I deleted all my social media a week ago. My friend asked me: 'Why would you do that? How are you going to survive? Wow.. I literally survived like 16 years without it, why wouldn't I now? How can people be so obsessed about social media. It's not social media at all, it's just showing off to your so-called 'friends' how good and happy you are. I don't regret deleting my social media. I feel just fine and I feel like I have more free time. I spent over 8 HOURS a day just scrolling through my pages! It's insane how much time we spent on social media. I regret nothing, I'm even thinking of going back to a flip phone :)
Well done. I encourage you to go the whole hog and get rid of your phone completely. Just stick with a landline and an answering machine, like I do. If anyone wants to contact me, they can ring me at home, or if I'm out, they can leave a message. As we ALL did before 1987. I hate being at everyone's beck and call. I don't need to know every little detail of others' lives, and I don't want them knowing about what I do. I value my privacy and free time.
I am a high schooler who has deleted all my social media. I realized that my "friends" who would like and comment on my photos would never talk to me in real life. Whenever I came up to them they would always be on their phones, and, when they were not, they were complaining about how boring and sad their life is. The way that you are happy, in my opinion, is to maintain your own hobbies and have close friends whom you would trust with your life. When I was on social media, I realized that I had lost both of those aspects. I wouldn't focus on making myself happy. Instead, I would focus on seeing how I compared myself to others. I dont know how else to say this, but having that sort of aspect to life is stupid. There is nothing to be proud of when all you are doing is getting likes from fake friends. That doesn't make you happy, and it doesn't make others happy, either. I am optimistically hoping that, some day, these social media apps will die off so we can return to being like normal humans. Communicating. Working together. Making Friends. Things that used to seem so easy, but, now with social media as a distraction, have become much less so. Anxiety in high school is caused by social media, so the best thing you can do for yourself is get rid of it.
I HAD a close friend that would text me for hours everyday. Then I noticed that she avoided being in my physical presence even for a few minutes. I let her go
It's about HOW MUCH TIME is spent on social media. Moderate use is fine. It's when it gets to the point of being addictive - that is when people have a definite psychological problem.
My regret was... to let my mom go in for these things... but she so rapidly got pissed that it was easy to convince watching this video and many other videos she loved to watch with me and it left her uplifted about quitting social media... I mean serious.
The fact is, socializing is a part of our nature, humans are supposed to communicate that’s a part of who we are. Although when we do socialize we find people who are toxic to us, but this will happen to everyone so you can’t just be alone because you have ran into a few toxic people. Running into these people will just teach you lessons and better you, try to stay positive about everything and don’t be negative about lessons you have learned.
This is why I miss the 80's, and 90's before the internet, and social media became so mainstream. Most people back then had integrity, and respect for self, and each other. We also had no choice but to interact with each other. I still have a home phone with a built-in answering machine. I do have a cell phone, and a texting app on my tablet mostly for back-up. I am old school, and I hate texting. Some of the other women that I used to be friends with actually called, and had conversations over the phone. In person, it would somewhat be a totally different situation, and they would be on their cell phones. I would bring it to their attention that it was disrespectful, and rude, and they really didn't care. I'm glad that I am no longer their friend but, that wasn't the only reason why I stopped being their friend. I got invited to hang out in Boston with some people yesterday, and most of us were not on our electronic devices. I am somewhat guilty of doing certain things on Facebook. I try not to go on there like I used to, and when I do go on there is to play games. Real friends are people that/who are in your life in the real world. Not on social media. To a certain extent, the internet, and social media is more of a negative than a positive. Unfortunately.
@@teccash3507 Not true actually, excessive and misuse of social media is what disconnects people, not social media itself. I haven't lost a single friend and have provided great help and created greater more socially connected online communities. I support an Autism Community group, on this group we don't compete against each other, we share any ongoing issues and provide each other selfless service. Not all parents are familiar to the condition Autism so those of us Autistic are providing parents solutions to help their children by sharing our experiences. We laugh together, not laugh at one another. We're labelled as people with social deficits but somehow we're more socially connected than neurotypicals. So it doesn't disconnect us, people are disconnecting themselves by misusing it as show offs to make themselves feel better. That tells me these show off are actually living in misery, if they were happy they wouldn't feel the need to treat life like a competition.
Thanks for the upload! Social media is so sad. I have learned it, have found myself addicted up to a point and you must put it away. It completely keeps us from engaging the real world. Looking around, breathing the air, being in the moment, etc. Wouldn't it be something to walk into a public space and actually see people talk to each other or be reading a book.
As a person who's never had a mobile phone ( thank God ! ) nor ever used social media, I can recommend you trying it, Kelby. That's how life was meant to be. How it actually WAS - for those of us old enough to remember it - like me. Mobiles and Facebook, Twitter e.t.c. were meant to be an OPTION to use, for fun or convenience, but users have allowed themselves to be convinced that these devices are now "essential" to their lives. That's simply not true. It's a deceitful illusion that they have constructed for themselves. I urge you to get rid of your phone, or if you can't bring yourself to do that because you've invested too much of your self esteem in it, then at least cut back the use of it severely. You'll be glad you did.
I think it is outstanding that you have stayed away from the koolaid. It really is a time waste. I have never really been one to post anything much and certainly nothing mean or controversial. After three short stints on Facebook, I am done and over it. It came out when I was in college and is nothing like it was when it started. I do not feel like it facilitates much good at all. I like my cell phone for my music, GPS, note pad and for actually talking. About once a day, I peak at Twitter for a silly escape into the lives of Hollywood, but that is about it. I do not see myself getting rid of my cell phone, but social media is over my head in such a significant way. I would not be lost without Twitter. I may shut that down too. On a separate note, I HATE REALITY TELEVISION AND EVERYTHING IT STANDS FOR! LOL That is a conversation for another time. :)
Kelby Smith We agree on quite a lot. Reality television is anything but reality. It's staged, scripted and sleazily exploitative. Yet the moronic sheep viewers lap it up. Says a lot about society's declining moral standards nowadays.
i think ppl do give a shi about u, they’re just too distracted to show it. trust me i’ve felt the same way. i stopped using social media and barley talk to my friends anymore over the phone (im in college now) but they’ll gladly spam me with memes or tik toks about how they miss me that Im welcomed to everytime i slip back on social media. LIKE JUST CALL ME?
I'am 21, i got into social media when I was 13. It was the biggest mistake of my life. Now that i'am aware of the situation, im saying goodbye to social media.
I disconnected from social media over two months ago, which is not long at all, and am happier for it. Seeing people unable to toast a round of drinks, eat a meal or fussing over the perfect duckface selfie just for social media were among different reasons why I had enough. Other people find joy in social media that I can’t. Different strokes and all that.
I'm so glad this woman decided to give this talk. It's insane, I've been thinking this for the longest. I'm thinking about deleting all social media and just texting and calling again. It's too much for me.
I agree with the speaker as she really shows the flaws of societal issues pertaining to social media in today’s society. Nowadays, people see it as a social norm to check their phones regularly and cause the real talking to cease. I too as well as Allison Graham, can sense the change in societal behaviour whereby we are not as closely knit to a person as much as before the times of smart phones. As she mentioned, the number of close friends have dropped in recent years and the reasons why are way too obvious to miss. I believe that every once in a while we should detach ourselves from social media and technology in general. Though it may not be an enormous issue right now, in the near future, it is going to be. Especially with teenagers taking one step forward in their lives and transferring the unsocial, social media habits to their children. 155 words, Gregory Goh, TB01
This was a great presentation Allison and I definitely needed it. I found a great point to what you had about having less closer friends. I myself found it difficult to find close friends at this point, after having good friends 10 years back in another country. Sometimes I don't feel like I fit in the real world of bragging, likes, and showing up yourself. It's always good to unwind, and I will try to use less social media and more real social connections. Loved this presentation, simply loved it.
Benedict Malinao I completely understand Benedict and thank you for watching and sharing. I think it's best to keep a balance and important not to lose sight of living life 'live' instead of through a phone. Consider yourself one up on a connection! Cheers and thanks!
I miss the late 90's early 00's, when we only had flip phones. Being able to reach someone at all times, or being to able to get help because you have a flat tire are great things. The other stuff? Most of it is unnecessary. Although I do like the live traffic maps.
***** And to think, the I-Phone was introduced on June 29, 2007. It really did not become ubiquitous until 2009 and 2010, just six years ago. Incredible how everyone's lives have changed in the last six years, some for the good, but some for the not so good.
The first mobile phone dates back long before 2007. Twenty years earlier in fact, and was the size of a housebrick. Then they got smaller with more features, and the suckers started believing they HAD to have one, to the point where now they truly believe they "cant survive" without one. It's absolute nonsense of course, but they can't shake off this trance they've fallen into. I'm glad I didn't get sucked into the vortex by getting one. But I feel sorry for all those that have.
Eric K funny how so called friends say they to busy to call or text an visit yet have all the time in the world to check Facebook Snapchat Twitter Instagram throughout the day yet don't have time for you!! Has anyone ever wondered why do we need so many apps that do the same thing?
When people ask me for my social media accounts and I say I don't have any and they ask why, I just say "mentally I never made it past 2006." And then I cruise away on my skateboard, with my baggy jeans, and old school DCs.
I would always say how I wish I could relive the 80's, and 90's over, and over again but, as an adult. I used to say that a lot to the people I used to be friends with. Certain/most music were decent as well as most tv shows. Now, certain tv shows, and music lacks integrity, morals, and values. Ugh!
Its funny how everything shes saying makes a lot of sense watching it in 2019. Today the situation is waaay more terrible than in 2014 and what shes saying is very visible nowadays
@@vinnymadelynelamata4833 Will people be able to detach from it after spending so much time? Facebook Addiction Disorder is now a valid disorder, professionals have linked mass amounts of depression, stress and anxiety, even causing 12 year olds suicidal thoughts. Social media has become part of the autopilot, people have biological responses when they don't have access. Another study shows the more people use social media the more socially isolated they feel, and the more socially isolated they feel the more they want to use social media. Doesn't that sound like any other addictive drug?
@@danielmoore4024 I cant confirm nor deny that bc I dont have links to those studies and neither am I a researcher to answer your question. My reply is solely based on evident observation.
@@vinnymadelynelamata4833 Mine is based on both research and observance. I'm member of an online community and fortunately these Autistic people are more social. They are full of support and care for other people using their experiences to help parents with Autistic children. Like Allison is saying of people dividing, the Autistic Community is much more socially connected, they don't treat life as a competition, they ask for help as well as give help. Allison said about people not giving any bad news unlike Autistic people. I would say the table has been turned, NTs are now the ones with social deficits.
I liked the comment about people posting pics from parties that those viewing might not have been invited to. Worst for that is wedding pictures: they could so easily have uploaded them to a group for guests only, yet they post to their own wall- "Here's some snaps of our amazing wedding last week (useful if you weren't given permission to actually attend)". I imagine that causes some real sadness and feelings of exclusion because it's such an important event. It's either just so lazy to post them on your own wall, or, even worse, narcissistic. If people aren't close enough to invite to your wedding, why do you want them to see your photos?
luis415g why Cause where not mindless sheep? even if a people puts their pictures on friends only your friends will see them not just them people outside of your friendlist will see them when they see in news feed this person likes this photo this person commented on this photo, thing I'm cautious about posting pictures on Facebook is it's easy to screen shot a person's pictures and crop them like you took the picture they won't know the difference.
It's their delusion that people will see that they are a family centered person. It all reflects the insecurities of the users. Inevitably. I always am real, not faking myself so I don't have social media because I would not survive there. People are dominated by their own subconscious there and I am self actualizing, working with my subconscious consciously. So... it's innefective for me. Faking myself just for the sake of trying to connect with someone is just too much waste of time while trying to work with myself and my subconscious which will be adding fear and though forms as images that I latter will have to dissolve anyways.
Many of us do not realize what we miss throughout our lives, for example, to enjoy more moments with our family and friends or school, if we do not give more time to be on the cell phone and we do not pay attention to people.
I love social media because it helps me keep in touch with my teammates from college that are scattered all over the world...I rarely post to get attention and my relationships are fine
cwdxer well said Social media is not making you social it puts u in ur little box with people idolizing your life and making u numb to the world. It puts u in a position to try to get more likes than other people and when u don’t have many followers you down yourself and get depressed and get jealous which gets you determined and hooked to it which equals to less socializing
Very well said Allison. There is still social pressure, now the difference is that, it's sitting behind a screen. Don't let it influence your true self.
Swarnim Tripathi, We need to trust ourselves and be the odd one out and be seen, unfortunately not many people are willing to be the first one. In shops I like it when my phone rings while being served, it gives me the opportunity to set the example of been polite and not rude. I always put who's present first and contact the other back later.
A brilliant presentation on the evils of social media. You have spoken out with clarity what many of us around the globe have been (disorriently) debating within our minds on this vexed issue. Hat's off to you Allison Graham!
I agree with Allison Graham that despite the name 'social' media, it actually makes us unsocial. We post things n social media, expecting friends to know what is happening in our lives instead of meeting and catching up. We hold cellphones more often than we hold hands and make friends that we have never met in real life. Basically, we live life behind screens. To worsen things, one never fails to pick up their cell phone in awkward situations instead of making the effort to talk and bond. Also, during gatherings, I reckon that people use their phones too. So much so that we spend time with our phones more than with people. Nevertheless, social media is not all bad, but we need to know how to balance between using social media and staying connected with face to face conversations. For a start, we can try keeping our phones away for an hour a day. 155 words, Bella Chong, CMM/TB01
"....For a start, we can try keeping our phones away for an hour a day.....". Only an hour - a day ? Are you really that hooked that that is the longest you'd consider going for ? What about putting it away for three or four days a week ? THAT would be a more normal standard for normal ( non addicted ) persons.....although non addicted persons ( like myself ) are a rarity nowadays.....
I completely with what the speaker mentions on how social media has caused us to plug into the internet and unplug ourselves from the human touch. What was most important to me that was mention was when the speaker said “I think our lives will be better if we had hands to hold and not keys to click” which goes to show how disconnected the current generation is. Mobile devices and social media has evolved from a luxury to a necessity in day to day life. Social media is present even in schools when teachers use these materials to make their lessons more engaging because the only way to get students attention now is to use social media. People are now unable to put down their phones and has become a new top cause of car crashed. The media has not only made us take our hands away from each other but also the steering wheel which has costed many lives around the world. (164 Words, Tan FuQiang Gerald CMM/TB02)
Jesse Zoso Agree. I still use the internet but only for work and to talk with my family overseas. Other than that I usually turn it off from 6pm to 6am. I wake up at 6am for work.
I agree with the view that social media is disconnecting us. With social media giving us a platform to express ourselves, idealistic expectations are sure to be set. We feel the need to adjust our lives according to the trends of Social Media. For example, as what Graham mentioned, we use shortened words to demonstrate our emotions. We use emojis to show how we feel and do not bother spending time face to face and have a proper conversation. Not only that, we also feel the need to show off the way we live our lives. We feel the need to document every little thing we do in our day to day basis and by doing so, constantly having our phones in front of our faces, trying to capture the moment, we lose the chance the experience the moment in real time, experience the beauty of the moment. We do things for social media, we do it for the retweets, the likes and this fuels our ego and somehow reflects our self-esteem. 172 words, Kyn Marie Tay Wei Jing, CMM/TB01
There is nothing more powerful than face to face interaction. Because technology is now the fundamental part of communicating i.e, texting on our cell phones , communicating via social media platforms, we fall into this doing this consistently everyday 7 days a week. From this we have the power of now not being responsive to messages which we may receive, or have the time to get back to, or simply to avoid a conversation with someone. Apart from family members, How many times do people actually pick up a phone to ask how a friend is, who you may not have spoke to for a while etc. I think we can fall into making a lack of effort sometimes in communicating , and in years to come loneliness and depression will be experienced more and more with people who are actually struggling with this non-verbal communication wave which we have in our everyday lives.
+ether150 maybe I just think differently, but I dont see a difference from people you can see and people you can't see. Dont get me wrong I'm actually a really socially anxious/awkward person but I have the same anxieties with people online and people in the real world. Sometimes its worse online, from my experience.
Watching videos online is something for me to do since I do not watch television. I get to see and hear what goes on around the world. I am a Videographer/Photographer and enjoy providing services for others to have their memories captured. I do not do selfies. Why? Because I am living life doing actions and appreciating.
Great talk! It just reminds me that any tool can either be under our control or otherwise it's controlling us. Whether it's our mind, social media, tech, the internet and so on.. Even the greatest tools in the world/universe can be turned against us if we don't know how to use it.. It can rule us or we can rule it... You decide how you want to use the tools in your life and how happy/fulfilled you are and whether you're using the tool or you're the tool haha!
I agree with the speaker that social media has not made us any more social. Social media has made us glued to our smartphones that some of us do not consider a human to human interaction to be as important. As seen from the talk, social media is deemed to be more important than the basic human necessities of air, food and water to a majority of people. This shows that people place a lot of importance on social media. There has to be a balance between the relationships forged on social media and offline. Sometimes we present ourselves differently on social media than offline, causing a disconnect between the person and others. People need to put lesser importance on social media and more on socialising face to face with others. As Allison Graham puts it, “I think we will all live life better if we had hands to hold rather than keys to click”. 154 words, Abdul Rahman Bin Azhari, CMM/TB04
Social media is incredibly useful. And has had such positive impacts on our society as far as a quality. I think people become too attached to their online presence. It's a brand. It's marketing.
Perfect!! Although this was made four years ago, it rings true more than ever now in 2018. I was just thinking of starting a social media addiction REAL LIFE meeting place. Videos like this can help me to get my project together. Thank you for uploading this. I'd like to get even newer information on this subject.
Pfff i miss those old days, without any social media platforms. People were more alive. Social media is undoubtedly and slowly destroying us from the inside and the outside. I just pray that one day, we humankind are gonna recognize this problem and do something about it.
I agree with what the speaker said. Social media was meant for us to be more social and meet new people but it seems as though it is doing the total opposite. While it is true that social media helps us to sometimes meet new people, it takes away the social aspect of meeting people in person. For some, when with other people, they are on their phones at least half the time. Social media has made us social, yes, but not social when we are in a social setting. It has become so integrated in our daily lives that we cannot live without it. Not just social media but our phones have become such a necessity to us that we feel that we can’t live without it. Also another point that the speaker brought up was that sometimes we use social media to talk about what we have done so much, that we automatically expect our friends and family to know about it without us directly telling them by seeing our updated Facebook status or latest Instagram picture. We expect others to be updated on our personal lives by looking at our social media profiles because that is how used to social media we are, our social media life becomes our life. 200 words Aaron CMM/TB03
I so agree with you. You took the words out of my mouth. I try to post about this, and I don't get any likes or comments. People just don't care. In fact, I don't get many likes or comments on anything I post. Facebook isn't social. To call it social media, is a joke!
This is a great "awareness lecture" and Allison does a great job. I really appreciate the thought regarding proper grammar. I've never understood abbreviating and actually creating NEW words to supplant grammatical accuracy. It doesn't put your intelligence in a positive light. Also, Facebook and other social networking sites/apps can DEFINITELY make you more connected with other people. It's HOW YOU USE the information provided by the people you are connected to that is important. (Remember....negativity spreads like cancer, and positivity spreads like wildflowers. ;-)
I feel that Alison Graham brings up strong and interesting points. She talks about how we can’t live even an hour without our mobile phones, which is extremely true. In this day and age, our phones is something that helps us connect to others as well as keeps us entertained. However, because our phones makes us more sociable, it also makes us less sociable. Alison also brings up the idea that we like to paint a pretty picture of our lives on social media. However, I’d beg to differ. In this day and age of social media, people like to seem sad as it gives them attention. It’s only natural after all, when you see someone sad, your first instinct is to know why they feel this way, being nosy human beings. This is the only point that I feel she was incorrect. Other than that, I feel that her speech is very close to home, and would definitely make me re-think what I’m doing with my time from now on. 171 words, Renee Lim, CMM TB04
Thank you for this talk. People are rarely talking about this subject in this way. You feel the pressure to stay connected in order to never miss anything - but you are. You are missing the `now`. I deleted my social media account because I wanted freedom of that sort of ... almost a obligation to follow or post or comment or arrange meetings, etc. What is the point? So there is no point for me, really. And now I feel very liberated.... If there are people in your life that exist beyond the `profile picture` you will be engaged in their lives forever. You just can`t have everyone in your life and you don`t need the social approval of the things that are happening to you personally - online. Still, sometimes I feel strange because I find it funny when my friends take pictures of everything and post it. Just like in that clip in the beginning. :)
I had lots of friends on Facebook, the minute I decided not to do it anymore, people didn’t even notice I was gone. It was way to draining, I was exhausted trying to keep up with over 1,000 friends!
I agree with the speaker; social media has made us very anti-social. In this day and age, we are constantly on social media. We are connected with many people around the world through social media but, we are not well connected to the people around us in real life. For example, when you are out with your friends or family for a meal, while waiting for the food to arrive, most of us would be using our phone scrolling through our feeds on social media rather than talking to our friend/family and bonding with them. And the moment when the food arrives, the first thing to do is take a picture of it to post in our social media platforms. At times it feels like the just world revolves around social media. Nearly everyone nowadays has at least one social media platform and it has become a such a norm to talk to people online rather than in real life to the point that some people feel awkward to talk face to face with another person in real life. I feel that social media is good to connect everyone, but too much of a good thing is bad. 198 words, Angel Makwana, CMM/TB03
I always feel like I have the strength to give it up, but every night I find myself watching a video to try and finish the undying addiction. The hard part is no one else will do the same, and I’m afraid I’ll feel isolated as ever, without talking to anyone else for days or weeks because it’s the “norm”.
rvyero, She wasn't trying to make herself sound better, Allison kept saying "we", she included herself. I know all she's talking about, I were alive before the internet was invented, in the 90s the world was far more peaceful and far fewer divorces, greater family bondages. All these distractions prevent strong relationships including with family.
Brilliant Allison! I will take your challenge to heart tomorrow morning. I always say, I must do yoga and read in the morning, spend some time for myself, electronic free, just thinking. But often, I get started with my day - like TODAY, and then I look up, it's 5:30, and where has the day gone? I love that you are doing this! I only wish that I was so brave. And beautiful. I will certainly share, on (ahem) my Facebook! xo B.
My brother had a minor operation turn serious yesterday. I didn't know he was in the hospital at all. I was told it was on Facebook. I closed my account months ago. No one told me.
Helena Burke ridiculous. My friend told me I "needed to get back on Facebook" because I don't know anything of what's going on in her life. Ummm...if you wanted me to know you could just text me... I've been off fb for a year and have no interest in going back. it's sad...
My friends berated me for over a year to sign up for Facebook, and when I did all I saw were pictures of their lunches. Yeah I stopped social media after that.
I don't like to generalize but the reality is that i'm seeing a lot more social incompetence and unfriendlieness on real life situations on these newer generations. For instance the last 3 interns we had in the company barely speaked to anyone, yet they were the World's most popular persons on social media. Another clear evidence is the streets of my neighbourhood that used to have a sworm of kids messing around and nowadays we hardly see anyone. Makes me feel proud of having been a 90s teen and not having any social media ever.
Its a real shame . I don't log on as much myself -- been on a break for about over 3 months. Its liberating in a sense - I've connected with old friends and new (through volunteering), and its feels good to be unique in getting away.
And this is why we need flip phones again. No social media, no internet. Just text, call, and camera baby. Boy I miss the early 2000s. We need to make a petition to make flip phones come back. Who agree?
This is true, I don't have a phone with an internet connection and I can't recall how many times in today's world where I'm having a conversation with someone, making a connection and then in the middle of my sentence they snap silent and I look up to see them gazing down into their phone tapping away, their attention on someone else on the other end of the screen. Same with a group of people sitting with each other, sooner or later nobody is talking but staring down at their phones as if they are hypnotised zombies. Its so bizarre and makes you feel like the loneliest person in the world sometimes as its so hard to make genuine connections now.....its creeping normality, but I am still always thinking....whats wrong with everyone? Do people not have any sensitivity towards how they make you feel when you do that to someone? plus I also think its quite rude? anyone agree?
Absolutely agree, SalB. Their behaviour is ill mannered and plain RUDE ! It's what made me detest mobile phones and vow that I'd never buy one. And I've stuck resolutely to my vow ever since. I'm so glad I did. I pity those who are compulsively addicted to checking their screens every few minutes. It's become a sickness. And many don't even realised the extent of their sickness. They're no different in a sense, to chain smokers and alcoholics, always needing their next fix.
I felt that a long time ago holidays use to be so miserable from 2010 to 2018. 2019ppl kinda got back to enjoying each other company and the pandemic kinda made us closer only for a spell I'm starting to see things slowly going back to the zombie state
@@philuntaysterlingsterling5046 yes it's become a social habit now that it is normalised by mass society. Being on your phone constantly or in the company of friends or others is now the new 'social etiquette' because everyone does it. I think it depends on how people want to live their life, I of course have social media but I would never be on my phone around others or not be present so use SM as a promotional tool or adventure sharing. I think people now just feel a need to share everything in their life and just on automatic to look at their phone when they feel the urge. It is quite sad to see this is the new etiquette of socialising with each other- but we can pick and choose our moments to go on SM in the day and I think now its just at the forefront of people's minds
I completely agree with the speaker. What struck me most was when she said that “we would all live life better if we had hands to hold rather than keys to click.” This just shows how disconnected everyone is with each other today. People like to believe that they’re connecting, socialising even, more online but it’s sadly the opposite. It’s just one person interacting with an interface. Rather than it being a luxury, mobile devices have become a daily necessity in peoples’ lives. She brought up the fact that texting while driving has become the number 1 cause of death in teens. Do most people know about this? I believe most people would think that the number 1 cause would instead be drinking and driving. This further magnifies how numb or even blind people are to their disconnection with the world. It is so sad to see people walking down the streets, at dinner with their loved ones, gatherings with friends, with their heads bowed furiously typing away at a screen, thinking that they’re actually fully engaging themselves with the real world. 182 words, Christine Labong, CMM/TB04
if I'm being completely honest, I think that the world is changing and social media is becoming a lot more important than people think, soon I think it will be our new social life and the key to success
that's the reason I never use the phone when I'm with people and I never take any photos on trips. What's the point? You're missing all the fun. It feels wrong to be on facebook and I would rather learn how to be ACTUALLY helpfull to other people than to think about myself and how I look in some pictures.
I definitely enjoyed this talk, I decided to set all my social media accounts to just lock after one hour of use. Time to change. Thank you @Allison Graham
As an introverted person, I don't always have a lot of things to talk about with my friends. As an introverted person, I don't like to go out and do stuff with my friends. As an introverted person, my favorite thing to do with my friends is to just be with them. we don't have to talk. We don't have to go anywhere. We don't have to do anything. I just don't like to feel lonely. And my friends enjoy it too. We sit next to each other on our phones because we don't always have something to say or something to do. But, if doing regular things with my best friend makes me happy, then that's what I'll do.
I cant deny that the more you spend so much time in social media the less you interact to people in person, no one cant stop this from continuing until the next generation it might be getting worse and worst, ok there is a point of sharing your moments to your love ones online is a must sometime as well as checking your current condition but isn't that right that it should be private post and not in public? People exposing their experiences in life, i can see now that hate was being created by unpredicted post an automatic unlock permission to capture things unexpectedly because you did not ask to see that but its already there it messages you to do the same thing even youre not in capable of then the effects is jealousy responding your mind to think that it is her/him time to experience that or he/she deserved it but the more you see it over and over again the more you will feel the depths of hatred because you are just completely stock there! One more thing you hit the button like very often but whatever type of post you do they ignored it all they want is your like and not theirs. That is really bullshit so from now on i ready to escape from this delusion of hypocritical world. The end.
It would be great if all this anti-social media could go away, like now! The technology is not advancing as a species. Minimalism and simplicity creates more deep and meaningful connections.
Yes, but technology and complexity is what makes life interesting. There needs to be a balance, where simplicity is applied to simple problems and complexity is applied to complex problems. Go outside and catalog a mollusk or something.
We should have a balance, but as a technology-obsessed society we don't know how to balance. Through your entire life, you are bombarded by others and society claiming that new technology and innovation will solve our problems. Does it really? Sure, it does but it creates more problems on the way. Big data and virtual reality all have the pros and cons. However, our society based in fragmented modernity and consumerism embrace without question. This is why we should be skeptical about technology. We haven't been questioning the implication of our technology. Google search engine has brought so much information to us, in fact, too much, but we should have ask ourselves what do lose when we use it?
I retired ASAP from semi driving after 42 years . Was a mostly local driver with climbing , lifting actual work. Used to love the driving part till da da daaaa, smartphone s. I saw people of all age s weaving , crashing and my fav never moving when light turns green. Love surfing safely at home , when driving phone off watching out for others. YIKES!
Everything from eating to texting should be done in moderation. There will be some rude and /or extremes. I think people love connecting more on social medias, but don't always neglect live interactions. I can understand the concern. We had the same concerns when it came to Televisions. Couch potatoes were the disease.
I agree with the speaker on how social media is making us unsocial, especially how it got even worse when smart phones were created and social media became even easier to access. I remember when I did not have such easy access to social media and when I actually bothered to try and get to know someone in real life than to stalk them off Instagram and never ever approach them at all. I had more time to do real leisure things that I enjoy such as drawing and making weird comics of my own. But, why go to such lengths when we have social media to entertain us? Why make friends when I never ever feel lonely with my social media with me? But the sad truth is, even though most of us know of its effects, we are afraid to do something about it because having social media with us is comforting and it gives us security of not being left out. 164 words, Wong Yee Fei, CMM TB04
What's wrong with being left out ? There's such a thing as privacy and seclusion, you know. It leads to peace, tranquility and freedom from stress. All important in today's ever more hectic and demanding world. The solution ? Try ditching your mobile phone and social media. Get your life back !
I hate all these comments of users bragging how they quit social media. Good for you. Toot your own horn, pat yourself on the back- exactly what Facebook was anyway.
Yes I came here because I am required to do so. However, I'm grateful that someone recommends me this channel for this haven is filled with lessons. Now I'm a subscriber!
I have got to go now, I do not text or use social media at all. I do spend far too much time here on youtube. I abhor when people bring up Facebook in conversation, "I was on Facebook last night and saw............."
@ Laya - I think Mary was referring to the big two - Facebook and Twitter. And more specifically, regarding the subject this video is about - Twitter. From the description of the video it says ; "....With a global population growing up via Facebook and Twitter and a perceptible shift in human interpersonal connections, the constant need for social self-validation permeates our daily existence....". Laya - do you have "a constant need for social self-validation" ? If you spend excessive time addicted to your devices, this would apply to you. I hope not.
Not really. Or at least I don't feel the need in writing an essay about it here in the YT comments. I do spend a lot of time in front of my "devices" though, because that's where I earn my money. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Thank you Graham. Yes, I was referring to facebook and twitter. If Laya took the time and watched the TED Talk video, she would have known that as well.
I don't have a smartphone or any social media affiliations, and here is what I will tell you if you are one of those people that the lady talked about in her video: you are only given one life, it won't be forever, and every time you're behind that screen because you can't tolerate what's right in front of you, then you're missing out on your own life, you're degrading its beauty and quality down to a pixelated screen.
I agree with the speaker because even in relationship that text more than meeting become awkward when they actually meet. As well as for friends and family, when someone right in front of you take off his or her free time to meet with you, but you care more about someone on the other side of the phone. I believe it as disrespectful and not a great thing to continue doing. I would say always try to have conversation when we are around people or maybe we can be the one to bring people together in an interesting conversation. This way, we can get our friends and family's attention away from their phone.
social media is just a new way of taming people,keeping them away from reality.Shows only good stuff and hence keep people from contributing into society.I have successfully taken yearly resolutions to keep away from Facebook & Whatsapp.I now feel real emotions happy,sad,friendly whatever you could think of these are real to me now conversations with parents,siblings,friends few but true and real ones.
Well done, Allison! It's a very timely TED presentation. And rather coincidentally, you'll find that we'll have more to say about this on the big screen through a bit of narrative drama. (Actually, it may be a bit more than "coincidental.")
Hi Allison, I'm currently studying my Master of Architecture at the Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology and am looking at designing a facility which can aid in reducing technology addiction. I am extremely interested in the issue of technology addiction in small children, often whom display signs and traits of drug addiction, i.e. aggressiveness when said device is taken away etc. What is your opinion on this, is internet addiction as severe in minors as I hypothesize? And what does this mean for the future? How will society function as a society that runs 24/7. Hope to hear from you.
There was once called happy days, happy times. No social media... I love to play and run a lot as a kid, I used to go on the swings and sing while looking at the skies. It was beautiful.
Thank you all so much for watching and sharing! I appreciate all of the comments.
Nice to see someone addressing a serious problem in our society keep up the great work :)
Chuck B true true ✊💯
That was wonderful Allison. Thank you for the wise talk.
Thank you for your work on this. It really is extremely important people are informed about the dangers of social media.
Allison Graham You are awesome! This video is one of the most important videos ever made.
I deleted all my social media a week ago. My friend asked me: 'Why would you do that? How are you going to survive?
Wow.. I literally survived like 16 years without it, why wouldn't I now? How can people be so obsessed about social media. It's not social media at all, it's just showing off to your so-called 'friends' how good and happy you are. I don't regret deleting my social media. I feel just fine and I feel like I have more free time. I spent over 8 HOURS a day just scrolling through my pages! It's insane how much time we spent on social media. I regret nothing, I'm even thinking of going back to a flip phone :)
Well done. I encourage you to go the whole hog and get rid of your phone completely. Just stick with a landline and an answering machine, like I do. If anyone wants to contact me, they can ring me at home, or if I'm out, they can leave a message. As we ALL did before 1987. I hate being at everyone's beck and call. I don't need to know every little detail of others' lives, and I don't want them knowing about what I do. I value my privacy and free time.
Well you have a youtube account and youtube is a social media!!!
I'm getting rid of my social media accounts one by one and i don't regret it either!
Mr LoL The idiots at Google pretty much made TH-cam more like Facebook.
you are smart
I am a high schooler who has deleted all my social media. I realized that my "friends" who would like and comment on my photos would never talk to me in real life. Whenever I came up to them they would always be on their phones, and, when they were not, they were complaining about how boring and sad their life is. The way that you are happy, in my opinion, is to maintain your own hobbies and have close friends whom you would trust with your life. When I was on social media, I realized that I had lost both of those aspects. I wouldn't focus on making myself happy. Instead, I would focus on seeing how I compared myself to others. I dont know how else to say this, but having that sort of aspect to life is stupid. There is nothing to be proud of when all you are doing is getting likes from fake friends. That doesn't make you happy, and it doesn't make others happy, either. I am optimistically hoping that, some day, these social media apps will die off so we can return to being like normal humans. Communicating. Working together. Making Friends. Things that used to seem so easy, but, now with social media as a distraction, have become much less so. Anxiety in high school is caused by social media, so the best thing you can do for yourself is get rid of it.
well said
I HAD a close friend that would text me for hours everyday. Then I noticed that she avoided being in my physical presence even for a few minutes. I let her go
you have no friends stop lying
Akbar Miah do y’all know each other? 😂😂
Youre a bad friend then
how many people want to stay away from social media so they are watching this like me?
Kamalpreet Chambal yes.
Spot On.
It's about HOW MUCH TIME is spent on social media. Moderate use is fine. It's when it gets to the point of being addictive - that is when people have a definite psychological problem.
Graham Taylor you are right but no one knows when they become addictive from using it for some time.
Kamalpreet Chambal lol same.
One of my regrets in life
Introducing my mom and sister to facebook
Rahman Sani Tendays Pravembry that's rough man...
same
Same here. My brother really doesn't know how to control using social media.
My regret was... to let my mom go in for these things... but she so rapidly got pissed that it was easy to convince watching this video and many other videos she loved to watch with me and it left her uplifted about quitting social media... I mean serious.
they would have found it on their own at some point... its a blackhole
The fact is, socializing is a part of our nature, humans are supposed to communicate that’s a part of who we are. Although when we do socialize we find people who are toxic to us, but this will happen to everyone so you can’t just be alone because you have ran into a few toxic people. Running into these people will just teach you lessons and better you, try to stay positive about everything and don’t be negative about lessons you have learned.
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This is why I miss the 80's, and 90's before the internet, and social media became so mainstream. Most people back then had integrity, and respect for self, and each other. We also had no choice but to interact with each other. I still have a home phone with a built-in answering machine.
I do have a cell phone, and a texting app on my tablet mostly for back-up. I am old school, and I hate texting. Some of the other women that I used to be friends with actually called, and had conversations over the phone. In person, it would somewhat be a totally different situation, and they would be on their cell phones.
I would bring it to their attention that it was disrespectful, and rude, and they really didn't care. I'm glad that I am no longer their friend but, that wasn't the only reason why I stopped being their friend. I got invited to hang out in Boston with some people yesterday, and most of us were not on our electronic devices.
I am somewhat guilty of doing certain things on Facebook. I try not to go on there like I used to, and when I do go on there is to play games. Real friends are people that/who are in your life in the real world. Not on social media. To a certain extent, the internet, and social media is more of a negative than a positive. Unfortunately.
Old school needs to die
Cool story, if only someone cared
Its crazy, the thing thats suppose to connect us makes us lose connection
Exactly
True indeed
@@teccash3507
Not true actually, excessive and misuse of social media is what disconnects people, not social media itself.
I haven't lost a single friend and have provided great help and created greater more socially connected online communities. I support an Autism Community group, on this group we don't compete against each other, we share any ongoing issues and provide each other selfless service.
Not all parents are familiar to the condition Autism so those of us Autistic are providing parents solutions to help their children by sharing our experiences.
We laugh together, not laugh at one another. We're labelled as people with social deficits but somehow we're more socially connected than neurotypicals.
So it doesn't disconnect us, people are disconnecting themselves by misusing it as show offs to make themselves feel better. That tells me these show off are actually living in misery, if they were happy they wouldn't feel the need to treat life like a competition.
Did people say the same thing about online communities in the 90's/00's? (forums, message boards, chat rooms, instant messaging, websites.)
Thanks for the upload! Social media is so sad. I have learned it, have found myself addicted up to a point and you must put it away. It completely keeps us from engaging the real world. Looking around, breathing the air, being in the moment, etc. Wouldn't it be something to walk into a public space and actually see people talk to each other or be reading a book.
As a person who's never had a mobile phone ( thank God ! ) nor ever used social media, I can recommend you trying it, Kelby. That's how life was meant to be. How it actually WAS - for those of us old enough to remember it - like me. Mobiles and Facebook, Twitter e.t.c. were meant to be an OPTION to use, for fun or convenience, but users have allowed themselves to be convinced that these devices are now "essential" to their lives. That's simply not true. It's a deceitful illusion that they have constructed for themselves. I urge you to get rid of your phone, or if you can't bring yourself to do that because you've invested too much of your self esteem in it, then at least cut back the use of it severely. You'll be glad you did.
I think it is outstanding that you have stayed away from the koolaid. It really is a time waste. I have never really been one to post anything much and certainly nothing mean or controversial. After three short stints on Facebook, I am done and over it. It came out when I was in college and is nothing like it was when it started. I do not feel like it facilitates much good at all. I like my cell phone for my music, GPS, note pad and for actually talking. About once a day, I peak at Twitter for a silly escape into the lives of Hollywood, but that is about it. I do not see myself getting rid of my cell phone, but social media is over my head in such a significant way. I would not be lost without Twitter. I may shut that down too. On a separate note, I HATE REALITY TELEVISION AND EVERYTHING IT STANDS FOR! LOL That is a conversation for another time. :)
Kelby Smith
We agree on quite a lot. Reality television is anything but reality. It's staged, scripted and sleazily exploitative. Yet the moronic sheep viewers lap it up. Says a lot about society's declining moral standards nowadays.
Thumbs up! Agreed!
When deleting my social media 2.5 years ago, I realised two things:
1) nobody really gave a sh*t about me
2) I am much happier
i think ppl do give a shi about u, they’re just too distracted to show it. trust me i’ve felt the same way. i stopped using social media and barley talk to my friends anymore over the phone (im in college now) but they’ll gladly spam me with memes or tik toks about how they miss me that Im welcomed to everytime i slip back on social media. LIKE JUST CALL ME?
Love that she started out by asking everyone to power down their devices! Great way to start her presentation!!
I'am 21, i got into social media when I was 13. It was the biggest mistake of my life. Now that i'am aware of the situation, im saying goodbye to social media.
Good
bruh fr i swear when im with broz everytime they take one look at there phone there attitude changes its pretty annoying
I disconnected from social media over two months ago, which is not long at all, and am happier for it. Seeing people unable to toast a round of drinks, eat a meal or fussing over the perfect duckface selfie just for social media were among different reasons why I had enough. Other people find joy in social media that I can’t. Different strokes and all that.
There is no joy in Social media my dear friend. It is all fake.
@@Jayjaybills5030 100% agree. Shame that so many people are still hooked on it.
I'm so glad this woman decided to give this talk. It's insane, I've been thinking this for the longest. I'm thinking about deleting all social media and just texting and calling again. It's too much for me.
I agree with the speaker as she really shows the flaws of societal issues pertaining to social media in today’s society.
Nowadays, people see it as a social norm to check their phones regularly and cause the real talking to cease. I too as well as Allison Graham, can sense the change in societal behaviour whereby we are not as closely knit to a person as much as before the times of smart phones. As she mentioned, the number of close friends have dropped in recent years and the reasons why are way too obvious to miss.
I believe that every once in a while we should detach ourselves from social media and technology in general. Though it may not be an enormous issue right now, in the near future, it is going to be. Especially with teenagers taking one step forward in their lives and transferring the unsocial, social media habits to their children.
155 words, Gregory Goh, TB01
This was a great presentation Allison and I definitely needed it. I found a great point to what you had about having less closer friends. I myself found it difficult to find close friends at this point, after having good friends 10 years back in another country. Sometimes I don't feel like I fit in the real world of bragging, likes, and showing up yourself. It's always good to unwind, and I will try to use less social media and more real social connections. Loved this presentation, simply loved it.
Benedict Malinao I completely understand Benedict and thank you for watching and sharing. I think it's best to keep a balance and important not to lose sight of living life 'live' instead of through a phone. Consider yourself one up on a connection! Cheers and thanks!
I miss the late 90's early 00's, when we only had flip phones. Being able to reach someone at all times, or being to able to get help because you have a flat tire are great things. The other stuff? Most of it is unnecessary. Although I do like the live traffic maps.
***** And to think, the I-Phone was introduced on June 29, 2007. It really did not become ubiquitous until 2009 and 2010, just six years ago. Incredible how everyone's lives have changed in the last six years, some for the good, but some for the not so good.
The first mobile phone dates back long before 2007. Twenty years earlier in fact, and was the size of a housebrick. Then they got smaller with more features, and the suckers started believing they HAD to have one, to the point where now they truly believe they "cant survive" without one. It's absolute nonsense of course, but they can't shake off this trance they've fallen into. I'm glad I didn't get sucked into the vortex by getting one. But I feel sorry for all those that have.
Eric K funny how so called friends say they to busy to call or text an visit yet have all the time in the world to check Facebook Snapchat Twitter Instagram throughout the day yet don't have time for you!! Has anyone ever wondered why do we need so many apps that do the same thing?
When people ask me for my social media accounts and I say I don't have any and they ask why, I just say "mentally I never made it past 2006." And then I cruise away on my skateboard, with my baggy jeans, and old school DCs.
I would always say how I wish I could relive the 80's, and 90's over, and over again but, as an adult. I used to say that a lot to the people I used to be friends with. Certain/most music were decent as well as most tv shows. Now, certain tv shows, and music lacks integrity, morals, and values. Ugh!
Its funny how everything shes saying makes a lot of sense watching it in 2019. Today the situation is waaay more terrible than in 2014 and what shes saying is very visible nowadays
good for you!
Watching this during a pandemic. Social media is the only thing that makes people social, otherwise we run the risk of getting COVID.
@@vinnymadelynelamata4833
Will people be able to detach from it after spending so much time?
Facebook Addiction Disorder is now a valid disorder, professionals have linked mass amounts of depression, stress and anxiety, even causing 12 year olds suicidal thoughts.
Social media has become part of the autopilot, people have biological responses when they don't have access. Another study shows the more people use social media the more socially isolated they feel, and the more socially isolated they feel the more they want to use social media.
Doesn't that sound like any other addictive drug?
@@danielmoore4024 I cant confirm nor deny that bc I dont have links to those studies and neither am I a researcher to answer your question. My reply is solely based on evident observation.
@@vinnymadelynelamata4833
Mine is based on both research and observance.
I'm member of an online community and fortunately these Autistic people are more social. They are full of support and care for other people using their experiences to help parents with Autistic children. Like Allison is saying of people dividing, the Autistic Community is much more socially connected, they don't treat life as a competition, they ask for help as well as give help. Allison said about people not giving any bad news unlike Autistic people.
I would say the table has been turned, NTs are now the ones with social deficits.
I liked the comment about people posting pics from parties that those viewing might not have been invited to. Worst for that is wedding pictures: they could so easily have uploaded them to a group for guests only, yet they post to their own wall- "Here's some snaps of our amazing wedding last week (useful if you weren't given permission to actually attend)". I imagine that causes some real sadness and feelings of exclusion because it's such an important event. It's either just so lazy to post them on your own wall, or, even worse, narcissistic. If people aren't close enough to invite to your wedding, why do you want them to see your photos?
Bruno Giegerich exactly
Bruno Giegerich True
luis415g why Cause where not mindless sheep? even if a people puts their pictures on friends only your friends will see them not just them people outside of your friendlist will see them when they see in news feed this person likes this photo this person commented on this photo, thing I'm cautious about posting pictures on Facebook is it's easy to screen shot a person's pictures and crop them like you took the picture they won't know the difference.
It's their delusion that people will see that they are a family centered person. It all reflects the insecurities of the users. Inevitably.
I always am real, not faking myself so I don't have social media because I would not survive there. People are dominated by their own subconscious there and I am self actualizing, working with my subconscious consciously. So... it's innefective for me. Faking myself just for the sake of trying to connect with someone is just too much waste of time while trying to work with myself and my subconscious which will be adding fear and though forms as images that I latter will have to dissolve anyways.
Exactlyyy!
Many of us do not realize what we miss throughout our lives, for example, to enjoy more moments with our family and friends or school, if we do not give more time to be on the cell phone and we do not pay attention to people.
I love social media because it helps me keep in touch with my teammates from college that are scattered all over the world...I rarely post to get attention and my relationships are fine
Social media is not social. It’s just a traffic sharing network.
cwdxer well said
Social media is not making you social it puts u in ur little box with people idolizing your life and making u numb to the world. It puts u in a position to try to get more likes than other people and when u don’t have many followers you down yourself and get depressed and get jealous which gets you determined and hooked to it which equals to less socializing
so true...you are most likely to be treated like a number instead of being treated like a person.
on a feedback loop
Very well said Allison. There is still social pressure, now the difference is that, it's sitting behind a screen. Don't let it influence your true self.
Swarnim Tripathi,
We need to trust ourselves and be the odd one out and be seen, unfortunately not many people are willing to be the first one. In shops I like it when my phone rings while being served, it gives me the opportunity to set the example of been polite and not rude.
I always put who's present first and contact the other back later.
@@danielmoore4024 That's wonderful :) I will be following this step too.
A brilliant presentation on the evils of social media. You have spoken out with clarity what many of us around the globe have been (disorriently) debating within our minds on this vexed issue. Hat's off to you Allison Graham!
I agree with Allison Graham that despite the name 'social' media, it actually makes us unsocial. We post things n social media, expecting friends to know what is happening in our lives instead of meeting and catching up. We hold cellphones more often than we hold hands and make friends that we have never met in real life. Basically, we live life behind screens. To worsen things, one never fails to pick up their cell phone in awkward situations instead of making the effort to talk and bond. Also, during gatherings, I reckon that people use their phones too. So much so that we spend time with our phones more than with people. Nevertheless, social media is not all bad, but we need to know how to balance between using social media and staying connected with face to face conversations. For a start, we can try keeping our phones away for an hour a day.
155 words, Bella Chong, CMM/TB01
"....For a start, we can try keeping our phones away for an hour a day.....".
Only an hour - a day ? Are you really that hooked that that is the longest you'd consider going for ? What about putting it away for three or four days a week ? THAT would be a more normal standard for normal ( non addicted ) persons.....although non addicted persons ( like myself ) are a rarity nowadays.....
I completely with what the speaker mentions on how social media has caused us to plug into the internet and unplug ourselves from the human touch. What was most important to me that was mention was when the speaker said “I think our lives will be better if we had hands to hold and not keys to click” which goes to show how disconnected the current generation is. Mobile devices and social media has evolved from a luxury to a necessity in day to day life. Social media is present even in schools when teachers use these materials to make their lessons more engaging because the only way to get students attention now is to use social media. People are now unable to put down their phones and has become a new top cause of car crashed. The media has not only made us take our hands away from each other but also the steering wheel which has costed many lives around the world.
(164 Words, Tan FuQiang Gerald CMM/TB02)
I gave it all up. I realized how many times I felt the urge to check Instagram or Facebook. My friends didn't agree with my decision but oh well.
Congrats , because you did great , make real friends and enjoy this beautiful life.
I've been Unplugged for years. Great speech! Bring Back Pay Phones.
Oh my gosh yes! Sometimes ya just need one!
Jesse Zoso Agree. I still use the internet but only for work and to talk with my family overseas. Other than that I usually turn it off from 6pm to 6am. I wake up at 6am for work.
You're on youtube comments. Don't think you're "Unplugged" bud
Yet....wait for it....you are here.
Jesse Zoso right? life was better with them!
I agree with the view that social media is disconnecting us. With social media giving us a platform to express ourselves, idealistic expectations are sure to be set.
We feel the need to adjust our lives according to the trends of Social Media. For example, as what Graham mentioned, we use shortened words to demonstrate our emotions. We use emojis to show how we feel and do not bother spending time face to face and have a proper conversation.
Not only that, we also feel the need to show off the way we live our lives. We feel the need to document every little thing we do in our day to day basis and by doing so, constantly having our phones in front of our faces, trying to capture the moment, we lose the chance the experience the moment in real time, experience the beauty of the moment.
We do things for social media, we do it for the retweets, the likes and this fuels our ego and somehow reflects our self-esteem.
172 words, Kyn Marie Tay Wei Jing, CMM/TB01
There is nothing more powerful than face to face interaction. Because technology is now the fundamental part of communicating i.e, texting on our cell phones , communicating via social media platforms, we fall into this doing this consistently everyday 7 days a week. From this we have the power of now not being responsive to messages which we may receive, or have the time to get back to, or simply to avoid a conversation with someone. Apart from family members, How many times do people actually pick up a phone to ask how a friend is, who you may not have spoke to for a while etc. I think we can fall into making a lack of effort sometimes in communicating , and in years to come loneliness and depression will be experienced more and more with people who are actually struggling with this non-verbal communication wave which we have in our everyday lives.
Socializing is so overrated. People do nothing but judge, discriminate, bully, abuse, lie, hypocrisy and cause drama.
VERY WELL SAID!! +1
True, socializing isn't necessary for good mental health anyways.
and what do they do online? People are still people behind the keyboards, you know.
much better than face-to-face....
+ether150 maybe I just think differently, but I dont see a difference from people you can see and people you can't see. Dont get me wrong I'm actually a really socially anxious/awkward person but I have the same anxieties with people online and people in the real world. Sometimes its worse online, from my experience.
Im here to see if there are truly people that still connect and value interaction.
marcus summa Tv what will give you that evidence? 🤔 curious. I also value interaction and find it increasingly difficult to achieve.
Watching videos online is something for me to do since I do not watch television. I get to see and hear what goes on around the world. I am a Videographer/Photographer and enjoy providing services for others to have their memories captured. I do not do selfies. Why? Because I am living life doing actions and appreciating.
Great talk! It just reminds me that any tool can either be under our control or otherwise it's controlling us. Whether it's our mind, social media, tech, the internet and so on.. Even the greatest tools in the world/universe can be turned against us if we don't know how to use it.. It can rule us or we can rule it... You decide how you want to use the tools in your life and how happy/fulfilled you are and whether you're using the tool or you're the tool haha!
Well, Said.....Completely Agree, this whole social media thing is making us all rather unhappy within and it's nothing but vanity.
Social Media = Social Conditioning. "Be Liked" "Be like everyone else" Throw your phone in the garbage.
Be like these specific significantly big group people, more like so
i paid 300$ for this so no
@@theancientone3092 You better know your role!
Ever since I gave up social media I have more time for myself. I was addicted. I don't want to ever go back on there!
Ace Spa woohooo, well done!
we will know each other better by social media .
I agree with the speaker that social media has not made us any more social. Social media has made us glued to our smartphones that some of us do not consider a human to human interaction to be as important. As seen from the talk, social media is deemed to be more important than the basic human necessities of air, food and water to a majority of people. This shows that people place a lot of importance on social media. There has to be a balance between the relationships forged on social media and offline. Sometimes we present ourselves differently on social media than offline, causing a disconnect between the person and others. People need to put lesser importance on social media and more on socialising face to face with others. As Allison Graham puts it, “I think we will all live life better if we had hands to hold rather than keys to click”.
154 words, Abdul Rahman Bin Azhari, CMM/TB04
i hate social media _i sent this message via pigeon_
lol
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA
@NO RETURN what? i thought it was funny
hahahahahhaha
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Hi Allison, Great work, is it possible to use your video
Istn't you tube a social media platform??
thank u!
Social media is incredibly useful. And has had such positive impacts on our society as far as a quality. I think people become too attached to their online presence. It's a brand. It's marketing.
Perfect!! Although this was made four years ago, it rings true more than ever now in 2018. I was just
thinking of starting a social media addiction REAL LIFE meeting place. Videos like this can help me to get my project together. Thank you for uploading this. I'd like to get even newer information on this
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Pfff i miss those old days, without any social media platforms. People were more alive. Social media is undoubtedly and slowly destroying us from the inside and the outside. I just pray that one day, we humankind are gonna recognize this problem and do something about it.
I agree with what the speaker said. Social media was meant for us to be more social and meet new people but it seems as though it is doing the total opposite. While it is true that social media helps us to sometimes meet new people, it takes away the social aspect of meeting people in person. For some, when with other people, they are on their phones at least half the time. Social media has made us social, yes, but not social when we are in a social setting. It has become so integrated in our daily lives that we cannot live without it. Not just social media but our phones have become such a necessity to us that we feel that we can’t live without it. Also another point that the speaker brought up was that sometimes we use social media to talk about what we have done so much, that we automatically expect our friends and family to know about it without us directly telling them by seeing our updated Facebook status or latest Instagram picture. We expect others to be updated on our personal lives by looking at our social media profiles because that is how used to social media we are, our social media life becomes our life.
200 words Aaron CMM/TB03
I so agree with you. You took the words out of my mouth. I try to post about this, and I don't get any likes or comments. People just don't care. In fact, I don't get many likes or comments on anything I post. Facebook isn't social. To call it social media, is a joke!
This is a great "awareness lecture" and Allison does a great job. I really appreciate the thought regarding proper grammar. I've never understood abbreviating and actually creating NEW words to supplant grammatical accuracy. It doesn't put your intelligence in a positive light.
Also, Facebook and other social networking sites/apps can DEFINITELY make you more connected with other people. It's HOW YOU USE the information provided by the people you are connected to that is important. (Remember....negativity spreads like cancer, and positivity spreads like wildflowers. ;-)
people have forgotten to enjoy life,they actually do stuff,take pictures to show off....seeking validation at all times is disastrous....
I feel that Alison Graham brings up strong and interesting points. She talks about how we can’t live even an hour without our mobile phones, which is extremely true. In this day and age, our phones is something that helps us connect to others as well as keeps us entertained. However, because our phones makes us more sociable, it also makes us less sociable. Alison also brings up the idea that we like to paint a pretty picture of our lives on social media. However, I’d beg to differ. In this day and age of social media, people like to seem sad as it gives them attention. It’s only natural after all, when you see someone sad, your first instinct is to know why they feel this way, being nosy human beings. This is the only point that I feel she was incorrect. Other than that, I feel that her speech is very close to home, and would definitely make me re-think what I’m doing with my time from now on.
171 words, Renee Lim, CMM TB04
I was one of the, who was staring when she threw the phone. Didn't realize back then that she's the one
Thank you for this talk. People are rarely talking about this subject in this way. You feel the pressure to stay connected in order to never miss anything - but you are. You are missing the `now`. I deleted my social media account because I wanted freedom of that sort of ... almost a obligation to follow or post or comment or arrange meetings, etc. What is the point? So there is no point for me, really. And now I feel very liberated.... If there are people in your life that exist beyond the `profile picture` you will be engaged in their lives forever. You just can`t have everyone in your life and you don`t need the social approval of the things that are happening to you personally - online. Still, sometimes I feel strange because I find it funny when my friends take pictures of everything and post it. Just like in that clip in the beginning. :)
I had lots of friends on Facebook, the minute I decided not to do it anymore, people didn’t even notice I was gone. It was way to draining, I was exhausted trying to keep up with over 1,000 friends!
The thing is the more successful they become the more paranoid they become! Extremely touchy & self absorbed!!
I agree with the speaker; social media has made us very anti-social. In this day and age, we are constantly on social media. We are connected with many people around the world through social media but, we are not well connected to the people around us in real life. For example, when you are out with your friends or family for a meal, while waiting for the food to arrive, most of us would be using our phone scrolling through our feeds on social media rather than talking to our friend/family and bonding with them. And the moment when the food arrives, the first thing to do is take a picture of it to post in our social media platforms. At times it feels like the just world revolves around social media. Nearly everyone nowadays has at least one social media platform and it has become a such a norm to talk to people online rather than in real life to the point that some people feel awkward to talk face to face with another person in real life. I feel that social media is good to connect everyone, but too much of a good thing is bad.
198 words, Angel Makwana, CMM/TB03
I always feel like I have the strength to give it up, but every night I find myself watching a video to try and finish the undying addiction. The hard part is no one else will do the same, and I’m afraid I’ll feel isolated as ever, without talking to anyone else for days or weeks because it’s the “norm”.
12 minutes and 46 seconds of someone explaining how much better she is than everyone else because she uses her phone less. gOoD jOb
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She wasn't trying to make herself sound better, Allison kept saying "we", she included herself.
I know all she's talking about, I were alive before the internet was invented, in the 90s the world was far more peaceful and far fewer divorces, greater family bondages.
All these distractions prevent strong relationships including with family.
Brilliant Allison! I will take your challenge to heart tomorrow morning. I always say, I must do yoga and read in the morning, spend some time for myself, electronic free, just thinking. But often, I get started with my day - like TODAY, and then I look up, it's 5:30, and where has the day gone? I love that you are doing this! I only wish that I was so brave. And beautiful. I will certainly share, on (ahem) my Facebook! xo B.
My brother had a minor operation turn serious yesterday. I didn't know he was in the hospital at all. I was told it was on Facebook. I closed my account months ago. No one told me.
Helena Burke ridiculous. My friend told me I "needed to get back on Facebook" because I don't know anything of what's going on in her life. Ummm...if you wanted me to know you could just text me... I've been off fb for a year and have no interest in going back. it's sad...
My friends berated me for over a year to sign up for Facebook, and when I did all I saw were pictures of their lunches. Yeah I stopped social media after that.
Marcus Gorvin and
Thats so sad x
No one told me about my grandfather's sudden death too. Only got a call from my brother hours later.
I don't like to generalize but the reality is that i'm seeing a lot more social incompetence and unfriendlieness on real life situations on these newer generations. For instance the last 3 interns we had in the company barely speaked to anyone, yet they were the World's most popular persons on social media. Another clear evidence is the streets of my neighbourhood that used to have a sworm of kids messing around and nowadays we hardly see anyone. Makes me feel proud of having been a 90s teen and not having any social media ever.
She is addressing a serious problem here That I can relate fully to .I find it disturbing also what this problem is doing to our society.
Its a real shame . I don't log on as much myself -- been on a break for about over 3 months. Its liberating in a sense - I've connected with old friends and new (through volunteering), and its feels good to be unique in getting away.
And this is why we need flip phones again. No social media, no internet. Just text, call, and camera baby. Boy I miss the early 2000s. We need to make a petition to make flip phones come back. Who agree?
What is happening to our world. So glad to hear someone speaking out
This is true, I don't have a phone with an internet connection and I can't recall how many times in today's world where I'm having a conversation with someone, making a connection and then in the middle of my sentence they snap silent and I look up to see them gazing down into their phone tapping away, their attention on someone else on the other end of the screen. Same with a group of people sitting with each other, sooner or later nobody is talking but staring down at their phones as if they are hypnotised zombies. Its so bizarre and makes you feel like the loneliest person in the world sometimes as its so hard to make genuine connections now.....its creeping normality, but I am still always thinking....whats wrong with everyone? Do people not have any sensitivity towards how they make you feel when you do that to someone? plus I also think its quite rude? anyone agree?
Absolutely agree, SalB. Their behaviour is ill mannered and plain RUDE ! It's what made me detest mobile phones and vow that I'd never buy one. And I've stuck resolutely to my vow ever since. I'm so glad I did. I pity those who are compulsively addicted to checking their screens every few minutes. It's become a sickness. And many don't even realised the extent of their sickness. They're no different in a sense, to chain smokers and alcoholics, always needing their next fix.
I felt that a long time ago holidays use to be so miserable from 2010 to 2018. 2019ppl kinda got back to enjoying each other company and the pandemic kinda made us closer only for a spell I'm starting to see things slowly going back to the zombie state
@@philuntaysterlingsterling5046 yes it's become a social habit now that it is normalised by mass society. Being on your phone constantly or in the company of friends or others is now the new 'social etiquette' because everyone does it. I think it depends on how people want to live their life, I of course have social media but I would never be on my phone around others or not be present so use SM as a promotional tool or adventure sharing. I think people now just feel a need to share everything in their life and just on automatic to look at their phone when they feel the urge. It is quite sad to see this is the new etiquette of socialising with each other- but we can pick and choose our moments to go on SM in the day and I think now its just at the forefront of people's minds
I completely agree with the speaker. What struck me most was when she said that “we would all live life better if we had hands to hold rather than keys to click.” This just shows how disconnected everyone is with each other today. People like to believe that they’re connecting, socialising even, more online but it’s sadly the opposite. It’s just one person interacting with an interface. Rather than it being a luxury, mobile devices have become a daily necessity in peoples’ lives.
She brought up the fact that texting while driving has become the number 1 cause of death in teens. Do most people know about this? I believe most people would think that the number 1 cause would instead be drinking and driving.
This further magnifies how numb or even blind people are to their disconnection with the world. It is so sad to see people walking down the streets, at dinner with their loved ones, gatherings with friends, with their heads bowed furiously typing away at a screen, thinking that they’re actually fully engaging themselves with the real world.
182 words, Christine Labong, CMM/TB04
Some really valid points. Thanks for this talk!
This is great, I needed to see this!!
Thank you Dina, wouldn't have found it if it wasn't for you.
Miss you, please get well soon, prayers and hugs x
who's still watching this in 2019 with only one real life friend...
if I'm being completely honest, I think that the world is changing and social media is becoming a lot more important than people think, soon I think it will be our new social life and the key to success
yes
you're totally right!
that's the reason I never use the phone when I'm with people and I never take any photos on trips. What's the point? You're missing all the fun. It feels wrong to be on facebook and I would rather learn how to be ACTUALLY helpfull to other people than to think about myself and how I look in some pictures.
I definitely enjoyed this talk, I decided to set all my social media accounts to just lock after one hour of use. Time to change. Thank you @Allison Graham
As an introverted person, I don't always have a lot of things to talk about with my friends. As an introverted person, I don't like to go out and do stuff with my friends. As an introverted person, my favorite thing to do with my friends is to just be with them. we don't have to talk. We don't have to go anywhere. We don't have to do anything. I just don't like to feel lonely. And my friends enjoy it too. We sit next to each other on our phones because we don't always have something to say or something to do. But, if doing regular things with my best friend makes me happy, then that's what I'll do.
Stop making excuses. Get out of your comfort zone. Find interests in people outside your bubble. LIVE!!
I really needed to hear this as I spend too much Time on Social Media & i think its causing Depression.
Brilliant, Allison! I'm taking the challenge and passing it on!
I cant deny that the more you spend so much time in social media the less you interact to people in person, no one cant stop this from continuing until the next generation it might be getting worse and worst, ok there is a point of sharing your moments to your love ones online is a must sometime as well as checking your current condition but isn't that right that it should be private post and not in public? People exposing their experiences in life, i can see now that hate was being created by unpredicted post an automatic unlock permission to capture things unexpectedly because you did not ask to see that but its already there it messages you to do the same thing even youre not in capable of then the effects is jealousy responding your mind to think that it is her/him time to experience that or he/she deserved it but the more you see it over and over again the more you will feel the depths of hatred because you are just completely stock there! One more thing you hit the button like very often but whatever type of post you do they ignored it all they want is your like and not theirs. That is really bullshit so from now on i ready to escape from this delusion of hypocritical world. The end.
It would be great if all this anti-social media could go away, like now! The technology is not advancing as a species. Minimalism and simplicity creates more deep and meaningful connections.
Yes, but technology and complexity is what makes life interesting. There needs to be a balance, where simplicity is applied to simple problems and complexity is applied to complex problems. Go outside and catalog a mollusk or something.
We should have a balance, but as a technology-obsessed society we don't know how to balance. Through your entire life, you are bombarded by others and society claiming that new technology and innovation will solve our problems. Does it really? Sure, it does but it creates more problems on the way. Big data and virtual reality all have the pros and cons. However, our society based in fragmented modernity and consumerism embrace without question. This is why we should be skeptical about technology. We haven't been questioning the implication of our technology. Google search engine has brought so much information to us, in fact, too much, but we should have ask ourselves what do lose when we use it?
I dont think so
Thank you TEDx for these informative contents. I never stop learning from them
I loved this presentation. Very well said.
I retired ASAP from semi driving after 42 years . Was a mostly local driver with climbing , lifting actual work. Used to love the driving part till da da daaaa, smartphone s. I saw people of all age s weaving , crashing and my fav never moving when light turns green. Love surfing safely at home , when driving phone off watching out for others. YIKES!
Everything from eating to texting should be done in moderation. There will be some rude and /or extremes. I think people love connecting more on social medias, but don't always neglect live interactions. I can understand the concern. We had the same concerns when it came to Televisions. Couch potatoes were the disease.
Thanks Miss Graham for this awesome lecture.
appreciated.
I quit using cell phones a couple years ago; I have not looked back. Cell free is beautiful and stress-free. :)
Welcome then, to the "Matrix free" zone !
how to do you find your way around
Ghost
The same way we used to before mobile phones were invented - with a map book.
I agree with the speaker on how social media is making us unsocial, especially how it got even worse when smart phones were created and social media became even easier to access. I remember when I did not have such easy access to social media and when I actually bothered to try and get to know someone in real life than to stalk them off Instagram and never ever approach them at all. I had more time to do real leisure things that I enjoy such as drawing and making weird comics of my own. But, why go to such lengths when we have social media to entertain us? Why make friends when I never ever feel lonely with my social media with me?
But the sad truth is, even though most of us know of its effects, we are afraid to do something about it because having social media with us is comforting and it gives us security of not being left out.
164 words, Wong Yee Fei, CMM TB04
What's wrong with being left out ? There's such a thing as privacy and seclusion, you know. It leads to peace, tranquility and freedom from stress. All important in today's ever more hectic and demanding world. The solution ? Try ditching your mobile phone and social media. Get your life back !
Graham Taylor Thank you for the advice, I will try to get my life back
imjustboredkay
Great that you have a positive attitude on this. Good luck with your "rehabilitation". All the best.
"if you like this message pelase share it"
I think that sumes up the whole problem there :)
Interpretation. Share it with the people you meet at the table verbally.
I hate all these comments of users bragging how they quit social media. Good for you. Toot your own horn, pat yourself on the back- exactly what Facebook was anyway.
This is your brain on social media. Fried and scrambled.
Alaswoe2u I agree. You're basically capturing too much information you're brain is having a hard time to process.
Yes I came here because I am required to do so. However, I'm grateful that someone recommends me this channel for this haven is filled with lessons. Now I'm a subscriber!
I have got to go now, I do not text or use social media at all. I do spend far too much time here on youtube. I abhor when people bring up Facebook in conversation, "I was on Facebook last night and saw............."
Great snapshot of where we are right now with social media.
And THIS is why I am not on any social media.
Good for you, Mary. Stay strong and resist it !
Mary Lemersal You know that you're on TH-cam rn don't you?
@ Laya - I think Mary was referring to the big two - Facebook and Twitter. And
more specifically, regarding the subject this video is about - Twitter.
From the description of the video it says ; "....With a global population growing up via Facebook and Twitter and a perceptible shift in human interpersonal connections, the constant need for social self-validation permeates our daily existence....".
Laya - do you have "a constant need for social self-validation" ? If you spend excessive time addicted to your devices, this would apply to you. I hope not.
Not really. Or at least I don't feel the need in writing an essay about it here in the YT comments.
I do spend a lot of time in front of my "devices" though, because that's where I earn my money.
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Thank you Graham. Yes, I was referring to facebook and twitter. If Laya took the time and watched the TED Talk video, she would have known that as well.
I don't have a smartphone or any social media affiliations, and here is what I will tell you if you are one of those people that the lady talked about in her video: you are only given one life, it won't be forever, and every time you're behind that screen because you can't tolerate what's right in front of you, then you're missing out on your own life, you're degrading its beauty and quality down to a pixelated screen.
Thank you. It's really helpful for my writing...
I agree with the speaker because even in relationship that text more than meeting become awkward when they actually meet. As well as for friends and family, when someone right in front of you take off his or her free time to meet with you, but you care more about someone on the other side of the phone. I believe it as disrespectful and not a great thing to continue doing. I would say always try to have conversation when we are around people or maybe we can be the one to bring people together in an interesting conversation. This way, we can get our friends and family's attention away from their phone.
I was told to watch this by my professor that's why I'm here. Anybody else?
i have to write a essay about it
social media is just a new way of taming people,keeping them away from reality.Shows only good stuff and hence keep people from contributing into society.I have successfully taken yearly resolutions to keep away from Facebook & Whatsapp.I now feel real emotions happy,sad,friendly whatever you could think of these are real to me now conversations with parents,siblings,friends few but true and real ones.
Well done, Allison! It's a very timely TED presentation. And rather coincidentally, you'll find that we'll have more to say about this on the big screen through a bit of narrative drama. (Actually, it may be a bit more than "coincidental.")
Thank you for great talk
Hi Allison, I'm currently studying my Master of Architecture at the Royal Melbourne Institute of Technology and am looking at designing a facility which can aid in reducing technology addiction. I am extremely interested in the issue of technology addiction in small children, often whom display signs and traits of drug addiction, i.e. aggressiveness when said device is taken away etc. What is your opinion on this, is internet addiction as severe in minors as I hypothesize? And what does this mean for the future? How will society function as a society that runs 24/7. Hope to hear from you.
There was once called happy days, happy times. No social media... I love to play and run a lot as a kid, I used to go on the swings and sing while looking at the skies. It was beautiful.