I’m not an “exotical” but I watch your videos becuase you use logic and you’re not biased. I completely agree….I been saying let the mixed people have their own racial group so we as a collective, can stop feeling inferior to mixed girls. We complain that we are getting replaced but we literally force biracial woman to claim FULL blackness. Additionally, I think dark skinned black woman will get the respect, love and praise they desire when they learn to TRULY love themselves.
@@m.s9146 you guys might as well have your own racial group. Although white ppl started the “one drop rule”, they don’t seem to abide by that anymore. In fact, white ppl can spot an MLS person from a mile away. Meanwhile, unambiguous black ppl are pretending to act like they don’t know that MOST black women with over 90% of African DNA do not look like Beyoncé and most black men do not look like Chris Brown. I don’t understand the regulation of people’s hair. Use what works for you. I also don’t understand how ppl tell someone else they don’t need sunscreen? Lol
I like what you said about not expecting people who don’t look like you to pave the way for you. I don’t expect white writers to create shows with good black representation because why would I expect that from a white writer? This is why I’m constantly wanting more black writers, actors who look like me, etc. to get into the spaces I want them to be in rather than expecting someone else to do that.
I love my dark skin. I get compliments all the time and I don’t think it shuts you out of opportunities. I have a theory that “ featurism” will always Trump “ colorism”. This may be wrong? But if you’re beautiful and dark skin I kinda feel like it opens you up to more opportunities. Again de centering men and re centering yourself will change your entire view point of yourself. Why the hell should I think of my self of bottom of the barrel? That is insane. In 2023 ppl should open their eyes to the construction of society and stop drinking the dam kool aid.
Exactly, like - who told DSBW that they’re not dateable? DSBM? Why TF are women centering their opinions and internalizing them? Or the opinions of some racist white man?!
I came to that conclusion a long time ago. Your skin color doesn't matter once you have pleasing facial features. I'm still trying to get myself out of that stupid brainwashing because it's such a Doomer mindset. I'm shocked back into reality when I see people simp for girls like Ryan Destiny and Justine Skye on the internet... I was like " WAIT...being beautiful isn't about skin color????"
@@ExoticalsUnited For a long time, I struggled with loving my dark skin, but now I’m like, “screw that.” I’m gonna work on loving my dark skin. Anyone who doesn’t like me can go screw themselves!
Exactly. You will most likely NEVER have the true EXACT level of validation you want from a man. EVER! Men are not just creatures that worship us. Even the women they “worship” they will still cheat on. There’s a misconception that if you’re beautiful you’re just constantly being validated by everyone 24-7 and all your problems go away .
@@BoooHooo Yes, it will; it has always happened and always WILL always happen. We as living beings - like every other living beast, bacteria, and plant - were biologically designed to procreate... that does NOT translate to "we cannot be alone whatsoever." We will not spontaneously combust if we don't have a man. Do NOT project your fear of rejection and loneliness on the girlies with better self esteem than you. Stay mad about it.
Lots of it is internalized colorism for sure. My sister is DSBW & she always put me down for how I looked, to my hair & being “acting white”….. yet she’s the one who says all the time she wants “cute mixed babies” & she would NEVER want dark babies like herself…. It’s honestly sad. I have a DS daugther & I’m raising her to love herself & all of her features, from her mocha skin, Almond shaped eyes & 4a hair. DS women who have confidence & are not insecure don’t go around doing what self hating DS black women do🤷🏽♀️
Yup! I’ve interviewed UABW on this channel and one of them said she didn’t want her daughter to be an unambiguous DSBW like herself because she didn’t want her daughter to suffer . So she equated dark skin and blackness to suffering, as if it’s impossible to be privileged if you’re an unambiguous black person.
@@ExoticalsUnitedI mean it is, your DSUA daughter would not be seen as attractive or as valuable as their counterparts so it best not to have anymore DSUAW for their sake.
@@marleythomas3414 Dark skin doesn’t make someone unattractive. That IS a colorist statement. Are there unattractive darkskins? Of course. But to say that just because her daughter would be darkskin that that would make her unattractive is unproductive and untrue.
You can't emotionally manipulate people into liking you (and why would you). Its either people like you or they don't... It's simple. Enough with the woe is me... but if you say that as a non dark skinned person you're 'colorist' lol okay 🙄
Exactly. I wouldn’t want a guy to charity date me, or for some white man to give me an opportunity because he feels sorry for me . Those things are still putting them in a position to look down on you 😂
I have done the same with black/afro Latinos. As a kid I loved novelas but seeing yourself as only the maid or god mother lol is not enough. I make sure to listen to and promote as many people who identify as black/afro Latinos.
Aye I don’t see myself as exotical but I’ve had so many of the experiences you talk about on your channel that I can relate. I’ve been binge watching lol
Exactly, when I watch telenovelas there are mainly white people on them so I made SURE to watch “Siempre bruja” and I also followed the actress on instagram , googled her name etc. this is why I also tend to watch shows that feature more Afro mixed latinas as well. I don’t want to play into needing white validation or viewing white shows, white people, and white opinions as the standard on how I view myself .
@@ExoticalsUnited I love siempre bruja! This is showing my age but Xica de Silva was the first time I saw a darker female protagonist in a novela. Your content is amazing btw!
@@ExoticalsUnitedI love siempre bruja! Another telenovela I’ve watched was called “la negra consentida” it’s from the early 2000s based out of Venezuela I believe.
Amazing points! One great point you made is about riding one’s coat tails. For example: an ambiguous mixed race dark skinned girls experiences may be ENTIRELY different than an unambiguous dark skinned girls. But the unambiguous girl will literally get upset at the ambiguous girl because she isn’t insecure about her skin color or has never been called unattractive.
Love your videos..and I agree.❤Slightly off topic but has anyone ever reported the hateful anti mixed/biracial channels like FlowerTower? I don’t want to keep commenting on her channel as it gives her the attention she craves plus money everytime viewed/commented on. A mass reporting could get her deleted though. 🙏 I feel bad for her as she’s clearly insecure but would love to see that channel gone..she’s making money off mixed people! Either way keep doing what you are doing 💕
If you are dark-skinned, tall and slim you will be successful as a model. Most dark-skinned women need to lose weight to be more attractive not use bleaching.
This is a crazy channel I absolutely love it. I am a BSBW and have 4 type of hair that's curly hair with the same issues you experience here. I consider myself non-ambiguous but my hair texture gets commented a lot. People always ask me where I'm from especially when I wear it out. Stop guilt-tripping people to find you pretty BW it's insulting LSBW or exoticals are not your competition.
0:47 we really need to remember that. It's funny because even if you are naturally Beautiful or just have loads of sex appeal examples meghan fox or Halle berry or Angelina Jolie Hollywood will will say you could still look better. All 3 of those woman have gottern facial plastic surgery to increase thier beauty and careers. Btw no judgment from me.Hollywood stardard of beauty is impossible.
Dark skin black women was bashing Terrance J a light black man for getting married to a light skin MLS woman I thought that was really weird because dark skin women claim they hate MLS men
LOVING your videos! Thank you very the great work! Topic video idea that I’d love to hear your perspective on: What are your thoughts/experiences of MLS women who grew up in predominantly white communities, spaces, school etc. in their formative years and had low self esteem and never knew we were pretty because we didn’t match up to the white beauty standard of the time.
Oh that’s my personal experience haha! I can do a video on it! For me though I would say I knew I was pretty even though I wasn’t white, because there were lots of celebs and other women who looked like me. The way it manifested for me was that I viewed those celebs as regular who looked like me . Beyoncé , Aaliyah, Halle berry etc.
Most of these insecurities start in the home. Older black women, whether it’s mom, aunties, sisters, female cousins etc… they will tell young black girls that we are ugly and will not be beautiful and men will never dare or marry us but will use us for sex. Yes I’m a victim of this nonsense and certain men especially Nono black men don’t make it no better in terms of them flocking to nonblack and light skinned women.
It is odd to insert that talking point when this discussion does not revolve around black men. Also this channel definitely advises women to decenter men. So I highly doubt anyone watching is thinking about black men. But since you brought it up. Black men may not have started this, but they uphold the colorist standards laid down by white men. That is a sign of weakness to me. Why are bm allowing another group of men to still control the narrative and how they think? Kinda sad if you ask me. Also by injecting black men into the conversation, it’s giving perpetual victimhood. If you don’t want to be held responsible for upholding colorism, do something about it. Instead of whining on a woman centered channel, talk to black men about how to switch up the narrative instead.
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I’m not an “exotical” but I watch your videos becuase you use logic and you’re not biased. I completely agree….I been saying let the mixed people have their own racial group so we as a collective, can stop feeling inferior to mixed girls. We complain that we are getting replaced but we literally force biracial woman to claim FULL blackness. Additionally, I think dark skinned black woman will get the respect, love and praise they desire when they learn to TRULY love themselves.
Right . If you want your own community why would you force others to represent the face of your community then get mad when you don’t look like them?
Completely agree
Absolutely true
@@ExoticalsUnitedabsolutely 1000% agree !!!
@@m.s9146 you guys might as well have your own racial group. Although white ppl started the “one drop rule”, they don’t seem to abide by that anymore. In fact, white ppl can spot an MLS person from a mile away. Meanwhile, unambiguous black ppl are pretending to act like they don’t know that MOST black women with over 90% of African DNA do not look like Beyoncé and most black men do not look like Chris Brown. I don’t understand the regulation of people’s hair. Use what works for you. I also don’t understand how ppl tell someone else they don’t need sunscreen? Lol
I like what you said about not expecting people who don’t look like you to pave the way for you. I don’t expect white writers to create shows with good black representation because why would I expect that from a white writer? This is why I’m constantly wanting more black writers, actors who look like me, etc. to get into the spaces I want them to be in rather than expecting someone else to do that.
I love my dark skin. I get compliments all the time and I don’t think it shuts you out of opportunities. I have a theory that “ featurism” will always Trump “ colorism”. This may be wrong? But if you’re beautiful and dark skin I kinda feel like it opens you up to more opportunities.
Again de centering men and re centering yourself will change your entire view point of yourself. Why the hell should I think of my self of bottom of the barrel? That is insane.
In 2023 ppl should open their eyes to the construction of society and stop drinking the dam kool aid.
Exactly, like - who told DSBW that they’re not dateable? DSBM? Why TF are women centering their opinions and internalizing them? Or the opinions of some racist white man?!
@@ExoticalsUnited Everyone does, look up more on it. Yes it's personality but it's also looks too.
I came to that conclusion a long time ago. Your skin color doesn't matter once you have pleasing facial features. I'm still trying to get myself out of that stupid brainwashing because it's such a Doomer mindset. I'm shocked back into reality when I see people simp for girls like Ryan Destiny and Justine Skye on the internet... I was like " WAIT...being beautiful isn't about skin color????"
I have to agree with everything you say as an UABW.
thanks for watching beautiful! ❤️
@@ExoticalsUnited For a long time, I struggled with loving my dark skin, but now I’m like, “screw that.” I’m gonna work on loving my dark skin. Anyone who doesn’t like me can go screw themselves!
Part of it has to do with not having validation from men they want and this is why decentering from men is important.
Exactly. You will most likely NEVER have the true EXACT level of validation you want from a man. EVER! Men are not just creatures that worship us. Even the women they “worship” they will still cheat on. There’s a misconception that if you’re beautiful you’re just constantly being validated by everyone 24-7 and all your problems go away .
That's never going to happen. Humans were not created to be alone with no romantic partnership.
@@BoooHooo Yes, it will; it has always happened and always WILL always happen. We as living beings - like every other living beast, bacteria, and plant - were biologically designed to procreate... that does NOT translate to "we cannot be alone whatsoever." We will not spontaneously combust if we don't have a man. Do NOT project your fear of rejection and loneliness on the girlies with better self esteem than you. Stay mad about it.
@@queenmandieiii4523 girl bye. 😂😂😂 humans have been on this earth for at least 3000 years and it hasn't happened yet.
People don't understand that theirs inferiority complex and insecurities is also a hindering to success.
Exactly
Lots of it is internalized colorism for sure. My sister is DSBW & she always put me down for how I looked, to my hair & being “acting white”….. yet she’s the one who says all the time she wants “cute mixed babies” & she would NEVER want dark babies like herself…. It’s honestly sad. I have a DS daugther & I’m raising her to love herself & all of her features, from her mocha skin, Almond shaped eyes & 4a hair. DS women who have confidence & are not insecure don’t go around doing what self hating DS black women do🤷🏽♀️
Yup! I’ve interviewed UABW on this channel and one of them said she didn’t want her daughter to be an unambiguous DSBW like herself because she didn’t want her daughter to suffer . So she equated dark skin and blackness to suffering, as if it’s impossible to be privileged if you’re an unambiguous black person.
You never lived the life your dark skinned dughter will live
@@ExoticalsUnitedI mean it is, your DSUA daughter would not be seen as attractive or as valuable as their counterparts so it best not to have anymore DSUAW for their sake.
@@marleythomas3414true, its an endless cycle , why procreate more suffering
@@marleythomas3414 Dark skin doesn’t make someone unattractive. That IS a colorist statement. Are there unattractive darkskins? Of course. But to say that just because her daughter would be darkskin that that would make her unattractive is unproductive and untrue.
You can't emotionally manipulate people into liking you (and why would you). Its either people like you or they don't... It's simple. Enough with the woe is me... but if you say that as a non dark skinned person you're 'colorist' lol okay 🙄
Exactly. I wouldn’t want a guy to charity date me, or for some white man to give me an opportunity because he feels sorry for me . Those things are still putting them in a position to look down on you 😂
@@ExoticalsUnited Exactly 🤣
It takes EXPERT journalism to express this topic in a non bigoted manner! Thank you!
thanks for watching!
I have done the same with black/afro Latinos. As a kid I loved novelas but seeing yourself as only the maid or god mother lol is not enough. I make sure to listen to and promote as many people who identify as black/afro Latinos.
Aye I don’t see myself as exotical but I’ve had so many of the experiences you talk about on your channel that I can relate. I’ve been binge watching lol
Exactly, when I watch telenovelas there are mainly white people on them so I made SURE to watch “Siempre bruja” and I also followed the actress on instagram , googled her name etc. this is why I also tend to watch shows that feature more Afro mixed latinas as well. I don’t want to play into needing white validation or viewing white shows, white people, and white opinions as the standard on how I view myself .
@@ExoticalsUnited I love siempre bruja! This is showing my age but Xica de Silva was the first time I saw a darker female protagonist in a novela. Your content is amazing btw!
@@ExoticalsUnitedI love siempre bruja! Another telenovela I’ve watched was called “la negra consentida” it’s from the early 2000s based out of Venezuela I believe.
My character flaw of impatient has made me so successful... I don't have time to wait for someone to save me...
smart girl!
Amazing points! One great point you made is about riding one’s coat tails. For example: an ambiguous mixed race dark skinned girls experiences may be ENTIRELY different than an unambiguous dark skinned girls. But the unambiguous girl will literally get upset at the ambiguous girl because she isn’t insecure about her skin color or has never been called unattractive.
yup! I just uploaded a video about that recently
Love your videos..and I agree.❤Slightly off topic but has anyone ever reported the hateful anti mixed/biracial channels like FlowerTower? I don’t want to keep commenting on her channel as it gives her the attention she craves plus money everytime viewed/commented on. A mass reporting could get her deleted though. 🙏 I feel bad for her as she’s clearly insecure but would love to see that channel gone..she’s making money off mixed people! Either way keep doing what you are doing 💕
She does seem insecure. Too bitter for me. I watched a few of her videos and was not impressed.
If you are dark-skinned, tall and slim you will be successful as a model.
Most dark-skinned women need to lose weight to be more attractive not use bleaching.
This is a crazy channel I absolutely love it.
I am a BSBW and have 4 type of hair that's curly hair with the same issues you experience here.
I consider myself non-ambiguous but my hair texture gets commented a lot.
People always ask me where I'm from especially when I wear it out.
Stop guilt-tripping people to find you pretty BW it's insulting LSBW or exoticals are not your competition.
nice!
A good example of a dark skin black women her perceives herself beautiful is teresa graves in the film vampira lol
0:47 we really need to remember that. It's funny because even if you are naturally Beautiful or just have loads of sex appeal examples meghan fox or Halle berry or Angelina Jolie Hollywood will will say you could still look better. All 3 of those woman have gottern facial plastic surgery to increase thier beauty and careers. Btw no judgment from me.Hollywood stardard of beauty is impossible.
right! people will gaslight you no matter how pretty you are. thats the point of this whole series even though people are taking it differently 😂😂
Dark skin black women was bashing Terrance J a light black man for getting married to a light skin MLS woman I thought that was really weird because dark skin women claim they hate MLS men
LOVING your videos! Thank you very the great work! Topic video idea that I’d love to hear your perspective on:
What are your thoughts/experiences of MLS women who grew up in predominantly white communities, spaces, school etc. in their formative years and had low self esteem and never knew we were pretty because we didn’t match up to the white beauty standard of the time.
Oh that’s my personal experience haha! I can do a video on it! For me though I would say I knew I was pretty even though I wasn’t white, because there were lots of celebs and other women who looked like me. The way it manifested for me was that I viewed those celebs as regular who looked like me . Beyoncé , Aaliyah, Halle berry etc.
Most of these insecurities start in the home. Older black women, whether it’s mom, aunties, sisters, female cousins etc… they will tell young black girls that we are ugly and will not be beautiful and men will never dare or marry us but will use us for sex. Yes I’m a victim of this nonsense and certain men especially Nono black men don’t make it no better in terms of them flocking to nonblack and light skinned women.
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I hated my olive skin.
Skin bleaching is the best choice i did.
And yet, black men will somehow get blamed for this.
It is odd to insert that talking point when this discussion does not revolve around black men. Also this channel definitely advises women to decenter men. So I highly doubt anyone watching is thinking about black men. But since you brought it up. Black men may not have started this, but they uphold the colorist standards laid down by white men. That is a sign of weakness to me. Why are bm allowing another group of men to still control the narrative and how they think? Kinda sad if you ask me. Also by injecting black men into the conversation, it’s giving perpetual victimhood. If you don’t want to be held responsible for upholding colorism, do something about it. Instead of whining on a woman centered channel, talk to black men about how to switch up the narrative instead.
@@LaFlor718 I have no doubt that you believe in your mind that you said something profound and intelligent. Be glad I am in a good mood.
Why don't black rappers/singers insist on having beautiful dark supermodels in their videos?
@@thesecondTH-cam because they are not as beautiful
@@thesecondTH-camthey aren’t obligated?