Ugh. As a man, in the U.S., who has never been married, and has no children, I can see zero incentive or even minimal rational decision to go into such an undertaking. The cards are inherently and arbitrarily stacked against you. Your spouse will invariably go into post menopausal delirium and distrust you, even hate you, for a period of time, that you can neither predict when, nor the intensity of, the inevitable. Furthermore, the courts and judicial system will automatically downgrade your status as a human being. You will, gauranteeably, be considered guilty before proven innocent. The whims of your female spouse, guided by her internal hormonal imbalance, will be upheld and rationalized by family court judges, regardless of the facts or rationale. Typically, it has been my experience during observation of the post menopausal syndrome, that the old saying- " familiarity breeds contempt " is what generally happens during the early and mid stages of the woman's hormonal imbalance. She will feel total contempt towards the perhaps perfect and faithful husband, that has been upholding his side of the marriage for decades, while dealing with his ever diminished appreciation by his spouse. The toll of working his butt off to support the ever growing financial strains of his family as they age, is rarely appreciated by the now fickle and contemptuous hormonally unbalanced female spouse, and is as well obviously held in semi- contempt by divorce and or family courts, as if he were predetermined to be guilty of something. The female spouse, during this delusional state of hormonal imbalance, will often take on a new, fresh, individual, for which the " familiarity breeds contempt " , does not yet apply. The female spouse may or may not choose a new man of which she is unfamiliar to, and thus replace the husband that often is guiltless and faultless in the sanctity of the marriage vows, but, through no fault of his own, has fallen out of favor to his beloved partner in life. Bewildering for an average man, to say the least. Upon working through the best decades of his life to support his family, and often making great personal sacrifices both physically and mentally, he is suddenly and arbitrarily made an outcast by the very person he has devoted his life to, and still loves with all his heart. He has not changed. His female spouse has. And it affects her very strongly, mentally, and emotionally. And she is absolutely unaware and incapable of acknowledging the mental imbalance caused by her own hormonal fluctuations. The children are often convinced to demonize the the male spouse as well, as they are of an age where they are easily influenced by a convincing zealous matriarch. Little do they know what is actually happening. After all of this de- valuing and de- humanizing of the male spouse on a personal level, it goes to the family courts or the divorce courts . Very soon, the man sees that the policy and actions of the courts are stacked against him in very real ways. Shocking. Another shock to the man. Zero support for these men. At this point most or all familial rights are stripped from him. And his financial stability is absolutely under nearly impossible strain, with little regard to his own well being. No credit for his decades of faithful dedication to his spouse and children. Again he is demonized publically by his hormonally imbalanced female spouse and furthermore that is enhanced by crafty professional lawyers whose sole aim is to destroy his integrity. Meanwhile, he is paying for THAT lawyer, and also one for his own defense. My god, this is exhausting. I don't think I need to go on with this. I rest my case.
Ugh. As a man, in the U.S., who has never been married, and has no children, I can see zero incentive or even minimal rational decision to go into such an undertaking. The cards are inherently and arbitrarily stacked against you. Your spouse will invariably go into post menopausal delirium and distrust you, even hate you, for a period of time, that you can neither predict when, nor the intensity of, the inevitable.
Furthermore, the courts and judicial system will automatically downgrade your status as a human being. You will, gauranteeably, be considered guilty before proven innocent. The whims of your female spouse, guided by her internal hormonal imbalance, will be upheld and rationalized by family court judges, regardless of the facts or rationale. Typically, it has been my experience during observation of the post menopausal syndrome, that the old saying- " familiarity breeds contempt " is what generally happens during the early and mid stages of the woman's hormonal imbalance. She will feel total contempt towards the perhaps perfect and faithful husband, that has been upholding his side of the marriage for decades, while dealing with his ever diminished appreciation by his spouse. The toll of working his butt off to support the ever growing financial strains of his family as they age, is rarely appreciated by the now fickle and contemptuous hormonally unbalanced female spouse, and is as well obviously held in semi- contempt by divorce and or family courts, as if he were predetermined to be guilty of something. The female spouse, during this delusional state of hormonal imbalance, will often take on a new, fresh, individual, for which the " familiarity breeds contempt " , does not yet apply. The female spouse may or may not choose a new man of which she is unfamiliar to, and thus replace the husband that often is guiltless and faultless in the sanctity of the marriage vows, but, through no fault of his own, has fallen out of favor to his beloved partner in life. Bewildering for an average man, to say the least. Upon working through the best decades of his life to support his family, and often making great personal sacrifices both physically and mentally, he is suddenly and arbitrarily made an outcast by the very person he has devoted his life to, and still loves with all his heart.
He has not changed. His female spouse has. And it affects her very strongly, mentally, and emotionally. And she is absolutely unaware and incapable of acknowledging the mental imbalance caused by her own hormonal fluctuations. The children are often convinced to demonize the the male spouse as well, as they are of an age where they are easily influenced by a convincing zealous matriarch. Little do they know what is actually happening.
After all of this de- valuing and de- humanizing of the male spouse on a personal level, it goes to the family courts or the divorce courts .
Very soon, the man sees that the policy and actions of the courts are stacked against him in very real ways. Shocking. Another shock to the man. Zero support for these men. At this point most or all familial rights are stripped from him. And his financial stability is absolutely under nearly impossible strain, with little regard to his own well being. No credit for his decades of faithful dedication to his spouse and children. Again he is demonized publically by his hormonally imbalanced female spouse and furthermore that is enhanced by crafty professional lawyers whose sole aim is to destroy his integrity. Meanwhile, he is paying for THAT lawyer, and also one for his own defense.
My god, this is exhausting. I don't think I need to go on with this.
I rest my case.