He’s Stringing You Along? Text Him This Now... (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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  • @Pagewithpurpose
    @Pagewithpurpose 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11030

    I'm just tired of the games. Anyone else with me??

    • @latoyacross7061
      @latoyacross7061 7 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      Connie P. Here here!

    • @teewannathequeen
      @teewannathequeen 7 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Same here!

    • @0121-x2j
      @0121-x2j 6 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      make better choices.. easy

    • @thecelticcrone7927
      @thecelticcrone7927 6 ปีที่แล้ว +94

      Connie P. ...Yes!
      So I've Decided That From Now On...I'm THE ONE Who's Playing Them!!!
      I NEVER TXT FIRST
      I AM NEVER JUST 'ALWAYS' AVAILABLE WHENEVER *HE*
      WANTS!!! (lol)
      AND...NO MATTER WHAT..
      I'm Always VERY Blasé About Shit!! So Far..IT'S WORKING..
      LOLOL

    • @debbiewatkins7488
      @debbiewatkins7488 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Connie P. Yep

  • @ONanax
    @ONanax 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3536

    My phone. Take it. I don’t even want it back... just keep me updated 😂

  • @hannahc.3302
    @hannahc.3302 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7714

    Uhhhhhhhgggggg dating is too complicated. Dying alone is starting to look appealing

    • @arizonadreaming4183
      @arizonadreaming4183 5 ปีที่แล้ว +160

      Dont have kids..they grow up and ignore youworse then any man..save your money and have fun...dont do it!!

    • @LiSa-fc5sp
      @LiSa-fc5sp 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      yess..thankyou

    • @anupamarao8799
      @anupamarao8799 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Hannah C. 👏🏻🤘🏻👍🏻😆🤣

    • @itssini4777
      @itssini4777 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      For real though

    • @MissMichSan
      @MissMichSan 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you 😘

  • @bostonb1636
    @bostonb1636 3 ปีที่แล้ว +357

    "You have your reasons, I have my reality" is a GREAT line 💞

    • @powellpowellmark6201
      @powellpowellmark6201 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I can recommend you to this love specialist he helped me restored my ex back to me in less than 24 hours

    • @powellpowellmark6201
      @powellpowellmark6201 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      ➕13202284336⏭⏭⏭⏭⏭⏭

    • @powellpowellmark6201
      @powellpowellmark6201 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      WhatsApp him.

    • @powellpowellmark6201
      @powellpowellmark6201 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      ➕13202284336⏭⏭⏭⏭⏭⏭

    • @melissaforeman5646
      @melissaforeman5646 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Also works well in the workplace when supervisors fail to direct appropriately, forcing the team dynamics out of balance.

  • @r4tgl
    @r4tgl 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1921

    No one is THAT busy. They make time. We chase what we value.

    • @yanasimitchiyska9289
      @yanasimitchiyska9289 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      👏👏👏

    • @pamelavance648
      @pamelavance648 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Absolutely

    • @ChocoParfaitFra
      @ChocoParfaitFra 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      You’re right
      My ex used to say he was too busy to have a conversation on the phone lol
      I believed him at the beginning but then I kept telling myself that no one is that busy, unless you’re working as a doctor and you keep having emergencies at the hospital lol

    • @chibby8903
      @chibby8903 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      facts

    • @tamikadurant294
      @tamikadurant294 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Big Facts! Plus that sounds like he was ghosting her

  • @blmartin500
    @blmartin500 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3669

    I'm actually really impressed with this guy. His advice is spot on, and his explanations of the people's psychology behind the texts makes perfect sense.

    • @ej4672
      @ej4672 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Not to mention he references the Twilight Zone

    • @ariaflame-au
      @ariaflame-au 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Mark Santiago sounds like for sad people who can’t accept a no and that they aren’t wanted any more.

    • @theconfusedvampire
      @theconfusedvampire 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I just can't get over how awesome his impression of Rod Serling was....

    • @southernkatrina8161
      @southernkatrina8161 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Except he missed the shit testing. The woman gave him a specific thing to do to see if had the intent to catch up, and he decided he didn't want to do as he was asked. Power game.

    • @QUARTERMASTEREMI6
      @QUARTERMASTEREMI6 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ej4672I was gonna say the same thing! 😅

  • @racheljones9644
    @racheljones9644 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1706

    "respond to your reality, not his reasons" so wise! I need this guy to be my friend.

    • @angeloflourdes1235
      @angeloflourdes1235 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Rachel Knows I need to shrink him and put him in my pocket

    • @nereidamiranda5903
      @nereidamiranda5903 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Mara L for Your information my self esteem is good & my IQ also . Don't judge a person by it's book cover 👌✌

    • @nereidamiranda5903
      @nereidamiranda5903 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @Mara L I'm not going to entertain you . So have a good day!

    • @izzymckey457
      @izzymckey457 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Mara L shuusshh you troll! Just spread the love alright? New Years are coming! Have a blessed day buddy :)

    • @izzymckey457
      @izzymckey457 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @Mara L yikes, God bless you.

  • @JoseGarcia-im4vz
    @JoseGarcia-im4vz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +281

    This is true ladies . Know when a guy is really interested in you . They'll give you their time even if "they are busy" . If they really like you or are interested, they'll make time . Know your worth ! 👍

    • @barbaraula6484
      @barbaraula6484 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I am allergic to MEN🤣🤣😭😭🤣🤣😂

    • @b.k.r.doggielover5449
      @b.k.r.doggielover5449 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Thank you for your comment. I'm older, and still learning.

    • @panthercat38
      @panthercat38 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      True story, there is a whole world of people that are upset of you are monopolizing his time...

    • @donnaroberts4031
      @donnaroberts4031 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      That is so true, just was a relationship he never had time for me, I always. Went out of my way for him , he was always laid back. If I wanted to spend time with him he would I'm going to bed, and I would the same to him and say in the end how's if feel. This relationship is done he walked and I'm still having it go threw my head what I did wrong.

    • @JB-jp9gp
      @JB-jp9gp 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yap

  • @Peaka01
    @Peaka01 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1745

    If you feel like you’re being played, you probably are. Stay away!

    • @classic-1593
      @classic-1593 4 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Do not meet men from New Jersey!!

    • @jacqulynthompson3575
      @jacqulynthompson3575 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Thanks I needed that message

    • @classic-1593
      @classic-1593 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@jacqulynthompson3575 - the one I met was scandalous always begging for money,!!!?!

    • @cjbrown8245
      @cjbrown8245 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      True

    • @evamcinnis7992
      @evamcinnis7992 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thier narcissis

  • @breepamella
    @breepamella 7 ปีที่แล้ว +596

    How lucky she is to have you as her friend

  • @bombervity3458
    @bombervity3458 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2577

    Do you genuinely want to go on a date with a guy that only changed his behaviour once you called him out for it? I had a man spend $1,000 on a plane ticket to come see me because I joked that I wanted to see him or I'd be sad. Another dude braved 2 hours in a snowstorm using public transit because his phone wasn't sending messages and he didn't want to stand me up. Those are the men I'd like to date, I'm not into Grandpa.

    • @powerpuffranger9384
      @powerpuffranger9384 7 ปีที่แล้ว +355

      bombervity you must be BOMB as fuck for men to do that for you

    • @SunKissedBlissed
      @SunKissedBlissed 7 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      powerpuff ranger Lol word!

    • @ratherbenapping10
      @ratherbenapping10 7 ปีที่แล้ว +203

      bombervity what??? How are you getting these types of men? I thought they didn't exist!

    • @jlivb
      @jlivb 7 ปีที่แล้ว +83

      bombervity shere👏🏽do👏🏽u👏🏽find👏🏽these👏🏽guys👏🏽😭😭🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @marisamunoz2097
      @marisamunoz2097 7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      bombervity inspired

  • @localrachel
    @localrachel 4 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    How this works:
    1) Be welcoming and open and approachable. Start a conversation if you'd like to. Be warm.
    2) Allow him to earn your subsequent attention. Don't play games. Trust your gut. Don't pander. Don't give more thought/energy/investment than you receive. Don't chase. Show appreciation. Take notice. Be congruent. Be warm.
    3) Lean back and invest in yourself and other relationships. Do things that feel good. Trust yourself. Value yourself. Know your worth. Laugh. Have fun.
    4) Allow him to do the work to woo you and learn how to make you happy and feeling good. Know that he needs space to form attraction and desire for you. Know that space is essential for reflection and growth. Give him both boundaries and freedom. Do not promise him anything. Your loyalty must be earned and must always be earned. Do not contract yourself to him but allow him to earn you for as long as you want him in your life.
    Men do not value what they do not earn. They do not treasure what they look at or engage with too frequently. Always be a valuable diamond he strives to keep safe.
    I hope this helps you.

    • @prerana.shenoy
      @prerana.shenoy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That's beautiful

    • @beseez
      @beseez 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Interesting and designed.
      I'm hesitant on the aspect he must continually have to earn.....
      But, in my head I read it as distrust. Rather than earning because they live and love to see you proud of them.
      Mutual glow.

    • @Jess-c8i
      @Jess-c8i 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      2:16

  • @gabbyaboutbooks
    @gabbyaboutbooks 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1047

    respond to your reality not his reasons. deep.

    • @MsKofi1
      @MsKofi1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Gabby Montano That was profound, to say the very least! ;)

    • @mamamarianovits9029
      @mamamarianovits9029 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Gabby Montano ,
      so true...so deep.

    • @mehruba_haque
      @mehruba_haque 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Gabby Montano True!

    • @melissasherriff1378
      @melissasherriff1378 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Loved that...need to make a reminder of that

    • @mike.electricrevolutionstore
      @mike.electricrevolutionstore 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@melissasherriff1378 Hi Melissa , it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??

  • @octoberly_
    @octoberly_ 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1245

    Texting has simultaneously improved and ruined human interaction

    • @projektbrot
      @projektbrot 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Berly • D so true. But then again, I found the love of my life on tinder ;) 3 years going strong. Love him to pieces. And wedding also is planned.

    • @MissHannah2036
      @MissHannah2036 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Agree it’s a good and a bad thing. Makes it so much easier for guys to flake out...

    • @barbarariley3488
      @barbarariley3488 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Did you ever think we would live in a day that we needed a coach telling us the best way to talk to men. Wonder how Granny got her man.

    • @redfather5342
      @redfather5342 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@projektbrot did you plan your divorce yet

    • @tiana8249
      @tiana8249 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@redfather5342 no need to be so mean

  • @SimpleBrownEyedGirl
    @SimpleBrownEyedGirl 7 ปีที่แล้ว +883

    I wish you were my best friend...you could have saved me from a lot of crap...

  • @logansrun161
    @logansrun161 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    He didn't respond at all when she asked him for a date, then sent an asinine emoji of an old guy days later. Am I the only one thinking that sort of rude and disrespectful behavior is a huge red flag??

    • @MBAinternetmktg
      @MBAinternetmktg 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes, huge red flag. This kind of guy is usually skilled at being self-effacing to manipulate women.

    • @teresukisalsabachata8537
      @teresukisalsabachata8537 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are right, red flag🟥

    • @lornam4596
      @lornam4596 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yip, he'll be rude and disrespectful later. He only asked her out later to have the upper hand again.

  • @roisinnighabhann9752
    @roisinnighabhann9752 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2260

    I need to re-watch this every week

  • @hipnhappenin
    @hipnhappenin 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3286

    I think he should do more of these example text messages. This was amazing

    • @SunMoonShadow
      @SunMoonShadow 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @Ohai 🌸Agree. Even though Matthew gives straightforward verbal examples, I struggle with stand alone verbal explainations trying to "see" the example in practical ways in my imagination. The visual cues with the explain is perfect. The humor is bonus and will help info stick⭐

    • @tiffanybluetarot
      @tiffanybluetarot 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      kii Ora me too! I need concrete examples. (I’m thinking he wants us to buy his books for those tho... lol)

    • @ilovedannie
      @ilovedannie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He just changed my whole life now I see why my the guy stopped messaging with me 😳

    • @gigi9301
      @gigi9301 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I would not have met that jack for a drink No Way. Don't Even Try Coffee shit date on me. Won't work. No thanks. I can make better free coffee at home without having to get dressed up and interviewed. PASS.

    • @shondalesstudio
      @shondalesstudio 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      2022. Totally live this!

  • @Madeleine-
    @Madeleine- 7 ปีที่แล้ว +577

    Neither a man nor woman should put up with games, bullshit or being undervalued. I'm a giver by nature but lately I just said "ENOUGH." I broke the pattern with the last guy who was lusting after me 100% but emotionally didn't give a damn. I was the only one who was emotionally involved, the only one giving, and I told him: "Your words and promises are meaningless if they're not supported by actions. I don't deserve to be undervalued. Goodbye and good luck."

    • @milllzz05
      @milllzz05 7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Madeleine Alba 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

    • @MsChantae
      @MsChantae 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Boom!

    • @arckocsog253
      @arckocsog253 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Did he disappear after that?

    • @SirDjss
      @SirDjss 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Dont stop give because there are to few woman that gives only takes. Like you i have always bee the one giving and not reciving back. Just remember that its about give and take.

    • @veero8130
      @veero8130 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Omg your words just gave me goosebumps!
      I said almost the exact same thing to my last bf and moved on. He was SO shocked about that and didn't want to understand (because apparently after breakup i was the one not giving a shit and i was the one not having feelings for him, but he was just talking and talking all the time with no action to support his words.) crazy :D i feel kind of good not being the only one

  • @daniellebellus
    @daniellebellus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +179

    If it weren’t for this video, I never would have dated my husband. This blew my mind and changed the entire dating game for me. Thanks Matthew

  • @missari05
    @missari05 4 ปีที่แล้ว +669

    It’s simple in my eyes. If you feel someone is stringing you along, just stop all interaction whether it be cold turkey or slowly drips away to nothing. It’s not hard when you love yourself and put yourself first. Don’t pursue, don’t push conversation and let him drift away. Make room for someone who is not a stringer. Life is too short and time is too precious to even think of entertaining something or someone who’s not serving you! Self love, self care, first. The rest will be so free and easy when you let go and watch the natural way life unfolds.

    • @bobbyhill8486
      @bobbyhill8486 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      damn.. this is all so true. self love is key.

    • @freshstrt3140
      @freshstrt3140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Easily said when you're drop-dead
      gorgeous 🥰💓😘💝

    • @freshstrt3140
      @freshstrt3140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Thank you thank you thank you for saying this

    • @Angelgurl1455
      @Angelgurl1455 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Girl this is the TRUTH!!!

    • @brittaniwingate8090
      @brittaniwingate8090 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Perfect Answer 🤩

  • @wesercole
    @wesercole 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4007

    Dude after that grandpa emoji I would've left him on read, deleted the conversation and deleted his number. Freaking time waster

    • @DreamBeatsBakery
      @DreamBeatsBakery 7 ปีที่แล้ว +230

      Sharon Vanguard attraction is not a choice. There is a person behind those messages whom she met but you haven't.

    • @June-qw4mc
      @June-qw4mc 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      same

    • @natsumiokizawa6044
      @natsumiokizawa6044 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      A girl has no name Exactly

    • @maddyG7414
      @maddyG7414 7 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      A girl has no name K but to be fair...her messages were kind of intense. If a guy did that I'd probably be less attracted to him as well. Not saying he isn't a time waster I just think you can't blame people for not being into a super eager person.

    • @wesercole
      @wesercole 7 ปีที่แล้ว +111

      Maddy Harvey see that's the main mistake of women, we tend to give guys excuses for everything they do. But the truth is they don't care bout us, if they did you can totally see it. But an emoji? Really? Seems to me like a way of saying "hope you get my point that I'm not interested into talking to you"

  • @LaurieeeRose
    @LaurieeeRose 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1459

    Do more text scenarios like this!!! So interesting and useful

    • @zimjun7
      @zimjun7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@goychen5212 YES!!! These are fun and "veddy interestin!!!"

    • @zimjun7
      @zimjun7 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes!! I love these, too!

    • @LauDor08
      @LauDor08 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same. I like when he breaks stuff down step by step.

    • @DanielMendoza-su3ei
      @DanielMendoza-su3ei ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thank you! 🙏

    • @biancasavage2625
      @biancasavage2625 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@DanielMendoza-su3ei lol

  • @sonyastamey3380
    @sonyastamey3380 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    This is exactly what I've been doing! Time to stop and create different energy and get the love I deserve, not just crumbs!!

    • @lunalu552
      @lunalu552 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Canceling plans excuse generator:
      Choose an intro + choose a scapegoat + choose a delay
      The best advice should be a reality check: "You're just on it his harem of phone contacts list. He doesn't give a f*ck about you. You're just there in case all his other 23 alternatives reject him and he would still prefer go for a walk with his dog. If he's so horny his balls might explode he might call you to take a dump". *Block and delete*

    • @DanielMendoza-su3ei
      @DanielMendoza-su3ei ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thanks! 🙏

  • @marthamumbi3212
    @marthamumbi3212 5 ปีที่แล้ว +389

    Respond to your reality not his reasons... this hit me hard

    • @natalyaorlando1407
      @natalyaorlando1407 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Right!? I love it, more females need to see this.

  • @toscadonna
    @toscadonna 7 ปีที่แล้ว +735

    Block, delete, next.

    • @yousralahrach8688
      @yousralahrach8688 7 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      tosca donna best comment ever LOL

    • @sm-im5fw
      @sm-im5fw 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yasss sister

    • @michelleshin3088
      @michelleshin3088 6 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Single forever

    • @redfather5342
      @redfather5342 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hit it quit it then forget it if she text me I ain't with it

    • @gogoogaga8136
      @gogoogaga8136 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      tosca donna thank u, next

  • @kernow9324
    @kernow9324 4 ปีที่แล้ว +205

    "Low investment text". I now realise I've been sent quite a few of those. Thanks Matt.

  • @rorosung1026
    @rorosung1026 4 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I used to date someone like that, he would leave me on read then give me a bunch of excuses that he's working all the damn time, ignore my messages for 3 or 4 days then cb like nothing happened .. After crying for several days and deleting his number few times, I deleted his number for the last time and our conversations as well and ignored his ass when he came back, met someone a month later and now we've been together for over a year.. Plz ladies don't settle down for guys like this

  • @xoxo3896
    @xoxo3896 6 ปีที่แล้ว +229

    I see a lot of comments about people being confused and not knowing how to respond and play 'games' anymore, but here's the thing; if you have high standards and make an amazing life for YOU, then this response would come naturally. Then you wouldnt even need assholes like this and you can just move on because you didnt lose anything! You deserve the world girls!

    • @redfather5342
      @redfather5342 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      xoxo ya sure good luck with that

    • @jofriedman4528
      @jofriedman4528 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      xoxo - totally!!

  • @MissingHarmony
    @MissingHarmony 6 ปีที่แล้ว +885

    I honestly giggled when he sent the grandpa emoji... what a dickish, but hilarious reply.

    • @Peachiiiiiii
      @Peachiiiiiii 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sham Of God me too!! Haha

    • @TiffTheTyrant
      @TiffTheTyrant 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same I can’t stop laughing 😂

    • @supreetkumar7604
      @supreetkumar7604 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Stop calling dickish. It makes all people with dick are rude. STOP it.

    • @tweetybird11211
      @tweetybird11211 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He send grandpa because she said you have grandpa ish texting skills. His excuse for not texting sooner? Sounds obnoxious

  • @TASconfidential
    @TASconfidential 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1335

    If she was smart, she would have done the following:
    1.) waited a week before texting back
    2.) text him back with a grandma emoji
    3.)block him
    4.) ghost him into obscurity

    • @GeetaSharma-jd9sr
      @GeetaSharma-jd9sr 5 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      LoL, 😂

    • @TASconfidential
      @TASconfidential 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Mara L if you’re single, and get ghosted. I totally understand why:
      1.) you’re petty as fuck
      2.) you’re a smart ass
      3.) you focus on minutia instead of substance
      4.) you also resort to juvenile name calling.
      Feel free double-check my numbers on this comment as well 😘

    • @F-J.
      @F-J. 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Reflect

    • @dianalamborghini8818
      @dianalamborghini8818 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Lol 😂😂😂 grandma emoji

    • @rennyrules98
      @rennyrules98 4 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      But she actually liked him and wanted to see him again

  • @bgazzar
    @bgazzar 4 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    "Respond to his reality, not his reasons." Good line and love the Twilight Zone theme.

    • @mike.electricrevolutionstore
      @mike.electricrevolutionstore 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Brenda, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
      Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture, it can brighten up the most darkest atmosphere of any man’s world😉

  • @kissablestyles
    @kissablestyles 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1350

    Literally I wish I had a book of texts to write ready at hand it would be amazing. Matthew is so educational 🙏🏼

    • @lorigthefirst
      @lorigthefirst 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      kissablestyles I know, right!??

    • @ThingsILikke
      @ThingsILikke 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      kissablestyles i agree thats a great idea

    • @TheSamttatze
      @TheSamttatze 7 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      he has a book that s called "how to talk to men" (i think) there are a lot of those examples in it. i really enjoyed reading it

    • @birdeyes200
      @birdeyes200 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Matthew Hussey you are amazing. Spot on!

    • @StarLordGroupie
      @StarLordGroupie 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Matthew Hussey don't you feel bad that these girls with cognitive dissonance are acting like victims on high-horses when they're stringing countless guys along all at one time? Maybe you should focus on pre-teen girls before they become hypocritical sociopaths? Guys who don't respect a lot have careers and hobbies.

  • @luciadiazrobles7122
    @luciadiazrobles7122 5 ปีที่แล้ว +634

    I wish I had a friend like Matthew.. I’d just hand him over my phone and relax 😄

    • @keithswatermelonfamily7420
      @keithswatermelonfamily7420 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I do >:)

    • @freshstrt3140
      @freshstrt3140 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Right??!?

    • @zanielasnick5316
      @zanielasnick5316 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      And wait for your marriage date without worries😀

    • @davidhibbs3396
      @davidhibbs3396 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      But then we wouldn't be communicating and getting to know the you-you. Don't get me wrong, I would totally do the same due to social inability. But then again it'll only take 5 minutes actually speaking to each other that the deception is usually obvious.speach patterns are individual to an extreme even with accents. ...okay. I have been caught doing this. ...it shows more intelligence to learn from other's mistakes.

    • @luciadiazrobles7122
      @luciadiazrobles7122 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@davidhibbs3396 Maybe we need an ear piece on the actual date to receive instant phrases, until we get the gist of it.. just kidding, but it’s a nice dream tho 😄

  • @tracydavis1688
    @tracydavis1688 7 ปีที่แล้ว +731

    That grandpa emoji killed me😂 #smartass

    • @cbreeze1226
      @cbreeze1226 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Met many like that guy :-/

    • @dalenetstephanus9871
      @dalenetstephanus9871 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      I died

    • @TrazenaRoba
      @TrazenaRoba 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Hillariously disturbing xD

    • @lovelybones6875
      @lovelybones6875 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Lol he most likely is a cancer or Scorpio they play head games 😂 i was laughing so hard when he sent her that shit lmao

    • @numbereight886
      @numbereight886 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Traciee Alexanderia - He's a straight up player. He doesn't want her, likely her body.

  • @girt9178
    @girt9178 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    "you have your reasons, I have my reality.." matthew thank you so much for that... that along with all the things my mother has taught me will help me so much with relationships in the future!

  • @knoblauch9202
    @knoblauch9202 4 ปีที่แล้ว +119

    I'm watching this while a guy is waiting for my reply to his half-assed texts and Matthew is literally saving my life right now. 7 minutes ago I would've reacted completely differently

    • @SuchAClassicGirl-dx2ip
      @SuchAClassicGirl-dx2ip 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Ditto. Just responded with “all good. Enjoy your weekend!”

    • @julys4307
      @julys4307 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Ingreso how did it go ?

    • @SuchAClassicGirl-dx2ip
      @SuchAClassicGirl-dx2ip 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@julys4307 I can’t reply for anyone else but mine worked like a charm within about 10 minutes!

    • @julys4307
      @julys4307 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@SuchAClassicGirl-dx2ip awesome!!

  • @bobjones2187
    @bobjones2187 5 ปีที่แล้ว +682

    Seeing how distraught women are with men is confusing to me as a man who knows how distraught men are with women. Maybe we should just be honest with each other?

    • @ChamStar625
      @ChamStar625 5 ปีที่แล้ว +89

      Bob Jones If only it we're that simple. Most folks aren't even honest with themselves .

    • @marah3298
      @marah3298 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I wish

    • @weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006
      @weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Honestly, honesty saves so much time.

    • @Diasilva
      @Diasilva 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Because men want a woman who cares but gives them space and if you don't have a good balance he sees you as uninterested or clingy. You're testing their reactions to you that's why you can't be honest. Men may judge you

    • @ur_friendlyneighborhoodcommie
      @ur_friendlyneighborhoodcommie 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Diasilva stupidest thing I've ever heard

  • @Alex-ko9ho
    @Alex-ko9ho 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1015

    Jeezus! Why do I always see his videos after I've done something stupid?

    • @artemisthehuntress1076
      @artemisthehuntress1076 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Right?. ....I sent a text just last night. If I saw this vidoo earlier I would've composed the text differently. But it's cool....this guy claimed to be Interesteda few months ago...he went from calling and texting everyday....to texting only "good morning" once a week....nothing more. He would contact me to make plans and then disappear for almost 2 weeks! Then pop back up with a normal "Hello there"...no explanation or apology...I had enough and told him I was tired of his empty promises and my time is better spent with people who knew what they want. Obviously he didn't. I asked him not to contact me anymore. He simply replied "Ok if that's how you feel"....and that was that. I had the feeling he was stringing me along for a while now....but I'm done with that. I deserve better. Moving on

    • @ninalee637
      @ninalee637 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      😆

    • @ashathornton2867
      @ashathornton2867 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Best comment lol

    • @kabirsalman151
      @kabirsalman151 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Contact this guy for problems such as hacking emails, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, note changes, deleting criminal records, credit and debit refill, reloading insurance documents, lost or lost file recovery, background check of people and organizations Monitor your spouse's activities regarding the phone and social media and contact him at BESTAPPSHACKERS@GMAIL.COM or text him on WhatsApp ‪+1 (602) 609‑4730‬...

    • @ishtar8725
      @ishtar8725 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      What has Jesus to do with it?

  • @31Alden
    @31Alden 4 ปีที่แล้ว +45

    I had a guy tell me to make it “short and sweet” and immediately turned victim when I responded, “Another time then.”
    Here’s the deal: NO ONE tells me to make it short and sweet and receives a pass from this woman. Done.

  • @1kmilez
    @1kmilez 6 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    "respond to your reality, NOT to his reasons" 😣oh yes straight to the heart

  • @oh-oh8354
    @oh-oh8354 4 ปีที่แล้ว +187

    This whole thing about being nice and polite but distant at the same time works miraculously!! Thank you, Matthew!!

  • @Handleisnotavailable1
    @Handleisnotavailable1 6 ปีที่แล้ว +293

    When he uncovers the grandpa emoji I died 😭😂😭😂😂😂 This guy is brilliant. Thank you for managing such mortifying topics with humor and creativity 🙌🏽

    • @westcoastbred7745
      @westcoastbred7745 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Omg I died😩💀💀🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤡👎🏼

    • @phenomenalwomanlives
      @phenomenalwomanlives 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Darn real! He honestly has a gift! I love giving credit where credit is due.
      Genius- and perfect production quality.:)

    • @crownedmelaninqueen
      @crownedmelaninqueen 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Rebecca F Me too I was like no he didn’t !!!!!

    • @mstwilight1612
      @mstwilight1612 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@TheLadykryptoniteso true. The guy is a filthy manipulator

  • @MB-qx9vn
    @MB-qx9vn ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Damn, you really hit the nail on the head. I’ve been with a low motivated boyfriend who doesn’t inspire me. Never comes up with date ideas. Always an excuse.
    It’s time to cut the cord.

  • @rhymediva
    @rhymediva 7 ปีที่แล้ว +596

    Not responding till Friday? Ain't nobody got time for that. #Who dis?

    • @reneeb5261
      @reneeb5261 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Dee Lewis 😂😂😂

    • @actualfactualwoman2199
      @actualfactualwoman2199 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Haha 🤣👍🏼

    • @gia5463
      @gia5463 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lol you funny fucker

    • @Renae12234
      @Renae12234 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😂😂😂😂😂😂 I would do the same

    • @KT12346
      @KT12346 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      YYYAAAAASSSSS 👏🏻👏🏻😂

  • @ayzcris
    @ayzcris 4 ปีที่แล้ว +197

    “You have your reasons, i have my reality “ yesss👏👏👏

  • @happybee5720
    @happybee5720 7 ปีที่แล้ว +665

    "Grandpa Emoji...." This is when I died 😂

    • @cryora
      @cryora 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He sounds like a freak.

    • @almasdancing
      @almasdancing 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hahaha! So funny. He did send it on purpose because she had referred to his slow replying as grandpaesque. That was an injury to his childish ego. So when he checked into her availability he wanted to make sure if she was still ready for the same type of grandpa lol. I'd say he was a man with a huge experience on the feminine emotional frailty and its propensity to victimhood as a result; an emotional predator type that needs human flesh to cherish as narcissistic supply to feel complete for a limited amount of time. Hahaha! I've been listening to and reading Sam Vaknin's musings a lot lately.

    • @sabinegrella5943
      @sabinegrella5943 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      It was funny as hell

    • @nicolewilkin9499
      @nicolewilkin9499 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah I died too so funny 😂

    • @Pamela_Lopezs
      @Pamela_Lopezs 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      He's an idiot

  • @naydrasnowy
    @naydrasnowy 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    This man knows exactly what he's talking about. I'm learning a lot!

  • @Mai_Tehey
    @Mai_Tehey 6 ปีที่แล้ว +170

    “respond to your reality, not to his reasons “ wow.. that’s what i exactly need to hear right now.. thank u Matt 😘

  • @trishachasteen7079
    @trishachasteen7079 5 ปีที่แล้ว +116

    I gave up on relationships and I'm in a relationship with myself. If he wants me great if not okay whatever. I don't care anymore

  • @SunlessPeriwinkle
    @SunlessPeriwinkle 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1346

    "and u wanna know what he send..?"
    *Flips the page*
    ".... Grandpa emoji"

    • @LuciaBrezianska
      @LuciaBrezianska 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      i died :D

    • @lounyx2902
      @lounyx2902 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      So funny 😂

    • @imxn1000
      @imxn1000 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      😂😂😂😂 Lmaooo hes so dramatic fgs loool love him

    • @Happymom50
      @Happymom50 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hilarious! I’m dying over here laughing!

    • @corgisrule21
      @corgisrule21 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      liberate my mind. ....

  • @pearlsr1880
    @pearlsr1880 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    I've never heard who this Mathew Hussey is but everything he says is right. You have to see excuses immediately. It's really simple. If a guy or girl likes you, he'll text all the time. If he or she is not into you, he won't text. Simple. No excuses.

    • @simontmn
      @simontmn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      That's not 100% right, but if they are into you they'll make a *proactive* effort to explain why they are/will be largely incommunicado - "I'm being deployed" "I'll be on stage at the conference" "Microsoft screwed up my PC again" :) The last one happened to me recently, so I installed Whatsapp to be able to keep sending/receiving texts to my lovely gf.

  • @darkmoonmandala
    @darkmoonmandala 6 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    ‘Respond to your reality, not to his reasons’. I love you, Mathew. 🙏🏻😘

  • @Gigi-rg7ge
    @Gigi-rg7ge 7 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    I CRACKED UP AROUND 2:45 WITH THE SUDDEN DRAMATIC PLOT OF THE GRANDPA EMOJI TEXT 😂😂 I LOVE HOW SOFTLY HE SAID, "a grandpa emoji". SO PRECIOUSLY AMUSING OMG

  • @silje93
    @silje93 6 ปีที่แล้ว +459

    I keep coming back to this video just because it’s so friggin hilarious 😂 Please more TWILIGHT PHONE!!

  • @sheilahamilton9088
    @sheilahamilton9088 2 ปีที่แล้ว +55

    Why can’t we just love each other and drop all the mind games ☠️

    • @DanielMendoza-su3ei
      @DanielMendoza-su3ei ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thanks! 🙏

  • @Amysbiblereads
    @Amysbiblereads 5 ปีที่แล้ว +438

    Him texting “all good! Have a great week”
    Me: *shouts* THATS SAVAGE 😂

    • @Nina-jc3be
      @Nina-jc3be 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It is savage lmao 😂😂😂

    • @stephanieanne9760
      @stephanieanne9760 4 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I fucking worked though 😄😄😄😄

    • @mariapazmartinez4862
      @mariapazmartinez4862 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @wolfgirl-tf1eo
      @wolfgirl-tf1eo 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      ugh i did this and he hasnt responded :( and he was super nice and a gentle man and now im scared should i double text and say 'good morning' ?

    • @marishkaspirit
      @marishkaspirit 4 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@wolfgirl-tf1eo no. No amount of double texting will make him interested. If he's not, you can stay on your head and nothing will change. The ball is in his court now. If he doesn't take it it really means he's not interested enough - no guy who likes you would risk losing you in such a silly matter. Besides double texting will make you seem desperate and that's not attractive to anyone. He needs to invest his part in the relationship. The question is why do you still want to be with a guy who doesn't care about you or not put any effort? Because he's a "nice guy"? Really? There are plenty of nice guys out there who would treat you better. Have some confidence in yourself as a woman. If you don't value yourself, don't expect others to do that. If you let others stomp all over you, you'll never find respect, attractiveness and love. You did your part. Now wait for his turn have patience. If he's not replying, you will have his answer and you can move on knowing that you did your all.

  • @dalysoriano5843
    @dalysoriano5843 7 ปีที่แล้ว +228

    LMAO I can't believe she invited him out after his slow response...

    • @Christina-yh2ss
      @Christina-yh2ss 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      TH-cam

    • @Christina-yh2ss
      @Christina-yh2ss 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      U

    • @Christina-yh2ss
      @Christina-yh2ss 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Q

    • @cordeliachase601
      @cordeliachase601 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It’s called desperation. I felt pathetic FOR HER! Maybe in high school this is understandable, but clearly she’s not bc she can drink and the guy in this video is older too. The girls a total loser and accepted a date with a dick who is just going to give her the run around again. She messed up big time.

  • @sz7689
    @sz7689 5 ปีที่แล้ว +401

    I'm too old for these games. no thanks, would rather stay single and happy.

    • @lepetitchat123
      @lepetitchat123 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'd just feel empty after playing all these mind games. Is it all there is to dating?

    • @PursueYou_SpiritualBadass
      @PursueYou_SpiritualBadass 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Death to the CCP my take on it is games are meant to be played. So play games but don’t expect to not get played! The foundation of all our external relationships is first how we treat ourselves. We attract people for a reason. When you don’t play ego mind games and are just authentic you will attract the same back.

    • @trinijoyl1720
      @trinijoyl1720 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Theres no happiness being SINGLE

    • @annc7739
      @annc7739 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@trinijoyl1720 No happiness in dating and no happiness in being single. 😭

    • @Barbara-dt3zq
      @Barbara-dt3zq 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lol we want to get married

  • @lamuel4004
    @lamuel4004 4 ปีที่แล้ว +150

    She is the backup weekend girl

    • @cjbrown8245
      @cjbrown8245 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      My thoughts too

    • @samtonge3403
      @samtonge3403 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      What was the upside down face about.

    • @samtonge3403
      @samtonge3403 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @lou davey i dont have much money could u recommend a prise.

    • @hjcip3934
      @hjcip3934 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Back up WEEKDAY girl.

  • @iamsupertac
    @iamsupertac 6 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Perfect timing for me to find this video. Two takeaways that hit home:
    He has his reasons. I have my reality.
    My new favorite text reply: “It’s all good. :-) Have a great week!”

  • @sasakiumiquema9608
    @sasakiumiquema9608 7 ปีที่แล้ว +462

    Critical analysis, very well done
    *applause*

    • @JT-rn7ll
      @JT-rn7ll 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sasaki Umiquema i love how he talks woman. I go to this conversation with my girlfriends and we figure how to reply like crazy. Thanks matthew for this :) i appreciate him and steve harvey for sharing male perspective

  • @telkaschmidt3276
    @telkaschmidt3276 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I was in a similar situation and used the “all good!” response and it worked perfectly. The guy immediately started putting more effort into trying to see me

  • @aphroditegoddess2072
    @aphroditegoddess2072 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Matthew is really good with advice for us women and his videos. I can’t wait for the next video. Matthew knows what a women is worth and our values. Thankyou Matthew

  • @DMills-un1tl
    @DMills-un1tl 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    You're funny and practical. Have been practicing this for the past 6 years. I now have ZERO dating life but LOADS of peace.

  • @CeaHpx3
    @CeaHpx3 7 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    2:32
    "do you wanna know what he sent"
    *dramatic pause *
    "....grandpa emoji."
    I'm dying 😂😂😂

    • @addy1285
      @addy1285 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I actually cried.😂😂

  • @KyrstOak
    @KyrstOak 6 ปีที่แล้ว +157

    If anyone didn't bother texting me back for days I'd drop them quick-smart. If they aren't interested, they aren't worth it. Now if they texted me back later that same day, it's fine 'cause their phone may have ran out of power and needed charging.

    • @louveblancheomega799
      @louveblancheomega799 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Sun Jara : And can be busy too. But days later, especially if you only get to know the person...Ugh. Doesn't feel that respectful, indeed.

  • @RoyalTeaNation
    @RoyalTeaNation ปีที่แล้ว +2

    He would have been blocked. Quickly! This works great for men who are emotionally unavailable. Run ladies ❤

  • @jamie9lynn1
    @jamie9lynn1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +770

    I'd love to hand you my phone.

    • @lj8816
      @lj8816 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      jamie9lynn1
      👀

    • @TwinSquidzLLC
      @TwinSquidzLLC 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      jamie9lynn1 that’s what she said

    • @eileenron8287
      @eileenron8287 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too!!

    • @BenziitOfemme
      @BenziitOfemme 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Me too. I wanna send him my texts history just for a good analysis lol

    • @ClareNtoziKobusingye
      @ClareNtoziKobusingye 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@BenziitOfemme me too

  • @sophiajohnson9044
    @sophiajohnson9044 6 ปีที่แล้ว +260

    "7PMISH" I was running around the room frantic hoping this girl is mentally okay and that she is not crazy. Girl, let him do the work, not you.

    • @earthsoul4206
      @earthsoul4206 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Samthesalvaje wow you're like so judgemental. How can you ascertain if this person is single or not? They could be watching the video for a psychology paper or something? It's pretty obvious why YOURE single. You're mean!

    • @adamschank7703
      @adamschank7703 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      He needed to at least meet her half way. He wasn't even giving her that courtesy until the end.

  • @Colleen_W
    @Colleen_W 7 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    Do not have unprotected text =)

    • @leviathants7842
      @leviathants7842 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Social Butterfly I agree... cover that phone in a condom :P

    • @Colleen_W
      @Colleen_W 7 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hideous color, isn't it.

  • @lXlQueenofScots
    @lXlQueenofScots ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I think this dude is gonna save us all from mundane texting and bad eggs!! ❤

  • @valerieblackwood9777
    @valerieblackwood9777 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    This is so relevant to my life right now! I was gonna text him asking him out because I thought "someone's gotta do the asking" but I won't do that now! Thanks Matthew!

  • @sorayahamani581
    @sorayahamani581 4 ปีที่แล้ว +94

    Who else envies his friend for having such a useful friend??😂😂

  • @BaronessJames
    @BaronessJames 7 ปีที่แล้ว +212

    I cut all of this by giving them my number and saying "Call me! The old fashioned way." I do not accept texts anymore. If a 23 years old has the balls to pick up the phone and ask me out, then why shouldn't a 35 years old being able to do it? You wanna see me? Call me! I want to hear the voice and excitement in it. Oh and no FB exchange anymore. Such an easy way to see all the information you seek and make your conclusions. No. Ask and hear the person talk and if you don't like what they say then don't accept the next date. Those texts are such a waste of time.

    • @wowso4
      @wowso4 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Baroness James so true texting is a big turn off

    • @jmw402
      @jmw402 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Couldn't agree more, it's very interesting to respond to text with a call!! Lol, no, text directions, a meeting place, addresses, phone numbers, but as a mode of communication, for..get..it! Call me to make plans or go away.

    • @crossroads72
      @crossroads72 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Baroness James I so agree with you. I just did that because I figure that . If there is some interest he will call. This texting thing is too much lol.

    • @cherylmarshall6874
      @cherylmarshall6874 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Bravo i couldn't agree more with you. So sick of the slow as molasses texting, public short replies online... boring... Ugh... make it STOP!! I am going to use your technique... call me 😉

    • @BenziitOfemme
      @BenziitOfemme 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes fucking call. Its like the mass eliminator of bullshit

  • @bouncybutterfly7753
    @bouncybutterfly7753 4 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    So sad that dating has become such a freaking chess game.

    • @bobg344
      @bobg344 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Bouncy Butterfly, only happens if you are hanging around men of low wavelength. Avoid those types.

    • @bouncybutterfly7753
      @bouncybutterfly7753 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bobg344 yes!! Staying single until I find someone healthy and willing to do the work.

    • @bobg344
      @bobg344 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bouncybutterfly7753 good idea, but remember the best way to find that healthy, willing person is to be a healthy, willing person. :-)

    • @bouncybutterfly7753
      @bouncybutterfly7753 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bobg344 I am well aware and well equipped. How silly to think I would expect something I'm not 100% willing to do, myself. 😂

    • @bobg344
      @bobg344 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@bouncybutterfly7753 I like your answer! So I've written stories about this question but the #1 most important "secret" is this. Every spiritual being generates and creates at a particular wavelength - low, medium or high. You want to find somebody as high as you can. Of course you need a few tools to identify that.

  • @karlaruiz2839
    @karlaruiz2839 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Not only did I find the twilight phone playfulness absolutely perfect but the text message scenario was incredibly eye opening!!! I honestly could of saved so much time and effort had I realized I was investing 90% of my time and attention to someone who had only invested minimally. I can relate tremendously to this video thank you so much!! 👌🏻

    • @kerrienurse3411
      @kerrienurse3411 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Karla Ruiz Thanks needed to read your comment to remember what is really important in my life.

  • @isabellalombard4756
    @isabellalombard4756 7 ปีที่แล้ว +357

    This is so complex it's like math

    • @NewEyes25
      @NewEyes25 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Isabella lombard Chemistry

    • @Sharons_Garden
      @Sharons_Garden 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Isabella lombard math is less complicated :(

    • @mikkihintikka7273
      @mikkihintikka7273 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      shazamanda 2708 we are not studing same math then :P

    • @cenedictbumberbatch95
      @cenedictbumberbatch95 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Maths is easy

    • @cookiegirl891
      @cookiegirl891 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Isabella lombard Facts 😂😂

  • @TheCarrifaery
    @TheCarrifaery 7 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    "Respond to your reality, not his reasons."
    OMG breakthrough
    i've been almost-seeing this guy for far too long, and i finally got the balls to tell him if he can't make time for me then he's not worth my investment.

  • @ecstasy5735
    @ecstasy5735 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    We all need him to be our best friend and help us in situations 😭

  • @arteisiacalvin6286
    @arteisiacalvin6286 6 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    This helped me so much even with family and friendships. I always carry the weight and care too much

    • @sabrinadillion3657
      @sabrinadillion3657 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Same here, I care more than they do. But I'm done. I had it. Its about me where my focus will be.

  • @rockangel4772
    @rockangel4772 5 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    I'm done with the dating scene. It's so hard

  • @nattyrocberry
    @nattyrocberry 5 ปีที่แล้ว +547

    i wanna start seeking out relationships where i aint gotta play these games.

    • @Luka_3D
      @Luka_3D 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Be honest and no one will.

    • @mariek.474
      @mariek.474 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      They're out there ! When we just met on an app my bf would text me *at least* every other day, and not mindless emojis. We got to know each other so well and 7 months later, I love our relationship. I hope you meet someone amazing ❤️

    • @nattyrocberry
      @nattyrocberry 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Marie K. Thank you 🍓🍓

    • @chamboyette853
      @chamboyette853 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I am a man and I don't lead women along. I hate people who do that. People find me very reliable. My friends are reliable too and my clients tend to like me a lot and give me high reviews for my work. I'm decent looking and have a lot of things going for me. But women tend to flake on me and be more interested in guys who tend to flake. One of my best friends has the same problem. So why don't y ou start being interested in men who are reliable and don't flake. And don't put all the blame on men because you choose the men who flake.

    • @vikasbiliye5023
      @vikasbiliye5023 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I am with you 100%

  • @mimi_20009
    @mimi_20009 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i love this “RESPOND TO YOUR REALITY NOT TO HIS REASONS”.

  • @kimberlyhenry1625
    @kimberlyhenry1625 6 ปีที่แล้ว +218

    @Matthew Hussey take my phone

  • @leoanawitch
    @leoanawitch 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    i saw something similar in your previous video and i used it on my guy...worked like a charm! we kickstarted it again and though it didnt work out in the end, i learned so much more bout self worth and value. and the importance of setting the standards and deciding my investment based on what he's giving me. i saved myself from getting hurt even more. so thank you Matthew. really, thank you!

  • @keeplearning5374
    @keeplearning5374 7 ปีที่แล้ว +137

    I died when he showed the grandpa emoji 😂😂😂💀

  • @alkevinzmedia
    @alkevinzmedia 4 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    I lost it at the grandpa emoji 👴 😭😂😂😂😂😂😂 I was in tears of laughter

    • @hjcip3934
      @hjcip3934 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Even though the guy is clearly an idiot, I have to say, the fact that he only sent the emoji and there was nothing else was quite brilliant.

    • @AR-do2ob
      @AR-do2ob 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yeah, me too...I mean...he replied on Friday with a grandpa emoji......))

  • @sarahruddock942
    @sarahruddock942 5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Thank you for this, I always invest 200% and just get walked over and rejected, I now realise that little or no investment from him drop it, let it go instead of desperately trying to make it work. X

  • @pennyqte
    @pennyqte 7 ปีที่แล้ว +830

    Those little games are so annoying , you either like this person or not, if you like someone, just make it happen!!!

    • @jernellelouis3432
      @jernellelouis3432 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      lucinda alen I so agree

    • @ThingsILikke
      @ThingsILikke 7 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      lucinda alen i think inconsiderate and disrespectful is more like it

    • @SoleilMagica
      @SoleilMagica 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I agree, that's why i don't date anymore.

    • @officesaredull
      @officesaredull 7 ปีที่แล้ว +44

      I think its sad that if a woman is the organised type or just wants to keep momentum going that men are put off by that. I can't stand these games either and am happier to be single than play such games. My time is precious too.

    • @ThingsILikke
      @ThingsILikke 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Deanna Hart Seriously is the dating pool just full of anti social people

  • @suesuesuperswot
    @suesuesuperswot 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Ah, the joy of being with the same man for 10 years and never having to guess what he's thinking!

    • @mike.electricrevolutionstore
      @mike.electricrevolutionstore 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi Sue, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
      Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture, it can brighten up the most darkest atmosphere of any man’s world😉.

  • @AliyahEl
    @AliyahEl 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    “Low-investment message”, lol. I love it!!

  • @DaCiJay
    @DaCiJay 7 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    Can I have Matthew as my best friend? He would solve all my texting problems with guys

  • @BB-ey4nf
    @BB-ey4nf 6 ปีที่แล้ว +793

    masturbation is waaay easier than dealing with this.

    • @mar9004
      @mar9004 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Agreed.

    • @jessicalt4121
      @jessicalt4121 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Brian Mcdonald ha!!!

    • @MrGraton1
      @MrGraton1 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      How to trigger a man’s natural competitive drive and refocus it on winning your love simply by tapping into his male ego. t.co/MTPSR5qOxf

    • @pamengland7863
      @pamengland7863 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Brian Mcdonald 🤣❤️

    • @lindseytmitchell2631
      @lindseytmitchell2631 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hahaha same

  • @tiamelancholyjeoncockity
    @tiamelancholyjeoncockity 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Bruh these types of people play too many games, honesty and authenticity is the best policy out there. And it they don’t connect or resonate with you or have the same level of energy you’re giving out, they’re not it. If they want it, they’ll chase and ask for it 💀 this applies to both parties, but sadly this doesn’t happen often because of how people are conditioned to be like nowadays 💀 I’m super lucky to meet someone like my boyfriend and he’s grateful for me being with him too. Both of us are mutually grateful and happy about the existence of each-other in our lives💗

  • @eazyy6783
    @eazyy6783 6 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I might use the “it’s all good, have a good day :)” but if he replies with “you too” and ends the conversation, ima cry😤😤💀

  • @emilygreen3604
    @emilygreen3604 7 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Matthew you are a GENIUS! I feel so empowered in my love life after following your advice for the past year and am now beating guys away with a stick - a playful, sparkly stick that is! ;) Even some men who strung me along before now jump at every text I choose to send. Thank you for being my guru. This is the best video yet and I just love you and your team.
    Cheers,
    Emily

    • @numbereight886
      @numbereight886 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Emily Green - Nice for you, nice to nice women more empowered to stop being door mats for players.

  • @TheMissAlira
    @TheMissAlira 5 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    I need Matthew as a friend. 😭I so need someone smart like him to guide me.

  • @Dorlinedainwen
    @Dorlinedainwen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I had a friend that started doing this. We never had convo issues and then all the sudden he was taking 2 weeks or more to answer. Saying he was 'busy. He gave these excuses too. I'm worth 30 seconds of time. So I finally said no hard feelings but I'm not putting any more energy into this and he disappeared completely. I'm at a point, I know my value and I'm not chasing anymore.

  • @aboveandbeyond2011
    @aboveandbeyond2011 5 ปีที่แล้ว +64

    Brilliant 😂😂
    I think we need to have a ‘Cyber Sociology’ class in schools in the very near future
    This guy needs to do it

    • @DanielMendoza-su3ei
      @DanielMendoza-su3ei ปีที่แล้ว

      Hi, please help me; for online dating how many days/ weeks should i text a girl on dating app before I ask her out on a date if we matched on online dating app? Maybe text her on dating app for a few days or 1 week before asking her out? Thanks u ! 🙏