@@dasdasdadadadad8915 1. The success of resentment is consistently causing suffering to the subjects of one's resentment till the death of the subjects. You may call someone who successfully takes everything from who he/she hates - but this resentful person also devotes a huge amount of his/her own time and energy to revenge. What a waste! imagining this resentful person's enemies heals themselves after all the dedication he/she put in. What's next? Be more resentful and waste more of one's life on revenge? But the enemies are stronger now because they survived your last attack. 2. Even if we don't argue it from the perspective of revenge, let's say a person lets spite and resentment motivate himself/herself to become more successful than the person s/he resents. Do you think that person being resented would give a sh*t about the resentful person's success? And would the resentful person still keeps the motivation after realizing nobody cares?
@@yyl7076 so..I won't feel... satisfied after.... giving them the same pain they gave to me...!? Idk...but anyways....I don't like being....so.... resentful...I still want to take revenge but.... sometimes I think that....,will I even win with these negative emotions !?
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
I'm a resentfull person and I agree with you a 100% that resentment is a choice, but its also a habbit. In January I got stooped by the cops because I crossed a red light on my bike, the only thing I felt for those officers was pure hatred; they where pretty polite to the end although I was realy disrespectfull without insulting them. Looking back it is as you said it felt like they where in my way.
I have similar situations. I feel hatred for others who barely did anything to me they may have been slightly rude or did something I really didn't want them to ect ect. It eventually fades I think but I don't want to keep feeling like that.
*I love my parents now, but I might have been resentful to them if I had never been rebellious* I love this video so much. Thanks for sharing. I agree-- there's no one to blame but yourself. You control your life! Here's my story: I grew up with strict parents. And of course, there's a point in my life where I felt like they were too restrictive about everything. I wasn't really allowed to go out often, invite people over, etc... My parents basically expected me to focus on studies and follow everything that they tell me to do. Otherwise, I would be a bad son and a disrespectful child. During my later high school years, I thought to myself "Enough is enough. If I don't rebel now, then I would waste my teen years being boring as fuck." I would regularly sneak out, try out different shit, and basically do anything that I thought was fun. I didn't think of the consequences because all I had in mind was "fun" I'm currently in my third year of college and I do not regret any of those experiences. I did what I wanted, and I enjoyed. I was free. *Now imagine if I kept listening to my parents and succumbing to that fear...* I would probably hate my parents now for wasting my teenage years. I would probably resent them for keeping me restricted when I could've been having fun. I would probably *blame* them for my lack of fun experiences. Thank god I had the balls to ignore the consequences and rebel. Not only did I have unforgettable experiences, but I actually love my parents now. My key take away is this: It doesn't matter what or who is in your way. If you don't work on what you want to do, then you will end up unhappy, hateful, and resentful. Find ways! Just wanted to share this story lol, if you're still reading this-- Hi!
@@ziziroberts8041 Yup lol I just felt like this was a good story to tell because one of my cousins never snuck out. She's almost 20 yrs old now and still have very strict parents. She has a toxic relationship with her parents. She always tells me how much she resents them, and that she can't wait to get her own job to finally do what she wants She's full of hate inside of her. But honestly, if she just chose to NOT follow her parents, I think she would've been happier. The resentment is only there cus she felt like her parents wasted her teen years and that it's their fault. But honestly, it's her fault for not going against the rules. She made her own choice
You need not follow your parents but it is wise to understand the reason why they might be saying. After all parents and kids both have only little brain and experience.
It’s true that you can’t prove that the “right” person doesn’t exist despite spending your entire life not finding them. However, you cannot deny the possibility that the “right” person also may not exist. It goes both ways. If Finn spent his whole life trying to look for the right person and didn’t find them, he can’t say that that person definitely did not exist as a conclusion, but there is an undeniable possibility that he might be right as well. Therefore, I don’t think the key to “avoiding resentment” is to always believe that there is something out there for me but I just haven’t found it yet. It might be true, but it might not. The key would be acceptance that you may or may not find what you are looking for your entire life. It is your unique journey and adventure. Nothing is promised, but lots of wonderful things might be waiting. Accept and exist as you are.
I think this is more realistic and helpful than the video. Yes, the video was explaining an idea. But some viewers like me might have perceived the video's title in another way.
resentment arrise from surrendering yourself to the darkness(means -- there is not way out) So we need to have hope every single second so that we can get rid of resentment/the feeling of hopelessness (golden rule)
As a self-professed resentful person, this was insightful. I'd like to posit a few counter-arguments however. The conclusion of "keep up hope in the world" sounds optimistic and great. But the harsh reality is that lots of bad things happen to people, despite an abundance of hope. We can use a few examples. Let's say Finn's goal was not to find a woman/partner/love, but rather to buy a house to live in. He's a very nice guy, but he works a minimum wage job, has tens of thousands of student loan debt (that he was tricked into agreeing to when he was barely 17 years old because all his teacher/parents/authority figures told him to), and despite living well below his means, can barely save any money each month because a huge percentage of his earnings go straight to rent. He finds a house he wants to buy and walks into a bank to apply for a mortgage, the typical way most homes are purchased in our modern society. The bank takes a look at this meager savings, his high student loans, and his inability to even afford a down-payment, let alone the monthly mortgage payments. The banks rejects his loan application. Just as he is leaving the bank, he overhears a couple applying for a mortgage for the exact same house that he was just rejected for. The couple is from California, they work in tech, earn well north of six-figures, have zero student loan debt, an outstanding credit score, and their parents set up a trust fund 30 years ago that has grown handsomely over the years. The bank approves the couple's loan application. The couple buys the house using the loan that same day. They have essentially stolen the house right from Finn. Now, Finn obviously feels rejected and resentful, both towards the bank, and towards the California couple, as both have essentially blocked him from his goals. Now Finn can choose to naively have blind hope and naive optimism about "maybe I just haven't met the right house out there. I just have to stay positive." Well fast forward 20 years. Finn is now 50. Despite working hard, Finn never got much a financial edge, and was never able to qualify for a mortgage loan. He allowed his hope in the world to blind him that it was ever possible to afford a house in 2022-2023 when the housing supply was kept artificially low by politicians and home builders colluding together to drive up prices, by the Federal Reserve that has the privilege of setting interest rates and is allowed to legally print/counterfeit more money, by the Californians who had enormous purchasing power in buying a house due to how much their homes "appreciated" in value relative to the other 49 US states, etc. TL, DR: He never was able to achieve his dream of owning a home. What can we conclude from this all-too-common anecdote? Among several conclusions, we can conclude that hope in the world can be a very dangerous thing insofar as it is able to mislead you in your likelihood of getting what you want. For example, in our Capitalist world, if there are 100 people but only 65 houses, then 35 people will be unable to own a house. And the houses will be purchased by the 65 people with the most money. So it is IRRESPONSIBLE for Finn to continue clinging to hope that he will one day achieve his goal given that his earning power is two orders of magnitude lower than other buyers whom he is competing against. No amount of (false) hope in the world will change that Finn simply cannot compete against wealthier competitors. A house seller with 37 offers from different buyers will of course "choose" the highest offer. So Finn's meager offer is laughed at and ignored. The point is: it is dangerous to continue through life clinging to a hope that, in all likelihood, will not happen. A man who is 5'1" can have hope that one day he will play professional basketball in the NBA, but that hope is dangerous since he is extremely likely to be rejected in favor of other candidates who are 7'3". Competition among people in a society for limited resources is what causes this conflict, this being "blocked", and the logical resentment that arises from being blocked. Competition breeds resentment among the people who are left out, as it should. Competition among people for scarce resources is what leads to some people not getting what they want, not achieving their goal, which inevitably leads to resentment. For example, with regards to women, biology has well documented the phenomenon of sexual competition of many males for females, who get to choose which male to mate with. This choosing will inevitably lead to one winner and several losers (rejects). One of Nietzsche's chief complaints about Christianity was how it espoused not desiring things that people actually desired. In this way, it rationalized that remaining in poverty and lying to oneself about not wanting things that they ACTUALLY DID WANT was rebranded and marketed as a value (e.g. "it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter heaven."). Nietzsche argued that this was fundamentally lying to oneself. In the US (and much of the western world today), there is an unspoken social contract: Work hard and you too can achieve your dreams of a family, a house, a good job, etc. This known as "the American Dream". In reality, however, this social contract has been completely fractured in recent years: hard work and focus in no way guarantee that you will achieve your goals of the American Dream. When a society's culture pushes beliefs about the world onto its people, and when the harsh reality of the world directly conflicts with those beliefs that had been indoctrinated into its people, this will inevitably lead to the people feeling that they have been lied to. That their society promised something that it was unable to deliver on. This leads to disappointment and resentment. It is, at its core, a conflict between the promises given by a society which are subsequently broken by the society that leads to this resentment.
we can’t change them at all. They can only choose voluntarily to let themselves be changed by something we say. But we can’t actively change them. But we can 100% control ourselves.
@Nugget I disagree, or else we don't have billion dollar marketing industry. It's not impossible to change people, but you need to constantly place your thoughts and opinions on visible places they see. A lot of countries for example, spend a considerable budget to Astrosurf comment sections of Reddit, TH-cam, Facebook, tiktok etc to sway people.
I think why love was your resentment example is because it's so common. We're told at a young age that we are all deserving of love. But we quickly find out that was a lie, and we don't deserve a thing. So it turns into the people that find love repeating the mantra that we all deserve love, and those that were cast aside grumbling that it's all a bunch of bologna. Then we're bombarded with the mantra that if you aren't experiencing love, it must mean you're either a terrible person or unlovable. That just seals the deal.
I was just recently reading a book citing his studies and pursuit [Frankl] and now I am here. Nothing indeed is a coincidence. And so as this clip popping out of nowhere at my time of distress and confusion. May we all find our way through folks. Keep the faith.
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
YOUR VIDEOS DO NOT MOTIVATE ME. Whenever I feel lost in life I tend to go back to your new and old favourite videos and tune in while I tidy/clean. Every single time, I listen, I do not feel motivated but rather satisfied, calm and with peace in my mind. Rather than having a blurred map and having short bursts of motivation to find a new cool place, it feels more like the map is unblurred and I am able to navigate peacefully and reach the right destination. Your work is important, it’s been since 2019. (First time I’ve commented) If it’s what you enjoy do not stop, please continue this beautiful work as it truly helps those who sometimes feel lost in life. Thank you
The cynical part of me thinks this is easy if you have a home and are well fed. However if you're homeless, hungry and in pain and see people walk past and ignore you it's far more difficult to not be resentful. The video talks about losing faith in the world and entitlement but doesn't say anything about the things we are (or should be) entitled to, such as housing, medical care, food. I think it's understandable and even acceptable for people to be resentful if they can't get access to those things as it can drive change and get the structural inequalities to be addressed.
I just got out of four years of homelessness and have a huge amount of resentment to my ex and her father for putting me in the situation. Their actions have prevented me from having a good healthy relationship with my daughter who lives with her mother. I've been arrested wrongly and went through 4 years of barely seeing my daughter due to being homeless (the mother kept her from me and only let me have her at their place for visits and I'd sit through alienation from her while there so it just harbored more resentment which used to be towards her) I finally swallowed my pride and asked my mom to move back home. Was a hard pill to swallow but I knew I couldn't heal in the predicaments I found myself in. Hoping many of you get over this feeling because it is definitely one of the hardest things I've had to endure as an empathic person, I know my ex who hurt me hurts inside and I still care about her but her father made the relationship impossible to work and now I've become very jaded and can't allow myself to get into a relationship for fear of what happens to me in every relationship I've been in. I'm sure I am at some fault to some degree but the amount of damage they have done has been definitely cause for feeling resentment towards them. Embrace anger and fear and learn to become comfortable in those situations, it's hard but we're made strong enough to endure it. Hope you all have a great life and take care of yourselves out there! ❤️
In this decade we live in most COUNTRIES do provide some sort of assistance. That is what it means to be in a communal society, also the reason why we pay taxes. It is up to you to seek out the appropriate channel for your needs, and your responsibility to follow their rules if you want what they are offering. OR you can go out and forage for YOURSELF. No one is responsible for your well-being except for yourself. so suck it up. unless you were born and left out in the woods as an infant for wolfs to care. because your attitude is like a savage Homosapien
then your clueless becasue people with homes often carry more resentment then those without...... Being well fed is a completly diffrent topic, you can have rich parents who live in luxury and still dont give you enough to eat becasue they are narcissists. Life is complex. And hardships does NOT mean that people overcome them and see the other side. Some people are weak and bitter, some are never giving up and keep growing, thats all.
@@matthewpaugh7741 omg, all you had to do to get out of homelessness was to ask ur mom? and still u blame others? wooooow. I was thrown out of my mothers house and told I could sleep under a brigde and she didnt care, when I was 10. Becasue I could always go to my dads house who talked sexualy about my body every evening. Great. Sorry but I cant grasp how one can feel sorry for himself like this, when having a safe parent. You should watch this channels video on playing the victim....
We should all keep this in our minds when an artist says no to your request to use their work or make something for you just because they are willing to pay money to that artist it doesn't work that way
Recently finished Genealogy of Morals Your interpretation and explanations are very helpful to me since it widens my perspective on polemics, readings, topics, and such! Thank you for the educational and entertaining video 😄
@@silent_stalker3687 I could tell you it was the one translated by Kauffman, but I'd be lying. 😆 I was able to read the one translated by Carol Diethe though You read Kauffman's?
@@silent_stalker3687 Thank you for the information! There were footnotes in the one I read, but I'll check Kauffman out in my future explorations of Nietzsche's works
Ooh petition to share this in incel and "not like other girl" spaces. But on a more serious note - incredible video, thank you for your hard work. As someone who was once heavily resentful due to chronic health problems and relationship failures, letting go of resentment and taking more accountability for my life has done wonders for my mental and physical health. And I was in a DARK place. I had to let go of blaming shitty medical professionals, romantic partners and friends who didn't stay by my side, and even my parents - who were not entirely supportive during the first couple of years of my struggles. Resentment is ugly, it eats at you alive. It physically damages your health, f*cks up your mental health, and your whole perception of the world. Truly, genuinely loving myself and accepting everything that's happened to me, and believing that I did deserve a better future (and that future was up to me) was truly, truly lifechanging.
You are doing a great job.... I watched great number of motivational videos...nothing helps like ur videos do.... sometimes I wonder how come such valuable information is for free!! I feel blessed to have come across ur channel!!! Thank you!! Keep up the good work, I look forward to it as it really helps.
TH-cam pays 0.10 to 0.30 per ad view, so if he get 4 million views on this he could be making around $12,000+ from one video. It's not like no one is paying him for this content
@@akasha9597 true. It's just if they wanna shadow ban him, as they do so common with plenty of noncontroversial channels even, and such. Yee, we don't pay upfront, like Google Apps Store, it's the data tracked, as the great McAfee who exposed the American government more and such told us. 🤝🔥😎😻👌 That's amazing, absolutely, to get that much a vid! I would only hope. Hehe. Redistribute it into veganism. Hehe. 🤝🔥😎😻👌🌱💚
@@akasha9597 The original poster is referring to the ability to access this content for free, not that the person making the video is making it for free.
When I was young I looked at old people and thought "Who owes you a padded life?" Now that I am old I find that reminding myself of that question helps quell the resentment common to lots of old people: resentment of the fact that the world of our past, the world we had finally figured out and could handle, has *changed* and it will never change back.
3rd option. At the end of Finn's life, he said: some people, how ever long they search, never find the love they long for. Despite their fondest wish, they will live their lives alone and they will die alone. I am one of them. The countless rejections did not send me into a rage, or left me simmering in resentment. Instead they left me in quiet despair. I have thought long on possible causes of the many romantic rejections, and the one constant that keeps turning up is my self. First, i grew weary of searching. Then i lost faith in my self. Then i gave up my search and made my peace with the likely fact that i would never find someone to share my life with. I find the idea that the world, or women, owes me anything quite absurd. I tried, and eventually failed. It is as simple as that.
It's true, the world doesn't technically 'owe' us anything... _however,_ never forget that the opposite also applies - namely, _you_ don't owe the _world_ anything either! Basically, live life for yourself, & do what you can to find your own happiness, or at least whatever passes for it... if there's one thing I've learned in this cold, harsh life, it's that no one else is gonna GIVE you that happiness - you need to seek & find it for yourself. I hope you succeed. Best of luck to you.
I feel the same. I am female and 50. I have never got married or started a family. I used to feel a little resentful, now I no longer feel resentful and I'm not hopeful either, If I allow myself to think about it I feel despair and sadness. I try not to think about it. I have a dog and I love him and he loves me.
As for myself, I just really don't want to commit to any relationships even though I used to fantasize about being in a relationship a lot before. I don't have a very good emotional wellbeing. I lash out quite fast because I just don't trust people who do good things for me anymore. And for that reason, I vowed to myself not to commit to any relationships. I don't want my partner to have to handle that hurtful part of me. Especially if we get to have a daughter/son, I don't want them experiencing the same things I experienced from my family. And after holding this vow close to me for a few years, it just dawned on me that I actually don't mind being single up until the end of my days. Why? Because I have friends that are there for me. And honestly, it's more than enough for me. Knowing that there are actually good people out there for me. And most importantly, I wouldn't have a child that would suffer the same way that I did. That thought brings me so much comfort. However, I also really would have loved to bond with my child if I had one. And it makes me sad thinking about it. But if it meant they wouldn't have to suffer like I did, then I'd be more than willing to experience this sadness for as long as I live and more. Yeah, I really would stick to this promise of mine. Thanks for listening to my Ted talk!! 😂
My teacher showed me this video. I think all the years of being rejected by society, being used by kids for my money, girls rejecting me, lead to the mindset that I will never find a girl or a true friend, which then lead to me feeling like i am entitled to have friends and a girlfriend, but when that expectation was not met I was faced with frustration that I than took out on the friend that did come along because they didn’t fulfill my needs as a person, they got as far away from me as possible, and then now the resentment, at least this video shows me where to start rebuilding, at the mindset.
When life throws rocks at you, it hurts when it hits you but no one will decide what to do with the rocks for you. And only you can choose to blame life for throwing you rocks Remember being resentful towards life will only keep you in your comfort zone and nothing grows there
I don’t want that in my life no more, I release all that back to the world and I am responsible for myself. And I pray for hope and faith to return in my life 💜🤲🏾
the reason most people are choosing to be resentful is that it is not easy to accept that you are at fault or wrong about something and if we learn to accept that we were wrong and move on we will not only be free from the frustration it will bring us but also that will hopefully learn from that experience and become better at doing right.
@@MagnumOpusYT they must learn that its ok to be wrong ,sometimes and having a friend that is willing to help you ( or a professional) can really get you of that stressy zone.
*_To find it yourself, or to abandon that one thing you long for..._* *_It's like the gold at the end of the rainbow. Though it is a fantasy, you can still choose to keep on looking, or you can turn away from it. Somehow, I ended up struggling in trying to put a stop to this cycle of hatred. It stems from my personal past, then to feeling like I was too obedient, and then to the point that my future is being decided._* *_I've... No... I think we're all guilty for "Entitlement". My true goal is to actually bring dreams to reality through the best I can do. That's why I'm so deeply passionate with art, music, and other things related to the digital side, including ones that could contribute to evolution. I wanted to inspire others, but though my mind wants revenge by doing the things they will never see in the future, to become someone that they will never live up to, some part of my soul tells me to not back down._* *_To not abandon this so-called "Hope"... Hopes in dreams._* *_The works of others that captivate me... still give me hope, especially to people I talked to, who are like elite artists. Honestly, I'm proud of their progress. It saddens me, yet angers me that artists had to suffer the hardest path to achieve the biggest dream: Inspire the World._* *_That's why I say to myself, "The road to the Creator will always be the hardest. To create something you love most, you must face tribulations."_*
Question on a few things you said, "There's someone/something for me" My understandings and interpretations of these works (and even taken from and reinforced by some of your videos) is that it's an ever changing and evolving spectrum of possible outcomes that can all be considered more positive or negative depending on personal perspective. Meaning there is no "ONE" person, purpose, or meaning for one persons life but infinite chances to make it the best possible for yourself. Would you disagree with any of that?
Reminds me alot (in this example with relationships, etc) .. of sayings like "going to any length, being over the moon for someone, or searching until the end of Earth .. " to find your one love, or anything in life really. That truth rewards those who seek, and denys the arrogance in seeing the World only one way. Ones seeing light = opportunity vs. Seeing darkness = only vast limitations .. this concept might drive the search for finding ones place, or that special someone else in the World. ✨️
i'm fucking allergic to in video ads, but brilliant i can tolerate. i really needed to hear this, i walked in the office and gave my notice to my superior. at first he asked me to take more responsability, he then later changed his mind and asked my collegue. I got entitled. today was an emotional rollercoaster for me, i still haven't decided what i'm going to do with my future.
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
You have a beautiful mind. I think I'm having a breakthrough, only by watching a couple of your videos, even though I'm on this path of freeing myself from unpausable suffering for a long time. Well deserved number of followers. That happens rarely.
Entitlement isn't the only thing that leads to frustration. In fact I think a much better one is the lack of understanding how things (and people) work. At least that's what it was in my case. And it just turned out that I didn't have good role models and I was light-years away from success, and that even when I was doing the right thing in one aspect for a while, I'd still not get any positive results because I was lacking in so many other areas. So there was like no possible system for me to even get logical feedback. You can't believe how frustrating that is! Thank god I eventually did come out the other side before becoming a psycho. 😬😀 So it's really sad that many men face this exact situation.
"Entitlement" is, sadly, one of the current trendy buzzwords. It's such an easy stone to throw at someone else, and is used by several different groups to vent their righteous "woke" anger. Yes, there is a great deal of entitlement behavior, but not as much as some would have us believe. Each and every one of us is struggling to just get through the day as best we can, but it's a struggle. It's not.. possible for anyone to get everything they want; a lucky few get the majority of their needs and wants met, but obsess about what they don't have; others get less on a sliding scale and they stress, also. Many years ago, I read a quote that pretty much sums it up : "Adult life is just an elaborate continuation of the kindergarten drama - two kids and one cookie."
Hurt that is unforgiven leads to resentment. Resentment stews into anger and bitterness Bitterness to rage. Rage towards of clamour. Then ultimately to malicious acts to hurt others in return. First gethealing from God then go thru the process and journey to forgive. Don’t be a stewing pot of offensive and resentment. Be free inside Let things go. We have all been hurt and also have hurt others
I'm hoping for someone better will come, I'm hoping that there's something out there that will give me something or anything, not being an entitled person, but hoping that there is something or anything for me, no time for blaming others. Everything I do its because of me, and this life is 100 percent my responsibility. Hope is the only one thing we have when everything we got were lose. But if we never lose ourselves and we never give up there's always hope. And its a choice if we're being resentment and giving up hope. Its for the long term choice and world belief. Its being resentful or being hopeful. If we're being resentful we close our minds that a certain situation happen to us and based on that we generalized that everyone or everything is like that or the same way as that. Have we tried everything? There is a billion people out there. There's a billion ways of things to do. It's time to stop being resentful, blaming the world and everything, but the only problem is our own frustrations that we think we can't and because of being entitled on something or someone we think we are not be rejected or we are entitled to anything or anybody. But rejections is a part of it, part of our life. It's a matter of never give up, keep trying things, keep looking for improvements, keep moving, we think that there is always hope for humanity and especially for ourselves. In the end, its a choice of being resentful to the world, or being thankful, have gratitude, and hopeful of the world, it may be long term, or short term, maybe we find or not what we're looking for in this world, no matter hard or easy we struggle, we all die in the end, I think the best choice is being hopeful rather than blaming ourselves and everything. Being thankful, gratitude and hopeful of things, that thankful today that we're still alive, there's a rainbow after the rain. There's always another day to do other things and hope of things that will work or not. Another days to try, another moment to meet new people, try new challenges, more, and more. So many things to explore and more learnings along the way. And being resentment will stop us on doing things, stop other people in their own way because we think that it is what it is, is that all but not. There's always hope. So face our chaos and struggle together and by our own selves we see the reality of being hopeful is the best choice.
Very true. The only one who stands in your way is yourself. Unfortunately, most people need someone to blame to get ahead in life because it's easier to use scapegoats, rather than going for what they truly want with fearlessness and courage. Because you see the reality is, there's usually no one standing in your way whatsoever, it's just you yourself who are terrified and scared of actually achieving something without pointing your fingers at someone else. That is the stone-cold truth, and that is why the world is so messed up right now with this men vs women bullshit, and boys growing up to become girls and vice versa. We're not going to have a functional society as long as this BS keeps up. It's just going to get worse for everyone.
Actually, sometimes lack of coin, crews, connections, clout, control, computer code, communities, and opportunities stand in the way of success for individuals. But those things aren't available to every human on Earth (by default). One must learn to remain in their own lane. Often, that 'lane' is slavery. 💪😎✌️ It is what it is.
I really agree with all of this but I'd like to read the book itself to see if it mentions the cases of when someone makes a very painful wrongdoing, being the most open and crude example from personal experience, someone who has been a victim of child abuse / sexual abuse, I know it's a very specific and painful example but it adds to the scale of grays that I'd like to explore about such topics mixing with my own personal experience, growth and healing process with proper teaching within the condominiums of philosophy. Great work nontheless Freedom in Thought, your videos have been really nurturing and it adds best to the future researches that I'm finding the time to do.
It does not. Nietzsche is not a self-help philospoher, this whole essay is pure bullshit made by the guy behind the channel. The name of Nietzsche in the title is used purely becouse of pseudo intelectual reasons of the author to shield his thinkings and has nothing in common with his writings. Nietzche was not a happy man.
@@skullcrusher9873 indeed he wasn't, if he was he wouldn't have had the moments that are written about his personal life, specially when he yelled at the working horse saying "I know your pain" I think that was near at the end of his life. Alas, despite that if he didn't wanted others to get better on their own then why the concept of the Ubersmench? Why then, despite all his suffering, his words speak about how the human can and should be the best out of itself with his own determination and humanity?
@@skullcrusher9873 At least it's what I can get that despite his suffering and his unhappiness he really did wanted others to use what he wrote among other things to get better, this reflects better on the fictional stories that get inspirations from him like the Japanese Manga Berserk among other tales from around the world, good stuff
@@skullcrusher9873 well. abit late to the party. but you know what they says. echo chamber and sheeps. the buzzwords these days. i was scrolling through the commentary and seeing how everyone agree with what this dude says. lol its damn funny. he's doing some guilt trip shit that a self-proclaimed "NLP (neuro linguistic programming) guru" used in my country a decade ago. in fact, he sounded extremely entitled himself in the entire video, assuming that most people in life has everythign he has, or at least he assumes his audiences do. capitalizing on the weak and feeble minded. over 2000 years. human never learned a shit from history
Important video. Society taught me if I want someone with all my heart, and show her that I want her badly, she will also want me. Wrong teaching. As a result I became obsessed with someone, and the trauma did not yet heal after rejection.
The thesis "There's a place in this world, and a way to that place, for everyone which can't be denied by anyone except for themselves", cannot be definitely proven false, but, in its current state, cannot be proved true either. Choosing to believe this thesis to be true (or false) is an act of faith. Is it even necessary to elaborate on the fact that one of Nietzsche's primary goals was to eradicate every metaphysical faith altogether?
I think what he meant is the goals we set for ourselves and how our resentment and rage might prevent us from reaching them, unless we convince ourselves otherwise
Beautiful video and the music was thx for your video! =) This also reminds me of what Elder Bednar said "A thing, an event or an expression may be offensive, but you and I can choose not to be offended."
I think that sometimes the right thing for someone might be just to do what one's have to do in order to get to the situation where one's duties and what he truly likes to do are the same thing or at least relatively have a minimum level of similarity. Getting to that situation is worth the time and effort despite the distruction and the forced focus along the way that should be expected. Great video Thanks !!!
Well now, there’s a difference between resentment for being mistreated and allowing that resentment to shape your view on a whole group of ppl or the world.
I'm watching this because the idea of letting hate consume me seems like the most appealing option in my life, I can't understand why I shouldn't allow it to, so hopefully I learn something.
i want to really believe this, but when i got the police called on me JUST for visiting my mom's house. the person who called the police lied and said i broke in. i was only saved by the Ring doorbell when my mom spoke through it.
I haven't become resentful towards women or the world because of my relationship failures. I've become resentful towards the never ending increasing expectations within those relationships. I think my expectations have always been reasonable but that the expectations of my partners is always so much more than I'm capable of that I just stopped trying as a matter of acceptance, not resentment. Ive felt feelings of resentment when other people insist that I want something other than what I want though because thats what they want or thats what they want me to want. Its like never ending psychological judo 🥋
Very nice, yes, Nietzsche has a good collection of philosophical ideas. However I also think, that there are plenty of other authors too, ehh😀😀 however you are more focused on Nietzsche, well I like that too😀😀
1) Resentment is not hate. 2) About hate I believe you'd like to read what I wrote on my channel. 3) Really? "It's unfalsifiable so it can't be false"? Come on man!
I can only gain little from Nitzsche's interpretation. The motivation of his statements is probably positive. There is no point in being resentful, so it would be better to choose not to be, to go through life happier. The problem here is the belief that we have free will and thus can decide what happens to our lives, but everything we know so far indicates that we live in a deterministic universe and thus no free will exists, so that everything we think, believe and feel is only the result of previous events, which we can not influence. Therefore, we should not be resentful towards our fellow men, but with the universe, but this is also only said and arises only from deterministic events that lead to this opinion.
The causality of resentment could be many things and nothing to do with entitlement. While this may have been Nietzsche's reason, it's only one of many possible reasons. You could have resentment because someone hurt a loved one, wronged another, etc.. .
Yes, you alone make yourself resentful, but sometimes you feel like the world doesn't give you too much to keep hopes up, and being resentful you kinda feel safe. You hope, and you try again, and you fail. After some time it gets rough. Not saying is healthy, but it is understandable.
Great video, I think the whole ressentiment analysis is spot on. The only thing I’d like to know more about is what would Nietzsche think of entitlement. Is the ubermensch entitled? Does our Will to Power have the right to desire all that it wants?
Nietzsche would deny that we'd have a right to anything. He would say that there's only strong wills and weak wills. He uses an anology in Genealogy of Morals where lambs hate birds of prey that hunt and eat them.The lambs are resentful because they are the weaker ones and this leads them to think of those stronger than them as evil. But the birds of prey don't hate the lambs back. This is what ressentiment actually is to Nietzsche. It's a transformation of weakness into a hate of strength. To call an unbermench entitled would according to Nietzsche be ressentiment. He would see it as a way for "the weak" to try to hold "the strong" back with morality.
its so true
Ive never seen anyone carry resentment and win at the end
This is false, you have not been looking enough then.
@Lord Hendrickson But Keyaru is a fictional character so that technically don't count as a real example
Michael Jordan and his toxic winner mentality, he literally made enemies and fueled off of hatred lol
@@dasdasdadadadad8915 1. The success of resentment is consistently causing suffering to the subjects of one's resentment till the death of the subjects.
You may call someone who successfully takes everything from who he/she hates - but this resentful person also devotes a huge amount of his/her own time and energy to revenge. What a waste!
imagining this resentful person's enemies heals themselves after all the dedication he/she put in. What's next? Be more resentful and waste more of one's life on revenge? But the enemies are stronger now because they survived your last attack.
2. Even if we don't argue it from the perspective of revenge, let's say a person lets spite and resentment motivate himself/herself to become more successful than the person s/he resents.
Do you think that person being resented would give a sh*t about the resentful person's success?
And would the resentful person still keeps the motivation after realizing nobody cares?
@@yyl7076 so..I won't feel... satisfied after.... giving them the same pain they gave to me...!?
Idk...but anyways....I don't like being....so.... resentful...I still want to take revenge but.... sometimes I think that....,will I even win with these negative emotions !?
To the *incredible person* that's seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.
you are so sweet x
Thank you so much i needed this❤
You are an incredible person
Also, don't ignore what seems to be small progress. Allow room for small, incremental steps upward.
Yes seeing this on the internet is very valuable smh, when in reality you only crave likes and attention
I'm a resentfull person and I agree with you a 100% that resentment is a choice, but its also a habbit.
In January I got stooped by the cops because I crossed a red light on my bike, the only thing I felt for those officers was pure hatred; they where pretty polite to the end although I was realy disrespectfull without insulting them.
Looking back it is as you said it felt like they where in my way.
@@K87jk I know, but its good that you remind me of it
I have similar situations. I feel hatred for others who barely did anything to me they may have been slightly rude or did something I really didn't want them to ect ect. It eventually fades I think but I don't want to keep feeling like that.
They actually helped you by stopping you from forming a habit of crossing a red light which isn't safe for you and other people as well.
*I love my parents now, but I might have been resentful to them if I had never been rebellious*
I love this video so much. Thanks for sharing. I agree-- there's no one to blame but yourself. You control your life!
Here's my story:
I grew up with strict parents. And of course, there's a point in my life where I felt like they were too restrictive about everything.
I wasn't really allowed to go out often, invite people over, etc... My parents basically expected me to focus on studies and follow everything that they tell me to do. Otherwise, I would be a bad son and a disrespectful child.
During my later high school years, I thought to myself "Enough is enough. If I don't rebel now, then I would waste my teen years being boring as fuck."
I would regularly sneak out, try out different shit, and basically do anything that I thought was fun. I didn't think of the consequences because all I had in mind was "fun"
I'm currently in my third year of college and I do not regret any of those experiences. I did what I wanted, and I enjoyed. I was free.
*Now imagine if I kept listening to my parents and succumbing to that fear...* I would probably hate my parents now for wasting my teenage years. I would probably resent them for keeping me restricted when I could've been having fun. I would probably *blame* them for my lack of fun experiences.
Thank god I had the balls to ignore the consequences and rebel. Not only did I have unforgettable experiences, but I actually love my parents now.
My key take away is this:
It doesn't matter what or who is in your way. If you don't work on what you want to do, then you will end up unhappy, hateful, and resentful. Find ways!
Just wanted to share this story lol, if you're still reading this-- Hi!
A teenager sneaking out of the house? Welcome to the club. It's huge. 😊
Hi
@@ziziroberts8041 Yup lol
I just felt like this was a good story to tell because one of my cousins never snuck out. She's almost 20 yrs old now and still have very strict parents.
She has a toxic relationship with her parents. She always tells me how much she resents them, and that she can't wait to get her own job to finally do what she wants
She's full of hate inside of her. But honestly, if she just chose to NOT follow her parents, I think she would've been happier. The resentment is only there cus she felt like her parents wasted her teen years and that it's their fault. But honestly, it's her fault for not going against the rules. She made her own choice
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You need not follow your parents but it is wise to understand the reason why they might be saying. After all parents and kids both have only little brain and experience.
It’s true that you can’t prove that the “right” person doesn’t exist despite spending your entire life not finding them. However, you cannot deny the possibility that the “right” person also may not exist. It goes both ways.
If Finn spent his whole life trying to look for the right person and didn’t find them, he can’t say that that person definitely did not exist as a conclusion, but there is an undeniable possibility that he might be right as well.
Therefore, I don’t think the key to “avoiding resentment” is to always believe that there is something out there for me but I just haven’t found it yet. It might be true, but it might not.
The key would be acceptance that you may or may not find what you are looking for your entire life. It is your unique journey and adventure. Nothing is promised, but lots of wonderful things might be waiting. Accept and exist as you are.
I think this is more realistic and helpful than the video. Yes, the video was explaining an idea. But some viewers like me might have perceived the video's title in another way.
resentment arrise from surrendering yourself to the
darkness(means -- there is not way out)
So we need to have hope every single second so that we can get rid of resentment/the feeling of hopelessness (golden rule)
As a self-professed resentful person, this was insightful. I'd like to posit a few counter-arguments however.
The conclusion of "keep up hope in the world" sounds optimistic and great. But the harsh reality is that lots of bad things happen to people, despite an abundance of hope.
We can use a few examples. Let's say Finn's goal was not to find a woman/partner/love, but rather to buy a house to live in. He's a very nice guy, but he works a minimum wage job, has tens of thousands of student loan debt (that he was tricked into agreeing to when he was barely 17 years old because all his teacher/parents/authority figures told him to), and despite living well below his means, can barely save any money each month because a huge percentage of his earnings go straight to rent.
He finds a house he wants to buy and walks into a bank to apply for a mortgage, the typical way most homes are purchased in our modern society. The bank takes a look at this meager savings, his high student loans, and his inability to even afford a down-payment, let alone the monthly mortgage payments.
The banks rejects his loan application.
Just as he is leaving the bank, he overhears a couple applying for a mortgage for the exact same house that he was just rejected for.
The couple is from California, they work in tech, earn well north of six-figures, have zero student loan debt, an outstanding credit score, and their parents set up a trust fund 30 years ago that has grown handsomely over the years.
The bank approves the couple's loan application. The couple buys the house using the loan that same day. They have essentially stolen the house right from Finn.
Now, Finn obviously feels rejected and resentful, both towards the bank, and towards the California couple, as both have essentially blocked him from his goals.
Now Finn can choose to naively have blind hope and naive optimism about "maybe I just haven't met the right house out there. I just have to stay positive." Well fast forward 20 years. Finn is now 50. Despite working hard, Finn never got much a financial edge, and was never able to qualify for a mortgage loan. He allowed his hope in the world to blind him that it was ever possible to afford a house in 2022-2023 when the housing supply was kept artificially low by politicians and home builders colluding together to drive up prices, by the Federal Reserve that has the privilege of setting interest rates and is allowed to legally print/counterfeit more money, by the Californians who had enormous purchasing power in buying a house due to how much their homes "appreciated" in value relative to the other 49 US states, etc.
TL, DR: He never was able to achieve his dream of owning a home.
What can we conclude from this all-too-common anecdote? Among several conclusions, we can conclude that hope in the world can be a very dangerous thing insofar as it is able to mislead you in your likelihood of getting what you want. For example, in our Capitalist world, if there are 100 people but only 65 houses, then 35 people will be unable to own a house. And the houses will be purchased by the 65 people with the most money. So it is IRRESPONSIBLE for Finn to continue clinging to hope that he will one day achieve his goal given that his earning power is two orders of magnitude lower than other buyers whom he is competing against.
No amount of (false) hope in the world will change that Finn simply cannot compete against wealthier competitors. A house seller with 37 offers from different buyers will of course "choose" the highest offer. So Finn's meager offer is laughed at and ignored.
The point is: it is dangerous to continue through life clinging to a hope that, in all likelihood, will not happen.
A man who is 5'1" can have hope that one day he will play professional basketball in the NBA, but that hope is dangerous since he is extremely likely to be rejected in favor of other candidates who are 7'3".
Competition among people in a society for limited resources is what causes this conflict, this being "blocked", and the logical resentment that arises from being blocked.
Competition breeds resentment among the people who are left out, as it should.
Competition among people for scarce resources is what leads to some people not getting what they want, not achieving their goal, which inevitably leads to resentment.
For example, with regards to women, biology has well documented the phenomenon of sexual competition of many males for females, who get to choose which male to mate with. This choosing will inevitably lead to one winner and several losers (rejects).
One of Nietzsche's chief complaints about Christianity was how it espoused not desiring things that people actually desired.
In this way, it rationalized that remaining in poverty and lying to oneself about not wanting things that they ACTUALLY DID WANT was rebranded and marketed as a value (e.g. "it is easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter heaven."). Nietzsche argued that this was fundamentally lying to oneself.
In the US (and much of the western world today), there is an unspoken social contract: Work hard and you too can achieve your dreams of a family, a house, a good job, etc. This known as "the American Dream". In reality, however, this social contract has been completely fractured in recent years: hard work and focus in no way guarantee that you will achieve your goals of the American Dream.
When a society's culture pushes beliefs about the world onto its people, and when the harsh reality of the world directly conflicts with those beliefs that had been indoctrinated into its people, this will inevitably lead to the people feeling that they have been lied to. That their society promised something that it was unable to deliver on. This leads to disappointment and resentment. It is, at its core, a conflict between the promises given by a society which are subsequently broken by the society that leads to this resentment.
If it really was someone else's fault, that would be bad news. We can't change other people remotely as well as ourselves
we can’t change them at all. They can only choose voluntarily to let themselves be changed by something we say. But we can’t actively change them. But we can 100% control ourselves.
No one can change anyone. People just live and die.
@@nugget6635 Well, given that mindset, yes xD
@Nugget I disagree, or else we don't have billion dollar marketing industry. It's not impossible to change people, but you need to constantly place your thoughts and opinions on visible places they see. A lot of countries for example, spend a considerable budget to Astrosurf comment sections of Reddit, TH-cam, Facebook, tiktok etc to sway people.
Hope is not a strategy. Statistics matter. And you will get exactly what you are willing to tolerate.
Hope is his own inferno
It has consumed me. It drives me forward. It is the reason why I continue to live.
I think why love was your resentment example is because it's so common. We're told at a young age that we are all deserving of love. But we quickly find out that was a lie, and we don't deserve a thing. So it turns into the people that find love repeating the mantra that we all deserve love, and those that were cast aside grumbling that it's all a bunch of bologna. Then we're bombarded with the mantra that if you aren't experiencing love, it must mean you're either a terrible person or unlovable. That just seals the deal.
Amazing! Simple, short, concise and SO spot-on! I hope everyone sees this at the earliest possible time in their lives!
I was just recently reading a book citing his studies and pursuit [Frankl] and now I am here. Nothing indeed is a coincidence. And so as this clip popping out of nowhere at my time of distress and confusion. May we all find our way through folks. Keep the faith.
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind.
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
The best channel in the entirety of TH-cam, coming from the bottom of my heart thank you.
YOUR VIDEOS DO NOT MOTIVATE ME.
Whenever I feel lost in life I tend to go back to your new and old favourite videos and tune in while I tidy/clean. Every single time, I listen, I do not feel motivated but rather satisfied, calm and with peace in my mind. Rather than having a blurred map and having short bursts of motivation to find a new cool place, it feels more like the map is unblurred and I am able to navigate peacefully and reach the right destination.
Your work is important, it’s been since 2019. (First time I’ve commented) If it’s what you enjoy do not stop, please continue this beautiful work as it truly helps those who sometimes feel lost in life.
Thank you
I think nietsche means that this place is the inner world. Moving by the inner cause and not from the external one.
"If it feels like it's you versus the world, chances are it's really just you versus yourself" - Mark Manson
This came right at the moment when I'm researching for faith I lost and just lost interest. Thank you for this very insightful discourse
The cynical part of me thinks this is easy if you have a home and are well fed. However if you're homeless, hungry and in pain and see people walk past and ignore you it's far more difficult to not be resentful.
The video talks about losing faith in the world and entitlement but doesn't say anything about the things we are (or should be) entitled to, such as housing, medical care, food.
I think it's understandable and even acceptable for people to be resentful if they can't get access to those things as it can drive change and get the structural inequalities to be addressed.
I just got out of four years of homelessness and have a huge amount of resentment to my ex and her father for putting me in the situation.
Their actions have prevented me from having a good healthy relationship with my daughter who lives with her mother. I've been arrested wrongly and went through 4 years of barely seeing my daughter due to being homeless (the mother kept her from me and only let me have her at their place for visits and I'd sit through alienation from her while there so it just harbored more resentment which used to be towards her)
I finally swallowed my pride and asked my mom to move back home. Was a hard pill to swallow but I knew I couldn't heal in the predicaments I found myself in. Hoping many of you get over this feeling because it is definitely one of the hardest things I've had to endure as an empathic person, I know my ex who hurt me hurts inside and I still care about her but her father made the relationship impossible to work and now I've become very jaded and can't allow myself to get into a relationship for fear of what happens to me in every relationship I've been in. I'm sure I am at some fault to some degree but the amount of damage they have done has been definitely cause for feeling resentment towards them.
Embrace anger and fear and learn to become comfortable in those situations, it's hard but we're made strong enough to endure it.
Hope you all have a great life and take care of yourselves out there! ❤️
You can certainly map this on to Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. You need the basics of life before you can work on other things.
In this decade we live in most COUNTRIES do provide some sort of assistance. That is what it means to be in a communal society, also the reason why we pay taxes. It is up to you to seek out the appropriate channel for your needs, and your responsibility to follow their rules if you want what they are offering.
OR you can go out and forage for YOURSELF. No one is responsible for your well-being except for yourself. so suck it up. unless you were born and left out in the woods as an infant for wolfs to care. because your attitude is like a savage Homosapien
then your clueless becasue people with homes often carry more resentment then those without...... Being well fed is a completly diffrent topic, you can have rich parents who live in luxury and still dont give you enough to eat becasue they are narcissists.
Life is complex.
And hardships does NOT mean that people overcome them and see the other side.
Some people are weak and bitter, some are never giving up and keep growing, thats all.
@@matthewpaugh7741 omg, all you had to do to get out of homelessness was to ask ur mom? and still u blame others? wooooow. I was thrown out of my mothers house and told I could sleep under a brigde and she didnt care, when I was 10. Becasue I could always go to my dads house who talked sexualy about my body every evening. Great. Sorry but I cant grasp how one can feel sorry for himself like this, when having a safe parent. You should watch this channels video on playing the victim....
“People will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls.” -Carl Jung
We should all keep this in our minds when an artist says no to your request to use their work or make something for you just because they are willing to pay money to that artist it doesn't work that way
Recently finished Genealogy of Morals
Your interpretation and explanations are very helpful to me since it widens my perspective on polemics, readings, topics, and such!
Thank you for the educational and entertaining video 😄
Plz tell me it was the one translated by Kauffman
@@silent_stalker3687 I could tell you it was the one translated by Kauffman, but I'd be lying. 😆
I was able to read the one translated by Carol Diethe though
You read Kauffman's?
@@dragonmaster909 Kauffman translates a lot of Nietzsche and often has foot notes for translations ^^ he also has several books on Nietzsche
@@silent_stalker3687 Thank you for the information! There were footnotes in the one I read, but I'll check Kauffman out in my future explorations of Nietzsche's works
Ooh petition to share this in incel and "not like other girl" spaces. But on a more serious note - incredible video, thank you for your hard work. As someone who was once heavily resentful due to chronic health problems and relationship failures, letting go of resentment and taking more accountability for my life has done wonders for my mental and physical health. And I was in a DARK place. I had to let go of blaming shitty medical professionals, romantic partners and friends who didn't stay by my side, and even my parents - who were not entirely supportive during the first couple of years of my struggles. Resentment is ugly, it eats at you alive. It physically damages your health, f*cks up your mental health, and your whole perception of the world. Truly, genuinely loving myself and accepting everything that's happened to me, and believing that I did deserve a better future (and that future was up to me) was truly, truly lifechanging.
You'd just get insta-banned in places like reddit. Lol
Thank you for sharing, im still working to get myself out of a dark place following some trauma. Thank you
You are doing a great job.... I watched great number of motivational videos...nothing helps like ur videos do.... sometimes I wonder how come such valuable information is for free!! I feel blessed to have come across ur channel!!! Thank you!! Keep up the good work, I look forward to it as it really helps.
TH-cam pays 0.10 to 0.30 per ad view, so if he get 4 million views on this he could be making around $12,000+ from one video. It's not like no one is paying him for this content
@@akasha9597 true. It's just if they wanna shadow ban him, as they do so common with plenty of noncontroversial channels even, and such. Yee, we don't pay upfront, like Google Apps Store, it's the data tracked, as the great McAfee who exposed the American government more and such told us. 🤝🔥😎😻👌 That's amazing, absolutely, to get that much a vid! I would only hope. Hehe. Redistribute it into veganism. Hehe. 🤝🔥😎😻👌🌱💚
@@akasha9597 The original poster is referring to the ability to access this content for free, not that the person making the video is making it for free.
@@idontknowanymore1246 Your name checks out, you really don’t know
When I was young I looked at old people and thought "Who owes you a padded life?" Now that I am old I find that reminding myself of that question helps quell the resentment common to lots of old people: resentment of the fact that the world of our past, the world we had finally figured out and could handle, has *changed* and it will never change back.
3rd option. At the end of Finn's life, he said: some people, how ever long they search, never find the love they long for. Despite their fondest wish, they will live their lives alone and they will die alone. I am one of them. The countless rejections did not send me into a rage, or left me simmering in resentment. Instead they left me in quiet despair. I have thought long on possible causes of the many romantic rejections, and the one constant that keeps turning up is my self. First, i grew weary of searching. Then i lost faith in my self. Then i gave up my search and made my peace with the likely fact that i would never find someone to share my life with. I find the idea that the world, or women, owes me anything quite absurd. I tried, and eventually failed. It is as simple as that.
It's true, the world doesn't technically 'owe' us anything... _however,_ never forget that the opposite also applies - namely, _you_ don't owe the _world_ anything either!
Basically, live life for yourself, & do what you can to find your own happiness, or at least whatever passes for it... if there's one thing I've learned in this cold, harsh life, it's that no one else is gonna GIVE you that happiness - you need to seek & find it for yourself. I hope you succeed. Best of luck to you.
I feel the same. I am female and 50. I have never got married or started a family. I used to feel a little resentful, now I no longer feel resentful and I'm not hopeful either, If I allow myself to think about it I feel despair and sadness. I try not to think about it. I have a dog and I love him and he loves me.
@@cosmicfoxglove1047 ...well, makes a difference from cats, I guess. **shrugs**
As for myself, I just really don't want to commit to any relationships even though I used to fantasize about being in a relationship a lot before.
I don't have a very good emotional wellbeing. I lash out quite fast because I just don't trust people who do good things for me anymore. And for that reason, I vowed to myself not to commit to any relationships. I don't want my partner to have to handle that hurtful part of me. Especially if we get to have a daughter/son, I don't want them experiencing the same things I experienced from my family. And after holding this vow close to me for a few years, it just dawned on me that I actually don't mind being single up until the end of my days.
Why? Because I have friends that are there for me. And honestly, it's more than enough for me. Knowing that there are actually good people out there for me. And most importantly, I wouldn't have a child that would suffer the same way that I did. That thought brings me so much comfort. However, I also really would have loved to bond with my child if I had one. And it makes me sad thinking about it. But if it meant they wouldn't have to suffer like I did, then I'd be more than willing to experience this sadness for as long as I live and more.
Yeah, I really would stick to this promise of mine. Thanks for listening to my Ted talk!! 😂
@@BeanSprouts02 I listened to your Ted talk. Good friends are so underrated. They are just as important and maybe more important than a partner.
My teacher showed me this video. I think all the years of being rejected by society, being used by kids for my money, girls rejecting me, lead to the mindset that I will never find a girl or a true friend, which then lead to me feeling like i am entitled to have friends and a girlfriend, but when that expectation was not met I was faced with frustration that I than took out on the friend that did come along because they didn’t fulfill my needs as a person, they got as far away from me as possible, and then now the resentment, at least this video shows me where to start rebuilding, at the mindset.
When life throws rocks at you, it hurts when it hits you but no one will decide what to do with the rocks for you. And only you can choose to blame life for throwing you rocks
Remember being resentful towards life will only keep you in your comfort zone and nothing grows there
I don’t want that in my life no more, I release all that back to the world and I am responsible for myself. And I pray for hope and faith to return in my life 💜🤲🏾
This is exactly what I needed at this moment. Thank you so much.
the reason most people are choosing to be resentful is that it is not easy to accept that you are at fault or wrong about something and if we learn to accept that we were wrong and move on we will not only be free from the frustration it will bring us but also that will hopefully learn from that experience and become better at doing right.
What about then the other person can't take accountability?
@@MagnumOpusYT they must learn that its ok to be wrong ,sometimes and having a friend that is willing to help you ( or a professional) can really get you of that stressy zone.
It's like these videos find me exactly when i need them
One word stops resentment dead. GRATITUDE .
*_To find it yourself, or to abandon that one thing you long for..._*
*_It's like the gold at the end of the rainbow. Though it is a fantasy, you can still choose to keep on looking, or you can turn away from it. Somehow, I ended up struggling in trying to put a stop to this cycle of hatred. It stems from my personal past, then to feeling like I was too obedient, and then to the point that my future is being decided._*
*_I've... No... I think we're all guilty for "Entitlement". My true goal is to actually bring dreams to reality through the best I can do. That's why I'm so deeply passionate with art, music, and other things related to the digital side, including ones that could contribute to evolution. I wanted to inspire others, but though my mind wants revenge by doing the things they will never see in the future, to become someone that they will never live up to, some part of my soul tells me to not back down._*
*_To not abandon this so-called "Hope"... Hopes in dreams._*
*_The works of others that captivate me... still give me hope, especially to people I talked to, who are like elite artists. Honestly, I'm proud of their progress. It saddens me, yet angers me that artists had to suffer the hardest path to achieve the biggest dream: Inspire the World._*
*_That's why I say to myself, "The road to the Creator will always be the hardest. To create something you love most, you must face tribulations."_*
Question on a few things you said,
"There's someone/something for me"
My understandings and interpretations of these works (and even taken from and reinforced by some of your videos) is that it's an ever changing and evolving spectrum of possible outcomes that can all be considered more positive or negative depending on personal perspective. Meaning there is no "ONE" person, purpose, or meaning for one persons life but infinite chances to make it the best possible for yourself. Would you disagree with any of that?
Needed this video. Posted this at a perfect time!
still, i think resentment can be good sometimes. true injustice does exist, and one needs that anger in order to fight for change.
It's better to be hopeful than , be an arrogant.
There is always a way but it's your choice you want to see that way with close or open eyes.
Reminds me alot (in this example with relationships, etc) .. of sayings like "going to any length, being over the moon for someone, or searching until the end of Earth .. " to find your one love, or anything in life really. That truth rewards those who seek, and denys the arrogance in seeing the World only one way. Ones seeing light = opportunity vs. Seeing darkness = only vast limitations .. this concept might drive the search for finding ones place, or that special someone else in the World. ✨️
Oh my goodness I needed to hear this. Talk about perfect timing!
Thank you so much for sharing this 💗💚
I am revisiting this video this cured my 3 year long misery. Thank you, Nietzche. Thank you, Freedom, in thought.
i'm fucking allergic to in video ads, but brilliant i can tolerate. i really needed to hear this, i walked in the office and gave my notice to my superior. at first he asked me to take more responsability, he then later changed his mind and asked my collegue. I got entitled. today was an emotional rollercoaster for me, i still haven't decided what i'm going to do with my future.
Thanks for your sharing, which is desperately needed for my current situation
No fight; no blame is the only way to peace and tranquility.
I don't blame them but they blame me
Hate, love, . The space for silence always underrated.
Yes we can choose our attitute after traumatic events but it makes it 10 times harder and its a pain to live with 😢
Reflection is key in a world which contains almost none. Mind your own matters, because it matters if you don't mind.
"Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In Time, all points converge: hope's strength, resteeled. But to earn final peace at the Universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again."
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--Diamond Dragons (series)
i love how you clearify that everything you do. should be independent and only to depend on you
You have a beautiful mind. I think I'm having a breakthrough, only by watching a couple of your videos, even though I'm on this path of freeing myself from unpausable suffering for a long time. Well deserved number of followers. That happens rarely.
Thanks. Been enjoying your videos. They've really put a spark back into me.
Beautiful and so true!
I needed this more than you will ever know. Thank you
there's a place in this world, and a way to that place ,for everyone which can't be denied by anyone except for themselves
This wise guidance made me cry
sometimes you have to rebel against the rebellion. Resist the resistance... dont forget to go with the flow as well.
Entitlement isn't the only thing that leads to frustration. In fact I think a much better one is the lack of understanding how things (and people) work. At least that's what it was in my case. And it just turned out that I didn't have good role models and I was light-years away from success, and that even when I was doing the right thing in one aspect for a while, I'd still not get any positive results because I was lacking in so many other areas. So there was like no possible system for me to even get logical feedback. You can't believe how frustrating that is! Thank god I eventually did come out the other side before becoming a psycho. 😬😀 So it's really sad that many men face this exact situation.
"Entitlement" is, sadly, one of the current trendy buzzwords. It's such an easy stone to throw at someone else, and is used by several different groups to vent their righteous "woke" anger. Yes, there is a great deal of entitlement behavior, but not as much as some would have us believe. Each and every one of us is struggling to just get through the day as best we can, but it's a struggle. It's not.. possible for anyone to get everything they want; a lucky few get the majority of their needs and wants met, but obsess about what they don't have; others get less on a sliding scale and they stress, also. Many years ago, I read a quote that pretty much sums it up : "Adult life is just an elaborate continuation of the kindergarten drama - two kids and one cookie."
This is very similar to the abundance mindset which PUAS teach, thanks for the amazing content.
Hurt that is unforgiven leads to resentment. Resentment stews into anger and bitterness Bitterness to rage. Rage towards of clamour. Then ultimately to malicious acts to hurt others in return. First gethealing from God then go thru the process and journey to forgive. Don’t be a stewing pot of offensive and resentment. Be free inside Let things go. We have all been hurt and also have hurt others
I'm hoping for someone better will come, I'm hoping that there's something out there that will give me something or anything, not being an entitled person, but hoping that there is something or anything for me, no time for blaming others. Everything I do its because of me, and this life is 100 percent my responsibility. Hope is the only one thing we have when everything we got were lose. But if we never lose ourselves and we never give up there's always hope. And its a choice if we're being resentment and giving up hope. Its for the long term choice and world belief. Its being resentful or being hopeful. If we're being resentful we close our minds that a certain situation happen to us and based on that we generalized that everyone or everything is like that or the same way as that. Have we tried everything? There is a billion people out there. There's a billion ways of things to do. It's time to stop being resentful, blaming the world and everything, but the only problem is our own frustrations that we think we can't and because of being entitled on something or someone we think we are not be rejected or we are entitled to anything or anybody. But rejections is a part of it, part of our life. It's a matter of never give up, keep trying things, keep looking for improvements, keep moving, we think that there is always hope for humanity and especially for ourselves. In the end, its a choice of being resentful to the world, or being thankful, have gratitude, and hopeful of the world, it may be long term, or short term, maybe we find or not what we're looking for in this world, no matter hard or easy we struggle, we all die in the end, I think the best choice is being hopeful rather than blaming ourselves and everything. Being thankful, gratitude and hopeful of things, that thankful today that we're still alive, there's a rainbow after the rain. There's always another day to do other things and hope of things that will work or not. Another days to try, another moment to meet new people, try new challenges, more, and more. So many things to explore and more learnings along the way. And being resentment will stop us on doing things, stop other people in their own way because we think that it is what it is, is that all but not. There's always hope. So face our chaos and struggle together and by our own selves we see the reality of being hopeful is the best choice.
This is a amazing video, what unbelievably wise advice.
Definitely will be watching this in the future
I wasnt healing back when i let anger and resentment consume me. i have not forgiven them yet, but i learned i how accept shts that happen
Yeah, a simple change in outlook makes a world of difference in how one interacts with the world.
Very true. The only one who stands in your way is yourself. Unfortunately, most people need someone to blame to get ahead in life because it's easier to use scapegoats, rather than going for what they truly want with fearlessness and courage.
Because you see the reality is, there's usually no one standing in your way whatsoever, it's just you yourself who are terrified and scared of actually achieving something without pointing your fingers at someone else.
That is the stone-cold truth, and that is why the world is so messed up right now with this men vs women bullshit, and boys growing up to become girls and vice versa. We're not going to have a functional society as long as this BS keeps up. It's just going to get worse for everyone.
No doubt
Actually, sometimes lack of coin, crews, connections, clout, control, computer code, communities, and opportunities stand in the way of success for individuals. But those things aren't available to every human on Earth (by default).
One must learn to remain in their own lane. Often, that 'lane' is slavery. 💪😎✌️ It is what it is.
I love your work!! Keep it up!! I believe in you!!
Please post more videos about
-Aristotle works (rhetoric,metaphysics)
-Cicero
-Plato (philosopher king)
Thank You
I really agree with all of this but I'd like to read the book itself to see if it mentions the cases of when someone makes a very painful wrongdoing, being the most open and crude example from personal experience, someone who has been a victim of child abuse / sexual abuse, I know it's a very specific and painful example but it adds to the scale of grays that I'd like to explore about such topics mixing with my own personal experience, growth and healing process with proper teaching within the condominiums of philosophy.
Great work nontheless Freedom in Thought, your videos have been really nurturing and it adds best to the future researches that I'm finding the time to do.
It does not. Nietzsche is not a self-help philospoher, this whole essay is pure bullshit made by the guy behind the channel. The name of Nietzsche in the title is used purely becouse of pseudo intelectual reasons of the author to shield his thinkings and has nothing in common with his writings. Nietzche was not a happy man.
@@skullcrusher9873 indeed he wasn't, if he was he wouldn't have had the moments that are written about his personal life, specially when he yelled at the working horse saying "I know your pain" I think that was near at the end of his life.
Alas, despite that if he didn't wanted others to get better on their own then why the concept of the Ubersmench? Why then, despite all his suffering, his words speak about how the human can and should be the best out of itself with his own determination and humanity?
@@skullcrusher9873 At least it's what I can get that despite his suffering and his unhappiness he really did wanted others to use what he wrote among other things to get better, this reflects better on the fictional stories that get inspirations from him like the Japanese Manga Berserk among other tales from around the world, good stuff
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@@skullcrusher9873 well. abit late to the party. but you know what they says. echo chamber and sheeps. the buzzwords these days. i was scrolling through the commentary and seeing how everyone agree with what this dude says. lol its damn funny. he's doing some guilt trip shit that a self-proclaimed "NLP (neuro linguistic programming) guru" used in my country a decade ago.
in fact, he sounded extremely entitled himself in the entire video, assuming that most people in life has everythign he has, or at least he assumes his audiences do.
capitalizing on the weak and feeble minded. over 2000 years. human never learned a shit from history
Important video. Society taught me if I want someone with all my heart, and show her that I want her badly, she will also want me. Wrong teaching. As a result I became obsessed with someone, and the trauma did not yet heal after rejection.
This is beautiful. Thank you.
Viktor Frankl, my favorite psychological theoretician
Great essay! Thanks for sharing.
This was a brilliantly organized video essay. Thank you.
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ur videos are always related to us
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The thesis "There's a place in this world, and a way to that place, for everyone which can't be denied by anyone except for themselves", cannot be definitely proven false, but, in its current state, cannot be proved true either. Choosing to believe this thesis to be true (or false) is an act of faith. Is it even necessary to elaborate on the fact that one of Nietzsche's primary goals was to eradicate every metaphysical faith altogether?
I think what he meant is the goals we set for ourselves and how our resentment and rage might prevent us from reaching them, unless we convince ourselves otherwise
Just read Man's Search for Meaning today. Very good read.
Why wouldn't you abandon hope? Hope brings only pain. Hope makes the inevitable failure of the future hurt far, far more.
Great video mate, food for thought
Beautiful video and the music was thx for your video! =) This also reminds me of what Elder Bednar said "A thing, an event or an expression may be offensive, but you and I can choose not to be offended."
I think that sometimes the right thing for someone might be just to do what one's have to do in order to get to the situation where one's duties and what he truly likes to do are the same thing or at least relatively have a minimum level of similarity. Getting to that situation is worth the time and effort despite the distruction and the forced focus along the way that should be expected. Great video Thanks !!!
Well now, there’s a difference between resentment for being mistreated and allowing that resentment to shape your view on a whole group of ppl or the world.
I'm watching this because the idea of letting hate consume me seems like the most appealing option in my life, I can't understand why I shouldn't allow it to, so hopefully I learn something.
Did you?
That was a great one! Well done 👍🏻
I really need this I recently blame my teacher and the school task theye assign on me. But after that I felt guilty.
i want to really believe this, but when i got the police called on me JUST for visiting my mom's house. the person who called the police lied and said i broke in. i was only saved by the Ring doorbell when my mom spoke through it.
Very good video, i needed this.
Enjoying your videos a lot. Beautifully done. Thank you. :)
I haven't become resentful towards women or the world because of my relationship failures. I've become resentful towards the never ending increasing expectations within those relationships. I think my expectations have always been reasonable but that the expectations of my partners is always so much more than I'm capable of that I just stopped trying as a matter of acceptance, not resentment. Ive felt feelings of resentment when other people insist that I want something other than what I want though because thats what they want or thats what they want me to want. Its like never ending psychological judo 🥋
Very nice, yes, Nietzsche has a good collection of philosophical ideas. However I also think, that there are plenty of other authors too, ehh😀😀
however you are more focused on Nietzsche, well I like that too😀😀
1) Resentment is not hate.
2) About hate I believe you'd like to read what I wrote on my channel.
3) Really? "It's unfalsifiable so it can't be false"? Come on man!
Darkness is part of Life.
Keep it in Balance; this is where Meditation becomes useful.
I have multiple sclerosis this video was very helpful thank you
Integrating the shadow is the key
I can only gain little from Nitzsche's interpretation. The motivation of his statements is probably positive. There is no point in being resentful, so it would be better to choose not to be, to go through life happier. The problem here is the belief that we have free will and thus can decide what happens to our lives, but everything we know so far indicates that we live in a deterministic universe and thus no free will exists, so that everything we think, believe and feel is only the result of previous events, which we can not influence. Therefore, we should not be resentful towards our fellow men, but with the universe, but this is also only said and arises only from deterministic events that lead to this opinion.
Good video! But may I ask what book you use for reference on this topic. Really want to know. Thanks❤️
Well done. Excellent quotes.
The causality of resentment could be many things and nothing to do with entitlement. While this may have been Nietzsche's reason, it's only one of many possible reasons. You could have resentment because someone hurt a loved one, wronged another, etc.. .
This man is living his life not youtube algorithm.
Yes, you alone make yourself resentful, but sometimes you feel like the world doesn't give you too much to keep hopes up, and being resentful you kinda feel safe. You hope, and you try again, and you fail. After some time it gets rough.
Not saying is healthy, but it is understandable.
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Great video, I think the whole ressentiment analysis is spot on.
The only thing I’d like to know more about is what would Nietzsche think of entitlement. Is the ubermensch entitled? Does our Will to Power have the right to desire all that it wants?
Nietzsche would deny that we'd have a right to anything. He would say that there's only strong wills and weak wills.
He uses an anology in Genealogy of Morals where lambs hate birds of prey that hunt and eat them.The lambs are resentful because they are the weaker ones and this leads them to think of those stronger than them as evil. But the birds of prey don't hate the lambs back.
This is what ressentiment actually is to Nietzsche. It's a transformation of weakness into a hate of strength.
To call an unbermench entitled would according to Nietzsche be ressentiment. He would see it as a way for "the weak" to try to hold "the strong" back with morality.
I needed this.
I see hope as an illusion block that stops you to act here and now