How to Fight Fair: Part 1|| STEVE HARVEY

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  • Disagreements happen, but there's a way to argue without ruining the relationship. That’s why Steve brought in psychotherapist Spirit to help a couple find ways to get through their problems.
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ความคิดเห็น • 127

  • @rayecaters2u
    @rayecaters2u 5 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    These wives get on my last nerve. They always want a husband, but have no f'n clue how to treat him as such. He's not your son!!!!!

    • @highlyfavoredMG
      @highlyfavoredMG 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Girl!I am here waiting for mine ready and all!

    • @jennywinter3025
      @jennywinter3025 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen

    • @k3k7k8kr
      @k3k7k8kr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      True, but im not his maid either

    • @johnnyboi9271
      @johnnyboi9271 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@k3k7k8kr Maids clean up waaay more than some clothes. In a household where you share a space with another human being.... chances are you're going to clean up behind eachother to a certain extent.

    • @aprila6628
      @aprila6628 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Tell em!!

  • @evanace4817
    @evanace4817 5 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    I find it hilarious how Majorie checks Steve when he raises his voice 😂 She’s got that man on a tight leash.

    • @te3622
      @te3622 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      This is why some men do not want to treat women like queens because this indicate that they are on a tight leash. He is not on a tight leash (dog), he puts his wife on a pedal stool and this is how he defines his love to her. The language we use is how people interpret the behavior and people do not want to consider to be on a "tight leash". When people use that language then they begin to develop the attitude, I am not doing that because I am on a tight leash. Today, it is hard to find good partners because it is these sayings that keep people from being good to their partner. This is a working relationship and about respecting his queen, not a tight leash. My husband does the same for me and I do for him. I am his queen and he is my king. Niether of us are on tight leashes.

    • @evanace4817
      @evanace4817 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Tracey Evrard It sounds like you and your husband have a mutual respect for one another and I agree with some of what you are saying. I do not believe either partner should raise their voice at each other. But with that being said, from how Steve has talked about the way Majorie treats him in this video and countless others it seems as though he only follows orders and has very little authority in the relationship. For example he has said plenty of times that when him and Majorie walk up to their car she will wait for him to open the door for her even if he forgets. I feel like opening the door is the chivalrous thing to do and men should do it sometimes but it shouldn’t be required every time a man and his girl are front of a door. Things like are why I said he is on a leash.

    • @ieo92
      @ieo92 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@te3622 Exactly! I couldn't have said it any better myself. Both spouses should respect each other and not be in competition with each other.

    • @peacheskong2245
      @peacheskong2245 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Interesting and I think the language definitely triggers people. I do think Steve loves to make stereotypical jokes or even enjoys the idea of his wife "holding him on a leash" or "checking him" i don't think he has no say... IF, God forbids, but IF Steve was like No.. Everything would stop. I do get the impression that they enjoy being submissive to each other

    • @ieo92
      @ieo92 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@evanace4817 Honestly, I have to agree with you too. I get the feeling Majorie runs the home and Steve is just like a participant. That's not a healthy relationship. I feel as if Majorie walks all over and if Steve say something, she gets all authoritative/bossy

  • @biancalord488
    @biancalord488 5 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    It sounds like a mother speaking to her son

    • @StephJ0seph
      @StephJ0seph 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      For real after I watched the clip I said aloud "You're not his mom, stop treating him like a kid" She wanted him to acknowledge her feelings when she didn't even do the same for him.

    • @babyhamisi5331
      @babyhamisi5331 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Soo lovely

  • @texas5009
    @texas5009 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Steve is one the very few people in this world that knows if a marriage is going to last trust me.

  • @49ers_red_and_gold2
    @49ers_red_and_gold2 5 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Yes communication is really big and marriages. Husbands listen to your wives showing them respect and honor as the weaker vessel. 1Peter 3:7

  • @maryanne9927
    @maryanne9927 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    This guy's love language is words of affirmation while for the lady it's acts of service. He wouldnt mind doing any of the stuff if he received some acknowledgement or affirmation. Please take time to learn each other's love languages and put in some effort to speak them..

    • @TosingerT
      @TosingerT 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Anne Mary Agaba best answer

    • @maryanne9927
      @maryanne9927 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TosingerT Thank you

    • @StephJ0seph
      @StephJ0seph 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Wow, well said Maryanne. That's a different perspective that I didn't even think of

  • @CJ_Pharaoh
    @CJ_Pharaoh 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Stay blessed Mr Hightower 🙏

  • @masonpatrices
    @masonpatrices 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Great marriage advice..... I would love to see more of it.

  • @writeart7636
    @writeart7636 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Matthew is soft hearted and she's a bully, why did they get married again?

    • @tg6893
      @tg6893 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      She probably forced him too do it 🤔

    • @writeart7636
      @writeart7636 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe

  • @divinerae4966
    @divinerae4966 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    They need to know each others love language, she does not think him doing chores is all that because that's not what her language is and he needs more validation obviously..this could end bad if not resolved.

    • @yanicketienne1464
      @yanicketienne1464 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Divine Rae: Brilliant observation! Primary Love Language is everything! His is: Words of Affirmation. He also performs the Acts of Service love language. Hers is: Words of Affirmation also. However, she should acknowledge his acts of service and reward him with affirmation. I think he really, really needs that from her. We know it's not that simple, but we also know that marriage takes work.

  • @candlecane
    @candlecane 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Steve: Your marriage will not survive. At 8 months?! There's no way it can survive.
    Me: 👀👀🍿🍿

  • @putus18
    @putus18 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    While Steve and his guest bring up pretty good points/suggestions my only question is, when they were "dating/courting" why didn't they take that time to work out effective communication?

    • @JuanitaMichelle
      @JuanitaMichelle 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      putus18 that was my question as well. They jumped the gun.

  • @gloriamutoni5137
    @gloriamutoni5137 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That got me "I don't work for you"

  • @johnarawlings
    @johnarawlings 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This reflects why I have been so happily single for two decades. :)

    • @makhix1508
      @makhix1508 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      John Rawlings because apparently you lack open communication

    • @nianiah2212
      @nianiah2212 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Happy? Happy! Blow-up doll and happy? Get yo wife Get yo life
      just joking *_*

    • @johnarawlings
      @johnarawlings 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@makhix1508 Thanks for the giggle. What ever you think. :) Go back to entertaining the mindless conformity LOL

    • @makhix1508
      @makhix1508 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      John Rawlings of course doll🤗 go back to being miserably single for the next two decades-if you even live that long🤭😂 #whitedocrack

    • @johnarawlings
      @johnarawlings 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@makhix1508 Once again thanks for the Giggle. :)

  • @nianiah2212
    @nianiah2212 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    An "'He My KING"' why Am I hollering at him?

    • @antigonetoliver
      @antigonetoliver 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      exactly she was in the wrong

    • @_clauscarstensen
      @_clauscarstensen 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I was thinking along the similar lines. All this constant "She is your queen", "Happy Wife, Happy Life" stereotypes are leadig in a direction, where wifes can get the (dangerous) impression, that they can push through anything, because he has the obligation to change his view, no matter WHAT he thinks is best. Down the road is a divorce coming, if one side is constantly told, "Stand back"

    • @smilesnluvd6526
      @smilesnluvd6526 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      In this case, I think he said only 'she's my queen' because it was from his perspective not both perspectives.

  • @jejeyay6180
    @jejeyay6180 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are King Steve 🥰😘

  • @Yeahthisisme7
    @Yeahthisisme7 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    As soon as she said we are working on our communication..... I was like « it would have been better to be handle the dating stage ». However, it’s good to fix it as early as possible....

  • @robertobrown4032
    @robertobrown4032 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks so much

  • @cocoloso030
    @cocoloso030 5 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    8 months in and all this drama already?? Isn't that suppose to be the honeymoon period??

    • @makhix1508
      @makhix1508 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Cee do u even know anything about relationships?

    • @cocoloso030
      @cocoloso030 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@makhix1508 Dont worry yourself with what I know/don't know weirdo... !!

    • @makhix1508
      @makhix1508 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Cee then don’t worry yourself about what you clearly don’t know 😂honeymoon phase my ass

    • @phillipswatson3452
      @phillipswatson3452 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Cee 😎
      SWEETIE...SHE KNEW HIS BEHAVIOR BEFORE SHE MARRIED HIM...
      PROBLEM IS YOU CAN'T CHANGE NOBODY BUT YOURSELF!!

  • @luwamalem9537
    @luwamalem9537 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The wife is like the mother! She needs to learn to respect his feelings cause it seems that he is a sensitive guy! She's taller than him & has kind of an attitude so that's probably intimidating to him as a guy! Steve's right, 8 month marriage & their here talking to him, they need to find what works for them (communication & listening) or it's not going to work out!

  • @shayreneechannel2183
    @shayreneechannel2183 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I agree Steve

  • @sharonputnam8860
    @sharonputnam8860 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    RUN MATTHEW RUN!!!!!!

  • @ams30393
    @ams30393 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This woman's name is called Spirit?! Have I seen that right?

  • @jennywinter3025
    @jennywinter3025 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    His not happy keep it up girl his going to find someone else

  • @niasworld27
    @niasworld27 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Why does the husband look like the son

  • @lovelife8968
    @lovelife8968 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    The issue with lots of men and ladies is we can treat the men like children. Then when they react and don't know how to communicate it then we, the ladies, are confused.

  • @maryhollingsworth2856
    @maryhollingsworth2856 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Marriage is two mature adults giving in 100 per cent of the time. That's it. If it breaks down, START listening, stop talking.

  • @positivemindset1989
    @positivemindset1989 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I had those fights all the time. I just do something in return

  • @ramonaharris920
    @ramonaharris920 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Initially, I thought Spirit was one of Steve Harvey’s twins.

  • @shawmou3493
    @shawmou3493 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    No! Beard!

  • @marvamoseley899
    @marvamoseley899 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I say let it go about the clothes. Does it really matter that much. Some women will gladly pick up after him.

  • @donaldruok
    @donaldruok 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    As men we can avoid all this by not getting married

  • @masonpatrices
    @masonpatrices 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    That's a dumb argument smh their both childish.....

    • @aprila6628
      @aprila6628 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly!! Like really smdh.

    • @syndi301
      @syndi301 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      An argument that stays in the same spot it won't get solved if no one can see or acknowledge the issue most men want a mom figure if you act like a child you'll be treated like one she really shouldn't tell you pick up anything and lady communication is key stop nagging and talk calm

  • @highlyfavoredMG
    @highlyfavoredMG 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    She talks to him like a child the Matthew Mathew this that got on my nerves!

  • @littlejoe9381
    @littlejoe9381 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yeah. Why you hollin' at the queen?

  • @aprila6628
    @aprila6628 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Lady just pick up the damn clothes!! It more important stuff u need to focus on besides some damn clothes! Take this advice coming from a woman who's going on her 20th year of marriage. ME!! Hell clothes is some Lil dumb crap. U gonna wash em anyways. I have all males in my house. I have 2 son's and if I focus on some clothes laying around I will go crazy!! Just tell him to hand u the clothes. Problem solved smh

  • @NotDayWalker
    @NotDayWalker 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Too many experts, I bet she goes home and argue with her family all the time

  • @jamillacamilla6953
    @jamillacamilla6953 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hiiiii

  • @despicabledeplorablemgtow3837
    @despicabledeplorablemgtow3837 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    No wife, happy life. No woman, no cry.

  • @seven92023
    @seven92023 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    These two are not going to find a way.

  • @alexislexxy9595
    @alexislexxy9595 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am very very curious, is this man with her for dependency? she's treating him like a child and he responding like one....he should be running AWAY

    • @candylove49
      @candylove49 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      She is most likely the bread winner. This is what happens when women are “too empowered”.

    • @alexislexxy9595
      @alexislexxy9595 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you so much

  • @JuanitaMichelle
    @JuanitaMichelle 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    They really getting tight over clothes on the floor? Wow

  • @happy7puer640
    @happy7puer640 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    The woman is crazy my husband never helped me

    • @sheblesst.v2166
      @sheblesst.v2166 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I don't want to call you crazy but your husband should help you

    • @highlyfavoredMG
      @highlyfavoredMG 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Your husband should help you!

    • @makhix1508
      @makhix1508 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      And that’s actually really sad that your husband left you do everything by yourself. sounds like a very HAPPY AND HEALTHY MARRIAGE.

    • @JenLovesBenz
      @JenLovesBenz 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      I never had a husband because of this very reason.

    • @sheblesst.v2166
      @sheblesst.v2166 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@JenLovesBenz you just haven't met the right man yet sis😘 having a husband is a beautiful experience. When you meet someone that respect you and your standards, marriage works wonderfully. Also when you both have the same ideas of each other's roles as husband & wife. Sidenote that looks different for everyone, but your man/ husband will have the same vibe as you.

  • @genobourn7423
    @genobourn7423 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Not down with fighting at all! When I was younger debating and arguing occured but now days it does not make any sense! A individual is going to believe and do what they want anyways. A high percentage of people have "controlling issues!" They want you to cater to and entertain their will! I rather be lefted alone! BE ME AND DO ME! MIND MY OWN BUSINESS!

  • @jamestuck90
    @jamestuck90 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He need to shave that beard, we get it your a grown man.

  • @jamestuck90
    @jamestuck90 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Im glad there canceling the show, its feel like a reenactment.

  • @zero1188
    @zero1188 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    its simple never argue with the female, state your demands, give her directions and she will follow

    • @magrethemus
      @magrethemus 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      zero huh? Demands? Nope

    • @EDBailley
      @EDBailley 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I don't think so, you had better not get married or you will be in some serious trouble smh.

    • @nianiah2212
      @nianiah2212 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good Talk

    • @zero1188
      @zero1188 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@EDBailley i dont expect you to understand because your probably a female, but its simple females need a leader in a relationship, that man isnt leading. females love to be told what to do. if you ever had a man and caught yourself being extremely submissive to him and you didnt know why, they you will understand why

    • @hymnodyhands
      @hymnodyhands 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@zero1188 Demands? No -- marriage is NOT the military. Men respond to that kind of treatment well enough to have built great armies. Women do not respond as well because in general, our emotional makeup will not allow us to be healthy in that kind of environment day in and day out. That is not the way to get things done in the home, and men who have been successfully married for decades will tell you that. Veterans who STAY married will tell you that. A woman has to trust a man to follow his lead, and that includes him being trustworthy with her greater sensitivity -- in the age of no-fault divorce, your idea of leadership leads right to men paying -- FOR REAL -- for their attempts to bark at and boss their wives!

  • @24joshdg
    @24joshdg 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    He’s soft

  • @jpat989
    @jpat989 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He is a fem fem dude. He is like a child.

  • @Happy-jv9fd
    @Happy-jv9fd 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    those two shouldn't be married on the first place, they are NOT a Match...

  • @makhix1508
    @makhix1508 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yeah some of y’all in these comments are doomed to be single and or divorced. Y’all think you got the answers but have probably never even been in a serious relationship 🙄👋🏾 FOH

  • @hawaiianrussian1047
    @hawaiianrussian1047 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    He need to move on she just wasting his time

  • @Rooted_Locs
    @Rooted_Locs 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I'm confused? Y'all didn't know this about each other BEFORE you got married? This is why I won't marry anyone I haven't first lived with!

    • @MsJP
      @MsJP 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      miniimufin
      honestly just spend a few nights...u'll see real quick...

    • @makhix1508
      @makhix1508 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      You don’t experience certain things until after you’re married

    • @Rooted_Locs
      @Rooted_Locs 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@makhix1508 like what?

  • @memshinlamed9079
    @memshinlamed9079 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why she needs to be praisin him for simple stuff??. He short i dont respect him

  • @RayyanKhan-tb8wc
    @RayyanKhan-tb8wc 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    first

  • @jpat989
    @jpat989 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Why should she acknowledge a grown man for doing what he is suppose to do? Is he still a boy?

    • @writeart7636
      @writeart7636 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow

    • @ekrahmatu891
      @ekrahmatu891 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It's called the need to have words of affirmation as his language of love

  • @snowice8816
    @snowice8816 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Mgtow

  • @syndi301
    @syndi301 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    To me if you have to tell a man what to do it's doomed he should know what to do that's all he say looking for a thank you help her she'll reciprocate most men to me don't know what love is or marriage they have no clue

  • @geradcourtney9517
    @geradcourtney9517 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Stop taking advice from TV host what they need to do is get into there Bible and read the word then set up a see a couples counseling session with your counselor or your pastor stop taking advice from TV