WHY CAN'T WOMEN LET GO? by RC Blakes
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WHY CAN'T WOMEN LET GO? by RC Blakes
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It's because many have not discovered they can be ok on their own and that God will help them use that time to grow if they will let him.
Agreed!🙏🏾
💯
Have to realize the pain is only temporary and the end result is growth.
I wish I could have given you more than 1 thumbs up. Praise God 🙏🏽🌹🙏🏽
@@tande0822 Truth!
I'm living through it.
Sometimes we think we need a man to feel complete. But, if that man is feminine and does not meet the King criteria. What are you losing by letting him go and being alone? Men that are time wasters are far worse on your health and sanity. I say let him go and have some peace in your home.
Exactly... women need leaders Kings/ Emperors that can guide provide protect love and cherish honor
Well said 🙌🏾
Amen!
I dealt with this for 3 years . He told me other women would be jealous of me. Found out he had been married 7 times. Hmm. Find a new victim. My mom didn't raise me for a drama life with a bum.
Yes have peace in my home 🙌🏽
An apology without changed behavior is only manipulation!
I struggled due to the soul tie with him. Once God delivered me, I promised Him that I wouldn’t go back. It’s been hard, no doubt. But I went “ no contact “ and haven’t communicated with him since. It’s been six months. I give God glory for his delivering power 🙏🏽❤️
Good for you. It won't be easy but keep going 💯
Wow.
Its doable.
Congrats.
I did it.
Been alone now over 21 years
Kudos to you girly 🫵👏👏👏💪
Amen
It’s pain on both ends … the leaving and the staying … but one thing for certain is that the pain from leaving will heal and grow you whereas the pain from staying will intensify and stunt or prevent your purpose . Feel that pain in solitude and come out renewed .
THAT PART!!! WELL SAID :)
On point, exactly right!
This was my experience and since I moved on, I have never looked back...glory to God. 💯
Oh wow
Well said.
GOOD WORD:).
We cant let go because we are not mature enough to accept Un explained rejection.. After giving our all...we also fail to let go because we believe lies these men tell us from the start when they are trying to win our hearts.
I disagree. From a young age, we are conditioned to be the nurturers and keep the family together/ or relationships. We are supposed to be the better communicators, although this is not always the case. Besides, Hollywood, Disney, Madison Ave, and our patriarchal society has conditioned us to be dependent on men. Look at US History....granted, we have more independent women more than ever, relationships are typically a woman's strength. Not all, but most. Give men as much as they give you. That way, it will be easier to walk away.
Susan Hampton - thank you sister for such an empowering statement, indeed relationships are our strength and therefore we should be more then capable of walking away from a bad one.
Staying in a bad relationship does not benefit the clown we are with and it most definitely doesn’t benefit us. Not giving ourselves the chance to be alone and heal from all the toxic words being said and miserable behaviour put on is terrible for our soul and enables the man to continue being a galoof.
If he becomes a king for another woman or even if he changes for us, why on earth would you want anyone with any kind of history of treating you badly hanging around? That’s just asking for further shame, humiliation, regret and betrayal. That’s just not ok for the soul or maintaining a daily practice of peace and wellbeing.
I speak from personal experience. Instead of damage control after showing me his true colours just a couple of weeks in, I allowed four years. The damage and idiocy of those four years could only descend to a worse where he competed with himself to outdo the previous low. I cannot help but wonder how he is going with a new partner, I even wish I did not have that thought, four years of being trained to think about him takes time to deprogram also. Just not worth it in every single way. Four years of living in a cave would be superior for my health and mental wellbeing.
For me my problem is expecting them to be like me wanting to follow the example that God has given us to go by and when someone do not honor that cuz you know the spirit knows the spirit the rejection part that you're talking about that's when it becomes I guess you would say immature gestures emotions come about and sometimes can become toxic.
@@susanhampton9671 biblically a man is the head of the household we are supposed to depend on them vice versa but men can't even handle their position so that's why we women had to step up to be the man and the woman of the house especially when having kids but Jesus Christ did not want this for us.
My ex tried to come back .. I told him he shouldn't be here and it would only be by the grace of GOD if we got back together... I told him I'm not wasting another year... and he has to show me .. anything less than before is BS! He said ok .. He was not allowed to touch me.. He had to prove hisself We had to start all over again as if we first met .... " Hello my name is ...") .as friends and take it one day at a time... . Welp it only took 7 months for him to go back to who he was ... I told him he's not my person we're not meant... ... I'm glad I moved that way cause it saved me so much . mentally, physically, spiritually, my time .. I lost nothing... at all .. but saw everything from a distance.. and I gained MORE Wisdom than ever before!
what 's interesting is some of my friends were surprised and couldn't believe that I moved that way like it was a wake up call for them too
Well I realized I was looking for closure... when all along their bad behavior was all the closure I needed!!
Very true. Sometimes the silence is all the closure we need.
I heard it said "don't look for closure from the one who opened the wound in the first place". Healing is not in their hands but God can do the impossible.
NO NEED FOR CLOSURE AFTER..BEIENG MENTALLY AND EMOTIONALLY ABUSED....😔😔
You create the closure. You can't rely on a toxic person to give you closure. They just use it as an opportunity to cause more harm.
Oooool!! THAT PART🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🖤🖤🖤🖤🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Nine times out of ten..the woman didn't guard her heart or body. Women must take accountability & stop blaming unscrupulous men. Both are responsible. I couldn't let go, till I repented for disobeying God. He gave me the grace & strength to leave & my life changed for the better 100%. Great video Pastor. Life changing!
Sometimes you have to have your heart break in order for your soul to heal!!! I felt that in my spirit! 🙌🏾 👏🏽 🙌🏾 👏🏽 🙌🏾 👏🏽 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
So true
“Toxic nostalgia “…mannnn when I tell you , he hits the nail on the head every time!!!! I’ve been guilty of this however I never knew how to identify exactly what it was until today..Side notes : the re-enactments of the apologizing had me in tears 😂 😂 because that’s how it goes and as soon as you accept and return to normalcy, you’ll end right back on the hamster wheel
Gurllll you ain't never lie.
You are so right.
That is the best phrase. I was enjoying the nostalgia of things he didn’t even do anymore and somehow that was cancelling out the reality of awful things he continued to do. That nostalgia I esteemed so highly is a form of limerence. Such a cringeworthy, yucky time to look back on now.
@@shamiramajorful 🤣🤣 yourrrr it!
RC blacks is the TRUTH! I've had many women tell me that they can't let them go... but when they do the inner work... they get to walking! Ladies once you believe that you deserve better, you will do better.
Man i am SO GRATEFUL that i am out of that relationship... life is better and more stable in the other side . I left after 6 yrs.. i had to cut my loses and im so glad. Ladies, listen hear! Leave. You will be ok. I promise
I dated a financially stable man who didn’t want me to work, he tried to tell me he has everything I need, thankfully the Lord told my spirit he isn’t the one. Who knows what plans he had to make me dependent & have full control of me.
A lot of women these days can’t accept that we are not wired to give our bodies away to men that have not proven themselves (marriage). Nobody wants to hear it but women need to rotational date until they have a ring and keep their legs closed. This would eliminate probably 90% of the heartbreaks we are going though in modern times. Don’t be a girlfriend!!! It’s emotionally damaging to women because 9/10 these relationships do not turn into marriage.
i am just curious: why do you believe that marriage makes a relationship somehow better, or valid, when plenty of married folks, arguably the majority, are struggling with problems between their partnership?
also, do you believe heartbreak can occur equally within the context of marriage or without?
I 100% agree Jasmine. Sex should only be within marriage. Would help protect our heart until commitment is proven to us.
@@giannagammello1994 as much as it is ideal to have sex in marriage, but as someone with first hand experience, I will never attempt that again. My ex husband and I had about 2 sexual encounters before marriage and we decided to stop and wait for marriage. Little did I know that it was my worst decision of my life. I spent 5 years in a sexless marriage until I divorced. I spent my prime in a sexless marriage and possibly may never have kids. So from my perspective, I will have plenty sex before marriage and make sure we are on par in terms of our sexual appetite. Never doing that "no sex before marriage" nonsense ever again.
@@WNdabaSo a woman should sin against God to avoid a "sexless" marriage? That is nonsense and foolishness! You CLEARLY don't know the Lord. Fornication is SIN, not something you do so that you can have lots of sex during marriage. What has RC Blakes said to make you think this is good behavior? Have you EVER read the Bible?!
Unrelenting toxic nostalgia...well said Pastor...broken only by the power of the Holy Spirit.
Because the harsh reality of failure is too hard to face and accept. Wow. That’s deep!!
Speechless!! Covered my wasted 12 years with the wrong men in just one hour teaching! I thank God for RC Blakes..the kind of wisdom we women need, if I knew this sooner but still timely according to God's time table! Thank you Bishop! Lesson taken to heart!
I was with my ex BF for 9 years. Everything Pastor Blake's speaks on it's like he's talking about me. Honestly I don't have the desire to be with a man. They no longer appeal to me. I've met men with dirty drawers. Staying at home with their mom. Mention going dutch on dates. I just threw in the towel. Men just aren't hitting on much.
Me too sis! But we got it now. Praise God! High five 🙌
@@blacklove804I’ve been thru too! I know how you feel. May God allow you to retain the life lessons and experience and clean your heart and heal all your wounds. Peace and light 🙏🏿
Never wasted.
You have learnt.
And you will rebuild
God is good
Let your heart break for your soul to heal.
Unrealistic expectations keeps us bonded and tied.
Selective memories are selected by a broken consciousness! So grateful for the Mender of broken consciousness’s being my Father!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽
The emotional fake apology is soooo spot on!!!🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾. Crying and all smh 🤦🏽♀️ but now I know it’s a narcissist. Pastor you are really preaching the gospel truth!!!
Recently received a fake apology. He called almost breaking my nose, a love tap, when we were together. I am continuing to move on. God bless him and his life.
Patterns never lie! The patterns went ignored from my 30s through to my 40s. So much time lost! Once I admitted the patterns, I began to write them down and then I realized how far off course I was. I'm so thankful to be free today. I had to totally delete, silence and eliminate this person out my life. As my mind heals pray for me. God is awesome. This video is awesome. It's on repeat.
I have family members and friends in this boat. I truly feel sorry for them because they can’t let go. I don’t want them to get their feelings hurt, but I know I can’t prevent it either. The only thing I can do is pray for them! I’ve dealt with two soul-ties myself in the past but once I got a clear mind I was gone for good it’s going on three years Ive been single! I must say I’m so grateful I’m not in a soul tie relationship anymore and my heart isn’t wrapped up in someone that’s not for me because now that I’m on the outside looking in I see that it’s something so toxic and unGodly.
It was the hardest thing for me to let go. Even if I'll always have love him. My worth means more to me.
This was much needed for me to hear. Married almost 14 years... 3 children. But infidelity, and other issues caused the downfall. I believe in the Lord, and he doesn't. I can't pray for someone to change. I'm grateful I'm not financially dependent on him, and can pay my own way. BUT I am tied to the irrational hope, and the spurts of good memories. I blocked out lots of bad memories as well. I'm grateful for your messages. I wish I knew what I knew now back then. Invested almost 20 years of my life with this person...
God took you out on His timing.
Be free
Be free
The best is yet to come.
I agree ! We as ladies should let him go because some men don’t see a woman’s value and will never see it so let’s focus on our inner selves and physical selves !. Sisters let’s focus on self care - self care does not mean your selfish …
Your so right Bishop…I find myself reflecting back on memories not recognizing the pain this man put me through.
Omg, soooo true; smiling at the good times while trying to pretend that the bad times were just then, and trying to find reason to believe that they can change.
You are so right!! I was with a covert narcissist for 2 1/2 years. I didn’t know what narcissism was. He was very wonderful at the beginning of the relationship. Slowly things changed but I didn’t even realize it. It was like I was a frog in a pot of water and then it slowly started to boil. I was proud of myself leaving but it was very hard because of the trauma bond. I’ve been alone for a year and a half now. I’ve tried to be alone to heal but there are days I miss having good times with him. I know I have selected memory sometimes. It’s just hard. Thank you for this episode!!! It put me back in check!!! 🙏
Sane here 🤝
I’m going through this now. I must get out of here. I’m literally sick. Anxiety hbp stress. I just realized this man is a narcissist.
@@wonderful7090 I pray God give you the strength to leave and block that man. You are powerful and b'ful
@@wonderful7090 I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Prayers that you keep your strength and walk away. It’s very hard but you must take care of yourself!🙏🙏
Many times, women like this have innate insecurities, have no self-worth, no sense of self happiness, and are afraid of being alone (have not developed individuality outside of someone else), abandonment and detachment issues to say the least.
I know a woman like this that will not let go of her toxic relationship no matter what he does to her..emotional, mental and at times..physical abuse..but she just keeps going back.
Idealistic and irrational hope.🔥Let your heart break so the soul can heal.🔥That part right there.
Gotta do the work on self. Dig deep into your past and find out where you got so lost in someone else and get back to you.
WOW. Bishop, you’re SO on point this evening. It’s like I’m standing in the mirror examining myself. Sadly a child is now involved in this toxic relationship well situationship and STILL he ain’t changed. I prayed so hard for forgiveness.. this is helping me heal 🙏🏾. God bless you and thank you for keeping it real and aligning the word of God with it 💯
All will be well..😇
Thank you Bishop
Tada I'm so proud of you, one of the hardest steps is to recognize where you are, another step will be to keep the distance so you can heal, you got this, I know because I used to be there, 5 children later, 19 years walking around with my soul looking like swiss cheese by accepting the beating and bruises, yet like Bishop is saying, my broken consciousness only focused on the memories and all the work I put in. A Pastor stopped me and educated me just like Bishop Blakes is doing, she warned me from the Lord, but I didn't want to hear it, 3 months later, he walked out on me and his 5 children. It was devastating, But God, He helped me to untie my soul and He healed my broken consciousness and spirit by The Holy Spirit Who comforted me through the pain, I can't Thank Papa God enough and all those He used to minister to me 🙏🏽 😊
Agree with God and find peace…Treating something that God intended to be sacred (sex)casually will keep you in a hell of a bondage
36:33 person shows you who they are 2-3 times accept it and move on quickly. I’m learning this but man it was not easy for me.
Love you RC And Lisa you have taught me so much so thankful for you in my life. A lot of this information I never was taught or know ? I’m 35 just left my toxic ex but it was not easy, he would not let me go, finally I blocked him and going to counselling.
Perverted sense of love describes what happened to me...but loved myself too much to put up with STDs...had to end the toxic situation after 6mths
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Toxic nostalgia, preach pastor!!!! Apology is only a political speech if the heart hasn't changed🔥
He don't want to be rushed!!! Rush him right out the door. Oh my goodness. Bishop Blake your teaching is priceless. A blessing!! Thank you. 🙏🏽🙏🏽
This one made me cry cry! this one was for me. And it confirmed everything god has been whispering in my ear! ♥️
Never Love
I needed to hear THIS I am single and celibate I thought about two men I dated in my past I called one man he NEVER called me back through a mutual friend I found out he is married now. The second Man is in a serious relationship. I thought about the good times the fun times I had with these men I dated in my past .THANK you Jesus for putting me back in line and listening to your messenger PASTOR RC BLAKES 🙌🏾🙏🏾
It is a “Soul Tie” that needs to be broken.
The way he knows woman so well and can speak from a mans perspective… mind blowing 🙏🏽 God Bless your work bishop🙏🏽
It's been five years, and I still can't believe we are over. I'm heartbroken now facing divorce, which makes it feel like yesterday. I know the most high is working in my favor 🙌 I know he is removing what no longer serves me
Same boat as you. Feel numb but I do know this will pass it’s been about a year
I’m 18 and I love listening to rc blakes jr. messages ❤️ I can relate to what he says and I’m also learning how to be more cautious, with who I allow in my life🥰❤️😌
Smart gal.
I wish I met him at 18
I went through this.and when things got bad. I prayed that God would save him and held on to irracional hope And nothiing would change. He got worst. I was hurting so bad. But God knew he was no good and even though i suffered he let me go through the pain. I was feeling peace and my pastor told God gave me peace so i wouldn't get sick thats how attached i was to my ex. An elderly lady told me at work tough love you will be alright. If took a while but i kept seeking God and he delivered me from those attachement. But i became self sufficient. He played so many mind games to get me back. Almost drove me crazy. But im free .
Sometimes you must let your heart break in order for your soul to heal. 😩
Sometimes it's because we don't want to face the pain of being hurt by these individuals. So we end up going back to them because we feel ok but yet we know that their NOT right for us. Not knowing that we have to let our hearts to break to heal our souls. So help us God🙇♀️
My soul craves this video! I want to listen to it everyday.
You can be emotionally free from a broken soul when you don’t see yourself anymore at it. When you heal your traumas you release the need to fix someone else’s soul. Then, it’s easy to not choose those type of men anymore.
But a hurt woman can’t make this decision consciously. She will continue to choose wrong because her soul needs to heal ❤️
lord I pray my son don't end up like this lord let this be a stage he's going thru as a teenager .. it's one thing for us women to have had kids raised them by ourselves lord dont let us relive this stuff with our kids break these curses lord we need you Jesus
When it’s over; I DON’T want it back!!!!
Bishop, all I can say is that I thank God for you. I know that I say it all the time because that is truly my heart towards you and first Lady Lisa. I'm just so grateful that God has positioned you in my life for such a time as this. I pray that God will continue to keep you and bless all that you put your hands to. It's because of you and your teachings that I am BECOMING into all God has created me to be, at 55. At times, when I feel that I will revert back to what God has delivered me from, I will start binge on your messages to get my spirit back in frequency with the divine. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.
I can’t explain how meaningful your words are to me. Thank you for taking the time to share. 🙏🏽😊♥️
🤭My mother and I are listening to this while I'm driving. The message hit home when she hit the door and yelled. "THAT'S RIGHT!" 👏🏾🙌🏽👏🏾🙌🏽💪🏽
Amen! So much impact you`re making in my life. Struggling with a discard from a narcissist...8 months pregnant. You are so right. He moved on. It is as if I never existed to him. Watching from Zimbabwe
God bless you. Currently going through the same. I think that’s what hurts the most. The feeling as if I never existed. Like no remorse or respect for my feelings. I never in my life expected this behavior from a man of God
But you exist before God
Thats what matters
Draw close to God
He will surprise you.
@@suzannegendron9504 Amen! I’ve been doing the work, healing is a process. God never fails us. The expectations of the righteous shall not be forsaken. I thank you for this message ♥️🙏🏽 God bless you abundantly
I am lost for words but what I can say is thank you. I needed to hear all of this I’m on my healing journey after 5 years with my ex fiancé & 10 years of memories (high school sweetheart) thank you Jesus for the growth pains I’m omw to full restoration & thank you bishop I am a new subscriber❤️
God that hurts, high school sweethearts :( I wish you full healing.
Wow! Can’t imagine how hard this has been for you. Happy to have a chat to know if I can support you in any way.
I said I cried for 2 months straight until I listened to u u are helping me. Thank you!! I have told w girl about u now she is listening to you thank u
Also, many women have been abused in childhood. Physically, sexually & more. It sets one up to expect abuse & trauma. It feels normal to remain in dangerous predicaments. That was ME, until God delivered me . Bless His Holy Name!
This was filet mignon. This message was a true heart to heart talk from a loving father to his daughters! Thank you for taking out your time to teach us Spiritual Truths. Smile Keshia
This was needed. I'm in the process of completely letting go of my marriage. i have realized that it wont get better and he will still cheat even after apologizing
May the Lord break these bonds to free us up to do HIS will for our future
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That is definitely the truth Mr.Blake you hit it on the nail thank you
This may have been the best advice a man can give yall woman.
Please listen woman change your mind you can do anything. I PRAY ALL WOMAN LISTEN TO THIS.AMEN
Afraid of being by themselves and have developed a strong soul tie
I will let a person, place, or thing go that no longer serves a positive purpose my life or hinders my relationship with Jesus! It's a reason that the Bible says don't be unequally yoked together - ONE IS A WHOLE NUMBER . . . . . . YOU ARE ENOUGH WITH JESUS. It's nice to have someone if it's a godly someone if not than let it go!
One is a whole number, and no is a complete sentence!
@@onevenus6040 I love this! And the comment above! Yes ladies! 💞🥰
Well said.
This is so true!! I’m in year 11 and I’m 37. I felt it was best to get out a few months after knowing him, I wish I would have went that route. 1 child later and I’m finally done for the final time. They don’t change, their apology just gets more clever. He has so many women on this same rotation and yo-yo cycle. Smh it’s truly pathetic and I realize there’s nothing I can give him. I’m focusing on me and my healing this time.
❤️🙏🏾
Yes! We know in our gut, but we feel stuck.
What's even worse, is I don't even get apologies for poor behaviour and I still forgive and conveniently "forget" 🙄 crazy.
Ladies “listening” is a feminine trait..instead of still making up excuses 🤦🏽♀️😞 listen what RC is saying and meditate on this word..you all are still in the comments making excuses instead of just listening taking notes and affirm “I will detach from anything unhealthy for me”.. affirmations are important stop coming up with excuses why you are “hanging on” do some soul searching heal from childhood trauma..I had to change paradigms because I held on to toxic men until I turned 35 and saw my youth was going down the drain..I love the testimonies from the older women but who wants to be 65 learning this It’s so scary seeing the excuses after excuses..May we all do the Inner work to heal the toxic bonds..no more to unhealthy attachment styles..I started watching videos that show you how to healthy detach Learning attachment styles is the first start it will teach you a lot about who you are..
Bishop I am very grateful for this teaching. I have been in this toxic mess for 10 years and I just didn't realize that I had soul ties to this man. Glory to God for this message 🙏
I'm emotionally tired going on 3 years now. I don't want to continue listening to the same politician speech, to the same dude, over and over again. He told me tonight that I need to find a perfect man. My response to him was; "I will" and hung up the phone. I'm tired of taking him back. I've been holding on to this "irrational hope". Then this message showed up on my feed.. this is exactly what I needed to hear tonight to let go. I need to let my heartbreak in order to heal.
Thank you Bishop for your words. 🙏🙏
Thank God my mother taught me about men..what to do and what not to do. I need a man for certain things but not for a relationship. Yes I love men
It’s the “thinking he’s going to change fit the next woman.” That’s has been my toxic mentality. 😩
I am ready to hear another lesson you’re the father that my father is supposed to be thank you for teaching me I have improved ever since my first time watching you
YOU BETTER PREACH AND TEACH US, Pastor Blakes!!!!! This is a Spiritual Home Run !!!!
I can’t even IMAGINE ever overlooking an infidelity. No amount of love for a person would make me betray myself to that degree.
I started dating at 14 (very young) and just inherently knew that that was behavior that I could or would never overlook. Never have, never will. I can’t even wrap my head around it. Even a one time infraction, and honest confession, followed by changes behavior wouldn’t be enough for me to stay with the person. I would forgive but not reconcile because I would want someone who is wise enough to not put themself in a compromising situation and who exhibits self control.
I'm going through a divorce after 3 years. it started off good emotionally and physically. I ended up pregnant, and was stressed out all during the pregnancy because he wouldn't keep a job. 6 months into our marriage, I found out he was talking to another woman from work. Because i wasn't loving enough, but i was going through postpartum depression, i was the only person responsible for steady income, plus helping him take care of a child from a prior relationship.admit I did put my hands on him and I'm not proud of it. We continued into the marriage for 2 years everytime we'd go through something he would go seek other women. We have been separated for 10 months, I found out he has another baby on the way, I'm going through it so bad.
This is a priceless video!💯🎯 I am able to see this message in a past experience while I was married for 20 years with a very intelligent and professional man; but he wasn’t after the heart of God. Nothing I tried or did helped the situation. Listen, waiting for the children to grow up so they are not as affected is a mistake because one day, they will go their own way and we are left behind with time that we can’t recover. Neither going to church, praying, fasting, reading the Bible, dragging him to church or even diving into ministry, made him changed because they are Not man of Covenant! It was never the will of God in the first place, therefore it was never approved and blessed by God. I’ll say, all good spiritual components we have makes them more resistant, stubborn and deceitful thinking that we, Christian woman are stupid. That we are supposed to forgive and forget as many times as needed. It unleashed unnecessary, unpleasant and senseless spiritual warfare intensifying their sins and evil doings. Ladies, Being occupied by the wrong person makes you unavailable for the right person. We are better than that and we deserve better than that. Just come out and Trust in the Lord!🕊
Healing is essential, for me I had a phobia about counseling but once I finally started attending counseling, I learned I definitely had father wound from my past and it affected some of the decisions that I had previously made in life.
Me too💜🤗
Just did a video about this today for my forgiveness series as to why therapy, counseling, and seeking out the help of a professional is absolutely necessary & helpful !!
Low self-esteem so true Bishop Blake's 👍 wow 👌 👏
Pastor Blakes is hitting this issue dead on; every bit of this is the god heaven truth…I am so grateful to God for showing me all of the trickery…
I rationally hope that the message given woke my sisters up we are in love with the feeling of love a fabricated story we sometimes make up there is nothing wrong with love but how much better would we fell if we bestowed love on to ourselves while we wait on a sincere man to show us that he is there for the right reasons
So true, quiet action will prove a sincere man's words indeed. A cryin nigga's apology not worth 2 dead flies. No manipulation and fake clowning needed! Buy your own flowers and candy.
Preach Gurl!! 2 dead flies lol!!
This message set my heart free! It hit me as a Woman, who was one who couldn't let go of my Ex and the father of my child!
Mr. RC, your delivery of this message is perfect!!!! Thank you! I appreciate you! Hilarious…with your lipgloss on and popping gum!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I really believe that it’s somewhat a shortage of men. A lot of women are desperate and lonely, because there seems to not be alot of good options available.
Well, God has delivered me, now I am running for my life, to keep my life, they will break you down.
Bishop, not only do you always deliver a powerful message, you are hilarious!! When you you crinkled your hand up talkin about toes doing that! I fell apart. I am engaged, but iI still watch your content and learn so much. I send them to my little sister as well. I truly appreciate you and how you keep me laughing! Stay Blessed!!
My God, this message (s) need to be in a relationship conference across the country.
Why can't women let go? Comfortability and Fear
Previous childhood trauma and adverse childhood experiences.
Right on time. That's what my ex said. He called me impatient after 5 years when it went to 9 years I was still being impatient 😂 I was a fool for love. Dreaming of a fantasy
Naturally women bond in every aspect in life, that's why you have to be careful who you sleep with or get attached to. Soul ties is REAL
I actually shed a tear 16 minutes in, because you speak so much truth concerning my heartbreak….. I’m no contact because I do remember the abuse!!! God is with me…
Fine don't last but 2 weekends.. RC Blake's. 😂😂😂
I'm just grateful I am ok with myself cause I have to much to manage to give my attention to toxic relationships
Had me at "UNRELENTING TOXIC NOSTALGIA". *pulls out notebook real quick*
I absolutely wish I had a father like you! Grew up with grandiose narcissistic father. Dealing with a spiritual communal covert narcissist who ripped me off financially.
Greetings Pastor Blake's What a powerful word . I shared it with several women of ALL AGES I appreciate this Message . I'm encouraged
Woman tends to bond faster unless she pulls back and reins herself and approach wisely.
Broken soul => Toxic attachment to worthless guy!
1. Going back to the Memories - Toxic Nostalgia!!!
Remembers only the good part and forgets the bad part!
Perverted sense of love!
Biblical History
Israel forgot their slavery status in Egypt but remembered ordinary food there as "something great" which they currently miss even when they have freedom and manna (heavenly food) currently!
*Let go of selective "happy" memories. Remember the actual personality of the man.*
2. Believing his fake Apology!
(He knows how to manipulate the woman just like a corrupt politician knows how to fool the ignorant people. 🤣)
He would even cry to make you believe he truly changed!
Fake Apology:
A. Passionate promises which will never be done! Same speech but no action!
B. Small small gifts to cover big big mistakes like cheating, violence, abuse (verbal, emotional as well as physical)
*Don't take a man unless he truly changes. Don't tolerate mistakes!!!*
Sincere Apology = asks forgiveness + does good actions (and also repairs damages done by doing more good actions)
3. Irrational hope!
Expecting a uselless guy (who abuses, cheats, etc) to become a good responsible guy. That won't happen 🤣
Many beautiful women give up their lives for these useless men because they feel that those men will change for good. This results in women wasting their time (youth ) and other resources (energy, money, etc)
*Accept the reality and find a really good person.* It is very hard (nearly impossible) to change another person's character and personality!
You can't change anyone! A person who chooses to change, has to change himself.
It is okay to let that evil man go even if it breaks your heart now because the heart will heal automatically after sometimes.
But staying in false hope, breaks the heart again and again making it longer (or delayed) to heal!
4.. Another fear: (missed opportunity)
"If I leave him{currently worst man}, what if he becomes a better person and marries another woman and I might miss a 'future' good man!"
So holding on to toxic man believing he will change some day! But this will make you reject other truly good men who are truly interested in you because you are invested in that one evil man hoping that he will change in future!
*You would get a really good person. You deserve better.*
5. Sexually entangled.
Bad character, No job, no good name, etc but he is good in bed.
PhD woman falls for GED (diploma) man because of sexual soul tie!
*Don't rush into relationship before knowing his personality.*
6. Financially dependent!
If a woman is not educating herself and getting herself to be independent, then she would be bound to depend on a man who might be abusing her, still she can't let go!
Depending on undependable man (toxic, abuse, violent, selfish, etc man) for your sustenance, makes him have more control over you. (Basically, you are his slave)
*Empower yourself. Be independent Make use of your talents. Have Self-respect, Individuality, etc.*
Thank you for the notes sis, God bless & keep you!
ALL I COULD DO WAS WEEP 😢 Most of what you talked about is what I’m currently going through with my kids father…Whew this was a lot! Almost like a punch in my gut but a GOOD GUT PUNCH! I’m WOKE!! I’ve got to digest this and ask God to step in, give me strength to LET HIM GO🙏🏽 P.S. I was NOT financially dependent on HIM! I have my own career making my own money.
As a therapist, you give provide me with many great materials for some of my clients as homework assignments. I always want them to hear what I've been saying from a male/biblical perspective. Thanks!
This reason you don’t have sex before marriage your husband deserves that gift I am complete with God a man does not determine my Value God does that your apology is words not action Queenology Book was Awesome
I’m only 14 minutes in and you are teaching this thing!! Teach the truth!!