I was going to say this very much depends. We're only getting one side. I fully agree that a dog is a huge committment and everyone needs to agree. But there's more to this story I would think.
I just went to the original post on Reddit and yeah there's more going on than just this puppy. They went to marriage counseling the year before because she felt he was never present and was constantly just doing his own thing and ignoring family responsibilities and told him if things didn't change then they weren't going to work out. Then suddenly he gets this dog completely ignoring her wishes and acts like she's controlling when she says I don't want this dog. Yeah I think this marriage is doomed
Live animals should never be surprise gifts. They should always be given with consent. But this sounds like a slightly disfunctional relationship. And we only have one side, there are likely to have been more discussions based around how she misses not having a dog, alongside the discussions about waiting to get a dog. So mixed messages. As for the separation? That just tells you that all is not right and there are serious issues. Maybe the woman is depressed and difficult to live with? Maybe the husband is depressed and needs to build a bond again. There is definitely something seriously wrong.
The guy is telling you it is his way or the highway. He wants the separation and wants to do whatever he wants. Do you have a spiritual person you can talk to like a priest or pastor because he is pushing you into divorce against your will.
May be he did want the dog for himself, but the kids also did. Yes u work long hours but so do others and still have pets. I work long hours and still have pets.
So who takes care of your pets when you aren’t there? Are your dogs home all day by themselves? Does someone else actually take care of them for you. Selfish AH
NTA. It is a sweet gift but should have been discussed first. Not worth a divorce over. I would go with the flow. A husband who would purchase a puppy for you sounds like a good guy. Would a divorce really be worth it?
A man that threatens separation when he buys you a "present" against your desires is one to let leave if he takes the opportunity. NTA
I was going to say this very much depends. We're only getting one side. I fully agree that a dog is a huge committment and everyone needs to agree. But there's more to this story I would think.
I just went to the original post on Reddit and yeah there's more going on than just this puppy. They went to marriage counseling the year before because she felt he was never present and was constantly just doing his own thing and ignoring family responsibilities and told him if things didn't change then they weren't going to work out. Then suddenly he gets this dog completely ignoring her wishes and acts like she's controlling when she says I don't want this dog. Yeah I think this marriage is doomed
This is more then just an issue about a dog.
Is your husband going to take care of the dog, too? Otherwise, he is being selfish!
In that case, he just wanted the dog, but not the responsibility.
His reaction was just manipulative. You are NTA.
Live animals should never be surprise gifts. They should always be given with consent.
But this sounds like a slightly disfunctional relationship.
And we only have one side, there are likely to have been more discussions based around how she misses not having a dog, alongside the discussions about waiting to get a dog.
So mixed messages.
As for the separation? That just tells you that all is not right and there are serious issues. Maybe the woman is depressed and difficult to live with? Maybe the husband is depressed and needs to build a bond again.
There is definitely something seriously wrong.
NTA
Going to separate over a dog?
Let's be real. He got the puppy for himself.
The guy is telling you it is his way or the highway. He wants the separation and wants to do whatever he wants. Do you have a spiritual person you can talk to like a priest or pastor because he is pushing you into divorce against your will.
May be he did want the dog for himself, but the kids also did. Yes u work long hours but so do others and still have pets. I work long hours and still have pets.
So who takes care of your pets when you aren’t there? Are your dogs home all day by themselves? Does someone else actually take care of them for you. Selfish AH
NTA. It is a sweet gift but should have been discussed first. Not worth a divorce over. I would go with the flow. A husband who would purchase a puppy for you sounds like a good guy. Would a divorce really be worth it?
Not worth a divorce unless this is a pattern with him. His way or the highway kind of thing.