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HOW TO CHANGE LIMITING BELIEFS (FOREVER!) | Wu Wei Wisdom
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☯️ WU WEI WISDOM LIFE LESSONS EPISODE # 117
You may be aware of your limiting beliefs and how they impact your life, but do you know how to permanently change these unhealthy beliefs and eliminate self-doubt?
In this teaching, we’ll explain the Wu Wei Wisdom therapy approach that has helped thousands of clients worldwide change their beliefs.
Episode highlights:
- The stages of the Golden Thread Process that will help you FIND, OWN and CHANGE your limiting beliefs.
- Why your inner child holds onto limiting beliefs, the tactics it uses, and how to overcome them.
- How to use the Wu Wei Wisdom ‘stop it’ technique to help you let go of unhealthy beliefs.
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I am taking notes on this and intend on watching it many times over. I am starting to get it. So grateful for the teachings that you share!
Same.
Find it, own it, be consistent
Hi,
Thank you for your succinct and powerful reminder. Finding, owning, and being consistent in our truth and integrity are indeed crucial steps on our spiritual journey.
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David
So you can’t just make the inner child believe this over night. You’ve been conditioned for an entire life time. every day all the time you keep telling the inner child that they are lovable and that you love them. They will start to believe you. Keep the self talking. Everyday. Journal it. Thank you so much for these videos. I started using the stop it! It’s wild. The fight back. We are doing great though.
My go-to healing channel. Thank you guys for what you do.
The three steps:
*1 - FIND IT* - The Golden Thread - why, why, why, why? - until the core, the emotional culprit.
*2 - OWN IT* - “Stop it!” - Live _my authentic_ truth - do this _without_ fear or favour to myself and/or anyone else!
*3 - CHANGE IT* - Reinforcement - keep doing it - keep the Inner Child at bay!
*My new mantra from now on.* In the words of all West Midlanders, “That is truly bostin! I love it!” Thank you, David and Alex, for that wonderful enlightenment. I am _so_ watching to your videos at the moment. 😁
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. I think it's Bostin as well!!
Events happen which reconfirms the lie. For example, criticised, put down, rejected, let down, lied to, deceived. I am absolutely persuaded into the inner child’s world and belief. I can say STOP IT but the evidence is there when I’m rejected, let down etc. I have that limiting belief. Stuck at that bit. I’m at the Maze of Confusion.
Best healing channel on TH-cam.👐🏻
Brilliantly simple because it's simple truth!
Hi @ryanhowley6977,
Thank you for your kind words! It's indeed the simple truths that often hold the most profound wisdom. If you're ever interested in delving deeper and sharing insights, our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community is a great place to continue the conversation.
Regards,
David
Thanks a lot for this video. What happens to me is that my inner child believes I'm unlovable. What I find quite difficult is not agreeing with it, since nobody finds me attractive. I'm in this vicious circle, in which I know I'm creating that emotion, but reality is actually re-enforcing it. I'm so tired of being alone...
"I would say: don't be silly..." 🙃 this demonstrated how "normal" it already became to act unconsious.
Thank you for your time and your wisdom. I really enjoy working onto my inner child, and those "wow" moments are priceless. I also have noticed a big difference in myself,the way I let others talk to me or treat me. But at the times I find myself trapped in my inner child's emotions, and start believing all over. Thanks! Now, I know what I am going to tell her 😂♥️🙌
You guys are a Gem. I did years of psychoanalysis. This information is invaluable. Wish this channel would have been around back then. Keep up the great work.
Wow, thank you! Kind regards, David.
This was such amazing teachings whereby full clarity is offered for the find it, own it, teach it. When we have Dual belief systems , peace escapes us. Love it!
Oh my inner child, the emotions you create has no sound truebelief under it, u create emotions of fear, grief, sadness but there are lies on which you are generating these emotions, u r good, u r lovable, u can cope, there is nothing wrong with you, you should not manipulate ur emotions thinking any divine favour from above as the divine is also truth, honest and in integrity....u have to be fully connected to your shen, and have one belief of truth, honesty and integrity to get any divine favour
Hi,
Thank you for sharing your profound thoughts. It's important to recognise the emotions generated by the inner child and to understand that they often stem from past experiences and misunderstandings. Embracing the truth and aligning with honesty and integrity can help you connect deeply with your Shen spirit. Remember, you are inherently good and lovable, capable of coping with life's challenges.
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Kind Regards,
David
it takes time to reprogram the mind when it has received negative messages for a long time. Yes it is a barefaced lie and we have to reaffirm that we are all good spiritual beings. I love the stop technique and questioning the inner child for new evidence. In my own personal struggle, I keep reaffirm that I am good enough, I am worthy, I am Lovable and by daily reaffirming these truths, I am able to silence the critical innerchild. This is the real power of reaffirming affirmations.🤗🙏
Role play you are doing is so helpful !!
Thanks for that feedback, we get mixed comments on doing the role play. I think at the end of the day it is a bit like Marmite! :-) Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Thank you for the teaching. 🙏🏼
Consistency, consistency, consistency.
Great explanation. This connects the couple of pieces of information I gathered from video's before. I understand the process now.
Made me realize I saw the outcomes I had these past 10 years as evidence. Shockingly, the psychologist went with that line of thinking as well. She too took it as evidence.
I'm going to work on step two and won't let me get side tracked again by emotions. (I think that's what usually happens for me.)
Please make video about living the present. I, most of the time notice myself that I spend my time thinking about my past or future.
Thank You David and Alex for sharing this valuable teaching. I found the message of consistency particularly helpful...we believe the 3 lies because we have invested ourselves in them consistently for so long...so it makes sense that to bring about change we patiently and consistently challenge them when they arise.
Thanks for sharing! Kind regards, David.
Your teachings have and continue to change my life. Thank you.....
Wonderful! Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023 Kind regards, David.
Hi, David and Alex I have not listened to the entire video "Yet" but I am back now and I have a question? We have all been the inner child at one time and if we choose at that time to believe one of the three lies we are only doing so to protect ourselves and because we are a child and are not equipped to "rationalize" anything else. It is a matter of survival at that time. So, ,"yes" it is very difficult for us as adults to now go back and say OK those were lies but I lived my life that way I believed I had no other choice at the time. I'm glad you are able to talk people through this and I'm sure many of your clients "get it and will make the change". Blessings to you. Now that I've listened to the end (actually it was my IC who had me post earlier) lol, I realize that the interchange between you explaining about limiting beliefs boils down to "consistency to re-learn what my beliefs are now". Actually, for me it is a "grieving process in a way because the inner child believed her emotional response to what was happening and now I am presented with a decision to continue believing one of the three lies or "turn up the volume on my Shen". Thank You, again ,for a great video.
@Joyce Dunlap - yes that's absolutely true. I too need to turn up the volume of my Shen and be consistent with it. Gradually the innerchild will have to accept your truth. We are all good spiritual beings. You are good enough. You are worthy. You are lovable and be consistent with these truths.🤗🙏
Yes this is so true one is lost in the maze of confusion.. thanks 🙏 However it does take time and persistence to uproot the bad weeds that are deep rooted.
Thank you ! Im gonna be consistent from now on and will never go into the lies of the inner child, unless he can bring me a evidence for what he is saying, otherwise its just a bunch of lies that are nor true, Thanks a lot
Incredibly blessed to be subscribed on this channel 🙌🏼🧿✨
Hi @marymac1969,
We're incredibly grateful to have you in our community! Thank you for your kind words. It's a blessing for us to share this journey with you. May you continue to find value, insight, and inspiration in our content as you navigate your path, resolve issues, and nurture your Shen spirit.
Kind Regards,
David
I haven’t done all the golden thread videos and have just started talking to my sweet inner child but right now I’m experiencing overwhelming anxiety and believe I’m unworthy, unloveable. My inner child has told me our parents never wanted us. This is true as I once asked my father if he “wanted” me as a baby and he said no, they both did not. All my life I’ve sabotaged every friendship, every job, etc. now I’m 72 and alone, depressed, lonely, anxious, all red light feelings and beliefs. I do have a therapist and on medication and I’m not suicidal. Do I slowly watch all golden thread videos and simply continue talking to my sweet inner child? TY David
Hello June, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.
I am so grateful to you both for the valuable teachings that you share to help get through this big mess we have created for ourselves. 🙏
All your videos are just blessings to this humankind! Diamond thread it is! Thanks a lot
Thanks David for this wonderful life lessons. It’s a great help for me Love you n Alex
Glad you enjoyed it Wei, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Kind regards, David.
When I do STOP IT! , I imagine giving myself a little space , I imagine inflating and deflating a balloon and I use that time to converse with my inner child and ask myself if it’s leading to a favorable outcome and if I can proceed more positively I do that.
I really love the guided meditations, they have really helped me improve my life and am grateful for discovering you two, but when is the next one coming?
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Hi David and Alex.This video is awesome ..Thankyou both for your time and support ❤xx
Glad you enjoyed it Kind regards, David.
Excellent work guys 👍brilliant 👏sharing them with family
thank you guys , you explain the inner child concept in a very good and easy way
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Wow, wow, wow !!! This really was an eye opener . Many things I was a little confused about, became clear during this video. Till now I get lost a lot of the time in all the information I absorbed from all your videos. I couldn’t see things in proportion anymore. This video was structuring information and made a lot of things clear. Thanks for this awesome update. Now I know I have to start working seriously on the own it part.
I’m so happy I found your videos ! The wu wei wisdom is really a wisdom for me ... This is life changing for me ... thank you so much 🤩😍
However, of you keep on not succeeding in life and experiences one rejection/failure after the other you WILL at some point break! Then you are not creating your own emotions. It is then normal to have these emotions!
I'm in love with your videos💓. I'm gonna do a marathon of them😂. I'm excited, I'll listen to them daily. Thank you very much💕
I struggle with this idea of my emotional state not being created by the other. In a childhood abusive situation I feel my emotional response is caused by the other’s actions. Consequently when I’m not with the abuser those feelings do not exist. What am I missing here?
This was another great one
Thank you, this was lovely!
Brilliant video ! Thanks David and Alex.
Thank you..this helps a lot..you are great
You're welcome! Kind regards, David.
I feel like I can prove that I’m not good enough. I was always last choice for my parents, friends, boyfriends, even my kids now. I had multiple affairs while married to a great man, which makes me feel like a very flawed and unworthy human. I’m very lucky he is willing to stay with me while I try to heal and change, but I don’t know how to get out of the mindset that I’m not good enough.
Thank you so much, your constant work has helped me a lot. God bless you.
I hope you may be able to answer this. How do addictions like drinking or gambling fit in to this picture? I make myself feel “not good enough” by triggering with a drink or two and then playing slot machines to fill the void of my loneliness. Saying “stop it” is not always possible.
Actually you’ve answered this and I thank you.
Hi, @granvillelee-warner3551! We understand the challenges you're facing. Addictions like drinking or gambling often stem from unresolved issues and poor coping mechanisms. It's okay to seek support and guidance. In our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom community, you'll find a supportive space to explore and address these challenges together. Kind Regards, David.
Happy good Saturday morning to you wu wei wisdom
Thanks again! This teaching gives me a sense of empowerment!
You are so welcome! Kind regards, David.
Thank you. What is the psychological or emotional “benefit “ for harboring the lies and self talk?
This was great, I got some really good tips and ideas from this. Thank you!
(On a side note, this is such a nice accent these two have. Can anyone tell me where it's from?)
Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest and support. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Accent is Liverpool and West Midlands UK. Kind regards, David.
@@WuWeiWisdom Thanks!
Thank you 🙏🏼 great video, as always ❤️
You are so welcome. Kind regards, David.
😊limiting beliefs are artificial they were integrated in your mind by some mean people who didn't want you win or who are suffering from their own limiting beliefs understand that you can teach your brain by doing new things and making mistakes until you get it right and feel good about yourself! Trying until you get it!) Never accept someone limitation on your life😅😊
Hi Yulia,
You're absolutely right! Limiting beliefs can be overcome through self-discovery, growth, and persistence. Keep teaching your brain, embracing new experiences, and never let anyone limit your potential. We believe in your ability to resolve issues and thrive!
Kind Regards,
David
What core belief makes you think friends and family are not suppose to be jealous and envious of one another, that they are not suppose to talk about you and put you down, they are always suppose to love, care, and protect each other?
Thanks for your question, this is the Inner Child belief of a perfect utopian world were everything is the way the Inner Child would like. Why don't you consider joining our FREE and private Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - Over 7,000 members discuss WWW teachings, answer questions and share experiences: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Kind regards, David.
Thank you
You're welcome. Kind regards, David.
it seems almost impossible that, by just asking our inner child, 'do you have any evidence to prove that you are not enough? ' (again & again)
... we can change our belief that we are not good enough ..if you know what I mean 🤔
Also, what if the belief is not mine and has been passed on generationally?
Thank you :) I like the clarity it brings, to look at each core belief as either a truth, that is backed by evidence, or an untruth, that isn't. I also wonder if this perspective along with saying stop and refusing to give credence to these thoughts, is a more or a less effective way of changing these beliefs, as compared with my current preference. Which is to focus on the feelings accompanying these thoughts, and get a clear sense of how unbearable they must have been in childhood, and feel compassion for the child we were, who felt such intense overwhelm, panic, pain, and distress, through no fault of their own, only the situation they happened to be born into. I'd be interested in discussing this, with the purpose being, to more effectively help people who are suffering from this kind of history.
Additionally, is there maybe a contradiction in how towards the end, you talk about a non-physical part of us? What is the evidence for it? Again, what I'm looking for here is more clarity, in order to more effectively support anyone suffering from whatever brought about these core beliefs. I wish you all the best!
thankyou 🙏🌹🕊
Hello and thank you for the all the amazing videos 🙏I have learned so much from you both.... One thing I have problem with is not being able to connect the health anxiety to any of the 3 beliefs.. My guess is “ I can’t cope “ .. meanwhile I am not capable of resolving the issue and need your help !
What do you mean "not capable" ?
@@rinaward3195 I can’t stop obsessing over my health anxiety
Have you looked up charles Linden?
@@rinaward3195 thinking that oneself is not good less cannot do anything in life unworthy ,I am enough ,I am lovely person ,a fighter..
Great video, I personally seem to be stuck in the middle. I want to believe I am good enough but feel I need to really work on how to let go. It seems so hard to let go. I know it stems from my childhood and why I have it to the core, it's just hard to break the chains and truly feel it without getting lost in the maze of confusion....any techniques we can use like writing stuff down or is it just self talk?? ....
I have found "self talk' helps our Inner child stay stuck. As we may repeat their story. Once I observe I start to repeat a story, I can choose whether to follow my IC or not. Stillness, reflection can be helpful in this process.
@@rinaward3195 Thank you...
Thanks for sharing! Kind regards, David.
Question, how long does it take to change one’s thought process?
Hello Eva, Thank you for taking the time and trouble to watch and comment on our videos and work; we appreciate your interest. Everyone is unique on this journey the key is to understand and accept the Life Lessons and bring your Inner Child into a loving oneness. Why don't you consider joining our FREE Wu Wei Wisdom Community Facebook support group - we answer questions and offer guidance and teachings to our members here: facebook.com/groups/wuweiwisdomcommunity/. Please check out our next LIVE online event. More details here: bit.ly/GTP-Live-Dec-2023. Kind regards, David.
But why does the inner children continue to present the lie?
Are you saying our core belief has to be one of those three lies?
The Inner Child misaligned core beliefs will be based on those three lies. Kind regards, David.
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Okay, well, here's a first for you then... the evidence that I'm not good enough: I was rejected by my mother, who blamed me for her dropping out of college; I was rejected by my father, reason unknown since my younger sister and brothers were all good enough despite not being nearly as good or as smart as me; and I was rejected by my classmates starting in 3rd grade, I presume because I was so much smarter than them. I have experienced rejection by every female I've ever wanted, and I'm 56 now. The only relationship I've had was with a woman I wasn't really interested in. I'm not good enough for bosses or interviewers because I never get hired, and if you think "never" is an exaggeration, it's been 30 years now since I was last hired through the interview process (edit: it was 1992). So there you go, evidence.
I want to fix this, so I'll keep watching.
Edit: It's a little convenient to say that's not evidence. The question becomes, good enough for whom? And if the answer is, I'm not good enough for my parents, then their rejection of me is the evidence that I am not good enough for them. Rationalizing that they have the same hang-up, that they never felt good enough, doesn't really solve the problem.
And then there's the issue that I'm not good enough for *me.* I wanted to be good at sports, and rich, and popular, and handsome, and good at music. But I am none of those things. I am smart, but I never wanted to be smart, I didn't ask to be smart, and it has made me deeply unpopular. How do I love myself when I am none of the things I wanted to be? When I have none of the characteristics of someone I might admire?
You say it's a lie, but you haven't given me any reason to believe it's a lie, and certainly nothing that has happened in my life has given me any reason to believe it's a lie.
I’m in the same boat as you. Blamed by my mom for the rape and sexual molestation…I somehow “enticed” by stepfather. she always compared me to my “smart friends”bullied when I was elementary & middle school and in 2 long term physically & verbally abusive relationships. I’m 53 and still have issues. Very hard to convince my inner child otherwise
@@sandravazquez3558 Not sure this will help or hurt, but you were "good enough" for your stepfather. More desirable than your own mother, even, which must have stung her to the quick. She couldn't blame herself so she blamed you.
Anna Akana talked about knowing your worth, and talked about a $20 bill. If someone wrote all over a $20 bill, crumpled it up, and threw it in the trash, would it be worth any less than $20 for how it was treated? That's the attitude you have to take towards yourself, that how you were treated does not affect your inherent worth.
That is not true ❤
Hello Rani, I have address thus with you on FaceBook. Kind regards, David.
Thank you
You're welcome. Kind regards, David.