How To Actually Enjoy Your Life...
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"Flow" by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi
"Life isn't about quotes about life."
good quote about life
So..."Life is about quotes about life"
“Life isn’t about quotes about how life isn’t about quotes about life”
so it is then
@@twt8369 "life isn't
I don't "stay" happy, but I remind myself how special it is to experience happiness, so I can make the most of that particular moment
No one really stays happy indefinitely.
@@Ragnarok540 I don’t even want to experience happiness just to suffer after that
Bhad
All experiences are special. Life is a short experience and it is important to feel a wide variety of what it has to offer. This includes happiness, but also includes unpleasant experiences.
Flex
"While scrolling TH-cam." "Feel like you are in the driver seat."
-Watches videos that give you an existential crisis.
cheese hamburger mcwhopper
Based
too political
Wise words, hard to disagree
@@frawgssss😂😂
1. Don’t take anything personally
2. Don’t make assumptions
3. Always try your best
4. Be impeccable with your word
- Toltec wisdom
@@spoopify5560 elaborate?
"The Four Agreements."
Omg I'm doing an assignment on this rn
Four agreements great book
this is beautiful yet it kind of brings me down. Why must we spend the mayority of our lives doing things that we know dont bring us closer to some sort of peaceful mental State or whatever? I mean, f** we are knowingly following the routes of a system that doesnt encorauge us to try and experiencie the wonders of life, that are many. I escape day to day bullshit as much as i can, but i cant help to ask myself how is it that Nobody tries to present something better. Like we just accepted that this System is like this and nothing will ever change. We created it, we can as well modify it!
La concha de la lora
i understand and i used to think like this, but to ask if there is something better is to imply there's something bigger than life, that there's an "end goal" to existence and your consciousness.
@@MaEvProductions i dont believe in something bigger than Life, im saying life is in itself the most beautiful and wonderfull experencie, yet we dont seem to try and seize it as it deserves to be seized
ooooh sorry! i totally misread ur comment lol. i 100% agree with u
"Day to day bullshit" is a flow experience for some people
@@felixb6 and thats great, id love to achieve that
I like how the ad audio was way louder than the video
Yeah... that made me HAPPY.
It's consistent to commercials on TV
why does he do this for every sponsor
@@vepply it's probably because he records the ad later/in different circumstances when he actually knows what the ad is, and then edits it in the video somewhere
@@ferretappreciator laaazy
We used to call it being "in the zone"...
You can't stay in it all the time, or even every tie, but it feels great while you are there.
Runners, basketballers, musicians, even racecar drivers all talk about the same experience where time slows and perception switches to ultra-mode.
The same thing happens with philosophers and writers.
I like to think it is something we as humans have evolved to do... mentally get into that space.
You gonna tell Grimace how to live stick boy
Holy shit
Don't take yourself or the world too seriously.
what do we truly mean when we say this?
@@sunorcio3901 it means, dont give yourself too much credit when you do something right, but dont give yourself to little credit when the world tells you, you failed.
Wow such fucking wise words that I’ve not seen before, I’m going to tattoo this on my balls cheers
@@sunorcio3901 laugh at stuff
Having ADHD is like living a life of either being indefinitely trapped in the flow state or being completely unmotivated. Whatever interests us automatically places us into that state and self control isn't as easy since the ADHD brain is disabled in that area.
Yeah I didn't really know how to feel about this because being unable to control the flow state is therefore being unable to control happiness. Sometimes I feel helpless to my own brain and it leaves me with unease, discomfort and the feeling of being stuck, powerless, unable to do things I enjoy or being unable to enjoy things like I usually do.
@@Juli-zg7sj the best way to enjoy the flow state from my ADHD is channeling it through stuff that literally moves me such as sports or do sumn activities while working. Other would be through hobbies but adhd has its weird moments cuz it’s close to spectrum of Autism if I’m not mistaken
I WAS GETTING OFF THE LATE SHIFT, ATTEMPTING TO RECOVER. CRUMPLED UP MY BUS PASS, AND TOSSED INTO THE GUTTER.
@@jadegrace1312 You good bro?
@@RoachCutscenes it's a song from the album in their pfp
Not related to the video: This thumbnail is really nice compared to your other ones :)
I know right ... really liked the color scheme and yet how true it is to his original style : )
you don’t like “DEPRESSION” or “god is dead” ? classics
It’s because of the use of negative space and block text - things that are so different from the normal thumbnails, they start to seem like a different brand/youtuber.
Well then it's decided. I'm going to start writing and editing more. That puts me into the flow like nothing else. Thank you, Sisyphus.
how has it been going bro?
Just wanted to add some timestamps to make it easier to digest the video's info! Hope it helps :)
Flow 1:53
Pleasure 2:44
How can one find the right goals for themselves? How can this be achieved?
1. Challenge with Skill 4:38
2. Merging Focus & Action 5:16
3. Clear Goals & Feedback 5:38
4. Concentration 6:23
5. Paradox of Control 6:58
6. Loss of Self-Consciousness 7:50
7. Transformation of Time 8:29
Conclusion 9:22
Thx for the wonderful vid Sisyphus! This topic has been in my mind for a while, and I found that it confirmed some things for me. :)
Thank you so much for the timestamps!
@@chesstea3266 I love you thanks (￣∇￣)
Honestly, for some reason what I find nostalgic for myself as memorable experiences are a bunch of absurdly minor things. Like for some reason I remember me when I was 8 staring at a piece of wood and staring at the texture, grooves and looks of it and imagining some story around it. Don't know why, probably don't want to replicate staring at a piece of wood for 1 hour but for some reason I really nostalgically remember that happy moment, although it may have just been me using my 8 year old imagination to overcome boredom. Nowadays I think remembering stuff like this will be a lot more rare since it is a lot easier to scroll through some TH-cam when you are bored, instead of staring at a piece of wood for an hour.
This was quite an impactful video. I am now off to do some hobbies for the sake of doing them.
Ngl playing volleyball was the closest thing i had to my flow but then my stupid back broke and now cant play, really miss that
im sorry to hear that :( i hope you find something that will bring u the same amount of enjoyment ^^
@@MaEvProductions thanks a lot
I think there should be a balance between self-restraint and discipline, and carefree-ness and pleasantness. I went through a time to where I engaged with my hobbies militantly and after a few months it left me drained and burned out. I loosed my grip and let myself wander from pleasure to pleasure and things began to balance back out and my energy returned to me.
Exactly
As a freediver who got interested in Flow several years ago, I don’t think there is enjoyment in the moment of performing the activity, there is only the activity, your entire focus is there doing the thing. It is only after that you can return to yourself so to speak and experience enjoyment (hopefully).
I love that state of total focus on activity, because there isn’t any pain or dread to feel
He spends most of his videos telling people they're wasting their time on youtube
honestly i just love the sound of your voice, not even listening to your words anymore.
I'm just overwhelmed after my girlfriend broke up with me and I just want to fall asleep listening to it
can anybody recommend some music that would give off a feeling like this? it would really help
Lamp - Yume Utsutsu
@@signalworks I was gonna say Lamp too!
Bro have you tried ASMR? It purposely tries to induce such a state of relaxation.
@@swagmund_freud6669 ASMR is a bit different than a soothing voice or soothing music, but sure.
The question I then have, is if flow activities make me feel so good and fulfilled, then how do you find enjoyment in moments that aren't in a flow state?
For example, working.
You could argue that you can enter flow state while working. As long as it presents a series of steps you know to take without much thought you could be in a flow state imo.
But the problem with that is most people, including me, find their flow states in areas of work that are very exclusive or difficult to gain money from. Such as arts or music. How would one find a flow state in studying content from school?
Just another tough question that gives the answer of "shut up and do it".
@@chi3fgiraffe681 idk how to exactly answer your question other than combine the two?
Idk how you could do it with studying and music but it did happen to me once that I started researching dementia after listening to everywhere at the end of time and I have got a grasp of the subject, at least more so than any average person.
So maybe try to bundle the things that are boring with the things that make you happy?
Again idk.
@@chi3fgiraffe681 yes studying is boring, but I can sometimes enter flow while studying if I either challenge myself to maximize my time or somehow become interested in the material
You don’t. If you don’t like your work, then like, that sucks. And we as a society should eliminate humans having to do that. Don’t get wrong, if you can find a way to enjoy work, by all means, do that. But I fully recognize that there is no shortage of shit jobs that aren’t fulfilling. And we should eliminate those jobs instead of forcing a permanent underclass of people to keep working them for the benefit of those that are higher in our arbitrary power hierarchy.
Still empty as hell
Yea, I did that with gaming for some years, becoming a top contender in my field for a time. Later I translated it into the flowstate of running and the meaningful activity of having a well though out lifting regime. After a while I got older and my body started declining its ability to follow the philosophy of self improvement year after year afer year. During all these years of spiritual discovery I had not earned money, and now I am nothing.
"How to be happy"
*DRUGS*
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the actual subject of the video had a very low audio quality but the sponsor part was loud
That's so you can tell it's an ad and skip it easily
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Funny you say doing the dishes, I work at McDonald’s and used to at wendys, doing dishes and cleaning was the ultimate flow state for me, when they would put me on cooking food, I would mess up this and that, I love my job for the fact my manager understood this and asked me while I was being trained elsewhere if I wanted to stay on dishes, yes, I love my job
Do you plan on making a video guide on George Orwell and his theories of politics and exploitation of human nature?
I just read 1984 and Animal farm so I would love it if you made a video :) up to you tho, you do what you enjoy :p
how about you read his books that are actually about politics like homage to catalonia and road to wigan pier
@@homemdasneves or his lesser known novels, like Burmese Days. Underrated
Stop caring so much about things that aren't actually important to you. Don't let people make you feel distressed because for some of those people it is the goal to make you uncomfortable. Just live in the moment and don't get stressed by little things. That is how i stay happy.
I think you might like David Goggins hehe. He has pretty much the same message, even though the delivery is a little... different.
@@sansamman4619 have to check that out xd
@Pandium It is true my friend. People mostly think of themselves and what others think about them. It is completely normal to be that way. We are all humans and we all have our flaws.
@@dankcuck5984 and what if one believes that humans *are* the flaw? As in, what if just waking up and knowing the things we know and seeing the things we see enough to make us just roll over and sleep, hm? Imagine if there was a worldwide pandemic ok and the only thing people could think about was when they were able to go drinking or to watch football eh, imagine that ludicrous scenario. Do you know how we got over the Black Plague way back when? We stayed isolated for as long as it took to die out; imagine the paranoia and fear, but again the togetherness of the world as a whole. See if I was offered, I would sellout humanity in a heartbeat.
@@unsans665 We humans are selfish thats just the way it is. I try my best to find the people that are loving and so on. I have one life and that is why i am trying to make the best of what i've got. As for the pandemic that is just unfortunate but i see it as a test of how well we "perform" in a way. (I am not religious).
I hope you have a lovely day tho ✌
Could this not just describe video games??
Cheese is epic
Thanks for the tdlr :)
idk if this'll help anyone or not but imagine how people dealt with not enjoying their lives before they could literally search up a tutorial on youtube on how to do it. i think one important thing in life is figuring things out and learning that some things take time to figure out. i find that just being handed an explanation doesn't work, you really just have to figure out what makes you happy and work from there.
This is the secret to being good at something.
This part about flow, you described racing for me, effortless effort, my mind at 100%, thinking about how to overtake, defend, where to place myself, and how to go faster, at the verge of total control loss, all of that while perfectly calm, and relaxed, experiencing this paradoxical state of mind truly is why I've been born
Lovely analysis of finding what you feel makes you really live. Such a life-affirming process to discover your own creative process, for your projects and for how you engage with the world.
I have a question if anyone would be kind enough to indulge me. I like the idea of meditation, constantly bringing yourself back to your breath and learning how to notice every passing emotion so you don't carried away in it. But isn't that very thing the opposite of being in a flow state? Sometimes I like being lost in my own world, but meditation seems to seek to bring me out of it so I'm can no longer be in flow. Thoughts?
I don’t even think that’s possible for me I just see life as one big problem or an unnecessary hassle
Think about the feeling you get right after finishing the unwanted tasks in your life, or the feeling you get when you realize something wasn’t as bad as you expected it to be, and try to fill your life with as many of those moments as possible.
@@rileyjordan8114 that’s stupid that’s like a drug just a way to feel good then feel bad right after
all things I like I'm too shy to do when my parents are close :(
The most liked comment.
Mon ami you came just at the right time, I’ve been having some doubts about whether I enjoy the hobbies I have and how to balance them, this gives me a good staring point to find out what’s up, thanks mate.
Step 1. Dont overthink (basically be dumb)
“Content creator tells me to stop watching his videos”
Every expression of opinion is an attempt to add to the vast cultural body of human experience. In other words, anything you do is an attempt to change social instruction. We cannot be free of it.
Even flow, thoughts arrive like butterflies
He don't know, so he chases them away
Pearl Jam?
@@joseureste8257 yes, these verses came to my mind
basically: get a hobby and don't overthink as much
holy heck i am early
"Pleasure for one involves little regard for what we want to do. Dangerously it masks itself under the disguise of liberation."
Had to pause to think about this, your completely right never thought of it that way. Horrifying that a lot of people seek it as a main goal
i see you really like the philosophy of flow!
i think this is the 3rd or 4th vid in which you talk about it haha
Yes, good activities don't need to be justified by anything.
jokes on you I'm already happy
It's all fun and games until you get into a flow looking into the Israel-palestine colonialism...
Someone was told to make a video longer than 10 minutes, so he reads as slowly as he can.
nah if i talk too fast i trip over my words. i really need to work on my narration tho lol. The longer than 10 mins rule for monetization was amended early last year btw
@@Sisyphus55 I haven't noticed problems before, but ok.
happinsss is overrated.
stop talking about videogames like there is no other distructive things to do. its so cliche
It gets the point across and is widely relatable
Be right, be yourself, and don't give a f*ck.
If you enjoy "wasting time" then is it really wasted?
You can definitely see it as lost looking back, but not at the moment.
Goku from dragon ball is the one who first showed me flow.
Thank you for validating my addiction to competitive video games lol
Get a job
.. gg
@@joemon7463My job is developing games lmao
@@Wolf-px9jx oi noice!
This was really good. Such a useful perspective to have about how we may want to use our time.
(Mind you, this is including the negatives. I'm not advocating for anyone to neglect their responsibilities or, worse, fall to idolatry. 1 John 2: 15-17.)
Sisyphus 55: *lumps video games in with other mindless activities*
Also Sisyphus 55: "To achieve a flow state and actually be happy, you. . . " *proceeds to describe some of the things video games do best*
Flow sounds like one way to have fun just like TV and nothing is ultimately pointfull anyway. And tv isn't memorably fun (always) but it is fun.
Playing devil's advocate
The difference is that TV doesn’t necessarily engage your brain in a way that challenges you. Watch the video again. A flow state activity will challenge you to a reasonable level. Something slightly harder than what you could do in autopilot. Challenges like these create situations that are rewarding, not just pleasurable. Watching TV can be pleasurable, watching a really good movie is one of my favorite things to do, but there is no reward for having challenged yourself. As for your question, what difference does it make, your brain gets more from rewards from challenges than it does from simple pleasure. That’s why people work hard at things that don’t necessarily contribute to their survival or prosperity, after hiking a mountain seemingly there is no tangible reward, but the reward is internal, having overcome an obstacle, you have a feeling that you did something worthwhile.
Free time isnt happiness, its part of happiness. Happiness stems from a balance between honest living, working, and personal enjoyment.
watched this in 1.25 speed hehe - adhd struggle i guess ? anwyas amazing channel ! keep going
We are all hedonists who learn that short term pleasure can lead to long term suffering
It feels good to be in a creative flow, and because it is creative work it can feel very meaningful and fulfilling, but I also want to make memories and savor time. Flow is too effortless and time goes by too fast. I enjoy the memorableness of surprises and discontinuities. I think engagement and feeling alive but also having more metacognition and being in a more learning and novelty remembering mode is what I prefer to flow.
Video games basically hit most of these criteria...especially bosses in souls games
People in comments are like do this, do that. I am here like oh so it’s that easy really. U do it then tell me
If I fucking want a loving girl to look a certain way and be my wife but can't have her then I'll never be happy. Simple as that.
i am a student and i live with my (strict) parents. i wake up and eat and shower and use my phone and go to sleep. i am 23. i feel happy by reading books and watching movies and series.
I really needed this video, thanks!
damn that first part really hit me the way i needed
so blue lock is real
Me bruh when I'm at a place where I should be enjoying myself but I'm not in the moment, so I get sad that I'm not in the moment lol I dunno what to do.
what if you jsut didn't exist 👀👀
I wouldn't have replied to your comment.
Hi Sisyphus55 I owe you a thank you, it’s Valentine’s Day. I’ve watched your videos for years and I think I’ve never skipped one when It comes on, always feel better after and think about my life. You have helped me feel like a better person or at least understand I have the tools to get there, thank you ❤️
Go with the flow?
Operation doomsday
Hey, it's that thing from "Soul" (2020)!
The hockey analogy was very Canadian of you haha. Loved the video!
Sounds like I need to golf more. Wait I already knew that!
You cut the clip too short, my man. He was about to go further into detail
If you are getting enough good sex you don’t have to worry about this stuff.
Yo the link the description is not working @Sisyphus 55
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Pizza, Cola, Burgir
@@OoOoOo-we3dn pitzah... cola...
@Posadist I love your pfp! Such a cute cat! Also, yes, burgir
@@humbug-ce9me Burgir
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I'm tired
bravo!!!!
This video couldn't have come for me at a better time. Ty
Aren't (video) games at the core crafted 'flow' experiences? Besides all other enticing and addictive thing put on top of the cake, like stories, skinner's box RNG mechanics...
My kitten is watching this with me and looks like she is interested :o
Bro your voice might be the most depressing thing about you
I wanted to feel motivated by this video but your voice is depressing me man
Please cheer up bro life is good 👍
Not everyone needs to fake happiness, it could just be his natural speaking voice
@@voreincorporated3056 no he's doing this knowingly to piss me off
I do this thing where I say words that I relate to happiness, like I’ll say happy birthday randomly, does that have a name?
The harder you try to it, the harder it gets to be happy.
Have you read the semiotics of happiness ?
If you live your life with the mindset that this moment of your life is the best you'll ever have and not expect the future to grant you more, then you may get to experience a feeling of consciousness of your surrounding and of the present. I call it，”as good as it gets".
It is however inherently a bad mindset because this focuses on the principle that the future will be worse than the present which is untrue, because we can not know. In other ways believing the future will be good or bad is a fallacy, as you can not know. But through this mindset I manage to live horrible moments of my life believing that things can only get worse from now, which in many ways lets me find the positives of my experience.
Just remember, You are solely responsible for your own happiness and meaning.
However I must inform the readers that I do not believe living one's whole life with this mentality, but rather be an intermediary until you can get in a spot of your life where you are actively "living it".
What if your hobbies are like not games... Like maybe you are interested in philosophy, political science, psychology etc etc. How to turn those things into hobbies or games?
It's very interesting how similar flow psychology is to taoist philosophy. These are ideas that have existed for millennia but now it's backed by science.
This guy would love Rhythm games
I can't be happy, only content.
But what does actually Sisyphus and the rest of you think we should live life like? I for one am struggling to be less affected by emotions since I have a strong case of the anxieties and existential dreads . Yikes
which microphone are you using?