In my twenties, I dated a guy who was emotionally distant however he didn't mind asking intrusive sexual questions whenever possible yet the relationship had little to no intimacy. He would talk about wanting marriage and children one day but took no action towards those things.
Good point regarding number 4 on ghosting. At this stage of my life, I find it helpful to use this phrase as a mantra, “It didn’t happen to me, it happened for me…” which allows me to immediately shift my reaction and perspective on the situation.
It’s a very good analogy: film being ‘good’ but not good enough to want to see it again. If a woman wants an extraordinary man, she has to be extraordinary too, which means: she has to have a great feminine energy, confidence (despite all imperfections), interesting job, passions & hobbies & plans for the future, good relations with friends and family - it’s all far more important than all those superficial things such as being thin, wearing heavy make-up, wearing provocative clothes, having hair extensions, false nails or enhanced lips. Men want proper women, not human dolls.
what a relief to read this! ❤ I'm always worried that my natural appearance isn't enough, the way that men sometimes gawk at these lip filler BBL bleach hair girls ... not that I'm jealous of attention, just seems like, they get entranced with all that when the women are clearly insecure and toxic then he wastes his time, money, and labels all women crazy after she turns out psycho. 🤦🏾♀️
The most beautiful look on a woman, in my opinion, is her natural self-especially when she’s just woken up. No makeup, no filters, no masks. There’s something special about that simple and raw beauty in the morning light.
I think part of the reason why so many women do surgery, and enhancement is simply because of the judgement of men and how they pit women against each other in terms of physical appearance. It irritates me to hear when men talk about a woman who is a 'smoke show' in instagram. It super cringy and tells me how super shallow a lot of men are. Like a lot. It's becoming a source of insecurity for a lot of woman who are not 'smoke shows'. And to be honest I'm surprised that they haven't figured out that the smoke show women on instagram don't wake up looking like that without the filters and heavy make up and editing.
As you said , Remember, your role is to support him , not to direct him. This is very profound line . It is very important to understand what is our role in his life instead behave like a mother because they will never understand our love until we don't understand our own worth . Support = to be with him ✅ Direct = teach what he needs to do ❌🛑 😏😐 Thank you ismael for this valuable lesson ❤😊
There's a lot of dating coaches and gurus out there on the internet but something about Ismaels approach and the way he presents it is different. Can't put my finger on it but you're great!
Thanks, Ismael. This information is a helpful reminder for us women to be emotionally aware of these behaviors in men so we spare ourselves from getting in too deep and getting hurt from a male who has not healed from his past and is not ready for a healthy relationship.
Reliability. 100%. My number 1 criterium for choosing my inner circle. And i hesitate zero to say goodbye to men that are flaky. Usually they want back though.
Thankyou Ismael ... I am learning alot from your educational videos.. I am into my 4th month of serious relationship.. at 52yrs young... generation X .. from Australia 🇦🇺 ♥️
@SaveTheMessenger thankyou for asking Ismael. My relationship is doing well ☺️ becoming stronger 💪 👏. My partner is on deployment overseas at present and due to return in November 2024 for Christmas 🎄 and new years 😀. We communicate very well and we are close in age. I value your advice on relationship tips... thankyou sincerely. From me in Australia 🇦🇺
When we value the relationship, they take advantage and granted and moreover make us special all our money. Listening to both sides is an awesome way before judging
I've faced the same situation. It was my first love though his 4th 🙄 He tried to put me down by comparing with his exes. At the edge of my patience I told him to add me into that list. 💔 Now I'm suffering the third breakup remembering Neville's dialogue in Harry Potter
Ismael, I have a request! Can you make a video on handling conflicts and navigating undesirable situations in dating ? How to address something that borhers me without making it into an argument?
Ismaël, can you advise on how to build the emotional connection before intimacy ? I just had a very good first date and we have plans for a second. We had very interesting conversation throughout. He kissed me before leaving which I wasn’t sure I was ready for, but I didn’t know how to avoid it. I’m fine with how it went, but I definitely want to see if we can build a connection before moving on to further intimacy. I’m thinking I might need a couple of months. I’ve never waited before, but I want to do this with him because we really connected in conversation and I am really seeking a solid connection with him.
Every time you introduce yourself, it took me multiple videos before I finally realized you are saying “…I am a coach, writer”. I thought you said “I’m a ghost writer”. May I suggest saying “I am a relationship coach and writer”. Just a clearer suggestion. Either way, truly appreciate your content.
*Why men have cheating, betrayal mentality always for me can't understand. I don't mix up normally but many of repeatedly trying to contact me and also trying to manipulate me. Can't find the reason. Can you help me in this regards ?*
Many times they might tell you what you want to hear though. I would definitely suggest to bring it up, but keep looking at their actions and if they don't change their behavior, then reconsider the relationship.
Ismail I have a probleme white my frend we text now when it shoots him ans a day or 2 go's buy then he text again but in his text I feel that he think in stupid because he put word in my moth what I never said how I handel this
What does it mean when they talk about their ex physical appearance (when they describe her body) Sometimes, I feel they trust me a lot and that I won't be bother, but It does get awkward.
Secure men do pursue women but only the high self worth ones. They don’t chase the average women who don’t know their worth, be in their feminine energy and have little to nothing to offer.
That's a thought-provoking perspective. Secure men are often attracted to women who recognize their value and exude confidence, as that energy fosters a deeper connection.
@@SaveTheMessenger Yes, but there aren’t many secure men. I haven’t met any. Being secure means you’re very healed and mature. That’s a quality I haven’t seen much in the male collective.
I struggle how to bring up concerns and share worries about relationship with my bf without give him feeling of blaming, what to say and what avoid to say ,how to express it to make him understand? Would be great seeing video about these kind of things 🥹
Thanks to all of you that have subscribed to my channel.
It means a lot to me to see you want to learn about these topics.
In my twenties, I dated a guy who was emotionally distant however he didn't mind asking intrusive sexual questions whenever possible yet the relationship had little to no intimacy. He would talk about wanting marriage and children one day but took no action towards those things.
He's not ready or looking for a respectful relationship and paetnership. Don't waste your time babe
Actions speaker louder than words
Good point regarding number 4 on ghosting. At this stage of my life, I find it helpful to use this phrase as a mantra, “It didn’t happen to me, it happened for me…” which allows me to immediately shift my reaction and perspective on the situation.
It’s a very good analogy: film being ‘good’ but not good enough to want to see it again. If a woman wants an extraordinary man, she has to be extraordinary too, which means: she has to have a great feminine energy, confidence (despite all imperfections), interesting job, passions & hobbies & plans for the future, good relations with friends and family - it’s all far more important than all those superficial things such as being thin, wearing heavy make-up, wearing provocative clothes, having hair extensions, false nails or enhanced lips. Men want proper women, not human dolls.
what a relief to read this! ❤
I'm always worried that my natural appearance isn't enough, the way that men sometimes gawk at these lip filler BBL bleach hair girls ... not that I'm jealous of attention, just seems like, they get entranced with all that when the women are clearly insecure and toxic
then he wastes his time, money, and labels all women crazy after she turns out psycho. 🤦🏾♀️
The most beautiful look on a woman, in my opinion, is her natural self-especially when she’s just woken up. No makeup, no filters, no masks. There’s something special about that simple and raw beauty in the morning light.
I think part of the reason why so many women do surgery, and enhancement is simply because of the judgement of men and how they pit women against each other in terms of physical appearance. It irritates me to hear when men talk about a woman who is a 'smoke show' in instagram. It super cringy and tells me how super shallow a lot of men are. Like a lot. It's becoming a source of insecurity for a lot of woman who are not 'smoke shows'. And to be honest I'm surprised that they haven't figured out that the smoke show women on instagram don't wake up looking like that without the filters and heavy make up and editing.
Thanks! I now have your permission to reject when a man doesnt measure up.
Men are pretty demanding but bring nothing to the table.
As you said , Remember, your role is to support him , not to direct him.
This is very profound line .
It is very important to understand what is our role in his life instead behave like a mother because they will never understand our love until we don't understand our own worth .
Support = to be with him ✅
Direct = teach what he needs to do ❌🛑 😏😐
Thank you ismael for this valuable lesson ❤😊
Great breakdown of my statement. I'm glad you found it insightful.
There's a lot of dating coaches and gurus out there on the internet but something about Ismaels approach and the way he presents it is different. Can't put my finger on it but you're great!
Maybe is my Cuban accent haha I appreciate you for the kind words.
Thanks, Ismael. This information is a helpful reminder for us women to be emotionally aware of these behaviors in men so we spare ourselves from getting in too deep and getting hurt from a male who has not healed from his past and is not ready for a healthy relationship.
Rushing intimacy can also indicate that that's all they want from you..
You got that right.
You did it again! You hit it out the park ❤
He sure did 💪🏽🏆
Always get to learn! Even if it doesn't apply to me. Learning about life, like.
Reliability. 100%.
My number 1 criterium for choosing my inner circle.
And i hesitate zero to say goodbye to men that are flaky. Usually they want back though.
Thankyou Ismael ... I am learning alot from your educational videos.. I am into my 4th month of serious relationship.. at 52yrs young... generation X .. from Australia 🇦🇺 ♥️
How's the relationship going so far?
@SaveTheMessenger thankyou for asking Ismael. My relationship is doing well ☺️ becoming stronger 💪 👏. My partner is on deployment overseas at present and due to return in November 2024 for Christmas 🎄 and new years 😀.
We communicate very well and we are close in age. I value your advice on relationship tips... thankyou sincerely. From me in Australia 🇦🇺
Lovely. I hope it keeps flourishing.
Absolutely, this is the same how a woman is talking about her ex. I never talk bad things about him to others.
When we value the relationship, they take advantage and granted and moreover make us special all our money. Listening to both sides is an awesome way before judging
I've faced the same situation. It was my first love though his 4th 🙄 He tried to put me down by comparing with his exes. At the edge of my patience I told him to add me into that list. 💔
Now I'm suffering the third breakup remembering Neville's dialogue in Harry Potter
Ismael, I have a request! Can you make a video on handling conflicts and navigating undesirable situations in dating ? How to address something that borhers me without making it into an argument?
I wrote it down. Will try to address it in an upcoming video.
Men who chase you don't know how to keep you :)
Ismaël, can you advise on how to build the emotional connection before intimacy ? I just had a very good first date and we have plans for a second. We had very interesting conversation throughout. He kissed me before leaving which I wasn’t sure I was ready for, but I didn’t know how to avoid it. I’m fine with how it went, but I definitely want to see if we can build a connection before moving on to further intimacy. I’m thinking I might need a couple of months. I’ve never waited before, but I want to do this with him because we really connected in conversation and I am really seeking a solid connection with him.
Thank you so much for this video, exactly what i need to hear now, you are the best, Thank you, Thank you , Thank you
Hiii Ismael,
Thankk you for your informative video.
The books you recommended are outstanding. Please keep up the great work you are doing.
Thank you for the kind words. I'm glad you found the book recommendations helpful.
I have a crush on you Mr Ismail ❤️❤️
You and millions of other women!😅😂
@@mariaransone6501😂😂😂😂
Think we all do at this point ❤
Ladies, this is probsbely not so appropriet.
this format really suits me
Love is like cooking..some ingredients dont work together, but many do.
in cooking people blame the ingredients though
That’s a great analogy. In love, we can’t blame the ingredients, but we can work on how they mix together.
Bless you ❤
But why men don’t have the guts to say clearly they are not interested in us and instead they ghost us?
Great intro
love this
Thank you
Every time you introduce yourself, it took me multiple videos before I finally realized you are saying “…I am a coach, writer”. I thought you said “I’m a ghost writer”. May I suggest saying “I am a relationship coach and writer”. Just a clearer suggestion. Either way, truly appreciate your content.
ye true all points❤
Excellent
*Why men have cheating, betrayal mentality always for me can't understand. I don't mix up normally but many of repeatedly trying to contact me and also trying to manipulate me. Can't find the reason. Can you help me in this regards ?*
Yesh you need to support ur partner😊
Thanxs 😊
If you're feeling confused by his words or actions, don’t hesitate to ask for clarification. A direct conversation can often dispel uncertainty.
Many times they might tell you what you want to hear though. I would definitely suggest to bring it up, but keep looking at their actions and if they don't change their behavior, then reconsider the relationship.
best!!!
It breaks my heart to know that i was good enough for one time only not what he wants all the time
The universe is saving you time and directing you to the right person. Let it guide you.
@@SaveTheMessenger 🙏🏻💔 thank you
Ismail I have a probleme white my frend we text now when it shoots him ans a day or 2 go's buy then he text again but in his text I feel that he think in stupid because he put word in my moth what I never said how I handel this
What does it mean when they talk about their ex physical appearance (when they describe her body)
Sometimes, I feel they trust me a lot and that I won't be bother, but It does get awkward.
Big red flag.
Secure men do pursue women but only the high self worth ones. They don’t chase the average women who don’t know their worth, be in their feminine energy and have little to nothing to offer.
That's a thought-provoking perspective. Secure men are often attracted to women who recognize their value and exude confidence, as that energy fosters a deeper connection.
@@SaveTheMessenger Yes, but there aren’t many secure men. I haven’t met any. Being secure means you’re very healed and mature. That’s a quality I haven’t seen much in the male collective.
Thank you thank you thank you do you know God as well
Bit what if it's a small game, the guy courting the women " chasing " her for a while?
Ismael, where can I find a man like you please
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hallo coach advice us black ladies who are looking for white guys and not yet succeed
I struggle how to bring up concerns and share worries about relationship with my bf without give him feeling of blaming, what to say and what avoid to say ,how to express it to make him understand? Would be great seeing video about these kind of things 🥹