She had already put this plan out there before. It got no backlash then. Guess folks thought she was just talking. But actually making it happen has truly set the internet ablaze. For some reason, the use of the word “retire” seems to be the triggering part of it all.
@@wordeeone4996 I agree, she did well to support her husband after becoming a millionaire because of the support he provided while she pursued her dream. But folks are overly judgmental and many have not seen a equal partnership marriage like Tab seems to have. She did not build him, they built a life together
She emasculated him with this nonsense... it's certainly a private matter. She acts more masculine than him in my opinion (I didn't know who she is until recently...) Sad
@@missboss8759 stop playing dumb. Watch her man's body language in the video. You know damn well her man did not demand Tabitha to phrase their new situation that way. There's a difference between "my husband retires from his police occupation to pursue his non-profit organisation" and "EYE am retiring my husband".
I agree with you, totally! I love watching Tabitha but I felt this way about her doing her father like that as well. When she purchased a brand new truck for him and put it all over social media. He was emotional, he didn’t know to handle that and it took him off guard, you could tell.Maybe, it’s just me but when you give someone a gift. Why does it have to be posted or shared with everyone? That is one thing if her dad wanted to post what he received and shared it but she did it. I am a woman and I get embarrassed sometimes when I am given a gift but to be a man and given a brand new truck and Tabitha told how he never could afford a new car. His cars were always used. That would hurt my pride and ego, if I were a man. I think Tabitha, did it with good intentions and she is proud of herself and accomplishments, which she should be but it is very emasculating to them.
And why was he still on the beat, or patrolling after so many years on the force? He could have applied/ switched positions to work internally... option to wear the vest.... Seniority speaks... positions are posted all the time????
I hate to say this, but Wendy was right (in my view). Her delivery was off. She obviously triggered a lot of people, but she was right. Right message, wrong messenger. Also, masculine men don't have to be 'payed back', it's their job to provide without reservation. There are different ways of Showing support to masculine men without having to be their provider. I'll definitely enjoy her content and cheerful spirit and NOT look to her relationship as a model for my hypergamous life.
I have been hypergamously married for over 10 years. I was disgusted by the reaction from the femininity community. Tabitha doesn’t bother anyone. She prays and makes her vegan foods. Just like we don’t want 50/50, other women have the right to choose their paths. I wouldn’t “retire” my husband, but if we had millions of dollars, I would gladly give him space and time to pursue “passion projects.” I would NEVER tell a soul about it. So many people take 60 seconds of your life and make huge assumptions.
excellent point. plus, he didn't have a cushy profession; facing few options, he became a police officer to provide for his family. And with that, his life was at risk every day. what loving wife wouldn't do what she did for her husband and her family, especially if the resource is available?
She did say that at one point he was providing for the whole family when they were broke. So yes I would. There is a different between Man and man. You could marry a guy that does everything for u. What if he loses everything and you are doing good, wont you be there for him?? I would 100%.
@PancakesAnd Wine first off all, people did jump to assumptions about what she meant and her relationship. There are plenty of think pieces on the subject. Again, as Chloe said, mind your hypergamous business. If you wouldn’t retire your husband, then don’t 🤷🏽♀️. She was literally being bullied about a decision she made for her family and that’s not cool. Again, you don’t know me, yet you took my comment and made assumptions. I empower, educate and mentor other black women in nursing. I have no time nor interest in judging them. We get enough of that outside of our gender and race.
This is what bothers me in the situation. Being a cop in LA is a dangerous profession. If we had millions, would I let my husband risk his life every day when I can help him transition towards another career? I am normally hypergamous to the core, but Tabitha Brown is right to retire her husband. I wouldn't however tell a soul.
As a Christian, I disagree. I know so many who weren't raised or brought up in marriage, and they need to see successful marriages. A godly marriage should be public for the sake of others learning from it. Same with bad marriages too
Marriage is sacred and private. Reality TV and social media has been and will continue to be the downfall of a marriage no matter how strong of a foundation it has. Business is never personal and personal should never be anyone’s business. Hypergamy and graceful femininity isn’t for every woman but it should be. Thank you Chloe for the constant education and elevation.
Sylvia dont blame social media for everything its needed hints George floyds murder people make things bad she obviously wanted everyone to know so dont blame media blame people for their failed marriages
I have said this, and you would be SURPRISED how many women, Sorors, and friends who have publicly argued me down. So I just let people do what they're going to do. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
@@scorpionpam i’m a 50/50er lol.. we have a joint account for the mortgage and utilities..we have our own bills that we pay like cc and car notes etc.. it works for us ..idk i like it ☺️.. yea girl there’s no need to argue with folks it’s not a one size fits all situation.. everyone’s different
Tabitha retiring her husband isn't necessarily the problem here since he supported her dream. However her sharing it publicly is very emasculating. She invited the word into "her business" and then got mad as it (in the form of Wendy and others chimed in. Everything isn't for public consumption!!
I agree. It could have been presented in a way that seemed that he was fully capable of doing it on his own and kept the details silent. it was an ego driven move backed by her love for him. But Wendys situation is not Tabithas situation and Tabitha has really good heart so it may play out differently for her.
so agree! I would hate to think about the man that I love risking his life daily for ungrateful people, especially after he has been so good to me. I understand her wanting to share their blessing from a testimonial standpoint, but maybe it wasn't for us to know or at least she should've realized the floodgate she was opening up.
I think the way that Tabitha is describing her husband's retirement is strange. The average person would just say "My husband is retiring from the police force. And he'll be focusing on his non-profit". She keeps on stressing the fact that SHE retired her husband and that SHE wanted him to get a new career. Her husbands lack of enthusiasm about the process doesn't help. It's weird because she obviously wants the acknowledgment that he doesn't need to work because of her. But she also using condescending language to describe his journey. It just comes off strange the way she's articulating it. And her husband doesn't seem happy at all. She's making the world know that it was her money and career that they're using. But if you're married it's both of your money and assets together. So her making a public distinction of what she's accomplished and provided in comparison to her husband is just odd. Most married couples (healthily married couples). Don't publicly make that distinction.
Right! As an English major too, I cannot get past this language of “retiring my husband”...a decision that’s usually between the worker and their job has now been violated, taking him away from his peers/friends and other men. Out of nowhere she’s flipped the script.
She has also bragged about paying his child support for years when dating him. He also decide to marry her after years of him pleading to because he went to someone else wedding and she did no nag him like he thought she would.
I was very conflicted by Tabitha's video. As she is quite likeable, this announcement was a step backwards for me. This move was a masculine move. I understand she is excited and is feeling blessed and loved and abundant.. Yet, like others I feel this was a private moment she should have only discussed and shared with her husband ans partner only! This role reversal just might the thorn in the side for her husband and push him into the arms of another woman. Women we must tread lightly. Men are ego centric, we should never show them up or out them without expecting them to waver and or leave. Privacy is everything, just as important as respect. Don't ever test that. And silence is Golden... let them see it but never announce it! 😉🤐
I can’t believe how many judgmental and bitter women and probably husbandless women are commenting here. If you are a follower of Tab you would see her entire family participates in her success. She would not have accomplished anything without the support of her family. The video she posted was not a live video so her husband was well aware of her posting the video. Everyone seemed to have ignored how he has a non profit and will be running that and further giving back to the community. I used to be an avid follower of Wendy Williams and she is wrong on so many things. She can’t even keep straight who she is talking about half the time. She should be taken off tv for all the mistakes she makes. When you have true love and a PARTNERSHIP this is what happens…you do for each other to make the other persons life easier here on earth. I hope that all of you negative Nancy’s find true love and support. Does everyone have an opinion about it…yes but guess what your opinion does not matter in her life. I wish Tab and Chance all the best. You should hope you find her level of happiness, love and success in your lifetime.
@@sylviabaskin2933 Hey Sis, honestly I thought I was making an independent post not a reply to you. No wonder I could not find my post. ☹️. I have no problem with your statement. I was wondering why I could not find my post. Did not mean to upset you in anyway. I don’t have a problem with what you said. This was my first post on TH-cam. I will be more careful next time. Thanks for helping me find my post. 😅
I AGREE with Wendy, sometimes good advice is good advice regardless of the source. Sometimes it's a bitter woman that sees the signs of BS being a VICTIM of BS.
Men are literally shopping for roommates! It’s a no for me but I totally understand Tabitha and her thinking. I wouldn’t do this for a man nor would I ever publicly announce that I was doing this.
I know my bf complains sometimes that I don’t help put my money together with his but I pay all my own bills. Car, insurance, credit cards and I even pay for mine and his phone bill. We aren’t legally married and I told him if I’m not married to you I’m not sacrificing. Why should I quit going to school to work full time just so I can help him get a spot for us to live. He makes $21 and I make $14.
@@c.c.c2062 I had a friend that quit school so her and the boyfriend could get a place. She payed so much throughout the marriage, ruined her credit, then still had to pay his personal debt when they got divorced. She now does not want to remarry.
While I think Wendy was projecting I don’t think her intent was malicious. She basically said what I’ve been hearing in hypergamous circles for years. I wonder if their marriage lasted so long because he was the sole provider and took pride in that. She was the stay at home wife working on her dreams and I’m sure he received so much praise and honor by being that. Now that she announced that she has retired him and she’s becoming bigger and bigger by the day, I feel like he’ll always be in her shadow. I could be wrong though. Hopefully it works out.
Same thought, he will always be in the "spouse shadow". To me he never looked or appeared super thrilled in her videos. But I wish her the best either way.
@@BeeRichWitch AND THATS WHAT I NOTICED IN THE PREVIEWS. I DIDNT HAVE TO WATCH THE VIDEOS HE LOOKED LIKE HE DIDNT REALLY WANT TO BE WITH HER OR JUST BE ON TV LIKE THAT, ONE OR THE OTHER IDK BUT HEY IF THEY LIKE IT I LOVE IT.
Such a good point!! He probably did derive a lot of his self-esteem from working hard (plus in a dangerous job)-even if he didn’t realize it. I do think that Tabitha is heading for trouble…….but, who knows, maybe they are more like Will and Jada and are committed to staying married-period.
You didn't ask, but in my opinion a projection is malicious. When you have a valid point you don't need to project anything. You simply state facts, nothing more nothing less
Tabitha doesn’t owe anyone an explanation but since she’d willingly and most flagrantly and publicly announced it, then an explanation is in order. Just saying
"When you're being criticized and judged harshly, always consider the source and ask yourself would you want to wear that person's shoes?" This has been one piece of advice that has improved my life significantly and I always say that to all my friends and relatives.
The thing I appreciate about you most Chloe is that you're so gracious in your approach. Even when you disagree, you are still mindful of the inherit worth of others, even those we dont agree with. Thank you for your wisdom you share but also for your grace you extend. You thrive in femininity and your softness and consideration is admirable
I don't quite understand publicly saying she retired her husband? She also said like a child he should chase his dreams...kinda sounds like his mom. Wendy just gave her opinion on what Tabitha made public. I wish her well.
Now if she had "retired" her husband without the announcement..I'm sure none of us would never have known and they could have rode off into the sunset with us non the wiser 🤷🏽♀️
I will remain unwed if my only option to marry includes a man that’s okay with me “retiring” him. No he doesn’t have to stay at his place of work, but why hasn’t he moved up and retired HIMSELF? I think that’s the bigger question. I hate to compare, but literally I saw an ad yesterday of a younger “WW” celebrating her husband’s retirement with a fancy bottle of wine as a gift. That’s it! He retired himself and earned that. Our men need to do the same
Exactly. He's already going to benefit just from living in the same house as her. She didnt have to retire him but on the other hand maybe she did it because it's a dangerous job. I wonder if she would have done it if it were a desk job.
@@beautyisher1492 there’s a huge difference between her “retiring” him vs them collectively as a married couple deciding it’s best for him to pursue other ventures, hopefully something that is aligned with his vision that is also profitable. Who is she, his boss?
I think we also have to keep in mind that her husband isn't a bum either..he isn't going to be sitting around doing anything....while he was an officer he also has a non profit that helps the youth that he runs as well and he wants to do that full time...I think she did it because of the work he is in..he's never been the sit around do nothing kind of guy from their videos of them that they've done together speaking on their relationship but I also have not watched recent one tab did about retiring him from law enforcement either so I'm speaking only on what I've seen so far.
Words matter. By declaring “ she is retiring her husband” she has publicly established her financial power in the relationship. Satisfying her ego and increasing followers are more important than the marriage.
I think that should have been between their family. We need to stop sharing everything on social media with strangers or people that generally aren’t happy for you.
Wendy was right; however, she was the wrong messenger. Retirement is a huge accomplishment, and to do it before the ‘recommended’ age is complete goals. However, I think Tabitha decision to retire her husband is fine, but to announce it publicly will be overshadowed by the fact he was able to do so because of her.
@Bby Nova What are you talking about, Troll…Wendy’s statement was accurate; however she is the wrong messenger because of her bitterness from her own divorce which was stated in Chloe’s video. Clown don’t ever in your real life come and comment under my reply starting nonsense. Your reply doesn’t even make sense…keep it pushing, cheese curl
Ms Tabitha on the other hand is making a huge mistake.Shes older and misguided.Shes putting herself in the role of provider for the rest of their lives.
I remember listening to a interview where this guy said the truly happy women who are taken care of usually are quiet and private on social media. I agree, i believe it’s best to keep your marriage private
You went in on Wendy lol. I personally don’t think she was trying to be mean. She was projecting. Because in her marriage she was the breadwinner, therefore she thinks that it would be the case for every couple. I believe this case is different, but, she really made the misstep of announcing this publicly. All she had to say is he is retiring from LAPD. No one needed to know if she retired him. Even if your personal life is your brand, you still need to keep certain details private.
I've never heard of Tabitha Brown until this incident. I heard that her husband didn't even want to retire, but that's what she announced. TB emasculated her husband. Wendy was doing her job which was to GOSSIP. Yet, I do think she was wrong for projecting her situation on another marriage. However, I didn't like TB's passive aggressive, nice nasty response. Maybe because I've been around too many of those types of women.
Tabitha definitely gives me toxic positivity. I wouldn't be surprised if he cheats and she accepts it. That's why she came at Wendy so nasty... because she's insecure. That job keeps him in the streets...
@@patriciapacquette4444 Yes, based on her response, it does appear that she's the type of woman who will accept her husband's cheating just to "save face" for social media...especially now 🙄
@@dansaidthat7942 which gives her even more reason to give Tabitha advice because she's lived through funding a man and his lifestyle etc...btw, I never said Tabitha was insecure, and no one mentioned WW.
I agree with this 100%!! This is my thoughts exactly! I did not like TB response at all, but people ate it up because she talks in a soft tone 🙄 I don’t like how Wendy is getting dragged for what her man put her through that makes no sense. If I was going to take advice from anyone it would be from someone who has been through the experience and Wendy has, she was just giving advice I don’t think she had any malicious intent.
Wendy tried giving her free game of what is to come but....she got defensive, decided to go back on social media & so call "check her". Oh well💁🏽♀. She'll learn
@@lilly_ann i truly don't understand it. I'm literally not seeing her mean girl way in those stories just her pointing out the truth that those women are hiding from themselves. The way that Wendy did for years. I'm tired of everyone mocking her and the pain she's been in. Idk. I've been hurt by a man and the blamed for not warning his ex (my cousin) that he was bad. I feels like sometimes you can't win for losing.
Wendy was definitely projecting but I don’t think her intent was malicious either. I also feel that Tabitha’s clap back was unnecessary & in her shoes I would’ve kept it cute and taken the Beyoncé/Lori Harvey road or let my husband defend himself. Now her marriage is wide open to the public & people are going to start watching her husband like a hawk. While this is a recipe for disaster, I really hope they are able to withstand and beat the odds!
You'd consider Tabitha, an actress and her husband who was a cop and has his own non profit for youth for a few years now struggle love? I thoughts struggle love was when the woman always pays for everything and has a bum who is selfish and chance has never been a bum while being an officer he had his own business as well...I'm intrigued to know your viewpoints as to why this is a struggle love relationship..
@@dustrepellent8986 i mean I get it but even if he retired himself people still would complain because a police officers salary will never match the paycheck of an actor. I personally don't view a man who has always grinded and worked as a bum or a dusty but thats just me..if he ain't have anything else going 9n 8d call him a dusty but he has a business that he's had for years while being a police officer and will continue to have that business now..he just has more time to put all his energy into what he established as a man while working a regular gig and taking care of his family...what a man is supposed to do..we all have different viewpoints so its cool i was just curious.
You hit the nail on the head. Tabitha was NEVER in a hypergamous relationship to begin with! Because of that, she didn't know she made the mistake of announcing that SHE was retiring her husband. What would have been better was if she announced that HE chose to retire and that she's very happy with that decision. Keep in mind, ladies, Chance has a pension which is GOLD and security in a working class situation. Tabitha also shared that he has his own nonprofit. And a successful nonprofit does not equate to poor. Nonprofits just need to implement meticulous accounting practices. Tabitha did put a target on her relationship because folks like Wendy are watching intently to find any cracks that can be exposed. Chance is a very good looking man so these unsavory thots will definitely try it now just to throw the mess in Tabitha's face. I do hope they make it another 23yrs and beyond.
Tabitha Brown shouldn't have discussed this issue publicly. To have strangers' opinions on decisions you make with your husband, can cause problems in your marriage. What was her purpose of bringing this to the public in the first place? Did she do that for clout? Or for publicity? She shouldn't have brought this private issue to the public.
She’s a public figure who pretty much grew a following sharing her life with her audience. I mean she was hardly bothered by the opinions. All she did was respond to Wendy’s bitter ass.
People need to be REAL CAREFUL about how they fix their mouth on other people...and people wonder why unexpected awfulness happens to them...it's not as unexpected as they think...what you put out there comes back bigger....
The comments are sad. Why are women on here forecasting or wishing the demise of a black marriage. Then to say that its "struggle love" cause she CHOSE to retire him. Saying that he shows no interest in her or that he is older than her based of not truly being a real follower of hers and knowing her story. Black women need to do better and not think so negatively because there are some BLACK MEN IN THIS WORLD WHO ACTUALLY LOVE AND MARRY BLACK WOMEN
I've heard others cheer her on and say its because he helped her and she wanted to do the same. It was best Tabitha said nothing and what works for someone won't work for someone else. The point is marriage is about sacrafice. I also noticed Chance say it took his identity I believe they should have further discuss this even if this was part of the plan
I do see a lot of people saying Tab should’ve kept it to herself although I agree she has built her wealth and platform and even brand on her public persona on social media. Her and Chance have had very public conversations and has let the world into her family and life so it was probably coming from that same place where they felt they have opened up so many aspects of there life and wanted to share this milestone. Honestly to protect him and their union I probably would’ve changed the language and said “Chance is retiring” rather than putting it all on me so he can still keep his head up and stand as a man. Wendy is deeply hurt, she is comparing this from a deeply hurt and traumatic place so it’s definitely not the same.
Excellent point! If you watch her on social media and how she speaks to him; if you saw how she boasted that she bought her father his first brand new car; if you listen carefully to his saying his identity and respect came from supporting his family ... it's clear that "My husband is retiring from his job as a police officer to build his empire in the non-profit sector, helping youth" is FAR more empowering for a man. Wendy is bitter and her comparison is faulty. But, I see her point. If you look at the significant increase in adultery by men whose wives greatly out-earn them, you know that this public display is not helping but likely adding to the risk.
Their pictures speak a lot to me (some may see it as 'reaching' but whatever)...in alot of them he is leaning back and she is in the foreground. In some, he is looking away. I get that she's the 'star' but...hmm..
Honestly I don't believe in making a man feel like a leader..he either is or isn't...if I tell myself I can make him feel less than or more of what he is then I've stepped into the mama role and that ain't my job as a woman...you either have it or you dont..thats my opinion..
@@LisePlansandJournals they do especially how she is in front of him in just about all of them as if shes protecting him or keeping him back from something. None of these photos show him in a stance here he's hugging or holding her.
Yes...finally a safe place to discuss this! It was very emasculating for Tabitha to put that out there. It can make a man seek to validate his "manhood" at your expense.
Great point 🙂 about the safe space. I'm definitely tired of all of the people kissing Tabitha's behind in the comments of most articles or videos. The World is apparently full of "Pick Me" ladies 😕
Hurt people, hurt people. Wendy has always been a big mouth hater. However, Tabitha could and should have kept this decision to herself and her husband. She’s opened up her personal relationship to all the sharks for them to dissect and judge and the women who’ll no doubt flock to her husband.
Can we really credit Wendy’s statement to “gossip” as if Tabitha has not admitted that she paid this man’s child support? Don’t you define that as a “dusty”?
@antasia I agree. Folks be sleepin on Wendy, but she is right quite often. Sometimes things come to fruition quickly, and sometimes it takes years. Nonetheless, I think Wendy is on to something here. One thing I know is that Tabitha will always be okay though. She’s a beautiful soul.
You were able to articulate the nuances of this so well. While I wouldn’t have told the world, Tabitha’s choice of retiring her husband is ultimately hers to make and based on dynamics that are not at all hypergamous. I truly hope that it works for them, and I also hope that Wendy gets herself together for her own sake.
If he was in a dangerous job I would first encourage him to find a productive skill he can do and put up half the investment for him to pursue it. Once it has a strong foundation he'd be able to see the best steps to retire himself. Men are the fixers, we just inspire. Men only appreciate what they work for-period.
Wendy has learned way too late and now Ms Tabitha is making a mistake however Wendy before her marriage went to hell in a handbasket used to shame women on her show for wanting men who are providers.Shes not a friend of women she is a friend of the media.Instead of warning her fellow woman she enjoys seeing them go through what she went through.Its not what you say it’s how you say it.
Chloe, before I watch your video or read the comments I want to share my take. 1st: I understand what Tabitha is saying, he supported her for 15 years while she got her business up and running. Well he is her husband that’s what he is supposed to do! 2nd I understand her concern with his being a police officer and her concern for his safety. I would be too. 3rd, She put her business out there. Nobody: Tabitha: I’m retiring my husband. When you put your personal business out to the media, you are asking for scrutiny and comments. Why didn’t she lay in bed with her husband and say baby, this what I’m gonna do for you…and the two of them went on with their life. Wendy was doing what Wendy do. She has a gossip show, so I’m not going to blame her for the comments. Was Wendy projecting from her own failed marriage, absolutely! But Tabitha opened herself up for it. Finally, she has put out to the world that she intends to supports him for life. If they ever get divorced she has already set him up to keep living off her for the rest of his (and her) life. Social media has advantages and BIG disadvantages. People need to sit down and stop sharing all of their business.
sometimes people get too excited and share then regret later. Its very hard at times to resist the urge to share your happiness, extremely hard. I'm not married yet, sometimes you get into a beautiful relationship... find yourself extremely happy with that partner and then fall into the temptation of posting about him and your beautiful romance.Only to separate in a few months or years.Its hard not to share I personally have to constantly fight off this urge and hv never posted m partner. Maybe she was extremely happy to finally be able to give back to her husband.We don't know what they have gone through as a couple, maybe.. just maybe she thought its time for her to make him happy and show the world how much she loves him
Wendy may be bitter...but...I sincerely hope there's no B. Smith/Dan Smith ahead for Tabitha...men are hardwired to be the 'champ' in the relationship and I worry that Tabitha may be subconsciously looked at as the 'champ' vs her husband. That being said, I know men who are secure in their women doing things for them. I hope he is genuinely okay with this. Edit: I notice in their pictures, he is looking away and/or she is seated forward while he's leaning back. Just an observation. I also think perhaps this should've been kept offline.
Wendy knows what’s going on. She’s been there. And I believe she sees what’s ahead. Hopefully not, but isn’t unusual! I don’t believe Wendy is being a hater or simply gossiping about others. I don’t think she’s jealous at all. I believe she’s speaking out to warn her and I believe it’s being done with the best intentions. She doesn’t know her personally so announcing this public ally on her show was just in the style of Wendy and the most convenient way to get her message across. 🤷🏽♀️Wendy knew she’d see her show. And she’s a straight shooter… a New Yorker. She holds no water! Says it how it is!
Wendy said she didn't know who Tabitha was. Sometimes she doesn't know what's going on in things she talks about. She doesn't always come from a compassionate place. If this goes wrong for Tabitha life goes on. Wendy doesn't care either way.
Men like that eventually explode 💥👀- trust me, I'm currently dating a divorced man who left a woman who was doing that to him- even the shyest men are STILL MEN, and they want to be treated as such.
Why would he be comfortable with a woman retiring him in the first place ? It’s giving masculine and controlling vibes from the wife !!!! Unless medical issues are involved
It seemed like she tried to surprise him in the seconds of TB’s original video that I watched. Ot was very cringe and I clicked away. She took the reigns, shifting their dynamic.
To be fair both women were not nice. Okay we all know Wendy loves to give her opinion and most of the times she is not wrong. Wendy is just speaking out of her experience. And she really has experience dealing with a dusty man. One thing I can say about Tabitha. Behind that big smile is a very passive aggressive woman, someone who has a very strong mammy/masculine energy. See, a women who uses nice nasty and religion to get their point across are very dangerous. But it is her lesson to learn, her life to live. Some of us know that a true masculine man will never accept to be retired at such young age. Let’s not forget he was in a career that is respected by society and that made him feel important and respected by his peers.
There are some good Black men out here...I never met any but I don't have the right to project my feelings on to Tabitha and her marriage. Retiring the love of your life from a dangerous job is beautiful. However, Wendy isn't wrong for trying to warn her 🤷🏾♀️
Wendy is not comparing just her marriage but the marriages she sees all around her and all the celebrity catastrophic unions she speaks on. Yes all unions aren't the same but ppl are ppl and men are men. I strongly believe retiring her husband might not turn out so well not because I'm bitter but because of the mentality of men especially black men.
@@queenofhearts1138 u aware that she's doing her job right?! If I'm to agree with you then none of us should be commenting on this even content creators.
Well what I'm pointing to is that Wendy so fresh off the press herself SWEEP YOUR OWN FRONT DOOR as Big MA used to say. Out of order idc about it being her job she's a woman and a mother she needed to exercise better judgment. That's bigger than a career HonTy.
Yeah and I think it's sad that people are quick to call Wendy bitter. I see it as her calling it the way she sees it because she's been through it. And warning comes before destruction.
1. Umm, she should've kept it to herself. 2.She giving him to much time to play by retiring him. 3. Wendy just tryna share her experience of being the bread winner 4.she did kind of make him look like a bitch, if we think that, he for sure feels that.... but u never know. Happy Taco Tuesday
No way. I would support him if he wants to retire early and pursue his dreams unless his job is his purpose and dream. I also wouldn’t have made it a PSA which is tacky. We don’t care but I guess people want us to know their business. So let’s pick their lives apart😈
Thank you for this comment. The main issue is not what she did, but HOW she did it. My motto in life is to always move in silence. I’m not mad she retired him, I’m disappointed she announced it to the public.
Yeah, while many were clowning Wendy, which I get because Wendy did come off a bit bitter, Wendy had a point. I think she genuinely doesn't want women to make the same mistake she did. But it was a tad bit condescendingly said.
In my opinion Tabitha should've enjoyed her success and allowed her husband to be a man and "retire" on his own terms she should have no say so in when that grown man should leave his career. He has his own mind and women in general should always allow a man to be a man at the end of the day. Also Tabitha offered this information to the public so she should not be surprised that people have opinions.
Dear Chloe I have been listening to you for months, thank you for what you teach. I cringe when this woman announcement of retiring her husband. I thought she just diminished this man and this was not a good look for her. I recently started using all your tips on hypergamy and I have seen the change in who approaches me. I am a girlie woman but I used to think 50/50 is what I should bring to the table. But I have change my thoughts and allow alpha males who approach me to be the man. Boy they treat me like gold.
I may have done so privately. It doesn't seem logical for me to be a millionaire celebrity and my husband is a civil servant, unless he just wants to be one. The husband now has the access and capital to bring more wealth and success into their family.
Great commentary Chloe. The comment section is 🤦🏾♀️....Two things can be true at the same time ladies, Wendy can have accurate points and still be bitter, miserable and projecting. Couldn't nobody tell her **** when she was with her husband, who her talents took care of and burned several bridges w/ppl just to keep up the facade of a marriage going, but now she gets to sit back and act like the wise mother goose? Critiquing, and criticizing everyone else? 🤔 Oh ok. She KNEW her man wasn't **** when she arrived home from the hospital with a newborn baby and caught her husband in a full on affair (her words) and still decided to stay, don't play innocent victim 20yrs later when the story unfolds and he does you as expected. Wendy was a whole crack/coke head but wants all the understanding and respect for her f*** up choices in life but has a hard time extending that same energy to others, especially women 🙄 Wendy is a very cynical, bitter, angry, unhappy woman no matter how much "truth" she speaks, her miserable spirit always manages to shine through, imo🤷🏾♀️
I can't even imagine making that type of agreement with my husband-- it would just never even be a thought! I also agree with most of the comments, these are private matters. I just can't get with this sharing everything with the world 24/7.
Femininity vs dusty behavior is two different things. You can use your feminine energy to inspire him. While mothering him if he's a real man will repel him.
Always consider the source. Exactly! I was so surprised that Tabitha responded. & She did it so effortlessly. I was also surprised at her announcement. Silence Is Always BEST!
Yes and yes! If I was in Tabitha's situation, I WILL want my husband to retire as a police officer. I believe Tabitha's husband should be able to retire in 5 years to collect his pension, but why take that chance if something terrible happens at his job?? He can find another career but definitely not a police officer. But the conversation will be between me and my husband, and not social media.
She’s is gorgeous but she looks older than him. She should have gifted him a business or invest in his dream and let him decide if he wants to retire or not . When money comes from a woman in a relationship the love isn’t always the same I see where Wendy is coming from . Men doesn’t like to be provided for except feminine men and a masculine man will feel out of place when a woman tries to provide for , they end up being rebellious
I just love you! Note: I barely share pictures of me and my husband on SM, I like to keep as much negativity away energy as I can.. I do have my own business, but currently in a hypergamy relatiobshup that didn't start out that way.
Miss you in the group Chloe_ glad the content and comments are still going strong. Hope your summer is beautiful. Oh and Tabitha owes no one a thing in terms of details. That buisness pays me dust and I could only hope for a 23 year marriage so ill sit in the pews and hush. Shantell🖤🍍
💀💀 which would make Wendy more bitter. I can't imagine her pain rn. But how does the side lady feel about him coz he's not making his own money. Their relationship is literally being financed by Wendy. I wouldn't respect Kevin.
Finally caught up with the rest of the class and it has been an insightful few months👌so grateful that my friend referred me to this channel and I've also been sharing it with other women in my life- alot of wisdom and eye opening facts👏showing you love from South Africa ♥️🇿🇦
Damn! Wendy's ex husband is disrespectful as hell. Look at him with his baby. Theyre living off of her hard work and dont look to care not one bit. That's a hurt peice.
Even IF you side with Tabitha in this situation, there is a huge factor that many mammies and dusties will not take into consideration: He was taking care of her first. He has his own career to this day, and everything they have they bought together. Not to mention that she’s giving him an opportunity to expand his BUSINESS so he can bring MORE money to the family. It isn’t an excuse for him to sit on his ass like a pampered princess. BM are promoting this image, not including that part, and saying that women should be more open to being “head of households” while knowing nothing about what the ACTUAL endgame is.
Thank you for this. The coverage from every BW I’ve seen on this has been completely off and clearly these people have never watched her and her husband interact. The projection is saddening.
'it will end in tears." role reversal simply doesn't work. i'd understand if her husband HAD to resign due to health reasons etc. as a woman, i wouldn't take that man seriously. imagine the smoke he's about to catch from men. it will eat away at him slowly but surely.
The men will drag him, asking how it feels to be taken care of, what’s your allowance, you babysitting the kids again, your wife never home so let’s hit the streets and we know who call the shots/pants wearing.
Wendy should not compare her husband to NOBODY. He is in a league by himself
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@@lemonlemon7186 nope it’s a lot of men out there just like him
Unfortunately, he is not.
He did what a lot of men in his position would have done...
I honestly think Tabatha should have kept this part of her marriage private.
She had already put this plan out there before. It got no backlash then. Guess folks thought she was just talking. But actually making it happen has truly set the internet ablaze. For some reason, the use of the word “retire” seems to be the triggering part of it all.
@@wordeeone4996 I agree, she did well to support her husband after becoming a millionaire because of the support he provided while she pursued her dream. But folks are overly judgmental and many have not seen a equal partnership marriage like Tab seems to have. She did not build him, they built a life together
She emasculated him with this nonsense... it's certainly a private matter. She acts more masculine than him in my opinion (I didn't know who she is until recently...) Sad
Also, im sure her man felt emasculated by her announcing to the whole world that SHE is retiring him. She could have kept it private.
You don’t think they discussed it first? Use common sense PLEASE.
@@missboss8759 stop playing dumb. Watch her man's body language in the video. You know damn well her man did not demand Tabitha to phrase their new situation that way. There's a difference between "my husband retires from his police occupation to pursue his non-profit organisation" and "EYE am retiring my husband".
I agree with you, totally! I love watching Tabitha but I felt this way about her doing her father like that as well. When she purchased a brand new truck for him and put it all over social media. He was emotional, he didn’t know to handle that and it took him off guard, you could tell.Maybe, it’s just me but when you give someone a gift. Why does it have to be posted or shared with everyone? That is one thing if her dad wanted to post what he received and shared it but she did it. I am a woman and I get embarrassed sometimes when I am given a gift but to be a man and given a brand new truck and Tabitha told how he never could afford a new car. His cars were always used. That would hurt my pride and ego, if I were a man. I think Tabitha, did it with good intentions and she is proud of herself and accomplishments, which she should be but it is very emasculating to them.
Maybe you have never watch Tab and Chance... that’s how he always acts lol. He’s not a very expressive or lively person like Tabitha.
Exactly.
He retired 5 years shy of being eligible for his police pension. Not a good move.
Exactly. Tab may lose everything tomorrow (God forbid) not that a pension is gonna be a lottery ticket but his pension is promised.
And why was he still on the beat, or patrolling after so many years on the force? He could have applied/ switched positions to work internally... option to wear the vest.... Seniority speaks... positions are posted all the time????
facts! I mean the hell!?
@@TomikaKelly exactly
@@TomikaKelly he could have asked for a desk job if safety was an issue for him.
I hate to say this, but Wendy was right (in my view). Her delivery was off. She obviously triggered a lot of people, but she was right. Right message, wrong messenger. Also, masculine men don't have to be 'payed back', it's their job to provide without reservation. There are different ways of Showing support to masculine men without having to be their provider. I'll definitely enjoy her content and cheerful spirit and NOT look to her relationship as a model for my hypergamous life.
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Exactly!
I have been hypergamously married for over 10 years. I was disgusted by the reaction from the femininity community. Tabitha doesn’t bother anyone. She prays and makes her vegan foods. Just like we don’t want 50/50, other women have the right to choose their paths. I wouldn’t “retire” my husband, but if we had millions of dollars, I would gladly give him space and time to pursue “passion projects.” I would NEVER tell a soul about it. So many people take 60 seconds of your life and make huge assumptions.
excellent point. plus, he didn't have a cushy profession; facing few options, he became a police officer to provide for his family. And with that, his life was at risk every day. what loving wife wouldn't do what she did for her husband and her family, especially if the resource is available?
She did say that at one point he was providing for the whole family when they were broke. So yes I would. There is a different between Man and man. You could marry a guy that does everything for u. What if he loses everything and you are doing good, wont you be there for him?? I would 100%.
@PancakesAnd Wine first off all, people did jump to assumptions about what she meant and her relationship. There are plenty of think pieces on the subject. Again, as Chloe said, mind your hypergamous business. If you wouldn’t retire your husband, then don’t 🤷🏽♀️. She was literally being bullied about a decision she made for her family and that’s not cool. Again, you don’t know me, yet you took my comment and made assumptions. I empower, educate and mentor other black women in nursing. I have no time nor interest in judging them. We get enough of that outside of our gender and race.
This is what bothers me in the situation. Being a cop in LA is a dangerous profession. If we had millions, would I let my husband risk his life every day when I can help him transition towards another career? I am normally hypergamous to the core, but Tabitha Brown is right to retire her husband. I wouldn't however tell a soul.
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Thank you Chloe! Marriage is sacred and should be kept private.
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Absolutely, Yes there are dynamics within a marriage that only the two parties involved have privy to...
As a Christian, I disagree. I know so many who weren't raised or brought up in marriage, and they need to see successful marriages. A godly marriage should be public for the sake of others learning from it. Same with bad marriages too
Marriage is sacred and private. Reality TV and social media has been and will continue to be the downfall of a marriage no matter how strong of a foundation it has. Business is never personal and personal should never be anyone’s business. Hypergamy and graceful femininity isn’t for every woman but it should be. Thank you Chloe for the constant education and elevation.
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"Business is never personal and personal should never be anyone’s business." Amen! 💯
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Sylvia dont blame social media for everything its needed hints George floyds murder people make things bad she obviously wanted everyone to know so dont blame media blame people for their failed marriages
50/50 is a joke that’s not a marriage that’s a lifetime roommate
That part!! Thank you
I have said this, and you would be SURPRISED how many women, Sorors, and friends who have publicly argued me down. So I just let people do what they're going to do. 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
@@scorpionpam what do y’all say to them? Especially if they’re in same sex relationships
@@scorpionpam i’m a 50/50er lol.. we have a joint account for the mortgage and utilities..we have our own bills that we pay like cc and car notes etc.. it works for us ..idk i like it ☺️.. yea girl there’s no need to argue with folks it’s not a one size fits all situation.. everyone’s different
Exactly
Tabitha retiring her husband isn't necessarily the problem here since he supported her dream. However her sharing it publicly is very emasculating. She invited the word into "her business" and then got mad as it (in the form of Wendy and others chimed in. Everything isn't for public consumption!!
I agree. The internet doesn't need to know EVERYTHING about your life.
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@@nouchkam1939 Aww thank you 😊
I agree. It could have been presented in a way that seemed that he was fully capable of doing it on his own and kept the details silent. it was an ego driven move backed by her love for him. But Wendys situation is not Tabithas situation and Tabitha has really good heart so it may play out differently for her.
so agree! I would hate to think about the man that I love risking his life daily for ungrateful people, especially after he has been so good to me. I understand her wanting to share their blessing from a testimonial standpoint, but maybe it wasn't for us to know or at least she should've realized the floodgate she was opening up.
I think the way that Tabitha is describing her husband's retirement is strange. The average person would just say "My husband is retiring from the police force. And he'll be focusing on his non-profit".
She keeps on stressing the fact that SHE retired her husband and that SHE wanted him to get a new career. Her husbands lack of enthusiasm about the process doesn't help.
It's weird because she obviously wants the acknowledgment that he doesn't need to work because of her. But she also using condescending language to describe his journey. It just comes off strange the way she's articulating it. And her husband doesn't seem happy at all.
She's making the world know that it was her money and career that they're using. But if you're married it's both of your money and assets together. So her making a public distinction of what she's accomplished and provided in comparison to her husband is just odd. Most married couples (healthily married couples). Don't publicly make that distinction.
You make some excellent points.💄
The whole video (her wording) and his response (words and body language) was cringeworthy and completely off. Pray for them!
Exactly.
Right! As an English major too, I cannot get past this language of “retiring my husband”...a decision that’s usually between the worker and their job has now been violated, taking him away from his peers/friends and other men. Out of nowhere she’s flipped the script.
She has also bragged about paying his child support for years when dating him. He also decide to marry her after years of him pleading to because he went to someone else wedding and she did no nag him like he thought she would.
I was very conflicted by Tabitha's video. As she is quite likeable, this announcement was a step backwards for me. This move was a masculine move. I understand she is excited and is feeling blessed and loved and abundant.. Yet, like others I feel this was a private moment she should have only discussed and shared with her husband ans partner only! This role reversal just might the thorn in the side for her husband and push him into the arms of another woman. Women we must tread lightly. Men are ego centric, we should never show them up or out them without expecting them to waver and or leave. Privacy is everything, just as important as respect. Don't ever test that. And silence is Golden... let them see it but never announce it! 😉🤐
You said a mouthful! I hope he doesn't end up spending her money with another woman
"Silence is Golden...Let them see it, but never announce it" #thatpart ‼‼
Yikes. This reminds me of the B Smith situation. I hope I'm wrong...but men don't respect a woman who provides for them the way a woman would.
Exactly what I was thinking, B. smith
this is *exactly* what I raised in my comment. B Smith was the first thing I thought of. But I truly hope to be wrong in the end.
good point!
They are no example of women providing for a man that ever work out.
@@jenkinscourtney11gmailcom thank you I'm trying to tell them smh
This is a lesson to everyone: Keep private things private. Also, when you are a public figure, your life will be judged publicly.
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Hypergamy and femininity are not weapons to shame 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I believe my husband should retire himself not me, but that's my life choices. Happiness to all!!!
I can’t believe how many judgmental and bitter women and probably husbandless women are commenting here. If you are a follower of Tab you would see her entire family participates in her success. She would not have accomplished anything without the support of her family. The video she posted was not a live video so her husband was well aware of her posting the video. Everyone seemed to have ignored how he has a non profit and will be running that and further giving back to the community. I used to be an avid follower of Wendy Williams and she is wrong on so many things. She can’t even keep straight who she is talking about half the time. She should be taken off tv for all the mistakes she makes. When you have true love and a PARTNERSHIP this is what happens…you do for each other to make the other persons life easier here on earth. I hope that all of you negative Nancy’s find true love and support. Does everyone have an opinion about it…yes but guess what your opinion does not matter in her life. I wish Tab and Chance all the best. You should hope you find her level of happiness, love and success in your lifetime.
@@YG-iv2bd, don't know why some of you have a problem with my statement. Do you and be happy with your choices.
@@sylviabaskin2933 Hey Sis, honestly I thought I was making an independent post not a reply to you. No wonder I could not find my post. ☹️. I have no problem with your statement. I was wondering why I could not find my post. Did not mean to upset you in anyway. I don’t have a problem with what you said. This was my first post on TH-cam. I will be more careful next time. Thanks for helping me find my post. 😅
I AGREE with Wendy, sometimes good advice is good advice regardless of the source. Sometimes it's a bitter woman that sees the signs of BS being a VICTIM of BS.
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Yasssss, bring it! Say that again and again 100%.
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Men are literally shopping for roommates! It’s a no for me but I totally understand Tabitha and her thinking. I wouldn’t do this for a man nor would I ever publicly announce that I was doing this.
I know my bf complains sometimes that I don’t help put my money together with his but I pay all my own bills. Car, insurance, credit cards and I even pay for mine and his phone bill. We aren’t legally married and I told him if I’m not married to you I’m not sacrificing. Why should I quit going to school to work full time just so I can help him get a spot for us to live. He makes $21 and I make $14.
@@c.c.c2062 I had a friend that quit school so her and the boyfriend could get a place. She payed so much throughout the marriage, ruined her credit, then still had to pay his personal debt when they got divorced. She now does not want to remarry.
While I think Wendy was projecting I don’t think her intent was malicious. She basically said what I’ve been hearing in hypergamous circles for years. I wonder if their marriage lasted so long because he was the sole provider and took pride in that. She was the stay at home wife working on her dreams and I’m sure he received so much praise and honor by being that.
Now that she announced that she has retired him and she’s becoming bigger and bigger by the day, I feel like he’ll always be in her shadow. I could be wrong though. Hopefully it works out.
You took the words right out of my mouth.
Same thought, he will always be in the "spouse shadow". To me he never looked or appeared super thrilled in her videos. But I wish her the best either way.
@@BeeRichWitch AND THATS WHAT I NOTICED IN THE PREVIEWS. I DIDNT HAVE TO WATCH THE VIDEOS HE LOOKED LIKE HE DIDNT REALLY WANT TO BE WITH HER OR JUST BE ON TV LIKE THAT, ONE OR THE OTHER IDK BUT HEY IF THEY LIKE IT I LOVE IT.
Such a good point!! He probably did derive a lot of his self-esteem from working hard (plus in a dangerous job)-even if he didn’t realize it. I do think that Tabitha is heading for trouble…….but, who knows, maybe they are more like Will and Jada and are committed to staying married-period.
You didn't ask, but in my opinion a projection is malicious. When you have a valid point you don't need to project anything. You simply state facts, nothing more nothing less
Tabitha doesn’t owe anyone an explanation but since she’d willingly and most flagrantly and publicly announced it, then an explanation is in order. Just saying
Sis. Tabitha just should’ve kept that to herself.
"When you're being criticized and judged harshly, always consider the source and ask yourself would you want to wear that person's shoes?"
This has been one piece of advice that has improved my life significantly and I always say that to all my friends and relatives.
Absolutely! Wendy's comment wasn't worth a response.
The thing I appreciate about you most Chloe is that you're so gracious in your approach. Even when you disagree, you are still mindful of the inherit worth of others, even those we dont agree with. Thank you for your wisdom you share but also for your grace you extend. You thrive in femininity and your softness and consideration is admirable
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I think the consensus is “Move In Silence” especially regarding your marriage. 💪🏾🤫🤐
Beautifully said.
10 thumbs 👌 up !!!!! Well said
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I don't quite understand publicly saying she retired her husband? She also said like a child he should chase his dreams...kinda sounds like his mom. Wendy just gave her opinion on what Tabitha made public. I wish her well.
Tabitha is a mammy type woman, treats men like children
Now if she had "retired" her husband without the announcement..I'm sure none of us would never have known and they could have rode off into the sunset with us non the wiser 🤷🏽♀️
I will remain unwed if my only option to marry includes a man that’s okay with me “retiring” him. No he doesn’t have to stay at his place of work, but why hasn’t he moved up and retired HIMSELF? I think that’s the bigger question. I hate to compare, but literally I saw an ad yesterday of a younger “WW” celebrating her husband’s retirement with a fancy bottle of wine as a gift. That’s it! He retired himself and earned that. Our men need to do the same
Right 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 It’s literally as simple as that
Exactly. He's already going to benefit just from living in the same house as her. She didnt have to retire him but on the other hand maybe she did it because it's a dangerous job. I wonder if she would have done it if it were a desk job.
@@beautyisher1492 there’s a huge difference between her “retiring” him vs them collectively as a married couple deciding it’s best for him to pursue other ventures, hopefully something that is aligned with his vision that is also profitable. Who is she, his boss?
I think we also have to keep in mind that her husband isn't a bum either..he isn't going to be sitting around doing anything....while he was an officer he also has a non profit that helps the youth that he runs as well and he wants to do that full time...I think she did it because of the work he is in..he's never been the sit around do nothing kind of guy from their videos of them that they've done together speaking on their relationship but I also have not watched recent one tab did about retiring him from law enforcement either so I'm speaking only on what I've seen so far.
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She shouldn’t have announced it . Keep marriage affairs private . That is all ego.
Right! I was wondering if anybody else noticed the pride issue in her announcement.
@@curls4theworld yeah . Totally unnecessary news . We did not need 🤣👏🏽
Yep. No good.
Words matter. By declaring “ she is retiring her husband” she has publicly established her financial power in the relationship. Satisfying her ego and increasing followers are more important than the marriage.
Good point!!
💯 This part. Tabitha should keep her marriage and finances private
preach, I was like oh boy this isn't good lady.
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Thank you- well stated…that she is the power hitter in this relationship, lol.
I think that should have been between their family. We need to stop sharing everything on social media with strangers or people that generally aren’t happy for you.
Wendy was right; however, she was the wrong messenger. Retirement is a huge accomplishment, and to do it before the ‘recommended’ age is complete goals. However, I think Tabitha decision to retire her husband is fine, but to announce it publicly will be overshadowed by the fact he was able to do so because of her.
@Bby Nova What are you talking about, Troll…Wendy’s statement was accurate; however she is the wrong messenger because of her bitterness from her own divorce which was stated in Chloe’s video. Clown don’t ever in your real life come and comment under my reply starting nonsense. Your reply doesn’t even make sense…keep it pushing, cheese curl
...agreed....agreed.
@Bby Nova Then if you don’t agree why are you here…Clown
Thank you Chloe.
We must not weaponize hypergamy to bully and hurt others.
That’s not feminity.
Ms Tabitha on the other hand is making a huge mistake.Shes older and misguided.Shes putting herself in the role of provider for the rest of their lives.
No she is not he will be making money too, yes she should kept this in the family.
I remember listening to a interview where this guy said the truly happy women who are taken care of usually are quiet and private on social media. I agree, i believe it’s best to keep your marriage private
You went in on Wendy lol. I personally don’t think she was trying to be mean. She was projecting. Because in her marriage she was the breadwinner, therefore she thinks that it would be the case for every couple. I believe this case is different, but, she really made the misstep of announcing this publicly. All she had to say is he is retiring from LAPD. No one needed to know if she retired him. Even if your personal life is your brand, you still need to keep certain details private.
I've never heard of Tabitha Brown until this incident. I heard that her husband didn't even want to retire, but that's what she announced. TB emasculated her husband. Wendy was doing her job which was to GOSSIP. Yet, I do think she was wrong for projecting her situation on another marriage. However, I didn't like TB's passive aggressive, nice nasty response. Maybe because I've been around too many of those types of women.
Tabitha definitely gives me toxic positivity. I wouldn't be surprised if he cheats and she accepts it. That's why she came at Wendy so nasty... because she's insecure. That job keeps him in the streets...
@@patriciapacquette4444 Yes, based on her response, it does appear that she's the type of woman who will accept her husband's cheating just to "save face" for social media...especially now 🙄
@@dansaidthat7942 when did wendy fund an outside baby she had a limit she wasn't going to tolerate and outside baby that's why she left him.
@@dansaidthat7942 which gives her even more reason to give Tabitha advice because she's lived through funding a man and his lifestyle etc...btw, I never said Tabitha was insecure, and no one mentioned WW.
I agree with this 100%!! This is my thoughts exactly! I did not like TB response at all, but people ate it up because she talks in a soft tone 🙄 I don’t like how Wendy is getting dragged for what her man put her through that makes no sense. If I was going to take advice from anyone it would be from someone who has been through the experience and Wendy has, she was just giving advice I don’t think she had any malicious intent.
Wendy tried giving her free game of what is to come but....she got defensive, decided to go back on social media & so call "check her". Oh well💁🏽♀. She'll learn
@@lilly_ann i truly don't understand it. I'm literally not seeing her mean girl way in those stories just her pointing out the truth that those women are hiding from themselves. The way that Wendy did for years. I'm tired of everyone mocking her and the pain she's been in. Idk. I've been hurt by a man and the blamed for not warning his ex (my cousin) that he was bad. I feels like sometimes you can't win for losing.
@@Onelovekeepcalm Wendy does tell that truth in a brutally honest way & folks ain't ready ever to hear it
Tabitha and everyone else has the right to respond to someone giving an opinion on their lives.
Wendy was definitely projecting but I don’t think her intent was malicious either. I also feel that Tabitha’s clap back was unnecessary & in her shoes I would’ve kept it cute and taken the Beyoncé/Lori Harvey road or let my husband defend himself. Now her marriage is wide open to the public & people are going to start watching her husband like a hawk. While this is a recipe for disaster, I really hope they are able to withstand and beat the odds!
They been together over a decade I think they can handle it with God's help I'll be rooting and praying for them🙏🏼
Why do people glorify struggle love smh 🤦♀️
And normalize it 😩
I believe that Tabitha and her husband do not have struggle love...
You'd consider Tabitha, an actress and her husband who was a cop and has his own non profit for youth for a few years now struggle love? I thoughts struggle love was when the woman always pays for everything and has a bum who is selfish and chance has never been a bum while being an officer he had his own business as well...I'm intrigued to know your viewpoints as to why this is a struggle love relationship..
@@dustrepellent8986 i mean I get it but even if he retired himself people still would complain because a police officers salary will never match the paycheck of an actor. I personally don't view a man who has always grinded and worked as a bum or a dusty but thats just me..if he ain't have anything else going 9n 8d call him a dusty but he has a business that he's had for years while being a police officer and will continue to have that business now..he just has more time to put all his energy into what he established as a man while working a regular gig and taking care of his family...what a man is supposed to do..we all have different viewpoints so its cool i was just curious.
@@veronicajata3121 exactly girl smh please
You hit the nail on the head. Tabitha was NEVER in a hypergamous relationship to begin with! Because of that, she didn't know she made the mistake of announcing that SHE was retiring her husband. What would have been better was if she announced that HE chose to retire and that she's very happy with that decision. Keep in mind, ladies, Chance has a pension which is GOLD and security in a working class situation. Tabitha also shared that he has his own nonprofit. And a successful nonprofit does not equate to poor. Nonprofits just need to implement meticulous accounting practices. Tabitha did put a target on her relationship because folks like Wendy are watching intently to find any cracks that can be exposed. Chance is a very good looking man so these unsavory thots will definitely try it now just to throw the mess in Tabitha's face. I do hope they make it another 23yrs and beyond.
It's my understanding that by her
"retiring" him 5 years before he's vested, he is forfeiting his pension....
@@plmitch So stupid. Never give up your pension people, especially when you only have 5 years left to get it.
@@plmitch right, my ex is retired NYPD and prematurely retiring will cost you that pension
@@shonnig81 that's ridiculous 😒
Tabitha Brown shouldn't have discussed this issue publicly. To have strangers' opinions on decisions you make with your husband, can cause problems in your marriage. What was her purpose of bringing this to the public in the first place? Did she do that for clout? Or for publicity?
She shouldn't have brought this private issue to the public.
Exactly 🤷🏽♀️
She’s a public figure who pretty much grew a following sharing her life with her audience. I mean she was hardly bothered by the opinions. All she did was respond to Wendy’s bitter ass.
To share with other people it's ok and encourage others to do the same let's be honest you don't see this in the black community everyday
I think perhaps she's trying to show how solid her marriage is, But unfortunately it backfired...
@@elleivers9387 did it though? I mean the only person who publicly shamed her was Wendy.
People need to be REAL CAREFUL about how they fix their mouth on other people...and people wonder why unexpected awfulness happens to them...it's not as unexpected as they think...what you put out there comes back bigger....
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The comments are sad. Why are women on here forecasting or wishing the demise of a black marriage. Then to say that its "struggle love" cause she CHOSE to retire him. Saying that he shows no interest in her or that he is older than her based of not truly being a real follower of hers and knowing her story. Black women need to do better and not think so negatively because there are some BLACK MEN IN THIS WORLD WHO ACTUALLY LOVE AND MARRY BLACK WOMEN
@@loveblack1599 they're haters and just straight vile. Its ridiculous
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@KhalessiDefenderOfBW BurnerOfCapes You're making an ASSumption off of an EXCERPT???? 😵🤦🏾♀️ Do you know their COMPLETE backstory?
Simply a case of RIGHT message, WRONG messenger 🤷🏾♀️
In my opinion Wendy was actually the right messenger since she is a walking billboard of what NOT to do!
Absolutely agree
Exactly!
I've heard others cheer her on and say its because he helped her and she wanted to do the same. It was best Tabitha said nothing and what works for someone won't work for someone else. The point is marriage is about sacrafice. I also noticed Chance say it took his identity I believe they should have further discuss this even if this was part of the plan
Yep. I agree
She also paid he child support for years while dating. This is par for the course for them.
@@mirandaholley9797 did she reveal that on the black love show.
@@Teachingtea Yes, I cringed the whole time.she also begged him to marry her and he refused for years.
The majority of the time that they have been together he did not work. Watch their segment on black love on own.
I do see a lot of people saying Tab should’ve kept it to herself although I agree she has built her wealth and platform and even brand on her public persona on social media. Her and Chance have had very public conversations and has let the world into her family and life so it was probably coming from that same place where they felt they have opened up so many aspects of there life and wanted to share this milestone. Honestly to protect him and their union I probably would’ve changed the language and said “Chance is retiring” rather than putting it all on me so he can still keep his head up and stand as a man.
Wendy is deeply hurt, she is comparing this from a deeply hurt and traumatic place so it’s definitely not the same.
Excellent point! If you watch her on social media and how she speaks to him; if you saw how she boasted that she bought her father his first brand new car; if you listen carefully to his saying his identity and respect came from supporting his family ... it's clear that "My husband is retiring from his job as a police officer to build his empire in the non-profit sector, helping youth" is FAR more empowering for a man.
Wendy is bitter and her comparison is faulty. But, I see her point. If you look at the significant increase in adultery by men whose wives greatly out-earn them, you know that this public display is not helping but likely adding to the risk.
Years later u watch this Man will leave her for another feminine woman . Making a Man not feel like a leader will always backfire
He may leave her for a man😉
@@sippingsocialite9494 exactly smh 🤦♀️
Their pictures speak a lot to me (some may see it as 'reaching' but whatever)...in alot of them he is leaning back and she is in the foreground. In some, he is looking away. I get that she's the 'star' but...hmm..
Honestly I don't believe in making a man feel like a leader..he either is or isn't...if I tell myself I can make him feel less than or more of what he is then I've stepped into the mama role and that ain't my job as a woman...you either have it or you dont..thats my opinion..
@@LisePlansandJournals they do especially how she is in front of him in just about all of them as if shes protecting him or keeping him back from something. None of these photos show him in a stance here he's hugging or holding her.
Yes...finally a safe place to discuss this! It was very emasculating for Tabitha to put that out there. It can make a man seek to validate his "manhood" at your expense.
Great point 🙂 about the safe space. I'm definitely tired of all of the people kissing Tabitha's behind in the comments of most articles or videos. The World is apparently full of "Pick Me" ladies 😕
@@taishahw1696 Exactly! I’ve been shocked by so many people agreeing with Tabitha’s moves. Shows what’s wrong with the community overall.
@@curls4theworld Truth 💯
Hurt people, hurt people. Wendy has always been a big mouth hater. However, Tabitha could and should have kept this decision to herself and her husband. She’s opened up her personal relationship to all the sharks for them to dissect and judge and the women who’ll no doubt flock to her husband.
And the women will come…definitely, while she gets busier fulfilling her contracts.
Can we really credit Wendy’s statement to “gossip” as if Tabitha has not admitted that she paid this man’s child support? Don’t you define that as a “dusty”?
Wow...🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
Wait WHAT
@@iamstephaniespight ehzackly
Lawd
@@nikkinonames5265 oh wayment! Really?
I feel like Wendy wasn’t that wrong she was right about Erica Mena and people called her bitter all she was saying that it didn’t work for her
Apples, oranges and doritos.
@antasia I agree. Folks be sleepin on Wendy, but she is right quite often. Sometimes things come to fruition quickly, and sometimes it takes years. Nonetheless, I think Wendy is on to something here. One thing I know is that Tabitha will always be okay though. She’s a beautiful soul.
@Everything Von Do you know them personally?
@Everything Von ok.... whatever that means...have a good one
Hurt women hurt and lash out at EVERYONE. Those sorts of women have to be avoided at all costs.
Preach!
You were able to articulate the nuances of this so well. While I wouldn’t have told the world, Tabitha’s choice of retiring her husband is ultimately hers to make and based on dynamics that are not at all hypergamous. I truly hope that it works for them, and I also hope that Wendy gets herself together for her own sake.
I agree....its her business.
I really feel as a wife,and woman Tabatha is emscaluating her husband...
If he was in a dangerous job I would first encourage him to find a productive skill he can do and put up half the investment for him to pursue it. Once it has a strong foundation he'd be able to see the best steps to retire himself.
Men are the fixers, we just inspire. Men only appreciate what they work for-period.
He said he likes being law enforcement tho. He could stay with the force, just not dealing with the public as much. This is a dumb move. Smh
@@purplelove3666 depends, it really depends on who you are married to
LAPD cops make over 100k
For a minute, I thought retire was new term for divorce.
Lol 😂 true
That will be the next headline
Haha me too 😅 or put him to rest or something ⚰🤣
Same!!😂
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Men need to feel like a provider. Let your man retire himself when he is ready. If it was truly a gift, there was no need to announce it to the world.
@@dansaidthat7942 I have been married 31 years… Yes, 31 years, women need to learn to keep your marriage sacred and private.
Spoken perfectly!!
Tabitha should not have went public with that, she threw the bread out and the birds ate it.
Wendy has learned way too late and now Ms Tabitha is making a mistake however Wendy before her marriage went to hell in a handbasket used to shame women on her show for wanting men who are providers.Shes not a friend of women she is a friend of the media.Instead of warning her fellow woman she enjoys seeing them go through what she went through.Its not what you say it’s how you say it.
“She is not a friend to women, she’s a friend to The Media!.”
This the one. Wendy is the original pick me.
Chloe, before I watch your video or read the comments I want to share my take.
1st: I understand what Tabitha is saying, he supported her for 15 years while she got her business up and running. Well he is her husband that’s what he is supposed to do!
2nd I understand her concern with his being a police officer and her concern for his safety. I would be too.
3rd, She put her business out there.
Nobody:
Tabitha: I’m retiring my husband.
When you put your personal business out to the media, you are asking for scrutiny and comments. Why didn’t she lay in bed with her husband and say baby, this what I’m gonna do for you…and the two of them went on with their life.
Wendy was doing what Wendy do. She has a gossip show, so I’m not going to blame her for the comments. Was Wendy projecting from her own failed marriage, absolutely! But Tabitha opened herself up for it.
Finally, she has put out to the world that she intends to supports him for life. If they ever get divorced she has already set him up to keep living off her for the rest of his (and her) life.
Social media has advantages and BIG disadvantages. People need to sit down and stop sharing all of their business.
sometimes people get too excited and share then regret later. Its very hard at times to resist the urge to share your happiness, extremely hard.
I'm not married yet, sometimes you get into a beautiful relationship... find yourself extremely happy with that partner and then fall into the temptation of posting about him and your beautiful romance.Only to separate in a few months or years.Its hard not to share I personally have to constantly fight off this urge and hv never posted m partner.
Maybe she was extremely happy to finally be able to give back to her husband.We don't know what they have gone through as a couple, maybe.. just maybe she thought its time for her to make him happy and show the world how much she loves him
Wendy may be bitter...but...I sincerely hope there's no B. Smith/Dan Smith ahead for Tabitha...men are hardwired to be the 'champ' in the relationship and I worry that Tabitha may be subconsciously looked at as the 'champ' vs her husband. That being said, I know men who are secure in their women doing things for them. I hope he is genuinely okay with this.
Edit: I notice in their pictures, he is looking away and/or she is seated forward while he's leaning back. Just an observation. I also think perhaps this should've been kept offline.
Wendy knows what’s going on. She’s been there. And I believe she sees what’s ahead. Hopefully not, but isn’t unusual! I don’t believe Wendy is being a hater or simply gossiping about others. I don’t think she’s jealous at all. I believe she’s speaking out to warn her and I believe it’s being done with the best intentions. She doesn’t know her personally so announcing this public ally on her show was just in the style of Wendy and the most convenient way to get her message across. 🤷🏽♀️Wendy knew she’d see her show. And she’s a straight shooter… a New Yorker. She holds no water! Says it how it is!
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She knows what happened in her relationship. She can't speak for them.
Wendy said she didn't know who Tabitha was. Sometimes she doesn't know what's going on in things she talks about. She doesn't always come from a compassionate place. If this goes wrong for Tabitha life goes on. Wendy doesn't care either way.
She appears to be a little controlling and her husband seems to be on the passive side. So if it works for them...Congratulations.
Men like that eventually explode 💥👀- trust me, I'm currently dating a divorced man who left a woman who was doing that to him- even the shyest men are STILL MEN, and they want to be treated as such.
@@ssoomee so sorry. And so so true. They build up resentment and they strategize how to devastate their wives and children.
So many love to hate Wendy. However she does drop some gems now and again. Everyone was just so happy to see a mule winning though 🤷🏾♀️
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Which Mule?? Both are or were.
@@shellylong2158 come to think of it both.
Why would he be comfortable with a woman retiring him in the first place ?
It’s giving masculine and controlling vibes from the wife !!!!
Unless medical issues are involved
Yes, I thought it was very emasculating. Her husband is fine and she put him out there for the world to see. I don’t think any of this is a good idea.
I agree with your videos. Masculina are definitely attacking her in the name of femininity
It seemed like she tried to surprise him in the seconds of TB’s original video that I watched. Ot was very cringe and I clicked away. She took the reigns, shifting their dynamic.
He literally said in his video he never wanted to be a police officer
@@godsgirl7201 so in those 15 years why didn't he do anything about that himself?
To be fair both women were not nice. Okay we all know Wendy loves to give her opinion and most of the times she is not wrong. Wendy is just speaking out of her experience. And she really has experience dealing with a dusty man. One thing I can say about Tabitha. Behind that big smile is a very passive aggressive woman, someone who has a very strong mammy/masculine energy. See, a women who uses nice nasty and religion to get their point across are very dangerous. But it is her lesson to learn, her life to live. Some of us know that a true masculine man will never accept to be retired at such young age. Let’s not forget he was in a career that is respected by society and that made him feel important and respected by his peers.
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@@kailjones6868 facts
Ouch. It’s our pride… really a haughty spirit.
There are some good Black men out here...I never met any but I don't have the right to project my feelings on to Tabitha and her marriage. Retiring the love of your life from a dangerous job is beautiful. However, Wendy isn't wrong for trying to warn her 🤷🏾♀️
She said I never met any
Wendy is not comparing just her marriage but the marriages she sees all around her and all the celebrity catastrophic unions she speaks on. Yes all unions aren't the same but ppl are ppl and men are men. I strongly believe retiring her husband might not turn out so well not because I'm bitter but because of the mentality of men especially black men.
Wendy was speaking from a place of her own hurt and pain. She had no business speaking on this, not in the manner in which she did.
@@queenofhearts1138 u aware that she's doing her job right?! If I'm to agree with you then none of us should be commenting on this even content creators.
Well what I'm pointing to is that Wendy so fresh off the press herself SWEEP YOUR OWN FRONT DOOR as Big MA used to say. Out of order idc about it being her job she's a woman and a mother she needed to exercise better judgment.
That's bigger than a career HonTy.
Ps. Oh yes I'm quite aware 😪
I'm from Brooklyn and grew up listening to her on the radio on Hot 97 WAY BEFORE ppl knew about Wendy but thanks kiddo.
Yeah and I think it's sad that people are quick to call Wendy bitter. I see it as her calling it the way she sees it because she's been through it. And warning comes before destruction.
1. Umm, she should've kept it to herself. 2.She giving him to much time to play by retiring him. 3. Wendy just tryna share her experience of being the bread winner 4.she did kind of make him look like a bitch, if we think that, he for sure feels that.... but u never know. Happy Taco Tuesday
She looks older than her husband. This will end in tears
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No way. I would support him if he wants to retire early and pursue his dreams unless his job is his purpose and dream. I also wouldn’t have made it a PSA which is tacky. We don’t care but I guess people want us to know their business. So let’s pick their lives apart😈
Not the 😈.. That cracked me up!
exactly! Tabitha is part of the Hollywood machine.....you gotta tell it all to be relevant and to keep the juice going.....
My husband told me today out of the blue he is going to bust his butt to retire me asap. I guess this is what Tabitha felt for her man? 🤷🏾
Yes I would if he had a dangerous job but I won’t announce it to the world and emasculate him.
THAT'S EXACTLY CORRECT.
Exactly
But he said it was apart of his identity
Exactly. Tabitha definitely should have moved in silence.
Thank you for this comment. The main issue is not what she did, but HOW she did it. My motto in life is to always move in silence. I’m not mad she retired him, I’m disappointed she announced it to the public.
Yeah, while many were clowning Wendy, which I get because Wendy did come off a bit bitter, Wendy had a point. I think she genuinely doesn't want women to make the same mistake she did. But it was a tad bit condescendingly said.
She should have let him announce that he's retiring, if it mattered. That was indeed a masculine move by Ms Brown.
In my opinion Tabitha should've enjoyed her success and allowed her husband to be a man and "retire" on his own terms she should have no say so in when that grown man should leave his career. He has his own mind and women in general should always allow a man to be a man at the end of the day. Also Tabitha offered this information to the public so she should not be surprised that people have opinions.
Dear Chloe
I have been listening to you for months, thank you for what you teach. I cringe when this woman announcement of retiring her husband. I thought she just diminished this man and this was not a good look for her. I recently started using all your tips on hypergamy and I have seen the change in who approaches me. I am a girlie woman but I used to think 50/50 is what I should bring to the table. But I have change my thoughts and allow alpha males who approach me to be the man. Boy they treat me like gold.
I may have done so privately. It doesn't seem logical for me to be a millionaire celebrity and my husband is a civil servant, unless he just wants to be one. The husband now has the access and capital to bring more wealth and success into their family.
Great commentary Chloe. The comment section is 🤦🏾♀️....Two things can be true at the same time ladies, Wendy can have accurate points and still be bitter, miserable and projecting. Couldn't nobody tell her **** when she was with her husband, who her talents took care of and burned several bridges w/ppl just to keep up the facade of a marriage going, but now she gets to sit back and act like the wise mother goose? Critiquing, and criticizing everyone else? 🤔 Oh ok. She KNEW her man wasn't **** when she arrived home from the hospital with a newborn baby and caught her husband in a full on affair (her words) and still decided to stay, don't play innocent victim 20yrs later when the story unfolds and he does you as expected. Wendy was a whole crack/coke head but wants all the understanding and respect for her f*** up choices in life but has a hard time extending that same energy to others, especially women 🙄 Wendy is a very cynical, bitter, angry, unhappy woman no matter how much "truth" she speaks, her miserable spirit always manages to shine through, imo🤷🏾♀️
Ouch!
Well damn!
Werd. When a Healed Wendy makes commentary on a functional relationship. I'll come back and listen.
Damn I didn't know that 😫
I can't even imagine making that type of agreement with my husband-- it would just never even be a thought! I also agree with most of the comments, these are private matters. I just can't get with this sharing everything with the world 24/7.
A woman is in her best when she is receiving but also femininity and relationships are not a one size fits all.
Femininity vs dusty behavior is two different things. You can use your feminine energy to inspire him. While mothering him if he's a real man will repel him.
True
Everyone women carries feminity differently what works for you might not work for the next women
Always consider the source. Exactly!
I was so surprised that Tabitha responded. & She did it so effortlessly.
I was also surprised at her announcement.
Silence Is Always BEST!
Yes and yes! If I was in Tabitha's situation, I WILL want my husband to retire as a police officer. I believe Tabitha's husband should be able to retire in 5 years to collect his pension, but why take that chance if something terrible happens at his job?? He can find another career but definitely not a police officer. But the conversation will be between me and my husband, and not social media.
She’s is gorgeous but she looks older than him. She should have gifted him a business or invest in his dream and let him decide if he wants to retire or not . When money comes from a woman in a relationship the love isn’t always the same I see where Wendy is coming from . Men doesn’t like to be provided for except feminine men and a masculine man will feel out of place when a woman tries to provide for , they end up being rebellious
They met in middle school so I’m sure it’s been a journey for them. It works for them 💫 Moving in silence is my golden rule 💅🏾
I just love you! Note: I barely share pictures of me and my husband on SM, I like to keep as much negativity away energy as I can.. I do have my own business, but currently in a hypergamy relatiobshup that didn't start out that way.
Whatever works for THEM is not a problem for ME.
I would not retire my husband unless he had a terminal illness or was about to die. But she does not deserve to be harassed.
You covered this story gracefully Chloe. Thank you for the video.
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Miss you in the group Chloe_ glad the content and comments are still going strong. Hope your summer is beautiful.
Oh and Tabitha owes no one a thing in terms of details. That buisness pays me dust and I could only hope for a 23 year marriage so ill sit in the pews and hush.
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Tabitha handled that situation with class and grace. Bravo 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿!!!!!!
I wondered if you would do a video on this and what your perspective would be. I was waiting...
Not gonna lie, Kevin Hunter looks really happy with his "new" family 🤔
Chiiilllleee!! Doesnt he?
💀💀 which would make Wendy more bitter. I can't imagine her pain rn. But how does the side lady feel about him coz he's not making his own money. Their relationship is literally being financed by Wendy. I wouldn't respect Kevin.
Kevin has already found a 18 year old lover. Sherena is pushing 30. The wheel of the bus goes round and round.
That relationship was built on another woman's pain and tears..Sharina better be CAREFUL...what Kevin did with you ..he will do to YOU.
I just knew you wouldn't disappoint 😌
Finally caught up with the rest of the class and it has been an insightful few months👌so grateful that my friend referred me to this channel and I've also been sharing it with other women in my life- alot of wisdom and eye opening facts👏showing you love from South Africa ♥️🇿🇦
Damn! Wendy's ex husband is disrespectful as hell. Look at him with his baby. Theyre living off of her hard work and dont look to care not one bit. That's a hurt peice.
It's disgusting. How is that even legal? It's exploitation.
@@kensigregory361 look at the mistress though! Not a care in the world!
So SHAMEFUL..POOR WENDY😪❤
This was a beautifully curated video. I appreciate the grace and dignity with which you discussed this topic even if you disagree with the lifestyle.
This should have stayed within their household. Lets see how this plays out. Thats all I got to say about this.
GREAT VIDEO. Also, my first thought was, why should she be the one to retire him? Why can't he retire himself?
Even IF you side with Tabitha in this situation, there is a huge factor that many mammies and dusties will not take into consideration: He was taking care of her first. He has his own career to this day, and everything they have they bought together. Not to mention that she’s giving him an opportunity to expand his BUSINESS so he can bring MORE money to the family. It isn’t an excuse for him to sit on his ass like a pampered princess. BM are promoting this image, not including that part, and saying that women should be more open to being “head of households” while knowing nothing about what the ACTUAL endgame is.
Thank you for this. The coverage from every BW I’ve seen on this has been completely off and clearly these people have never watched her and her husband interact. The projection is saddening.
He didn’t want to leave his job.
'it will end in tears." role reversal simply doesn't work. i'd understand if her husband HAD to resign due to health reasons etc. as a woman, i wouldn't take that man seriously. imagine the smoke he's about to catch from men. it will eat away at him slowly but surely.
The men will drag him, asking how it feels to be taken care of, what’s your allowance, you babysitting the kids again, your wife never home so let’s hit the streets and we know who call the shots/pants wearing.
If people stopped living in the matrix of celebrities... happiness will make a home in your lives.