I had done the fierce self love without realizing it a year ago. I did it out of frustration promising myself that I will never go back to my person until he comes to me. I drove out even thoughts about him in my head. He drastically changed. He chased me, he pined for my attention, he texted me every single day. He was a completely different person. I did not expect it, but it works ..
I combine loa with the feminin and masculine art of seduction🏵️ Ex. When I started dating this man, he told me. No, I don't give flowers, and Im not a romantic person. My manifestation become, I want a lot of flowers and romance from him😂 I never told him this in person. Short story, I did affirmations, positive assumtions and visualization. I have from earlier on, learned to put my self first. I had a needy and clingy behavior because of childhood trauma. When he started showing up with flowers and romantic gesture, I showed him gratitude and happines in a very feminin reciving way. Making him feel his own masculine energy. Now, Im in a very romantic realationship with a hole lot of beautiful flowers 😂💙 Edit: During I was writing this text, he actually sendt me a picture of his garden flowers. Telling me that he has never given me that amount of flowers at the same time before😂
@@ShellyBullard if they aren't showing up its not them its really you though. So how does that work. If said person doesn't deserve to be in your life if they give breadcrumbs, but essential you are creating that right?
I tried affirming, feeling and visualizing. Affirming felt like grasping as the logical mind kept on fighting the affirmations. It came up with counter-affirmations based on what it saw in the 3d. It was frustrating. However, visualizing helped to land in the feeling. Once the feeling was anchored, the mind naturally started thinking (affirming) what I wanted. Your way of explaining is so simple. It's like magic! Once the feeling is anchored, all the obsession, anxiety, doubt is naturally released. It feels like my wish did indeed already come true. I don't 'want' anything anymore. I feel so light and happy. I am not worried about the how. It's like I am not the least bit fazed by the 3D reality. I am just enjoying the feeling in my body. Wow! :)
That's why we need to do deep slow breathing & go into meditation, and only from that non-attachment empty inner space we can attract and create anything
I told him i love him but i don't need him! He walked out never to be seen again. This was after 4 years of settling for mistreatment and not using my voice.
Self love is always the answer, that’s how i manifest my sp back, i keep telling myself that i’m worthy, beautiful, magnetic and highly attractive 🥰🤩 Thanks shelly
I ended up saying no full stop and then went about enjoying myself and refocusing on things I enjoy. I affirmed and visualised and had a lot of fun and then my current man came along out of nowhere! Absolutely out of the blue and he has always given me the communication and attention that I felt a lack of elsewhere 🥰
What to do when you receive crumbs from your specific person.? Or What to do if your not receiveing the type of love you want from them.? What to do in this situation..? + What does it mean to recieve crumbs from someone.? * You are in a relationship but they barely show up. * They dont show love,attention,care the way you want. * They feel distant and far way, they dont pursue you. + What to do in this scenario.? * We are creating people to show up with us . * You are in charge of your entire reality. * They show up to you based on your expectations of what you will recieve from them. * here something can happen is you might have some sought of fear , wound they are gonna leave can come up and you notice it and it expands. *This is beacuse of your focused attention on them.leaving creates it. * Any time we feel something is off we become hyper focused. * and dont see what is going on right. * we must to exact opposite thing or action we must do. * What you focus you impress your subconsious mind. * If you focus on negatives that is what gonna expand. * What up dont want will expand and grow because of your inner focus. + To change this you can do this. *1.) One of the thing or tactic is FIERCE SELF LOVE. * this includes you landing in your inner hell no. * if someone shows up barely to you. Say to yourself i am not available to recieve this little. * This is not gonna work for me * you do say or not to your sp is. * Do not say this to them cause. + You are not changing them , what your doing is changing yourself and your outer reality changes. * Raise your own standards. * If you live with this inner commitment. * People will show up to you cause your devoted to yourself. * You do not tell.this to your sp. * It is just your own inner process. * This can be scary but if you do it the outer reality gets in line. """"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""" 2.) While your sp is showing up with crumbs You must mould and shape about what your doing. * if you focus on negatives that will grow. * Instead focus on this person showing up in a new way. * Tell and new story . * If there is distance. Then go into yourself. + Feel them pursuing you + feel the new them. * Focus on them coming towards you. ############################# 3.) Tell yourself affirmations what they are doing. * they are calling them. * They are texting me. * Feel the truth of your affirmation *Start to chnage the story of what they are doing. * You can look at the text if they send in two ways + Oh my god they are not giving me enough they are barely here. + Oh my gosh they totally wnat me. They cant get enough of me. Thank You Shelly❤
I just stop feeling needy with my sp. I focus on myself with self love. I always assume that my sp loves me. When I give more love to myself, I start seeing attention and love from my sp.
Love this video. I actually did say to my SP that how they were showing up wasn’t going to work for me anymore. It was an unhealthy pattern that kept repeating. I didn’t go on and on explaining to them. I just kept it very short and sweet and matter-of-fact. I felt it was necessary in my situation. I haven’t heard back from them since I said that but I felt SO good saying it and not contacting them again. I feel like I’m looking out for myself now and practicing self-love. I’m actually ok with them not contacting me. I know they are thinking about me all the time and they will come towards me. I’m not worried about the timing and just living my life! I’m much happier💕
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You need to read this This absolutely works, I tried this one day before and today my bf is obsessing over me and he wants to keep talking to me and is acting like a crazy lover. Although all the negative emotions that I were feeling earlier were only in my head, as I tried this all the negative momentum changed not only to positive thinking patterns but also to positive results. My bf loves me soo bad. I was just out off track for a while but now I am back to my original self using this and my bf is loving me even more now, (touchwood), you too can manifest love as there is abundance of it in the universe. ❤❤
Love how you talk about affirming in action on their end such as they are texting me. I just wanna let everyone know, don’t feel discouraged if you have been affirming for a bit and no movement in this 3D. In general there is always moment and everything will happen, keep persisting.
A few weeks ago I started to feel my SP is getting distant. Then I binge-watched your videos and read Neville Goddard as much as I could for 2,3 days. In only 1 day I noticed some big positive changes in his behavior!! Although I'm still not fully satisfied with the relationship right now, I'm taking baby steps and I know everything is getting better each second!
@@roset4459 I still have doubts but I try to control them. I don't and can't believe that my SP is madly in love with me right now, but I can believe that he has started to like me very much. I can believe that he is very happy when he is with me. Also I reallyyyyyy recommend you to read Neville Goddard's books. You can easily access them online for free. However, he emphasizes the importance of visualizing your ideal state before you go to sleep. I can't do that either, but I try to generally feel the state of being wanted.
I actually had to tell him that I need to respect myself. That is exactly what I said; I didn’t get demanding or give him any type of ultimatum. He said he understands and agrees. That was about 2 weeks ago. It was just evidence that I need to work on my self-love more and that is what am doing. I know it will happen but it will happen when I have complete and total conviction that I am loved, whole, complete, and 1st best! I’m getting there. 💗
@@beanieyounghans3878 Nothing worth reporting. A lot of things have happened since that comment but as of now, it still has yet to happen how I truly desire. But it will.
Thanks for sharing, Shelly! I have, in the past, put my sp on a pedestal and have learned to play a trick on myself when I feel I am getting too appreciative of him in my mind (appreciation feels great though), because I sometimes can come from a place where they're the prize, and that turns into lack quickly and subtly. So I begin to act as if they're someone who I'd be ok with being with and ok if not. Sounds like I'm talking myself out of my manifestation but really I'm minimizing the importance and the resistance, while feeling like I'm the One. I know in my heart he is the one I want but it's so fun getting sassy about it and feeling playful and flexible. I feel that I am free to be myself and screw up and be a fool in front of the guys I dont want, but want me. I could care less what they think of me, so there's that level of sass and goddess. I start to feel constricted when I give my guy too much power in my mind because that leads to me feeling afraid of being rejected and then I can't relax and am acting awkward and unnatural...icky. It works like a charm for me but it takes persistence in the mind about me being the prize and not losing myself in feeling like I'm wishing for us to be (yet feeling the essence of lack) and actually just being love for the pure enjoyment of it 💜
I accept crumbs sometimes bc this is where my belief is at in the moment for instance I believe I’m worth getting some texts rn but I don’t believe I’m worth getting tons of texts everyday which I’m going to change in the future
I feel this video spoke to me at exactly the right time!!I am notorious for holding out for or being just ok with a few crumbs knowing I'm not ok with it!!!I find it so hard but also I do try and celebrate the smaller messages....so my SP does message me every day without fail and some are nice flowing conversations whilst others just fleeting 1 word messages or emojis. On days when I in myself am more confident and not being needy and have a lighter energy i get the flowy conversations.When I'm tense feeling duped i get the 1 liners.So it is from me and my inner world radiating to my outer.... I dont want crumbs damn it...i want the whole loaf!!!!!!!That's my new affirmation!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Shelly some people might think your teachings are a bit simplistic but the more and more I listen to all these LOA topics the more I realize how good of a teacher your are to make this sound so simple but you have the whole thing so clear ! Really glad I found your channel you are really a wise teacher 🤍🤍🤍
I watched this again today because I’m receiving crumbs again from my sp. I need to change myself and not jump at every text he sends, forgiving him easily for treating me badly. Thank you Shelly for these tips. Self love is very important. ❤️
Such a valuable video! 💗 in regards to your “what’s up?” example, I think it’s crucial not to get into a mindset of “oh well at least they texted at all” (which is what I sometimes did years ago) but really changing the story, as you say: they are obsessed with me, they want me (I knew it😅) 🤩
Yeh, I had this problem. I think it's about setting boundaries and persisting in the new assumption. I asked my person to make a proper commitment to me and I turn him away now if he shows up with anything less. In the past he did things like show up late at night - so I just stopped letting him in if he didn't come early. I always assume that my person responds to me in the way that I need and that he always comes around so he will slowly conform to what I expect of him - a partner who is fully present.
Re-writing this story: Before, I lacked self-love and started chasing. Now that I love and accept myself, my SP always contacts me. ♥♥♥ I wish I'd watched all of these videos and read all of these books in October lol.
@decemberclouds you have said almost what I have been thinking for a while. I have said to myself a few times that I wish I would have seen Shellys videos when I met my sp last September. We are amazing and our sps think we are the most amazing people they have ever met ❤ They priorities us and always contact us just because they love to hear our voices. We are manifesting Queens 👸 🦄🙏❤😄🙌
I started doing the manifest specific person guided meditation . It's been only 4days. I am doing it just before going to sleep at night. I started feeling real good. Thank you. 😊 I feel more secure although sometimes it fluctuates, but I am certain about my manifestation 😊❤️
This is my video! I finally got it why I am not trusting him. Because he is giving me crumps. It's a relief because I know what I need to change inside and see what is showing up or not. 😊 Thank you!
There's got to be another way of going about this that is more rooted in unconditional love. Life happens to people - from personal experience, I know what it feels like to be so bathed in overwhelm that one can't handle interpersonal communication for a time, even small stuff. I want to sit on the seat of unconditional love, accepting her totally, just as she is, knowing she will show up more when she gets through this period of overwhelm. I don't need constant contact; I don't actually need anything or anyone outside of myself to be totally happy. But I would love to talk to her more; it would be a cherry on top of the delicious sundae of my wonderful life experience : ) If there is a "everyone is you pushed out" method that also takes unconditional love and radical acceptance into account, I'd like to hear about that please. This, "Hell No!" approach does not resonate with me. Thank you for your videos!
Some insane stuff…. I’ve been practicing changing my self concept for 3 days now. And all of a sudden my distant man is back in my life, offering to buy gifts and spend time together. Scared to jinks it. But it works!!! Thank you Shelly❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏✨🤗
wow, perfect timing, Shelly! just right after i posted about my Success Story on the Neville Goddard sub-Reddit, where i shared what "techniques" i used to CHANGE my SP, i also mentioned about crumbs (all thanks to a previous crumbs video you uploaded!). and then, THIS came out! divine timing indeed~
When I feel the like they are giving me crumbs (whomever) I start saying 'I intend and expect'...I got I intend from Amanda at create your future...she great too...thank you for all your amazing videos....😊👏
So relevant to me now. Have been on a roller coaster of emotions but could identify the thoughts which weren’t serving me and decided to change my perspective on what I was understanding and added this is just a bridge of incidents which are all aligned to get me there. So as that was all part of the manifestation I have begun to just appreciate and say thank you to my inner being who knows exactly how to get me there. I don’t know how it’s going to happen all I know is if I have a deep desire for something and I have asked the universe, God, then it is answered and even I can’t get in my own way. Totally amazing and aligned video to my situation. I believe it was sent specifically to me me. 🤗. And yes, why would I accept crumbs when I asked for gems 💎!!!! 🥰 Video worth watching more than once! Thank you 😊
This is exactly how today was. Changing my thoughts, catching myself and the specific person's all did what I thought. Now I'm into they want me so...and good! I'm happy.. I'm in line with you too. I'm enjoying y your red lipstick ..it's eye grabbing .
You look great in yellow, Shelly! I’m going to say to myself, I appreciate your sweet and kind texts of how you think of me, including me in your life, and that I’m the last person you think of before you go to bed. I deserve phone calls of all you share with me because you want to hear my reaction and I’m worth the drive across the state even just for moment in time, to celebrate our successes and victories together or to hold each other in complete comfort. 😊💕🥰
IDK how many of you have observed this but Miss Shelly's pics at the start of her videos are soo beautiful and attractive and dynamic with full of self confidence and boldness. Also she looks prettier day by day!
Hie Shelly! Great video💕 Your 3 tips : 1) fierce self love - setting boundaries 2) changing the storyline internally 3) taking everything that happens in your stride and imagining them pursuing us. I think I am doing everything what you said: The last time he had called to inquire about something, I set a boundary that I won't initiate till the time he talks to me the way I want! I am not hyperfocusing on him being distant though we haven't spoken in the past week. I had a couple thoughts on "where is he?"and I felt like asking him about being distant, but I did not because I didn't want to chase him and i also didn't want to waver from my boundary..so i moved to my inner story of him wanting and craving for me! So there's no lack as well❤️ (my constant affirmations are - he's wanting me, claiming me and pursuing me,love comes to me easily and effortlessly, I am the queen and he can't resist me). I am infact doing imaginal acts with him being around me and treating me like a queen and I am enjoying doing it and my affirmations as well and it all feels natural! So basically, I am working on my self love , focusing on the way I want him to come in and enjoying living in the end ❤️ Do you think it is just a matter of time that he'll show up in my 3d soon? I know we are getting back together real soon! It's a done deal ❤️ I am just a bit confused sincce I think I am doing all the things you mentioned in the video.
I had this really bad dream with my sp and anothr girl whom his friends say he likes. nightmares are often your fears so its maybe my inner fear blocking my manifestation? how do I work on it?
@@smritim3665 yes ,maybe. Don't focus on things you don't want. Just be positive and focus on living in the end. Maybe ,start with small beliefs which are acceptable to your mind? Like- he still thinks and cares about you.. And whenever you feel low, go back to SELF LOVE 💕 do some affirmations and you'll be good to go ! Don't worry dear💕
@@samhitaparab thank you so much!! Also, I can create a new story right? Like he talks to her about me tells her he misses me everytime they talk, she's just a friend or like a sis and he helps her with her issues and nothing more and they most of the time talk about me. So if I keep reliving this new story that I'm creating in mind and affirming it it's going to show up exactly the same way in reality soon
@@smritim3665 yes! You can create any story you want to. He talks to her about how much he misses you and so on😉 We can do it! We are great manifestors 💕 Good luck to you 💕
@@samhitaparab omg I so randomly just saw that girls name somewhere and my mood been off since then. I should maybe just take this like a challenge the universe is giving me to see how I'm facing. Or I maybe manifested it? Cause I've been thinking about her quite a lot for the past two days do I ended up seeing her name now?
This is actually true, he so much want me that he is not able to resist not only to show love, care and respect towards me but also he does feel it only for me. He so want to prapose me for marriage. Because he knows that's the only way to be with me forever. 😊❣️
Affirming,feeling, visualizing and being next to my sp is the best thing that can ever happen to me and the self love meditations of yours are the best thing happened to me. Your new thumbnail is absolutely amazing and very different. Doing your inner child meditations every now and then. A huge fan of yours and great thing to be a part of the community, Shelly. Great video to watch and looking forward to the video.
❤ Your teachings are so aligned with how i have had my Journey for the last three years, dear Shelly ❤totally love how you teach, how you put words to everything that is difficult to put into words😍 self love, being genuine and true to one self is essential ❤ it is magical ❤❤thank you ❤❤and i love the way you teach us how to see them in a positive way ❤that really works like magic, see them with unconditional love from the heart ❤❤
Stunning thumbnail 👌 Looking gorgeous as always ❤ Loving all the dresses in your photos, I feel like going on a spree 😉 just don't fancy tackling the shops right now in the UK 🇬🇧. I will not accept crumbs from my sp ( SGC) but he never did before, so I suppose I've got something good to go on there😁 🦄🙏🙌❤
Yaayy Ruth!😘💕 My sp also always showers love and attention on me!😘 Though we're distant in the 3d now, I don't care about it as in my mind he's all into me!❤️
I dreamt of my SP. Never before...tried so hard. Came back to this video which will sort of bird thank you very much for doing such a grand job I really appreciate it it's refreshing the way you put things across. I have listened to abraham-hicks Mr housing and Veronica Isles who I like very much and this is so refreshing to get a different take on things goes I only recommend erised yes fantastic thank you Cliff 🌹🦉💓🌈❣️🎉👌
I'm actually getting crumbs each day but eventually I'm focusing on self love. And if those are the results of fierce self love of instant manifestation then I request you to make a video on fierce self love that would take a deep dive in. I know a video is already released but I want you to take to take it deeper to fully understand the concept. 🙏🙏
Thank you for this video. One of the ways was just to be positive even on little response & I tried to write a journal more and ask universe for the best.
Love that! Each video is more valuable!!! You look beautiful;) I bought your last course but due to time difference haven’t seen it yet, hope you will send it soon:)))
I've heard of inner boy 👦 and inner girl 👧, but inmer hell no is a new one for me. And quite frankly. I like it. Dats right ✅ I will be treated with the utmost respect, love 💘, attention, and admiration. This right here is the no more crumbs committee but actually now the radiant, love and abundant committee ❤.
I feel crumbs from my own mother. For the last 10 years, I would always visit her and miss her and invite to visit me. But it was always me visiting her. I had to go 4 hours one way by train to see her. But it takes her only 1 hour by car to go and see me. I liked to think that me and my mother can be two close adult friends, always in touch. She used to answer my calls once a week. She used to call me every few days or once a week. But then she stopped. I decided to stop calling and see what happens. And guess what happened? Nothing. She didn't even notice my absence. She calls still, but once a month(or less) instead of once week or every few days. And she says she's always too busy with work. Last time I thought of not only inviting her to visit me for her birthday but to also offer taking her to a restaurant and paying for her and give her gifts. She said she was too busy with work and declined my invitation. Then later, I see her in facebook with images of her and her husband's distant relatives, celebrating her birthday. But I invited her months ahead of time! She could have said she already made plans but she hadn't! She could have said she had no more desire to spend time with me but she hadn't! She actually said that she really would love to see me but has got too much work. Yeah right - so much work that she found the time to drive extra 1 hour to visit her distant relatives of her current husband. But 1 hour of drive for me was too much, I guess. I started wondering....was she honest in the first place or did she lie to get me off her way quickly? Last time I visited her for her birthday, I decided to do an expensive gift to make her happy and less stressed with too much work. It was $200+ gift cards and a thousand dollars. That should be enough to cover a day off and use it to visit me, I hoped, especially since she always claimed to want to see me but simply being too busy. Yeah, she was too busy to visit me even for MY birthday, as always. And why am I giving her this expensive gifts if I know she earns more than me? I earn $15/hr, and she earns $30/hr. With that, somehow I regularly found the time and money to see her while she could never afford to spare her time nor money just to visit me. When the corona pandemic started, I was still wanting to see her. I came to being ok with visiting her just once a year. And she liked me visiting her. So, last year I planned to take my mask and a plastic hamlet and never sneeze nor touch my mother and I wanted to visit her and cook some traditional food for her and her husband. I really wanted to please them.When I decided to use the train to go to her city and told her I would love to cook for them if she wouldn't mind, she calmly stated that she won't accept my visit because I might carry a potential enemy(the virus) and so, I should not see her AT ALL for as long as TV decides (the council of 2 members: her husband and media always know better when it is safe for her to see me or not, I guess) Her voice was so coldly calm - there was no emotion whatsoever. It sounded like she had no problem never seeing me again at all. I would have think that parents should always feel at least sad or sorry that they can't see their adult children more often than once a year. Why do I even wish my mother to miss me as much as I miss her? Why do I miss and love her so much? What is wrong with me for feeling like that? I often assumed I must be too spoiled or entitled for attention. I didn't care about the potential virus - I would want to see my mother no matter what, especially having no symptoms and no coughing and with all the protection....even if I knew my mother had that virus - I would still want to see and hug her. Later I figured that her husband didn't want to see anyone and so she decided to be the same. Then she noticed that her husband and other people in the media were actually visiting family members, and so, she just changed her mind and said "oh you can actually visit us". What if the media or her husband said "never see your kids because it's to dangerous"? She then would completely avoid me forever without a drop of tear nor any sadness or hesitation? Something painfully clicked inside of me. I realized she can easily not see me at all and she won't care - it will only affect me but not her. And now, already at my 36 years of age, I don't want to see her anymore. I don't want to miss her anymore. It is that very missing and missing someone one-sidedly for years that is very painful. I am too tired of missing someone I assumed was the closest person to me in my life. Missing hurts. I don't want to care anymore. I want to let go and cut off my attachment and my stupid idea that being attached to your parents for life is just a natural and beautiful thing. If she's so happy with her husband that she forgets about my existence and she won't care if I disappear from her life forever, so be it. I'm happy for her and I wish her to stay happy for life. But I don't want to miss anyone any more! I felt so hurt by feeling her pulling away more and more, year after year, slowly, while denying any change and assuring me that I'm the dearest person to her in the whole world. I let myself cry hard in my pillow and let go. I don't want to live inside an illusion that my mother actually thinks about me and just wants to be around me and see my smile. Goodbye beautiful illusion. I don't want her breadcrumbs any more.....I am going to love me and be my own mother for me from now on. I will not see or visit my mother any more until my pain of loving her goes away. My father was very similar and I loved him too, but loving him was no less painful. He never wanted to hug me, TV was more important to him. As a child,I remember coming home after school...I would always run to my dad to hug him - only to be pushed away. He didn't want to be bothered. TV and work were his top priorities. Then he got sick with fatal illness at the time my mom moved away from him. He suddenly got a desire to see me and even hug me -only at this time he was semi-paralyzed, barely mobile and in great need to have someone around to call for an emergency for him whenever he passed out - NOW he wanted me by his side. . .NOW when it became so convenient for him. ....I still loved him, but then my mother took me away to live with her, after which my father died. And I still wanted to go back and to hug him. And I still missed him and I cried in pain, but it was too late. He passed away.... though it was many many years ago, it still hurts. And I ask myself today - do I miss my dad? Yes I do...but what do I miss???? The pain of loving him and missing him one-sidedly? I guess. . . but I don't want to miss the painful, one-sided hopes and attachment to anyone any more....😩 Oh gosh, I think I lived inside an illusion my whole life. . .Today I proclaim ENOUGH! No more missing and yearning for unavailable parents, friends, partners! I will not beg nor invite or hope. I say fuck it - the person who truly wants to see me WILL PUT AN EFFORT TO SEE ME. PERIOD. No more breadcrumbing for me!
Shelly, you’re glowing more than usual lately ✨ ✨ Thank you for reminding me of tip 4- whatever is showing up, assign the meaning that corresponds to the desired outcome
My boyfriend and I were doing fine till last year on June when he left and I couldn't get in touch with him.. he disconnected from me on all my social media platforms...and we've never been in touch ever since.... most times when i try to connect with him i get breadcrumbs....Shelley thank you for this 🙏
I had done the fierce self love without realizing it a year ago. I did it out of frustration promising myself that I will never go back to my person until he comes to me. I drove out even thoughts about him in my head. He drastically changed. He chased me, he pined for my attention, he texted me every single day. He was a completely different person. I did not expect it, but it works ..
Amazing!
@Prathyusha love this ✨
What was your story verse that help you get him this way ? Please
What did you do?? Ignore his texts/calls/reach out or did you tell him he needs to come correct?
I combine loa with the feminin and masculine art of seduction🏵️
Ex. When I started dating this man, he told me. No, I don't give flowers, and Im not a romantic person.
My manifestation become, I want a lot of flowers and romance from him😂
I never told him this in person.
Short story, I did affirmations, positive assumtions and visualization. I have from earlier on, learned to put my self first. I had a needy and clingy behavior because of childhood trauma.
When he started showing up with flowers and romantic gesture, I showed him gratitude and happines in a very feminin reciving way. Making him feel his own masculine energy.
Now, Im in a very romantic realationship with a hole lot of beautiful flowers 😂💙
Edit: During I was writing this text, he actually sendt me a picture of his garden flowers. Telling me that he has never given me that amount of flowers at the same time before😂
OMG YES to all of this!! THIS is exactly it!! Love it!
Whoa❤️❤️so happy for you!
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I want to marry my sp
He is syng his parents are not agreeing wt do I do..
Willow pillow, how did you manifest all that? I'm having the same issues with my bf...
Yes! “ you could be my soulmate, but if you don’t show up you’re not getting Ito my life” that is so sensible!
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@@ShellyBullard if they aren't showing up its not them its really you though. So how does that work. If said person doesn't deserve to be in your life if they give breadcrumbs, but essential you are creating that right?
Exactly
I tried affirming, feeling and visualizing. Affirming felt like grasping as the logical mind kept on fighting the affirmations. It came up with counter-affirmations based on what it saw in the 3d. It was frustrating. However, visualizing helped to land in the feeling. Once the feeling was anchored, the mind naturally started thinking (affirming) what I wanted. Your way of explaining is so simple. It's like magic! Once the feeling is anchored, all the obsession, anxiety, doubt is naturally released. It feels like my wish did indeed already come true. I don't 'want' anything anymore. I feel so light and happy. I am not worried about the how. It's like I am not the least bit fazed by the 3D reality. I am just enjoying the feeling in my body. Wow! :)
Amazing!! Keep up the good work!
That's why we need to do deep slow breathing & go into meditation, and only from that non-attachment empty inner space we can attract and create anything
Love it!
Wow!! You could be a coach too!!! That is straight forward and amazing!!
I told him i love him but i don't need him! He walked out never to be seen again. This was after 4 years of settling for mistreatment and not using my voice.
“They are showing up in your reality based on your expectations” 👌✨
*YES!*
That’s not true. All heartbreaks happen when you don’t expect them to.
@@Jewelsessences subconsciously you caused them to happen with your fears and limited biliefs
Self love is always the answer, that’s how i manifest my sp back, i keep telling myself that i’m worthy, beautiful, magnetic and highly attractive 🥰🤩
Thanks shelly
Beautiful 🤍
What exactly did you do ?
I ended up saying no full stop and then went about enjoying myself and refocusing on things I enjoy. I affirmed and visualised and had a lot of fun and then my current man came along out of nowhere! Absolutely out of the blue and he has always given me the communication and attention that I felt a lack of elsewhere 🥰
What to do when you receive crumbs from your specific person.?
Or
What to do if your not receiveing the type of love you want from them.?
What to do in this situation..?
+ What does it mean to recieve crumbs from someone.?
* You are in a relationship but they barely show up.
* They dont show love,attention,care the way you want.
* They feel distant and far way, they dont pursue you.
+ What to do in this scenario.?
* We are creating people to show up with us .
* You are in charge of your entire reality.
* They show up to you based on your expectations of what you will recieve from them.
* here something can happen is you might have some sought of fear , wound they are gonna leave can come up and you notice it and it expands.
*This is beacuse of your focused attention on them.leaving creates it.
* Any time we feel something is off we become hyper focused.
* and dont see what is going on right.
* we must to exact opposite thing or action we must do.
* What you focus you impress your subconsious mind.
* If you focus on negatives that is what gonna expand.
* What up dont want will expand and grow because of your inner focus.
+ To change this you can do this.
*1.) One of the thing or tactic is FIERCE SELF LOVE.
* this includes you landing in your inner hell no.
* if someone shows up barely to you. Say to yourself i am not available to recieve this little.
* This is not gonna work for me
* you do say or not to your sp is.
* Do not say this to them cause.
+ You are not changing them , what your doing is changing yourself and your outer reality changes.
* Raise your own standards.
* If you live with this inner commitment.
* People will show up to you cause your devoted to yourself.
* You do not tell.this to your sp.
* It is just your own inner process.
* This can be scary but if you do it the outer reality gets in line.
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2.) While your sp is showing up with crumbs
You must mould and shape about what your doing.
* if you focus on negatives that will grow.
* Instead focus on this person showing up in a new way.
* Tell and new story .
* If there is distance. Then go into yourself.
+ Feel them pursuing you
+ feel the new them.
* Focus on them coming towards you.
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3.) Tell yourself affirmations what they are doing.
* they are calling them.
* They are texting me.
* Feel the truth of your affirmation
*Start to chnage the story of what they are doing.
* You can look at the text if they send in two ways
+ Oh my god they are not giving me enough they are barely here.
+ Oh my gosh they totally wnat me.
They cant get enough of me.
Thank You Shelly❤
Love this!
Shelly Bullard I love your teachings ❤️ it’s really amazing ❤️
I like this but wish this post did not have so much grammar mistakes
Richal Fernandes just thought to say, it would flow so much better if it was proof read before being posted. Some parts don’t make sense.
If I took the time out to write this, I would make sure it makes sense. PERIOD
I just stop feeling needy with my sp. I focus on myself with self love. I always assume that my sp loves me. When I give more love to myself, I start seeing attention and love from my sp.
Yesss
I have committed to myself that I will only receive the best because I am deserving of it🙏🏼💕
Yes!
Love this video. I actually did say to my SP that how they were showing up wasn’t going to work for me anymore. It was an unhealthy pattern that kept repeating. I didn’t go on and on explaining to them. I just kept it very short and sweet and matter-of-fact. I felt it was necessary in my situation. I haven’t heard back from them since I said that but I felt SO good saying it and not contacting them again. I feel like I’m looking out for myself now and practicing self-love. I’m actually ok with them not contacting me. I know they are thinking about me all the time and they will come towards me. I’m not worried about the timing and just living my life! I’m much happier💕
This is amazing. So proud you did this - it shows true Self Love which really is the key to us creating whatever we want. :)
“No, I Don’t want no crumbs” to the music of TLC Scrubs
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LOVE IT
😂 best comment
@@xandria_magic777 😂
I’ve started hanging out and getting compliments off my sp again after a long separation. Yay!
Amazing!
Gratitude is the most optimal state of receiving! be grateful ✅✅✅
Yes!
Mindblowing- Be unavaiable for crumbs:) Thansk:)
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You need to read this
This absolutely works, I tried this one day before and today my bf is obsessing over me and he wants to keep talking to me and is acting like a crazy lover. Although all the negative emotions that I were feeling earlier were only in my head, as I tried this all the negative momentum changed not only to positive thinking patterns but also to positive results. My bf loves me soo bad. I was just out off track for a while but now I am back to my original self using this and my bf is loving me even more now, (touchwood), you too can manifest love as there is abundance of it in the universe. ❤❤
Wonderful!
God bless
Love how you talk about affirming in action on their end such as they are texting me. I just wanna let everyone know, don’t feel discouraged if you have been affirming for a bit and no movement in this 3D. In general there is always moment and everything will happen, keep persisting.
So glad you enjoyed it!
You're so right! It feels discouraging when you're affirming a bit and there's no movement. But I'm sure everything is working out in our favour!
I manifested my specific person in 1 week by doing your guided meditation for manifesting a specific person 1-2 times a day
OMG! So excited for you!🤍🙏✨
A few weeks ago I started to feel my SP is getting distant. Then I binge-watched your videos and read Neville Goddard as much as I could for 2,3 days. In only 1 day I noticed some big positive changes in his behavior!! Although I'm still not fully satisfied with the relationship right now, I'm taking baby steps and I know everything is getting better each second!
Amazing that you saw results! Yes, keep going... you know what to do ;)
Can I ask you how do yo do that? I mean, how do you believe what you want is possible? How you handle your doubts?
@@roset4459 I still have doubts but I try to control them. I don't and can't believe that my SP is madly in love with me right now, but I can believe that he has started to like me very much. I can believe that he is very happy when he is with me. Also I reallyyyyyy recommend you to read Neville Goddard's books. You can easily access them online for free. However, he emphasizes the importance of visualizing your ideal state before you go to sleep. I can't do that either, but I try to generally feel the state of being wanted.
Yasamin Dehghan thank you so much for your quick response 😁 iI wish you all the best and I hope you can achieve your goal
@@roset4459 you're welcome. Good luck on your manifestation journey!😁
I actually had to tell him that I need to respect myself. That is exactly what I said; I didn’t get demanding or give him any type of ultimatum. He said he understands and agrees. That was about 2 weeks ago. It was just evidence that I need to work on my self-love more and that is what am doing. I know it will happen but it will happen when I have complete and total conviction that I am loved, whole, complete, and 1st best! I’m getting there. 💗
Wonderful!
Any update on SP?
@@beanieyounghans3878 Nothing worth reporting. A lot of things have happened since that comment but as of now, it still has yet to happen how I truly desire. But it will.
Any updates?
Im living for these new layouts!
😂😂😂 omg I adore you!
@@ShellyBullard love you!
Thanks for sharing, Shelly!
I have, in the past, put my sp on a pedestal and have learned to play a trick on myself when I feel I am getting too appreciative of him in my mind (appreciation feels great though), because I sometimes can come from a place where they're the prize, and that turns into lack quickly and subtly. So I begin to act as if they're someone who I'd be ok with being with and ok if not. Sounds like I'm talking myself out of my manifestation but really I'm minimizing the importance and the resistance, while feeling like I'm the One. I know in my heart he is the one I want but it's so fun getting sassy about it and feeling playful and flexible.
I feel that I am free to be myself and screw up and be a fool in front of the guys I dont want, but want me. I could care less what they think of me, so there's that level of sass and goddess. I start to feel constricted when I give my guy too much power in my mind because that leads to me feeling afraid of being rejected and then I can't relax and am acting awkward and unnatural...icky.
It works like a charm for me but it takes persistence in the mind about me being the prize and not losing myself in feeling like I'm wishing for us to be (yet feeling the essence of lack) and actually just being love for the pure enjoyment of it 💜
I accept crumbs sometimes bc this is where my belief is at in the moment for instance I believe I’m worth getting some texts rn but I don’t believe I’m worth getting tons of texts everyday which I’m going to change in the future
glad you're going to change that!
I feel this video spoke to me at exactly the right time!!I am notorious for holding out for or being just ok with a few crumbs knowing I'm not ok with it!!!I find it so hard but also I do try and celebrate the smaller messages....so my SP does message me every day without fail and some are nice flowing conversations whilst others just fleeting 1 word messages or emojis.
On days when I in myself am more confident and not being needy and have a lighter energy i get the flowy conversations.When I'm tense feeling duped i get the 1 liners.So it is from me and my inner world radiating to my outer....
I dont want crumbs damn it...i want the whole loaf!!!!!!!That's my new affirmation!!!!🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Yes!! Love it!
Shelly some people might think your teachings are a bit simplistic but the more and more I listen to all these LOA topics the more I realize how good of a teacher your are to make this sound so simple but you have the whole thing so clear !
Really glad I found your channel you are really a wise teacher 🤍🤍🤍
Aww thank you so much! Love this.
Shelly Bullard thank you for your channel I feel so grateful to listen to your wisdom 🤍 I wish the best for you 🤍
We are changing ourselves and our expectations💕
Yesss✨🤍
Thank you Shelly!!!! I manifested my sp back ♥️ he is crazy about me!!
You’re welcome 🤍🙏
I watched this again today because I’m receiving crumbs again from my sp. I need to change myself and not jump at every text he sends, forgiving him easily for treating me badly. Thank you Shelly for these tips. Self love is very important. ❤️
I went videos to videos about this topic n what to do about it.. Found Nothing more accurate than this.. I loved it personally.., 💖
Such a valuable video! 💗 in regards to your “what’s up?” example, I think it’s crucial not to get into a mindset of “oh well at least they texted at all” (which is what I sometimes did years ago) but really changing the story, as you say: they are obsessed with me, they want me (I knew it😅) 🤩
Yeh, I had this problem. I think it's about setting boundaries and persisting in the new assumption. I asked my person to make a proper commitment to me and I turn him away now if he shows up with anything less. In the past he did things like show up late at night - so I just stopped letting him in if he didn't come early. I always assume that my person responds to me in the way that I need and that he always comes around so he will slowly conform to what I expect of him - a partner who is fully present.
It shows High Value. Good job.
Re-writing this story: Before, I lacked self-love and started chasing. Now that I love and accept myself, my SP always contacts me. ♥♥♥
I wish I'd watched all of these videos and read all of these books in October lol.
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@decemberclouds you have said almost what I have been thinking for a while. I have said to myself a few times that I wish I would have seen Shellys videos when I met my sp last September.
We are amazing and our sps think we are the most amazing people they have ever met ❤
They priorities us and always contact us just because they love to hear our voices.
We are manifesting Queens 👸
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@@ShellyBullard How the heck is it that whenever I write stuff like this here, my SP contacts me the next day? LoA is really something.
@@ruthcarlisle2663 Thank you my manifesting partner. ♥♥♥♥♥
@@decemberclouds 🙌❤🙌❤🙌❤
I started doing the manifest specific person guided meditation . It's been only 4days. I am doing it just before going to sleep at night. I started feeling real good. Thank you. 😊 I feel more secure although sometimes it fluctuates, but I am certain about my manifestation 😊❤️
This is my video! I finally got it why I am not trusting him. Because he is giving me crumps. It's a relief because I know what I need to change inside and see what is showing up or not. 😊 Thank you!
There's got to be another way of going about this that is more rooted in unconditional love. Life happens to people - from personal experience, I know what it feels like to be so bathed in overwhelm that one can't handle interpersonal communication for a time, even small stuff. I want to sit on the seat of unconditional love, accepting her totally, just as she is, knowing she will show up more when she gets through this period of overwhelm.
I don't need constant contact; I don't actually need anything or anyone outside of myself to be totally happy. But I would love to talk to her more; it would be a cherry on top of the delicious sundae of my wonderful life experience : )
If there is a "everyone is you pushed out" method that also takes unconditional love and radical acceptance into account, I'd like to hear about that please.
This, "Hell No!" approach does not resonate with me.
Thank you for your videos!
Some insane stuff…. I’ve been practicing changing my self concept for 3 days now. And all of a sudden my distant man is back in my life, offering to buy gifts and spend time together. Scared to jinks it. But it works!!! Thank you Shelly❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏✨🤗
Amazing!
wow, perfect timing, Shelly! just right after i posted about my Success Story on the Neville Goddard sub-Reddit, where i shared what "techniques" i used to CHANGE my SP, i also mentioned about crumbs (all thanks to a previous crumbs video you uploaded!). and then, THIS came out! divine timing indeed~
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When I saw you were hiring someone to make lovely thumbnails, this is exactly what I imagined! Beautiful!!
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Really? How sweet!
Looking gorgeous Shelly 😍
No more crumbs...I want the whole loaf..😆
YEP!
Hi Shelly, I must say this...
I love your smilie talking 😍.. giggling...
Such happy energy! 🌸🦋💝
When I feel the like they are giving me crumbs (whomever) I start saying 'I intend and expect'...I got I intend from Amanda at create your future...she great too...thank you for all your amazing videos....😊👏
You’re welcome!
So relevant to me now. Have been on a roller coaster of emotions but could identify the thoughts which weren’t serving me and decided to change my perspective on what I was understanding and added this is just a bridge of incidents which are all aligned to get me there. So as that was all part of the manifestation I have begun to just appreciate and say thank you to my inner being who knows exactly how to get me there. I don’t know how it’s going to happen all I know is if I have a deep desire for something and I have asked the universe, God, then it is answered and even I can’t get in my own way.
Totally amazing and aligned video to my situation. I believe it was sent specifically to me me. 🤗. And yes, why would I accept crumbs when I asked for gems 💎!!!! 🥰
Video worth watching more than once!
Thank you 😊
So glad you enjoyed it🥰
They definitely want me, love ya Shelly 💚✨
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This is exactly how today was. Changing my thoughts, catching myself and the specific person's all did what I thought. Now I'm into they want me so...and good! I'm happy.. I'm in line with you too. I'm enjoying y your red lipstick ..it's eye grabbing .
Thank you!
I love this video almost as much as I love your lipstick! Love that colour! 💄 xx
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Wow!!! New Graphics are Gorgeous.... 🧡💚💙
Thank you!
This message is very powerful!
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this new layout is amazing!
Thank you! I’m going for it!! 😉🥰✨
You look great in yellow, Shelly!
I’m going to say to myself, I appreciate your sweet and kind texts of how you think of me, including me in your life, and that I’m the last person you think of before you go to bed. I deserve phone calls of all you share with me because you want to hear my reaction and I’m worth the drive across the state even just for moment in time, to celebrate our successes and victories together or to hold each other in complete comfort. 😊💕🥰
Beautiful 🤍✨
I feel I’ve been doing everything correctly the last 3 weeks .. excited for my results
So excited for you!
Shelly Bullard thank u☺️☺️
Yellow looks great on you... you look so pretty!!
Aww thanks!
You did a photo shoot! Love it!
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Shelly, I believe in whatever you are saying, it is really true, because it is happening to me right now...
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I love your dress Shelly!!!! 💛 you’re so beautiful!!
Thank you 🥰
Like a southern belle 🥰☺️
Hi Shelly! Happy Sunday everyone!
Thank you! You too!
IDK how many of you have observed this but Miss Shelly's pics at the start of her videos are soo beautiful and attractive and dynamic with full of self confidence and boldness. Also she looks prettier day by day!
I'm currently experiancing this thing, but i keep my focus only on the end result and as a result I don't feel any lack or anxiety😊
Wonderful!
Hi Luv! Yes! Scripting and meditating are truly bringing my wish fulfilled into my reality.
Yesss✨
Ok keep a positive attitude and always put yourself first 😊
Yes!
I don’t take crumbs not since your video about it. I am good enough. I’m excited about this video.
Yes girl! Makes me so gaily you hear!
You really help calm my anxiety...thank you!💕
So glad I can help🤍
Hie Shelly! Great video💕
Your 3 tips :
1) fierce self love - setting boundaries
2) changing the storyline internally
3) taking everything that happens in your stride and imagining them pursuing us.
I think I am doing everything what you said:
The last time he had called to inquire about something, I set a boundary that I won't initiate till the time he talks to me the way I want!
I am not hyperfocusing on him being distant though we haven't spoken in the past week. I had a couple thoughts on "where is he?"and I felt like asking him about being distant, but I did not because I didn't want to chase him and i also didn't want to waver from my boundary..so i moved to my inner story of him wanting and craving for me! So there's no lack as well❤️ (my constant affirmations are - he's wanting me, claiming me and pursuing me,love comes to me easily and effortlessly, I am the queen and he can't resist me).
I am infact doing imaginal acts with him being around me and treating me like a queen and I am enjoying doing it and my affirmations as well and it all feels natural!
So basically, I am working on my self love , focusing on the way I want him to come in and enjoying living in the end ❤️
Do you think it is just a matter of time that he'll show up in my 3d soon?
I know we are getting back together real soon! It's a done deal ❤️ I am just a bit confused sincce I think I am doing all the things you mentioned in the video.
I had this really bad dream with my sp and anothr girl whom his friends say he likes. nightmares are often your fears so its maybe my inner fear blocking my manifestation? how do I work on it?
@@smritim3665 yes ,maybe. Don't focus on things you don't want. Just be positive and focus on living in the end. Maybe ,start with small beliefs which are acceptable to your mind? Like- he still thinks and cares about you..
And whenever you feel low, go back to SELF LOVE 💕 do some affirmations and you'll be good to go ! Don't worry dear💕
@@samhitaparab thank you so much!! Also, I can create a new story right? Like he talks to her about me tells her he misses me everytime they talk, she's just a friend or like a sis and he helps her with her issues and nothing more and they most of the time talk about me. So if I keep reliving this new story that I'm creating in mind and affirming it it's going to show up exactly the same way in reality soon
@@smritim3665 yes! You can create any story you want to. He talks to her about how much he misses you and so on😉
We can do it! We are great manifestors 💕
Good luck to you 💕
@@samhitaparab omg I so randomly just saw that girls name somewhere and my mood been off since then. I should maybe just take this like a challenge the universe is giving me to see how I'm facing. Or I maybe manifested it? Cause I've been thinking about her quite a lot for the past two days do I ended up seeing her name now?
This is actually true, he so much want me that he is not able to resist not only to show love, care and respect towards me but also he does feel it only for me. He so want to prapose me for marriage. Because he knows that's the only way to be with me forever. 😊❣️
Beautiful 🤍
Thx Shelly!! I mean all of your videos are great but This one, it's the one who made me open my leyes.💐💐🐨🐨🎆🎆💯
You’re welcome 💛
Affirming,feeling, visualizing and being next to my sp is the best thing that can ever happen to me and the self love meditations of yours are the best thing happened to me. Your new thumbnail is absolutely amazing and very different. Doing your inner child meditations every now and then. A huge fan of yours and great thing to be a part of the community, Shelly. Great video to watch and looking forward to the video.
Thank you 🤍🙏
❤ Your teachings are so aligned with how i have had my Journey for the last three years, dear Shelly ❤totally love how you teach, how you put words to everything that is difficult to put into words😍 self love, being genuine and true to one self is essential ❤ it is magical ❤❤thank you ❤❤and i love the way you teach us how to see them in a positive way ❤that really works like magic, see them with unconditional love from the heart ❤❤
Thank you so much.
I’m ready for this one ❤️💙💚
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She looks so pretty!🥺
Thank you 🥰
Stunning thumbnail 👌
Looking gorgeous as always ❤
Loving all the dresses in your photos, I feel like going on a spree 😉 just don't fancy tackling the shops right now in the UK 🇬🇧.
I will not accept crumbs from my sp ( SGC) but he never did before, so I suppose I've got something good to go on there😁
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Yes, yes, yes... love that your SP didn't/doesn't/won't give you crumbs. That's the best!
Go Ruth, Ruth, go Ruth, Ruth! (I know I say this all the time haha.)
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@@decemberclouds ha ha thank you. Love all your amazing support ❤ 🙌😁🙏
Yaayy Ruth!😘💕 My sp also always showers love and attention on me!😘
Though we're distant in the 3d now, I don't care about it as in my mind he's all into me!❤️
Thankyou so much🙏🏻 for this..my stupid ass keeps arguing and fighting over these little crumbs but now I am going to follow what you taught 💛💛
You’re welcome 🤍
I dreamt of my SP. Never before...tried so hard.
Came back to this video which will sort of bird thank you very much for doing such a grand job I really appreciate it it's refreshing the way you put things across.
I have listened to abraham-hicks Mr housing and Veronica Isles who I like very much and this is so refreshing to get a different take on things goes I only recommend erised yes fantastic thank you
Cliff 🌹🦉💓🌈❣️🎉👌
Loving these new thumbnails Shelly! 😍
Thanks Finn!
You change yourself and your outer reality changes... 😌
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I acknowledge and appreciate I have no expectations nor experiences here with your work in the past so all new possibilities
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I'm actually getting crumbs each day but eventually I'm focusing on self love. And if those are the results of fierce self love of instant manifestation then I request you to make a video on fierce self love that would take a deep dive in. I know a video is already released but I want you to take to take it deeper to fully understand the concept. 🙏🙏
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🌼💛 makes sense..Great video Shelly
Glad you liked it!
I havent even watched it yet but i know its the right video at the perfect time!! Sending love your way as always Shelly 💖
Thanks girl!
till now I have done noting .but after watching this video .I will do it thank you shelly
I do believe self concept is everything 🌸 thank you for this 🌸
You’re welcome 🤍
This is 100% the video I needed
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Thank you for this video. One of the ways was just to be positive even on little response & I tried to write a journal more and ask universe for the best.
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It was the end for meee lol! Period Queen.
I’ve been waiting for this video. Thanks ♥️
You’re welcome!
LIVING for these new thumbnails 😍
so cute
Love the yellow and red lipstick combination
Thank you 🤍
Love that! Each video is more valuable!!!
You look beautiful;)
I bought your last course but due to time difference haven’t seen it yet, hope you will send it soon:)))
Please check your spam folders... it was sent out already. :) You can do a search for my name to find it.
Shelly Bullard thank you:))
You new course was amazing!!!
A real asset!!! Thank you❤️ the best!!
You are so beautiful thank you for your video!!!!!🥰🥰🥰
Thank you 🥰
She is coming towards me!!!!!!🥰
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Yes yellow suits you Shelly!
I love wearing yellow!
I've heard of inner boy 👦 and inner girl 👧, but inmer hell no is a new one for me. And quite frankly. I like it. Dats right ✅ I will be treated with the utmost respect, love 💘, attention, and admiration. This right here is the no more crumbs committee but actually now the radiant, love and abundant committee ❤.
Yes!🤍🤍✨🙏
I feel crumbs from my own mother. For the last 10 years, I would always visit her and miss her and invite to visit me. But it was always me visiting her. I had to go 4 hours one way by train to see her. But it takes her only 1 hour by car to go and see me. I liked to think that me and my mother can be two close adult friends, always in touch. She used to answer my calls once a week. She used to call me every few days or once a week. But then she stopped. I decided to stop calling and see what happens. And guess what happened? Nothing. She didn't even notice my absence. She calls still, but once a month(or less) instead of once week or every few days. And she says she's always too busy with work. Last time I thought of not only inviting her to visit me for her birthday but to also offer taking her to a restaurant and paying for her and give her gifts. She said she was too busy with work and declined my invitation. Then later, I see her in facebook with images of her and her husband's distant relatives, celebrating her birthday. But I invited her months ahead of time! She could have said she already made plans but she hadn't! She could have said she had no more desire to spend time with me but she hadn't! She actually said that she really would love to see me but has got too much work. Yeah right - so much work that she found the time to drive extra 1 hour to visit her distant relatives of her current husband. But 1 hour of drive for me was too much, I guess. I started wondering....was she honest in the first place or did she lie to get me off her way quickly? Last time I visited her for her birthday, I decided to do an expensive gift to make her happy and less stressed with too much work. It was $200+ gift cards and a thousand dollars. That should be enough to cover a day off and use it to visit me, I hoped, especially since she always claimed to want to see me but simply being too busy. Yeah, she was too busy to visit me even for MY birthday, as always. And why am I giving her this expensive gifts if I know she earns more than me? I earn $15/hr, and she earns $30/hr. With that, somehow I regularly found the time and money to see her while she could never afford to spare her time nor money just to visit me.
When the corona pandemic started, I was still wanting to see her. I came to being ok with visiting her just once a year. And she liked me visiting her. So, last year I planned to take my mask and a plastic hamlet and never sneeze nor touch my mother and I wanted to visit her and cook some traditional food for her and her husband. I really wanted to please them.When I decided to use the train to go to her city and told her I would love to cook for them if she wouldn't mind, she calmly stated that she won't accept my visit because I might carry a potential enemy(the virus) and so, I should not see her AT ALL for as long as TV decides (the council of 2 members: her husband and media always know better when it is safe for her to see me or not, I guess) Her voice was so coldly calm - there was no emotion whatsoever. It sounded like she had no problem never seeing me again at all. I would have think that parents should always feel at least sad or sorry that they can't see their adult children more often than once a year. Why do I even wish my mother to miss me as much as I miss her? Why do I miss and love her so much? What is wrong with me for feeling like that? I often assumed I must be too spoiled or entitled for attention. I didn't care about the potential virus - I would want to see my mother no matter what, especially having no symptoms and no coughing and with all the protection....even if I knew my mother had that virus - I would still want to see and hug her. Later I figured that her husband didn't want to see anyone and so she decided to be the same. Then she noticed that her husband and other people in the media were actually visiting family members, and so, she just changed her mind and said "oh you can actually visit us". What if the media or her husband said "never see your kids because it's to dangerous"? She then would completely avoid me forever without a drop of tear nor any sadness or hesitation? Something painfully clicked inside of me. I realized she can easily not see me at all and she won't care - it will only affect me but not her.
And now, already at my 36 years of age, I don't want to see her anymore. I don't want to miss her anymore. It is that very missing and missing someone one-sidedly for years that is very painful. I am too tired of missing someone I assumed was the closest person to me in my life. Missing hurts. I don't want to care anymore. I want to let go and cut off my attachment and my stupid idea that being attached to your parents for life is just a natural and beautiful thing. If she's so happy with her husband that she forgets about my existence and she won't care if I disappear from her life forever, so be it. I'm happy for her and I wish her to stay happy for life. But I don't want to miss anyone any more! I felt so hurt by feeling her pulling away more and more, year after year, slowly, while denying any change and assuring me that I'm the dearest person to her in the whole world. I let myself cry hard in my pillow and let go. I don't want to live inside an illusion that my mother actually thinks about me and just wants to be around me and see my smile. Goodbye beautiful illusion. I don't want her breadcrumbs any more.....I am going to love me and be my own mother for me from now on. I will not see or visit my mother any more until my pain of loving her goes away.
My father was very similar and I loved him too, but loving him was no less painful. He never wanted to hug me, TV was more important to him. As a child,I remember coming home after school...I would always run to my dad to hug him - only to be pushed away. He didn't want to be bothered. TV and work were his top priorities. Then he got sick with fatal illness at the time my mom moved away from him. He suddenly got a desire to see me and even hug me -only at this time he was semi-paralyzed, barely mobile and in great need to have someone around to call for an emergency for him whenever he passed out - NOW he wanted me by his side. . .NOW when it became so convenient for him. ....I still loved him, but then my mother took me away to live with her, after which my father died. And I still wanted to go back and to hug him. And I still missed him and I cried in pain, but it was too late. He passed away.... though it was many many years ago, it still hurts. And I ask myself today - do I miss my dad? Yes I do...but what do I miss???? The pain of loving him and missing him one-sidedly? I guess. . . but I don't want to miss the painful, one-sided hopes and attachment to anyone any more....😩 Oh gosh, I think I lived inside an illusion my whole life. . .Today I proclaim ENOUGH! No more missing and yearning for unavailable parents, friends, partners! I will not beg nor invite or hope. I say fuck it - the person who truly wants to see me WILL PUT AN EFFORT TO SEE ME. PERIOD. No more breadcrumbing for me!
Shelly, you’re glowing more than usual lately ✨ ✨
Thank you for reminding me of tip 4- whatever is showing up, assign the meaning that corresponds to the desired outcome
It's the lighting! hahah
Shelly Bullard I meant it as more of an inner glow ✨
@@denisembaez Aww thanks love! ;)
Shelly Bullard you’re welcome ♥️🤗
I am just excited with this topic...I think it will clear my south on how to keep boundaries and no crumbs and live in the end simultaneously...
Looking gorgeous dear!
Thank you!
Thank you so much for doing this video. I need this today so badly. Feeling like giving up. But I dont want to really.
You’re welcome 🤍
My boyfriend and I were doing fine till last year on June when he left and I couldn't get in touch with him.. he disconnected from me on all my social media platforms...and we've never been in touch ever since.... most times when i try to connect with him i get breadcrumbs....Shelley thank you for this 🙏
You’re welcome🙏
I practice all three methods and its amazing!
Wonderful!
I needed this video! Thank you so much Shelly 🥰🥰🥰
You’re welcome 🤍