AITA for refusing to pay for my niece’s “emergency” wedding dress after she ruined her first one?

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  • @yamairad1
    @yamairad1 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +31

    They took a loan for a dress. 😂 That is the most stupid thing I've ever heard.

    • @jenniferdaniels701
      @jenniferdaniels701 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      There are probably fees to rush a dress. But it was Bride's 'bright idea' to wear it before her wedding day, in a muddy park, .... Bride broke it, Bride can buy it. Maybe this is why they say it's bad luck to let the groom see the bride before the wedding.

    • @merlinathrawes746
      @merlinathrawes746 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      @@jenniferdaniels701 And given that they DID take out a loan in order to buy it, I'd sure as hell be taking damn good care of it before the big day and not risking it getting damaged.

  • @palithaolden8214
    @palithaolden8214 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +27

    If she is so "young" to do something that dumb, then maybe she shouldn't be getting married 🤔

    • @merlinathrawes746
      @merlinathrawes746 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      If I were the groom-to-be I'd look at her idiocy and back out before it's too late.

    • @katie6731
      @katie6731 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Oooh! That's a great point.
      I feel sorry for the bride's mom. She took out a _loan_ for the dress that her daughter so casually destroyed. Pampered Princess won't value anything unless she works for it herself. I hope she looks back on this and cringes at her behavior.

  • @ShootingStarStudio
    @ShootingStarStudio 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +44

    NTA. I would only pay for it if I was responsible for wrecking it because I believe in the “you break it, you buy it” mentality. But this was all on Tessa. My condolences at the loss of the dress, but she brought that on herself.
    Edit: this story also screams “play stupid games, win stupid prizes”

  • @wendyluikart6423
    @wendyluikart6423 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +39

    Niece would have lost me at trashing me publicly.

    • @candirobinson706
      @candirobinson706 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      She could kick rocks Naw more mud lol😂😂

  • @frigid4real
    @frigid4real 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +29

    It's not funny, it's hysterical! 😂😂😂😂😂
    Absolutely Nta! She wouldn't see a penny from me.

  • @bethsl2839
    @bethsl2839 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    NTA!! Bride needs to pay for what she caused. About damn time she learns respect & responsibility.

  • @bettymac4533
    @bettymac4533 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    NTA! Pay for the dress and she would become the family ATM.

    • @bethsl2839
      @bethsl2839 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Bingo!

  • @vellathewench
    @vellathewench 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +25

    I've never understood people who think that bad mouthing someone is gonna get them to help you out. Regardless of it being this time or in the future. Sorry, if you're gonna talk crap about me, you can help yourself out of your messes. And this person sounds like she'll find herself in many of them. Get outta here bizzo.

  • @krypto1976
    @krypto1976 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    I've gotten out of so many situations of "just suck it up and do it" by saying "ok then you do it if it's not a big deal" they shut up so fast

    • @krypto1976
      @krypto1976 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      I've even volunteered the person/people saying to the person and shocker shocker they said no and got mad saying it's not their problem 😮😂

  • @YahavehsSoldier
    @YahavehsSoldier 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    So what I'm hearing is: Everyone in the family can/should be chipping in"

    • @dajillwilliams
      @dajillwilliams 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      exactly

    • @merlinathrawes746
      @merlinathrawes746 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      IMO, she can get married in a $20 (or cheaper) white dress from Goodwill. Doesn't even have to be a wedding dress, just white(ish). That's her stupidity tax.

    • @YahavehsSoldier
      @YahavehsSoldier 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @merlinathrawes746 I agree completely

  • @ElaineFrancesca
    @ElaineFrancesca 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    NTA- she's not mature enough to take care of a dress let alone get married! OP should say this and then say she'll foot the dress bill for her next wedding.

    • @merlinathrawes746
      @merlinathrawes746 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Unless there's a MAJOR change in attitude, I wouldn't fund anything for her, now or in the future.

  • @mangamegbe
    @mangamegbe 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    NTA. She pulled this stupid little stunt with taking her dress somewhere muddy with champagne and that has consequences.

  • @thegirlonfireandice8247
    @thegirlonfireandice8247 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

    My first thought would be bride wanted an upgrade on the OG dress and ruined it on purpose. No sane person would do an outdoor multi person shoot before a dress had debuted and expect it to go well.

    • @DawnKellyMedia
      @DawnKellyMedia 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I used to be a wedding photographer. People really are this stupid.

  • @anakaliaeastwood
    @anakaliaeastwood 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    My best friend is the "rich" one among her many siblings. They do this to her all...the...TIME. "You SHOULD because you CAN! You're so selfish!" We laugh about it at this point because she completely stopped giving in several years ago...and they keep asking, which really just means they keep telling her she needs to do things for them. Also, they tell people she's rich because she sleeps with rich men for money. She's actually just an amazing marriage and family therapist.
    That girl needs to wear her original dress so the outside matches the inside.

  • @CaToRi-
    @CaToRi- 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Another FAFO moment 😂

  • @meganism8349
    @meganism8349 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I get that wedding dresses are expensive, but a loan? A LOAN?? You plan ahead for wedding dress oopsies, and you don't risk the dress until they day of the wedding...

  • @suebee0619
    @suebee0619 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Dusty: it’s not funny
    Me: (through giggle snorts at the picture in my head) oh yes it is

    • @DawnKellyMedia
      @DawnKellyMedia 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      Hysterical!!! 😂 I used to be a wedding photographer and I would've laughed behind her back. Lol!

  • @alanross3674
    @alanross3674 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Good parenting involves teaching your children that every choice they make brings a consequence.
    Thinking about the possible consequences is an essential part of decision making.
    Often the consequences are acceptable or desirable, sometimes the consequences are not - when you choose an action you’re choosing the consequence.

  • @testaccount01336
    @testaccount01336 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    It is not only funny, IT IS FUCKING HILARIOUS!!!!!

  • @silentlyjudgingyou
    @silentlyjudgingyou 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

    You should laugh, bridezilla brought this on herself

  • @seahorse5689
    @seahorse5689 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Where do all these bizzos come from?!

    • @dustythunder
      @dustythunder  10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      Ascon space. Bizzos & brozos. They gotta stop sending them our way. We have too many here.

    • @seahorse5689
      @seahorse5689 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      @@dustythunder Absolutely!

  • @amyfrazey8535
    @amyfrazey8535 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    First comment! NTA. This is the wedding gown version of FAFO.

  • @kym7017
    @kym7017 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    NTA

  • @AndyyWithAY
    @AndyyWithAY 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    This was stupid either way, but she could have at least had the good sense to do it inside. Put some water in the glasses and pretend. She clearly has always gotten a bail out, time to FAFO

  • @tribyte4813
    @tribyte4813 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    NTA. Tessa can go get herself a 200 clearance dress.

  • @autiejedi5857
    @autiejedi5857 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    No accountability and nassive entitlement from her family. 🤮

  • @proud19
    @proud19 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    DO NOT SUCK IT UP NTA

  • @NicoleBrown-oc7je
    @NicoleBrown-oc7je 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Maybe the neice needs to rent a dress????If I was Mum I would be angry with my daughter not my sister. NTA.Alternatively,if you do decide to try and keep the peace - you need to set a very strict and not high,budget. Then she might back off anyway.

  • @2tedmonds
    @2tedmonds 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    Never reward bad behavior 🤨

  • @avernion
    @avernion 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    I hope she doesn’t cave. No way should she get this woman another dress.

  • @hrobinson9701
    @hrobinson9701 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    OP is asking for a lot of future problems if she throws ANY amount of money at the niece's problem but she should demand a groveling apology from niece to family and on all social media BEFORE considering any help whatsoever. And make it clear that the assistance that she is withholding is due to the rudeness shown by the niece and how OP's name has been disrespected to family and the world. The dry cleaner would not be the only one having trouble getting mud out of something. You mess with someone's reputation, you fix it completely before getting help (and it would not be possible for the niece clean up all the trash she has been spewing in time for the wedding).

  • @raphaelsmith502
    @raphaelsmith502 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    NTA. Tessa is a brat. I feel sorry for whoever is marrying into this mess. Bride is this way cause mom is this way. Mom is this way cause OPs mom enabled it.

  • @auburncazanigo9173
    @auburncazanigo9173 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    WEDDING DRESS: SHE fucked around and found out! 🤷‍♀️ Her choices, Her responsibility. Period.

  • @JenniferCarrion-wj2qy
    @JenniferCarrion-wj2qy 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    How bout say yeah sure no problem and get a dress from goodwill there is always at least 3 wedding dresses there

  • @laurakerschenbaum4079
    @laurakerschenbaum4079 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    NTA! Particularly how niece criticized aunt for not paying for this. Bride is in the serious Delulu corner If she's getting married in 2 weeks; she has zero chance of getting a new fabulous-as-the-original dress, because she's in sample-dress, 'abandoned' dress, off the rack dress territory now. I do NOT UNDERSTAND why brides do the "pre-wedding photo shoot" at all--I get that this was bride's brain fart idea here, but something similar happened to my best friend years ago, as recommended by her photographer, to give her and her guests more mingle-time at her actual wedding. Her hem got filthy (photos outside), and a bridesmaid's (not me, thank God) heel got caught in her tulle train and ripped it right up the center. She was tremendously lucky that Christian Dior replaced the tulle and laundered the hem. It was ready the DAY BEFORE the wedding! It was seriously TENSE. But she had a white suit (meant for their 'going away' on honeymoon outfit) she was going to wear if they couldn't complete the dress in time. Only thing this bride can do now is search for a better cleaner or a talented seamstress who could creatively fix the existing dress. Bride should have to pay herself for all the reasons Dusty said. In my friend's case, the photographer credited the bride towards the photo package to make up for the cost of his RIDICULOUS mistake.

  • @tohrurikku
    @tohrurikku 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    It is not realistic to believe you can just go into a bridal salon and pick out a really nice wedding dress that will fit you properly two weeks before your wedding! It is realistic to rush to the dry cleaners, beg them to clean the dress the best they can, and then go to a seamstress to see what can be fixed/replaced/covered.
    Maybe it is because I have seen the bad side to too many people like her, but I have a strong feeling that the bride started to really hate her dress, someone thought up this plan, and it was all set up so OP would be there and hopefully offer to get her a new dress. Would not be surprised if they already found/ordered a new dress and she just needed someone to pay for it.
    OP could offer to go to a secondhand store to see what dress they can get for less than $50.

  • @stephenshelton4267
    @stephenshelton4267 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Agree to buy a new dress but the bride has to sign a contract stating that if the marriage end within 10 years then the bride has to pay it back with interest!

  • @CharlonClarke
    @CharlonClarke 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    What if she didn't have money? What would've happened then? At the end of the day it's ok to say no. she could have a mud themed wedding lol

  • @lorealsp.o.v.4607
    @lorealsp.o.v.4607 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Who tf wears a wedding dress in muddy weather?

  • @Infernal_Hellhound
    @Infernal_Hellhound 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Nta, she shouldn’t pay for it at all but she should turn it around and put it on the family. Tell them something like “I’ll pay half if the rest of the family can get the other half raised up”.

  • @beckiearey9078
    @beckiearey9078 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Tell her ok let’s go to Walmart and you can pick your dress

  • @jenniferhoisington66
    @jenniferhoisington66 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    First she made the choice to buy a super expensive dress Second it sounds like Tessa relied on her Mom and grandmonm to pay for it and not one red cent of her money went toward it Third she willingly wore a white dress to a park on a wet muddy day while drinking champine There's plenty of gorgous affordable dresses out there Let her buy one of those

  • @Rosebud198
    @Rosebud198 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    NTA the family members than think OP should pay should put their money where their mouth is.... you can get a nice dress for $1000

  • @colleenswiggum1940
    @colleenswiggum1940 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    Tessa is 24 yo. supposedly the brain is fully developed around age 25. I think she is going to take a little longer. Auntie is NTA.

    • @DawnKellyMedia
      @DawnKellyMedia 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I know a 27 year old girl who acts 16.

  • @GamineMadcap
    @GamineMadcap 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Every family member can chip in what they would have spent on a wedding present to a dress fund. It will be everyone's wedding gift to her.

    • @DawnKellyMedia
      @DawnKellyMedia 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      No. Her family didn't ruin the dress. Tessa needs to learn to take responsibility for her own actions.

  • @Rainbowofthefallen
    @Rainbowofthefallen 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    💜💙

  • @jasonthemagnificent2.0
    @jasonthemagnificent2.0 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    Another Woman dodging accountability like Trump dodging bullets

    • @RobinSiwula-w4h
      @RobinSiwula-w4h 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      Harris lost get over yourself

    • @aralornwolf3140
      @aralornwolf3140 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Trump still owes many municipalities for his rallies... so he too dodges accountability like bullets in the Matrix.

  • @PeterTitmarsh
    @PeterTitmarsh 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Everyone telling op to pay it should be coughing up some money themselves then. If not one single person, all of them, even the bride, but not op.

  • @lindalauver8602
    @lindalauver8602 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    NTA

  • @katemarr1984
    @katemarr1984 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    NTA

  • @coleense7601
    @coleense7601 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    NTA