Mark, this concept of the shadow self is fascinating. I have been discussing it with my wife for the past hour. Incredible and eye opening. Would you say then that we are born both lion and unicorn and it is in the formative years when the shadow self develops, and we settled into one or the other? If so, then the "real self" is only a construct of convenience to help us "survive" childhood? So, now that I can identify my shadow, what do I do with this knowledge? Is the idea here to be aware of it so as to not delve into too much emotional upset when triggered by partners, co-workers etc.? This is a very valuable insight. Thank you.
We are born either a Lion or a Unicorn. It is literally a biological difference in the brain. Then whatever happens during the forst formative years sets the trajectory of how dramatic those patterns become. The Shadow become those parts of us that our caregivers signal are not accceptable so we bury those tendencies. We then project those on to others and attack when we see our shawdow part in them.
Not really. However, we do sometime tke on the other role. But the Lion and Unicorn are unconscious patterns. So the idea is not to become a better Lion or Unicorn. The goal is to awaken from the unconscious pattern.
Mark, this concept of the shadow self is fascinating. I have been discussing it with my wife for the past hour. Incredible and eye opening. Would you say then that we are born both lion and unicorn and it is in the formative years when the shadow self develops, and we settled into one or the other? If so, then the "real self" is only a construct of convenience to help us "survive" childhood? So, now that I can identify my shadow, what do I do with this knowledge? Is the idea here to be aware of it so as to not delve into too much emotional upset when triggered by partners, co-workers etc.? This is a very valuable insight. Thank you.
We are born either a Lion or a Unicorn. It is literally a biological difference in the brain. Then whatever happens during the forst formative years sets the trajectory of how dramatic those patterns become. The Shadow become those parts of us that our caregivers signal are not accceptable so we bury those tendencies. We then project those on to others and attack when we see our shawdow part in them.
Is there anything in between lion and unicorn? Like a healthy medium..
Not really. However, we do sometime tke on the other role. But the Lion and Unicorn are unconscious patterns. So the idea is not to become a better Lion or Unicorn. The goal is to awaken from the unconscious pattern.
I'm just circling back to your comment here. If you need any more support or info on the Lion/Unicorn, let me know.