4 Powerful Truths about Your Self-Worth (feat. Lillian Fallon)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ส.ค. 2023
- You are worth something.
You probably know that.
But... do you really know it? Deep down? Do you think and act like that is truly the case? Or does a quiet, pervasive feeling of worthlessness plague your days?
Moving through life, we pick up lies that challenge the unchanging truth that we have intrinsic value. So, today, designer/speaker/author Lillian Fallon has 4 truths to hear, repeat, and internalize to reclaim our dignity:
1. “Your looks are the least interesting thing about you.”
2. “You are unrepeatable.”
3. “You were created on purpose.”
4. “You are desired for all eternity.”
Lillian actually just wrote a book joining her passion for fashion with a desire for everyone to know how much God loves them-and you can own that book! Check out Theology of Style: Expressing the Unique and Unrepeatable You ascensionpress.com/products/t...
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Ladies, please don't disregard men's struggles with self-worth as well. While it's true that physical beauty is what society typically judges women on, men are judged by what they can offer and provide. So when a man struggles with this, he often feels like less of a man and worthless. We all struggle with recognizing our self-worth; let's all promise to be more compassionate with each other.
Thank you. 🥲
I appreciate your recognizing that men struggle with their own self worth issues too. You are right in men valuing their self worth on what they can offer and provide. Also, men don’t talk about body image as often as probably needs to be, but we suffer from body image issues too. Men are pressured by women to look like Jason Momoa or something, and by other men to be super strong. Men also feel conscious about their weight (too much or too little), and whether we have enough muscle mass too. The only body image difference between men and women probably is fat shaming. Men are less likely to fat shame each other than women are, however since double standards do exist, men will fat shame women. I’m not saying this sort of behavior is morally right, just my own experiences as a man amongst other men.
@spacelinx I 100% agree. Men also doubt their self-worth based on their body image. Societal pressure to look a certain way may not be as overt as it is for women, but it exists nevertheless.
Thanks for bringing this up @MorelHumor! Really appreciate it!
I appreciate these thoughtful comments. Viva Cristo Rey!
1. My looks are the least interesting thing about me 2:31
2. I’m unrepeatable 4:38
3. I was created on purpose 6:26
4. I’m desired from all eternity 7:45
Reread as much as necessary.
Amén
Ngl almost burst out crying when she said Maria. 😭
1) My looks are the least interesting thing about me.
2) I am unrepeatable.
3) I was created on purpose.
4) I am desired for all eternity.
Thanks!
Everyone gets ugly with age. Thats why its the heart where true beauty resides.
Is that supposed to be comforting? Good looking people (who've already experienced that great thing) say stuff like that to Ugly people and honestly it's condescending and gross.
@rosarypilled6428 That's correct. It's comforting to know what matters is your heart and not your looks. ☺️ Be at peace my friend.
@@Christianity__wins192 a lie is not comforting.
@rosarypilled What part is a lie brother?
As I am getting ready for double mastectomy due to Breast Cancer diagnosis, thoughts of how different I will look after this did mess with me. However I rebuked any negative thoughts and thanked God for the science and medical solutions to our health problems, and I know even if I don’t look “perfect” to what others label as “perfect” or “good looking”, I know I will be good, because I have surrendered my illness to our Lord and he will restore me and my health! Thank you for this message! It was beautiful!
Timely topic. Thank you.🙏❤️ As a 66 year old divorced, disabled woman, I struggle to see my worth. This helps. God bless.🙏❤️
Wow, I didn't know how much I needed this until I watched it. I drag myself down so much every day. Now I realize my true worth and how perfectly I was made, and how I am meant to spend eternity with Him. ❤
I am 70 years old and single. I needed to hear this so much.
I need to know more about this necklace
That "unchanging state of your intrinsic value" thing is very important. Thank you.
Oooohhh my Catholic faith!!!!🔥🇵🇷🙏
This young woman is adorable and it says a lot about what is wrong with our culture that she felt otherwise and sought out remedies to make herself more attractive to others. The cultural elite are gonna have a lot of splainin to do when they meet St. Peter.
Even though it’s difficult I keep faith because I know God is real. I trust in you Father and keep faith even as I struggle to take care of my children. The past two years have been hard on me. I’m a single mom. I suffered an heart attack and I’m battling lupus. Both of my sons are autistic and to be honest Heavenly Father I’m so overwhelmed. I’m constantly struggling financially to buy groceries and struggling to pay my rent and now that I’m home schooling my sons I’m struggling to buy their school supplies. I want to give up. But even in hard times I know I must choose to have faith. No matter our struggle, we can turn to God. He knows us personally and can give us strength to overcome our challenges. I Trust in YOU LORD PLEASE HEAR MY PRAYERS!
I heard you. You are in my prayers. It's OK to need to surrender to the Sacred Heart of Jesus -Fellow single special needs Mom
May the good Lord bless, strengthen, and provide for you 🙏🏽❤
May GOD BLESS you Tiffany. Know that JESUS is there holding your hand each step of the way. Have you ever tried probiotics for your son's dearest Tiffany? What about seeing a cranial sacral therapist. I am sending you LOVE and asking Angels to help you in your daily struggles.
May GOD bless you
@@abdulbermudez3925 Thank you Abdul and may HE BLESS you too!
What a beautiful message from a beautiful young woman. Speaking as a Miami native, women like her are a rarity.
Great way to start the morning. God Bless.
A rarity? They're practically non-existant down here lol. But yes what this woman said is definitely true.
Thank you, Lilian! I too struggle with looks and proving my worth. In fact, I feel like God is telling me there's no need to prove myself and I was really mad. I believed that I have to be a good girl to get love - I have to conform to the world. But I know it is a lie and I'm struggling to accept God's love. It's hard to understand that I don't need to seek attention from others and to fully accept God's love for me. As I'm still learning, I encourage others to keep praying for healing, come to adoration, spend time with the blessed sacrament, read the Holy Bible. "I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; that I know very well." Psalm 139:14
I love a woman's natural features not something that's fake or the opposite of natural. Ladies please don't let any man tell you, you need surgery to look like that or like this. Your natural beaty is what makes you special just the way you are. And the only man that is important in your life should be Jesus and he loves you just the way you are if he wanted to make you a certain way then he would have made you like that but he didn't. Cause he seen how perfect you already were. Idk i hope if your a woman reading this that it helps in some way as a brother in Christ.
Men are much more forgiving over looks than women are
I treat everybody the same. If they are kind or if they are rude, if they are quiet or if they are outgoing, I treat everybody the same.
This is simply incredible. God has been showing me what I need and this certainly falls in that category. The immense level of care I've been shown by our Father is beyond what I've come to expect from life. I don't know what else to say than praise be to God.
It's definitely not just a woman thing, I think every single person deals with this at some point. Guys feel like their value is achievement
Men have it so much worse than women.
A lot of people who are disabled deal with this issue as well. They not only have physical or mental problems they can not work either. Its a level of unworthiness most people can not understand.
I am a blessing to those with emergency Healthcare needs. God gave me a love for helping others, and I look forward to sharing his love through the work I do with my hands. Thank you Jesus for this video and for Lilly, for reminding me about my self worth.
The fact that each one of us is unrepeatable blows my mind everytime. As much as it is hard to understand, I believe this to be true deep down in my heart. Praise God🙌
I clicked into this and I am so glad I did not only for me but even though my son has strayed away from the church I am going to pass this onto him I think it will make a difference for him Thank you!
I think the times I feel like I’m worth the least are when I get to know someone, I start to love them, I eventually trust them with all my heart, and then they give up on me because they find someone more interesting to them.
I just gave so much of myself for someone who called me her best friend, and then I moved back home once I was done with college. She basically told me my life didn’t matter and threatened to block me. I didn’t even reach out to her that much, I just wanted to talk one day and I guess she lashed out on me. I know it says more about her than it does me, but it just makes me sad that someone gave up on me when I would have NEVER given up on her.
I'm super late on this but I just came across this video. I felt your comment so much. Somebody just gave up on me saying "I wanna see if there's something better out there". I've supported and loved this man for four months, prayed for him, prayed together... nobody has ever told me something like this before. It hurts like crazy 😢
@@Doris-jk4re You aren’t alone. I know it sounds cliché, but time really does heal all wounds. It’s going to hurt less every day until it doesn’t anymore. Time really does heal all wounds. Growing up doesn’t always have to be about gains. Sometimes it’s about holding on to who we are while accounting for our losses. I am fully with you and your hurting heart in this difficult time. Heartbreak helps you to grow so much, and I just want you to know I believe in you. 😊
@dymoure oh wow, I didn't expect a reply and definitely not so soon. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. This made me feel seen and heard. I know it will heal and we're probably not meant to be with each other... whatever. I just have such a hard time grasping that he actually said that. And then gave himself credit for "being so honest". This is so rough.
@@Doris-jk4re Of course! You got this. Remember to stay humble. And remember what true humility is-don’t think less of yourself, but think of yourself less. In heartbreak, both people will probably see themselves as victims. When you understand that, it gets easier to forgive, so you can move on to trusting and hoping again. :D That’s great advice I could’ve used 7-10 months ago. If you want to leave more thoughts, I’ll definitely read them. No story of a broken heart is too long for me, trust me. I’d leave walls of comments all over TH-cam about my experience. 😂
Please do more of these!!!! So needed right now!
I met a young woman, in 2011, at a tea shop. She was working there. Though I said nothing to her, I knew she was struggling with bulimia. The enamel on her upper incisors were worn down the the dentin underneath. I wanted to tell her: "I don't understand why you beat yourself up so much? You're beautiful just the way you are." These four quotes very well sum up intrinsic value.
This is the absolute best video ever!! Thank you so much for speaking these truths
One of the most beautiful sermons I've ever heard. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this. I struggle so much with shame and low self-worth, as well as rejection sensitivity. I often feel both homeless and orphaned, completely unwanted. I really needed to hear your message to me. Thank you again
Thank you. Feels great to be re-affirmed with the truth about myself.
I'd love to add one that I recently heard on another video. "I reflect a specific and unique aspect of God that no one else does." God reveals himself through me in a way that he doesn't reveal himself through anyone else. How amazing is that? Unique, unrepeatable, and a walking reflection of God himself.
Perfect timing! The world needs to hear this beautiful message. Thank you for reminding me of where I came from and who I belong to for all eternity. God Bless You! ❤
One of the best videos I’ve ever watched and I’ve watched thousands of them.
I don't know how I stumbled upon this but this really touched me. Thank you so much.
This was what I needed to hear, understand, and realize....so very much. God, in His infinite Love, wanted me to hear this.
I loved this message, thank you! I saved “No one can replace you in the heart of God” in my phone so I can remember. ❤
Lillian, thank you so much for this video! This is exactly what I think I needed to be reminded of rn ❤ As Brene Brown once said, women are expected to fill all these different roles perfectly AND to look good while we do it, which can amount to so much pressure! It’s so affirming to be reminded that we have worth that isn’t based on or decided by any of this. ❤ Keep going 👏🏼
Food for thought & a new way to see ourselves. Thank you. 🥰
Great and timely message. Thank you.
I struggle with confidence issues and have ocd and anxiety also, this is helpful thanks.
Thank you! I needed this today.❤
I find my worth, nothing to do with my looks, in encouraging people... Spiritually or academically... Thanks for this content!
Absolutely love this video 💕 Thanks for your beautiful work and most of all, thanks for sharing your heart and faith.
Oh I needed this so badly I could cry. Thanking Jesus and Mary!!! May God bless you so much. 💕
Thank you so much for this video! I really needed this ❤ I put my worth in what others tell me I do good or in my flaws
I am so excited and inspired by your video. My self worth started when I came into the Catholic Church because I know God's love for me. Please keep doing these videos, they are important loving valuable. Thank you so much.❤😊
Beautiful content, thank you. Targeted towards the female crowd, but I feel touched by it as a male, too. I even just attempted to buy your book - it seems I'll have to wait a bit, until its available in Europe.
My worth is in my work and productivity. The more "active" I am the "better" I am.. but I know that it's not that I'm active, I'm just busy. No doubt also, my looks are constantly in front of my face.
I really like the explanation of having so much history just on my face.
This is so beautiful and inspiring. Thank you for this but growing up in such a Narcissistic and abusive household made me disbelieve on the part that even if I'm the only human being on earth, God would die for me or that God loves me so dearly. I'm still in the process of healing. Everything you said is just so good to be true for me. I experience so much abuse even from my Mom, I just cant believe that people can be truly nice and good.
Needed this, thank you.
Amazing message. Respect from Australia.
I find self-worth when I can help someone else, giving back, being charitable.
Excellent. Thank you! I sent this video to my adult children...
This is so wonderful! Thank you’ I will share with my family and especially my 16 year old daughter who claims to not believe in God and says there is no purpose in life that we are here and we will die and there is nothing else. Please prepay for her. Her name is Daniela 🙏🏼
Amazingly Deep Wisdom!
This is the most beautiful jewelry I have seen on a woman in real life. She must be so loved and important to God 💝🕊💞
I find my worth in bringing people together for a good meal. Or at work, helping people answer questions or solve problems.
Thank you so much! God totally worked a miracle through you! I am struggling with my worth and this helped a lot!
You're worthy!! 😊👍🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻✝️
This is an incredible video!! Thank you!!!
Thank you for sharing this 💖
So Wonderful
God bless you for you! And for speaking these truths of God’s love for love
such an important, positive message.
I enjoyed your presentation very much. I am struggling with finding work, with my marriage, my very difficult relationship with my in-laws, my feelings of self worth ( I am 45 and I feel I have lost the person I was and I do not like the person I have become), and my daughter cut me off of her life; which is by far one of the most devastating experiences of my life. I have become a daughterless mother and I have lost my way and my purpose.
Thank you for sharing. God bless.
I have always defined my self worth by what I can give people. So any time I did not give perfectly I felt like a failure. Finding God was finally feeling like someone could love me as broken as I am. Now I just define my worth by trying to be who God made me to be. By the way, you just seem lovely to me in every way. I am sure that God is very proud of you. Me
That's so sad. Love to our young people 💗
I love your necklace. Where did you get it?
I don't mind how I look like. I try to look others and do not judge their appearance.
But, I sometimes think that my value is to be there for others. Not exactly for those who are in need but for those who want me to do what they want and when I say that I want another thing, there's a conflict.
It's really hard to change this.
I know this struggle oh too well. I try to remind myself that God’s will supersedes whatever anyone else wants me to do. And sometimes He wants me to help and support others too! However, we cannot put their desire over God’s. Continue to lean on Him and pray that you can hear His voice and guidance on what you should do over the voice of other people. He knows the best for us ☺️✨
Yes, he can use others to minister to us, but we need to stay close to Him and build that relationship so we know if doing what they want is God’s desire. Overall, pray for discernment (I like Fr. Gallagher’s talks in TH-cam about this) and continue to ask God to grant you the grace to hear His voice.
I am working on this too so you’re not alone. I hope this helps 😊 God bless ❤️
"Unrepeatable you" ❤thank you😮😢😊
Very nice video. It has value to point why we are worthy than feeling worthless.
Thank U so much for this video ❤❤❤❤
Great advice for women and men!
Thank you God bless 😊
All I can say is thank you😢😊
Thanks for telling me😊❤️❤️❤️❤️
I "know" that the 4 things you stated here are true.........but....believing them is something totally different. I'm a guy and i struggle with this every second of every day. i can see this in other people, but simply cannot see it in myself. I've been successful, provided, etc., but AM NOTHING SPECIAL. I'm not overly smart, talented, tall, or good looking. i just am.
Excellent talk Thank you!!!
Beautiful message ❤
Dear Lillian, thank you very much for your honest and deep content. I congratulate you for your videos! It also helps me, in my "Bad self-worth days", to remember that when I'm weak, God is strong; and that He is present in me and that He sees me as "beautiful beyond words" (Song of songs) just for who I am. He is so countercultural and passionate in choosing and loving us everyday!
Beautiful!❤😊thnx!
Couple od things:
• Love the video, thank you for this amazing reminder❣️ I needed it. ❤️
• Once I went to buy a shampoo and the lady in the shop tried to help me choose one that would best fit me, while all I wanted is a shampoo that smells nice and would keep my hair clean.
Funny thing was, they only sold shampoos like they usually do: for greasy, dry, broken, insert-an-almost-insult types of hair.
And I was like: “My hair’s ok. I just want to clean it.” 😂
• I feel like we shouldn’t point out only the women/men who photoshop themselves or try to make themselves look more attractive on social media.
Some people truly look more attractive even without photoshop or a great camera angle with perfect makeup. And that is okay.
Instead, I think we should focus on everything else you mentioned in your video and accept ourselves the way that we are and the way God loves us, while focusing on what and Who truly matters (Him ❤️).
Good one, Lillian🙏
you have no idea how much I needed this video because tomorrow is September 1st. And its suicidal month prevention and it going to trigger my darkest moments and why I'm trying to fall in love with this woman that I have been praying for two years. and I tell myself should I change myself or is it because of the people I hang with that affects me ;( am i good man or im i cursed. but i know that's not the truth
Men keep up and find new ways. There's thing wey can't change and some of our wishes are not good for us. 🙏🏻🙌🏻✝️
We aren't accidents. We aren't clones. God doesn't make junk. We are God's image bearers and by that fact alone we have worth.
I find my worth in how I can relate to friends and create relationships.
Your nose is fine.
Regarding Q1; unmarried people care about how they look because they want to attract the most desirable mate possible. The pressure is harder on women because physical beauty is an almost universal sought for quality by men. Men, though concerned about their appearance too, focus more on their physical fitness as well as status signals like the car they drive or the clothes they wear because those cue women as to their ability to protect and provide for them and the children they create.
As any married man can tell you, a woman's concern over her appearance diminishes, sometimes disappears completely after she is married.
You'll see.
Love what you are doing to help women! Especially how to be more conservatively dressed. Can you post a link to the necklace? I love that❤
I find my worth from the love of my family.
I WANT THAT BOOK!!!
Ecclesiastes 3:11 says that God has put eternity in everyone’s heart
wow! very inspiring.
Great video
I'm male and I'm more of a intelectual person, i have tendency to feel envy if someone is more intelligent than me I was thinking my worth come of how smart i can be, i was feeling these days like everyone else, but i remember that i can be a saint doesn't matter my call, God doesn't called me to be just another one.
Great video!
Great remarks 😃🥳👏🏻🙏🏻🙌🏻✝️
Worth coming from how you look, or what you do, or in the eyes of the Lord, it doesn’t matter how you define it, I always seem to be unworthy. That probably explains how I am so utterly unable to feel God’s presence in my life. I’m not entirely sure this was the point behind the video, but it’s where my mind went when I saw this
👍👍👍.Thank you
I wanted to like this video, but it's hard to accept the "Looks aren't everything" message from a gorgeous young woman who clearly put a lot of effort into looking good for this video. I know I need to work on myself to get past these personal beliefs about myself, but it's really hard to take her seriously. With prayer hopefully I can overcome these negative thoughts, thanks for trying at least.😢
Hello. She started a video by saying that she experienced a lot of anxiety over her looks in the past and even considered plastic surgery - which was kind of difficult for me to believe since as a guy I can clearly see that Lillian is indeed an attractive woman. I guess that just shows how Satan can deceive each of us over the perception of our appearance, if we are not careful.
But Lillian’s appearance has nothing to do with the message she shares. You can’t build a lasting, meaningful relationship on the physical appearance alone - for starters, there will almost definitely be someone more attractive in the future, and it’s important to not allow that in any way affect your marriage; but also if you’re planning to live together until you’re old, then there will be time when beauty of youth is sadly gone (we live in a broken world) and you certainly don’t think that it would give the husband right for divorce. I’m not saying looks don’t matter, but I tend to agree with the message about it being the least interesting part in a woman.
I find my worth in the way I inspire people