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We've been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years, and now we're Married! Patience, trusting and love is key for successful long distance relationship!
@@empressqi1722 does not matter if it is 300km or 3000km , important thing is if you have time to travel and have access to public transport. It is easier to take a flight from a big city to another country than going from one village to another if you have no car or there is a problem with public transport.
@@rozaogrodowa8686 Yes it does matter whether you have to pay several hundred bucks to travel across the globe/pay for the visa OR buy a ticket to a town 300 km away within the same country come on
@@gijsbon8065 it isn't about sex, physical chemistry, if your partner is sick you are there for your partner, you know when your partner isn't themselves by the tone in their voice, you would drive a million miles to be with them even if you aren't together anymore as a couple. Time can't break your emotional bond even if one of you changed and you aren't and know you can't be together as a couple. They know you inside out, that is what an intimate relationship is, your worse fears, your secrets and you might have moved on to be with someone else but they will only be a distraction, not the one that you will share everything with, sex isn't intimacy. Sex is sex. Sex and intimacy have nothing to do with each other. Intimacy means you will be there in death to hold that person till they take their last breath.
7 years in long-distance. Why? Because I loved him. Conflict and confusion were normal. Misunderstanding and breaks were consistent. But I loved him. After every fight, we took break and understood each others perspective. Played couples games like lovify. And, it did help us understand each other even better. Shared our expectations. Years passed by in the hope, one day we'll be together. And here we are, 3 months from now. We are getting married 💗💗
The line that got me in this video, “if I could pull those negative emotions out of your body and lay it on the table....”. It strikes a chord in me that long distance relationships are mostly spent yearning for the other persons company instead of being with them. It’s an unhappy situation. Bad for people who already struggle with depression and anxiety.
I’ve been in a ldr for almost 2 years and I experience none of this!!!! This is the best relationship I’ve ever been in. My bf lives in Fort Lauderdale and I live in The Bahamas , we try our best to see each other ever two months. Sometimes we can’t wait and we see each other ever month. I feel like I’m a part of his life and he is apart of mine. When I talk to him I feel a connection like Ive never felt with anyone else. I’m not saying the distance is not hard because it is. But I can definitely say that we are building together!
That exactly how I feel with my ldr we never have things run out talk about we talk important things his want too know everything that going in my life and his also include me in his life
I disagree sorry, I've been with my partner for a little over 2 years and as long as you have good communication, trust and patience it can work!! I would say without these 3 things it wouldn't. Emotionally, it can be hard but ultimately you know LDR is a short-term situation! I hope to see more than 5% succeed
I disagree too all my friends including me been in a long distance relationship. Some of ny friends been with their significant other for 4+ years and me 8 years going strong.
Interesting...my friend has carried an on-and-off-and-on LDR going on 13 years! I've asked him why doesn't he just bite the bullet & marry her, but he seems satisfied to keep it like that, possibly forever. :-|
I was In a long distance relationship and it was hard but we love each other and trust had a lot to do with us making it. Not being insecure and keeping busy also helped. We are now happily living together after being long distance for over a year. Compromise and understanding go a long way, sometimes things really do come up.❤
Been in a long distance relationship for 3 years and counting (I moved to U.S.A to do my PhD, he's in India). We meet once a year, but we make time to talk everyday, share every tiny detail from our daily lives and trust each other. Hoping to make it to the 5% *fingers crossed*
I've been in long distance relationship for 2 years and half before I got married. It was challenging. You need to be committed 100% with each other. Need to be more patience and understanding. And of course 100 % trust. A little bit of doubt will create misunderstanding. But don't give up. Communicate always. Currently were together and have been married for 7 years now.
Well I don't have trust as I was burned in LDR. Both were chattibg with other women. I had to play a detective. It wasn't a pleasant experience for me. Also the longer the ldr lasted the more distant men become. It's a no go for me anymore.
My wife and I were in a long distance relationship for over 2 years. It is absolutely so hard but regular communication with each other and seeing each other as much as possible when we could helped us make it. Now we are married and because of the foundation we had built in communication and intimacy, we have a better marriage for it. Thank you so much for making this video. I see how your video has cultivated many to examine their LDRs and to grow from it.
3 of my my girlfriends got married to their LDRs. One in military. 🤔 I don't think it matters where you live when you find the one! I'm not sure why everyone wants someone so convenient all the time...just bc it's convenient doesn't mean they are the one for you!
Good point, Jessica! I agree with your last statement whole-heartedly: "just bc it's convenient doesn't mean they are the one for you!" BUT no one should ever be faulted for wanting to find someone close to them and it simply being labeled as them being lazy or wanting "convenience." That would be a mistake, because LDR's are THE ultimate test as far as relationships go when you DO think you've found "the one" somewhere far away. The numbers of LDR's simply don't boast well. However, in your particular example, it sounds like there may have been foundation(s) built prior to the LDR(s) occurring (i.e. military), as I mentioned in the video, so that is always helpful 😊
Ryan Patrick All of my friends are saying my long distance relationship is fake that it will never work when In realty long distance relationships are the best relationships!! The key is communicating and being positive about it! He trust me and I trust him :-) you know it’s real and sincere because physical relationships don’t mean that much at all.. he tells me he rather talk on the phone all night than be physical and I’m totally okay with that... it’s building mental connection and that’s the most important thing in a relationship. When in reality while most of my friends with close distant relationships that live in the same proximity don’t even last long cause they have sex and don’t talk and communicate. my parents met by writing letters across the ocean and they got married within a year! Long distance relationship work.. it’s called taking time and communication and sharing your feelings. Idk what this video was about but people are too lazy to put in effort in relationships. That’s why 99 percent of relationships don’t work. cause they want it instant. Instead of becoming friends and taking it to the next level -.-.
Long distance NEVER works..l liked this guy from Ecuador..I'm n the USA..we stopped texting after a week I'll never do anything long distance with anyone
@@claraagu1811 depends on the person. Just because it didn't work for you doesn't mean it's not gonna work for everyone. he's just not that into you. Sorry.
I’m a year into my LDR and we are getting stronger and stronger very interesting to hear Ryan POV but I’ve not experienced any of the things he’s listed. When we get to meet it always amazing, we talk every day for hours at time most days. I suppose everybody situation is different but I’m living proof that it’s very much achievable.
Maintaining a long-distance relationship is much more difficult than an usual relationship. This is important not only for your partner, but also for you. Remember that the initiative should not only be yours, but also your partner's, motivate him to do so, tell him what is important for you. The longer a long-distance relationship lasts, the more likely it is that someone will appear and emotionally take the place near you or near your partner.
I tried twice and the longer it lasted the more cold and detached guys became. So in my opinion if you don't want to live in the same place at some point you are only wasting your time. What bothers me the most is because most men expect of you to leave everything behind and even live with their parents (yup you wouldn't believe it but it happened to me both times) and it is a no go for me. People should live on their own without involving the close family members. It isn't everyones cup of tea. Me personally..I wouldn't bother ldr anymore. I want regular intimacy (not just sex) and to spent more time with someone. It isn't enough for me to see someone once in two weeks. Also what happened to me personally the longer the ldr lasted the more apart we become. Also if something happens to me (and I have health issues) that person in ldr isn't someone I can count on or if even something nice happens I can't share that moment with that person. Sorry but I don't see a reason for being in a ldr. Not to mention I caught both men (I was in 2 ldr) having apps for dating while they were in a relationship with me so yeah..No trust there of course.
lucky u, mines never wanted to meet me in person, and we will always talk on the phone, video chat aloooot and etc i just didnt ser why he never put effort:( i tried but he will always lag
I was in a long-distance relationship for 4 years. Across the country. We broke up when we finally moved back together to be 45 minutes from each other for the foreseeable future.
I used to think this way in the past from ALL, yes all, my past LDRs. But, when you find the RIGHT PERSON, there will be no such thing as percentage. It just WORKS.
I'm currently in a long distance relationship and it's been almost a year now, me and him are so happy, I trust him, but the distance is driving me crazy, I have to wait until next year before he's able to come see me, but we talk every day, we can't hardly stand to go even a day without talking, we do everything together pretty much. We've figured out a way to be intimate with each other through simulation. By imagining being touched or something. We kiss over the phone, and we fall asleep together and honestly, doing all of that makes me more excited to be able to spend my life with him
Im Surprised how you're able to maintain it like that tho and good luck to the both of you😊 I'm also currently in an ldr we talk everyday,fall asleep on the phone I mean we pretty much do everything together I enjoy spending time with her whenever she calls I leave all my works and I go to her but most of the times when we're on call the silence keeps kicking in I really don't know what to do about it I mean i run out of words to say I really wanna talk but its hard I just wanted to know how yours is going if u don't mind
@@bamboozledu2341 I am in a LDR as well, what I have been doing for that silence panic, because I totally relate to that, is that during the week we don't talk as many hours, because of our schedules, probably 40 minutes in the morning and if we are lucky another 40 or 1hour before one of us goes to sleep (we are 8hr difference) and we don't talk as much by message, so we share each other's day basically, how we have felt, regular stuff like, problems he solved, work, ideas, dreams but very short, and then we schedule timeless dates (some have lasted 14 hours just talking) we eat together and they are like once each 15 days, we give ourselves time to talk about our dreams and projects, our fears, we deepen on our past, our future, and each time we do those endless dates we both say oh My! we needed our intimate time, I am lucky because he is very talkative and he will describe me everything around his life, how is the sky, the weather, the sun EVERYTHING at the beginning it was boring, but now I adore knowing everyting, he even sends me videos of what he is doing, anything. I too have to wait a year almos due to covid, and we are giving our best.
@@bamboozledu2341 I don't mind telling you how my relationship is going. It's going great, we're stronger than ever, it's now been nearly a year since we've been together and we're getting closer to reaching our one year mark, I get more excited about it with each day that passes by. We never run out of things to talk about, we always just talk about random stuff or anything that comes to mind. The best advice I can give is don't fall out of communication with your girlfriend, communication and trust are key for any relationship, especially a long distance relationship.
Yes... With pure love. Not just a word of love & then when a woman didn't want to accept their gift he wants to break of. That's maybe a love scammer. Not really love you. 🙏🙏🙏 my english not good.
Love is not enough. You can’t survive on love, you need to work, earn, have similar lifestyles. You need to be accustomed with each other’s good/bad habits, trauma’s, family situations etc.
Been in a LDR 7 years to found out when i called him the girl answered the phone to say we are getting married and that i should stop calling him Lol 😂 but after a while last Nov 3 i started on LDR again he visited me on new year 2019 and spent my 53rd birthday with him meet my family , went to CORON PALAWAN AND BAGUIO showed him where i lived work and played tennis, together for 20 amazing days.He was crying on the day he was leaving back to his country.Waiting for my visa to join him. There is always someone special for each one of us❤️ GOD BLESS ALL OF US ON ALL OUR JOURNEY🙏
Idk why I was recommended this video in my feed, but I appreciate actually watching it. As a guy, I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years, and 2 of those years was in a ldr across the country. She was in grad school, and I was working full-time. We would visit every 4-6ish weeks, and it was amazing when we would see each other. We were both connected, present, and fully-engaged with each other. We talked about marriage in the future, and we made it a goal to communicate our thoughts and feelings as honest as we could. But over the course of time, we grew apart in our own two paths. That was the kicker. We ended up breaking up just after the 3 year mark because we communicated how we truly felt, and in doing this, we both dwanted to go in different directions. Did we still love each other? Absolutely. Did we care & put in effort? Absolutely. But at the end of the day, we both realized being together for the long-haul wouldn’t probably be the best thing for where we were at individually. We respected this in each other so we thought breaking up was the “best” thing to do. So what I learned is that deep love, solid communication, and 100% trust in each other is what will get most couples through long-distance. However, the last component is making sure you’re both growing “together.” Having the same end goal or desiring the same lifestyle you want to live is so important.
So much hate in this comment section. I on the other hand agree with this video wholeheartedly. Long-distance relationships bring more pain than joy. You spend more time longing than enjoying. There is virtually nothing you cannot do in a local relationship that you can do in a long-distance relationship. I've made more memories in 1 month in my local relationship than I did in my 1.5 years of a long-distance relationship. There is a reason why it doesn't last for most people. While people spend time apart and longing for each other, I'm actually spending time with my girlfriend regularly, be able to save money, be there on holidays and important events, do fun stuff spontaneously and do all the other small things (like going to the mall, movies, etc.). Good luck doing those things in a long-distance relationship. Especially those who don't have a solid plan to close the distance asap.
Only thing that I can add to this is Reality. You have to at some point acknowledge the Reality and accept it. Accepting the facts making peace with it. Doing this will keep you from depression. Just knowing the things you can't change. Take a deep breath enjoy the LDR experience while it last. Then when you are ready start thinking about yourself. You have to keep moving forward. What will be will be. Live and let love find you.
I think long distance relationships fail a lot of the time because people give up or change their values. Just as in all relationships, sometimes you just go your separate ways and it's not anything personal. The best way to make a long distance relationship work is to have two people who love one another who never give up on each other. That's the key, never giving up and trusting them
I stupidly tried to start a dating relationship while long distance. Worst thing to ever do. At least in an actual relationship there are already those bonds and shared things between two individuals. When your just starting to date, its hard doing that from so far away. It was such a burden trying to sync up work schedules to have enough time to drive 5 hours and hang out. Our communication was great at first, but then it started to fizzle, and of course fighting occured because of it and it was over. That much fighting before even being together was the dagger. Also, convenience is so important, especially when starting out. Simply being able to call up someone to grab a quick lunch, coffee, catch a movie, or just to come over is huge. You're able to get your fix in with them, but still maintain your own life. When its long distance, you're literally spending an entire day or two with them (which can actually grow old quickly, no matter how much you like and miss each other) and then not seeing them for a week or even 2 weeks on end
Yes! I don't care what the 0.01% say about their LDR-established relationship being the best thing in the world, the fact is most do not pan out for some or all of the reasons Ryan outlined here.
I am on a long distance relationship right now. We were friends for 6 months before and we lived in the same city, when we have decided to be together, he left the country because of work. I understand and support him, I don't get jealous, because I trust him, he trust me too, we meet each other every two months in a different country, but mostly he is visiting me, because his daughters are living here. People can feel lonely even being in the same room or they can cheat on each other, if they want to any time and nobody will stop them, if they want to. I have a lot of self confidence, I don't nagg, I don't assume, I don't imagine, just communicate and say it how it is. We both are realistic and stubborn enough to make this relationship work.
I've been in a long distance relationship for 15 years and still in love with my man. The key is communication every day and trust. Various family commitments have kept us apart but we're still planning for the future. It can work but it takes real commitment and talking things through rather than arguing.
This is not true.. once you find the love of your life that’s it. Even culture and distance never an issue though it’s very hard. I am 6,666 miles away from my husband. We make time to meet either half way or he comes time to visit me. He makes all impossible to possible and that what love is. Love , trust and commitment are the important factors that one day we will be able to close the distance. So those watching this video never believe this facts.
@@beatinghearts9404 Why would you cheat when both of you feel the same. Cheating happened when you are not satisfied with your life.. This is case to case basis. For me, i totally disagree. I am thousand miles with my bf before and now my husband. The host here are just making money and not satisfied with his life. lol
It is happening in real life and we have to face the fact that we can trust the people we love but what about them do they value the love, the respect and that trust to them? We don't know.
I think when things dont work out is ok, let it go. if two people are really in love with each other, distance is not a problem. i would probably not fight for a relationship to continue if i see one of us is not in love anymore.
LDR is not that easy.. You just have to watch out and trust nobody esp. Online dating, set boundaries and put yourself first. Ryan I agree with you but my sis LDR works well, shes now happily married, it all depends if one decide to be with you for a lifetime thank you for sharing this video!LDR may work or may not work at all, it always takes two to dance a tango!goodluck everyone!
my experience was not positive, you do not know how your partner feels or thinks from a distance, one moment it was positive and the next it was negative, sending pictures how nice the other has, talking about missing you, I got it feeling that I was in a relationship with my phone, at one point we comunize badly, our bond could not grow because of the distance, and we saw each other too little, it is not satisfying. I broke down, you want more but it is not possible, I never do a long distance relationship again.
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for the better part of almost three year’s, high school sweethearts you could say... patience, communication, and trust. Seeing him every year is the best because our relationship flows naturally, I can’t really explain how we’ve powered through tough moments, we just love each other and that has been enough. Peoples opinions have definitely hurt but honestly, who cares ? I can’t wait for us to finish university and start our lives together. You hit many key points, and this was real and down to earth !
Been dating a girl 6 months long distance, We've seen each other twice in person , for a total of 4 weeks. (Two 2 week visits, me to her, her to me.) I know I'm going to marry this girl one day. I love and trust her. I miss her sorely, I wish I could talk to her. She's in Navy boot camp right now. I'll be at her graduation for that one day to see her, the I'll have to wait some months before she visits me again. I'll visit her and I will be closing the distance by moving out closer to her. I found a diamond thousands of miles away, and I already know she's well worth the wait.
@@MrMindblow12 @Veles Ryse so in a twist in events, she was injured in boot camp and was medically separated with a chance to come back if she wants (Covid helped this). I live a 3 HR drive from the airport she was to fly from. I went to see her before she flew and I proposed to her there, she said yes. I visited her for a week the next week and a month later she moved up from her home state to be with me (wanted to visit family, do 4th July etc before move). We married with our closest of friends with us only at the same time we first met :) 1:30am 🌕
this is probably the worst dating advice video I've watched to date. "you might see picture of him with another girl and be like who are you" LOL that happens to couples in the same city... LDR are hard if you don't have the same common goal to move to the same location at some point. Trust is personal issue that people need to address individually, you can't spend 24/7 with your partner, that isn't normal. ABSENCE BUILDS DESIRE! If you can't trust someone, you're in the WRONG relationship or you have some major personal issues you need to work through. 53% of marriage ends in divorce, pretty sure those couples all live in the same city.... Couples who live in the same house, barely communicate... RELATIONSHIPS are hard no matter where you live, but your advice is very negative and baseless. This is more of a personal opinion video. Sorry couldn't even finish the video.
I agree with you. This is a total bias one size fits all view. And I find it lacks depth of understanding that LDR and Relationships in general are defined by the people involved...
well-said. I get super annoyed when people automatically and without knowing anything, judge long distance relationships as a waste of time. It is really ignorant.
Exactly the comment I was looking for. Guy says he will give advice to make the relationship successful. But he just tries to tell us why it won't work outt.. I listened for 8 minutes but couldn't take it...
I am from kathmandu nepal And i recently moved to miami florida and my girl lives in nepal ill return to nepal after 5 years and take her with me .🙂 WISH ME LUCK !!
I feel grateful to be in that 5%. I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 7 months and in this time, we have grown closer and stronger every day. But we are both 100% committed to each other and putting in the extra effort to make sure we are growing together. If the relationship becomes one sided, it won’t work. Also, we have already decided that we will be together. At first, he was willing to move to me. But after discussing the nature of his career and his ties, it makes more sense for me to move there. Long distance relationships definitely test your commitment to each other. I guess we are lucky that most of these barriers don’t apply to us, but I can see how they would for most people.
It needs honesty and true loved tto be loved one another, from the start there should be transparency and trust or else it won’t work when it comes to reality,mi am in love with guy who is younger than me and keeps on reminding him that I am older than him but he also keeps reassuring me that it doesn’t care, just me to wait a little more further for him to moved over, does he tells me the truth? I don’t know but I trust him 100% and am prepared for any eventualities. I don’t know what happened next but at least I cn face him when he comes because I am honest to him from the start. Am I right?
I been into a long distance relationship with someone i never met. I love him with all my heart, i do efforts, i make my night a day because of time difference, i make him the center of my life to the point that i did not realize that i give 100 percent of my heart. It's too painful that he just simply dump me with a very little argument. And the most painful is after 3 days i found out she got another woman but still im begging and begging and begging for him to come back. I'm desperately inlove and stock.
I was with this lady for the last two months and she was coming every week and was saying she loved me after a month... But in the last week she hasn't been answering text anymore not calling or anything anymore , but that's why i don't do long distance relationships!!!
I just realized after viewing this highly valuable video is that most of the reasons you pointed out can apply to family and friends who moved out of town! It's beyond romantic relationships, too. :(
My boyfriend and I have been in an LDR for 4 years, I am in Australia and he is in Africa. I have to disagree with all the points made in this video, trust, patience and communication works in both close relationships and ldr. He plans to move here with me and i cannot wait for that day
The key difference between you and many other people who's long distance relationship have failed (or are about to) is that you guys have a plan to close the distance. THAT is the key difference between failure and success (and of course the factors you have mentioned). The problem is that the majority of those in a long distance relationships don't have a solid plan to close the distance. They are stuck in an 'eternal' long distance relationship while not truly knowing when or how they can close it. Eventually circumstances, boredom or temptation for people locally will tear the long distance relationship apart. I hope things work out for you. But remember, just because you don't agree with him, doesn't mean he isn't speaking the truth. It may not apply to you (maybe atleast not today), but it does apply to many others.
Lol we have that same fire 5 months later. I know how to place chess. We initiate equally. The force is strong with me. I’d move in a heartbeat 💗. He’s worth it and so am I. I speak in confidence b/c our friendship is solid.
Yeah my long distance relationship failed. He moved 1700 miles away then later discovered that he was living with his ex girlfriend. Lied, lied about it then finally came clean. Needless to say trust was broken and it was over.
Long distance relationship is not for me. I am " feely- touchy " type. It's EXTREMELY IMPORTANT for me to able to touch the person i love... if I can't reach him physically within a year ( that's how long I can be without physical touch with a man i love )the feelings from my side eventually will fade away. I can't do this. And then there is always someone who is right here next to you available. Sorry ladies! Don't want to hurt anyone here in comment section. My own thoughts and experience.
90 To 95 percent failiure in LDR. I wonder what the failiure rate is in regular relationships 🤔 i am currently in a LDR with a man who lives 5h away. It is, BY FAR, the best and most intimate relationship i have ever had ! Intimacy is not only through physical touch. Since physical touch is out of the equation most of the time, we have learned to touch each other's soul! And when we do see each other, fireworks happen and intense bonding (and bondage 🤔😁). The hardest part is the temporary dépression that follows this intense expérience when we go back To normal. But it la TEMPORARY and we support each other through it! I dont think your failiure rate is wrong, i just think it doesnt differ from failiure rates of other types of relationship. Btw, i consider staying in an unhappy relationship as a failed relationship. Relationships, like friendships, come and go. We grow from them, we learn from them and even awsome relationships, close or far, are very rarely permanent. Nothing lasts FOREVER. Good relationships are builts by 2 people willing To put in the time and energy. When we are far apart, that time and energy is still put in but in différent ways....
Spot in - there is plenty of evidence that the failure rate is not much different LDR or not; in fact there is some evidence to suggest after a certain period of time, those committed to an LDR are more likely to marry. I love visiting my boyfriend and enjoying his gorgeous country and enjoy a different culture. It has been the most fulfilling and emotionally intimate relationships with no score keeping.
I love her. We met online and haven’t met in person yet.. but I am convinced she is my soulmate. There’s a 95% chance this won’t work out, but I’m willing to push for that 5%.
100% of everything you said is true and applies to my long distance relationship (of 2 years). I never saw a video as accurate on long distance as this one. Thank you so much for this!!
Ldr for 5 years, I agree with you 100%! Especially that last reason. After years of being apart and can’t see each other often because of the pandemic, you both grow individually but also separately. You and/or your partner is not always willing to give up the life they created in their own place (eg they have an amazing job that they love, they don’t wanna leave their family& friends, someone gets sick and they have to stay to take care of them etc). So many factors come in place, and it hurts so much because almost all LDR couples think they can make it but in reality it’s so difficult (this obviously depends how far you guys are, how often u see each other etc). I would say LDR ONLY works if 1. You guys are far but can see each other often (once a month, 2x a month). Although this isn’t often for some, it’s better than once a year or 2 years (which was my case) 2. You both have a plan to be together…soon. After being in a LDR for 5 years and not having a secure plan (his plan was to keep working for 2-3more years then get married, which I couldn’t take anymore) it breaks the relationship. It leaves you wondering when will this all end.
@@lovelyannsalicsic4163 If the person said "don't wait for me" it's already indirectly telling you to "back off", so what you can do is just stop message this person, unless he/she ask questions, you can still reply in *simply. Alternatively, if you guys going to meet up next time. Discuss about if there's future plans to be together. If he/she avoid to have a future plan together then there's no point to continue it.
LDR’s are what you make of them, it’s not for everyone and you won’t find many people willing to step out of their comfort zone for them but they can work if both parties put in the effort and make sacrifices for each other
Last month I ended up my LDR after 2 years and a half. Dreadful situations happended during that period and finally there was a big misunderstanding in communication once more. This LDR definitely died with 2019!
I’m glad LDR worked for some of you, but it hasn’t worked for me. Ryan isn’t saying it’s impossible to maintain LDRs, but it is very hard. Glad it has worked for some of you
When we first met( online chat) connection between us is already there...despite of LDR,age gap I'm older twice his age,is not an issue to us,although I'm the one who bring up the,doubt, insecurities,and feeling unsure to what we are,But,gladly says open communication by heart,mind and soul are really a big factor to overcome all the issues comes to us.we're thankful to found each other.
I used to have a long distance relationship. It lasted a year. I realized that i was the one who always had to see the other one, I was the one always spending my money when we were together and i was the one who had to sacrifice. The spark wasn't there in person like it was online as well.... I refuse to do a fully long distance relationship anymore because of it. I wont date past a 1 hour drive now lol
The truth hurts...LDRs are not for everyone. But I believe if that someone is destined for you, distance wouldn't matter. Thanks Ryan, gained much perspective with regards to LDRs. Wish you more followers and subscribers for 2020 and the years to come.
Soo, we started the relationship in the same city, but after three months he had to move at 1100 kilometers apart. For three years we were barely seeing each other like two or three weeks a year. It was hurtful, feeling that he is the one and we weren't able to do anything to be closer. I was in high school and then in college, so I had no money nor time for visits or plane tickets and his work allowed him very few days off to come home. Everybody was so reserved about our relationship and gave us so little chances to get it right. After some serious discussions, I was so sick of distance, so I got to the point where I broke up with him. I still loved him but I couldn't handle the situation. He decided then to come home and to start our life together. We spent two years here and bonded even more. Two months ago he got a good job offer back there and we got the chance. He took the job while I take my time to finish my work here (I'm a teacher) and soon move there. I'm learning the language and I am really excited. It's been a hard road (it still is) and your video summed up perfectly the struggles and the tests LDR offers. But for me, even with all the distance, late night calls and tears, it was always worth it. For all the LDR partners here, it's a long way, but your heart knows what it wants😊
I'm in an amazing long distance relationship. I have no idea if it's going to last but it is amazing satisfying. He communicates with with me 2, 3 times or more every single day. The things he says inspire and affirm me. Anyway for now it's amazing. Keep you posted. 😄
@@DrMargoLomaxD okay, as at now I am yet to come to terms with the fact my only girlfriend that I love so much just traveled to Germany for education purposes . My relationship is now rendered long distance and I have to deal with it.the earliest I can see her is 12 to 18 months from now... it’s killing me😢
@@wearephiladelphia hang in there. If it's meant to be it will be. Commit to tines you know you will touch bases even if for 10 seconds. And try to plan a time to visit maybe 6 month in to break up the time.
They cant work for so many obvious reasons.....unless eventually someone moves to the other persons location....I cant see any other way. I had one where we were only an hour apart...You would think it could work...but it created stress and anxiety....She was way too busy in her personal life as it was.... to even come on the weekends when I wasnt working and had all kinds of free time. I would feel stress just listening to her day...sheesh. I am a simple guy and bring no drama and I want the same...I feel like women, in general, bring complications and expectations that dont need to be there....this is probably why so many guys today are not wanting to be married....just honesty.. An hour away....that was it. Sucks because our time together was amazing...but reality is reality......siighhh. This lady is right, got to find someone in the same town....
I thought this would be a downer for me but nope, all of the points you made are not a problem and ive been in long distance relationships before. Now i know the difference. Thank you so much, this really boosts my confidence.
Oh awesome! Thank you so much for saying that, Jo Lyn! I was hoping it would be an uplifting video to let everyone know they've got more options than they may have initially realized 😊
I have been in an LDR for 7 months now, when I was watching you video I had to say I didn't really see or agree with most of your points. So I rewatched it twice more to make sure that I wasn't just trying to justify my relationship through my own bias'. I have to say that it still didn't change by the third time of watching and I did a bit of research and found that most sources say that approx. 58% of LDR's do in fact work. I do agree that you need to have a plan/goal of eventually living close to eachother and of course be fully committed and trust are huge factors. But now a days with video chat and being able to communicate so effectively LDR's are able to work and strong, lasting relationships are very possible.
Krista Matthews seriously, he absolutely is just pulling 95% stat out of his bare ass. I haven’t had any problems that he mentioned and i think many of things he mentioned apply equally to couples not long distance. LDR might make a relationship more difficult, but at the end of the day, things like maturity, communication, understanding are more telling. If you’re insecure, jealous, bad at communicating, etc than it’s put a strain on any relationship, not just LDR. Any two healthy individuals who are willing to work for it can make it happen. Maybe people who think it doesn’t work simply don’t have healthy habits and behaviors.
Agreed! None of this resonated with me but I think it's because we were close friends first. We also plan on moving to the dame city. Finally, all the things on his list are general issues any couple would face. Anyway I'm glad I found my best friend 🤲🏿
Was in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years and let’s be realistic they do not work and are hard. It’s always a heartbreak having to leave after spending a weekend with them. You miss out on so much from each other’s life 💔 if you are one of the lucky ones to make it work more power to you all, as for me never again!
Jealous and untrusting people really need to grow up! They don't deserve to be in relationships. They can't handle them! Just enjoy the moments with your partner or don't have one! Don't get me wrong, a little jealousy is healthy but so many people go way overboard with it!
@@SuperVIN02 that sounds like something different. Like they're really hiding something. What about all the people who aren't and still constantly get accused?
I'm in a long distance relationship for almost 3years, we communicate everyday we miss each other we say I love you as often.. We never get tired telling the same thing almost everyday in 3 years! If only I can afford I will travel to see him, because never heard any plan from him until this pandemic come in between another reason another years of waiting maybe. But I am doing my best to get closer to him and his supporting me for that.. I understand his reasons why can't travel to see me. But I believe we will be just one step closer at a time, were both mature and we both know what is best for us. Its worth waiting for the right person, than hurrying to the wrong person.
Long distance is sooo wrong. What is the point of being with someone when you cannot spend your life together. I have been there and it was way too hard...mainly because my partner was so bad at communicating...and whenever we would speak about living together we would end up fighting. He also started cheating on me...so I left him!
So many fake people trying to lure American girls in the trap so that they can get green card . It’s worst thing happening these days specially there Indian men .....
10 years ago I woud have not been agree with you. I was in 2 years long distance relationship ( we were young, in love and innocent and poor). We lived in the same country but we just could not afford to see each other to often - 1 year we saw each other 3 times and the second year he moved 3 hours away from me and we were able to see more often. The truth is that if we would have had the chance to have a relationship and being in the same city, we wouldn't last 2 months. We mamaged to stay 2 years because lobg distance creates desires and so on. But actually we were really different and I remember one time he was 11 days at my place and felt unconfortable. Lol. I do not believe in LDR.
So true about long distance relationship failure, especially when it comes to miscommunication, texts or even voice messages that are completely misunderstood. I just ended a long distance "relationship" and would not want to get into another one for sure.
Yeah true but if you can’t trust them enough that you feel uneasy with the risk that their gonna cheat on you then don’t get into a relationship with them. You should have trust in your partner
I believe it’s a character thing. Ppl who cheat will always find a way to cheat no matter what. I don’t think distance adds anything to it. Just my opinion.
I intentionally started a long distance relationship recently. I’m getting divorced and I’m ready to meet someone new. I’m also planning on moving so I started online dating in the city that I’m moving too. The guy I met is about 5 hours away. I always make the drive to him (at least once a month) because I’m the one that chose to date away from where I currently live. I really appreciate the advice you gave in order to increase our chances of success. I am planning to move closer so in the meantime I will try not to squeeze everything in to each visit lol. Thanks again Ryan for another helpful video!!
I'm sorry, I like a lot of your videos, but you are way off base with this one. When you actually are involved with a genuine person, communication and trust are the only things you nees.
Four years and I think I’m done…I can’t wait for him anymore. I understand his responsibilities, but it’s starting to feel more like an excuse. The reason I’m waiting for him keeps changing…I’m starting to realize I’m not actually a priority, I never was.
I totally disagree as I am in a long distance relationship... Long distance relationship do work when you both trust each other, have good communication and a good connection! It’s gets hard of course sometimes not being together physically but there are other ways to connect and to feel intimate with someone without being physically together!!
Ryan, I reached out to an ex after 5 years who is the love of my life. He is in a LDR for 2 years. He says he misses me and don't know what's going to happen in his LDR. She is coming to spend some weeks with him. I refused to see him before she comes. Now I have to stand by until she leaves and it hurts so much. We never stopped caring about each other.
Been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 months now and I'm losing hope, we always argue and he always accuse me of cheating 😩. Dating 5 years now, can't cope with being far apart feel like we're growing apart
This video opened my eyes that LDR is not really for me. And you are right when you said that if one can attract a guy from another country you can also attract someone closer to home because you already know what to do. Youve been very helpful. Good job! God bless you and more power!!!!
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We've been in a long distance relationship for over 2 years, and now we're Married! Patience, trusting and love is key for successful long distance relationship!
Yes I agree with you patience and everything is so true what you said is so true thank you
I agree
Congratulations. Are both from the same country?
@@adriennegyore8668 so what's your man's name and where is he at
can I ask, how did you handle communication in general ?
Met online, 300km distance, long chatting on a phone, first meeting after a month, 5 meetings during 4 months, wedding, 18 happy years together😍
300 km is nothing
@@empressqi1722 does not matter if it is 300km or 3000km , important thing is if you have time to travel and have access to public transport. It is easier to take a flight from a big city to another country than going from one village to another if you have no car or there is a problem with public transport.
@@rozaogrodowa8686 Yes it does matter whether you have to pay several hundred bucks to travel across the globe/pay for the visa OR buy a ticket to a town 300 km away within the same country come on
@@empressqi1722 if you do not have money for a ticket how do you want to start a family in another country?
@@rozaogrodowa8686 Ask those who do?
Intimacy isn't a physical thing. It's an emotional bond.
Good point 👍
Anthony O damn
Isn’t it both?
@@gijsbon8065 it isn't about sex, physical chemistry, if your partner is sick you are there for your partner, you know when your partner isn't themselves by the tone in their voice, you would drive a million miles to be with them even if you aren't together anymore as a couple. Time can't break your emotional bond even if one of you changed and you aren't and know you can't be together as a couple. They know you inside out, that is what an intimate relationship is, your worse fears, your secrets and you might have moved on to be with someone else but they will only be a distraction, not the one that you will share everything with, sex isn't intimacy. Sex is sex. Sex and intimacy have nothing to do with each other. Intimacy means you will be there in death to hold that person till they take their last breath.
I agree
7 years in long-distance. Why? Because I loved him.
Conflict and confusion were normal. Misunderstanding and breaks were consistent. But I loved him. After every fight, we took break and understood each others perspective. Played couples games like lovify. And, it did help us understand each other even better. Shared our expectations. Years passed by in the hope, one day we'll be together. And here we are, 3 months from now. We are getting married 💗💗
Long Distance relationsships works if one is willing to move and you do NOT have to see a person every day to know if they love you. !!!!
The line that got me in this video, “if I could pull those negative emotions out of your body and lay it on the table....”. It strikes a chord in me that long distance relationships are mostly spent yearning for the other persons company instead of being with them. It’s an unhappy situation. Bad for people who already struggle with depression and anxiety.
Absolutely..
Took words out my mouth
That’s why someone has to decide to relocate eventually
I’ve been in a ldr for almost 2 years and I experience none of this!!!! This is the best relationship I’ve ever been in. My bf lives in Fort Lauderdale and I live in The Bahamas , we try our best to see each other ever two months. Sometimes we can’t wait and we see each other ever month. I feel like I’m a part of his life and he is apart of mine. When I talk to him I feel a connection like Ive never felt with anyone else.
I’m not saying the distance is not hard because it is. But I can definitely say that we are building together!
My bf lives there too and I live in Brooklyn and since I left I just been crying
One day it will happen and u will cried alot girl
That exactly how I feel with my ldr we never have things run out talk about we talk important things his want too know everything that going in my life and his also include me in his life
Right! I don’t agree with his LDR advice. I’m in one right now. Follow my page. I promote LDR’s ❤️
How do y’all take off from work and travel so often?
I disagree sorry, I've been with my partner for a little over 2 years and as long as you have good communication, trust and patience it can work!! I would say without these 3 things it wouldn't. Emotionally, it can be hard but ultimately you know LDR is a short-term situation! I hope to see more than 5% succeed
I disagree too all my friends including me been in a long distance relationship. Some of ny friends been with their significant other for 4+ years and me 8 years going strong.
@@shannettewatson7869 not a short term situation is it
yep! I'm in the same boat here. I believe if you want it to work, you will make it work.
Amen to that 😍🙏
Interesting...my friend has carried an on-and-off-and-on LDR going on 13 years! I've asked him why doesn't he just bite the bullet & marry her, but he seems satisfied to keep it like that, possibly forever. :-|
I was In a long distance relationship and it was hard but we love each other and trust had a lot to do with us making it. Not being insecure and keeping busy also helped. We are now happily living together after being long distance for over a year. Compromise and understanding go a long way, sometimes things really do come up.❤
Right! I don’t agree with his LDR advice. I’m in one right now. Follow my page. I promote LDR’s ❤️
1 yr doesn't count
Been in a long distance relationship for 3 years and counting (I moved to U.S.A to do my PhD, he's in India). We meet once a year, but we make time to talk everyday, share every tiny detail from our daily lives and trust each other. Hoping to make it to the 5% *fingers crossed*
Right! I don’t agree with his LDR advice. I’m in one right now. Follow my page. I promote LDR’s ❤️
Coach Que will do!
I've been in long distance relationship for 2 years and half before I got married. It was challenging. You need to be committed 100% with each other. Need to be more patience and understanding. And of course 100 % trust. A little bit of doubt will create misunderstanding. But don't give up. Communicate always. Currently were together and have been married for 7 years now.
Right! I don’t agree with his LDR advice. I’m in one right now. Follow my page. I promote LDR’s ❤️
Well I don't have trust as I was burned in LDR. Both were chattibg with other women. I had to play a detective. It wasn't a pleasant experience for me. Also the longer the ldr lasted the more distant men become. It's a no go for me anymore.
My wife and I were in a long distance relationship for over 2 years. It is absolutely so hard but regular communication with each other and seeing each other as much as possible when we could helped us make it. Now we are married and because of the foundation we had built in communication and intimacy, we have a better marriage for it. Thank you so much for making this video. I see how your video has cultivated many to examine their LDRs and to grow from it.
3 of my my girlfriends got married to their LDRs. One in military. 🤔 I don't think it matters where you live when you find the one! I'm not sure why everyone wants someone so convenient all the time...just bc it's convenient doesn't mean they are the one for you!
Agree!!!
Good point, Jessica! I agree with your last statement whole-heartedly: "just bc it's convenient doesn't mean they are the one for you!" BUT no one should ever be faulted for wanting to find someone close to them and it simply being labeled as them being lazy or wanting "convenience." That would be a mistake, because LDR's are THE ultimate test as far as relationships go when you DO think you've found "the one" somewhere far away. The numbers of LDR's simply don't boast well. However, in your particular example, it sounds like there may have been foundation(s) built prior to the LDR(s) occurring (i.e. military), as I mentioned in the video, so that is always helpful 😊
Ryan Patrick All of my friends are saying my long distance relationship is fake that it will never work when In realty long distance relationships are the best relationships!! The key is communicating and being positive about it! He trust me and I trust him :-) you know it’s real and sincere because physical relationships don’t mean that much at all.. he tells me he rather talk on the phone all night than be physical and I’m totally okay with that... it’s building mental connection and that’s the most important thing in a relationship. When in reality while most of my friends with close distant relationships that live in the same proximity don’t even last long cause they have sex and don’t talk and communicate. my parents met by writing letters across the ocean and they got married within a year! Long distance relationship work.. it’s called taking time and communication and sharing your feelings. Idk what this video was about but people are too lazy to put in effort in relationships. That’s why 99 percent of relationships don’t work. cause they want it instant. Instead of becoming friends and taking it to the next level -.-.
Very true, thanks for saying that dear. 🤗🤔
Verry true👌✈
will never get into a long distance relationship again....it’s more struggle than it’s worth :/
I couldn't agree more.
Long distance NEVER works..l liked this guy from Ecuador..I'm n the USA..we stopped texting after a week I'll never do anything long distance with anyone
So many happy peole commented. I am with you. I will never again try a LDR. Hell no. He’s right on.
@@claraagu1811 depends on the person. Just because it didn't work for you doesn't mean it's not gonna work for everyone. he's just not that into you. Sorry.
I’m a year into my LDR and we are getting stronger and stronger very interesting to hear Ryan POV but I’ve not experienced any of the things he’s listed. When we get to meet it always amazing, we talk every day for hours at time most days. I suppose everybody situation is different but I’m living proof that it’s very much achievable.
Maintaining a long-distance relationship is much more difficult than an usual relationship. This is important not only for your partner, but also for you. Remember that the initiative should not only be yours, but also your partner's, motivate him to do so, tell him what is important for you. The longer a long-distance relationship lasts, the more likely it is that someone will appear and emotionally take the place near you or near your partner.
This whole video comes off as a "Why you should break up in your long distance relationship and not even try"
I was just thinking that
I tried twice and the longer it lasted the more cold and detached guys became. So in my opinion if you don't want to live in the same place at some point you are only wasting your time. What bothers me the most is because most men expect of you to leave everything behind and even live with their parents (yup you wouldn't believe it but it happened to me both times) and it is a no go for me. People should live on their own without involving the close family members. It isn't everyones cup of tea. Me personally..I wouldn't bother ldr anymore. I want regular intimacy (not just sex) and to spent more time with someone. It isn't enough for me to see someone once in two weeks. Also what happened to me personally the longer the ldr lasted the more apart we become. Also if something happens to me (and I have health issues) that person in ldr isn't someone I can count on or if even something nice happens I can't share that moment with that person. Sorry but I don't see a reason for being in a ldr. Not to mention I caught both men (I was in 2 ldr) having apps for dating while they were in a relationship with me so yeah..No trust there of course.
@@jm543 " most guys" "the two guys I dated "
That's just you choosing that type of guy, take responsibility
@@peter-8483 hhaahha..xD
Yeah..Mister know it all you're right. I won't bother anymore. Bye
@@peter-8483 not everyone is a pass around 🐈 like your future wife. Most women don’t date around, especially not with 🗑 men like you.
4 years now and we're still going strong, it's different for others
Right! I don’t agree with his LDR advice. I’m in one right now. Follow my page. I promote LDR’s ❤️
lucky u, mines never wanted to meet me in person, and we will always talk on the phone, video chat aloooot and etc i just didnt ser why he never put effort:( i tried but he will always lag
I was in a long-distance relationship for 4 years. Across the country. We broke up when we finally moved back together to be 45 minutes from each other for the foreseeable future.
3 of my friends who are married now with their husband/wife from different continent and have children should comment here that LDR can work.
Right! I don’t agree with his LDR advice. I’m in one right now. Follow my page. I promote LDR’s ❤️
I used to think this way in the past from ALL, yes all, my past LDRs.
But, when you find the RIGHT PERSON, there will be no such thing as percentage. It just WORKS.
I'm currently in a long distance relationship and it's been almost a year now, me and him are so happy, I trust him, but the distance is driving me crazy, I have to wait until next year before he's able to come see me, but we talk every day, we can't hardly stand to go even a day without talking, we do everything together pretty much. We've figured out a way to be intimate with each other through simulation. By imagining being touched or something. We kiss over the phone, and we fall asleep together and honestly, doing all of that makes me more excited to be able to spend my life with him
Im Surprised how you're able to maintain it like that tho and good luck to the both of you😊
I'm also currently in an ldr we talk everyday,fall asleep on the phone I mean we pretty much do everything together
I enjoy spending time with her whenever she calls I leave all my works and I go to her but most of the times when we're on call the silence keeps kicking in I really don't know what to do about it I mean i run out of words to say I really wanna talk but its hard I just wanted to know how yours is going if u don't mind
@@bamboozledu2341 I am in a LDR as well, what I have been doing for that silence panic, because I totally relate to that, is that during the week we don't talk as many hours, because of our schedules, probably 40 minutes in the morning and if we are lucky another 40 or 1hour before one of us goes to sleep (we are 8hr difference) and we don't talk as much by message, so we share each other's day basically, how we have felt, regular stuff like, problems he solved, work, ideas, dreams but very short, and then we schedule timeless dates (some have lasted 14 hours just talking) we eat together and they are like once each 15 days, we give ourselves time to talk about our dreams and projects, our fears, we deepen on our past, our future, and each time we do those endless dates we both say oh My! we needed our intimate time, I am lucky because he is very talkative and he will describe me everything around his life, how is the sky, the weather, the sun EVERYTHING at the beginning it was boring, but now I adore knowing everyting, he even sends me videos of what he is doing, anything. I too have to wait a year almos due to covid, and we are giving our best.
True relationship, I'm happy to hear you will be successful bless to be together forever
I'm in love with my guy deployed in another country right now feel he's real but afraid it's not
@@bamboozledu2341 I don't mind telling you how my relationship is going. It's going great, we're stronger than ever, it's now been nearly a year since we've been together and we're getting closer to reaching our one year mark, I get more excited about it with each day that passes by. We never run out of things to talk about, we always just talk about random stuff or anything that comes to mind. The best advice I can give is don't fall out of communication with your girlfriend, communication and trust are key for any relationship, especially a long distance relationship.
Long distance works if there is LOVE. God bless
Sometimes love is not enough ?
Yes... With pure love. Not just a word of love & then when a woman didn't want to accept their gift he wants to break of. That's maybe a love scammer. Not really love you.
🙏🙏🙏 my english not good.
Love is not enough. You can’t survive on love, you need to work, earn, have similar lifestyles. You need to be accustomed with each other’s good/bad habits, trauma’s, family situations etc.
all of my relationships so far have been long distance...
it only works out if the two of you have communication & a REAL interest in the person. :)
Been in a LDR 7 years to found out when i called him the girl answered the phone to say we are getting married and that i should stop calling him Lol 😂 but after a while last Nov 3 i started on LDR again he visited me on new year 2019 and spent my 53rd birthday with him meet my family , went to CORON PALAWAN AND BAGUIO showed him where i lived work and played tennis, together for 20 amazing days.He was crying on the day he was leaving back to his country.Waiting for my visa to join him. There is always someone special for each one of us❤️ GOD BLESS ALL OF US ON ALL OUR JOURNEY🙏
This gives me hope. I'm 48 and feel like I'll never meet anyone again.
That sounds so great po ^_^. Your experience is inspiring and actually gives me hope. I wish you guys all the best. God bless po sa inyo
Trust is key I’m in a long distance and we have been dating for 12 months you’re right and yes long distance is not for everyone
Is it really working though, Savannah? Are you 100% happy with the situation?
@@datingcoachryanpatrick dude , that's a coward move
Sure
@@datingcoachryanpatrick Are you %100 sure you're suitable to give advice?
@@furkanaytan he isnt.. ldr for 4 years and im BEYONDD happy he rlly aint suited for giving advice.
Idk why I was recommended this video in my feed, but I appreciate actually watching it.
As a guy, I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 years, and 2 of those years was in a ldr across the country. She was in grad school, and I was working full-time. We would visit every 4-6ish weeks, and it was amazing when we would see each other. We were both connected, present, and fully-engaged with each other. We talked about marriage in the future, and we made it a goal to communicate our thoughts and feelings as honest as we could. But over the course of time, we grew apart in our own two paths.
That was the kicker.
We ended up breaking up just after the 3 year mark because we communicated how we truly felt, and in doing this, we both dwanted to go in different directions. Did we still love each other? Absolutely. Did we care & put in effort? Absolutely. But at the end of the day, we both realized being together for the long-haul wouldn’t probably be the best thing for where we were at individually. We respected this in each other so we thought breaking up was the “best” thing to do.
So what I learned is that deep love, solid communication, and 100% trust in each other is what will get most couples through long-distance. However, the last component is making sure you’re both growing “together.”
Having the same end goal or desiring the same lifestyle you want to live is so important.
So much hate in this comment section. I on the other hand agree with this video wholeheartedly. Long-distance relationships bring more pain than joy. You spend more time longing than enjoying. There is virtually nothing you cannot do in a local relationship that you can do in a long-distance relationship. I've made more memories in 1 month in my local relationship than I did in my 1.5 years of a long-distance relationship. There is a reason why it doesn't last for most people. While people spend time apart and longing for each other, I'm actually spending time with my girlfriend regularly, be able to save money, be there on holidays and important events, do fun stuff spontaneously and do all the other small things (like going to the mall, movies, etc.). Good luck doing those things in a long-distance relationship. Especially those who don't have a solid plan to close the distance asap.
Only thing that I can add to this is Reality. You have to at some point acknowledge the Reality and accept it. Accepting the facts making peace with it. Doing this will keep you from depression. Just knowing the things you can't change. Take a deep breath enjoy the LDR experience while it last. Then when you are ready start thinking about yourself. You have to keep moving forward. What will be will be. Live and let love find you.
this hurted but its the truth, 👍
I think long distance relationships fail a lot of the time because people give up or change their values. Just as in all relationships, sometimes you just go your separate ways and it's not anything personal. The best way to make a long distance relationship work is to have two people who love one another who never give up on each other. That's the key, never giving up and trusting them
I stupidly tried to start a dating relationship while long distance. Worst thing to ever do. At least in an actual relationship there are already those bonds and shared things between two individuals. When your just starting to date, its hard doing that from so far away. It was such a burden trying to sync up work schedules to have enough time to drive 5 hours and hang out. Our communication was great at first, but then it started to fizzle, and of course fighting occured because of it and it was over. That much fighting before even being together was the dagger. Also, convenience is so important, especially when starting out. Simply being able to call up someone to grab a quick lunch, coffee, catch a movie, or just to come over is huge. You're able to get your fix in with them, but still maintain your own life. When its long distance, you're literally spending an entire day or two with them (which can actually grow old quickly, no matter how much you like and miss each other) and then not seeing them for a week or even 2 weeks on end
Yes! I don't care what the 0.01% say about their LDR-established relationship being the best thing in the world, the fact is most do not pan out for some or all of the reasons Ryan outlined here.
I am on a long distance relationship right now. We were friends for 6 months before and we lived in the same city, when we have decided to be together, he left the country because of work. I understand and support him, I don't get jealous, because I trust him, he trust me too, we meet each other every two months in a different country, but mostly he is visiting me, because his daughters are living here. People can feel lonely even being in the same room or they can cheat on each other, if they want to any time and nobody will stop them, if they want to. I have a lot of self confidence, I don't nagg, I don't assume, I don't imagine, just communicate and say it how it is. We both are realistic and stubborn enough to make this relationship work.
I've been in a long distance relationship for 15 years and still in love with my man. The key is communication every day and trust. Various family commitments have kept us apart but we're still planning for the future. It can work but it takes real commitment and talking things through rather than arguing.
Wow! How often do you see eachother
This is not true.. once you find the love of your life that’s it. Even culture and distance never an issue though it’s very hard.
I am 6,666 miles away from my husband.
We make time to meet either half way or he comes time to visit me.
He makes all impossible to possible and that what love is.
Love , trust and commitment are the important factors that one day we will be able to close the distance.
So those watching this video never believe this facts.
One of you is cheating on the other
@@beatinghearts9404 Why would you cheat when both of you feel the same. Cheating happened when you are not satisfied with your life.. This is case to case basis. For me, i totally disagree. I am thousand miles with my bf before and now my husband. The host here are just making money and not satisfied with his life. lol
Yes 💯 !
It is happening in real life and we have to face the fact that we can trust the people we love but what about them do they value the love, the respect and that trust to them? We don't know.
I am so happy for the two of you!❤Best of lifetime blessings to you!❤
I think when things dont work out is ok, let it go. if two people are really in love with each other, distance is not a problem.
i would probably not fight for a relationship to continue if i see one of us is not in love anymore.
Yes...true, both should be inloved with each other to make the relationship work and exciting!
Saddely i'm only able to atract girls that live 7 planets away
That would be a very interesting relationship! I'd want to travel to visit often!!!!
I would travel as much as I can to meet my soulmate 💗, Still waiting on God's timing 🙏
Which one? I’d like to join one of them..
LMFAO TELL ME ABOUT IT 🤣😭🤣😭🤣
Girls from Neptune be fire tho
LDR is not that easy.. You just have to watch out and trust nobody esp. Online dating, set boundaries and put yourself first. Ryan I agree with you but my sis LDR works well, shes now happily married, it all depends if one decide to be with you for a lifetime thank you for sharing this video!LDR may work or may not work at all, it always takes two to dance a tango!goodluck everyone!
my experience was not positive, you do not know how your partner feels or thinks from a distance, one moment it was positive and the next it was negative, sending pictures how nice the other has, talking about missing you, I got it feeling that I was in a relationship with my phone, at one point we comunize badly, our bond could not grow because of the distance, and we saw each other too little, it is not satisfying. I broke down, you want more but it is not possible, I never do a long distance relationship again.
Exactly 100%.. This is why LDR is not good most of the time. I had this before too.
I've been with my bf for almost 8 months now and we're super committed to each other. We'll be meeting in May can't wait :D
I hope it works out with him Nick!
Hehehe it will work I pwomise :3
BTW That's my bf :D
@@canyoumakemeasandwich
Who? Nick? Or EJ that just responded? I'm so confused LOL 😂
Ryan Patrick EJ is my bf :3
I’ve been in a long distance relationship for the better part of almost three year’s, high school sweethearts you could say... patience, communication, and trust. Seeing him every year is the best because our relationship flows naturally, I can’t really explain how we’ve powered through tough moments, we just love each other and that has been enough. Peoples opinions have definitely hurt but honestly, who cares ? I can’t wait for us to finish university and start our lives together. You hit many key points, and this was real and down to earth !
long distance relationships dont work for me. I'm tired of texting guys Online and never meeting them. Ladies Watch out for the scammers too.
Same
Been dating a girl 6 months long distance,
We've seen each other twice in person , for a total of 4 weeks. (Two 2 week visits, me to her, her to me.)
I know I'm going to marry this girl one day. I love and trust her. I miss her sorely, I wish I could talk to her. She's in Navy boot camp right now. I'll be at her graduation for that one day to see her, the I'll have to wait some months before she visits me again. I'll visit her and I will be closing the distance by moving out closer to her.
I found a diamond thousands of miles away, and I already know she's well worth the wait.
Still happening? I hope so
A long distance elation ship you complain that I called too much
@@Prisy087 We just got married on our one year anniversary! Neither of us could be happier :D
@@improvisedchaos8904 that's great man, I'm really happy for you guys. How did you manage to keep up communication?
@@MrMindblow12 @Veles Ryse so in a twist in events, she was injured in boot camp and was medically separated with a chance to come back if she wants (Covid helped this). I live a 3 HR drive from the airport she was to fly from. I went to see her before she flew and I proposed to her there, she said yes. I visited her for a week the next week and a month later she moved up from her home state to be with me (wanted to visit family, do 4th July etc before move).
We married with our closest of friends with us only at the same time we first met :)
1:30am 🌕
Am in LDR and is driving me crazy..I think am letting go can't take it anymore...
this is probably the worst dating advice video I've watched to date. "you might see picture of him with another girl and be like who are you" LOL that happens to couples in the same city... LDR are hard if you don't have the same common goal to move to the same location at some point. Trust is personal issue that people need to address individually, you can't spend 24/7 with your partner, that isn't normal. ABSENCE BUILDS DESIRE! If you can't trust someone, you're in the WRONG relationship or you have some major personal issues you need to work through. 53% of marriage ends in divorce, pretty sure those couples all live in the same city.... Couples who live in the same house, barely communicate... RELATIONSHIPS are hard no matter where you live, but your advice is very negative and baseless. This is more of a personal opinion video. Sorry couldn't even finish the video.
I agree with you. This is a total bias one size fits all view. And I find it lacks depth of understanding that LDR and Relationships in general are defined by the people involved...
I agree too, I find the video very negative. I am currently in a LDR and I couldn't relate to anything he said.
I thought the same... Maybe some people just doesn't know what's real love...
well-said. I get super annoyed when people automatically and without knowing anything, judge long distance relationships as a waste of time. It is really ignorant.
Exactly the comment I was looking for. Guy says he will give advice to make the relationship successful. But he just tries to tell us why it won't work outt.. I listened for 8 minutes but couldn't take it...
I am from kathmandu nepal
And i recently moved to miami florida and my girl lives in nepal ill return to nepal after 5 years and take her with me .🙂
WISH ME LUCK !!
I feel grateful to be in that 5%. I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 7 months and in this time, we have grown closer and stronger every day. But we are both 100% committed to each other and putting in the extra effort to make sure we are growing together. If the relationship becomes one sided, it won’t work. Also, we have already decided that we will be together. At first, he was willing to move to me. But after discussing the nature of his career and his ties, it makes more sense for me to move there. Long distance relationships definitely test your commitment to each other. I guess we are lucky that most of these barriers don’t apply to us, but I can see how they would for most people.
Thanks for sharing, Alex. Have you moved closer to him though, or is that still in the works? 7 months is still pretty early on...
It needs honesty and true loved tto be loved one another, from the start there should be transparency and trust or else it won’t work when it comes to reality,mi am in love with guy who is younger than me and keeps on reminding him that I am older than him but he also keeps reassuring me that it doesn’t care, just me to wait a little more further for him to moved over, does he tells me the truth? I don’t know but I trust him 100% and am prepared for any eventualities. I don’t know what happened next but at least I cn face him when he comes because I am honest to him from the start. Am I right?
I been into a long distance relationship with someone i never met. I love him with all my heart, i do efforts, i make my night a day because of time difference, i make him the center of my life to the point that i did not realize that i give 100 percent of my heart. It's too painful that he just simply dump me with a very little argument. And the most painful is after 3 days i found out she got another woman but still im begging and begging and begging for him to come back. I'm desperately inlove and stock.
I was with this lady for the last two months and she was coming every week and was saying she loved me after a month... But in the last week she hasn't been answering text anymore not calling or anything anymore , but that's why i don't do long distance relationships!!!
I just realized after viewing this highly valuable video is that most of the reasons you pointed out can apply to family and friends who moved out of town! It's beyond romantic relationships, too. :(
My boyfriend and I have been in an LDR for 4 years, I am in Australia and he is in Africa. I have to disagree with all the points made in this video, trust, patience and communication works in both close relationships and ldr. He plans to move here with me and i cannot wait for that day
waw..may god be you guys.. how are yu doing now..plz reply
The key difference between you and many other people who's long distance relationship have failed (or are about to) is that you guys have a plan to close the distance. THAT is the key difference between failure and success (and of course the factors you have mentioned). The problem is that the majority of those in a long distance relationships don't have a solid plan to close the distance. They are stuck in an 'eternal' long distance relationship while not truly knowing when or how they can close it. Eventually circumstances, boredom or temptation for people locally will tear the long distance relationship apart. I hope things work out for you. But remember, just because you don't agree with him, doesn't mean he isn't speaking the truth. It may not apply to you (maybe atleast not today), but it does apply to many others.
Lol we have that same fire 5 months later. I know how to place chess. We initiate equally.
The force is strong with me. I’d move in a heartbeat 💗. He’s worth it and so am I.
I speak in confidence b/c our friendship is solid.
Yeah my long distance relationship failed. He moved 1700 miles away then later discovered that he was living with his ex girlfriend.
Lied, lied about it then finally came clean.
Needless to say trust was broken and it was over.
Long distance relationship is not for me. I am " feely- touchy " type. It's EXTREMELY IMPORTANT for me to able to touch the person i love... if I can't reach him physically within a year ( that's how long I can be without physical touch with a man i love )the feelings from my side eventually will fade away. I can't do this. And then there is always someone who is right here next to you available. Sorry ladies! Don't want to hurt anyone here in comment section. My own thoughts and experience.
Someone has to be willing to MOVE...if you can't. Don't do it!
90 To 95 percent failiure in LDR. I wonder what the failiure rate is in regular relationships 🤔 i am currently in a LDR with a man who lives 5h away. It is, BY FAR, the best and most intimate relationship i have ever had ! Intimacy is not only through physical touch. Since physical touch is out of the equation most of the time, we have learned to touch each other's soul! And when we do see each other, fireworks happen and intense bonding (and bondage 🤔😁). The hardest part is the temporary dépression that follows this intense expérience when we go back To normal. But it la TEMPORARY and we support each other through it!
I dont think your failiure rate is wrong, i just think it doesnt differ from failiure rates of other types of relationship. Btw, i consider staying in an unhappy relationship as a failed relationship.
Relationships, like friendships, come and go. We grow from them, we learn from them and even awsome relationships, close or far, are very rarely permanent. Nothing lasts FOREVER. Good relationships are builts by 2 people willing To put in the time and energy. When we are far apart, that time and energy is still put in but in différent ways....
Spot in - there is plenty of evidence that the failure rate is not much different LDR or not; in fact there is some evidence to suggest after a certain period of time, those committed to an LDR are more likely to marry. I love visiting my boyfriend and enjoying his gorgeous country and enjoy a different culture. It has been the most fulfilling and emotionally intimate relationships with no score keeping.
Right! I don’t agree with his LDR advice. I’m in one right now. Follow my page. I promote LDR’s ❤️
I love her. We met online and haven’t met in person yet.. but I am convinced she is my soulmate. There’s a 95% chance this won’t work out, but I’m willing to push for that 5%.
100% of everything you said is true and applies to my long distance relationship (of 2 years). I never saw a video as accurate on long distance as this one. Thank you so much for this!!
You bet, Amira! 🙂
Ldr for 5 years, I agree with you 100%! Especially that last reason. After years of being apart and can’t see each other often because of the pandemic, you both grow individually but also separately. You and/or your partner is not always willing to give up the life they created in their own place (eg they have an amazing job that they love, they don’t wanna leave their family& friends, someone gets sick and they have to stay to take care of them etc). So many factors come in place, and it hurts so much because almost all LDR couples think they can make it but in reality it’s so difficult (this obviously depends how far you guys are, how often u see each other etc).
I would say LDR ONLY works if
1. You guys are far but can see each other often (once a month, 2x a month). Although this isn’t often for some, it’s better than once a year or 2 years (which was my case)
2. You both have a plan to be together…soon. After being in a LDR for 5 years and not having a secure plan (his plan was to keep working for 2-3more years then get married, which I couldn’t take anymore) it breaks the relationship. It leaves you wondering when will this all end.
establishing a strong bond at the beginning of the relationship is very important. my (temporary) long distance relationship is working out just fine
True
I'm happy
I saw your couple pic
To those getting upset over these videos.. Ignorance is bliss. I would MUCH rather know somsone isn't for me. The person FOR you is waiting!
when the LDR said "I like you a lot but it's really difficult unless we're in the same place, and please don't wait for me"
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can i ask? if it's okay, what did you do after she said that?😔
@@lovelyannsalicsic4163 If the person said "don't wait for me" it's already indirectly telling you to "back off", so what you can do is just stop message this person, unless he/she ask questions, you can still reply in *simply. Alternatively, if you guys going to meet up next time. Discuss about if there's future plans to be together. If he/she avoid to have a future plan together then there's no point to continue it.
What if he says he likes you but notbyet ready for commitment? 😞😞
She giving you a chance to meet someone better!
LDR’s are what you make of them, it’s not for everyone and you won’t find many people willing to step out of their comfort zone for them but they can work if both parties put in the effort and make sacrifices for each other
Last month I ended up my LDR after 2 years and a half. Dreadful situations happended during that period and finally there was a big misunderstanding in communication once more. This LDR definitely died with 2019!
I'm sorry to hear that, Lili. But I'm sure now that you've let go of that connection, something awesome will open up for you in 2020! 🙌🏼
I’m glad LDR worked for some of you, but it hasn’t worked for me. Ryan isn’t saying it’s impossible to maintain LDRs, but it is very hard. Glad it has worked for some of you
When we first met( online chat) connection between us is already there...despite of LDR,age gap I'm older twice his age,is not an issue to us,although I'm the one who bring up the,doubt, insecurities,and feeling unsure to what we are,But,gladly says open communication by heart,mind and soul are really a big factor to overcome all the issues comes to us.we're thankful to found each other.
I used to have a long distance relationship. It lasted a year. I realized that i was the one who always had to see the other one, I was the one always spending my money when we were together and i was the one who had to sacrifice. The spark wasn't there in person like it was online as well.... I refuse to do a fully long distance relationship anymore because of it. I wont date past a 1 hour drive now lol
The truth hurts...LDRs are not for everyone. But I believe if that someone is destined for you, distance wouldn't matter. Thanks Ryan, gained much perspective with regards to LDRs. Wish you more followers and subscribers for 2020 and the years to come.
Thanks Bee!
Soo, we started the relationship in the same city, but after three months he had to move at 1100 kilometers apart. For three years we were barely seeing each other like two or three weeks a year. It was hurtful, feeling that he is the one and we weren't able to do anything to be closer. I was in high school and then in college, so I had no money nor time for visits or plane tickets and his work allowed him very few days off to come home. Everybody was so reserved about our relationship and gave us so little chances to get it right. After some serious discussions, I was so sick of distance, so I got to the point where I broke up with him. I still loved him but I couldn't handle the situation. He decided then to come home and to start our life together. We spent two years here and bonded even more. Two months ago he got a good job offer back there and we got the chance. He took the job while I take my time to finish my work here (I'm a teacher) and soon move there. I'm learning the language and I am really excited. It's been a hard road (it still is) and your video summed up perfectly the struggles and the tests LDR offers. But for me, even with all the distance, late night calls and tears, it was always worth it. For all the LDR partners here, it's a long way, but your heart knows what it wants😊
Long distance relationship for 3years. 😍
me too.
I had an LDR; it was horrible and depressive. It was for three years. He was in Uk and I in China. Glad to be free.
I'm in an amazing long distance relationship. I have no idea if it's going to last but it is amazing satisfying. He communicates with with me 2, 3 times or more every single day. The things he says inspire and affirm me. Anyway for now it's amazing. Keep you posted. 😄
Right! I don’t agree with his LDR advice. I’m in one right now. Follow my page. I promote LDR’s ❤️
How is it as at now?
@@wearephiladelphia over but amicably.
@@DrMargoLomaxD okay, as at now I am yet to come to terms with the fact my only girlfriend that I love so much just traveled to Germany for education purposes . My relationship is now rendered long distance and I have to deal with it.the earliest I can see her is 12 to 18 months from now... it’s killing me😢
@@wearephiladelphia hang in there. If it's meant to be it will be. Commit to tines you know you will touch bases even if for 10 seconds. And try to plan a time to visit maybe 6 month in to break up the time.
They cant work for so many obvious reasons.....unless eventually someone moves to the other persons location....I cant see any other way.
I had one where we were only an hour apart...You would think it could work...but it created stress and anxiety....She was way too busy in her personal life as it was.... to even come on the weekends when I wasnt working and had all kinds of free time. I would feel stress just listening to her day...sheesh. I am a simple guy and bring no drama and I want the same...I feel like women, in general, bring complications and expectations that dont need to be there....this is probably why so many guys today are not wanting to be married....just honesty..
An hour away....that was it. Sucks because our time together was amazing...but reality is reality......siighhh. This lady is right, got to find someone in the same town....
I thought this would be a downer for me but nope, all of the points you made are not a problem and ive been in long distance relationships before. Now i know the difference. Thank you so much, this really boosts my confidence.
Oh awesome! Thank you so much for saying that, Jo Lyn! I was hoping it would be an uplifting video to let everyone know they've got more options than they may have initially realized 😊
You have just mentioned so points that no other content creators touch. And you're totally right, especially in that ON / OFF situation.
I have been in an LDR for 7 months now, when I was watching you video I had to say I didn't really see or agree with most of your points. So I rewatched it twice more to make sure that I wasn't just trying to justify my relationship through my own bias'. I have to say that it still didn't change by the third time of watching and I did a bit of research and found that most sources say that approx. 58% of LDR's do in fact work.
I do agree that you need to have a plan/goal of eventually living close to eachother and of course be fully committed and trust are huge factors. But now a days with video chat and being able to communicate so effectively LDR's are able to work and strong, lasting relationships are very possible.
Krista Matthews seriously, he absolutely is just pulling 95% stat out of his bare ass. I haven’t had any problems that he mentioned and i think many of things he mentioned apply equally to couples not long distance. LDR might make a relationship more difficult, but at the end of the day, things like maturity, communication, understanding are more telling. If you’re insecure, jealous, bad at communicating, etc than it’s put a strain on any relationship, not just LDR. Any two healthy individuals who are willing to work for it can make it happen. Maybe people who think it doesn’t work simply don’t have healthy habits and behaviors.
Agreed! None of this resonated with me but I think it's because we were close friends first. We also plan on moving to the dame city. Finally, all the things on his list are general issues any couple would face. Anyway I'm glad I found my best friend 🤲🏿
The relationship works unless both partner are loyal the same, but another partner likes lying to another a lot! It's easy cheat on all the time! 😭😭😭
Ya if one of them is not loyal then it is over. Btw most of the time it’s the girl
Was in a long distance relationship for almost 2 years and let’s be realistic they do not work and are hard. It’s always a heartbreak having to leave after spending a weekend with them. You miss out on so much from each other’s life 💔 if you are one of the lucky ones to make it work more power to you all, as for me never again!
It hurts to let go but glad I’m not the only one who feels I can’t do it ever again.
MANY people have made it work
it can work but 9/10 it doesent work
Jealous and untrusting people really need to grow up! They don't deserve to be in relationships. They can't handle them! Just enjoy the moments with your partner or don't have one! Don't get me wrong, a little jealousy is healthy but so many people go way overboard with it!
Agreed!
Agreed but at the same time how it was true when partner hide alot things and close with others meanwhile have bf/gf?
@@SuperVIN02 that sounds like something different. Like they're really hiding something. What about all the people who aren't and still constantly get accused?
Yeah but there's people who do shady things that overstep boundaries and loyalty so it all depends.
Thank you for this.
I know it can be depressing to hear the truth sometimes.
But I appreciate your honesty.
I'm in a long distance relationship for almost 3years, we communicate everyday we miss each other we say I love you as often.. We never get tired telling the same thing almost everyday in 3 years! If only I can afford I will travel to see him, because never heard any plan from him until this pandemic come in between another reason another years of waiting maybe. But I am doing my best to get closer to him and his supporting me for that.. I understand his reasons why can't travel to see me. But I believe we will be just one step closer at a time, were both mature and we both know what is best for us. Its worth waiting for the right person, than hurrying to the wrong person.
My parents were in LDR for 10 years. They called everyday. My parents met once or twice for about a month a year
Had two of them and they were both a waste of time! Never again
Long distance is sooo wrong. What is the point of being with someone when you cannot spend your life together. I have been there and it was way too hard...mainly because my partner was so bad at communicating...and whenever we would speak about living together we would end up fighting. He also started cheating on me...so I left him!
So many fake people trying to lure American girls in the trap so that they can get green card . It’s worst thing happening these days specially there Indian men .....
10 years ago I woud have not been agree with you. I was in 2 years long distance relationship ( we were young, in love and innocent and poor). We lived in the same country but we just could not afford to see each other to often - 1 year we saw each other 3 times and the second year he moved 3 hours away from me and we were able to see more often. The truth is that if we would have had the chance to have a relationship and being in the same city, we wouldn't last 2 months. We mamaged to stay 2 years because lobg distance creates desires and so on. But actually we were really different and I remember one time he was 11 days at my place and felt unconfortable. Lol. I do not believe in LDR.
So true about long distance relationship failure, especially when it comes to miscommunication, texts or even voice messages that are completely misunderstood. I just ended a long distance "relationship" and would not want to get into another one for sure.
Yup agreed...
Oh... I must be 5%
Like anything else, you have to put in the work😉
Communication is key and setting boundaries from the front is necessary
Long distance relationships make it easy for someone to cheat on you.
I agree with you completely.
Yup agreed , i got cheated on🤦🏿♂️
Yeah true but if you can’t trust them enough that you feel uneasy with the risk that their gonna cheat on you then don’t get into a relationship with them. You should have trust in your partner
I believe it’s a character thing. Ppl who cheat will always find a way to cheat no matter what. I don’t think distance adds anything to it. Just my opinion.
i agree
I intentionally started a long distance relationship recently. I’m getting divorced and I’m ready to meet someone new. I’m also planning on moving so I started online dating in the city that I’m moving too. The guy I met is about 5 hours away. I always make the drive to him (at least once a month) because I’m the one that chose to date away from where I currently live. I really appreciate the advice you gave in order to increase our chances of success. I am planning to move closer so in the meantime I will try not to squeeze everything in to each visit lol. Thanks again Ryan for another helpful video!!
I'm sorry, I like a lot of your videos, but you are way off base with this one. When you actually are involved with a genuine person, communication and trust are the only things you nees.
Right! I don’t agree with his LDR advice. I’m in one right now. Follow my page. I promote LDR’s ❤️
@@TavhaniTV how are you doing
@@queenshamie7649 I'm doing okay. How are you?
Four years and I think I’m done…I can’t wait for him anymore. I understand his responsibilities, but it’s starting to feel more like an excuse. The reason I’m waiting for him keeps changing…I’m starting to realize I’m not actually a priority, I never was.
I’ve accepted it,. I’ll be single my entire life! 😂
Can't stand negativity, let's have long distance relationship stories that are positive.
I totally disagree as I am in a long distance relationship... Long distance relationship do work when you both trust each other, have good communication and a good connection! It’s gets hard of course sometimes not being together physically but there are other ways to connect and to feel intimate with someone without being physically together!!
Ryan, I reached out to an ex after 5 years who is the love of my life. He is in a LDR for 2 years. He says he misses me and don't know what's going to happen in his LDR. She is coming to spend some weeks with him. I refused to see him before she comes. Now I have to stand by until she leaves and it hurts so much. We never stopped caring about each other.
Been in a long distance relationship for almost 3 months now and I'm losing hope, we always argue and he always accuse me of cheating 😩. Dating 5 years now, can't cope with being far apart feel like we're growing apart
Yeah if he is accusing you of cheating... he is not a guy to be with even if he was close.
This video opened my eyes that LDR is not really for me. And you are right when you said that if one can attract a guy from another country you can also attract someone closer to home because you already know what to do.
Youve been very helpful.
Good job!
God bless you and more power!!!!
Hardest thing i ever did..couldn't gain momentum. Couldn't live together. About2 move 45mins away but
brokeup after 11months. Never again.
Trust, patient and love for each other are keys to make LDR work. Prayers will definitely help.
Thank you. I was struggling with all this and you articulated it perfectly!!! I’m done with LDRs. All love!!💕💕💕
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