I had no idea that you receive so many toxic comments, but I guess I’m not surprised. Just keep doing your thing. There are many more of us out here that really appreciate what you do and the message you give
I did not realise how toxic some people can be towards your amazing channel. It is all very well to say some people think you spend too much money on certain items, don’t live as environmentally sustainable etc etc. the thing is your channel is not about them it is purely and entirely about Jane and Mike’s life and the way you manage your life - not theirs. Believe me the people who look forward to each and every one of your videos value all your views and ideas. You are such a source of inspiration to others who watch you for ideas and inspiration. I now live in a flat without a garden but so enjoy watching you working in yours and seeing the pleasure it brings. I am a quilter and love to hear about your sewing projects (and look forward to seeing different quilts on your sofa). I am 73 and would not be able to cope with your property but do get such a lot of pleasure seeing you enjoy it, hard work though it is at times. It is just a case of “Each to their own”. You should never judge other people or criticise the way they live. If you are asked for your opinion, say on a purchase then you can make a constructive comment, otherwise if you can’t say anything nice it is best to say nothing at all. I am sorry you have to put up with such negative thoughts. Please carry on letting us in to your lovely life, it is a real pleasure for us to share frugality with you. Best wishes to you both from sunny Torbay.
@@FrugalQueeninFrance I quit a frugal forum once because I saw a moderator mocking someone who was just starting...asking questions and being scared. They'd had a sickness or job loss and a sudden change in their income. Made me mad and rather sick. I stopped using the forum.
My grandma told me comparison is the thief of joy. These toxic people are always comparing themselves to you and they’ve lost their joy so they spew out negativity. Boo to them.
Ugh we get this a lot (being disabled & paying down medical debt everyone has an opinion on everything, every aspect of our lives. Apparently we’re doing nothing ‘right’ 😂). My spouse finally had it & just snapped & said “well I guess your just a better person than us. What address should I send your ‘best person in the world’ trophy to?” It was great 😂 their face was priceless. Shock & horror.
@@joycef8443 🤣 Thank you so much for the good luck wishes. I appreciate it. Despite the naysayers I think we’re doing great. 44k down to 6k all on a disability pension 👍
This was a bit of an eye-opener Jane! Some people with a keyboard think they have a right to say things they would never say to someone’s face! There are always people who know better than you in all aspects of life, not just frugality sadly and I guess that will never change. Kindness and respect seems to be disappearing in this world.. Just keep doing your stuff- some of us appreciate it!
I think you are reasonable people. We are debt free and retired. We live a simple abundant life. We are contented and grateful. Our lifestyle revolves around family. We do not travel as neither of us wants to and we have 2 cats and a comfy home. You design your life that fits YOU. That is happiness. We are frugal and yet generous. Just happy and comfortable. We never lived above our means, once we figured it out. Don’t listen to the jealousy of others. We live the results of our choices. ❤️🤗
Just to let you know you are appreciated by this recovering spendthrift. Following a few frugal channels helps me enormously and they are all a bit different but interesting and helpful. Do not let any of us upset you. You and Mike are doing something worthwhile at some personal cost in that you are very generous in sharing especially about budgeting. Have a great Summer.
Mind your own business needs to have resurgence! It occurred to me one day that people can't drive you crazy if you don't give them the keys. Toxic people should be left to stew in their own venom...alone. Rock on, you and Mike are doing excellent for yourselves and inspire others.
Wow did that hit home!! I have family members who judge us for being "cheap",hillbillies, etc. Why don't we.....eat out, buy new clothes or at least more fashionable. Then we get criticism for buying a new car, after running ours to no longer worth repairing. And why did we get a big vehicle. Forgetting that we live 35 minutes from the nearest store, and in a snow prone Northern area, as well as owning trailers to haul in what we need, because no one delivers to the sticks. Yet they are all dumb founded when we plan 7 weeks throughout Europe, on a budget. I am living my best life and just wish that they could do the same...more quietly on their side.😊
Toxic people say toxic things...hurt people hurt people...social media provides an easy way for people to be mean to others.BUT...they need to be CALLED OUT every once in a while. Good job Jane n Mike! xoxo
Thank you from Kentucky USA I very much enjoy your videos each one is as great as a visit with a friend Thank you also for a gentle reminder about good manners remember y'all when you can't say something nice don't say ANYTHING. To the toxic folks l say BLESS YOUR HEART❤
And I who thought that all this bashing only happened to us vegans...Discard the distressing comments and move on, you're doing so well. I'm grateful for all your sharing!
😂 no it goes around, I follow a mother of 8 and people criticize that her meals are not pretty plated 😂 or that the food is not enough and the kids go hungry 😂 also, people are horrible because they are very carnivorous. Me, vegetarian, just saying!
I adore your channel It's the best As to people's rudeness we should say to them like that Jane Austen mother says to her daughter 'If you can't think of something pleasant to say, kindly restrict your remarks to the weather' 😄
Jane, you have a lovely home that you and Michael have worked hard for. Both of you are entertaining, bright, and are willing to share your frugal journey, which is greatly appreciated by many. Those that are critical (and rude) will always be that way because they cannot see outside of their own little perfect bubble, which I imagine is not as perfect as they would like everyone to believe. My dad used to say "let it flow like water off a duck's back", although the comments are still hurtful. Sometimes everyone makes missteps and may say things that are taken in a way not intended to hurt, but that does not excuse those who are adamant their way is the only way. You and Michael are well loved and respected contributors to this community, and we are very fortunate to have you sharing your experience, wisdom, and ideas with us all. Keep doing your thing your way. 🦆🦆🦆
Dear Jane and Michael, As a previous commentator put it, you are like a friend visiting us with good cheer and inspiring ideas. I have picked up so much watching your videos, from your recipes which help us to enjoy our meals and kee p our food shopping costs down as far as we can. You inspire me to keep trying to live within my income; I'm not there yet but well on my way. Thank you for your openness. We Australians are known for our direct and open ways. The risk is you become more vulnerable doing so to criticism. The upside is most people warm to you in every positive way. You shine with your examples of overcoming past mistakes with money and making great decisions since. Fantastic Mary
You are doing your frugality-everyone has a different way of being frugal. Lots of factors are involved-where you live, your income and marital status....
As I have gotten older I'm at the point it no longer matters what others think. I ignore hateful comments gathering all relevant information to that which might be helpful to me. Thank you as always for sharing your frugal life journey with us.
I love your channel. There is so much rudeness online. People seem to think since they’re anonymous they can be rude and judgemental. Please keep on doing what you and Mike do so well. You are teaching us. And your pooches are adorable! My kitty adds so much to my life. You can’t put a price on that! xx 💜
I think Miss Brahms said it best on Are you being served: you do your thing your way and I’ll do my thing my way. Your videos are very helpful and entertaining. Forget about the haters. You’re helping a lot of people. ❤
I watch you both for inspiration. Rant all you want. You make me smile. I don't follow you to the letter.I may not agree with everything but that what makes you you and me me
Hello Jane, I am new here. My husband is retiring within 6 years. We started living from the income we will have than. You gave me so much good tips. Love your channel❤ Thank you for sharing. Nice regards from Belgium😊
From a retiree, living on your future Income now is a great idea. If you cannot make it work now, you will have real problems as costs will be up in the next 6 years, I fear.
Say something nice or don’t say it all! That’s what I think when it comes to leaving comments on TH-cam. I would really like you to know that I am very grateful for your videos. I used to love your blog too. You have helped me so much over the years. Please don’t let negative comments get to you too much. Your version of frugality is very inspiring to me, I take what I like from it and make it my own. I wouldn’t dream of criticising your choices. I had someone criticise me recently for buying a second hand fridge for me to store batch cooking in. I was so offended! You’re doing such a great job Froogs, thank you x
Thanks to both of you for teaching us and encouraging us in all of our frugal journeys. It seems to me you are incredibly giving to share so much with us. I was in the classroom for 32+ years and it wasn't difficult to find a strong correlation between the parents that felt free to criticize other parents, students, and families,( oftentimes on social media!), and their own children learning to bully other children. These people are modeling bullying for our young people and then they act surprised their own children bully other children. If these toxic critics aren't learning from you, they have many opportunities to watch other channels....
God bless you, Jane and Michael! I'm so sorry that you've been subject to judgements and criticism from these nasty people that have nothing better to do. It's people who are so insecure, that the only way they can feel good about themselves is to put other people down. Ignore them! I LOVE your channel! You inspire me! Keep up all the good work!❤
Love this video!! I had to chuckle to myself when you said your husband wanted you to tone down your rant… my husband has done that to me. 😊Just different personalities… what I think is mild, he thinks is over the top! Also, someone once made a very hurtful comment to me about how much money we had. (Her assumptions were incorrect)She was jealous we had $$ to enjoy a few nice things. She had no clue about how we had lived extremely frugal to get to where we were. Years later her daughter lived with us for a while and she had no idea on how to take care of herself or money.
oh lord. even if I take to my grandma, (queen of frugality, as she lived through 30's depression both wars, and the horrible Portuguese dictatorship) I still learn so much from your and other channels. Or I am inspired. People should keep their noses in their own business. Thank you for your work.
Never doubt yourselves or what you are doing. I have watched budgeting and frugality channels for several years. I have learned of what I'm supposed to be doing, attempted to implement it, but only had minor success. It's been so frustrating. In your channel, I have finally found what I was looking for, and it has made all the difference for us. You actually teach us how to do these things. Following your example, my whole family has become more frugal, and I have made adjustments to our budget that finally work for us. I cannot thank you enough! I am binge watching ALL of your videos. Thank you both so much! You are helping so many people. Keep up the great work!
I'm an only parent ,and very frugal right now because I'm saving for my daughters college. I dont want debt at all. And I have no debt But I always get judged that I'm not buying new stuff all the time, that I never buy myself clothes , that my cell phone is 5 yrs old , that we are extreme minimalist in our home, my daughter I still buy her clothes and stuff but it's amazing what people say. I'm low income too, with all my extended family high income. When I told them to buy me no more gifts , that I couldn't afford to buy gifts for others any more , I was accused of being cheap. People would rather you go in debt to get them a gift than me having financial security. It is hard being frugal at times, but it makes it worse when you are made to feel bad about it
Part of it is toxic frugality and part of it is just plan toxic. Unfortunately it is everywhere on any social media platform and I'm sorry you've experienced it. Thank you for addressing it.
I love how you speak Truth and tell it like it is. I sooo respect that. Keep doing you!!! Those who talk rubbish are cowards and you are correct, they would never say that crap your face.
I am constantly reminding friends and family that their is a big difference between being frugal, and being cheap. We have a budget that we adhere to. We WILL spend money, trying to buy the best quality at the best price, if I was cheap, I would buy the cheapest I could find. In the long view, the cheap version will be replaced many times over, before the quality one wears out, saving time and money in the long run.
Thank you so much for sharing . I am 76 years old, a widow living in washington state an I just want you to know I watch all your videos and have learned so much from what you share. I have used some of the things you share in my own life. Thank you so much and keep on being you and doing what you do.
Hlo from South Africa. Yes, I have come across all those types!!! You do you. Let people take from your channel what suits them and don't let the rest upset you (easier done than said, I know). I learn much from you and appreciate your channel. 🌹🌹🌹
Brilliant video! If people understood that each person's priorities are different they wouldn't judge each other so hard. Maybe a good house is essential to me and having a good car isn't. Maybe I don't care about my clothes and prefer to use that money for books or the cinema. My budget is organized for my priorities not for anyone else. Some people don't understand that being frugal is also about choosing how to use your money wisely for the things that really make you happy.
Here in america people do that a lot. I look at people now and tell them kindness doesnt cost a thing. If they continue. I usually say, you dont pay my bills. When you do. You can have a voice. That you are willing to open up. Show us how you and micheal do it. That to me is priceless. I always come away from your channel shopping my home first. Realizing i am only limited by my mind. Thank you for all you do. It is greatly appreciated.
Interesting video. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. To me the social media realm is a different world than real life so hard to compare. Written word lacks depth and context. There is no body language and can not see the other in the eye. We are also dealing with different cultures. Plus english is not everyone's first language. You made me smile when describing yourself as British. I am 100% Dutch and we are known for our directness. Not saying what you think is an insult to my personal strength as I would rather be slapped in the face with the truth than be kissed by (white) lies! That being said; I don't like people very much when they act in groups. Mostly because they seem so dumb and lack empathy. I LOVE your channel and the way you communicate and would like to take the opportunity to thank you for all the information you share for free. Please don't let the negativity get to you. You are way too kind! Warmest greetings from Amsterdam 🌷
Sorry, this seems to have upset you so much. You are in competition with no one but yourself, and your channel helps so many others. Luckily the group I started do not act in this way as I throw them out if they are unkind. Sending hugs x
I’ve just watched again so you get the ad income……… I hope that’s ok with everyone 😂 if not tough I do me and you do you. Take care and don’t let the rude ones get you down, I’m currently on a Haven bargain break £54 for 4 nights……. Love to you both …..Wendy ❤💋
Everywhere you look, TV, media, magazines literally everywhere there is the overflow of ideas/opinions and then other people. People need to understand their opinion should be requested not given freely. I frankly do not give a hoot what other people feel, I do seek out advice for ideas though. I have mentioned before how you have helped me in so many ways with money and I am forever grateful. I know some know-it-alls' like my ex-husband and it definitely is a control measure, I just say now - You do you and Let me do me. Best wishes always.
This really had me cracking up 😆 People are really something else I do agree Sheesh!! I deeply miss how, many people used to have obvious manners and class
To me Frugality is living within your means and putting some money aside for a rainy day. That will be different for everyone and even different for yourself at different times.
Hi from Australia. Many thanks Jane and Mike for sharing your life and experiences on your channel. Love your content and seeing your home and where you live and all you share. Agree with what you have said and sorry that your receive this type of negative feedback. It is unfortunately a way that some choose to be in their lives and towards others. I look forward always to your new content and again - many thanks.
Jane and Mike I’m 68 years old absolutely love your channel I know you have your challenges but your lifestyle looks idyllic love watching you so don’t change for all negativity if only people could stop judging others wouldn’t it be a lovely world so keep on doing what you’re doing x
I just don't tell people I'm frugal for all of these reasons! I just quietly get on with it and seek out like minded folk online. I see loads of brilliant ideas that I use and others that just don't fit with my lifestyle. I've found frugality is a spectrum and at different points in my life I've been more frugal than others. It means I'm able to retire early next month with no debt and savings in the bank. And it's none their business how I've done it 🙂
Loved this video so much, Jane and Mike. Thanks!! Fantastic. This literally made my day. Basic respect of other humans. Laughed out loud about the frugal puritans lol. hahaha. Great description. I'm agreeing with so much, but also taking some of it to heart (!!) as gentle reminders as I interact with others esp my partner. Thanks again, Heidi in Vancouver BC Canada
Keep spreading the love and light. Money is a tool for enjoying life not a god. Thank you for sharing your ideas. Live long and prosper. What people think about us, is not our business. I love seeing your quilts, too.
Well said. I'm sorry to hear you receive so many negative comments. What a waste of time and energy to criticise others. I was always taught, if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all.
Some people feel very safe behind their keyboards. Number one don't give them anymore air time. Dont believe everything they say they do. Right now these neigh sayers are getting under your skin and wasting your time and energy, taking away good solid advice and information that we appreciate. Love what you offer here Jane!❤ Thank you! Look forward to more inspirational videos ❤
You're right! I think that the anonymity of social media has eliminated the filter many people used to have. And then some are just rude boors (spelling?). I really love the sharing of advice, inviting us into your home, cooking lovely dishes for us. I really respect you guys for your hard work while still feeling joy in it. Keep going on the path you've chosen. It serves you well and teaches others who are open and willing to learn new ways that work for them.
As a long, long time subscriber, I had to chuckle at Jane getting so animated and lively at times! I really understand your frustrations. At any rate, keep doing what you’re doing. You are appreciated!
Love your channel - look forward to every post. Years ago I wrote a very simple, cheerful blog about gardening. The haters always commented and told me everything I did was wrong, my posts were stupid, etc. It was eye opening! xox
I have some acquaintances who feel somewhat sorry for me because of my way of life, but I'm extremely happy with my life, I have enough and a little bit more which gives me peace of mind. The only thing I need is a bucket of health. A great video, thank you for sharing.
Thank you Jane & Mike for all you do to teach us how to be good financial stewards and to appreciate what we have. In America we're constantly pushed into consumerism and it's SO easy to get caught up in it that it almost defies logic. I am also finally living a debt-free (including mortgage) life and it's channels like yours that help keep me focused. "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss Please keep being who you are.
I just try to make the best choice at any given time. I stock up on items so that i have time to find the best price on something instead of panic buying. I support locally owned businesses even if they aren't the cheapest or most convenient. I spend money on things and people that are important to me. Sometimes I'm tired or not feeling well and i spend money on something that i wouldn't have normally. You know what....that's perfectly ok. I was stuck at work for a few extra hours, tired, hurting, and hungry. Picked up fast food for the first time in i can't remember when. It was quite a treat, but soooooo expensive. Keep doing what you're ďoing!
As a new retiree on a limited budget, I've learned soooo much from your videos on how to set up a budget & live on it. Still learning! Thanks for all you do. You & Mike are inspiring!
Really glad you pointed these things out. Each person has their own financial assets and a different financial situation. Some people have more money to spend on the things they want. Some people need to save on whatever they can to pay off debts or to save a certain amount of money. We all spend and save on different things, to a different extent, and it's everyone's personal decision! Also, under the umbrella of "toxic frugality" i would also put all the people who think that it's always better to save money than to save time. In some situations i will spend money to save time - for example hiring a team to paint my house in two weeks instead of trying to paint my house myself, which will surely be cheaper but also take me 2 months to do that on my own. "cheaper" is not always better and some people refuse to believe that.
Yup. I had to put a warning up to tell people to be nice or I will shut off the comments immediately. Sad we have to give those warnings because people have gotten so bad. But t has really helped though. You don’t have to spend countless hours monitoring comments as much.
You guys are very brave to put yourselves out there for others to see, judge, comment on, etc. I don't think I could do it. Sometimes people are just mean (or lacking in self esteem). Keep going, you do make a positive impact.
Well thought out and done! Part of the issue might be"just because I can be dismissive about someone's choice of frugality because it doesn't match mine, should I ?" Instead sharing what one does enriches and broadens the community of frugality.
Good for you Jane! Each to their own is one of my favourite sayings! But Vive le difference! You do manage to make me laugh even when you are having a rant though, and the “if you’re frugal you shouldn’t have dogs” comment floored me, unbelievable. Thank you for all of your excellent advice, I certainly have learnt a lot from watching you xx
Who gives a shit once you’re making it work. Love your channel, you’ve taught me loads about budgeting. I’m not frugal, but I’m more aware, and I’m saving! thanks to you!
I recently found your channel and i appreciate all of the information you provide! I love the little pep talks you give too. Thank you! I love that you addressed the toxic frugality topic.
No more words needed about "those people"! For me you do it right and I learn sooooooo much from you. I am happy about EVERY video, every tip, every recipe, every frugal mealplan and everything that you share with us!
No its not only the English, us German have an opinion to everything our neighbours do and will say it😂. I am glad you and Mike wont let this bother you. Love your videos and am very inspired ❤
Those must be the same aggressive drivers on my commute, the ones whose diet is the right one, the attached neighbor who will make any level of noise or smoke without any regard to the well being of others. Each day we have to make a gazillion decision about lots of things and overall try to do our best as we go through life. It's nice to get older and not worry about impressing anyone, as we follow our path in life.
Thank you Jane and Mike. Yes vive la différence! Not all our journeys in life are the same and we should respect that. I always look forward to your videos. Have a good day!😊
Social media has given people permission to say what they think with no responsibility for it and now it's ingrained in them and they speak that way in public. I have had 12 cans of soup, veggies and fruit in my cart and while waiting in line someone will call me a hoarder and start being mean. Others in line will speak up too. When I got to the cashier she asked me why I bought so much. That happened 3 times at Wal-Mart so I won't shop there anymore. I do not have to explain my actions to anyone and I refuse to get in a confrontation over 12 cans of tomato soup.
I have heard videos about the thing about living in a house as opposed to an apartment. ..."No one needs to have that much space as in having a yard and a house - we should all live in a very small space - in apartments." I just thought, "Wow - judgmental." You all are doing great - and thanks for the channel.
Keep up the good work. You are doing an excellent job. When I learnt to cook at school sixty plus years ago I was fortunate to be taught about nutrition at the same time. Your meals are nutritious, as well as being varied.
You both have a wonderful and heartfelt channel. There will always be people who criticize how one lives their lives. Your channel is a personal journey of a couple living a frugal life. Your channel helps many people, thank you both for sharing your frugal journey. ❤❤
You live your life and live mine. I never walked in your boots so it's not up to me to judge or criticise the way you are living. I like watching your channel because - although I'm not living a frugal life like you two do - I like learning about it. I don't always agree with you but I still respect what you are saying. I have no debts, I save money in different ways every month. My passion is traveling. That's where I'm saving a lot of my money for. And for me every cent is worth it to be abroad, meet new people, learn about the cultures. But I never forget, that I must have enough money on side to be able to buy a new washing machine or what ever is needed surprisingly.
Thanks for this video. So many time people put out there toxic comments to social media but would never do so in a face to face situation. I will never understand why someone feels the need to comment in a negative way when they can just scroll on. Thanks for all the well thought out content you and Mike give us every week. So appreciated.
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I had no idea that you receive so many toxic comments, but I guess I’m not surprised. Just keep doing your thing. There are many more of us out here that really appreciate what you do and the message you give
Not just me, I've seen very judgy 'that's not frugal ' comments in just about every frugal group I've ever been in
I did not realise how toxic some people can be towards your amazing channel. It is all very well to say some people think you spend too much money on certain items, don’t live as environmentally sustainable etc etc. the thing is your channel is not about them it is purely and entirely about Jane and Mike’s life and the way you manage your life - not theirs. Believe me the people who look forward to each and every one of your videos value all your views and ideas. You are such a source of inspiration to others who watch you for ideas and inspiration. I now live in a flat without a garden but so enjoy watching you working in yours and seeing the pleasure it brings. I am a quilter and love to hear about your sewing projects (and look forward to seeing different quilts on your sofa). I am 73 and would not be able to cope with your property but do get such a lot of pleasure seeing you enjoy it, hard work though it is at times. It is just a case of “Each to their own”. You should never judge other people or criticise the way they live. If you are asked for your opinion, say on a purchase then you can make a constructive comment, otherwise if you can’t say anything nice it is best to say nothing at all. I am sorry you have to put up with such negative thoughts. Please carry on letting us in to your lovely life, it is a real pleasure for us to share frugality with you. Best wishes to you both from sunny Torbay.
Well said!!
@@FrugalQueeninFrance I quit a frugal forum once because I saw a moderator mocking someone who was just starting...asking questions and being scared. They'd had a sickness or job loss and a sudden change in their income. Made me mad and rather sick. I stopped using the forum.
One of the great things about getting old is not giving a flying toss about other people's opinions!!!! Keep up the great work Jane😁
Well said
My grandma told me comparison is the thief of joy. These toxic people are always comparing themselves to you and they’ve lost their joy so they spew out negativity. Boo to them.
Ugh we get this a lot (being disabled & paying down medical debt everyone has an opinion on everything, every aspect of our lives. Apparently we’re doing nothing ‘right’ 😂). My spouse finally had it & just snapped & said “well I guess your just a better person than us. What address should I send your ‘best person in the world’ trophy to?” It was great 😂 their face was priceless. Shock & horror.
Wow! Good for him. There is a saying “walk a mile in someone else’s shoes”. Those people have no empathy!
Good luck to you on your journey!
@@joycef8443 🤣 Thank you so much for the good luck wishes. I appreciate it. Despite the naysayers I think we’re doing great. 44k down to 6k all on a disability pension 👍
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So glad he did it!
This was a bit of an eye-opener Jane! Some people with a keyboard think they have a right to say things they would never say to someone’s face! There are always people who know better than you in all aspects of life, not just frugality sadly and I guess that will never change. Kindness and respect seems to be disappearing in this world.. Just keep doing your stuff- some of us appreciate it!
I think you are reasonable people. We are debt free and retired. We live a simple abundant life. We are contented and grateful. Our lifestyle revolves around family. We do not travel as neither of us wants to and we have 2 cats and a comfy home. You design your life that fits YOU. That is happiness. We are frugal and yet generous. Just happy and comfortable. We never lived above our means, once we figured it out. Don’t listen to the jealousy of others. We live the results of our choices. ❤️🤗
Yes, you're spot on
Jealousy is the key to this
Just to let you know you are appreciated by this recovering spendthrift. Following a few frugal channels helps me enormously and they are all a bit different but interesting and helpful. Do not let any of us upset you. You and Mike are doing something worthwhile at some personal cost in that you are very generous in sharing especially about budgeting.
Have a great Summer.
Thanks Una
Mind your own business needs to have resurgence! It occurred to me one day that people can't drive you crazy if you don't give them the keys. Toxic people should be left to stew in their own venom...alone. Rock on, you and Mike are doing excellent for yourselves and inspire others.
Great words Brenda
Love your response Brenda. So true on all counts!
Wow did that hit home!! I have family members who judge us for being "cheap",hillbillies, etc. Why don't we.....eat out, buy new clothes or at least more fashionable. Then we get criticism for buying a new car, after running ours to no longer worth repairing. And why did we get a big vehicle. Forgetting that we live 35 minutes from the nearest store, and in a snow prone Northern area, as well as owning trailers to haul in what we need, because no one delivers to the sticks. Yet they are all dumb founded when we plan 7 weeks throughout Europe, on a budget. I am living my best life and just wish that they could do the same...more quietly on their side.😊
Enjoy your trip and all your choices
TH-camr Lydia Senn always says no one has the right to tell you how to spend your money. They're not the ones who earned it.
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Toxic people say toxic things...hurt people hurt people...social media provides an easy way for people to be mean to others.BUT...they need to be CALLED OUT every once in a while. Good job Jane n Mike! xoxo
Thanks Judy
Thank you from Kentucky USA I very much enjoy your videos each one is as great as a visit with a friend
Thank you also for a gentle reminder about good manners remember y'all when you can't say something nice don't say ANYTHING. To the toxic folks l say BLESS YOUR HEART❤
Thanks Carolyn
And I who thought that all this bashing only happened to us vegans...Discard the distressing comments and move on, you're doing so well. I'm grateful for all your sharing!
😂 no it goes around, I follow a mother of 8 and people criticize that her meals are not pretty plated 😂 or that the food is not enough and the kids go hungry 😂
also, people are horrible because they are very carnivorous. Me, vegetarian, just saying!
I love your channel, and it's really sad folks just won't live and let live.
Just keep being you… Life is far too short for toxic behaviour. We all have room to learn. Thank you for what you do ❤️
Life is too short for people being made to perceive everything as toxic.
I adore your channel
It's the best
As to people's rudeness we should say to them like that Jane Austen mother says to her daughter 'If you can't think of something pleasant to say, kindly restrict your remarks to the weather' 😄
I can't describe how helpful and healing this is. Thank you for your kindness and compassion. What a gift you are to the rest of us. ♥️
Jane, you have a lovely home that you and Michael have worked hard for. Both of you are entertaining, bright, and are willing to share your frugal journey, which is greatly appreciated by many. Those that are critical (and rude) will always be that way because they cannot see outside of their own little perfect bubble, which I imagine is not as perfect as they would like everyone to believe. My dad used to say "let it flow like water off a duck's back", although the comments are still hurtful. Sometimes everyone makes missteps and may say things that are taken in a way not intended to hurt, but that does not excuse those who are adamant their way is the only way. You and Michael are well loved and respected contributors to this community, and we are very fortunate to have you sharing your experience, wisdom, and ideas with us all. Keep doing your thing your way. 🦆🦆🦆
Thanks Linda
I can understand being upset by these people but know that you help many and that there are always unhappy people without filters.
It's certainly not just me who isn't frugal enough or I'm doing frugal wrong
@frugal Jane , you can only be frugal your way xx love your channel
Dear Jane and Michael,
As a previous commentator put it,
you are like a friend visiting us with good cheer and inspiring ideas.
I have picked up so much watching your videos, from your recipes which help us to enjoy our meals and kee p our food shopping costs down as far as we can.
You inspire me to keep trying to live within my income; I'm not there yet but well on my way.
Thank you for your openness. We Australians are known for our direct and open ways. The risk is you become more vulnerable doing so to criticism.
The upside is most people warm to you in every positive way.
You shine with your examples of overcoming past mistakes with money and making great decisions
since. Fantastic
Mary
Thanks so much
You are doing your frugality-everyone has a different way of being frugal. Lots of factors are involved-where you live, your income and marital status....
As I have gotten older I'm at the point it no longer matters what others think. I ignore hateful comments gathering all relevant information to that which might be helpful to me. Thank you as always for sharing your frugal life journey with us.
Jane you made me chuckle with your true views 😉 All this toxicity is just bullying. 💯
We are not here to be people pleasers! For one thing it is impossible to please everybody and we need to do what works for us and our family!
Very true
Well said!!
I love your channel. There is so much rudeness online. People seem to think since they’re anonymous they can be rude and judgemental. Please keep on doing what you and Mike do so well. You are teaching us. And your pooches are adorable! My kitty adds so much to my life. You can’t put a price on that! xx 💜
Thanks so much
I think Miss Brahms said it best on Are you being served: you do your thing your way and I’ll do my thing my way.
Your videos are very helpful and entertaining. Forget about the haters. You’re helping a lot of people. ❤
Thanks Cindy
Remember that saying if you can’t say anything nice then don’t say anything at all!
You do you Mike and Jane. Love your videos. So informative. Thank you
Thanks very much for watching
I watch you both for inspiration. Rant all you want. You make me smile. I don't follow you to the letter.I may not agree with everything but that what makes you you and me me
Well said
Hello Jane, I am new here. My husband is retiring within 6 years. We started living from the income we will have than. You gave me so much good tips. Love your channel❤ Thank you for sharing. Nice regards from Belgium😊
Thanks very much
From a retiree, living on your future Income now is a great idea. If you cannot make it work now, you will have real problems as costs will be up in the next 6 years, I fear.
Say something nice or don’t say it all! That’s what I think when it comes to leaving comments on TH-cam. I would really like you to know that I am very grateful for your videos. I used to love your blog too. You have helped me so much over the years. Please don’t let negative comments get to you too much. Your version of frugality is very inspiring to me, I take what I like from it and make it my own. I wouldn’t dream of criticising your choices. I had someone criticise me recently for buying a second hand fridge for me to store batch cooking in. I was so offended! You’re doing such a great job Froogs, thank you x
Thanks Michaela
I agree
i am so sorry you are having to deal with such insensitive people. You are a blessing to so many, and I for one look forward to hearing your insights.
Thanks very much
I love this tongue and cheek response! It made the mundane task of folding laundry entertaining.
Fortunately, other people's opinions are none of my business. Great chat. Keep doing what you do. Love the pups at the end.
Thanks to both of you for teaching us and encouraging us in all of our frugal journeys. It seems to me you are incredibly giving to share so much with us.
I was in the classroom for 32+ years and it wasn't difficult to find a strong correlation between the parents that felt free to criticize other parents, students, and families,( oftentimes on social media!), and their own children learning to bully other children. These people are modeling bullying for our young people and then they act surprised their own children bully other children.
If these toxic critics aren't learning from you, they have many opportunities to watch other channels....
That's a very astute point
People should be more respectful and shouldn't be those people. This is a community of sharing and learning. Examples of things I might want to try...
Thanks Gladys
God bless you, Jane and Michael! I'm so sorry that you've been subject to judgements and criticism from these nasty people that have nothing better to do. It's people who are so insecure, that the only way they can feel good about themselves is to put other people down. Ignore them! I LOVE your channel! You inspire me! Keep up all the good work!❤
In the frugal community, there's some unpleasant behavior from the frugal puritans
Love this video!! I had to chuckle to myself when you said your husband wanted you to tone down your rant… my husband has done that to me. 😊Just different personalities… what I think is mild, he thinks is over the top!
Also, someone once made a very hurtful comment to me about how much money we had. (Her assumptions were incorrect)She was jealous we had $$ to enjoy a few nice things. She had no clue about how we had lived extremely frugal to get to where we were.
Years later her daughter lived with us for a while and she had no idea on how to take care of herself or money.
I posted that before I watched. I am loving this video
Jane, I appreciate you and your channel.
oh lord. even if I take to my grandma, (queen of frugality, as she lived through 30's depression both wars, and the horrible Portuguese dictatorship) I still learn so much from your and other channels. Or I am inspired. People should keep their noses in their own business. Thank you for your work.
You go Jane!! I think this may have been my favourite video so far 😂 Budgeting and manners 101 👍
Never doubt yourselves or what you are doing. I have watched budgeting and frugality channels for several years. I have learned of what I'm supposed to be doing, attempted to implement it, but only had minor success. It's been so frustrating. In your channel, I have finally found what I was looking for, and it has made all the difference for us. You actually teach us how to do these things. Following your example, my whole family has become more frugal, and I have made adjustments to our budget that finally work for us. I cannot thank you enough! I am binge watching ALL of your videos. Thank you both so much! You are helping so many people. Keep up the great work!
thank you so much
I'm an only parent ,and very frugal right now because I'm saving for my daughters college. I dont want debt at all. And I have no debt But I always get judged that I'm not buying new stuff all the time, that I never buy myself clothes , that my cell phone is 5 yrs old , that we are extreme minimalist in our home, my daughter I still buy her clothes and stuff but it's amazing what people say. I'm low income too, with all my extended family high income. When I told them to buy me no more gifts , that I couldn't afford to buy gifts for others any more , I was accused of being cheap. People would rather you go in debt to get them a gift than me having financial security. It is hard being frugal at times, but it makes it worse when you are made to feel bad about it
Don’t change a thing. You are wonderful!
Thanks very much
Part of it is toxic frugality and part of it is just plan toxic. Unfortunately it is everywhere on any social media platform and I'm sorry you've experienced it. Thank you for addressing it.
Thanks
I love how you speak Truth and tell it like it is. I sooo respect that. Keep doing you!!! Those who talk rubbish are cowards and you are correct, they would never say that crap your face.
Thanks Tammy
I am constantly reminding friends and family that their is a big difference between being frugal, and being cheap. We have a budget that we adhere to. We WILL spend money, trying to buy the best quality at the best price, if I was cheap, I would buy the cheapest I could find. In the long view, the cheap version will be replaced many times over, before the quality one wears out, saving time and money in the long run.
Well said ken
Thank you so much for sharing . I am 76 years old, a widow living in washington state an I just want you to know I watch all your videos and have learned so much from what you share. I have used some of the things you share in my own life. Thank you so much and keep on being you and doing what you do.
Hlo from South Africa. Yes, I have come across all those types!!!
You do you. Let people take from your channel what suits them and don't let the rest upset you (easier done than said, I know). I learn much from you and appreciate your channel. 🌹🌹🌹
Indeed
Brilliant video!
If people understood that each person's priorities are different they wouldn't judge each other so hard. Maybe a good house is essential to me and having a good car isn't. Maybe I don't care about my clothes and prefer to use that money for books or the cinema. My budget is organized for my priorities not for anyone else. Some people don't understand that being frugal is also about choosing how to use your money wisely for the things that really make you happy.
Absolutely, each to their own
Well said. Thanks.
Here in america people do that a lot. I look at people now and tell them kindness doesnt cost a thing. If they continue. I usually say, you dont pay my bills. When you do. You can have a voice. That you are willing to open up. Show us how you and micheal do it. That to me is priceless. I always come away from your channel shopping my home first. Realizing i am only limited by my mind. Thank you for all you do. It is greatly appreciated.
Thanks Michelle
Thank you, I believe I have dealt with all of the people you have described. I feel better now
Just love your honesty!...have a great day.
Thanks for watching
Interesting video. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
To me the social media realm is a different world than real life so hard to compare.
Written word lacks depth and context. There is no body language and can not see the other in the eye. We are also dealing with different cultures. Plus english is not everyone's first language.
You made me smile when describing yourself as British. I am 100% Dutch and we are known for our directness. Not saying what you think is an insult to my personal strength as I would rather be slapped in the face with the truth than be kissed by (white) lies!
That being said; I don't like people very much when they act in groups. Mostly because they seem so dumb and lack empathy.
I LOVE your channel and the way you communicate and would like to take the opportunity to thank you for all the information you share for free. Please don't let the negativity get to you. You are way too kind!
Warmest greetings from Amsterdam 🌷
Thanks very much for sharing
Sorry, this seems to have upset you so much. You are in competition with no one but yourself, and your channel helps so many others. Luckily the group I started do not act in this way as I throw them out if they are unkind. Sending hugs x
I’ve just watched again so you get the ad income……… I hope that’s ok with everyone 😂 if not tough I do me and you do you. Take care and don’t let the rude ones get you down, I’m currently on a Haven bargain break £54 for 4 nights……. Love to you both …..Wendy ❤💋
Enjoy your holiday
Thank you for this commentary! Appreciate your great Chanel.
Everywhere you look, TV, media, magazines literally everywhere there is the overflow of ideas/opinions and then other people. People need to understand their opinion should be requested not given freely. I frankly do not give a hoot what other people feel, I do seek out advice for ideas though. I have mentioned before how you have helped me in so many ways with money and I am forever grateful. I know some know-it-alls' like my ex-husband and it definitely is a control measure, I just say now - You do you and Let me do me. Best wishes always.
Thanks Sandra. We've all met them.
This really had me cracking up 😆
People are really something else I do agree
Sheesh!! I deeply miss how, many people used to have obvious manners and class
Thanks very much
To me Frugality is living within your means and putting some money aside for a rainy day. That will be different for everyone and even different for yourself at different times.
Hi from Australia. Many thanks Jane and Mike for sharing your life and experiences on your channel. Love your content and seeing your home and where you live and all you share. Agree with what you have said and sorry that your receive this type of negative feedback. It is unfortunately a way that some choose to be in their lives and towards others. I look forward always to your new content and again - many thanks.
Thanks for addressing those issues.
Jane and Mike I’m 68 years old absolutely love your channel I know you have your challenges but your lifestyle looks idyllic love watching you so don’t change for all negativity if only people could stop judging others wouldn’t it be a lovely world so keep on doing what you’re doing x
Thanks for watching
Ppl seem to say a lot on line when they won’t when they are actually looking at someone.
I just don't tell people I'm frugal for all of these reasons! I just quietly get on with it and seek out like minded folk online. I see loads of brilliant ideas that I use and others that just don't fit with my lifestyle. I've found frugality is a spectrum and at different points in my life I've been more frugal than others. It means I'm able to retire early next month with no debt and savings in the bank. And it's none their business how I've done it 🙂
Loved this video so much, Jane and Mike. Thanks!! Fantastic. This literally made my day. Basic respect of other humans. Laughed out loud about the frugal puritans lol. hahaha. Great description. I'm agreeing with so much, but also taking some of it to heart (!!) as gentle reminders as I interact with others esp my partner. Thanks again, Heidi in Vancouver BC Canada
Keep spreading the love and light. Money is a tool for enjoying life not a god.
Thank you for sharing your ideas. Live long and prosper.
What people think about us, is not our business. I love seeing your quilts, too.
You are so welcome
Well said. I'm sorry to hear you receive so many negative comments. What a waste of time and energy to criticise others. I was always taught, if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all.
Some people feel very safe behind their keyboards. Number one don't give them anymore air time. Dont believe everything they say they do. Right now these neigh sayers are getting under your skin and wasting your time and energy, taking away good solid advice and information that we appreciate. Love what you offer here Jane!❤ Thank you! Look forward to more inspirational videos ❤
You're right! I think that the anonymity of social media has eliminated the filter many people used to have. And then some are just rude boors (spelling?). I really love the sharing of advice, inviting us into your home, cooking lovely dishes for us. I really respect you guys for your hard work while still feeling joy in it. Keep going on the path you've chosen. It serves you well and teaches others who are open and willing to learn new ways that work for them.
Cheers Karen
As a long, long time subscriber, I had to chuckle at Jane getting so animated and lively at times! I really understand your frustrations. At any rate, keep doing what you’re doing. You are appreciated!
Love your channel - look forward to every post. Years ago I wrote a very simple, cheerful blog about gardening. The haters always commented and told me everything I did was wrong, my posts were stupid, etc. It was eye opening! xox
I have some acquaintances who feel somewhat sorry for me because of my way of life, but I'm extremely happy with my life, I have enough and a little bit more which gives me peace of mind. The only thing I need is a bucket of health. A great video, thank you for sharing.
Jane, love your channel. I think you are fab and always love your scarves x
Please ignore the negative and bounce on the positive. Love your down to earth frugality 😊
Thank you Jane & Mike for all you do to teach us how to be good financial stewards and to appreciate what we have. In America we're constantly pushed into consumerism and it's SO easy to get caught up in it that it almost defies logic.
I am also finally living a debt-free (including mortgage) life and it's channels like yours that help keep me focused.
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." - Dr. Seuss
Please keep being who you are.
Another awesome video!!! Say it like it is Jane! Love your channel!
I just try to make the best choice at any given time. I stock up on items so that i have time to find the best price on something instead of panic buying. I support locally owned businesses even if they aren't the cheapest or most convenient. I spend money on things and people that are important to me. Sometimes I'm tired or not feeling well and i spend money on something that i wouldn't have normally. You know what....that's perfectly ok. I was stuck at work for a few extra hours, tired, hurting, and hungry. Picked up fast food for the first time in i can't remember when. It was quite a treat, but soooooo expensive. Keep doing what you're ďoing!
As a new retiree on a limited budget, I've learned soooo much from your videos on how to set up a budget & live on it. Still learning! Thanks for all you do. You & Mike are inspiring!
Really glad you pointed these things out. Each person has their own financial assets and a different financial situation. Some people have more money to spend on the things they want. Some people need to save on whatever they can to pay off debts or to save a certain amount of money. We all spend and save on different things, to a different extent, and it's everyone's personal decision!
Also, under the umbrella of "toxic frugality" i would also put all the people who think that it's always better to save money than to save time. In some situations i will spend money to save time - for example hiring a team to paint my house in two weeks instead of trying to paint my house myself, which will surely be cheaper but also take me 2 months to do that on my own.
"cheaper" is not always better and some people refuse to believe that.
As long as you are doing what's right for you that's all that matters.
Looking forward to this video, Jane. Thank you! 🌷
Yup. I had to put a warning up to tell people to be nice or I will shut off the comments immediately. Sad we have to give those warnings because people have gotten so bad. But t has really helped though. You don’t have to spend countless hours monitoring comments as much.
You guys are very brave to put yourselves out there for others to see, judge, comment on, etc. I don't think I could do it. Sometimes people are just mean (or lacking in self esteem). Keep going, you do make a positive impact.
Well thought out and done! Part of the issue might be"just because I can be dismissive about someone's choice of frugality because it doesn't match mine, should I ?" Instead sharing what one does enriches and broadens the community of frugality.
Thanks very much
Good for you Jane! Each to their own is one of my favourite sayings! But Vive le difference! You do manage to make me laugh even when you are having a rant though, and the “if you’re frugal you shouldn’t have dogs” comment floored me, unbelievable. Thank you for all of your excellent advice, I certainly have learnt a lot from watching you xx
Who gives a shit once you’re making it work. Love your channel, you’ve taught me loads about budgeting. I’m not frugal, but I’m more aware, and I’m saving! thanks to you!
I recently found your channel and i appreciate all of the information you provide! I love the little pep talks you give too. Thank you! I love that you addressed the toxic frugality topic.
You are so welcome! Thanks for watching.
No more words needed about "those people"! For me you do it right and I learn sooooooo much from you. I am happy about EVERY video, every tip, every recipe, every frugal mealplan and everything that you share with us!
Loved this video! Your so funny!! Great points for many to remember
No its not only the English, us German have an opinion to everything our neighbours do and will say it😂.
I am glad you and Mike wont let this bother you. Love your videos and am very inspired ❤
We don't and thanks for watching
Those must be the same aggressive drivers on my commute, the ones whose diet is the right one, the attached neighbor who will make any level of noise or smoke without any regard to the well being of others. Each day we have to make a gazillion decision about lots of things and overall try to do our best as we go through life. It's nice to get older and not worry about impressing anyone, as we follow our path in life.
Thank you Jane and Mike. Yes vive la différence! Not all our journeys in life are the same and we should respect that. I always look forward to your videos. Have a good day!😊
Thanks Pauline
Social media has given people permission to say what they think with no responsibility for it and now it's ingrained in them and they speak that way in public. I have had 12 cans of soup, veggies and fruit in my cart and while waiting in line someone will call me a hoarder and start being mean. Others in line will speak up too. When I got to the cashier she asked me why I bought so much. That happened 3 times at Wal-Mart so I won't shop there anymore. I do not have to explain my actions to anyone and I refuse to get in a confrontation over 12 cans of tomato soup.
I have heard videos about the thing about living in a house as opposed to an apartment. ..."No one needs to have that much space as in having a yard and a house - we should all live in a very small space - in apartments." I just thought, "Wow - judgmental." You all are doing great - and thanks for the channel.
Yep!
Keep up the good work. You are doing an excellent job. When I learnt to cook at school sixty plus years ago I was fortunate to be taught about nutrition at the same time. Your meals are nutritious, as well as being varied.
You both have a wonderful and heartfelt channel. There will always be people who criticize how one lives their lives. Your channel is a personal journey of a couple living a frugal life. Your channel helps many people, thank you both for sharing your frugal journey. ❤❤
You live your life and live mine. I never walked in your boots so it's not up to me to judge or criticise the way you are living. I like watching your channel because - although I'm not living a frugal life like you two do - I like learning about it. I don't always agree with you but I still respect what you are saying. I have no debts, I save money in different ways every month. My passion is traveling. That's where I'm saving a lot of my money for. And for me every cent is worth it to be abroad, meet new people, learn about the cultures. But I never forget, that I must have enough money on side to be able to buy a new washing machine or what ever is needed surprisingly.
Thanks so much
Thanks for this video. So many time people put out there toxic comments to social media but would never do so in a face to face situation. I will never understand why someone feels the need to comment in a negative way when they can just scroll on. Thanks for all the well thought out content you and Mike give us every week. So appreciated.
Thanks very much for watching and commenting
Ignore the negative comments. You are both an inspiration.
I like your topics don't stop