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i always end up letting my world orbit around a guy just because i don’t have girl friends and only have guy friends that end up liking me then i end up losing them because they’re upset i’m not into them even though our friendship was built around being platonic and talking about the girls he likes and the guys i like. me and girls never workout, girls don’t want to be my friend for some reason no matter how hard i try
How to build intimacy: building intimacy is sooo easy for me. 1. Act like you trust him implicitly 2. Ask deep questions 3. Repeat back to him what he says to you. For example; if he says "I'm stressed about work" say "it really seems like your job is really stressing you right now" just parrot. If he says "I get to see my kids this weekend" say "you are so excited to see your kids, you are such a good dad". 4. Cuddle with him, scratch his head, tickle his back, draw on his back with a marker (washable) write things that are cute, sexy, or funny. 5. Take a bath together 6.stare into his eyes 7. Let him lay on your chest 8. Be the big spoon when cuddling, no matter how big he is. 9. Ask about his biggest fear 10. Ask about his happiest childhood memory or his most memorable moment in his life....then truly listen...just listen, don't share similar stuff..its so hard to find a good listener. Also always let him think that you think he is better and has more potential than he really does. Tell him how he has made you a better person. Tell him what you admire about him. If things end and he ends it say this "I understand and I really wish you the best. You are a great guy so I really hope you find what you are looking for. I do appreciate everything you did for me. You really helped me to see my true potential. You have a rare quality...so thank you." He will come running back, I promise! I've used this so many times but I make it specific to that guy. If the guy was unavailable emotionally I tell him he helped me to become more independent. If the guy was supportive I tell him he helped me to become more resilient. If he was funny he helped me to be more carefree. If he was just sex he helped me to be more uninhibited. If he was bought me things and took me places he helped me to appreciate the finer things in life. Also if you let a guy think you trust him, he is less likely to break that trust. If you look at him sideways all the time, he will go sideways. If he is accused of a crime he didn't commit, he will go commit that crime. Tell him he is what you want him to be and he will rise to the challenge.
Amen sweetheart, AMEN!!!!!! I decided I was tired of losing myself and hadn't realized how much of myself I'd lost being consumed with worry over losing others (family members, platonic and romantic relationships).
@@dashphonemailIf only that worked lol. The last time I did that I got treated worse then usual and had a really confusing relationship and bad break up because he was so insecure
Everyone wants an independent strong woman, who can take care of herself. But I'll tell you one thing that independent and strong woman wants a guy who would love her any, vulnerable, sick or moody. This will make her even stronger. And if she is not currently strong the right guy will make her strong the wrong one will make her even weaker. Be careful girls don't get the wrong one.
ciggy twiggy true. same here. dont need him if he’s totally no good for me but that doesn’t mean i dont miss him. just not going to be in his life though
Many of the things mentioned goes for guys as well. Basically, if you let another person take you for granted or step all over you, the relationship is going to fail (or become extremely toxic) really quick.
Um no. Marriage is boring and routine and if he can’t handle it when dating forget it. If you can’t be yourself and they can’t handle a little bring everyday life they have a personality disorder.
Good point, Carissa. Let me just clarify that I feel I was referring more to new relationships when I talk about slipping into a routine. Marriage (as well as having kids) will certainly warrant a routine, but it's most likely a routine you both welcome since you've agreed to get married. I'm 2 years into my own marriage and I totally agree with you. Just keep it fresh when you can 😉
Ryan Patrick well I appreciate that. I just don’t want girls pretending to be someone they are not. It will only hurt them in the end. Be yourself. If you sit and read a book every night and hats boring still do that. If he doesn’t love that about you. Bye.
Yes this works for the beginning! But routine will follow and you have to be mature and understand that’s how long term relationships go ! A lot of dating fails early because they don’t like getting bored or want new continuously ! We all have to grow up. A lot of people are not ready for real relationships and forever stuck wanting the honeymoon phase which is immature! it’s suppose 2b a short stage in courting to help fall in love & build/ secure a foundation for long term! If you pick the right partner it can feel like a on going honeymoon but a routine you enjoy bcoz u like them .
Advice dont fall for a player . A player dont want to commit wt any one they all narcissists. I rather going out wt a nice guy. It truth nice guy are boring but i can always entertain him . A player they are not a man in my book , i call them a boy who live in a teenager body lol
So glad I saw this video. I was starting to get this weird feeling and wanting to end it without even knowing why, he didn’t do anything wrong. I realized I want it to be like when we were talking again because I felt like he was chasing more and I was less stressed. This made me realize that I can be in a relationship without making him such a high percentage of my time, I need to invest a lot more time in what I’m into and I wanna say thanks for being so understanding of women and approaching ever point so respectfully!
Number 4 is what matters most. I've learned that no matter how much of a catch you think you are (giving him support, independent, sweet, great cook, lover etc) if don't truly believe in who you are, you will attract and ACCEPT the same from others. When we know our value, it shows up in how we treat ourselves and others will follow. Not everyone is going to be a match, nor should they be.
I’ve had a hard time spending time away because I lost majority of my friendships due to lack of quality time with them. Love how you said that we should do things for us. Do things by ourselves. When I was single I loved being alone, but recently I’ve been finding it really hard to find my passions and start doing things that I love when I’m not around him. I’m inspired to do more with my life instead of waiting around for him to be free. Thank you
Hi Coach! There are some patriarchal phenomena in South Asia where most of the men do not want their lady do more success than him in her professional life. It creates a “vibe” in their heads that “she might be out of control of mine”. The more I show my independence, the more the chances will be deemer to get married.
He's already lost me. If I could have him I wouldn't want him. Maybe its God maybe its karma sometimes there's divine intervention or the universe steps in and gives you detour😂👍
Exercise,find a new hobby or two. Depending on the laws have a couple friends over for drinks & games,karaoke if you’ve got the voice,or go to friends homes for the same. Take care of yourself and be happy.
Your the best Ryan Patrick, I learn a lot of things about boys in you. Your direct to the point thank you for keeping the ladies more stronger in finding a true love.
I'm going out with 3 awesome guys at the moment, I'm not sure who do i like the most. Then my girls, gym, school, work, kid and other stuff, outside the dates i hardly find time to think about any of the guys. Also I'm in no rush to be exclusive, I'm just enjoying my life.
Well, I am a bit late on here! You are totally right. Even though I was told previously that I should follow the same patter I used to fire back telling my friend that " is a true love betweeen us, I am an open book, nothing to worry about". And it was indeed ...for a while, more precisely 1 year. And the fall down had began...he lost interest because I wss tjere for him, available non stop, made him the center of my atention etc. Of course be broke up with me. The next reationship I applied what you state here and it was a totally different outcome. :)
Being in college, I always pick somewhere different to sit, because ironically every one (can you believe this?) sits in the same seat every day! Why? Anyway sitting in a different seat makes me feel like I have a broader perspective
It seems like something is wrong..my exhusband took my away from friends so he can control me and it will be little by little that he try to stop yu from being with yur family but wants yu to spend all the time in the world with his family..just b careful.
After 4 yrs the ONLY thing that shook thing's up was I told him I had to Let him go for the 1st time. Now thing's are better between us. He was definitely caught of guard. New update..It's still an uphill battle. I'm thinking this is just too stressful and I'm wasting my time.
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I agree about changing routine. We can’t just sit back and make excuses that they need to grow up. This is how men are, so if your not willing to do anything, then, you will be watching videos like this for the rest of your lives, and still be wondering why you don’t have a have an awesome relationship
I know exactly what you're going through. It's really tough to stop thinking about someone that broke your heart. I was there 10 years ago and I still remember that pain. My best advice is that you need to double down on a passion to distract yourself. You're still very much in the healing process, so be aware and be 100% OK with that. When we really invest in passions and let them consume us, we heal ourselves faster. If you catch yourself saying "What if..." or "If I had just..." with your ex, I want you to politely stop yourself and say "Enough!" You catch yourself doing this frequently enough, you'll notice that you will gradually stop having these thoughts until one day you wake up and it's no longer about him, it's all about you. Believe me, time heals all wounds. And one day, when that time has had its chance to do what it needs to do, you'll meet someone that check all the right boxes 🙂
Note to whoever reads this: Instead of getting hang up on chasing after men chase after GOD. Follow HIM, pursue HIM with all your heart, mind and soul and men will chase after you. This goes for the men out there who are hang up chasing after women too. Just as the king's heart is in the hand of THE LORD Like the rivers of water; HE turns it wherever HE wishes (Proverbs 21:1), even so GOD holds the hearts of all men and women in HIS hands. "There is no wisdom or understanding Or counsel against THE LORD. Proverbs 21:30." *"Then HE said to them, “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.” Matthew 4:19*
Solid advice. I was skeptical about listening to a relationship expert, particularly a man (sorry, but so many blow-hards out there trying to tell us what to do)...but YOU ARE THE REAL DEAL. I'm subscribing!
I would love to see this video done with new rules that would fit a pandemic. How can you tweak these tips when you really do have all the time in the world because everything is closed and social distancing is a thing?
Can you do a video on what your wife did to get you hooked properly? Lol. Cos not all dating coaches are married so you have a big advantage in that department. Like high-value ways to act/things to do in the first 6 months and even after that? Thanks! Love all your vids 🤗
Yeah, I was actually wondering while watching how much his wife would agree to all that he said. hahah... It's very great advise btw. I've never dated anyone yet and lessons like these, I believe, would make me a better decision-maker when it comes to relationships. I would say, I've never heard such advise from anywhere, not even from my own parents! (Shhh)
So I just gotta keep being myself and play hard to get? Don’t answer him right away take an hour maybe or even text him the next day! Nobody needs to text every day my friend gives me the worst advice
He ghosted on me for 4 days! I had to call him out and call it for what it is. I even told him imagine a guy did this to his beautiful daughter when she’s older. Don’t do it if he cannot be honest and lead by example. Boy that felt good. Whether I hear from him again or not doesn’t matter because I’m not afraid to lose him. No man will validate me. I validate me. Great stuff Ryan!
Ryan!! Thank you🙏🙏👏🏻👏🏻 so much for the example, “if you don’t see yourself as afraid of losing him and he doesn’t see that either then their is no magnetic 🧲 pull.. to stay together...Wow!!! You made me realize I was afraid to have that feeling of being afraid of losing someone Im with...I realized I have suppressed that feeling to feel safe..😬🤓🙏🙏
I need to be reminded that I am a high value woman! This guy I'm seeing or sort of seeing, seems to think I'm his cash flow! Using my car and I pay for all dates. Suxxx
I'm loving your videos! Especially since it's great advice for any age. I just turned 60 and I've only been single for a couple years, but it's so true... the more I focus on improving myself, the more men have been asking me out.
I think the answer also lies within you if you can be honest to yourself. Now tell me, you love a person and you are in relationship. Can you imagine being with other guy at the same time?
You did not NEED to explain BEING A WOMAN GUYS FEAR LOSING, it MADE PERFECT SENSE THE SECOND YOU SAID IT! AND I THINK THAT HAS BEEN MY BIGGEST PROBLEM! I
Pretty good stuff, I think the most important is having your own life apart from yours and his. In my case it’s so hard to do, I’m dépendant on him for pretty much everything. Lol
Thanks Leah! And you raise a good point about being dependent on him in other ways, like financially, for example. I still feel there are opportunities that will come up where you can create that buffer and distinguish your life from his. The best way to do this is make your private time *sacred* and something that is off limits to him. In most cases, that will be enough 🙂
I absolutely love your videos! I found you last night on TH-cam and I love your honesty and realness that is so understandable and relatable. Thank you!
I absolutely love your energy and your faces! The way you emphasized some points made you seem like you are just trying to keep it real, like I need you in my pocket telling me "stop, let it go" hahaha😂 Totally loving this advice, thank you👏
Thank you for this. I am in such a maddening situation right now, I don't even want to get into it because it will turn into a whole essay. He started pulling away at the beginning of the month. And I found myself whining about it and asking/begging him to just talk to me. Yikes, can't believe I did that. As of right now, I am putting the focus back on me. 🧘🏾♀️💃🏾
I have to disagree with the routine thing. It's been proven and practiced by so many successful people out there throughout time and history, how important it is to have a routine. Routine creates balance and priorities. It creates structure and consistency. This is how we maintain a growth mindset in all areas of life. If your partner doesn't appreciate your routine where you are being physically and mentally proactive(working out, being creative, reading a book, pursuing your daily passions), then this person probably doesn't value personal growth as much as you do. Being spontaneous all the time isn't sustainable, having a habitual routine is.
I had no friends in the first place before I met my partner, still don't ... it doesn't help that it's a long distance relationship. I don't know what to do.
I'd say try to tackle one thing at a time, not everything at once. You gradually want to start building the life you want, right? If starting with finding a friend or two makes sense, that gets you closer to your goal. One thing at a time. Maybe add a new hobby or passion to your calendar next. Also, long distance relationships can be tricky. I made a video on that if you haven't seen it yet here ---> th-cam.com/video/PeCBS_tYJ3s/w-d-xo.html . Hope that helps 🙂
thank you! I actually witnessed one of these steps, i believe step one and two when i started creating content with my girlfriend for the first time which included a full glam. Def left him guessinggg lol
See with my boyfriend is he doesn't want to do anything with me anymore just sit around and play video games. And it wasn't like this in the beginning, but now that he is comfortable in our relationship I guess he stopped caring? So many people tell me that he should be doing everything to keep me by his side, but he doesn't. And maybe if I use these tips he will finally find something in him to not want to lose me...
You definitely should have a sit-down with him and tell him how you feel and that he needs to make more of an effort, otherwise this relationship isn't work either of your time and you may have to bounce. Give him 30 days to show you a new track record of effort. If he doesn't, bye bye gamer boy...
I had a feeling things wouldn’t work with me and my bf after he ignored me for over a month so I just deleted every social media and chat I spoke to him it took 4 weeks for me to be happy and now I am 😁😁😁
But what if I try to improve myself and he doesn't like it. Example.. I go get my hair done and and get a good job but he gets mad because he thinks I'm doing it to find someone else
That's a really good question, Kelly! I would say two things here... 1. Any guy that would immediately jump to thinking you're doing this for some other guy has some insecurity issues he needs to deal with. This is something that isn't your fault and is 100% something he needs to work on and correct for the relationship to regain stability and trust. 2. Just make sure if you're choosing to improve yourself (which is awesome), that you're doing it 100% *for you* and not some guy. Sure, it's great if he recognizes your improvements and rejoices in them with you! That usually means you found the right guy who will support you and sees you're making changes for you (and not him!). Guys would honestly prefer that 🙂 Any man who gives you anything other than support needs to be scrutinized as possibly being someone who isn't a match for you. Hope that helps! -RP
Kelley McKinney My father would get into fights with my mother putting on make up for work. Mind you she was already a Supervisor. Also, mind you he would also do these man-child tantrums with his jealousy sh*t while being third-trimester pregnant. You will live a life of misery, if you don't run and look into yourself and value yourself and know your worth. Do you. Being Happy does not necessarily mean You Have to Be In Relationship.
6:20 very important point love yourself ladies do not make him the center of your world there’s other people in our lives that need us remember that 💜❤️
Ryan, Do you know that you are only dating coach i follow in the entire TH-cam? You are sincerely and so resourceful and i am glad we have a coach like you! All the points are noted. Specially about the self esteem and values, i have been working on it for 2 years. Now i can say i know my worth so well. Thank you so much for reminder me!! ✌👍
I don't have a social circle.. I mostly spend time with my dog and my crossword book 😶 And I kinda need some routines as well.. I can be flexible too though.
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This doesn’t really work right now....is there no hope during this pandemic? I can’t change my schedule when there’s nothing to do bc of the stupid virus so how can I do this?
You are AWESOME! THANK YOU! GOT ALOT TO WORK ON, it's been a while since I have focused on myself which is probably why I have been single for the past 4... 5years. Makes perfect sense though, all stuff my ex of 8yrs use to tell me he was worried about. So greatly appreciate all the info and I will let you know WHAT happens!!!
He already dumped me three times because what he tells me isn't always confidential because sometimes I vent to other people and it turns out as gossip not my fault
Hey Allison! Sorry to hear about this guy. It's clear that you still have feelings for him, but based on his behavior and actions, he might just not be on board anymore. I really don't advocate people trying to get back with their exes, because once you break up, the trust is completely obliterated. You just can never get back what you had. And when we try to put in that work and do that with someone who may not even me worthy of it, we can get ourselves into all sorts of trouble, not to mention unnecessary pain and suffering. If a guy is dumping you more than once, you may have not given yourself enough time to heal from the first breakup. After we heal, we come into relationships with a new set of eyes and see things we didn't see before. But, when we're hurting after a breakup, our intuition tells us the only remedy is fixing what went wrong right away and that we need to get that person back, which is the complete opposite of what we actually need. Healing is a 100% solo activity. Your ex will never be able to heal you like you can 🙂
Love them all,these tips are so powerful. Thank you for providing this video ,it's so helpful to watch ! Ryan your doing a great job making the videos you put out. Thank you. It's so interesting to learn more about how to behave and respond to a guy . Thank you! 😊
what if he's bigger fear is losing me and worrying about me being attractive to other guys and decided not to be in a relationship with me because he was hurt before... what do I do
He's insecure.. And will always need "validation" you both can talk about it how to improve that with a specialist or if u r just not that into him so he will be just bothering you
I think that's BS. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. I think he's just handing you a BS excuse. Best to let him go and find someone who knows that he wants to be with you.
@@bunnylover6003 Possibly. But that's not the situation I think she's describing. I've been around long enough to understand that the reason of "I'm too afraid to lose you so I won't even chance a relationship with you" either speaks to a level of insecurity that no amount of love from her will fix or he really wasn't that interested in a relationship with her in the first place and that's the excuse he's going with. Either way, my advice is the same. Run, girl, run.
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Men are 10000000% more complicated then women, this video proves it lmao
All Ryan's videos prove that!
And I, for one, am friggin tired of it!
They ARE! They're so weird.
I couldn’t agree more. So many games and dances we have to do.
AtlantasFaithsMom lesbianisms unite
He didn't fear losing me, so I left. No it wasn't games or manipulation. I realized my self-worth. There were other things too.
Yes, did that too. He was like...naah, she never would leave me. she´ll never find a better one. so i left 🤷♀️
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You deserve better
Facts! I did the same
So keep being the best person you can be and don’t let your world orbit around him.
Jessica you totally get it 💯Thanks for watching!
😊😊😊 thank you
i always end up letting my world orbit around a guy just because i don’t have girl friends and only have guy friends that end up liking me then i end up losing them because they’re upset i’m not into them even though our friendship was built around being platonic and talking about the girls he likes and the guys i like. me and girls never workout, girls don’t want to be my friend for some reason no matter how hard i try
Good idea ! Always remember first beginning one!
True!
The fact that you want to know how to MAKE him to fear losing you means you're with the wrong guy.
U might be right. You wont need to play these games with the right person.
@@dbedazzling1 And I might be wrong. Haha! Parents, please love and understand each other more and stay married. 😅
THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS!!
Very good point! 😉
Yeah..the right one will always fear losing you without you even do anythin
Love yourself more than anything else. Everything follows
Awwww! that has to kinda be drilled into us tho ;D
NO CONTACT!
CUT YOUR LOSSES!
ENJOY YOUR LIFE WITH OUT JERKS!!!
😅😂🤣
Easy to say but hard to do
😂😂😂
NICEEE
Really hard to do
How to build intimacy: building intimacy is sooo easy for me. 1. Act like you trust him implicitly 2. Ask deep questions 3. Repeat back to him what he says to you. For example; if he says "I'm stressed about work" say "it really seems like your job is really stressing you right now" just parrot. If he says "I get to see my kids this weekend" say "you are so excited to see your kids, you are such a good dad". 4. Cuddle with him, scratch his head, tickle his back, draw on his back with a marker (washable) write things that are cute, sexy, or funny. 5. Take a bath together 6.stare into his eyes 7. Let him lay on your chest 8. Be the big spoon when cuddling, no matter how big he is. 9. Ask about his biggest fear 10. Ask about his happiest childhood memory or his most memorable moment in his life....then truly listen...just listen, don't share similar stuff..its so hard to find a good listener. Also always let him think that you think he is better and has more potential than he really does. Tell him how he has made you a better person. Tell him what you admire about him. If things end and he ends it say this "I understand and I really wish you the best. You are a great guy so I really hope you find what you are looking for. I do appreciate everything you did for me. You really helped me to see my true potential. You have a rare quality...so thank you." He will come running back, I promise! I've used this so many times but I make it specific to that guy. If the guy was unavailable emotionally I tell him he helped me to become more independent. If the guy was supportive I tell him he helped me to become more resilient. If he was funny he helped me to be more carefree. If he was just sex he helped me to be more uninhibited. If he was bought me things and took me places he helped me to appreciate the finer things in life. Also if you let a guy think you trust him, he is less likely to break that trust. If you look at him sideways all the time, he will go sideways. If he is accused of a crime he didn't commit, he will go commit that crime. Tell him he is what you want him to be and he will rise to the challenge.
I love your advice ,it made me chuckle a bit and I'm going to use it lol
Good one but there are some men who are resistant to let you in. Really, that's the nightmare. Can't even have a meaningful conversation .
@@ivia_ol8356 very true.
@@ivia_ol8356 Why would you want that one? 🤯
@@atlantasfaithsmom You probably know why and I don't want to go into details.
So tired of being the one that always feels worried about losing someone... for once it should be the other way around..
Amen sweetheart, AMEN!!!!!! I decided I was tired of losing myself and hadn't realized how much of myself I'd lost being consumed with worry over losing others (family members, platonic and romantic relationships).
Just date less attractive guys
I mean, insecurity is YOUR problem, not anyone else's
@@dashphonemailIf only that worked lol. The last time I did that I got treated worse then usual and had a really confusing relationship and bad break up because he was so insecure
Everyone wants an independent strong woman, who can take care of herself. But I'll tell you one thing that independent and strong woman wants a guy who would love her any, vulnerable, sick or moody. This will make her even stronger. And if she is not currently strong the right guy will make her strong the wrong one will make her even weaker. Be careful girls don't get the wrong one.
Well said!
TheMissAlira very true
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If only all guys understood this
Im not afraid to walk away, nor do I ever forget that I have high value. It doesn't mean I don't miss him.
ciggy twiggy true. same here. dont need him if he’s totally no good for me but that doesn’t mean i dont miss him. just not going to be in his life though
True🙌🏼
If you have to bust your ass to keep his attention, forget him. Hold out for a guy who likes you from the start, for who you are, not what you do.
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How do I get a guy who likes me from the start for who I am?
Many of the things mentioned goes for guys as well. Basically, if you let another person take you for granted or step all over you, the relationship is going to fail (or become extremely toxic) really quick.
Knowing our own identity is the most important before any successful relationship.
Even if you're not doing these things, pretend that you are😁
Lol
Ye.fake it .fake it 😅 do yoga...when infact you are at the coffee shop
Um no. Marriage is boring and routine and if he can’t handle it when dating forget it. If you can’t be yourself and they can’t handle a little bring everyday life they have a personality disorder.
Good point, Carissa. Let me just clarify that I feel I was referring more to new relationships when I talk about slipping into a routine. Marriage (as well as having kids) will certainly warrant a routine, but it's most likely a routine you both welcome since you've agreed to get married. I'm 2 years into my own marriage and I totally agree with you. Just keep it fresh when you can 😉
Ryan Patrick well I appreciate that. I just don’t want girls pretending to be someone they are not. It will only hurt them in the end. Be yourself. If you sit and read a book every night and hats boring still do that. If he doesn’t love that about you. Bye.
@@karikari7336 Yes, so true! Thanks for calling this out Carissa!
your answer really logical :)
Agree
I limit my availability to everyone. I'm a full-time student and I work in retail. I found when I have free time, I prefer to sleep, or study.
Smart girl. Been selfish is the best thing . Man are cry baby
There you go girl , your time is your most valuable asset ☝️💯✔️
Thanks I really needed to hear this, I need to be more selfish and do what I enjoy and not make it about him
Yes this works for the beginning! But routine will follow and you have to be mature and understand that’s how long term relationships go ! A lot of dating fails early because they don’t like getting bored or want new continuously ! We all have to grow up. A lot of people are not ready for real relationships and forever stuck wanting the honeymoon phase which is immature! it’s suppose 2b a short stage in courting to help fall in love & build/ secure a foundation for long term! If you pick the right partner it can feel like a on going honeymoon but a routine you enjoy bcoz u like them .
Advice dont fall for a player . A player dont want to commit wt any one they all narcissists. I rather going out wt a nice guy.
It truth nice guy are boring but i can always entertain him . A player they are not a man in my book , i call them a boy who live in a teenager body lol
So glad I saw this video. I was starting to get this weird feeling and wanting to end it without even knowing why, he didn’t do anything wrong. I realized I want it to be like when we were talking again because I felt like he was chasing more and I was less stressed. This made me realize that I can be in a relationship without making him such a high percentage of my time, I need to invest a lot more time in what I’m into and I wanna say thanks for being so understanding of women and approaching ever point so respectfully!
Love the obvious logic of telling women that they should keep they own life alive, independent and evolving...regardless 👍🌸
Well you can regained it on the day you sign the divorce paper
Number 4 is what matters most. I've learned that no matter how much of a catch you think you are (giving him support, independent, sweet, great cook, lover etc) if don't truly believe in who you are, you will attract and ACCEPT the same from others. When we know our value, it shows up in how we treat ourselves and others will follow. Not everyone is going to be a match, nor should they be.
My best trait is looking for the best in people and myself. I love to laugh, alot. My friends remember my laugh. They love my laugh!
OMG it is harder than solving the rubic's cube.
Rebecca Jones right??!! Omfg!!
No
Main message. Be you. Care about yourself and then if you have time be like oh that guy
lol
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I’ve had a hard time spending time away because I lost majority of my friendships due to lack of quality time with them.
Love how you said that we should do things for us. Do things by ourselves.
When I was single I loved being alone, but recently I’ve been finding it really hard to find my passions and start doing things that I love when I’m not around him.
I’m inspired to do more with my life instead of waiting around for him to be free.
Thank you
OK. SO...WE BOTH DID THIS. AND THEN WE BROKE UP. WE ENJOYED BEING AWAY FROM EACH OTHER MORE THAN WE ENJOYED BEING TOGETHER!!!
This comment made me laugh sorry
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Hi Coach!
There are some patriarchal phenomena in South Asia where most of the men do not want their lady do more success than him in her professional life. It creates a “vibe” in their heads that “she might be out of control of mine”. The more I show my independence, the more the chances will be deemer to get married.
This dude knows what's up!
Hey now 😏... Lol thanks!
Can you do a video for long distance situations? Thank you 😊
when he texts “sorrie” instead of “sorry” then he’s not actually sorry
dReZ bEeZ or ‘sowwy’
Lmao who tf does that 🤣😂🤣😂
I’ve never seen that
The spelling alone will turn me off. Lol
Lol right
I'm in need of your videos right now. I tend to get attached easily and I have to learn not to answer his texts right away.
He's already lost me. If I could have him I wouldn't want him. Maybe its God maybe its karma sometimes there's divine intervention or the universe steps in and gives you detour😂👍
GOOD INSIGHT! 😍
Thank you!!! I lost myself, my self worth due to fear of losing that man and I'm damn co dependant. I will learn to look after my own needs again.
if doesn't fear losing you, and you don't fear losing him, then there's NO MAGNETIC PULL. love it Ryan!
I am married and have been almost seven years now and I'm watching your videos to help us out too. We are so bored and the same lol
Change your up routine?!! What if you’re in self isolation lol?!! 😭😭😭😢😢😢😂😂😂
Exercise,find a new hobby or two. Depending on the laws have a couple friends over for drinks & games,karaoke if you’ve got the voice,or go to friends homes for the same. Take care of yourself and be happy.
I really love the examples of simple strategies that a person can do to maintain that healthy balance between independence and the relationship.
Your the best Ryan Patrick, I learn a lot of things about boys in you. Your direct to the point thank you for keeping the ladies more stronger in finding a true love.
Just literally do things like being single while in a relationship 🤣
This is what I was thinking.
Thank you. I value myself so much more now than I did a few months ago.
You are literally my favorite! So spot on, so direct and so encouraging. We love to see it ‼️👏
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I wish more woman will found this video. You really tell woman to put ourselves as priorities.
Thanks Miss Turis! I hope they find it too 😊
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I'm going out with 3 awesome guys at the moment, I'm not sure who do i like the most. Then my girls, gym, school, work, kid and other stuff, outside the dates i hardly find time to think about any of the guys. Also I'm in no rush to be exclusive, I'm just enjoying my life.
@@jenniferjoes1547 Thanks, but why would I need that ??
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Love this energy! 😍
No wonder I’m single 😂😂😂😂
Haha same here 😂
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Lol 😆
Well, I am a bit late on here! You are totally right. Even though I was told previously that I should follow the same patter I used to fire back telling my friend that " is a true love betweeen us, I am an open book, nothing to worry about". And it was indeed ...for a while, more precisely 1 year. And the fall down had began...he lost interest because I wss tjere for him, available non stop, made him the center of my atention etc. Of course be broke up with me. The next reationship I applied what you state here and it was a totally different outcome. :)
Being in college, I always pick somewhere different to sit, because ironically every one (can you believe this?) sits in the same seat every day! Why? Anyway sitting in a different seat makes me feel like I have a broader perspective
I just block him..I have no time to put all my energy in someone when I'm trying to be the best for myself.
My husband likes the fact that I don't have friends, always at home and giving him all my attention
It seems like something is wrong..my exhusband took my away from friends so he can control me and it will be little by little that he try to stop yu from being with yur family but wants yu to spend all the time in the world with his family..just b careful.
After 4 yrs the ONLY thing that shook thing's up was I told him I had to Let him go for the 1st time. Now thing's are better between us. He was definitely caught of guard. New update..It's still an uphill battle. I'm thinking this is just too stressful and I'm wasting my time.
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I agreed, can’t stand routine
You should NEVER get married
I agree about changing routine. We can’t just sit back and make excuses that they need to grow up. This is how men are, so if your not willing to do anything, then, you will be watching videos like this for the rest of your lives, and still be wondering why you don’t have a have an awesome relationship
I wake up every morning with him on my mind and go to sleep every night with him on my mind
I know exactly what you're going through. It's really tough to stop thinking about someone that broke your heart. I was there 10 years ago and I still remember that pain. My best advice is that you need to double down on a passion to distract yourself. You're still very much in the healing process, so be aware and be 100% OK with that. When we really invest in passions and let them consume us, we heal ourselves faster. If you catch yourself saying "What if..." or "If I had just..." with your ex, I want you to politely stop yourself and say "Enough!" You catch yourself doing this frequently enough, you'll notice that you will gradually stop having these thoughts until one day you wake up and it's no longer about him, it's all about you.
Believe me, time heals all wounds. And one day, when that time has had its chance to do what it needs to do, you'll meet someone that check all the right boxes 🙂
@Ryan Patrick 10 years...and you still remember the pain...i wonder how long I can finally come to terms with it...
Me too
Thanks for the advice
Note to whoever reads this: Instead of getting hang up on chasing after men chase after GOD. Follow HIM, pursue HIM with all your heart, mind and soul and men will chase after you. This goes for the men out there who are hang up chasing after women too.
Just as the king's heart is in the hand of THE LORD Like the rivers of water; HE turns it wherever HE wishes (Proverbs 21:1), even so GOD holds the hearts of all men and women in HIS hands.
"There is no wisdom or understanding Or counsel against THE LORD.
Proverbs 21:30."
*"Then HE said to them, “Follow Me, and I will make you fishers of men.”
Matthew 4:19*
Solid advice. I was skeptical about listening to a relationship expert, particularly a man (sorry, but so many blow-hards out there trying to tell us what to do)...but YOU ARE THE REAL DEAL. I'm subscribing!
My self worth is within me.
Honestly he should
I would love to see this video done with new rules that would fit a pandemic. How can you tweak these tips when you really do have all the time in the world because everything is closed and social distancing is a thing?
Can you do a video on what your wife did to get you hooked properly? Lol. Cos not all dating coaches are married so you have a big advantage in that department. Like high-value ways to act/things to do in the first 6 months and even after that? Thanks! Love all your vids 🤗
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Yeah, I was actually wondering while watching how much his wife would agree to all that he said. hahah... It's very great advise btw. I've never dated anyone yet and lessons like these, I believe, would make me a better decision-maker when it comes to relationships. I would say, I've never heard such advise from anywhere, not even from my own parents! (Shhh)
G G its just being herself
I’ve been wanting this video too. Has it been made yet?
I have to do this things.. The whole point of him is value yourself your time your life goals. Love yourself. Make yourself a better person.
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Lol love it. Your attitude is my attitude. Must be high value. Sub Par relationship is no relationship, lose it.
So I just gotta keep being myself and play hard to get? Don’t answer him right away take an hour maybe or even text him the next day! Nobody needs to text every day my friend gives me the worst advice
He ghosted on me for 4 days! I had to call him out and call it for what it is. I even told him imagine a guy did this to his beautiful daughter when she’s older. Don’t do it if he cannot be honest and lead by example. Boy that felt good. Whether I hear from him again or not doesn’t matter because I’m not afraid to lose him. No man will validate me. I validate me. Great stuff Ryan!
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4:48 "that's platonic" Lol Love your videos you are so much fun to watch and your videos don't take up hours and droning hours of time! Thank you!!!
Ryan!! Thank you🙏🙏👏🏻👏🏻 so much for the example, “if you don’t see yourself as afraid of losing him and he doesn’t see that either then their is no magnetic 🧲 pull.. to stay together...Wow!!! You made me realize I was afraid to have that feeling of being afraid of losing someone Im with...I realized I have suppressed that feeling to feel safe..😬🤓🙏🙏
I need to be reminded that I am a high value woman! This guy I'm seeing or sort of seeing, seems to think I'm his cash flow! Using my car and I pay for all dates. Suxxx
tonyas1011 Well why are you paying for all dates??
Yep.
I'm loving your videos! Especially since it's great advice for any age. I just turned 60 and I've only been single for a couple years, but it's so true... the more I focus on improving myself, the more men have been asking me out.
I sometimes wonder if a guy loves you so much but still cheating is his love for you real
No it’s not.
I think the answer also lies within you if you can be honest to yourself. Now tell me, you love a person and you are in relationship. Can you imagine being with other guy at the same time?
"I have some things to think about." I'm going to have to remember this one.
You’re so positive and I love your vibe! I need more people like you in my life. Thankyou for this video. You’ve earned a subscriber ☺️☺️♥️
Yay! Thanks so much! I'll try to keep the good vibes flowing and glad to have you on my channel! :)
You did not NEED to explain BEING A WOMAN GUYS FEAR LOSING, it MADE PERFECT SENSE THE SECOND YOU SAID IT!
AND I THINK THAT HAS BEEN MY BIGGEST PROBLEM! I
OK. How things change when you're building a relationship in the middle of a pandemic? 🧐
Great video. I'm impressed over how many clips you had to edit together. Thank you for all the wonderfull tips!
Seriously dude, love you and your channel, I needed this sooooooo bad right now! 👏👏👏👏👏👏 bravo my friend! Subscribed!
Awesome Jennifer! Glad to have you on the channel 🙂
@8:12 ooh I love this, "I told you I don't like that I'm going out with my friends I have a lot to think about.
Pretty good stuff, I think the most important is having your own life apart from yours and his. In my case it’s so hard to do, I’m dépendant on him for pretty much everything. Lol
Thanks Leah! And you raise a good point about being dependent on him in other ways, like financially, for example. I still feel there are opportunities that will come up where you can create that buffer and distinguish your life from his. The best way to do this is make your private time *sacred* and something that is off limits to him. In most cases, that will be enough 🙂
Ryan Patrick thank you ☺️
Best video yet. Awesome perspective on how to improve a women's self worth and value to herself.
I absolutely love your videos! I found you last night on TH-cam and I love your honesty and realness that is so understandable and relatable. Thank you!
Thank you for all your videos. You have saved my relationship and I can’t thank you enough.
I absolutely love your energy and your faces! The way you emphasized some points made you seem like you are just trying to keep it real, like I need you in my pocket telling me "stop, let it go" hahaha😂 Totally loving this advice, thank you👏
Thank you for this. I am in such a maddening situation right now, I don't even want to get into it because it will turn into a whole essay. He started pulling away at the beginning of the month. And I found myself whining about it and asking/begging him to just talk to me. Yikes, can't believe I did that. As of right now, I am putting the focus back on me. 🧘🏾♀️💃🏾
Oh I love it "Give him Hell and don't make it easy!!!"
I think this is not only useful in dating, this is even in workforce or our friendships, clients, etc.
I have to disagree with the routine thing. It's been proven and practiced by so many successful people out there throughout time and history, how important it is to have a routine. Routine creates balance and priorities. It creates structure and consistency. This is how we maintain a growth mindset in all areas of life. If your partner doesn't appreciate your routine where you are being physically and mentally proactive(working out, being creative, reading a book, pursuing your daily passions), then this person probably doesn't value personal growth as much as you do. Being spontaneous all the time isn't sustainable, having a habitual routine is.
Everything said so so apt. Focus on yourself and rest would follow!
I had no friends in the first place before I met my partner, still don't ... it doesn't help that it's a long distance relationship. I don't know what to do.
I'd say try to tackle one thing at a time, not everything at once. You gradually want to start building the life you want, right? If starting with finding a friend or two makes sense, that gets you closer to your goal. One thing at a time. Maybe add a new hobby or passion to your calendar next.
Also, long distance relationships can be tricky. I made a video on that if you haven't seen it yet here ---> th-cam.com/video/PeCBS_tYJ3s/w-d-xo.html . Hope that helps 🙂
I'm here :) friend
thank you! I actually witnessed one of these steps, i believe step one and two when i started creating content with my girlfriend for the first time which included a full glam. Def left him guessinggg lol
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See with my boyfriend is he doesn't want to do anything with me anymore just sit around and play video games. And it wasn't like this in the beginning, but now that he is comfortable in our relationship I guess he stopped caring? So many people tell me that he should be doing everything to keep me by his side, but he doesn't. And maybe if I use these tips he will finally find something in him to not want to lose me...
You definitely should have a sit-down with him and tell him how you feel and that he needs to make more of an effort, otherwise this relationship isn't work either of your time and you may have to bounce. Give him 30 days to show you a new track record of effort. If he doesn't, bye bye gamer boy...
I had a feeling things wouldn’t work with me and my bf after he ignored me for over a month so I just deleted every social media and chat I spoke to him it took 4 weeks for me to be happy and now I am 😁😁😁
But what if I try to improve myself and he doesn't like it. Example.. I go get my hair done and and get a good job but he gets mad because he thinks I'm doing it to find someone else
That's a really good question, Kelly! I would say two things here...
1. Any guy that would immediately jump to thinking you're doing this for some other guy has some insecurity issues he needs to deal with. This is something that isn't your fault and is 100% something he needs to work on and correct for the relationship to regain stability and trust.
2. Just make sure if you're choosing to improve yourself (which is awesome), that you're doing it 100% *for you* and not some guy. Sure, it's great if he recognizes your improvements and rejoices in them with you! That usually means you found the right guy who will support you and sees you're making changes for you (and not him!). Guys would honestly prefer that 🙂 Any man who gives you anything other than support needs to be scrutinized as possibly being someone who isn't a match for you.
Hope that helps! -RP
Oh honey that sounds like a red flag
Kelley McKinney My father would get into fights with my mother putting on make up for work. Mind you she was already a Supervisor. Also, mind you he would also do these man-child tantrums with his jealousy sh*t while being third-trimester pregnant. You will live a life of misery, if you don't run and look into yourself and value yourself and know your worth. Do you. Being Happy does not necessarily mean You Have to Be In Relationship.
Dump him
6:20 very important point love yourself ladies do not make him the center of your world there’s other people in our lives that need us remember that 💜❤️
I love hearing this guy talk. I would follow him off a cliff. All the tips are pretty natural, too.
Ryan, Do you know that you are only dating coach i follow in the entire TH-cam? You are sincerely and so resourceful and i am glad we have a coach like you! All the points are noted.
Specially about the self esteem and values, i have been working on it for 2 years. Now i can say i know my worth so well. Thank you so much for reminder me!! ✌👍
I don't have a social circle.. I mostly spend time with my dog and my crossword book 😶 And I kinda need some routines as well.. I can be flexible too though.
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Fantastic information! I will defiantly use these tips from here on out. Thank You Ryan!
This doesn’t really work right now....is there no hope during this pandemic? I can’t change my schedule when there’s nothing to do bc of the stupid virus so how can I do this?
You are AWESOME!
THANK YOU!
GOT ALOT TO WORK ON, it's been a while since I have focused on myself which is probably why I have been single for the past 4... 5years. Makes perfect sense though, all stuff my ex of 8yrs use to tell me he was worried about. So greatly appreciate all the info and I will let you know WHAT happens!!!
He already dumped me three times because what he tells me isn't always confidential because sometimes I vent to other people and it turns out as gossip not my fault
Hey Allison! Sorry to hear about this guy. It's clear that you still have feelings for him, but based on his behavior and actions, he might just not be on board anymore. I really don't advocate people trying to get back with their exes, because once you break up, the trust is completely obliterated. You just can never get back what you had. And when we try to put in that work and do that with someone who may not even me worthy of it, we can get ourselves into all sorts of trouble, not to mention unnecessary pain and suffering.
If a guy is dumping you more than once, you may have not given yourself enough time to heal from the first breakup. After we heal, we come into relationships with a new set of eyes and see things we didn't see before. But, when we're hurting after a breakup, our intuition tells us the only remedy is fixing what went wrong right away and that we need to get that person back, which is the complete opposite of what we actually need. Healing is a 100% solo activity. Your ex will never be able to heal you like you can 🙂
Love them all,these tips are so powerful. Thank you for providing this video ,it's so helpful to watch ! Ryan your doing a great job making the videos you put out. Thank you. It's so interesting to learn more about how to behave and respond to a guy . Thank you! 😊
what if he's bigger fear is losing me and worrying about me being attractive to other guys and decided not to be in a relationship with me because he was hurt before... what do I do
He's insecure.. And will always need "validation" you both can talk about it how to improve that with a specialist or if u r just not that into him so he will be just bothering you
try distancing yourself from other boys
I think that's BS. If he wanted to be with you, he'd be with you. I think he's just handing you a BS excuse. Best to let him go and find someone who knows that he wants to be with you.
@@adinal1958 you maybe right but u also should know that boys can be people who get jealous easily and think of giving up
@@bunnylover6003 Possibly. But that's not the situation I think she's describing. I've been around long enough to understand that the reason of "I'm too afraid to lose you so I won't even chance a relationship with you" either speaks to a level of insecurity that no amount of love from her will fix or he really wasn't that interested in a relationship with her in the first place and that's the excuse he's going with. Either way, my advice is the same. Run, girl, run.