today was a win (and I won’t let my brain convince me otherwise)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 มิ.ย. 2024
- I really wanted to challenge myself today and try some thing I’ve been putting off for a little while! It might sound silly, but Trader Joe’s is a place that I’ve been wanting to shop at for so long. The thought of walking in has always intimidated me (because of a random little comment from a stranger like…11 years ago.)
My goal was to go inside, grab a few things and try new foods today! Ironically, I achieved everything I set out to do. BUT, the way in which it happened made me feel like I had failed at my original goal.
My brain is a liar and I’m just going to keep moving forward.
Anyhoops, please enjoy my meatless lunch with (as well all the childhood stories the groceries seemed to remind me of???)
Just keep hitting singles.
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My Apple Watch records all of my panic attacks so I hit my workout goal every day without working out most days.
A WIN IS A WIN
This is a such a relatable comment, the worst I had my heart beating was one day I had a balmiton class right before a big chemistry exam that I was very anxious about ( for context I started class at 8h00 that morning and the exam lasted 3 hours would ended at 19h (7 pm) and I take ADHD meds and the would no longer be working during the exam so that added to my stress ( you know finals))(and this balminton class from 14h to 16h ) we just started playing at 15h (3pm) and after a match or two I went to the teacher because I was starting to feel like my head a spinning and I looked at my Apple Watch and my heart was beating at like 240.
(I literally didn’t even move a lot) I got to sit out the rest of that one
We do be burning the calories tho!
I have POTS so same! 😂 some days it thinks im exercising bc my heart rate is so high. Nope.....just me sitting in AC watching youtube. Lol
@@elyse_myersI’m glad you said that your Apple Watches clocks your crochet as a workout because I’ll be crocheting and 10 minutes in it’ll close my rings and I am always skeptical. Good to know!
Hope you’re doing awesome you got this
No joke. Going into the grocery store and having a conversation with two whole people IS a big win! Being proud of those little things adds up 🎉
I sparked a nice conversation with an elderly lady at the store while buying shoes the other day. There are still nice people out there! 🥲
I agree! That's huge!
After the Seaworld experience, you are entitled to any anxiety and trauma you feel forever.
Hahahhaa THANK YOU
I couldn't believe how intense that day would have been! I kept thinking "Really? Is she still talking about the same day!?"
1. First day of being a teenager
2. Going to Sea World
3. Getting your period. For the first time. In public. Without pads or spare pants on hand.
4. Stopping being vego (may not have been emotionally heavy but it also would be quite reasonable to think that that would have been a bit personally disappointing).
You know how after a really stressful day, you get home, take a long nap, and wake up feeling waaaay better about everything? Your videos are like a shortcut to that for me.
Same! 🥺
12 days later, here I am, doing exactly that~
Elyse, I just want you to know that No matter how bad my day is, your videos make me feel okay. More than okay - I feel less alone, like the struggle feels not only manageable but kinda silly. I appreciate you so much, especially on days like today. Thank you for sharing your life with us ❤
I second this ^
Big same
I hope this isn't weird to say, but I'm proud of you for going into trader joes. And I am so grateful for your vulnerability and honesty. It is so wonderful to be able to relate to someone on TH-cam. Plus, you are absolutely hilarious! Please never change 🤩💗💗💗
That's exactly what i was thinking, it's kind of... Inspiring ? QwQ to me it's a bit of a reminder that hey this person struggles with a lot of mental issues and is defying them and trying their best to do better then SO CAN I!
And you scored the home plate point but actually TRYING the food that you let other people "pick" for you. Well done!!!
i feel SO RIDICULOUSLY SEEN when i watch all of your content. please keep making these videos and documenting the wins for those of us who have lying liar brains who are liars too! it genuinely helps me so, so much. 💚
you went in, spoke to people, let them pick stuff and went through the check out. that is many wins in a row, this means they are worth more a win with the power of 4...i live and work from home. don't go out unless i have to. If i could get x-rays from home I would. lol.
Since where are you like this? Do you have so much trauma that you can’t leave home? Do you go on vacation? You don’t think you are missing things from the outside world? Do you have people that care for you and help you out?
You’re such a beautiful person Elyse!! Never ever ever change!!! ❤❤❤❤❤
Oh my gosh thank you 🥹
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What a nice comment! I agree @Katiebabyy300. 😊
@@Court75 thank you ☺️ I truly mean it! I absolutely adore Elyse and all her videos!!!🩷🤍
I second this 😊😊😊
as a fellow lifelong curly hair haver, you should fully rinse out your normal conditioner - so rinse until your hair feels clean. normal conditioners aren't designed to be left in your hair and can cause build up on your hair and scalp. a leave in conditioner is meant to be applied to your hair and left in until the next time you wash it. they can help your hair feel soft and stay moisturized between washes. apply a leave in conditioner to damp hair before you apply any styling products. finally, a deep conditioning treatment or hair mask should be left in for as long as the instructions say, and then rinsed out completely. if not fully rinsed out, they can leave your hair feeling greasy or limp since they're more concentrated than normal conditoners or leave ins.
i love talking about curly hair care so i hope this is helpful 💖
But, if you want to leave in your normal conditioner, there are conditioners that can be used as a standard conditioner and a leave-in. Now, for my super fine hair, that type of conditioner doesn't work well, but they do exist!
If you follow Curly Girl Method (using approved products or ones following the same principles), you absolutely can and often MUST leave some in. The thing is, this method uses much more water. So the left-in product is also leaving in lots of water.
This is not a story about failing at anything. ❤ Sensory overload is real, especially with neurospicy folks like us. Modifying and adapting for your needs is good self care. If a shorter trip in TJ's is what suited you best at that time, that's actually a successful thing. You just have to look at it through the right lens, you deserve to have your sensory needs met and just because other folks made us think we had to conform to their idea of typical doesn't mean that was true. We get to embrace ourselves and modify as much as we need to now. That's self care, baby. And the shopper and clerk who were giving you ideas and gifting you an item? That's the only way they could think to say "I like you for you. You're awesome!" ❤
Neurospicy. I like that!
Why all of you neurospicy people gather around and make a community just with people like you. You build your own little supermarket, your own companies and then you would feel so much nice with everyone being the same. No one would judge you and every store would be adapted to you. I think is a good idea. Make your own little world just with ND families.
I love watching your videos because of how authentically and openly mentally ill you are. Lol. But I say that as someone who is also! But I really put a lot of pressure on myself to hide it. It's nice seeing someone not hide it and talk about it.
I’m in the process of learning how to be neutral about what I struggle with and just let it be instead of trying to crush it deep down and hide it from myself and others. I think trying to form a neutral relationship with my own self has been a really healthy experience for me! It’s really really hard!
My favorite part of Fridays!
this is so nice 🥹
I 10/10 always get SO OVERSTIMULATED at Trader Joe’s. Usually starts in the parking lot 😅😅
I forgot that it’s just like one big room and a bunch of people running into each other! 😂
@@elyse_myers and you have no idea which way you’re supposed to go down each aisle, and there is barely enough room for two carts…it’s a madhouse every time.
Then why got here? Why not go to just a little store in your neighborhood?
Or just do online shopping?
@@zairabandy8695 some of the stuff you can get is unique to them, and it can be fun to buy different things :) I rarely go, and usually get my groceries delivered, especially now that I have children.
Your video topics are all so different but all of them are so comforting and I have been absolutely living for them. I am so happy to to see another video!!
I love these videos!!!!! There are so many people in the world who’s brain lies to them and it’s so important to show you are not alone and you can question your anxiety thoughts, and that small victories are still victories!
I love this!!!
“My brain was like hey, I heard you were nervous. Would you like more to think about? I can give it to you-actually I’m not even gonna wait. I’m just going to give it to you. Here you go.”
Trader Joe’s as a ‘thrifting’ experience of grocery shopping is so so true I get so stressed if I’m trying to do actual grocery shopping there because they never have what I need, but the stuff they do have is great!
I think your trip was a triumph! When I have a panic attack, my throat closes up and I feel gaggy and can’t talk to anyone. That you had amiable conversations and got some delicious new things to eat and stayed long enough to buy them is amazing.
And *you’re* amazing.
I totally agree! TJ is not a normal grocery store. I think they are a snack store. They never have everything you need to for a complete meal or even a full week.... but they will have definitely have SOME of what you need.
Do you have any idea of how relatable you are? Like, I want to cry…but happy cry.
Thank you for being you, I know how difficult that can be sometimes, but I’m truly grateful for your posts. 😊
Don't ask my why i know this, but shampoo opens up the 'hair' and Conditioner closes it again. So, shampoo knocks on the door and opens it, and conditioner is the sweet person who closes it again after everyone is out again.
You probably just heard it somewhere thats how I knew this
Thank you for voicing the thoughts I have in my head on a daily basis. I always thought I was alone. You rocked today! 👏🏻
Good job at standing up to your brain. We are re-writing lifelong scripts that don't serve us. Keep giving yourself grace and trying new things.
TJs a is great place to try new yummy things!
I have such empathy for you because I relate.❤❤
This is the first video of yours I’ve watched and I have never felt more seen. Thank you for making this kind of simple content and being open and honest about what you’re thinking and feeling throughout a typical day. Watching you talk kindly to yourself and accepting yourself where you’re at was a beautiful reminder. ❤
So many people probably said this but this is 100% a win, you went in, talked to two people and bought some items! Congratulations 🎉🎉
Trader joes stresses me out because its like being on the moving belt of an assembly line and if you stop to look at something for too long (aka more than 12 seconds) you are now an OBSTACLE which as someone who always feels they are too large/in the wrong spot/bothering ppl, this is AWFUL FEELING. So I hear you.
First of all your tee shirt is wildly awesome. Thank you for making me not feel like I’m the only one who has to fight my own brain to navigate life. I’m not the only one who has to fight through tasks that others don’t even think about doing.
-I’m jumping hurdles while others are jogging leisurely around the track.
When I crochet or roll my yarn into a ball my apple watch thinks I am using an elliptical 😂
I love this 😂
You're seriously the realest, and I love it so much. "I could easy google, but I"m not going to.." LOL. Me.
Ohh, Elyse! You are my very favourite person and I have never heard anyone articulate the need to be diagnosed with something that’s theoretically of no significance better. It’s exactly how I felt about being diagnosed with ADHD at 38. I needed that validation and I needed to feel BELIEVED. You have very much found your people online and we don’t find you annoying .. even a little bit ♥️
Omgggggggggg that period story totally explains your anxiety!!!
RIGHT?! 😂
I laughed in a horrified way listening to it 🤣 😭
Horror. Yes. That’s TERRIBLE. I have some pretty awful early period day memories that I’ve tried hard to never ever think about again but damn. I’m sorry.
Because I have so much anxiety shopping around lots of people, I have decided this is the only way I will now approach Trader Joe's. Go in, get opinions, place objects in cart. Folks in Nebraska are SO nice (Nebraska Nice, it's a real thing) that this totally works!
Hope you didn't get any of that baseball-sized hail, we missed it by literally a mile.
You do such a good job tactfully sharing difficult memories. It’s hard but healing to allow yourself to process memories now as an adult. Would love to hear you share more about your childhood, how it formed you (both good and bad), how you do things differently as a mother yourself, etc. Love your content. It’s so relatable ❤️
I felt this deeply. Thank you for sharing your experience, regardless of the outcome, and for talking through your emotions. Thank you.
I love these videos. Like having a convo with a friend who gets my weird brain stuff. Thank you!
Your videos are my brain!! I never miss a beat with you! I follow along and feel right there with you!!! You are amazing and d9nt let your brain tell you otherwise!!!❤❤❤
Elyse you are so so comforting, I get teary eyed everytime I watch your videos because as someone who doesn't see myself represented often I can not express the comfort you bring to me. I always get inspired to start a youtube video when I see your videos because I want people to know they are not alone in their anxiety.
Elyse you make me feel so good with every video, I’m 65 and was just finally diagnosed with ADHD. Oh my goodness period stories can be so traumatic. You are awesome and all us as your audience are here for you to talk with any day about anything.💗
It’s really cool u can acknowledge u were overwhelmed. That’s a win. It happens to me too. I get hit with the wall of over stimulation and shut down but I get it. Sending positive energy to u
Huge win 🎉❤ thank you for showing this. I feel less alone knowing it’s not just me that has this happen xx
I wish I could explain to you how much comfort your videos bring to me. I play your videos while I work or do house jobs and it feels like I’m bringing a friend along. Thank you for keeping my company.
Your videos are having a real and significant impact on people's lives. You're healing hearts. I hope you feel that. 💛
Elyse, thank you for being you 🙏 when you talk out loud about what your brain wants to say or convince you of and you then won’t let it, it is insanely helpful! No one has ever shown me their inner monologue of how to talk yourself through these thoughts/emotions. I’m deeply grateful because this helps!! A lot!!! ❤ (please forgive my grammar, English is my 2nd language😵💫)
I’m so happy for your realization and positivity about dealing with your discomfort 👏🏼 progress baby!
I also struggle with social anxiety and have driven to a store, only to see that it's packed. I'm glad that you went in because a lot of times, I will just turn around and go home unless there's just something that I absolutely need. Even then, I will often talk myself into going to a different place that's much smaller. I think your day was a definite win!
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Thank you for normalizing panic attacks and anxiety. I agree it's a win. You went in to TJ's and got stuff.
Exposure therapy (little exposure at a time) helps a lot aka learning to be okay with the discomfort. You've done so well and it's very relatable for me. ❤
I did realize how much I missed your content from TT till I came and found ya again here. Thank you for just being you and being a realistic role model. Please continue your journey to find happiness and peace and letting us come along the way, as long as it does not take away from your mind and soul. ❤
Elyse i'm in tears because this video made me feel so much less alone. The things you were saying in this video are things I say to myself daily when I'm panicking and mad at myself for it. Thank you so much for making this!
100% a win!! I’m so excited for you, you went in when it was really hard and talked to people and bought things ❤🎉
I love putting on your videos when I'm just chilling, cause it feels like when I'm with my friends and we just talk about random happy or difficult things, but in a casual and supportive way
I love your TH-cam channel. I love that you bring us all along on your day to day. Thanks for sharing your life with us. You're funny, sincere and real. Thank you for being you.
Two great stories, thanks Elyse.🎉
Thanks for sharing your life with us, Elyse. You make my heart smile.
Ahh can’t wait for your June book review! Your recs have me reading more than ever - keep ‘em coming! 🙏🙏
Hi elyse ! Watching your video is honestly like hanging out with a BFF 💓. That was totally a win and omg your SeaWorld story was insane. I think watching your contact actually made me realise I shrug off a lot of things that happened to me as not a big deal, when in fact they all were. And yeah, its just crazy, how comforting your content and presence is and at the same time, really challenges people to be vulnerable and raw with themselves in their life. Also there's literally no one else who's long form content I've watched in my entire life except yours ! ☀️
It was a win because you didn’t back out. You are absolutely right, you did it it was a win. It’s only a fail if you don’t even try. You’re amazing and inspiring. ❤
I get so excited when I see you've posted a new video! They feel like my video calls with my sister.
Also, you're writing a book? More details please!
I’m so happy I found your TH-cam channel. I was so sad you left TikTok. You are a wonderful human being and you deserve the world. I love everything you choose to share with us!
Oh man as much as I’m sorry you had a panic attack it’s so nice to see that grocery stores can affect people like they affect me. I’m so sorry it was hard but you totally did it!
You are freaking amazing! Always make me smile!!! ❤
I feel teary knowing how hard that was, but I also feel SO immensely proud that you went there, you found safe people that cared and helped and you were brave and vulnerable and that is TRUTH. Care as you recover and rest from extending yourself into new places and spaces.
Peak courage, for those of us in the know.
That TJ person likely felt just as bad, thinking about the words that came out of her mouth.
You made it home with new foods to try, and great stories to tell. Bravo!
The timing of this video couldn't be more perfect. I tried to go to Trader Joe's two days in a row this week with my infant and had a panic attack in the parking lot both times & couldn't even make it to the door (Postpartum anxiety is wild). Thanks for being vulnerable & sharing your experience. It made me feel less alone.❤
Today is my birthday and this has already made it ten times better! I absolutely love watching your videos and they aways bring a big smile to my face! Thank you so much! :)
Happy Birthday! I hope you do something to make it special.
I relate SO MUCH to you liking the sauna but not hot weather lol
Okay I’m so glad I’m not alone in that!
I was have such a bad day, just chatting with you makes me feel ok for a while.
I’m so glad you’re here 🥹❤️🩹
I’m so proud of you for going through that exposure! That’s a huge win! Go, Elyse!
Congrats on the win!!! I’m glad you were able to sort out that truth from the lies!
This is only related to the preview at the very end, but I am absurdly excited for your June book recap! I loved the May one so much!
Can't wait to hear your next book review (especially The Silent Patient). Also, the best thing to get at TJ is the chicken broth--it is the cheapest store-brought chicken broth you can get. :-)
Thank you for sharing this I also panic a lot in stores and leave
It’s nice to see someone else give lots of details that might not matter to others but you feel important to the story and have like two or more stories going on at the same time. I feel seen. Thank you 😍
This is what I do in the comments section. Then I edit for length. Then I replace my story with "me, too." Then I just like the post. 😊
@@PrairieDawnC nice
@@PrairieDawnC yes, this, exactly!!! 🤦🏼♀️😅
Loving these videos!!! It’s so fun as an Omahan to see places I am so familiar with- Elyse that Trader Joe’s is INSANE! I swear it’s always busy; Omaha needs another one sooooo bad!!!
OMG Elyse so excited for your next video!😁
As a fellow former Californian who almost moved to Omaha 10 years ago - I love to observe how you are adjusting to living there. And now I am re-thinking my life choices because there is now a Trader Joes' in Omaha, while in SE Idaho there is not. Gosh!
if you go again, you gotta get the butter chicken!! but great job, i love seeing how you work through the negative thoughts. Its so helpful for people like me who really don’t do it well. Thank you!
I have that same panic feeling when I go to TJs as well... just way too many options and over stimulation sometimes. Fun finds!
I know you posted a long time ago the journey with your hair and honestly your hard work shows - it's SO gorgeous!!
Also you're so brave ❤ Trader Joe's can be so overwhelming with all the different things
As someone from CA, it makes me feel claustrophobic not to see the outline of the mountains on the horizon😂
Definitely absolutely totally a win! I get it -- crowded stores are the worst, and its funny how the things people say lodge in your mind. But you overcame all of that and YOU WENT IN! ❤
I love your videos!! You're so relatable and your personality is my life !
That was a huge win! Good for you!
Yay!!! I’ve been patiently waiting for a new book review video! Super excited!
I swear every episode(?) I'm like aaaaaaahhhhhh this is my favorite one!! The other one was good, but this is the best! Go Elyse! And then next video rinse and repeat😂
You did the damn thing!🎉🥂
Howdy, Elise! I really dig the longer videos. I've had grocery store anxiety at Whole Foods. Crippling anxiety. Not to mention the multiple-period disasters that I've locked away. I'll have to take them out and dust them off. Anyhoo, Thank you for being here and making me feel normal. I'm a 56-year-old woman, and I love that I can learn so much from you. I can't wait to read whatever you're writing. You brighten my day :-)
Thank you for sharing your life. ❤
Your Sauna thing and humidity makes perfect sense. I live with a chronic pain condition but love getting tattoos because it's a pain I choose. It's therapeutic.
Good job going in. I’m going to try the cacio e pepe ! Your curls look fabulous!
So proud of you Elyse!!! I'd call all of that a win too. Win after win after win. Proud of you for not letting your brain tell you otherwise.
Also, while watching this video I was thinking how I can't wait for your June book review and then YOU PUT A TEASER AT THE END AND IM SO EXCITED!!!
Love your work! Bought a book at the thrift store the other day thinking it was one of the ones that you had really loved…it was not…it was actually pretty weird…thought you might get a chuckle from that. 😅😂
You talked to people. ❤ I cannot do that sometimes. Most times. I give you a 💯 on your assignment. Next time you go to Trader Joe's, if you get stuck, go for their chocolate. That's always a winner.
Love your videos, Elyse! You‘re the most relatable character and we love you ❤
Years ago a guy coworker asked me if I used to be fat cause lots of people with thick ankles used to be fat! Well I was a chunky baby but weren't we all? Naturally I focused on the thick ankles and not that he didn't consider me fat. And as you see I still remember that comment. Its hard to forget those comments people say without thinking. I totally get your Trader Joe "thing."
I now weigh a lot more than I used to, but my ankles and wrists are still as small and bony as ever - just goes to show how much that dude knew 😅
My ankles are huge and have been huge since my mid-teens and I've never been overweight. My mom's ankles are like that too. I'm a small/medium or 2/4/6, but I can't wear any boots. Not even extra wide calf boots. I've brought it up to doctors and apparently nothing's wrong with me that would cause it. I think the moral of this is to be really careful making comments about appearance because you never know what sticks in someone's brain.
That reminds me of visiting my dad when I was 11 and my period came while there, on a day we were going to the water park and my dad tried to convince me to just get tampons so I could have fun at the water park.. I had never used a tampon, did not want to..and my gawd the anxiety that whole situation gave me! Plus I had to go into the gas station and buy pad.
Sooo excited for the book talk video!
You did it scared Elyse! We are proud of you! FWIW, TJ's gives me anxiety and I'm overwhelmed immediately when I walk in.
Your hair looks phenomenal ❤ very proud of you for trying new things🎉
The freeze response is so real. I have terrible spatial awareness and always end up running into someone at grocery stores and end up freezing it’s so embarrassing but it’s either that or I dart through crowds when I’m anxious there is no in between with me.