My wife and I will have our 35th anniversary this year. We married young (me 22, her 24). Once we decided to have children, she left a very nice program/business analyst position and rearranged everything about our lives. When it was time for her to go back to work, she really wanted to be a full-time housewife. She ran everything about our household and was amazing, from budgeting to mothering. She grew as a person and really came into her own. Because of my wife's smart money sense over the decades, we retired in our early 50's. Our kids have successfully launched their own lives. I honor and respect what she does for us. Thank you for posting this video. We are blessed and I hope you are too!
I think it is wonderful that more young women want to embrace homemaking. Nothing controversial about wanting to be who you are :). Criticism generally comes from feelings of inadequacy or jealousy. Nevermind the naysayers.
jealous of what if some woman love working that is their choices if others want to be housewife that is their choices too there is nothing wrong with both of them
U have places like Afghanistan where it is against the law to work, does the reverse happen to u in America? R u banned from staying home? Such a snowflake
Yes, I agree that the naysayers who "bash" or attempt to force upon their criticism of the traditional lifestyle are those who are jealous. Hence, women who didn't properly plan for life, are "stuck" carrying for children without the marital assistance from a spouse, and those who are easily influenced by social media of hopefully becoming a "boss lady" just to discover many years after that becoming a "She-Man" was never beneficial for their femininity, well-being, or justified when contemplating differing expenses of gender anatomy.
These were all very understandable reasons for wanting to be a stay at home mom and I resonated with all of them so much! I also used to come home from my job in the big city and just absolutely hate my life! lol we all have different strengths and passions and some of our passions are in the home. Great video ❤
Being a stay-at-home mom/housewife is a lot of work, but rewarding. I think that if you’re able to do this, go for it. I used to work full-time and when I had my first son, I resigned from my work. We were on one income afterwards, but believe me, it was the best decision we ever made. We could be home and raise our son while my husband traveled for work. We didn’t have kids, so that others could raise them. Not many people are able to do this, but if you are able to, I think it would be wonderful. My in-laws were completely against it, but that’s another story and we don’t listen to them. They don’t dictate how we raise our family. No one should. This is a decision that only you and your husband should be able to make.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. The one income thing is something that puts most people off, but if you plan for it and save then it is possible!
You have to do what is best for you, if I can ask what would they be against? I just can’t imagine being against a women (or man) staying home with their child
You will be a great stay at home wife/mom! My mom was a stay at home mom(10kids), growing up I admired her, but never wanted to be her. Now, after working outside the home since 16, I've really wanted to become a homemaker, no children, but to be able to care for and nurture my husband; and furry friends 🐕🥰 I've been struggling with wanting to be a homemaker without wanting children, as it seems counter productive to stay at home and not be a mom. Thank you so much for including those of us who want to stay home, but not have kids 😊 it meant a lot to me. Thank you!
Wow 10 children, your mum must have never stopped haha! Yes absolutely, a homemaker and mum don't need to go hand in hand. You are 100% worthy of being a homemaker whatever your plans are x
If I could give this a million thumbs up, I would!!! Traditional roles (when healthy) can actually be quite fruitful. It takes trust and builds a deep bond between partners. Good on you, and I hope your family is blessed beyond measure.
Oofff i relate to that comment about being alone. Other than my husband, i really don’t care much to be around others. The older ive gotten the more I’ve loved simple stuff like gardening, cooking, cleaning, walking to the farmers market and reading. Simple peaceful living is where it’s at! 💜
I love this video and resonate with your reasons. As a 24 year old Christian, I finally accepted my desires to be a wife and mother one day, and to primarily focus on my household. It’s something I’ve been very content with for the past 18 months. I find so much peace and so much joy in knowing I will be able to be there at all times for my future family. Content like this makes me happy and doesn’t make me feel like a ‘weirdo’ ✨❤️
I don't know why your video was recommended to me but can I just say what a breath of fresh air you are. The only negative I have is that you felt you had to apologise for wanting to be a housewife! it's a sad reflection on our society that such a wholesome outlook is now considered controversial. Building and nurturing a good home is not easy you have nothing to be sorry for, be the best you you can be. Congratulations on your engagement and may I wish you all every happiness.😊👍
I understand why you want to be one. I have the same dream 😊 I also can't be asked with the corporate office culture and race to the top progression wise. I've achieved most of my career goals and now I just want to be at home looking after my husband and being a wife. Our choices should be respected.
Your a breath of fresh air. I’ve been a stay at home mum to my four children and always enjoyed my children’s company and being at home. Now they’re grown up I’m a mum to three dogs and a grandmother, it’s still a busy life but I enjoy it xx
Is this the most civilised and peaceful TH-cam comments' thread ever?! Congratulations for embracing your femininity and happiness. It isn't anything that you should ever be apologetic about. Any respectable and decent man would be lucky to have a wife like you. I wish you all the best.
I can relate to so much of this! I’m glad I found this video because I was wondering if I was a little odd for wanting this lifestyle. It’s good to know I’m not alone.
I just want to say that a beautiful woman with this mindset is what every man would want and need to start a happy family. God bless you Hattie and I hope I marry someone like you one day :)
You see Hattie wants to stay at home for work and her family, not because her husband ‘needs’ it like you say you do. To me, that’s pathetic and you want a lapdog and a servant and nothing more. Either that or go and live with mummy. A relationship should be equal for it to flourish, surely?
Oh my gosh! 100% to everything you said. I've been feeling down and pressured about not being allowed to be a full-time housewife for years! 😢 But finding your video is so soothing 😍 thank you for sharing
I love my own company and really hate toxic people. Im not looking to go high up the ladder. Im happy to be at home.... I wouldnt ever get bored. Theres always jobs to do around your home.
I know, same here! Glad it’s not just me. I’m an introvert and I’m very creative and always find something to do. It’s hard to get me out the house. I dated a guy years ago, who like to keep me out the house but he did it for selfish reasons to keep an eye on me and because he didn’t want me to focus on myself and evolve, even though I found out he had a family behind my back. So glad I ended that. I’ve tried going up the ladder when I was in my 20s and 30s and I didn’t work. God didn’t want me there. It was stressful and I became bitter at this competitive world when all I wanted to do was be home or create. I didn’t have time to write or invent anything. Hopefully one day God will bless me with a man that won’t need my money and will want this traditional lifestyle. I lost my mom to an abusive man and she couldn’t rest in her feminine energy and passed at 39 and he put all the responsibility on her because she was born female and he didn’t do anything. She kept leaving and he kept finding her because we were his income. Some men want a housewife because they want a slave and they want an easy life where they don’t have to do anything. A wife and life partner is more than that. My ex wanted me to provide. Emphasis on EX. Relationships are just not the same anymore.
I feel the same way about being home. Growing up I hated being home, due to my feminist, divorced, negative mom. My husband and 14 yr old son absolutely love being home. I have never seen a happier teenager. We waited 9 years to have children so we could financially allow me to be home. Every weekend I ask the same thing, what do you guys want to do and they always want to hang around the house, play with the chickens, eat good, homemade food, sit together and talk, etc. I love making my home exactly how I want it, relaxing through my day and not being stressed about needing to do housework before I have to go to work. I told my husband when we were dating that I wanted to stay at home when I had kids and he knew how I felt before we were even married. I pursue what I want during the day. My husband always teases me that I have all the money, I do all the bills and purchasing. I'm always telling him, no I don't need that, when he tells me to buy something. Things don't make people happy!
This is such a great video! You're so well-spoken, and the role of a homemaker clearly suits you! It's such a shame that women wanting to stay at home is a "controversial" desire in today's world. Like you said, it's not for everyone! But if that's your dream and it works for your family, then go for it!! I just discovered your channel, and I am loving your content!! Keep up the good work! 🥰
Hi Lauryn, I have been loving your videos recently! I know it is a shame but I do feel things are starting to shift a little? I wonder if in 10 years time the role of the homemaker will be celebrated more ... I certainly hope so. Thanks for commenting x
You are so sweet and respectful. I think every woman has to decide what's best for her and her family. :) People really do underestimate the energy it takes to be a healthy adult, especially as a woman. Keeping the house clean, preparing healthy meals, paying bills, appointments, all of that takes up a lot of time. Women also are expected to look a certain way. Washing/styling our hair, shaving everywhere, basic skin care, light makeup, trying to look the way society expects us to, it's a lot. It takes energy and can be tiring even for a girlie girl who enjoys grooming and isn't even super high maintenance (no plastic surgery or obsessive working out or Kardashian makeup). Men have no idea how good they have it in some regards! I think it totally makes sense for a woman to want to be a homemaker, even without children. I always defend working women, especially moms, because there is some criticism towards them as well. They work extremely hard, and it's crazy to me some people think they have it easier. One reason I think being a homemaker is so great is because so many of the women I know are exhausted from work.
This was such a lovely video and very interesting coming from someone so young. So much of what you said resonated with me. Even though I went to university and spent some years working after graduating, once our first son was born, I knew my most important job was to be a good mother and for me personally, that meant being with our son full time at home. I wanted to have time to make our home a loving and respectful one and was fortunate to have a supportive husband who respected me immensely for putting him and our children first. I know I wouldn't have been able to balance a working life with family life and I have no regrets for choosing to be a homemaker and stay at home mamma, in spite of criticism from friends and some family members. To much of the world, women who choose this way of life are undervalued and unappreciated. As sad as that is, the most important thing is that we feel gratitude, respect and love from our spouse and children. I have always felt content and cocooned from the frenetic 9 - 5 and for that I will always be truly thankful.
Hey I'm a Christian too and it's so beautiful to hear you views and I have been feeling drawn to this life too I'm 22 currently and I really want this !
Hi Hattie :) it was nice to get to know about you more in this video, I truly believe that your decision of becoming a housewife / stay at mom is a beautiful and admirable profession
mam you just earned a big thumb up, a share to your video and a translation to Arabic. I can't thank you enough for standing out and make such video opposite to the mainstream videos that we face daily on social media. thank you again, and I congratulations to your husband, I think he found a super rare diamond in this era. wish you all the best ❤
You are young but already so wise! Society is breaking apart because our families are not strong..children need to be with their mum..I have four kids and I have stayed hole with them, best decision ever because my bond with my kids is so strong..it’s sad that society pushes women to have a career outside the home…well done and greetings from belgium 🇧🇪
Just wonderful. I'm sure you will do an amazing job as a SAHM and Housewife. Good for you for following your heart and inspiring others to do the same :)
Great video! I am a stay at home mum of 5 years but started to really struggle. Just went back to work 2 days a week (in care). This video has helped me refocus on why I stay at home and how lucky I am. Thank you x
Assalamulaikom agaiiinn 💞 I love the fact that you embrace your femininity and feel proud about it many girls and women have the same dreams and ideas as you but never have the courage to say that out-loud , not even to their own selves
I think homemakers should stop apologizing for something as beautiful as staying at home. Think about it - they never apologize when they're ready to bash us for staying home. You're a lovely lady btw
Everybody decides what's better for them in life. Your reasons are very genuine and you articulated them well. You made me understand how people with similar values to you make this choice about staying at home, so even though I can't resonate with it, I now understand it. Thank you
So much respect for u to openly say you can’t justify spending so much money on designer ware when there are children in this country going without food .. you seem very content & at peace with life
This is a great video. I love being home. Im happy with what I have. Every thing you said, I can relate to. I feel exactly the same way you do. I love it.
Thank you for this video… I know it’s a few years old 😁I’m a Cancer ♋️ and if you know anything about Cancers we love being at home 😁 I’ve been on my own since I was 14 when my mom passed. My mom was home but she was a victim of domestic violence… my father didn’t work and neither did she, he used us for government assistance and my childhood and for my siblings were horrible. But none the less, I saw how hard my mother had it and being abused, that I just never wanted that in my life but when I was 19, I was dating this guy, I lived with him briefly for a few months, but I left because I didn’t want to be in the house or play house and be intimate so young because I had things I wanted to do, plus I was still a teen, but I’ve always tried to set my life up, so that I could work from home. Even after 911, I’ve always wanted a remote lifestyle, I found I thrived in it and being from NY, I just hated the big city life and hustle and bustle and living my life by public transportation. I did what I had to do to take care of myself. But the one thing that the guy I dated briefly taught me is that men provide and I’m grateful for that experience because even with a man in the house, he didn’t provide and was abusive daily. So my mother and my sisters especially we had no choice once we got on our own to take care of ourselves. Most women secretly crave this! Men I’ve met in the past and just by conversation, they sense my feminine energy and want to domestic me but their reasons are very shallow and selfish. Even my friends are like why aren’t you married or have kids? Because I always love being home and I’m always so hurting and cooking and being hospitable. Running a home is not easy, I had to do it at a young age with no help and I had to work, my father put all the responsibility on me and even tried to get me kicked out of school too but I fought back and called the cops on him. I was just income to him and my brothers. But just because I’m a female, that’s all he saw was to use me like he did my mother. I know they say women can have it all but that’s not true and I’ve loved the experiences I had in life but not all because, it left me burned out. The last guy I dated, he used me in the end and had a family behind my back and I’m so glad I needed it by the time I was 30. He wanted me to be the man and provide and take care of him.. the nerve. I saw right through that and got rid of him. He had a job but quit and lost his place to try and live off me. I couldn’t rest in my feminine energy, he didn’t want to buy a house but if I bought it, he would have moved in 😐🙄. Trying to escape being a man. Anyway, I can’t wait to meet a Christian man, who wants more of a traditional lifestyle. I don’t mind working from home and having an income but I don’t want to work outside the home. It may sound weird at times but when I have things on my mind… I just start cleaning and cooking like my mom did and it just brings me joy. I just don’t like making all the decisions, when that’s what a man is supposed to do but I can run the house. I just don’t want to end up with a man who acts like a baby and thinks I’m his mother. But being of service shouldn’t be looked down upon.
Just found your channel, I am a stay home mum, one of the things i'm proud of is i have never missed anything my children have done. It so sad when children are doing something and they know their is nobody watching them. When we got married our vicar said someone needs to be in charge over all so i let my husband do that of course i have a say but it takes the pressure off me. Now i have a job i mostly do from home as my children are older. im quite old but i love the opinions of younger people. I did find that working mums did look down on me as if i was lazy when they were rushing about with work and childcare.
Even I want to be a housewife but my parents keep on forcing me to get a reputable job just because I was always good in studies. But since past few years I am just feeling more feminine and hate studying for job
@@88MGBP how do you know most men want housewives, because what I see thee days is that majority of men are marrying working women and most give the reason of financial stability for doing that.
@@crayon7369 there’s a difference between MEN and men. Real MEN want a housewife and have the measures in place to make that possible however average men of course cannot achieve this. If they weren’t average they would 100% have a housewife. Deep down every man wants a housewife if the circumstances were right. That’s why I’m in business to become financially free to ensure my future women will be a housewife.
Hi! This is the first video of yours that I've watched and I'm ecstatic! A lot of homemaking content I find is produced by white supremacists and people with values I cannot come to approve of because they're discriminatory and cruel. I'm so happy to find a homemaker who's kind and shares a lot of the same values as I do! I'm so happy I've come across your channel!
That little teapot on the shelf behind you is really pretty! Btw, please DO NOT feel the need to apologise for sharing your personal views on being a housewife here on TH-cam. Same reason why a career woman should not be expected to apologise for choosing to pursue a career rather than getting married and being a mum and housewife. It's your choice, full stop. You do you, and you do it well! 👍👍
Good luck to you. And you can be more relaxed with your opinions no need to be apologetic but not rude or hard either. Being or aiming/wanting to be stay at home mom/housewife should not be controversial at all.
This is so true! I need to get over my fear of sharing my opinions, I get so afraid of offending someone but you are right, it shouldn't be considered as controversial in the first place! x
@@HattieHomemaking Yes you shouldn't second guess yourself because it's likely that your desire comes from an innocent place originally when you were a little girl etc. You should be stand firmly but actually without hardening yourself. That is not needed because in your heart you know what you're doing. I bet in the long run feminine and masculine will inevitably find the perfect match. Many couples already do and I dont think theres actually any other option (in the long run) because that's what universe is longin for. But there's just some adjustments and hiccups along the way. Now that we have more comfort than ever it is actually best opportunity for mothers to take care of kids. But there are some cultural world wars and consciousness work yet to be done in the society. And obviously even if somewhat majority of people were somewhat traditional, everybody should be respectful towards others and not consider for example women with no kids any less than others and vice versa. This is very important and here's where the awareness is the key.
It’s so refreshing to see a young lady like yourself think this way in this day and age. I agree with many of the things you mentioned. You look very happy and I agree I never liked designer things as well. I’m trying to become more modest in dressing and as well practicing more faith by reading the Bible for the first time. Thank you for your thoughts I just subscribed. 😊
Hey Hattie, somehow I imagined you would be from the UK looking at your slang and the kitchen the background. This is a very refreshing video and I loved your perspective!
I am 47 and became a full time mum of 2 boys and house wife at 30. Loved every minute. I now work in a secondary school kitchen 4 hours a day but term time only. So I can still take care of my family and home and have a part time job as well but I have all school holidays off with my children. My husband is currently working from home during this pandemic . My boys are getting face to face online school lessons and their schools are brilliant. I am not working at the moment as schools are closed. Good luck x
I just wanted to add that traditional gender roles has worked for us and our family. We have been together for 27 years and married for 17 years. It was a mutual decision for me to stay at home and be with our children, to be the main homemaker, to do the shopping, sort the house etc. Even now when we are all at home I still do this. Lovely video. Thank you x
Aww how lovely it sounds like you have had a beautiful life. Thank you for commenting, I always find other peoples experiences of being a wife and a mum so interesting x
You expressing your plans and aspirations should not be controversial. But I know what you mean. I am a full time mum. I took a lot of criticism for that. And even more when say I won’t be going back to work when he grows up. I will remain as a housewife.
Even though we have different views(i’m pretty much too driven and passionate about what i want to do in order to ever give it up ) i don’t think u should apologize for sharing the way u wanna live your life. Like do you and don’t care about what other ppl think or feel about how you should live your life. Like if you’re happy and content then that’s all that matters. Btw i truly enjoy being alone and by myself and home as well and like too much socializing is draining i but i still love socializing that helps me reach my goals or relax with my friends
I definitely understand this! I’ve always been passionate and driven… it’s like I’m stuck in limbo and being an empath and introvert I get drained very easily. I feel like am I ever going to find someone who understands and gives me my alone time and doesn’t drain me and need me or want me the moment they come home. I’m always meeting men, in the past that are very clingy and don’t want me to breathe or leave the house and it’s like they want to trap me and domesticate me. There’s others things in life to do than making sure a man is fed everyday, he should know how to do that on his own. That’s not why you get married to have a clean house and food and sex. I have so much more to contribute to myself and life and to be of service to others than one person.
Just found you on you tube ,loving your videos .With everything going on in the world right now it’s nice to switch off and I get calm vibes from watching you x
Loved the video. I support my husband taking care of the house, I'm lucky because he loves his job and he doesn't mind if I want to stay at home. Thank you for your content
I enjoy being at home and home is the best place as far as I'm concerned.There are other things to do besides housework. I'm retired and I'm active in my church, travel, I have my pets and hobbies and they, also keep me busy.
I hope so much that i can be a stay at home wife and mom soon... I dont have a boyfriend right now but i wish so much to find a man who would want a lifestyle like this as well an earns enough money to support a Family🙏
I agree with you in all of what you said here , im in my 60s and 5hat was my roll , and I loved it . I'm a home person, and although I did work, once my son came it was an automatic decision that it would be me to look after my son as it was for many many families of our time . And it worked , there wasn't childcare back in our day, and today it takes a whole full time wage to pay for it , and that's if you can find it . It's much better to have one parent just stay at home and do it .i think and hope , after this pandemic , people will start to think , that its time to stop and slow down , rewind , and choose a better option. For their family. And relationship. A more relaxed way of life just like in the 50s . Not possible for all , and not wanted by some, but nobody should feel guilty for wanting to do it ,
Thats great being a homewife. Its a lot of work but so joyful. And If we calculate better stay at home is a huge money saver as well. No extra gas daily, meals at home, no cleaning service no child care payment services, etc..
My aunt gave up having children and her career to follow my uncle's goals and career which have taken them around the world over their lifetime. He cheated twice and asked for a divorce when he hit a mid life crisis and decided he *did* want kids after all. They were in their 50s by this point. They worked it out and have been seemingly happy for over 10 years now, but that was a MAJOR wake up call for me as a 16 year old. Listening to my aunt cry and ask how she could support herself with no career experience in over 30 years...I decided then and there that I would *always* keep a job and make enough money to keep a roof over my head, no matter what my partner can offer financially. I'll never let myself be victim to that scenario.
Good for you. Nothing wrong with being a housewife/ homemaker. That is what wives are supposed to do. My Mother never went out to work she was always there for my brother and i, no coming home from school to an empty house.
I would love to be a stay at home wife. In regards to career I think I would volunteer even 1 or 2 days a week so that if I needed to get a job they could see that I still had the skills. Thank you for the video loved it
I’m not competitive at all! It was so toxic and now I’m a stay at home wife and still trying to figure out my sweet spot. I LOOOVE cooking but unfortunately, it feels a bit unfulfilling since once the meal is eaten it’s like… I feel like I accomplished nothing. I wish people would express appreciation more maybe? Idk it’s hard when I have worked all day and they come home and act like it’s nothing. 😔
Aww bless you. I really recommend listening to a few homemaking podcasts and reading about the importance of homemaking.. not only what it can do for your family but also society as a whole. Sometimes people can forget to outwardly show appreciation but they will feel it in their hearts. Hope that helps x
I have the same goals. I think it is great that you are making this. :) I have a 10 year old and trying for more I am a stay at home mum and wife. Well soon to be wife. :) my partner now is amazing and loves my son like his own and it is amazing to have a great man to make a home for that is a hard worker. :)
I'm 38. My dream was to be a housewife. But it's ridiculed..even women whom I share this with, finds it funny. They feel as a women in India, where women empowerment is picking up staying at home is wrong I'm divorced and I haven't found true love yet. I have worked for 15 years, finished my college. But I wish someday I find a good companion who loves me irrespective of my work choices. I feel women empowerment is about giving a choice to women to choose if she wants to work or be a housewife. Why does respect depend upon how much u earn?
Totally agree with you, women should be respected regardless whether they work or not. But also, housework IS work! We reward it when its done outside the home for other peoples families but not when its done for our own, so strange x
I totally understand where your coming from. I'm 2nd generation and my parents were immigrants. They worked so hard to raise us and put us through school so I often bump heads with family members been I share my desire to settle down and be a homemaker. I've wasted years choosing a path I did not desire in order to please my parents and family. Now I at 33 all I want is to fine love, raise children, and be a homemaker.
i think im kind of in between, I don' want to compete in stressful big city job, but I don't want to be at home and rely solely economically on a husband, i think a more part time less stressful role job would be for me once i have children and having more responsibilities than my husband who would be the main breadwinner. No which way is right or wrong i guess but some women are fooled into believing a career is the most important thing in life, for men yes for women i don't think so, raising children is equally and actually i think many viewers of your channel and many women in general think is more important! Welldone on the women who do reject the comments/opinions of people that was actually brought about by the 70s liberation movements, by women themselves that in a way kind of ** them over!
I am here on TH-cam looking around to find something I could do because I have no work experience and I have to ask money from my husband to buy everything I need. It sucks! I wish someone told me to have some sort of plan and income in my younger days. I'm in my 50's now and a full-time housewife I hate being a free labour cooking and cleaning all the time for everyone. I have no friends, no life outside my family and start to resent my husband and children now. My life sucks like hell.
I have acomplished all my goals i had and now i want to have a simple life. I crave to be house wife. I would like to try have children. I just crave it i want it.
I absolutely loved your video and agree with most of your point! Also from the UK here. I want to know how do you get over feeling like I’ve wasted my education since choosing to be a housewife?
I don't feel like I've wasted it really. I have a video coming up soon about 'how to become a homemaker' and it explains further but I think an education is really important for housewife's too x
It's absolutely not wasted! It's a good safety net to have, just make sure you keep your knowledge fresh and stay up to date with what's happening in your field so that you can join the workforce again if you want or have to later down the road :)
If/when she has children they will benefit overall by spending time with an educated, engaging mother who demonstrates creativity, problem solving, organization, and leadership within the home. Education is never a waste.
I love being a housewife and a mum to 4 girls and now a grandma, we just celebrated are 33 wedding anniversary and I met my husband 2 weeks before my 16th birthday he was 18 and I am now 53, I have been a housewife for 33 years and woundnt change it, I also love your dress style and I love dressing in feminine style dresses and skirts only but nothing tight fitting or shorter than my knees, and I don't anything in black ever as it's to dark on me, i do wear thick tight and boots in the UK winter
@@stepfordlivingvlogs2178 communication is a must, and try to go one the occasional date, that is something we need to get to doing once I am back in the Uk, I am with my 3rd daughter who is due a granddaughter soon
I am happy for her that she has found her role in the worl that fullfill her. But I hate men that comment this video saying THIS IS the type of women EVERY man want to have. Like they make this video that about her happiness and her life as a housewife about her men, like she is a servant or whatever. It's just disresprectefull to her and everything what she do for herself and her family.
Assalamu Alaikom 💞 i just wanna tell u that you have such an adorable personality and you’re the most feminine and maternal woman I’ve ever encountered i absolutely enjoyed the video and resonated with everything you have said💖💖💖
I think housecaring should count as like you are actually working, because now … you are just unemployed… and i am afraid what would happen if we separate with my husband and i have not been working for 10-15 years.. who would take me for work then.. . I dream to be a housewife and mum but i have these concerns
I know it's hard to understand but I didn't get married with a plan to break up. To me, marriage is forever and thats why I'm with a man I trust whole heartedly. However, I agree with you about protecting yourself which is why I have a degree and years of work experience under my belt and would encourage young aspiring homemakers to do the same. We are so lucky to live in a very progressive society that praises women for their efforts so I think enough companies recognise the skills women develop at home and would employ them even with years of unemployment. There are always things that can go wrong but there are also always options as long as you can stay open minded and adapt. Thank you for commenting I think it's an important discussion point, Hope my reasoning has made sense x
@@HattieHomemaking Right, that's the feminist critique right there. The dependency of women on men and the high proportion of violence of men against women makes being a homemaker a particularly vulnerable and dangerous place to be as a straight woman. no one argues there is anything wrong with staying at home but for me the issue is that no one enters a marriage hoping for divorce..these things just happen and most women are not prepared and end up suffering as a result..hence the need for the emancipation of women.
My wife and I will have our 35th anniversary this year. We married young (me 22, her 24). Once we decided to have children, she left a very nice program/business analyst position and rearranged everything about our lives. When it was time for her to go back to work, she really wanted to be a full-time housewife. She ran everything about our household and was amazing, from budgeting to mothering. She grew as a person and really came into her own. Because of my wife's smart money sense over the decades, we retired in our early 50's. Our kids have successfully launched their own lives. I honor and respect what she does for us. Thank you for posting this video. We are blessed and I hope you are too!
Thank you for praising your wife. Proverbs 31...in the Bible, the husband praising his wife ❤️
I think it is wonderful that more young women want to embrace homemaking. Nothing controversial about wanting to be who you are :). Criticism generally comes from feelings of inadequacy or jealousy. Nevermind the naysayers.
jealous of what if some woman love working that is their choices if others want to be housewife that is their choices too there is nothing wrong with both of them
U have places like Afghanistan where it is against the law to work, does the reverse happen to u in America? R u banned from staying home? Such a snowflake
Yes, I agree that the naysayers who "bash" or attempt to force upon their criticism of the traditional lifestyle are those who are jealous. Hence, women who didn't properly plan for life, are "stuck" carrying for children without the marital assistance from a spouse, and those who are easily influenced by social media of hopefully becoming a "boss lady" just to discover many years after that becoming a "She-Man" was never beneficial for their femininity, well-being, or justified when contemplating differing expenses of gender anatomy.
These were all very understandable reasons for wanting to be a stay at home mom and I resonated with all of them so much! I also used to come home from my job in the big city and just absolutely hate my life! lol we all have different strengths and passions and some of our passions are in the home. Great video ❤
Thanks lovely x
Being a stay-at-home mom/housewife is a lot of work, but rewarding. I think that if you’re able to do this, go for it. I used to work full-time and when I had my first son, I resigned from my work. We were on one income afterwards, but believe me, it was the best decision we ever made. We could be home and raise our son while my husband traveled for work. We didn’t have kids, so that others could raise them. Not many people are able to do this, but if you are able to, I think it would be wonderful. My in-laws were completely against it, but that’s another story and we don’t listen to them. They don’t dictate how we raise our family. No one should. This is a decision that only you and your husband should be able to make.
Thank you for sharing your perspective. The one income thing is something that puts most people off, but if you plan for it and save then it is possible!
@@HattieHomemaking You’re most welcome :)
You have to do what is best for you, if I can ask what would they be against? I just can’t imagine being against a women (or man) staying home with their child
You will be a great stay at home wife/mom! My mom was a stay at home mom(10kids), growing up I admired her, but never wanted to be her. Now, after working outside the home since 16, I've really wanted to become a homemaker, no children, but to be able to care for and nurture my husband; and furry friends 🐕🥰
I've been struggling with wanting to be a homemaker without wanting children, as it seems counter productive to stay at home and not be a mom. Thank you so much for including those of us who want to stay home, but not have kids 😊 it meant a lot to me. Thank you!
Wow 10 children, your mum must have never stopped haha! Yes absolutely, a homemaker and mum don't need to go hand in hand. You are 100% worthy of being a homemaker whatever your plans are x
If I could give this a million thumbs up, I would!!! Traditional roles (when healthy) can actually be quite fruitful. It takes trust and builds a deep bond between partners. Good on you, and I hope your family is blessed beyond measure.
Oofff i relate to that comment about being alone. Other than my husband, i really don’t care much to be around others. The older ive gotten the more I’ve loved simple stuff like gardening, cooking, cleaning, walking to the farmers market and reading.
Simple peaceful living is where it’s at! 💜
I agree , 👍
I love this video and resonate with your reasons. As a 24 year old Christian, I finally accepted my desires to be a wife and mother one day, and to primarily focus on my household. It’s something I’ve been very content with for the past 18 months. I find so much peace and so much joy in knowing I will be able to be there at all times for my future family.
Content like this makes me happy and doesn’t make me feel like a ‘weirdo’ ✨❤️
I don't know why your video was recommended to me but can I just say what a breath of fresh air you are. The only negative I have is that you felt you had to apologise for wanting to be a housewife! it's a sad reflection on our society that such a wholesome outlook is now considered controversial. Building and nurturing a good home is not easy you have nothing to be sorry for, be the best you you can be. Congratulations on your engagement and may I wish you all every happiness.😊👍
I understand why you want to be one. I have the same dream 😊 I also can't be asked with the corporate office culture and race to the top progression wise. I've achieved most of my career goals and now I just want to be at home looking after my husband and being a wife. Our choices should be respected.
Your a breath of fresh air. I’ve been a stay at home mum to my four children and always enjoyed my children’s company and being at home. Now they’re grown up I’m a mum to three dogs and a grandmother, it’s still a busy life but I enjoy it xx
It sounds like you have had a wonderful life with so many blessings x
Is this the most civilised and peaceful TH-cam comments' thread ever?!
Congratulations for embracing your femininity and happiness. It isn't anything that you should ever be apologetic about.
Any respectable and decent man would be lucky to have a wife like you.
I wish you all the best.
I can relate to so much of this! I’m glad I found this video because I was wondering if I was a little odd for wanting this lifestyle. It’s good to know I’m not alone.
Same here! I been having domestic dreams lately and I’m like where is that coming from 🤔😁
You're defiinitely not alone 😊
I just want to say that a beautiful woman with this mindset is what every man would want and need to start a happy family. God bless you Hattie and I hope I marry someone like you one day :)
You see Hattie wants to stay at home for work and her family, not because her husband ‘needs’ it like you say you do. To me, that’s pathetic and you want a lapdog and a servant and nothing more. Either that or go and live with mummy. A relationship should be equal for it to flourish, surely?
@@cheche2174 bruh just shut up
@@cheche2174 curb the feminism
@@cheche2174 you’re wrong. Men DO need women. Just as much as we need them. Sorry 🤷🏻♀️
Oh my gosh! 100% to everything you said. I've been feeling down and pressured about not being allowed to be a full-time housewife for years! 😢 But finding your video is so soothing 😍 thank you for sharing
I love my own company and really hate toxic people. Im not looking to go high up the ladder.
Im happy to be at home.... I wouldnt ever get bored. Theres always jobs to do around your home.
I know, same here! Glad it’s not just me. I’m an introvert and I’m very creative and always find something to do. It’s hard to get me out the house. I dated a guy years ago, who like to keep me out the house but he did it for selfish reasons to keep an eye on me and because he didn’t want me to focus on myself and evolve, even though I found out he had a family behind my back. So glad I ended that. I’ve tried going up the ladder when I was in my 20s and 30s and I didn’t work. God didn’t want me there. It was stressful and I became bitter at this competitive world when all I wanted to do was be home or create.
I didn’t have time to write or invent anything. Hopefully one day God will bless me with a man that won’t need my money and will want this traditional lifestyle. I lost my mom to an abusive man and she couldn’t rest in her feminine energy and passed at 39 and he put all the responsibility on her because she was born female and he didn’t do anything. She kept leaving and he kept finding her because we were his income. Some men want a housewife because they want a slave and they want an easy life where they don’t have to do anything. A wife and life partner is more than that. My ex wanted me to provide. Emphasis on EX. Relationships are just not the same anymore.
This is a very well-thought out video! I loved all your reasons! I’m sure you will thrive in that role ☺️💛✨
Thanks Cynthia, I hope so ❤️
27 and finally a HouseFiance .. ladies do not settle !!
I don’t understand your comment at all. What do you mean by ‘don’t settle?’
I feel the same way about being home. Growing up I hated being home, due to my feminist, divorced, negative mom. My husband and 14 yr old son absolutely love being home. I have never seen a happier teenager. We waited 9 years to have children so we could financially allow me to be home. Every weekend I ask the same thing, what do you guys want to do and they always want to hang around the house, play with the chickens, eat good, homemade food, sit together and talk, etc. I love making my home exactly how I want it, relaxing through my day and not being stressed about needing to do housework before I have to go to work. I told my husband when we were dating that I wanted to stay at home when I had kids and he knew how I felt before we were even married. I pursue what I want during the day. My husband always teases me that I have all the money, I do all the bills and purchasing. I'm always telling him, no I don't need that, when he tells me to buy something. Things don't make people happy!
This is such a great video! You're so well-spoken, and the role of a homemaker clearly suits you!
It's such a shame that women wanting to stay at home is a "controversial" desire in today's world. Like you said, it's not for everyone! But if that's your dream and it works for your family, then go for it!!
I just discovered your channel, and I am loving your content!! Keep up the good work! 🥰
Hi Lauryn, I have been loving your videos recently!
I know it is a shame but I do feel things are starting to shift a little? I wonder if in 10 years time the role of the homemaker will be celebrated more ... I certainly hope so. Thanks for commenting x
Don't worry, you have been very clear and respectful!
Oh good! Thank you for commenting 🥰
I love to be at home, too. Home is the safest and the most comfortable place in the world.
You are so sweet and respectful. I think every woman has to decide what's best for her and her family. :)
People really do underestimate the energy it takes to be a healthy adult, especially as a woman. Keeping the house clean, preparing healthy meals, paying bills, appointments, all of that takes up a lot of time. Women also are expected to look a certain way. Washing/styling our hair, shaving everywhere, basic skin care, light makeup, trying to look the way society expects us to, it's a lot. It takes energy and can be tiring even for a girlie girl who enjoys grooming and isn't even super high maintenance (no plastic surgery or obsessive working out or Kardashian makeup). Men have no idea how good they have it in some regards! I think it totally makes sense for a woman to want to be a homemaker, even without children.
I always defend working women, especially moms, because there is some criticism towards them as well. They work extremely hard, and it's crazy to me some people think they have it easier. One reason I think being a homemaker is so great is because so many of the women I know are exhausted from work.
This was such a lovely video and very interesting coming from someone so young. So much of what you said resonated with me.
Even though I went to university and spent some years working after graduating, once our first son was born, I knew my most important job was to be a good mother and for me personally, that meant being with our son full time at home. I wanted to have time to make our home a loving and respectful one and was fortunate to have a supportive husband who respected me immensely for putting him and our children first. I know I wouldn't have been able to balance a working life with family life and I have no regrets for choosing to be a homemaker and stay at home mamma, in spite of criticism from friends and some family members. To much of the world, women who choose this way of life are undervalued and unappreciated. As sad as that is, the most important thing is that we feel gratitude, respect and love from our spouse and children. I have always felt content and cocooned from the frenetic 9 - 5 and for that I will always be truly thankful.
Hey I'm a Christian too and it's so beautiful to hear you views and I have been feeling drawn to this life too I'm 22 currently and I really want this !
Hi Hattie :) it was nice to get to know about you more in this video, I truly believe that your decision of becoming a housewife / stay at mom is a beautiful and admirable profession
Thank you :)x
mam you just earned a big thumb up, a share to your video and a translation to Arabic.
I can't thank you enough for standing out and make such video opposite to the mainstream videos that we face daily on social media.
thank you again, and I congratulations to your husband, I think he found a super rare diamond in this era.
wish you all the best ❤
You are young but already so wise! Society is breaking apart because our families are not strong..children need to be with their mum..I have four kids and I have stayed hole with them, best decision ever because my bond with my kids is so strong..it’s sad that society pushes women to have a career outside the home…well done and greetings from belgium 🇧🇪
This is all me… wow! God sent!
I relate to every point you made ♡ I hope I can be a homemaker/sahm one day soon. I’m 23 and in a limbo and don’t know what to do until then.
Just wonderful. I'm sure you will do an amazing job as a SAHM and Housewife. Good for you for following your heart and inspiring others to do the same :)
Thank you so much!
Thank you so much 🥰 for being a proud homemaker...
Loved this! I used to want to be a boss babe but now I want to stay home and be a stay at home mum 💕 loved the video xx
Fab! So glad you could relate xx
same!!!
I relate to you completely
Great video! I am a stay at home mum of 5 years but started to really struggle. Just went back to work 2 days a week (in care). This video has helped me refocus on why I stay at home and how lucky I am. Thank you x
Assalamulaikom agaiiinn 💞
I love the fact that you embrace your femininity and feel proud about it
many girls and women have the same dreams and ideas as you but never have the courage to say that out-loud , not even to their own selves
I think homemakers should stop apologizing for something as beautiful as staying at home. Think about it - they never apologize when they're ready to bash us for staying home.
You're a lovely lady btw
Everybody decides what's better for them in life. Your reasons are very genuine and you articulated them well. You made me understand how people with similar values to you make this choice about staying at home, so even though I can't resonate with it, I now understand it. Thank you
Aw this is a lovely comment thank you x
So much respect for u to openly say you can’t justify spending so much money on designer ware when there are children in this country going without food .. you seem very content & at peace with life
I can relate so much to your personality traits. Im very much the same 😊 lovely video 😚
Thanks Nina
This was such a well thought out and presented video! I sometimes struggle to articulate my desires and you’ve just summed everything up so well 👏🏻
This is a great video. I love being home. Im happy with what I have. Every thing you said, I can relate to. I feel exactly the same way you do. I love it.
Thank you for this video… I know it’s a few years old 😁I’m a Cancer ♋️ and if you know anything about Cancers we love being at home 😁 I’ve been on my own since I was 14 when my mom passed. My mom was home but she was a victim of domestic violence… my father didn’t work and neither did she, he used us for government assistance and my childhood and for my siblings were horrible.
But none the less, I saw how hard my mother had it and being abused, that I just never wanted that in my life but when I was 19, I was dating this guy, I lived with him briefly for a few months, but I left because I didn’t want to be in the house or play house and be intimate so young because I had things I wanted to do, plus I was still a teen, but I’ve always tried to set my life up, so that I could work from home.
Even after 911, I’ve always wanted a remote lifestyle, I found I thrived in it and being from NY, I just hated the big city life and hustle and bustle and living my life by public transportation. I did what I had to do to take care of myself. But the one thing that the guy I dated briefly taught me is that men provide and I’m grateful for that experience because even with a man in the house, he didn’t provide and was abusive daily. So my mother and my sisters especially we had no choice once we got on our own to take care of ourselves.
Most women secretly crave this! Men I’ve met in the past and just by conversation, they sense my feminine energy and want to domestic me but their reasons are very shallow and selfish. Even my friends are like why aren’t you married or have kids? Because I always love being home and I’m always so hurting and cooking and being hospitable. Running a home is not easy, I had to do it at a young age with no help and I had to work, my father put all the responsibility on me and even tried to get me kicked out of school too but I fought back and called the cops on him.
I was just income to him and my brothers. But just because I’m a female, that’s all he saw was to use me like he did my mother. I know they say women can have it all but that’s not true and I’ve loved the experiences I had in life but not all because, it left me burned out. The last guy I dated, he used me in the end and had a family behind my back and I’m so glad I needed it by the time I was 30.
He wanted me to be the man and provide and take care of him.. the nerve. I saw right through that and got rid of him. He had a job but quit and lost his place to try and live off me. I couldn’t rest in my feminine energy, he didn’t want to buy a house but if I bought it, he would have moved in 😐🙄. Trying to escape being a man. Anyway, I can’t wait to meet a Christian man, who wants more of a traditional lifestyle.
I don’t mind working from home and having an income but I don’t want to work outside the home. It may sound weird at times but when I have things on my mind… I just start cleaning and cooking like my mom did and it just brings me joy. I just don’t like making all the decisions, when that’s what a man is supposed to do but I can run the house. I just don’t want to end up with a man who acts like a baby and thinks I’m his mother. But being of service shouldn’t be looked down upon.
Just found your channel, I am a stay home mum, one of the things i'm proud of is i have never missed anything my children have done. It so sad when children are doing something and they know their is nobody watching them. When we got married our vicar said someone needs to be in charge over all so i let my husband do that of course i have a say but it takes the pressure off me. Now i have a job i mostly do from home as my children are older. im quite old but i love the opinions of younger people. I did find that working mums did look down on me as if i was lazy when they were rushing about with work and childcare.
It sounds like you were a complete blessing to your family, your children are so lucky
Yes! Such wonderful points about personality, division of roles, and health. I agree. Thanks for sharing.
It’s lovely to see another UK based homemaker ❤️ I really enjoyed this video and have subscribed xxxxx
Even I want to be a housewife but my parents keep on forcing me to get a reputable job just because I was always good in studies. But since past few years I am just feeling more feminine and hate studying for job
I’m a man & I would never marry a career woman. Most MEN want a feminine housewife.
@@88MGBP how do you know most men want housewives, because what I see thee days is that majority of men are marrying working women and most give the reason of financial stability for doing that.
@@crayon7369 there’s a difference between MEN and men. Real MEN want a housewife and have the measures in place to make that possible however average men of course cannot achieve this. If they weren’t average they would 100% have a housewife. Deep down every man wants a housewife if the circumstances were right. That’s why I’m in business to become financially free to ensure my future women will be a housewife.
@@88MGBP You are right actually. I needed a man's perspective on this and you clarified it well.
nigga you need a job you will not survive without a job they are suggesting the best for you.
Hi! This is the first video of yours that I've watched and I'm ecstatic! A lot of homemaking content I find is produced by white supremacists and people with values I cannot come to approve of because they're discriminatory and cruel. I'm so happy to find a homemaker who's kind and shares a lot of the same values as I do! I'm so happy I've come across your channel!
You do realize that it’s not because you say it that it makes it factual.
That little teapot on the shelf behind you is really pretty! Btw, please DO NOT feel the need to apologise for sharing your personal views on being a housewife here on TH-cam. Same reason why a career woman should not be expected to apologise for choosing to pursue a career rather than getting married and being a mum and housewife. It's your choice, full stop. You do you, and you do it well! 👍👍
I was a stay at home mum... And loved every moment with my children. Xxx
Good luck to you. And you can be more relaxed with your opinions no need to be apologetic but not rude or hard either. Being or aiming/wanting to be stay at home mom/housewife should not be controversial at all.
This is so true! I need to get over my fear of sharing my opinions, I get so afraid of offending someone but you are right, it shouldn't be considered as controversial in the first place! x
@@HattieHomemaking Yes you shouldn't second guess yourself because it's likely that your desire comes from an innocent place originally when you were a little girl etc. You should be stand firmly but actually without hardening yourself. That is not needed because in your heart you know what you're doing.
I bet in the long run feminine and masculine will inevitably find the perfect match. Many couples already do and I dont think theres actually any other option (in the long run) because that's what universe is longin for. But there's just some adjustments and hiccups along the way. Now that we have more comfort than ever it is actually best opportunity for mothers to take care of kids. But there are some cultural world wars and consciousness work yet to be done in the society.
And obviously even if somewhat majority of people were somewhat traditional, everybody should be respectful towards others and not consider for example women with no kids any less than others and vice versa. This is very important and here's where the awareness is the key.
It’s so refreshing to see a young lady like yourself think this way in this day and age. I agree with many of the things you mentioned. You look very happy and I agree I never liked designer things as well. I’m trying to become more modest in dressing and as well practicing more faith by reading the Bible for the first time. Thank you for your thoughts I just subscribed. 😊
Hey Hattie, somehow I imagined you would be from the UK looking at your slang and the kitchen the background. This is a very refreshing video and I loved your perspective!
So happy you liked it and yes I am from the UK :)
I am 47 and became a full time mum of 2 boys and house wife at 30. Loved every minute. I now work in a secondary school kitchen 4 hours a day but term time only. So I can still take care of my family and home and have a part time job as well but I have all school holidays off with my children. My husband is currently working from home during this pandemic . My boys are getting face to face online school lessons and their schools are brilliant. I am not working at the moment as schools are closed. Good luck x
I just wanted to add that traditional gender roles has worked for us and our family. We have been together for 27 years and married for 17 years. It was a mutual decision for me to stay at home and be with our children, to be the main homemaker, to do the shopping, sort the house etc. Even now when we are all at home I still do this. Lovely video. Thank you x
Aww how lovely it sounds like you have had a beautiful life.
Thank you for commenting, I always find other peoples experiences of being a wife and a mum so interesting x
You expressing your plans and aspirations should not be controversial. But I know what you mean. I am a full time mum. I took a lot of criticism for that. And even more when say I won’t be going back to work when he grows up. I will remain as a housewife.
Even though we have different views(i’m pretty much too driven and passionate about what i want to do in order to ever give it up ) i don’t think u should apologize for sharing the way u wanna live your life. Like do you and don’t care about what other ppl think or feel about how you should live your life. Like if you’re happy and content then that’s all that matters.
Btw i truly enjoy being alone and by myself and home as well and like too much socializing is draining i but i still love socializing that helps me reach my goals or relax with my friends
I definitely understand this! I’ve always been passionate and driven… it’s like I’m stuck in limbo and being an empath and introvert I get drained very easily. I feel like am I ever going to find someone who understands and gives me my alone time and doesn’t drain me and need me or want me the moment they come home. I’m always meeting men, in the past that are very clingy and don’t want me to breathe or leave the house and it’s like they want to trap me and domesticate me.
There’s others things in life to do than making sure a man is fed everyday, he should know how to do that on his own. That’s not why you get married to have a clean house and food and sex. I have so much more to contribute to myself and life and to be of service to others than one person.
Lovely Points ❤️ You have a very refreshing outlook on life Xx
Thank you xx
Just found you on you tube ,loving your videos .With everything going on in the world right now it’s nice to switch off and I get calm vibes from watching you x
I love this. I am a home bird, always have been ever since I was a child and always will be xx
there's no place like home! x
Loved the video. I support my husband taking care of the house, I'm lucky because he loves his job and he doesn't mind if I want to stay at home. Thank you for your content
I enjoy being at home and home is the best place as far as I'm concerned.There are other things to do besides housework. I'm retired and I'm active in my church, travel, I have my pets and hobbies and they, also keep me busy.
I hope so much that i can be a stay at home wife and mom soon...
I dont have a boyfriend right now but i wish so much to find a man who would want a lifestyle like this as well an earns enough money to support a Family🙏
I agree with you in all of what you said here , im in my 60s and 5hat was my roll , and I loved it . I'm a home person, and although I did work, once my son came it was an automatic decision that it would be me to look after my son as it was for many many families of our time . And it worked , there wasn't childcare back in our day, and today it takes a whole full time wage to pay for it , and that's if you can find it . It's much better to have one parent just stay at home and do it .i think and hope , after this pandemic , people will start to think , that its time to stop and slow down , rewind , and choose a better option. For their family. And relationship. A more relaxed way of life just like in the 50s . Not possible for all , and not wanted by some, but nobody should feel guilty for wanting to do it ,
Thats great being a homewife. Its a lot of work but so joyful. And If we calculate better stay at home is a huge money saver as well. No extra gas daily, meals at home, no cleaning service no child care payment services, etc..
My aunt gave up having children and her career to follow my uncle's goals and career which have taken them around the world over their lifetime. He cheated twice and asked for a divorce when he hit a mid life crisis and decided he *did* want kids after all. They were in their 50s by this point.
They worked it out and have been seemingly happy for over 10 years now, but that was a MAJOR wake up call for me as a 16 year old. Listening to my aunt cry and ask how she could support herself with no career experience in over 30 years...I decided then and there that I would *always* keep a job and make enough money to keep a roof over my head, no matter what my partner can offer financially. I'll never let myself be victim to that scenario.
right point there on the expenses of childcare in the UK!
What a lovely and reasonable thought, proud of you ❤ it is so inspireddd me ❤❤
Good for you. Nothing wrong with being a housewife/ homemaker. That is what wives are supposed to do. My Mother never went out to work she was always there for my brother and i, no coming home from school to an empty house.
same as my mom. I also want to be housewife
I would love to be a stay at home wife. In regards to career I think I would volunteer even 1 or 2 days a week so that if I needed to get a job they could see that I still had the skills. Thank you for the video loved it
Good idea! x
Lovely refreshing video. I feel the same way 🤩👍
I'm so glad you enjoyed it x
The best video I have ever found, I related to everything you said, thank you for sharing. Bless you
I feel just like you. Little things make me happy. Going out actually stresses me!
I’m not competitive at all! It was so toxic and now I’m a stay at home wife and still trying to figure out my sweet spot. I LOOOVE cooking but unfortunately, it feels a bit unfulfilling since once the meal is eaten it’s like… I feel like I accomplished nothing. I wish people would express appreciation more maybe? Idk it’s hard when I have worked all day and they come home and act like it’s nothing. 😔
Aww bless you. I really recommend listening to a few homemaking podcasts and reading about the importance of homemaking.. not only what it can do for your family but also society as a whole. Sometimes people can forget to outwardly show appreciation but they will feel it in their hearts. Hope that helps x
Thank you 💗 for your videos 💝
I loved this thank you!
I have the same goals. I think it is great that you are making this. :) I have a 10 year old and trying for more I am a stay at home mum and wife. Well soon to be wife. :) my partner now is amazing and loves my son like his own and it is amazing to have a great man to make a home for that is a hard worker. :)
I'm 38. My dream was to be a housewife. But it's ridiculed..even women whom I share this with, finds it funny. They feel as a women in India, where women empowerment is picking up staying at home is wrong
I'm divorced and I haven't found true love yet. I have worked for 15 years, finished my college. But I wish someday I find a good companion who loves me irrespective of my work choices. I feel women empowerment is about giving a choice to women to choose if she wants to work or be a housewife. Why does respect depend upon how much u earn?
Totally agree with you, women should be respected regardless whether they work or not. But also, housework IS work! We reward it when its done outside the home for other peoples families but not when its done for our own, so strange x
I totally understand where your coming from. I'm 2nd generation and my parents were immigrants. They worked so hard to raise us and put us through school so I often bump heads with family members been I share my desire to settle down and be a homemaker. I've wasted years choosing a path I did not desire in order to please my parents and family. Now I at 33 all I want is to fine love, raise children, and be a homemaker.
That is why you should never care what those other women think.
@@melindaroop1346 true staying away from negative people is important
You have a wonderful attitude. Every man should be happy to have such an intelligent wife by his side
i think im kind of in between, I don' want to compete in stressful big city job, but I don't want to be at home and rely solely economically on a husband, i think a more part time less stressful role job would be for me once i have children and having more responsibilities than my husband who would be the main breadwinner. No which way is right or wrong i guess but some women are fooled into believing a career is the most important thing in life, for men yes for women i don't think so, raising children is equally and actually i think many viewers of your channel and many women in general think is more important! Welldone on the women who do reject the comments/opinions of people that was actually brought about by the 70s liberation movements, by women themselves that in a way kind of ** them over!
I am here on TH-cam looking around to find something I could do because I have no work experience and I have to ask money from my husband to buy everything I need. It sucks! I wish someone told me to have some sort of plan and income in my younger days. I'm in my 50's now and a full-time housewife I hate being a free labour cooking and cleaning all the time for everyone. I have no friends, no life outside my family and start to resent my husband and children now. My life sucks like hell.
I have acomplished all my goals i had and now i want to have a simple life. I crave to be house wife. I would like to try have children. I just crave it i want it.
I feel the same goodluck to you ❤️
and to you too x
I absolutely loved your video and agree with most of your point! Also from the UK here. I want to know how do you get over feeling like I’ve wasted my education since choosing to be a housewife?
I don't feel like I've wasted it really. I have a video coming up soon about 'how to become a homemaker' and it explains further but I think an education is really important for housewife's too x
It's absolutely not wasted! It's a good safety net to have, just make sure you keep your knowledge fresh and stay up to date with what's happening in your field so that you can join the workforce again if you want or have to later down the road :)
You never know when you will need to use that degree or training.
If/when she has children they will benefit overall by spending time with an educated, engaging mother who demonstrates creativity, problem solving, organization, and leadership within the home. Education is never a waste.
Thank you for this
Love it! New subscriber here...I feel the same way 🙏🏽💕💕😇
Welcome and thank you for subscribing
I love being at home. I hope to be at home fulltime one day.
Xxx
Very nice share, u r super lovely, being housewife is a very tough job,
I LOVE PEOPLE LIKE YOU 😊👍.. ❤️ FROM ASIA 🙏
Just subscribed! Love your videos!
I love being a housewife and a mum to 4 girls and now a grandma, we just celebrated are 33 wedding anniversary and I met my husband 2 weeks before my 16th birthday he was 18 and I am now 53, I have been a housewife for 33 years and woundnt change it, I also love your dress style and I love dressing in feminine style dresses and skirts only but nothing tight fitting or shorter than my knees, and I don't anything in black ever as it's to dark on me, i do wear thick tight and boots in the UK winter
Wow congratulations on 33 years! Do you have any advice for a new housewife onn balancing it all. I constantly feel like I'm behind on everything!
@@stepfordlivingvlogs2178 communication is a must, and try to go one the occasional date, that is something we need to get to doing once I am back in the Uk, I am with my 3rd daughter who is due a granddaughter soon
@@kimmackley Thank you! And congratulatigrand baby new grandbaby!
Its sad that saying your a homemaker is controversial.
True! I didn't mean that I think it is controversial, I just know some people see it that way.
More women need to be like you, not wasting your 20s
Is this a dating profile? Because I am DEFINITELY interested in this kind of woman
I wish I could meet a man who would help me embrace a traditional lifestyle.
Hello Hattie, I'm from West Yorkshire. Do you have any tips on how to find an amazing housewife like yourself? 😂
Lord please give me a wife like the woman in this video ☝️🙏
Your husband is a blessed man and I pray God keeps you both happy
I am happy for her that she has found her role in the worl that fullfill her. But I hate men that comment this video saying THIS IS the type of women EVERY man want to have. Like they make this video that about her happiness and her life as a housewife about her men, like she is a servant or whatever. It's just disresprectefull to her and everything what she do for herself and her family.
My life goal too.
Assalamu Alaikom 💞
i just wanna tell u that you have such an adorable personality and you’re the most feminine and maternal woman I’ve ever encountered i absolutely enjoyed the video and resonated with everything you have said💖💖💖
Aww thank you so much this comment has really put a smile on my face, I’m so glad you can see that about me ❤️
I think housecaring should count as like you are actually working, because now … you are just unemployed… and i am afraid what would happen if we separate with my husband and i have not been working for 10-15 years.. who would take me for work then.. . I dream to be a housewife and mum but i have these concerns
So what happens if you break up with him? That’s the issue. He can move on financially easily but how would you?
I know it's hard to understand but I didn't get married with a plan to break up. To me, marriage is forever and thats why I'm with a man I trust whole heartedly.
However, I agree with you about protecting yourself which is why I have a degree and years of work experience under my belt and would encourage young aspiring homemakers to do the same.
We are so lucky to live in a very progressive society that praises women for their efforts so I think enough companies recognise the skills women develop at home and would employ them even with years of unemployment.
There are always things that can go wrong but there are also always options as long as you can stay open minded and adapt.
Thank you for commenting I think it's an important discussion point, Hope my reasoning has made sense x
@@HattieHomemaking Right, that's the feminist critique right there. The dependency of women on men and the high proportion of violence of men against women makes being a homemaker a particularly vulnerable and dangerous place to be as a straight woman. no one argues there is anything wrong with staying at home but for me the issue is that no one enters a marriage hoping for divorce..these things just happen and most women are not prepared and end up suffering as a result..hence the need for the emancipation of women.