Ask Adam Savage: When You Can't Be Your Authentic Self On Camera
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 24 ธ.ค. 2022
- In this livestream excerpt, Adam answers a MythBusters-related question from Tested member sean reidy, who asks, "Did you find it difficult for your profession to require you to not be your authentic self at times?" Thank you for your support, Sean! Join this channel to support Tested and get access to perks, like asking Adam questions:
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How do I submit a question to Adam? I wasn’t sure if I had to wait until a livestream or if there was a place I could submit one for him to answer. I’d really love his advice on fabrication skills to have for a job
10:34 “Our emotions are not rational and should not be instructions for action.”
That hit different. Holy wow, that sentence stopped me in my tracks and a bunch of things just clicked. Super profound and I hope more people stop and recognise the brilliance of that one line. Damn…
For most emotions that probably holds true. But sometimes if you have a gut feeling you should definitely listen to it.
@@Gamebuster I think there’s a difference between paying attention to our feelings and acting out of emotion or more accurately reacting to our emotions. Just ‘cause you are feeling intense emotions does not mean you cannot think about them.
Say you have a gut feeling you are being lied to. You could yell and scream or you could play PI and try to catch the person out. Having a direct conversation where you express that you feel like you are being deceived and list the behavior that is making you feel uncomfortable is probably the best course of action.
It’s possible to listen to your gut without behaving like a ninny.
If you see somebody walking down the street with a bloody shirt and a knife in his hand is it safe to assume he might hurt you? Or is that a biased opinion based on minimal information?
Anyone?
Yeah that moment when Adam said that hit me in a way I did not expect but very much welcomed.
@@thecloneguyz If you see someone walking down the street with a bloody shirt and a knife in their hand you can be wary based on both rational and emotional reasons. Knife = dangerous is a rational observation. Your premise is flawed.
Many years ago in my first job, my boss told me...
"When you answer the phone, just before you pick it up, think a smile and then answer. The person on the other end of the line is not the reason you are having a terrible day"
It's stood me in good stead throughout my working life ( Currently a support worker working with vulnerable adults )
Thanks Adam for a beautifully honest answer :)
You're a man worth listening too. Not only do you have a lot to offer in the tech/ maker world, your intelligent and well spoken. I've enjoyed the "thing" you produce here. Thank you.
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@@bobbarker987 Chill
@@visassess8607 Yeah basic grammar is just impossible.
The "authentic self" includes how you choose to respond to emotions and present yourself to others. If someone just says every thought that pops into their head, it doesn't make them more "real," just that they use less self control.
I once worked for the F1 world Champion Nigel Mansel on one of his new houses and it was noticeable how he chatted very happily with the blue-collar workers and gave the white-collar bosses a very hard time.
His view was the blue collars build your house, so if you want a decent job.
The white collars are the ones are the ones that send the bill.
This "stop yourself, think about what's happening right now, assess the situation" is what most people are unable to do during heated situation. We all tend to let our emotions dictate our life - regardless of profession... 😶
And that is what I also like about Adam: he can articulate himself and convey a topic/problem/thing in an understandable manner, even with his jumping thoughts. This really is a rare ability... 😎😎👍👍
It amazes me that at first I was watching this channel for the ODB and seeing Adam creating wonderful things, but then I discovered what an amazing Mentor he is in these Q&A sessions. I am not a crafter nor a performer, but these insights and life lessons are suitable for every profession and every person. I am learning so much from him even outside the art&craft realms. Truly amazing and much appreciated.
This dialogue is such a great lesson in any profession. I've often struggled with depression in my life, but a long, long time ago, I learned that even pretending to be positive helps your own mood and performance. When people ask me how I am (common when greeting in the morning at work, or especially when you're putting the groceries on the belt to be scanned by the cashier), I always say "Great" or "fantastic!." I may not always feel that way, but I want those others to feel at ease around me, not like they're walking on eggs, and that exchange often translates to improving my own mood. This video is such great advice.
Man, I love this question! It hits everybody.
I'm retired now, but back then I masked and suppressed emotional responses all the time. Had I not I would have been pegged as unreliable.
We are taught from a very young age to suppress negatives and only express positives in public.
That has to be hugely dangerous psychological practice.
One day I had to walk around the block because I knew the project I was working was [bleeping] doomed and would fail and all off my efforts were absolutely a [bleeping] waste of time.
After twenty minutes I sat down at my desk again and started up again at knocking tasks off my to do list like a good corporate drone for a project doomed to fail. Scope, project plan, resource allocation, sponsor - everything was bad. I soldiered on until 2 AM most nights.
A week later I had my first panic attack. On a bus. Everyone saw. I thought it was a heart attack. I was hyperventilating so hard. I thought I might be dying.
I bollixed up 80 people's lives for at least twenty minutes and had two cop cars and an ambulance show up because I was having a stress induced panic attack because of a poorly managed project.
I got better, eventually.
Thank you so much for sharing. I too am currently involved in a train wreck of a project. Thankfully not in a managerial role but still painful to participate in.
Your comment (as well as Adam's advice) reminds me what I need to be mindful of is my own emotional reactions and well being, not all the chaos surrounding me.
Adam's comment about progressive muscle relaxation can work too... if you can become receptive to it. Initially, it took me about a month of forcing myself to do it once a day at bedtime... and finally my brain accepted that this was a far better approach of treating my body that not doing so.
The best part is you can eventually repeat to yourself internally "Relax" when thinking about your tense facial and head muscles, cheeks, jaw, neck... and work your way down the body. So, you don't even need to physically tense and relax muscles.... you just slowly let your mind do the work.
Deep breathing exercises too help while doing muscle relaxation therapy.
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One thing I learned from that experience and recommended to everyone I met as contract help was an insert into the contract that every hour above 50 in one week gets billed double rate. (And my bill rate was not cheap.)
It certainly cut down on task list bloat. I was fairly senior then and with a fairly rare skill set.
Anything above 60 hours a week is akin to torture. Everyone needs time and space to breathe, decompress, eat, sleep, look vaguely at a screen. Space out.
Good downtime is necessary for efficient uptime.
@@dsnitely I literally just read about this, but there were no instructions. TY for describing this👍
Don't feel bad about the other people on the bus! Be glad you got the help you needed. It's not like you held up the bus at gunpoint & threatened to kill people. But if they refused you help, it would have been that way against you. Hope you're doing alright✌️
We, or at least I, don't mind if you pause while you're talking. It gives us the impression that you are actually thinking about your answers, and not just spouting what you think we want to hear. Keep it up!
Thank you for sharing this side of things, Adam. You set a great example.
i really appreciate your candor, adam! you seem like somebody who's always in a great mood and super-positive (and on the whole, i bet you are), but it's actually really reassuring to know that *even* adam savage has tough days.
Adam is the big brother i always wanted. i could listen to him riff about life all day. Merry Christmas y'all!!
Same!
You're emotionally intelligent and quite hardened for someone who is a positive person. Very rare to be like that especially in the face of personal animosities. Well done and worth the watch.
mythbusters was a massive part of my life. thank you for all the work you did. i used to watch your show with my grandparents every single night, now they both passed last year but i can go back and rewatch it to feel close to them again. ive probably seen almost every single episode but my favorite was always duct tape island or Alcatraz. Also thank you because i never got to take physics but because of this show i definitely know more basics than i would without it.
"Emotions are not instructions!" Sounds like a new T-shirt to me.
I intend to repeat this to myself throughout each day.
Agreed
Thank you for being real. It's hard many times to just turn off emotions, especially when it comes to family and the heart. And acting on emotions is always a bad idea. They often lie to us and make things FEEL much worse than they are. We all deal with this... But many don't know how. It takes practice. It takes patience. Thank you.
What a lovely response, Adam!
I wish we would stop calling thoughtlessly reacting to our emotions as being authentic. It is not.
Responding thoughtfully and with compassion for yourself and the people around you-that's being authentic.
I was told this at my last job, and it applies to everything that I do: "Look around the room. If you can't spot the problem, chances are that it's you."
I always enjoy your frankness & straight-forward answers. That level of clarity in interpersonal communications is sorely missing today. Adam, thank you for a breath of fresh air. :)
This is such a well rounded and useful answer. I've sat through a ton of business classes and there's always a super pat solution to bad days, time crunches, & emotional situations. It usually boils down to suck it up and power through. This is such a refreshing acknowledgement that emotions can't be stuffed down & they aren't always convenient, but self reflection and practice will help.
"Having to maintain" is a superbly apt phrase.
Been there, done done, it exactly the same circumstances. Glad were both still here to share that.
For all of us who spend time on the stage, whether it be,acting, singing, presenting, playing an instrument or whatever: We all to put aside our issues and emotions, focus on the now, and get the job done, and make it palatable, even enjoyable, to our audiences. The proverbial show must go on, if we can’t do this, we are in the wrong profession. Thank you, Adam for. All you do. Merry Christmas!
Thank you for talking about this bit of self awareness of anger in the workplace. That issue is the easiest thing to ignore in the workplace, simply because the people in power have the choice to ignore it or not. Everyone else has to just bite down and deal with it.
"Its not binary" Every day at work (in life) is a different level of masking. Merry Christmas Adam, and everyone. Thankyou for your work, for your enthusiasm and for your inspirational words and creations.
An authentic and genuine Happy Holidays, Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and your's. You've educated us and entertained us more than you can possibly imagine. Wish you the best.
I really love when I watch these videos of Adam discussing a philosophical topic from a different perspective. I've been tasked with giving the cybersecurity talk to our monthly new hire orientation, and I'm naturally a very shy and introverted person so this has been awkward. When Adam mentions taking a moment to relax his body prior to going on stage, it reminded me of what I would consider was my most comfortable moment giving my talk -- as soon as I walked in, before I even started, one of the new hires asked me several questions about our password policy and why certain passwords couldn't be used across different systems. This got my mind off of what I was nervous about (giving my little speech) and made me think about something I enjoy (technical stuff). Now I'm beginning to think of ways I could include some unscripted time like this in the beginning from now on in order to be more engaging with the people I'm talking to.
I love that! “ my emotions are not rational and should not be instructions for action..”
beautiful
I did apprecate those times on the show when things weren't going well or working out favorably that we got to see those emotions - frustration, anger, sadness, disapointment, etc - related to the experiment. It's important for "science shows" to show that aspect of the scientific method because sometimes things go horribly wrong for no apparent reason.
Your comments about how your mood affects your crew reminded me of an episode of Star Trek TNG. Riker was in a grumpy mood and snapped at someone. That person then snapped at someone else, and so on. Eventually it circled back to Riker (from LaForge, if I recall correctly), and Riker was all "What was that all about?"
I love that you print out the questions…it’s such a small detail but like, it’s really sweet, like, something my dad would do
one thing that i love about your videos Adam, and i don't think i was conscious of it till just now, is that you don't chop em up to cut out all the dead air in between sentences. I feel like that has become a standard on youtube. and it drives me up the wall. every video when i see that technique all i can think is, oh they chopped up this video. it's very distracting. And i guess it's just a sign of everyone's tiny attention spans. And your videos have those pauses. It's how humans talk. It's just weird to see someone talk really fast and never take a breath. anyway, LOVE your work. You Rock!
YES! the editing style is refreshing, it was my main take-away from my first watch. Love it.
I'm playing a show with my band tomorrow, and I'll totally take this advice to heart. I get nervous and tense, and every bit of technique to make me relax more helps a ton!
Great question. And great response too. Thankyou for speaking about this issue
Always glad to hear your insights and advice!
I like to think of emotions like gauges on a machine … we should neither live by them, nor ignore them; the really important thing is to understand them.
This is an excellent way to think about emotions! Too many times people don't understand their regulatory gauges and move through life with dash lights on that they just ignore. Well stated.
Thank you for remembering Scotti and Jessi Scottie. They were both good in their time on the show.
Someone said this to me once, and I dont remember who but it went like this: "It never gets any easier, you just get better at it." your comment at 9:15 made me think of this.
Videos like this, where you ramble through answers and are all over the map, I hope you know how your fans feel about them:
We love them. You really are so genuine and thoughtful in your answers, and it shows. I've been to stadium concerts of 50,000 people and been to tiny little concerts with maybe a hundred fans crowded around a stage, and the latter has always been my favorite. It feels much more personal and the musicians normally end up interacting with the crowd and even telling stories about what lyrics mean or why they wrote songs, and that's what this feels like to me. I can honestly say, i'd buy a ticket to a Q&A show and just happily listen to your musings for an hour or two.
TL/DR Love these videos, sir. Please keep'em coming.
I don't watch all of the AAS videos, but I just clicked on this one. What a fantastic question and an even more interesting answer. Thank you for the quick in depth discussion, Adam. Always a joy listening to your takes on balancing professional and personal lives.
Thank you for a very honest and thoughtful response to an interesting question.
That was an amazing question. It really dug deep.
That last 10% is a MoFo! As a juggler I remember the thrill of achieving a five ball cascade quite quickly, but then when I went to 7 it required a whole different approach. I had to envision the pattern appearing and get every throw of the launch perfect. It required a lot more patience and it just couldn't be rushed. The slow fast thing has always worked for me ☺️
Thank you SO MUCH for sharing your life experience with us! And a big thank you to the TESTED crew for their part in bringing this to the world!
I recently had a check on mood and reaction when a coworker insulted me out of the blue. My team lead knew the coworker was cruisin' for a bruisin' and saw the online team chat where I walked unwittingly into that coworkers awareness. I am usually cool, calm and collected, but I'm from a big city where we can give as good as we get. I am forever grateful that my lead saw the trajectory, and headed me off at the pass before I read the vitreol directed at me and my team lead helped me "walk away" and keep it professional. Having a good work environment takes cooperation of the whole team. That coworker will be going to a new team soon, which solves that mess.
Happy Holidays Adam Savage. I watched this video while shuttling between my days Christmas activities, and as always, was impressed with your ability to calmly communicate. People sometimes ask me what YT creators are worth checking out for inspiration as to how to maybe do an online presence "thing", and you and this channel have become my go-to primary recommendation. Kudos to you and your team
I do recall some of the early episodes of Mythbusters where Adam and Jamie were showing tempers.
I do appreciate that it wasn't just their personalities, but also the network trying to get "drama" into the show (like not just showing them argue, but pushing it too). I love that Adam & Jamie grew wiser and overcame their boss obstacles. I mean, look at the other shows... It takes great strength of character to recognize & overcome that.
Merry Christmas Adam! 😎🇨🇦
When you talk about not being your authentic self, it leaves me with the impression that you would be the very kind of person I would love to have worked with and even worked for
Love these fireside chats with you. Or, perhaps, vice-side chats? Excellent insight and thank you for sharing.
Beautiful though process and self reflection, very enjoyable to listen and learn from! Thanks Adam ❤
This was a heavy video. Excellent question and excellent response. Very thought-provoking and helpful for me in my professional and personal life, which all too often intermix. Thank you.
I love this advice in that this can be applied to any profession.
It's 100 percent. And for those with professions that involve speaking to a group of people, whether it's a department meeting, a congregation, or millions of viewers, he is absolutely correct.
Thanks Adam!
I agree. Don't crap on the people below you because all they'll see when they look up is an asshole.
You got boring after the not even a sentence 🙂
Odd that so many people are focusing on some of the most pedantic aspects such as sentence structure to discourage people, which for the record contradicts the message of the video.
Additionally, the notion of being bored by a truncated sentence has to be the most petty thing I've read in a while.
@@thedatatreader I bet your good at a party pal sorry did I just misgender you ?
@@reidycruise If your idea of a party is to insult someone for no reason whatsoever, than I'm more than happy to "crash" it.
Also, Pal isn't gender specific nor to my understanding ever has been, but that's neither here nor there.
I enjoy listening to Adam. So much wisdom and sound guidance.
Adam, thank you so much for all of your amazing content, from builds, tools, and knowledge and advice.
This has truly been an invaluable lesson. Thank you!
Thanks for speaking your mind.
Thank you soo very much for always sharing soo much of yourself and your personal life. Mythbusters was and IS still such an important part of my life and the way all of you guys treat not just your fans but strangers with so much respect. Thank you again, Wishing you and your love ones a very safe and Merry Christmas Happy Holidays. Everyone keep yourselves and love ones safe and healthy. HAPPY HOLIDAYS AND OR MERRY CHRISTMAS 🎅 🎄
I appreciate your insight & understanding of this thing called “life”. Thank you.
So honest and strong advice..Thanks for doing these Adam!
Thank you Adam. Adding “emotions are not rational” to my repertoire. Thank you.
Thank you for digging deep and sharing this information
This has been one of the most educational testeds I’ve watched.
Thanks for sharing Adam.
Inspiring as always. 👍
Interesting question, fascinating and thought-provoking answer
Many in the MBTI community mistype Adam as an ENTP personality but this video right here shows exactly why Adam is an ENFP through and through. He talks about his introverted feelings being his “authentic self” not always tied to outside context and his unconscious, perhaps slightly pessimistic sense of others feelings. ENFP need to feel comfortable to be at their best so “giving Adam a cookie” was spot on advice. His maturity often shows in how he has managed to calm his uncomfortable outbursts at others that may not deserve it with things like soothing and meditation techniques and he has clearly developed extroverted thinking with a massive library of amazing mentors and experiences that few can match. Of course where ENFP really shines is in the spice of life. The variety and near randomness that we’ve all come to love from Adam.
Thanks for sharing Adam. I think it's more amplified being a media personality to maintain a certain image/mask that sometimes the public isn't aware of.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. 23 is gonna be great!
Great vid, thanks for sharing. What you said about men VS women in the workplace got me thinking for a lot of us it's like 2 sides of the same coin. For some it's perfectly acceptable to be emotional at work but at home, in your personal life, society tells some of us to be "strong" or to not cry or show real emotion. Then for a lot of other people, the opposite is true, makes me kinda sad. The world would be a better place if everyone felt safe and comfortable communicating how they feel
Yeah, sexism is a double-edged sword. It doesn't always cut evenly both ways, but it definitely cuts both ways.
That's what I really wished toxic masculinity type men understood. The underlying things that affect me don't /just/ affect me; they affect everyone, including those men as well. Yeah, I'm bringing attention to one particular, usually gendered, issue right then and there in that moment / conversation / thread, but that isn't to say I don't see or care or acknowledge that things are more difficult for them than they have to be. Very much the opposite - I'm speaking out because I want to help them, too. It just sucks that you cannot help someone who absolutely does not want to even admit that there is something they could use help with.
I have learned one important thing about people who yell at you at work. I worked in a factory with possibly the meanest, most intimidating man I have ever met. He would yell at me many many times every shift. I did two important things that eventually got him to be one of my very best friends in that factory. I first blew up on him and let him know where my limit was for his bullying. I also realized that he had been doing that job for 15 years and I was the new guy. This told me to listen to what he is saying, but not how he says it. Once he saw that I was doing that, we became so close at work, that people called us father and son. After so long, new hires actually thought we were father and son. It didn't hurt that we are both 6'3" and were around 275lbs, and both shaved our heads with a little stubble for a beard. I was his off bearer and he told me that after all of the ones he had over the years, I was probably tied for his favorite. I took pride in that.
So, did he realise how he was acting and stop bullying other people as well, or just you?
That's a pretty cool story
I think most of the frustration you two felt was that you both had intimate feelings for each other and didn't know how to express them. Perhaps even confused about them. It's seems you too love birds figured it out and are now enjoying a healthy closet relationship.
@@user-pq6mr6op3p You might be the worst troll I've never heard of.
@@IstasPumaNevada Really? I out rank YourMom?
Thanks Adam. This one resonated with me a lot as I just lost my dad a month ago and I'm still really struggling with putting on my professional face for work.
You're the dad we always wished we had. Thanks.
I really strive to be as wise as you one day foreal man the way you drop real life advice on the spot is crazy.
Ooooo, I needed that reminder starting at 10:30. I also like how Jenny Lawson (The Bloggess) reminds, "Depression lies."
Very good chat
You’re truly an inspiration, Adam! I can’t do shit, but now I’m learning how to create stuff. Right now I’m working on a foam Clone Trooper helmet & it’s so awesome! Thank you for being awesome!
What an interesting and important conversation!
Fantastic video, I love when you go deep ❤. Always love your insights that are about the broader human condition. Thank you.
This is some great stuff to just think consciously about for all situations
Great advice!
As they say in show buisness " The show must go on ! " Queen summed it all up very well in their song.
HAPPY HOLIDAYS TOO YOU AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR
Namaste, Adam. Meditation also saved my life and it all began when I worked on the film, 'THE RIGHT STUFF' 40 years ago. Personally, I'm a TM'er. Namaste .... twice-! Merry Kwanzaa, etc.
D.A.
I love you Adam!! Keep being yourself!!
The more I watch your videos the more they remind me of the talks Dad and I had in his shop. Life, science, crafting, humor, and kind of nucking futz.
I've just watched 4 hours of these Adam reminiscing about Mythbusters videos, I am hooked. It may just be me and the perspective of my tv from my couch, but I can't stop thinking that drill press behind Adam, out of the corner of my eye as I focus on Adam speaking is an AT-ST. It's like a sterogram print. I will focus on Adam and then get distracted by the AT-ST over his shoulder, I focus on it and it goes away, no its just some amazing drill press thing, then I focus back on Adam and the AT-ST is back.
When it comes to work… being on camera is a bit different. It’s similar to being in a customer facing job. Or like myself as a pastor. In offices, or even factories and other jobs, your coworkers become friends and know your mood. Much like you said here. But, being on camera or in a people job… you need to be “on” all the time. And personally, I don’t want that to be fake.
How and when you choose to express your inner thoughts and emotions is also part of your authentic self. It is always a combination of your choices and your biology that guides your action or inaction. You may feel like you're just putting on a performance, sometimes, but remember that you're also the writer, costumer, and director of that performance. The performance comes from who you are.
It occurred to me that no matter what else is going on, if you remember how lucky you are to be doing what and how you're doing it, that would make a big difference. Sometimes when I'm in a horrible mood, just remembering something like that puts everything in a better perspective.
Really nice to see such a considered answer.
Hey, Adam! Would love to get a video about your meditation process/ resources and research you use/ etc! I know you've mentioned it here and there in a bunch of different videos throughout the years, but having it all in one spot would be very helpful ^_^
This is exactly the situation that I'm dealing with currently in my corporate/ trade management job.
Merry Christmas Adam
I didn't realize the amount of showmanship Adam put into Mythbusters. They really were actors as well as makers.
Great advice. Thank you for sharing it.
I’ve been trying to get a TH-cam channel off the ground for a few years (granted, I’ve been very sick for a big chunk of it), and it feels nearly impossible when you can’t be “on.” I’m autistic and it’s just not possible for me to be anyone other than genuine me (like Jamie for example). I’ve had to come to accept that no one wants to see that most of the time 😕
It's so much more difficult to make mask with disability throwing a spanner in the works. I hope that, some day, open display of emotion will be treated with less revulsion.
In the world of youtubers,creatives and such when i look through the people that i gravitate towards and continue to follow are the ones that have honestly and integrity embeded in there DNA. Im an older gent so B.S. and fluff or the dreaded unboxing of a free product they received...do not appeal to me. When you speak of giving talks in front of people it reminds me of my wife when she gave empathy talks in front of a group of Physicians. She worked in the medical field as a Director of Risk Manangement with a focus on Empathy. Her stress was very real getting in front of Doctors with overdeveloped, inflated egos and try and teach them howe to listen better to there patients. Still to this day i admire her for going forward even if it was difficult sometimes. I think i understand the things your speaking through my wifes experiences. I appreciate your candor and the fun way you go about bringing content. Thanks.
I've worked in management pretty much my whole life, and I feel emotional regulation is _highly_ important. It is totally inappropriate for a leader to get angry and throw a temper tantrum or walk around pouting. Yes, we all feel emotions, but it's critical for the performance of a team that the leader keep the mood positive.
I've had people comment how impressed they are at my ability to stay calm under pressure. Thing is, I'm not necessarily calm, I just present that way because that's part of my role as a supervisor to keep things from going off the rails. Having that reputation as the level-headed boss also means I can use my emotions as a tool. If an employee is completely out of line or being belligerent, I can start to show a small, controlled level of emotion. Since that's out of character for me, that will make them realize they are out of line. I very rarely have to do this, but when I've done it, the employee(s) immediately shaped up and then even came back later to apologize for their behavior.
I've also had bosses who _couldn't_ regulate their emotions at all. Some people were afraid of them. I just ignored everything they said and did what I needed to complete my job. If you're out there blowing a gasket, you're obviously emotionally unstable and irritational and are incapable of making logical decisions, so I have to make them for you.
Love the way meditation plays a part in our lives. Slow and steady, its a process ❤
Haha even before he said the cookie bit, I had it in my head from the early Mythbusters days a moment where he had stormed off and Jamie went, “Adam needs a cookie!”
"Emotions should not be instructions for action." -Adam Savage