NON NEGOTIABLE STANDARDS OF A HIGH VALUE WOMAN by RC Blakes

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  • @missjackie7983
    @missjackie7983 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1468

    1. will not settle for a man who does not understand her love language
    2. She needs a man that maintains an even temperament. Emotionally mature. Even when he gets upset you will never feel unsafe
    3. When a man knows who he is, he serves her, his church, his community. He's mature and humble.
    4. She requires a man who lives his life based on principle. She will test his manhood
    5. She does not linger with men who bring low effort. It is the man's job to do the hard pursuing. Never chase a man!
    6. She needs a man that is financially secure. She won't settle for a man who is too little mentally to accommodate her
    7. She can't deal with a man who is all potential with no goals
    8. She will not deal with a man who is inconsistent, doesn't regularly call, etc

  • @marilyndenham7039
    @marilyndenham7039 3 ปีที่แล้ว +720

    "Just because I love you doesn't mean you deserve me."

  • @marilyndenham7039
    @marilyndenham7039 3 ปีที่แล้ว +510

    "Inconsistency is the foundation of manipulation."

    • @SoLo-gu4qy
      @SoLo-gu4qy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Love this one ‼️💯💯

    • @LV2308gmail
      @LV2308gmail 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      It screams Mind games while breaking one’s esteem

    • @M0chaJ0J0
      @M0chaJ0J0 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      thisssss whewwww

    • @purposedpatience6597
      @purposedpatience6597 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Omg 🔥🔥🔥

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      HEAVEN KNOWS

  • @skylafragrances
    @skylafragrances 2 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    “Inconsistency is the foundation of manipulation.” -R.C. Blake’s

  • @mlempolk
    @mlempolk 3 ปีที่แล้ว +406

    The worst situation you can find yourself in, as a women PERIOD, is being with a man who can not control his temper at home, or out in public!!!! This right here is a DEAL BREAKER!!!

    • @biblequeen4sure823
      @biblequeen4sure823 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @mlempolk It's a run Forest run exit stage right 2.

    • @WWEENETWORK
      @WWEENETWORK 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      I was engaged to one. It too almost a year and 4 months for him to reveal his dark side...but guess what...my disclaimer...You change I move on...period...end of discussion..

    • @ceemac304
      @ceemac304 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      its narcissism overload. afraid to go home. u live in fear.

    • @collettieholmes9312
      @collettieholmes9312 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      A Man must be able to financially manage his own lifestyle..don't expect to move in with me and complain about maintenance costs or travel costs. A Man should pay for his and her travel, at least most of the time. Can't deal with a gaslighter mentality. Get your own $#%t.

    • @BlackCulturalPreservation2023
      @BlackCulturalPreservation2023 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      10000 facts

  • @lakeshabrown6275
    @lakeshabrown6275 3 ปีที่แล้ว +440

    "Value doesn't have a ceiling, but it absolutely has a floor" - Pastor RC Blakes. I don't know about you, but that phrase in and of itself is a praise break moment!!!

    • @chrystalwells1816
      @chrystalwells1816 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      It WAS a praise break moment for me! PRICELESS! I bless the LORD for Bishop! He is the BUSINESS!!!

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      U HEAR MEEEE

    • @lakeshabrown6275
      @lakeshabrown6275 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@chrystalwells1816 That he is!

    • @lakeshabrown6275
      @lakeshabrown6275 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@nikkyshamz2696 If Bishop had a mic, that moment, when he spoke that phrase, would have been perfect to drop it and exit the building!

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@lakeshabrown6275 no lies told 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @LV2308gmail
    @LV2308gmail 3 ปีที่แล้ว +890

    If people can listen to HOURS of Kevin Samuel then surely we can listen to HOURS of you speaking positivity and spirituality into our lives So 🗣take your time !! God Bless you ❤️❤️🙌🙌🙌🙌

    • @gdisprint2928
      @gdisprint2928 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      KS is always contradicting himself. He’s now trying to get black men back in the church

    • @donne32701
      @donne32701 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@gdisprint2928 lol

    • @Rodrasroom
      @Rodrasroom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Anyone that has a worldly view will fail

    • @gdisprint2928
      @gdisprint2928 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@Rodrasroom 🙏🏾 amen

    • @user-kpkxgtj
      @user-kpkxgtj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@gdisprint2928 wait what? 😳🤣🤣🤣

  • @victoriadream
    @victoriadream 3 ปีที่แล้ว +181

    “…an inconsistent man doesnt deserve me anyway, i dont care how much I love him, doesnt mean he deserves me.. so I’d rather take my time getting over you, than to commit my life to an inconsistent man & then living… an inconsistent life…” ~Mrs. Lisa Blake’s High Value Mind

    • @daijadorsey674
      @daijadorsey674 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes! Amen

    • @katlisha929
      @katlisha929 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Confirmation for me🙏🏽🙌🏽

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg yess!

    • @natural3362
      @natural3362 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yess omg.. Glory to God.. I rather took the time to get over the man, process the emotions so that i no longer like him than to suffer and put myself in the hand of the man who doesn't want me and will discard me when he finds someone that he wants

    • @FaithfulandTrue949
      @FaithfulandTrue949 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes inconsistent behaviour is the foundation for manipulation 🔥🕊
      Amen.
      Dear Mr player
      You're confessing love & wanting to phone me 1st thing in the morning - then you can't find time to text on a night out with so called 'brother' then text at 11:30 saying phone died, tipsy and going to bed... yep the only thing that died is our relationship!
      Even had the audacity to copy and paste a text sent to the other woman after they parted the morning after but added "hi love" for me.
      So glad we've not even kissed, the thought disgusts me now knowing where you have been.
      Always ask God to reveal truth, then pay attention when He does.

  • @CoachLove
    @CoachLove 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    A diamond goes through a lot of hidden pressure and stays hidden. In the protection of the case, a 💎 doesn't sit begging someone to buy it. It shines until the one who can buy and appreciate it makes the purchase. There's no wear now and buy later either. 😘

    • @jessicawestbrook3730
      @jessicawestbrook3730 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      ❤️

    • @loriditri8897
      @loriditri8897 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      This is A PERFECT ANALOGY! wow revelation sister!

    • @angelabaldwin9889
      @angelabaldwin9889 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      In the protection of God the Case, lol shine baby shine until he’s sent… by the Holy one of Israel.

    • @Giftis2sing
      @Giftis2sing 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Love this!!! 👑💎😍

    • @missjaszmine1968
      @missjaszmine1968 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm going to remember this counsel.
      "There is no wear now buy/(invest in it) later, either."

  • @purposedpatience6597
    @purposedpatience6597 3 ปีที่แล้ว +410

    I’m literally in tears😭 I thought I was the issue and all along I was not trynna compromise what’s healthy. . this really hits me hard because I suffered with depression because folks gaslighted me to thinking I was not gd enough or difficult for requiring the things you speak of. Ty so much for allowing God to help set me free today 🙌🏽🙏🏽❤️

    • @tracymcnair1303
      @tracymcnair1303 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      🙏💜😷👏👏🙌🙌

    • @NewYorRicanSista1979
      @NewYorRicanSista1979 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Me too😂

    • @pattilightmayo
      @pattilightmayo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      ❤️ Same! Love and light to you beautiful!

    • @jasminebryant4772
      @jasminebryant4772 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Girl I been there done that. Even women in my family tried to convince me to settle just because he didn't beat me or live off of me. It's okay though because the wisdom we gained in those situations is invaluable

    • @Ubhntu3789
      @Ubhntu3789 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@jasminebryant4772 my goodness 😖. That’s terrible advice. Keep your head up,

  • @vanessaperkins1992
    @vanessaperkins1992 3 ปีที่แล้ว +322

    My father just transitioned. I’m reminded of the high standards he set for the men who I chose to date. Daddy knew my value, now I must OWN it. I can’t wait to receive your teaching!

  • @lakendraadams1077
    @lakendraadams1077 3 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    Clown's with Crowns I'm starting to recognize them more and more. Grateful for you R.C. Blake. I'm growing in Grace. I'm patiently waiting on my King

  • @josaphatadrian2956
    @josaphatadrian2956 3 ปีที่แล้ว +72

    "Just because i love you does not mean you deserve me ." I love it .
    HVW DOES NOT INTERTAIN INCONSISTENCY . 100% TRUE .

  • @mandyq8578
    @mandyq8578 3 ปีที่แล้ว +127

    You can’t turn things down that’s beneath you until you know you are above it...🙌🏻🌹

  • @motlagaboramongane2248
    @motlagaboramongane2248 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    "Just because I love you doesn't mean you deserve me". wow preach pastor

  • @queeninpodcast4154
    @queeninpodcast4154 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    And to think I believed I was requiring or asking for too much. The reality is I was asking a clown in a crown. Thank you for this revelation.

    • @Giftis2sing
      @Giftis2sing 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Amen!!! I was doing the same!! Thought 💭 I was asking for too much just wanting my EX to show me some attention and to spend some time with me, instead of hanging out with the guys. And it’s crazy because whenever I would try an bring it up and talk to him about it, he would always make me feel like I was asking too much of him! 🙄

  • @TrinekaClayton
    @TrinekaClayton 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I just received peace right now. A load lifted up off of me. There is safety here. I'm in the right place here

  • @dbrown8789
    @dbrown8789 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    He said, "You can't sell it until you own it!" You betta preach!

  • @tee_sutton
    @tee_sutton 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    My first time here❤️his teachings. Very few men/women of God minister to the singles. Thank you Sir!

  • @shar-imani
    @shar-imani 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    When I tell you that Pastor RC Blakes, Jr. has changed my perspective about relationships... I have evolved! Be Conscious & Cautious!!!!

    • @SoLo-gu4qy
      @SoLo-gu4qy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Agreed 💯🙌🏾

  • @savvylady7890
    @savvylady7890 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Value always comes with limits...you cannot turn down something beneath you if you don't know you're above it! What a priceless nugget!

  • @jeaniegee7305
    @jeaniegee7305 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Start seeing yourself as God sees you, not how the world sees you. You are wonderfully and beautifully made in His image.

    • @HSBsoulsurfer
      @HSBsoulsurfer 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you ❤😢

  • @jewishbride5010
    @jewishbride5010 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    In agreement with this whole message and psalm 139:14, proverbs 31:31, proverbs 31:10-12, colossians 3:19, ephesians 5:25, matthew 23:11-12, proverbs 8:22, 1 timothy 5:8, proverbs 31:23-24, james 2:18-20 I loosen to become a high-value woman, binding to hell every lack of standards in my life (binding to settle with a man that does bot know my love language, binding to settle with a man that does not have an even temperament, binding to settle for a man who is not willing to serve, binding to settle for a man that is not committed to his own manhood and principles, binding to settle for a man that puts in low effort in pursuing, binding to settle for a man that is not financially stable and is willing to provide, binding to settle for a man with potential but no goals) in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!

  • @anitajoe4737
    @anitajoe4737 3 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    Pastor Blakes, you're more of a counselor than you know. The Lord bless you and your family

  • @cloyettegrant3889
    @cloyettegrant3889 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I was unconscious before but now I'm wide awake. Thank you for awakening my queen consciousness.

  • @moniquegeorge1986
    @moniquegeorge1986 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    This is good. I was told I intimidated men because I don't settle for less. Thanks for confirming I am on the right track..bless

  • @Meepsavage
    @Meepsavage 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    “Just because I love you doesn’t mean you deserve me” 🙌🏽👏🏽🙌🏽👏🏽

  • @LV2308gmail
    @LV2308gmail 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Because we’re always growing mentally and spiritually , then we know that “ the value of yesterday is not the value today! Price just went up “( in Fat Joe voice)

  • @therealdial
    @therealdial ปีที่แล้ว +5

    “If you have to tell a man your love language, they either lack the intelligence to discern it or the interest to pay attention”
    Pastor RC, this is SPOT on!!!! I left a toxic relationship a few weeks ago and one of the main challenges in our relationship was that he didn’t care about my love language and only showed up through his love language. He never gave me words of affirmation, I never knew where I stood in the relationship and after multiple conversations of me telling him what I needed he couldn’t bring that to the table. Never again will I be with someone where I’m questioning my worth every day. The next guy will show AND TELL me how he feels about me and I won’t settle for less than that! Thanks for your wisdom and counsel, pastor. You truly are a gift from God.
    Many blessings to you and Lisa!!❤

  • @LittleMissSunshine721
    @LittleMissSunshine721 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    “Inconsistency is the foundation for manipulation.” C’mon, Bishop Blakes! We can end the video right there! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @esthernduta2005
    @esthernduta2005 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    A masculine man is identified by his confidence n security in hi position.when a man knows who he is he serves. Matthew 3:11-12,thankyou and may God bless you for sharing the wisdom 🙏

  • @dianaalvarado1451
    @dianaalvarado1451 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    As someone that saw her mother stay in a 'relationship' for 10+ years, waiting for a man to come around and love her again, your talk is so incredibly needed. I realized I was doing the same, staying because I truly loved someone that didn't realize my worth. Now I know that it doesn’t matter how much you love someone, if they aren't treating you right, you leave - no matter how hard it is. It might take a long time to move on, but it's better to cut it off now than later when more damage has been done. It's time to stop wasting time and allow only reliable, consistent men. Thank you for your teachings, they're giving me confirmation that I'm making the right choices AND that I am on the right path.

  • @priscillaaharper4078
    @priscillaaharper4078 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    You do not talk too long Pastor. We are learning not to make the same mistakes twice. Praise God. 🙏🏾

  • @Rodrasroom
    @Rodrasroom 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    A lot of married couples are also lost! I spoke to a couple that were together a long time and it was clear that they thought of their relationship in a business type of way and yet it had no real value. I’m glad you still love and are in love with your wife RC and you have so much knowledge to give. You are so valuable

    • @cindirose3390
      @cindirose3390 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well that's common for people to live so much longer these days, making " the long country walk hand-in-hand" " quite a long tiring walk with that same old guy. Boring? haha

  • @jamiechavis5347
    @jamiechavis5347 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    That was the line for me “Your value doesn’t have a ceiling, but it absolutely has a floor!” Rc preach and teach this message!! God bless you abundantly 🙏🏽❤️✝️

  • @islandgirlcraftingjournal9076
    @islandgirlcraftingjournal9076 3 ปีที่แล้ว +185

    I'm so thankful for your ministry, it has opened my eyes to a better understanding of what a healthy God centered relationship should look like. I am going through a difficult time right now, i pray the message tonight will help me.

    • @larsandradouglas3119
      @larsandradouglas3119 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      May God bless u Queen continue to hold to His hand ❤️🙏🏽

    • @marycaldwell2367
      @marycaldwell2367 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Mine is Comeing in Due Season an Time

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You will come to yourself in which way you should go. Keep listening.

    • @janellamurphy5665
      @janellamurphy5665 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I totally agree with you sis😇. I am also learning and realizing who I am, who I belong to and how to behave like the queen God created us to be Amen!!💃🏿💃🏿We queens have to support and encouraged each other!! What we learned from the streets and social media is not the correct way to behave!!!

    • @janellamurphy5665
      @janellamurphy5665 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      May God continue to bless you Queen😇👸🏾

  • @jaalahford1637
    @jaalahford1637 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    ("He either lacks the intelligence - or lacks the interest"). I always take note if a man is curious about me. If he isn't - I do not waste my time. Amongst many other things I pay close attention to are his patience levels - how does he treat people he doesn't know such waiting staff at a restaurant or a checkout person etc.... Is he empathetic - kind and mannerly - what is his nature. Here's hoping that High Value Women attract High Value Men.

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Right. I pay close attention to how much he asks me about me, and if he is even listening to the answers. Most just ask as if they are checking a box, like an interview, rather than asking follow up questions.
      For example, I will let a man know that I am a veteran. He might say "Oh Ok. What's your favorite color?" 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ Never once asking which branch I served, where or when did I serve....

    • @jaalahford1637
      @jaalahford1637 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ButterCookie1984 Thank you - good point - I will check if he asks follow up questions.

    • @ButterCookie1984
      @ButterCookie1984 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jaalahford1637 👍👍

  • @changebygoddoinganewthing993
    @changebygoddoinganewthing993 3 ปีที่แล้ว +85

    I'm patiently awaiting to learn and listen in on what are Pastor RC. Blakes Teaching women of all ages..Gracefully for the Man of God and Wife Lisa Blakes❤🙏

  • @andrearuiz6373
    @andrearuiz6373 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Just want to let you know how much you have been a blessing to me in my life. I don’t care what TH-cam says about you talking too much I could never get enough. Thank you and may God Bless you 💖

  • @creativeopinions8250
    @creativeopinions8250 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Sir, you're classy and your ministry is an AMEN!

  • @avamarie836
    @avamarie836 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    This has been so incredibly affirming for me to listen to and reflect upon. I recognize now that those who told me I was asking for too much, or insinuated I was asking for perfection, were not in alignment with the woman I am becoming (and in many ways, the woman I have always been). I remember staying up late a few nights ago, just laying in bed thinking about my experiences with men thus far. I remember feeling at a loss, and I remember almost being convinced that my standards were ridiculous. This video has arrived just in time; I cannot possibly thank you enough for this.

    • @j-tenn226
      @j-tenn226 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      🙌 yes! The low effort man part of this segment resonated with me. “ It is not the man’s role to sit back and be pursued, like he is a little girl. A high value woman is not going to entertain that .”

    • @HelloDecember525
      @HelloDecember525 ปีที่แล้ว

      💗🤗👏👏🌠🌠🙌!

  • @faye_bulous
    @faye_bulous 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Pure gold!!! 12:34 ⭐️⭐️⭐️Values …they’re certain level you can’t go beneath… value doesn’t have a ceiling but it’s certainly has a floor…your values are limitless ⭐️⭐️⭐️

  • @itsyourseason7701
    @itsyourseason7701 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I separated from a guy that did not believe in God. For 6 years I was celebant...I regret that I fell short and gave in to him...I asked God to forgive me. 😥

    • @takingmehigherministry2712
      @takingmehigherministry2712 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      God has forgiven you! You have to forgive you. Move forward and try not to replay it over and over in your mind. We all make mistakes. All you can do is learn from it. And not make the same mistake again! I pray your true love from God comes soon

    • @itsyourseason7701
      @itsyourseason7701 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@takingmehigherministry2712 Thank you... and I truly believe that...🍂

    • @takingmehigherministry2712
      @takingmehigherministry2712 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@itsyourseason7701 you’re welcome 🙏🏾

    • @michelleharper7020
      @michelleharper7020 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      So proud of you for making the hard decision to leave the guy. God will restore you and set you up for success just trust him to never settle again. Blessings Sis.

    • @itsyourseason7701
      @itsyourseason7701 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@michelleharper7020 Yes it was a very tough decision because you can't change a person but I was thinking that he would eventually come around my spirit was burdened and heavy and it hurt me .. because he was hurt. He did not understand The Bible.... that being unequally yoked it's not what God would have for us

  • @dreenahayward806
    @dreenahayward806 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Thank you pastor you have changed my life tremendously no more settling for inconsistent man, deadbeats and abusive men. I was once asleep but now I am fully awake. If I had a thousand tongues I could not thank you enough for your life changing words. I know know who I am and I know my worth and I will not settle for anything less even if that means being comfortable with myself for the rest of my life

  • @heiditugers
    @heiditugers 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    💯! Just got out of a toxic relationship and rebuilding myself. I am quarantining myself from the virus (toxic man.) This message helped to strengthen my resolve to never go back. Will need to listen to it a couple more times, so I don’t forget. Thank you for all that you do!! BTW, you do not talk too long… love the fact that you are completely yourself.

  • @pamaskew147
    @pamaskew147 3 ปีที่แล้ว +75

    This is gonna be another good one, as usual. You are such a blessing to many. It's never to late to learn. Every since I saw the video on L.E.T and a Never Ignore a Man's Energy, I have been watching ever since. I feel that I didn't run across these videos for nothing. There's a reason. Blessings to you and Lady Lisa.💜💜💜

    • @janellamurphy5665
      @janellamurphy5665 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Valuable Good Gods Nuggets information💜💜💜🖐🏾✋🏿🙏🏾🙏🏾!!!

  • @nomvulavmoloko6255
    @nomvulavmoloko6255 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Oh, Daddy Blakes, you preached beautifully. Thank you, for restoring virtue in both genders.

  • @erinwalker6880
    @erinwalker6880 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Pastor Blakes, I truly thank God for you as He imparts wisdom within you to give to His people in order to help free them from bondage. Thank you for your intentionality and love for what you have been purposed to do.

  • @queenconscious2989
    @queenconscious2989 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you Jesus for using this man to speak truth, and bring help & healing♡

  • @jessicalove143
    @jessicalove143 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Thank you for staying genuine and consistent!! These TH-cam people are getting overboard. Thank you for listening and following the way of God when you provide us advice and insight. We all appreciate you and love you and Lisa!!

  • @mselliott7475
    @mselliott7475 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    This was awesome, I love how straight forward you are, never sugar coat anything. Folks need that so they are not repeating the same cycle over and over again. Thanks for sharing.

  • @edytadelfel249
    @edytadelfel249 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    I forevermore feel bless founding this channel! It’s changing my life and possibilities for me on so many levels! Love You!

  • @Nurseaholic
    @Nurseaholic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Just because I love you, doesn’t mean you deserve me 💯

  • @SouthernSweetTee
    @SouthernSweetTee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Thank you so much for this message💓 You can be the strongest person, but sometimes society tries to get the best of you and doubt starts to creep in, but this video brought me right back. You just described me. Thank you for reconfirming that I am a high value woman and I refuse to settle for anything less than greatness. I so appreciate all your videos and good counsel, but this particular message was right on time.
    May God continue to bless you, your family and every person watching this video 🙏🏾

  • @toniwilliams9817
    @toniwilliams9817 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Pastor, I just dumped a man last week for almost all of these reasons. I'm not putting up with any of that. I bring too much to the relationship than to be with someone like that. You have encouraged my soul and confirmed that I did the right thing. Thanks!

  • @barelysanesociety5107
    @barelysanesociety5107 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Thank you for the message pastor. This helped make concrete my decision to leave my ex who’s inconsistent , selfish, not concerned with my love language alone.
    Thank you.

  • @kaleema1987
    @kaleema1987 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Yes Gary Chapman I read his book on 5 love languages it was a good read and I incorporated some of his points to my life. I am now reading the 5 love languages of teenagers because I have two boys and daughter. I will be purchasing some of his books. Another amazing video😊❤🙏

  • @braddissandridge5712
    @braddissandridge5712 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I am so thankful for this teaching! I am in my single season learning to trust God

  • @lifecoachjess967
    @lifecoachjess967 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Lord I thank you for Pastor Blakes. God bless you pastor. I just ended a relationship with someone who literally fits every single low value attribute you shared tonight. My dads not really In my life, so listening to you is literally like having a father-daughter talk. Thank you for sharing these powerful messages. And giving women like me guidance in the area of dating and relationships.

  • @lavettewoodard6605
    @lavettewoodard6605 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    A VALUED WOMAN LOVES A MAN THAT HAS RESPECT FOR IS MOTHER

  • @mariagrady8425
    @mariagrady8425 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Always a blessed time to hear the wisdom for me an all women that GOD is using YOU for HIS SERVICE.
    I TURNED 68 September 20, 2021. Men's are always playing games. It is always great an wise to ahead of the game. Thank You my Brother an my Sister Blakes. Taking all in an healing greatly an wise as I keep walking an living with my faith an trust in GOD.

  • @carolynwatkins1434
    @carolynwatkins1434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Outstanding description of a high value woman!!...Thanks for taking it “ out of the box” and expanding & expounding on the concept!! I, personally, appreciate this solid-well -rounded perspective!!

  • @skycutie77
    @skycutie77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I love the wisdom from your videos so much knowledge. I have cut off so many men walking my path of high value many lessons learned but I love the principles you teach Thank you!

  • @luzvargas1063
    @luzvargas1063 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    Blessed be this ministry, blessings Bishop RC Blake’s!!! You ALWAYS preaching such great things. I adore your compariisons

  • @aneshrathomas
    @aneshrathomas 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    “Just because I love you doesn’t mean you deserve me “ ☝🏾 inconsistency is never an option

  • @Jade-cj8iu
    @Jade-cj8iu 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    "A high value woman's man will not diminish her because he is too small to accommodate her" 🙌🏾

  • @PrettyReddTheDoula
    @PrettyReddTheDoula 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Hey Pastor! I'll be listening and learning.

  • @mariaphillips4538
    @mariaphillips4538 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you so much for speaking about these important issues. I never had a father when I was growing up and never affirmed me and assured me of my preciousness. Many years later and after an abusive marriage I have learnt so much from your holy wisdome. God bless to you sir as your bringing light to painful experiences and offering hope for healing and the challenge for change.

  • @mariaherrera6466
    @mariaherrera6466 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Once he starts talking, I can’t stop listening- thank you 🙏🏾 🥳🥳🥳

  • @jr9941
    @jr9941 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I am always taking notes Bishop! Praying that when the next man pursues, I will b led by God to approve. Thank you for that ! ♥️♥️

  • @sharonoloya
    @sharonoloya 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    When God says it’s time I will tell my future husband all about how your videos helped me find him. There’s no amount of therapy that will ever give this kind of knowledge and you share it all for free. I thank you always RC Blake’s, you have steered me clear from so many meaningless relationships. You are truly gifted to do this. I appreciate everything you’ve put out there especially for us black sisters.❤🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @lavettewoodard6605
    @lavettewoodard6605 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    IF I HAVE TO TEACH YOU I DO NOT NEED YOU

  • @gc2137
    @gc2137 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    As always ....a true blessing. So grateful to have found this ministry!❤

  • @queenieford4107
    @queenieford4107 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love listening to you we need this kind of teaching because I share it with my daughter’s so we can love ourselves more than a man and his mess and what he tries to bring to women they think is weak for them thank you Mr RC

  • @mirriamphiri7527
    @mirriamphiri7527 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Just because I love you, doesn't mean you deserve me. Needed to hear this.....RC Blakes, I thank God I accidentally found your channel, You'really changing my mindset

  • @uniqueharrell1328
    @uniqueharrell1328 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This was good. Pastor thank you for the jewels. I'm most definitely learning as I embrace my Queening.

  • @dianelbruno9334
    @dianelbruno9334 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You're goal to assist in adjusting the mindset to allow for actions to change for the better is understood and I needed to hear this now. God sent me this message through you years after you made the video. I needed this. It will not go ignored.

    • @dianelbruno9334
      @dianelbruno9334 ปีที่แล้ว

      And I hate that my phone used the wrong spelling of your 😂

  • @aniyahoward50
    @aniyahoward50 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    God bless you pastor🙏🙏 Thank you sir for your wonderful wisdom. May the lord continue to use you and first lady💖

  • @FTSD2023
    @FTSD2023 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are NOT too long winded. I'm sorry anyone gave you that feedback. Your messages are anointed, spirit filled, a word in due season for those who have the ears to hear it. This message was spot on, powerful, impactful, and spoke to the core strength of Queens. Thank you!!!!!! 🙏🙏🙏🥰💪💪💪💃💃💃🙌

  • @Dr.K.Harris
    @Dr.K.Harris 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Every single point noted. Thank you for the confirmation and validation. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @natashagrant9084
    @natashagrant9084 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My God!!!! You BLESSED MY SOUL on today. I’ve been fasting and praying attempting to get in alignment with God’s plan in my life. I asked, no I begged God to talk to me. I needed to hear from Him! Two lessons yesterday that were interwoven were spoken yesterday. I understood. As I awoke this morning and ended my fast. I asked God again. People have been telling me for years I was asking too much, but I held fast to WHOM MUCH IS GIVEN MUCH IS REQUIRED. I allowed myself to be devalued but I was inevitably disappointed. What you spoke awoken the things that are in my spirit and the depths of my soul. As I allow God to continue to work on me, I needed to remember, not only who I am but WHO’s I am. Thank you!!!! I cried listening to this. I felt everything you spoke. Keep doing what you’re doing.

  • @moodystyles5799
    @moodystyles5799 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thank you, RC for another amazing teaching!!!!
    This speaks to my spirit and confirms what I know is TRUTH!!!
    Thank you Jesus for your timing🥰

  • @estherfleer7268
    @estherfleer7268 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I'm not even a Christian, but Amen and Blessings to All of You. Thank you Mr. Blakes and Greetings from Germany 💜

  • @tokyococo6996
    @tokyococo6996 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love how you incorporate the Bible in an interesting way. Someone like me who's not religious has no hard time following. I thoroughly enjoy your videos and they've changed my life 💕💕💕

    • @_riahjackson_
      @_riahjackson_ 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ephesians2:8-9 salvation is a FREE GIFT believe he died for ur sins was buried n rose again his blood justified us

  • @crystalssuch6818
    @crystalssuch6818 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Enough said. I’ve functioned low value in my marriage. Almost divorced. Working on myself.

  • @sophiabrown11
    @sophiabrown11 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    WOW..this is GOLDEN..my ears/eyes popped wide open the moment I started listening to you Pastor Blake..you are spot on..I thank God for leading me to you..💯❤💜💥💥💥👏🙌🙌👏👂👀

  • @Lyzylyzy1922
    @Lyzylyzy1922 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for this video. I’ve always been this woman but people will always tell me my standards are too high and unrealistic. Never will I settle for a low value men. The men that I want are the exact men you explained. Someone who in balanced with his emotions, disciplined & humble. Because I know my worth. ❤️ I’m so glad you put out this video and preach with love. Thank from the bottom of my heart. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

    • @gdisprint2928
      @gdisprint2928 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hold on to your standards, there’s both blessings and light at the end of the tunnel

  • @GailGlory65
    @GailGlory65 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You are an EXCELLENT Pastor/Teacher….. praise God!!🙏🏾

  • @geraldineblackmon2644
    @geraldineblackmon2644 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Good Morning Bishop R.C. Blakes
    I will not settle for a man who doesn't know my love language. I can agree with that I love words of affirmation & non sexual touch. I like gifts as well. I need a servant in my life, I lived with a self righteous man in my pass. I want a man I can respect. Finance is key, I lacked this in my last relationship. I was the go getter, he was talk & no action. I married potential but I am high value. I'm maturing every day. Inconsistent is a no Brainerd. Thank you Bishop. Amen!
    Self control is key. Consistent temperament,

  • @mrsaleksandra2481
    @mrsaleksandra2481 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Oh I can't wait, going to watch this one tomorrow since it's already bedtime where I'm at 🤪
    Thank you Pastor!!! ❤❤❤
    Now goin to watch some of your older video like I do every night before I fall asleep 😇🤗❤

  • @ryanbarner6011
    @ryanbarner6011 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Pastor RC Blake’s thank you for your wisdom. I have truly been blessed and inspired by your ministry. You have spoken into my life as a father. I’m 53 years old and I’m just now learning and receiving what I needed from a father through you. You may wonder why so late in life but when you wasn’t giving the tools to navigate relationships with men you tend to struggle a lot until God bring Pastors like you into our lives. Thank you and may God continue to bless you sir. I thank God for Lisa who pours into you and support you as a wife. Tell her thank you as well ❤

  • @chania80
    @chania80 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Inconsistency is the foundation of manipulation. Thank you, I heard that!

  • @boleglicious
    @boleglicious 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    God gifted you a father to many of us. I will forever cherish meeting you at a conference after losing my father suddenly in 2017. I was crying my eyes out the whole time off and on. Now … I thought you came to me because of the sobbing that you may have heard while you were speaking…..sorry. Lol. I will say I feel God sent you to me because I was in a bad broken place. But When you speak our value as women you speak it as a man, a husband and a father. And more than that your transparency is so real. My father was this to his daughters. He never stood as a man without mistakes. Actually he would say “I had to own and repent for many wrongs and grow up. I Was A Clown. “
    “Don’t you hesitate to do what your mother did which was walked away.” You have carried many torches Pastor BLAKES for a lot of us. God aligned you to remind us as beautiful children of Our Father. And I saw it the first moment I heard you speak. And I thank you and Pastor Lisa so much for being the spiritual parents of leadership. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR SERVICE!!!🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾
    WE ARE ON THE TOP AND WE ARE GOING HIGHER

  • @gerijohnson3850
    @gerijohnson3850 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is good word Pastor Blakes! I love your straight no chaser approach on relationships (married or single) with a Biblical principle foundation. Thank you for answering God's call to serve in this manner.

  • @LindsayAmelia
    @LindsayAmelia 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The temperament thing is huge for me. I detest unpredictable emotions. Never knowing who you’re going to get when he gets irritated with everyday life. It’s stressful and women aren’t punching bags.

  • @Jcastadiva
    @Jcastadiva 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    This lesson was not too long. It was thorough and necessary. Thank you for your Godly counsel…

    • @cctia2
      @cctia2 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ameen🤲🏾

  • @lavettewoodard6605
    @lavettewoodard6605 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    A VALUED WOMAN LOOKS FOR CONSISTENCY IN A MAN

  • @sweetie932
    @sweetie932 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I absolutely love that this message can register and will reach our younger society. Pastor has a great queen for a wife. Amen 🙏

  • @shermeljames3887
    @shermeljames3887 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    A man with a successful marriage is the High Value Man to take a listen to. I’m finished with taking advice from men or women who are single or with unsuccessful relationships and marriages.

  • @latoybraxton949
    @latoybraxton949 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    STRAIGHT TO THE POINT, I LOVE IT !