Abby is a gem, and wants Matt to be happy, but I think Matt needs to look at the situation in a little bit of a mature way. Since I have started watching the pregnancy videos, I realise that Matt isn’t mature enough to understand Abby’s needs, and looks like it’s making the pregnancy harder for Abby.
Everyone in the comments is staying stay near family… but I consider some of my closest friends family more than some of my actual family members 🤣 We live far from my parents and they come visit us and the baby all the time ♥️ We absolutely love being surrounded by friends in the same stage of life as us. Go where your heart is leading you! And guess what… this isn’t permanent. If you move somewhere and change your mind years from now you can move again ♥️
When you have a baby there’s nothing better then living close to family because they can help you. My mother in law helped me so much. It would have been so difficult without help. Good luck guys!
I’m anxious with you Abby!! I want you to be able to just settle down so you can start to nest. This is so tricky because they are so different. I know whatever you pick though will be right for you then, and if not, you can always move, as hard as that is.
Abby, I truly feel for you. My husband and I made a move when I was 7 months pregnant and it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. It's such a change going from thinking about just you and your husband, to you, your husband and your unborn baby. Being close to family might not be the most exciting thing and you will probably miss being in a new and exciting town. But the best words I ever got as a new mom was there is nothing like having your mom close by for you first baby. You both seem so wonderful and such a great support to each other and whenever you move you will probably be absolutely fine. But it really is special to be with your family. Sometimes annoying haha, but mostly special ❤️
Nesting mama’s time to choose 😁❤️ St.Louis ! Family is everything 🌺 It’s important for children to have that security, support and special bond with grandparents 🏡 Praying for you guys 🙏
Phoenix for sure. I think you would get real tired of Utah after a few months. I've lived in bothv& I'd go back to Phoenix in a heartbeat.
I can only tell you it's your decision and be happy wherever you are as a family. Luv ya!
Honestly, when my husband and I had our son...I dont know what we would've done if we had been far from family. When Abby said St Louis, it seemed like that was what she genuinely wants. Its really hard to explain how much everything changes when you have a baby. When you have a support system close by, it benefits the child getting to be close to family, whenever you're maxed out and exhausted, you can take an R&R night/day/afternoon (which then helps you give your best to your son or daughter), if theres an emergency, you have people who can be there ASAP. Even though it wasnt the plan - Its definitely worth considering St Louis IMO. Wherever you choose, I hope you guys are super happy!
Move close to family! The support is going to be so important when the baby comes.
This video showed me a new side to Matt and for the first time, it wasn’t great. He is pretty much the only one that wants to go to Utah and even though he should have a say in where they live, continuing the stress of where they will live (after they already figured out Arizona) at this point seems unnecessary. I can’t imagine how badly Abby wants to just get settled and feel secure and comfortable as she finishes her pregnancy. Heck, if anything, they need to pick the fastest option so she can see a doctor asap! It was also really sad to hear that she was interested in moving to St Louis but Matt didn’t even know that or consider it as a real possibility.
^ this
Love you guys, but Matt the selfishness and immaturity on your part related to where to move isn't a good, and is suprising and not good for your child or marriage. Hadn't seen this side of you before. Gotta grow up fast man. There is sacrifice in marriage and having a family.
She's almost half way through her pregnancy and she needs a birth plan in a hospital or at home with doctors or midwives she knows and trusts and she can't do that while trying to choose between two places
Couldn't agree more! I've been a fan of them for a while now but this just made me sad seeing Matt being so selfish
I agree with this statement 100%. And of course, I don’t mean to offend them or disrespect them in any way. But it’s clear to a lot of people that Abby just wants to be settled already, most likely be near family, and enjoy the rest of her pregnancy.
Don't underestimate how important having your parents close is, not only do they have invaluable experience in raising children to help you but I can tell you from experience it really sucks being a plane flight away from grandparents, although people just expect you to you just can't have anywhere near as close a relationship with them as you would if they were around all the time.
Utah!! Or somewhere higher in elevation in Arizona… Phoenix is so hot in the summer, you can’t even really enjoy outside, especially with a baby! Utah is also home to one of the best lakes ever… lake Powell! And gets plenty warm. Also, there’s nothing better than snuggling up with your family next to your fireplace on a snowy night!
Arizona has seasons BUT... in the valley (Phoenix metro) you won't recognize them as much. 1 hour away is prescott with all 4 seasons and 2 hours away is flagstaff with all 4 seasons and great snow for Matt's snowboarding adventures! The beauty is that you will live in great weather all year and anytime you need to get away... We have everything we need right here in our state. Plus you will have plenty of activities close by and it's a great place to raise kids... especially if you home school because there are alot of local activities that your kids can join that can be done year round 😊 hope that helps!
I agree with Matt`s parents! I know with my own parents, having family so close by was a huge lifesaver! My mom was able to call up grandma and she would be there within minutes. They couldn`t imagine life without them. You won't get that in Pheonix or Utah. Stay home for a bit close to family and give yourself more time. I feel when you have that baby, you'll know where to go
In the first year of your baby’s life you’re going to be so grateful to have family around. While your life doesn’t end… it does change significantly. All the things you love about Utah and Arizona will still be there in 5 years when your children will be old enough to enjoy it with you. But your child is only a baby once. You guys do what is best for you. But my vote is to stay near family for a 1 or 2. It will fly by.
I know it’s really hard for Matt to consider going back to St. Louis. He seems very free spirited. But I agree that being around family makes a huge difference. Abby will need that support. I’d love to be around family but I don’t have that luxury. Military life doesn’t allow that right now but there’s nothing I’d love more than to go home to have my baby. Matt please consider it. Sacrifices are necessary and this may be one of the most worth it ones
Arizona has seasons. I went there during the spring once and it had snow on the ground. We went to flagstaff, and it had so much snow and mountains/volcanos. As you guys know, it gets hot in the summer too. At the end of the day, you guys need to do what's right for you guys. God bless you and your family.
Seems like a simple decision. Having a newborn is hard and you have super supportive parents. You don’t have to stay there forever.
Normally I don’t comment, but this video actually made me really sad. Your life has been nothing short of amazing but it’s about to change in a big (even more amazing) way. You have got to listen to each other and decide what’s best together. It seems really one sided at the moment and that just isn’t fair. I hope you can find a good compromise - you both deserve to be happy ❤️
I completely agree! I actually felt quite uncomfortable watching this video. It was a new side to Matt that we haven’t seen before and I’m not sure I like it… it seemed like a very selfish side that was far more concerned with pleasing friends and being able to snowboard whenever he pleases, than his wife wanting to be close to family for their support (Abby saying she would definitely move to St. Louis if it was her choice was shut down immediately without real consideration). Didn’t necessarily seem like the attributes of a man ready to be a father…
Exactly what I thought! This seems more like what Matt wants to do..
@Merlin George you have to remember too, Matt said that if it were up to him they never would have left Hawaii
Actually this is also my first time that i feel uneasy by watching their video. For me, Mama Abby and the baby should be the main consideration. Anyway i believe they will find the best decision.
He’s being so immature and annoying
I would highly highly recommend moving closer to family!! If you need a day off call grandma, no flights no long drives to your fam it just makes the most sense, but you guys do what you feel God has called you guys too!!
St. Louis seems to be the best option especially while the baby is young. Mama Abby seems drawn to St. Louis since family will be close and very helpful during this year especially.
FAMILY IS EVERYTHING. There is nothing like the love of your own family and sharing that with this precious child that your about to bring into this world. Friends are great, but that unconditional love of family can never be replaced.
I currently live in Phoenix and love it the lakes are fun and there is so much to do ALL year round plus the colder weather with snow is not far away! Plus the forest and camping is also not far away! Its a pretty sweet place.
I vote for St. Louis!!! I think you guys would love being my family especially with a little one. Plus, free baby sitting whenever you need a night out!
I know that moving is hard but I know that you will make the right decision for yourself and your future child! You both are incredible people and I love you so much. Good luck with whatever you decide ❤️❤️
You can tell that Matt is adventurous but that Abby is ready to settle. Think of your little one on the way. She/he will need family and Abby will need her mom/family more than ever when the baby is here. Missouri/Illinois is your best choice. My sister just had my nephew and It takes a village to care for a baby.
I moved to Phoenix last year and love it! Downtown is wonderful on the weekends. The downtown farmers market, the Churchill, and the coffee scene is amazing. So many beautiful mountains and Cacti to see. Tons of young families live in downtown. Hance park in downtown has a wonderful park for kids and the children’s museum is amazing. Would not recommend living in the burbs only live downtown or Midtown other wise you will be driving all the time. Traffic is HORRIBLE In Phoenix. Definitely recommend going to Banner Medical Center in downtown and Phoenix Children’s Hospital for medical care.
AZ native here!!! I’ve lived out of state and moved back because I missed my friends and family too much. I think you guys will want your family and support system near with a baby on the way. You guys could always become snow birds and come here in the cooler months! Summer is brutal unless you’re swimming and inside all the time but winter is beautiful!