"Man is not what he thinks he is, he is what he hides." Andre' Malraux "A real man will be honest no matter how painful the truth is. A coward hides behind lies and deceit." Unknown "If you're going to be in a relationship, be honest and be faithful. If you can't... be single." Charles Orlando
If I ask the man a question and cant get a straight answer, that is a signal that he is hiding something I need to know and therefore I cannot trust him.
There's a difference between honesty and TMI. Choosing not to turn ourselves inside-out is not lying, withholding, or being deceitful. Everyone needs a certain amount of private space. We shouldn't be expected to share our most embarrassing moments or past SNAFU's with someone we love. How many lovers or intimate details of past sexual histories are private. Except for extremes, such as addictions, criminal history or STD's, the past is passed. Now and forward are what matters.
Hi Carlos, great video, Thank you! My ex introduced me to his mom and close friends within the first week we started dating. I naively thought to myself that it was fast but "cool". No, he needed their approval of me before moving forward...I learned later that he was a total mama's boy. Live and learn. Cheers
There is no reason to hide a single thing (unless it will hurt their feelings) if you are in a committed relationship. If your hiding your phone especially it means you are hiding something that's not good.
He shouldn't hide things that would possibly hurt your feelings , because when the truth does eventually come out you'll be even more hurt that he didn't tell you it's happened to me more than once.
I understand that this is coming from your own experiences but I don't agree all guys are like this. Trust your intuition. If you can't trust the guy you are with move on to someone who you can trust. There are guys out there who are respectful and trustworthy.
How can a guy be in love with you but secretly want to sleep with your friends and/or family members? Are there no men who find porn morally reprehensible and degrading? According to your video, men just want their cake and eat it too
Dear Carlos, i find you the most honest of all the sides on youtube ,and i love all your videos, and the way you speak is so relaxing to listen to .Thanks for all the great advice . yours truly Toulla
I do agree with the comment that you should never snoop through your man's phone. I wouldn't want him snooping through my phone so I would never snoop through his. that said, if his phone is pinging, vibrating or dinging at the same time let's say 10 o'clock at night every night for a week it's going to make a girl suspicious. He needs to be honest about who's contacting him that late at night when he's supposed to be sleeping. And he has no right to be pissed off when you ask him... and I disagree with the dating advice Guru when he says that harmless flirting with other women on his phone is no big deal that's bullshit also naked pictures of other women on his phone is bullshit too. If he's in a committed relationship or he's married he shouldn't have that shit on his phone.
I feel with all my heart that there shouldn't be any secrets when you love someone. That only creates bigger problems in the relationship. Communication is the key to a great relationship. To think of any friends or who ever that is love at all. When you are in love the one you're with should be the only one you desire. Come on now how do you expect to be totally happy. If your mind and desires are elsewhere. When you are together you focus on all the happiness you share together. Includes the love and the passion and don't forget the lust you share. There are so many things more than you ever imagined to share with each other. Just think about it and you will know what I mean. So oooo why would you ruin a beautiful thing with all that crap. Keep in mind when you do you'll find yourself loving the idea of it all. I wish that men could think about what a difference it would makes. 💏💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓😘😘💕💕💕💕🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
You have helped me know that he is not doing anything bad he just hides stuff form his friends for a reason he just does not want someone to take me or him. He tells one person that he trusteds and I trust to and that's my friend. thanks for the help!
I never ever snoop on a boyfriends phone, it totally my code but I stopped years and years ago letting boyfriends snoop through mine because nobody else does. . . I always encourage communication about everything he wants to tell me no matter how dirty or vulgar, it's better to know than not, and deal with it, including his porn
A man that cheats on his wife will always cheat! This won't change with the next person- once a cheater always a cheater! Very sad to not do things the right way- divorce the other person- and then find your mate! 2 families ruined over 2 people that are selfish and stupid. Grass doesn't always look greener on the other side of the fence- I pray for you both- your going to need it !!
Ok so what if your man is going on dating sites while you and him are in a relationship together and he has on his profile that he single and looking for dating and on his Facebook Bio on his timeline he has written on there that he's an easy going guy and he likes to have a good time and he has other women on there that are a collection of beautiful sexy women on there but yet he won't except your friend request because you are his girlfriend but he won't give you a straight answer for why he won't accept it and he doesn't send you a friend request either because he dont want you in his business.
I also think it's asinine that he says you should just think encourage your boyfriend or husband nasty porn interests if it discussed you if it turns your stomach if it is morally offensive to you then break up with him you shouldn't be encouraging that if you disagree with it I call bullshit here
I seen your site, my husband has been accusing me of cheating for the last 2 years. We were in a 30 year marriage. All of a sudden, he comes home and asked for a divorce. He talked to (get this) my sister before he came home. There has been times he has wanted to talk to me, but won't. He is uneasy only when I'm around. I get blamed for nothing at all. I thought everything was fine!!! Wrong! it's the same song and dance every time, he does not respect me or trust me!! never have I given him a reason not to trust me. I took my vows serious, I believe that when you are married, it's death til you part, staying with the one and only him. I never had to "look" else where. But I bet he can't say that!!! Common denominator (my sister) his face lights up when he sees her and they hug alot when I am in the room. or around. She has been known to act like a Caught Fish, let me know something on your site.
What if he is using fake surname on tinder? Is that meaning he's a jerk or player? I met him online two months ago. But disconnected for a month since I knew he's using fake name. I didn't confront with him Coz I don't want to bother asking for fake reply anymore. Tho I still hope that deep inside he's a good person...
So do the same rules apply to a man. If a women hides naked man pix or puts a lock screen on her phone. Or isnt untruthful and lies to him about what she really doing, he cool with that? I dont think so, he would be pissed. Sounds shady, not a relationships I would want for myself.
ok so when the truth comes out its still drama....ill never understand why men lie..we.... no I always tell the truth which gets me in trouble...guess i need to lie too...why not go in his phone if he says hes faithful...he never comes clean...and i do listen....while im mad as hell...but im not judging him just mad cause hes not real with me....just recently found out his ex was 26..i was upset a lil but didn't say nothing....so why do i have to hurt after i listen to him
Thank you. Ive been thru relationships.and learned they them all.to loosen up now and be happier n more relaxed and fun.. .men ain't perfect and so do I. I no longer judge him or punish as long as I'm not Judge Judy lol Now my man today can be whatever he wants to be, we like our freedom. This ain't Heaven where things are made perfect. as long as we happy.and please each other every day..woohoo!! Stay happy ladies,. Lol
I don't want to lose him to ..anyone else and I will object to any commitments that he might make with anyone else. I have an interest in pursuing a commitment for the first time.. in the idea of it...I will hold it against whomever objects to this.
What if you go into his FB friends pages and discover he has put HEARTS/LOVE on their provocative photos? To me, this shows he is 1) flirting 2-Fantasizing or just is not longer interested in YOU. Tell me what it means!!!!
This guy should not be giving relationship advice. He's basically saying it's ok for guys to have no moral compass because that's just the way guys are. Seems like a chauvinistic jerk to me who should try working on raising the bar instead of lowering it.
"Man is not what he thinks he is, he is what he hides."
Andre' Malraux
"A real man will be honest no matter how painful the truth is. A coward hides behind lies and deceit."
Unknown
"If you're going to be in a relationship, be honest and be faithful. If you can't... be single."
Charles Orlando
Julie I will have to check with you about my man
Hiding anything from me is a bad thing...totally bad...IF YOU TRULY LOVE SOMEONE, BEING FAITHFUL IS SO EASY...
CJ R.N. AMEN!
Men lie to spare their own selves the drama, it has nothing to with sparing her feelings.
Vana Phill 😔
where there is deception there is no relationship!
If I ask the man a question and cant get a straight answer, that is a signal that he is hiding something I need to know and therefore I cannot trust him.
One bad relationship, such as with a narcissist, can turn you into an ametur detective.
There's a difference between honesty and TMI. Choosing not to turn ourselves inside-out is not lying, withholding, or being deceitful. Everyone needs a certain amount of private space. We shouldn't be expected to share our most embarrassing moments or past SNAFU's with someone we love. How many lovers or intimate details of past sexual histories are private. Except for extremes, such as addictions, criminal history or STD's, the past is passed. Now and forward are what matters.
Hi Carlos, great video, Thank you! My ex introduced me to his mom and close friends within the first week we started dating. I naively thought to myself that it was fast but "cool". No, he needed their approval of me before moving forward...I learned later that he was a total mama's boy. Live and learn. Cheers
There is no reason to hide a single thing (unless it will hurt their feelings) if you are in a committed relationship. If your hiding your phone especially it means you are hiding something that's not good.
He shouldn't hide things that would possibly hurt your feelings , because when the truth does eventually come out you'll be even more hurt that he didn't tell you it's happened to me more than once.
I understand that this is coming from your own experiences but I don't agree all guys are like this. Trust your intuition. If you can't trust the guy you are with move on to someone who you can trust. There are guys out there who are respectful and trustworthy.
How can a guy be in love with you but secretly want to sleep with your friends and/or family members? Are there no men who find porn morally reprehensible and degrading? According to your video, men just want their cake and eat it too
I don't think so :(
I kinda feel sad about it too.
Collenga S sounds like a video of excuses and telling women to shut the hell up about sneaky ass behaviour
shogun harlem so no woman should ever sleep with you?
It's true men need sex as hormonal response they mostly need comfort from women. Thank you.
I'm much more angry when I am lied to.
Dear Carlos, i find you the most honest of all the sides on youtube ,and i love all your videos, and the way you speak is so relaxing to listen to .Thanks for all the great advice .
yours truly
Toulla
I gather these men do not have God in their lives.
I do agree with the comment that you should never snoop through your man's phone. I wouldn't want him snooping through my phone so I would never snoop through his.
that said, if his phone is pinging, vibrating or dinging at the same time let's say 10 o'clock at night every night for a week it's going to make a girl suspicious. He needs to be honest about who's contacting him that late at night when he's supposed to be sleeping. And he has no right to be pissed off when you ask him...
and I disagree with the dating advice Guru when he says that harmless flirting with other women on his phone is no big deal that's bullshit also naked pictures of other women on his phone is bullshit too. If he's in a committed relationship or he's married he shouldn't have that shit on his phone.
My ex lies about everything.. for no reason..possible sociopath. the truth will always be revealed.
I feel with all my heart that there shouldn't be any secrets when you love someone. That only creates bigger problems in the relationship. Communication is the key to a great relationship. To think of any friends or who ever that is love at all. When you are in love the one you're with should be the only one you desire. Come on now how do you expect to be totally happy. If your mind and desires are elsewhere. When you are together you focus on all the happiness you share together. Includes the love and the passion and don't forget the lust you share. There are so many things more than you ever imagined to share with each other. Just think about it and you will know what I mean. So oooo why would you ruin a beautiful thing with all that crap. Keep in mind when you do you'll find yourself loving the idea of it all. I wish that men could think about what a difference it would makes. 💏💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓😘😘💕💕💕💕🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
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You have helped me know that he is not doing anything bad he just hides stuff form his friends for a reason he just does not want someone to take me or him. He tells one person that he trusteds and I trust to and that's my friend. thanks for the help!
I never ever snoop on a boyfriends phone, it totally my code but I stopped years and years ago letting boyfriends snoop through mine because nobody else does. . . I always encourage communication about everything he wants to tell me no matter how dirty or vulgar, it's better to know than not, and deal with it, including his porn
how can we motivate him to want to be honest even if he knows we won't like it
A man that cheats on his wife will always cheat! This won't change with the next person- once a cheater always a cheater! Very sad to not do things the right way- divorce the other person- and then find your mate! 2 families ruined over 2 people that are selfish and stupid. Grass doesn't always look greener on the other side of the fence- I pray for you both- your going to need it !!
Shane Zellaha highly agreed
Shane Zellaha yes once a cheater always a deceptive person
Ok so what if your man is going on dating sites while you and him are in a relationship together and he has on his profile that he single and looking for dating and on his Facebook Bio on his timeline he has written on there that he's an easy going guy and he likes to have a good time and he has other women on there that are a collection of beautiful sexy women on there but yet he won't except your friend request because you are his girlfriend but he won't give you a straight answer for why he won't accept it and he doesn't send you a friend request either because he dont want you in his business.
I also think it's asinine that he says you should just think encourage your boyfriend or husband nasty porn interests if it discussed you if it turns your stomach if it is morally offensive to you then break up with him you shouldn't be encouraging that if you disagree with it I call bullshit here
Thank you, this helped me a lot.
No but he should not lie if a question is asked. If the truth hurts deal with it.
Vana Phill women lie more then men
Sentient Star Experience Mindful
No, women lie BETTER than men!
Absolutely no lies...especially when if one told them be honest I won't judge💙💙💜💙💙
I seen your site, my husband has been accusing me of cheating for the last 2 years. We were in a 30 year marriage. All of a sudden, he comes home and asked for a divorce. He talked to (get this) my sister before he came home. There has been times he has wanted to talk to me, but won't. He is uneasy only when I'm around. I get blamed for nothing at all. I thought everything was fine!!! Wrong! it's the same song and dance every time, he does not respect me or trust me!! never have I given him a reason not to trust me. I took my vows serious, I believe that when you are married, it's death til you part, staying with the one and only him. I never had to "look" else where. But I bet he can't say that!!! Common denominator (my sister) his face lights up when he sees her and they hug alot when I am in the room. or around. She has been known to act like a Caught Fish, let me know something on your site.
Dont know much about this but he has serious trust issues, probably not your fault though.
Very deep .mens world is super deep you have made it so simple to understand.keep the gud work.
What if he is using fake surname on tinder? Is that meaning he's a jerk or player? I met him online two months ago. But disconnected for a month since I knew he's using fake name. I didn't confront with him Coz I don't want to bother asking for fake reply anymore. Tho I still hope that deep inside he's a good person...
So do the same rules apply to a man. If a women hides naked man pix or puts a lock screen on her phone. Or isnt untruthful and lies to him about what she really doing, he cool with that?
I dont think so, he would be pissed. Sounds shady, not a relationships I would want for myself.
ok so when the truth comes out its still drama....ill never understand why men lie..we.... no I always tell the truth which gets me in trouble...guess i need to lie too...why not go in his phone if he says hes faithful...he never comes clean...and i do listen....while im mad as hell...but im not judging him just mad cause hes not real with me....just recently found out his ex was 26..i was upset a lil but didn't say nothing....so why do i have to hurt after i listen to him
ok 10 years and still he doesn't introduce you to his family and changes the subject whenever marriage is mentioned? what do you say to that?
JO JO get out of there. 10 years no family? That's odd.......
T Ruth then there probably dead.
Thank god i finally found your videos!
I need this today
yes I am moving in and looking for someone new.
yes I am moving on.
With all respect your voice is divine.
Thank you. Ive been thru relationships.and learned they them all.to loosen up now and be happier n more relaxed and fun.. .men ain't perfect and so do I. I no longer judge him or punish as long as I'm not Judge Judy lol Now my man today can be whatever he wants to be, we like our freedom. This ain't Heaven where things are made perfect. as long as we happy.and please each other every day..woohoo!! Stay happy ladies,. Lol
I don't want to lose him to ..anyone else and I will object to any commitments that he might make with anyone else. I have an interest in pursuing a commitment for the first time.. in the idea of it...I will hold it against whomever objects to this.
+Suzanne Byars Why not lose him? Is he the only man in the world?
So r you still with that guy
Vana Phill in her life maybe was at time
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Are we talking here about girlfriend/ boyfriend situation? Or is it applicable to a guy who is approaching a girl?
What if you go into his FB friends pages and discover he has put HEARTS/LOVE on their provocative photos? To me, this shows he is 1) flirting 2-Fantasizing or just is not longer interested in YOU. Tell me what it means!!!!
all these reasons u just gaved us is only comes down 2 one thing. self centered. read all those reasons again galls. everything is him him him.
I let my bf watch porn .. I even watch it with him and now he doesn't really like watching it as much anymore .
U 'let' ur boyfriend watch porn? We can't control other people.
Sorry I goofed on 2 words. Iim rushing to do something right now.
oh hes 48 and my daughter is 26 hell yeah i was 😡 upset
lol
This guy should not be giving relationship advice. He's basically saying it's ok for guys to have no moral compass because that's just the way guys are. Seems like a chauvinistic jerk to me who should try working on raising the bar instead of lowering it.
T hanks you
wtf lol
Very cute.