Clearly, she was a piece of trash for having left a newborn in a Salvation Army parking lot alone where he could’ve been eaten by a wild animal or died of exposure.
@@ranganathanl8167 yeah, it happens. Probably left before she got a chance to tell him. I know a woman who was adopted and their biological father never knew that she existed. Birth mom, had her in 1990 and the father left the area where she was stationed. I didn't really go into detail with her about it, but her birth father didn't know she existed until a 23andme dna test
I admit his biological mother’s reaction does not surprised me. She left him in a box when he was just an infant. She clearly does not want him in her life.
YOU MAKE NO SENSE, BECAUSE THE FATHER LEFT THE MOTHER RIGHT AFTER HE HAD SEX SO THAT WOULD OBVIOUSLY MEAN THAT HE NOT ONLY ABANDONED THE CHILD BUT HER ALSO , AND A LOVING MAN WOULD MARRY A WOMEN AND CARE FOR HIS FAMILY KNOWING HE HAD SEX WITH HER AND STUCK AROUND
The Not right to sabatage you're a fucking idiot that's what a one night stand is sex without responsibility he didn't know she would get pregnant she should have told him to use a condom or be on birth control if she wanted to have casual sex he had no responsibility to marry her
+michmt YEAH BUT NEITHER WORE ONE , SO THE FATHER IS THEN RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS CHOICE TO NOT HELP HIS CHILD OR AT LEAST FIND OUT IF THE MOTHER GAVE BIRTH
+michmt NEITHER PARENT WORE A CONDOM , WE ALREADY ESTABLISHED THAT THEY HAD A SON, SO THEN THE FATHER SHOULD OF FOUND OUT IF THE MOTHER GAVE BIRTH TO HIS SON THEN, AND I HAVE NO RESPONSIBILITY WITH A SON BECAUSE I NEVER BIRTHED A SON, AND YOU ARE MAKING EXCUSES FOR THE FATHER DUHHHH SO IT COULD LOOK LIKE IT IS THE MOTHERS FAULT, THIS ONLY PROVES WHAT I HAVE BEEN POSTING ALL ALONG ON HERE, THAT YOU PEOPLE ARE PRETENDING THAT YOU CARE FOR THE SON, BUT REALLY DON'T CARE AT ALL
well, she is not his mother... she relinquished that right when she abandoned him... I dont know why people are so judgy, it was pretty clear tht she didnt want anything to do with him from the very beginning and has no obligation to be in his life, i probably would have had an abortion had i been in her place so at least she was mentally strong enough to carry the pregnancy of an unwanted child to term, pregnancies are not short they last almost a year, 9 months carrying an unwanted pregnancy must be a pretty traumatic event
Abortions weren't as socially acceptable in the 80s as they are now...and she may have not had the means to have an abortion, or she may have found out she was pregnant when it was already too late for her to have an abortion (you never know - some women only find out they're pregnant when they're giving birth!). In terms of judgment - I believe you are responsible for any baby you give birth to, unless you go through a formal method of adoption. Since this woman took such a lazy and easy way out (leaving her son in a box!), I feel she still shoulders a lot of responsibility for the son. If she had done the right thing and found him a healthy foster family through the legal system, I wouldn't have any issue with her.
If I ever left a baby in front of Goodwill, it'd haunt me for the rest of my life. And if that baby called me all those years later, essentially saying that they forgave me and wanted a relationship, I would thank God for that opportunity of redemption.
Good for you, what if your spouse would be abusive, and you would be scared to death for yourspouse to find out..or what if you had been raped and hated the child inside of you and just wanted to get rid of it???? ABORTION was invented to help motherless children to not have to be born!!! Here you see what happens when motherless children ARE allowed to be born: they go look for their birth mother!!! So, if you can't keep your baby, ABORT IT!!!
@@mrsTraveller64 oh shut up! Abortion was legal and if your spouse is abusive even in the 80’s there was help to get out and I KNOW that because my mother took that help. Y’all evil witches basically don’t give a $hit about the true innocents which is what that newborn baby was. She could have left him at a hospital, she has been give plenty of grace because if it were me, I would demand answers or let her name be known to the world. FOH with your apologies for a simple evil criminal.
What a stand up man Ben is. His biological mother’s loss. There is something severely wrong with that woman. So happy to see he has a great relationship with his Dad!
It wouldn't be unlikely that she has a family now, and having a one night stand baby that she abandoned in the street would've probably ruined anything that she has. Still a horrible person though.
Jen Logan the mother isn't as cold as she sounds. At least she knew she couldn't raise him and decided to leave him to other people tjan abuse him like many single parents.
Charlie gruchy I have no problem with a person giving up a child for adoption. But how do you leave a baby in an alley. At least put it in front of somebody’s door or drop it off at an adoption agency. He could’ve died if no one found him.
His dad told him he was adopted on his birthday! There's 364 better days to tell him than that. HAPPY BIRTHDAY....your adopted. I hope it wasn't written on his birthday cake.
@@sovereignrightbeautiful1960 I was adopted by two of the greatest people you could know. I never feel a need to hunt biological out. The way I look at it, they had their reasons for letting me go. And I'm grateful for their decision.
Ben, that woman proved who she was when she left you in a frigging box on the road! She may or may not be your biological mom! But you know what?! Highest honour and praise be to the woman who you were raised to call mom - for her motherly compassion and care that ultimately saw you become the man that you are today! Very pleased that the 'ol man accepted you with love. Loving him back I'm sure you are! Heck! you look a lot like him!!!
We still want to know why the person who should makes us an adult with éducation and love, just left us without any care … i know im not alone and i know how much it hurts , the life pass by and i still cant understand
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I hate to say it but, if I was left near a dumpster next to a Salvation Army, I’d know I was never wanted. That horrible woman almost killed a baby to be selfishly anonymous.
@@sammydeol4459 According to the Dad. It's probably unlikely, but can't be ruled out with only one side of the story. There likely was a dark reason she left a baby to die in a box on the street.
Ben, I hope you always remember that "her" behavior towards you is NOT a reflection of your worth!! You're an amazing, loved and valuable person!! Never let her shameful actions cause you to ever question that!
You're absolutely right, but I can tell you for a fact that it does effect him like that one some level. That's why he was looking for her. She really had an opportunity to redeem herself too.
I grew up 20 minutes away from my biological father without ever knowing. Sadly he passed before I learned who he was. CeCe Moore is amazing and helps so many adoptees. Glad that some have a positive outcome.
Either that woman is cold, is keeping it a secret, or feels his life might be in danger if it gets out. At least she told him to be happy with his new family, and I'm glad he is. He deserves happiness.
You know....I understand that she might have built a life for herself and buried this secret.... But the VERY LEAST she could've done was say "I'm so sorry... I'm just not in a place where I can meet you, my family doesn't know and I need to keep it that way." She made him feel like an unwanted, unloved mistake. That is horrible. Being a mother I dunno how anyone could give birth to a child and just pretend they never existed. And then treat them that way. It's awful. I hope he will get through this eventually.
I think it was a mistake to show up unannounced. She + her sister had no time to sift through all the emotions that would have come up immediately. If it was set up more compassionately, it could have had a different outcome.
Ashley Poper That same piece of trash who treated a baby like trash most likely is a miserable mess. This man is better off not knowing his trashy real mom. She left him in a box next to a dumpster! Unbelievable and dispicable action.
Sad that his biological mother rejected him once again especially after all those years...i guess he's very lucky that she left him in a box to be found and not thrown out in the garbage like so many other young women have done because of unwanted pregnancies.
Me Myself my twin brother and I were adopted very young out of a bad situation and I have no desire to have a relationship with my biological parents. I have no desire to look for someone that was a horrible enough person to her children that they were taken away.
G Ks we do now. Our adoptive parents were decent. (Better then our parents at least). Kyle and I are the best of friends though. We are both married and have kids of our own and live a few houses down from each other. So things worked out. We both did receive emails from a lawyer claiming our birth mom wanted to see us. We both decided not to see her.
I think it's terrible. Ben abandoned the only father he knew for the guy who knocked up his bio mom. Both of his bio parents just had sex and got pregnant.
xredd rosesx I’m guessing the lady who abandoned him must’ve either been not ready to have children or didn’t want children and left him and still has guilt over the years about abandoning her own
People have a right to say no to parenthood, but I will admit the lady should have done it in a more compassionate way. Not leaving the baby near a dumpster out at night for example.
I would have to give her credit for abandoning him (but not the way she did it), because she would have had raised him horribly. Good to know that he was surrounded by wonderfull mom and dad and found an honorable father. Thank you for your service to our country kid. You have a loyal friends in me. Semper fi
Regina Polo yes, it's a good thing he was probably raised by people who allowed him to become whitewashed or brainwashed into devoting himself to protecting imperialist oil interests in the Middle East like a mindless drone, so he could repeat the same mottos and platitudes his biological father had before him, without really understanding a single word. Mazel tov
The Not right to sabatage The lady literally left him after the first date. How the hell was he supposed to know he was even having a kid if he never saw her? So it's not the Father's fault for what has happened,he is a great man, and im guessing he would've kept his son if he knew
The Not right to sabatage LOL you sound like an idiot how was the father supposed to be there for someone he didn't know existed?? pay attention dumbass!
not just rejected, she literally left him out to die in the cold, inside a box. I'm surprised she wasn't charged with attempted filicide and sentenced to prison. That father is a true marine, immediately welcoming, he knows its his responsibility as a father.
Mbuyoti Mwangala Thank you so much for showing emphathy for that man and talking clear about his mother ! I can imagine myself very well, how he must feel. 👍 👍👍...💚💛💜
The different reactions he got from his two parents reflect the difference in Social expectations at that time. The men are always proud to find a child they had fathered it's almost a sign of their virility. Whereas an unwanted pregnancy for the mother was a terrible stigma and she became labeled a loose woman
Please. I was alive in 1986. It was NOT the same as in 1906. Everyone did everything back then. Partying as big, society didn’t give a damn about someone’s marital status.
Excellent response. That is very true and it is still true today. The bio Dad didn't have the "burden" of a child and we don't really know how he would have reacted.
regardless of the mother's personal life, she couldve, at least, apologized. he didnt deserve to be shunned like that. hopefully ben looks on the bright side and is happy with a father who decided to welcome him with open arms.
It is never advisable to contact a biological parent for the first time in a confrontational manner. I don't mean his demeanor - he is the typical polite, apologizing adoptee like most of us. But never contact them at their place of business, and always first ask if now is a good time to talk, are you able to talk right now, are they alone, etc. etc. I'll never forget that first call to my biological mother, heart in throat. Once she realized who I was, she cried and cried before talking to me for well over an hour. However, we know it can go either way. There are resources out there for adoptees advising on how to approach first contact and reunion.
The bio mother is embarrassed. She isn't going to apologize. I wonder if she actually knew that the baby lived. She did a bad thing. It is very possible that bringing him into her life would make things worse.
It's amazing he can have a life with his biological father now. He lives like the next town over so they'll have plenty of time to catch up. And I'm happy he already had a happy, loving family before all this. Now it's even bigger.
What is amazing about it? Ben found his bio-father. How do you think his adoptive father feels? Kind of like being left in a box outside in the cold? The good Dad wasn't good enough for Ben. This guy is selfish.
a teenager in Dayton Ohio did that very thing. She was pregnant, gave birth in her bathroom, placed the baby in the garbage can and never told her parents. I don't know how the parents couldn't tell their daughter was pregnant. A friend of the baby mother informed the police and they found the baby, dead in the family garbage. The baby had suffocated so she was alive when she was born. That is murder. This girl did go to jail but a lot of people campaigned for her to get out. What I found really sad along with the death of the infant was the fact that this young girl could not go to her parents when she really needed them. How sad is that? I don't think women have to worry about "shame" anymore. Give the baby up for adoption. There are people who can't have kids who would jump at that chance. There is no shame is allowing someone else to adopt your child if you aren't capable of being a good parent.
An old friend of mine was given up/abandoned at birth, at 18 years he confronted his birth mother, she basically didn't want anything to do with him, her words were " I abandoned you the first day, what makes you think I would want you now". Those were the hardest words I have ever listened to in my lifetime, several months later he committed suicide. His birth mother showed up to his funeral, she was scolded and asked to leave during mid funeral mass. His adopted parents did not like her at all, in fact neither of the people there did.
She said that she's not a mean person but has a conscious, also mentioned that she has a right to be there because that was her son. It was at that point where it escalated. It was sad, really was, the service after that point wasn't the same. Rather than mourning almost everyone had anger and frustration towards her afterwards.
Yes that is true. A child should know. There are loving ways to do it and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Someone really wanted you if they are willing to adopt you.
A mother whom abandoned you in a box out of nowhere is not deserving of love or his love. I’m glad he had a loving family and found his biological father that was so accepting to bring him in.
FA4 still horrible for her to leave the child alone to die. Could have at least dropped him off somewhere safe in someone’s hands and just claimed it wasn’t hers. Lmao idk people in this world amirite?
How would you like to get a call like that, out of the blue? I wouldn't. I would panic if that were me. What she did wrong was leave Ben outside where he might have died. Do you not see how desperate this woman was? Ben should have used an intermediary. He should have allowed his bio mother the choice to talk to him but he didn't. What did he do? He hired that DNA woman and took ABC news with him. How horrible.
He may not have gotten the answers he wanted from his bio mother, but he found a loving family who welcomed him with open arms! His father is an amazing man! How sad the adopted dad felt the need to tell him at a fragile age. Puberty is hard enough for kids to deal with! Like many others stated here, that was something he should have been told early on or not until he was grown.
It's strange knowing that the mother who carried him for possibly 9 months didn't want anything to do with him but the man who didn't know his son existed welcomed Ben with open arms. The mom clearly had her reasons, getting pregnant by a man she didn't know and afraid of the punishments for abandoning her child but I guess all of us were disappointed that she could not give Ben the closure he was hoping for. Life isn't perfect but at least it has it's perks (Ben's loving adoptive family and a very welcoming father)
xarchanx That’s probably because the father doesn’t feel as much guilt knowing that he didn’t know he had a son begin with. If he would of known from the beginning things would’ve probably been different.
@@bellasmom2597 laughable, who's the one who has a relationship with this man now ? His father not his mother . His mother should be sent to prison for what she did
This was purely heart-wrenching to watch and see this poor man be rejected again, now in his adult life. May God bless you and give you strength and continuous love to you and to your family.
God bless you Ben. You are an amazing human being. God loves you, your father and brothers love you and I truly feel your birth mother loves you but for whatever reason she cannot face you. That is no reason for you to discount how valuable you are as a man and a son. I wish you all the best and may God continue to shine His love and light on you.
I was abandoned by my mum and had a terrible childhood being molested by my grandfather; My mum would appear every 4 years with a new child (which she kept and raised) but after I met my loving and sweet husband who she thought has money she appeared telling me she's and will always be my mum, always asking for financial help and asking for more every time I have helped her so I can say if this guy's mum is anything like mine he's better off without her.
I meant. dont even let her eat your food. she should bring the damn food . dont give her a penny. give her another chance but let her know dinner's on her and that you could use a little extra money for yoga classes or whatnot
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope now, with your spouse and others you’re close with today, that you’re able to feel safe and loved. It’s not easy to tell stories like this, so thank you for sharing your experience with us and providing your insight.
This happened to me. I was 30 years old. I called my birth mother and she acknowledged I was her birth daughter but then blocked me from contacting her. It was a hard pill to swallow because you have so many questions, you wonder throughout your life what it would be like to meet her, wonder if she is fabulous person or if you have siblings...and to be left with questions and rejections can leave you feeling despaired if you let it. I learned to accept it how it was and not let it hurt my feelings. God bless him.
i know this is easy to say but we still cant fully judge the mother no matter how harsh she may have rejected her son. we dont know what kind of life she went through to get to that point. we dont know what exactly happened that lead her to that decision of abandonment. all we can do is be happy for the son and that he can at least move on from being rejected twice.
denise331 this is a cold and callous statement, I was adopted and given up at birth. Are you saying I didn’t deserve to have a life. I didn’t deserve to be born! It’s a little more complicated than your statement!
Joi Stevens all I said was it made me sad. I’m not sure what I said that was insensitive. I said it made me cry to see his mother’s rejection. My brother is adopted. Your accusations & calling me a bitch has me puzzled. Are u sure you replied to the correct person? (Sorry you didn’t say bitch) but could you let me know how what I said was offensive because I certainly don’t feel the way you insinuated.
God, thank you for giving Ben’s dad a loving heart and spirit. Please help Ben heal from the rejection of the family that would not accept him. It will always be their great loss.
They search because they want to know they weren't really abandon out of choice but out some worst reason. They want to know they were loved even from afar. My heart really does break for him but in glad he found his father and some connection to himself.
IF THE FATHER IS SO GREAT THEN WHY DID THE SON SEARCH FOR HIS FATHER, AND MOST CHILDREN ARE TAKEN FROM THE MOTHER AND PLACED IN A WICKED FOSTER HOME JUST LIKE I WAS
May be the mother never told the father because it was a one night stand. They parted ways after that night and had no way to contact each other. Or the mother did not want to bother.
+The Not right to sabotage...I just wanted to say that I am so sorry you suffered abuse as a child. Please don't give any more power to those that hurt you in the past by allowing them to fill you with anger, bitterness, or hatred in the present. Your life will improve when you show love to others and it will help to heal your heart.
Rejection is never easy to take especially from a parent, thank god you have your dad to take a bit of that burden off you. Well done great courage man.
As sad as this story ends, it's very bitter sweet, she more than likely has guilt by the way she left him, she could of been more than alone and scared, and having no one to turn to. Did a very desperate act, which has happen over and over all over the world. He is loved not only by his Mother and Father, but also by the man that never knew he was alive, and now has found brothers. It's when you look at what was found, and your family has grown 3 fold over night. It that blessing is what you focus on.
👏Thank u! It's really easy for ppl to criticize & judge when standing on the way, way outside. Nobody knows anything about this story outside of what's being presented by the show. But somehow ppl can sum the man's life, the bio mom's life, the bio dads life (obvi incl.his glorious military career) all up after watching this small piece. 😰
In my opinion, a mother is someone raise her child no matter in what situation. My mother (my dad was killed at 40 yo during the war) had 8 children and we were very very very dirt poor. We lived in a country that had the war for over 30 years before I came to the US. She did not give up any of us. We never had any toy, birthday, and barely enough foods to eat. We never had any good shoe to wear or decent clothes for school. BUT we were all together. We all now have a decent job (am a Registered Nurse in New Port Beach California, in an acute care, large Presbyterian hospital). So, I think being poor is never a reason to abandon your child, and especially in a situation like this, in a very cold weather as such. Ben, maybe you should not reach out to this lady anymore. Let's go on with your life. You have a beautiful family of your own and loving adopted parents. Thank you for this video and take care your self, Ben.
My mom's birth female left when my mother was two, my mom's mom and my grandma raised my mother, her sister, and her two sons from her first marriage since my mom was three.
How terrible that this women did not accept her child. How cruel and another blow to this amazing man, but the blessing is that he found his loving father. How ironic that the man that never knew he had a son embraced his son, but the woman that gave him life, denied him.
I wonder which part she couldnt accept. The part where she had a child out of wedlock after a one night stand, or the part where she left an innocent baby to die on the side of the road.
@@koolaidman6251 No offense but leaving an infant by the side of the road and thrown out like trash probably indicated she intended for the baby to die. Nothing about her actions were redeeming or defensible.
She was desperate. That is no excuse but look what Ben did. He ran to the TV camera and told his story there. This woman's life would probably be destroyed. I am sure her family does not know about the baby.
@@dianepowers9514 All Ben did was call her though, they never showed her face or revealed her name. I’m sure she could’ve asked to stay anonymous and at least given Ben the closure he wanted through that one phone call.
@Jamie Leech This guy Ben thought he was entitled to find the birth mother. Yes he found her and look what happened. No one won. It is extremely possible that the larger family does not know and we do NOT know who called him back.
He looks so much like his father especially his dad's younger self as a soldier. Heartbreaking that the woman on the other line...gosh my heart goes out to him.
I know exactly how he felt as I myself was abandoned in a cardboard shoe box when I was only 6 days old outside a hospital in London England I have never known my parents and it does have an affect on you.Even though so long ago.As I have 2 grown up daughters now.Yet it always hurt me knowing they never knew there grandparents especially at birthdays or Christmas.I was not so lucky I never got adopted I was put in a children's home and the less said about it the better because of the abuse I suffered from the age of 3 until I was 15 years old.But I am a survivor and not a victim and my daughter's mean the world to me.So if anyone who is reading this has the same sort of background to me please remember it's not your fault that you are very beautiful and strong.Always hold on strong to the love of truth and the truth of love as this will pave your way to a very positive present and future.I never had any counselling I did it all myself by writing down exactly how I felt.Until I did not fear anyone anymore I never gave in with the abuse that I got and it was horrendous but I beat it and have emerged to be a winner a survivor and as I said not a victim.So remember no what your circumstances you are all beautiful and unique in your own way.This is to everyone living in this world no matter what you have to face.Remember your strong beautiful and always positive in all that you do God bless everyone and the ones who will read this comment.
My heart breaks for Ben in trying to find a connection with his birth mother, however, i am elated that he was truly embraced by his birth father. What a tremendous gift and blessing for Ben and to have also been embraced by his brothers. Class acts. How unfortunate for the female line. They are missing out on having a relationship with a wonderful man. Their tremendous loss.
Cold, heartless, birth mother, then and now. You don’t leave your baby in a box to die. It is a miracle the youngsters found him before hypothermia set in.
YOU TALK ABOUT THE MOTHER, SO ANY DECENT LAWYER OR JUDGE WOULD SEE YOU ARE BIAS, BECAUSE EVERYONE HAS A FATHER, AND THAT IS A MANS RESPONSIBILITY TO FIND OUT IF HE HAD A CHILD AND WHETHER YOU WANT TO SAY SOMETHING ABOUT A DNA OR NOT , THE FACT IS THAT EVERY CHILD HAS A FATHER AND THAT IS A CRIME FOR THE BIOLOGICAL FATHER NOT TO FIND OUT IF HE IMPREGNATED A WOMEN DUH
Stephanie Merritt ... you misunderstood what I said. If your biological mother would have kept you and not wanted you then you could have had a shitty life. So good thing you were adopted
Geez, that was intense... My heart aches for him and I feel like yelling at his biological mother. I'm just glad though that he is loved by the man who raised him and he is moving on the best he can with such a letdown.
If I were left outside for somebody to find me or not, I wouldn’t want anything to do with that woman the father seems great I’m glad he connected with his father!
She has to answer to God some day about how she treated her amazing son in this lifetime. She will be held accountable by God for her child neglect, abandonment and abuse towards him. Truly his family is Christians all over the world. At least he reunited with his dad 👍. Hopefully he will meet the people who were teen-agers at the time who found him.
I nearly cried watching this. We cannot judge this woman. Only God knows what her issues are. I did hope for him that she would at least get meet him and answer questions. Even if she said, I can only see you once and no more. Every person should be entitled to that. Maybe that's why God put him in better hands. My heart goes out to him. I'm so happy that his father and brothers embraced him. Bless them all forever!💋❤
The least the mother could do, was to meet her biological son. To make him feel better, but also tell him she doesn't want anything to do with him. So that he at least saw her once, in his lifetime. He spend years to look for her, and she just straight up rejected him like that, is just cruel.
I have a feeling she had a one night stand with a guy at a bar and probably cheated on her husband or boyfriend at the time and got rid of the baby because the guy would know she cheated. She most likely didn't meet with him because if her family found out they would know what she did. My guess there could be a million reasons why.
Shisui San a lot of women are able to hide it idk how but they do even teenage girls that are scared of their parents finding out they are pregnant somehow hide the baby tell birth. Some even deliver the baby themselves.
Thank you for sharing your story, and for your service. So brave to go out to find your biological parents, and for being brave enough to shoulder your mother's ignorance at not opening her heart and life to you, and possibly her biggest regret on her deathbed. May you make wonderful , and happy new memories with your birth father, who is obviously overjoyed to have gained another son who he is so proud of. God bless xx
@@MegaBumblebee666 If she did raise another family and they decide to do the same DNA testing, they'll find out. She seems like a prize. Glad he found his biological dad.
I DONT HAVE A SON, BUT I DO HAVE A DAUGHTER AND WOULD NEVER ABANDON HER AND HER OWN FATHER IS NOT MADE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT, AND WHEN MY DAUGHTERS FATHER SPLIT , I WAS RESPONSIBLE AND CONTACTED THE STATE SO HE CAN PAY CHILD SUPPORT, SO IF THEY TRY TO SAY THIS WOMEN SPLIT THEN WHY DIDN'T THE FATHER DO ANY KIND OF REACHING OUT TO SOME PEOPLE THAT COULD HELP HIM SEE IF HE GOT THIS WOMEN PREGNANT, THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR A FATHER WHO DOES NOT MAKE ANY KIND OF EFFORT TO SEE IF HE IMPREGNATED THE MOTHER
I DONT HAVE A SON, BUT I DO HAVE A DAUGHTER AND WOULD NEVER ABANDON HER AND HER OWN FATHER IS NOT MADE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT, AND WHEN MY DAUGHTERS FATHER SPLIT , I WAS RESPONSIBLE AND CONTACTED THE STATE SO HE CAN PAY CHILD SUPPORT, SO IF THEY TRY TO SAY THIS WOMEN SPLIT THEN WHY DIDN'T THE FATHER DO ANY KIND OF REACHING OUT TO SOME PEOPLE THAT COULD HELP HIM SEE IF HE GOT THIS WOMEN PREGNANT, THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR A FATHER WHO DOES NOT MAKE ANY KIND OF EFFORT TO SEE IF HE IMPREGNATED THE MOTHER
Something similar happened in my family. It all started when my grandmother received an Ancestry DNA kit for Christmas a couple years ago. She was just excited to see if she really was part Italian. But then, she got multiple hits from relatives. She found out that her father had cheated on her mother and it resulted in a baby. When she contacted this man, he broke down because he said that since he bounced around in foster care his whole life, he never felt like he really belonged. My grandma and my dad were both ready to welcome him into our family, but my grandma’s siblings still resent him because he reminds them of their fathers wrongdoings. Sigh. My grandma also found some cousins because he uncle cheated on her aunt and had multiple children with multiple different women. Honestly there’s a lot of shitty guys in my family. And all the kids they had were given up so they were adopted/given up.
shart farter You should not tell anyone to kill them selves. You’re actually the dumb bitch you 8 yr old. Her rudeness bothers me too so shut the fuck up and mic up
yeah right , I was taken from my mother and she won't speak up, that all 5 of her children were taken and 3 of us went in a crooked foster home with a pedophile and he is a Vietnam Veteran and all 3 of the fathers dont pay child support, the foster father, my father or my daughters fathers and the foster family wife also helped and the gov targeted when I was a child, that is a crime duhhhhh
So glad he found his loving father and brothers. Sad about his birth mom. I wonder if she feared charges so many years later on child abandonment. Is there a statute of limitations? Her loss. He seems like a great guy. Kudos to his adoptive parents.
WHY WOULD HE HAVE TO FIND HIS FATHER, HIS FATHER WAS ALREADY SUPPOSE TO BE PAYING CHILD, THAT MAKES NO SENSE, THE FATHER WAS SUPPOSE TO BE AROUND FROM WHEN THE CHILD IS BORN TO PAY FOR HIS CHILD DUH
WHY WOULD SOMEONE HAVE TO FIND THEIR FATHER , WHEN THE FATHER SHOULD OF BEEN AROUND SINCE HIS BIRTH DUHH, THEN OBVIOUSLY THE FATHER NEGLECTED HIS SON DUH
The Not right to sabatage The biological father did not know his one night stand had resulted in a child. Mom chose not to tell him and abandoned the baby. I guess a good reason not to have one night stands with someone you can’t even remember their name years later.
+bobbyismine SO WHAT HE WAS CONCEIVED FROM A ONE NIGHT STAND, THE FACT THAT IT IS THAT EASY TO GET SOMEONE PREGNANT WITH A ONE NIGHT STAND GOES TO SHOW YOU EXACTLY WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT, THAT THE FATHER DID NOT STICK AROUND BECAUSE HE HAD SEX ONE TIME AND DID NOT STICK AROUND TO SEE IF HE GOT HER PREGNANT WOULD PROVE HE ABANDONED HIS ENTIRE FAMILY FIRST DUH ANY LAWYER WOULD SAY THAT
Tears of joy for you and your bio-father. I am adopted too. I recently found my bio-family. My bio-father passed awhile ago. His 2 sistershave welcomed me into the family. My bio- mother wants nothing to do with me as well.
Im sorry but anyone that can leave their newborn baby (unwanted or not ) in a cardboard box near a dumpster where anything could've got him she doesn't deserve this mans love ! She could so have easily left in with a note in a public building/hospital
Most states have "baby dropoff points" now to prevent this situation. Lots of times they are at fire stations because fire stations are occupied 24/7. A woman can drop off an infant and she will not be charged with a crime as long as she is the mother (you can't just drop off a random kid). This likely did not exist back then. Every kid should know this -- if you end up in a horrible situation, far along in a pregnancy with a baby you do not want (perhaps it's too late for abortion or perhaps you do not believe in abortion) you CAN drop that kid off and face no punishment.
He was better off not having that woman in his life.
Clearly, she was a piece of trash for having left a newborn in a Salvation Army parking lot alone where he could’ve been eaten by a wild animal or died of exposure.
@@wildchipmunk And in f*cking Alaska no less! What a bitch, I would have confronted her in the parking lot.
A sad excuse for a woman. Might not even be a woman.
We must forgive
Clearly that woman was a prostitute. Only in it for the sex
He's identical to his father when the father was young.
YTfancol At least he has a dad who loves him and lovely adopted parents.
Bella and the Twins Maybe Divine Providence
ιѕαвєllα тαlιαυlι thanks for the insight captain obvious.
Yes, amazing resemblance!
Did u see that. Twins
I'm glad his biological dad was so willing to accept him.
@Teela Tequila u think she wouldn't inform him when she was pregnant
@Teela Tequila Anyway he is good and but still he doesn't get the love of his real mother that's sad part 😭❤️
@Teela Tequila 😂😂😂 ok chill I think u r a women or girl . I can feels ur anger and good heart ❤️. I think u will be good mother ❤️🔥🔥🔥
@@ranganathanl8167 yeah, it happens. Probably left before she got a chance to tell him. I know a woman who was adopted and their biological father never knew that she existed. Birth mom, had her in 1990 and the father left the area where she was stationed. I didn't really go into detail with her about it, but her birth father didn't know she existed until a 23andme dna test
@@ranganathanl8167 his real mom is the mom who raised him. The "woman" who gave birth to him doesn't deserve to be called a mom.
At least his dad is a real one, much respect!
I admit his biological mother’s reaction does not surprised me. She left him in a box when he was just an infant. She clearly does not want him in her life.
YOU MAKE NO SENSE, BECAUSE THE FATHER LEFT THE MOTHER RIGHT AFTER HE HAD SEX SO THAT WOULD OBVIOUSLY MEAN THAT HE NOT ONLY ABANDONED THE CHILD BUT HER ALSO , AND A LOVING MAN WOULD MARRY A WOMEN AND CARE FOR HIS FAMILY KNOWING HE HAD SEX WITH HER AND STUCK AROUND
The Not right to sabatage you're a fucking idiot that's what a one night stand is sex without responsibility he didn't know she would get pregnant she should have told him to use a condom or be on birth control if she wanted to have casual sex he had no responsibility to marry her
or he could have used a condom protection goes both ways,
+michmt YEAH BUT NEITHER WORE ONE , SO THE FATHER IS THEN RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS CHOICE TO NOT HELP HIS CHILD OR AT LEAST FIND OUT IF THE MOTHER GAVE BIRTH
+michmt NEITHER PARENT WORE A CONDOM , WE ALREADY ESTABLISHED THAT THEY HAD A SON, SO THEN THE FATHER SHOULD OF FOUND OUT IF THE MOTHER GAVE BIRTH TO HIS SON THEN, AND I HAVE NO RESPONSIBILITY WITH A SON BECAUSE I NEVER BIRTHED A SON, AND YOU ARE MAKING EXCUSES FOR THE FATHER DUHHHH SO IT COULD LOOK LIKE IT IS THE MOTHERS FAULT, THIS ONLY PROVES WHAT I HAVE BEEN POSTING ALL ALONG ON HERE, THAT YOU PEOPLE ARE PRETENDING THAT YOU CARE FOR THE SON, BUT REALLY DON'T CARE AT ALL
Terrible mother! Glad the father accepted him when he found out that he existed.
Heather s 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Heather s I think it's pain.
well, she is not his mother... she relinquished that right when she abandoned him... I dont know why people are so judgy, it was pretty clear tht she didnt want anything to do with him from the very beginning and has no obligation to be in his life, i probably would have had an abortion had i been in her place so at least she was mentally strong enough to carry the pregnancy of an unwanted child to term, pregnancies are not short they last almost a year, 9 months carrying an unwanted pregnancy must be a pretty traumatic event
Abortions weren't as socially acceptable in the 80s as they are now...and she may have not had the means to have an abortion, or she may have found out she was pregnant when it was already too late for her to have an abortion (you never know - some women only find out they're pregnant when they're giving birth!).
In terms of judgment - I believe you are responsible for any baby you give birth to, unless you go through a formal method of adoption. Since this woman took such a lazy and easy way out (leaving her son in a box!), I feel she still shoulders a lot of responsibility for the son. If she had done the right thing and found him a healthy foster family through the legal system, I wouldn't have any issue with her.
Calling her a mom what a joke , you mean a heartless tramp is more like it, shes no mom
If I ever left a baby in front of Goodwill, it'd haunt me for the rest of my life. And if that baby called me all those years later, essentially saying that they forgave me and wanted a relationship, I would thank God for that opportunity of redemption.
Exactly. One would think they'd be on the ground counting their blessings. Not that scoundrel, though.
Good for you, what if your spouse would be abusive, and you would be scared to death for yourspouse to find out..or what if you had been raped and hated the child inside of you and just wanted to get rid of it???? ABORTION was invented to help motherless children to not have to be born!!! Here you see what happens when motherless children ARE allowed to be born: they go look for their birth mother!!! So, if you can't keep your baby, ABORT IT!!!
Some birthmothers can't process the great amount of shame they have deep in their bones.
@@mrsTraveller64 oh shut up! Abortion was legal and if your spouse is abusive even in the 80’s there was help to get out and I KNOW that because my mother took that help.
Y’all evil witches basically don’t give a $hit about the true innocents which is what that newborn baby was. She could have left him at a hospital, she has been give plenty of grace because if it were me, I would demand answers or let her name be known to the world. FOH with your apologies for a simple evil criminal.
Yeah because killing a baby in the womb because he or she won't have a mother will just solve it all huh?
What a stand up man Ben is. His biological mother’s loss. There is something severely wrong with that woman. So happy to see he has a great relationship with his Dad!
Damn cold hearted “mother”. So glad the father is open to creating a relationship.
Jen Logan she doesnt deserve the title of mother.
It wouldn't be unlikely that she has a family now, and having a one night stand baby that she abandoned in the street would've probably ruined anything that she has. Still a horrible person though.
Jen Logan the mother isn't as cold as she sounds. At least she knew she couldn't raise him and decided to leave him to other people tjan abuse him like many single parents.
Jen Logan so easy to judge the behavior of others
Charlie gruchy I have no problem with a person giving up a child for adoption. But how do you leave a baby in an alley. At least put it in front of somebody’s door or drop it off at an adoption agency. He could’ve died if no one found him.
His dad told him he was adopted on his birthday! There's 364 better days to tell him than that. HAPPY BIRTHDAY....your adopted. I hope it wasn't written on his birthday cake.
What about his adoptive mom and dad? Where is the respect for them?
I know he could have told him from the beginning.poor guy was probably in shock
Yeah I agree. And 11 years kid is too young for this heart breaking news. He should have told him when he was around 18 or so
He should’ve known he was adopted from the time he was young so it was always known he was special and chosen.
@@sovereignrightbeautiful1960 I was adopted by two of the greatest people you could know. I never feel a need to hunt biological out. The way I look at it, they had their reasons for letting me go. And I'm grateful for their decision.
Ben, that woman proved who she was when she left you in a frigging box on the road! She may or may not be your biological mom! But you know what?! Highest honour and praise be to the woman who you were raised to call mom - for her motherly compassion and care that ultimately saw you become the man that you are today!
Very pleased that the 'ol man accepted you with love. Loving him back I'm sure you are! Heck! you look a lot like him!!!
We always want what we can't have.
We still want to know why the person who should makes us an adult with éducation and love, just left us without any care … i know im not alone and i know how much it hurts , the life pass by and i still cant understand
He sounds and looks like a really nice guy to be honest
If he had been a multi millionaire, and she saw that on the TV. He'd been getting calls from dusk til dawn
Tyrfingr sad but yah. It's true. 😢😢😢. My heart is broken for this boy.
Yeah it’s 😢
Right, that's what I was thinking, then again how would she know he's not?
Made me think of Joe Dirt lol
Yerp
Should be looking for the teens that found you bro 👋😂
Omg yesss
Truth
Yeah for surw
Yasss
True
I’m glad his biological father is a great man. 🍻👍🏼
"Doing country stuff." Not even ABC knows what people do in Idaho. Lmao
ABC doesnt know anything outside the farmers market, let alone Idaho
Jar of Pickles Right! They’re like “what do they do In Idaho? No one knows! Let’s just say, country stuff”🤣
Grow potatoes or something right? No idea. I'm Canadian 😊
Thank you I was like wtf as I'm here in CDA I hate country music but I do like outdoors. Haha
Idaho is home to the first ski resort in North America. I live in it! Sun Valley! Beautiful place, we ski, we hike, we bike, we golf, we fish. We have lakes, mountains and rivers, we white water raft and much more! Idaho is the home of the Snake River and yes, our famous potatoes!
I hate to say it but, if I was left near a dumpster next to a Salvation Army, I’d know I was never wanted. That horrible woman almost killed a baby to be selfishly anonymous.
If I had a rape baby I'd want to kill it too honestly.
@@terenarosa4790 You can just have an abortion, you don't have to kill an actual baby for it.
@@terenarosa4790 I can see why
@@Kareragirl abortion is murder
@@sammydeol4459 According to the Dad. It's probably unlikely, but can't be ruled out with only one side of the story. There likely was a dark reason she left a baby to die in a box on the street.
Ben, I hope you always remember that "her" behavior towards you is NOT a reflection of your worth!! You're an amazing, loved and valuable person!! Never let her shameful actions cause you to ever question that!
A Google user I hope Ben reads this
@@freepickup4311 Thx, me too. And I hope anyone in a similar situation also knows this
You're absolutely right, but I can tell you for a fact that it does effect him like that one some level. That's why he was looking for her. She really had an opportunity to redeem herself too.
Yes. I think it would affect one's self-worth.
Anonymous
I totally agree and ad my name to that statement ! 👍👍👍...
I grew up 20 minutes away from my biological father without ever knowing. Sadly he passed before I learned who he was. CeCe Moore is amazing and helps so many adoptees. Glad that some have a positive outcome.
Either that woman is cold, is keeping it a secret, or feels his life might be in danger if it gets out. At least she told him to be happy with his new family, and I'm glad he is. He deserves happiness.
You know....I understand that she might have built a life for herself and buried this secret.... But the VERY LEAST she could've done was say "I'm so sorry... I'm just not in a place where I can meet you, my family doesn't know and I need to keep it that way." She made him feel like an unwanted, unloved mistake. That is horrible. Being a mother I dunno how anyone could give birth to a child and just pretend they never existed. And then treat them that way. It's awful. I hope he will get through this eventually.
I think it was a mistake to show up unannounced. She + her sister had no time to sift through all the emotions that would have come up immediately. If it was set up more compassionately, it could have had a different outcome.
Ashley Poper That same piece of trash who treated a baby like trash most likely is a miserable mess. This man is better off not knowing his trashy real mom. She left him in a box next to a dumpster! Unbelievable and dispicable action.
Ashley Poper the mother could be prosecuted for child endangerment and abandonment. Not sure what statute of limitations is.
She is a horrible human being and to have the mother say that is awful.
Sad that his biological mother rejected him once again especially after all those years...i guess he's very lucky that she left him in a box to be found and not thrown out in the garbage like so many other young women have done because of unwanted pregnancies.
lesson i've learned. if you were abandoned once don't run back to the same person, you can be abandoned twice.
Me Myself my twin brother and I were adopted very young out of a bad situation and I have no desire to have a relationship with my biological parents. I have no desire to look for someone that was a horrible enough person to her children that they were taken away.
@@AlessaM183 I am very sorry to hear that. I hope you and your brother have a great life ahead. God bless you
G Ks we do now. Our adoptive parents were decent. (Better then our parents at least). Kyle and I are the best of friends though. We are both married and have kids of our own and live a few houses down from each other. So things worked out. We both did receive emails from a lawyer claiming our birth mom wanted to see us. We both decided not to see her.
K K you should’ve went, just to let the emotions that I know you’ve buried in deep inside your heart out.
Sad
This man’s father is amazing! How lucky to find a second loving father.
I think it's terrible. Ben abandoned the only father he knew for the guy who knocked up his bio mom. Both of his bio parents just had sex and got pregnant.
@@dianepowers9514 Who asked women.
That's just sad and disgusting what type of human being rejects their own after 31 years
xredd rosesx I’m guessing the lady who abandoned him must’ve either been not ready to have children or didn’t want children and left him and still has guilt over the years about abandoning her own
The mother never wanted to be found.
She left him in a cardboard box outside of Goodwill. What do you think? She’s crazy.
People have a right to say no to parenthood, but I will admit the lady should have done it in a more compassionate way. Not leaving the baby near a dumpster out at night for example.
I would have to give her credit for abandoning him (but not the way she did it), because she would have had raised him horribly. Good to know that he was surrounded by wonderfull mom and dad and found an honorable father. Thank you for your service to our country kid. You have a loyal friends in me. Semper fi
Regina Polo yes, it's a good thing he was probably raised by people who allowed him to become whitewashed or brainwashed into devoting himself to protecting imperialist oil interests in the Middle East like a mindless drone, so he could repeat the same mottos and platitudes his biological father had before him, without really understanding a single word. Mazel tov
IF THE FATHER WAS SO HONORABLE THEN OBVIOUSLY HE WOULD OF BEEN THERE FOR HIS SON WHEN HIS SON WAS BORN
The Not right to sabatage
The lady literally left him after the first date. How the hell was he supposed to know he was even having a kid if he never saw her? So it's not the Father's fault for what has happened,he is a great man, and im guessing he would've kept his son if he knew
The Not right to sabatage THE FATHER DIDNT KNOW HE EXISTED
The Not right to sabatage LOL you sound like an idiot how was the father supposed to be there for someone he didn't know existed?? pay attention dumbass!
so heart breaking, how the mom totally rejected the son. 😭😭 thank goodness his father loves him.
not just rejected, she literally left him out to die in the cold, inside a box. I'm surprised she wasn't charged with attempted filicide and sentenced to prison. That father is a true marine, immediately welcoming, he knows its his responsibility as a father.
I know. That was so sad to watch. But it makes sense now that I think about it. She left him in a box on a street.
Mbuyoti Mwangala
Thank you so much for showing emphathy for that man and talking clear about his mother ! I can imagine myself very well, how he must feel. 👍 👍👍...💚💛💜
Ben KNEW he was left for dead and he still wanted to meet this woman. I think he needs analysis.
where the love for the woman he had sex with?
Honestly he's a big handsome guy. Got them looks from his dad.
The different reactions he got from his two parents reflect the difference in Social expectations at that time. The men are always proud to find a child they had fathered it's almost a sign of their virility. Whereas an unwanted pregnancy for the mother was a terrible stigma and she became labeled a loose woman
Please. I was alive in 1986. It was NOT the same as in 1906. Everyone did everything back then. Partying as big, society didn’t give a damn about someone’s marital status.
Excellent response. That is very true and it is still true today. The bio Dad didn't have the "burden" of a child and we don't really know how he would have reacted.
Wow he and his dad looks so much alike. But the mother broke my heart. Touching story.
regardless of the mother's personal life, she couldve, at least, apologized. he didnt deserve to be shunned like that. hopefully ben looks on the bright side and is happy with a father who decided to welcome him with open arms.
she would be in jail for attempted filicide just to stay anonymous
It is never advisable to contact a biological parent for the first time in a confrontational manner. I don't mean his demeanor - he is the typical polite, apologizing adoptee like most of us. But never contact them at their place of business, and always first ask if now is a good time to talk, are you able to talk right now, are they alone, etc. etc. I'll never forget that first call to my biological mother, heart in throat. Once she realized who I was, she cried and cried before talking to me for well over an hour. However, we know it can go either way. There are resources out there for adoptees advising on how to approach first contact and reunion.
@@mlr4524 Some great pointers I agree it is easy to catch someone at the wrong moment but as you say it is practically 50/50 as to how they react.
I agree, she and the father brought him to this world. At least the father has the beautiful mind here.
The bio mother is embarrassed. She isn't going to apologize. I wonder if she actually knew that the baby lived. She did a bad thing. It is very possible that bringing him into her life would make things worse.
It's amazing he can have a life with his biological father now. He lives like the next town over so they'll have plenty of time to catch up.
And I'm happy he already had a happy, loving family before all this. Now it's even bigger.
What is amazing about it? Ben found his bio-father. How do you think his adoptive father feels? Kind of like being left in a box outside in the cold? The good Dad wasn't good enough for Ben. This guy is selfish.
I can't believe a mother could do that no matter how often I hear stuff like this. Still, I'm glad he found his father and is happy.
a teenager in Dayton Ohio did that very thing. She was pregnant, gave birth in her bathroom, placed the baby in the garbage can and never told her parents. I don't know how the parents couldn't tell their daughter was pregnant. A friend of the baby mother informed the police and they found the baby, dead in the family garbage. The baby had suffocated so she was alive when she was born. That is murder. This girl did go to jail but a lot of people campaigned for her to get out. What I found really sad along with the death of the infant was the fact that this young girl could not go to her parents when she really needed them. How sad is that? I don't think women have to worry about "shame" anymore. Give the baby up for adoption. There are people who can't have kids who would jump at that chance. There is no shame is allowing someone else to adopt your child if you aren't capable of being a good parent.
I can’t believe the mother did not want to see him wow how cruel! I’d loved to have a son like this!
Susan Robertson They probably feel guilty
she left him in a box so theres the clue,
It’s not cruel... it was obviously a tough decision that she moved on from and wasn’t willing to dig it back up again.
Susan Robertson I think she was guilty of a band a him and that is why she didn’t want to meet him sad
Susan Robertson could he not sue her? She put his life at risk
An old friend of mine was given up/abandoned at birth, at 18 years he confronted his birth mother, she basically didn't want anything to do with him, her words were " I abandoned you the first day, what makes you think I would want you now". Those were the hardest words I have ever listened to in my lifetime, several months later he committed suicide. His birth mother showed up to his funeral, she was scolded and asked to leave during mid funeral mass. His adopted parents did not like her at all, in fact neither of the people there did.
Did the birth mother give any excuses, explanations for deciding to show up? Did you hear anything about her after the funeral mass?
She said that she's not a mean person but has a conscious, also mentioned that she has a right to be there because that was her son. It was at that point where it escalated. It was sad, really was, the service after that point wasn't the same. Rather than mourning almost everyone had anger and frustration towards her afterwards.
I'm sorry for the loss of your friend and you had to see that situation unfold.
That is such a tragic thing to happen...💔💔May your friend rest in eternal peace. 🙏🏽❤️😢😢 xxxx
crushing
You should tell a child they are adopted from day one and not suddenly tell them years later that will be devastating for anyone to handle
Yes that is true. A child should know. There are loving ways to do it and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Someone really wanted you if they are willing to adopt you.
A mother whom abandoned you in a box out of nowhere is not deserving of love or his love. I’m glad he had a loving family and found his biological father that was so accepting to bring him in.
Wow the mom didn't change since she dropped him off!
Perhaps she didn't want to damage her current relationship
FA4 still horrible for her to leave the child alone to die. Could have at least dropped him off somewhere safe in someone’s hands and just claimed it wasn’t hers. Lmao idk people in this world amirite?
@@trashvan True, there is no excuse for abandoning a newborn baby.
" Perhaps, she didn't want to disrupt the [ lies ] she has built."
That birth mom, though. That takes a heart made of ice to hang up on her own flesh and blood. Cold. The birth dad is amazing.
@lesterBonz the magic of DNA will unlock many hidden secrets
@lesterBonz b
How would you like to get a call like that, out of the blue? I wouldn't. I would panic if that were me. What she did wrong was leave Ben outside where he might have died. Do you not see how desperate this woman was? Ben should have used an intermediary. He should have allowed his bio mother the choice to talk to him but he didn't. What did he do? He hired that DNA woman and took ABC news with him. How horrible.
He may not have gotten the answers he wanted from his bio mother, but he found a loving family who welcomed him with open arms! His father is an amazing man! How sad the adopted dad felt the need to tell him at a fragile age. Puberty is hard enough for kids to deal with! Like many others stated here, that was something he should have been told early on or not until he was grown.
Is her lost he seems to be very nice
I love the the way his father opened his life for him
It's strange knowing that the mother who carried him for possibly 9 months didn't want anything to do with him but the man who didn't know his son existed welcomed Ben with open arms. The mom clearly had her reasons, getting pregnant by a man she didn't know and afraid of the punishments for abandoning her child but I guess all of us were disappointed that she could not give Ben the closure he was hoping for. Life isn't perfect but at least it has it's perks (Ben's loving adoptive family and a very welcoming father)
Maybe she was raped.
xarchanx
That’s probably because the father doesn’t feel as much guilt knowing that he didn’t know he had a son begin with. If he would of known from the beginning things would’ve probably been different.
@@bellasmom2597 Not impossible.
@@bellasmom2597 laughable, who's the one who has a relationship with this man now ? His father not his mother . His mother should be sent to prison for what she did
His dad carried him for years b4 his mom. Tbh The mom had it easy
He looks so much like his dad. His mother is a lost cause, but his dad is an amazing man. I am so happy for him!
This was purely heart-wrenching to watch and see this poor man be rejected again, now in his adult life. May God bless you and give you strength and continuous love to you and to your family.
God bless you Ben. You are an amazing human being. God loves you, your father and brothers love you and I truly feel your birth mother loves you but for whatever reason she cannot face you. That is no reason for you to discount how valuable you are as a man and a son. I wish you all the best and may God continue to shine His love and light on you.
I was abandoned by my mum and had a terrible childhood being molested by my grandfather; My mum would appear every 4 years with a new child (which she kept and raised) but after I met my loving and sweet husband who she thought has money she appeared telling me she's and will always be my mum, always asking for financial help and asking for more every time I have helped her so I can say if this guy's mum is anything like mine he's better off without her.
I don't think you should cut her off but don't give her a nickle. dont even let her war your good. she should bring the damn food.
I meant. dont even let her eat your food. she should bring the damn food . dont give her a penny. give her another chance but let her know dinner's on her and that you could use a little extra money for yoga classes or whatnot
Cut her off-- she doesn't deserve anything from.you! You are way better without ...god bless your wonderful husband
I’m so sorry that happened to you. I hope now, with your spouse and others you’re close with today, that you’re able to feel safe and loved. It’s not easy to tell stories like this, so thank you for sharing your experience with us and providing your insight.
Cutt her off
This happened to me. I was 30 years old. I called my birth mother and she acknowledged I was her birth daughter but then blocked me from contacting her. It was a hard pill to swallow because you have so many questions, you wonder throughout your life what it would be like to meet her, wonder if she is fabulous person or if you have siblings...and to be left with questions and rejections can leave you feeling despaired if you let it. I learned to accept it how it was and not let it hurt my feelings. God bless him.
May God bless you.
Good girl, hope u one day get as well as give alot of love in your life.
God bless you
Courage
God bless you, you are beautiful and strong
THERESA ANDRADE I’m so sorry this happened to you! Selfishness is the exact opposite of love! I hope you know you are loved!
That woman has a heart of stone, had she been a good person ,she could have given him up for adoption.
So very glad Ben found his birth-Dad, who was so welcoming.
That note from his dad....that hit me hard
Me too...😢❤️❤️❤️
Semper Fi baby!
3:16
He looks soooo like his father
Happy birthday
“You adopted”
Nice joke dad haha
Everyone’s face is str8
*Cries*
i know this is easy to say but we still cant fully judge the mother no matter how harsh she may have rejected her son. we dont know what kind of life she went through to get to that point. we dont know what exactly happened that lead her to that decision of abandonment. all we can do is be happy for the son and that he can at least move on from being rejected twice.
Seeing him react to his mother’s rejection made me cry!
denise331 this is a cold and callous statement, I was adopted and given up at birth. Are you saying I didn’t deserve to have a life. I didn’t deserve to be born! It’s a little more complicated than your statement!
Joi Stevens all I said was it made me sad. I’m not sure what I said that was insensitive. I said it made me cry to see his mother’s rejection. My brother is adopted. Your accusations & calling me a bitch has me puzzled. Are u sure you replied to the correct person?
(Sorry you didn’t say bitch) but could you let me know how what I said was offensive because I certainly don’t feel the way you insinuated.
She is not his mother. She delivered him. That's all. You are all too wrapped up in biology.
Stay close to your father.
Ben, so glad you found your biological father. May you and your family grow with many blessings of love.💛
God, thank you for giving Ben’s dad a loving heart and spirit. Please help Ben heal from the rejection of the family that would not accept him. It will always be their great loss.
They search because they want to know they weren't really abandon out of choice but out some worst reason. They want to know they were loved even from afar. My heart really does break for him but in glad he found his father and some connection to himself.
IF THE FATHER IS SO GREAT THEN WHY DID THE SON SEARCH FOR HIS FATHER, AND MOST CHILDREN ARE TAKEN FROM THE MOTHER AND PLACED IN A WICKED FOSTER HOME JUST LIKE I WAS
May be the mother never told the father because it was a one night stand. They parted ways after that night and had no way to contact each other. Or the mother did not want to bother.
+The Not right to sabotage...I just wanted to say that I am so sorry you suffered abuse as a child. Please don't give any more power to those that hurt you in the past by allowing them to fill you with anger, bitterness, or hatred in the present. Your life will improve when you show love to others and it will help to heal your heart.
Clearly she did him a favor when she gave him up as a baby.
Ko Um 😐
The mom is an absolute piece of garbage that’s ridiculous at least the father was open god bless him
well she abandoned her baby clearly a shitty mother
q4queenme the attitude of your comment and your profile pic makes the comment so much better
Rejection is never easy to take especially from a parent, thank god you have your dad to take a bit of that burden off you. Well done great courage man.
You got your Dad! Love, loyalty and acceptance! God bless you and your new found family!
As sad as this story ends, it's very bitter sweet, she more than likely has guilt by the way she left him, she could of been more than alone and scared, and having no one to turn to. Did a very desperate act, which has happen over and over all over the world. He is loved not only by his Mother and Father, but also by the man that never knew he was alive, and now has found brothers. It's when you look at what was found, and your family has grown 3 fold over night. It that blessing is what you focus on.
I agree. This man has many blessings in his life - his mother may have never had any.
How do you know that he found brothers
@@sarahharvey9783 said in video
Bored beaver maybe you’d be less bored if you paid better attention
👏Thank u! It's really easy for ppl to criticize & judge when standing on the way, way outside. Nobody knows anything about this story outside of what's being presented by the show. But somehow ppl can sum the man's life, the bio mom's life, the bio dads life (obvi incl.his glorious military career) all up after watching this small piece. 😰
He looks just like his dad 😊
What a coincidence!
A Google User Do you know how biology works?
Awesome that he was able to connect with his father and wow they look like! His mother's loss really.
What a gracious, special man your father is! God bless you both!
Dad and son look just alike
In my opinion, a mother is someone raise her child no matter in what situation. My mother (my dad was killed at 40 yo during the war) had 8 children and we were very very very dirt poor. We lived in a country that had the war for over 30 years before I came to the US. She did not give up any of us. We never had any toy, birthday, and barely enough foods to eat. We never had any good shoe to wear or decent clothes for school. BUT we were all together. We all now have a decent job (am a Registered Nurse in New Port Beach California, in an acute care, large Presbyterian hospital). So, I think being poor is never a reason to abandon your child, and especially in a situation like this, in a very cold weather as such. Ben, maybe you should not reach out to this lady anymore. Let's go on with your life. You have a beautiful family of your own and loving adopted parents. Thank you for this video and take care your self, Ben.
what a wonderful person you are tom boy
My mom's birth female left when my mother was two, my mom's mom and my grandma raised my mother, her sister, and her two sons from her first marriage since my mom was three.
How terrible that this women did not accept her child. How cruel and another blow to this amazing man, but the blessing is that he found his loving father. How ironic that the man that never knew he had a son embraced his son, but the woman that gave him life, denied him.
He looks exactly like his biological father! Made me cry 😢.
Hopefully his mother changes her heart ❤.
Amazing 👏
I wonder which part she couldnt accept. The part where she had a child out of wedlock after a one night stand, or the part where she left an innocent baby to die on the side of the road.
If she wanted him dead she would have killed him and dropped his corpse off
@@koolaidman6251 No offense but leaving an infant by the side of the road and thrown out like trash probably indicated she intended for the baby to die.
Nothing about her actions were redeeming or defensible.
She was desperate. That is no excuse but look what Ben did. He ran to the TV camera and told his story there. This woman's life would probably be destroyed. I am sure her family does not know about the baby.
@@dianepowers9514 All Ben did was call her though, they never showed her face or revealed her name. I’m sure she could’ve asked to stay anonymous and at least given Ben the closure he wanted through that one phone call.
@Jamie Leech This guy Ben thought he was entitled to find the birth mother. Yes he found her and look what happened. No one won. It is extremely possible that the larger family does not know and we do NOT know who called him back.
He looks so much like his father especially his dad's younger self as a soldier.
Heartbreaking that the woman on the other line...gosh my heart goes out to him.
I know exactly how he felt as I myself was abandoned in a cardboard shoe box when I was only 6 days old outside a hospital in London England I have never known my parents and it does have an affect on you.Even though so long ago.As I have 2 grown up daughters now.Yet it always hurt me knowing they never knew there grandparents especially at birthdays or Christmas.I was not so lucky I never got adopted I was put in a children's home and the less said about it the better because of the abuse I suffered from the age of 3 until I was 15 years old.But I am a survivor and not a victim and my daughter's mean the world to me.So if anyone who is reading this has the same sort of background to me please remember it's not your fault that you are very beautiful and strong.Always hold on strong to the love of truth and the truth of love as this will pave your way to a very positive present and future.I never had any counselling I did it all myself by writing down exactly how I felt.Until I did not fear anyone anymore I never gave in with the abuse that I got and it was horrendous but I beat it and have emerged to be a winner a survivor and as I said not a victim.So remember no what your circumstances you are all beautiful and unique in your own way.This is to everyone living in this world no matter what you have to face.Remember your strong beautiful and always positive in all that you do God bless everyone and the ones who will read this comment.
My heart breaks for Ben in trying to find a connection with his birth mother, however, i am elated that he was truly embraced by his birth father. What a tremendous gift and blessing for Ben and to have also been embraced by his brothers. Class acts.
How unfortunate for the female line. They are missing out on having a relationship with a wonderful man. Their tremendous loss.
Cold, heartless, birth mother, then and now. You don’t leave your baby in a box to die. It is a miracle the youngsters found him before hypothermia set in.
YOU TALK ABOUT THE MOTHER, SO ANY DECENT LAWYER OR JUDGE WOULD SEE YOU ARE BIAS, BECAUSE EVERYONE HAS A FATHER, AND THAT IS A MANS RESPONSIBILITY TO FIND OUT IF HE HAD A CHILD AND WHETHER YOU WANT TO SAY SOMETHING ABOUT A DNA OR NOT , THE FACT IS THAT EVERY CHILD HAS A FATHER AND THAT IS A CRIME FOR THE BIOLOGICAL FATHER NOT TO FIND OUT IF HE IMPREGNATED A WOMEN DUH
The Not right to sabatage what are you on? Get help to get off of it! Your mind is all screwed up! Smh.
DA*N WENCH it's down the ROAD for you
I am adopted and it hurts to feel abandoned
Stephanie Merritt .... you could have had a shitty life if you grew up with someone who didn’t want you. Might be a good thing you were adopted. 💜
Eileen LeValley no I didn’t have a shitty life. I am chosen 😉 .Adopted kids go through lots of emotions being adopted. I am 34 now. 🎈
Stephanie Merritt ... you misunderstood what I said. If your biological mother would have kept you and not wanted you then you could have had a shitty life. So good thing you were adopted
Eileen LeValley I have the best of both worlds. 🤗 my mom wanted me but the shitty government took me from her. Thanks for you concern though.
Stephanie Merritt ... oh ok whatever
Geez, that was intense... My heart aches for him and I feel like yelling at his biological mother. I'm just glad though that he is loved by the man who raised him and he is moving on the best he can with such a letdown.
The woman was ashamed. She wanted to put it behind her but thanks to DNA and these DNA detectives, no one has privacy.
If I were left outside for somebody to find me or not, I wouldn’t want anything to do with that woman the father seems great I’m glad he connected with his father!
My God,my heart break for this man. Monster mom.
tredjesongen American mom
The mom just abandoned him twice.
Heart breaking 😥
She has to answer to God some day about how she treated her amazing son in this lifetime. She will be held accountable by God for her child neglect, abandonment and abuse towards him. Truly his family is Christians all over the world. At least he reunited with his dad 👍. Hopefully he will meet the people who were teen-agers at the time who found him.
I nearly cried watching this. We cannot judge this woman. Only God knows what her issues are. I did hope for him that she would at least get meet him and answer questions. Even if she said, I can only see you once and no more. Every person should be entitled to that. Maybe that's why God put him in better hands. My heart goes out to him. I'm so happy that his father and brothers embraced him. Bless them all forever!💋❤
Aww, so sad, he's better off without her. Glad his father embraced him and hope he doesn't let her stop him from living a wonderful life.
The least the mother could do, was to meet her biological son. To make him feel better, but also tell him she doesn't want anything to do with him. So that he at least saw her once, in his lifetime. He spend years to look for her, and she just straight up rejected him like that, is just cruel.
Don't mind me I think she was just scared
Panda DubX makes sense. But still. She will probably regret not meeting him, on her death bed..
(Sounds harsh I know..)
Don't mind me she lived a worthless life thats why she ended up like this.
I have a feeling she had a one night stand with a guy at a bar and probably cheated on her husband or boyfriend at the time and got rid of the baby because the guy would know she cheated. She most likely didn't meet with him because if her family found out they would know what she did. My guess there could be a million reasons why.
Shisui San a lot of women are able to hide it idk how but they do even teenage girls that are scared of their parents finding out they are pregnant somehow hide the baby tell birth. Some even deliver the baby themselves.
Thank you for sharing your story, and for your service. So brave to go out to find your biological parents, and for being brave enough to shoulder your mother's ignorance at not opening her heart and life to you, and possibly her biggest regret on her deathbed. May you make wonderful , and happy new memories with your birth father, who is obviously overjoyed to have gained another son who he is so proud of. God bless xx
Shame on that mother for abandoning her son & then rejecting him again!
“Go back to where you’re from and love your family” like she knows anything about loving a family
She could've eventually gotten married and raised another family and not want to see him as it would complicate things
@@MegaBumblebee666 If she did raise another family and they decide to do the same DNA testing, they'll find out. She seems like a prize. Glad he found his biological dad.
I can’t believe a mother would treat her own son like that! Omg!
I DONT HAVE A SON, BUT I DO HAVE A DAUGHTER AND WOULD NEVER ABANDON HER AND HER OWN FATHER IS NOT MADE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT, AND WHEN MY DAUGHTERS FATHER SPLIT , I WAS RESPONSIBLE AND CONTACTED THE STATE SO HE CAN PAY CHILD SUPPORT, SO IF THEY TRY TO SAY THIS WOMEN SPLIT THEN WHY DIDN'T THE FATHER DO ANY KIND OF REACHING OUT TO SOME PEOPLE THAT COULD HELP HIM SEE IF HE GOT THIS WOMEN PREGNANT, THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR A FATHER WHO DOES NOT MAKE ANY KIND OF EFFORT TO SEE IF HE IMPREGNATED THE MOTHER
I DONT HAVE A SON, BUT I DO HAVE A DAUGHTER AND WOULD NEVER ABANDON HER AND HER OWN FATHER IS NOT MADE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT, AND WHEN MY DAUGHTERS FATHER SPLIT , I WAS RESPONSIBLE AND CONTACTED THE STATE SO HE CAN PAY CHILD SUPPORT, SO IF THEY TRY TO SAY THIS WOMEN SPLIT THEN WHY DIDN'T THE FATHER DO ANY KIND OF REACHING OUT TO SOME PEOPLE THAT COULD HELP HIM SEE IF HE GOT THIS WOMEN PREGNANT, THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR A FATHER WHO DOES NOT MAKE ANY KIND OF EFFORT TO SEE IF HE IMPREGNATED THE MOTHER
The Not right to sabatage spamming the same comment over and over again lmfao
Grace Richardson if my mom would hang up on me like that id ring her and swear at her
Shakila Chaudhry I can understand what you saying.
He lucked out - there's no way you want anything to do with someone who leaves a baby in a box in a parking lot
Thank God for his father
His dad seems like a super nice and pure guy... that made me so happy.
Something similar happened in my family. It all started when my grandmother received an Ancestry DNA kit for Christmas a couple years ago. She was just excited to see if she really was part Italian. But then, she got multiple hits from relatives. She found out that her father had cheated on her mother and it resulted in a baby. When she contacted this man, he broke down because he said that since he bounced around in foster care his whole life, he never felt like he really belonged. My grandma and my dad were both ready to welcome him into our family, but my grandma’s siblings still resent him because he reminds them of their fathers wrongdoings. Sigh. My grandma also found some cousins because he uncle cheated on her aunt and had multiple children with multiple different women. Honestly there’s a lot of shitty guys in my family. And all the kids they had were given up so they were adopted/given up.
Wow..... she didn’t have to be so rude to him.
shart farter You should not tell anyone to kill them selves. You’re actually the dumb bitch you 8 yr old. Her rudeness bothers me too so shut the fuck up and mic up
ShartFarter TheGreat chill
@ShartFarter TheGreat
It's a crime to tell somebody to kill themselves.
Isn't it weird they're wearing the same shirt and the same color
Whoaaa... Ben and his dad are splitting images of each other
kvt splitting or spitting?
@@carlaxfoo spitting image... bruhh🤣🤦♂️ thanks for pointing that out👍
kvt hehehe... no worries
God bless and don't worry good don't sleep...she'll one day have to answer for what she did
yeah right , I was taken from my mother and she won't speak up, that all 5 of her children were taken and 3 of us went in a crooked foster home with a pedophile and he is a Vietnam Veteran and all 3 of the fathers dont pay child support, the foster father, my father or my daughters fathers and the foster family wife also helped and the gov targeted when I was a child, that is a crime duhhhhh
She didn't do anything wrong. She did probably what was best for him. Hell, imagine him being raised by her.
Captain Ford she can gave him up for adoption instead of just leave him in the streets like that
Jeff Araujo absolutely
Read a bible, if she got saved, her sins are under the blood of Jesus, if she never gets saved, raising him well wouldn't save her.
So glad he found his loving father and brothers. Sad about his birth mom. I wonder if she feared charges so many years later on child abandonment. Is there a statute of limitations? Her loss. He seems like a great guy. Kudos to his adoptive parents.
WHY WOULD HE HAVE TO FIND HIS FATHER, HIS FATHER WAS ALREADY SUPPOSE TO BE PAYING CHILD, THAT MAKES NO SENSE, THE FATHER WAS SUPPOSE TO BE AROUND FROM WHEN THE CHILD IS BORN TO PAY FOR HIS CHILD DUH
WHY WOULD SOMEONE HAVE TO FIND THEIR FATHER , WHEN THE FATHER SHOULD OF BEEN AROUND SINCE HIS BIRTH DUHH, THEN OBVIOUSLY THE FATHER NEGLECTED HIS SON DUH
The Not right to sabatage The biological father did not know his one night stand had resulted in a child. Mom chose not to tell him and abandoned the baby. I guess a good reason not to have one night stands with someone you can’t even remember their name years later.
The Not right to sabatage watch the video again, he was conceived from a one night stand
+bobbyismine SO WHAT HE WAS CONCEIVED FROM A ONE NIGHT STAND, THE FACT THAT IT IS THAT EASY TO GET SOMEONE PREGNANT WITH A ONE NIGHT STAND GOES TO SHOW YOU EXACTLY WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT, THAT THE FATHER DID NOT STICK AROUND BECAUSE HE HAD SEX ONE TIME AND DID NOT STICK AROUND TO SEE IF HE GOT HER PREGNANT WOULD PROVE HE ABANDONED HIS ENTIRE FAMILY FIRST DUH ANY LAWYER WOULD SAY THAT
Tears of joy for you and your bio-father.
I am adopted too. I recently found my bio-family. My bio-father passed awhile ago. His 2 sistershave welcomed me into the family. My bio- mother wants nothing to do with me as well.
Approaching the woman not only unannounced but while she was in a public place was a ballsy move that likely was the reason it blew up in his face.
Whoever gets rid of their child in a box obviously has issues.
Yes. The son is a good son. Obviously. Yes.
Fk them kids
Im sorry but anyone that can leave their newborn baby (unwanted or not ) in a cardboard box near a dumpster where anything could've got him she doesn't deserve this mans love ! She could so have easily left in with a note in a public building/hospital
Yeah really, even church doorstep wouldve been better
Where I live we recently had a woman leave a baby in a box outside of a medical center
Most states have "baby dropoff points" now to prevent this situation. Lots of times they are at fire stations because fire stations are occupied 24/7. A woman can drop off an infant and she will not be charged with a crime as long as she is the mother (you can't just drop off a random kid). This likely did not exist back then. Every kid should know this -- if you end up in a horrible situation, far along in a pregnancy with a baby you do not want (perhaps it's too late for abortion or perhaps you do not believe in abortion) you CAN drop that kid off and face no punishment.
@lesterBonz Pretty sure they don't where I'm from cause the last I heard the police were trying to track the mother down.
@lesterBonz oh and all the medical center did was send the baby to the hospital and call the police
Heartbroken about the bio mom’s response. That has to be tough words to hear. Glad that the bio dad is accepting.
i love how ben's abandonment wasn't the dad's fault