That’s not what he said, he said “law-only parenting,” which means parenting where it’s all about rules and you have no relationship or love or gospel proclamation to them.
Dennis Kinlaw, that's who your voice sounds like to me. I've been trying to figure that out for a while. You and he are not of same exact theology but that's not the point. You both edify me. When I listen to you, I see you in the fine tradition of Johnathan Edwards. I thank God for you, brother.
No love and provoking to wrath is a great way for evil parents to abuse their children in secret and appear Godly to the public. Anytime the children speak up they are called ungrateful, difficult, rebellious, etc. Some parents care more about pleasures than the commandments of God. They want to appear as if they follow Jesus, at least while it's still common and viewed as good. Sex, drugs, and rock-n-roll are more important but they still crave to be labeled with the "good" tag. Some people view children as slaves and they also want to be worshiped, in God's name to make it double wicked. Their word is above God's word but they use God's word to make that claim. Truly insane. Amazing any child can keep it together under those conditions. And many have it far worse!
@@neverpc4404 Why do people swing far left or far right instead of the narrow path? Both parents and children have to obey God's commandments. Proverbs 17:15 He that justifieth the wicked, and he that condemneth the just, even they both are abomination to the Lord. Exodus 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee. Ephesians 5:25-27 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; Ephesians 6:4 And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Thank you for this. There's been a blind spot to the issues of the conservative church because everyone is so fixated on the errors of liberalism. Where I grew up "cold hard Christianity" was a cancer. Christianity with all of the truth and none of the spirit. Scratch the surface and you would see that very few people acted the way they demanded others act. Something is very wrong in large swaths of the western conservative church but we don't notice or say anything because their theology is on point, however the way they live out that theology speaks of something seriously wrong. The amount of people that I've met who have horror stories of growing up in those kinds of churches is disheartening. My pastor has pointed out that Christianity without the truth leads to churches that allow everything, but Christianity without the spirit leads to a cold and abusive form of Christianity.
Lord I know you have a purpose for me. Even though at times I do not understand. I have complete trust in you. Heavenly Father. Being a single mom with two children with special needs is overwhelming at times. Every month is a struggle to get by. But as I struggle to pay rent and as I struggle to buy groceries I know that God is with me. Faith over fear!
I love your channel and find the content you upload to be helpful and motivational. I will have to add that this particular video I don't care for ONLY because you placed way too much emphasis on the avoidance of "law" parenting. My only concern with this method of creating this video was the lack of equal weights and measures. This video can be taken out of context for the parent who does apply excessive parental law with no heart transformative attention that the gospel is heavily focused on. This view can push the parent to relinquish the disciplining that is essential,in fear of your content, to the proper upbringing of a child, which will provide the connection between right and wrong decisions and the consequences that follow. The text states clearly over and over again how disciplining your child is a form of love and those that dont hate their child. The text also states that God disciplines those he loves and the most recognized verse, spare the rod, spoil the child. We must add balance where the text clearly add for parents should not provoke their children, for this can become discouraging. So there is a biblical balance we must add so that any parent who watches this won't misinterpret their role if they are on either side of the equation. You apply this principle in all of your videos I have seen. This is the only one I will say that lacks! God bless you, brother, and keep running the race. Much love.
My soon to be 20 year old step daughter never got a permit, doesn’t have or want a license and won’t get a job. She doesn’t have to do anything around the house, but if she does, her dad pays her. She keeps bringing gay pride crap into the house and he just lets her.. She gets money from him and her mom by guilt tripping them.. Her dad won’t even talk about it. He can’t talk about it without blowing up on me. I just got him going to church with me earlier this year, and I’m trying to be patient and let God work in him; and then, hopefully-the rest will come.. It’s getting increasingly difficult, though. She’s manipulated and emotionally blackmailed him into oblivion and it’s hard to watch my husband constantly be emasculated by his daughter.. 😞
@JeepnJesusFreak To the pure, all things are pure; but to those who are defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure, but both their mind and their conscience are defiled. They profess to know God, but by their deeds they deny Him, being detestable and disobedient and worthless for any good deed. Titus 1:15-16 NASB1995 who gave Himself for us to redeem us from every lawless deed, and to purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds. 2:14 Remind them to be subject to rulers, to authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good deed, 3:1 He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit, 3:5 This is a trustworthy statement; and concerning these things I want you to speak confidently, so that those who have believed God will be careful to engage in good deeds. These things are good and profitable for men. 3:8 Our people must also learn to engage in good deeds to meet pressing needs, so that they will not be unfruitful. 3:14 We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. 1 John 3:16 In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 1 John 4:11 Whoever hits you on the cheek, offer him the other also; and whoever takes away your coat, do not withhold your shirt from him either. Give to everyone who asks of you, and whoever takes away what is yours, do not demand it back. Treat others the same way you want them to treat you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. If you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. If you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners in order to receive back the same amount. But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men. Luke 6:29-35
I know the feeling, you want to help, you want to offer advice and godly counsel, but it falls on deaf ears. You have my sympathy sister, and I hope you can make it through this situation.
@@Joel-Serrathank you so much.. you’re right; it drives me insane. When I saw that “bi pride flag” hanging in her room, it took everything in my power to not yank the flag down and strangle her with it. He did make her down the flag, but she’s getting gay pride socks, cups, stickers, shirts, etc… I cannot stand it, but I just started counseling with my pastor and hoping we can get him in eventually… Praying for you, too 💜✝️
When there is only Law, the only thing one can do is rebel. My little one and me focus on *following* through understanding of the precepts and staying apart from garbage. When we follow, we keep Him close, and the closer He is, the more opportunity He has to do His work.
The information and advice you give is good but raising three kids in the 90s and early 2000. Struggling to pay for a Christian education, it is a lot more complicated.
Unpopular point: You can afford a Christian education. You just might have to lower your standard of living to do it. God commands us to train our children in the way they should go, not to maintain our standard of living above all else. -An Economist
@@acem82 That's exactly what my wife and I did, it was a struggle, I made good money back then on my salary. For the first eight years we homeschooled and then sent them to a Christian private school which was $1400 a month.
@@ronaldtentschert6876 I am sure that you did the very best for your children and that is commendable. But I am not completely convinced that home schooling or Christian schools are the best for children. The world is what it is and eventually your kids are going to have to live in it at some point. I believe that it is the home environment that should have the biggest influence on youngsters, if kids see their parents living out the Christian life in reality with all their faults and failings which they are ready to admit, that is the most healthy environment for children to grow up in. There are no guarantees and the worst thing that we can do is create lots of ‘cultural Christians’ who are not actually ‘born from above’. Which is what we have in a lot of our evangelical churches.
I'm entirely sick of your clickbait titles and thumbnails. Regardless of whether the message is good, stop using these lowest-common-denominator tactics. Unsubbed
Did you even watch the video? The mistake parents make is heavy rule (law) emphasis over grace, and that legalism ruins people and undermines the Gospel.
@@SojournerSwordsman Like I said, my issue isn't necessarily with the content of this video, it's the constant use of bait titles and thumbnails that compel you to click on them. Take a look at the titles for their recent content, it's more or less "You must stop doing this, else you're in serious danger". This is obvious bait appealing to people's fears simply to draw clicks. Maybe there is a point to be made, but that doesn't justify this level of fearmongering.
@@notfirstTHERMAL That’s a very fair point, and I’m not a fan of it either. I apologize to be heavy handed in my original response, I’m used to people not actually viewing the content but commenting
@@SojournerSwordsman All good mate, I'm a fan of Todd's but just take issue with this kind of utilitarian 'ends justify the means' engagement baiting, where there might be a good message contained within the video, but it doesn't justify using those tactics. God bless.
God knows that we are sinners and yet His command says that we should have kids becouse they are blessing. He is a good Father, don't worry. He knows what He is doing. He will help you ;) (Sorry for my bad grammar- I'm from Poland)
@@martablublub5603 If someone knows or believes they wouldn't make great parents for whatever reason, the right response isn't "well, have some anyway because God commanded it". None of the apostles are mentioned as having children, and Jesus didn't have any children either. It's extremely tough raising children in today's world, so it's perfectly understandable if someone believes it's not for them to be a parent.
@theeternalsbeliever1779 That is a poor eisegesis. The Bible makes it very clear that children are a blessing from the Lord and Christians ought to desire to have children, unless one is called to singleness. Sure, Jesus did not have children but we cannot assume that all apostles did not either because it's not recorded in the Scriptures. The omission, perhaps, was due to the fact that most of them had children just like most of the Jewish men in the first century. Hence, it's very possible we know Paul did not have any children - because it was not normal. May I encourage you, as a father of 3, that our children are God's children. He loves them far more than we could ever love them, and He will use them according to His divine and gracious will. Our job as parents is to instruct them in the ways of the Lord that they do not depart from it, and pray and trust that they will know and love the Lord. Parenting is a precious blessing and God's sanctifying work in the lives of believing parents. Don't buy into the rhetoric of the world and do not fear. God's will be done on earth as in heaven, and He will be victorious! 🙏🏻
Guess what? As a new parent I know I’m going to screw up my kids life cuz I’m not perfect. I will make mistakes. My prayer is to have God help me overcome myself and help me raise my kid with the love of God
I don't really think that parents being strict with rules is the problem these days.....
That’s not what he said, he said “law-only parenting,” which means parenting where it’s all about rules and you have no relationship or love or gospel proclamation to them.
@@SlaveofChrist1 I believe you may have missed the sarcasm in their comment....
@@SlaveofChrist1yes unbiblical parenting will not bring desired results
Dennis Kinlaw, that's who your voice sounds like to me. I've been trying to figure that out for a while. You and he are not of same exact theology but that's not the point. You both edify me. When I listen to you, I see you in the fine tradition of Johnathan Edwards. I thank God for you, brother.
No love and provoking to wrath is a great way for evil parents to abuse their children in secret and appear Godly to the public. Anytime the children speak up they are called ungrateful, difficult, rebellious, etc. Some parents care more about pleasures than the commandments of God. They want to appear as if they follow Jesus, at least while it's still common and viewed as good. Sex, drugs, and rock-n-roll are more important but they still crave to be labeled with the "good" tag.
Some people view children as slaves and they also want to be worshiped, in God's name to make it double wicked. Their word is above God's word but they use God's word to make that claim. Truly insane. Amazing any child can keep it together under those conditions. And many have it far worse!
It doesn’t excuse children from honoring their parents. 1sin doesn’t justify another
@@neverpc4404 Why do people swing far left or far right instead of the narrow path? Both parents and children have to obey God's commandments.
Proverbs 17:15
He that justifieth the wicked, and he that condemneth the just, even they both are abomination to the Lord.
Exodus 20:12
Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
Ephesians 5:25-27
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
1 Peter 3:1
Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
Ephesians 6:4
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
The commandment doesn’t say only honor your parents if they are Godly and don’t sin
Thank you for this. There's been a blind spot to the issues of the conservative church because everyone is so fixated on the errors of liberalism. Where I grew up "cold hard Christianity" was a cancer. Christianity with all of the truth and none of the spirit. Scratch the surface and you would see that very few people acted the way they demanded others act. Something is very wrong in large swaths of the western conservative church but we don't notice or say anything because their theology is on point, however the way they live out that theology speaks of something seriously wrong. The amount of people that I've met who have horror stories of growing up in those kinds of churches is disheartening. My pastor has pointed out that Christianity without the truth leads to churches that allow everything, but Christianity without the spirit leads to a cold and abusive form of Christianity.
Truer words were never spoken!
Lord I know you have a purpose for me. Even though at times I do not understand. I have complete trust in you. Heavenly Father. Being a single mom with two children with special needs is overwhelming at times. Every month is a struggle to get by. But as I struggle to pay rent and as I struggle to buy groceries I know that God is with me. Faith over fear!
I love your channel and find the content you upload to be helpful and motivational. I will have to add that this particular video I don't care for ONLY because you placed way too much emphasis on the avoidance of "law" parenting. My only concern with this method of creating this video was the lack of equal weights and measures. This video can be taken out of context for the parent who does apply excessive parental law with no heart transformative attention that the gospel is heavily focused on. This view can push the parent to relinquish the disciplining that is essential,in fear of your content, to the proper upbringing of a child, which will provide the connection between right and wrong decisions and the consequences that follow. The text states clearly over and over again how disciplining your child is a form of love and those that dont hate their child. The text also states that God disciplines those he loves and the most recognized verse, spare the rod, spoil the child. We must add balance where the text clearly add for parents should not provoke their children, for this can become discouraging. So there is a biblical balance we must add so that any parent who watches this won't misinterpret their role if they are on either side of the equation. You apply this principle in all of your videos I have seen. This is the only one I will say that lacks! God bless you, brother, and keep running the race. Much love.
I made up a saying
Better to be raised by wolves
Then with parents who hate God
Said no verse ever
Wolves hate God.
My soon to be 20 year old step daughter never got a permit, doesn’t have or want a license and won’t get a job. She doesn’t have to do anything around the house, but if she does, her dad pays her. She keeps bringing gay pride crap into the house and he just lets her.. She gets money from him and her mom by guilt tripping them.. Her dad won’t even talk about it. He can’t talk about it without blowing up on me. I just got him going to church with me earlier this year, and I’m trying to be patient and let God work in him; and then, hopefully-the rest will come.. It’s getting increasingly difficult, though. She’s manipulated and emotionally blackmailed him into oblivion and it’s hard to watch my husband constantly be emasculated by his daughter.. 😞
Go to war in prayer for that young lady and your husband and Trust God that he's gonna take care of it at his perfect time
There are some wonderful biblical counselors that can greatly help your situation.
@JeepnJesusFreak
To the pure, all things are pure; but to those who are defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure, but both their mind and their conscience are defiled. They profess to know God, but by their deeds they deny Him, being detestable and disobedient and worthless for any good deed.
Titus 1:15-16 NASB1995
who gave Himself for us to redeem us from every lawless deed, and to purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.
2:14
Remind them to be subject to rulers, to authorities, to be obedient, to be ready for every good deed,
3:1
He saved us, not on the basis of deeds which we have done in righteousness, but according to His mercy, by the washing of regeneration and renewing by the Holy Spirit,
3:5
This is a trustworthy statement; and concerning these things I want you to speak confidently, so that those who have believed God will be careful to engage in good deeds. These things are good and profitable for men.
3:8
Our people must also learn to engage in good deeds to meet pressing needs, so that they will not be unfruitful.
3:14
We know love by this, that He laid down His life for us; and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.
1 John 3:16
In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.
1 John 4:11
Whoever hits you on the cheek, offer him the other also; and whoever takes away your coat, do not withhold your shirt from him either. Give to everyone who asks of you, and whoever takes away what is yours, do not demand it back. Treat others the same way you want them to treat you. If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them. If you do good to those who do good to you, what credit is that to you? For even sinners do the same. If you lend to those from whom you expect to receive, what credit is that to you? Even sinners lend to sinners in order to receive back the same amount. But love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High; for He Himself is kind to ungrateful and evil men.
Luke 6:29-35
I know the feeling, you want to help, you want to offer advice and godly counsel, but it falls on deaf ears.
You have my sympathy sister, and I hope you can make it through this situation.
@@Joel-Serrathank you so much.. you’re right; it drives me insane. When I saw that “bi pride flag” hanging in her room, it took everything in my power to not yank the flag down and strangle her with it. He did make her down the flag, but she’s getting gay pride socks, cups, stickers, shirts, etc… I cannot stand it, but I just started counseling with my pastor and hoping we can get him in eventually… Praying for you, too 💜✝️
When there is only Law, the only thing one can do is rebel. My little one and me focus on *following* through understanding of the precepts and staying apart from garbage. When we follow, we keep Him close, and the closer He is, the more opportunity He has to do His work.
✝️👑
thanks Mr. Todd Glad your back on the YT machine 🥰🙏🏼
The information and advice you give is good but raising three kids in the 90s and early 2000. Struggling to pay for a Christian education, it is a lot more complicated.
Unpopular point:
You can afford a Christian education. You just might have to lower your standard of living to do it.
God commands us to train our children in the way they should go, not to maintain our standard of living above all else.
-An Economist
@@acem82 That's exactly what my wife and I did, it was a struggle, I made good money back then on my salary. For the first eight years we homeschooled and then sent them to a Christian private school which was $1400 a month.
@@ronaldtentschert6876 Hats off to you then!
@@acem82 thank you
@@ronaldtentschert6876
I am sure that you did the very best for your children and that is commendable. But I am not completely convinced that home schooling or Christian schools are the best for children. The world is what it is and eventually your kids are going to have to live in it at some point. I believe that it is the home environment that should have the biggest influence on youngsters, if kids see their parents living out the Christian life in reality with all their faults and failings which they are ready to admit, that is the most healthy environment for children to grow up in. There are no guarantees and the worst thing that we can do is create lots of ‘cultural Christians’ who are not actually ‘born from above’. Which is what we have in a lot of our evangelical churches.
I'm entirely sick of your clickbait titles and thumbnails. Regardless of whether the message is good, stop using these lowest-common-denominator tactics. Unsubbed
Did you even watch the video? The mistake parents make is heavy rule (law) emphasis over grace, and that legalism ruins people and undermines the Gospel.
@@SojournerSwordsman Like I said, my issue isn't necessarily with the content of this video, it's the constant use of bait titles and thumbnails that compel you to click on them. Take a look at the titles for their recent content, it's more or less "You must stop doing this, else you're in serious danger". This is obvious bait appealing to people's fears simply to draw clicks. Maybe there is a point to be made, but that doesn't justify this level of fearmongering.
@@notfirstTHERMAL That’s a very fair point, and I’m not a fan of it either. I apologize to be heavy handed in my original response, I’m used to people not actually viewing the content but commenting
@@notfirstTHERMAL i actually thought he did better on this one :)
@@SojournerSwordsman All good mate, I'm a fan of Todd's but just take issue with this kind of utilitarian 'ends justify the means' engagement baiting, where there might be a good message contained within the video, but it doesn't justify using those tactics. God bless.
If you want more details on this topic, please watch videos by Pastor Mark Dejesus.
So how do we “do” this?
An example please. 😊
This is exactly why I don't want to become a parent even tho I am 29. I could never live with myself if I screwed up their life.
God knows that we are sinners and yet His command says that we should have kids becouse they are blessing. He is a good Father, don't worry. He knows what He is doing. He will help you ;)
(Sorry for my bad grammar- I'm from Poland)
@@martablublub5603 God can always be a good Father, as that is in His nature... human fathers have something left to be desired...
@@martablublub5603 If someone knows or believes they wouldn't make great parents for whatever reason, the right response isn't "well, have some anyway because God commanded it". None of the apostles are mentioned as having children, and Jesus didn't have any children either. It's extremely tough raising children in today's world, so it's perfectly understandable if someone believes it's not for them to be a parent.
@theeternalsbeliever1779
That is a poor eisegesis. The Bible makes it very clear that children are a blessing from the Lord and Christians ought to desire to have children, unless one is called to singleness. Sure, Jesus did not have children but we cannot assume that all apostles did not either because it's not recorded in the Scriptures. The omission, perhaps, was due to the fact that most of them had children just like most of the Jewish men in the first century. Hence, it's very possible we know Paul did not have any children - because it was not normal.
May I encourage you, as a father of 3, that our children are God's children. He loves them far more than we could ever love them, and He will use them according to His divine and gracious will. Our job as parents is to instruct them in the ways of the Lord that they do not depart from it, and pray and trust that they will know and love the Lord. Parenting is a precious blessing and God's sanctifying work in the lives of believing parents. Don't buy into the rhetoric of the world and do not fear. God's will be done on earth as in heaven, and He will be victorious! 🙏🏻
Guess what? As a new parent I know I’m going to screw up my kids life cuz I’m not perfect. I will make mistakes. My prayer is to have God help me overcome myself and help me raise my kid with the love of God