CIA Spy: Don't Trust Your Gut! - How To Detect Lying, Manipulation & Mind Games | Andrew Bustamante

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  • Andrew Bustamante is a former covert CIA intelligence officer, decorated military combat veteran, successful Fortune 10 corporate advisor, proud husband and father. After 20 years running human and technical intelligence operations for private and government clients worldwide, Andrew founded EverydaySpy.com -- the first-ever digital spy training platform. Headlining both US and International media, Andrew’s training events have been praised for their innovative, authentic, and life-changing impact.
    Today on the show we discuss: the most accurate way to tell if someone is lying to you, simple techniques for improving communication skills, how to “fake it until you make it’ and appear more confident, why you shouldn’t trust your gut instinct and what to do instead, how to control a conversation and ask better questions, why motivation and manipulation are actually very similar, how to instantly reduce stress and fear and more.
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  • @kjbrocky
    @kjbrocky 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +148

    Always trust your gut! Every time I didn't, I had very bad experiences.

    • @jameshammond3853
      @jameshammond3853 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Dude, you are correct.

    • @Norma-d7l
      @Norma-d7l 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I didn't and have no idea what is going to happen at all. I am probably at the end of any possible hope.

    • @Rust_E_Shackleford
      @Rust_E_Shackleford 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      100%, vipassana meditation strengthens your gut intuition.

    • @carmenjkn
      @carmenjkn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Exactly, I would have died several times if I didn’t listen to my gut!

    • @thatguygsanchez5318
      @thatguygsanchez5318 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I think the idea is that your gut can be conditioned and transformed so be aware to what you are conditioned into and if the case is conditioned response or instinctual/gut response.

  • @austincaruso7596
    @austincaruso7596 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +102

    "Dont trust your gut" is what you tell someone before you lie to them

    • @janeprescott980
      @janeprescott980 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Hahahaha

    • @Antagonisten
      @Antagonisten หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Yeah i agree i would say it is a gaslighting trick

    • @phillipptrinks3404
      @phillipptrinks3404 หลายเดือนก่อน

      right....thatz everytime i hear this in my mind...the gutfeeling is, imo, i would trust the most...if someone says, dont trust your gut, i would think the same...he will lie the most effective way and pass the guard of the gutfeeling.
      but there is somthing like the untrained liar and the trained liar and the good and bad liar
      trusting the gut, needs also trained, or expierienced
      and cultivted and awarnes
      there are people they give a sh++ about feelings and their gut
      for those people they have no healthy connection to their gutfeeling

  • @jamescampbell-gray3203
    @jamescampbell-gray3203 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +85

    For those thinking he's wrong about gut instinct: He is... Kind of...
    It's not that trusting your gut is bad. It's that there is a higher level of analysis, that isn't being leveraged in people who only trust their gut. He worded his presentation according to his training. He's trained to convince people to stop trusting themselves and trust him instead. He can't help himself...
    There is a silver lining to be gleaned though. If you learn to trust your gut in emergencies, or otherwise precarious situations, and then also exercise your ability to perform high-level analysis, putting space between assumptions and reactions - thus creating an informed response - it becomes a type of super-power, compared to gut-instinct alone.

    • @BradyHansen81
      @BradyHansen81 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jamescampbell-gray3203 gut instinct is what told me to tell the Humvee driver I was in the slow down then seconds later an RPG streaked just in front out our vehicle. If I hadn’t said anything we would have been hit. I have many stories like this.
      He’s a spook, gathers Intel from people.
      I was a grunt on the battlefield and had to survive.
      My gut instinct saved me

    • @drSamovar
      @drSamovar หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      yes......assembling a working combo is the golden chalice.....i find that most people working off "gut instinct" tend to break down in the mental interpretation of those insticts, particularly if ego has bent them toward fear, which its prone to do, often in the slickest of ways....

    • @leolightening
      @leolightening หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      "He's trained to convince people to stop trusting themselves and trust him instead." - Gold. Brilliant insight and explanation.

    • @ParallelNewsNetwork
      @ParallelNewsNetwork หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      That’s assuming there isn’t something objective that intuitive types tap into that sensor types can’t

    • @BradyHansen81
      @BradyHansen81 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jamescampbell-gray3203 my gut instinct saved me on a literal battlefield in Iraq more times than I could count.
      Literally could feel ambushes before they happened and countered them easily. Could feel an IED up ahead. Literally felt someone point a rifle at me, take a shot, I ducked before because the round wizzed over my head, giving their loc away which allowed another squad member to engage them.
      A spook only knows one side of the coin, a soldier the other.
      Gut instinct functions so quickly your body is moving before you have time to even understand what is happening in the moment; only in hindsight do you have time to reverse engineer what happened.
      My $0.02

  • @wisdomenchanters
    @wisdomenchanters หลายเดือนก่อน +76

    Your instinct is your best weapon. Your mind can be tricked but not your soul. Your gut knows it before your mind can process

    • @TheGoldenWildcat
      @TheGoldenWildcat หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I 100% agree on that… Anyone who would tell or advise you to *Don't Trust Your Gut!* - are indeed is nothing but a sociopathic con-artist just trying use gaslighting trick on you.

    • @phillipptrinks3404
      @phillipptrinks3404 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      right...the gut, and the mind works together ...perfectly somhow ...me i dont know a better combination

    • @stardustboy94
      @stardustboy94 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Even the people who drunk the Jim Jones kool aid followed their so called instincts 😂

    • @edram1909
      @edram1909 14 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

      🤣

  • @apestaartjegeluk7706
    @apestaartjegeluk7706 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +99

    Not listening to your gut is the thing that put people in trouble . The mind is slow compared to the body reflexes. You feel a strange unsettling eary feeling in your stomach and lower abdomen that warns you to consider what’s going on. It saved thousands of people from disasters…

    • @whoo2975
      @whoo2975 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Bro try to introduce "gut feeling" and "survival instinct" are the samething. Master of Inmaginary

    • @heide-raquelfuss5580
      @heide-raquelfuss5580 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      And animals...

    • @egocruz2156
      @egocruz2156 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      The “gut instinct” stems from the when we lived as cavemen. We don’t face those type of dangers no more so our gut holds us back alot in this day and age

    • @apestaartjegeluk7706
      @apestaartjegeluk7706 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@egocruz2156 😵‍💫😂😂😂have you been sleeping these last years …?…. Maybe time to wake up

    • @BonnieGuyton-j1x
      @BonnieGuyton-j1x หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Maybe it's just happenstance but several times in my life my gut was telling me something was happening, but I chose to "use my brain". I should have listened to my gut

  • @BradyHansen81
    @BradyHansen81 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    My “gut” saved me on the battlefield more times than I can count. I think I’ll listen to my gut over a spook

  • @theimpaler5034
    @theimpaler5034 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +209

    BS trusting my instinct got me out of 100s of situations

    • @familylifescienceeducation5227
      @familylifescienceeducation5227 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Exactly! 🎉

    • @theimpaler5034
      @theimpaler5034 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Ask any detective and they will say gut instinct is the correct instinct

    • @ram47863
      @ram47863 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Same

    • @constantlychangin
      @constantlychangin 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Gut instinct with additional processing is just fine yall

    • @percubit10
      @percubit10 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      trusting my gut always got me out of situations. Your message is BS.

  • @samsmusichub
    @samsmusichub 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Bro is teaching us basic communication skills that as an extremist introvert I never learned growing up and had to learn the hard way through practice. It's good to hear there is a framework to discussion, because that is more tractable with me since growing up I felt that conversation was so natural and effortless to everybody else but it made my blood pressure rise and made me exhausted lol.

    • @KatSpade1018
      @KatSpade1018 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Oh thank goodness, it's not only me. Your description of yourself sounds like me. Introvert, communication, blood pressure, heat. Thank you for sharing. 😊

    • @samsmusichub
      @samsmusichub 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@KatSpade1018 You're welcome. It's good to find someone to relate to.

  • @syon600
    @syon600 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Ive watched a lot of bustamante and have always learnt something important, that isnt available elsewhere. Considering signing up after this and another interview watched today.

  • @brandonzaba6808
    @brandonzaba6808 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I see this guy everywhere and I don’t care how charismatic he is I will never trust him I just know he can switch just like that

    • @PreferredMethods
      @PreferredMethods 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I agree with you. I like him a lot. But he is very *in control* of the narrative he runs.

    • @staceycook6404
      @staceycook6404 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I trust God ! Men can all fail ! He’s very full of himself ,self is the key word

  • @LisaAnderson0129
    @LisaAnderson0129 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I could listen to his stuff all day long. Love Andy Bustamante. He’s so inciteful and intelligent.

    • @fridaytieday
      @fridaytieday 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hahahaha....you got no guts!

    • @syon600
      @syon600 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      True, he is gold. I relisten and learn more.

    • @guccisimo1
      @guccisimo1 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You could be going through brainwashing..

    • @GeistInTheMachine
      @GeistInTheMachine หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@guccisimo1He should go through one of his CIA Re-education Camps... I mean, Clubs!

    • @jayney6176
      @jayney6176 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

      "Insightful", not incite-ful. 🙂

  • @NopeNotTodaySatan
    @NopeNotTodaySatan 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    Every time I’ve listened to my gut, it was always 💯 % correct. Almost 50 years old so no one will ever be able to change my mind.

    • @samsmusichub
      @samsmusichub 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Question. I get what he's saying but also get what you're saying. Would you consider yourself a logical person? Perhaps your gut has been trained on logic so your gut is good intuition. For example I was raised Christian and still am. So for years I've trained my mind and actions on what I consider is the morally right thing to do. So my "gut" is just my brain referring to my Christian training. In that sense my gut is (hopefully) not my feelings - as Andrew implies it is - rather, it's the moral framework that I believe in. It could be the same for people with other religions or people who are staunch atheists too. My "gut" has also been pretty accurate, like I know the kind of people to avoid in life because my experience has shown me the potential negative outcomes. So to me my gut is usually no longer my initial feelings insomuch that it's my belief structure and experience (my gut tells me things based on what I see and believe, not my emotions). Curious to know what you think!

    • @veryrare876
      @veryrare876 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      no shot this is true lol.

    • @toniduncan3316
      @toniduncan3316 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I’m 56. You are about to enter the time in your life when everything will change your mind. Enjoy the ride, my friend.

    • @MrTeetime
      @MrTeetime หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@toniduncan3316 Im 56 too. You are 100% right. Wish I was 35 again when I knew it all.🤔

    • @samsmusichub
      @samsmusichub 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@veryrare876 Lol

  • @johnmclaughlin9674
    @johnmclaughlin9674 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    The one time I didn’t listen to my gut it ended poorly

    • @kendraheard1097
      @kendraheard1097 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes I RESPECTFULLY DISAGREE WITH HIM ON THAT PART MY GUT INSTINCTS HAS BEEN RIGHT 95 PERCENT OF THE TIME WHEN I DON'T LISTEN I PAY THE CONSEQUENCES

  • @AddMoreQuarters
    @AddMoreQuarters 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +247

    I listened to this guy before. By default I don't trust him to be honest and I find it highly unlikely he'd be allowed this much free reign to say this alot of what he's had to say. I can only and will only assume on general principle, once CIA, always CIA.

    • @frankthetank3342
      @frankthetank3342 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      It's the hair.

    • @jujubesification
      @jujubesification 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      He isn't saying anything that isn't already well known and established. He does present it with a certain bias/from a particular world view, which is inevitable.

    • @didafm
      @didafm 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      Well you're wrong. This guy is extremely smart

    • @te9591
      @te9591 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      I feel the same. Im surprised he's been allowed to use the CIA handle, especially on YT.

    • @AddMoreQuarters
      @AddMoreQuarters 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      @@didafm no one is questioning his intelligence.

  • @louisejoel
    @louisejoel 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    It's very hard to detect when some people lie as their baseline behaviour doesn't change if they are low in empathy and don't care about lying. It just comes naturally to some people. Someone who has some level of empathy will have an alteration of voice, slightly higher pitch and tremor. I've noticed as I can just tell when people are lying to me. It's often because of what they omitt. The only way I've learned this is years of experience in reading body language after being very poor at reading social cues for over 30 years. I had to force my self to learn for personal safety reasons as I was too trusting. We are taught to trust people in positions of authority and they are the ones most likely to abuse power.

  • @jacobmatelot7862
    @jacobmatelot7862 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Don't ever trust anyone telling you not to trust your intuition, your intuition is EVERYTHING.

    • @masterchavez3337
      @masterchavez3337 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Is gut feeling and intuition the same thing?

    • @jacobmatelot7862
      @jacobmatelot7862 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@masterchavez3337 yes

  • @orikakuli1
    @orikakuli1 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    I love this guy. Watching a professional lier talk about lies is incredible. P.S. stop hating on him ya'll crazy he's just a guy. You can take what he says and test it or dump it.

    • @yurilopez439
      @yurilopez439 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      That's what I'm saying

    • @yurilopez439
      @yurilopez439 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Take it with a grain of salt.

    • @gabrielleaumont3971
      @gabrielleaumont3971 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      He makes sense.
      YOU also see things/ world through YOUR own lense.
      Think about it!

    • @Androsynth75
      @Androsynth75 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yeah, this guy dispenses a lot of really useful info and insight into how intelligence agencies operate, and how to apply some of those principles in your own life. I think he's probably not the most trustworthy person, or the most ethical (by his own admission, he's ethically flexible which is why he was recruited), but he is giving people direct insight into how a lot of manipulation works. Useful information to have these days. My take on him is that he doesn't give a shit about moral codes or rules, but is driven to make a positive difference. It's an unusual stance to take publicly. Probably by design. He gets that controversy generates engagement.

    • @Alpharexx
      @Alpharexx 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You do realize that definitionally, people are either guys or gals, so saying "stop hating on him ya'll crazy he's just a guy" isn't a compelling argument to stop hating, if that's truly what you want. Should we infer that we should hate if instead of a guy they were a gal? I guess what I'm trying to say is next time you write something on the internet, consider thinking things through BEFORE you use your fingers.

  • @ChandlerOakes-HouseofOakes
    @ChandlerOakes-HouseofOakes 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I think this is not only fascinating; but, is absolutely incredible.

    • @cynthialodermeier5291
      @cynthialodermeier5291 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That’s what he’s trained to make you think.

  • @jamesboddington9565
    @jamesboddington9565 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Remember a policeman interviewed in Australia about the arrest of a serial killer saying they become particularly suspicious of him after his initial story was too neat and perfect

    • @NoYoureBeautiful
      @NoYoureBeautiful หลายเดือนก่อน

      Sheriff’s name was Dunning Kreuger. I remember that!

  • @bekind5738
    @bekind5738 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    My gut saved my life when a boat capsized off of Ios Greece. My gut said do not get on that boat(yacht),. The moment, I made that decision my stomach immediately stopped hurting. I have many stories like this one.

  • @MrTeetime
    @MrTeetime หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This guy is amazing. I could listen for hours. One of the smartest people Ive ever heard.

  • @teresajannuzzio4818
    @teresajannuzzio4818 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I truly understand what he is saying. 63 years old, and i really get it now! The Anxiety part is true, on what he is saying. I learned some of this with therapy. But he made me understand it quicker.

  • @TheMABExperience
    @TheMABExperience 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I enjoyed the breakdown of introducing cognitive dissonance and how some people can’t handle it. It’s not comfortable having your beliefs challenged, but it really is life-changing. The people that say perception is reality lack perspective. The people with the greatest perspective can manipulate others via their perceptions.

  • @brainiac2482
    @brainiac2482 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    He didn't mean to ignore your gut. Intuition is just another data point to be considered. If your gut speaks up, it's definitely something to consider, especially if your "gut" isn't usually leading your logic.

  • @GungaLaGunga
    @GungaLaGunga 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    As an older person, hope you young folks take this for what it's worth: when survival is your motivator, for example your health is failing and you will die if you continue to eat garbage fast food and PROCESSED foods, then it is VERY EASY to lose weight. Yeah, uh, don't do this. Good luck. lol Actually i did it. Age 52 from 230 to 170. Been holding 170 to 180 for years now. How'd I do it. I learned about nutrition and food, then learnt to cook using TH-cam. Took me a few months, equipt my kitchen with inexpensive restraunt supply cook ware, because it is fast and easy to clean, and setup work stations, that allow me to prep and make meals, very quicly. It is a process. Optimize the process for your own tastes and healthy foods. Yes, every once in a while, just for fun, I'll go eat an Arby's beef and cheddar, and compared to my homemade beef and cheddar sandwich, there is no comparison, and I end up taking one bite, and throwing the Arby's away, remembering how disgusting it is. CHildhood programing is difficult to reprogramm. But it can be done. Just have to find the right algorythm for your own self.

    • @PreferredMethods
      @PreferredMethods 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Truth, truth, truth. Speaking the truth of things makes it possible to forgive, to leave fears behind, to heal. Drag it all out of the closet, bit by bit. Make new decisions.

  • @lucretiasulimay1968
    @lucretiasulimay1968 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I travel solo at this point in my life and of course there's always situations that might overstress me but the idea of journaling my stress situations is what a great idea thank you great conversation guys have a beautiful day 🌹🌹

  • @r9153
    @r9153 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Wow! Wow! Wow! I will put this on my shelf! Love this! Knowledge is much power. THANK YOU 💯% !

  • @Harry-l8e
    @Harry-l8e 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I am a very strong empath, l relie on my gut fellings, its allways served me well, previding your a honest person, people have let me down, that is my stength.

    • @Rust_E_Shackleford
      @Rust_E_Shackleford 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      With you 100% my friend. Vipassana meditation helps strengthen gut intuition!

  • @thehubrisoftheunivris2432
    @thehubrisoftheunivris2432 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I don't even think about the outcomes most of the time. I wake up in a panic almost every day, for no apparent reason. Play last almost all day, with a couple of breaks. And it keeps me awake at night. I need to figure it out.

    • @AdoreeBeing
      @AdoreeBeing 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I have had the same experience. You are not alone - always remember that! It took me years to tame the beast of my panic attacks. My faith did help me. Prayer. Meditation.

    • @thehubrisoftheunivris2432
      @thehubrisoftheunivris2432 18 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@AdoreeBeing did age and time help? Recently out of a long relationship of constant damage control and instability, on so many levels. I already feel like I'm starting to calm down. But I really hope age and corresponding variables might give me some relief. Faith and struggling meditation has just kept my head above water so far. I wish I was tired enough to find contentment with what I have and not what I aspire to. Does that just eventually come? I know results may vary. But I've felt on the verge of a heart attack, daily for years now.

  • @BSlFK
    @BSlFK 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Former CIA reminds me of Project Mocking Bird. It’s like a doctor is still a doctor after he / she leaves the profession. Conditioned.

  • @ncascadehiker
    @ncascadehiker 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I think Andrew is an executive business coach, leveraging his CIA training. Interesting guy and I wish him success.

  • @leahkelly8306
    @leahkelly8306 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Another amen on meditation not helping fear.

  • @PamelaK.Edmonson
    @PamelaK.Edmonson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    They can also be tired of being misunderstood.

  • @delideri3518
    @delideri3518 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    It’s crazy you can tour with your best hits as a cia agent

    • @familylifescienceeducation5227
      @familylifescienceeducation5227 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      🤭🤭

    • @Alpharexx
      @Alpharexx 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He should totally give a Ted talk in Iran. I'm sure it would be a blast.

    • @angelpjc
      @angelpjc 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

      😂

  • @Lee-ol8gj
    @Lee-ol8gj 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    An individual's perspective shapes his personal perceptions.

    • @deborahhebblethwaite1865
      @deborahhebblethwaite1865 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This also includes your gut instinct. While I do rely on gut instinct in very serious situations I do try to remain neutral in daily choices. If I am alone on a dark street at night, I don’t question when I feel a bit prickly. The trouble with gut instinct is if you made the opposite choice or did the opposite thing you would probably let it go if it turned out in your favor. You would make up some excuse. Well, I was over reacting or whatever. People will remember having a gut feeling and not listening to it if the outcome is bad. Basically things we call bad or events that we call negative have far more impact on our psyche than things or events we call good.

  • @TheEderSaul
    @TheEderSaul หลายเดือนก่อน

    sad to see that most people will dismiss this information, but it is life changing if you are open to it...

  • @tulelazule6914
    @tulelazule6914 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    DUDE! you know your stuff -- better than any ive seen.

    • @GroundbreakGames
      @GroundbreakGames 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He's a con man psy op. Grow up.

  • @serialcatmom4689
    @serialcatmom4689 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    In line with your comments re shades of grey and ethical dilemmas:
    I’d like to point out all the cases where a person of group is convinced they are motivating (“getting someone to do something that is in their own interests”), when actually what makes them the expert or authority on what is actually in that person’s interests and it may not be? Lots of “motivation” out there that is actually manipulation because a (sometimes even well-meaning) person or group “knows best” what is in another’s interests.

  • @edeguzman89
    @edeguzman89 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    0:20 Perception(how you see it) vs Perspective(how others see it).

  • @LilHan-xq3pw
    @LilHan-xq3pw 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    His interviews are meant to be a recruiting tool

    • @GungaLaGunga
      @GungaLaGunga 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      yep, and a plumber uses a pipe wrentch. Leverage tools. He's just using hte tools he uses in his job. That said, this character other characters on YT are interesting. I really do knot know why this dude, a young relatable dude, is speaking to all of us. And why. IDK. But espianage, spy crarft, and geopolitics is at the worst state in my life, and i lived thru the cold war. We really did think we were gonna be vaporized. War Games was a serious movie and had tremendous affect and effects on the American population. "The medium is the mAssage" , eh hem, i mean mEessage. --- Marshall McCluhan

    • @estyron27858
      @estyron27858 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Can you please elaborate?

    • @whoo2975
      @whoo2975 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@estyron27858 From someone who needs to edit such short comment? guess not.

    • @gabrielleaumont3971
      @gabrielleaumont3971 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You miss the point

  • @mixedlag
    @mixedlag 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Hi Doug-You asked him really good questions. I would love to hear him speak on the indoctrination process which he mentioned getting toward the end. Maybe you could have him back on at some point. 🙂

  • @heide-raquelfuss5580
    @heide-raquelfuss5580 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for your good lectures.
    I enjoy it every minute, even if it is sad, when i realize, it is to late for me. Whish i would of known all this when i was younger. I could of avoided many things i have faced and my loved ones.
    Thank you sir.

  • @jammesvqk857
    @jammesvqk857 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Good interview. Real good usable advice. Meditation is a medicine. Reading and study is just knowledge. What works is real-world practice.
    To get better one has to make a conscious decision about what and who they want to be, then assume progressive manageable risks towards the direction he wants to go with intent, journaling, learning from the experience, rewarding yourself when works and repeat. Each time, mimicking/faking, to best of one abilities, the traits of the type of person they would like to acquire.

  • @lightgiver7311
    @lightgiver7311 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    My instincts, whether you call it gut, intuition, guided, have saved me many times. I never panicked over Y2K, did not run out and buy a generator, never panicked over Covid, did not get the shot.

  • @JKDVIPER
    @JKDVIPER 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    4:35 this guy is smart. Man. I subbed. I really liked that.

  • @DrEvil-hu1fi
    @DrEvil-hu1fi 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think you helped me learn how to communicate with people. I suck at it. Like i really really don't know how to do it.
    It's never been an easy thing for me, and after TBI, it's become near impossible.
    I could watch this over and over and learn something new every time.
    From the bottom of my heart, thank you. ❤❤❤

  • @memyselfeye8850
    @memyselfeye8850 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Of course we were lied to, but so were you Superman.

  • @yogasounds1
    @yogasounds1 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    That's cute... CIA agent comes out and spells the beans on CIA secrets and of course he's left to roam, freely attending every podcast imaginable. lol YEs, sounds totally legit. LMFAO

  • @danner209
    @danner209 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    First time I’ve ever heard someone say “don’t trust your gut”. Who’s lying???

  • @HomelessShoe
    @HomelessShoe หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your brain thinks, but your heart/guts knows.

  • @tahsinaaron5563
    @tahsinaaron5563 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    In eastern culture,
    A popular proverb is,
    “I want to cut my horn to become a calf again”
    Means, someone is meant to understand to others, which was comparatively outdated or earlier version (in mind).
    Its very challenging sometimes to listen & understand others views about something that , May be understood long ago.
    This recall of that same concept may require some patience & energy but has high chance to learn may be something new from same material/content/conversation.
    The speaker is accurately touched a few points thTs very close to agreement of understanding.

  • @jessicaciccone4088
    @jessicaciccone4088 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He's wrong about micro expression. Sorry, andrew, but Dr. Paul Ekman, founder of these micro expressions, was given a grant to travel the world and study how different cultures express themselves. Because common believe at the time was that different ethnicities do show expressions differently. He studied vastly different cultures from around the world for like 13 years or so and discovered that each ethnic race used the same muscles to express happiness, sadness stress and so on. It's interesting to hear the verbal side to this. I love learning from you.

  • @Rosa-f2w
    @Rosa-f2w 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I really like this guy
    But I'm a psych major
    And we were taught that its just the opposite
    The left side of the brain is the more emotional brain; and usually predominates in women

  • @robguzman4095
    @robguzman4095 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Awesome ❤Andrew kicks butt

  • @Slimboulslim
    @Slimboulslim หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He's not saying don't trust your gut entirely ,; he's saying don't make yourself look like an a** by not having a strengthened sense of facts to back your gut feelings; because you'll in fact be gaslighted and challenged.

  • @SensoredRooster
    @SensoredRooster หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I seen the exact opposite argument from this guy last week on another podcast. Telling us to trust our gut.

  • @namidave
    @namidave หลายเดือนก่อน

    Protect Andrew! He’s a genius.

  • @janinesmith178
    @janinesmith178 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Our environment can shape our honesty. If honesty is shamed or derided, then we withhold being honest. It's not safe to communicate honesty. Kids have the energy to be honest. But, do the parents have the strength to respond ethically? Or do they fall back on conditioning and become reactive and lack any authentic response? You need to reflect on your own self-interest and put it in perspective. Are you putting protecting your ego ahead of the best interest of the people you truly should care about? Without the people we truly care about, exactly what are you living for?

    • @james7767
      @james7767 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Good point!

  • @justinjones9042
    @justinjones9042 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I appreciate the explanation of ego and egotistical, out of rice that was my lack of truly gasping the concept of R.I.C.E . Great information Thank-you

  • @denisemorgan9921
    @denisemorgan9921 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I agree with this gentlemans perspective AND feel it is missing the importance of intuition.

  • @Snow_Whyte
    @Snow_Whyte หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’m his point about why it’s wrong to “assume behaviors equal dishonesty” personified.
    I over explain BIG TIME! I also have PTSD, Panic Disorder, ADD, and a chronic neurological disorder that causes extreme physical pain. Those will throw off my body language, my emotional responses, etc, etc. For those and a slew of other reasons, there’s no way I would ever talk with the police w/out an attorney regardless of the situation. I live an honest life, but bc cops think in an extremely dated way, unlike the logical way this guy does, I could easily cause myself to go from minor witness to prime suspect simply due to my normal demeanor being mistaken as dishonesty. Even though ironically enough I can’t lie to save my life bc my face gives me away immediately. (Sorry so long- but in fairness, you were warned I over explain everything 🤷🏻‍♀️).

  • @rashedusman9717
    @rashedusman9717 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    It makes sence what he says, but I doubt anyone relied solely on intelect when making decisions, especially people in his line of work. It happened to me a lot that everything seemed alright, but there was that weird feeling and most of the time it turned out to be legitimate. So, never dissregard gut feelings.

    • @gabrielleaumont3971
      @gabrielleaumont3971 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Ah a person with intellect, who gets the message!

  • @uhleessha
    @uhleessha 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Fear is closely related to being surprised. All emotions can be positive or negative. I describe fear as an alarm to do something. - I was literally thinking cognitive dissonance before you said it. We are born with one fear- as we age we typically lose that fear through cognitive dissonance.

  • @MegaLiggie
    @MegaLiggie 20 วันที่ผ่านมา

    No play the shakuhachi. you learn about your attitude, un realistic expectations, your sense of discipline for practice and not quitting.

  • @YuraF96
    @YuraF96 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    love it. I have to try and use the info Andrew provided

  • @heide-raquelfuss5580
    @heide-raquelfuss5580 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Over explanation is my trait.
    Mostly i do it, so others understand things better, or to vent, or for information where i think it is important to know.
    My head is 24 h, 7/7 working.
    Very draining, but my brain can not rest.
    I have to know everything and understand everything in detail.
    Also..., being allways curious is a big driver.
    Analizing, rotating...
    Only...you can never have enough knowledge, so learning never ends.

  • @jacklaw3962
    @jacklaw3962 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Trusting your gut and analysing your perception are not mutually exclusive. The instinct/gut provides the smoke signal, but you still need to identify/analyse the nature of the fire. Do both. Duh.

  • @VictorPerez-xn4uf
    @VictorPerez-xn4uf 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bustamante 2024... BRILLIANT!

  • @Mia-r9s9p
    @Mia-r9s9p หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great explanation about a 456 year-old still being a 13-yr old in a 45 yr old's framework! That's how we're able to maintain a sense of still being a kid, right? Was just explaining to my daughter, the value of taking a university class in an amphitheatre with 100 other students: the growth sustained when listening to other people's perceptions and perspecta on the subject matter. If we gain nothing else from the class, we grow in our thought processes.

  • @BonnieGuyton-j1x
    @BonnieGuyton-j1x หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You should always be willing to at least listen to "the other side"

  • @jameshammond3853
    @jameshammond3853 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This interviewer asks really good questions.

  • @localppcartist
    @localppcartist 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In a scene, the Penguin rhetorically stated, " why ask why when its better to ask how." If I remember. In health care, generally, it IS more effective to ask How rather than the other, to lessen any likelihood of defensiveness and promotes therapeutic relationship- an ongoing and comprehensive assessment have more open ended questions and the more focused and emergency assessments have more closed -ended questions.

  • @didafm
    @didafm 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Hey can you ask Andrew how to tell if someone likes you or doesn't?

    • @yOuRn1GhTmAr
      @yOuRn1GhTmAr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Your on the wrong platform

    • @thundergrace
      @thundergrace 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      i like you!😂

    • @thundergrace
      @thundergrace 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      1. They dont look you in the eye. 2. They have a grimace on their face 3 they dont answer and walk away 4 they give you the finger 5 they yell at you 6 they put you down all the time 7 and last they ghost you dont want anything to do with you. many other things ...they just give you mean looks....thats how you know...

    • @ElisaAlice-d8b
      @ElisaAlice-d8b 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Ask them.

    • @ElisaAlice-d8b
      @ElisaAlice-d8b 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@thundergrace even in this talk he said you shouldn't pay too much attention to micro expressions because you don't know where they're coming from, instead of ruminating and jumping to conclusions through faulty logic, how about you just ask them how they think and feel, chances are, they'll probably tell you.

  • @Maybe-d2e
    @Maybe-d2e หลายเดือนก่อน

    This helped me greatly. Thx.

  • @marymotherofgod4861
    @marymotherofgod4861 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    I trust my gut all the time and I’m always right

    • @gears7467
      @gears7467 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      That's just your perception.

    • @thundergrace
      @thundergrace 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😂😂😂😂

    • @LiftingYouHigher
      @LiftingYouHigher 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      R u for real? Like how should I explain this to you? Or maybe why should I explain this to you when you don’t even know how you are basing your decisions, and your ignorant about ur own self! Let me be productive here. I advise you to read the book “the power of ur subconscious mind”
      I promise you when you read it you are gonna come back to this conversation and delete your statement because you’re gonna feel so embarrassed

    • @julesonfoot9273
      @julesonfoot9273 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You’re always right? That’s quite a statement 😅

    • @takenote7085
      @takenote7085 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      This guy's wife takes vacations "alone" at random hotels, don't hold this guy's advice in such high regard. ​@LiftingYouHigher

  • @luciusverus4886
    @luciusverus4886 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Always trust your gut feeling.. it’s your first brain, your blueprint .. Neurologically, it’s there before your brain develops..

  • @BannanaTree-ed4tz
    @BannanaTree-ed4tz 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Trusting your gut is good.

  • @georgebell5168
    @georgebell5168 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You asked all of the questions I wanted to know thanks doug

  • @CharityRedd-kx3nb
    @CharityRedd-kx3nb หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very informative

  • @Lana-hl8nf
    @Lana-hl8nf 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hmmm not sure if I agree with the point about not wasting time talking to someone unwilling to change. There is a chance that you can plant a seed in their mind and even though it may take time - sometimes months, sometimes years - it can cause them to change. I have done this numerous times.

  • @DuckboyJiden
    @DuckboyJiden 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My intuition changes all the time depending on what mood I'm in.

  • @kalinamasash1137
    @kalinamasash1137 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank You -good discussion .Greetings from Poland

  • @Toddmccain-z2g
    @Toddmccain-z2g หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Don't trust your gut? I listened to this interview because I think gut instinct is our best advisor. I wanted to hear his reasoning for saying not to trust it.
    It turns out that his definition of ,gut, is not mine. It sounds more like the mind.
    If you want to hear his explanation yourself, skip to 23:12
    Overall I think the information is very good. The only questionable statement is that nothing is good or bad, but gray, depending on how it's used. It sounds a lot like the end-justify-the-means argument.
    It seems to me that most of the corruption in high places is because of that type of thinking.

  • @TheBlackSheepCompany
    @TheBlackSheepCompany 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Maybe a better way to explain cognitive dissonance is you’re intruding upon someone’s schema and it’s upsetting.

  • @matthewsulamo7410
    @matthewsulamo7410 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Great advocate point of view for an effective professional communicator.👌🏽✨🇺🇸

  • @JersenP
    @JersenP 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very well explained

  • @certifiedqueen
    @certifiedqueen หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you. I needed this.

  • @karenhere9327
    @karenhere9327 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Great information

  • @sarahjansky2085
    @sarahjansky2085 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I've also witnessed someone answering a majority of questions in an interview or dialogue, completely dominate or control the conversation by skirting around, diverting and not really answering the questions.

  • @GREENxTARA
    @GREENxTARA 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    not trying to hide my face with makeup lol it’s just fun to do & i love having fun in the morning

    • @Exxperiment626
      @Exxperiment626 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Keep telling yourself that..

    • @GREENxTARA
      @GREENxTARA หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Exxperiment626 excuse me man no woman asked for you opinion why don’t you go back to watching football and playing w your phalanges

  • @IntelJungian
    @IntelJungian หลายเดือนก่อน

    The SuperEgo is important too!

  • @michelemiletich7540
    @michelemiletich7540 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    very smart man

  • @DonnieGraham-zd8qw
    @DonnieGraham-zd8qw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am one of those people that will adopt a view point of another if i agree.

  • @IntelJungian
    @IntelJungian หลายเดือนก่อน

    Neural lock is very deeply ingrained in the psyche. A psychoanalytic term. 😊

  • @simplypositiveme
    @simplypositiveme 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I love when he said " my spouse is a she" 😊 Not every person is heterosexual. I really appreciate that point.

  • @grand_air_trine_astro
    @grand_air_trine_astro หลายเดือนก่อน

    I sense things that are happening behind the scenes 👁️ for real…before they happen. My body is so pure I get downloads from the collective consciousness. And it’s linked to my spleen aka intuition. I am fearless but acutely aware of everything in the environment and the people and dynamics via human design & astrology as well as dreams

  • @Historian212
    @Historian212 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    That perception vs perspective thing is incorrect. Perception is literally the noun form of the verb “perceive”: it’s what you take in through your five (maybe six) senses. Perspective is your personal interpretation/angle on what you take in; it affects how you perceive the world around you. Technically, perceiving is the first step, the taking-in of sensory info, and perception is your interpretation of that info. However, IRL the two meanings can overlap because of how “perceive” is sometimes used in everyday language. The organization of the perceived info by your brain is a brain function that happens between perceiving and interpreting sensory info. If you take in factors like other people’s attitudes, that’s still perception/perceiving. How you use that input depends on how your brain organizes and then interprets it. TV

  • @reverend900
    @reverend900 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for this one specifically how brain functions , Andrew and interviewer.

  • @williamhoffa3500
    @williamhoffa3500 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I like him I would be a motivational speaker offering an enlightened interest in oneself if I had such a talent

  • @AIAffiliator88
    @AIAffiliator88 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

    They tell young military service members, no lie, cheat or steal. Treating them like a child