I published a book series. I handed my ex-husband the first book, and he slid it back to me, saying, 'he's not a big reader'. My eyes snapped open. If he hates your accomplishments, he hates you, too.
Ooof. I can tell you're a writer: that was so concisely devastating, so few words to paint such a jarring picture and a succint but impactful lesson. I'm so sorry that bum ex didn't realize what he had, and I'm happy he's in the past. Rooting for you as a fellow writer, love!
He wasn’t even asked how they met, it was how he got her, instead of saying the ways in which he courted her, he processed to tell how she was the pursuer
I appreciate your comment so much, because this never even dawned on me! He just blandly went through the motions of how they became aware of each other. And when he DID talk about them being out and about, it was just to whine about how much attention she was getting. Ew. He's going to resent her more and more, I can tell already.
Yeah, that's what I got from what he was saying, too. I've noticed in recent years that a lot of men out there act like they're the prize and it's confusing as hell when you're a girl who loves to be pursued and then men don't pursue, yet they respond when you text or call them. I don't pursue men at all and I hardly got approached in my entire life. Are there just a lot of weak men in today's society?
This reminds me of Stephanie Soo video about Samsung eldest daughter marrying her bodygoard only for her to get cheated on, beated by him and to get sued by him. The ressentment of men for women who are more successful than them is real 💀
That’s not true. It particular men. I’ve dTed successful men who did everything they could to help me succeed and we weren’t even married ….I’ve dated broke men who can’t stand my success. It’s about the background of the man. If he comes from a broken home, he will create a broken home for two as well. That’s the same for women
Dude, that woman has gone through so much- from being sexually abused and having to talk about it publicly, won 9 medals (I think tho I don’t follow gymnastics) and who knows what else. She’s an INSPIRATION and her husband said some bs like that???
Guys try to be like the Dos Equis "Most Interesting Man in the World" by being mediocre. Meanwhile, there's Simone Biles who is literally one of the Most Interesting Women in the World, if not most interesting person in general. She's had an insane life with ups and downs but wildly successful! Yet this guy is a nobody and thinks he's the prize? He's a joke.
I've got that now and I have to say, it is amazing. Your man cheering for every achievement you have, even the smallest ones you don't care as much. My previous relationship was the opposite, I was with someone that would constantly belittle me and mock my achievements. They destroy whoever is around to bring down to their low level.
If this isn’t just an act for publicity, Tom Holland and Zendaya’s relationship seems to have that Gomez-Morticia vibe . Tom seems to ADORE and APPRECIATE Zendaya.
How much vitriol and pent up resentment you have to have for your WIFE to publicly humiliate her like this? You can tell this man is incredibly bitter for having to live under her shadow & not even achieving half of her accomplishments.
@@knockemswhy would Mr.Biles resent his pretty and fit, super chill, humble, and all-time world talented wife? She is everything he could never be, that's why. She's essentially everything to his nothing, and the fact that he can't have one way in which he is superior to her (y'know, for balance) fills him with impotent rage. IMO, bro should've stayed with the street rats he was used to 😂 I'm sorry; I knew it was bait, davidhogg9823, but I couldn't resist😏
I find the people saying stuff like “oh buy Simone is not mad so why are y’all mad” or “y’all are bitter than you are single and Simone is not” VERY hypocritical. Where was this energy when Jada Pinkett was airing out her husband’s business online? Did anyone ask “oh but what about Will? Is he upset?” Nope, many people, especially men, were OFFENDED on Will’s behalf and absolutely dogged out Jada & made jokes out of her alopecia. It was all “off with Jada Pinkett’s head!” But as soon as a WOMAN is on the receiving end of disrespect, it’s “oh y’all want her to be single like y’all huh”
Living under patriarchy has made men think they literally do nothing wrong, because behavior like this always happens and always goes unnoticed. It’s not that they care about what simone thinks, it’s about the way they think this is okay. They look at what he said and saw nothing wrong with it. And now they run around telling women they’re jealous and bitter and crazy for turning this into “another gender war”.
he's an older athlete, and he was at the end of his contract when Simone messaged him. He knew she would be his next meal ticket. He's about to retire.
Simone’s issues run deep. She may be extremely trained and confident with being a great, the greatest gymnast, but not in love. Please note, she was in foster care from the age 1-7, and her parents abandoned her. Pray for her, she’s internally struggling. Your videos are excellent content for us to shift the paradigm. Thank you! 🌻
Simone Biles was also one of the USA Gymnastics team members that Larry Nasser sexually abused. God, the woman is so brave, dynamic and driven, it just blows my mind. I hope she is able to see this man for what he is sooner rather than later. And y’all know she’s paying a price for all the press over this mask off moment behind closed doors. And once that mask off moment happens with men, it only gets worse. God help her. As if she hasn’t been through enough.
My husband put a hold on his education to support mine, including my published papers and honors achievements. He has never ONCE held it against me, humbled me, or made me feel less than. When he heard the interview his first response was “that was unnecessary”. It will never be okay to make your spouse look desperate.
Of course. Don't act dumb and pretend that situation has a completely different social context than the one described in OP's comment. I hate it when you man pull these goddamn whatifisms and these reverse situations when you know the difference in men and women's perspective and social connotations.
That's the spirit!! mine moved country for me and brags about my achievements to his mates. That's the man you want to spend your life with. (PS just realized that he both brags about my career and what I do right now on parental leave with a new baby- as usual, the girl who runs this channel is just spot on, this is a pattern that extends to your entire life )
@@pidu4588If both were agreed and it didn’t end bad, like kind of does in most of cases when is the woman that does it…(And a men doing that is kind of rare, but women? uuhhh, too much, we are trying to change that bit by bit, with opportunities and confidence but you know, it’s kind of difficult to find equilibrium in that often, but keep trying to be better I think)
List of things we DIDNT need to know He took a shower after she messaged him He went to eat after she liked his post She drove 45 mins from the burbs to see him He didn’t know who she was And that he fought committing to her, and who swiped first He’s the prize 🙄
@@JaneDoane Lol. Near the end of the podcast Johnathan says something stupid about Simon doing these splits. And he said she sent him pics of herself standing upright with one of her leg next to her head. He was like Bruh, what are you doing?
Those podcast hosts were READING HIM FOR FILTH. They were being as cordial and friendly as possible while also making a dig at him and pointing out what his language says to them. They are not stupid. They are men. They have male friends. They heard him correctly, and he really said "nah nah nah, I didn't say that!".......while saying literally nothing valuable abt his woman. Lol
People were coming for them, but I feel the same. They were low-key setting him up, and his pride fell for it and he kept digging himself deeper. He was the least accomplished in the room, and his insecurities were all over the place. So, he just had to ride that she chased him. Pathetic, but Simone validates it, unfortunately! Smh she's boy crazy
The full interview was just way worse. The way he didn't even compliment her looks or her personality once just shows how much he doesn’t even value her. Honestly the way he spoke about how he struggled and everything trying to get drafted and his personal life just confirms he married her for money. He also spoke about being annoyed at the fact that she gets attention when they go out just shows how jealous and competitive he is. It's just so sad how she has to do so much while he gives her below bare minimum efforts. She cooks, she motivates him as a player and encourages him to go to therapy, she coddles his ego, she even helps him analyze how he plays and gives him advice while he just sits there and looks pretty. The worst part is how she's defending this man up and down for the mess he made. He should be the one protecting her from public scrutiny. Yet he's just hiding behind her skirt
Simone was not valued as a child,; in foster care system all her childhood, not even adopted. Her self esteem does not match her value. Her parents let her and her 3 siblings down.
@@knockems no, there's not anything wrong with that. but there is something wrong with a man who will downplay your accomplishments, who will try to humble you because they're insecure and can't handle that you're successful and powerful and accomplished. and i think because simone wasn't valued as a kid, she hasn't yet healed and developed a solid sense of self worth. which means she's going to be willing to settle for a man that talks about her like this. he talks about her like she's not a big deal, like she's not that important, right in front of her. and if he REALLY loved her, instead of being like "oh, i'm the prize" or whatever, he'd be like, "i dunno how i pulled simone freaking biles. she's amazing, and i'm SO lucky." but he's not. he's insecure and threatened by how accomplished she is. so instead of uplifting and celebrating her, he tries to minimize and humble her and downplay her accomplishments. when instead, he should be her biggest cheerleader. and the part we're all upset about is how she sits there and smiles, like she doesn't even realize that she deserves to be treated better. but she does. she deserves someone who will see how beautiful, powerful, ambitious and wonderful she is. that's the point.
Women do it all the time. Literally look at any relationship with a pretty girl and an accomplished man and women say “he won” even though the man is doing bringing much more. This has the tables reversed and you see so many bitter women
"She drove 45 min to me" literally EVERYTHING in Houston is 45 min from anything else. Legit you could want to go around the block and somehow it'll still take 45 min. Anyone who has spent any time there knows that lmao. That was so not a flex
He straight lying. When she messaged him he “thought it was a prank”. If he didn’t know who she was, why would he have thought he was being pranked by some unknown woman? It being a prank only makes sense if it’s someone so famous they would never look at him. Like … Simone Biles lol.
That’s a great observation. He’s such a liar. Literally so many super-famous people attend Simone’s gymnastics events. People way more famous than he’ll ever be. She is THE star of the Olympics.
My eyes opened watching this video. My friend's boyfriend acted exactly like this when I asked him how they met. He was like " oh she was the one texted me, followed me". I didn't like him at all. Their relationship now looks like she is his mum and he is irresponsible child. My friend is a highly accomplished woman who works in medicine industry, and this is just sad to see.
But he is telling you the truth. She chased him. Her accomplishments do not negate the reality. He wasn't checking for her. Sadly men never say no to any opportunities from women. Your friend is the one that needs to reflect on her choices.
@@whymillie I was just reflecting on what Elle said in the video. I didn't notice it before when a man emphasized so much that his girlfriend chased him. But now I see it definitely as a red flag. My friends choice could've definitely be better but it's a decision she made on her own.
she praises him even though her own accomplishments are far greater. you can tell he’s too emasculated and insecure to do the same for her. she needs to find herself a masculine man.
don't think she even needs to find a masculine man necessarily. just one that isn't insecure as hell. who has enough self worth that your accomplishments don't make him feel less than
No man can be "emasculated". He is extremely jealous of her, thats it thats all. Lets use the same terms we use for women. Golddiggers, jealousy, etc. also applies to men even more so than to women if you ask me.
Women need to GROW in love! Stop falling in love with text messages and phone calls. He's doing nothing for you in any sense except telling you what you want to hear. Love is based on actions, and these men can't even do the bare minimum such as respect you. We deserve nothing but the best, the end.
Poor Simone turned herself into a cautionary tale and the butt of the joke simultaneously. The take away is the cost of not having boundaries standards and self-like is too high a price for anyone to pay 💰 let us all remember this lesson and do better.
Women shouldn't date down either. Men will resent you for it. Even if you put a roof over his head, pay all the bills, help him get a job or start his business. He will resent you for everything
Perhaps why most men left or cheats on the the builder wife after he got rich -- he resents her. For being there when he was a loser and help him every step of the way. It defies the logic that women have been thought, but it makes perfect sense -- the builder wife is a reminder that he was once a loser and had to get her help to build himself up. He is silently seething with resentment and when he finally has the money, he "takes his revenge" on the builder wife.
Moral of the story: don't go after pretty man unless you're literally a fairytale goddess. This pretty man will humble you even if you're young, cute, rich and world famous. A lady like Simone could have married a whole sport TEAM OWNER or a tech billionaire. Because yes, a rich man somewhere right now is looking for this kind of a wife. Just think about it for a second.. And this current joke of a husband is just too young to be taken seriously, he acts like a teenager.
@@en2336 indeed. But pretty man knows he's pretty and acts accordingly and that's the problem. He gets what he wants effortlessly from the very young age. I believe if a man had tooo many women in his life, at a certain point he can no longer emotionally connect to any of them. That's the root cause of their mizo. And for the very unpretty man it's the opposite, if they suffered rejection too much they became angry towards women and as a result, mizo.
This is completely true. Even the image of a “trophy wife” is changing. Simone is trophy wife status but settled for something shiny. She could have def bagged a multi millionaire somewhere who would have worshipped the ground the walked on.
Omg I love that so much, even better than just "Simone Biles husband". Bring up how low on the totem pole he is constantly, that'll humble him REAL quick
don't chase men, period. I'd rathe be single and i hope all ladies have the courage to do the same. i actually believe that having the ability to not get bothered makes you more attractive.
I agree so much!!! When you are at peace and nobody bothers you, you have that particular glow, but once someone gets in and starts to bother you, here comes anxiety. Never let someone disturb your peace.
Not one compliment came out of Mr. Biles's mouth during that interview, even when the other guys there gave him hints. Simone deserves better. I don't know when she'll get to the point where she wants better FOR HERSELF. I hope it's before the baby trapping and career derailment.
The only positive thing he said was how “she can cook”. He was so insecure he couldn’t even acknowledge the compliments that the other dude was giving her!!! Like??
@@sahbapeanutbutter Exactly! And that is literally what she does FOR HIM. Nothing good was said about her personality. He didn't even talk about her personality AT ALL in that interview. SMH! 😤🙄
THANK YOU. i'm so damn worried for her that right before she hits the olympics again, she's gonna find out that he's derailed her entire career by knocking her up. cuz men like this absolutely weaponize pregnancy and having kids to take these women down.
Thank you omg! I say all the time that my DAD placed standards, expectations, and boundaries on me. He lead by example and taught me from a males point of view. He said go to college and get a degree that pays because a man will love you on Friday and leave you on Monday. He also said only have enough kids that I can handle on my own within a marriage. Thank goodness I listened. I’m a different type of woman because I had my dad . It’s very true !
I've dealt with this in the past. Where I was with someone who wasn't cheering me on and was very resentful of my accomplishments. Like right now, i'm trying to become a specialist in my field. i'm very hesitant while dating. Because I look the way I do, I often find men trying to humble me. And telling me i don't deserve to have someone who is also doing great things and who will treat me nice. Just remember ladies that some men are weapons formed against you.
You deserve it all, you are working hard for it 🙏 I wish you the best and much success becoming a specialist and finding someone who deserves you and treats you right ❤️
That guy was such a prize that NO NFL TEAM (including the worst ones) PICKED HIM during the draft, and when he got on a team, he was basically a bench warmer. A high value woman like Ms Biles who is a LIVING LEGEND in gymnastics AND is well-known by the casual viewer gave him some attention, and now he tries to act like “he’s the catch”. If a man calls himself “the prize” in a romantic relationship, I assume he is feminine, which is a turnoff for me (if feminine energy turned me on, I’d date women). If a man chases me, I know I’m his type and he’s interested in me. If I had to get the man’s attention, I know that I’m not his first choice, so I’m not going to waste my time or energy trying to “prove myself”. My time and energy is worth more than money.
I'm grateful for that clip. It stirred up such necessary conversation in the wider world. There's regular degular women sharing their lives with their own opp. Loving a man who's secretly or not-so-secretly competing with her. Shameful.
I have two father figures in my life, night and day. My mum's husband is aggressive, insecure and took pleasure in beating me as a teenager. Awful man. I avoided him as best I could. When I was kicked out of that home at 17, my dad stepped in. My dad defended me, stood up for me, got me therapy, helped me get my diagnosis so I can get help for myself, and is now helping me through college. He helped me to walk halfway around my country for charity by calling me every day and keeping me safe. My dad is emotionally available and willing to fo whatever it takes to elevate me. He invited his entire office to my violin performances. My dad is my cheerleader and I really appreciate that. My dad isn't perfect, and I do often humble him, but he actually makes an effort to be the best dad he can be. I appreciate that. The energy between those 2 men are VERY different and I see it. AMA.
@@peacelove7437 yes but mayhaps he makes up for it afterwards in way of repentance. Ill give credit where its due, we all arent perfect but wecan ofc always improve
Something that is worse than a guy who is talking about you chasing him is a guy who chased you first and now expects princess treatment in return for chasing you.
Been in a situationship like that. He would call me wife material and said he wanted to have a marriage pact, paid for me to join him on a road trip to DC, met both sides of his family and neice, yet he says 'I told you I didn't want anything' but was with a new girl maybe 2-3 months after I went off and stopped talking to him. Truly think it was because I wasn't goth and obese enough to resemble his ex
It baffles me when celebrities put their relationships out there seeking attention and then go off on people for giving their opinion on the relationship. You cant have your cake and eat it too.
Exactly! They CHOSE to put their personal relationship out there for public consumption in the hopes of riding off of their “cute couple” wave, but it backfired when MR. Insecure Biles said too damn much.
@@bennyboss8103bruh! Still women would always find someone it's the men that have difficulty finding women. Btw even the women that are staying single can find anyone they just don't want to settle.
@@kanikakumari7219 Yeah men find it difficult to find a solid women in this day. Women may always find a guy but it's not always the ones she want. Most women are not single by choice just some guy's just see them as hard work and not an asset to them.
THRILLED to see how many types, kinds, and varieties of women are OUTRAGED by this stranger-to-us man's treatment of THEE SIMONE BILES. Seriously, it's heartening. Excellent post; thank you for re-focusing the conversation and reminding the girls how WE should move, going forward and using this as a cautionary tale.
I was stuck in auditioning energy not for my husband, but my in-laws. Finally learned to give up on that this year and prioritize relationships with people who prioritize me ❤️
Yah it’s impossible to ever be “enough” for some people so NOT worth it. Don’t be in proving or auditioning energy - it’s exhausting!! 😮💨 be yourself and focus your love and attention on what matters most to you.
Just wanted to say... I really resonate with your message. I used to put men before me countless times before and this year I am just realizing how much my upbringing has indoctrinated me into being OK with low effort men. Keep up the good work 💚Refreshing seeing a realistic feminist perspective 🥰
Ya girl was LURKING in the wings, WAITING for YOUR take on this because I KNEW you were going to come through with the nuanced, multilayered organic Darjeeling tea I've been craving. There's so much to unpack and say here, but I'll restrict myself to two (2) observations: 1) The reactions of the other men in that room were priceless and 2) Mr. Red Dime (cringe) plays for the NFL ... As such, shouldn't he - more than anyone - be aware of how *replaceable* he is? Evidently not 🙄
I was one of the main developers in releasing a game. It was a big achievement and a step forward in my career - my boyfriend honestly couldn't stop talking about it. I had people talking to me about it that I defo didn't mention it too, because *he* was so proud and excited - that's what you guys deserve too. That sorry excuse for a husband is so, so wrong.
All true. Back in college, whenever I would tell my then-boyfriend I aced yet another test/presentation/class/semester, he would roll his eyes and say, "Employers don't care about grades." Years later I dated another man who told me to stop volunteering at the local community center because it was "dumb." He laughed, "Why would anyone [help others for free]?"
I noticed the eye roll of Simone. It was subconsciously done while she pulled away from them, turning her body away & sheepishly smiling all at the same time.
Thank you for bringing this up! I clocked it but I wondered why little to no one has spoke on it yet. If she truly felt the way she said, she'd be leaning in closer. Not eye rolling and pulling away.
The first thing I thought about when I saw this immature boy-man speak about Simone is how consistently we see that women who are abused - as she was by her team physician - do not know THAT THEY CAN DO BETTER than what they are accustomed to. If one has never been treated truly well, never experienced really being accepted, validated, supported & loved, how can one even know what to hold out FOR? Many struggle to do well for themselves in love yet have NO IDEA what it even looks/feels/sounds like in daily life situations. If you have not seen healthy partnership demonstrated you do not have a working compass to follow! So, we make mis steps, stumble, go in the wrong direction, and learn the hard way that THIS is not that (good love). In her case I have so much sympathy because I think that with time the cognitive dissonance of being a world champion outside & being underappreciated in her private life will begin to wear on her. If he doesn't get it & become a better man she may tire of his clownery. I myself had to try many iterations before I became clear about what I have a perfect right to expect. Her learning curve may be faster than many as I expect she can afford a good therapist to guide her. I wish her & her person the best.
I’m just over here cackling because he thinks he’s the prize but everyone I keep seeing reacting to him doesn’t even know his name he’s “Mr Simone Biles” on all these videos and he won’t even be remembered 🤣
the fact that women/ ppl from alll differnt backgrounds and walks of life see the ignorance from this dude from a mile away says A LOT!! its reall sad but interesting that she doesnt see a thing wrong. in my opinion they got married way too fast smh
I'm sooooo glad yo made this video! I neeeeeded to hear you talk about this, I can't believe how someone can talk about his wife like that. Simone Biles deserves better
The amount of insecurity oozing from the screen from Mr. Simon Biles is unbelievable. I've never seen a man SO DEEPLY insecure like that, like even the other men in the room couldn't help but laugh at how miserable he is. I feel bad for her and hope she got that prenup!
The dynamic of their relationship has been switched. Mr Biles is the gold digger and Simone has all the gold. Simone is operating from her masculine energy, providing for and protecting her husband, mean whilst he is operating from his feminine energy, collecting all the gold that his wife has and benefiting from all the promotion and support that she gives him. He showers himself with compliments such as he is the “prize” and she sits and supports him as he does so, cackling at the “prize” that she won. So in a way, their relationship is a “normal” (heavy on quote “normal”) transactional relationship. Unfortunately though, this violates the natural and biological instincts that both a man and woman have, which is for a man to be the hunter and the woman to be the “catch” or the “hunted” and in the long run it will be unsustainable for them. Simone will long for the compliments and Mr Biles will long to hunt and chase after the woman he really wants. There are some successes, but as time goes on and Simone’s confidence increases like you said it will be suicidal for them both to continue living in this switched dynamic.
I haven't heard about this Simone Biles story. I am disappointed by her submission. With his kind of fragile ego and muscular build, he will be beating her very soon. Take my word.
She’s going to have to see it for herself in order to learn. She’s in bliss and she is young. I hope that she finds the love she needs inside herself. Good luck to her
i feel so bad for her that they are tied legally. i hope she at least has protection of her assets. if he is willing to say this in public, imagine what he says to her behind closed doors....
Ladies, we have to stop dating down. Don’t give into the fake guilt of these dusties once they get caught. I don’t care how “broken” or “unstable” or “struggling but trying” your man is. Stop dating down and stop feeling guilty for them. They just want a free place to stay, eating your food from your refrigerator that you paid good money for. Hell, find a man that’ll be so emotionally and financially strong that your current fridge can include a touchpad! Sprinkle sprinkle ✨
They're also energy vampires who will literally destroy you in their quest to either drag you down to their level or feed off you in order to build themselves up for their next victim.
absolutely. They will call women shallow and cold-hearted for having standards and they will have 0 gratitude or respect for a woman who lowered her standards, constantly disrespect her for staying with them while struggling because they feel safe ("She is never going to leave me anyway")
This has kind of been articulated already, but while Simone is with him enduring his behavior, there are SO many other men that would make her life amazing. Us girlies need to realize that for every man we get with, there are so many others that are wishing that they would get the chance to be with us and actually treat us correctly. I am wishing Simone and all the girlies the best! I don’t believe this is the end for Simone, I think that all of the social media reposts will make its way to her and she will understand what her man is up to 🤞
Just don't date insecure or threatened men which is like 60 percent of them. They keep projecting their emotions outwards instead of working on themselves
A tangent: it seems like love, true love is only available for a select few. It is rare. The ones who get it are just highly blessed because there’s not a way to figure out beforehand who will get it.
Nobody gets true love. No such thing. No man will ever give more to a woman than he gives to himself. You do not need Love from men to enjoy them and be in a safe marriage. Anyone who tries to sell you that dream is lying to you. Women are good liars, we promote fake happiness. A woman's job is to ensure she commits to men who has proven themselves and respected your boundaries. Everything else you want to experience is about you and you cultivating it. Men really do not have much to give. They are natural takers. Your job is to have high standard of behaviour that signals you can not be abused or controlled.
I think Jonathan Owens' game really picked up when he met Simone; she really helped him. I watched the whole (original) podcast and I don't think he gave her much (or any) credit for this. It seemed like he chalked it up to self improvement. I'm sure there was some self improvement on his part but she has been a very big supporter and excellent influence on him.
Thank you so much for this message, i wish i had only found you earlier. A couple of months ago i was embarrassed because i had a guy I liked and unfortunately it was obvious to the people around me. But he didn't make a move. So I started thinking about taking things into my own hands and asking him out and asking some ppl around me how to do that (because I'm inexperienced). A GREAT MOVIE TO WATCH IS "HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" which hits on all the points covered in this and her other videos. I felt so embarrassed when I watched it and realized it was obvious he didn't like me, and everyone around us probably knew that. Especially since one guy had tried to get us together. Now I realize my worth and will never put myself in the position to be in such a humiliating situation again ❤
Simone put gymnastics in the map. I cant think of another gymnast as well known as her, shes literally the most decorated one yet. I dont understand why you woukdnt want to gloat about being married to her!!
Even on the level of nature - it is typically the males of the species who don bright feathers, showcase larger horns, build special nests, or dance for the attention of the females and the population of their species. Only in human nature do we ignore the need in CIS gender relationships for this format to be followed.
I have few beefs here : 1. Did he really say, that "he was scared to commit after 3 YEARS"?????? 2. How to date succesfully on a dating app, when "men" expect to be texted first by a woman....? 3. I have given up on standard of not texting first as soon as I entered a dating site with rich men, but they didn't reply lmao. I feel so bad for doing that and I feel that I got what I planted - ghosting treatment because a male didn't pick me 🤢🤮 3. If a male that I texted on there, will text me back - how to see if he treats me as a prize or if he does treat himself as one?
I knew it when i first saw their wedding rings - his was bigger than hers. I thought, i will die before i see the day my man has a ring bigger than mine, its so gross and weak
The way she rolled her eyes and laughed it off-she’s definitely not happy with what he said-not at all! You’re right about everything Elle! Except that she does not look happy to me, she’s letting it roll off however, deep down she’s showing body language that tells me she’s not happy he shared this at ALL
omg simone biles is beautiful and talented, seriously RUN girl RUN. let's pray for her to get to that stage soon in her life. argh i can't even finish this video.
This whole situation has been so triggering for me. Like many women I have low self worth because of a narcissist father, and I’ve been an overachiever in soooo many ways. It’s usually things I enjoy so it’s been time n energy well spent but whenever I see a man who triggers my desperation for male attention I start scrambling to be “good enough”. Like having my own business, hobbies, etc etc etc just means nothing all of a sudden. Like who I am and what I bring to the world is nothing. I’ve been contentedly single for over decade while I go to therapy and build friendships and such but I do want to end up with someone someday. I’m so glad to see all this discussion, especially among younger women!!!! I can totally understand why Simone would go for a derpy self absorbed pretty boy like that when there’s millions of men who’d worship her and be so proud to be with her. It’s just so sad and I hope she wakes up. ❤
Key takeaways from the video. Thank you, Elle! ❤ 3 rules: 1. Never shoot your shot with a man and make him feel like he is the prize. 2. Always be your man’s type. 3. Avoid men who try to humble you at all costs.
She’s a world top athlete! A global gold medalist! She’s one in a billion! The mental strength she has to have got this far! And Lol He is NOT THE prize 🏆’!! This is outrageous
I pondered as I awoke this morning: "What if we as human beings understood/embraced our worth/value (individually)?" I believe this world would be a much more loving place. Let's embrace our inherent right that we are made with high value and worth!!❤
I was so hoping to hear your take on this - definitely not disappointed and exactly what I expected! By the way - I definitely don't look like my husband's exes at all, but he is a white German who grew up in a tiny village and later lived and worked internationally and met me in Canada. He is however, proud of me, would shout my accomplishments from rooftops and is the most supportive person for me that I know.
Keywords folks are missing where he clearly told on himself. In the interview, he stated when she DM him thought “This gotta be fake”. This is because he could not believe his luck. If Simone had not been who she is, those words would never have left his lips. Surely he is not new to women messaging him, so why did he think “This must be fake”?
💀 I was just talking with a coworker about her new “boyfriend” who does this. He’s making sure she’s a pickmyshia. It’s horrendous then she has the audacity to wonder why other women don’t like her and why she supposedly can’t get along with women 6:42
All I know him as is Mr Simone Biles! And I love your pivoted stating "INTERNAL Validation From Self is all that counts'. Your title was perfect! I was telling my mom this morning I don't even know the first letter of his name !
Exactly. This is why ALL women/ppl need to speak on it! ++ Also why I always speak up on colorism as a lightskinned person, cause when a darker girl does it she’s always painted as “bitter/Angry BW” for speaking the truth. Can’t say that to me 🙄 When we speak on issues outside ourselves we can shine a light on things without people jumping to we “only care because they affect us personally.” At the heart of intersectional sisterhood!! 💘
@@samaraisntthank you so much! The amount of gaslighting we face as darkskinned women or just black women is DEEP!!! We are always branded “bitter” for saying the obvious truth
Saw this dynamic play out with my grandparents and it doesn't end well. My grandpa was well aware of my grandma's potential and took every opportunity to squander to the point that she no longer believed in herself. He assaulted her, cheated on her all throughout the marriage but she was too scared to leave him. He convinced her that she was a nobody and was unwanted and good for nothing. He made her grow very bitter and paranoid. This man abused her and had a whole second marriage and my grandma still prepared a hot meal for him, begging for him to come over...and he did....just so he could walk all over her then go back home to his new, much younger wife. Rinse repeat for 60+ years. Spoiler alert: they both died alone. Girls, take care of yourselves!!! These below bare minimum low effort men never grow up. They just grow old. You are always worth more ❤️❤️❤️
When I have to do something i really don't like, my dad gets me a new plush.(ex shots, dentist, etc) I don't have to ask. When I had to get surgery, he took care of me every day and when we got home from the hospital, there was a giant pillow pet waiting for me. He also always listened to my opinions and seriously considered them. He always told me I'm beautiful. This is how I set my standards. Treat me how I know I deserve. My dad would be disapointed if I settled for less.
I’m gonna be honest. If he found her PHYSICALLY attractive he would say she was a catch and would show her off but bc she’s not and he settled in he’s mind then HE is the prize. It doesn’t matter what a woman accomplishes, she still has to be considered attractive to the man in a physical and sexual way. Simone is not considered pretty enough for this man. She also messaged him first so in he’s head this only confirms that he’s the catch. The fisherman catches the fish and thus the fish is the catch. The fish(catch) never catches the fisherman…she played herself severely.
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I published a book series. I handed my ex-husband the first book, and he slid it back to me, saying, 'he's not a big reader'. My eyes snapped open. If he hates your accomplishments, he hates you, too.
Wooooow! Insanity. So sad.
dont be shy, share the titles
Great comment. Truth well said.
They’re so jealous of us! We get to be women AND successful?!! It’s so unfair 🤣😂
Ooof. I can tell you're a writer: that was so concisely devastating, so few words to paint such a jarring picture and a succint but impactful lesson. I'm so sorry that bum ex didn't realize what he had, and I'm happy he's in the past. Rooting for you as a fellow writer, love!
He wasn’t even asked how they met, it was how he got her, instead of saying the ways in which he courted her, he processed to tell how she was the pursuer
I appreciate your comment so much, because this never even dawned on me! He just blandly went through the motions of how they became aware of each other. And when he DID talk about them being out and about, it was just to whine about how much attention she was getting. Ew. He's going to resent her more and more, I can tell already.
@@TheGhostofAbigailMills And I appreciate your comment, exactly! Something tells me they are not gonna last lol
Yeah, that's what I got from what he was saying, too. I've noticed in recent years that a lot of men out there act like they're the prize and it's confusing as hell when you're a girl who loves to be pursued and then men don't pursue, yet they respond when you text or call them. I don't pursue men at all and I hardly got approached in my entire life. Are there just a lot of weak men in today's society?
@@HaleyMary And these are the same men that complain that women never make the first move. 🙄 I'm so over it.
Men like that disgust me!!
This reminds me of Stephanie Soo video about Samsung eldest daughter marrying her bodygoard only for her to get cheated on, beated by him and to get sued by him. The ressentment of men for women who are more successful than them is real 💀
They're always telling us that we need to give a 'good man' a chance, but that's what we get when we are nice to them.
Thank you for saying this. I thought about this scenario when I watched the video.
Yep..you literally commented that which is in my mind
Girl I saw that!!!!! Yes.
That’s not true. It particular men. I’ve dTed successful men who did everything they could to help me succeed and we weren’t even married ….I’ve dated broke men who can’t stand my success. It’s about the background of the man. If he comes from a broken home, he will create a broken home for two as well. That’s the same for women
Dude, that woman has gone through so much- from being sexually abused and having to talk about it publicly, won 9 medals (I think tho I don’t follow gymnastics) and who knows what else. She’s an INSPIRATION and her husband said some bs like that???
I thought it was 20+
Wasn't the 9 during a single Olympics?
Exactly. His comments are bizarre when you take into consideration Simone's amazing accomplishments.
Never talking about your privacy go and start new life is not the end of life ✨🙏✨
It really makes me anger how much ego usually men have, few are egoless and kind.
Guys try to be like the Dos Equis "Most Interesting Man in the World" by being mediocre.
Meanwhile, there's Simone Biles who is literally one of the Most Interesting Women in the World, if not most interesting person in general. She's had an insane life with ups and downs but wildly successful!
Yet this guy is a nobody and thinks he's the prize? He's a joke.
I want the Mortrica and Gomez relationship!
More relationships like this in media!
He reminds me of my husband. Find a man that puts you on a pedestal. It is wonderful.
THIIIIIIISSSS!!! I thought I was the only weirdo who felt like this!😂😂😂❤
I've got that now and I have to say, it is amazing. Your man cheering for every achievement you have, even the smallest ones you don't care as much.
My previous relationship was the opposite, I was with someone that would constantly belittle me and mock my achievements. They destroy whoever is around to bring down to their low level.
Absolutely ❤
If this isn’t just an act for publicity, Tom Holland and Zendaya’s relationship seems to have that Gomez-Morticia vibe . Tom seems to ADORE and APPRECIATE Zendaya.
How much vitriol and pent up resentment you have to have for your WIFE to publicly humiliate her like this? You can tell this man is incredibly bitter for having to live under her shadow & not even achieving half of her accomplishments.
The insecurity is definitely strong.
Amen
@@knockemswhy would Mr.Biles resent his pretty and fit, super chill, humble, and all-time world talented wife?
She is everything he could never be, that's why. She's essentially everything to his nothing, and the fact that he can't have one way in which he is superior to her (y'know, for balance) fills him with impotent rage. IMO, bro should've stayed with the street rats he was used to 😂
I'm sorry; I knew it was bait, davidhogg9823, but I couldn't resist😏
Its because she is unknowingly humiliaiting him in public just by being her.
@@nikolas8203 he's now a random loser for all time, just for saying all that rubbish.
I find the people saying stuff like “oh buy Simone is not mad so why are y’all mad” or “y’all are bitter than you are single and Simone is not” VERY hypocritical. Where was this energy when Jada Pinkett was airing out her husband’s business online? Did anyone ask “oh but what about Will? Is he upset?” Nope, many people, especially men, were OFFENDED on Will’s behalf and absolutely dogged out Jada & made jokes out of her alopecia. It was all “off with Jada Pinkett’s head!” But as soon as a WOMAN is on the receiving end of disrespect, it’s “oh y’all want her to be single like y’all huh”
🎯Girl…that’s exactly what it is. You nailed it!
Living under patriarchy has made men think they literally do nothing wrong, because behavior like this always happens and always goes unnoticed. It’s not that they care about what simone thinks, it’s about the way they think this is okay. They look at what he said and saw nothing wrong with it. And now they run around telling women they’re jealous and bitter and crazy for turning this into “another gender war”.
The goalposts always move to suit men in a patriarchy.
Exactly!
@@gratefuldudettesreign4101and women will be there to kick it down as we should
Her husband is an opportunist. Hopefully she had a prenup and gets out of that situation unscathed.
She's to over heels for her husband, probably doesn't have a pre.nup..
She didn't get a prenup 😢
@4ElementGirl No!!! That makes my heart hurt for her. Hopefully she gets a revelation soon and starts working on a post-nup!
Damn I hope her family encouraged her to...@@4ElementGirl
he's an older athlete, and he was at the end of his contract when Simone messaged him. He knew she would be his next meal ticket. He's about to retire.
Simone’s issues run deep. She may be extremely trained and confident with being a great, the greatest gymnast, but not in love. Please note, she was in foster care from the age 1-7, and her parents abandoned her. Pray for her, she’s internally struggling. Your videos are excellent content for us to shift the paradigm. Thank you! 🌻
That explains everything, Simone deserves so much better 😔
I know what that feels like... And he's just a typical narcissist! 🤬
@@PINKBOIKWEENOFSOUL he really is a narcissist.
@@tinachristine4573 Absolutely! a jealous one at that! 🙄🤣🤷🏾♀️
Simone Biles was also one of the USA Gymnastics team members that Larry Nasser sexually abused.
God, the woman is so brave, dynamic and driven, it just blows my mind. I hope she is able to see this man for what he is sooner rather than later.
And y’all know she’s paying a price for all the press over this mask off moment behind closed doors. And once that mask off moment happens with men, it only gets worse. God help her. As if she hasn’t been through enough.
My husband put a hold on his education to support mine, including my published papers and honors achievements. He has never ONCE held it against me, humbled me, or made me feel less than. When he heard the interview his first response was “that was unnecessary”. It will never be okay to make your spouse look desperate.
You are one of the truly blessed ones. I pray and continue to work on and heal myself to, someday, find what you have 🙏🏽💓
If a woman put a hold on her education for her husband you would all lose your damn minds.
Of course. Don't act dumb and pretend that situation has a completely different social context than the one described in OP's comment. I hate it when you man pull these goddamn whatifisms and these reverse situations when you know the difference in men and women's perspective and social connotations.
That's the spirit!! mine moved country for me and brags about my achievements to his mates. That's the man you want to spend your life with. (PS just realized that he both brags about my career and what I do right now on parental leave with a new baby- as usual, the girl who runs this channel is just spot on, this is a pattern that extends to your entire life )
@@pidu4588If both were agreed and it didn’t end bad, like kind of does in most of cases when is the woman that does it…(And a men doing that is kind of rare, but women? uuhhh, too much, we are trying to change that bit by bit, with opportunities and confidence but you know, it’s kind of difficult to find equilibrium in that often, but keep trying to be better I think)
List of things we DIDNT need to know
He took a shower after she messaged him
He went to eat after she liked his post
She drove 45 mins from the burbs to see him
He didn’t know who she was
And that he fought committing to her, and who swiped first
He’s the prize 🙄
And she sent him photos of her doing a split standing up and he thought it was disgusting.
@@keepsit100atalltime9what ?
@@JaneDoane Lol. Near the end of the podcast Johnathan says something stupid about Simon doing these splits. And he said she sent him pics of herself standing upright with one of her leg next to her head. He was like Bruh, what are you doing?
Damn he’s got narcissistic personality traits galore.
@@keepsit100atalltime9 yeah I can imagine him being disgusting while watching the pic, smh ...
Those podcast hosts were READING HIM FOR FILTH. They were being as cordial and friendly as possible while also making a dig at him and pointing out what his language says to them. They are not stupid. They are men. They have male friends. They heard him correctly, and he really said "nah nah nah, I didn't say that!".......while saying literally nothing valuable abt his woman. Lol
People were coming for them, but I feel the same. They were low-key setting him up, and his pride fell for it and he kept digging himself deeper. He was the least accomplished in the room, and his insecurities were all over the place. So, he just had to ride that she chased him. Pathetic, but Simone validates it, unfortunately! Smh she's boy crazy
The full interview was just way worse. The way he didn't even compliment her looks or her personality once just shows how much he doesn’t even value her. Honestly the way he spoke about how he struggled and everything trying to get drafted and his personal life just confirms he married her for money. He also spoke about being annoyed at the fact that she gets attention when they go out just shows how jealous and competitive he is.
It's just so sad how she has to do so much while he gives her below bare minimum efforts. She cooks, she motivates him as a player and encourages him to go to therapy, she coddles his ego, she even helps him analyze how he plays and gives him advice while he just sits there and looks pretty. The worst part is how she's defending this man up and down for the mess he made. He should be the one protecting her from public scrutiny. Yet he's just hiding behind her skirt
"Shows how jealous and competitive he is" not competitive enough to become a successful athlete LMAO
@@countess.alessandraYou right he so jealous he can’t be better than other Men that he’s bullying a Woman who loves him, he’s an entitled coward fr.
Simone was not valued as a child,; in foster care system all her childhood, not even adopted. Her self esteem does not match her value. Her parents let her and her 3 siblings down.
@@knockems no, there's not anything wrong with that.
but there is something wrong with a man who will downplay your accomplishments, who will try to humble you because they're insecure and can't handle that you're successful and powerful and accomplished.
and i think because simone wasn't valued as a kid, she hasn't yet healed and developed a solid sense of self worth.
which means she's going to be willing to settle for a man that talks about her like this. he talks about her like she's not a big deal, like she's not that important, right in front of her.
and if he REALLY loved her, instead of being like "oh, i'm the prize" or whatever, he'd be like, "i dunno how i pulled simone freaking biles. she's amazing, and i'm SO lucky."
but he's not. he's insecure and threatened by how accomplished she is. so instead of uplifting and celebrating her, he tries to minimize and humble her and downplay her accomplishments. when instead, he should be her biggest cheerleader.
and the part we're all upset about is how she sits there and smiles, like she doesn't even realize that she deserves to be treated better. but she does.
she deserves someone who will see how beautiful, powerful, ambitious and wonderful she is. that's the point.
😢😢😢
Poor girl, hope she divorces him now and go to therapy. Heal herself and pick a better man
She was not in foster care for all her childhood. She was adopted by they maternal grandparents.
@@iaf4454you go to therapy for being so invested in someone else’s marriage than your own.
The absolute audacity of him managing to get a living legend to marry him and trying to say he's the prize.
Women do it all the time. Literally look at any relationship with a pretty girl and an accomplished man and women say “he won” even though the man is doing bringing much more. This has the tables reversed and you see so many bitter women
@@sjejsj7615 as they righteously should be 😊
SIMONE FREAKING BILES
"She drove 45 min to me" literally EVERYTHING in Houston is 45 min from anything else. Legit you could want to go around the block and somehow it'll still take 45 min. Anyone who has spent any time there knows that lmao. That was so not a flex
LOL this is so true
is the traffic that bad?
but he said she drove from the suburbs to him in the city implying a long distance drive.
@@adjoahossou454 the city is made of suburbs similar to Los Angeles so that's not saying much
Exactly!!
The men who say they like them women make the first move seem to be insecure and LAZY. We don’t need that.
Like even if she actually did, you shouldn’t even brag about that🤨
@@letyv9071 he knew exactly what he was doing. He said he always thinks men are the prize 🤢
@@nikolas8203Approaching and being approached is only risky for the woman. Men don't get murdered for rejecting women.
He straight lying. When she messaged him he “thought it was a prank”. If he didn’t know who she was, why would he have thought he was being pranked by some unknown woman? It being a prank only makes sense if it’s someone so famous they would never look at him. Like … Simone Biles lol.
great catchy 👀
😮🤥🤨
nice catch
That’s a great observation. He’s such a liar. Literally so many super-famous people attend Simone’s gymnastics events. People way more famous than he’ll ever be. She is THE star of the Olympics.
My eyes opened watching this video. My friend's boyfriend acted exactly like this when I asked him how they met. He was like " oh she was the one texted me, followed me". I didn't like him at all. Their relationship now looks like she is his mum and he is irresponsible child. My friend is a highly accomplished woman who works in medicine industry, and this is just sad to see.
But he is telling you the truth. She chased him. Her accomplishments do not negate the reality. He wasn't checking for her. Sadly men never say no to any opportunities from women. Your friend is the one that needs to reflect on her choices.
@@whymillie I was just reflecting on what Elle said in the video. I didn't notice it before when a man emphasized so much that his girlfriend chased him. But now I see it definitely as a red flag.
My friends choice could've definitely be better but it's a decision she made on her own.
MEN NEVER SAY NO this is so true. The friend is a placeholder, I've been there...@@whymillie
@@whymillie finally someone with sense. Simone chased him
Is your friend Erika Scholtes? That sounds like her husband Christopher.
she praises him even though her own accomplishments are far greater. you can tell he’s too emasculated and insecure to do the same for her. she needs to find herself a masculine man.
don't think she even needs to find a masculine man necessarily. just one that isn't insecure as hell. who has enough self worth that your accomplishments don't make him feel less than
No man can be "emasculated". He is extremely jealous of her, thats it thats all. Lets use the same terms we use for women. Golddiggers, jealousy, etc. also applies to men even more so than to women if you ask me.
I think she just needs to stay away from this one (& his type) whether or not she even gets a man
Anyone, openly saying what he said, gives me the ick, men or women. Why humiliating your partner like that ? The disrespect is surreal
She’s gorgeous and is in the TOP of her field. I literally didn’t know who he was and I shall forget his name right after
Women need to GROW in love! Stop falling in love with text messages and phone calls. He's doing nothing for you in any sense except telling you what you want to hear. Love is based on actions, and these men can't even do the bare minimum such as respect you. We deserve nothing but the best, the end.
Amen 🙏💯
Thank you for this comment ❤️
Poor Simone turned herself into a cautionary tale and the butt of the joke simultaneously. The take away is the cost of not having boundaries standards and self-like is too high a price for anyone to pay 💰 let us all remember this lesson and do better.
Women shouldn't date down either. Men will resent you for it. Even if you put a roof over his head, pay all the bills, help him get a job or start his business. He will resent you for everything
Perhaps why most men left or cheats on the the builder wife after he got rich -- he resents her. For being there when he was a loser and help him every step of the way. It defies the logic that women have been thought, but it makes perfect sense -- the builder wife is a reminder that he was once a loser and had to get her help to build himself up. He is silently seething with resentment and when he finally has the money, he "takes his revenge" on the builder wife.
Moral of the story: don't go after pretty man unless you're literally a fairytale goddess. This pretty man will humble you even if you're young, cute, rich and world famous. A lady like Simone could have married a whole sport TEAM OWNER or a tech billionaire. Because yes, a rich man somewhere right now is looking for this kind of a wife. Just think about it for a second..
And this current joke of a husband is just too young to be taken seriously, he acts like a teenager.
Tech billionaire definitely.
This is my experience. Although it's important to remember both ugly and good looking men can mistreat women and be misogynists
@@en2336 indeed. But pretty man knows he's pretty and acts accordingly and that's the problem. He gets what he wants effortlessly from the very young age. I believe if a man had tooo many women in his life, at a certain point he can no longer emotionally connect to any of them. That's the root cause of their mizo. And for the very unpretty man it's the opposite, if they suffered rejection too much they became angry towards women and as a result, mizo.
This is completely true. Even the image of a “trophy wife” is changing. Simone is trophy wife status but settled for something shiny. She could have def bagged a multi millionaire somewhere who would have worshipped the ground the walked on.
Agreed.
Mr Benchwarmer Biles
Omg I love that so much, even better than just "Simone Biles husband". Bring up how low on the totem pole he is constantly, that'll humble him REAL quick
@TheGhostofAbigailMills then we should pray hard it goes viral haha🤣
definitely bench warmer
Absolutely Brilliant perfect nickname for whatever his name is ❤️❤️❤️.
don't chase men, period. I'd rathe be single and i hope all ladies have the courage to do the same. i actually believe that having the ability to not get bothered makes you more attractive.
I agree so much!!! When you are at peace and nobody bothers you, you have that particular glow, but once someone gets in and starts to bother you, here comes anxiety. Never let someone disturb your peace.
I agree
Not one compliment came out of Mr. Biles's mouth during that interview, even when the other guys there gave him hints.
Simone deserves better. I don't know when she'll get to the point where she wants better FOR HERSELF.
I hope it's before the baby trapping and career derailment.
The only positive thing he said was how “she can cook”. He was so insecure he couldn’t even acknowledge the compliments that the other dude was giving her!!! Like??
@@sahbapeanutbutter Exactly! And that is literally what she does FOR HIM. Nothing good was said about her personality. He didn't even talk about her personality AT ALL in that interview. SMH! 😤🙄
He said she could cook 🙄
THANK YOU. i'm so damn worried for her that right before she hits the olympics again, she's gonna find out that he's derailed her entire career by knocking her up.
cuz men like this absolutely weaponize pregnancy and having kids to take these women down.
Thank you omg!
I say all the time that my DAD placed standards, expectations, and boundaries on me. He lead by example and taught me from a males point of view.
He said go to college and get a degree that pays because a man will love you on Friday and leave you on Monday. He also said only have enough kids that I can handle on my own within a marriage.
Thank goodness I listened. I’m a different type of woman because I had my dad .
It’s very true !
Good for you !
I've dealt with this in the past. Where I was with someone who wasn't cheering me on and was very resentful of my accomplishments. Like right now, i'm trying to become a specialist in my field. i'm very hesitant while dating. Because I look the way I do, I often find men trying to humble me. And telling me i don't deserve to have someone who is also doing great things and who will treat me nice. Just remember ladies that some men are weapons formed against you.
Beautiful comment. All the best to you.
You deserve it all, you are working hard for it 🙏 I wish you the best and much success becoming a specialist and finding someone who deserves you and treats you right ❤️
@oliviamehrer6844 Aww, thank you. Same to you lovely
“ minimizing herself to soothe the ego of her bench warmer husband”. YES🙌 !!
That guy was such a prize that NO NFL TEAM (including the worst ones) PICKED HIM during the draft, and when he got on a team, he was basically a bench warmer. A high value woman like Ms Biles who is a LIVING LEGEND in gymnastics AND is well-known by the casual viewer gave him some attention, and now he tries to act like “he’s the catch”.
If a man calls himself “the prize” in a romantic relationship, I assume he is feminine, which is a turnoff for me (if feminine energy turned me on, I’d date women). If a man chases me, I know I’m his type and he’s interested in me. If I had to get the man’s attention, I know that I’m not his first choice, so I’m not going to waste my time or energy trying to “prove myself”. My time and energy is worth more than money.
The husband can "talk" all he wants, everyone can clearly see that SHE is the prize
Oh my gosh imagine being no one and making Simone Biles drive 45 minutes each way for a first date.
I knoooow! Smh
I'm grateful for that clip. It stirred up such necessary conversation in the wider world. There's regular degular women sharing their lives with their own opp. Loving a man who's secretly or not-so-secretly competing with her. Shameful.
I have two father figures in my life, night and day. My mum's husband is aggressive, insecure and took pleasure in beating me as a teenager. Awful man. I avoided him as best I could. When I was kicked out of that home at 17, my dad stepped in. My dad defended me, stood up for me, got me therapy, helped me get my diagnosis so I can get help for myself, and is now helping me through college. He helped me to walk halfway around my country for charity by calling me every day and keeping me safe. My dad is emotionally available and willing to fo whatever it takes to elevate me. He invited his entire office to my violin performances. My dad is my cheerleader and I really appreciate that. My dad isn't perfect, and I do often humble him, but he actually makes an effort to be the best dad he can be. I appreciate that. The energy between those 2 men are VERY different and I see it. AMA.
Dad should have stepped in before you turned 17. Just saying
@@peacelove7437exactly
Happy for you :)
@@peacelove7437 yes but mayhaps he makes up for it afterwards in way of repentance. Ill give credit where its due, we all arent perfect but wecan ofc always improve
Something that is worse than a guy who is talking about you chasing him is a guy who chased you first and now expects princess treatment in return for chasing you.
Been in a situationship like that. He would call me wife material and said he wanted to have a marriage pact, paid for me to join him on a road trip to DC, met both sides of his family and neice, yet he says 'I told you I didn't want anything' but was with a new girl maybe 2-3 months after I went off and stopped talking to him. Truly think it was because I wasn't goth and obese enough to resemble his ex
It baffles me when celebrities put their relationships out there seeking attention and then go off on people for giving their opinion on the relationship. You cant have your cake and eat it too.
Agree that in this case that it would have been better to not have done the podcast. It came off kind of weird and misogynistic.
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Exactly! They CHOSE to put their personal relationship out there for public consumption in the hopes of riding off of their “cute couple” wave, but it backfired when MR. Insecure Biles said too damn much.
"You don't need to pick between the love languages. You will receive all of them." #facts 👑 💅🏻
Women have and always will be the prize, amen💅💕✨
Always. And they know it.
Mentality like this keep most women single..both parties in the relationship should be the prize.
@@bennyboss8103bruh! Still women would always find someone it's the men that have difficulty finding women. Btw even the women that are staying single can find anyone they just don't want to settle.
@@kanikakumari7219 Yeah men find it difficult to find a solid women in this day. Women may always find a guy but it's not always the ones she want. Most women are not single by choice just some guy's just see them as hard work and not an asset to them.
I’m a “fatherless “ daughter, and tbh I don’t tolerate anything from these men 😂
Daddy issues behaviour.
@@bennyboss8103shut up! Bye
Go girl🎉
@@bennyboss8103a woman who has boundaries? 😡 at least you're admitting YALL are the problem lolllll
@@bennyboss8103is that supposed to be a diss?
THRILLED to see how many types, kinds, and varieties of women are OUTRAGED by this stranger-to-us man's treatment of THEE SIMONE BILES. Seriously, it's heartening. Excellent post; thank you for re-focusing the conversation and reminding the girls how WE should move, going forward and using this as a cautionary tale.
I hope she leaves him. He is nothing compared to her and he knows it.
she won't
"Her benchwarmer husband". 😂
You are a national treasure.
I was stuck in auditioning energy not for my husband, but my in-laws. Finally learned to give up on that this year and prioritize relationships with people who prioritize me ❤️
Good for you!!!
Yah it’s impossible to ever be “enough” for some people so NOT worth it. Don’t be in proving or auditioning energy - it’s exhausting!! 😮💨 be yourself and focus your love and attention on what matters most to you.
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Just wanted to say... I really resonate with your message. I used to put men before me countless times before and this year I am just realizing how much my upbringing has indoctrinated me into being OK with low effort men. Keep up the good work 💚Refreshing seeing a realistic feminist perspective 🥰
Ya girl was LURKING in the wings, WAITING for YOUR take on this because I KNEW you were going to come through with the nuanced, multilayered organic Darjeeling tea I've been craving. There's so much to unpack and say here, but I'll restrict myself to two (2) observations: 1) The reactions of the other men in that room were priceless and 2) Mr. Red Dime (cringe) plays for the NFL ... As such, shouldn't he - more than anyone - be aware of how *replaceable* he is? Evidently not 🙄
I was one of the main developers in releasing a game. It was a big achievement and a step forward in my career - my boyfriend honestly couldn't stop talking about it. I had people talking to me about it that I defo didn't mention it too, because *he* was so proud and excited - that's what you guys deserve too. That sorry excuse for a husband is so, so wrong.
All true. Back in college, whenever I would tell my then-boyfriend I aced yet another test/presentation/class/semester, he would roll his eyes and say, "Employers don't care about grades." Years later I dated another man who told me to stop volunteering at the local community center because it was "dumb." He laughed, "Why would anyone [help others for free]?"
I noticed the eye roll of Simone. It was subconsciously done while she pulled away from them, turning her body away & sheepishly smiling all at the same time.
Thank you for bringing this up! I clocked it but I wondered why little to no one has spoke on it yet.
If she truly felt the way she said, she'd be leaning in closer. Not eye rolling and pulling away.
My dad did this AT MY MOM’s MEMORIAL SERVICE!!! Trash is trash
That's vile!!!
The first thing I thought about when I saw this immature boy-man speak about Simone is how consistently we see that women who are abused - as she was by her team physician - do not know THAT THEY CAN DO BETTER than what they are accustomed to. If one has never been treated truly well, never experienced really being accepted, validated, supported & loved, how can one even know what to hold out FOR? Many struggle to do well for themselves in love yet have NO IDEA what it even looks/feels/sounds like in daily life situations. If you have not seen healthy partnership demonstrated you do not have a working compass to follow! So, we make mis steps, stumble, go in the wrong direction, and learn the hard way that THIS is not that (good love). In her case I have so much sympathy because I think that with time the cognitive dissonance of being a world champion outside & being underappreciated in her private life will begin to wear on her. If he doesn't get it & become a better man she may tire of his clownery. I myself had to try many iterations before I became clear about what I have a perfect right to expect. Her learning curve may be faster than many as I expect she can afford a good therapist to guide her. I wish her & her person the best.
I’m just over here cackling because he thinks he’s the prize but everyone I keep seeing reacting to him doesn’t even know his name he’s “Mr Simone Biles” on all these videos and he won’t even be remembered 🤣
the fact that women/ ppl from alll differnt backgrounds and walks of life see the ignorance from this dude from a mile away says A LOT!! its reall sad but interesting that she doesnt see a thing wrong. in my opinion they got married way too fast smh
I'm sooooo glad yo made this video! I neeeeeded to hear you talk about this, I can't believe how someone can talk about his wife like that. Simone Biles deserves better
The amount of insecurity oozing from the screen from Mr. Simon Biles is unbelievable. I've never seen a man SO DEEPLY insecure like that, like even the other men in the room couldn't help but laugh at how miserable he is. I feel bad for her and hope she got that prenup!
but the big question is, how she STILL wants to married him? its like she picked her own POISON. its suicide marriage
The dynamic of their relationship has been switched. Mr Biles is the gold digger and Simone has all the gold. Simone is operating from her masculine energy, providing for and protecting her husband, mean whilst he is operating from his feminine energy, collecting all the gold that his wife has and benefiting from all the promotion and support that she gives him. He showers himself with compliments such as he is the “prize” and she sits and supports him as he does so, cackling at the “prize” that she won. So in a way, their relationship is a “normal” (heavy on quote “normal”) transactional relationship. Unfortunately though, this violates the natural and biological instincts that both a man and woman have, which is for a man to be the hunter and the woman to be the “catch” or the “hunted” and in the long run it will be unsustainable for them. Simone will long for the compliments and Mr Biles will long to hunt and chase after the woman he really wants. There are some successes, but as time goes on and Simone’s confidence increases like you said it will be suicidal for them both to continue living in this switched dynamic.
I haven't heard about this Simone Biles story. I am disappointed by her submission. With his kind of fragile ego and muscular build, he will be beating her very soon. Take my word.
She’s going to have to see it for herself in order to learn. She’s in bliss and she is young. I hope that she finds the love she needs inside herself. Good luck to her
ive been hoping you'd talk about this!!! i will always support my girl simone so i just hope she stays happy in her marriage
She is not mad at it. Some lessons are taught the hard way. I watch and learn.
Yup. I’m definitely not praying for her downfall. But only she knows what she is experiencing. We will see how it plays out.
i feel so bad for her that they are tied legally. i hope she at least has protection of her assets. if he is willing to say this in public, imagine what he says to her behind closed doors....
I laughed every time Elle said "Mr. Simone Biles"
“Mr. Simone Biles Still Don’t Know His Name” is 🎯
Thank you again, Elle! 🤍💕
Ladies, we have to stop dating down. Don’t give into the fake guilt of these dusties once they get caught.
I don’t care how “broken” or “unstable” or “struggling but trying” your man is. Stop dating down and stop feeling guilty for them. They just want a free place to stay, eating your food from your refrigerator that you paid good money for. Hell, find a man that’ll be so emotionally and financially strong that your current fridge can include a touchpad! Sprinkle sprinkle ✨
Ok say that again👏👏👏👏
They're also energy vampires who will literally destroy you in their quest to either drag you down to their level or feed off you in order to build themselves up for their next victim.
@@djlivvy46 absolutely
absolutely. They will call women shallow and cold-hearted for having standards and they will have 0 gratitude or respect for a woman who lowered her standards, constantly disrespect her for staying with them while struggling because they feel safe ("She is never going to leave me anyway")
@@ehhh7412 exactly damn if you or don't SMH
This has kind of been articulated already, but while Simone is with him enduring his behavior, there are SO many other men that would make her life amazing. Us girlies need to realize that for every man we get with, there are so many others that are wishing that they would get the chance to be with us and actually treat us correctly. I am wishing Simone and all the girlies the best! I don’t believe this is the end for Simone, I think that all of the social media reposts will make its way to her and she will understand what her man is up to 🤞
Just don't date insecure or threatened men which is like 60 percent of them. They keep projecting their emotions outwards instead of working on themselves
I wish you a wonderful new year!!!! Thank you for all that you do! You’re very powerful and intelligent ❤❤❤❤
thank you. I appreciate u🤎🤎
A tangent: it seems like love, true love is only available for a select few. It is rare. The ones who get it are just highly blessed because there’s not a way to figure out beforehand who will get it.
Nobody gets true love. No such thing. No man will ever give more to a woman than he gives to himself. You do not need Love from men to enjoy them and be in a safe marriage. Anyone who tries to sell you that dream is lying to you. Women are good liars, we promote fake happiness. A woman's job is to ensure she commits to men who has proven themselves and respected your boundaries. Everything else you want to experience is about you and you cultivating it. Men really do not have much to give. They are natural takers. Your job is to have high standard of behaviour that signals you can not be abused or controlled.
I think Jonathan Owens' game really picked up when he met Simone; she really helped him. I watched the whole (original) podcast and I don't think he gave her much (or any) credit for this. It seemed like he chalked it up to self improvement. I'm sure there was some self improvement on his part but she has been a very big supporter and excellent influence on him.
Thank you so much for this message, i wish i had only found you earlier. A couple of months ago i was embarrassed because i had a guy I liked and unfortunately it was obvious to the people around me. But he didn't make a move. So I started thinking about taking things into my own hands and asking him out and asking some ppl around me how to do that (because I'm inexperienced). A GREAT MOVIE TO WATCH IS "HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU" which hits on all the points covered in this and her other videos. I felt so embarrassed when I watched it and realized it was obvious he didn't like me, and everyone around us probably knew that. Especially since one guy had tried to get us together.
Now I realize my worth and will never put myself in the position to be in such a humiliating situation again ❤
Simone put gymnastics in the map. I cant think of another gymnast as well known as her, shes literally the most decorated one yet. I dont understand why you woukdnt want to gloat about being married to her!!
Even on the level of nature - it is typically the males of the species who don bright feathers, showcase larger horns, build special nests, or dance for the attention of the females and the population of their species. Only in human nature do we ignore the need in CIS gender relationships for this format to be followed.
Exactly
Exactly,
I am so lucky to be in “ The spoiled girls group “, it’s a life changing experience!💅💘
Girl yes. This is beyond embarrassing. So glad to see other women of different nationalities reinforcing how foul this is.
I love the commitment to calling him Mr Simone biles the whole time. Like really who even knows his name and who would ever care to learn
I have few beefs here :
1. Did he really say, that "he was scared to commit after 3 YEARS"??????
2. How to date succesfully on a dating app, when "men" expect to be texted first by a woman....?
3. I have given up on standard of not texting first as soon as I entered a dating site with rich men, but they didn't reply lmao. I feel so bad for doing that and I feel that I got what I planted - ghosting treatment because a male didn't pick me 🤢🤮
3. If a male that I texted on there, will text me back - how to see if he treats me as a prize or if he does treat himself as one?
I knew it when i first saw their wedding rings - his was bigger than hers. I thought, i will die before i see the day my man has a ring bigger than mine, its so gross and weak
Not him tweeting years back that Baily needs to fix her teeth 😬 and now saying he doesn't know her 😅 the love bm have to humble bw every time.
Wait what? I think I missed that. He tweeted Simone Biles needed to fix her teeth?!
The way she rolled her eyes and laughed it off-she’s definitely not happy with what he said-not at all! You’re right about everything Elle! Except that she does not look happy to me, she’s letting it roll off however, deep down she’s showing body language that tells me she’s not happy he shared this at ALL
omg simone biles is beautiful and talented, seriously RUN girl RUN. let's pray for her to get to that stage soon in her life. argh i can't even finish this video.
This whole situation has been so triggering for me.
Like many women I have low self worth because of a narcissist father, and I’ve been an overachiever in soooo many ways. It’s usually things I enjoy so it’s been time n energy well spent but whenever I see a man who triggers my desperation for male attention I start scrambling to be “good enough”. Like having my own business, hobbies, etc etc etc just means nothing all of a sudden. Like who I am and what I bring to the world is nothing.
I’ve been contentedly single for over decade while I go to therapy and build friendships and such but I do want to end up with someone someday.
I’m so glad to see all this discussion, especially among younger women!!!!
I can totally understand why Simone would go for a derpy self absorbed pretty boy like that when there’s millions of men who’d worship her and be so proud to be with her.
It’s just so sad and I hope she wakes up. ❤
He is so irrelevant. Any man who does not view women as the Goddess.... esp this Legend
Key takeaways from the video. Thank you, Elle! ❤
3 rules:
1. Never shoot your shot with a man and make him feel like he is the prize.
2. Always be your man’s type.
3. Avoid men who try to humble you at all costs.
She’s a world top athlete! A global gold medalist! She’s one in a billion! The mental strength she has to have got this far! And Lol He is NOT THE prize 🏆’!! This is outrageous
I was with a guy when we split he made me believe he did me a favor for dating me, everyone around us believe he was the prize
I pondered as I awoke this morning: "What if we as human beings understood/embraced our worth/value (individually)?" I believe this world would be a much more loving place. Let's embrace our inherent right that we are made with high value and worth!!❤
I hope Simone see this!
was waiting for you to talk about this~! heeey bestiee
It's getting outrageous with these princess dl men 😂😂😂😂
he saur sassy
I was so hoping to hear your take on this - definitely not disappointed and exactly what I expected! By the way - I definitely don't look like my husband's exes at all, but he is a white German who grew up in a tiny village and later lived and worked internationally and met me in Canada. He is however, proud of me, would shout my accomplishments from rooftops and is the most supportive person for me that I know.
Yes, your accomplishments make him look good.
Keywords folks are missing where he clearly told on himself. In the interview, he stated when she DM him thought “This gotta be fake”. This is because he could not believe his luck. If Simone had not been who she is, those words would never have left his lips.
Surely he is not new to women messaging him, so why did he think “This must be fake”?
💀 I was just talking with a coworker about her new “boyfriend” who does this. He’s making sure she’s a pickmyshia. It’s horrendous then she has the audacity to wonder why other women don’t like her and why she supposedly can’t get along with women 6:42
All I know him as is Mr Simone Biles!
And I love your pivoted stating "INTERNAL Validation From Self is all that counts'.
Your title was perfect! I was telling my mom this morning I don't even know the first letter of his name !
So it's not just "bitter black women" calling out this modern male foolishness
Exactly.
This is why ALL women/ppl need to speak on it!
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Also why I always speak up on colorism as a lightskinned person, cause when a darker girl does it she’s always painted as “bitter/Angry BW” for speaking the truth. Can’t say that to me 🙄 When we speak on issues outside ourselves we can shine a light on things without people jumping to we “only care because they affect us personally.” At the heart of intersectional sisterhood!! 💘
@@samaraisnt yes times have changed and I'm glad I'm here for the awakening of women/sisterhood
@@samaraisntthank you so much! The amount of gaslighting we face as darkskinned women or just black women is DEEP!!! We are always branded “bitter” for saying the obvious truth
Saw this dynamic play out with my grandparents and it doesn't end well. My grandpa was well aware of my grandma's potential and took every opportunity to squander to the point that she no longer believed in herself. He assaulted her, cheated on her all throughout the marriage but she was too scared to leave him. He convinced her that she was a nobody and was unwanted and good for nothing. He made her grow very bitter and paranoid. This man abused her and had a whole second marriage and my grandma still prepared a hot meal for him, begging for him to come over...and he did....just so he could walk all over her then go back home to his new, much younger wife. Rinse repeat for 60+ years. Spoiler alert: they both died alone. Girls, take care of yourselves!!! These below bare minimum low effort men never grow up. They just grow old. You are always worth more ❤️❤️❤️
!!!!! TRUE! thanks for sharing.
When I have to do something i really don't like, my dad gets me a new plush.(ex shots, dentist, etc) I don't have to ask. When I had to get surgery, he took care of me every day and when we got home from the hospital, there was a giant pillow pet waiting for me. He also always listened to my opinions and seriously considered them. He always told me I'm beautiful. This is how I set my standards. Treat me how I know I deserve. My dad would be disapointed if I settled for less.
I’m gonna be honest. If he found her PHYSICALLY attractive he would say she was a catch and would show her off but bc she’s not and he settled in he’s mind then HE is the prize. It doesn’t matter what a woman accomplishes, she still has to be considered attractive to the man in a physical and sexual way. Simone is not considered pretty enough for this man. She also messaged him first so in he’s head this only confirms that he’s the catch. The fisherman catches the fish and thus the fish is the catch. The fish(catch) never catches the fisherman…she played herself severely.
she looks like a sweetheart and she’s very fit. Super subjective topic
Never let a man think he’s the prize.
especially when your an OLYMPIC ATHLETE
You drop so much knowledge every video. Your series has upgraded my outlook on love and relationships and I'm never going back 💅🏼
God wish i had this advice years ago im glad that im hearing this now and that others get to hear it too