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Very informative and educative details, with regards to marriage and family. I am a living testimony of violence and abusive marriage, But i thank Jesus, that i managed to get out of that marriage , as of now i am so free despite restarting all over requires a lot of strength.
When a man realizes your fully submitted and you have surrendered everything your body,your life and even your mind, suddenly that man changes from a husband to a manipulator✌️✌️how can I like this statement a thousands times
Pastor T always blesses me.He has a wealth of knowledge.I be learnt not to never loose my vision and to know ones background influences one s life.Thanks Lynn for doing a wonderful job in all your interviews.
Thank you so much Lynn that was amazing am so encouraged, am watching from Dubai. Finally I will not kill my dreams I will go for it. One day when I visit Kenya will come over and share my story. Be blessed
Very informative. Very important to know well the partner you have decided to spend your life with in marriage. The greatest danger is to move in with a partner in a hurry not knowing 'who is this?". I've also captured the great importance of premarital counseling.
Whoever gave birth to this man literally gave us an inspiration that we who listen to him need. Guy oozes wisdom, teaches and breaks down concepts like no one else does.
1.Never kill your vision for someone's vision. 2.You can lose a husband but you cannot lose a dream. 3.You can always pick your pieces. 4.Dont empower someone to a point that they own you. 5.pursue marriage counselling first before you marry. Thanks Pastor T for such wisdom..God bless
I left my marriage and everyone said I was the problem. My mum asked me what was wrong and all I said was that 'Mum I do not have a broken leg or a black eye, but my heart and mind are bleeding'. My dad hugged me and told me 'Haujafukuzwa kwenu my girl'. I left with nothing but a suitcase for my child's clothes that were not even fitting her. I was jobless despite leaving a financially stable house. I struggled after that but I am now stable thanks to God's favor.
Lucky you,one of your parent's received you back ,some are hurting and nowhere to go back to.this life most parents are not ready to receive their children and grandkids back in their homes
@@gracewanjerikabuthia3810 I absolutely thank God. My parents have outdone themselves taking care of my baby girl too. I have a dad who can divert his drive to make sure he drops some snacks for his gradndaughter in Karatina where I live.
You just have lived with a covert narcissist who appear so good to the world but is a devil at home, the wounds are internal you bleed each day and feel weak by the day
I was once in a relationship that tormented me for 5 years I was in pain not even a doctor could help me but the moment I told Jesus to take charge of my life that’s when I forgot that man 👨 even today I just look back and laugh at myself
Me too i was tormented for 17yrs was admitted severally in big hospitals with migraine headaches n no one doctor realised I was in depression until i got the courage to call it quit 3yrs ago
I was also in a relationship for 10yrs,he used me and treated me badly am telling you couldn't see it,and was okay until he left me for another woman,and they even had a wedding but he still wanted to be with me,after 5yrs the lady left him, he came back begging and I took him back,he did the same for the second time,left me then came begging I took him back but now I decided last year that enough is enough now am happy I have forgiven him,
How I regret the years I wasted thinking that things were going to change ,but realised later and I walked out of abusive marriage and I don't regret being a single mom.
My take, as a woman it's OK to help your man to realize his dream, but carry along your brain. As he grows, grow yourself too..... Ndio akifika that level u match his level n status. Beware of the walking dead, narcissists, psychopaths n sociopaths. Be4 u marry close one eye in prayer.... Open the other one n watch real well.May God continue to use pastor T to impact our generation with Godly wisdom.
My ex husband always asked me that question.. "utaenda wapi💔💔💔😭😭😭😭" I thank God I was able to fall out of love and I moved out... 6years down the line, no communication no child help no nothing... I thank God I was able to move out 🙏🙏🙏
I have 2 kids one is 4 months the other one is 7 years but am trying to move out but I can't coz when I think of moving out I always think where will I start or where will I go
Man has a soul ,spirit and body....a soul has logic,emotions,gate of will(judgements,decisions),conscious,memory, subconscious(past archives it takes a conversation or a scent and the folder begins to open),senses(5 senses)...the soul activates the body into functionality ...every relationship has 3 levels logic(the talks,the promises,) it triggers the emotional bit and now decisions are made you begin to make memoirs etc...this creates deep rooted connections to it.....soul tie(tied in all of the above-logic,emotions,will,conscious,memory, subconscious) when you become too logical you become a sadist. In places where you are supposed to be empathetic you become a sissy When there is too much emotional attachment you begin to live out of fear and insecurities . When a man realizes you are fully submitted, he ceases from being a husband to being a manipulator. Maumau philosophy is where you shield you own growth for another,you shield your vision,your path for a man and then this guy get to a level and he leaves you for another Woman has a nature ,by virtue of the womb when she receives her husband vision she incubate it and moves with it..she fights for it sacrifices for it all ,the man succeeds and he begins to look for a woman of his level. Emotional surrender is leading many to an early grave!!!
One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don’t seem like abusers. They have many good qualities, including times of kindness, warmth, and humor, especially in the early period of a relationship. An abuser’s friends may think the world of him. He may have a successful work life and have no problems with drugs or alcohol. He may simply not fit anyone’s image of a cruel or intimidating person. So when a woman feels her relationship spinning out of control, it is unlikely to occur to her that her partner is an abuser. Lundy Bancroft
until last year Dec, I was facing exactly what pastor is talking about, there's a man I built his life by even taking him to college but later or, he found a nurse and rejected me with, I moved out and for real am healing day by day, thanks to God
What pastor has said is exactly what I went thro for seven good yrs in marriage. Unfortunately I have never seen somebody like pastor t to bring back to the world of pple. I thank God I managed to have separation at the early stage. This was another issue in the environment. I hadn't seen somebody who had separated before. For this reason I was in the world of my own. The only advantage I had is I ran for help in the church. Am a Catholic by faith. This was real hell on the earth. Church members could not easily accept me as a single mother. My hope lies on the word and also in future to come. What makes me going is to grasp that even St. Paul was never accepted by Jesus' apostles. This is not the point. Rejection was everywhere even at my own home and family. I had became a burden to pple whom you don't know. God is great. Thro his grace I decided to walk the of faith. Remember this does not require cowards. In short I had been in spiritual battle field not a play ground. When I separated I was a mother of two. 5 and one yr respectively. This another tough challenge than international acceptance. But I thank God my children now are grown up. 32 and 27. After listening to pastor I just feel I have come to senses. Forward ever backward never. There is hope in life. With the help of the church am aware that there is no summary in life. This is where my legs stand. The secret behind my achievement is letting God to be in the midst. This is not a simple joke. Without God's grace you can't make a step forward. This is where devil has laid his trap and also in future to come. Unless this trap is destroyed to my own thinking marriage will ever remain a very difficult institution. May pastor try to take us to this direction. Teach us how to deal with these traps. I have walked the talk but it is hard. Am still struggling with life since devil does not copy design. Now am fighting for my grandson not to follow that tread followed by her mother. The battle continues. Summary mean we are no longer in this world.
My dear...I hear you. I was so young when mine happened. I didn't know any 26 who was separated not in church or even family... It was such a lonely place, journey....if not for God....
@@sarahkawala imagine this is a world of your won. And the best place for devil to ruin your live. But God is love that today we have a testimony to give..
I left an abusive relationship 10 yrs ago and I was asked utaennda wapi na Nani atakupenda na watoto but I still left and I've moved on and very happy today nothing is impossible just courage and prayers 🙏🙏🙏
Pastor T is on another level of spiritual knowledge.. I really respect and appreciate the way he shares he's knowledge... 🙏💯Thank You Lean for your commitment and also for always making time to understand things in both ways.. Love you❤️
Been there. Like me or hate me I know what it is. For those who want to judge feel free to and enjoy every moment of it. 31 years and I got the strength and walked out. Now I am carrying a burden with the hope that God will see me through.
Am telling you I was also there,he kept blaming me for problems and everything I was the one at fault,he was proud and too arrogant and he didn't even care to help me with school fees but he would go out there and pay fees for friends and relatives,give them money while am struggling yet I was with,shouting was part of his life,
I am an introverted empath. I faced disappointing relationships until the Word of God empowered me plus knowledge about narcissism. I come of as ' weak' just because I am not combative or confrontational. So narcissist think I am an easy catch. When i get to spell out my boundaries and I am firm about them without drama, they just get confused and they fizzle out.
Tell me about this...ahahaha I am the same...read enough books on narcissism in spirituality it is pure demons..in real life we call it narcissistic personality disorder..all with the holy spirit can be healed through amending and healing your wounds and only Jesus christ our savior is capable
I love this pastor.He really breaks things well before even bringing the understanding.He makes it easy to learn the Bible and just fall inlove with the word.
Walked out of an abusive marriage. The guy made sure I had food and everything in the house but He had no time for me and my son. He could spend days alot of money entertaining his friends. I remember one day he called me to prepare to out for lunch simply because he had invited his friends. He could not even come upstairs to pick his son hata niharakishe. He valued friends and his siblings more than us. He could not defend me as his wife.funniest thing he never wanted me to leave. He could beat me but I had no where to go since I was jobless my people had abandoned me because I never listened to them. I really suffered I started ageing polepole bila kujua. Long story but I later on opened my 3rd eye. I'm now a happy wife full of brains meeen.
I stayed 2yrs in marriage and it felt like have been there for over 10yrs, now its been 9months since i left but the connection has been pushing me to go back but when i remember i was getting dipressed i give up. Thank you Lynn and Pator T for this piece it has made me change my thinking and perspective and focus more on my growth and wellbeing of my kid. May God keep expanding both of you.
How to break soul ties 1.Create new memories 2.say it by words,words create and words demolish 3.cut off communication -sympathy cards at play 4.Open another chapter 5.set the bridges on fire and pursue the dream 6.Never blame yourself,for a failed relationship even if it happened bse of you.Accept refocus,re-energize and move on.
I totally agree with pastor t ,i was in abusive marriage and everyone including my parents begged me to move out of it but I didn't listen to anyone among them until the time I called myself a meeting I found out that am so special without anyone in my life that was when I moved out and by God's grace am doing well despite the challenges,I started healing through Lynn ngugi show and by now am living my life and fighting my goals and I know I will make it
My father gives people money, shows off how he have money to the outside world, but his children cannot get anything from him bila matusi. Pastor Tee is talking sense here.
I wish my parents are listening to this because what he is talking about is literally happening in my family right now and it's emotional torturing me to a point I prefer staying at school rather than undergoing the emotional torture my mum is going through😥😥😥 please family pray for me for peace of mind and my family 🙏🙏 ❤️❤️
Life is spiritual.Tackle every aspect of life spiritually.Altars that speak against people s lives can be broken at any altar where Jesus is truly exalted.
When I just listen to this Super Man,I deeply feel hurt by the kind of a man that has shown me what life and death means,,I choose to be SINGLE until I make my mom and myself proud,until I touch and mend broken hearts,,I choose to be SINGLE..I can't ever wish to see any other Young lady cry every day with burdens in the heart,,it's easy to end a relationship but very hard to change my heart that I feel it's broken,tormented,tortured and betrayed😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔Dear men,pls show some humanity.May God touch your hearts and appreciate the presence of a woman..😭😭😭😭🙏🙏
Waoooo, he's speaking abt my Dad,he neglected us,out there he was so generous he even started paying school fees for strangers,pple thought he was the best person in the whole world
I totally agree at 45 most of us are divorcing......that's when you discover you were lost in his world,you had lost yourself taking care of kids,now they are young adults it's time you wake up from the dream n realize there is you.......men are so mean.He has described my husband exactly n I find him a narcissist,he has all the qualities of narcissist.
I would encourage young mother's/wife's to take a bold step n move,don't wait to get to 45 he won't just change,it gets worse.........I should have taken that bold step back then am now taking at 46 yrs.....
It’s my first time to see Pastor T am very impressed since am not an easy woman to be impressed with any Pastor to begin with this was a lovely talk I have learned a lot thank you Lynn and Pastor T ❤️🙏🏿
Thank you for the topic, praying for all sisters in abusive marriages to walk away why-list u are still k and be able to protect our kids, praying for our kids to marry at the right time and pray for a right person, don’t marry out of pressure from family or friends .
She is happily struggling for her children,,hustling for them she is 31.. Where do you think she will be in 5 years??? Comfortable having built a house for her babies and all stability that they need.
Very powerful MOG, I like don't kill your dreams because of a relationship, Marriage's of intercessors are failing, simply because you can't change a person, a man becoming a manipulator, utaenda wapi, so they can be abusive to you! The partner settled for what? Foundation matters are very important, what will people says if I walk out? I'm just sitted writing notes, May God help us to love ourselves as woman! I was in that situation until I walked out. I think now I'm free from satanic chain's in Jesus name Amen. Thank you MOG!
I learned a few good things. I am thankful to God for choosing my path. I have an incredible hubby but I could use major blessings for my kids. Pray for me and I’ll do the same .
I remember pastor saying that some deliverance needs participation... There was time I felt so bitter with myself after experiencing heartbrake but the time I came to self awareness, I went to my knees n stated praying for God to separate me from search a person n I can honestly say, today am strong n focusing with my life.
Thank you Pastor for speaking to me personally, this has guided me in my next decision, i will choose Christ first and take care of me!......Greetings and regards from Kampala - Uganda.
I've liked before watching it. This is going to be good. Saving it to watch in the evening after work. Thank you for bringing Pastor T to address this issue. There was defo a spiritual aspect to this lady's story as much as there was abuse of every other kind. God bless you Lynn. Also Congrats to you and your team for the award 👏 🙌 ❤
Thank you Lyn for bringing Pastor T to the show. Now I understand why abused women or men stay in toxic relationships. Thankyou Pastor T for the wisdom God has given you.I take home what causes domestic violence and how to identify the red flags
Thanks Lynn for bringing Pastor T's wisdom on this issue, this is so rich aki, so much profound information... I wish i heard this way way back, i gave it 18 years 😢if only i knew, i wasn't expected to lay my life for it.... Woi, lakini si church tells us thro thick and thin, that, it's God's idea? 😢.. i am grateful to God, am out of it... Not easy starting over but the peace is beyond words
Lemie grab my popcorns 🍿,juice ad a notebook 📓 📝 to take notes,Aki Lynn siku moja naona nikifukuzwa office when I see your notification I just leave everything ad login,Anyway am addicted to your show, only 2 day's we meet one on one,expect my warm ad big hug 🫂 🤗
Wow thanks Mr T.. break up break out and move on..yes we have to burn bridges and move on, na enyewe ukipenda mtu ki ufala ata hio akili ya kufikiria haunanga😅..i can remember i was in a toxic relationship some time back😢i was deep in depression tried to kill myself and it never happened😪i just imagn if i died waht could have become of my daughter.. I thank God i moved on..better a broken relationship than marriage
Reading through these comments today made me realize that it's not over for me. I have been hurting for 2 years after being in a toxic relationship with a man who beat me, cheat on me, impregnated a lady and walked over me. I was only 19.To date, I'm still deeply hurting.
It's like talking about me throughout the talk. 19yrs of a abuse marriage. By God 's grace I beaten like a dog while still weak with breastfeeding my last born. That's when I my mind overruled my heart.
I can relate , I have been through it , tried belittling myself to his level until I lost myself, 10 years 2 children later , I am trying to find myself, God help me
Wah!!This guy is full of wisdom..May God come through for all those spouses who had to make that hard decision of starting all over again!To those spouses who tormented their partners after being successful,may you never know peace!Only God will judge you. Thanks Lynn for bringing Pastor T!
For Sure Pst. T, you're not just Born, but you're brought out as a Solution, the generations and Nations, want. I can't imagine neither regret having known you, Glory to God🙌🙌🙌
Wow.This pastor is talking the truth.i am a woman who has gone all through what he is talking about.i am hustling in saudi Arabia after being left with 4kids n he went to look for a young gal.
It's been one year since this was aired, but I watch it today, and I'm so much empowered now, and I will never kill my vision for someone else. I walked out of my marriage of six years, and now it is almost three years since, and I'm happy because I'm picking up the pieces. Thank you, Pastor T. Thank you, lynn. I'm blessed 🙌 😇 🙏
May God's Grace abound in your life Pastor T. May lack never locate you... Lack of knowledge, lack of wisdom, lack of finances, lack of peace, lack of love... Never locate you or your own.
I'm thank God. I tell mother's don't let our children be affected in the marriage. by now I'm single mum I left marriage when I saw my husband didn't like to take responsibility of kids.
What a great show 👏I’ve learnt a lot and appreciate all the points that Pastor T has underlined. Give me Pastor T and TD Jakes as brilliant mentors. Life's a university that'll teach you lessons, regardless of your desire to pass the “class” or not, there is always something else to learn. -TD Jakes
OMG....Lynn thank you for bringing Pastor T. Pastor T this is powerful. I pray that every man and woman listens to this message. Please write a book Pastor T. This information is too valuable to keep.
So much blessed and have learnt alot concerning my childhood background that I can never wish to see it in my generation to come.much blessings Lynn and Pst T for opening our eyes.
The knowledge pastor tee carries to God all the glory... God is raising a generation that refuse to compromise at all cost... alove pastor tee and we blessed by you... You made me know who iam to God... Umenifindisha Bible since 2020 mpaka Leo and am loving this journey... Forever God bless you
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Very informative and educative details, with regards to marriage and family.
I am a living testimony of violence and abusive marriage, But i thank Jesus, that i managed to get out of that marriage , as of now i am so free despite restarting all over requires a lot of strength.
Lynn l need to share my story
Too much wisdom from Pastor T Mwangi
Hi Lynn,please hook me up with a professional marriage counselor
Thank you Lynn 💞....I have learnt alot
When a man realizes your fully submitted and you have surrendered everything your body,your life and even your mind, suddenly that man changes from a husband to a manipulator✌️✌️how can I like this statement a thousands times
I see myself...i was in that position
@@catherinenyamburamaina6701 few will understand
He has absolutely spoken the truth and if they fail to manipulate they looks for another prey. Claiming you are rude... Sadists nature
@@catherinenyamburamaina6701 glad you are free.
This is very true.
Again he is back on the show❤ Wapi likes za Pst Tee
Pastor T always blesses me.He has a wealth of knowledge.I be learnt not to never loose my vision and to know ones background influences one s life.Thanks Lynn for doing a wonderful job in all your interviews.
I have learnt to never
Thank you so much Lynn that was amazing am so encouraged, am watching from Dubai. Finally I will not kill my dreams I will go for it.
One day when I visit Kenya will come over and share my story. Be blessed
Likes za pst T hizi hapa
Very informative. Very important to know well the partner you have decided to spend your life with in marriage. The greatest danger is to move in with a partner in a hurry not knowing 'who is this?". I've also captured the great importance of premarital counseling.
Whoever gave birth to this man literally gave us an inspiration that we who listen to him need. Guy oozes wisdom, teaches and breaks down concepts like no one else does.
True
This man is blessed annointed by God's love wisdom knowledge and everything holu
This man of God is full of wisdom
You have put it perfectly my friend
He is very mature indeed.a role model
1.Never kill your vision for someone's vision.
2.You can lose a husband but you cannot lose a dream.
3.You can always pick your pieces.
4.Dont empower someone to a point that they own you.
5.pursue marriage counselling first before you marry.
Thanks Pastor T for such wisdom..God bless
🔥🔥💞
Very good summary
Wow great wisdom l haven't heard anything so profoundly true.Pastor keep going.
Wisdom 💯
5 . You need to think and feel, because you need knowledge and make decisions.
I left my marriage and everyone said I was the problem. My mum asked me what was wrong and all I said was that 'Mum I do not have a broken leg or a black eye, but my heart and mind are bleeding'. My dad hugged me and told me 'Haujafukuzwa kwenu my girl'. I left with nothing but a suitcase for my child's clothes that were not even fitting her. I was jobless despite leaving a financially stable house. I struggled after that but I am now stable thanks to God's favor.
Hugs mami🤗 God bless your parents for welcoming you back home.
Lucky you,one of your parent's received you back ,some are hurting and nowhere to go back to.this life most parents are not ready to receive their children and grandkids back in their homes
@@JanohParis thank you...sending them to my daughter too
@@gracewanjerikabuthia3810 I absolutely thank God. My parents have outdone themselves taking care of my baby girl too. I have a dad who can divert his drive to make sure he drops some snacks for his gradndaughter in Karatina where I live.
You just have lived with a covert narcissist who appear so good to the world but is a devil at home, the wounds are internal you bleed each day and feel weak by the day
I was once in a relationship that tormented me for 5 years I was in pain not even a doctor could help me but the moment I told Jesus to take charge of my life that’s when I forgot that man 👨 even today I just look back and laugh at myself
Wow
Me too i was tormented for 17yrs was admitted severally in big hospitals with migraine headaches n no one doctor realised I was in depression until i got the courage to call it quit 3yrs ago
God is good
I was also in a relationship for 10yrs,he used me and treated me badly am telling you couldn't see it,and was okay until he left me for another woman,and they even had a wedding but he still wanted to be with me,after 5yrs the lady left him, he came back begging and I took him back,he did the same for the second time,left me then came begging I took him back but now I decided last year that enough is enough now am happy I have forgiven him,
Me too , 8 years
How I regret the years I wasted thinking that things were going to change ,but realised later and I walked out of abusive marriage and I don't regret being a single mom.
My take, as a woman it's OK to help your man to realize his dream, but carry along your brain. As he grows, grow yourself too..... Ndio akifika that level u match his level n status. Beware of the walking dead, narcissists, psychopaths n sociopaths. Be4 u marry close one eye in prayer.... Open the other one n watch real well.May God continue to use pastor T to impact our generation with Godly wisdom.
My ex husband always asked me that question.. "utaenda wapi💔💔💔😭😭😭😭" I thank God I was able to fall out of love and I moved out... 6years down the line, no communication no child help no nothing... I thank God I was able to move out 🙏🙏🙏
i once was asked that question and i said "the world belongs to God and everything in it thereof"... i never heard that question to date
Me too. Utaenda wapi, you have no job, no savings and you have a child.
I have 2 kids one is 4 months the other one is 7 years but am trying to move out but I can't coz when I think of moving out I always think where will I start or where will I go
this man is God sent for sure, the way he preaches it's on another level, big up pastor T
Agree
super intelligent
Leave that abusive relationship. And the only time you should ever look back, is to see how far you have come.
Man has a soul ,spirit and body....a soul has logic,emotions,gate of will(judgements,decisions),conscious,memory, subconscious(past archives it takes a conversation or a scent and the folder begins to open),senses(5 senses)...the soul activates the body into functionality ...every relationship has 3 levels logic(the talks,the promises,) it triggers the emotional bit and now decisions are made you begin to make memoirs etc...this creates deep rooted connections to it.....soul tie(tied in all of the above-logic,emotions,will,conscious,memory, subconscious)
when you become too logical you become a sadist. In places where you are supposed to be empathetic you become a sissy
When there is too much emotional attachment you begin to live out of fear and insecurities .
When a man realizes you are fully submitted, he ceases from being a husband to being a manipulator.
Maumau philosophy is where you shield you own growth for another,you shield your vision,your path for a man and then this guy get to a level and he leaves you for another Woman has a nature ,by virtue of the womb when she receives her husband vision she incubate it and moves with it..she fights for it sacrifices for it all ,the man succeeds and he begins to look for a woman of his level.
Emotional surrender is leading many to an early grave!!!
This is one of those episodes we have to watch with a book and pen at hand
My dear...
I listened to it the first time.
Then am back to it again with a pen...
Have shared it with every girl/woman I know...
Like what am doing now
Agree with you
One of the obstacles to recognizing chronic mistreatment in relationships is that most abusive men simply don’t seem like abusers. They have many good qualities, including times of kindness, warmth, and humor, especially in the early period of a relationship. An abuser’s friends may think the world of him. He may have a successful work life and have no problems with drugs or alcohol. He may simply not fit anyone’s image of a cruel or intimidating person. So when a woman feels her relationship spinning out of control, it is unlikely to occur to her that her partner is an abuser.
Lundy Bancroft
This is so true
You have nailed it.
The accuracy 👌🏾
Agree with you 100%
So very true
When I see you Lynn I see our Kenyan Oprah, keep winning & impacting people's lives ❤️❤️❤️
This is fantastic Lyn keep it up
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💕 ♥️ 💜 for u Lynn ...u have a big heart
May God reward u
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until last year Dec, I was facing exactly what pastor is talking about, there's a man I built his life by even taking him to college but later or, he found a nurse and rejected me with, I moved out and for real am healing day by day, thanks to God
Pastor T describes NARCISSISTS vs EMPATHS perfectly 🙂👍🏼
Yes please.
Majority of African man are hardcore narcissists period
What pastor has said is exactly what I went thro for seven good yrs in marriage. Unfortunately I have never seen somebody like pastor t to bring back to the world of pple. I thank God I managed to have separation at the early stage. This was another issue in the environment. I hadn't seen somebody who had separated before. For this reason I was in the world of my own. The only advantage I had is I ran for help in the church. Am a Catholic by faith. This was real hell on the earth. Church members could not easily accept me as a single mother. My hope lies on the word and also in future to come. What makes me going is to grasp that even St. Paul was never accepted by Jesus' apostles. This is not the point. Rejection was everywhere even at my own home and family. I had became a burden to pple whom you don't know. God is great. Thro his grace I decided to walk the of faith. Remember this does not require cowards. In short I had been in spiritual battle field not a play ground. When I separated I was a mother of two. 5 and one yr respectively. This another tough challenge than international acceptance. But I thank God my children now are grown up. 32 and 27. After listening to pastor I just feel I have come to senses. Forward ever backward never. There is hope in life. With the help of the church am aware that there is no summary in life. This is where my legs stand. The secret behind my achievement is letting God to be in the midst. This is not a simple joke. Without God's grace you can't make a step forward. This is where devil has laid his trap and also in future to come. Unless this trap is destroyed to my own thinking marriage will ever remain a very difficult institution. May pastor try to take us to this direction. Teach us how to deal with these traps. I have walked the talk but it is hard. Am still struggling with life since devil does not copy design. Now am fighting for my grandson not to follow that tread followed by her mother. The battle continues. Summary mean we are no longer in this world.
Hugs my darling.
Am catholic... I must say we had a gap somewhere but it is being bridged
@@martharinebiseko1457 Yes, the whole mystery is in this bridge. Everything has got a cost and this is where the battle is laid. Devil is not a lad.
My dear...I hear you.
I was so young when mine happened. I didn't know any 26 who was separated not in church or even family...
It was such a lonely place, journey....if not for God....
@@sarahkawala imagine this is a world of your won. And the best place for devil to ruin your live. But God is love that today we have a testimony to give..
I left an abusive relationship 10 yrs ago and I was asked utaennda wapi na Nani atakupenda na watoto but I still left and I've moved on and very happy today nothing is impossible just courage and prayers 🙏🙏🙏
Hi Evelyn naeza kupata aje
We need a group. Left 2 months ago
Going strong 3yrs out....after staying for 13 yrs!!!!! No man can love or live with u.....weeeeh am so peaceful now.
This man changed my life back in 2020
Emen
Keep winning sir
@@wambuialice5987 thankyou...God used him to help me break the bondages of sexual imorlarity now next month will be 2yrs of pure and celibate life
@@evalyneogutu6271 amen
Glory to God!!
Ile concentration mi huweka kwa hii channel ata kwa shule skuwa nayo... this is a true Manuel for all rounds of Life 🥰
Pastor T is on another level of spiritual knowledge.. I really respect and appreciate the way he shares he's knowledge... 🙏💯Thank You Lean for your commitment and also for always making time to understand things in both ways.. Love you❤️
Been there. Like me or hate me I know what it is. For those who want to judge feel free to and enjoy every moment of it. 31 years and I got the strength and walked out. Now I am carrying a burden with the hope that God will see me through.
Am telling you I was also there,he kept blaming me for problems and everything I was the one at fault,he was proud and too arrogant and he didn't even care to help me with school fees but he would go out there and pay fees for friends and relatives,give them money while am struggling yet I was with,shouting was part of his life,
You are not a lone, keep praying
God of mercy will visit you
You go Christine! 👏
Hugs darling.
May the Lord provide for you sweetie
My take home:
Do not kill your vision
Never kill your vision for someone's Vision 👌🏿👌🏿🙏🏻
Yeah
I am an introverted empath. I faced disappointing relationships until the Word of God empowered me plus knowledge about narcissism. I come of as ' weak' just because I am not combative or confrontational. So narcissist think I am an easy catch. When i get to spell out my boundaries and I am firm about them without drama, they just get confused and they fizzle out.
I relate
Tell me about this...ahahaha I am the same...read enough books on narcissism in spirituality it is pure demons..in real life we call it narcissistic personality disorder..all with the holy spirit can be healed through amending and healing your wounds and only Jesus christ our savior is capable
Breaking up is part of life and Moving on is part of life. This is lovely.
Words full of wisdom from the Man of God.
Whenever it see Pastor T on set I know it's time to gain wisdom 💯
3 minutes with Pastor T is equivalent to reading a book
I love this pastor.He really breaks things well before even bringing the understanding.He makes it easy to learn the Bible and just fall inlove with the word.
Walked out of an abusive marriage. The guy made sure I had food and everything in the house but He had no time for me and my son. He could spend days alot of money entertaining his friends.
I remember one day he called me to prepare to out for lunch simply because he had invited his friends. He could not even come upstairs to pick his son hata niharakishe. He valued friends and his siblings more than us. He could not defend me as his wife.funniest thing he never wanted me to leave. He could beat me but I had no where to go since I was jobless my people had abandoned me because I never listened to them. I really suffered I started ageing polepole bila kujua.
Long story but I later on opened my 3rd eye.
I'm now a happy wife full of brains meeen.
This is my exact story 😢
Wah this is my story top
" Its okay to walk out and create new memories" A very enlightening show. I'm just smiling at the wisdom being oozed here. Thanks Lynn and Pastor T.
Same here
When I watched the lady give her story,the only thing I thought was "pastor T I hope you're watching and come to her aid" thank God.
I just admire Pst. Tee's consistency in spiritual matters. Live long MOG.
I stayed 2yrs in marriage and it felt like have been there for over 10yrs, now its been 9months since i left but the connection has been pushing me to go back but when i remember i was getting dipressed i give up. Thank you Lynn and Pator T for this piece it has made me change my thinking and perspective and focus more on my growth and wellbeing of my kid. May God keep expanding both of you.
How to break soul ties
1.Create new memories
2.say it by words,words create and words demolish
3.cut off communication -sympathy cards at play
4.Open another chapter
5.set the bridges on fire and pursue the dream
6.Never blame yourself,for a failed relationship even if it happened bse of you.Accept refocus,re-energize and move on.
I stayed in an abusive marriage for 20yrs and it was not easy coming out of it.i thank God He's faithful
I totally agree with pastor t ,i was in abusive marriage and everyone including my parents begged me to move out of it but I didn't listen to anyone among them until the time I called myself a meeting I found out that am so special without anyone in my life that was when I moved out and by God's grace am doing well despite the challenges,I started healing through Lynn ngugi show and by now am living my life and fighting my goals and I know I will make it
My father gives people money, shows off how he have money to the outside world, but his children cannot get anything from him bila matusi. Pastor Tee is talking sense here.
Kwani ni twin brothers na my dad? nalipia my siblings school fees n a niko na my kids also na dad anafanya kazi but hashughuli
Eish so sad
My husband too will give people money and support friends while his own child is suffering
I tap into the grace of moving on. Abundance is my portion, increase is my portion
I wish my parents are listening to this because what he is talking about is literally happening in my family right now and it's emotional torturing me to a point I prefer staying at school rather than undergoing the emotional torture my mum is going through😥😥😥 please family pray for me for peace of mind and my family 🙏🙏 ❤️❤️
Praying with you. Send your mum the link you never know.
@@svkn6785 i will mummy
Praying for you talk to your mum to seek help also connect to pastor mwangi
God watch over you and your family.
Praying for your situation...some decisions are hard to make. Be patient
I stayed in an abusive marriage for almost 20 yrs am glad I left now mending the broken pieces
Hugs
Hugs me 22 years I can't imagine now out is 3 years am greaful to GOD
This man is always on another level spiritually . Nowadays am addicted to his teaching and my life has changed a lot.
Listen also to Kevin L A Ewing of Bahamas.
@@maureenkakungi4674 let me listen to him and thank you for recommending
Hugs dear you're a super woman let yourself out of that cage of vengeance and let go of them that hurt you your peace your priority
For sure in this journey pastor T has been my mentor...listening to him makes me understand the bible
Me too..he opened my spirit eyes concerning the Bible. I get it completely. God bless him 🙏🏾
Life is spiritual.Tackle every aspect of life spiritually.Altars that speak against people s lives can be broken at any altar where Jesus is truly exalted.
Amen
When I just listen to this Super Man,I deeply feel hurt by the kind of a man that has shown me what life and death means,,I choose to be SINGLE until I make my mom and myself proud,until I touch and mend broken hearts,,I choose to be SINGLE..I can't ever wish to see any other Young lady cry every day with burdens in the heart,,it's easy to end a relationship but very hard to change my heart that I feel it's broken,tormented,tortured and betrayed😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔Dear men,pls show some humanity.May God touch your hearts and appreciate the presence of a woman..😭😭😭😭🙏🙏
Its like I have sat in a class for an hour lecture without feeling bored listening to this gentleman.
Pastor thanks so much for your time.
I love his teaching especially this one: nature has a way of balancing us, nobody will enter in a mortuary with clothes we shall all enter naked......
Waoooo, he's speaking abt my Dad,he neglected us,out there he was so generous he even started paying school fees for strangers,pple thought he was the best person in the whole world
I totally agree at 45 most of us are divorcing......that's when you discover you were lost in his world,you had lost yourself taking care of kids,now they are young adults it's time you wake up from the dream n realize there is you.......men are so mean.He has described my husband exactly n I find him a narcissist,he has all the qualities of narcissist.
I would encourage young mother's/wife's to take a bold step n move,don't wait to get to 45 he won't just change,it gets worse.........I should have taken that bold step back then am now taking at 46 yrs.....
This pastor is on another level,the level of wisdom,encouragement,power is too much.He truly blessed me.
Thanks a lot for doing this.Be blessed.
It’s my first time to see Pastor T am very impressed since am not an easy woman to be impressed with any Pastor to begin with this was a lovely talk I have learned a lot thank you Lynn and Pastor T ❤️🙏🏿
Thank you for the topic, praying for all sisters in abusive marriages to walk away why-list u are still k and be able to protect our kids, praying for our kids to marry at the right time and pray for a right person, don’t marry out of pressure from family or friends .
I left after 19 years in marriage, never looked backed,I have mine peace,God is always faithful.
I ran out of an abusive marriage but now am struggling as a single mum happily. I have 3 kids at 31
So?what's ur point?regret?
She is happily struggling for her children,,hustling for them she is 31.. Where do you think she will be in 5 years??? Comfortable having built a house for her babies and all stability that they need.
@@angecynthia347 that's it
@@nancychege3726 I bet u r a student here
Thanx for moving forward.
Hugs
Walked out after 10 years no regret thanking God for the sufficient Grace
Very powerful MOG, I like don't kill your dreams because of a relationship, Marriage's of intercessors are failing, simply because you can't change a person, a man becoming a manipulator, utaenda wapi, so they can be abusive to you! The partner settled for what? Foundation matters are very important, what will people says if I walk out? I'm just sitted writing notes, May God help us to love ourselves as woman! I was in that situation until I walked out. I think now I'm free from satanic chain's in Jesus name Amen. Thank you MOG!
I learned a few good things. I am thankful to God for choosing my path. I have an incredible hubby but I could use major blessings for my kids. Pray for me and I’ll do the same .
Thank you Lynn for bringing a pastor who is objective.leave alone those who judge and encourage victims to preserve even when dying
Pastor T is the Kevin L A Ewing of Kenya.Am blessed by his teachings.
I remember pastor saying that some deliverance needs participation...
There was time I felt so bitter with myself after experiencing heartbrake but the time I came to self awareness, I went to my knees n stated praying for God to separate me from search a person n I can honestly say, today am strong n focusing with my life.
Thank you Pastor for speaking to me personally, this has guided me in my next decision, i will choose Christ first and take care of me!......Greetings and regards from Kampala - Uganda.
I've liked before watching it.
This is going to be good. Saving it to watch in the evening after work.
Thank you for bringing Pastor T to address this issue. There was defo a spiritual aspect to this lady's story as much as there was abuse of every other kind. God bless you Lynn.
Also Congrats to you and your team for the award 👏 🙌 ❤
Thank you Lyn for bringing Pastor T to the show.
Now I understand why abused women or men stay in toxic relationships.
Thankyou Pastor T for the wisdom God has given you.I take home what causes domestic violence and how to identify the red flags
I generally stop everything am doing just to listen to wisdom from this great man....thank you lynn for bringong pastor T to your show...
Thanks Lynn for bringing Pastor T's wisdom on this issue, this is so rich aki, so much profound information... I wish i heard this way way back, i gave it 18 years 😢if only i knew, i wasn't expected to lay my life for it.... Woi, lakini si church tells us thro thick and thin, that, it's God's idea? 😢.. i am grateful to God, am out of it... Not easy starting over but the peace is beyond words
Lemie grab my popcorns 🍿,juice ad a notebook 📓 📝 to take notes,Aki Lynn siku moja naona nikifukuzwa office when I see your notification I just leave everything ad login,Anyway am addicted to your show, only 2 day's we meet one on one,expect my warm ad big hug 🫂 🤗
Wow thanks Mr T.. break up break out and move on..yes we have to burn bridges and move on, na enyewe ukipenda mtu ki ufala ata hio akili ya kufikiria haunanga😅..i can remember i was in a toxic relationship some time back😢i was deep in depression tried to kill myself and it never happened😪i just imagn if i died waht could have become of my daughter.. I thank God i moved on..better a broken relationship than marriage
Reading through these comments today made me realize that it's not over for me. I have been hurting for 2 years after being in a toxic relationship with a man who beat me, cheat on me, impregnated a lady and walked over me. I was only 19.To date, I'm still deeply hurting.
Am curious. Why did you feel that you needed marriage at 19? At that age many kids don't even know what they want in life, leave alone a marriage.
Am sorry about it. Now you are wiser all the best
when you're living for something big, some things become small..wisdom on another level
It's like talking about me throughout the talk. 19yrs of a abuse marriage. By God 's grace I beaten like a dog while still weak with breastfeeding my last born. That's when I my mind overruled my heart.
This Pastor has officially become my favorite pastor in Kenya. Learned so much. Thank you for speaking against abusive relationship
Mine too
While some advice you to turn the other cheek, most abuser hide in churches😢
This is meant for me, see am crying while listening,, it's all about what i went through..
Imagine for me I would cry so that he would give me money
Hugs
I hope you are now making new memories. Sending God's love and grace your way.
I can relate , I have been through it , tried belittling myself to his level until I lost myself, 10 years 2 children later , I am trying to find myself, God help me
You are not alone he got an international job and he changed I was left for someone else aaaai
tuko wengi be encouraged
Tuko wengi mama,may God give us strength
Yes, there are dream killers in the name of husbands
Hugs.
Now that you realised it.. You are healing already
Wah!!This guy is full of wisdom..May God come through for all those spouses who had to make that hard decision of starting all over again!To those spouses who tormented their partners after being successful,may you never know peace!Only God will judge you.
Thanks Lynn for bringing Pastor T!
This is my first time to listen to pastor T and from my experience ( having gone through it), i totally agree with what he says....
I got married at the age of 15 got 3 children,after years of manipulation and narcissistic I quited
Congrats my dear
Nawe niwakite tene
For Sure Pst. T, you're not just Born, but you're brought out as a Solution, the generations and Nations, want. I can't imagine neither regret having known you, Glory to God🙌🙌🙌
Learning the difference between love and obsession is key. People in love will walk away with difficulty, obsessed people will not imagine leaving.
Wow.This pastor is talking the truth.i am a woman who has gone all through what he is talking about.i am hustling in saudi Arabia after being left with 4kids n he went to look for a young gal.
TO start with CONGRATULATIONS @Lynnngugi, it was well deserved and keep soaring baby girl😍😍😍
It's been one year since this was aired, but I watch it today, and I'm so much empowered now, and I will never kill my vision for someone else. I walked out of my marriage of six years, and now it is almost three years since, and I'm happy because I'm picking up the pieces. Thank you, Pastor T. Thank you, lynn. I'm blessed 🙌 😇 🙏
Wow, this was me for 23 years in a marriage. Yes! but I finally got out.
Waaa…thay was really a long time
13 years but i finally left
I can not stop listening to this pastor he is real Real talk He is really An educationor.
Pastor T wisdom is on another level 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥just learnt something that will never be taught in class
Love that part 'when she becomes ua woman she carries ua vision it becomes her burden' 😍😍
Wow this is powerful...Thanks Lyn for bringing Pastor T he has really helped me understand my case better through this episode.🙏
*42:10* *The replacement part its very common and real. That touched me and I felt sorry for most people out here.*
May God's Grace abound in your life Pastor T. May lack never locate you... Lack of knowledge, lack of wisdom, lack of finances, lack of peace, lack of love... Never locate you or your own.
I'm thank God. I tell mother's don't let our children be affected in the marriage. by now I'm single mum I left marriage when I saw my husband didn't like to take responsibility of kids.
Thanks for bringing back Pastor T, I treasure his teachings so so much! May God bless you Lynn and also the Man of God.
Thank u pastor T,u have said a mouthfull.Hevthinks all is well.
Pastor T is our own Dr Myles Munroe. He is a teacher indeed. More grace to you sir.
What a great show 👏I’ve learnt a lot and appreciate all the points that Pastor T has underlined. Give me Pastor T and TD Jakes as brilliant mentors.
Life's a university that'll teach you lessons, regardless of your desire to pass the “class” or not, there is always something else to learn. -TD Jakes
Very true
Pastor T thank you for elaborating this with the simplest words that are well understood thank you again Lynn you are an Angel from heaven
Pastor T oozes wisdom. We are learning great lessons.
OMG....Lynn thank you for bringing Pastor T. Pastor T this is powerful. I pray that every man and woman listens to this message. Please write a book Pastor T. This information is too valuable to keep.
But he has
So much blessed and have learnt alot concerning my childhood background that I can never wish to see it in my generation to come.much blessings Lynn and Pst T for opening our eyes.
How comprehensively and articulated can we get into this subject of soul ties. God bless you Pastor T.
Pastor Tee always saying the truth 🙌 a man can leave his family without food and go pay rent to a mpango wa kando.
The knowledge pastor tee carries to God all the glory... God is raising a generation that refuse to compromise at all cost... alove pastor tee and we blessed by you... You made me know who iam to God... Umenifindisha Bible since 2020 mpaka Leo and am loving this journey... Forever God bless you
Seeing pastor T in the house, let me watch, I know I've to learn something, thanks Lynn