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She says dating is dangerous so she rather go on a dinner date…at night…with a person you talk to for 3 days. Instead of going to a coffee shop during the day.
Facts! It just doesn't make sense at all and I'm glad the dude was straight forward. She ended up proving why the coffee date was the better option for the dude.
@@TheChannelJ1 Don't tell someone to 'be serious' as if you are making sense. Statistically, such attacks are more likely at happen at night rather than during the day. It's all about improving the odds of safety, that's just common sense.
@@TheChannelJ1 let’s not be obtuse now. When it rains and I bring an umbrella I might still get a little wet, but it is better than if I went outside without it. Sure we can’t prevent everything 100% but you do dramatically reduce danger by going out on date during the day. If safety was really a concern a dinner date with a stranger would not have been the move.
In her attempt to shame that man for being “cheap” she showed how smart he actually was. He knew the deal and didn’t want to end up as a free meal. He’s a hero.
You only get finessed so many times before you wisen up. Materialistic women act playful to get you to spend money on them, then cut off the act as soon as they have gotten what they want. Dinner dates suck in general. Do something active if you can like a walk in the park, going to a museum, an amusement park/ fair, etc. Something that has a shifting environment and plenty of verbal and non-verbal communication.
She's rationalising it, speaking about why would she get high maintenance to go for an 8dollar coffee knowing damn well that the moment she ties him down she's gonna start walking around the house like smeagol. No woman I've been with has EVER had the high maintenance look 2 months into the relationship if she feels comfortable. Or what? She expects to be taken out every single day? I don't understand the logic. $32 concealer, talking like she's using the whole tube on that one date knowing damn well she gets 30-50 uses out of it but he should pay upwards of 500 dollars for dinner. This is the definition of mental delusion.
He may be "cheap", but she's selfish. She's only thinking about what she wants to do. Not that the guy has to pay for everything and they may never see another date. If the same guy used her logic on dates he had that week, he'd be broke by the weekend.
Men, I feel so sorry that y’all have to deal with this nonsense. My husband took me for wings on my first date and we been married almost 20 years. Guess what? I’ve flown first class, private, great vacations, great neighborhood and far from working 16 hours days. We were 19 years old. I didn’t even know what 5 star restaurants were until my mid 20s. How y’all expecting men to drop $400 on a first date? Make it make sense!!!
Similar story here. He even gave me his credit card because he trusts me in not making irrational financial decisions. And i always ask if its smth not necessary, like shoes or a bag. Our first date - a simple coffee after he finished work. Next few dates were good fast food places and drinks. Honestly, I remember those as more fun than any fancy restaurant he took me to.
She unknowingly proved why coffee dates work. Dude dodged a bullet because he said coffee date. He didn’t even have to go to find out she’s not worth it
Says she’s been on three dates three nights in a row, then in the same breath says it’s dangerous for women on dates due to “men being crazy”. The duality of this woman
lol yup! you will find this type of contradiction in every point she tries to make. it's almost like she has never thought about what she was going to say for this video and made everything up on the spot.
@@Allyourneedsmetit's not another angle it's facts, she said she sent the guy places where she has been looking out to visit. 😂😂😂. She's basically using men to finance restaurants she'll like to eat at but can't afford to.
Yeah that “higher standards” line got me… so rather than drinks and a conversation, you’re selling off 6 hours of your time AND your pussy for a $100 meal? The math ain’t mathing… guess she’s not the opportunist she thinks she is 😏 Demanding a meal from a man is only an appropriate “standard” to have if you can’t feed yourself.
@@ChimChimChumsquit the America/American crap, women like this are everywhere. Parents are failing, raise your kids with empathy, hard work, honesty, and humbleness. Period. We would have less entitled people around.
This girl is a whole red flag 🚩 I met my husband having a coffee when I was 17. I'm 53 now and love and adore him dearly. He's shorter than me and so secure in his masculinity... He loves it when I wear heels too. Girls, if you overlook people with stupid criteria like height, how much they'll spend on you etc... You'll miss out on some truly great men. Open your eyes, mind and heart.
Yeah but back then they made people different, it's a whole different story today.....men aren't men and women aren't women. Honestly I'm good with dying alone because the odds of finding a quality partner is worse than the lottery.
I hear our daughter say similar things about dating nowadays. She's 22 and happy, enjoys her life is 5ft10", fit and healthy and attractive with a contagious smile. She tells me that guys ask her for hook ups the first time they meet! (Not the right way to get a girl to date you 🚩)She'd love a guy to ask her what book she reads.. she loves sci-fi and horror. I know she'd like a boyfriend, someone to go hiking and camping with. So there's lots of great young people like you out there. You'll just have to meet them in a hiking club, 4wd club, mixed basketball etc instead of a dodgy nightclub. Don't give up. Take care from Australia.
During the pandemic I connected with someone online. That same day we decided to take a drive along the beach and listen to music. He bought me a bottle of water and we had the most amazing conversation. He invited me to brunch the very next day and the rest is history. Engaged after 1 year. Married in 2. If you’re actually looking for love, it can happen over two 50 cent bottles of water. Don’t get discouraged by wenches like this. People with this type of mentality are not a reason to give up on dating.
My sister met her man by a random glitch on Facebook. After a year talking over the internet bill, they were each confident enough to travel halfway across the world both ways and stay with each other's families not even going out except to sight-see and introduce each other to friends. People who make rules about what dates they can go have a skill issue is what I'm saying
Also side note as a woman who LOVES makeup. Listen yeah, shits expensive but its so tiresome how these women wanna tell people they spent 250-300$ on makeup, a 100$ dress, used their 600$ Dyson to get their hair done. I know this is petty but those things.. are not a one time use product 😅😅 People who actually use skincare amd makeup often know it takes a while to go through it, so really did it cost 300 $ to get ready? or just a fraction of it. And bitch no one forced you to buy overpriced NARS creamy concealer. It's not like men would take her out and be like, "EW is that a Maybelline base product?? Naaah you broke af. Bye!" Be FR you know you buy all those things cuz YOU wanted to and YOU like them. Nothing wrong w that, but stop using ''I put on expensive makeup, perfume and clothes so you should spend 200$ on the first date'' as an excuse. And like Aba said you will never catch these women not looking put together when they're out w family or friends. And then they pay for their own stuff so why do the rules change when its a date? If you cheap and just want men to pay for stuff atleast be honest about that. Stop w the irrational justifications..
Not just that. Any guy worth anything won't just roll up for a date without thinking about his appearance. He won't show up in a tux, but are we saying we don't have standards for men's appearance on dates? She cleans up nicely, and so does he. You gonna demand that he spend bank on top of that? This is just as objectifying as the guy who refuses to go out with anything less than a supermodel.
"Talking to you for hours for an $8. There it is. She admits that she's not interested in a relationship, she just wants to be bought. She couldn't have made it any clearer. You know what women who expect to be paid for companionship are called?...
Met my wife on a Friday and ask her to meet me at Starbucks the next day. We sat and talked for hours!! After I realized I wanted to be with her I took her out to a nicer place every Friday after that and she always showed gratitude. She respected my pockets and never imposed and that’s how I knew she was raised well. These women out here are bums.
My husband was very chill as well. I didn’t care where we went because all I wanted to do was spend as much time with him as I could. We were both college students and broke. He’s very frugal and smart with his money but as the relationship progressed we did have our little “expensive” dates. I loved just walking around the beach with him, I loved watching the stars, a fantastic date doesn’t even have to cost money. We’re about to be 17 years married! Two kids and a life we never thought or at least it didn’t cross my mind then 😂. And he’s a pharmacist which made it even more hilarious as the girl was telling her pathetic story 😂 She just missed out on a great guy from what it seems like. Her bad
Exactly! Thank you for saying this. I went on a coffee date recently, and the dude was a bit too eager. I am glad I had my own car and parted ways with him.
@@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 Yeah, there is no reason you have to finish after coffee. Go for a walk or something, grab dessert. Time it so you get coffee at like 4pm and decide to get dinner after if you want to. First dates are easy.
It’s funny how she legit proved his point on why coffee dates are good first dates. Not gonna spend $200 on you for you to go out with another dude the next day wtf💀
@@Transit_my-way I’ve always said this, if she cares more about the monetary value of the date than the date itself, you know she’s not the one and you cut her off right there. A girl who is truly interested in getting to know YOU won’t care if it’s a coffee or a 5 star date…
I'm sorry but we are supposed to roster date. Why should she just put all our eggs in one basket on one guy? I guarantee you men have multiple dates with women.
@@cleanchannel3029that’s the point. Don’t spend to much money on a women that might not choose you in the end. I’ve been on plenty of cheap dates and there are a good amount of women who still appreciate them.
she says he makes 150k a yr and cant take her to dinner but the reason that guy she talking abt still got money is bc he dont entertain girls like her, the irony
@@somesomesomesomereason5055 the gym is my kind of sacred place, i try to avoid dating women I meet there and I would never take one there on a first date, maybe only a girl friend. Things go south I dont like running into them a lot, also some be crazy and resentful sometimes.
You know what I actually cool with the restaurants list because then I don't have to try to figure what she like or not and whether she would like the place and decorum. I am fine with her doing that thing.
@@barefoot_tyI don't see why not. It's a good setting, allows conversation since you won't be focused too much on eating, plus, it's cheap, so if things don't work out, at least you didn't blow over 100 bucks.
@@josejr.garcia2228 the same can be said about the RP community though, “all you have to do is not dare them”. It doesn’t solve the issue that those kind of narratives are still being pushed and have too good of a grip on pop culture to be ignored.
🙋🏽♀️As a woman who also owns and regularly wears a $32 NARS Concealer, men are people with feelings and standards too. If you are ever hoping for an honest and authentic relationship, you should never look to treat him ike he is subpar or less than you. Because at the end of the day, his choices become your reflection. A man loved and respected for who he is, not who you want the world to view him as, will treat you like the queen you are. You won't need to ask for a crown.
She is the reason why I tell my bros not to tell women their occupation. As an engineer, you can literally see the silver dollar eyes when you mention it and you just become a meal ticket in their eyes
I would think you would want to tell them up front what your occupation is. That ways you'll see the signs and move on faster. Versus getting invested just to find out her true moral character. Being upfront reduces wasting your time. If she not of moral character you move on; till you find someone who is.
@@3arhodesBad advice. If you have a good job she'll just pretend to like you. Shes not going to let you know that shes only intrested in you for money.
We forget the root of dating is. It's not flexing. It's "do I find them compatible and do I wanna spend more time with them?" Coffee is perfect. Hell...a walk is perfect lol
I totally agree, my fiancé and I went on a walk and ice cream for our first date. We spoke for hours and really enjoyed each other’s company. The best part, there was no pressure on either of us… from there on, he’s only been taking me to expensive dinners and outings… I think expensive dinners and stuff should be for committed relationships … it’s just more fun when you can chat about that experience later on
@maltheri9833 Eh, you know what I mean. It's a little much for a first date. One of the more expensive things I buy for myself is additional books and some hardware (electronic or otherwise) to tinker with. Unless the gal I date is one I am in it with for the long haul and we went out for at least two years, the most expensive place I would go with her is Friday's or Applebee's, and that is months after we make it official. Cheesecake Factory? That would celebrate the third anniversary, if we go there at all.
And she doesn't seem to even want a relationship, just free meals, also using TikTok as an avenue to yap about her "inconveniences", generating free clout and future possible cucks in her DMs, saying, "I would never do that to you; I'll take you somewhere nice." But of course pretty women never get punished so it probably worked as well.
Glad you said it. If you have to wear a bunch of makeup and hair and nails and lip plumper, etc.... then you prolly not as beautiful as you think we are. Men have to wear our actual faces out in public, we don't get to hide behind a fake face.
imagine making a "safety" argument then immediately saying you would rather long encounters at night with strangers than short encounters during regular business hours 💀
And having multiple dates of this kind with different men in the same week. The moment that she goes out with multiple men in such a short time the higher her chances of running into a dangerous man.
This is exactly how I knew she was full of shit and she was lying about this entire encounter. She’s contradicting herself badly. I think women who do this for clout just want a bunch of followers
TH-cam just sent me a survey in regards to your comment. They had a few options to choose from, which included “misappropriate”. I noted that it was “informative”. They out here trying to control the narrative. People need to stop being soft and let the comment section breathe. Keep doing your thing.
“he makes 130k a year” yea, for him. it’s his money. the entitlement people have towards other peoples money is crazy. looks come and go but character is forever
What's really funny is they'll have standards for random single guys, but preselected/taken/married guys always get tempted by them for free lol.....funny how that works.
Also, imagine if he's playing the field going out on dates 3 times per week like her. And he's gotta pay for $200 dinners every time? That's like a mortgage payment on food.
If she has this much contempt for men, she’s probably better off dating women. But we all know she won’t, because women won’t put up with her BS “standards”. And she’ll have to split the bill
As an introvert, I honestly think coffee dates in public are SO MUCH BETTER! There is less pressure and I feel like you can get some really deep conversations going. Or is it just me? 😂 Like I already hate going out so I just want things to be simple haha
I feel the same way! If it doesn’t go any further, at least I only spent a couple of dollars! I also pay for my coffee and I am a woman. Going out to eat at a fancy restaurant is a lot of pressure especially on a first date! That is something you do when you are in a relationship and a marriage and even then rare occasions… Take me to any coffee shop or to a fast food restaurant.
As a woman I was never into a coffee date but definitely drink or something light. Casual is the way to go to chat laugh instead of eating. KEEP it casual guys until it’s like the 3rd date and you now really like her and she shows you genuine interest not just a meal plan
The problem is she described three different dates and never once even commented on the most important part of the date, how they got along as people. Shes not looking for a relationship, shes looking for an optimal transaction.
This is not about love, compatibility, connection or any of that... This is about lifestyle, and what man can provide the most extravagant lifestyle. In the minds of women like this, men are not human beings, men are human doings.
What's really funny is they'll have standards for random single guys, but preselected/taken/married guys always get tempted by them for free lol.....funny how that works.
I don’t know how she feels entitled to luxury. I felt so bad when I get someone pay for the meal. I try to pay for meals or at least be extremely grateful or try to pay them back cause treating people like wallets is so dehumanizing. wtf is she on? If I can I would love to offer myself to go to place and pay for myself or other person. Just cause I would like to show my gratitude.
She’s basically an unpaid escort. She’s spending all this money on herself to go out with random dudes and making the dude justify her spending habits. If money is such an issue for her and women like her maybe they shouldn’t be going out on dates if it’s that financially taxing without them even having to spend a dime on the date itself.
Don't believe for a second that she's spending a whole bunch of money. Make up is expensive but they put on the make that they already bought. They're not going out and buying make up specifically for a date. You think they go out and buy a whole new set of make up every date??? Lol. THEY'RE LYING!!!!
Coffee is no insult. Many coffee places are more expensive than restaurants. The coffee scene is great. Coffee houses have different settings and themes.
@@Gia-mg5nxpersonally for me, a coffee date is wack af sounding and that’s my preference. If men don’t wanna accept that, they’re entitled to that. It’s really not that deep. Move the fuck on, there’s billions of women who are willing to accept that.
I’ll forever be baffled by the men that take woman like this out. If a girl sends me a list of restaurants I’m sending her a list of trash bins in the city
Well the simple answer is sex. The sad answer is that most men just want to be married, and the options for a reasonable woman in the west are now low. Not saying men haven't gotten worse as well, but at least men have remained stagnant in regards to what they want to marry. Women have essentially chosen to marry high value or die single.
Not gonna lie, I love it when women say things like this because they're clearly signalling to me that it's time to move on to a different person. Entitlement coupled with unrealistic standards is easily one of the most unsexy and repulsive combinations regardless of gender.
Well perhaps if the men weren't dating women just for their looks then this wouldn't be an issue. Can't have it both ways. If men try to lean on when dating is their wallet no one should be surprised when the women sees men as a wallet. It's an equal exchange.
The internet has become a place for mainly women to self snitch on themselves because they tend to use it as a diary way more than men. And I love it you can put her in a category before the first date even happens.
(Some) Women: I'm afraid I could get murdered The same woman: Let's meet at night in a dark area and then if things don't go my way I'll publicly humiliate you on social media
She made it seem like being on a date with a man who is a pharmacist is an L. Those men make a great salary, and coffee dates are a way to really gage the woman's interest in you as a man. Sorry that I won't spend a fortune on you when I barely know you.
@@T.H.E.O.R.Y. If you based a date on where someone invites you, you'll go to the most fancy places and always will complain to not find someone who really values you. (sorry for my English)
I literally saw this on TikTok and asked if it was fair to expect all of this from men on a first date. I got so much backlash I thought I was the delusional one. Glad to know I wasn't
The real question is what kind of woman would want to spend 1-2 hours at a fancy dinner with someone she doesn't even know she likes? When I was dating, women of worth - intelligent, sincere, positive women who had a good life NEVER wanted to go for dinner, never even for drinks, always coffee/tea, because they didn't want to wste their time.
there's hoards of delusional women who rely on exploiting the dating system and men in general to live the way they do, by speaking the truth you threatened their way of life, its like exposing a politician for being corrupt, suddenly they frantically fight back against it
What BS! I'm a swedish, older woman. Both my daughter and son, have spouses that work just as much as them and at home they both do equal tasks. If one was home, taking care of children, then they would rearrange that.
Girl!! How many hours are you sinking into people you’re meeting with for the first time…? The fact that she has that much free time is in itself a red flag. It screams unemployment.
Onlyfans makes her undateble for obvious, basic ethical or monogamous reasons. She's a prostitute then. I once went out for coffee with a OF girl, had sex with her, never called her again. Sorry but they aren't capable of anything beyond sex, due to their own lifestyle choice. And it'll forever be that way
19:40 This part of her rant is very telling. It shows that what she thinks of as a happy marriage is: - Husband works and plans dates - Housekeeper cleans - Nanny takes care of the kids - Chef cooks the meals - She does nothing and walks around malls all day with hubbies credit card. ...and you know damn well with all that free time she is going to get bored and cheat on you.
I caught that and hoped they would comment on it. Because if the main thing you provide initially is spending money on yourself what purpose do you serve if you get money and you start using HIS money for all your aesthetic stuff? At that point your no better than a pet. If he cheated I can't even fault him because you're not his partner, you're an ornament. And if you have sex with him, congratulations 👏🏿, you're a sentient Fleshlight at best.
@@TwistedQuestionMarkyou forgot suckers exist. Bad p*ssy > no p*ssy to them, so that logic doesnt calculate.. when shes 50 and alone shell settle for ANYTHING. Thats usually how this goes.
And if you in anyway criticize how normalized it's become for these girls to, not want, BUT EXPECT these ENTIRELY one-sided relationships where they only take and never give: you're suddenly an incel. This generation's Women have become some kind of Protected class that's exempt from criticism.
She is the kind of woman that turn good men into assholes. I'm from Mexico, here we are in danger FOR REAL and I can tell you that going on dates with strangers one after the other just to have a good dinner isn't the best way to take care of yourself. Build your relationships from friendship.
This is also why your marriage rates are higher, divorce rates lower, and family unions are tighter. Although there are safe cities/people in all "3rd world" countries, the risks are too high to be out dating so liberally. I mean, 3 dates in 3 days w/ new men??? Bruv, she would be trafficked or decomposed by the time her body was discovered.
You have traditional values, you are with men for protection, and you value family more. Dangerous conditions incentivize social groups and push to go somewhere better. Love it in the US cause my family has done so well here.
It’s giving hooker tbh. If all she wants is a sugar daddy, then she should just say that. I have more respect for actual hookers, sugar babies, gold diggers, etc. that are *honest* about their expectations than I do for women like her who think they’re entitled to other people’s money but get so offended if you call it out for what it is. She’s pathetic and her ass is either going to be alone forever or trapped in a miserable marriage to someone equally shallow because she clearly values money over all else.
Advice from an old duck. "Don't post to the internet, it's forever." This poor lass will never get past this internet resume forever. I feel that even all future employers will take this post into consideration. Thank you Mr Preach and Brother Aba. It's my guilty pleasure to watch train wrecks. Much love and bless Mrs Mango of Port Douglas Tropi-cool North Queensland Australia
"What's in it for us?" Uh, love, companionship, stuff like that? Like that isn't valuable to you? This woman is basically admitting that she doesn't value men for anything other than their wallets.
Don’t worry she’ll be changing her tune in another 10 years. Then she’ll be literally hoing around for that baby to trap a stranger since she couldn’t have one in a committed relationship or better yet marriage
She told on herself. Notice she went on an expensive date on Saturday with a view. The next day though she went out with another guy. So the guy who did spend big money got no sex and no loyalty...she's a user
@@lamar310 If a man takes a woman out on an expensive date, does she owe him sex or loyalty? If a woman gives a man sex on the first date, does he owe her money or loyalty? I'm just confused on what correlation you are making and wondered if you could clarify.
@@kaylas.5176 my thought is the fact that the guy took her on the EXACT 1st date that she was wishing for beautiful dinner with a view and then she immediately went on another date the next day with a different guy. Think about it what did that guy get from this whole scenario, he spent hundreds of dollars just to sit across from her and smell her finger sweat for 2 hours and then go home alone and sulk about his student loans
This woman is the prime of example of don't take relationship advice from this type of women. She literally telling you don't go for the types of dudes that are actually weeding out the gold diggers and narcissists...
Think she too stupid to understand why the first guy did that, it's to dodge people like her. If she was smart, she would know that after some good vetting those type of dudes give their partners the world.
Yikes this girl is a nightmare. There should be a dating app for frugal/fiscally responsible people so people who aren’t super materialistic don’t have to deal with people like her in dating. I love doing a nature walk or something lowkey on a first date. More likely than not both people are still strangers to each other. I’m not even comfortable with the other person paying for me until 2nd date at earliest. But in general it’s nice to spend time with people who know how to enjoy life/their time without always needing to spend money
social media has ruined a lot of women's minds, they think they're all celebrities just because they have over thousands of followers lol. I miss when most women were humble and appreciative of men being productive, charming with substance instead of swag and clout.
meanwhile some of us women think coffee dates or even beach dates with no money spent is the cutest date ever lol. 🤷♀ I guess I have no standards for not wanting a man to spend money on me when he doesn't know me.
A lot of women say "dating" but seem to mean tricking. If the goal is not to find a partner, then you're out there selling yourself for a meal. So live that truth, but dont try dressing it up as something it's not
Fucking hell yes! That part. Just own what you really are and deal with the consequences or blessings. I think these kind of people would find more happiness in their lives if they just decide to be honest with them selves first and then go from there. Shit you don’t even have to try to change to be abetter person it would be nice but don’t try to finesse people, lie to them, gaslight them, use them and discard them.
“What’s in it for us” is enough for me to just straight up cut off and block not just any girl out of my life, but people in general. It’s good to look out for yourself don’t get me wrong but there’s a difference between that and only prioritizing yourself. Some of the best advice I can give is to straight up ignore and cut anyone out who is like that.
I bet she's one of those people that post on her socials on "why finding love is hard" or " Love in this generation is backwards" or something like that.😊 Or "men put pressure on women" blah blah blah.
yep, I just put a comment that if your first interaction with someone is them trying to squeeze you for everything they can then how do you expect the rest of your life to go with them? This is where you're supposed to put your best foot forward and she's already exhausting. I've had to get rid of guy friends for the same shit. Some people will screw you out of $10 if they can save $1. It's in their DNA, they can't change, they won't change, just take out the trash and don't look back.
This is actually really funny. I recently ran into a woman like this, who didn't like coffee dates for the same reason. She wanted to be wined and dined, yet I didn't even know her last name. When I wasn't vibing with her, she attacked my masculinity and my character and blocked me. That was the funniest thing that ever happened.😂
Coffee dates are fine. The whole point of dating is getting to know the person and trying to feel them out. Apparently, some people seem to forget that.
Have had the same thing, multiple times women have took offense for me asking them out to get something casual like sandwiches. Lol. Dodged a bullet, good test.
The point about the man picking a simple place helps the woman to not feel there are any expectations is a great one. If a man picked an expensive place and insisted on paying on the first date that would have genuinely been a red flag for me! I’d definitely think he was trying to pressure me to put out. Paying for my coffee is a lot more comfortable on a first date.
The first date I invited my boyfriend of four years on was a walk by the lake shore near my house, and later, to my small neighborhood restaurant, Gina's Pizza. That's it, and it was one of the most special days of my life. What happened to just spending time getting to know someone? Clearly this woman isn't interested the least in any man she's with, but rather, in them flaunting their wealth in front of her like she's some kind of stripper. She doesn't deserve a relationship right now in her life. Her thoughts are too clouded by greed.
@@Semaj2326 Not sure why you wrote "nah" in your comment when I clearly agree with your sentiment lol She's entitled and greed stems from that entitlement.
Hit the nail on the head. I told my bf if she was actually interested in dating her focus would be on forming a connection, finding a man with similar values, and similar hobbies. His response was hun half the women out there see men as a status symbol no different than a car. They like to show it off without putting too much effort back what a real relationship requires.
Just by her last statement of "I canceled the friday date but Saturday a man took me out to eat here and Sunday another man took me out to eat there" really shows her intentions. When I was dating 3-4 dates a month was a lot for me, let alone back to back to back. She's just trying to get free food. It's so weird though, to me eating a meal is so intimate and I wouldn't want a new person to eat with every day even if they're paying.
I had a woman that wouldn’t do a coffee date. She wanted a dinner date only. So I said I’m out. Don’t fall for it men. Start with coffee dates and feel her out.
thx for the vid. i enjoy the channel greatly.not being in the dating pool any longer,im relieved i dont have to play these games.i feel sorry for the fellas today.seems like such ah mine field of missteps, and judgement.
That's a keeper. My wife was the same way, and she offered to pay for a lot of the dates we went on. Sometimes, she paid when she went to the bathroom without telling me. This showed me she genuinely liked me and my company.
I remembered a guy I met off line told me he rather meet me in person to see if we catch a vibe and if we do, we can do dinner. I was like cool, where shall we meet…he replied his homeboys house. I told him that’s not going to work for me. Either a public place or dinner. He told me again I can meet him at his homeboy’s house. Nope that’s a red flag for me. I understand the concept of getting to know someone before you spend money on them but I’m not about to jeopardize my safety. I quickly blocked him.
Walking is free. It definitely wasn’t about the money. One thing where I agree with the woman from the video is the danger. Meeting with people you barely know can be dangerous and for that public spaces are definitely a better option than being out in the night
Paying for makeup is like paying for groceries. You dont eat $300 of groceries in 1 meal and you dont use $32 of concealer or any other makeup product everytime you use it. She might have spent $10 on her choice of makeup max. Maybe another $5 if she even went to go get her hair done at a salon.
Mature women prefer going to coffee for the first meeting. It's more casual and less stressful. You both can be relaxed to get acquainted, and decide if you want another date...then try dinner.
I hate that ANYONE can pick up their phone and post nonsemse dating "advice" (men and women). Then you have the sheep that end up following the garbage advice. This is why the dating pool is a swamp. Toxic folks, opportunist, gold diggers, etc. suck. They've ruined it for sensible and well-intentioned daters 🙄
Reason why I deleted my TikTok with multiple followers and uninstall IG and Fb. I just use TH-cam to listen some songs I can’t find one Apple Music. This bs is getting to me.
🍿 These are the reasons I don’t date anymore, I refuse to go on dating sites. I rather meet people in person and if we want to get to know each other further we may exchange our numbers and go from there. The coffee or drink date sounds great to me! 15-30 min in person is ample time for me to consider if I want to get to know you further.
She is being ridiculous. A coffee date has to be the perfect first date. 1) You can get up and leave whenever things go left. 2) Everything is cheap so you can pay for yourself if you choose to cut it short. 3) it’s a comfortable setting 4) who doesn’t love cafes?
Cafe is always my go-to for first date. She can get coffee/tea or food. We can talk while we wait in line to order to get a feel for each other. We can pay up front so we can amicably leave if it's not working out. And most importantly, it's a more comfortable environment to get to know each other without some pretense of him spending and/or her putting out. It's a first date, after all! But some GOTTA be extra about it.
When I was younger and dating, I didn’t judge people based on their profession like this woman because times were different but also my goal was to find someone who had moral, values and an upbringing that helped lay that foundation, I didn’t go on a date back to back to back expecting to have my life paid for by guys. We’ve all had good and bad experiences but that’s why it’s safe to start off small. Having said that, she seems to be using guys for lavish meals and a lifestyle that she can’t upkeep herself.
She’s allowed social media to poison her mind. If she’s trying to date pharmacists but worried about what redpill TH-camrs say, she’s allowed too many influences into her mind, resulting in massive dissonance. Feels bad Sis
blame her parents. in fact, i bet she comes from a single parent household. this entire persona starts and ends at the household. social media only enables what already lacks or missing in the first place.
I met my girl on Sunday. We went on a lunch date at a park and played Uno for 6 hours while talking the next day. We been together for 3 years. She said every friend hated on that date, and she’s glad she went on it.
The dangerous thing about this is that younger people see this stuff on TikTok and just because of her looks and age will absorb and adapt to this nonsense she says.
@@hamburgerbrainI don’t know, people really don’t think about it but kids on Tit Tok are being shown a shallow and incorrect view of how to start relationships, what their future can look like, even lies about family life that can form or rather inform their choices going forward. This is how these expectations came to be and how they conflict with modernist messages of women both having to be completely independent but also putting men through financial demands and tests the really only applied to non independent financially insecure house wives. In the early days a date would be like showing how well you could take care of a lady, this makes for huge conflicts of behavior as a woman now wants to be the same level with their man but also more demanding without reason. It’s difficult for young people to understand why these things were important when the purpose doesn’t make sense.
I stopped using makeup during quarantine, changed my daily habits to have better hygiene and better looking natural skin and my husband thinks I look even prettier than before. I rarely use it now, it saves time in the morning, saves money as well and I feel more confident in my natural appearance.
Whaaaa? Coffee dates are SAFE in my opinion!!! I agree with you guys❤. As far as the makeup/maintenance thing, you're supposed to do that for YOURSELF❗
She is not looking for a relationship. She is looking for a free meal-plan. She went on two other dates and still had the audacity to complain about the pharmacist setting boundaries. Wow
She is likely looking for both, but I am sure the high earning guys she is dating are just wanting to hook up for the night and call it quits the moment they speak to her.
She’s not complaining about the pharmacist setting boundaries, she’s just explaining to her audience why and how she sets the boundaries she sets in dynamics she could be apart of. Why judge her intentions for setting boundaries? It’s her boundaries
My boyfriend took me to a movie on our first date (we worked together and connected over movies, so it suited us, I know movies are not everyone's first date standard given talking is not involved. Though I do say that someone's theatre etiquette speaks WONDERS in my opinion.) The next day he bought me a box of doughnuts from my favourite bakery. 5 years later and we are as strong as ever. Didn't need to wine and dine me for $200 to make me feel special, he took my interests into consideration and that is what counts. This girl is wildin'
Not only that but as a guy that does similar things(cinema, coffee etc) for first dates is not because i have no intention to ever take the girl am courting to a nice dinner, is simply because i don't want to spend a big amount on a woman am not interested in. If we go on the first date and i throw a huge amount of money on a high class restaurant etc and then threw the date i discover that the woman i wasted all that money on is the most annoying person i met for a long time then i will just be crying my money away. Why would any guy do that? Yes of course it is an audition. And her "looks" excuses she gave are horrible. What a guy looks threw a more cheap fun dates at first is to see what kind of person his dealing with, not looks. If it's just looks i can bail out the moment i see you. The guys that look for just looks are the guys that aren't looking for a relationship but for let's say to avoid TH-cam censorship a "fun night". Those guys usually will take you to a fancy dinner from the start and not a coffee date because they only care to impress and get what they want from you not to just go somewhere simple and chat and get to know you. So the guy that doesn't go with fancy dinner to impress from the start is actually the kind of guy you shouldn't reject because he doesn't see you as a street woman to throw money at to get between your legs but as a possible life partner that wants to engage with.
@@SIPEROTH oh I agree 100% I don't think any guy (or girl for that matter) should take the gamble of spending all this money on the POSSIBILITY that you aren't a complete psycho and maybe end up being the love of your life. If anything a person who is willing to give you a shot even when you don't put 100% effort on your looks or the spending the first time probably someone who actually likes you for who you are as a person and not the money you have or your physical appearance. People date for the flashy instagram moments now instead to "audition", as you said, a potential life partner, which is not a good standard to set for a relationship. Looks and money may fade, you want a person who will stand the test of time.
This is why you have a man. Men love Women that seem simple and just enjoy being out with us. We will do anything for that Woman. And if you want to go out and Im paying we doing wtf I wamt to do 😂😂😂. Especially on the first meet. If you not cool with that ✌🏿✌🏿
A coffee date is amazing!!! Especially if we can walk afterwards and just have peace. I need to know if we have have a good time with damn near nothing. Life is full of ups and downs. Your partner should be your best friend. Me and my best friend could sit in a cardboard box and have the time of our lives 😂 you know what they say ... If you're always bored you might be boring lol having to constantly be entertained and spoiled is a bad sign. Don't give someone the special date at the beginning. It makes it feel like you do that for everyone. Have a connection and let the special ness grow!
I loved his response about why they should split the check. She is talking about him treating it like an audition, she is offended by it. Yet, she auditioned all weekend. 😂 she did not like him setting boundaries. She is used to being the only one setting boundaries. Spoiled gold digger.
This IS why I strictly go on boba/coffee dates. I used to think that the first coffee/boba date is a day used to gauge if a person is actually worth spending on. This whole video validated everything I believed in. PS: I’m dating someone amazing now. She never made me feel like I had to try too hard. She made me comfortable so much that I can just be myself and the likelihood of us moving forward was never predicated on how much I’m expected tp spend on her for the first date like the woman on the video - which is why I’m even more determined now to take her to places she’s never been to or get her things she doesn’t have.
That’s great! You remind me of my bf. Our first dates were very casual like picnics and such, and we’d split the bill mostly. But as we’ve been together for longer, I’ve noticed that he’s more comfortable with treating me to dinners and such (but it’s not like I ask him to). Maybe other generations or older people do things differently, but I feel like starting out with less costly/more casual things is healthier than spending extravagant amounts of money
I did the same sort of thing. I spent a summer just friend zoning different women that I met. Hung out with them at coffee shops, outdoor activities, gatherings of friends, etc. really got to know them. Until I met the girl who I wanted to take things further with. We were instantly comfortable with each other. Like we had known each other for years. We started dating, got married... been building a life together for 15 years. She was a stay at home mom while my daughter was young. Supported me in my career. Now I'm making 6 figures at a job with great benefits. I supported her career, now she is graduating with her Nurse Practitioner the first week of January. Sign an employment contract making $100/hr. Together, we are killing it.
My first date with my husband was lunch at chipotle, we were 20 years old at the time. We dated for 4 years (long distance), then when we discussed about getting engaged, I told him not spend more than $1k on the ring... we've been married for two years now, happier than ever! This girl in the video seems to want a expensive meal rather than an actual relationship/real connection. To each their own, I guess...
I haven't even spent more than 80$ on food for 2 as a married woman. How on earth does someone get to a level of entitlement that $200 from a stranger is the bare minimum?!!!
I once took a girl that seemed really interested at first, on a date, and decided to take her to a restaurant. This was the first time ever hanging out with her after getting her number from a 2 minute conversation and she was a really pretty Italian girl. At the restaurant we ordered food, drinks etc and the bill came to over $100 which I paid like a gentleman... Meanwhile, during basically the whole date she kept leaving the table multiple times supposedly going to the bathroom but then hanging out with the bartender dude for 15 mins at a time on her way back, as I waited like an idiot at the table and I could see her. Obviously she wasn't interested (and supposedly knew thr bartender from before) but neither was I interested anymore because of how rude she was... So I never contacted her again after that. That's when I learned: NEVER pay for an expensive first date! Coffee or something small is best. If someone likes you and respects you then they'll have fun being with you regardless of how much you spend. The girl in this video above is delusional cause she doesn't realize that men don't want to waste money in case they find out a woman is low class or acts like a spoiled brat, or simply if it's never going anywhere after that 1st date.
That shouldn’t be the verdict based off of THAT. That literally never happens. 😂 What you should have done is simply pay your half and transfer her portion over to the bartender and leave so she could pay him while she was over there in his face. Secondly, on behalf of both men AND women, it should be about whether or not it’s “expensive,” it’s the EFFORT the people are missing! 🤦🏾♀️
@@TheRealKCKay You're right! I was angry at myself for paying that bill. It would have been way better if I left her her half to pay with her bartender. But hindsight is 20/20... I definitely learned for next time! And I still love being generous to kind people who deserve it :) But first I get to know them.
Fellas, ladies, and my people in between, if you cant appreciate or love someone for spending less on a date and put more thought and care into it, then your relationship aint gonna last.
They have all of these rules that only men who have no self respect would follow and then when they can't find a guy they just blame men. They don't even know their filter is fucked up, but that would require one iota of self reflection or personal responsibility.
Bro, I guarantee you that she listens to that SheraSeven(Sprinkle Sprinkle)lady for advice how to finesse rich men out of their money. If she keeps this up, she will be like Eboni K. Williams, alone and foolish.
It's getting worse year by year. People are being more and more shallow and narcissistic. Don't wait to find a long-term partner because your chances of finding someone decent will only plunge over the years.
It’s funny that she’s worried about all this danger that she puts herself in this situation when if she went to the coffee shop, she would’ve been in a public setting surrounded by people in a much safer place
LOL. Yeah coffee/cafe dates are the safest really .. compared to dinner where you're finishing when it's nighttime, dude shelled out money so may feel entitled to something, etc. More safety issues in that scenario
She dates sooo many men that she developed this wholeass system. People who date to seek a relationship don't shop around this much. She dates dudes not to get to know them, but for what she gets out of the outings.
As a fellow woman, this lady is tripping. If she went to a coffee date she could wear no/minimal makeup, and regardless that doesn't come into the equation. She's not coming across as if she's looking for a deeper connection, so I'm not surprised she'd react like that to a man wanting to go somewhere cheaper to get to know her first. It's wild to me that women like this exist and that it's common(?).
1/3rd of women have accepted a date just to get a free meal. It wouldn’t surprise me if most of those women think like this. She just happened to say the quiet part out loud
@@Butterflyyyxoxo That statistic comes right from Social Psychological and Personality Science. Ya know, a major Psychology and Sociology institution with actual Doctors who conducted the study
Exactly and as if men want to see a girl caked in makeup, dressed like a hoe on the very first date anyway. Who wouldnt rather get to know the real person in a low pressure environment. She said it herself, first dates to her are to be on your best behavior, that's manipulator talk. She'd rather play pretend like she's a classy lady with a guy pretending like he's a baller.
These heffas... nooo
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She says dating is dangerous so she rather go on a dinner date…at night…with a person you talk to for 3 days. Instead of going to a coffee shop during the day.
Facts! It just doesn't make sense at all and I'm glad the dude was straight forward. She ended up proving why the coffee date was the better option for the dude.
she's projecting :) she's the dangerous one... hunting useful idiots to leech for supply while poisoning the dating game for everyone
@@TheChannelJ1 Don't tell someone to 'be serious' as if you are making sense. Statistically, such attacks are more likely at happen at night rather than during the day. It's all about improving the odds of safety, that's just common sense.
@TheChannelJ1 lets be real hear. Statistically speaking it's much safer in the day time.
@@TheChannelJ1 let’s not be obtuse now. When it rains and I bring an umbrella I might still get a little wet, but it is better than if I went outside without it. Sure we can’t prevent everything 100% but you do dramatically reduce danger by going out on date during the day. If safety was really a concern a dinner date with a stranger would not have been the move.
“I don't like them treating it like an audition” THATS WHAT A DATE IS, AN AUDITION FOR A RELATIONSHIP
When there the ones that want relationships, men are fine alone with 3 vvomen in rotation.. leggo 🚀
@@Dreweybaby😂
She not looking for a relationship that’s the problem
Exactly
Exactly why are people so focused on the dinner when they should be focused on being compatible
In her attempt to shame that man for being “cheap” she showed how smart he actually was. He knew the deal and didn’t want to end up as a free meal. He’s a hero.
and she goes on to tell the whole world how she takes advantage of people, now no one hasto deal with her XD (sounds like a win for mankind)
You only get finessed so many times before you wisen up. Materialistic women act playful to get you to spend money on them, then cut off the act as soon as they have gotten what they want.
Dinner dates suck in general. Do something active if you can like a walk in the park, going to a museum, an amusement park/ fair, etc. Something that has a shifting environment and plenty of verbal and non-verbal communication.
She's rationalising it, speaking about why would she get high maintenance to go for an 8dollar coffee knowing damn well that the moment she ties him down she's gonna start walking around the house like smeagol.
No woman I've been with has EVER had the high maintenance look 2 months into the relationship if she feels comfortable. Or what? She expects to be taken out every single day? I don't understand the logic.
$32 concealer, talking like she's using the whole tube on that one date knowing damn well she gets 30-50 uses out of it but he should pay upwards of 500 dollars for dinner.
This is the definition of mental delusion.
He may be "cheap", but she's selfish. She's only thinking about what she wants to do. Not that the guy has to pay for everything and they may never see another date. If the same guy used her logic on dates he had that week, he'd be broke by the weekend.
🎶 There goes my hero 🎶
Men, I feel so sorry that y’all have to deal with this nonsense. My husband took me for wings on my first date and we been married almost 20 years. Guess what? I’ve flown first class, private, great vacations, great neighborhood and far from working 16 hours days. We were 19 years old. I didn’t even know what 5 star restaurants were until my mid 20s. How y’all expecting men to drop $400 on a first date? Make it make sense!!!
No one should expect ANYONE to spend hundreds on someone they don't know. It's crazy.
Ur a queen, tell that man he better treat you right......or I will 🤣
When a woman has no demands, we want to give her the world.
Similar story here. He even gave me his credit card because he trusts me in not making irrational financial decisions. And i always ask if its smth not necessary, like shoes or a bag. Our first date - a simple coffee after he finished work. Next few dates were good fast food places and drinks. Honestly, I remember those as more fun than any fancy restaurant he took me to.
@@teodora5377 you another queen. Shout out to you real women out here. Ya'll put the W in women 👌💍👍
She unknowingly proved why coffee dates work. Dude dodged a bullet because he said coffee date. He didn’t even have to go to find out she’s not worth it
She very much is….. also isnt a coffee shop a decently safe place? 🤷♂️
@@pranc236she’s worth it? The like ratio on your comment may prove that’s a unpopular opinion.
@@TGKChief.Infinity no, she is proving why coffee dates work.
@@pranc236 exactly! 9 times out of 10 that’s why men suggest it.
If she really saw him as her number one option she would’ve went on the coffee date, don’t get it confused. This is why always stick to your guns.
Says she’s been on three dates three nights in a row, then in the same breath says it’s dangerous for women on dates due to “men being crazy”. The duality of this woman
lol yup! you will find this type of contradiction in every point she tries to make. it's almost like she has never thought about what she was going to say for this video and made everything up on the spot.
As soon as something puts her off, she puts them in the "dangerous" category to justify her ridiculous standards.
She is probably sleeping with most of these men as well, so not 'that' dangerous then lol
They claim they’re scared of men and have all these security precautions but then go out on a date without their wallet… make it make sense
She didn’t really go on dates though, she just wants free dinner.
This woman isn't serious about finding someone. She's just leading men on to finance her nights out.
Another angle.
i mean her approach is clear and good thing if a man does some digging it's easy to see, the issue is those that have same mentality but hide it
@@Allyourneedsmetit's not another angle it's facts, she said she sent the guy places where she has been looking out to visit. 😂😂😂. She's basically using men to finance restaurants she'll like to eat at but can't afford to.
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Thats why i go 50/50. I refuse to go Will Smith/simp for them.
She's not looking for a relationship, she's looking for free meals.
These women are really out here confusing ‘being entitled’ with ‘having standards’. It is not the same!
In America?
Yeah that “higher standards” line got me… so rather than drinks and a conversation, you’re selling off 6 hours of your time AND your pussy for a $100 meal? The math ain’t mathing… guess she’s not the opportunist she thinks she is 😏
Demanding a meal from a man is only an appropriate “standard” to have if you can’t feed yourself.
@@ChimChimChumsquit the America/American crap, women like this are everywhere. Parents are failing, raise your kids with empathy, hard work, honesty, and humbleness. Period. We would have less entitled people around.
"Pay for my things because I am pretty" is what I hear and its nasty
@@LookitsMarinomy time is sale in exchange for goods it's what I hear
Seeing a woman reject a date because it was cheesecake factory was the bullshit of the week.
I'm confused, isn't cheesecake Factory considered luxury? It isn't cheap certainly. Could other women explain?
@@Helpmefindthewilltolivethe lady said it’s because it’s a chain restaurant smh
And thats after being an hour late lmao
I dont think that video was real. It screamed staged.
@@Indicudibut the avocado rolls, oreo dream supreme, the alfredo chicken.. It's the best..
She used safety as a reason to meet up for alcohol instead of caffeine.🤡🤡
My happily married ass watching this over lunch: "Damn, streets are crazy"
😂😂😂😂
They really are
So entertaining to watch tho
This girl is a whole red flag 🚩
I met my husband having a coffee when I was 17. I'm 53 now and love and adore him dearly. He's shorter than me and so secure in his masculinity... He loves it when I wear heels too. Girls, if you overlook people with stupid criteria like height, how much they'll spend on you etc... You'll miss out on some truly great men.
Open your eyes, mind and heart.
Yeah but back then they made people different, it's a whole different story today.....men aren't men and women aren't women. Honestly I'm good with dying alone because the odds of finding a quality partner is worse than the lottery.
I love what you shared I really wish I could find a fraction of what you have but ppl are so shallow nowadays 😭
That's so cute
Right. Like, is she dating men, or the meals?? Holy...
I hear our daughter say similar things about dating nowadays. She's 22 and happy, enjoys her life is 5ft10", fit and healthy and attractive with a contagious smile. She tells me that guys ask her for hook ups the first time they meet! (Not the right way to get a girl to date you 🚩)She'd love a guy to ask her what book she reads.. she loves sci-fi and horror. I know she'd like a boyfriend, someone to go hiking and camping with. So there's lots of great young people like you out there. You'll just have to meet them in a hiking club, 4wd club, mixed basketball etc instead of a dodgy nightclub. Don't give up. Take care from Australia.
During the pandemic I connected with someone online. That same day we decided to take a drive along the beach and listen to music. He bought me a bottle of water and we had the most amazing conversation.
He invited me to brunch the very next day and the rest is history. Engaged after 1 year. Married in 2.
If you’re actually looking for love, it can happen over two 50 cent bottles of water.
Don’t get discouraged by wenches like this. People with this type of mentality are not a reason to give up on dating.
My sister met her man by a random glitch on Facebook. After a year talking over the internet bill, they were each confident enough to travel halfway across the world both ways and stay with each other's families not even going out except to sight-see and introduce each other to friends.
People who make rules about what dates they can go have a skill issue is what I'm saying
“After a year talking over the internet bill” 😭😭😂😂
@@solitary2what a way to connect, "internet bills" B R U H
"Skill Issue" ahahahahahahahahahahhaha
Such a great reference m8
Where do they sell 50 cent water? I want to live there 😂
Also side note as a woman who LOVES makeup. Listen yeah, shits expensive but its so tiresome how these women wanna tell people they spent 250-300$ on makeup, a 100$ dress, used their 600$ Dyson to get their hair done. I know this is petty but those things.. are not a one time use product 😅😅 People who actually use skincare amd makeup often know it takes a while to go through it, so really did it cost 300 $ to get ready? or just a fraction of it. And bitch no one forced you to buy overpriced NARS creamy concealer. It's not like men would take her out and be like, "EW is that a Maybelline base product?? Naaah you broke af. Bye!"
Be FR you know you buy all those things cuz YOU wanted to and YOU like them. Nothing wrong w that, but stop using ''I put on expensive makeup, perfume and clothes so you should spend 200$ on the first date'' as an excuse. And like Aba said you will never catch these women not looking put together when they're out w family or friends. And then they pay for their own stuff so why do the rules change when its a date? If you cheap and just want men to pay for stuff atleast be honest about that. Stop w the irrational justifications..
Not just that. Any guy worth anything won't just roll up for a date without thinking about his appearance. He won't show up in a tux, but are we saying we don't have standards for men's appearance on dates? She cleans up nicely, and so does he. You gonna demand that he spend bank on top of that? This is just as objectifying as the guy who refuses to go out with anything less than a supermodel.
makeup is a legalize lie. a western Burqa. is absolutely horrible.
@@manumaster1990 mmh tbh thats an interesting take, never thought of it that way. Gonna meditate on that one.
Hey! Leave Nars out of this 😂
Have you met most women? Irrational justifications are kind of their thing.
"Talking to you for hours for an $8. There it is. She admits that she's not interested in a relationship, she just wants to be bought. She couldn't have made it any clearer.
You know what women who expect to be paid for companionship are called?...
Met my wife on a Friday and ask her to meet me at Starbucks the next day. We sat and talked for hours!! After I realized I wanted to be with her I took her out to a nicer place every Friday after that and she always showed gratitude. She respected my pockets and never imposed and that’s how I knew she was raised well. These women out here are bums.
this is how it should be!
Yep, only go for women who are happy with the simple things in life. Not gold diggers.
Bro Im with you,My girl a real one.Not on this mess.
My husband was very chill as well. I didn’t care where we went because all I wanted to do was spend as much time with him as I could. We were both college students and broke. He’s very frugal and smart with his money but as the relationship progressed we did have our little “expensive” dates. I loved just walking around the beach with him, I loved watching the stars, a fantastic date doesn’t even have to cost money. We’re about to be 17 years married! Two kids and a life we never thought or at least it didn’t cross my mind then 😂. And he’s a pharmacist which made it even more hilarious as the girl was telling her pathetic story 😂
She just missed out on a great guy from what it seems like. Her bad
Yes. What's wrong with that bro just buy some coffee
Coffee dates are for finding out if the other person is a psycho. It usually works.
Exactly! Thank you for saying this. I went on a coffee date recently, and the dude was a bit too eager. I am glad I had my own car and parted ways with him.
it's casual, in a public place, inexpensive and SHORT of you're not vibing!!!
Or could be longer if you're into each other!
To me it's pretty perfect!
@@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 Yeah, there is no reason you have to finish after coffee. Go for a walk or something, grab dessert. Time it so you get coffee at like 4pm and decide to get dinner after if you want to. First dates are easy.
@@kirbyr558 sounds absolutely perfect!
All the f time!
It’s funny how she legit proved his point on why coffee dates are good first dates. Not gonna spend $200 on you for you to go out with another dude the next day wtf💀
Exactly
These ho's just be telling on themselves😂
@@Transit_my-way I’ve always said this, if she cares more about the monetary value of the date than the date itself, you know she’s not the one and you cut her off right there. A girl who is truly interested in getting to know YOU won’t care if it’s a coffee or a 5 star date…
I'm sorry but we are supposed to roster date. Why should she just put all our eggs in one basket on one guy? I guarantee you men have multiple dates with women.
@@cleanchannel3029that’s the point. Don’t spend to much money on a women that might not choose you in the end. I’ve been on plenty of cheap dates and there are a good amount of women who still appreciate them.
she says he makes 150k a yr and cant take her to dinner but the reason that guy she talking abt still got money is bc he dont entertain girls like her, the irony
She's literally treating Dinner dates like a Business, She literally sends them a list of restaurants and uses words like Audition.
She has a predetermined list of restaurants she wants to go to and is using men to go to each one for free. She is truly disgusting
Yeah that’s nuts. If you ain’t trying to meet me for coffee, the gym, drinks or ice cream we good
@@somesomesomesomereason5055 the gym is my kind of sacred place, i try to avoid dating women I meet there and I would never take one there on a first date, maybe only a girl friend. Things go south I dont like running into them a lot, also some be crazy and resentful sometimes.
thats what gold@#$% do
You know what I actually cool with the restaurants list because then I don't have to try to figure what she like or not and whether she would like the place and decorum.
I am fine with her doing that thing.
If she won't accept a coffeedate, that's all I need to know about her.
would you accept a coffee date as the first date ?
@tysonhorton977 yes bud, that was the point of them making the comment
@@barefoot_tyI don't see why not. It's a good setting, allows conversation since you won't be focused too much on eating, plus, it's cheap, so if things don't work out, at least you didn't blow over 100 bucks.
@@barefoot_tyYes, it's the first date you don't know if you'll mesh with a person IRL so a simple date is best
@@barefoot_tyYou really thought you had a point here?
The gross part about this is she might actually be running into nice men and ruining their image of women 😢
I thought this same thing. Shameful.
@@babiijean11it’s already ruined, can’t tell who’s new when everyone looks like a copy of you too.
She says Red Pill men want to get away with cheap behavior, meanwhile she’s spewing forth rhetoric that *creates* more RP men.
Sad but that’s not what men should be thinking. This is one woman. All you do is not date her. That’s it.
@@josejr.garcia2228 the same can be said about the RP community though, “all you have to do is not dare them”. It doesn’t solve the issue that those kind of narratives are still being pushed and have too good of a grip on pop culture to be ignored.
🙋🏽♀️As a woman who also owns and regularly wears a $32 NARS Concealer, men are people with feelings and standards too. If you are ever hoping for an honest and authentic relationship, you should never look to treat him ike he is subpar or less than you. Because at the end of the day, his choices become your reflection. A man loved and respected for who he is, not who you want the world to view him as, will treat you like the queen you are. You won't need to ask for a crown.
And I bet you use $0.25 worth of that NARS per outing, correct?
She is the reason why I tell my bros not to tell women their occupation. As an engineer, you can literally see the silver dollar eyes when you mention it and you just become a meal ticket in their eyes
That's why some people only dates people in their social circles...
Women love a man in uniform, and it ain't because you look nice. My uniform baggy as hell, but they "know" what I do and I notice the attention.
I would think you would want to tell them up front what your occupation is. That ways you'll see the signs and move on faster. Versus getting invested just to find out her true moral character. Being upfront reduces wasting your time. If she not of moral character you move on; till you find someone who is.
Too I remember I used to watch you around 2018 during my waves journey. Didn’t know you were an engineer! Good looks.
@@3arhodesBad advice. If you have a good job she'll just pretend to like you. Shes not going to let you know that shes only intrested in you for money.
We forget the root of dating is. It's not flexing. It's "do I find them compatible and do I wanna spend more time with them?" Coffee is perfect. Hell...a walk is perfect lol
I totally agree, my fiancé and I went on a walk and ice cream for our first date. We spoke for hours and really enjoyed each other’s company. The best part, there was no pressure on either of us… from there on, he’s only been taking me to expensive dinners and outings… I think expensive dinners and stuff should be for committed relationships … it’s just more fun when you can chat about that experience later on
She made a great video explaining why coffee dates are the way to go as not only does it save money, but it also screens out women like her.
Right? I ain't spending $200 on a woman I don't even know that well
@maltheri9833 Eh, you know what I mean. It's a little much for a first date. One of the more expensive things I buy for myself is additional books and some hardware (electronic or otherwise) to tinker with. Unless the gal I date is one I am in it with for the long haul and we went out for at least two years, the most expensive place I would go with her is Friday's or Applebee's, and that is months after we make it official. Cheesecake Factory? That would celebrate the third anniversary, if we go there at all.
@@coffeehousedialogueor on someone who will never appreciate it anyway !
This is why she’s still single. Thinking you can’t find a decent guy on a coffee date is ridiculous.
And she doesn't seem to even want a relationship, just free meals, also using TikTok as an avenue to yap about her "inconveniences", generating free clout and future possible cucks in her DMs, saying, "I would never do that to you; I'll take you somewhere nice." But of course pretty women never get punished so it probably worked as well.
Sounds like she's fine with having a rotation of wealthy men willing to spend on her. Why would she care about the coffee date brokie?
If you have to throw on $200 worth of makeup on to look good there's a problem.
A huge one how is possible 😮
Mid lol
Glad you said it. If you have to wear a bunch of makeup and hair and nails and lip plumper, etc.... then you prolly not as beautiful as you think we are. Men have to wear our actual faces out in public, we don't get to hide behind a fake face.
😂😂😂
Ding ding ding!!
imagine making a "safety" argument then immediately saying you would rather long encounters at night with strangers than short encounters during regular business hours 💀
And having multiple dates of this kind with different men in the same week. The moment that she goes out with multiple men in such a short time the higher her chances of running into a dangerous man.
Also, if you’re really worried about a man like that, don’t go on the date.
She calls men cheap yet begs for fancy dinner dates. You cant make this up. 304s belong in the trash s/o to the good women
@@joshuaagbettor5610 that part killed me bruh the "it's dangerous" into the "i went out w 3 strangers this week" combo is crazy work
This is exactly how I knew she was full of shit and she was lying about this entire encounter. She’s contradicting herself badly. I think women who do this for clout just want a bunch of followers
Love how these women try to flex about dating wealthy men but NONE of them are even remotely trying to be in a relationship
Dating all these wealthy many but still single? i wonder why
TH-cam just sent me a survey in regards to your comment. They had a few options to choose from, which included “misappropriate”. I noted that it was “informative”. They out here trying to control the narrative. People need to stop being soft and let the comment section breathe. Keep doing your thing.
Some people see dating as an experience
@@Princess_Perleas a cash grab experience
They’re coping
Someone said, “ you spoil a woman that wants you. You don’t spoil a woman so that she can want you”
“he makes 130k a year” yea, for him. it’s his money. the entitlement people have towards other peoples money is crazy. looks come and go but character is forever
"people" dont do this.......only women. Men dont even have the option to do this. lmao.
What's really funny is they'll have standards for random single guys, but preselected/taken/married guys always get tempted by them for free lol.....funny how that works.
Also, imagine if he's playing the field going out on dates 3 times per week like her. And he's gotta pay for $200 dinners every time? That's like a mortgage payment on food.
If she was really concerned about her safety, she wouldn't be manipulating men into foodie calls.
Coffee dates (which are typically during the day) are relatively safe. Way safer than clubbing or going out for dinner at night
This.....if she's in such fear for her life, why is she interacting with men any more than necessary? She needs to get the F outta here with this....
If she has this much contempt for men, she’s probably better off dating women.
But we all know she won’t, because women won’t put up with her BS “standards”. And she’ll have to split the bill
Weaponized victimhood. 😵💫
THat Part
As an introvert, I honestly think coffee dates in public are SO MUCH BETTER! There is less pressure and I feel like you can get some really deep conversations going. Or is it just me? 😂 Like I already hate going out so I just want things to be simple haha
You're not alone!🤝🏾
Same that’s three now.
I feel the same way! If it doesn’t go any further, at least I only spent a couple of dollars! I also pay for my coffee and I am a woman. Going out to eat at a fancy restaurant is a lot of pressure especially on a first date! That is something you do when you are in a relationship and a marriage and even then rare occasions… Take me to any coffee shop or to a fast food restaurant.
Yeah. A place with a fair amount of people but it's not too noisy.
It is even more secure for both of the parties
As a woman I was never into a coffee date but definitely drink or something light. Casual is the way to go to chat laugh instead of eating. KEEP it casual guys until it’s like the 3rd date and you now really like her and she shows you genuine interest not just a meal plan
The problem is she described three different dates and never once even commented on the most important part of the date, how they got along as people. Shes not looking for a relationship, shes looking for an optimal transaction.
Bingo. Mentioned their careers, and what they bought her. End of story
This is not about love, compatibility, connection or any of that... This is about lifestyle, and what man can provide the most extravagant lifestyle. In the minds of women like this, men are not human beings, men are human doings.
What's really funny is they'll have standards for random single guys, but preselected/taken/married guys always get tempted by them for free lol.....funny how that works.
I don’t know how she feels entitled to luxury. I felt so bad when I get someone pay for the meal. I try to pay for meals or at least be extremely grateful or try to pay them back cause treating people like wallets is so dehumanizing. wtf is she on?
If I can I would love to offer myself to go to place and pay for myself or other person. Just cause I would like to show my gratitude.
I'd say free food cause with transaction implies both people are sharing resources.
She’s basically an unpaid escort. She’s spending all this money on herself to go out with random dudes and making the dude justify her spending habits.
If money is such an issue for her and women like her maybe they shouldn’t be going out on dates if it’s that financially taxing without them even having to spend a dime on the date itself.
Don't believe for a second that she's spending a whole bunch of money. Make up is expensive but they put on the make that they already bought. They're not going out and buying make up specifically for a date.
You think they go out and buy a whole new set of make up every date??? Lol.
THEY'RE LYING!!!!
Talking you out of your money is easier in her mind.
I've been with a girl like this. Truth is women like that are SAD as fuck 80% of the time.
Not "she"
"They" for a lot of women these days
Shes not unpaid. She gets a fancy dinner 😂
She literally proves why you take em out on coffee dates
Or literally ANY date for that matter lol
She’s trying to sound like the voice of reason but here she is still single. Just wants expensive meals at fancy restaurants so she can brag. Boring!
Coffee is no insult. Many coffee places are more expensive than restaurants. The coffee scene is great. Coffee houses have different settings and themes.
Why would anyone just drop a bunch of money on someone they just met? People need to settle down and stop being so needy and greedy from the start.
@@Gia-mg5nxpersonally for me, a coffee date is wack af sounding and that’s my preference. If men don’t wanna accept that, they’re entitled to that. It’s really not that deep. Move the fuck on, there’s billions of women who are willing to accept that.
16:00 the synchronized nose wipe!!
I’ll forever be baffled by the men that take woman like this out. If a girl sends me a list of restaurants I’m sending her a list of trash bins in the city
Well the simple answer is sex.
The sad answer is that most men just want to be married, and the options for a reasonable woman in the west are now low. Not saying men haven't gotten worse as well, but at least men have remained stagnant in regards to what they want to marry. Women have essentially chosen to marry high value or die single.
thats a good one there. Imma keep that in mind if that happens to me
Nah this was the best response, I’m use this too for sure😂.
Can't stop laughing
Not saying she ain't trash, but the guy she was texting did ask her what kinda places she prefers
Not gonna lie, I love it when women say things like this because they're clearly signalling to me that it's time to move on to a different person. Entitlement coupled with unrealistic standards is easily one of the most unsexy and repulsive combinations regardless of gender.
You just described most men, lol
@@av4781 Maybe only the men that you attract. You should ask yourself why that is.
@Aaron-kj8dv bro I'm saying lmfaooo they never wanna have that conversation though
Well perhaps if the men weren't dating women just for their looks then this wouldn't be an issue. Can't have it both ways. If men try to lean on when dating is their wallet no one should be surprised when the women sees men as a wallet. It's an equal exchange.
The internet has become a place for mainly women to self snitch on themselves because they tend to use it as a diary way more than men. And I love it you can put her in a category before the first date even happens.
The pharmacist was brilliant...he weeded her out without even paying for her coffee!
"Their attractiveness will never outweight how difficult they are".. i felt it in my core..
society: The worst thing a woman can say is no.
The Woman: *makes a tiktok about you over a coffee date*
(Some) Women: I'm afraid I could get murdered
The same woman: Let's meet at night in a dark area and then if things don't go my way I'll publicly humiliate you on social media
💯
Cheesecake Factory dude got his face and inside his own car blasted all over social media.
She made it seem like being on a date with a man who is a pharmacist is an L. Those men make a great salary, and coffee dates are a way to really gage the woman's interest in you as a man. Sorry that I won't spend a fortune on you when I barely know you.
She meant she expected more from the pharmacist since he was one. She wasn't looking down on him.
they dont make the money she wants to take from them she belongs to the streets
It’s so often that the people who aren’t willing to sacrifice or give the absolute least who want the absolute most. It’s such a shame.
@@T.H.E.O.R.Y. If you based a date on where someone invites you, you'll go to the most fancy places and always will complain to not find someone who really values you. (sorry for my English)
The ones spending that high end hooker money on this chick probably ain’t even getting none at the end 😂
I literally saw this on TikTok and asked if it was fair to expect all of this from men on a first date. I got so much backlash I thought I was the delusional one. Glad to know I wasn't
That’s because TikTok is a more insulated echo chamber than every other social media platform.
You were absolutely on point!
The real question is what kind of woman would want to spend 1-2 hours at a fancy dinner with someone she doesn't even know she likes? When I was dating, women of worth - intelligent, sincere, positive women who had a good life NEVER wanted to go for dinner, never even for drinks, always coffee/tea, because they didn't want to wste their time.
there's hoards of delusional women who rely on exploiting the dating system and men in general to live the way they do, by speaking the truth you threatened their way of life, its like exposing a politician for being corrupt, suddenly they frantically fight back against it
You threatened their free shit pipeline and they hit you with shock and awe
What BS! I'm a swedish, older woman. Both my daughter and son, have spouses that work just as much as them and at home they both do equal tasks. If one was home, taking care of children, then they would rearrange that.
Girl!! How many hours are you sinking into people you’re meeting with for the first time…? The fact that she has that much free time is in itself a red flag. It screams unemployment.
She has an onlyfans and an IG model. She makes money but she prefers to spend someone else's money.
I dont think whore is a real job title.
Onlyfans makes her undateble for obvious, basic ethical or monogamous reasons. She's a prostitute then. I once went out for coffee with a OF girl, had sex with her, never called her again. Sorry but they aren't capable of anything beyond sex, due to their own lifestyle choice. And it'll forever be that way
serious question. what's the difference between these types of self proclaimed high value person and gold diggers? is it a nuance difference?
@pezchef7577 no they are the same thing disguised.
I love women that are so upfront like this. It saves me a ton of time and energy.
i was gonna comment this as well. This should be encouraged so I don't have to waste my time or money
@@Nomnomnom165 exactly. If this what you want, a transactional relationship, cool. We all set boundaries, this is one of mine. Buh-bye
If only they were ALL Alike that
Shes saving her time and energy too lol
And money
19:40 This part of her rant is very telling. It shows that what she thinks of as a happy marriage is:
- Husband works and plans dates
- Housekeeper cleans
- Nanny takes care of the kids
- Chef cooks the meals
- She does nothing and walks around malls all day with hubbies credit card.
...and you know damn well with all that free time she is going to get bored and cheat on you.
I caught that and hoped they would comment on it. Because if the main thing you provide initially is spending money on yourself what purpose do you serve if you get money and you start using HIS money for all your aesthetic stuff? At that point your no better than a pet.
If he cheated I can't even fault him because you're not his partner, you're an ornament. And if you have sex with him, congratulations 👏🏿, you're a sentient Fleshlight at best.
She'll be single with cats at 50 and complaining about men.
If she said all that lmbo most men will be like gtfoh.
@@TwistedQuestionMarkyou forgot suckers exist. Bad p*ssy > no p*ssy to them, so that logic doesnt calculate.. when shes 50 and alone shell settle for ANYTHING. Thats usually how this goes.
And if you in anyway criticize how normalized it's become for these girls to, not want, BUT EXPECT these ENTIRELY one-sided relationships where they only take and never give: you're suddenly an incel. This generation's Women have become some kind of Protected class that's exempt from criticism.
I really like the guy she refused. Being polite, but have boundries. Great answer, and his method absolutely work, he dodge this women.
She is the kind of woman that turn good men into assholes.
I'm from Mexico, here we are in danger FOR REAL and I can tell you that going on dates with strangers one after the other just to have a good dinner isn't the best way to take care of yourself. Build your relationships from friendship.
How does it make you feel that women like this are the de facto spokespersons for women's issues?
Well said!
This is also why your marriage rates are higher, divorce rates lower, and family unions are tighter.
Although there are safe cities/people in all "3rd world" countries, the risks are too high to be out dating so liberally.
I mean, 3 dates in 3 days w/ new men??? Bruv, she would be trafficked or decomposed by the time her body was discovered.
You have traditional values, you are with men for protection, and you value family more. Dangerous conditions incentivize social groups and push to go somewhere better. Love it in the US cause my family has done so well here.
I really appreciate these females self reporting like this. It helps us not waste time or money on them.
E-Except...there are far to many d-dumbasses that still do 😂😆.
which it was the case but she still got took out 3 days in a row
Imagine trying to get money out of a stranger and feeling entitled to it.
It’s giving hooker tbh. If all she wants is a sugar daddy, then she should just say that. I have more respect for actual hookers, sugar babies, gold diggers, etc. that are *honest* about their expectations than I do for women like her who think they’re entitled to other people’s money but get so offended if you call it out for what it is. She’s pathetic and her ass is either going to be alone forever or trapped in a miserable marriage to someone equally shallow because she clearly values money over all else.
Advice from an old duck.
"Don't post to the internet, it's forever."
This poor lass will never get past this internet resume forever. I feel that even all future employers will take this post into consideration.
Thank you Mr Preach and Brother Aba. It's my guilty pleasure to watch train wrecks.
Much love and bless
Mrs Mango of Port Douglas Tropi-cool North Queensland Australia
"What's in it for us?"
Uh, love, companionship, stuff like that? Like that isn't valuable to you? This woman is basically admitting that she doesn't value men for anything other than their wallets.
Don’t worry she’ll be changing her tune in another 10 years. Then she’ll be literally hoing around for that baby to trap a stranger since she couldn’t have one in a committed relationship or better yet marriage
@@22quietmouseshe definitely will NOT get the cream of the crop but she will still complain she deserves better.
She told on herself. Notice she went on an expensive date on Saturday with a view. The next day though she went out with another guy. So the guy who did spend big money got no sex and no loyalty...she's a user
@@lamar310 If a man takes a woman out on an expensive date, does she owe him sex or loyalty? If a woman gives a man sex on the first date, does he owe her money or loyalty? I'm just confused on what correlation you are making and wondered if you could clarify.
@@kaylas.5176 my thought is the fact that the guy took her on the EXACT 1st date that she was wishing for beautiful dinner with a view and then she immediately went on another date the next day with a different guy. Think about it what did that guy get from this whole scenario, he spent hundreds of dollars just to sit across from her and smell her finger sweat for 2 hours and then go home alone and sulk about his student loans
This woman is the prime of example of don't take relationship advice from this type of women. She literally telling you don't go for the types of dudes that are actually weeding out the gold diggers and narcissists...
Think she too stupid to understand why the first guy did that, it's to dodge people like her. If she was smart, she would know that after some good vetting those type of dudes give their partners the world.
Yikes this girl is a nightmare. There should be a dating app for frugal/fiscally responsible people so people who aren’t super materialistic don’t have to deal with people like her in dating. I love doing a nature walk or something lowkey on a first date. More likely than not both people are still strangers to each other. I’m not even comfortable with the other person paying for me until 2nd date at earliest. But in general it’s nice to spend time with people who know how to enjoy life/their time without always needing to spend money
social media has ruined a lot of women's minds, they think they're all celebrities just because they have over thousands of followers lol. I miss when most women were humble and appreciative of men being productive, charming with substance instead of swag and clout.
I agree with that idea of that kinda app, but im pessimistic that it will end up being abused also. But i do agree that it is a very good idea
Yes please if you're broke date each other.
Ideal mindset to attract hobosexuals and brokies
meanwhile some of us women think coffee dates or even beach dates with no money spent is the cutest date ever lol. 🤷♀ I guess I have no standards for not wanting a man to spend money on me when he doesn't know me.
She talk about spending on herself to look good for the date like the guy just throws on some t-shirt and slippers and smells like crap 😂
A lot of women say "dating" but seem to mean tricking. If the goal is not to find a partner, then you're out there selling yourself for a meal. So live that truth, but dont try dressing it up as something it's not
Facts!!!
Bingo 🎉🎉🎉
Fucking hell yes! That part. Just own what you really are and deal with the consequences or blessings. I think these kind of people would find more happiness in their lives if they just decide to be honest with them selves first and then go from there. Shit you don’t even have to try to change to be abetter person it would be nice but don’t try to finesse people, lie to them, gaslight them, use them and discard them.
Tell it girl
“What’s in it for us” is enough for me to just straight up cut off and block not just any girl out of my life, but people in general. It’s good to look out for yourself don’t get me wrong but there’s a difference between that and only prioritizing yourself. Some of the best advice I can give is to straight up ignore and cut anyone out who is like that.
I bet she's one of those people that post on her socials on "why finding love is hard" or " Love in this generation is backwards" or something like that.😊 Or "men put pressure on women" blah blah blah.
yep, I just put a comment that if your first interaction with someone is them trying to squeeze you for everything they can then how do you expect the rest of your life to go with them? This is where you're supposed to put your best foot forward and she's already exhausting.
I've had to get rid of guy friends for the same shit. Some people will screw you out of $10 if they can save $1. It's in their DNA, they can't change, they won't change, just take out the trash and don't look back.
Why does she says us as if she is speaking for all women, the lion, the witch and the audacity of this B* 🤣
Everyone is what is in it for us. Why would a woman with better offers except a man that isn't on the top of that list?
This.
This is actually really funny. I recently ran into a woman like this, who didn't like coffee dates for the same reason. She wanted to be wined and dined, yet I didn't even know her last name. When I wasn't vibing with her, she attacked my masculinity and my character and blocked me. That was the funniest thing that ever happened.😂
Good for you, she was insane.
attacking ur masculinity is like basic female manipulation
they cover that in the first class
Coffee dates are fine. The whole point of dating is getting to know the person and trying to feel them out. Apparently, some people seem to forget that.
I love simple coffee or free dates! She's too worried about the money instead of actually getting to know you.
Have had the same thing, multiple times women have took offense for me asking them out to get something casual like sandwiches. Lol. Dodged a bullet, good test.
The point about the man picking a simple place helps the woman to not feel there are any expectations is a great one. If a man picked an expensive place and insisted on paying on the first date that would have genuinely been a red flag for me! I’d definitely think he was trying to pressure me to put out. Paying for my coffee is a lot more comfortable on a first date.
The first date I invited my boyfriend of four years on was a walk by the lake shore near my house, and later, to my small neighborhood restaurant, Gina's Pizza. That's it, and it was one of the most special days of my life. What happened to just spending time getting to know someone? Clearly this woman isn't interested the least in any man she's with, but rather, in them flaunting their wealth in front of her like she's some kind of stripper. She doesn't deserve a relationship right now in her life. Her thoughts are too clouded by greed.
Nah, she clearly feels entitled to a certain lifestyle.
@@Semaj2326 Not sure why you wrote "nah" in your comment when I clearly agree with your sentiment lol She's entitled and greed stems from that entitlement.
Hit the nail on the head. I told my bf if she was actually interested in dating her focus would be on forming a connection, finding a man with similar values, and similar hobbies. His response was hun half the women out there see men as a status symbol no different than a car. They like to show it off without putting too much effort back what a real relationship requires.
@@tisbutascratch2045 Idk why I did that either lol.
You’re completely right, I took my girlfriend to the park on our first date and we just ate and went on a walk and got to know each other.
If she had higher standards she would not be wasting all this time with random guys she dont really care about.
that's what gold@#$%^ do
Just by her last statement of "I canceled the friday date but Saturday a man took me out to eat here and Sunday another man took me out to eat there" really shows her intentions. When I was dating 3-4 dates a month was a lot for me, let alone back to back to back.
She's just trying to get free food. It's so weird though, to me eating a meal is so intimate and I wouldn't want a new person to eat with every day even if they're paying.
@@Aaron-kj8dv not to mention different people in the same week, damn.
I actually agree with that
its called dating.... welcome
I had a woman that wouldn’t do a coffee date. She wanted a dinner date only. So I said I’m out. Don’t fall for it men. Start with coffee dates and feel her out.
and "feel her" up?
I don’t like coffee BUT yeah I would never turn that down for my man. I would have gone on a coffee date for him
@@triggeredlatina what kind of latina does not "like coffee?"
Falsa!
@@CEWIII9873 a triggered one.... ehh? ehhh?? Im proud of myself for that one lol
@@Zahok1 B+
simply because humor and trolling is a dying art in these deconstructive days...
thx for the vid. i enjoy the channel greatly.not being in the dating pool any longer,im relieved i dont have to play these games.i feel sorry for the fellas today.seems like such ah mine field of missteps, and judgement.
My wife and I started over coffee. She flat out told me, "dont spend too much money. We may not even click."
That's a keeper. My wife was the same way, and she offered to pay for a lot of the dates we went on. Sometimes, she paid when she went to the bathroom without telling me. This showed me she genuinely liked me and my company.
She a keeper
😂😂😂
Nice
I remembered a guy I met off line told me he rather meet me in person to see if we catch a vibe and if we do, we can do dinner. I was like cool, where shall we meet…he replied his homeboys house. I told him that’s not going to work for me. Either a public place or dinner. He told me again I can meet him at his homeboy’s house. Nope that’s a red flag for me. I understand the concept of getting to know someone before you spend money on them but I’m not about to jeopardize my safety. I quickly blocked him.
Him referring to his friends as "homeboys" like it's still 1994 is probably a bad sign 😆
That's not "getting to know someone" that's an invitation to danger.
@@edwardhoffenheim3249what do you think his intentions was?
Walking is free. It definitely wasn’t about the money. One thing where I agree with the woman from the video is the danger. Meeting with people you barely know can be dangerous and for that public spaces are definitely a better option than being out in the night
@@edwardhoffenheim3249 Exactly!!!
Paying for makeup is like paying for groceries. You dont eat $300 of groceries in 1 meal and you dont use $32 of concealer or any other makeup product everytime you use it. She might have spent $10 on her choice of makeup max. Maybe another $5 if she even went to go get her hair done at a salon.
Exactly value overtime versus 1 use.
Where are you doing your hair for $5 as a female?
@@alexalex9627I think they’re regarding the fact that they didn’t get their hair done for one day
@@alexalex9627 you get daily haircuts?
By their logic, when I bought my $40k car that’s how much I’m spending on my dates when I pick them up, so idc how much your make up costs boo-boo
Mature women prefer going to coffee for the first meeting. It's more casual and less stressful. You both can be relaxed to get acquainted, and decide if you want another date...then try dinner.
I hate that ANYONE can pick up their phone and post nonsemse dating "advice" (men and women). Then you have the sheep that end up following the garbage advice. This is why the dating pool is a swamp. Toxic folks, opportunist, gold diggers, etc. suck. They've ruined it for sensible and well-intentioned daters 🙄
Absolutely. They’ve really discouraged us tbh even though there are AMAZING women and men out there.
Scam artists and attention seekers.
Reason why I deleted my TikTok with multiple followers and uninstall IG and Fb. I just use TH-cam to listen some songs I can’t find one Apple Music. This bs is getting to me.
@@Comeback180no lie
🍿 These are the reasons I don’t date anymore, I refuse to go on dating sites. I rather meet people in person and if we want to get to know each other further we may exchange our numbers and go from there. The coffee or drink date sounds great to me! 15-30 min in person is ample time for me to consider if I want to get to know you further.
This is what a lack of gratitude coupled with hedonistic materialism looks like in a partner. Nothing will be enough. Stay the hell away.
If you're just looking for an escort it doesn't seem like that much of a problem. She basically said she's essentially a prostitute.
She is being ridiculous. A coffee date has to be the perfect first date.
1) You can get up and leave whenever things go left.
2) Everything is cheap so you can pay for yourself if you choose to cut it short.
3) it’s a comfortable setting
4) who doesn’t love cafes?
you forgot one thing, with coffee dates you can actually talk and have conversions, while a dinner date its hard as your eating and trying to talk
Not to mention she could still “dress up” or dress casual. Like you said it’s the perfect date. The possibilities are endless.
Cafe is always my go-to for first date. She can get coffee/tea or food. We can talk while we wait in line to order to get a feel for each other. We can pay up front so we can amicably leave if it's not working out. And most importantly, it's a more comfortable environment to get to know each other without some pretense of him spending and/or her putting out.
It's a first date, after all! But some GOTTA be extra about it.
Never understood what people saw in cofee for it's consumption to be so common
Dude, I'm left handed. Things always go left for me.
When I was younger and dating, I didn’t judge people based on their profession like this woman because times were different but also my goal was to find someone who had moral, values and an upbringing that helped lay that foundation, I didn’t go on a date back to back to back expecting to have my life paid for by guys. We’ve all had good and bad experiences but that’s why it’s safe to start off small. Having said that, she seems to be using guys for lavish meals and a lifestyle that she can’t upkeep herself.
She’s allowed social media to poison her mind. If she’s trying to date pharmacists but worried about what redpill TH-camrs say, she’s allowed too many influences into her mind, resulting in massive dissonance. Feels bad Sis
unfortunately, social media has poisoned ALL of their minds, which was always weak because they are children
blame her parents. in fact, i bet she comes from a single parent household. this entire persona starts and ends at the household. social media only enables what already lacks or missing in the first place.
Imagine passing up a responsible pharmacist because of a free meal 😂
imagine passing up free medicine because of a meal 😂
@@alexis-marie_9920bruh that coulda been her plug she coulda made hella bread 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@alexis-marie_9920 Yoooo great comment!😂
@@alexis-marie_9920😂😂😂 💯
Small minds do small things🤷🏾
I met my girl on Sunday. We went on a lunch date at a park and played Uno for 6 hours while talking the next day. We been together for 3 years.
She said every friend hated on that date, and she’s glad she went on it.
Great for you but it also sounds like she might need some new friends.
Now ask her how many of those friends are/have been in a lasting relationship? Bet the crickets from those friends would be deafening 😂
This is literally my dream date - just hanging out without pressure to be or act a certain way - kudos to you both for being with each other ❤
This is literally my dream date - just hanging out without pressure to be or act a certain way - kudos to you both for being with each other ❤
Anything is possible thats the beauty of life and meeting people, I am so happy for you 🙂🎉
She has so many dates because she will be professionally alone. Mark my words in 10 years she will be still going on dates.
The dangerous thing about this is that younger people see this stuff on TikTok and just because of her looks and age will absorb and adapt to this nonsense she says.
Nah, she sounds crazy as hell
@@hamburgerbrainI don’t know, people really don’t think about it but kids on Tit Tok are being shown a shallow and incorrect view of how to start relationships, what their future can look like, even lies about family life that can form or rather inform their choices going forward. This is how these expectations came to be and how they conflict with modernist messages of women both having to be completely independent but also putting men through financial demands and tests the really only applied to non independent financially insecure house wives. In the early days a date would be like showing how well you could take care of a lady, this makes for huge conflicts of behavior as a woman now wants to be the same level with their man but also more demanding without reason. It’s difficult for young people to understand why these things were important when the purpose doesn’t make sense.
It's because of women like this that the red pill got so big
Don't worry life will correct these mistakes
you mean "younger women"
She’s not dating to find love , she’s dating to provide for her “household “
this is a business to her .
Is so sad when a woman thinks she's only attractive/beautiful when she wears makeup.
I rather see her without it.
@@smpiano6605 Incel detected, opinion rejected
I stopped using makeup during quarantine, changed my daily habits to have better hygiene and better looking natural skin and my husband thinks I look even prettier than before. I rarely use it now, it saves time in the morning, saves money as well and I feel more confident in my natural appearance.
🧢
@@Butterflyyyxoxo Nah not all of us men are the same, stop being a femcel.
Most guys follow iG models with make up on
Whaaaa? Coffee dates are SAFE in my opinion!!! I agree with you guys❤. As far as the makeup/maintenance thing, you're supposed to do that for YOURSELF❗
She is not looking for a relationship. She is looking for a free meal-plan. She went on two other dates and still had the audacity to complain about the pharmacist setting boundaries. Wow
She is likely looking for both, but I am sure the high earning guys she is dating are just wanting to hook up for the night and call it quits the moment they speak to her.
You get.
She’s not complaining about the pharmacist setting boundaries, she’s just explaining to her audience why and how she sets the boundaries she sets in dynamics she could be apart of. Why judge her intentions for setting boundaries? It’s her boundaries
She's not looking for love she's looking for a sponsor.
No person (man or woman) wants to feel like they are getting used.
My boyfriend took me to a movie on our first date (we worked together and connected over movies, so it suited us, I know movies are not everyone's first date standard given talking is not involved. Though I do say that someone's theatre etiquette speaks WONDERS in my opinion.) The next day he bought me a box of doughnuts from my favourite bakery. 5 years later and we are as strong as ever. Didn't need to wine and dine me for $200 to make me feel special, he took my interests into consideration and that is what counts. This girl is wildin'
Not only that but as a guy that does similar things(cinema, coffee etc) for first dates is not because i have no intention to ever take the girl am courting to a nice dinner, is simply because i don't want to spend a big amount on a woman am not interested in.
If we go on the first date and i throw a huge amount of money on a high class restaurant etc and then threw the date i discover that the woman i wasted all that money on is the most annoying person i met for a long time then i will just be crying my money away.
Why would any guy do that?
Yes of course it is an audition. And her "looks" excuses she gave are horrible. What a guy looks threw a more cheap fun dates at first is to see what kind of person his dealing with, not looks. If it's just looks i can bail out the moment i see you.
The guys that look for just looks are the guys that aren't looking for a relationship but for let's say to avoid TH-cam censorship a "fun night". Those guys usually will take you to a fancy dinner from the start and not a coffee date because they only care to impress and get what they want from you not to just go somewhere simple and chat and get to know you.
So the guy that doesn't go with fancy dinner to impress from the start is actually the kind of guy you shouldn't reject because he doesn't see you as a street woman to throw money at to get between your legs but as a possible life partner that wants to engage with.
@@SIPEROTH oh I agree 100% I don't think any guy (or girl for that matter) should take the gamble of spending all this money on the POSSIBILITY that you aren't a complete psycho and maybe end up being the love of your life.
If anything a person who is willing to give you a shot even when you don't put 100% effort on your looks or the spending the first time probably someone who actually likes you for who you are as a person and not the money you have or your physical appearance.
People date for the flashy instagram moments now instead to "audition", as you said, a potential life partner, which is not a good standard to set for a relationship. Looks and money may fade, you want a person who will stand the test of time.
This is why you have a man. Men love Women that seem simple and just enjoy being out with us. We will do anything for that Woman. And if you want to go out and Im paying we doing wtf I wamt to do 😂😂😂. Especially on the first meet. If you not cool with that ✌🏿✌🏿
A coffee date is amazing!!! Especially if we can walk afterwards and just have peace. I need to know if we have have a good time with damn near nothing. Life is full of ups and downs. Your partner should be your best friend. Me and my best friend could sit in a cardboard box and have the time of our lives 😂 you know what they say ... If you're always bored you might be boring lol having to constantly be entertained and spoiled is a bad sign.
Don't give someone the special date at the beginning. It makes it feel like you do that for everyone. Have a connection and let the special ness grow!
I loved his response about why they should split the check. She is talking about him treating it like an audition, she is offended by it. Yet, she auditioned all weekend. 😂 she did not like him setting boundaries. She is used to being the only one setting boundaries. Spoiled gold digger.
Looks matter first. Personality matter more. This girl shows you can have zero character and float through just on good looks. Stay strong guys!
@rumiesun.right, and when they do, he can just divorce her for someone who’s younger or prettier and much nicer :/
Like The Godfather would say pretty privilege
she is actually thinking about her future. If he doesn’t fit, then he doesn’t fit.
And… you all don’t care because you bypass the women with good character
Looks matter but do we want to see a full face of make up? I know I don't I want to see what she looks like naturally.
This IS why I strictly go on boba/coffee dates. I used to think that the first coffee/boba date is a day used to gauge if a person is actually worth spending on. This whole video validated everything I believed in.
PS: I’m dating someone amazing now. She never made me feel like I had to try too hard. She made me comfortable so much that I can just be myself and the likelihood of us moving forward was never predicated on how much I’m expected tp spend on her for the first date like the woman on the video
- which is why I’m even more determined now to take her to places she’s never been to or get her things she doesn’t have.
That’s great! You remind me of my bf. Our first dates were very casual like picnics and such, and we’d split the bill mostly. But as we’ve been together for longer, I’ve noticed that he’s more comfortable with treating me to dinners and such (but it’s not like I ask him to). Maybe other generations or older people do things differently, but I feel like starting out with less costly/more casual things is healthier than spending extravagant amounts of money
That's so sweet.
I did the same sort of thing.
I spent a summer just friend zoning different women that I met. Hung out with them at coffee shops, outdoor activities, gatherings of friends, etc. really got to know them. Until I met the girl who I wanted to take things further with. We were instantly comfortable with each other. Like we had known each other for years. We started dating, got married... been building a life together for 15 years.
She was a stay at home mom while my daughter was young. Supported me in my career. Now I'm making 6 figures at a job with great benefits.
I supported her career, now she is graduating with her Nurse Practitioner the first week of January. Sign an employment contract making $100/hr.
Together, we are killing it.
@@getinthespace7715 Your story is heartwarming.
Heck yeah!
I’m happy for you and I hope that your relationship turns into something even more! 🙏🏻
My first date with my husband was lunch at chipotle, we were 20 years old at the time. We dated for 4 years (long distance), then when we discussed about getting engaged, I told him not spend more than $1k on the ring... we've been married for two years now, happier than ever!
This girl in the video seems to want a expensive meal rather than an actual relationship/real connection. To each their own, I guess...
I haven't even spent more than 80$ on food for 2 as a married woman. How on earth does someone get to a level of entitlement that $200 from a stranger is the bare minimum?!!!
Depends on where you live & your social circle.
@@L-M-O-1She's a broke black chick, stop the nonsense. If she wasn't broke she'd be able to take herself to eat anywhere she wants
That's why you're married and she isn't.
"My NARS" is short for narcissism. Apparently its a brand makeup now. Explains a lot.
I feel bad when my man puts down money for a whole dinner himself 😭 I hate feeling like I’m taking advantage
I once took a girl that seemed really interested at first, on a date, and decided to take her to a restaurant. This was the first time ever hanging out with her after getting her number from a 2 minute conversation and she was a really pretty Italian girl. At the restaurant we ordered food, drinks etc and the bill came to over $100 which I paid like a gentleman... Meanwhile, during basically the whole date she kept leaving the table multiple times supposedly going to the bathroom but then hanging out with the bartender dude for 15 mins at a time on her way back, as I waited like an idiot at the table and I could see her. Obviously she wasn't interested (and supposedly knew thr bartender from before) but neither was I interested anymore because of how rude she was... So I never contacted her again after that. That's when I learned: NEVER pay for an expensive first date! Coffee or something small is best. If someone likes you and respects you then they'll have fun being with you regardless of how much you spend. The girl in this video above is delusional cause she doesn't realize that men don't want to waste money in case they find out a woman is low class or acts like a spoiled brat, or simply if it's never going anywhere after that 1st date.
I will say this....going out to eat does show how rude someone is. Most of the time anyways.
If they got a problem with that they shouldn’t take it personally just like how they tell men not to take it personally when they think we’re a threat
That shouldn’t be the verdict based off of THAT. That literally never happens. 😂 What you should have done is simply pay your half and transfer her portion over to the bartender and leave so she could pay him while she was over there in his face. Secondly, on behalf of both men AND women, it should be about whether or not it’s “expensive,” it’s the EFFORT the people are missing! 🤦🏾♀️
A slice of pizza, a drink and a walk to get to know each other is just fine.
@@TheRealKCKay You're right! I was angry at myself for paying that bill. It would have been way better if I left her her half to pay with her bartender. But hindsight is 20/20... I definitely learned for next time! And I still love being generous to kind people who deserve it :) But first I get to know them.
Fellas, ladies, and my people in between, if you cant appreciate or love someone for spending less on a date and put more thought and care into it, then your relationship aint gonna last.
Spoken like a true one 😊
Facts. Valuing time spent with that person over what their pockets can do shows true character. When you learn more, then you spend more.
Tbh as a white woman l I can understand why black women feel neglected and say stuff like that. They don't nearly get as much as we do from men.
Exactly. No girl is going to admit to being a golddigger she justified it in her mind already she’s legit psycho
@av4781 Before I reply with what i think you said, can you clarify more on what you mean?
Lol I'm 29 and I don't even know what a cocktail is
This amount of entitlement is just disgusting. It would suck to be in the dating world right now.
It’s called “ Queen of the World “ mentality and it’s disgusting
They have all of these rules that only men who have no self respect would follow and then when they can't find a guy they just blame men. They don't even know their filter is fucked up, but that would require one iota of self reflection or personal responsibility.
Bro, I guarantee you that she listens to that SheraSeven(Sprinkle Sprinkle)lady for advice how to finesse rich men out of their money. If she keeps this up, she will be like Eboni K. Williams, alone and foolish.
It's getting worse year by year. People are being more and more shallow and narcissistic. Don't wait to find a long-term partner because your chances of finding someone decent will only plunge over the years.
If anything, makes it easy to spot the crappy women and move onto better opprotunities
It’s funny that she’s worried about all this danger that she puts herself in this situation when if she went to the coffee shop, she would’ve been in a public setting surrounded by people in a much safer place
LOL. Yeah coffee/cafe dates are the safest really .. compared to dinner where you're finishing when it's nighttime, dude shelled out money so may feel entitled to something, etc. More safety issues in that scenario
And she wouldn’t need to spend any money on makeup🤗
@@WhatIsHasValue there is no way someone like her is going out anywhere especially in daylight without makeup on.
Why are we glossing over the statement that 1 in 5 men will stalk women or you know behead you.
She dates sooo many men that she developed this wholeass system. People who date to seek a relationship don't shop around this much. She dates dudes not to get to know them, but for what she gets out of the outings.
As a fellow woman, this lady is tripping. If she went to a coffee date she could wear no/minimal makeup, and regardless that doesn't come into the equation.
She's not coming across as if she's looking for a deeper connection, so I'm not surprised she'd react like that to a man wanting to go somewhere cheaper to get to know her first.
It's wild to me that women like this exist and that it's common(?).
Fr she is making us look bad and then act as if she is speaking for all women 😭😭
1/3rd of women have accepted a date just to get a free meal. It wouldn’t surprise me if most of those women think like this. She just happened to say the quiet part out loud
@@9Destraone third lmao okay 👌
@@Butterflyyyxoxo That statistic comes right from Social Psychological and Personality Science. Ya know, a major Psychology and Sociology institution with actual Doctors who conducted the study
Exactly and as if men want to see a girl caked in makeup, dressed like a hoe on the very first date anyway. Who wouldnt rather get to know the real person in a low pressure environment. She said it herself, first dates to her are to be on your best behavior, that's manipulator talk. She'd rather play pretend like she's a classy lady with a guy pretending like he's a baller.