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Been thinking about this too! Every day I ask myself, "What do you really want?" because that is the first step in changing your life, according to those in the know. And every day I have no clue. It makes me miserable because I feel like I am missing out on something better.
Enjoy what you have and keep an eye out for what could really excite you and fit into your life now. I’m in the same boat! It’s hard to figure out what you want when you have such limited time to go after it. It feels like the most impactful decision ever!! But whatever it is, make sure it’s what YOU want and what’s good for YOUR life. Good luck!! 🤗🩷
I have done this every single day for 6 months and I just realized all that I "really want" is to feel okay with whatever it is I choose to do. The misery is from assuming I've missed out on making the better decision. I also haven't watched the video yet so maybe he talks about this. I don't know if this is also true for you but I thought I'd share because I know this feeling all too well and would never want someone else to have to continue running in this circular thinking.
I had a realization this morning actually, 90% of the self improvement space is filled with tips, tricks, and hacks. That's all it is. There is very little substance anymore. It's all just marketing and courses and nonsense.
I admire your honesty and it makes me trust you more than anyone else on TH-cam. Thank you so much for your immense support and help. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I'm so sick of the influencers and the fake ego persona they show online. They don't post for intention but attention. I'm also sick of the ones who are all about "look at me, look at what I'm doing". These are the ones in constant lack mentality at their core.
This youtuber has 1,7 million followers. and carefully chooses background and hair.... it seems its not about look at me but the passion to introduce people to options. At least some youtubetrs use non-vulgar language.
I am from the EU and I am astonished that you are the only American I have found on TH-cam who understands that making money is not the goal of life! I hope other Americans will learn from you. 🖖 Good life!"
GOSHHH I needed this video! I’ve been trying to “leveling up” these past 4 months because my ex bf implied I had trauma from previous relationships. Made me feel like something was wrong with me.. therefore I started to work on myself to improve but then it has became this thing that is so exhausting like I feel bad the days I don’t meditate, I feel bad for not starting my business yet.. makes me feel not ready yet to talk to another man or start something with someone because I feel like I’m not ready.. I’ve been isolated from people and friends :( I’m very social but these past months I’ve been feeling like so alone.. thank you for reminding me that life is about balance and loving ourselves and accepting ourselves
Glad you made this video. I used to be obsessed with self-help until it made me really isolated and I just got tired from it all. It felt like overconsumption without execution and real life experience. I felt disconnected from your channel and you talking about this important topic brought me back.
Wow I loved this. Super rare to find this level of authenticity in the “self-improvement” market & it’s a breath of fresh air. Clark, I think you’re really honing in on your niche. Keep speaking what you truly think & you have a life-long supporter, your genuine self is full of wisdom and it’s very refreshing to hear so thank you
Thank you for posting this after all. So many people are mindlessly obsessed with self-improvement and the worst part - there’s no end to it. It’s so important to know why we do it and have clear goals in mind.
I just turned 36 and these have been my daily thoughts. I was wrapped up in the self-improvement game for so long, then woke up to the fact that I always felt this separation from who I am and who I was becoming. After over a decade of trying to become this other person, I still felt the separation. I realized that if I continue to try to become my “higher self”, I would always feel like I was not them. So, I’ve really been switching my focus on just being. Learning how to be content with being who I am and knowing that instead of trying to become some ideal person, I just need to focus on stripping away all of the conditioning and stories that have continued to keep me believing that I am not my higher self, right now.
Great video - in a world where many people including myself listen to too much “self-help” content all day long and don’t take in half of what we watched this resonated a lot. I felt you came off as very authentic and genuine, which made the message a lot stronger. Thank you for deciding to post, it really helps put into perspective a lot of similar thoughts I’ve also had that I’ve just left in the back of my mind.
During the pandemic,🌻 I hand-made pillows for children to keep my mental health strong, and the families that thanked me for the for the free charitable gift, gave me strength. 🌻I felt like my life-purpose depended on my courage to be there for others, without expecting a return for the time-alloted. Altruism can be abused if the "serving and generousity" was made for 'likes' or some sort of credit.🌻
In one of your videos I saw a month ago or so you said people get addicted to the feeling of being a victim. I turned it off in anger till I realised it was a reflection in me. Thanks for that honesty. It was very helpful to produce changes in my thought patterns.
Good Lord Clark! You are literally talking to me right now. Thank you so so so much for this video. I also make videos and I understand when you said: this video is not for views, it's just a conversation between friends. Let me tell you every word you said made echo in my head and gave me so much peace. Thank you again for your time and dedication ❤
This is the best video for anyone and everyone. I'm the type of person who searches for answers to what I'm feeling and the problems I face sometimes, and I would usually go to motivational videos to do that. Now, I have a different understanding about self improvement. Thank you for this video, we need more of these Clark. I can definitely see you as one of the greats!
These are your best videos imho because its the truth. The truth is where the real value lies. Hearing what you don't want to hear. An example being doing what you hate, having the discipline to follow through is what actually produces the results, at least in the beginning until you form the habits that serve you. For me personally, becoming connected more with God has been the biggest change for me, above anything else I have done up to this point, including some short term therapy. You can only serve one master. Choose wisely. Thank you Clark for sharing this!
A.m. routine ~ journal, pen, quiet/meditation/prayer time (whatever you want to call it)…….ask yourself this simple question: “how/where/who am I to serve today?” Let divine order guide your inspired actions for the day by tuning in. We are ALL already enough in this very moment…. Clark, you are transitioning in perfect divine order. Thanks for being authentic….
I recently spent some time with my father (for Father's Day) going to a church I never went to before. As I was listening in, I was making connections with the message and with my journey so far. I began to realize that the core of all wisdom is a desire to live in harmony, not just for others around you, but also for yourself. Nobody wants to feel like they are letting others down or letting themselves down, but I think acknowledging the reality of who we are as a society and then taking a moment to reach out and address your concerns starts a cycle of opening up that makes others feel like they can open up in turn. I'm glad you decided to post this video. For me, self-improvement has always been about learning to accept others around me and their way of life so that I can hopefully learn to accept myself, and hearing from you and your thoughts on the journey is already helping me (and I think it's helping you, too). I've had passing thoughts about stepping into streaming, but I think I strayed away from it precisely because I was afraid I would lose myself along the way, and in doing so I would shut out the few people I care about. No matter what you do or what may come, I hope you find your way in this ever-changing world.
Clark, this was one of the best videos I've watched! So raw and so vulnerable! I did your course last year and did it again this year... last year, I felt like it was more for improving myself because there's something wrong with me. This year, it was somewhat similar, but with more conviction because I knew it worked. I finished the course the 2nd time round in May or April. 1 week or so ago, I realised all of this and that self-acceptance and contentment with myself and my life is what I need. These last 2 weeks have been the best 2 weeks I've had in a while. They weren't perfect by no means! I was upset, I was unhappy, tired, short, but I've also been happy and content with the fact that I'm not 'perfect' and that is ok❤ much love to you Clark and to the Metamorphic team
I confess I’m addicted to self improvement content/books and really NEEDED to hear this! Thank you for sharing, Clark! More raw videos like this please 🙏🏼
Man oh man, I could feel you all the way from London. This is truly the best video I’ve seen from you. I could feel the passion and the honesty oozing out of you. Thank you man - I love that doing this video helped you too.
So glad to be a part of this community. The guy deserves more credit for sharing this insight . I think most of the people who are into self improvement since a long time feel that it gets too much and often toxic ......and yes definitely looking forward to more brain dump videos !!!
Clark, I really appreciate your honesty and transparency with some of the issues you have faced. For example when you talk about not feeling loved in a relationship not because of your partner not loving you, but because you haven’t focused on learning to love yourself or be happy with the you you are now. I can really tell and feel that you have actually been through some of those examples and speak from a genuine want to help people. As opposed to “I’m saying this for people to agree and to push me up on a pedestal”. I’m trying to come out of a complicated slump right now. And your video today and others in the past really help me search for the next (realistic) steps I need to take to help put myself in a better position. There’s a lot more that I liked about this video. But to save myself from typing a novel of gratitude and compliments - I’ll end this at thank you for all you do.
I've definitely noticed this also. There are even some "leaders" who are misleading their audiences into negative and narcissistic behavior under the guise of being above everyone else. So telling people to check with their own discernment is wise. Thank you for this video, and for being so honest! ❤
This is why you have millions of followers including me. You really care about our mental health. RESPECT Clark. Thanks for coming into our lives and sharing your thoughts 💛 Everyone just try to be kind to yourself and long is a marathon. Failure today doesn't mean you are stuck in this situation forever. Move on and learn from your experience. CHEERS1
Honestly I like the video, but self improvement for the last 6 months has drastically changed my life. But my life has become less about me and more about my family and friends. I now just connect and stop worrying so much about doing "right: all the time, and just being the my version of the best me in that moment. When your glass is overflowing, start filling other people's glasses is the best thing I learned
Thank you for this video, Clark! I literally won my dream job last year, but ever since then, I have been so anxious about messing up or offending any of my colleagues that I haven’t been able to enjoy myself at work at all. I'm ready to start getting out of my own head and start enjoying life with the people around me.
i love you Clark, you are that one youtuber I still watch on my "self-improvement" way, because you are the only one who doesnt make me feel bad or guilt. I really like your point about learning from yourself. Thank you, you really making my life better! My biggest appreciation
Thank you Clark, your message is very well expressed in a raw, authentic and refreshingly honest way. I definitively agree that we don't need to take on other people's rules of who we should be, how we should think and behave, and what all we should believe, say and do (or NOT), since others are NOT the AUTHORITY of us (our Spirit/Soul/Higher Self/Human Self is). Granted, there are times when invaluable solitude time helps us to deeply connect with our Spirit/Soul/inner world---to experience what it FEELS like to Be/be within our own vibrational frequency state without all the outer world distractions---especially if we experienced a divorce, and/or separation from any other unhealthy relationship, job, career, environment, etc., and could use a peaceful break to deeply heal and regroup as WHOLE Self/self. Not everyone has a supportive family and/or true friends, though we can tune into Soul Family-like support systems online, like You and your TH-cam channel. Plus, solitude time can be balanced with social time, like the ebb and flow of an ocean. Even Unconditional Love is meant for self/others, and NOT just others (that society has mostly taught humanity). I have experienced many red flags from the self-help industry (along with benefits)---to include various communities within Spirituality and Psychology---so really appreciate you sharing expanded perspective. I've learned that it's about Being a DISCERNING open mind (to prevent becoming gullible), and an open heart with healthy boundaries (to prevent becoming a doormat). Going to continue watching. When it comes to God and this world's religions (that are still about who's more righteous), I've learned that there still exists gems of wisdom even within severely man-altered religions and rigid belief systems. However, the GODDESS/GOD/THE ONE OF MANY NAMES, BUT ULTIMATELY THE NAMELESS within & without---that I chose to connect and commune with daily (throughout each day: within me, as me, and through me, and all around me---is WAY WAY MORE VAST, UNLIMITED, UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING, PROFOUNDLY WISE, PEACEFUL, POWERFUL AND GREATER than any BOXED-IN, LIMITING, BIASED, AND MAN-LABLED RELIGION. The question we can ask ourselves is...DO WE NEED TO BE IN ANY BOX, OR CAN WE SIMPLY BE A NATURALLY FREE, CORE ESSENCE? Anyhoo, so grateful you decided to post this video because it FELT SO NATURAL AND RELATABLE. Thank you so much Clark!
Thanks for this. Everything you said resonates and is happening to me. I've been feeling overwhelmed with all the advices on self improvement that I'm drained right now.
I started following your content just recently, and I have to say it has helped me a lot. I think all the points you make about self-improvement are so insightful! You put into words many thoughts I have but never had real answers for. Thank you, Clark. God bless you and your family! Hugs from Brazil!
It's amazing this video found me on this exact day! I only recently started posting comments to videos I enjoy. However, I've been watching your videos and many like them for over a decade. I started with Abraham Hicks type videos after I'd lost my inseparable best friend to suicide 12yrs ago. Fast forward to now & I've consumed an unreasonable amount of self-help material. Finally following through on life changes and faithfully practicing meditation, along with all the years of "studying" things are clicking. I'd recently been considering sharing my journey, but after the last week of watching videos on "starting a channel" I've been super overwhelmed & not sure it's for me. I like the idea that I could help people from my life experiences, but as an introvert I'm scared of people.... the suicide didn't help much with that fear. Anyway, I just wanted to say THANK YOU! I always appreciate the authentic videos when people speak from the heart. I loved the Alan Watts vibe, thanks again 😊
You hit the nail on the head - Thank God someone is starting to speak about this whole self improvement movement which leads to self absorption - I felt myself going down that road and I snapped out of it. I feel a lot better when I'm taking of myself AND others!! I loved what you said at the end "I'm worthy of taking up space in conversations, I don't have to put on this role or persona. Thank you, it really resonated with me 👍
One of the best videos I have watched in a very long time thank you so much for making this video and we would like to see more of your thoughts on this subject thank you so much we are grateful to have you as a creator may God bless you and me he inspire you to spread happiness all over the world
This is all very true!! I listen to most of the videos and feel overwhelmed and annoyed...like..who has time for all this?!?! We started going back to church and helping serve and I feel so much more grounded. It's been so much better for my family.
Just discovered your videos today and loved this one, really spoke to me. And I’ve noticed alot of people turning back to God too. We’re all kind of prodigal sons and daughters returning home.
At the very end... You are doing great with your own self-improvement process. You've tried different routes and somehow finding your best one. Your growth is noticeable. And people can learn from you too. What a beautiful work going through self-improvement brings into any of us... At our own pace and facing our own realities. A human doing and reflecting on his/her actions is just precious. That is growth. Lovely. Great video, man. Hugs.
I truly appreciate your honesty and empathy. I like how you adress the questions at the true core. It also feels good to not be so hard on yourself and others. That's a trait I also want to focus on more.
Fuck yeaach it was worth uploading. Congrats on making one of the best videos that I have watched in a while. So much useful informations to consider in life and reflect on.
This video was amazing and ironically exactly what I needed to hear!! I love who you are and thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with the world. It hit me hard when you talked about toxic shame, and needing self appreciation!! The big question you asked “why do I feel not enough?” That was so big for me I cried. I’ve been feeling so unworthy:( recently. also understanding why I wanted to improve in the first place, coming back to my why!!! I noticed how giving and being around my family made me see things differently!! Being in my head all the time thinking the clock is ticking I have to be my best self all the time. But in reality I have many parts that make me, me and that’s okay. I am human not a robot. Once again thank you for the video and thank you for taking the time to read my ramble 😂🩷
WOW I just wrote an insta post on the things we put ourselves through in the name of healing. Completely mirroring a lot of my own feelings. This is def a must watch video. I think the self-help industry in their rush to solve problems has started being the solution instead of pointing people back to themselves to solve the problem. An internal solution will not be solved by an external solution. That is like trying to solve a software problem with a hardware change as soon as you reinstall that software there are still going to be problems. Instead of chasing after the money, we have to be strong enough when people give you their power to give it back to them.
Also, I am seeing this trend that people are going back to old school religion. There's a movement in this too so just be careful. All of this technique shit still makes us feel powerless, which is why most people go back to religion to feel a sense of security. But it's truly within us
Working on myself has been exhausting. I’m guilty of telling myself that once I accomplish my goals, then I can enjoy myself. It has helped me stay more focused but I’ve been experiencing fatigue and sadness.
This was a good video. I've read a TON of "self improvement" books and watched thousands of hours of videos. My #1 book after all of them is 7 Habits of Highly Effective People because it promotes character ethic over personality ethic, living a principle centered life. Interdependence vs independence. Begin with the end in mind. It keeps me centered on relationships, my core beliefs, and it's God centered. Thank you, Clark, for this video! You're a good dude!! Respect!!👊
Wow, I just loved that video ! I resonated with that so much, thanks for being authentic, or at least for trying to be your true self, it takes time and its a whole journey to discover who you truly are. Because of bashar i recently learned about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and Self Acceptance, you said it right, YES you can CHOOSE to become better and to improve the quality of your life, you do it because you want to experience something else, NOT because you think you need to fix yourself, like you were not good enough. YOU EXIST, YOU ARE, thats all you need, You are good enough just as you are, because you exist, you're part of this universe. Love yourself unconditionally and begin your healing process, love all your shadows and lights. thanks clark for showing the world the danger of self improvement and how we can lose ourselves in it.
The guy looks and sounds so sincere when he talks . These attributes attracts audience somehow. Keep up the good work. U have my thanks ur doing a great job
I worked in the social media content creation space and did really well for a decade. Then I burned out and my entire business went down the drain. It was the hardest thing I ever experienced. Thankfully I’m true to myself now and have an office job. Thank you for sharing your story.
I love you Clark ❤ Rants like these are my favorite. Just spewing whatever's on your mind is so relatable & a refreshing reminder we are not the only ones in this world feeling/thinking/questioning these things. We're all in this together. Thank you ✌🏻💖🤗😁
😊 Clark, you're about the same age as my kids. And, you reminded me of them. Watching videos of you at a young age on vacation, going places, doing things, creating content. Basically in my opinion, the core you, really hasn't changed, personality wise. Yes, you've grown and advanced. However, the straight forward, honest, be yourself you, hasn't changed. And, I enjoy the little side jokes you throw in. Please don't feel as if you have to be a staunch, know all be all guru. Your actions, track record and accomplishments is proof enough. You're, Hey man let's have fun getting things done approach. To me, has made you a very relatable person. And, people wouldn't be approaching you if you were unapproachable, or unreliable, so that in itself shows proof. My parents taught me, act accordingly, time and place, moderation is key, consider where and who you're speaking to with discernment. Please don't change Clark, I really enjoy your relaxed, relatable educational fun content. Stoic old fuddy? You're quite an accomplished young man. 👍💥
Glad you posted this, I hadn't watched any of your videos for a while because of the artificiality of some of them, but this one resonated, and judging by how you said you felt at the end of it, you already knew that 😄👍🏻
Fair enough, Clark. I believe you can't really talk anyone out of going their own journey, because only the experience leads to realization. Jim Carrey said: "I wish everyone became rich and famous just to realize that it wasn't the point." Well, I'm sure even if Jim Carrey went back yo his younger self, he couldn't talk him out of wanting ti achieve his big dreams, and that he has, millions of people listen to him when he speaks. I know I also want to have the same influence and for that I guess you know better what needs to be done. I understand you're just expressing yourself and I feel ya on that, living with less pressure would be sweet if you think about it for a moment's notice, but in the end, deep down inside, we all love the thrill of the journey of trying to reach our goals, at least the people who signed up for it in the first place.
Great reality check… keep reminding people to remind themselves of these basic truths …and when overwhelmed revert to the ‘simple’...Thanks for your authenticity
This video was one of my favorite videos you've ever created. I can feel your authenticity and to me, that is the most empowering for others. I'm really grateful for your insight and clear way of communicating all sides of self improvement and spirituality and being able to stay grounded in who you are, and not what others are telling you you are. There is SO much toxicity in many spirituality information circulating the media as well as constantly striving for more - and I agree thats beautiful to want more but if you're losing yourself in the process and severing connection with others - that is the complete opposite of the goal. I also resonate with coming back to more traditional beliefs and ways of life which God plays a big role in guiding that, or whatever that higher power is for you. I feel thats why a lot of people are being called back to this! It's so beautiful as long as we don't use it in the same ways to judge others or isolate of course. Thank you, again.
This is great and it's in the same direction I'm going. The world needs more being and feeling, not more doing and thinking. Thanks Clark for opening up ❤
I always think you're genuine, but I appreciate a video like this because I really respect the self-awareness that comes across here. Thanks for all of your thoughts Clark!
Clark, I want to thank you that you decided to share these very important aspects! 🙏Whoever is on this path of self-improvement must watch this video first, in order to become aware of the risks/dangers that you so generously shared!❤God bless you!
This was at the exact right time, Clark, thank you! I've been struggling with perfectionism and not accepting myself just as I am. I think I'm tired of always not being enough for myself. I love the rawness of this, the one scene-ness, please do more of similar! Always Love x
Heck yeah, this vid popped up on my feed from nowhere but I've always felt the 'grind' as a fairly empty, one-dimensional pursuit. Good to be in solitude sometimes to go inward, but opening oneself to experience the nuances of the outer world is also valuable.
Im glad you decided to upload this video. I was getting the same feeling when listening to these 'gurus' and deep in my heart i knew to take every word with a grain of salt. Definitely ask what your values are! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic!! It was finally said outloud!!
Yes thank you Clark- however, I do think it's important that when you're trying to start a new life that it's not easy to be around people who are doing things that you're trying to stop. This doesn't mean you can't hangout with those people at all. It just means spending LESS time
WOW, this is such an honest video, thank you for posting it.I've been questioning my choices and everything I don't have because of the path I've chosen so I completely resonate with how you feel. Need to remember to actually LIVE in the moment
100% agree, this is definitely very refreshing when it comes to the "self improvement" niche. However, I definitely encourage people to stop compromising on what they want because it might seem ordinary or not normal to other people, and sometimes the cliche things you hear from gurus are actually right. BUT NOT every time lol. For example, I resonate a lot with people like David Goggins and Alex Hormozi, but I don't try to be them, I have parts of my life that I love doing and I don't want to give up those things. Although, I will take things they do that I know I want to do and implement it into my own life where I see fit. All in all, live the life you ultimately want to live, and for some people going to extreme lengths to change is necessary to get out of the hole they are in, just don't cave in on yourself when it comes to "self improvement" so much to the point you are miserable. Do it your way!
This is great dude, love your advices; I now understand that cutting relationships just to 'maximize' my time would be the worst decision I would ever make.
I’m here cause Ive obsessively tried to fix myself for the last 4 years. Now I’m thinking I need to accept myself and trying to walk the tight rope of productivity
Clark I love your content. I am in the early journey of self development and this video has been a great red flag marker for me, THANK YOU! I would love to connect as I am about to launch my own online community on here for the over 40s´ A non-alcoholic Cheers Chris
Sandra Pogodova said that when you change your life or you go trough a personal transformation, want to be happy and find new solutions or do new business or passion work, or finding purpoise.... Its about how to be calm and understanding what makes you trive what friends resonate with you, but but she said there is one rule, "everythiong you do is about what intention you have" When you travel you do it with some intention, when you write abook you do it with good intention that someone may laugh because the book is humorous, when you exercise you you do it with good intention , when you meet friends you do it with good intention. She probably ment that you dont neccessarily analyze every aspect of the purpose or resolution, but the intention. Because some people get inspired some not. her philosoiphy as she read lot of books, is that we shouldnt judge peopelk for mistakes, because its the best they do at the moment. Its seems nothing is wrong unless you have a good intention. You learn something new.
Hey Clark, Thank you for the different perspective on selfimprovement. Now I really know why I felt off even though I religiously followed all the selfimprovement formulas. Feeling the need to improve kills the selfworth in essence and you pointed that out! Right now I feel worse than before self improvement. Thank you for the great work in all the years!
Just because someone's hourly rate is higher than you doesn't mean they are worth more than you. We are all, still remain human. Nothing more. This goes to looks, fame, success and anything else that is as temporary as our lives are.
Yes! Finally a video about anti “improvement” culture. He keeps pushing and pushing us to meet a goal, but then it is hard for us to enjoy the slow moments of life improvement doesn’t focus on enjoying time with family and friends getting dinner with a loved one or just sitting down and reading a book that you enjoy, I love this change and perspective allowing us to make our own rules for our own sake and happiness
Super helpful and the exact message I needed to hear today. Thank you. Yes, please more content like this. You being authentic and just sort of vlogging and having more of a one on one conversation with me, the viewer is just as valuable as the more thought out content with your cool charts and white papers. Thanks for all that you do!!
These things may be true for some, but I spent the first 30+ years of my life focusing on others and it didn’t do anything for my life. Now that I have focused on learning about and improving myself I have more balance and I feel closer to others, understanding them, and making mindful choices about who I spend my time with. Not everyone we “enjoy” is good for us to be around. Not every well-thought out choice of company is transactional, sometimes it is for the greater good as well as our own. I’ll never go back to giving my valuable time to the wrong people and letting the negativity of others rub off on me. It’s not all about money, it’s about mentality. Someone can be not wealthy but have a healthy rich mindset, while someone can have money and have a scarcity mindset, for me it’s more about character and perspective than wealth.
Clark, you’re awesome, man! I loved this video. I took your course about 3 years ago & it was one of the most insightful & positive experiences I’ve ever had.
Clark, I genuinely love these videos. They are very intimate and welcoming! Thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences. They really do help a lot. Much love my friend. You’re doing amazing. The best influence we can have is one that’s genuine, and that’s why I listen to you and watch your videos. Enjoy your day my bro!!
YEA Clark. Thank you for this awesome video. You don't know me and we will probably never meet, which is ok, but I am so proud of you for finally getting to this point. I have gotten some great advice from some of your videos and other I cringed at and turned off. You have evolved so much from the first time I came across your videos two years ago. Congratulations and keep being you and helping so many with your videos.
I think people need to connect all these advices with all the advices of self-improvement and find something that works for them personally. And they will get were they want to be. There is nothing wrong with limiting yourself to things that do not lead you to your goals, that distract you. You can live your life while going to your dreamlife, but it's two different lives! You need to be consistent and concetrated on your goals to get it!
This is my favorite video on your channel by far! Thank you so much for all these deep thoughts! I’ve been on a very similar journey realizing this and being an over achiever 😅. Letting myself to slow down and enjoy every moment. And really loved your thoughts about values of people we take advice from! Thank you for all you do Clark!
I literally had to pause the video and comment when you said you feel yourself being called back to God and religion and community. I’ve been in spirituality space for almost 20years and I’m still struggling. I’ve done many plant medicine journeys, many workshops, read all the spiritual books, invested in courses, etc. It feels like I’ve literally tried everything and yes, it’s been this feeling like I have to be better, I have to “fix” myself. I think this worked initially, when I was in a really dark space, however it’s not working anymore… For months I kept randomly being called to buy a bible. I thought it was such an odd thing for me to feel called to considering, I partially grew up in somewhat of a Christian cult family and a lot of the religion thing terrified me for many years. Long story short, I finally bought one this past month and randomly opened up to a page not once but twice, I began to read the first thing that caught my eye and it was something I had been struggling with internally for quite sometime. It gave me a pretty solid answer straight from the teachings of Jesus, which I thought was pretty miraculous. ❤
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Been thinking about this too! Every day I ask myself, "What do you really want?" because that is the first step in changing your life, according to those in the know. And every day I have no clue. It makes me miserable because I feel like I am missing out on something better.
Enjoy what you have and keep an eye out for what could really excite you and fit into your life now. I’m in the same boat! It’s hard to figure out what you want when you have such limited time to go after it. It feels like the most impactful decision ever!! But whatever it is, make sure it’s what YOU want and what’s good for YOUR life. Good luck!! 🤗🩷
@@lionandtheprideband3958 thank you for the insight
I have done this every single day for 6 months and I just realized all that I "really want" is to feel okay with whatever it is I choose to do. The misery is from assuming I've missed out on making the better decision. I also haven't watched the video yet so maybe he talks about this. I don't know if this is also true for you but I thought I'd share because I know this feeling all too well and would never want someone else to have to continue running in this circular thinking.
@@jaedynramirez2907 It's funny, I've been thinking about doing a video like this. Clark beat me to it
I feel you! I'm a writer and life coach 😂 and I get like this too! My best tool: micromoments of joy. They stack!
Thanks for being authentic. Internet needs more of this.
I had a realization this morning actually, 90% of the self improvement space is filled with tips, tricks, and hacks. That's all it is. There is very little substance anymore. It's all just marketing and courses and nonsense.
Yeah, I'm self improvement for lazy people.
I admire your honesty and it makes me trust you more than anyone else on TH-cam. Thank you so much for your immense support and help. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I'm so sick of the influencers and the fake ego persona they show online. They don't post for intention but attention. I'm also sick of the ones who are all about "look at me, look at what I'm doing". These are the ones in constant lack mentality at their core.
This youtuber has 1,7 million followers. and carefully chooses background and hair.... it seems its not about look at me but the passion to introduce people to options. At least some youtubetrs use non-vulgar language.
I have a PhD and I feel sooo unworthy... This video is what I needed. Thank you!
Why? You have a PhD 🎉🎉🎉🎉
that's what he said, if you feel not enough, you will always feel not enough no matter what
What would make you feel worthy?
I am from the EU and I am astonished that you are the only American I have found on TH-cam who understands that making money is not the goal of life! I hope other Americans will learn from you. 🖖 Good life!"
GOSHHH I needed this video! I’ve been trying to “leveling up” these past 4 months because my ex bf implied I had trauma from previous relationships. Made me feel like something was wrong with me.. therefore I started to work on myself to improve but then it has became this thing that is so exhausting like I feel bad the days I don’t meditate, I feel bad for not starting my business yet.. makes me feel not ready yet to talk to another man or start something with someone because I feel like I’m not ready.. I’ve been isolated from people and friends :( I’m very social but these past months I’ve been feeling like so alone.. thank you for reminding me that life is about balance and loving ourselves and accepting ourselves
Loving and accepting ourselves is the most important step ,because then, we can really improve ❤
This video should be called " 5 Self-improvement tips for people who are sick of self improvement"
might have to split test this one 🤔🤣
Glad you made this video. I used to be obsessed with self-help until it made me really isolated and I just got tired from it all. It felt like overconsumption without execution and real life experience. I felt disconnected from your channel and you talking about this important topic brought me back.
Wow I loved this. Super rare to find this level of authenticity in the “self-improvement” market & it’s a breath of fresh air.
Clark, I think you’re really honing in on your niche. Keep speaking what you truly think & you have a life-long supporter, your genuine self is full of wisdom and it’s very refreshing to hear so thank you
Thank you for posting this after all. So many people are mindlessly obsessed with self-improvement and the worst part - there’s no end to it. It’s so important to know why we do it and have clear goals in mind.
I just turned 36 and these have been my daily thoughts. I was wrapped up in the self-improvement game for so long, then woke up to the fact that I always felt this separation from who I am and who I was becoming. After over a decade of trying to become this other person, I still felt the separation. I realized that if I continue to try to become my “higher self”, I would always feel like I was not them. So, I’ve really been switching my focus on just being. Learning how to be content with being who I am and knowing that instead of trying to become some ideal person, I just need to focus on stripping away all of the conditioning and stories that have continued to keep me believing that I am not my higher self, right now.
Great video - in a world where many people including myself listen to too much “self-help” content all day long and don’t take in half of what we watched this resonated a lot.
I felt you came off as very authentic and genuine, which made the message a lot stronger. Thank you for deciding to post, it really helps put into perspective a lot of similar thoughts I’ve also had that I’ve just left in the back of my mind.
Wow! This is one of the best videos I’ve seen from you so far. Thank you so much for showing this side of you. 👍
During the pandemic,🌻 I hand-made pillows for children to keep my mental health strong, and the families that thanked me for the for the free charitable gift, gave me strength. 🌻I felt like my life-purpose depended on my courage to be there for others, without expecting a return for the time-alloted. Altruism can be abused if the "serving and generousity" was made for 'likes' or some sort of credit.🌻
In one of your videos I saw a month ago or so you said people get addicted to the feeling of being a victim. I turned it off in anger till I realised it was a reflection in me. Thanks for that honesty. It was very helpful to produce changes in my thought patterns.
Well said!
Thank you for posting this...self improvement is a journey not a destination...
I really admire your authenticity.
Good Lord Clark! You are literally talking to me right now. Thank you so so so much for this video. I also make videos and I understand when you said: this video is not for views, it's just a conversation between friends. Let me tell you every word you said made echo in my head and gave me so much peace. Thank you again for your time and dedication ❤
This is the best video for anyone and everyone. I'm the type of person who searches for answers to what I'm feeling and the problems I face sometimes, and I would usually go to motivational videos to do that. Now, I have a different understanding about self improvement. Thank you for this video, we need more of these Clark. I can definitely see you as one of the greats!
These are your best videos imho because its the truth. The truth is where the real value lies. Hearing what you don't want to hear. An example being doing what you hate, having the discipline to follow through is what actually produces the results, at least in the beginning until you form the habits that serve you. For me personally, becoming connected more with God has been the biggest change for me, above anything else I have done up to this point, including some short term therapy. You can only serve one master. Choose wisely. Thank you Clark for sharing this!
A.m. routine ~ journal, pen, quiet/meditation/prayer time (whatever you want to call it)…….ask yourself this simple question: “how/where/who am I to serve today?” Let divine order guide your inspired actions for the day by tuning in. We are ALL already enough in this very moment…. Clark, you are transitioning in perfect divine order. Thanks for being authentic….
I recently spent some time with my father (for Father's Day) going to a church I never went to before. As I was listening in, I was making connections with the message and with my journey so far. I began to realize that the core of all wisdom is a desire to live in harmony, not just for others around you, but also for yourself. Nobody wants to feel like they are letting others down or letting themselves down, but I think acknowledging the reality of who we are as a society and then taking a moment to reach out and address your concerns starts a cycle of opening up that makes others feel like they can open up in turn. I'm glad you decided to post this video.
For me, self-improvement has always been about learning to accept others around me and their way of life so that I can hopefully learn to accept myself, and hearing from you and your thoughts on the journey is already helping me (and I think it's helping you, too). I've had passing thoughts about stepping into streaming, but I think I strayed away from it precisely because I was afraid I would lose myself along the way, and in doing so I would shut out the few people I care about.
No matter what you do or what may come, I hope you find your way in this ever-changing world.
That's a nice post for others out here, too. Thanks!
Clark, this was one of the best videos I've watched! So raw and so vulnerable! I did your course last year and did it again this year... last year, I felt like it was more for improving myself because there's something wrong with me. This year, it was somewhat similar, but with more conviction because I knew it worked. I finished the course the 2nd time round in May or April. 1 week or so ago, I realised all of this and that self-acceptance and contentment with myself and my life is what I need. These last 2 weeks have been the best 2 weeks I've had in a while. They weren't perfect by no means! I was upset, I was unhappy, tired, short, but I've also been happy and content with the fact that I'm not 'perfect' and that is ok❤ much love to you Clark and to the Metamorphic team
I confess I’m addicted to self improvement content/books and really NEEDED to hear this! Thank you for sharing, Clark! More raw videos like this please 🙏🏼
Man oh man, I could feel you all the way from London. This is truly the best video I’ve seen from you. I could feel the passion and the honesty oozing out of you. Thank you man - I love that doing this video helped you too.
So glad to be a part of this community. The guy deserves more credit for sharing this insight . I think most of the people who are into self improvement since a long time feel that it gets too much and often toxic ......and yes definitely looking forward to more brain dump videos !!!
Clark, I really appreciate your honesty and transparency with some of the issues you have faced. For example when you talk about not feeling loved in a relationship not because of your partner not loving you, but because you haven’t focused on learning to love yourself or be happy with the you you are now. I can really tell and feel that you have actually been through some of those examples and speak from a genuine want to help people. As opposed to “I’m saying this for people to agree and to push me up on a pedestal”. I’m trying to come out of a complicated slump right now. And your video today and others in the past really help me search for the next (realistic) steps I need to take to help put myself in a better position. There’s a lot more that I liked about this video. But to save myself from typing a novel of gratitude and compliments - I’ll end this at thank you for all you do.
I've definitely noticed this also. There are even some "leaders" who are misleading their audiences into negative and narcissistic behavior under the guise of being above everyone else. So telling people to check with their own discernment is wise. Thank you for this video, and for being so honest! ❤
can be isolated is so true... I have been feeling it. Focusing on myself is important but I feel too alone sometimes...
This is why you have millions of followers including me. You really care about our mental health. RESPECT Clark. Thanks for coming into our lives and sharing your thoughts 💛
Everyone just try to be kind to yourself and long is a marathon. Failure today doesn't mean you are stuck in this situation forever. Move on and learn from your experience. CHEERS1
I am so happy that I found your channel! Thank you for sharing this content. I am 52, and I'm on my journey of self-improvement.
Honestly I like the video, but self improvement for the last 6 months has drastically changed my life. But my life has become less about me and more about my family and friends. I now just connect and stop worrying so much about doing "right: all the time, and just being the my version of the best me in that moment.
When your glass is overflowing, start filling other people's glasses is the best thing I learned
Thank you for this video, Clark! I literally won my dream job last year, but ever since then, I have been so anxious about messing up or offending any of my colleagues that I haven’t been able to enjoy myself at work at all. I'm ready to start getting out of my own head and start enjoying life with the people around me.
i love you Clark, you are that one youtuber I still watch on my "self-improvement" way, because you are the only one who doesnt make me feel bad or guilt. I really like your point about learning from yourself. Thank you, you really making my life better! My biggest appreciation
Thank you Clark, your message is very well expressed in a raw, authentic and refreshingly honest way. I definitively agree that we don't need to take on other people's rules of who we should be, how we should think and behave, and what all we should believe, say and do (or NOT), since others are NOT the AUTHORITY of us (our Spirit/Soul/Higher Self/Human Self is). Granted, there are times when invaluable solitude time helps us to deeply connect with our Spirit/Soul/inner world---to experience what it FEELS like to Be/be within our own vibrational frequency state without all the outer world distractions---especially if we experienced a divorce, and/or separation from any other unhealthy relationship, job, career, environment, etc., and could use a peaceful break to deeply heal and regroup as WHOLE Self/self.
Not everyone has a supportive family and/or true friends, though we can tune into Soul Family-like support systems online, like You and your TH-cam channel. Plus, solitude time can be balanced with social time, like the ebb and flow of an ocean.
Even Unconditional Love is meant for self/others, and NOT just others (that society has mostly taught humanity). I have experienced many red flags from the self-help industry (along with benefits)---to include various communities within Spirituality and Psychology---so really appreciate you sharing expanded perspective.
I've learned that it's about Being a DISCERNING open mind (to prevent becoming gullible), and an open heart with healthy boundaries (to prevent becoming a doormat). Going to continue watching.
When it comes to God and this world's religions (that are still about who's more righteous), I've learned that there still exists gems of wisdom even within severely man-altered religions and rigid belief systems.
However, the GODDESS/GOD/THE ONE OF MANY NAMES, BUT ULTIMATELY THE NAMELESS within & without---that I chose to connect and commune with daily (throughout each day: within me, as me, and through me, and all around me---is WAY WAY MORE VAST, UNLIMITED, UNCONDITIONALLY LOVING, PROFOUNDLY WISE, PEACEFUL, POWERFUL AND GREATER than any BOXED-IN, LIMITING, BIASED, AND MAN-LABLED RELIGION.
The question we can ask ourselves is...DO WE NEED TO BE IN ANY BOX, OR CAN WE SIMPLY BE A NATURALLY FREE, CORE ESSENCE?
Anyhoo, so grateful you decided to post this video because it FELT SO NATURAL AND RELATABLE. Thank you so much Clark!
Thanks for this. Everything you said resonates and is happening to me. I've been feeling overwhelmed with all the advices on self improvement that I'm drained right now.
I started following your content just recently, and I have to say it has helped me a lot. I think all the points you make about self-improvement are so insightful! You put into words many thoughts I have but never had real answers for. Thank you, Clark. God bless you and your family! Hugs from Brazil!
It's amazing this video found me on this exact day! I only recently started posting comments to videos I enjoy. However, I've been watching your videos and many like them for over a decade. I started with Abraham Hicks type videos after I'd lost my inseparable best friend to suicide 12yrs ago. Fast forward to now & I've consumed an unreasonable amount of self-help material. Finally following through on life changes and faithfully practicing meditation, along with all the years of "studying" things are clicking.
I'd recently been considering sharing my journey, but after the last week of watching videos on "starting a channel" I've been super overwhelmed & not sure it's for me. I like the idea that I could help people from my life experiences, but as an introvert I'm scared of people.... the suicide didn't help much with that fear.
Anyway, I just wanted to say THANK YOU! I always appreciate the authentic videos when people speak from the heart. I loved the Alan Watts vibe, thanks again 😊
You hit the nail on the head - Thank God someone is starting to speak about this whole self improvement movement which leads to self absorption - I felt myself going down that road and I snapped out of it.
I feel a lot better when I'm taking of myself AND others!!
I loved what you said at the end "I'm worthy of taking up space in conversations, I don't have to put on this role or persona. Thank you, it really resonated with me 👍
One of the best videos I have watched in a very long time thank you so much for making this video and we would like to see more of your thoughts on this subject thank you so much we are grateful to have you as a creator may God bless you and me he inspire you to spread happiness all over the world
Wise words, I agree! 🎉
This is all very true!! I listen to most of the videos and feel overwhelmed and annoyed...like..who has time for all this?!?! We started going back to church and helping serve and I feel so much more grounded. It's been so much better for my family.
Just discovered your videos today and loved this one, really spoke to me. And I’ve noticed alot of people turning back to God too. We’re all kind of prodigal sons and daughters returning home.
At the very end... You are doing great with your own self-improvement process. You've tried different routes and somehow finding your best one. Your growth is noticeable. And people can learn from you too. What a beautiful work going through self-improvement brings into any of us... At our own pace and facing our own realities. A human doing and reflecting on his/her actions is just precious. That is growth. Lovely. Great video, man. Hugs.
I truly appreciate your honesty and empathy. I like how you adress the questions at the true core. It also feels good to not be so hard on yourself and others. That's a trait I also want to focus on more.
Fuck yeaach it was worth uploading. Congrats on making one of the best videos that I have watched in a while. So much useful informations to consider in life and reflect on.
This video was amazing and ironically exactly what I needed to hear!! I love who you are and thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with the world. It hit me hard when you talked about toxic shame, and needing self appreciation!! The big question you asked “why do I feel not enough?” That was so big for me I cried. I’ve been feeling so unworthy:( recently. also understanding why I wanted to improve in the first place, coming back to my why!!! I noticed how giving and being around my family made me see things differently!! Being in my head all the time thinking the clock is ticking I have to be my best self all the time. But in reality I have many parts that make me, me and that’s okay. I am human not a robot. Once again thank you for the video and thank you for taking the time to read my ramble 😂🩷
I, for one, am filled with immense gratitude that you posted this! Thanks for deciding to. 🙏🏼💓
WOW I just wrote an insta post on the things we put ourselves through in the name of healing. Completely mirroring a lot of my own feelings. This is def a must watch video. I think the self-help industry in their rush to solve problems has started being the solution instead of pointing people back to themselves to solve the problem.
An internal solution will not be solved by an external solution. That is like trying to solve a software problem with a hardware change as soon as you reinstall that software there are still going to be problems. Instead of chasing after the money, we have to be strong enough when people give you their power to give it back to them.
I love how much of a kind and sincere human you are, Clark.
Also, I am seeing this trend that people are going back to old school religion. There's a movement in this too so just be careful. All of this technique shit still makes us feel powerless, which is why most people go back to religion to feel a sense of security. But it's truly within us
Working on myself has been exhausting. I’m guilty of telling myself that once I accomplish my goals, then I can enjoy myself. It has helped me stay more focused but I’ve been experiencing fatigue and sadness.
This was a good video. I've read a TON of "self improvement" books and watched thousands of hours of videos. My #1 book after all of them is 7 Habits of Highly Effective People because it promotes character ethic over personality ethic, living a principle centered life. Interdependence vs independence. Begin with the end in mind. It keeps me centered on relationships, my core beliefs, and it's God centered.
Thank you, Clark, for this video! You're a good dude!!
Respect!!👊
Wow, I just loved that video !
I resonated with that so much, thanks for being authentic, or at least for trying to be your true self, it takes time and its a whole journey to discover who you truly are.
Because of bashar i recently learned about UNCONDITIONAL LOVE and Self Acceptance, you said it right, YES you can CHOOSE to become better and to improve the quality of your life, you do it because you want to experience something else, NOT because you think you need to fix yourself, like you were not good enough.
YOU EXIST, YOU ARE, thats all you need, You are good enough just as you are, because you exist, you're part of this universe.
Love yourself unconditionally and begin your healing process, love all your shadows and lights.
thanks clark for showing the world the danger of self improvement and how we can lose ourselves in it.
I’m glad you posted this because it was one of the best ones I needed to watch yet
The guy looks and sounds so sincere when he talks . These attributes attracts audience somehow. Keep up the good work. U have my thanks ur doing a great job
I worked in the social media content creation space and did really well for a decade. Then I burned out and my entire business went down the drain. It was the hardest thing I ever experienced. Thankfully I’m true to myself now and have an office job. Thank you for sharing your story.
Love the authenticity and keepin' it real. Thank you. 🕊🦋
I love you Clark ❤ Rants like these are my favorite. Just spewing whatever's on your mind is so relatable & a refreshing reminder we are not the only ones in this world feeling/thinking/questioning these things. We're all in this together. Thank you ✌🏻💖🤗😁
😊 Clark, you're about the same age as my kids. And, you reminded me of them. Watching videos of you at a young age on vacation, going places, doing things, creating content. Basically in my opinion, the core you, really hasn't changed, personality wise. Yes, you've grown and advanced. However, the straight forward, honest, be yourself you, hasn't changed. And, I enjoy the little side jokes you throw in.
Please don't feel as if you have to be a staunch, know all be all guru. Your actions, track record and accomplishments is proof enough.
You're, Hey man let's have fun getting things done approach. To me, has made you a very relatable person. And, people wouldn't be approaching you if you were unapproachable, or unreliable, so that in itself shows proof. My parents taught me, act accordingly,
time and place, moderation is key, consider where and who you're speaking to with discernment. Please don't change Clark, I really enjoy your relaxed, relatable educational fun content. Stoic old fuddy? You're quite an accomplished young man.
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Glad you posted this, I hadn't watched any of your videos for a while because of the artificiality of some of them, but this one resonated, and judging by how you said you felt at the end of it, you already knew that 😄👍🏻
Fair enough, Clark.
I believe you can't really talk anyone out of going their own journey, because only the experience leads to realization.
Jim Carrey said: "I wish everyone became rich and famous just to realize that it wasn't the point."
Well, I'm sure even if Jim Carrey went back yo his younger self, he couldn't talk him out of wanting ti achieve his big dreams, and that he has, millions of people listen to him when he speaks.
I know I also want to have the same influence and for that I guess you know better what needs to be done.
I understand you're just expressing yourself and I feel ya on that, living with less pressure would be sweet if you think about it for a moment's notice, but in the end, deep down inside, we all love the thrill of the journey of trying to reach our goals, at least the people who signed up for it in the first place.
Great reality check… keep reminding people to remind themselves of these basic truths …and when overwhelmed revert to the ‘simple’...Thanks for your authenticity
This video was one of my favorite videos you've ever created. I can feel your authenticity and to me, that is the most empowering for others. I'm really grateful for your insight and clear way of communicating all sides of self improvement and spirituality and being able to stay grounded in who you are, and not what others are telling you you are. There is SO much toxicity in many spirituality information circulating the media as well as constantly striving for more - and I agree thats beautiful to want more but if you're losing yourself in the process and severing connection with others - that is the complete opposite of the goal.
I also resonate with coming back to more traditional beliefs and ways of life which God plays a big role in guiding that, or whatever that higher power is for you. I feel thats why a lot of people are being called back to this! It's so beautiful as long as we don't use it in the same ways to judge others or isolate of course.
Thank you, again.
I'm so glad you posted this! You hit so many truths , 100%!
Man I'm truly grateful for your message and approach, not just on this video but all the others. Keep doing what you're doing
This is great and it's in the same direction I'm going. The world needs more being and feeling, not more doing and thinking. Thanks Clark for opening up ❤
I always think you're genuine, but I appreciate a video like this because I really respect the self-awareness that comes across here. Thanks for all of your thoughts Clark!
Clark, I want to thank you that you decided to share these very important aspects! 🙏Whoever is on this path of self-improvement must watch this video first, in order to become aware of the risks/dangers that you so generously shared!❤God bless you!
This was at the exact right time, Clark, thank you! I've been struggling with perfectionism and not accepting myself just as I am. I think I'm tired of always not being enough for myself. I love the rawness of this, the one scene-ness, please do more of similar! Always Love x
Heck yeah, this vid popped up on my feed from nowhere but I've always felt the 'grind' as a fairly empty, one-dimensional pursuit. Good to be in solitude sometimes to go inward, but opening oneself to experience the nuances of the outer world is also valuable.
Im glad you decided to upload this video. I was getting the same feeling when listening to these 'gurus' and deep in my heart i knew to take every word with a grain of salt. Definitely ask what your values are! Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic!! It was finally said outloud!!
Yes thank you Clark- however, I do think it's important that when you're trying to start a new life that it's not easy to be around people who are doing things that you're trying to stop. This doesn't mean you can't hangout with those people at all. It just means spending LESS time
WOW, this is such an honest video, thank you for posting it.I've been questioning my choices and everything I don't have because of the path I've chosen so I completely resonate with how you feel. Need to remember to actually LIVE in the moment
100% agree, this is definitely very refreshing when it comes to the "self improvement" niche. However, I definitely encourage people to stop compromising on what they want because it might seem ordinary or not normal to other people, and sometimes the cliche things you hear from gurus are actually right. BUT NOT every time lol. For example, I resonate a lot with people like David Goggins and Alex Hormozi, but I don't try to be them, I have parts of my life that I love doing and I don't want to give up those things. Although, I will take things they do that I know I want to do and implement it into my own life where I see fit. All in all, live the life you ultimately want to live, and for some people going to extreme lengths to change is necessary to get out of the hole they are in, just don't cave in on yourself when it comes to "self improvement" so much to the point you are miserable. Do it your way!
This is great dude, love your advices; I now understand that cutting relationships just to 'maximize' my time would be the worst decision I would ever make.
I’m here cause Ive obsessively tried to fix myself for the last 4 years. Now I’m thinking I need to accept myself and trying to walk the tight rope of productivity
Clark I love your content. I am in the early journey of self development and this video has been a great red flag marker for me, THANK YOU! I would love to connect as I am about to launch my own online community on here for the over 40s´
A non-alcoholic Cheers
Chris
Sandra Pogodova said that when you change your life or you go trough a personal transformation, want to be happy and find new solutions or do new business or passion work, or finding purpoise....
Its about how to be calm and understanding what makes you trive what friends resonate with you, but
but she said there is one rule, "everythiong you do is about what intention you have"
When you travel you do it with some intention, when you write abook you do it with good intention that someone may laugh because the book is humorous,
when you exercise you you do it with good intention , when you meet friends you do it with good intention.
She probably ment that you dont neccessarily analyze every aspect of the purpose or resolution,
but the intention. Because some people get inspired some not.
her philosoiphy as she read lot of books, is that we shouldnt judge peopelk for mistakes, because its the best they do at the moment.
Its seems nothing is wrong unless you have a good intention. You learn something new.
Yup. Right on. Having been in this industry for over 20 years, I agree. some excellent insights you shared. you are on point with this topic!❤
Hey Clark,
Thank you for the different perspective on selfimprovement. Now I really know why I felt off even though I religiously followed all the selfimprovement formulas. Feeling the need to improve kills the selfworth in essence and you pointed that out! Right now I feel worse than before self improvement. Thank you for the great work in all the years!
Just because someone's hourly rate is higher than you doesn't mean they are worth more than you. We are all, still remain human. Nothing more.
This goes to looks, fame, success and anything else that is as temporary as our lives are.
Man such an important topic that needs to be spread to the masses. Great video Clark!
I'm so glad you ended up posting this. Thanks for being real. ❤
your words make a lot of sense dude, totally relatable
Thanks Clark for being honest and striking the important points. Always useful!
Yes! Finally a video about anti “improvement” culture. He keeps pushing and pushing us to meet a goal, but then it is hard for us to enjoy the slow moments of life improvement doesn’t focus on enjoying time with family and friends getting dinner with a loved one or just sitting down and reading a book that you enjoy, I love this change and perspective allowing us to make our own rules for our own sake and happiness
Super helpful and the exact message I needed to hear today. Thank you.
Yes, please more content like this. You being authentic and just sort of vlogging and having more of a one on one conversation with me, the viewer is just as valuable as the more thought out content with your cool charts and white papers. Thanks for all that you do!!
These things may be true for some, but I spent the first 30+ years of my life focusing on others and it didn’t do anything for my life. Now that I have focused on learning about and improving myself I have more balance and I feel closer to others, understanding them, and making mindful choices about who I spend my time with. Not everyone we “enjoy” is good for us to be around. Not every well-thought out choice of company is transactional, sometimes it is for the greater good as well as our own. I’ll never go back to giving my valuable time to the wrong people and letting the negativity of others rub off on me. It’s not all about money, it’s about mentality. Someone can be not wealthy but have a healthy rich mindset, while someone can have money and have a scarcity mindset, for me it’s more about character and perspective than wealth.
"Real self improvement leads to self acceptance." ♥
IMO this is actually the best video you've ever done.
Felt you are authentic. Keep it up.
Clark, you’re awesome, man! I loved this video. I took your course about 3 years ago & it was one of the most insightful & positive experiences I’ve ever had.
Clark, I genuinely love these videos. They are very intimate and welcoming! Thank you so much for sharing your personal experiences. They really do help a lot.
Much love my friend. You’re doing amazing. The best influence we can have is one that’s genuine, and that’s why I listen to you and watch your videos.
Enjoy your day my bro!!
YEA Clark. Thank you for this awesome video. You don't know me and we will probably never meet, which is ok, but I am so proud of you for finally getting to this point.
I have gotten some great advice from some of your videos and other I cringed at and turned off.
You have evolved so much from the first time I came across your videos two years ago. Congratulations and keep being you and helping so many with your videos.
I think people need to connect all these advices with all the advices of self-improvement and find something that works for them personally. And they will get were they want to be.
There is nothing wrong with limiting yourself to things that do not lead you to your goals, that distract you.
You can live your life while going to your dreamlife, but it's two different lives!
You need to be consistent and concetrated on your goals to get it!
This is my favorite video on your channel by far! Thank you so much for all these deep thoughts! I’ve been on a very similar journey realizing this and being an over achiever 😅. Letting myself to slow down and enjoy every moment. And really loved your thoughts about values of people we take advice from!
Thank you for all you do Clark!
One of your best, Clark. Eye-opening.
Sometimes, the knowledge comes after the lesson.
I literally had to pause the video and comment when you said you feel yourself being called back to God and religion and community. I’ve been in spirituality space for almost 20years and I’m still struggling. I’ve done many plant medicine journeys, many workshops, read all the spiritual books, invested in courses, etc.
It feels like I’ve literally tried everything and yes, it’s been this feeling like I have to be better, I have to “fix” myself.
I think this worked initially, when I was in a really dark space, however it’s not working anymore… For months I kept randomly being called to buy a bible. I thought it was such an odd thing for me to feel called to considering, I partially grew up in somewhat of a Christian cult family and a lot of the religion thing terrified me for many years. Long story short, I finally bought one this past month and randomly opened up to a page not once but twice, I began to read the first thing that caught my eye and it was something I had been struggling with internally for quite sometime. It gave me a pretty solid answer straight from the teachings of Jesus, which I thought was pretty miraculous. ❤