Sexual Abuse Victim interview-Bobo
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- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Bobo, who as a child was a victim of sexual abuse.
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People, as much effort as you put into protecting your daughters, put that same energy into protecting your sons
But less not over protected to point of mollycoddling
Yes ma'am! Exactly. I have 3 kids, 2 girls and a boy. People seem to make jokes about me being just as protective of my son and I'll never understand why. All children deserve to be protected and loved.
Let him grow up and be a man as well. Many serial killers had controlling mothers and being controlled is worse.
I sure did
@@karll977 there's a difference between controlling and protective if you are controlling you are going even stop your son from socializing with other kids and being protective means watching over kids and being aware of the adults around the area where u live
And people really get offended when I tell them my son can’t spend the night at their house. This. Is. Why. You never know who is a predator.
I agree noo way why they getting angry we can play all day supervised and then go home. Ur doing the right thing♥️
Same.
I actually remember being shocked hearing about a young girl who went to spend the night at a good friends house but it turned out she was helping her mom recruit them for CP/trafficking. It’s shocking
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Yes keep it that way, you're doing the right thing.
It’s like these predators can sense when a child has already been abused 😔😔😔
They can. I can't remember the term for it but there are mannerisms and attitudes predators look for and can see them a mile off in kids. It's like those kids end up with a sign over their heads and the more they get abused the more they get targeted and the bigger the sign gets.
@@RosieWilliamOlivia Facts Rosie, you right!!! 💯
Absolutely.
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It's revictimization if it happened once you have a higher chance of it happening to you again then for a kid that it's never happened to. It's crazy but I personally know it happened to me 3 times by different people. It's sickening and it's literally like they can smell us but just like they can smell us I can sniff them out from a mile away. I know a creep when I see one. It ruined my childhood. I grew up fast and became hypervigilant
There was an episode of law and order SVU where they said, “victims end up turning into predators” I am a victim so that quote always hunted me... when I’d hold my cousin and they’d randomly start crying like babies do for no reason, I’d panic and put them down because I didn’t want anyone thinking I was doing something to them... and I think that’s what he’s talking about at the end. Not that he’s interested in a child or finds them attractive.. he just doesn’t ever want people to get the wrong idea about him ... because he knows the pain it brought him
I get that.
Yes very true
This is actually recognized by some psychologists as a subset of OCD called POCD - P*dophilia Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. As a victim of CSA I've dealt with this too and it's awful.
I totally understand.
So sorry that happened to you. That's what Bobo meant. He was having flashbacks to what happened to him and he doesn't want anyone to think he's an abuser. He just didn't articulate that well but I heard him.
“Every time I went to school I got in trouble cause that’s how I was feeling.” So powerful. If kids feel right, they act right.
Periodt.
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That can actually go both ways.
Often children who have been abused or neglected act perfect.
Several people working with CPS have told me about these children being overlooked by everyone because they're making themselves invisible.
Children who grow up with a lot of commotion around them, are so used to walking on egg shells so they train themselves to become perfect.
Children who watch their mother being beaten by a man because that man means his women can do nothing right. That child, especially if it's a girl, most times will become a copy of gee mother.
She'll try and become totally invisible.
Not everyone acts out.
I wish he really knew that none of that abuse was his fault.
Amen.💔
Right... he keeps making it his fault almost like he should have known better to put himself in some of those situations, but how could you have any idea as a kid
@@dizzy6799 That's what kids do. Often times because of what the abuser says/tells them.💔
I wish he knew this wasn’t his fault too, so he could grieve these traumas, and release the burden.
Bobo, none of this is your fault! You must know this. You were a child, and those that abused you were predators. I pray you find a professional to help you work through all of this, so you can have a wonderful rest of your life. You deserve it!
@@gladyscraig6636 Amen!💖
Many of our black men have been sexually abused, they NEVER talk about it nor admit it. As a result, they act out through violence or abuse towards their own. I’m so glad he’s talking about this. Hopefully we can gain more of an understanding and develop more compassion. We (black people) have to create a safe place for our black men to talk so they may heal, so that we may heal as a people.
Well said Miss!
Well said, but it ain’t just black men who refuse to open up about this sort of thing. The majority of men who experience sexual abuse refuse to talk about their experiences and act out as a result. It happens regardless of the colour of our skin. Trust me. It would be so nice if one day we (men) can freely express ourselves and our pain without judgement
You couldn't have said that any better. I believe most rappers were sexually abused. They sing with such anger its obvious. It would be great for ONE to come out with their story
All people who have been abused*
The question is, WHO. Who keeps giving these predators access to our children?
He remembers it all like it happened yesterday. So sad
All of us victims do. It's some disturbing shit u can never erase.
@@mzfancy4767 💔
@@mzfancy4767 Yes! We remember every smell, every sound, just the smallest details, we remember it all....😭😭
We all do 😔
@@buttaflyantics8618 I'm sorry, honey.
This dude is pretty brave to even be talking about this so openly. Many people cannot.
Right ! He's being true to himself !✌
Truth! Super brave
Courageous
I think what he's trying to say at the end is that he doesn't ever want to make a child feel like he is going to hurt them in the way that he was hurt. He doesn't want to touch them at all bc he doesn't ever want it to be interpreted as sexual and scare them like how he was scared. I don't think he's doing it bc he thinks he will do anything to the kid, I think he's doing it w the child's feelings and best interest at heart and he's being very sensitive to them.
This is what I was thinking - well said!
I was abused too and it’s definitely effected the way I interact with kids. I’m watchful of them to make sure they’re safe, I tell them that they don’t have to hug me (or anyone else) if they don’t want to. I tell them that even though they’re little they still deserve respect and they need to stand up to adults when they know they aren’t being respected, empower them. That way if an adult were to try something on them they would feel like they can speak up for themselves.
Exactly, AND it's also a matter of feeling uncomfortable. As someone who was abused, when a person gets too close or too physical with me, I automatically tend to step back, cause it makes me feel uncomfortable, even if it's just a hug from someone sweet.
Exactly , the interview was wrong for twisting his words
When people experience trauma due their own naïveté or misguidance, they don’t trust themselves period. They wouldn’t consciously do anything but they simply don’t trust themselves so they stay clear of it.
This my homies dad he from west side hoova i know his whole family and hes a nice humbled man he would leave all day to collect cans and make money from that and feed his family hes been through alot yall i wish yall understand how this man changed his life around....
Not west side hoova hes from bloods but the woman he married and her whole familys from west side hoova and they all used to jump on his head
Much Love to Him 💛🙏🏾
so he had kids? wow I wonder how he dealt with it. Musta been hard man.
If you can, tell him he’s worth so much! If he only knew how much he’s loved and worth.
Tell him we love him 💜
I RESPECT that he spoke his truth, loves his wife, and has strong boundaries with little girls and other kids...I pray for his COMPLETE healing!🙏🏾
Amen.
Amen 🙏🏾 let’s make sure after watching this video let’s pray for bobo prayers truly move mountains
A simple man with strong morals. We need more people like bobo in this world
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@@q4977 ???
God bless this man, he still has a gentle spirit and respect to him he didn’t take it out on other young men!
No he didn’t. He was only a little boy. Such a shame how evil and selfish a man could be to molest an innocent little child.💔
@chemb001 STFU
Only love prevails.
Yes Lord 👏
@STINO FTO because that's usually the pattern. Predators were once helpless prey.
I'm a survivor of rape and csa, and when I tell you that your mind is never the same... I find myself feeling disgusted and self loathing and bordering on suicidal at times, when I simply hug my nieces or play games with them I'm overtaken with the searing fear that someone is going to think I'm one of "them". Looking at my body in the shower makes me want to cry, and I turn the water on as hot as I can handle to feel clean in my own body.
We hear you, Bobo. We see you, we support you, and we advocate for your recovery and the recovery of all the other men who have been in your place.
Male mental health and abuse is a health emergency that no one wants to acknowledge.
“I wasnt a tough guy . When i was a kid” of course not Bobo. You were a kid. You are allowed to be scared. I wish i couldve been there and protect you. Please surround yourself with all the love you can find. You are amazing and you survived. Bless you❤️
Abusing a child is worse than murder!
It's horrific
@@dontbelongherefromanother People like him have to fight this shit theire hole life just not fair.
I think it’s equally as bad.
Because if I had to choose if either happen in my family I kinda wouldn’t. While I couldn’t imagine a child being molested in my family o couldn’t imagine someone in my family being murdered either
@@Pablo-lk8ij I’m a child rape victim, it is not equal. It’s worse and I will never not be fucked up in the head no matter how sane and humble I am now.
wheh he said another man sitting next to him makes him mad and upset i related so hard i actually cried, i needed to hear that from someone else
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Sending healing and positive energy to you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Aww sending loving vibes & healing your way
I wonder if thats why guys have had that reaction to me. A gay guy sitting next to them. It really bothered me. Ive been like "wtf was that about? What did i do?!" Or was it just that i was gay? Im just sitting. Hopefully you get that kid touchers arent necessarily gay, nor are guys all tryin to get with you.
This poor man. How can you ever live a peaceful life when the most innocent time of your life is taken from you? God bless him. I hope he finds comfort, relief, healing, and strength.
Well said. 💔❤️
Totally agree. Life is a war zone mentally after trauma like this.
Where was God’s protection and blessings at the time he was being abused. He didn’t show up then and he sure isn’t gonna show up now with you asking him.
@@MrCamzdad that's where he's found solace and peace so God is where he's supposed to be on this day.
@@tyronereed4909 I hear ya. My question is where was he on those days when he was an innocent child getting savagely raped and abused? He deserved the same solace and peace then didn’t he?
He doesn’t want to have any association with that world of rape or molestation, that’s why he doesn’t feel comfortable around kids, not because he has a fear of himself being capable of such things. That was clear.
Bobo is like a clean soul, pristine, pure. When you hear him talking, you imagine how happy was his creator with this gentle being.
His parents FAILED him
That poor child was wondering around ALL the time alone!
You are still a MAN and God bless you
Indeed. When he quoted the word, I felt it. Wow. May the Lord grant him peace and serenity.
wandering?
@@mariaa.5829 thanks! Typing SO fast, however, others understood 😃
Cheers!
@@Mgamble214 i knew what you meant
I think his mom tried her best
He struggled with his English in the beginning, whether it was his nerves or the traumatic experience being brought up, or maybe that's just the way he speaks; but at the end when he recited those verses it was perfect English. I'm so happy he finds peace in some ways. I wish him all the happiness in the world- he deserves it. You inspired me today, Bobo.
I know.... I actually chuckled, but in an endearing way, when he was trying to say "hysterical" my mom will be like that too, knows the word but can't quite say it
@@texastea5686 my son is like that he has Global Aphasia. He gets really embarrassed some times when people laugh at him. Thanks Mark for not doing so.
When he said his English was bad, I think he meant that he's not good at articulating himself. He has thoughts but not the words to express them correctly to others.
He is so much more articulate than he realizes.
I'm so dam ,loss for words ! . DEATH PENALTY ,FOR ,PERVERTS!
It was never your fault, Bobo. I’m so sorry all those sick people took advantage of you. The way children try to make sense of their traumas is heartbreaking.
Yes. Poor babies come to some distorted conclusions.😢
I love this man's dignity and his honesty. He is such a powerful storyteller
I was married to Edward for 29 years he was a great husband and a father through his trials and hardship he always loved and protected us and we love him
Thank you Sonja for reaffirming that he was a good man.
Aw that’s nice to hear ❤️❤️❤️
This is so good to hear.
Was u really his wife
Wow that's interesting. It must be something to see him on this video.
I can never trust another adult with my kids. People are SICK! Evil Sickness touching children.
Then get THERAPY & do it due to all the avoidance your life & it's death has consisted of. Do it for every single time you FORGOT something.
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probably a good idea...! I never let anyone alone with my daughter, not even family, I know what that kind of abuse can do to a child. be super protective and selective who you trust with your children.
Please never do💪🏿💯❣️🩹🗡️💣⚰️💯 . I only had one child and he is 20 now ❣️and I made sure only to let my son's mother And my parents keep him and that's it maybe my sister very few times but that's it . I don't trust people not because I have been touched THANK GOD because my parents would have killed someone ❣️
@@ebonyejohnson same!! I would rather be inconvenienced than let someone have free access to a helpless child. But I am so paranoid! I know too well what that kind of abuse does to a soul.
Sadly, when kids are exposed to sexual perversion, it can create identity confusion. It brings me joy to see that this man has held on to the Lord for strength to overcome his past.
Yup, gender confusion. Another elephant in the room nobody wants to talk about.
And if he were gay? Trans? He would not be confused. There would be nothing wrong with being those things.
@@j.c.b6473 thats not what the intent of the comment was. its the fact that someone is able to abuse someone to the point that they are not themselves, whether the outcome being gay, straight, trans, or whatever it may be is awful. no one should have that amount of power over someone to enforce an identity confusion on someone.
@@phitalsyndrome How do you know the comment's intent?
@@j.c.b6473 Shut up. It is people like you that turn a blind eye to why people turn out the way they are. Premature exposure to unwanted sexual activity towards children can and many times causes confusion. It is immensely disgusting ! How is it normal to think that you were born in the wrong body? There is a psychological disconnect.
Blaming yourself is the worst! You were a vulnerable CHILD and they took advantage
People are so quick to talk about women who are sexually abused but keep the fact that these things happen to little boys too 😔 God please bless this man 🙏🏽 and heal whatever is weighing heavy on his heart. ❤️ sending lots of hugs your way Bobo 💗
When he describes not wanting children to come up to him now as an adult- I’ve heard other people who were abused as children say that too 💔
😢same and it’s such a messed up feeling because u start to get random intrusive thoughts when you see kids
“am I gonna hurt them” “what if I have a flash back about what happened to me”
"Do a man 'posed to cry?"
Real shit.
I am crying for him
@@suzanneanderson6921 dry your eyes
word
Of course
@@suzanneanderson6921 as I am also, for him my loved ones tht wer abused myself and anyone of us tht wer abused wen we wer little, and then jus plays out in scenes he is talking about, some t same some more extreme but tht happen in life, a life we are suppose to be growing and learning not being abused or open up or introduced to this sort of abuse.
Hey mark, could you change the title to survivor instead of victim?
Right!!!
I agree
I love people championing their obstacles. But it is OKAY to expose the dark side of life. His channel is not here to sugar coat or puff things up. It's gritty and just the truth. It is what it is.
@@joyo1512 I totally see where you are coming from, thanks for the different perspective.
@@larklarkleahleah62 👌🏿 No doubt. Your perception is appreciated as well. Reality is 90 percent perception 10 percent experience. In my opinion, I see your position as well.
I made it 90 seconds. It's almost like reliving my own trauma. I wish you the best brother. I pray you keep speaking and defeat the demons.
I hope this day finds you doing better. We are surviving, survivors and doing the best we can.
@@Tianelson1967 same to you. Had therapy today and cried my eyes out a few times. It's not easy speaking about it. But I'm a fighter
Hope you’re doing better these days. Therapy will not always be easy but it’ll get better. I send you all my love and healing energy 💙
@@BTCHESLUVME Unexpected response but I so needed it right now. I'm doing very, very good. Blessed 🙏🏿. Hope you're doing great as well!
@@BlackDynamite901 glad to hear you’re doing good man
This brother here! even having gone through all of that horror, I can tell his soul is upright in him. Sexual trauma as a young child can overtime become a demonic force and manifest itself in many ways to include the abuse of others. The victim can become an abuser later in life. But this brother here is fighting that off everyday and has a righteous spirit in him that continues to try and do the right thing. May The Most High God continue to keep watch over him...Shalom.
People are sickening. This man was violated by several adults, I hope he finds inner peace and the strength to continue moving forward. In spite of what he's been through, he seems to have a good head on his shoulders 💜💛💚
Child abuse destroys kids' souls ...such a sad story.
My heart is breaking for the little Bobo. What a hard childhood this man had.
Right poor 😰😥😪😭😢😓 Bobo bless his ❤
This is the standard, "molested as a child," origin story. Dad leaves the household, mom's new dude and a neighbor molest the victim. Mom pretends like she's concerned. I've heard this story from the majority of people who were sexually abused as children.
It's the same story every time but idk how we can stop it
Sexual liberation isn't good for society.
We as parents can stop having blinders on and putting our relationships before our children. Let a man or woman know beforehand what will happen to a mf u find out abusing your child also make them aware you talk to your child often and ask them if there being touched or abused and a mf bet not tell them not to say nothing cuz if you find out they being touched and didn’t tell u they gone get it worse than whatever the abuser say they gonna do.
@@akaciateague2204 Agreed, it is detrimental for all!!!!! No one wins of any gender or age, from "sexual liberation", it is the plight of society.
@@melaniegonzalezart8506 The ironic part is that people who are complete slaves to their lust refer to it as, "sexual liberation." That like indulging to the most extreme extents of drug abuse and calling it, "drug usage liberation." I'm curious as to if someone can point me towards and extended period of time in history where, "sexual liberation," was beneficial to mankind.
The way his speech got better when talking about God & quoting scriptures almost brought tears to my eyes. Fight the good fight & keep pushing Bobo🙌🏾
I noticed that as well. When he started talking about the Lord, his whole demeanor changed into one of boldness. Wow...❤
I like Bobo, just something about him makes my heart smile, he's endearing. God Bless you Bobo.
My heart breaks for him! He has so much to say but doesn’t know how to articulate it. The damage sexual abuse causes lasts forever. Someone I love and am very close to was sexually abused over a 10 year period and at some point questioned his sexuality and ended up being promiscuous to validate his “manhood” and to this day has a difficult time with any type of relationship he has because of the abuse he went through as a child. Bobo is doing the first thing to start the healing process and that’s talking about it. I love mark for giving people like him a platform and a safe place to talk.
Amen & amen.
Yes
I understood fine. Articulated well enough👍
He knows how to articulate every word he wanted, he was just being careful with his words. I commend him for speaking out
Nayv Ent. I understood what he was saying as well, just felt bad he was having a hard time finding the words he wanted to use in some parts of his story.
Wow this man is very brave, most guys would be too scared to tell such stories - i hope he heals
Mr., The things that happened to you as a child were NOT YOUR FAULT. I hope you find peace...you are a smart guy and I think a good guy too. God Bless you.
Amen.💖
Yesss.... agreed!
So sad I wish somebody would’ve taken care of him. The way he talks is so sweet I bet he was such a cute little boy. Sad nobody protected him.
It’s hard for people to understand they must protect girls AND boys from predators. It’s also hard for them to accept the women abuse too. My mother was the abuser but nobody but NOBODY wants to believe that. Therapy has been my friend🙏🏿
It’s crazy how much this isn’t talked about. You would be surprised how much this happens. People are so protective of their daughters assuming it can’t happen to their sons smh. Check on your boys!
Yes, there are so many dirty perverts in this world!
this is exactly why i keep my baby real close to me im very over protected over what's mine i too was a victim of being violated in the past
I wasnt abused but yes I totally agree with u I do the exact same with my kids.
Same with me
Same with me......even though she’s 16 years old, I’m still her overprotective Mom!! #BadAssMamaBear
@@Kat_Beezy Amen!!!
Your beautiful
It was interesting to hear a man tell his story about getting sexually abused and how it affected him. Usually it’s women on this channel (also more so women in general from my experience) who speak about this. Hearing this man speak about it was honestly badass and inspiring to me. I hope one day men can be more comforted and supported by society in situations like this.
Boys and men are not believe to be telling the truth. Bullshit. I have a son. I hate when they think a girl is more precious Than a boy. They are equally hurt.
@@4theloveofmuse I agree ♥️♥️
I was a victim of being touched by a family Member! This continued for years! My aunt tried to make it out, as if I was a liar!!! Still bothers me to this day mentally.
It should. You need to put distance between you and her.
I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s a shame that some adults don’t listen and believe the things kids tell them.😕 I hope you’re doing okay
@nun for brains you would be surprised how many children have experienced this! It’s disgusting
Same thing happened to me. My sisters husband groomed, brainwashed and molested me from 9-14. My sister stayed with him. I still have contact with them and am CONSTANTLY on the fence about maintaining that relationship. Now that I have children I’ve never questioned more in my life. Its so hard for me because even after how wronged i was i was always close with my sister and her kids. Its so hard to know how to feel.
Laaawd this poor child was surrounded by predators. Bless his soul.
You really captured something beautiful here, Mark.
Yes. I wonder how many people were touched to learn they're not alone.
my uncle sexual abuse me when I was 13. it was so difficult to deal with this and iv never talked to my parents or someone until my 19.
I spend years terrifying other man's in my family to.
I find the power after 2 tries of killing my self to get over and stand by my feet!
I'm 24 today and the most sad thing is me and all people who have sexually abuse is that we never gonna get over
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talk to someone if you sexual abuse of someone, dont be afraid and don't do the same mistake as i did.
(sorry for my english, i still try to learn).
i wish you health and happiness. we are all together in this.
Bless you beautiful 💙💛💚💜
SENDING YOU POSITIVE ENERGY LADY. Rise above it. It was one chapter out of your book of your life. JUST ONE. Dont let it ruin the rest of your life.
Your English is just fine. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Please know there are people in the world who care about you.❤
@@thegroove2000 That’s the Truth!💯 I’ve been through the same thing. A person has to keep going on. It’s such a horrible thing to happen to a child. It left me totally bewildered. It took me years to realize that it wasn’t my fault. It really scars a child for a long time.💔
thank you so much guys.
for that reason I fight I and I decide to work as criminology for abuse kids and generally for people.
I want to put in prison people like my uncle because for me no one put him inside...
so for that reason I find the power to be close and help other people.
I’m so scared to have children I would do the unthinkable if someone hurt my child like this 🥺
It’s definitely a scary thing. I have a 2 year old and am so protective of him. Just be vigilant in trying to protect your child. Keep them close and make sure they know they can come to you with anything.
@@MyLuvJones facts💯💯
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It's ok to NOT have children. I have two, 14 and 18 and believe me, you don't ever stop worrying about them 😑
@@texastea5686 your right my grandma use to say the same thing you can’t even trust your own family around your kids sometimes 🤦🏾♀️people are so sick most of the time because a sick person did them the same way it’s just a terrible cycle ☹️
Sexual predator s ruin so many lives. This man cant even hold or hug a child. God Bless you Bobo. I hope you know your not the bad person, they are!
I was molested by a few people growing up and I swear it changes you forever. You never really recover. I know many black men who have also experienced the same thing & they are completely closed off about it. So I’m proud of this black man for sharing his story because this needs to be known. It’s a real issue, stop hurting innocent children & scarring them for life.
Mr. BoBo you where in survival mode from the second your child hood innocents was taken from you. I'm 51 yrs old and I feel my soul was murdered the second I was abused . Thank you for sharing your truth. You keep your head up too.
And you keep your head up! I did! Much love to you 😘
You didn't do anything wrong! You hold your head up, sunshine!
oh my heart is broken. he is such a sweetheart. no human should ever be hurt in that way.
“Who are you going to serve, God or Satan”? Wow that’s powerful! This man has a lot of strength and courage to come forth and tell his story. It’s so horrible the abuse he had to suffer and he still asks to this day “why me”? And has never hurt anyone else! Bless you sir! 🙏🙏
Powerful? No, it's sad. Serving a god who has the power to stop a child, or anyone, from being sexually abused or raped but doesn't is not a god worth serving. Being brainwashed to believe in such a being is the opposite of powerful.
@@Cynnas God gives us ALL choices, we're on a free moral agency. We all know right from wrong, and it's absolutely 100% OUR choice to do bad things, or to do good.
@@Cynnas Actually after having read your comment and my comment I rethought this. I meant to say that it was a powerful story and I am glad that he "seems" to be at terms with what happened to him. Forgiveness is a powerful virtue to have. I am grateful that he has not committed a crime against someone in the same fashion that has happened to him. The quote helps put things into perspective for me. GOD is my answer! Be well and have a Healthy Happy New Year!
@@Cynnas I don't think it's sad. Everyone has their own right & free will to do what they want. I respect his free will to believe in his God. I think those scriptures he quoted has helped him be the man he is today. I think we need to be mad at ourselves & do better as human beings. I'm sure he wasn't the first kid that man took in his garage. We all need to work together to protect our children. That is not God's responsibility but humanity's.
Why me?? Because it made me the man I am today. Either make you or break you. Serve god or satan👌🏻you’re choice, I’m serving God!🙏🏼
Bobo is so real, so honest, so genuine. I love how he thinks about things and questions. I like that he cares about boundaries. What a neat guy!
The fact that he spoke up at a young age and made it this far in life. Inspiring!
I'm just so sorry that he still carries this burden.
It's like these predators have a sixth sense about these kids. It's such a common story that a child of sexual abuse continues to experience it from multiple predators throughout his/her life. It's fucking horrifying. May these poor tormented souls find some sort of peace in his/her lifetime. This man recalls these things so vividly...it's clear he is tortured inside. 💔💔💔
I personally think abusers sense the damage and notice certain signs and prey on them. They know they're easy targets because they're emotionally traumatised from previous abuse. They've already been abused so more likely to just feel like it's their portion and keep quiet. It's like it's unseen but is so clear to abusers who to do it to. Strange. (I just posted this on another comment before I read yours)
@@Party_Of_Eight Well said.
So much respect for this mans strength of character
Yes!
He’s so beautiful. I feel for him. Being scared to tell, being confused about what’s going on. Having nobody to tell, witnessing other people’s pain and having the weight of “what could I have done to help” on your shoulders 😔
Wow, this interview made me feel his hurt and pain. No child should go through what he had to go through as it hinders growth and development. I love you, Bobo.. such a gentle spirit ... I’m glad he didn’t continue the cycle
Fight, flight or freeze. He’s been in the freeze stage since the first incident. But, he’s very in tune with himself. All abuse chips away at your willpower...
Oh baby.... no child should ever have to go true this. But it happens more than people realize. I’ll be praying for BoBo.🙏❤️I love you God be with you.
Calling people baby seems very condescending to me.
@@b1k2q34 interesting. How so, can you explain why you feel Val is being condescending? When I consider the definition compared to her comment and use of the word baby, I just don’t don’t see the condescension.
@@b1k2q34 it's a term of endearment.
Just makes you cry 😢
@@b1k2q34 i totally disagree with this comment. Its beautiful the way she commented it shows her love and care ❤
At the very end of the video, I think he was saying he's uncomfortable around kids because they're the age he was when he was molested. Not that he is uncomfortable because he might violate the child like he was violated. It seems he couldn't find the proper words to express what he meant.
P.T.S.D. He failed to protect himself due to shock & malnutrition. He was saying that; "If I must protect them I know with the way I am for now that my odds are not viable." He was ASKING that THE REST OF US TAKE WATCH.
This conversation is facinating when you look at what he says in relation to Complex PTSD
He seems so childlike, a kind soul. My heart aches for him. Nobody deserves this.
I think what he was trying to say is that he didnt wanna be looked upon and have anything to do with children that could make him feel like he was abusing them or have anybody ACCUSING him. He didnt want to come in close contact if a kid were to ever try to blame from for something he didnt do..m respect. I appreciate his story and admire him.
Yes. It's understandable but I never imagined this would be another result of sexual abuse.
@@marylougeorge9890me too I don't ever see it happening. It's some messed up people on this world. We have to protect the children.
I definitely agree. Thank you for putting it into words for him and for us. I thought the same.
I find it hard to believe we aren’t already in hell
We aren’t
Sometimes i think the same thing. If children are the innocent and the pure why do so many children experience such hellish and vile things?? Even my owm childhood was taken from me
Some people are in hell. It’s whatever human beings choose to create for themselves and others on this earth. Heaven or hell, our choice.
I think so too!
@@clairelumiere2901 I disagree, so many people are born into (or grow up in) bad scenarios that are totally out of their control. The wrath of determinism
poor dude can't process any of his experiences and emotions
my heart hurts for this guy-he seems so kind and soft spoken and was probably like that as a child-
A child’s mind is so innocent. My sisters and I never even remembered that we were abused until we were grown because we were extensively groomed by my father. We didn’t even know something wrong had happened until later in life.
I get it. He’s still very confused to this day at 55 years old, very sad situation🙄🤔.
I was confused too most my life..I didn't understand why til I got much older....
@@tonigoldsmith8515 I guess it happens more often than we know🙄😏.
Wow. This man is so incredibly strong.
Sad how sick people look at a child's innocent as a weakness to attack them.
Bobo, thank you for your story. We need to hear more adult males telling this story, no more secrets, no more shame.
The shame only belongs to the abuser.
This man seems so gentle and kind. He also seems deeply hurt and sad. I hope he knows that some of us appreciate his courage to share and I have a tremendous amount of respect for him. It breaks my heart that this happens to ANY child. God bless him. 🙏🏼❤️
May he always be protected and protect the innocent. Help him to never stray in his ways.
Mark; these interviews really shed so much light and are appreciated! How can these victims be helped at any age? Bobo had the discipline to be cautious and not repeat the 'Cycle". Good for him!
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I was molested by my cousin when I was 8 and he was 16. I never said anything until I turned 23. I spent so much of my life suppressing the incident because I never wanted anyone to be mad at me and never wanted my family to break up. I took it upon myself to say something to my abuser and told him that I forgive him. I spent so long being so promiscuous without connecting the abuse to my actions. It was only the grace of God that helped me opened my eyes and stop what I was doing, hurting myself. Now I’m 31 and married and my husband has been a great support for me and my shortcomings. Thanks Mark for sharing another story that I could definitely relate to.
I’m so sorry that that happened to him. I was sexually molested by my older female cousin for probably a year or two without anyone else knowing about it. It made me super confused about my sexuality.
Talk to your children About inappropriate behavior!!! So this builds their confidence, and they’re not left confused when the situation occurs and apply necessary action!
So sad what adults do to children.
And then those children become adults and the cycle continues
This man’s spirit is very kind. It’s unfortunate that so many adults took advantage of his innocence.
This guy is so innocent man, wishing you all the best
Listening to your story, I feel like I saw an innocent child who was just trying to be friendly and got all kind of experiences... My heart aches listening to your story, such a brave and beautiful soul, may God bless you. 🙏❤
"EYES DON'T LIE"... Mothers need to stop bring Men home... Get to really know someone befor you bring them around your children... An Mother's need to learn how to be alone ... That means Without a man...
@@elizabethirvin9954 don't generalize.
Definitely never dating, my children are my everything.
Disgusting how adults sexually abuse young boys.
Kids in general. I agree ☝🏽 tho
Someone said, " the only difference between a homosexual and a pedophile is a matter of time". Once you're sexually perverted...anything goes for you.🤢🤮
@@daughterofzion8452 the difference is one is consensual and the other is a serious crime
"Im not going out backwards"..words to live by...real talk
I’m so sorry this happened to you Bobo. Stay kind.
When he said "what did i do to be treayed like that when i was little" that broke my heart. You did nothing wrong sir
It wasn’t your fault Bobo. You have a wonderful gentle spirit. Mark, thank you for introducing us to Bobo. Bobo, thank you for sharing your story with us. Love and blessings.
All that horrible stuff would make me scared and anxious all the time, too. Confusion and sadness become a way of life. No one to trust.
His story is so HEARTBREAKING!!!😭
Mark, I really enjoyed the podcast interview. You are a special kinda dude. Keep up the great work. Street Angel!
Is counseling offered to the people that are interviewed? This man is so brave to tell his story. He is in my prayers 🙏🏾