It's so disgusting in US hyper corporate capitalist culture we're told to just forget all these things and be "tough" and "thankful" that we at least had food and a roof over our heads. Just because you have a roof over your head and food doesn't give your parents and the rest of society permission to abuse you in any way they may see fit. We're a collectively traumatized mess.
Unfortunately, a lot of parents confuse financial "needs" with real emotional needs. I don't think children have financial needs as much as they have emotional needs, and parents fail when they think putting food on the table and a roof over one's head is enough. It is not enough. That is just the minimum requirement.
Getting older I'm realizing that nobody but me cares about what I went through in my past but me. Absolutely no one. No one that was or will be will ever care about my history but me. When you can accept that and live day to day with gratefulness for what you have now, hopefully having a roof over your head and food to eat, you can find some pleasure in the years you have left.
@@venusbonjour9303Society is insane, but the worst part is to persuade people how insane society is. Take a look at "Plato's Allegory Of The Cave". Prisoners are shackled inside a "cave", not knowing the true realities of the world. The prisoners are blinded by the notion, that everything they see or touch is the only reality they have. An enlightened man comes to persuade the prisoners that none of the things they see or touch in the cave are real, but to no avail gets cast out. Arguably, society is the "cave", from which people live and depend on. In my opinion, the easiest way for people to recognize society's problems is to make them laugh. Take a look at George Carlin or Richard Gervais.
Venusbonjour10 have recently seen that in response to TH-cam comments. Left me wondering why some people even watch these videos at all. If they think like that am not sure why or how they got these.
I've been feeling this way too. Even with therapists. I've shared my most horrific traumas and have been traumatized by their lack of empathy for something so horrific and lack of validation. Just makes me wonder if I can ever heal and learn healthy responses.... cause I can't sleep for shit after all this.
Dunston when you're vulnerable, that's especially when no one cares. Experienced that most my life. You can tell a lot about someone by how they treat you when you're vulnerable.
I recently received an email from a neighbor who was around when I was two years old. I asked what she renembered and she sent me a few very long emails that were very validating of my recalled experience but also just truly horrifying. She apologized for not doing more to help me, although her idea of help was yes, to get her kids to take me for walks and get me out of the house, but also to repeatedly call child services. I look at the few pictures I have of myself at that age and I was SO small and sweet and innocent. I can't imagine screaming at, hitting and locking a little person like that in a room or a car all day but that's what was done to me and my parents (like most) went unpunished. Despite significant therapy and work, I still greatly suffer the ongoing consequences of this (and many other subsequent abuses) to this day.
@@Kuutamo73 I feel you! I am enraged sometimes and understand how people are driven to hurt their abusers later in life. The longer I live, the more unjust this place and life in general seems. Fucking depressing.
I`m actually lucky, cause my father recorded videos of me during my childhood. Video cameras became popular at that time, so I have recordings of me being less than a year old until like 7 years old. And internet wasn`t affordable for most people, so he didn`t ruin my privacy by posting this vids online. These videos are hugely upsetting. Like there`s a clip where I`m learning to walk, holding to a cupboard. It`s so physically hard for me, I`m falling, but my parents don`t notice, they don`t even look at me, just talk to each other while I fall and struggle to teach myself to walk. There`s not enough support for me to walk, so I`m trying to use my teeth - "bite" a piece of cupboard to stop me from falling down. I can`t manage. Or there`s a clip where I go to my mother (she`s obviously crying) and ask her if everything was okay. She says, everything`s fine. I ask again, I say: "but... you`re... not good". She doesn`t answer. She doesn`t look at me. "No, I'm okay" she says with a quietest voice, looking somewhere else (probably because she continues to cry). And I realize that that`s how I`ve learned to ignore feelings, to always numb myself, to be constantly depressed pretending I`m okay. Or my baptism is recorded on camera. I`m just an infant, some people I don't know and don't trust put my body in the cold water and I cry and cry and cry... They don`t notice my screams, just say their prayers. Their ritual is more important than me. I couldn`t watch these videos until the end. It`s too painful to handle.
I got baptized when I was about 5, so I remember it well. Pretty humiliating, also I don’t know how it could mean anything for a 5 year old spiritually.
I am glad the internet wasn't popular back then. Otherwise, be warned. There will be psychopathic people out there that will take these so-called "innocent baby videos", and make profit revenue from them. When the video reaches several million views, expect laughter rather than sympathy for the poor child. Unfortunately, it seems most of our "mature" modern parents haven't learned either. Social media has only worsened, since the past decade. Sick and arrogant people everywhere.
@@kfcfingerlicker9292 That's pretty much what DaddyOFive was. Did you know about that? He was a sadistic psychopath who had a popular TH-cam channel where he was abusing his kids just like you described. But fortunately, there was a huge uproar and the state removed the kids.
All of the photos of me from 8 and under is of me very unhappy. Holding my sister- unhappy. Me at a family gathering- unhappy. I can still recall (the family gathering anyway) of the trauma and manipulation I experienced prior to the photo. The conscious display of my unhappiness and how no one came to bring to my attention what was triggering my feeling. Just a blank faced child- that’s who I was programmed to be. No being allowed to feel what I was made to feel.
I dont think, I know what happened. I was the one who spoke out in the family, I was the one who stood up for what was going on. I knew at a very young age that things were not right at my home.
I actually literally found very disturbing videos of my childhood a while ago, and what hurt me more was to know that if my family watched it they'd revictimize me and say how much my parents loved and cared for me
I realized my love of horror media was rooted in childhood trauma, but that doesnt make them any less enjoyable (even more so, after understanding the link!)
So true. People would be horrified to find out how they were treated by their parents. I was. But, you find inner peace after because you realize that you are not crazy. They are.
Daniel our trauma is very hard to tolerate, it has taken me years to continue to integrate my trauma. It is so difficult. I have found that Network Chiropractics or Network Spinal Analysis that is being studied in the USA and the UK as a treatment for PTSD, does bring back memories. Also it creates resilience to be able to tolerate and resolve, integrate and accept what happened. Prominent motivational speaker Tony Robbins speaks of the life changing effects of this treatment. I do agree with you wholeheartedly that there are so many psychologically damaged people around and they act out their own frustrations on others including their own children. Yes we do have that compulsion to act out. We do need to look at ourselves.
As a Dipl. Hypnosis Therapist i can bring you back to every second of you life and you will remember everything. EVEN THE PATTERNS OF THE CARPET IN YOUR ROOM. True - we wouldn't survive the truth about our oh so holy parents ...
Thank you, Daniel! Those were mine thoughts exactly. You can't harvest a nut from an apple tree. If you planted an apple tree you will harvest apples, but if your whole life you are harvesting nuts it certainly isn't from an apple tree.
Some of us may have to wait until the last minute, when, if we're conscious, our "lives will pass before our eyes;" and only then, as we lose ourselves, will we fully understand who we were. This is one way in which death coincides with wholeness.
Thanks. I've thought for many years about many of the same things as Daniel has. During the Sixties, ideas like these were everywhere, in the air and water.
@@BlackCatedialogue I came of age in the Sixties. Some people think that era effectively began in 1963 and ended in 1974, with the assassination of JFK and the American withdrawal from Vietnam at either end. Political ideas, sociological ideas, religious and mystical ideas, aesthetic ideas--ideas of all kinds were everywhere; it was a heady, tumultuous time, and it seemed as if everything was being reconsidered. If you're interested, just Google "The Sixties" and you'll find all kinds of information and suggestions about what to watch, listen to, or read.
there's a show called Supernanny that has clips on YT. watching this show has been so triggering for me... but it's helped me grieve. the families in there are so normal and also SO ABUSIVE that I'm actually shocked it's allowed on tv... guess to show how blind and numb we are to it
Daniel I need some guidance on something that has really been weighing on me. How do I live at ease knowing that people close to me are causing psychological damage to their children with their discipline and actions toward them? I see anger and resentment building up in a toddler that I know and it brings me such sadness. How do you personally live at ease knowing all that you know? Thank you for your time! 🙌🏼
Angelica, I pray for them... there's little else that can be done. You could also befriend the parents and - when the time seems right - suggest a milder approach. I'm saying a special prayer for you, the toddler, and the parents.
When I witness such behaviour, I just speak with the mother and try to get her to understand the importance of her behaviour for her child.. but not sure if it creates any long-term impact on the mother
More so when these are ur own nieces n nephews n d parents r bad siblings to u n their children might be suffering n u cant get involved because dey say u should never. It triggers my past n gives me depression dat i cant save them n i couldnt once myself. But i hav to accept life is a cycle. Things will repeat. I may not be able to prevent things for children of today but i can set n leave an example of healing n guidance to healing. As martin miller found in his mother's alice millers books. I may be not bad as alice miller but i will be good God willng n leave an autobiography of my journey so that i may help these children in healing process
Same here. Hard to tell someone they are destroying their children and turning them from little bright spirits into mean, shallow dysfunctional children later to be the same kind of adults.
It just went through my mind an entire generation of children form you tube, filmed by their parents while they are actually falling badly or are being hurt by animals, and their parents just laugh at them and keep filming...
Thank you Daniel.. My parents gave me a good childhood until I grew up became sucessful and independent... i saw their insecurities ... everytime i shared my successes with them i sensed they really werent truely happy for me... they cannot accept im married and have my own home and life to manage... i took my mum to my office and her insecurities kicked in... i work very hard.. i tried many times to share my happiness with them even thanked them for my life.. But they just cant see ME so successful... i guess they have regrets in life... today i have a good life unfortunately im unhappy coz my parents just couldn't be happy for me...
That's hard. My mother didn't show up at my graduation, and also hates to see me happy and successful. It took me long time to understand it, I am still working on accepting it. I always run back to her, now I am better since a few months and will keep my distance. I guess it's the only thing you can do. Acceptance that your parents are not the way you would need them to be. If you can speak with them, it may help. I tried to speak to me mother, it's useless in her case so I'll have to take my consequences.
Interesting. I like to watch horror over comedy. Although for me it feels like am just a very stressed out person, and it’s easier to distract myself with something scary. Basically it feels like a temporary distraction from the real things that are scaring me. Though scary things are really the things that grab my attention.
My parents were protected too. When I lived in NYC I got well. When I moved to a more suburban family oriented community I got sick again. People want to believe that all parents mean well and love their children. Kids are the ones who pay.
I had dissociation amnesia after a sui*de attempt, for 20 years. My memories returned after i moved back to my hometown. I was abandoned and abused by my mother since age 2, sold at 17, on &on, and the memories came back right away and continued for a year and half. It was horrific, absolutely horrific and i dissociated off and on as i processed things. I had 22 years of counseling and in a safe place, but it was very, very difficult. You have to experience the pain that you experienced with each incident, but it is possible to get through....thank you for the talk.
One day about 5 yrs ago I was telling my older cousin something that my sister and I were both told by our mother. She told us that her parents abandoned her when she was 16 telling her they could no longer afford to live in their house and had to move into their older daughter’s home. Our mom told us that she was then forced to live with another older sister and her family as sort of their indentured servant. She was the youngest of 13 children. As I shared this “gospel truth” story we’d been raised hearing and believing, my cousin became so angry and started to yell at me on the phone. She denied everything I had just told her and that I assumed everyone knew about. She said “Grandpa and grandma would NEVER do that to your mom because they were the sweetest!” I was stunned. I told her “Well that’s what we were always told as children.” I was shocked to hear her say that. Why would our (mentally ill) mom lie to us all our lives and make up a story like that? We didn’t know our grandparents enough to know how sweet they were. My cousin and I have never spoken since. How does one reconcile something you believed was true all your life, and then to be ostracized for what you were told as a child? That makes no sense to me that a family member would judge a person so harshly.
Your insights about childhood trauma are important, so Thank You. I more than realize that there are memories that I don't have access to. I was shown that I would remember when I am ready and able to handle it. Right now I need to take care of what's in front of me. My cottage is being sold and I need to find a place to live. Though I watch your videos when they come out, i don't have time to respond in a thoughtful way. Thank you again for bringing childhood trauma to light.
Rarely did extended family members visit our home growing up. I could probably count on one hand. They were terrified of my mother. She had recently been to their home and flipped the kitchen table over in one of her rages. When I was in my late 20's I received a phone call, they said, "We looked into it and you being her grown child can have her locked up." They wanted me to rescue them...adults. The fury that suddenly hit me, "I said "Where YOU when I was a child!" I had to deal with her my WHOLE life! Interesting they seem to gloss over the terror I suffered as a child. They could not handle this ONE day with her, imagine years. It was concrete to me at that moment, I was always left to defend myself and my sister from terror. They never even acknowledged it; they were only angry I would not help them. ADULTS! I haven't seen any of them in decades. They would have to acknowledge they knew we were living in hell and did nothing about it.
I am taking care of old people with Dementia for example, the Denial I am witnessing every day is amazing. We truly are all Liars, a lot of the things are so deeply frozen in our unconscious that I assume will stay that way unless miracle happens and humans start to grow, for some reason. I love a lot of the insights here, thank you for the great content!
I can remember many incidents, and remembered the really bad ones as an adult... I don't need proof. I have no illusions, I disliked my mother all my life and make no bones that I wanted her to disappear when I was 8. I'd love to have the videos to show my brother what I witnessed. He closes his eyes when I tell him what happened to him. Im tired of being the truth carrier. I had no choice but to face the traumas when I couldn't go on under the weight of it any more.
Thank you so much Daniel. 🙏🏽 I always wondered why I am so drawn to horror movies and what you said here makes sense. I have thought about this a lot over the years and I must agree. I am working so hard on my issues as I manifest a blessed and beautiful life. Sending love and light to you sir and anyone who may come across my comment. Happy 2021. Blessings. 🦋
Daniel, you and I are on the same exact path or thinking and discovering. Figuratively speaking, it's like your train and my train and on the tracks next to each other going at the same speed in the same direction. But I'm grateful that you are able to put this experience into words to help me understand it even more clearly. One thing though, I don't have children. And so, I will not repeat the pattern of abuse and deceite that I faced throughout my childhood.
I have traumatic memories of my life all the way to my mid teens. The earliest traumatic memory is from when I was around 3 years old. All of them mostly from my mom. Some from my grandma too. My older brother told me what happened to my other brother when my mom "broke" him mentally. He was a baby. She tried to break me too until my teens constantly violating me in all sorts of ways. Having memories of it was terrifying for many years. I'm coming in terms with it now. Thanks for the video.
I have this "super power" that I remember things like a frozen space, I remember many things inside it like the temperature, the wind, the people, and of course my unresolved feelings. It is sort of overwhelming because usually inside there's deep desperate and resentment to my parents or others. I suffer from serious migraine when I feel those feelings. My parents loved to take photos and they forced me to smile for them, so I have tons of photos with a forced smile, some was actually angry or crying, I remember how my parents laughed at me as "the crying kid" when they were holding the camera, and laughed me again and again after it became a physical photo. That's why I hate selfie so much although I'm consider good looking in my culture.
As always I appreciate your stellare insights! I think we have the compulsion to replicate what we haved lived, whether healthy or/and unhealthy---it is just that the unhealthy compulsions are so much more apparent . . . and painful
I want them to be forced to watch that video evidence, that flood of negative emotion is the most effective punishment against them ever behaving that way again. More than prison, fines, or even execution ever could be. I would love to see that cataclysm occur.
Why is it evertime someone asks me who are ur fiends ? directly i remmber my friends in my childhood I have left them more than 17years. And i have new friends now, but when ever someone asks the qusetion i remmber them.
Thank you for another substantial description & review on the topic of early childhood trauma; of which most emotional & mental disturbances evolve from. ( according to latest findings ) ~ On a personal note, I have come to many new realizations during our STAY HOME mandate. 🌼🌸🌻 Somehow, I was brought back to thinking about my very early childhood & things I was afraid of. ( 3 major things ) One of which was about the terrible anger that came up from my dad , focused to my mom. These outbursts would continue throughout my early childhood, and I was overwhelmed in a tsunami of feelings that had no release because I was not yet speaking & or was just learning simple words. Today, as a mature adult who has been around the block quite a few times, I understand exactly what was going on & why my parents felt the way they did, as they acted out their own traumas & upsets. Unfortunately ~ these very powerful emotions erupt like a volcano & a tiny child is terrified of being caught up in the midst of the fire storm. If this same argument took place in front of me today, I may just shrug it off. People letting out steam. But, to a teeny, tiny novice of human experience, we cannot process these events . And so we capture them & hold onto it, for later review. It’s kind of funny to discover that all these blow ups were about their own childhood issues & fears ! When people feel safe with each other, they will show & share their pain with each other. It’s not a bad thing, but rather a sign of trust. Unfortunately - we are taught to believe that as adults we are supposed to act like perfect people 24 hours a day. Sorry, life doesn’t work that way ! ~ Back to my own story, I understand that my parents struggles were all about working out cultural differences. They did not hate each other at all. They had to get angry to be able to express themselves.. because they were both quite shy 🌑🌺🌝 And now I feel a lot better too, because as a tiny child , I thought my father was gonna kill my mother ! Where did I get that idea ? From hearing scary stories on news & tv ! ~ Have a great day everybody, and know that you can enjoy life in spite of conflicts that take place around you. We do not live in a fairy tale musical 🌬 🌤 ☀️ 🌈
I watch sad things all the time or disturbing things like abuse documentaries and movies and shows or something with a father loving their child. I like crying and feeling alive but most importantly, it helps me cope. It helps me cope and prepare for things if things do end up happening.
❤ yuppp… I kept the proof in mindboxes with a timeline for safekeeping I see it clearly. Everything you described happened to me with the adults I approached when I became an adult. It was ultimately more and more betrayal for me to handle. They all were incredibly cowardly. Now I realize it made me a stronger wiser caring person who has to heal on her own.
Seeing me when im young made me realize how everyone has corrupted me. That person was pure and innocent. Nobody cares about you but you. Your only friend is god. We go through all our lives knowing about our invisible immortal friend. After realising this i have abandoned everything for a godly life by regaining my innocence when i was a baby.
Thank you for this video! I actually have an experience, where I saw the abuse that in some ways I knew happened, but whenever I started to realising it I would push it away and disregard as impossible ( I was still a teenager at this point). After suffering from multiple sexual abuse both from my second step-father and “boyfriends”, I finally moved to a different country with my boyfriend that respects me, we did magic truffles (my first time doing psychedelics) and while tripping everything became overly sexual and I was so disgust, then I was seeing my first step-father abusing me and I was sharing how I was trying to protect my mom, that’s why I never said anything etc, while crying and repeating those horrors for few hours, it was awful and I don’t think I could handle all that IF I was still living in my country, next to my family, step-father and still being in denial and trying to “protect” everybody, by being silent, it explains why I knew how to behave and didn’t see other people as abusers, that I would let them do things to me and believe that this was love.
Life is full of traumas. There are infant, childhood, teenage, young adult, adult, middle age, old age trauma. There are all kinds of traumas depanding on age group & circumstances surrounding us.Traumas just like good times are part of life.
I had old pics of my father and aunt as young children on Christmas morning looking scared to death with bruises all over their faces and bodies. To my surprise, my aunt destroyed the worst ones with the most obvious bruises. I understand her desire to destroy that image of herself but as her descendant I think it's important to expose those histories to the non believers, but that's ok... :) Twas her choice
Great video as usual, Daniel! Could you please perhaps make a video which targets confidence and social anxiety? I would love to hear what you have to say.
Thank you Sarah. I like the topic, I think it’s a good idea! And thanks for posting. And thanks everyone for posting, if others read this. I wish I had time to reply to all these comments, but I do read them all! Warm greetings, Daniel
If someone ever invents a time machine - not to go back in time, but to watch the past as it happened - the world will be in for a rude awakening. I'd love to see video of me as a baby and my childhood. I'd also love to see the lives of my parents, grandparents and previous generations of my family to see what led up to my being. I'd rather have video proof of my past than to go thru life wondering and guessing what happened to me.
Or you look through the family photos and you actually look happy in them... does not compute! Ah, but when you look closer you see your eyes aren't smiling as much as your mouth.
What do you think to “daddyofive”? Obviously it’s disgusting but it’s child abuse on camera and it had a cult following- who saw nothing wrong. I wonder how that poor kid will grow up. It’s sad to see the other kids moulded into the parents image
The thing that makes me SO angry is NOBODY did anything ! All I got ever asked is What did you do to make your father or mother so angry ? What ?????? Im only seven, what could I do wrong ? Im only a kid....
@@LetsGo6009 Daniel really seems to be suited to be at least a foster parent. He is doing a fantastic job of working with adults and he could be doing damage control and prevention at the same time. Perhaps organize a group of people to foster children or be mentors. The state would probably even pay him to do that. It would be well worth it!
Hi Daniel. How come you haven’t been adding ads in to your videos via TH-cam (monetization). That’s a good way of getting partial income from your videos just like what majority of TH-camrs do. Just saying...
In death they do get to see the videos of their life, treatment of others etc. It happens. It’s an aspect of this life cycle. The great challenge is to,view these and deal with them own our lives, not at the point of death. That is ascension
Daniel.. I feel some traumas are good.. Tell me if I'm wrong.. 1. A child is born. He's going from a life to another.. That must be traumatic!(not to mention hearing his mother scream her lungs out, different temperatures.. Seeing a LARGE thing carry him(doctor). 2. Breastfeeding (weaning) also is probably quite traumatic for a delicate weak baby. 3.having a baby brother probably causes something as the attention gets devided. All these are not wrong at all but they probably cause emotional discomfort for a very delicate little heart. This doesn't give the right to anyone to traumatize their child in the name of raising them (and turning them into "a man") No. Rather raises the question, is there such a thing as good trauma, and can u benefit from the traumas?
Some people actually do have extensive videos of all their childhood abuse, going back to when they were babies. Just ask Jon Gosselin. (Jon and Kate Plus 8, in case you have no idea what I'm talking about.) Or DaddyOFive. Did you know about him? He was a TH-camr who had his kids removed by CPS because he was abusing them in his videos. Maybe you should do a video about kids on reality shows and TH-cam.
Hello good afternoon dr. I have been abused as a child and have videos of my childhood that shows what you are talking about. Let me know we can have a talk please Iam willing to share the videos
what a great video !!! in Japan they save face ! there is a video in my mind of my worst and best moments nowadays all phone calls are recorded all transactions at walmart are recorded
Many of them were wiped out by drugs and alcohol. I had thought about going to hypnosis to help get all the puzzle pieces of when I was first molested. Find out why my brothers enjoyed having sex with me. Family will not talk about it. First memory I have is feeling abandoned in an oxygen tent fighting to breath. Age 3 or 4 Have forgiven family and molesters. Consequences still dealing with.
Why can’t you just move on Sarah? Why are you trying to find someone to blame for family problems? Why don’t you just let it go?.... says the family when I politely and discreetly asked a couple follow up questions upon catching wind that a long-deceased great grandparent was a known child molester... I hate family secrets 😡
Can you please make a video on what you think causes homosexual attraction? Especially for people who began being attracted only to the same sex at an early age (age 11 for example), and have only ever been attracted to the same sex all their lives? Or maybe you can just reply to this comment instead of make a video? Maybe it's not sexual abuse, I wasn't sexually abused and I also felt closer to my dad than my mom, although my dad died when I was 10.
Seriously. Why do people like crime shows so much??? I've never liked it, and then I ended up with a Forensic Psych major (wasn't much os a choice between Organizational Psych and Child Development Psych) that I felt like was too much for me to study, and I felt very repulsed.
Oh f$%^ ... I really don't need it because I remember too many of these things quite clearly and I know exactly which moments are the origins of some of the ways I became screwed up. But I sure wish the 'video evidence' existed for the people I care about. Some of those people really believe the problem is them. And other people are perfectly happy to indulge that delusion.
When I was on seeking answer and all I had got was more shutdowns, I began to question of it was me that was off, that all the people around me were right,.it was.me,.i.was.The problem, I have an attitude, I am always going on.about stuff that should be left in the past. I was always looking for some one to tell me who I was, I was so self conscious and rigid. I was beginning to think I was going mad. Until I had a dream one night. I dreamt I was going to a.party, and went shopping for a top, I found one that I liked, it as multicoloured and I really liked it so I brought it. I got home and got ready and put on my new colourful top. On.exiting my flat, (the actual cost I lived in) on reaching the street with people walking about I realised people were.looking at me with strange looks, with almost disgust on their faces. I moved on to the party and everywhere I went people were.saying, "what have you got on?" " you want to go home and change that top its awful" Why I said I like it, but everyone hated it, so I went back to my flat to change, and on opening my wardrobe I found I had no clothes? so knowing my aunty loved.next door, (and in real life) I went next door to borrow.a.top. My aunty invited me in sayong , "he's of course.you can, I have loads you can take your pick, as she opened up her wardrobe she gasped, "Well that's weird, all my clothes have disappeared in afraid you will have to wear the one you have on" On.waking from that dream, I was.trying to work out the meaning, as I knew it meant something. I pondered.on the colourful top, which was very colourful,.I thought about it and it hen realised it was showing me I was been my true self, and yet people still.did not like me. That bothered me, and I was wondering then if i.was being my true self and the people around me still did not like me, did that mean I was not good, not nice? I was confused and frustrated, and did not know.what to think. Then around a.month later I was.walking home at night and a song popped into my head. "And I see your true colours shinning through, and I see your true colours shinning through, and that's why I love you, so don't be afraid to let them show, your true colours, your true colours, are beautiful like the rainbow" At that moment I knew, what the dream was telling me, I was being my true self and if others around me.don't like then that's their problem. And if they don't want to be around me because I am.being true to myself, then I don't need them.
Finally we have the end result of the abuse, which is in the present. We cannot change the past and sometimes the present also doesn't look happy. But we have a choice - either be put down or just smile and move on. Currently I think, that the second option is best ;) :).
Perhaps if we saw video proof of events we believe were traumatic we would be more inclined to realize that we ourselves are attached to the idea of victimhood, and that we were not mistreated, or in a lesser way than we have chosen to remember; we simply felt so mistreated in our ego development that we then chose subconsciously to amplify or diminish the circumstances interwoven with this process.
Nah bro. When a parent beat the shit out of me, made me eat a moldy sandwich, made me sleep in a garage, I didnt choose it. Didn't choose to feel traumatized 🙄
Lady Nightsong As a person who also experienced this type of trauma I have great empathy for you, but that isn’t what I wrote. Trauma is not limited to physical violence, and I was speaking more to the nuances of less obvious forms of abuse. Be well.
It's so disgusting in US hyper corporate capitalist culture we're told to just forget all these things and be "tough" and "thankful" that we at least had food and a roof over our heads. Just because you have a roof over your head and food doesn't give your parents and the rest of society permission to abuse you in any way they may see fit. We're a collectively traumatized mess.
It really is amazing, if we Really wanted efficiency we'd put our psychological well being above all else
Unfortunately, a lot of parents confuse financial "needs" with real emotional needs. I don't think children have financial needs as much as they have emotional needs, and parents fail when they think putting food on the table and a roof over one's head is enough. It is not enough. That is just the minimum requirement.
It's all about heartless power dynamics throughout the whole society. Including families.
@@bobtheman1 the roof is not so important as avoiding conflict...
Getting older I'm realizing that nobody but me cares about what I went through in my past but me. Absolutely no one. No one that was or will be will ever care about my history but me. When you can accept that and live day to day with gratefulness for what you have now, hopefully having a roof over your head and food to eat, you can find some pleasure in the years you have left.
@@venusbonjour9303Society is insane, but the worst part is to persuade people how insane society is. Take a look at "Plato's Allegory Of The Cave". Prisoners are shackled inside a "cave", not knowing the true realities of the world. The prisoners are blinded by the notion, that everything they see or touch is the only reality they have. An enlightened man comes to persuade the prisoners that none of the things they see or touch in the cave are real, but to no avail gets cast out. Arguably, society is the "cave", from which people live and depend on.
In my opinion, the easiest way for people to recognize society's problems is to make them laugh. Take a look at George Carlin or Richard Gervais.
@@kfcfingerlicker9292 Richard Gervais is brilliant in putting it out there like it really is, stark realist - love him.
Venusbonjour10 have recently seen that in response to TH-cam comments. Left me wondering why some people even watch these videos at all. If they think like that am not sure why or how they got these.
I've been feeling this way too. Even with therapists. I've shared my most horrific traumas and have been traumatized by their lack of empathy for something so horrific and lack of validation.
Just makes me wonder if I can ever heal and learn healthy responses.... cause I can't sleep for shit after all this.
Dunston when you're vulnerable, that's especially when no one cares. Experienced that most my life. You can tell a lot about someone by how they treat you when you're vulnerable.
I recently received an email from a neighbor who was around when I was two years old. I asked what she renembered and she sent me a few very long emails that were very validating of my recalled experience but also just truly horrifying. She apologized for not doing more to help me, although her idea of help was yes, to get her kids to take me for walks and get me out of the house, but also to repeatedly call child services. I look at the few pictures I have of myself at that age and I was SO small and sweet and innocent. I can't imagine screaming at, hitting and locking a little person like that in a room or a car all day but that's what was done to me and my parents (like most) went unpunished. Despite significant therapy and work, I still greatly suffer the ongoing consequences of this (and many other subsequent abuses) to this day.
So sorry for the horror you had to endure!
I'm sending you a big hug 💛
🙏
Remembering disturbing elements of my childhood makes me angry and sad, mostly because they got away with it in an epic way
@@Kuutamo73 I feel you! I am enraged sometimes and understand how people are driven to hurt their abusers later in life.
The longer I live, the more unjust this place and life in general seems.
Fucking depressing.
How interesting. You look lovely in your pic. Keep going, love is abundant as it is a God given gift. Much love.
I`m actually lucky, cause my father recorded videos of me during my childhood. Video cameras became popular at that time, so I have recordings of me being less than a year old until like 7 years old. And internet wasn`t affordable for most people, so he didn`t ruin my privacy by posting this vids online.
These videos are hugely upsetting. Like there`s a clip where I`m learning to walk, holding to a cupboard. It`s so physically hard for me, I`m falling, but my parents don`t notice, they don`t even look at me, just talk to each other while I fall and struggle to teach myself to walk. There`s not enough support for me to walk, so I`m trying to use my teeth - "bite" a piece of cupboard to stop me from falling down. I can`t manage.
Or there`s a clip where I go to my mother (she`s obviously crying) and ask her if everything was okay. She says, everything`s fine. I ask again, I say: "but... you`re... not good". She doesn`t answer. She doesn`t look at me. "No, I'm okay" she says with a quietest voice, looking somewhere else (probably because she continues to cry). And I realize that that`s how I`ve learned to ignore feelings, to always numb myself, to be constantly depressed pretending I`m okay.
Or my baptism is recorded on camera. I`m just an infant, some people I don't know and don't trust put my body in the cold water and I cry and cry and cry... They don`t notice my screams, just say their prayers. Their ritual is more important than me.
I couldn`t watch these videos until the end. It`s too painful to handle.
The baptism one is a common experience in all those raised in orthodox countries. It's batshit crazy.
I got baptized when I was about 5, so I remember it well. Pretty humiliating, also I don’t know how it could mean anything for a 5 year old spiritually.
I am glad the internet wasn't popular back then. Otherwise, be warned. There will be psychopathic people out there that will take these so-called "innocent baby videos", and make profit revenue from them. When the video reaches several million views, expect laughter rather than sympathy for the poor child.
Unfortunately, it seems most of our "mature" modern parents haven't learned either. Social media has only worsened, since the past decade. Sick and arrogant people everywhere.
@@kfcfingerlicker9292 That's pretty much what DaddyOFive was. Did you know about that? He was a sadistic psychopath who had a popular TH-cam channel where he was abusing his kids just like you described. But fortunately, there was a huge uproar and the state removed the kids.
How about when they cut off the tips of our penis skin in a ritual.
To be civilised is to be traumatised
😢 so true
But don't be TOO traumatized now, you still gotta be useful to the economic machine!
My friend, you are a great human being.
All of the photos of me from 8 and under is of me very unhappy.
Holding my sister- unhappy. Me at a family gathering- unhappy. I can still recall (the family gathering anyway) of the trauma and manipulation I experienced prior to the photo. The conscious display of my unhappiness and how no one came to bring to my attention what was triggering my feeling.
Just a blank faced child- that’s who I was programmed to be. No being allowed to feel what I was made to feel.
I dont think, I know what happened. I was the one who spoke out in the family, I was the one who stood up for what was going on. I knew at a very young age that things were not right at my home.
Good for you. I am so sorry how it turned out. But no one wants to tell the truth about how families work-- except it seems homicide detectives.
I actually literally found very disturbing videos of my childhood a while ago, and what hurt me more was to know that if my family watched it they'd revictimize me and say how much my parents loved and cared for me
I realized my love of horror media was rooted in childhood trauma, but that doesnt make them any less enjoyable (even more so, after understanding the link!)
So much appreciation and support to you Daniel 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
So true. People would be horrified to find out how they were treated by their parents. I was. But, you find inner peace after because you realize that you are not crazy. They are.
That would be cool. It would be the ultimate defense against people denying that certain traumas even happened.
You content is life-changing, thank you so much!
Daniel our trauma is very hard to tolerate, it has taken me years to continue to integrate my trauma. It is so difficult. I have found that Network Chiropractics or Network Spinal Analysis that is being studied in the USA and the UK as a treatment for PTSD, does bring back memories. Also it creates resilience to be able to tolerate and resolve, integrate and accept what happened. Prominent motivational speaker Tony Robbins speaks of the life changing effects of this treatment. I do agree with you wholeheartedly that there are so many psychologically damaged people around and they act out their own frustrations on others including their own children. Yes we do have that compulsion to act out. We do need to look at ourselves.
As a Dipl. Hypnosis Therapist i can bring you back to every second of you life and you will remember everything. EVEN THE PATTERNS OF THE CARPET IN YOUR ROOM. True - we wouldn't survive the truth about our oh so holy parents ...
Thank you, Daniel! Those were mine thoughts exactly. You can't harvest a nut from an apple tree. If you planted an apple tree you will harvest apples, but if your whole life you are harvesting nuts it certainly isn't from an apple tree.
@Dunston lol
6:13 Daniel, you nailed it again!!!
Some of us may have to wait until the last minute, when, if we're conscious, our "lives will pass before our eyes;" and only then, as we lose ourselves, will we fully understand who we were.
This is one way in which death coincides with wholeness.
I love how u said it
Thanks.
I've thought for many years about many of the same things as Daniel has. During the Sixties, ideas like these were everywhere, in the air and water.
@@JohnPaul-le4pf really 60s? My parents were born in 60s so its interesting. What others ideas were there? How old are you?
@@BlackCatedialogue
I came of age in the Sixties.
Some people think that era effectively began in 1963 and ended in 1974, with the assassination of JFK and the American withdrawal from Vietnam at either end.
Political ideas, sociological ideas, religious and mystical ideas, aesthetic ideas--ideas of all kinds were everywhere; it was a heady, tumultuous time, and it seemed as if everything was being reconsidered.
If you're interested, just Google "The Sixties" and you'll find all kinds of information and suggestions about what to watch, listen to, or read.
@@JohnPaul-le4pf oh yes i studied all these events in my international history
there's a show called Supernanny that has clips on YT. watching this show has been so triggering for me... but it's helped me grieve. the families in there are so normal and also SO ABUSIVE that I'm actually shocked it's allowed on tv... guess to show how blind and numb we are to it
I know. Surprising because now there is birth control, and knowledge about parenting. They had to know they were going to suck at parenting.
Daniel I need some guidance on something that has really been weighing on me. How do I live at ease knowing that people close to me are causing psychological damage to their children with their discipline and actions toward them? I see anger and resentment building up in a toddler that I know and it brings me such sadness. How do you personally live at ease knowing all that you know? Thank you for your time! 🙌🏼
Angelica Lopez I have the same question!
Angelica, I pray for them... there's little else that can be done. You could also befriend the parents and - when the time seems right - suggest a milder approach. I'm saying a special prayer for you, the toddler, and the parents.
When I witness such behaviour, I just speak with the mother and try to get her to understand the importance of her behaviour for her child.. but not sure if it creates any long-term impact on the mother
More so when these are ur own nieces n nephews n d parents r bad siblings to u n their children might be suffering n u cant get involved because dey say u should never. It triggers my past n gives me depression dat i cant save them n i couldnt once myself. But i hav to accept life is a cycle. Things will repeat. I may not be able to prevent things for children of today but i can set n leave an example of healing n guidance to healing. As martin miller found in his mother's alice millers books. I may be not bad as alice miller but i will be good God willng n leave an autobiography of my journey so that i may help these children in healing process
Same here. Hard to tell someone they are destroying their children and turning them from little bright spirits into mean, shallow dysfunctional children later to be the same kind of adults.
It just went through my mind an entire generation of children form you tube, filmed by their parents while they are actually falling badly or are being hurt by animals, and their parents just laugh at them and keep filming...
Thank you Daniel..
My parents gave me a good childhood until I grew up became sucessful and independent... i saw their insecurities ... everytime i shared my successes with them i sensed they really werent truely happy for me... they cannot accept im married and have my own home and life to manage... i took my mum to my office and her insecurities kicked in... i work very hard.. i tried many times to share my happiness with them even thanked them for my life.. But they just cant see ME so successful... i guess they have regrets in life... today i have a good life unfortunately im unhappy coz my parents just couldn't be happy for me...
That's hard. My mother didn't show up at my graduation, and also hates to see me happy and successful. It took me long time to understand it, I am still working on accepting it. I always run back to her, now I am better since a few months and will keep my distance. I guess it's the only thing you can do. Acceptance that your parents are not the way you would need them to be. If you can speak with them, it may help. I tried to speak to me mother, it's useless in her case so I'll have to take my consequences.
Interesting. I like to watch horror over comedy. Although for me it feels like am just a very stressed out person, and it’s easier to distract myself with something scary. Basically it feels like a temporary distraction from the real things that are scaring me. Though scary things are really the things that grab my attention.
My parents were protected too. When I lived in NYC I got well. When I moved to a more suburban family oriented community I got sick again. People want to believe that all parents mean well and love their children. Kids are the ones who pay.
I had dissociation amnesia after a sui*de attempt, for 20 years. My memories returned after i moved back to my hometown. I was abandoned and abused by my mother since age 2, sold at 17, on &on, and the memories came back right away and continued for a year and half. It was horrific, absolutely horrific and i dissociated off and on as i processed things. I had 22 years of counseling and in a safe place, but it was very, very difficult. You have to experience the pain that you experienced with each incident, but it is possible to get through....thank you for the talk.
One day about 5 yrs ago I was telling my older cousin something that my sister and I were both told by our mother. She told us that her parents abandoned her when she was 16 telling her they could no longer afford to live in their house and had to move into their older daughter’s home. Our mom told us that she was then forced to live with another older sister and her family as sort of their indentured servant. She was the youngest of 13 children. As I shared this “gospel truth” story we’d been raised hearing and believing, my cousin became so angry and started to yell at me on the phone. She denied everything I had just told her and that I assumed everyone knew about. She said “Grandpa and grandma would NEVER do that to your mom because they were the sweetest!” I was stunned. I told her “Well that’s what we were always told as children.” I was shocked to hear her say that. Why would our (mentally ill) mom lie to us all our lives and make up a story like that? We didn’t know our grandparents enough to know how sweet they were. My cousin and I have never spoken since. How does one reconcile something you believed was true all your life, and then to be ostracized for what you were told as a child? That makes no sense to me that a family member would judge a person so harshly.
You threatened her "reality".
Cousin is covering up abuse. Subconsciously she knows more.
Sherlock Holmes about life trauma is spot on
Your insights about childhood trauma are important, so Thank You.
I more than realize that there are memories that I don't have access to. I was shown that I would remember when I am ready and able to handle it.
Right now I need to take care of what's in front of me. My cottage is being sold and I need to find a place to live.
Though I watch your videos when they come out, i don't have time to respond in a thoughtful way.
Thank you again for bringing childhood trauma to light.
Rarely did extended family members visit our home growing up. I could probably count on one hand. They were terrified of my mother. She had recently been to their home and flipped the kitchen table over in one of her rages. When I was in my late 20's I received a phone call, they said, "We looked into it and you being her grown child can have her locked up." They wanted me to rescue them...adults. The fury that suddenly hit me, "I said "Where YOU when I was a child!" I had to deal with her my WHOLE life! Interesting they seem to gloss over the terror I suffered as a child. They could not handle this ONE day with her, imagine years. It was concrete to me at that moment, I was always left to defend myself and my sister from terror. They never even acknowledged it; they were only angry I would not help them. ADULTS! I haven't seen any of them in decades. They would have to acknowledge they knew we were living in hell and did nothing about it.
I am taking care of old people with Dementia for example, the Denial I am witnessing every day is amazing. We truly are all Liars, a lot of the things are so deeply frozen in our unconscious that I assume will stay that way unless miracle happens and humans start to grow, for some reason. I love a lot of the insights here, thank you for the great content!
Your videos are really the only thing that gives me relief.
God I wish you were my therapist :( I just love your insight, keep them coming! ♥
I can remember many incidents, and remembered the really bad ones as an adult... I don't need proof. I have no illusions, I disliked my mother all my life and make no bones that I wanted her to disappear when I was 8. I'd love to have the videos to show my brother what I witnessed. He closes his eyes when I tell him what happened to him. Im tired of being the truth carrier. I had no choice but to face the traumas when I couldn't go on under the weight of it any more.
I'm surprised by all the people taunting their children and pets and putting this on the internet; "We ate your Halloween candy." Not cool.
Your videos are so validating! ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much Daniel. 🙏🏽 I always wondered why I am so drawn to horror movies and what you said here makes sense. I have thought about this a lot over the years and I must agree. I am working so hard on my issues as I manifest a blessed and beautiful life. Sending love and light to you sir and anyone who may come across my comment. Happy 2021. Blessings. 🦋
Daniel, you and I are on the same exact path or thinking and discovering. Figuratively speaking, it's like your train and my train and on the tracks next to each other going at the same speed in the same direction. But I'm grateful that you are able to put this experience into words to help me understand it even more clearly. One thing though, I don't have children. And so, I will not repeat the pattern of abuse and deceite that I faced throughout my childhood.
I have traumatic memories of my life all the way to my mid teens. The earliest traumatic memory is from when I was around 3 years old. All of them mostly from my mom. Some from my grandma too. My older brother told me what happened to my other brother when my mom "broke" him mentally. He was a baby. She tried to break me too until my teens constantly violating me in all sorts of ways. Having memories of it was terrifying for many years. I'm coming in terms with it now. Thanks for the video.
Confinement is motivating you 🙂
Yes, I've enought of that already :).
I have this "super power" that I remember things like a frozen space, I remember many things inside it like the temperature, the wind, the people, and of course my unresolved feelings. It is sort of overwhelming because usually inside there's deep desperate and resentment to my parents or others. I suffer from serious migraine when I feel those feelings. My parents loved to take photos and they forced me to smile for them, so I have tons of photos with a forced smile, some was actually angry or crying, I remember how my parents laughed at me as "the crying kid" when they were holding the camera, and laughed me again and again after it became a physical photo. That's why I hate selfie so much although I'm consider good looking in my culture.
As always I appreciate your stellare insights! I think we have the compulsion to replicate what we haved lived, whether healthy or/and unhealthy---it is just that the unhealthy compulsions are so much more apparent . . . and painful
Daniel, you are delicate, sensitive, and hold the sword of Truth
I want them to be forced to watch that video evidence, that flood of negative emotion is the most effective punishment against them ever behaving that way again. More than prison, fines, or even execution ever could be. I would love to see that cataclysm occur.
And you would be surprised how numb most would react to it.
Numb, disassociated, indifferent and showing no remorse.
@@themetamorphosisofgipsy Yup. That's the damn sad truth.
Why is it evertime someone asks me who are ur fiends ? directly i remmber my friends in my childhood
I have left them more than 17years. And i have new friends now, but when ever someone asks the qusetion i remmber them.
I believe there is a special connection we make when kids with other kids.
Thank you for another substantial description & review on the topic of early childhood trauma; of which most emotional & mental disturbances evolve from. ( according to latest findings ) ~ On a personal note, I have come to many new realizations during our STAY HOME mandate. 🌼🌸🌻 Somehow, I was brought back to thinking about my very early childhood & things I was afraid of. ( 3 major things ) One of which was about the terrible anger that came up from my dad , focused to my mom. These outbursts would continue throughout my early childhood, and I was overwhelmed in a tsunami of feelings that had no release because I was not yet speaking & or was just learning simple words. Today, as a mature adult who has been around the block quite a few times, I understand exactly what was going on & why my parents felt the way they did, as they acted out their own traumas & upsets. Unfortunately ~ these very powerful emotions erupt like a volcano & a tiny child is terrified of being caught up in the midst of the fire storm. If this same argument took place in front of me today, I may just shrug it off. People letting out steam. But, to a teeny, tiny novice of human experience, we cannot process these events . And so we capture them & hold onto it, for later review. It’s kind of funny to discover that all these blow ups were about their own childhood issues & fears ! When people feel safe with each other, they will show & share their pain with each other. It’s not a bad thing, but rather a sign of trust. Unfortunately - we are taught to believe that as adults we are supposed to act like perfect people 24 hours a day. Sorry, life doesn’t work that way ! ~ Back to my own story, I understand that my parents struggles were all about working out cultural differences. They did not hate each other at all. They had to get angry to be able to express themselves.. because they were both quite shy 🌑🌺🌝 And now I feel a lot better too, because as a tiny child , I thought my father was gonna kill my mother ! Where did I get that idea ? From hearing scary stories on news & tv ! ~ Have a great day everybody, and know that you can enjoy life in spite of conflicts that take place around you. We do not live in a fairy tale musical 🌬 🌤 ☀️ 🌈
I don't want video of any of that stuff. I would end up in the psych ward permanently.
I watch sad things all the time or disturbing things like abuse documentaries and movies and shows or something with a father loving their child. I like crying and feeling alive but most importantly, it helps me cope. It helps me cope and prepare for things if things do end up happening.
Forgiveness is paramount - and it's not humanly possible in some situations. And yet it occurs for millions every day.
Forgiveness or denial?
@@Kuutamo73 both occur
Daniel you're an amazing human being! Thank you so much for your invaluable videos! I'm so happy to relate to you/ what you say!
❤ yuppp… I kept the proof in mindboxes with a timeline for safekeeping I see it clearly. Everything you described happened to me with the adults I approached when I became an adult. It was ultimately more and more betrayal for me to handle. They all were incredibly cowardly. Now I realize it made me a stronger wiser caring person who has to heal on her own.
Thank you for everything.
Thanks a lot! I already got so much insight into my own life past experiences with aid of your stories and this is yet another.
Seeing me when im young made me realize how everyone has corrupted me. That person was pure and innocent. Nobody cares about you but you. Your only friend is god. We go through all our lives knowing about our invisible immortal friend. After realising this i have abandoned everything for a godly life by regaining my innocence when i was a baby.
I still hope to contribute to your work if I ever can resolve my settlement. I will be in touch if I can. Take care
Thank you for this video! I actually have an experience, where I saw the abuse that in some ways I knew happened, but whenever I started to realising it I would push it away and disregard as impossible ( I was still a teenager at this point). After suffering from multiple sexual abuse both from my second step-father and “boyfriends”, I finally moved to a different country with my boyfriend that respects me, we did magic truffles (my first time doing psychedelics) and while tripping everything became overly sexual and I was so disgust, then I was seeing my first step-father abusing me and I was sharing how I was trying to protect my mom, that’s why I never said anything etc, while crying and repeating those horrors for few hours, it was awful and I don’t think I could handle all that IF I was still living in my country, next to my family, step-father and still being in denial and trying to “protect” everybody, by being silent, it explains why I knew how to behave and didn’t see other people as abusers, that I would let them do things to me and believe that this was love.
Life is full of traumas. There are infant, childhood, teenage,
young adult, adult, middle age, old age trauma. There are all kinds of traumas depanding on age group & circumstances
surrounding us.Traumas just like good times are part of life.
You're quite amazing. I like listening to you.
I had old pics of my father and aunt as young children on Christmas morning looking scared to death with bruises all over their faces and bodies. To my surprise, my aunt destroyed the worst ones with the most obvious bruises.
I understand her desire to destroy that image of herself but as her descendant I think it's important to expose those histories to the non believers, but that's ok... :) Twas her choice
Discard the evidence of the abuse, but continue to hang around the abuser, I bet. People are so backward.
...if only Daniel Mackler wud interact with his viewers comments..
Great video as usual, Daniel! Could you please perhaps make a video which targets confidence and social anxiety? I would love to hear what you have to say.
Thank you Sarah. I like the topic, I think it’s a good idea! And thanks for posting. And thanks everyone for posting, if others read this. I wish I had time to reply to all these comments, but I do read them all! Warm greetings, Daniel
14:00 important moment 🎥
If someone ever invents a time machine - not to go back in time, but to watch the past as it happened - the world will be in for a rude awakening. I'd love to see video of me as a baby and my childhood. I'd also love to see the lives of my parents, grandparents and previous generations of my family to see what led up to my being. I'd rather have video proof of my past than to go thru life wondering and guessing what happened to me.
Or you look through the family photos and you actually look happy in them... does not compute! Ah, but when you look closer you see your eyes aren't smiling as much as your mouth.
What do you think to “daddyofive”? Obviously it’s disgusting but it’s child abuse on camera and it had a cult following- who saw nothing wrong.
I wonder how that poor kid will grow up. It’s sad to see the other kids moulded into the parents image
The thing that makes me SO angry is NOBODY did anything ! All I got ever asked is What did you do to make your father or mother so angry ? What ?????? Im only seven, what could I do wrong ? Im only a kid....
Daniel, I wish you would reconsider becoming a father, you’d make a great dad.
I think he should be the director of an orphanage.
@@juliettailor1616 Thats also a great idea
@@LetsGo6009 Daniel really seems to be suited to be at least a foster parent. He is doing a fantastic job of working with adults and he could be doing damage control and prevention at the same time. Perhaps organize a group of people to foster children or be mentors. The state would probably even pay him to do that. It would be well worth it!
Is it rooted in religious history of patriarchy
Hi Daniel. How come you haven’t been adding ads in to your videos via TH-cam (monetization). That’s a good way of getting partial income from your videos just like what majority of TH-camrs do. Just saying...
Thanks Daniel I often wonder this myself! Maybe there’s a natural order to healing is my thought my
In death they do get to see the videos of their life, treatment of others etc. It happens. It’s an aspect of this life cycle. The great challenge is to,view these and deal with them own our lives, not at the point of death. That is ascension
Daniel..
I feel some traumas are good..
Tell me if I'm wrong..
1. A child is born. He's going from a life to another.. That must be traumatic!(not to mention hearing his mother scream her lungs out, different temperatures.. Seeing a LARGE thing carry him(doctor).
2. Breastfeeding (weaning) also is probably quite traumatic for a delicate weak baby.
3.having a baby brother probably causes something as the attention gets devided.
All these are not wrong at all but they probably cause emotional discomfort for a very delicate little heart.
This doesn't give the right to anyone to traumatize their child in the name of raising them (and turning them into "a man")
No. Rather raises the question, is there such a thing as good trauma, and can u benefit from the traumas?
@Darcy Royce - Therapeutic Art ln Rhythm and Rhyme so..
Is there such a thing as good trauma?
Some people actually do have extensive videos of all their childhood abuse, going back to when they were babies. Just ask Jon Gosselin. (Jon and Kate Plus 8, in case you have no idea what I'm talking about.) Or DaddyOFive. Did you know about him? He was a TH-camr who had his kids removed by CPS because he was abusing them in his videos. Maybe you should do a video about kids on reality shows and TH-cam.
Hello good afternoon dr. I have been abused as a child and have videos of my childhood that shows what you are talking about. Let me know we can have a talk please Iam willing to share the videos
2:55-3:30 spot on Daniel!
Have you ever heard of a Life Review in a Near Death Experience?
what a great video !!!
in Japan they save face !
there is a video in my mind of my worst and best moments
nowadays all phone calls are recorded
all transactions at walmart are recorded
Many of them were wiped out by drugs and alcohol. I had thought about going to hypnosis to help get all the puzzle pieces of when I was first molested. Find out why my brothers enjoyed having sex with me. Family will not talk about it. First memory I have is feeling abandoned in an oxygen tent fighting to breath. Age 3 or 4 Have forgiven family and molesters. Consequences still dealing with.
I have had a lot of memories resurface. One I was a little baby. Mom had left me for I don't know how long naked in the kitchen sink
Why can’t you just move on Sarah? Why are you trying to find someone to blame for family problems? Why don’t you just let it go?.... says the family when I politely and discreetly asked a couple follow up questions upon catching wind that a long-deceased great grandparent was a known child molester... I hate family secrets 😡
Look at the pictures of your parents. Especially of pictures of them with their parents.
Can you please make a video on what you think causes homosexual attraction? Especially for people who began being attracted only to the same sex at an early age (age 11 for example), and have only ever been attracted to the same sex all their lives? Or maybe you can just reply to this comment instead of make a video? Maybe it's not sexual abuse, I wasn't sexually abused and I also felt closer to my dad than my mom, although my dad died when I was 10.
Look up Freud
Seriously. Why do people like crime shows so much???
I've never liked it, and then I ended up with a Forensic Psych major (wasn't much os a choice between Organizational Psych and Child Development Psych) that I felt like was too much for me to study, and I felt very repulsed.
Oh f$%^ ... I really don't need it because I remember too many of these things quite clearly and I know exactly which moments are the origins of some of the ways I became screwed up. But I sure wish the 'video evidence' existed for the people I care about. Some of those people really believe the problem is them. And other people are perfectly happy to indulge that delusion.
I've noticed that the people who brag about their parents the most, are actually the people who're in the most denial.
When I was on seeking answer and all I had got was more shutdowns, I began to question of it was me that was off, that all the people around me were right,.it was.me,.i.was.The problem, I have an attitude, I am always going on.about stuff that should be left in the past.
I was always looking for some one to tell me who I was, I was so self conscious and rigid.
I was beginning to think I was going mad.
Until I had a dream one night.
I dreamt I was going to a.party, and went shopping for a top, I found one that I liked, it as multicoloured and I really liked it so I brought it. I got home and got ready and put on my new colourful top. On.exiting my flat, (the actual cost I lived in) on reaching the street with people walking about I realised people were.looking at me with strange looks, with almost disgust on their faces.
I moved on to the party and everywhere I went people were.saying, "what have you got on?" " you want to go home and change that top its awful"
Why I said I like it, but everyone hated it, so I went back to my flat to change, and on opening my wardrobe I found I had no clothes? so knowing my aunty loved.next door, (and in real life) I went next door to borrow.a.top.
My aunty invited me in sayong , "he's of course.you can, I have loads you can take your pick, as she opened up her wardrobe she gasped, "Well that's weird, all my clothes have disappeared in afraid you will have to wear the one you have on"
On.waking from that dream, I was.trying to work out the meaning, as I knew it meant something.
I pondered.on the colourful top, which was very colourful,.I thought about it and it hen realised it was showing me I was been my true self, and yet people still.did not like me. That bothered me, and I was wondering then if i.was being my true self and the people around me still did not like me, did that mean I was not good, not nice?
I was confused and frustrated, and did not know.what to think.
Then around a.month later I was.walking home at night and a song popped into my head.
"And I see your true colours shinning through, and I see your true colours shinning through, and that's why I love you, so don't be afraid to let them show, your true colours, your true colours, are beautiful like the rainbow"
At that moment I knew, what the dream was telling me, I was being my true self and if others around me.don't like then that's their problem. And if they don't want to be around me because I am.being true to myself, then I don't need them.
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Finally we have the end result of the abuse, which is in the present. We cannot change the past and sometimes the present also doesn't look happy. But we have a choice - either be put down or just smile and move on. Currently I think, that the second option is best ;) :).
Perhaps if we saw video proof of events we believe were traumatic we would be more inclined to realize that we ourselves are attached to the idea of victimhood, and that we were not mistreated, or in a lesser way than we have chosen to remember; we simply felt so mistreated in our ego development that we then chose subconsciously to amplify or diminish the circumstances interwoven with this process.
Nah bro. When a parent beat the shit out of me, made me eat a moldy sandwich, made me sleep in a garage, I didnt choose it. Didn't choose to feel traumatized 🙄
Lady Nightsong As a person who also experienced this type of trauma I have great empathy for you, but that isn’t what I wrote. Trauma is not limited to physical violence, and I was speaking more to the nuances of less obvious forms of abuse. Be well.
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Dare not to watch