Maybe im old school but coffee / tea spots are always my go to just because its low pressure. Who knows maybe there’s better first date ideas out there. I just never want someone to feel a lot of pressure off the bat.
Just grabbing something to drink and go for a walk together. That way you are not crazy bound to some kind of activity and if the date works well you can be spontanious and go and do something else. And if it's not working out which you figure out in the first few minutes ... it's easy to end the date!
I got out of an 8 year relationship a year and a half ago and really enjoyed this! Totally agree on physical appearance, not only does it not fix bigger issues but looks fade so quickly as you age! It really made me realize how much more important connection and compatibility are. 😊
Ah fun! You def got the right mindset about setting goals and standards for what you are looking from dating, if you don’t you’re just aimlessly going on dates with people.
I never really dated in high school, but I was in one long term relationship during college. It lasted 3 years and ended like a year after we both graduated. The breakup was rough, but after a year of dating in my 20's I met my now husband (on Tinder btw lol). He knew he wanted to marry after 3 dates, we got engaged after one month, and married after 10 months. We have been married almost 2 years now, and I have never been happier. I am so glad you know exactly what you want. It definitely helps weed out a lot of potential partners. Best of luck on this new chapter! :D I hope you find your person!
Hi Lucia! I really resonate with your video as someone who also moved to and dated in NYC in their early twenties. I always dreaded dating here because of so many horror stories I hear from my friends and online, but ultimately, I think being intentional, knowing the kind of person I look for, and being open-minded really helped. I found my person on a dating app, learned so much more about myself, and couldn't be happier that I put myself out there. I hope you have a ton of fun and wish you all the best!
Way too comfortable being single now!😂😂can’t even fathom dating anymore, so much work! But I am older and have had my kids,etc. I love watching you grow, my kids are your age and everyone grows at different paces. You have come so far in the year I have been watching your vlogs!😊
Hi Lucia 😄 it's been a while, but I'm finally catching up on a couple of your recent vlogs. I had busy week & half.. cheers to a better and fulfilled February for uuuu 😇🥰
let me download Hinge! I have just turned 29 and i am both excited to try dating and scared of ending up alone because I keep saying I am a busy gal! Thanks for opening up! :) love, Erika
Love love love your vlogs! You came up on my recommended page not too long ago, and I love the New York ones, especially living in Arizona where it's sunny all year round. Also, we're about the same age so please more dating content vids! 😄
once you go on more first dates the nerves go away. bc it's chill and you don't need to see that guy ever again if you don't see a connection. that takes the stress away from it all ❤
Loved this so much! As someone who also has very very similar dating standards, I will say it is possible to find someone who aligns with your values. I wanted someone who respected & supported my career ambitions, was conversational and pursued their own hobbies, knew how to cook & clean and willing to be equal with household chores, and also had blue eyes 😅 my partner fits all those things and more. The last two years with my partner have been so much more than I could have imagined and I’m so happy I knew what I was looking for in a partner and sought that kind of relationship 💚
I'm a 31 year old sahm living in Ohio in a loving wonderful marriage. I genuinely love my husband and daughter so much. BUT this will be fun to live vicariously through you hahaha especially the NYC aspect of it.
Yes! I just started a monthly series on my Patreon called Izzy's Dating Adventures! Ended an 11 year marriage in Set 2023... dating is going to be exciting!! Personally I married the wrong person so be very very careful!!!
it's just like trying to get a job. A job or any type job doesn't appear to an individual, you got to seek it with the intention that you will find what it is that you are looking for. Don't wait for things to happen, you got to make it happen. I think I stole that idea from a podcast 😂
Hi Lucia 🙂 I'm looking forward to this new series of 'dating in New York' vlogs. ⚠️ Please promise that you will be careful and avoid the guys only looking for casual hookups. Lucia - "I'm not physically perfect." (You're pretty close, though). However many different guys you choose to date, we all want you to meet your Mr Right who treats you how you deserve to be treated.
awww i loved this! wishing you all the best!! i still don't know how, but i landed my dream guy who shares all my values and who is genuinely my best friend who i love more every day! anddd he's tall, dark, and handsome 😂just about to celebrate ten years together and seven years of marriage! they do exist haha. i would absolutely recommend checking out your local young catholic professionals chapter!
How exciting Lucia!! It’s perfectly normal to be nervous and full of jitters, there’s that element of letting someone in, not wanting to be hurt or facing a date with zero compatibility and cringing the whole date! It sounds like it was wonderful and obviously enjoyed each other’s company to spend 2 and half hours together!! That how my first date when with my hubby, it was just ☕️ coffee, lol! If you find yourself thinking about him with an occasional butterfly , well that deserves a second date!! I’m so proud of you!! Trust me when you meet the right guy, they will not infringe on your space try to conform you into anything,they simply fit right in, and you find yourself lifted up , supported and find interest in similar passions and ways to grow. You have a lot going on right now, and the right guy will understand and support. You are a gem and deserve to be treasured!!!
@@LuciaCordarojust finished the video and you can ABSOLUTELY find all of those things in a man in NYC (I had similar “requirements” 🤪including the Catholic one) Manifesting for you!!!!!
I respect you wanting to find a life partner and not just dating around. Keep in mind, men can evolve just like women do. A man close to your age may not be quite there yet. Find someone you’re attracted to who has similar values. They may not be perfectly fit, no alcohol, open minded, a high earner, want to stay in the city with a career wife, etc… That kind of guy is a unicorn and have their pick, and they know it. Also, they might be a-holes. 😅 You’re a catch and it will work out in the end. 💕
Good 4 u! I dated a man in college for 3 years. After we broke up, I said I would never date again or have any other relationship. I was 22. I am 52. I haven't dated.
I'm divorced and in my mid/late 40s, and I haven't dated in ages. I want to work on myself a little more first, kind of like you were doing this past year.
Thank you for a great vlog. Belated Happy Birthday 🎂. I'm a twin too. I'm 3 minutes older than Sarah. I was born before ultrasound so the doctor thought Mom was having a big boy. Sarah and I breathed in unison. So, we were a surprise. Okay, done rambling. Love ya! Peace 🕊️
i wouldn't take it so seriously just go on dates and see if you can see yourself with them long term. bc taking the stress of finding a husband sounds stressful af
I definitely would love to cook more in my future! Just not a priority rn. When I have my own family they will be a huge priority ofc. Not sure what u mean
I guess I meant are you looking for a partner who knows how to cook? For family values, I meant are you looking for someone who is close to their family ?
Lol I was wondering if you were going to do a second date with this guy or go back to the app. Maybe good to meet different people to see what's out there.
Good luck! Dating is only a nightmare if you allow it to be. Have boundaries and standards and you'll move on from the crusty losers quickly, and eventually, you won't even go out with them. Always FaceTime with a guy before going out with them. You can't know how you vibe from text. You'll save yourself a lot of time by FT beforehand. Don't drink on dates. It weeds out the alcoholics straight away and there are a LOT of them in NYC. Also you're only 25 - your frontal lobe has only just finished developing. You want to make sure your brain is fully formed before you decide to legally bind yourself to another human being!
U said something in one of ur videos about u wish u would have been more lax when u were w ur ex. And I think u need to go into this w some flexibility & a let’s see where this can go attitude instead of this is what I am looking for etc. I was not looking for a husband when I met mine. I was just dating for fun when we met & he swept me off my feet. U can make a list but the truth is it’s probably a mixture of both. Spontaneity & a list of wants. He might not have everything on ur list but he could b perfect for u. U just don’t know so b open to the possibilities even if he might not look perfect on paper…he still could b perfect for u.
@@LuciaCordaro Stick to your most important non negotiables! Shut it down once those red flags present! Question: I would think tricky to find someone raised Catholic who is spiritual, but not religious and not conservative in certain regards? I am Christian. Do you see yourself having a live in Nanny for your Kids or? Did your Mom work full time Corporate? Will you be able to keep working full time & getting your MBA? I have been same with Alcohol last couple years. Just extended the cleanse, out of curiosity. So much healthier for the body! So wouldn't want to be with someone who was a daily wine drinker. Looking forward to your sharing re: the daily journey... LOVE your vids!
Okay my last comment I promise😂 I just have a lot of thoughts on this subject. But when you said “a lot of guys just want a stay at home mom” tbh that exactly is actually not appealing at all to me, in the slightest. Whats really attractive to me is meeting a woman who loves her job & wants to continue to work towards her goals in that job or dare I say has more career driven goals outside of it too. I’ve already dated someone in the past who had that stay at home mentality (didnt date her for that, it was a decision she changed her mind on while in the relationship) & it seriously killed me
Not that you asked for my opinion lol but in case you are. Ive been with my husband for 10yrs and while my goals are different than yours in the fact that i crave tradition and traditional gender roles...what i will say is that ive met a lot of women who say they dont want traditional roles but then in reality they want their cake and eat it too for example the man picking the date and paying for the meal and being "traditional" but then arent a traditional woman...does that make sense. that is the only big problem ive seen anyways...give mixed signals
Shockingly simple-minded and fake deep on everything for someone that just rambles on and on for so long....not sure how ANYONE would meet these demands rather than just finding someone that feels RIGHT....but good luck...I guess..
Jaybird, did you not even listen to what she said? She said that her last relationship was with someone in college that just felt right at the time. Now she is looking for her forever person, not just the next person. I mean, how long would this entire video take if she said, “Hey, guys, I’m going to start dating again after going through a horrible breakup and this time, I am totally looking for someone that doesn’t feel right but is Mr. Right. See you on the next vlog!” She used to look for tall, dark and handsome. Now she is looking for a brain, a gym membership, a large income, and a rosary. And maybe a little kindness.
@ My GOD if you ramble this long about someone you don't even ACTUALLY know I'd hate to know how long you go ON AND ON AND ON to people in your real life!!
What is ur fav first date idea?
Maybe im old school but coffee / tea spots are always my go to just because its low pressure. Who knows maybe there’s better first date ideas out there. I just never want someone to feel a lot of pressure off the bat.
@@willmax95nice!
Just grabbing something to drink and go for a walk together. That way you are not crazy bound to some kind of activity and if the date works well you can be spontanious and go and do something else. And if it's not working out which you figure out in the first few minutes ... it's easy to end the date!
Take a cooking class
@ oh that’s so cute!!
I got out of an 8 year relationship a year and a half ago and really enjoyed this! Totally agree on physical appearance, not only does it not fix bigger issues but looks fade so quickly as you age! It really made me realize how much more important connection and compatibility are. 😊
Totally!! Sending u love 🤍
Ah fun! You def got the right mindset about setting goals and standards for what you are looking from dating, if you don’t you’re just aimlessly going on dates with people.
Yeah def!!
I feel like a proud mom watching this❤ dating is vulnerable so thank you for sharing!
Aw thank you so much!!!
I never really dated in high school, but I was in one long term relationship during college. It lasted 3 years and ended like a year after we both graduated. The breakup was rough, but after a year of dating in my 20's I met my now husband (on Tinder btw lol). He knew he wanted to marry after 3 dates, we got engaged after one month, and married after 10 months. We have been married almost 2 years now, and I have never been happier. I am so glad you know exactly what you want. It definitely helps weed out a lot of potential partners. Best of luck on this new chapter! :D I hope you find your person!
That is such an amazing story! So happy for you!! :)
Hi Lucia! I really resonate with your video as someone who also moved to and dated in NYC in their early twenties. I always dreaded dating here because of so many horror stories I hear from my friends and online, but ultimately, I think being intentional, knowing the kind of person I look for, and being open-minded really helped. I found my person on a dating app, learned so much more about myself, and couldn't be happier that I put myself out there. I hope you have a ton of fun and wish you all the best!
That’s awesome!!! Thank you for sharing and yes you’re so right 🤍🤍🤍
Way too comfortable being single now!😂😂can’t even fathom dating anymore, so much work! But I am older and have had my kids,etc. I love watching you grow, my kids are your age and everyone grows at different paces. You have come so far in the year I have been watching your vlogs!😊
Haha fair!! And awe yes totally- thanks for being here for the journey!
Hi Lucia 😄 it's been a while, but I'm finally catching up on a couple of your recent vlogs. I had busy week & half.. cheers to a better and fulfilled February for uuuu 😇🥰
I’m so excited for you. Glad I found you over here from tik tok. Your vlogs are amazing. Stay safe and thanks for sharing.
Awe yay!! Thank you!! 🤍
You are my personal friend from TH-cam. I love your blogs. I hope this boy is great
@@yelitzahz awe thank you friend!!! 🤍🤍
You have such a nice and welcoming aura! Dating in a big city is hard (I live in Paris) but definitely enjoy the moment !!
Awe thank you 🥹🥹🥹 I will try to
let me download Hinge! I have just turned 29 and i am both excited to try dating and scared of ending up alone because I keep saying I am a busy gal! Thanks for opening up! :)
love, Erika
Yesss u got this! 🤍🤍
My favorite topic! Look forward to more of these videos!
Omg yayyy
Love love love your vlogs! You came up on my recommended page not too long ago, and I love the New York ones, especially living in Arizona where it's sunny all year round. Also, we're about the same age so please more dating content vids! 😄
Awe thank you so much!!!! 🥹🥹 haha ok I will keep them coming!
once you go on more first dates the nerves go away. bc it's chill and you don't need to see that guy ever again if you don't see a connection. that takes the stress away from it all ❤
Totally 🤍🤍🥰🥰
Loved this so much! As someone who also has very very similar dating standards, I will say it is possible to find someone who aligns with your values. I wanted someone who respected & supported my career ambitions, was conversational and pursued their own hobbies, knew how to cook & clean and willing to be equal with household chores, and also had blue eyes 😅 my partner fits all those things and more. The last two years with my partner have been so much more than I could have imagined and I’m so happy I knew what I was looking for in a partner and sought that kind of relationship 💚
Awe that’s amazing!! Thanks so much for sharing and so happy for you!!! 🤍🤍
This was very informative and gave me something to thi k about when looking for a lifr partner!! Also, I love your style ❤
Awe I’m glad it was helpful in some way!! And thank u:)))
I'm a 31 year old sahm living in Ohio in a loving wonderful marriage. I genuinely love my husband and daughter so much. BUT this will be fun to live vicariously through you hahaha especially the NYC aspect of it.
Hahaha I love that for u and haha yay!
9:07 you better talk that talk.. manifest it.. 😂😄👏👏
Yes! I just started a monthly series on my Patreon called Izzy's Dating Adventures! Ended an 11 year marriage in Set 2023... dating is going to be exciting!! Personally I married the wrong person so be very very careful!!!
Exciting!
Can I just say that I think your natural hair color looks so good with your skin tone?
Like how i have it now?
@LuciaCordaro yes! You could go back to darker to if you wanted ☺️ thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing your journey with us! 🎀
it's just like trying to get a job. A job or any type job doesn't appear to an individual, you got to seek it with the intention that you will find what it is that you are looking for. Don't wait for things to happen, you got to make it happen. I think I stole that idea from a podcast 😂
Haha so true!
100% agree about someone who is able to take care of their own life… dentist appt, clothes, etc.
Totally!!
Good luck Lucia!!! Hope you find a nice and good guy! You are a lovely girl, but please, be careful!!! ❤
Thanks so much!! 🤍🤍🤍
Hi Lucia 🙂
I'm looking forward to this new series of 'dating in New York' vlogs. ⚠️ Please promise that you will be careful and avoid the guys only looking for casual hookups.
Lucia - "I'm not physically perfect." (You're pretty close, though).
However many different guys you choose to date, we all want you to meet your Mr Right who treats you how you deserve to be treated.
Thank you!!! Haha yes I will def be careful
awww i loved this! wishing you all the best!! i still don't know how, but i landed my dream guy who shares all my values and who is genuinely my best friend who i love more every day! anddd he's tall, dark, and handsome 😂just about to celebrate ten years together and seven years of marriage! they do exist haha. i would absolutely recommend checking out your local young catholic professionals chapter!
Awe love that for you!!!! 🤍🤍🤍
How exciting Lucia!! It’s perfectly normal to be nervous and full of jitters, there’s that element of letting someone in, not wanting to be hurt or facing a date with zero compatibility and cringing the whole date!
It sounds like it was wonderful and obviously enjoyed each other’s company to spend 2 and half hours together!!
That how my first date when with my hubby, it was just ☕️ coffee, lol! If you find yourself thinking about him with an occasional butterfly , well that deserves a second date!! I’m so proud of you!!
Trust me when you meet the right guy, they will not infringe on your space try to conform you into anything,they simply fit right in, and you find yourself lifted up , supported and find interest in similar passions and ways to grow. You have a lot going on right now, and the right guy will understand and support. You are a gem and deserve to be treasured!!!
I met my husband on hinge in NYC…10 years ago!!!!! There’s some great guys in NYC 😊😊😊
love!!!!
@@LuciaCordarojust finished the video and you can ABSOLUTELY find all of those things in a man in NYC (I had similar “requirements” 🤪including the Catholic one) Manifesting for you!!!!!
I respect you wanting to find a life partner and not just dating around. Keep in mind, men can evolve just like women do. A man close to your age may not be quite there yet. Find someone you’re attracted to who has similar values. They may not be perfectly fit, no alcohol, open minded, a high earner, want to stay in the city with a career wife, etc… That kind of guy is a unicorn and have their pick, and they know it. Also, they might be a-holes. 😅 You’re a catch and it will work out in the end. 💕
For sure!! And lol yeah def don’t want anyone rude hahhab
Good 4 u! I dated a man in college for 3 years. After we broke up, I said I would never date again or have any other relationship. I was 22. I am 52. I haven't dated.
Oh wow- thanks for sharing!
I'm divorced and in my mid/late 40s, and I haven't dated in ages. I want to work on myself a little more first, kind of like you were doing this past year.
Always a journey- def still working on myself too
Political views are one thing, morals are another.
Thanks for sharing! I wonder how many of the people you date will watch this video!
💀💀💀 I don’t wanna think about that hahahah
Thank you for a great vlog. Belated Happy Birthday 🎂. I'm a twin too. I'm 3 minutes older than Sarah. I was born before ultrasound so the doctor thought Mom was having a big boy. Sarah and I breathed in unison. So, we were a surprise. Okay, done rambling. Love ya! Peace 🕊️
Oh wow!
@LuciaCordaro wrong influencer!!!!! LOL
People do date in high school and college 😊even at elementary school, some people are dating...
morning wow you did good on dating in nyc
Lolll
i wouldn't take it so seriously just go on dates and see if you can see yourself with them long term. bc taking the stress of finding a husband sounds stressful af
What are your thoughts on cooking? Also family values ?
I definitely would love to cook more in my future! Just not a priority rn. When I have my own family they will be a huge priority ofc. Not sure what u mean
I guess I meant are you looking for a partner who knows how to cook? For family values, I meant are you looking for someone who is close to their family ?
Hey Lucia!
Do you know how to make GOD laugh?
Tell Him YOUR plans for the future!!!
Good luck girl! 😅
Very true hahah
Lol I was wondering if you were going to do a second date with this guy or go back to the app. Maybe good to meet different people to see what's out there.
Haha I’ll share in the next vlog!
You are so smart at just 25. The politicall views thing... YES.
Would you ever go on a dating show? You seem like someone that would enjoy go on something like love is blind
lol idk that sounds absolutely terrifying hahaha
Good luck! Dating is only a nightmare if you allow it to be. Have boundaries and standards and you'll move on from the crusty losers quickly, and eventually, you won't even go out with them. Always FaceTime with a guy before going out with them. You can't know how you vibe from text. You'll save yourself a lot of time by FT beforehand. Don't drink on dates. It weeds out the alcoholics straight away and there are a LOT of them in NYC. Also you're only 25 - your frontal lobe has only just finished developing. You want to make sure your brain is fully formed before you decide to legally bind yourself to another human being!
Good advice!! Tysm 🤍🤍🤍
Slayyyy
Never heard of a coffee tour - did you have 3 coffees?!
Yes hahah but we started splitting
U said something in one of ur videos about u wish u would have been more lax when u were w ur ex. And I think u need to go into this w some flexibility & a let’s see where this can go attitude instead of this is what I am looking for etc. I was not looking for a husband when I met mine. I was just dating for fun when we met & he swept me off my feet. U can make a list but the truth is it’s probably a mixture of both. Spontaneity & a list of wants. He might not have everything on ur list but he could b perfect for u. U just don’t know so b open to the possibilities even if he might not look perfect on paper…he still could b perfect for u.
For sure!!
Lucia, I use a Values Assessment with my clients. If you’d be interested in taking it I’d love to share it with you.
That’s so cool!! Yes I’d love to!
Is there a follow up date? Who paid?
I’ll share updates in the next vlog! And he paid for everything
are you conservative?
No I don’t identify as that
@@LuciaCordaro Stick to your most important non negotiables! Shut it down once those red flags present! Question: I would think tricky to find someone raised Catholic who is spiritual, but not religious and not conservative in certain regards? I am Christian. Do you see yourself having a live in Nanny for your Kids or? Did your Mom work full time Corporate? Will you be able to keep working full time & getting your MBA? I have been same with Alcohol last couple years. Just extended the cleanse, out of curiosity. So much healthier for the body! So wouldn't want to be with someone who was a daily wine drinker. Looking forward to your sharing re: the daily journey... LOVE your vids!
Happy & proud of you Lucia! ❤
🥰🥰
girl dating for a husband? i would say take things slow and see if the connection is there
Yep I want to take things slow! But finding my life partner is the intention- not looking for something short term
Okay my last comment I promise😂 I just have a lot of thoughts on this subject. But when you said “a lot of guys just want a stay at home mom” tbh that exactly is actually not appealing at all to me, in the slightest. Whats really attractive to me is meeting a woman who loves her job & wants to continue to work towards her goals in that job or dare I say has more career driven goals outside of it too. I’ve already dated someone in the past who had that stay at home mentality (didnt date her for that, it was a decision she changed her mind on while in the relationship) & it seriously killed me
It’s different for everyone!! Just sharing what I’ve noticed so far
@@LuciaCordaro yeah & I know you werent painting every guy out in that light. I know you’re very well aware, you’re chillin😊
You are look boring on an American acsent❤😂
Not that you asked for my opinion lol but in case you are. Ive been with my husband for 10yrs and while my goals are different than yours in the fact that i crave tradition and traditional gender roles...what i will say is that ive met a lot of women who say they dont want traditional roles but then in reality they want their cake and eat it too for example the man picking the date and paying for the meal and being "traditional" but then arent a traditional woman...does that make sense. that is the only big problem ive seen anyways...give mixed signals
Yeah definitely a valid point! It’s a tough balance hahah
Shockingly simple-minded and fake deep on everything for someone that just rambles on and on for so long....not sure how ANYONE would meet these demands rather than just finding someone that feels RIGHT....but good luck...I guess..
Hahah it’s just a train of thought
Jaybird, did you not even listen to what she said? She said that her last relationship was with someone in college that just felt right at the time. Now she is looking for her forever person, not just the next person. I mean, how long would this entire video take if she said, “Hey, guys, I’m going to start dating again after going through a horrible breakup and this time, I am totally looking for someone that doesn’t feel right but is Mr. Right. See you on the next vlog!” She used to look for tall, dark and handsome. Now she is looking for a brain, a gym membership, a large income, and a rosary. And maybe a little kindness.
@ My GOD if you ramble this long about someone you don't even ACTUALLY know I'd hate to know how long you go ON AND ON AND ON to people in your real life!!
You have a nice personality but ur so plain ... I don't think New York is your market .. more like Iowa