I deleted dating apps and joined a new social circle, where I have met people offline and hit it off as a friend first. I met my girlfriend at a French language class. Best decision in my life.
Lmao. I guarantee you she continues to use social media to triangulate your relationship. This is effectively cheating since it’s her continuing to seek validation, attention, and approval that she should be trying to earn from you.
@cassl14 GABAergic drugs see a much better effect with alcoholism. An opioid antagonist does work slightly in the case of alcohol dependency, as it blocks the endogenous opioids released from drinking.
And why not just watch porn and beat off like a god damn decent human being!!! And as an addict myself you just have to decide you want to quit and quit....
This is depressing, long are the days when we had long lasting friendships. Now everything is about money and looks, no wonder 70% will end up miserable!
I fell in love with a guy who I’d been friends with for a year, he was from an opposite background to me, things happened he made the first move told me he wanted me, when I was ready to tell him my feelings he told me “ real men don’t speak about feelings” later that meant feelings for me. I was prepared for him to meet my family invite him into my mum and dad’s ex council flat where he was from a gold standard suburb, but a few days past and a guy who had a second job working with my first love told me he started a relationship with a women at his work. I was heart broken and acted out in the worst kind of ways. It’s taken over a decade for me to get him out my life, but of all the things I miss more than anything is the friendship we had the times we spent playing pooling going to the cinema then randomly bumping into each other and then going for drinks. I just can’t seem to find that these days. I’ve found dating apps pretty toxic. I read profiles from men stating what they won’t and they seem decisive, I write what I’m looking for I.e cutting the crap after having so many guys state “ looking for something casual” I.e sex I get told I come across angry but it’s the double standard a guy can write what he’s looking for no time wasters but a women does it she’s angry. But like you I wish I could go back to the days of getting to know someone than rather this ok get back on the apps agains.
People want real connections, but they are afraid of it. I saw/read so many articles and movies about some crazy creeps talking to women in coffee shops or streets or even dance classes that I am afraid to be perceived as one. So I can either spend my time on Tinder or be alone. And Tinder is designed to keep you engaged and not help you find love of your life. What do you see after match ? "Send Message or Keep Swiping - maybe there is somebody better for you out there.
@@RobertMagier With all due respect don't always pay attention to what the media prints they make money from keeping people in a state of fear. I talk to men in real life everyday, I don't consider them creeps. I recently got chatting to a lovely guy we bonded over a shared love of existentialism and the universe at large, which then lead to meeting his fiance and opening up in to their circle of friends as well. I don't nor will ever use online, being an INFJ I find connection through eye contact and body language and conversation that does not feel stilted. I am at a time of my life where I am rediscovering who I am so "love" and all its trimming as nice as it would be, to be honest I would settel for companionship and hugs. I go in to every interaction as an opportunity to make a new friend, nothing more.
I agree, but it seems women are too shy to approach me, they'll orbit around me but not approach me. I can't ask them out because that's sexual harassement so I'm really just waiting for them to ask me out
@@blackpillsamsam6940 sadly the archiac dating laws still abide and women still want to be approached, its sad that if a man comes to say hi its viewed as sexual harrassment based only on a hello.
@@blackpillsamsam6940 nah bro just talk to them, if they don't want to be asked out they'll let you know. Nobody's gunna call you a creep for you asking them out, they might not be interested, but all girls who have rejected me were pretty cool with it. Most girls are pretty cool, and those who aren't are struggling a lot more than you socially, trust me xD
I miss the good old days, when we had diminished ability to meet people outside of our normal social circles, had little information about someone's personality before initiating an interaction with them and we all just ended up in unhappy marriages with people from our hometowns.
I got off all the dating sites. This video just proves how folks arent looking for anything other than instant gratification and ego boosts with no intention of actual connection. Instead I hired a match maker. So far it's been better for me anyway
Apparently I'm living under a massive rock, because being a young person I do not have facebook, instagram, nor have I ever used any of the dating apps mentioned. I just refuse to be treated like a piece of meat.
Johnny Bravo Same here. I've heard couple of times that there's either something wrong with me or I have something to hide. Snapchat I don't understand because I like to enjoy the moment not to whip out my phone and record things. I don't feel the need to broadcast my life on Facebook either. I am a very private person and people don't seem to understand that, just immediately think 'she's weird'. As for the dating apps, I don't feel the need to be rated like a product on a shelf based solely on my looks or ability to take a pretty picture. Meeting people in real life, that's all I need. If someone wants to get to know me and keep in touch then they'll find a way without all this social media circus.
@@BiTe-Me A couple of my friends from uni have like 500+ friends on facebook, yet they only talk to about 5-6 people in real life. I feel like most people who constantly use social media apps like instagram or snapchat are insecure and need people's validation to feel appreciated. Most of them live in a virtual world, spending hours on their phones and not and not building real connections.
Don't pay for these apps. That's how you limit your time on them. When I run out of likes I move on for the day. As a matter of fact, I think Facebook and Instagram should have a time limit on their usage. It would change our society for the better.
I don't get how these people don't meet potential partners through work, through social activities, mutual friends etc - they all pass those opportunities aside. I think the problem with dating apps like these is that they make people greedy for more, they see how many people use the sites, they get constant 'matches' and it feeds our egos. There's an idea that there's always someone better out there and once you get into that mind frame you'll never be happy with anyone :/
Yes it does corrupt people, even the ones who truly want something meaningful. And the paradox of choice.. But living in a big city, you can end up not having a huge social circle to meet potential partner from, and in certain work fields it might be very limited as well.
Some people arent as social, in todays world u have to be pretty fucking proactive socially to go to enough social events, etc that u actully meet *new* people u didnt already know. Also workplace romance is feared because if something goes wrong ur forced to go to the same place still, but more to the point, what if u dont like anyone at work, what if u just work at a small company. Im pretty sure a lot of people dont have an opportunity to meet new people, or not enough to actually get into relationships. Not every place is like Italy where everyone hangs out in bars. A lot of people meet their significant other in university because thats a place where ur forced to meet a LOT of new people and they are somewhat like minded.
You can't do that nowadays in Britain. Very dangerous. You ask a girl out nowadays and you're in trouble. I've seen it with my own eyes. This is what women voted for. Rampant feminism.
I don't use dating apps and I still don't meet any potential partners through work, social activities or mutual friends 😕 I don't understand how this shit works.
Personally I don't sleep with someone I met on social media. For 99% of them finding people to sleep with is their motivation. Make it clear...no sex....and none will stick around no matter how nice you are.
amen.i disclose immediately that im not looking for sex and i usually dont get the second date.but thats okay cos i dont wanna date someone that just wants me for my looks.
That's not true. But yes, sex is a natural thing for human beings and if a girl says she'll never have sex then what's the point for the guy? Tinder is not for platonic friendships for 99.9%
@@mamakalami Not true that no-one will stick around. More likely you are going after the wrong guys. If a girl told me immediately that no sex is involved then I wouldn't stick around either probably though. Because if I have romantic interest in her and she isn't attracted to me, what is the point?
Are dating apps rubbish? Oh yeah. But Meggy needs to know how many people had terrible marriages 50 years ago. She's fallen in love with the imagery surrounding the late 40s/early 50s, when dating has actually always been shitty.
Oh and trying to hit on someone in real life is like trying to convince the people the world is flat...people treat you like a crazy person...just ain't the same.
"deleting apps" but keeping the account for "emergencies" its like smokers who threw away a pack of cigar in his pocket but still keeping 10 packs in house.
Yep. My whole life whenever i see some trendy thing people my age do, if i follow what's practical i always find a reason not to do what they're doing. If you're never in fashion, then you never go out of fashion
Had a friend who was constantly on this. Day and night, if her phone beeped when she slept (she slept with it in her hand) she'd wake up and reply instantly. She dated guy after guy after guy and slept with 25 guys in one year. She had chlamydia, a bad reputation and was rejected by guy after guy, dont even wanna imagine what that did to her already damaged selfesteem. I will NEVER, as long as I live, get on an app, NEVER! Ps: Is anyone going to comment on how these people live? maybe Im spoiled with living standards bc Im swedish but DAMN! Wunderbaums in the ceiling which seemed all full of damn and the other guy lived in a loft where he'd put the tv in the window? Wtf?
Don't use dating apps if you're insecure or desperate. Don't expect anything, don't take it too seriously but be honest. Dating is meant to be fun. There's someone out there for all of us.
Love this! I couldn't agree more! I use several dating apps with the intention of talking to and meeting new people. I'm not looking for anything beyond that. I'm going with the flow, if we hit it off great, if not, I've always had a great time learning about others and their stories/perspectives. It's important to manage expectations when it comes to dating apps, otherwise it'll just make you feel miserable.
There is not someone out there for all of us. 80% of women chase the top 20%. There are a lot of men who get the odd date or none at all. Sure there are many people in this world but for some of us the desert is pretty dry.
Gay apps are totally different, because they experience a different no-emotions hook up culture (generally speaking) compared with straight people, esp. straight women. It's basically two separate cultures and experiences.
@@napoleonmeowparte3874 Pointing out your comment for generalizing all girls for something even guys do doesn't make me a snowflake. But it does make your comment sexist.
The therapist in the beginning said that online dating is mainly about appearance and I so don't get that argument: Like, would you step into a bar and walk straight towards the most ugly person you can find just to see if they're really nice? No.
I dont understand people who go like oh theres no romance anymore, like just 50 years ago peoplewould get married by like the 4th time they met and everybody hates their spouse lmao
"I feel like the era of online dating doesn't offer me that [the things she values]. I started using Tinder and I used it for years" Ermmm.. Not happy with Tinder - cop out. There ARE ways to meet people without using online dating. If you are choosing to use Tinder then don't say you don't like it cause you secretly do. There are speed dating events, there are single meetups, there are various meet-up groups based on your interests where you can potentially meet single like-minded people.
Exactly, so many people keep complaining about dating apps, how depressed they became cause of them etc. but acting like someone literally pushed them with gun for using tinder etc.
If you're serious about meeting someone (and don't have many in-person opportunities), forget Tinder, Bumble, etc -- try Match or eHarmony! You're more likely to meet someone who actually wants a relationship (not just sex and fooling around) on paid platforms. Met the love of my life that way :D
@@infiltr80r - From what I've gathered, many women on sites like Match are actually highly career-oriented (lots of lawyers, etc). Point is, when people are paying for a service, they're more likely to be highly motivated and take it seriously, which is what I personally was looking for. None of them f%^& boys you meet on Tinder lol. Definitely worth a try!
@@frenchlearner19 Maybe so. But there are plenty of decent ones on free sites as well. My current GF I met on a dating site, free one. Paying for it seems ridiculous for me, it's a dated approach.
I tried paid apps but all the guys I met were doing the 30day free trials. One guy kept inviting me to his flat when I stated I wanted us to meet in a neutral place, he even kept face timing me when we never met and once seen me at the gym and text. Another guy bailed last minute and I could see the bubble on Imessages but he never sent a message until an hour later. It depends on the individual men out there on paid platforms and how serious they are but you’ll get chancers on most sites.
@@tigerskiss1986 - You definitely have to weed through them, regardless of platform! The best way I found to do that is by talking to them on the phone a couple of times before actually meeting. Gives you a WAY better idea of the type of person you're dealing with!
Tinder is like the best time saver ever lolol, like avoiding all the unwanted attention you might get on a real occasion, it's the definition of bias. Can you imagine if you can see how many times you've been "nope" swiped or what ever, I would die laughing, while it's going to be the end of somebody sadly enough. Dating apps can go to hell...with their creators..
"Hello, my name is Meggy and I wish I lived in the 1950s. A time when I wouldn't have really been expected to leave the house or the kitchen specifically. A time when I would have struggled to use Bumble because the internet was very slow back then. I wonder how my grandad and grandmother met".
For gay people it is the only way to meet someone unfortunately. Maybe going to a bar also, but bars are like gay dating apps in real life. For straight people you still have your real life where you might connect to someone.
Very simple, if you find someone and go on to live your life with that person, you wont be back on Tinder, that isnt a very good business model is it? Tinder and all this apps are built to keep you there for as long as possible.
It seems that the girl with the 1950's style is basing her worth on whether she is rejected or not. Attraction is biological, as humans we can't help who we are attracted to and it is truly not personal. Her neuroticism doesn't help I'm sure.
50s girl missed a good opportunity to advertise to all the guys watching this what she has to offer to them. all I heard was a long list of things that she wants
Have you been on a dating app? A solid third of all female profiles are 4 sentences that are all the same for every girl, followed by a list of demands. She fits right in eh?
So.... that uni student guy (Will?) army camouflage net over his bedroom ceiling (7.02) - it appears to have numerous pine tree air fresheners hanging from it?!?
Apps enforcing only looking for the outer apperaence is the biggest lie we like to tell ourselves. Appereance was always an important factor. Physical Attraction is not something entirely new.
i known a lil story of someone using similar dating site (one of those international cupid website) years ago, known each other from that site, acquainted/partnered and dismissed/separated and both still using the site to find anothers lol vicious cycle.
@@blamelessshameless1519 exactly! It never ends. You have to pick someone and stick with them or be doomed to restart into like 10 relationships over a lifetime.
@@gambit_toys6554 This is why this kind of things can be addictive (as per video suggested) you always came back for the cheap thrill with new people before it wear off again. Perpetual patterns, endless choices and always feels like you can do better, or the other person aint for you, swipe next; get new match. I wonder people who can do this things daily, like part of their habit and lifestyle.
It’s not about the levels of technology, it gives you the ability to talk to people all over the world. In reality, people are taken or ‘have a bf’ so hence it’s hard. You approach someone and receive instant rejection and become lost. Still, life is what you make of it, not how you spend it.
@Klaudia Wolny Nobody needs to be careful, as long as the guy and the girl are working and splitting the money equally depending on how much the earn, and lastly being happy the wealth gap wont matter.
@Jake Dean I've heard plenty of women whining about that. It also seems to be one of the points of the fat acceptance movement, to make older, fatter women more accepted and wanted in society.
It makes sense. Maybe you're aiming too high? No career for a girl is like for us hearing that the girl has no teeth. It shouldn't be a dealbreaker but it is.
This is a poor documentary and you expect better from the BBC. You make the exception the rule and pretend dating apps are detrimental to the health of the general population *rolls eyes.* What would you like us to do? Go back in time? Reject technology? And approaching people for a flirtation has always been based on initial physical attraction - the man / woman you approach in the pub is not based on whether they have a good personality ...geez. I never thought the Beeb would give into such poorly thought through content just for views. Disappointed.
According to the new Gillette ad, if you're a man and approach a woman you fancy, it's sexual harrassment. That's why more and more men should just stick to *social media* and *dating apps.*
I think the difference is that the dating apps give the illusion of endless options. Also, it's easier to juggle multiple relationships via texting and messaging than it was before the internet.
approchaing today is still better than dating apps. Dating apps are for hot or scene people. If youre not hot or belong to a certain scene (goth) and look for goth partners, dating apps like Match, Tinder, Lovoo, Badoo, Bumble are all the same: The woman has so much choice she chooses the hot guys over anyone else 90% of the time. She is overwhelmed with choices and therefore you wont get even a chance to the top guys. In a club and pub the one who approaches can be the lucky one. And he may not even be the hottest guy she ever saw.
I think the point is we should be using all technology mindfully and in moderation, including dating apps. The sooner moderate technology use is taught in schools the better - it is pivotal to our wellbeing
I'm 34 and I grew up with online dating. I'm friendly, smart, have my own interests, fairly attractive and I make decent money. I am still single. I see so many of my friends who did find someone get cheated on or do the cheating with the help of these apps.
tutu beast It is sad. What happened to swing dancing or roller skating.., They went away with everything I loved. Movies rental stores as well. That was the date. Just picking one out together.
@@Noble713 See, that's BS. You are basing your opinion on a few dozen words they themselves picked out. IRL body language means a lot. So you are left with a face and some meaningless words. I felt bad about swiping a face at first, but after awhile I realized it's what we do automatically every day. You see 50 potential partners at a grocery store and notice two. Your mind just auto-ignored the other 48
This hit home. Having such terrible luck with online dating has me convinced i'm just not loveable. Because no matter how super impressed someone acts with me after meeting and going on a few dates, they never stick around and always want to endlessly swipe for the perfect person that will never exist.
I just deleted the App (Tinder) after some bad dates and unrealistic expectations. I feel like we built an image of the person who we think we are chatting to will translate in real life. Its very superficial because it doesn't give a honest impression of the person. Now for the first time I wanna go out there and meet people in real life even tho some of them are on these apps.
Maybe it's you and your expectations that are out of whack. Look at the profiles with a smirk, most people are projecting an image that is far from the truth. When I had a profile on a dating site, it was fairly realistic with a few terrible one-liner jokes, most girls didn't like that. They go for the guy who pretends to be a globetrotting rap-star but obviously in reality he lives in a basement and his car is actually a rental. Then the same girls complain about the guys.
The dating apps are a fun time waster but it's difficult to move beyond online matches to genuine connection and compatibility. I'll end up with a ton of matches, but very little genuine communication about meeting - And the people who do want to meet, I find I'm not that into them and the people I DO really want to meet never follow through with meeting. Sigh.
The problem with Tinder most of the user are male and most of the men swipe right. Because there are far more match for women, the algorithms don't show female users all the men. They only show them the top 20% of guys. These guys are hot and attractive but they also have 20 matches each as well. So if you are in the 20%, women are just an option. Whereas the rest of the guys aren't even being seen. There is too much risk nowadays for men to simply appropriate random women to ask the date. All she has to do is accuse you of sexual harassment and your life is ruined.
For fun, it's something to talk about and shows that he's not afraid to show some other side of him. If all your pics look oh so perfect, that is a turnoff to many as you're hiding something.
Online dating is what you make of it. I got some crazy messages, some of which were pretty mean but I brushed it off/reported them. I married my first date from OkCupid and our first baby is due in August. ❤️
OKCupid is the best one IMO. I met my girlfriend there, in general I felt like more people there wanted a real relationship than with other apps. Still depressing AF to put in hours and hours of swiping and messaging. I almost gave up before I met my gf. It took me a lot of failures to learn how to get girls to message me back. And I'm sure for girls it's hard to weed out the bullshitters. I just don't think it's fair for people like us who succeeded to judge those who haven't
It's hilarious how the same people who sign up to and use these apps are tacitly complicit in the growing culture of objectification that they also love to complain about.
I find it hard to meet people irl so I've always seen dating apps as being one of my only options. I can go to meet-up events, or meet people at work, but there's no guarantee that I'll find my life partner in those situations. There are only so many new situations you can put yourself in with the hope of finding people, and meeting people in bars/clubs is often worse than online. At least through online dating, you have the opportunity to meet people who are really suited to you, who you otherwise wouldn't have met if it wasn't for the internet bringing you together. You just have to know how to use it, and focus on talking to people who you're actually interested in, putting in the same amount of effort that you would in person. I stay away from shallow sites like tinder, in favour of apps like okcupid, where your personality actually enables you to find someone similar to you based on compatibility.
A dude swiping while you are around, I mean what did you expect? Love nowadays is a matter of economics and the supply on both sides has skyrocketed, so naturally prices are going to plummet. Don't blame the dude, blame the system that made it possible. Best solution is honestly to quit those apps altogether. You also have to think about the kind of person that uses those apps, are they really right for you if what you want is something more organic or real? I think the real reason those apps have become popular is really just attention and feelings of the thrill of meeting someone. It's artificial, so don't expect something that isn't just as artificial. I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule but that's exactly what they are: exceptions.
I downloaded Hinge for three weeks after which I deleted it because I got depressed of just reading and swiping through accounts. It just feels fucking meaningless.
30 years ago I spent years in clubs "doin' the one night stands". It was very psychologically damaging and soulless, but also fun and addictive. On-line dating seems to be the same kind of thing for people who can't dance.
I uninstalled all dating apps because I saw how superficial I was becoming/already was. Every time I swiped left I felt like I was judging that girl. Not a good feeling. Although it was through a dating app I meat by two ex girlfriends and they were one of the best girls I've met.
You can't say you don't belong in the era od online dating and you don't like "being rated" and use a dating app FOR YEARS! No one's forcing you, darling.
In the old days, when i was young, i m 46 now, we did go to clubs and pubs. But with the total absence of any digital device. I remember sitting on a peninsula with a girl back on a summer night 4 o clock in the morning back in1994 or so. We were just THERE and it was ONLY us. No distraction.Wonderful. After that, when internet took over the world, the intrusion of commerce has just gotten way out of proportion. Cause after all, these dating apps don t give a damn about you, they re designed to make you keep on searching forever. The people have become like market products and they use them to re de over like/value others and yourself time and time again.
I feel sorry for those, who aren't treated properly (using Tinder while you're on a date? srsly?) but without dating apps I wouldn't have come across so many interesting and sometimes strange but funny people. It was an enrichment to my daily life. Besides that I found my boyfriend quite fast, it was my first date. However, this doesn't always seem to be a case. You should keep in mind that the ones you're writing with are still real people and treat them like that, not just a product of dating. If you follow that rule, meeting people on dating apps can be fun. Otherwise it's just disrespectful
This is exactly the reason why I never in my life registered on tinder or the other dating apps. And it worked out in my favor, my boyfriend of three years now never used those apps as well. And by the way, university is a great place to meet people! That's where I found my boyfriend :)
i think its better to meet someone outside than dating app....usually how i approach women is by first noticing them especially if they are from the same area and you'll get to see each other more then as days go by and keep seeing each other you start by greeting her everyday then to speaking to her......getting comfortable with each other and then kick start everything from there
is it really that hard to find a date offline these days? it just seems like a cop out when people say that. what has changed all of a sudden? i think its more to do with laziness. I don't mean slob laziness though but that we are all wired to take the easiest route possible and it "seems" like these apps are a shortcut to make things easier. people are just going to have to go back to what people have been doing for thousands of years
I deleted dating apps and joined a new social circle, where I have met people offline and hit it off as a friend first.
I met my girlfriend at a French language class. Best decision in my life.
Brilliant :) Give's me hope !
Planning on doing the same thing. I already don't do dating apps and havn't for a few years now.
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@@ladyslick121 Yes!
Lmao. I guarantee you she continues to use social media to triangulate your relationship. This is effectively cheating since it’s her continuing to seek validation, attention, and approval that she should be trying to earn from you.
These apps generate the illusion of choice.
Choice Paralysis
Bandersnatch
It was a genius move by cable then Netflix.
You're 100% correct.
Its not an illusion. It literally gives you choices. Choices you wouldn’t have otherwise
6:02 - "For the first time ever, I'm not going through Grindr." Oh. :D
"...And we actually met through Instagram." Oh. :/
Elite I wish I could up vote this comment a lot more than once. It's exactly what I was thinking.
Yeah, what a big 'change'......
@@XRioteerXBoyX Upvote? This ain't Quora. Here they are called "likes".
@Jake Dean Because this programme shows what a negative experience it can be?
The moral of the story:
Know your self-worth .
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6:55 Lucy is going to be a bit afraid when she sees his apartment.
He has so many pictures of himself. The dude is a narcissist.
Yes, it's quite filthy
They probably hook up anyway.
😂 The whole time I kept thinking where in the world does this guy live? Lol don’t tell me he’s in his childhood room at his parents’ house? 😂😱
@@SuperAvocadoo but he's tall, makes him dreamy
why cant people be normal and be addicted to drugs like me?
@cassl14 That medicine only works in the case of opioid addicts.
@cassl14 GABAergic drugs see a much better effect with alcoholism. An opioid antagonist does work slightly in the case of alcohol dependency, as it blocks the endogenous opioids released from drinking.
@cassl14 I am an addict that is just self educated in the area. I wish I knew the best way to get sober.
And why not just watch porn and beat off like a god damn decent human being!!! And as an addict myself you just have to decide you want to quit and quit....
Exactly. A few ecstasy pills and a line of speed. Go to a rave, target a wee fat chick and bish, bash, bosh you have yourself one burd.
yeah yeah dating apps but WTF is up with that guy's apartment ceiling?
thats what i thought
Tall guys. His ceiling tidyness only matters when she's on her back
And why was that other guy wearing a mosquito net jacket?
That's his drawcard :p
My thoughts exactly 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣😀
This is depressing, long are the days when we had long lasting friendships. Now everything is about money and looks, no wonder 70% will end up miserable!
70% huh? So tell me, professor. Where did you get those stats from?
I fell in love with a guy who I’d been friends with for a year, he was from an opposite background to me, things happened he made the first move told me he wanted me, when I was ready to tell him my feelings he told me “ real men don’t speak about feelings” later that meant feelings for me. I was prepared for him to meet my family invite him into my mum and dad’s ex council flat where he was from a gold standard suburb, but a few days past and a guy who had a second job working with my first love told me he started a relationship with a women at his work. I was heart broken and acted out in the worst kind of ways. It’s taken over a decade for me to get him out my life, but of all the things I miss more than anything is the friendship we had the times we spent playing pooling going to the cinema then randomly bumping into each other and then going for drinks. I just can’t seem to find that these days. I’ve found dating apps pretty toxic. I read profiles from men stating what they won’t and they seem decisive, I write what I’m looking for I.e cutting the crap after having so many guys state “ looking for something casual” I.e sex I get told I come across angry but it’s the double standard a guy can write what he’s looking for no time wasters but a women does it she’s angry. But like you I wish I could go back to the days of getting to know someone than rather this ok get back on the apps agains.
where'd this statistic come from? I'd like to know more
And we wonder why lonliness has increased, do people not want real connections. Quality not quantity people
People want real connections, but they are afraid of it. I saw/read so many articles and movies about some crazy creeps talking to women in coffee shops or streets or even dance classes that I am afraid to be perceived as one. So I can either spend my time on Tinder or be alone. And Tinder is designed to keep you engaged and not help you find love of your life. What do you see after match ? "Send Message or Keep Swiping - maybe there is somebody better for you out there.
@@RobertMagier With all due respect don't always pay attention to what the media prints they make money from keeping people in a state of fear. I talk to men in real life everyday, I don't consider them creeps. I recently got chatting to a lovely guy we bonded over a shared love of existentialism and the universe at large, which then lead to meeting his fiance and opening up in to their circle of friends as well. I don't nor will ever use online, being an INFJ I find connection through eye contact and body language and conversation that does not feel stilted. I am at a time of my life where I am rediscovering who I am so "love" and all its trimming as nice as it would be, to be honest I would settel for companionship and hugs. I go in to every interaction as an opportunity to make a new friend, nothing more.
I agree, but it seems women are too shy to approach me, they'll orbit around me but not approach me.
I can't ask them out because that's sexual harassement so I'm really just waiting for them to ask me out
@@blackpillsamsam6940 sadly the archiac dating laws still abide and women still want to be approached, its sad that if a man comes to say hi its viewed as sexual harrassment based only on a hello.
@@blackpillsamsam6940 nah bro just talk to them, if they don't want to be asked out they'll let you know. Nobody's gunna call you a creep for you asking them out, they might not be interested, but all girls who have rejected me were pretty cool with it. Most girls are pretty cool, and those who aren't are struggling a lot more than you socially, trust me xD
I miss the good old days, when we had diminished ability to meet people outside of our normal social circles, had little information about someone's personality before initiating an interaction with them and we all just ended up in unhappy marriages with people from our hometowns.
Speak for yourself lol some of use fought to live outside that box ha ha
Why don't you try creating those opportunitys?
TheAlbinoskunk lol damn dude
You're saying dating apps like Tinder are meaning people are having happier marriages? How deluded...
TheAlbinoskunk no one is forcing u to marry someone u don’t love lmao
“I feel like I was born in the wrong time because I like things everyone else likes.”
#lewronggeneration
Hahahahahahaha
you mean you like things everyone else don't
@@nefelibata4190 r/woosh
@YoshiPeach Mario what a pessimist
I got off all the dating sites. This video just proves how folks arent looking for anything other than instant gratification and ego boosts with no intention of actual connection.
Instead I hired a match maker. So far it's been better for me anyway
Being alone is better than using dating apps.
What gives you that opinion?
@@yushamush9849 Experience
its addictive
@@shamanahaboolist I agree. I deleted all those apps and decided to be alone for my sanity.
Its a river filled with borderliner women. Who prey on men to use
Apparently I'm living under a massive rock, because being a young person I do not have facebook, instagram, nor have I ever used any of the dating apps mentioned. I just refuse to be treated like a piece of meat.
Yeah me too, except I have Facebook.
Violetta same! I have no social media
I'm 23 years old and I don't have snapchat or instagram, and people find me weird like there's something is wrong with me.
Johnny Bravo Same here. I've heard couple of times that there's either something wrong with me or I have something to hide. Snapchat I don't understand because I like to enjoy the moment not to whip out my phone and record things. I don't feel the need to broadcast my life on Facebook either. I am a very private person and people don't seem to understand that, just immediately think 'she's weird'. As for the dating apps, I don't feel the need to be rated like a product on a shelf based solely on my looks or ability to take a pretty picture. Meeting people in real life, that's all I need. If someone wants to get to know me and keep in touch then they'll find a way without all this social media circus.
@@BiTe-Me A couple of my friends from uni have like 500+ friends on facebook, yet they only talk to about 5-6 people in real life. I feel like most people who constantly use social media apps like instagram or snapchat are insecure and need people's validation to feel appreciated. Most of them live in a virtual world, spending hours on their phones and not and not building real connections.
I totally agree with Meggy- delete all the dating apps and go outside.
Don't pay for these apps. That's how you limit your time on them. When I run out of likes I move on for the day. As a matter of fact, I think Facebook and Instagram should have a time limit on their usage. It would change our society for the better.
Damn right. Money money money.. sad world
I don't get how these people don't meet potential partners through work, through social activities, mutual friends etc - they all pass those opportunities aside. I think the problem with dating apps like these is that they make people greedy for more, they see how many people use the sites, they get constant 'matches' and it feeds our egos. There's an idea that there's always someone better out there and once you get into that mind frame you'll never be happy with anyone :/
Yes it does corrupt people, even the ones who truly want something meaningful. And the paradox of choice..
But living in a big city, you can end up not having a huge social circle to meet potential partner from, and in certain work fields it might be very limited as well.
Some people arent as social, in todays world u have to be pretty fucking proactive socially to go to enough social events, etc that u actully meet *new* people u didnt already know. Also workplace romance is feared because if something goes wrong ur forced to go to the same place still, but more to the point, what if u dont like anyone at work, what if u just work at a small company. Im pretty sure a lot of people dont have an opportunity to meet new people, or not enough to actually get into relationships. Not every place is like Italy where everyone hangs out in bars.
A lot of people meet their significant other in university because thats a place where ur forced to meet a LOT of new people and they are somewhat like minded.
True.
You can't do that nowadays in Britain. Very dangerous. You ask a girl out nowadays and you're in trouble. I've seen it with my own eyes. This is what women voted for. Rampant feminism.
I don't use dating apps and I still don't meet any potential partners through work, social activities or mutual friends 😕 I don't understand how this shit works.
I don't leave my house enough to find someone without a dating app. I'd hate to be limited to people I work with.
Personally I don't sleep with someone I met on social media. For 99% of them finding people to sleep with is their motivation. Make it clear...no sex....and none will stick around no matter how nice you are.
amen.i disclose immediately that im not looking for sex and i usually dont get the second date.but thats okay cos i dont wanna date someone that just wants me for my looks.
That's not true. But yes, sex is a natural thing for human beings and if a girl says she'll never have sex then what's the point for the guy? Tinder is not for platonic friendships for 99.9%
@@infiltr80r i said i wont have meaningless sex as in one night stands and fwb
@@infiltr80r what's not true?
@@mamakalami Not true that no-one will stick around. More likely you are going after the wrong guys. If a girl told me immediately that no sex is involved then I wouldn't stick around either probably though. Because if I have romantic interest in her and she isn't attracted to me, what is the point?
black mirror?
Absolutely toxic for dating. Women can get so many messages from men in a day. No point in spending any money or commitment.....
her: "im old fashioned"
also her: "everyones on dating apps so im on them"
*then you're not old fashioned*
lol
heh, just conformist
So she's normal 🐑
Pretty sure the most old fashioned thing you can do is be a woman who conforms so...
The fifties girl says she is born in the wrong era... but has a septum piercing? Yeah that would've gone down well in the fifties.
Are dating apps rubbish? Oh yeah. But Meggy needs to know how many people had terrible marriages 50 years ago. She's fallen in love with the imagery surrounding the late 40s/early 50s, when dating has actually always been shitty.
Oh and trying to hit on someone in real life is like trying to convince the people the world is flat...people treat you like a crazy person...just ain't the same.
and those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music
Women hitting on a guy is a red flag 🚩
I experience it, now Im 34 and so old school, but it seems like ladies are not ready for me A MAN to approach them
dating apps are human catalogues with which our humanity can be dismissed with one swipe!
people are losing the ability to talk to people in real life....
Xella E And spell.
@@Andy_Idea haha sorry dislexic...didn't see that there.
Xella E All good :P
Or even meet people!
@@joshb7415 haha yep...think i need to smash a dictionary into my head
I wAs BoRn iN tHe WrOnG ErA
"deleting apps" but keeping the account for "emergencies" its like smokers who threw away a pack of cigar in his pocket but still keeping 10 packs in house.
Does no one find it telling that these people have nose rings and use apps where you're rated like cattle at an auction. Someone psychoanalyze that!
Yep. My whole life whenever i see some trendy thing people my age do, if i follow what's practical i always find a reason not to do what they're doing. If you're never in fashion, then you never go out of fashion
Had a friend who was constantly on this. Day and night, if her phone beeped when she slept (she slept with it in her hand) she'd wake up and reply instantly. She dated guy after guy after guy and slept with 25 guys in one year. She had chlamydia, a bad reputation and was rejected by guy after guy, dont even wanna imagine what that did to her already damaged selfesteem. I will NEVER, as long as I live, get on an app, NEVER!
Ps: Is anyone going to comment on how these people live? maybe Im spoiled with living standards bc Im swedish but DAMN! Wunderbaums in the ceiling which seemed all full of damn and the other guy lived in a loft where he'd put the tv in the window? Wtf?
Sad story:(
She said a PINT not a weak little bottle of peroni!!!
Generation instant gratification
Blame those in charge of the systems
Banzingo NE right sorry who raised them ?
@@chadthundercock2069 the companies that own them. gotta make money, gotta keep the investors happy, so Dopamine by design
@@chadthundercock2069 that's dumb, how old are you?
Don't use dating apps if you're insecure or desperate. Don't expect anything, don't take it too seriously but be honest. Dating is meant to be fun. There's someone out there for all of us.
sane advice
Thanks for the wise words :)
I'm still single and waiting.... Going 6 yrs.
Love this! I couldn't agree more! I use several dating apps with the intention of talking to and meeting new people. I'm not looking for anything beyond that. I'm going with the flow, if we hit it off great, if not, I've always had a great time learning about others and their stories/perspectives. It's important to manage expectations when it comes to dating apps, otherwise it'll just make you feel miserable.
There is not someone out there for all of us. 80% of women chase the top 20%. There are a lot of men who get the odd date or none at all. Sure there are many people in this world but for some of us the desert is pretty dry.
Gay apps are totally different, because they experience a different no-emotions hook up culture (generally speaking) compared with straight people, esp. straight women. It's basically two separate cultures and experiences.
*THE NEW BLACK MIRROR TRAILER LOOKS GREAT*
Getting a rating?! Omfg no thank you. I’d rather die.
The nature of it is anti empathy and anti connection. Period. Don't use dating apps unless you are an NPC.
Every Girl Ever
1)" I feel like i was born in the wrong ere"
2) " I am not like other girls"
They're all "old fashioned" as well doncha know. Wanna bet what that means?
Sexist statement.
@@FunnyLittleFrog sure snowflake
@@napoleonmeowparte3874 Pointing out your comment for generalizing all girls for something even guys do doesn't make me a snowflake. But it does make your comment sexist.
☺
The therapist in the beginning said that online dating is mainly about appearance and I so don't get that argument: Like, would you step into a bar and walk straight towards the most ugly person you can find just to see if they're really nice? No.
I dont understand people who go like oh theres no romance anymore, like just 50 years ago peoplewould get married by like the 4th time they met and everybody hates their spouse lmao
@Se A literally never met an older person that liked their partner sorry lol
"I feel like the era of online dating doesn't offer me that [the things she values]. I started using Tinder and I used it for years"
Ermmm.. Not happy with Tinder - cop out. There ARE ways to meet people without using online dating. If you are choosing to use Tinder then don't say you don't like it cause you secretly do. There are speed dating events, there are single meetups, there are various meet-up groups based on your interests where you can potentially meet single like-minded people.
Exactly, so many people keep complaining about dating apps, how depressed they became cause of them etc. but acting like someone literally pushed them with gun for using tinder etc.
If you're serious about meeting someone (and don't have many in-person opportunities), forget Tinder, Bumble, etc -- try Match or eHarmony! You're more likely to meet someone who actually wants a relationship (not just sex and fooling around) on paid platforms. Met the love of my life that way :D
Yes, pay money to meet boring, probably Christian men or divorced women with 4 kids.
@@infiltr80r - From what I've gathered, many women on sites like Match are actually highly career-oriented (lots of lawyers, etc). Point is, when people are paying for a service, they're more likely to be highly motivated and take it seriously, which is what I personally was looking for. None of them f%^& boys you meet on Tinder lol. Definitely worth a try!
@@frenchlearner19 Maybe so. But there are plenty of decent ones on free sites as well. My current GF I met on a dating site, free one. Paying for it seems ridiculous for me, it's a dated approach.
I tried paid apps but all the guys I met were doing the 30day free trials. One guy kept inviting me to his flat when I stated I wanted us to meet in a neutral place, he even kept face timing me when we never met and once seen me at the gym and text. Another guy bailed last minute and I could see the bubble on Imessages but he never sent a message until an hour later. It depends on the individual men out there on paid platforms and how serious they are but you’ll get chancers on most sites.
@@tigerskiss1986 - You definitely have to weed through them, regardless of platform! The best way I found to do that is by talking to them on the phone a couple of times before actually meeting. Gives you a WAY better idea of the type of person you're dealing with!
The comments section is a mess as usual.
we are all patiently awaiting your contribution
Tinder is like the best time saver ever lolol, like avoiding all the unwanted attention you might get on a real occasion, it's the definition of bias. Can you imagine if you can see how many times you've been "nope" swiped or what ever, I would die laughing, while it's going to be the end of somebody sadly enough. Dating apps can go to hell...with their creators..
Yes, it's hookup culture. It killed love
The great book "Brave New World" came to reality. It's actually scary.
"Hello, my name is Meggy and I wish I lived in the 1950s. A time when I wouldn't have really been expected to leave the house or the kitchen specifically. A time when I would have struggled to use Bumble because the internet was very slow back then. I wonder how my grandad and grandmother met".
there was no internet in the 50s...
@@ballaurina8367 That's the joke babe.
very slow = nonexistent ??
@@ballaurina8367 That's the joke again babe.
@@matthew8241 people in this century don't even get jokes or sarcasm...so depressive ahahah
For gay people it is the only way to meet someone unfortunately. Maybe going to a bar also, but bars are like gay dating apps in real life. For straight people you still have your real life where you might connect to someone.
The therapist looks so much like John Mclean lol
But.. is she Married tho?
Very simple, if you find someone and go on to live your life with that person, you wont be back on Tinder, that isnt a very good business model is it?
Tinder and all this apps are built to keep you there for as long as possible.
Aaaand case closed. Money money money!
It seems that the girl with the 1950's style is basing her worth on whether she is rejected or not. Attraction is biological, as humans we can't help who we are attracted to and it is truly not personal. Her neuroticism doesn't help I'm sure.
i hope you get rejected over and over and over and over and over and over and over....
for like the next 5 years
@@samurilip thankyou so i only have two years left of not really giving a fuck
@@Emmastayofftheinternet Top notch comeback :D
@@krashd kissass
maybe they need to invent "swipe clothes", so you walk past someone in the street and really do a silent number on their ego
50s girl missed a good opportunity to advertise to all the guys watching this what she has to offer to them. all I heard was a long list of things that she wants
Have you been on a dating app? A solid third of all female profiles are 4 sentences that are all the same for every girl, followed by a list of demands. She fits right in eh?
Good for Meggy, i bet she will meet someone on her hike across spain
So.... that uni student guy (Will?) army camouflage net over his bedroom ceiling (7.02) - it appears to have numerous pine tree air fresheners hanging from it?!?
"Yo you want some trees?"
The dude who talked about Grinder should thank the app for helping motivate him to get in shape!
Apps enforcing only looking for the outer apperaence is the biggest lie we like to tell ourselves. Appereance was always an important factor. Physical Attraction is not something entirely new.
Imaging being married with someone off Tinder, when it gets rocky both people go back to the app. SCARY.
i known a lil story of someone using similar dating site (one of those international cupid website) years ago, known each other from that site, acquainted/partnered and dismissed/separated and both still using the site to find anothers lol vicious cycle.
@@blamelessshameless1519 exactly! It never ends. You have to pick someone and stick with them or be doomed to restart into like 10 relationships over a lifetime.
@@gambit_toys6554 This is why this kind of things can be addictive (as per video suggested) you always came back for the cheap thrill with new people before it wear off again. Perpetual patterns, endless choices and always feels like you can do better, or the other person aint for you, swipe next; get new match. I wonder people who can do this things daily, like part of their habit and lifestyle.
It’s not about the levels of technology, it gives you the ability to talk to people all over the world. In reality, people are taken or ‘have a bf’ so hence it’s hard. You approach someone and receive instant rejection and become lost. Still, life is what you make of it, not how you spend it.
every girl on dating apps, "What kind of work do you do?". im a delivery driver. "ohhh cool" (disappears forever)
i applaud you for your idiocracy @Jake Dean
@Klaudia Wolny Nobody needs to be careful, as long as the guy and the girl are working and splitting the money equally depending on how much the earn, and lastly being happy the wealth gap wont matter.
@Jake Dean I've heard plenty of women whining about that. It also seems to be one of the points of the fat acceptance movement, to make older, fatter women more accepted and wanted in society.
tell them you're a delivery driver for a vibrator company, that's bound to cause an initial buzz
It makes sense. Maybe you're aiming too high? No career for a girl is like for us hearing that the girl has no teeth. It shouldn't be a dealbreaker but it is.
People dated based on looks way before dating apps. People blame technology to avoid blaming their flaws
"It's like - no one wants to play Monopoly, but sometimes you've just gotta be like: deal me in!" Love that statement :-)
This is a poor documentary and you expect better from the BBC. You make the exception the rule and pretend dating apps are detrimental to the health of the general population *rolls eyes.* What would you like us to do? Go back in time? Reject technology? And approaching people for a flirtation has always been based on initial physical attraction - the man / woman you approach in the pub is not based on whether they have a good personality ...geez. I never thought the Beeb would give into such poorly thought through content just for views. Disappointed.
According to the new Gillette ad, if you're a man and approach a woman you fancy, it's sexual harrassment.
That's why more and more men should just stick to *social media* and *dating apps.*
I think the difference is that the dating apps give the illusion of endless options. Also, it's easier to juggle multiple relationships via texting and messaging than it was before the internet.
approchaing today is still better than dating apps. Dating apps are for hot or scene people. If youre not hot or belong to a certain scene (goth) and look for goth partners, dating apps like Match, Tinder, Lovoo, Badoo, Bumble are all the same: The woman has so much choice she chooses the hot guys over anyone else 90% of the time. She is overwhelmed with choices and therefore you wont get even a chance to the top guys.
In a club and pub the one who approaches can be the lucky one. And he may not even be the hottest guy she ever saw.
I think the point is we should be using all technology mindfully and in moderation, including dating apps. The sooner moderate technology use is taught in schools the better - it is pivotal to our wellbeing
I'm 34 and I grew up with online dating. I'm friendly, smart, have my own interests, fairly attractive and I make decent money. I am still single. I see so many of my friends who did find someone get cheated on or do the cheating with the help of these apps.
HAHAH 9:09 Lucy is going to run when she see's what a drop kick that dude is.
I'm willing to bet she left as soon as the cameras did.
Never understood swiping on just a face. It's really sad
tutu beast
It is sad. What happened to swing dancing or roller skating..,
They went away with everything I loved. Movies rental stores as well. That was the date. Just picking one out together.
@@Mr.EeToMyself Damn, that sounds cool
You could try reading their actual bios before you swipe. What a novel idea!
@@Noble713 See, that's BS. You are basing your opinion on a few dozen words they themselves picked out. IRL body language means a lot. So you are left with a face and some meaningless words. I felt bad about swiping a face at first, but after awhile I realized it's what we do automatically every day. You see 50 potential partners at a grocery store and notice two. Your mind just auto-ignored the other 48
This hit home. Having such terrible luck with online dating has me convinced i'm just not loveable. Because no matter how super impressed someone acts with me after meeting and going on a few dates, they never stick around and always want to endlessly swipe for the perfect person that will never exist.
I just deleted the App (Tinder) after some bad dates and unrealistic expectations. I feel like we built an image of the person who we think we are chatting to will translate in real life. Its very superficial because it doesn't give a honest impression of the person. Now for the first time I wanna go out there and meet people in real life even tho some of them are on these apps.
Maybe it's you and your expectations that are out of whack. Look at the profiles with a smirk, most people are projecting an image that is far from the truth. When I had a profile on a dating site, it was fairly realistic with a few terrible one-liner jokes, most girls didn't like that. They go for the guy who pretends to be a globetrotting rap-star but obviously in reality he lives in a basement and his car is actually a rental. Then the same girls complain about the guys.
The dating apps are a fun time waster but it's difficult to move beyond online matches to genuine connection and compatibility. I'll end up with a ton of matches, but very little genuine communication about meeting - And the people who do want to meet, I find I'm not that into them and the people I DO really want to meet never follow through with meeting. Sigh.
Alex Parker I feel the same way. I don’t like my behaviour i exhibit on dating apps. It makes me an asshole.
We actually met... on Instagram.
Not what I was expecting.
It's time to get myself a cat
Yep, that makes two of us (or thousands?)
Thanks for this. It's great and very informative and well put together.
this is truly inspiring. i've been dealing with 'dating app addiction' since i was 18.. i am now 22 and it's out of control.
The problem with Tinder most of the user are male and most of the men swipe right. Because there are far more match for women, the algorithms don't show female users all the men. They only show them the top 20% of guys. These guys are hot and attractive but they also have 20 matches each as well. So if you are in the 20%, women are just an option. Whereas the rest of the guys aren't even being seen. There is too much risk nowadays for men to simply appropriate random women to ask the date. All she has to do is accuse you of sexual harassment and your life is ruined.
Im still wondering why that geeza put a pic of him with a black eye on tinder?????????
...?????? What?????
Why???
Howcum????
Ok
Yeah. That was not an attractive look at all. It gives his matches something to talk about, though. Maybe that's why he thought it was a good idea?
it basically says "I'm the guy who can't protect you because I'm really shit at fighting"
For fun, it's something to talk about and shows that he's not afraid to show some other side of him. If all your pics look oh so perfect, that is a turnoff to many as you're hiding something.
It's not that weird when you compare it to the other weird shit that people put on their profiles.
@@adyp5176 and your comment says that you've never been in a fight.
Loved the video, I was needing to watch this, though.
"Always something better" that's the feeling we're left with (and it's bullshit)
I've only tried this for a few days and it's insane.
Online dating is what you make of it. I got some crazy messages, some of which were pretty mean but I brushed it off/reported them. I married my first date from OkCupid and our first baby is due in August. ❤️
OKCupid is the best one IMO. I met my girlfriend there, in general I felt like more people there wanted a real relationship than with other apps. Still depressing AF to put in hours and hours of swiping and messaging. I almost gave up before I met my gf. It took me a lot of failures to learn how to get girls to message me back. And I'm sure for girls it's hard to weed out the bullshitters. I just don't think it's fair for people like us who succeeded to judge those who haven't
It's hilarious how the same people who sign up to and use these apps are tacitly complicit in the growing culture of objectification that they also love to complain about.
I find it hard to meet people irl so I've always seen dating apps as being one of my only options. I can go to meet-up events, or meet people at work, but there's no guarantee that I'll find my life partner in those situations. There are only so many new situations you can put yourself in with the hope of finding people, and meeting people in bars/clubs is often worse than online. At least through online dating, you have the opportunity to meet people who are really suited to you, who you otherwise wouldn't have met if it wasn't for the internet bringing you together. You just have to know how to use it, and focus on talking to people who you're actually interested in, putting in the same amount of effort that you would in person. I stay away from shallow sites like tinder, in favour of apps like okcupid, where your personality actually enables you to find someone similar to you based on compatibility.
The dude with the air fresheners hanging all over his apartment reminds me the tortured guy scene in the movie Seven
I am proud to say I have NEVER used tinder, and honestly I never will. It represents everything I loathe in today's society.
wouldn't be bbc without a camp gay guy
I found my boyfriend of 3 months on tinder. dating apps are not all bad, we love each other very much and are very happy!
And this is why I've deleted all dating apps. I have much more fun without them :)
A dude swiping while you are around, I mean what did you expect?
Love nowadays is a matter of economics and the supply on both sides has skyrocketed, so naturally prices are going to plummet. Don't blame the dude, blame the system that made it possible. Best solution is honestly to quit those apps altogether. You also have to think about the kind of person that uses those apps, are they really right for you if what you want is something more organic or real?
I think the real reason those apps have become popular is really just attention and feelings of the thrill of meeting someone. It's artificial, so don't expect something that isn't just as artificial. I'm sure there are exceptions to the rule but that's exactly what they are: exceptions.
I downloaded Hinge for three weeks after which I deleted it because I got depressed of just reading and swiping through accounts. It just feels fucking meaningless.
30 years ago I spent years in clubs "doin' the one night stands". It was very psychologically damaging and soulless, but also fun and addictive. On-line dating seems to be the same kind of thing for people who can't dance.
Did you? Really?
I uninstalled all dating apps because I saw how superficial I was becoming/already was. Every time I swiped left I felt like I was judging that girl. Not a good feeling. Although it was through a dating app I meat by two ex girlfriends and they were one of the best girls I've met.
You can't say you don't belong in the era od online dating and you don't like "being rated" and use a dating app FOR YEARS! No one's forcing you, darling.
i gave it up after a few months.i just can't deal with the crappy people anymore.
In the old days, when i was young, i m 46 now, we did go to clubs and pubs. But with the total absence of any digital device. I remember sitting on a peninsula with a girl back on a summer night 4 o clock in the morning back in1994 or so. We were just THERE and it was ONLY us. No distraction.Wonderful.
After that, when internet took over the world, the intrusion of commerce has just gotten way out of proportion. Cause after all, these dating apps don t give a damn about you, they re designed to make you keep on searching forever. The people have become like market products and they use them to re de over like/value others and yourself time and time again.
I feel so bad for Meggy. Shes such a beauty and she doesn't even know it!
I feel sorry for those, who aren't treated properly (using Tinder while you're on a date? srsly?) but without dating apps I wouldn't have come across so many interesting and sometimes strange but funny people. It was an enrichment to my daily life. Besides that I found my boyfriend quite fast, it was my first date. However, this doesn't always seem to be a case.
You should keep in mind that the ones you're writing with are still real people and treat them like that, not just a product of dating. If you follow that rule, meeting people on dating apps can be fun. Otherwise it's just disrespectful
This is exactly the reason why I never in my life registered on tinder or the other dating apps. And it worked out in my favor, my boyfriend of three years now never used those apps as well. And by the way, university is a great place to meet people! That's where I found my boyfriend :)
Katharina K. W.
Hope a young man sees this post.
Social Dance.
It's best place I've met the best. As well as the ladies who are fun to dance with.
Meggy should hike across Morocco, I’m sure she’ll find a good man with old values there...
loooold
Such a fun interesting video and so very true!
i think its better to meet someone outside than dating app....usually how i approach women is by first noticing them especially if they are from the same area and you'll get to see each other more then as days go by and keep seeing each other you start by greeting her everyday then to speaking to her......getting comfortable with each other and then kick start everything from there
I hate dating apps they have put me into too many dangerous situations. You get conned into signing up for multiple apps. To many competitors.
Dating apps, bring out the worst in people.
is it really that hard to find a date offline these days? it just seems like a cop out when people say that. what has changed all of a sudden? i think its more to do with laziness. I don't mean slob laziness though but that we are all wired to take the easiest route possible and it "seems" like these apps are a shortcut to make things easier. people are just going to have to go back to what people have been doing for thousands of years
@McGuire Yep, the traditional way is now sexual harassment. Thanks Feminazis