As an autistic person, that first story makes my damn blood boil. Just because we have issues doesn't mean we shouldn't be treated equally, and younger brother should have been always punished for his tantrums. I learned that it was wrong to do these things, spoiled a little now and then but nothing overboard like that brat, and I turned out mostly alright.
Same I’m autistic and growing up I had very few meltdowns usually ( 99.99% ) of the time it was verbal I’ve only gotten physical once. I was never spoiled or coddled I was raised exactly like my non autistic siblings.
I hate people who do this. Always cries on their birthdays and acts like everything their relative owns or gets is immediately theirs. Absurd how parents thinks this is good parenting
I actually feel bad for the kid. As someone high functioning who has been around other people with ASD and lightly studied it, it is clear the parents ruined him by spoiling him. Sounds obvious but it is their fault he ended up like that, and I always hate how some kids get babied and turned into brats cause of the diagnosis when really we should still be held accountable for and treated like normal kids(outside of the obvious circumstances such as sensory and social issues)
First story: I’m surprised that the parents didn’t try to put “Happy Birthday to the brother of [OP’s brother’s name]. Seemed like something they would do to appease the brother.
Kudos to the older son in the first story--for not running away at age 13: for sticking around with those evil parents until he was 18. I'm so glad the parents have to deal with the younger brother all on their own now. HA-ha-ha-HA-haaaaa!
If I was the aunt I would have slapped the souls out of the parents and brother and would have said that if they ever tired to do favoritism again that I will make sure the brother would never get anything ever again unless he changes
I am younger sibling, but my parents never loved me more over my older brother. We had equel love and care one every other day. Maybe I was litter spoil but I changed when I had 10. Sorry for my garbige English songs.
Man I bet those parent regret EVERYTHING! It even took the whole school to make them realize what they were doing was wrong but kudos to the OP for not giving up.
No insult intended How does autism affect people? I either see ppl act like people with autism can't do anything on their own or like they are just completely unaffected
@@joaopeixoto6224 For me, I have more difficulty controlling myself and reading social cues. But I wouldn't trade that for what my autism gave me. My different brain is probably why I have a creative mind.
The first story is a good lesson to be learned. I have a niece who is autistic and one time, she stole a crystal deodorant bar from me and denied it (she was abused by her parents before her grandparents got custody of her, which is why she denied stealing the deodorant bar. She was afraid she would be abused if she told the truth). When her grandfather found out she was lying, he had her apologize to me. Keeping in mind that she was still afraid due to her past and she is autistic, I made sure to be firm, but gentle in scolding her. But while I scolded her for stealing and for lying to me, I was at eye level with her so that she didn't feel intimidated and I told her that while I was a bit upset she had lied to me and I was disappointed in her, I was not angry at her. I then reinforced my words by telling her to next time, just tell me the truth. I might be a bit upset, but I would never be angry at her or hurt her. I forgave her and told her that I still loved her as my niece and that would not change. By doing this, I was assuring her that she didn't have to be afraid of me and I did not raise my voice at her. I could see she appreciated that and she effectively learned the lesson to not touch other people's things.
@@0ctoCraft That's true. My niece is a bit higher on the spectrum, but she still needed to be told that taking someone else's things was wrong. But she's a good kid otherwise and I did not raise my hand against her. I wasn't saying all autistic people steal, because that's not true. But still, any child should be taught right from wrong.
first story: he’s not the jerk in this story. there’s major lessons that the parents now are learning, albeit through serious consequences. this is why favoritism in the family is bad, because it means the favorite never truly grows up. in the case of the little brother, he’s 14 and thinks everything will be handed to him whenever he wants. he definitely deserves military or boarding school. the little punk needs to be put in his place, no matter how harsh it may be.
This will take a while though cause his parents spend lots of money on presents . The brat needs to go to military school and the parents needs to go see therapy or parenting classes
The 3rd story with the pregnant wife is far from a jerk, he kept the people close to him updated on his life while he didn’t tell his wife the whole truth it’s not like he intentionally tried to mislead her. They both need counseling, not for their marriage but for their grief
Facts. If they can’t emotionally support each other then they need to get it from somewhere. The wife is struggling too but if she can’t support her husband, then is he supposed to suffer in silence? Should he have been honest? 100%. But she’s acting like he gotta suffer in silence and not deal with his issues. Doesn’t sound like she helped anything either
@@prawnvr8598 yeah but the main problem was he didn't tell her before he spread THEIR information and then tried to "control" the situation by only telling her half the truth, your wife is who you choose to spend your life with you should be able to tell them anything and they should be able to trust you
@@auroragannon7727 yes but who is going to be there no matter what divorce happens and if she is getting so up set about something as small as telling your mum and dad about your life then who knows what ahe will get angry about later on in life
@@auroragannon7727 Yeah but by the sound of it, she got upset over the few *close* people he told. Granted I'm not defending the part where he lied to her and didn't tell her everything, but he has a right to talk about how he feels with close family. Where as she was just getting upset with him for basically not bottling it up. They both need to sit down and have a session to work out their issues honestly.
The first story is absolutely hilarious. It's not right that he had to deal with those parents for so many years, but the parents now have to deal with the problem they created.
I was honestly a bit like that spoiled child. But then I was diagnosed with stage 1 brain cancer. That tumor showed me how good my family was and how toxic my friends were. I never took the world for granted ever again. And I love my parents for all they’ve done for me.
The parents in story 1 are just downright evil. Like, come on, taking away your older kid's 3DS to give to his younger brother, and allowing the younger to rub it in as much as he wants? ON THE KIDS GOD DAMN BIRTHDAY?!?!?! People like this are absurd, and at this point might as well be sub-human.
The sad thing is, it really isn't the kids fault in the first story; referring to the younger brother. From what I know, kids naturally tend to push boundaries and go out of their way to piss people off sometimes in order to pick up on what's socially acceptable, and what isn't. They don't necessarily *understand* that that's what they're doing, but it mostly is. At this point it could very well be too late to help the younger brother to grow into a semi-respectable member of society, and I just think it's sad because I've seen a whole bunch of people and kids like that and it really bothers me how so many parents don't understand or care what their actions will inevitably lead to.
I shadowed a behavioral specialist a few years back. He helped many kids when they got in trouble in school, including kids with ADHD, autism and other disorders. He would tell me that there is some part of their behavior that isn't because of their disorder and you have to tackle that part of their behavior under their control because they will take advantage of you otherwise. The other piece of advice that he told me was to "discipline kids when they're chihuahuas not when they're pitt bulls." The point of that statement was to tell me to start disciplining kids as early as possible, especially because it's easier when they both physically small and more mentally receptive. Once they become too old, its too late and they become too big to properly be disciplined both because of size and because their way of thinking is set in stone. This kid in the story could have been a totally better person if the parents didn't take the easy way out in raising their kid and got to him early.
@@darkmaner2369 well I mean, there's enough of that already. Plus, I subscribe to the idea of "nurture over nature". He wouldn't act like that to begin with if his parents didn't raise him like that. It's ultimately their fault, and I think the kid shouldn't be blamed. Not to say his behavior isn't bad or that it should be ignored. Just that it ultimately isn't his fault.
@@darkmaner2369 Well that's the thing, blaming and being held accountable are two different things. You blame someone for doing something they 100% knew was wrong but did it anyway. With a child who has mental disabilities or are just in general of the spectrum, you can't blame them for their behaviors as they have a harder time understanding and reacting to social cues. (Kids in general often like to test the limits of what is and isn't socially acceptable as YT DariuS4117 said.) You hold them accountable for the things they do, but you can not blame them when they most likely don't even understand what's going on or why they're being targeted. It's just like any normal child. You wouldn't blame a 2 year old for knocking over a vase you left unattended with them, would you? In this scenario, the parents are at fault for not holding the younger brother accountable for his behavior and correcting it early on when he was still learning. This resulted in him basically becoming a spoiled brat and bully, because he knows all he has to do is stomp his feet, scream, and make a scene and his parents will scold everyone else for not accommodating him and making him feel special too. This is learned behavior his parents encouraged. They are to blame, he is to be held accountable.
First story: I found that incredibly disgusting by how his parents treated OP and the fact they literally asked if they could make his birthday all about his younger brother instead, just because he has autism. As a person who has high functioning autism and along with a learning disability (I'm pretty much a normal person, just has trouble with social interaction and communication), I find that absolutely appalling that they use that as an "excuse" to get their youngest son whatever they want. The fact they called OP "selfish" for not wanting someone else (His snot-nosed , brat of a brother) to basically take over his birthday is just ridiculous. A person's birthday is literally all about said person, nobody else's. Kinda sad but absolutely pathetic to see that they are only realizing how they raised their youngest when he started destroying things on his birthday when he is only 14. Tbh I feel bad for the kid but a huge part of me doesn't. I understand his parents made him like this but still, he is old enough to realize he ain't a baby anymore (He's 14, almost close to getting to high-school or is already a high schooler, not a fucking child anymore)
If my little brother would be doing this on my bday and my parents didnt help i would have told them that I will be leaving to have my bday by myself with friends and walk away. No reason to share a bday with people who are like that, they arent worth it.
made me realise how blessed i am having got such an awesome lil brother my entire life. hes 6 years younger than me but sings the happy birthday song the loudest for me on my birthday, we cut the cake together and i let him blow out the candles just cuz. we fight a shitton but our bond is unbreakable
She never got tested, but my mother believes my half sister might be of the spectrum because her daughter has it. My sister and I always had a decent relationship. Sometimes we would argue, but that's siblings for you. She also suffers from bipolar depression (which she was tested for) so that made some things a bit rocky. To this day though, we get along just fine at the ages of 28 and 22 respectively.
Same with me and my twin sister. We both have autism and we fight a lot more than expected but we do theatre together and we hang out with friends together
first story: is just insane. I was shocked when I was hearing this story. Im just so glad he had a W aunt to help so that his life could somewhat be about him sometimes. I'm so glad he moved out now and his parents have to deal with their consequences of never disciplining their child.
I've never really had birthday parties after age 5 or 6 I think, but even I think the parents of the spoiled little brother were absolutely horrible. Nobody should have to share their birthday with anyone else unless they have the same birthday, or are twins.
I have kids I don’t play favorites with them. If one tries to get the other in trouble, it only works on me if they have evidence beyond reasonable doubt.
The first story remains me of my ex-aunt and my adopted cousin, when we first met her my ex-aunt would let her do anything she wanted whilst my ex-aunt was strict with her sons and treated them differently compared to her adoptive daughter. There was at one point in time my ex-aunt let her blow out my brother’s and mine candles on our birthday since “she never had the experience before” there was a lot of other stuff that happened, but the story reminded me of this stuff in particularly.
I believe everyone in this chat would agree to celebrating your birthday with a group photo to show your brother of all of us flipping him off with a cake with his name and not the spoil brother name
I don’t agree with how you approached the story where the guy didn’t talk to his wife…this same situation happened to me. My partner had severe depression, but never told me anything because I: 1) was also mentally unstable 2) was too focused on myself to hear them 3) wasn’t being the best partner So while my partner could have opened up, there’s a reason they didn’t. I didn’t give off the impression that they could speak to me. It was my fault my partner didn’t open up, and I’ve worked on myself since then. If the guy didn’t speak to his wife, that’s her own fault. She was also mentally unstable after losing her child and being scared of losing the one she was currently pregnant with. When she said that « she can’t raise a child with a lier » she was a fucking jerk. And guess why? I did the same thing when I found out MY PARTNER was in the hospital because they wanted to off themselves. I broke up with them when they told me everything. I was a complete jerk for that. Just because SHE lost the child she was pregnant with doesn’t make the whole situation about her. The guy also has other problems than losing a child. She needs to reflect on herself and grow up. (Btw, me and my partner got back together. We both worked on ourselves, but I never end will never repeat those actions again. Just because you’re going through bad stuff doesn’t meant your partner is also doing great. Both parties have problems.)
i kinda agree and kinda not agree, like is not white or black, both of them are at fault here, being dishonest with your wife is a big mistake, but also is understandable why he did it. The same with the wife, is horrible what she said, but she is on edge, saying that she have to just deal with it is also kinda unhealty. Both of them need therapy and work to better themself is clear that they can't deal with what happened.
The way some people treat children with autism is doing them a huge disservice. Putting them in a bubble where they never get any pushback or boundaries and giving them everything they want will deprive any one of the ability to function socially.
Absolutely. Although that doesn't mean that we shouldn't be given any tools and treatment. I can't be in extremely loud environments, barking dogs, and even as an adult I need to block my ears if a loud truck passes, any massive changes to a regular schedule has a meltdown that seems like a tantrum, no matter the level of physical abuse or ablism, it's my brain, I have little control over it, obviously I can control it enough to not look like a child in public some times, but I always need an out to escape somewhere private. That applies to many autistic children too.
@@AugustERaven No, I agree, Children with Autism need accommodations, but that's usually respecting their routine or aversion to over stimulus, not spoiling them or letting them get away with extremely hostile behavior towards others. My sister had a boy in her grade that kept hitting/harassing her and her friends, but the teachers always said he was autistic, so he was never stopped. It's that kind of treatment that teaches anti-social behavior and is really harmful.
@@arnigeir1597 Absolutely. Happy you can identify that. Unfortunately the orig comment of your could be interpreted... As it unfortunately the same thought was used by my own parents to justify punishments for my own meltdowns when they'd purposefuly kept a very very chaotic no routine capable life and then blame me fornhaving problems and call me spazz and stuff like that.
I have autism and you know what whenever someone blames something on autism i straight up call.them out and say no this is a you issue if you say its a you issue im fine but gosh damm if you blame your problems on autism one more time i will throw you across the room.
I like how this channel is super transparent about these all being stories sent to him. Even if the stores them selves are a little bit “enhanced“ in terms of truthfulness, they are entertaining. you just earned a new sub.
Dude the only thing I asked for my birthday was a gift card to a place I liked. This boy is spoiled af. My cousin is kinda like this. She threw a fit when she didn't get anything on birthday let's just say that was the last time she was ever invited to a birthday party
@@Samsonig he is! I've always known my parents never had much money even at a young age. That's why I always said if it was possible to just to get me a gift card cause then I could use it however I wanted.
@@allisonickes8173 I actually laughed when he went on a rampage when he didn't get a ps5 like these things are worse thousands upon thousands of dollars
The third story with the pregnant wife, it sounds like to me he was trying to be her rock but needed his own support while not worrying her it’s a matter of “the heart’s in the right place but…”
Story 3 She can’t be with someone that lies? I think there’s a scientific study or something that I read/remember once about how 60 percent of people lied at least once during a 10-minute conversation. So yeah people lie pretty much for a variety of reasons, some small and some big
I mean ye but that’s with regular people, this is his wife who recently lost a child, and struggles with depression, as well as someone who he promised wouldn’t share news of the pregnancy,
The first story really made me glad my parents dont do the favorites game and just care for us equally and give us equal attention. I will admit tho my grandparents do spoil me and my sister a lot😅
Welp i met a guy just as spoiled as him doenst thank me when he forcibly pushed me to buy food for him and when he had a small debt to the store he would just gaslight me into paying it and oh boy I thought he was the worst but this boy had the cherry in top
If I’m being honest, my younger brother would be just like the one in the first story if my parents hadn’t disciplined him with all the crazy shit he does
I wish I never had a younger sibling. I didn’t ask. Wasn’t choice it’s was my parents. But o wish it could be theirs without being mine but family don’t work that way. They didn’t have autism but still got away with annoying me my WHOLE life cus my parents never corrected him. And he took advantage of those privileges
OP should never waste his time on his parents or his brother ever again, he clearly isn't as important as his brother for his parents, so why waste time... let them live with their little monster, ffs, not even after having so much social media backlash they stopped doing this shit. Taking him to another restaurant is the same as saying he's so special he gets a really private party just for him...
The OP’s brother from the first story is freaking monster. This wasn’t the last post about what a brat his brother was, and he ruined some other kid’s birthday party.
As an Autistic Person, I got really mad at the parents in the first story. Even though, I got neglected and abused by my parents after my autism was diagnosed, I don’t think you should spoil some kid that has autism (even if it’s high-functioning) and favoure it above the other child. Autism is no excuse for parents to spoil their autistic child.
I’m high functioning autistic, listing to this story genuinely makes me livid. Like how are these parents enabling their youngest son to be a spoiled like shit!? Just because he’s on the spectrum? Hell no! Pardon my language but how is that okay? I’m so sorry this young man had to endure this toxicity.
The first story: i kinda get how the parents got stuck in a complacent situation where they where playing favorite without really meaning to. 1) the guilt feeling because in a parents mind they are the reason the child has autism. 2) just happy that he does normal stuff like his older brother. Trying to keep him happy so he keeps acting "normal". But ya a kid with autism is still a kid so discipline is still required. Being a good parent to a normal kid is hard i can't imagine one that require extra Care with like ADHD or autism.
Okay I genuinely couldn't finish the video until I got this out. The 3rd story is a lot more complicated than "Am I the jerk" is making it out to be. The Husband was in a situation which many men feel themselves in. You feel as if you can't discuss your feelings with your partner because you have to be strong for your partner, so if he couldn't get that from her he needs to get it from somewhere else. It seems like this guy was trying to do everything right for his wife and keep himself up, but he got caught up in the sauce and made some decision that in the grand picture aren't that big of a deal(But I cant tell people how to feel about something that happens to them). I believe the threat of DIVORCE is insane. She cant even empathize with this man? why did he do it? Why did he lie? Why hasn't he talked to me about how he feels about the baby? Am I being selfish? Do I expect him to suffer in silence? ME ME that's all I got from that story. Granted he did make mistakes, but not a single one was made without love.
She is too lost in her own grief to realize he's grieving too. It's actually pretty common for miscarriages that the women carrying the baby see it as their loss, not the couple's loss. It's easy to see why, but that doesn't mean it's right.
Story 1: I'm thankful to have been an only child. My 14th birthday party almost got cancelled by my mother as punishment for getting the mail. If you've seen the movie Mommie Dearest, she's kind of like that but without the looks, talent, or intelligence. She had this thing for a while where she wanted to be the only one to get the mail, not my father or I. After the mail piled up for a week without being collected, I grabbed it on my way in from school one day. She decided that because I did so, my birthday was not going to be celebrated a couple of weeks later. She ended up backing down in the end, likely under some pressure from my father, which is good because my birthday falls close to Mother's Day, and literally doing nothing can be the easiest revenge. Story 3: Dude's being set up for the divorce lottery. When she said that she didn't know whether she could raise a child with him, the appropriate response should have been asking whether that means that she wouldn't expect him to support said child, and if so, whether he could get that in writing. Beyond that, stop indulging tantrums.
I’ve never gotten a cake decorated. Not cause they were mean. And not because I was bad, but because I didn’t want to because I didn’t like the icing 😂
I have high function autism, and the entitlement of the brother “because of his autism” is appalling, the best way (the way I’ve been worked with) is To treat the as normal as possible and seek professional help to work things out, giving in to everything the kid wants is just going to harden his already inaccurate view of the world
okay story 1- the candle thing. why not give him one or two candles of his own to blow them out. also the way the parents treat OP so poorly, then get mad when OP tells people is so ridiculous. they want to treat OP badly, but with no consequences at all. and their whole gaslighting act is not okay also its sad the aunt is somehow a better parent than OPs parents
I used to live with a woman that blamed everything on her autism. She would walk past tables and accidentally knock things off, but she would never pick anything up because she said she just didn't see it. She would get upset and say I was picking on her when I would tell her she knocked something over. She also never walked her dog, but she had something called a piddle pad. It would get so full and gross and her excuse was that she just didn't smell it. She never dried off and would just drip over the carpet because she didn't like the feel of the towel and she would wear short dresses without panties, which wouldn't be an issue if she didn't leave a slug trail everywhere she sat. She would just leave her razor heads in the floor of the shower. The list goes on. And if you confronted her about it, her response was it was because she was autistic and that was just who she was and we were targeting her by bringing it up.
as someone who has Autism. there is nothing that makes me more furious than people abusing their diagnosis to do what ever they want. Also god bless that aunt.
First story made me upset, just because the brat is autistic doesn’t mean he gets to act like that. Im autistic yet i have never gotten upset over a birthday party like that
“I don’t mean to sound spoiled but I was disappointed I never had a cake with my name written on it.” Jesus Christ that’s not spoiled, that’s basic etiquette for a birthday party and your parents didn’t even give you that?!?! What absolute monsters.
Story 1: this has both “every kid deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a kid” and “every parents deserves a kid, but not every kid deserves a parent”
3rd story after word; The wife is already is stressed from loss of a child the husband definitely didn't want her to be even more stressed by say: "o hey btw im depressed hate my job and basically mess" he knew he messed up and tired quick fixing it "controling a situation" rarely people in a serious heated argument consider "lets stop and think how we're make it worse" they go based of they already have. They just don't think to restart from the beginning
As an autistic person, that first story makes my damn blood boil. Just because we have issues doesn't mean we shouldn't be treated equally, and younger brother should have been always punished for his tantrums. I learned that it was wrong to do these things, spoiled a little now and then but nothing overboard like that brat, and I turned out mostly alright.
Same I’m autistic and growing up I had very few meltdowns usually ( 99.99% ) of the time it was verbal I’ve only gotten physical once. I was never spoiled or coddled I was raised exactly like my non autistic siblings.
I’m also autistic and this video also makes my blood boil
Same, I'm autistic and this makes my stomach fill with bile
I hate people who do this. Always cries on their birthdays and acts like everything their relative owns or gets is immediately theirs. Absurd how parents thinks this is good parenting
I have autism and it makes my blood boil to
Imagine being so spoiled that you try to ruin someone else’s birthday and trying to destroy a cake.
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I actually feel bad for the kid. As someone high functioning who has been around other people with ASD and lightly studied it, it is clear the parents ruined him by spoiling him. Sounds obvious but it is their fault he ended up like that, and I always hate how some kids get babied and turned into brats cause of the diagnosis when really we should still be held accountable for and treated like normal kids(outside of the obvious circumstances such as sensory and social issues)
Looking back, that's how I acted on my younger years. I was horrible
Never treat autistic kid special or else they WILL become special.
Man, normally it's the aunts fault, but this time they're protecting the kid! Let's go!
Now that's an awesome aunt
This is a time when the aunt gets the character development they needed
Kudos to the Aunt.
😊👍
this is a good change of heart for some aunts
these aunt got a patch update 🤣
First story: I’m surprised that the parents didn’t try to put “Happy Birthday to the brother of [OP’s brother’s name]. Seemed like something they would do to appease the brother.
They said they didn’t because it’d look bad for them
Kudos to the older son in the first story--for not running away at age 13: for sticking around with those evil parents until he was 18. I'm so glad the parents have to deal with the younger brother all on their own now. HA-ha-ha-HA-haaaaa!
The aunt is the true MVP in the first story, calling out the parent's blatant favoritism like that.
If The Aunt Wasn't There The OPs Life Would Be Miserable The Aunt Is The Savior Of That Guy
the parents: come on its not like you will do anything
aunt: oh really when i raised you both as my children yeah screw that memory
@@Redwashere0_0 You're Thinking Of There Grandma Btw If They Even Have 1
@@Redwashere0_0 there grandpa raised them but I wouldn't be surprised of the aunt gave her a few beatings
If I was the aunt I would have slapped the souls out of the parents and brother and would have said that if they ever tired to do favoritism again that I will make sure the brother would never get anything ever again unless he changes
Being this spoiled is actually embarrassing at this point
It’s the parents fault not kids
@@night0wl438 mb but ygwim
Spoilt is UK spelling, so is still correct.
@@sirlancelotbeans547 True, but I imagine he will get a serious reality check sooner than later.
"There is no bad student, only a bad teacher."
-Nariyoshi Miyagi, The Karate Kid
For these stories, I noticed that aunts are mostly the nicest people in the OP’s lives.
This exact reason is why I am eternally grateful for being the youngest sibling in my family AND for not being raised to be so entitled.
Same!
Absolutely
I am younger sibling, but my parents never loved me more over my older brother.
We had equel love and care one every other day. Maybe I was litter spoil but I changed when I had 10.
Sorry for my garbige English songs.
@@mikipatka5246 samee
me too
Man I bet those parent regret EVERYTHING! It even took the whole school to make them realize what they were doing was wrong but kudos to the OP for not giving up.
glad the aunt was there too
The first story: I understand having to spend SOME extra time on a child with autism, hell I have autism, but that doesn't mean you should spoil them.
True, i even hate when people say " just let him do, he has autism" but if it's because a he gets overwhelmed or something that's different
@@aradhana356 yeah
No insult intended
How does autism affect people?
I either see ppl act like people with autism can't do anything on their own or like they are just completely unaffected
@@joaopeixoto6224 it means you don't have the same amount of speaking or social cue skills as normal people.
@@joaopeixoto6224 For me, I have more difficulty controlling myself and reading social cues. But I wouldn't trade that for what my autism gave me. My different brain is probably why I have a creative mind.
The first story is a good lesson to be learned. I have a niece who is autistic and one time, she stole a crystal deodorant bar from me and denied it (she was abused by her parents before her grandparents got custody of her, which is why she denied stealing the deodorant bar. She was afraid she would be abused if she told the truth). When her grandfather found out she was lying, he had her apologize to me. Keeping in mind that she was still afraid due to her past and she is autistic, I made sure to be firm, but gentle in scolding her. But while I scolded her for stealing and for lying to me, I was at eye level with her so that she didn't feel intimidated and I told her that while I was a bit upset she had lied to me and I was disappointed in her, I was not angry at her. I then reinforced my words by telling her to next time, just tell me the truth. I might be a bit upset, but I would never be angry at her or hurt her. I forgave her and told her that I still loved her as my niece and that would not change. By doing this, I was assuring her that she didn't have to be afraid of me and I did not raise my voice at her. I could see she appreciated that and she effectively learned the lesson to not touch other people's things.
not all autistic people act the same, It isn't a lesson to be learned
@@0ctoCraft That's true. My niece is a bit higher on the spectrum, but she still needed to be told that taking someone else's things was wrong. But she's a good kid otherwise and I did not raise my hand against her. I wasn't saying all autistic people steal, because that's not true. But still, any child should be taught right from wrong.
@@RockDay-wv8jq yes but autistic people may need to be taught differently
The younger bro getting the time out on the older bro’s 14th b-day is honestly the best present he could ever get
first story:
he’s not the jerk in this story. there’s major lessons that the parents now are learning, albeit through serious consequences. this is why favoritism in the family is bad, because it means the favorite never truly grows up.
in the case of the little brother, he’s 14 and thinks everything will be handed to him whenever he wants. he definitely deserves military or boarding school. the little punk needs to be put in his place, no matter how harsh it may be.
This will take a while though cause his parents spend lots of money on presents . The brat needs to go to military school and the parents needs to go see therapy or parenting classes
The 3rd story with the pregnant wife is far from a jerk, he kept the people close to him updated on his life while he didn’t tell his wife the whole truth it’s not like he intentionally tried to mislead her. They both need counseling, not for their marriage but for their grief
Facts. If they can’t emotionally support each other then they need to get it from somewhere. The wife is struggling too but if she can’t support her husband, then is he supposed to suffer in silence? Should he have been honest? 100%. But she’s acting like he gotta suffer in silence and not deal with his issues. Doesn’t sound like she helped anything either
In story 3 the wife is the wife is the jerk its his family not just like work friends
@@prawnvr8598 yeah but the main problem was he didn't tell her before he spread THEIR information and then tried to "control" the situation by only telling her half the truth, your wife is who you choose to spend your life with you should be able to tell them anything and they should be able to trust you
@@auroragannon7727 yes but who is going to be there no matter what divorce happens and if she is getting so up set about something as small as telling your mum and dad about your life then who knows what ahe will get angry about later on in life
@@auroragannon7727 Yeah but by the sound of it, she got upset over the few *close* people he told. Granted I'm not defending the part where he lied to her and didn't tell her everything, but he has a right to talk about how he feels with close family. Where as she was just getting upset with him for basically not bottling it up. They both need to sit down and have a session to work out their issues honestly.
The first story is absolutely hilarious. It's not right that he had to deal with those parents for so many years, but the parents now have to deal with the problem they created.
Karma, what goes around comes around
Hope mom and dad are prepared to take care of the spoiled rotten child for the rest of his life. Because no one else is going to put up with it
I was honestly a bit like that spoiled child. But then I was diagnosed with stage 1 brain cancer. That tumor showed me how good my family was and how toxic my friends were. I never took the world for granted ever again. And I love my parents for all they’ve done for me.
The parents in story 1 are just downright evil. Like, come on, taking away your older kid's 3DS to give to his younger brother, and allowing the younger to rub it in as much as he wants? ON THE KIDS GOD DAMN BIRTHDAY?!?!?! People like this are absurd, and at this point might as well be sub-human.
that’s implying they’re human
Tbh I have extreme levels of respect for the kid and especially the aunt for not beat someone’s ass at some point in the story
If I were there, I would’ve beat the hell out of that brat…
The sad thing is, it really isn't the kids fault in the first story; referring to the younger brother. From what I know, kids naturally tend to push boundaries and go out of their way to piss people off sometimes in order to pick up on what's socially acceptable, and what isn't. They don't necessarily *understand* that that's what they're doing, but it mostly is. At this point it could very well be too late to help the younger brother to grow into a semi-respectable member of society, and I just think it's sad because I've seen a whole bunch of people and kids like that and it really bothers me how so many parents don't understand or care what their actions will inevitably lead to.
The parents suck.
I shadowed a behavioral specialist a few years back. He helped many kids when they got in trouble in school, including kids with ADHD, autism and other disorders. He would tell me that there is some part of their behavior that isn't because of their disorder and you have to tackle that part of their behavior under their control because they will take advantage of you otherwise. The other piece of advice that he told me was to "discipline kids when they're chihuahuas not when they're pitt bulls." The point of that statement was to tell me to start disciplining kids as early as possible, especially because it's easier when they both physically small and more mentally receptive. Once they become too old, its too late and they become too big to properly be disciplined both because of size and because their way of thinking is set in stone. This kid in the story could have been a totally better person if the parents didn't take the easy way out in raising their kid and got to him early.
I agree but at the same time your blaming the parents and not the fucking kid
@@darkmaner2369 well I mean, there's enough of that already. Plus, I subscribe to the idea of "nurture over nature". He wouldn't act like that to begin with if his parents didn't raise him like that. It's ultimately their fault, and I think the kid shouldn't be blamed. Not to say his behavior isn't bad or that it should be ignored. Just that it ultimately isn't his fault.
@@darkmaner2369 Well that's the thing, blaming and being held accountable are two different things. You blame someone for doing something they 100% knew was wrong but did it anyway. With a child who has mental disabilities or are just in general of the spectrum, you can't blame them for their behaviors as they have a harder time understanding and reacting to social cues. (Kids in general often like to test the limits of what is and isn't socially acceptable as YT DariuS4117 said.)
You hold them accountable for the things they do, but you can not blame them when they most likely don't even understand what's going on or why they're being targeted. It's just like any normal child. You wouldn't blame a 2 year old for knocking over a vase you left unattended with them, would you? In this scenario, the parents are at fault for not holding the younger brother accountable for his behavior and correcting it early on when he was still learning. This resulted in him basically becoming a spoiled brat and bully, because he knows all he has to do is stomp his feet, scream, and make a scene and his parents will scold everyone else for not accommodating him and making him feel special too. This is learned behavior his parents encouraged.
They are to blame, he is to be held accountable.
First story: I found that incredibly disgusting by how his parents treated OP and the fact they literally asked if they could make his birthday all about his younger brother instead, just because he has autism. As a person who has high functioning autism and along with a learning disability (I'm pretty much a normal person, just has trouble with social interaction and communication), I find that absolutely appalling that they use that as an "excuse" to get their youngest son whatever they want. The fact they called OP "selfish" for not wanting someone else (His snot-nosed , brat of a brother) to basically take over his birthday is just ridiculous. A person's birthday is literally all about said person, nobody else's. Kinda sad but absolutely pathetic to see that they are only realizing how they raised their youngest when he started destroying things on his birthday when he is only 14. Tbh I feel bad for the kid but a huge part of me doesn't. I understand his parents made him like this but still, he is old enough to realize he ain't a baby anymore (He's 14, almost close to getting to high-school or is already a high schooler, not a fucking child anymore)
You sound pretty normal with that autism in you. Little brother and parents had no excuse
Man wrote an entire essay lol (no hate)
@@armedafghan lmfao yea sorry about that, it's just that the first story pisses me off
@@armedafghan it's not one of those paragraphs that make you bored though
Just to be clear, the 14 year old was the OP, the youngest brother was 8 at the time I think.
Edit: My bad, I confused the ages at the end!
If my little brother would be doing this on my bday and my parents didnt help i would have told them that I will be leaving to have my bday by myself with friends and walk away. No reason to share a bday with people who are like that, they arent worth it.
If my parents did that, they would never see me again. Hypothetical statement 😗
Ants whenever you have abusive parents are usually the best people in the world
Imagine having to have someone guard your brother from your own birthday
made me realise how blessed i am having got such an awesome lil brother my entire life. hes 6 years younger than me but sings the happy birthday song the loudest for me on my birthday, we cut the cake together and i let him blow out the candles just cuz. we fight a shitton but our bond is unbreakable
She never got tested, but my mother believes my half sister might be of the spectrum because her daughter has it. My sister and I always had a decent relationship. Sometimes we would argue, but that's siblings for you. She also suffers from bipolar depression (which she was tested for) so that made some things a bit rocky. To this day though, we get along just fine at the ages of 28 and 22 respectively.
Same with me and my twin sister. We both have autism and we fight a lot more than expected but we do theatre together and we hang out with friends together
That is the type of sibling I’d love to have in general
@@ethantan9434 well if ur sibling ain’t spoiled or annoying older then it’s like that
on the first story I was shaking because of how much the parents got dunked on by the aunt.
second story: gotem
last story: mama senses
Not enough comments appriciating the aunt in the first story , what a swell woman
Fr if the aunt beat one of the parents ass at some point it would have been totally fine
I grew up with a spoiled annoying young get sibling who got away with EVERYTHING but I didn’t have an Aunt to back me up
@@lessismore8533 😔
This guy has the best job ever he gets to sit around playing games and reading redit
2:24 His brother took "my way or the high way" to the next level
first story: is just insane. I was shocked when I was hearing this story. Im just so glad he had a W aunt to help so that his life could somewhat be about him sometimes. I'm so glad he moved out now and his parents have to deal with their consequences of never disciplining their child.
Story #3 He needs to talk with someone and he does not want to talk to her about his problems to not stress her even more.
I've never really had birthday parties after age 5 or 6 I think, but even I think the parents of the spoiled little brother were absolutely horrible. Nobody should have to share their birthday with anyone else unless they have the same birthday, or are twins.
Yeah
I share a birthday with my sister and we share all of our toys.
I love the Aunt in this! It is ridiculous she had to step in though. If anything the Aunt is a better parent than both of OP's parents.
I have kids I don’t play favorites with them. If one tries to get the other in trouble, it only works on me if they have evidence beyond reasonable doubt.
The first story remains me of my ex-aunt and my adopted cousin, when we first met her my ex-aunt would let her do anything she wanted whilst my ex-aunt was strict with her sons and treated them differently compared to her adoptive daughter. There was at one point in time my ex-aunt let her blow out my brother’s and mine candles on our birthday since “she never had the experience before” there was a lot of other stuff that happened, but the story reminded me of this stuff in particularly.
I believe everyone in this chat would agree to celebrating your birthday with a group photo to show your brother of all of us flipping him off with a cake with his name and not the spoil brother name
I agree!!
YES!!!!
same
The last one warms my heart. The mom instincts ❤ this is why I love mothers like that they always trust their mom instincts❤
*Some people have no business calling themselves parents.*
I don’t agree with how you approached the story where the guy didn’t talk to his wife…this same situation happened to me. My partner had severe depression, but never told me anything because I:
1) was also mentally unstable
2) was too focused on myself to hear them
3) wasn’t being the best partner
So while my partner could have opened up, there’s a reason they didn’t. I didn’t give off the impression that they could speak to me. It was my fault my partner didn’t open up, and I’ve worked on myself since then.
If the guy didn’t speak to his wife, that’s her own fault. She was also mentally unstable after losing her child and being scared of losing the one she was currently pregnant with.
When she said that « she can’t raise a child with a lier » she was a fucking jerk. And guess why? I did the same thing when I found out MY PARTNER was in the hospital because they wanted to off themselves. I broke up with them when they told me everything. I was a complete jerk for that.
Just because SHE lost the child she was pregnant with doesn’t make the whole situation about her. The guy also has other problems than losing a child. She needs to reflect on herself and grow up.
(Btw, me and my partner got back together. We both worked on ourselves, but I never end will never repeat those actions again. Just because you’re going through bad stuff doesn’t meant your partner is also doing great. Both parties have problems.)
i kinda agree and kinda not agree, like is not white or black, both of them are at fault here, being dishonest with your wife is a big mistake, but also is understandable why he did it. The same with the wife, is horrible what she said, but she is on edge, saying that she have to just deal with it is also kinda unhealty. Both of them need therapy and work to better themself is clear that they can't deal with what happened.
The way some people treat children with autism is doing them a huge disservice. Putting them in a bubble where they never get any pushback or boundaries and giving them everything they want will deprive any one of the ability to function socially.
Absolutely. Although that doesn't mean that we shouldn't be given any tools and treatment. I can't be in extremely loud environments, barking dogs, and even as an adult I need to block my ears if a loud truck passes, any massive changes to a regular schedule has a meltdown that seems like a tantrum, no matter the level of physical abuse or ablism, it's my brain, I have little control over it, obviously I can control it enough to not look like a child in public some times, but I always need an out to escape somewhere private. That applies to many autistic children too.
@@AugustERaven No, I agree, Children with Autism need accommodations, but that's usually respecting their routine or aversion to over stimulus, not spoiling them or letting them get away with extremely hostile behavior towards others. My sister had a boy in her grade that kept hitting/harassing her and her friends, but the teachers always said he was autistic, so he was never stopped. It's that kind of treatment that teaches anti-social behavior and is really harmful.
@@arnigeir1597 Absolutely. Happy you can identify that. Unfortunately the orig comment of your could be interpreted... As it unfortunately the same thought was used by my own parents to justify punishments for my own meltdowns when they'd purposefuly kept a very very chaotic no routine capable life and then blame me fornhaving problems and call me spazz and stuff like that.
Which now has me just as fucked as I never developed a proper mask nor coping technics that aren't extremely self hurtful.
I have autism and you know what whenever someone blames something on autism i straight up call.them out and say no this is a you issue if you say its a you issue im fine but gosh damm if you blame your problems on autism one more time i will throw you across the room.
That aunt would be chosen to be in a perfect family
“I let that sink in”
The sink: what do you mean I’m right here? 9:29
I like how this channel is super transparent about these all being stories sent to him. Even if the stores them selves are a little bit “enhanced“ in terms of truthfulness, they are entertaining. you just earned a new sub.
Dude the only thing I asked for my birthday was a gift card to a place I liked. This boy is spoiled af. My cousin is kinda like this. She threw a fit when she didn't get anything on birthday let's just say that was the last time she was ever invited to a birthday party
For the past 2-3 i haven't gotten a thing for my birthday and i don't really mind but damn this kid is hella spoiled
@@Samsonig he is! I've always known my parents never had much money even at a young age. That's why I always said if it was possible to just to get me a gift card cause then I could use it however I wanted.
@@allisonickes8173 I actually laughed when he went on a rampage when he didn't get a ps5 like these things are worse thousands upon thousands of dollars
My cousin is also spoiled
When he dies in a roblox game he might say "I hope this person dies in a fire" His parents is spoiling him.
I get nervous asking for what I want
The third story with the pregnant wife, it sounds like to me he was trying to be her rock but needed his own support while not worrying her it’s a matter of “the heart’s in the right place but…”
Story 3
She can’t be with someone that lies?
I think there’s a scientific study or something that I read/remember once about how 60 percent of people lied at least once during a 10-minute conversation.
So yeah people lie pretty much for a variety of reasons, some small and some big
I mean ye but that’s with regular people, this is his wife who recently lost a child, and struggles with depression, as well as someone who he promised wouldn’t share news of the pregnancy,
@@jjesin_j he didn’t promise though
The first story really made me glad my parents dont do the favorites game and just care for us equally and give us equal attention. I will admit tho my grandparents do spoil me and my sister a lot😅
OP's aunt is the fucking GOAT
My guy actually tried to ruin a birthday cake 💀
Welp i met a guy just as spoiled as him doenst thank me when he forcibly pushed me to buy food for him and when he had a small debt to the store he would just gaslight me into paying it and oh boy I thought he was the worst but this boy had the cherry in top
If I’m being honest, my younger brother would be just like the one in the first story if my parents hadn’t disciplined him with all the crazy shit he does
I wish I never had a younger sibling. I didn’t ask. Wasn’t choice it’s was my parents. But o wish it could be theirs without being mine but family don’t work that way. They didn’t have autism but still got away with annoying me my WHOLE life cus my parents never corrected him. And he took advantage of those privileges
I'm glad the op has an aunt willing to defend them.
I imagine the aunt in the first story as the grandmother from young Sheldon
OP should never waste his time on his parents or his brother ever again, he clearly isn't as important as his brother for his parents, so why waste time...
let them live with their little monster, ffs, not even after having so much social media backlash they stopped doing this shit. Taking him to another restaurant is the same as saying he's so special he gets a really private party just for him...
The OP’s brother from the first story is freaking monster. This wasn’t the last post about what a brat his brother was, and he ruined some other kid’s birthday party.
The last story has unlocked a new fear within me…
My favorite part of these is when they find out what happens in the future and they have to deal with the spoiled child
The first story is totally relatable
Really enjoy your voice actors & stories. Keep up the great work!
5:47 bro, no need to sound spoiled. You did nothing wrong to be upset about it. Everyone deserves atleast some kind of recognition on their birthday
As an Autistic Person, I got really mad at the parents in the first story.
Even though, I got neglected and abused by my parents after my autism was diagnosed, I don’t think you should spoil some kid that has autism (even if it’s high-functioning) and favoure it above the other child.
Autism is no excuse for parents to spoil their autistic child.
Your Aunt is a hero!🦸♀️
Also ops brother is a little shit and should be given up for adoption
Yes I saw the tik tok now I'm early baby
I’m high functioning autistic, listing to this story genuinely makes me livid. Like how are these parents enabling their youngest son to be a spoiled like shit!? Just because he’s on the spectrum? Hell no! Pardon my language but how is that okay? I’m so sorry this young man had to endure this toxicity.
Complaining because your cake didn't have your name on it? The tale of a spoiled child did a 180 there
The first story: i kinda get how the parents got stuck in a complacent situation where they where playing favorite without really meaning to.
1) the guilt feeling because in a parents mind they are the reason the child has autism.
2) just happy that he does normal stuff like his older brother. Trying to keep him happy so he keeps acting "normal".
But ya a kid with autism is still a kid so discipline is still required. Being a good parent to a normal kid is hard i can't imagine one that require extra Care with like ADHD or autism.
Okay I genuinely couldn't finish the video until I got this out. The 3rd story is a lot more complicated than "Am I the jerk" is making it out to be. The Husband was in a situation which many men feel themselves in. You feel as if you can't discuss your feelings with your partner because you have to be strong for your partner, so if he couldn't get that from her he needs to get it from somewhere else. It seems like this guy was trying to do everything right for his wife and keep himself up, but he got caught up in the sauce and made some decision that in the grand picture aren't that big of a deal(But I cant tell people how to feel about something that happens to them). I believe the threat of DIVORCE is insane. She cant even empathize with this man? why did he do it? Why did he lie? Why hasn't he talked to me about how he feels about the baby? Am I being selfish? Do I expect him to suffer in silence? ME ME that's all I got from that story. Granted he did make mistakes, but not a single one was made without love.
She is too lost in her own grief to realize he's grieving too. It's actually pretty common for miscarriages that the women carrying the baby see it as their loss, not the couple's loss. It's easy to see why, but that doesn't mean it's right.
I’ve see this story 3 times so far still love it
Edit: the first story I mean
Fir the first story you arent being spoiled if you want your NAME ON THE CAKE
i got a question for "Am I the Jerk"; where do you get these thumbnail images of peoples faces?
Story 1: I'm thankful to have been an only child. My 14th birthday party almost got cancelled by my mother as punishment for getting the mail. If you've seen the movie Mommie Dearest, she's kind of like that but without the looks, talent, or intelligence. She had this thing for a while where she wanted to be the only one to get the mail, not my father or I. After the mail piled up for a week without being collected, I grabbed it on my way in from school one day. She decided that because I did so, my birthday was not going to be celebrated a couple of weeks later. She ended up backing down in the end, likely under some pressure from my father, which is good because my birthday falls close to Mother's Day, and literally doing nothing can be the easiest revenge.
Story 3: Dude's being set up for the divorce lottery. When she said that she didn't know whether she could raise a child with him, the appropriate response should have been asking whether that means that she wouldn't expect him to support said child, and if so, whether he could get that in writing. Beyond that, stop indulging tantrums.
w op for saying “now I don’t wanna sound spoiled” because they were a BIT disappointed that the name was never on their cakes
That is a cool aunt.
That Person's aunt is an angel
I’ve never gotten a cake decorated. Not cause they were mean. And not because I was bad, but because I didn’t want to because I didn’t like the icing 😂
For the first story since it revolves around the little brother I bet someone would pull a REVOLVER on him.
Okay, regarding the first story, can we just applaud the OP's aunt for not taking his parents or brother's crap? Well done
I was so in to the spoiled brother part that when I saw the am I the jerk logo I said NO YOU ARNT😂
Aunt said: I'm end this boi's whole career
The aunt is probably a highly trained security guard
I have high function autism, and the entitlement of the brother “because of his autism” is appalling, the best way (the way I’ve been worked with) is To treat the as normal as possible and seek professional help to work things out, giving in to everything the kid wants is just going to harden his already inaccurate view of the world
okay story 1- the candle thing. why not give him one or two candles of his own to blow them out. also the way the parents treat OP so poorly, then get mad when OP tells people is so ridiculous. they want to treat OP badly, but with no consequences at all. and their whole gaslighting act is not okay
also its sad the aunt is somehow a better parent than OPs parents
I feel like the first story is the appropriate time to start ignoring the brother until the kid is more matured.
I used to live with a woman that blamed everything on her autism. She would walk past tables and accidentally knock things off, but she would never pick anything up because she said she just didn't see it. She would get upset and say I was picking on her when I would tell her she knocked something over. She also never walked her dog, but she had something called a piddle pad. It would get so full and gross and her excuse was that she just didn't smell it. She never dried off and would just drip over the carpet because she didn't like the feel of the towel and she would wear short dresses without panties, which wouldn't be an issue if she didn't leave a slug trail everywhere she sat. She would just leave her razor heads in the floor of the shower. The list goes on.
And if you confronted her about it, her response was it was because she was autistic and that was just who she was and we were targeting her by bringing it up.
as someone who has Autism. there is nothing that makes me more furious than people abusing their diagnosis to do what ever they want.
Also god bless that aunt.
I've always wondered what it's like to have a birthday party.
Epic revenge: you replace the candles for your brothers birthday with dynamites
The first story is SO relatable to me but it just gets more worse WITH TWO LITTLE BROTHERS
First story made me upset, just because the brat is autistic doesn’t mean he gets to act like that. Im autistic yet i have never gotten upset over a birthday party like that
“I don’t mean to sound spoiled but I was disappointed I never had a cake with my name written on it.” Jesus Christ that’s not spoiled, that’s basic etiquette for a birthday party and your parents didn’t even give you that?!?! What absolute monsters.
As a fellow spoiled brother i can confirm he is worse than our king.
Now that first story, was nuts. Even by MY standards. That's like me making up arguments in the shower.
9:28 I’m so happy you didn’t keep that sink waiting. It would be impolite not to let it in.
I don’t even get birthday parties 💀 and even if I were to get the cake, it’ll be like 2-3 weeks
after my birthday
Story 5 is the reason i am almost never alone and never have my phone away from me more than 1 meter when i am alone
It’s kids like the fist story who ruin the reputation of younger siblings.
Story 1: this has both “every kid deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a kid” and “every parents deserves a kid, but not every kid deserves a parent”
3:22 bro this man’s parents be like “What’s Empathy?”
The spoilt brother is 100% the parents fault, they've created a monster 👹
3rd story after word;
The wife is already is stressed from loss of a child the husband definitely didn't want her to be even more stressed by say: "o hey btw im depressed hate my job and basically mess" he knew he messed up and tired quick fixing it "controling a situation" rarely people in a serious heated argument consider "lets stop and think how we're make it worse" they go based of they already have. They just don't think to restart from the beginning