I disagree, that's not being too nice, that's being too stupid, if the OP already knows how her aunt is, why agree? You can always say 'NO', who cares if you hurts someone's feelings, it's OPs own fault for having such a horrible experience with her aunt.
@@Bacon2000. their age difference is 7 years and they've been together 20 years from what I gathered in the story, 39 and 46 isn't that bad. Met at 19 and 26 this all happened like 20 years later I gather by the husband saying he was right 20 years ago presumably how he said they were bad people when they met.
I am literally jealous about how much patience most of the Op’s have, I would have already kicked the Aunt out in the first few days, and file a restraining order while I’m at it. Edit: don’t know how this has likes but k
@@norp12 yea you were clear no worries. I just think that OP wasn't necessarily patient, but just afraid to stand up for themselves and to confront the aunt. And in my opinion it's not really commendable to be a doormat. So I think you're good lol. It would probably be good if you were patient enough to wait for your doordash, but if they arrive and throw the food in your face, 3 times in a row, it's not necessarily patient to thank them and keep ordering there :D
I mean if the aunt and mom were just going to pester if you didn’t allow them on the trip, just silence any phone calls you get from them or any family members and focus on the trip. Never cave in to your family’s demands people, you only fuel their ego.
Exactly. I've myself cut full contact with my biological father. And I've pretty much cut contact with my brother. My brother for reasons I will not say, but my father cause he had no spine, and let the woman he was with and her son dictate how things ran in the house, take my hard-earned money, and make threats towards me. I've gotten physical with her a few times and those were the only times he stepped in and grew a spine to stop her son from getting involved
@@vixey6339 That sounds like your dad was going through alot of manipulation and abuse from his wife Im so, so sorry you went through that, and i hope your in a better area now
Second Story: a child should NEVER have to be beholden to a parent just because they birthed them. MIL needs to understand her son is an adult now with his own family that he needs to prioritize over her. Had similar issues with my own mother when i started living with my wife, she was used to my siblings and I dropping everything we were doing to do what she asked of us. The one time I said no to her request and pushed back when she pushed the issue it turned into a huge fight and we didn't talk for almost 6 months. after that she understood, she's no longer on the top of my priority list and can understand that my wife and children come before anyone else. OP's husband needs to man up and deal with his mother, it never should have gotten to that point because HE should have shut it down after the first time his wife made it clear to him this was making her uncomfortable.
Tbh, i think OP's husband must have gotten some sort of manipulation from his mom to make him put off talking to her about this for THIS LONG Not teaching him how to iron? Not teaching him how to wash his clothes? MIL definately made sure he grew up to be as dependant on her as possible, and now thats affecting his adult life. Both he and his wife need to step away from MIL, and MIL needs to back tf away from them
@@my_pan_self8045 yea that's definitely what it sounds like. She's made sure that he would always need her in his life. Which is sad, the fact that she would have to manipulate her child growing up to ensure that he can't function without her as an adult to the point that even married she has a strangle hold on his life SMH 🙄.
@@goofygamer12345 There's being helpful and there's being intrusive. this is the ladder, the OP made it clear to both the Mother in law and the Husband that OP is not comfortable with the Mother in law just doing or moving whatever Mother in law wants in OP's house. Mother in law just chooses to ignore OP, at that point Mother in law stopped being helpful and started being a burden.
@@goofygamer12345 but you are right, she could think she's being helpful and not understand that she's doing the opposite. the only reason i don't think this is the case is that OP talked to MIL about this issue and MIL just brushed off her concerns.
Story 1. Lesson learned. You should not have caved. You’ve known about their behavior for years. Story 2. MIL needs to to go. Your partner needs to grow up and have a stern talk with his mommy. Story 3. Ex boyfriend is a psycho. Story 4. All of this drama over a single piercing? Mom needs therapy.
Story 2 , mil needs to get her brains together or else she will lose all communication with her family. Op's husband now is big mama's boy, he doesn't do anything to support op and seriously how old is he, does he even help around the house? I don't know if op had update about this but in my opinion op needs to get an divorce and say to him that I don't want to live a life with a mother that doesn't respect me and a husband who doesn't support me
@@EvilFallenAngelfy I know right if you know how bad you're mother and aunt are why are you surprised that they acted entitled as all hell . Like my god girly grow a spine and put you're foot down you're a grown woman act like it .
Story #3 - if there is a restraining order involved, and OPs ex is using their pictures, the court is liable to bitchslap the ex over it. Depends on the jurisdiction, but I'd straight up let them know and tell them its harrassment because its causing people they know to contact them and bother them.
Story #1- I guess next time you won't let ppl just INVITE THEMSELVES on YOUR immediate family's vacation! The OP was the ding-bat for allowing that! The aunt &even the quieter Mother sound like a couple of entitled, spoiled, Karens. What she (Auntie) did about the cars, &ruining your vacation... Maaaaaan! The OP kind of allowed it to go down like that, tho.🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🙄
I couldn't hug strangers in mascot suits, so my meal was absolutely ruined. What a crock of shit. My mom and I found that whole deal to be pretty creepy when I went at age 9.
Story 1: the mother and husband are absolute SAINTS for dealing with the aunt and mother the whole trip, if it were me, after a day of them acting like that, I would have left them at home the next day
Christ that first story is giving me hives from my own memories with my mom. Mobility issues, entitled attitude, the need to be the center of attention - there’s a very good reason I refuse to travel with her anymore. I’m her daughter, not a therapist, servant, caretaker, maid, hired muscle or the person responsible for her own happiness and comfort. I wish I had realized this back when I was younger. I would have saved myself so much pain.
1: The mom and aunt are unreasonable along with any family that sides with them. For their own sakes, OP and immediate family just need to bite the bullet and let them go. 2: The MIL is toxic and OP needs to talk to her husband about distancing. And just doing more for himself. If not, OP needs to leave him and decide childcare from there. 4: The mom has issues and is controlling AT LEAST to OP. Possibly the husband too and depending on how that went, even the former husband. I took years to begin to learn this myself: you're not responsible for your family's (bad) behavior. Kids and spouses aren't puppets.
What's the point in going on a trip if all you're going to do is complain, should have at the beginning said no, you're not coming on this trip cos you treat me and my family like shit.
For story 2, boundaries need to be set with the MIL, but not by the OP. The OP needs to get her husband on the same page with her, and it is the HUSBAND that needs to set his mom straight. If the OP confronts her MIL, she either won't listen or will forever see the OP as a horrible lady that stole her son, even if the husband is on his wife's side. It sounds like the husband has issues letting go too, so going it alone like that could damage the marriage if he thinks his wife is being overbearing.
I'd probably gone a slight different passive aggressive route. Put door locks on all the interior doors. Lock the spare bedrooms she doesn't need access to. And when she comes up with some excuse as to why she needs in there, then you say you could have just called and I could have told you where that thing was. She would probably take it one step further and talk about needing female products that would be in the master bathroom, to which you respond you are out and then you make it a point to come home with more of that product. it is a bit annoying locking your rooms, but at the end of the day it does give a peace of mind.
The OP doesn't even refer to her husband as her husband, she constantly refers to him as her partner!!! I honestly thought this was some sort of lesbian relationship, that's until she finally said he was a male.
@@mjareacts2731 that honestly doesn't matter. There are plenty of straight relationships that refer to each other as partner, and it doesn't make it any less loving for them. It's just the name they choose to use.
There's a thing called cutting someone off at the knees. You know how every work group has an annoying hanger on? I sponsored a birthday party for one of the group and made sure to fill the table with all haste. When the pest said she couldn't wait to go I told her that the table was full and I couldn't accommodate any more guests. She said she would sit at the next table with some of the people from the full table. I explained this was banquet seating and every chair had to be filled. It finally sunk in that she wasn't invited and couldn't crash. The look on her face was priceless. She had the grace not to turn up and she was down at the mouth for a few weeks. I felt the glare of death quite a few times but after that she avoided me and my social arrangements. How sweet it is.
I have a cousin like that, when I have invited my aunt, not her mother, to dinner at a nice Italian restaurant, she tries to wedge herself into our dinner. I had to tell her that I would not pay for her meal, and she backed off.😂
Dude first story was amazing i cant believe how good those parents are. They're like super heroes to their kids, forgetting about their own happiness for their kids. I hope to be as good as them one day.
That's why you don't wait until a big Disney trip to start setting boundaries and saying no.I would have just said no before, let them Karen out and go on the trip without them , let them go crazy at home .They were going to be aholes regardless of whether they get to ruin the Disney trip too anyway.
The first story was so similar to an experience I had on a family trip with my mother. I vowed never to travel with my mother again, which I never have. Some people are just toxic and no matter how nice you are you will end up in a bad space…no contact is best for toxic narcissists.
Holy shit the first story makes me so fucking mad, wtf was going through OP's mind to let that shit happen?? Like obviously the mom and aunt were assholes but lets be honest, it's her fault for letting them join in when LITERALLY NO ONE WANTED THEM THERE
First story: First off respect for the couple for staying so calm and trying to fix it every time they cause trouble but dammit if you know these familly members trash you constantly cut them off! Sure it would feel shitty with giving your familly the cold shoulder but letting them just butt in is gonna ruin whatever your organising.
Story 2: get some keys on all the rooms you don't want her in. I wouldn't trust a conversation about boundaries to be taken seriously because she clearly doesn't respect them as adults and they can't cut contact with her. Maybe also therapy so that maybe they don't have to resort to locking her out of rooms, since they shouldn't have to do that.
#2 Get special door knobs for every room you don’t want her to get into, you and your partner have the key. Have everything you need for your daughter in the living room when see comes over so she won’t have a reason to go in.
For story number one, I actually have something similar about that. I was on a trip to sea world and it would be my grandma, sister, and cousin. But we didn't know my older more entitled cousin was coming. We crammed her into the hotel, and didn't even get to have fun or go to sea world because she was always too tired even though we did nothing.
Lol I just had a Disney trip with my family and my aunts family it was great my aunt has been a mother for 2 years but she’s still that cool aunt or uncle that everyone has
Bro my family is like this, so I tell everyone last minute that I'm going somewhere with my family "like the day before" and just do things before telling them. That's how I got around my ass family.
@Waylen-oy4jd You can't just show up to a family vacation. They had to have talked about it at least once. So, yeah, they had a chance to say no and didn't.
Yes sounds like my grandma which my mother sticks to me in all the family vacations and then gets upset when I'm upset or annoyed at my grandma's behavior.
My aunt is like those two, and whenever I take a picture of an empty store shelf and captioning with Let's Go Brandon. She would throw the biggest fit on facebook, ignoring the other memes that are not political.
I get that the aunt is supposed to be the jerk, but I will say OP and her husband are jerks too for taking the short term easy way out by avoiding the fight in favor of the long term resentment and drama that would spoil their children's vacation.
They are all jerks in my opinion(To a certain extent). Your case as the OP and Husband being jerks are acceptable cases but like what the line said, it is their 1st Vacation since their boys are born. It is an important moment for them and they(Aunt and Mother) are ruining their special moment. Yes, the approach of the OP is not the best thing that you can do in that situation, but you can't blame them. It is not acceptable to treat your family like crap, especially on a vacation when you are suppose to have a good time
Right, and not to sound stuck up, but who takes their 18 year old sons to Disney... They’d prolly rather just have the money for college related expenses.
@@dylangerber5163 she said it was their first time so they probably wanted to be there since their elementary/ highschool friends might boast about their disney trips in state school
Kind of ironic that this video popped up in my feed since I was just told that this girl is apparently coming with me and another group of friends to watch Doctor Strange in the Multiverse of Madness. No one invited her, she invited herself after finding out she’ll be missing a whole outing with friends. She doesn’t even like Marvel but I guess she just can’t miss being part of everything. I hate people who invite themselves to trips just because they’re so nosy and insecure without gossip.
Ok clearly the OP needed to hear this and I’m sure there are many more that need it too: YOU HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO KEEP TOXIC PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE EVEN IF THEY’RE FAMILY. No good comes from dealing with toxic miserable people.
First story deserves everything they get. If you're too weak to defend your own self and your children, suck it up buttercup it's going to be a hard life.
Story 4: Idon't think the mom was too out of line, I do think she shouldn't have freaked out in front of her child though. I also, don't think she should have freaked out on her husband as it has been years. But I do think it is something kind of resonable to be mad about and talk and work through. He knew she had these rules for their kids and that they were important to her, yet he didn't tell her. He also knew that she expected them to have an honest relationship, so I could see being hurt about his dishonesty. I don't think it should completely ruin there relationship or anything, but I can totally understand her being hurt by it.
For the first story if I was the OP I would’ve just cut them off in the beginning and if they asked to be on a family vacation then I would’ve just talked to my partner and we would probably say no
I call BS on the first story. Your going to drive to Florida then just jump over to Arizona! $4000 for 4 plane tickets at the height of Covid? You don’t have to fly first class. And how can you afford hotels for this circumnavigation of the United States if you can’t afford the plane tickets? And what hotel in Orlando is an hour away from the Orlando airport? It’s not anymore expensive for 1 person to take an Uber than for 4. I didn’t know Colorado bordered the state of “Omaha”.
5 people mate, the woman, her husband and her 3 sons. So unless you are planning on making the uber driver leave their vehicle and let you drive it while they hang on the top of the car like in tryhard 2, they would need to take two ubers.
My parents are like that too. I am currently 16 and my mother nor grandmother have not taught me responsibilities and treat me like a child. I despise them.
first story: Why did you even pick ur aunt from the airport in the first place. if they still come to disney, its a very small chance they will find u in that COLOSSAL location. if they keep calling or texting, there is a thing called silent mode. USE IT!
For the first story: Old me would have done the same thing, being a people pleaser with no backbone Today I would have told them no right out of the gate. You don’t hijack a vacation that you weren’t invited to and complain about it!
If I'm being being honest, some of these stories only happen because the OPs are spineless at times. But they seem to find the courage they need at the end of their ordeal, so i guess there is some reward. Good for them and at least the stories are very entertaining.
Story #1 OP could have avoided everything by saying “NO!” No is a complete sentence and you do not have to explain anything after it. The aunt has been allowed to bully the entire family for years and it is everyone’s fault for allowing her to overstep boundaries.
Last story actually can make a lot of sense since we didn't receive details of what her ex-husband lied to her about. If it was something very serious she could have long term trauma from that, and of course will react very negatively to such.
I have a similar story. So my uncle passed away in February and left a huge chunk of money to his son, sisters and brother, my dad. Back in April, my dad comes to me and says that he wants me and my daughters to have a vacation, anywhere we want to go and he'd pay for it. Awesome! Hawaii, here I come! Now, knew that one person would be upset that I was going on vacation. My boss, who is also a childhood friend, asked me 4 years ago to help her with her mom, as in home care was getting expensive. So I've been doing this basically since covid, we have a routine and it works. Except for the fact that she has no backup help in case something happens to me or her. I sat on this news about my vacation for 3 days, because I didn't want to text it to her, I wanted to tell her in person. So I get to her house the night before my 4 day shift, and I let her know about my trip. Mind you, I'm not planning to go until next March. So she has 10 months to prepare and get someone to help her while I'm gone. So plenty of advanced warning. She lost her shit! It's so unfair! What about meeee???? Seriously? I suggested her cousin come up since she's helped us before. She called her the next day, but would have to get back to us with her schedule, as she has 2 kids, and like 15 huskies. About a week and a half go by with no word from her cousin, and finally gets back to us. Originally, I had wanted to go in February, but wasn't sure about the weather, so I moved it to March. Cousin asks if I can move it to the end of March or into April. Nope! Sorry! The whole point of going in February or early March is it's whale season! Then she says she could only come for 3 days. Now before we found this out, my boss/friend says to me, maybe we can get cousin to stay the whole time and I can come with you! My heart went into my throat out of sheer panic. It's MY vacation, not yours! I didn't say anything, just let it go. Then she has the gall to say to me, the one person who I thought would never go on vacation, is going on vacation. RUDE! She acts like I can't go on vacation without her or it's somehow unfair. Sorry you don't have a dead uncle that left his family a nice stipend... am I supposed to say no thanks, because friend has feelings? Fuck her feelings! I'm going to Hawaii! She is one of those people who gets super upset when her order from Doordarsh is wrong. She's a Karen. Any inconvenience in her life, and it's somebody else's fault. Makes me not want to buy her anything from Hawaii. Why? Attitude like that doesn't deserve anything. I'm almost thinking of not coming back to work after my trip, because I don't want to spend 10 days in paradise, only to have to come back to this shit. She acts like it's my responsibility to find care for her mother. Nope! Anywho, she convinced her brother to come help her as he should, but he'll only be here for 3 days. So no vacation for her! Not my problem. I just work here. I have 272 days to save up and purchase items for my trip. Then I'm a peace out!😂
My aunt did the same thing. She invited herself to my Disney trip with my grandma and sister for my birthday and literally messed everything up first day. Also Rip to my grandma as she passed away yesterday..
Damn, the OP in that first story is way nicer than I would’ve been; my grandmother force and invite herself into our vacations before and it has ended up killing the fun of the trip multiple times, so I would not be as flexible as the OP was 😅
I'll never understand how people can just let other people, REGARDLESS OF RELATIONSHIP, bring down the quality of their life and force themselves onto them. Once you're married, your allegiance and first priority is YOUR family. Not your parents, not your siblings, not your friends. YOUR family. And anyone who doesn't respect that is NOT your friend/family. And then those bums didn't even leave a tip?!? Smh.
My parents both hated tattoos, so naturally my brother (who had 4 individual ones plus a full sleeve) bought my first one as a graduation gift to me. I kept the fact I had tattoos a secret for over 3 years and didn’t actually disclose my brothers involvement for almost 10. Thankfully my mom had mellowed out some and all that news got was an eye roll and an “of course he did” lol.
People like that need to hv boundaries set, no one and I mean NO ONE should ever hv to put up with that BS especially a family with collage bound kids on a nice vacation. 😒
With the first story I would figure out a way to leave the mom and aunt at the hotel and have at least one day without them. I’d maybe wake up everyone else earlier and than what we told the other two. If they complained that I left them I would maybe gaslight them and say we told them the right thing and gave them a warning of when we were leaving or say we know they were tired from the vacation and wanted to let them sleep in more. I would also maybe say we are going to universal when really we are going to Disney and we take the Disney travel option. Maybe saw we took an Uber there and wanted then to have the car. If they complained about not finding us then act sad
OP should put dead bolts with keys only on the rooms where they don't want the MIL to invade. Make sure dirty laundry is inside locked doors. Locks can also be put on dresser drawers. Locks put on windows, to keep her from climbing in (LOL), Oh, gee, put new locks everywhere! That's a shame that someone would have to do that to keep a vicious snoop out.
I remember going to Disney world by renting a car and it took a month to get there since little did we know there was a snowstorm and it was in the middle of COVID but it was all good!!! And turned out really well!!! Well this story just reminded me of the trip and just wanted to tell you guys a little about it. Also the Sci-fi diner that they mentioned in the story is actually very cool!!!!!
The first story proves that there's a thing called Being too nice. I would've been in a shouting match to kick them out from the very beginning.
I disagree, that's not being too nice, that's being too stupid, if the OP already knows how her aunt is, why agree? You can always say 'NO', who cares if you hurts someone's feelings, it's OPs own fault for having such a horrible experience with her aunt.
@@Salazar1993a Somehow OP and her husband don't get this at this point in their life. And that could be for multiple reasons.
This comment works the first 2 stories lmao
No this is called being a door mat
It's not only the shouting, it's the lawsuit that will find itself on them soon
Story 1, She is the definition of entitled aunts because she wanted to be the main attraction of the trip that she was not invited to.
The problem is both are in the wrong the age difference is so huge that I would be worried to and the aunt's entitled
I am going with your idea and that is fine with me
@@Bacon2000. their age difference is 7 years and they've been together 20 years from what I gathered in the story, 39 and 46 isn't that bad. Met at 19 and 26 this all happened like 20 years later I gather by the husband saying he was right 20 years ago presumably how he said they were bad people when they met.
Except they did invite her...after she forced her way in. She wasn't initially invited
Are we just gonna ignore the fact that she was 19 and he was 26?
I am literally jealous about how much patience most of the Op’s have, I would have already kicked the Aunt out in the first few days, and file a restraining order while I’m at it.
Edit: don’t know how this has likes but k
I wouldn't call it patience... I would call it stupidity
@@tommyvercetti891 that's a bit harsh. I'd call it fear. Still nothing to be jealous of.
@@YesJellyfish the patience to deal with the aunts bs, I mean, I dont even have enough patience waiting for my doordash.
@@norp12 yea you were clear no worries. I just think that OP wasn't necessarily patient, but just afraid to stand up for themselves and to confront the aunt. And in my opinion it's not really commendable to be a doormat. So I think you're good lol.
It would probably be good if you were patient enough to wait for your doordash, but if they arrive and throw the food in your face, 3 times in a row, it's not necessarily patient to thank them and keep ordering there :D
@@YesJellyfish half of the time my order is somewhat messed up soo.. yea.
I mean if the aunt and mom were just going to pester if you didn’t allow them on the trip, just silence any phone calls you get from them or any family members and focus on the trip.
Never cave in to your family’s demands people, you only fuel their ego.
Exactly. I've myself cut full contact with my biological father. And I've pretty much cut contact with my brother.
My brother for reasons I will not say, but my father cause he had no spine, and let the woman he was with and her son dictate how things ran in the house, take my hard-earned money, and make threats towards me. I've gotten physical with her a few times and those were the only times he stepped in and grew a spine to stop her son from getting involved
@@vixey6339 That sounds like your dad was going through alot of manipulation and abuse from his wife
Im so, so sorry you went through that, and i hope your in a better area now
God damn this is making me grateful my family on both sides ain't needy lol
@@horsepuncher95honestly same ❤
Second Story: a child should NEVER have to be beholden to a parent just because they birthed them. MIL needs to understand her son is an adult now with his own family that he needs to prioritize over her. Had similar issues with my own mother when i started living with my wife, she was used to my siblings and I dropping everything we were doing to do what she asked of us. The one time I said no to her request and pushed back when she pushed the issue it turned into a huge fight and we didn't talk for almost 6 months. after that she understood, she's no longer on the top of my priority list and can understand that my wife and children come before anyone else. OP's husband needs to man up and deal with his mother, it never should have gotten to that point because HE should have shut it down after the first time his wife made it clear to him this was making her uncomfortable.
Tbh, i think OP's husband must have gotten some sort of manipulation from his mom to make him put off talking to her about this for THIS LONG
Not teaching him how to iron? Not teaching him how to wash his clothes?
MIL definately made sure he grew up to be as dependant on her as possible, and now thats affecting his adult life.
Both he and his wife need to step away from MIL, and MIL needs to back tf away from them
@@my_pan_self8045 yea that's definitely what it sounds like. She's made sure that he would always need her in his life. Which is sad, the fact that she would have to manipulate her child growing up to ensure that he can't function without her as an adult to the point that even married she has a strangle hold on his life SMH 🙄.
honestly she just sounds like shes trying to be helpful and doesnt know how to let her kids go
@@goofygamer12345 There's being helpful and there's being intrusive. this is the ladder, the OP made it clear to both the Mother in law and the Husband that OP is not comfortable with the Mother in law just doing or moving whatever Mother in law wants in OP's house. Mother in law just chooses to ignore OP, at that point Mother in law stopped being helpful and started being a burden.
@@goofygamer12345 but you are right, she could think she's being helpful and not understand that she's doing the opposite. the only reason i don't think this is the case is that OP talked to MIL about this issue and MIL just brushed off her concerns.
Story 1. Lesson learned. You should not have caved. You’ve known about their behavior for years. Story 2. MIL needs to to go. Your partner needs to grow up and have a stern talk with his mommy. Story 3. Ex boyfriend is a psycho. Story 4. All of this drama over a single piercing? Mom needs therapy.
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She should have grown a backbone instead of trying to please her mom n aunt though to begin with
Story 2 , mil needs to get her brains together or else she will lose all communication with her family. Op's husband now is big mama's boy, he doesn't do anything to support op and seriously how old is he, does he even help around the house? I don't know if op had update about this but in my opinion op needs to get an divorce and say to him that I don't want to live a life with a mother that doesn't respect me and a husband who doesn't support me
@@EvilFallenAngelfy I know right if you know how bad you're mother and aunt are why are you surprised that they acted entitled as all hell . Like my god girly grow a spine and put you're foot down you're a grown woman act like it .
Story #3 - if there is a restraining order involved, and OPs ex is using their pictures, the court is liable to bitchslap the ex over it. Depends on the jurisdiction, but I'd straight up let them know and tell them its harrassment because its causing people they know to contact them and bother them.
Story #1-
I guess next time you won't let ppl just INVITE THEMSELVES on YOUR immediate family's vacation! The OP was the ding-bat for allowing that! The aunt &even the quieter Mother sound like a couple of entitled, spoiled, Karens. What she (Auntie) did about the cars, &ruining your vacation... Maaaaaan! The OP kind of allowed it to go down like that, tho.🤦🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🙄
True that
OP 19
Husband 26
"If age is just a number"
"Prison is just a building"
Atleast it's better than your life being hell
@@uzumakid.goku6yrago20 19 is over the age of consent in most places
nah 💀 the aunt was right lmfao
After getting the wand they were 'wand'ering around
"We get our wands and start wandering around" subtle pun by OP
I love how in the first story the background the tank flew in the air
I couldn't hug strangers in mascot suits, so my meal was absolutely ruined.
What a crock of shit.
My mom and I found that whole deal to be pretty creepy when I went at age 9.
Story 1: the mother and husband are absolute SAINTS for dealing with the aunt and mother the whole trip, if it were me, after a day of them acting like that, I would have left them at home the next day
Christ that first story is giving me hives from my own memories with my mom. Mobility issues, entitled attitude, the need to be the center of attention - there’s a very good reason I refuse to travel with her anymore. I’m her daughter, not a therapist, servant, caretaker, maid, hired muscle or the person responsible for her own happiness and comfort. I wish I had realized this back when I was younger. I would have saved myself so much pain.
And now, how are your relationship with your mother, have you cut ties with her?
1: The mom and aunt are unreasonable along with any family that sides with them. For their own sakes, OP and immediate family just need to bite the bullet and let them go.
2: The MIL is toxic and OP needs to talk to her husband about distancing. And just doing more for himself. If not, OP needs to leave him and decide childcare from there.
4: The mom has issues and is controlling AT LEAST to OP. Possibly the husband too and depending on how that went, even the former husband. I took years to begin to learn this myself: you're not responsible for your family's (bad) behavior. Kids and spouses aren't puppets.
What's the point in going on a trip if all you're going to do is complain, should have at the beginning said no, you're not coming on this trip cos you treat me and my family like shit.
The first one they said,”they grab the wand and start wandering around🤣🤣
For story 2, boundaries need to be set with the MIL, but not by the OP. The OP needs to get her husband on the same page with her, and it is the HUSBAND that needs to set his mom straight. If the OP confronts her MIL, she either won't listen or will forever see the OP as a horrible lady that stole her son, even if the husband is on his wife's side. It sounds like the husband has issues letting go too, so going it alone like that could damage the marriage if he thinks his wife is being overbearing.
I'd probably gone a slight different passive aggressive route. Put door locks on all the interior doors. Lock the spare bedrooms she doesn't need access to. And when she comes up with some excuse as to why she needs in there, then you say you could have just called and I could have told you where that thing was. She would probably take it one step further and talk about needing female products that would be in the master bathroom, to which you respond you are out and then you make it a point to come home with more of that product.
it is a bit annoying locking your rooms, but at the end of the day it does give a peace of mind.
The OP doesn't even refer to her husband as her husband, she constantly refers to him as her partner!!! I honestly thought this was some sort of lesbian relationship, that's until she finally said he was a male.
@@mjareacts2731 that honestly doesn't matter. There are plenty of straight relationships that refer to each other as partner, and it doesn't make it any less loving for them. It's just the name they choose to use.
There's a thing called cutting someone off at the knees. You know how every work group has an annoying hanger on? I sponsored a birthday party for one of the group and made sure to fill the table with all haste. When the pest said she couldn't wait to go I told her that the table was full and I couldn't accommodate any more guests. She said she would sit at the next table with some of the people from the full table. I explained this was banquet seating and every chair had to be filled. It finally sunk in that she wasn't invited and couldn't crash. The look on her face was priceless. She had the grace not to turn up and she was down at the mouth for a few weeks. I felt the glare of death quite a few times but after that she avoided me and my social arrangements. How sweet it is.
I have a cousin like that, when I have invited my aunt, not her mother, to dinner at a nice Italian restaurant, she tries to wedge herself into our dinner. I had to tell her that I would not pay for her meal, and she backed off.😂
Dude first story was amazing i cant believe how good those parents are. They're like super heroes to their kids, forgetting about their own happiness for their kids. I hope to be as good as them one day.
That's why you don't wait until a big Disney trip to start setting boundaries and saying no.I would have just said no before, let them Karen out and go on the trip without them , let them go crazy at home .They were going to be aholes regardless of whether they get to ruin the Disney trip too anyway.
The first story was so similar to an experience I had on a family trip with my mother. I vowed never to travel with my mother again, which I never have. Some people are just toxic and no matter how nice you are you will end up in a bad space…no contact is best for toxic narcissists.
Holy shit the first story makes me so fucking mad, wtf was going through OP's mind to let that shit happen?? Like obviously the mom and aunt were assholes but lets be honest, it's her fault for letting them join in when LITERALLY NO ONE WANTED THEM THERE
Story 2: “Personally it was 6 years and 9 months too long”
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First story: First off respect for the couple for staying so calm and trying to fix it every time they cause trouble but dammit if you know these familly members trash you constantly cut them off! Sure it would feel shitty with giving your familly the cold shoulder but letting them just butt in is gonna ruin whatever your organising.
My family did that as well it was terrible and traumatizing for both my brother and I.
Story 2: get some keys on all the rooms you don't want her in. I wouldn't trust a conversation about boundaries to be taken seriously because she clearly doesn't respect them as adults and they can't cut contact with her. Maybe also therapy so that maybe they don't have to resort to locking her out of rooms, since they shouldn't have to do that.
first op's first mistake is caving
The first story gave me strait up anxiety 😅 that poor family dealing with those people. Oooof
#2 Get special door knobs for every room you don’t want her to get into, you and your partner have the key. Have everything you need for your daughter in the living room when see comes over so she won’t have a reason to go in.
For story number one, I actually have something similar about that. I was on a trip to sea world and it would be my grandma, sister, and cousin. But we didn't know my older more entitled cousin was coming. We crammed her into the hotel, and didn't even get to have fun or go to sea world because she was always too tired even though we did nothing.
Second story, I would go into the mothers house and do exactly what she was doing to OP and see how she reacts. I'll bet she won't like it.
Story 2: she could just lock a few rooms (good locks) that the MIL isnt supposed to go in
She’d kick the door in, believing it to be stiff!
My parents told me not to randomly invite myself over to events. The aunt clearly didn’t get discipline growing up.
Story 1:
Okay, now this is the definition of annoying. If I was her, I would have said no from the start.
Same. And kept my distance. If I hadn't by then.
"oh no I'm a 55 year old or odler and couldnt hug mickey and pluto" It would make more sense that the kids would be comlainjgng about that
Lol I just had a Disney trip with my family and my aunts family it was great my aunt has been a mother for 2 years but she’s still that cool aunt or uncle that everyone has
Your aunt doesn’t have the right to invite herself to your Disney trip, just because she feels she has the right to.
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Bro my family is like this, so I tell everyone last minute that I'm going somewhere with my family "like the day before" and just do things before telling them. That's how I got around my ass family.
Story 1. I have no sympathy for the OP. You knuckled under to your family. And you knew you shouldn't have. No sympathy from me
@Waylen-oy4jd You can't just show up to a family vacation. They had to have talked about it at least once. So, yeah, they had a chance to say no and didn't.
Yes sounds like my grandma which my mother sticks to me in all the family vacations and then gets upset when I'm upset or annoyed at my grandma's behavior.
This was OP's fault for being a doormat as much as it was the Mother and Aunt's. She knew what type of people they were.
Why when talk about the trip around them? That was asking for trouble
the first story couple needs to grow a backbone, sometimes family is poison. remove the toxic ones from your life.
Yo u have same 1st name as me
My aunt is like those two, and whenever I take a picture of an empty store shelf and captioning with Let's Go Brandon. She would throw the biggest fit on facebook, ignoring the other memes that are not political.
Yea no, if my aunt tried to interject into my family's vacation, she would have been told off and not allowed to go.
Holy cow, I'm glad my mother in law is an absolute angel. Human beings are absolutely terrifying 😳
Tell family AFTER you get back! NEVER take a large group anywhere.....and especially if that group is family!
I get that the aunt is supposed to be the jerk, but I will say OP and her husband are jerks too for taking the short term easy way out by avoiding the fight in favor of the long term resentment and drama that would spoil their children's vacation.
They are all jerks in my opinion(To a certain extent). Your case as the OP and Husband being jerks are acceptable cases but like what the line said, it is their 1st Vacation since their boys are born. It is an important moment for them and they(Aunt and Mother) are ruining their special moment. Yes, the approach of the OP is not the best thing that you can do in that situation, but you can't blame them. It is not acceptable to treat your family like crap, especially on a vacation when you are suppose to have a good time
@@banzynoobplayz3859 I wouldn't go so far as to actively blame them, but by no means do I consider them blameless.
Right, and not to sound stuck up, but who takes their 18 year old sons to Disney... They’d prolly rather just have the money for college related expenses.
@@dylangerber5163 she said it was their first time so they probably wanted to be there since their elementary/ highschool friends might boast about their disney trips in state school
Kind of ironic that this video popped up in my feed since I was just told that this girl is apparently coming with me and another group of friends to watch Doctor Strange in the Multiverse of Madness. No one invited her, she invited herself after finding out she’ll be missing a whole outing with friends. She doesn’t even like Marvel but I guess she just can’t miss being part of everything. I hate people who invite themselves to trips just because they’re so nosy and insecure without gossip.
I’ve been to universal a couple times, and let me just say, it is easy to get lost. It’s amazing she even found Diagonal Alley.
For the second story, you should get a lock and put it on your bedroom door/ things you don’t want being went through.
Ok clearly the OP needed to hear this and I’m sure there are many more that need it too: YOU HAVE NO OBLIGATION TO KEEP TOXIC PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE EVEN IF THEY’RE FAMILY. No good comes from dealing with toxic miserable people.
Wow, I always thought 2 entitled people would never get along.
First story deserves everything they get. If you're too weak to defend your own self and your children, suck it up buttercup it's going to be a hard life.
We get our wands and start WANDering around 😂 (don’t hate but it seems like a pun that wasn’t planned but it definitely was very funny)
Story 4: Idon't think the mom was too out of line, I do think she shouldn't have freaked out in front of her child though. I also, don't think she should have freaked out on her husband as it has been years. But I do think it is something kind of resonable to be mad about and talk and work through. He knew she had these rules for their kids and that they were important to her, yet he didn't tell her. He also knew that she expected them to have an honest relationship, so I could see being hurt about his dishonesty. I don't think it should completely ruin there relationship or anything, but I can totally understand her being hurt by it.
In the entitled aunt story: I love the sci-fi dinner. Also, if you bring out your phone then something that I think is really funny will happen. 😂
Our family has a serious case of the "we'll let ourselves in" step parents as well. Not fun.
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For the first story if I was the OP I would’ve just cut them off in the beginning and if they asked to be on a family vacation then I would’ve just talked to my partner and we would probably say no
I call BS on the first story. Your going to drive to Florida then just jump over to Arizona! $4000 for 4 plane tickets at the height of Covid? You don’t have to fly first class. And how can you afford hotels for this circumnavigation of the United States if you can’t afford the plane tickets?
And what hotel in Orlando is an hour away from the Orlando airport?
It’s not anymore expensive for 1 person to take an Uber than for 4.
I didn’t know Colorado bordered the state of “Omaha”.
5 people mate, the woman, her husband and her 3 sons. So unless you are planning on making the uber driver leave their vehicle and let you drive it while they hang on the top of the car like in tryhard 2, they would need to take two ubers.
@@lucasmachado8691 three sons? Ok then. I though it was 2.
@@lucasmachado8691 u didnt listen to the story. its 6 people her, her husband 2 sons, mom and aunt
I'm in Florida. They probably got on I-75 after leaving Orlando with I-4, then picked up I-10 from 75 and it took them straight to Arizona.
@@kagemaru397 that’s still like a 4 day drive.
My parents are like that too. I am currently 16 and my mother nor grandmother have not taught me responsibilities and treat me like a child. I despise them.
“So we get the wands and start wandering around”
Lol that was a good one
“I’m 19 and he’s 26” bro 💀💀💀
7 year gap ☠️☠️☠️
first story: Why did you even pick ur aunt from the airport in the first place. if they still come to disney, its a very small chance they will find u in that COLOSSAL location. if they keep calling or texting, there is a thing called silent mode. USE IT!
The aunt and mother act like children 😂😂😂
NEVER set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.
Jesus Christ! That's not a Vacation! It was more like Hellcation!
Story#1 You give in too easily, grow a spine and say no or they will never learn...
its like u didnt even finish the story
“We got the wands and started wandering about” lol
Guard your time/money, your peace/focus and your all other boundaries. Do not tell people your plans or anything private it's not their business.
For the first story:
Old me would have done the same thing, being a people pleaser with no backbone
Today I would have told them no right out of the gate.
You don’t hijack a vacation that you weren’t invited to and complain about it!
If I'm being being honest, some of these stories only happen because the OPs are spineless at times. But they seem to find the courage they need at the end of their ordeal, so i guess there is some reward. Good for them and at least the stories are very entertaining.
Op in the first story is such a doormat it’s so frustrating
Story #1 OP could have avoided everything by saying “NO!” No is a complete sentence and you do not have to explain anything after it. The aunt has been allowed to bully the entire family for years and it is everyone’s fault for allowing her to overstep boundaries.
Last story actually can make a lot of sense since we didn't receive details of what her ex-husband lied to her about. If it was something very serious she could have long term trauma from that, and of course will react very negatively to such.
Yeah, exactly. Her ex husband could've lied to her for years about cheating on her.
I have a similar story. So my uncle passed away in February and left a huge chunk of money to his son, sisters and brother, my dad. Back in April, my dad comes to me and says that he wants me and my daughters to have a vacation, anywhere we want to go and he'd pay for it. Awesome! Hawaii, here I come! Now, knew that one person would be upset that I was going on vacation. My boss, who is also a childhood friend, asked me 4 years ago to help her with her mom, as in home care was getting expensive. So I've been doing this basically since covid, we have a routine and it works. Except for the fact that she has no backup help in case something happens to me or her. I sat on this news about my vacation for 3 days, because I didn't want to text it to her, I wanted to tell her in person. So I get to her house the night before my 4 day shift, and I let her know about my trip. Mind you, I'm not planning to go until next March. So she has 10 months to prepare and get someone to help her while I'm gone. So plenty of advanced warning. She lost her shit! It's so unfair! What about meeee???? Seriously? I suggested her cousin come up since she's helped us before. She called her the next day, but would have to get back to us with her schedule, as she has 2 kids, and like 15 huskies. About a week and a half go by with no word from her cousin, and finally gets back to us. Originally, I had wanted to go in February, but wasn't sure about the weather, so I moved it to March. Cousin asks if I can move it to the end of March or into April. Nope! Sorry! The whole point of going in February or early March is it's whale season! Then she says she could only come for 3 days. Now before we found this out, my boss/friend says to me, maybe we can get cousin to stay the whole time and I can come with you! My heart went into my throat out of sheer panic. It's MY vacation, not yours! I didn't say anything, just let it go. Then she has the gall to say to me, the one person who I thought would never go on vacation, is going on vacation. RUDE! She acts like I can't go on vacation without her or it's somehow unfair. Sorry you don't have a dead uncle that left his family a nice stipend... am I supposed to say no thanks, because friend has feelings? Fuck her feelings! I'm going to Hawaii! She is one of those people who gets super upset when her order from Doordarsh is wrong. She's a Karen. Any inconvenience in her life, and it's somebody else's fault. Makes me not want to buy her anything from Hawaii. Why? Attitude like that doesn't deserve anything. I'm almost thinking of not coming back to work after my trip, because I don't want to spend 10 days in paradise, only to have to come back to this shit. She acts like it's my responsibility to find care for her mother. Nope! Anywho, she convinced her brother to come help her as he should, but he'll only be here for 3 days. So no vacation for her! Not my problem. I just work here. I have 272 days to save up and purchase items for my trip. Then I'm a peace out!😂
His voice sounds so calm
Bruh how can people be this patient without punching the other person in the face
My aunt did the same thing. She invited herself to my Disney trip with my grandma and sister for my birthday and literally messed everything up first day. Also Rip to my grandma as she passed away yesterday..
Sorry for your loss
Story 1: Ya know what? It's okay to say no.
Damn, the OP in that first story is way nicer than I would’ve been; my grandmother force and invite herself into our vacations before and it has ended up killing the fun of the trip multiple times, so I would not be as flexible as the OP was 😅
I'll never understand how people can just let other people, REGARDLESS OF RELATIONSHIP, bring down the quality of their life and force themselves onto them. Once you're married, your allegiance and first priority is YOUR family. Not your parents, not your siblings, not your friends. YOUR family. And anyone who doesn't respect that is NOT your friend/family.
And then those bums didn't even leave a tip?!? Smh.
My parents both hated tattoos, so naturally my brother (who had 4 individual ones plus a full sleeve) bought my first one as a graduation gift to me. I kept the fact I had tattoos a secret for over 3 years and didn’t actually disclose my brothers involvement for almost 10. Thankfully my mom had mellowed out some and all that news got was an eye roll and an “of course he did” lol.
Love your stories man
Story 1 needs to learn how to stick up for herself and her family.
I live close to Disney and Universal but havent been in a while. Its funny how you need to stop and smell the roses once in a while
Story 2... I would get individual locks on doors in the house.
People like that need to hv boundaries set, no one and I mean NO ONE should ever hv to put up with that BS especially a family with collage bound kids on a nice vacation. 😒
With the first story I would figure out a way to leave the mom and aunt at the hotel and have at least one day without them. I’d maybe wake up everyone else earlier and than what we told the other two. If they complained that I left them I would maybe gaslight them and say we told them the right thing and gave them a warning of when we were leaving or say we know they were tired from the vacation and wanted to let them sleep in more. I would also maybe say we are going to universal when really we are going to Disney and we take the Disney travel option. Maybe saw we took an Uber there and wanted then to have the car. If they complained about not finding us then act sad
i can imagine the op's moms like WAAAAAAAAAAA I WANNA SEE MICKY AND PLUDO WAAAAAAAAAAAAA NO HUGS WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA
And this makes me and my brother’s rollercoaster of a relationship seem NORMAL
These people have serious boundary issues. Stand up for yourself and say NO
OP should put dead bolts with keys only on the rooms where they don't want the MIL to invade. Make sure dirty laundry is inside locked doors. Locks can also be put on dresser drawers. Locks put on windows, to keep her from climbing in (LOL), Oh, gee, put new locks everywhere! That's a shame that someone would have to do that to keep a vicious snoop out.
Ok the story’s are interesting but look at how good he is at the game in the background!
“We get the wands and then wander around” I see what you did there 😂
Damn, all I got for graduating high school (early btw) is a pat on the back 😂
When they say wandering around I was like was the pun intended or not
Lean in...whisper in her ear " you need to stop cause you don't really know what 8 might do
"Do you?" And kiss her cheek. Gaslight her.
Story 1 I probably would have not even let them come after they found out since they said family vacation
I remember going to Disney world by renting a car and it took a month to get there since little did we know there was a snowstorm and it was in the middle of COVID but it was all good!!! And turned out really well!!!
Well this story just reminded me of the trip and just wanted to tell you guys a little about it.
Also the Sci-fi diner that they mentioned in the story is actually very cool!!!!!