Daughter - “Doing The Right Thing”

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  • Official video for Daughter’s single ‘Doing The Right Thing’.
    ‘Doing The Right Thing’ was the first single to be taken from Daughter’s new album ‘Not To Disappear’, released on the 15th January 2016 via 4AD/Glassnote.
    Buy the album here:
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    www.ohdaughter.com
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    Director: IAIN FORSYTH & JANE POLLARD
    Producer: VANESSA FARINHA
    Original Story: DRESS’ BY STUART EVERS
    CAST (IN ORDER OF APPEARANCE)
    Harry: Richard Syms
    Dry Cleaner: Andrew Orr
    Bella: Sibeal McGuinne
    Couple: Livia Rita and George Vere
    Son: Dean Alan
    Boys: Hal Holmans Thompson and Dexter Anker
    CREW:
    Director of Photography: CHLOË THOMSON
    Editor: RACHAEL SPANN
    Casting Director: LAYLA MERRICK-WOLF
    Art Director: CARA BARRY
    Production Stylist: SAL PITTMAN
    Hair & Make-up: MARTINA LUISETTI
    Screenplay: CARA BARRY
    Focus Puller: Emil Davidov
    Steadicam Operator: Matthew Allsop
    2nd Assistant Camera: Howard Mills
    DIT: Joe Lovelock
    Gaffer: Harry Gay
    Spark: Hugh Donnelly
    Grip: Ian Ogden
    Grip Assistant: Adam Zimmerman
    Art Assistant: Lucy Baker
    Runners: Maddison Eddy, Lucy McLeod and Callum Knauf
    Assistant Editor: Jamie Hodgson
    Edited at: Work Post
    Colourist: Tom Balkwill
    Visual Effects: Jorge Canada Escorihuela
    Online Editor: Gareth Bishop
    Confirmed At: Dirty Looks
    Production AssistantsL Andrew Orr, Samantha Holmans
    Archive: Dementia 13 (1963) Directed by Francis Coppolla
    With Thanks: Onsight, Panalux, Walpole Bay Hotel
    A PRODUCTION BY THE NOTHING
    COPYRIGHT: 4AD / GLASSNOTE 2015

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  • @CROAiva
    @CROAiva 9 ปีที่แล้ว +648

    the moment i saw the old man i knew i would cry watching this.....old people in music videos always make me cry..

    • @TheTjxxxxxx
      @TheTjxxxxxx 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      +ivy this is my life.

    • @crystalko4012
      @crystalko4012 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      every time I see his face, my heart hurts

    • @coolguyinaredshirt9251
      @coolguyinaredshirt9251 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      +T.j. Rakes I think can related to at least one of daughters song

    • @coolguyinaredshirt9251
      @coolguyinaredshirt9251 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      everyone

    • @KingGumboot
      @KingGumboot 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      +ivy Watch the music video to Hoppipola by Sigur Ros! Old, but happy people :)

  • @courtneybryant4874
    @courtneybryant4874 9 ปีที่แล้ว +257

    i work with people with dementia, up until their final moments and i cannot express the heartache that this song captures. I cannot explain with words the helplessness you feel around people suffering with the disease. They have lost their children, they have lost their loves, they just sit in silence and let the picture soak out of televisions. SUCH PERFECT LYRICS.

  • @gab-jz4sw
    @gab-jz4sw 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I listen to Daughter since 2013, and i used to love and feel this song. In 2019 my father was diagnosed with alzheimer. Yesterday he passed away. I'm wirting this comment full of tears, it hurts so much, it really does. Please, take care of your familly.

    • @arianicardoso1388
      @arianicardoso1388 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sinto muito, muito!

    • @gab-jz4sw
      @gab-jz4sw 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@arianicardoso1388 obrigada!

    • @Tech_Spotted
      @Tech_Spotted 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      May your father rest in peace.

  • @lh4864
    @lh4864 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1555

    Wow. Just wow. I'm a huge Daughter fan, and over the years of obsessing over their music, I noticed that their songs sound more profound and jarring when you're in the mood for dark and somber music. On the rare occasions that I'm happy, I can't listen to them at all. But days like today, it's all I listen to. Maybe I'm crazy for wanting to wallow in my misery, but their music makes me feel alive when I don't want to be.

    • @Meyour67120
      @Meyour67120 7 ปีที่แล้ว +103

      You're not crazy at all. It's even the opposite, you're in good mental health. Hearing sad song make actually people happy, by a cathartic effect. It's like allowing our emotions to be express, by the media of art.

    • @hander929
      @hander929 6 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      "makes me feel alive when I don't want to be." This really got me. :'( ♥

    • @peterpowis4145
      @peterpowis4145 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      yes, completely get it. when I feel low or raw - "how" by Daughter - or music by Olafur Arnalds embrace me....

    • @S0mbretit
      @S0mbretit 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      You could not have explained it any better. You need a specific mind set to truely appreciate Daughter. You can just have them come on in shuffle and truely enjoy it

    • @zoecarlibur
      @zoecarlibur 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Wow! Best compliment ever

  • @blumeplants
    @blumeplants 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1474

    Lyrics:
    And they’re making children
    And they’re making love
    With their old excuses
    "We are built for reproduction"
    But I find it soothing
    When I am confined
    I’m just fearing one day soon
    I’ll lose my mind
    Then I’ll lose my children
    Then I’ll lose my love
    Then I’ll sit in silence
    Let the picture(s) soak
    Out of televisions
    Float across the room
    Whisper into one ear
    Out the other one
    (Instrumental break)
    Then I’ll take my clothes off
    And I’ll walk around
    Because it’s so nice outside
    And I like the way the sun feels
    And when it’s dark
    I’ll call out in the night for my mother
    But she isn’t coming back for me
    Cause she’s already gone
    But you will not tell me that
    Cause you know it hurts me every time you say it
    And you know you are doing the right thing
    You must know you are doing the right thing
    I have lost my children
    I have lost my love
    I just sit in silence
    Let the picture(s) soak
    Out of televisions x5
    (Instrumental break)
    And they’re making children
    Everyone’s in love
    I just sit in silence
    Let the picture(s) soak...
    *please let me know if any of the lyrics need to be corrected :)

    • @ravengstrom5122
      @ravengstrom5122 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      thanks!

    • @blumeplants
      @blumeplants 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Emmy Engström No worries!

    • @caesaresteban
      @caesaresteban 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Belinda LD Thank you so muuuch!

    • @laurathyregod8289
      @laurathyregod8289 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ... Sit in silence, let the picture soak

    • @Mica98
      @Mica98 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm not sure about the "clothes off" I think it says "coat off"

  • @yurmum422
    @yurmum422 6 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    I work with an ederly couple and it's just like this. He's 72 and she's 73 and she has dementia/Alzheimer's . He is heartbroken and lonely living in the house they built together watching her deteriorating right before his eyes. He said I'll never forget the day the nurse asked if she could tell her who I was and she said I don't know. He said I went to the barn and cried like a baby. My heart aches for him. He tells stories of how active and kind she was and to see how she can barely walk now with assistance kills us. She still smiles and laughs however so I'm going to keep it going as long as I can and he says my company helps so that's something.

  • @se3002
    @se3002 7 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    "but you will not tell me that! 'cause you know it hurts me everytime you say it and you know you were doing the right thing, you must know you were doing the right thing" this parts gets me everytime

  • @Jistarii
    @Jistarii 9 ปีที่แล้ว +938

    As someone who has seen multiple family members go through Alzheimers and Dementia. Its terrifying, and this song really puts weight to all of that.
    "And when it’s dark
    I’ll call out in the night for my mother
    But she isn’t coming back for me
    Cause she’s already gone"
    I've seen my family members call out for family that has already died, and then to explain to them that the people they love are no longer there anymore, and watch them go through the heartbreak again, just like the previous day you explained it. Life is precious. Don't waste it. Spend time with the people you love. Tell them you love them, show them you love them. Because tomorrow is never promised.

    • @enriquedv353
      @enriquedv353 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      same, though sometimes it was kinda funny, when I would bring a friend home she would say like "oh my grandson!" and my friends would get so confused. But yeah she always forgets her mother died and sometimes doesn't recognise my grandfather so that's really sad.

    • @notyourbusiness7239
      @notyourbusiness7239 9 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      My mother works at a hospital for the elderly who have Alzheimers, and just hearing about the families breaks my heart. My mother comes home and tells me about her patients (of course not specifically, that would break the confidentiality) and they don't remember their own children or grandchildren. It breaks my heart just thinking about the patients being so confused and conflicted. The family crying because they have lost their loved one. I really feel for everyone who is going through this. You can get through it.

    • @mattchibi
      @mattchibi 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      +Jacob Toles Thanks for sharing. This song and video is beautiful and terrifying at the same time.

    • @themumblingdumpling2838
      @themumblingdumpling2838 8 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      +Alexia Figueroa Alzheimers is terryfying. It's like the're not dead yet... but the person they were is no longer here.

    • @kiriosh
      @kiriosh 8 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      +Jacob Toles last sentences are one of the most beautiful words I've ever read there on TH-cam. Thank you for it, mate!

  • @latvians13
    @latvians13 4 ปีที่แล้ว +154

    I love Elena. She writes, sings, plays from her soul.
    This one really hits home
    My Mom died from Alzheimer's in 2008. And Grandparents.
    Please tell the ones you Love, show them, do it today.
    We don't know what can happen and tomorrow is not promised.
    Much love, peace & hope to all

    • @devpanda8996
      @devpanda8996 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Much love, peace and hope to you as well, hope you are doing well.

  • @MicahBuzanANIMATION
    @MicahBuzanANIMATION 7 ปีที่แล้ว +780

    We're all suffering. The only thing we can do is have compassion.

    • @inesmeziane2361
      @inesmeziane2361 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Micah Buzan You right

    • @CharlieMarno100
      @CharlieMarno100 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Or we can turn that suffering into bitterness and hatred. More than one option...

    • @CharlieMarno100
      @CharlieMarno100 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Don't be naive. We can also damage others so that we are not the only ones hurting. And it happens A LOT.

    • @randromix8135
      @randromix8135 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree, it's better to cheer people up when they're going through hard times. Try to live life the best you can

    • @vagelisk5548
      @vagelisk5548 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      The ancient Greeks know it better 2.500 years ago. Life is full of pathos (suffering) and they thought that the only remedy for mortal men is eleos (compassion in Greek). Greek Tragedy can teach all of us...

  • @crystalko4012
    @crystalko4012 9 ปีที่แล้ว +446

    my heart turns fragile whenever I see edlerlies in pain ugh please.

    • @edwardmarshall2035
      @edwardmarshall2035 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Somehow elderlies sounds derogatory in my head, but I know what you mean. Old people are cute.

    • @thediplomic8661
      @thediplomic8661 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +Edward Marshall Yeah the "lies" part seems as if although we know it wasn't intended to.

    • @darrenbrown7037
      @darrenbrown7037 8 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      +Edward Marshall Did you know that referring to old people as "cute" is actually quite demeaning? Not trying to be mean here, I just couldn't help but comment because in your reply you state that "elderlies" is derogatory and then you go on to call old people "cute." There is an ongoing agreement in our culture that it's okay to refer to elderly people as cute, and yet it only reinforces a prejudices ageism, there is a loss of respect and dignity when people who have lived the extraordinary ups and down of an entire lifetime are reduced to being "cute." Old people know more emotional, mental, and physical pain than anyone, they know the spectrum of human diversity and experience, "cute" was the first 10 years of their life, what of the journey that followed the next 70 years thereafter? I'm not so sure cute is the word I would use to describe such an immense achievement.

    • @shrekhasgay2785
      @shrekhasgay2785 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Darren Brown I would more describe it, "wise."

    • @orlandogloom5409
      @orlandogloom5409 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Nice long post but, not sure what you're talking about. Maturity has little to do with age and (to an extent) experience, and so does respectability, seriousness, etc. I wish people would/could think before attempting to (supposedly) correct others, or upvoting someone's comment... sigh...

  • @fabled.
    @fabled. 5 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    I saw an interview where the band mentions that Elena is exclusively writing all the lyrics for their songs. I can't imagine what her private thoughts are like, to be able to so consistently evoke feelings of sadness and despair...

    • @leviacronym6770
      @leviacronym6770 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I imagine her thoughts to be very intelligent and empathetic, just like her music.

  • @SLE3PR
    @SLE3PR 9 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Daughter is like a conduit for all the sadness in the world.

  • @Ashethetics
    @Ashethetics 9 ปีที่แล้ว +254

    All the comments going "I didn't expect Daughter's new single to be soooooo depressing" It's DAUGHTER haha. Were you expecting a dance around the maypole?

  • @isabellaj3499
    @isabellaj3499 7 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    im not even exaggerating when i say i sobbed. i was already moved by the time the man was in the launderette, and then when he was walking back home, and we see the couple with the face paint on, i broke. the stark contrast between him with the empty, wrapped in plastic, red jacket, and then the guy kissing the girl on the forehead, both of them wearing face paint, i couldnt take i anymore.
    AND THE MARRIAGE PHOTOS AND THE RING ON HIS FINGER
    but i mean most of all, the fucking lyrics. there are no words to describe how much each and every one of daughter's songs touch me, but this song gets me every. time.
    i also want to say that i did just watch three other daughter music videos so the 'oh my god i am about to cry' level was already quiite high

  • @DoubleBread
    @DoubleBread 8 ปีที่แล้ว +279

    I can't watch this anymore, it hurts so much...

    • @nesrinehamidat6829
      @nesrinehamidat6829 7 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      I say as I hit replay and cry like a baby.

    • @Mars.95
      @Mars.95 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I only watch this if I know i'm okay with bawling my eyes out for a bit. My grandmother had dementia and lived with us when I was a kid and it was so hard to watch her go thru it and then to find out it could run in the family.....It's over for my grandmother but the thought of my mom or sister getting it wrecks me.

  • @QueenErrr
    @QueenErrr 8 ปีที่แล้ว +70

    A few years ago NOBODY knew who Daughter was. This new album is so fucking awesome and I'm glad that they're now getting the exposure they deserve.

  • @AKAtAGG
    @AKAtAGG 6 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    her voice is like medicine

  • @HelenRachael
    @HelenRachael 8 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    I don't really call anyone ever because I'm an awkward person but my nan recently got her hearing aids sorted and can hear much better now, watching this emphasised for me how lonely she must get on her own in a different city, so I think I'm going to start calling her each week for a chat when I can't travel to see her.
    What a powerful song.

    • @cherixberry
      @cherixberry 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Did you remember to call your nan?

    • @leviacronym6770
      @leviacronym6770 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Great idea. Life is short and too many people forget about their parents and grandparents.

    • @sicsempertyrannis9024
      @sicsempertyrannis9024 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

  • @haziqzaq
    @haziqzaq 9 ปีที่แล้ว +870

    If you leave, remember not to disappear.

  • @inheavenandinhell
    @inheavenandinhell 3 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    This song came out 15 days after my dad died of cancer in 2015. I can only listen to this song once in a great while, and it helps me release all those pent up emotions by crying hysterically.
    Some things never get easier.

    • @phained
      @phained 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Hope youre ok, its hard it really is and it may not get easier but you get stronger and better over time.

    • @inheavenandinhell
      @inheavenandinhell ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you. ❤️ it never gets easier to feel, but it does get easier to try to remember only the good memories because once they’re gone that and their belongings are all you’ll have to remember them by.

  • @jmtothemusic
    @jmtothemusic 8 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    We start our lives with everything- a family, a home, a life ahead of us. All of our life we experience and learn and struggle, and we still inevitably die with nothing anyway. It's the ultimate paradox that once we have the experience and knowledge to really love properly, there's nothing left for us. How sad.

    • @thelegendkillersshittyduff1335
      @thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      jmtothemusic god is def a pos if he is out in the sky. Looking down at us suppose to be protecting us.

    • @inheavenandinhell
      @inheavenandinhell 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Some of us don’t even get that. But we do all die and get to keep nothing we’ve gained.
      That’s the one undeniable truth to life.

    • @blammmed
      @blammmed 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      crying

    • @edgepixel8467
      @edgepixel8467 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335
      If there is a god, he's definitely a piece of shit. It's why I stopped believing.

  • @Adrimetalcore22
    @Adrimetalcore22 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    It's 2023 and I still can't ... I can't with the song, I can't with the vídeo, it's too much...
    Thank you one and a thousand more times for creating it. Thank you.

  • @bethanymaud3893
    @bethanymaud3893 8 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I care for people who are suffering from dementia and this song really captures what those beautiful people go through.

  • @Jojo-fh2yr
    @Jojo-fh2yr 9 ปีที่แล้ว +165

    OMFG I'VE WAITED FOREVER I CANT! jesus take the fucking wheel

    • @1690mckenzie
      @1690mckenzie 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      haha. Dont give it to me! *passes to the next person

    • @Kodalmao
      @Kodalmao 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      +Amanda Mckenzie haha what

    • @1690mckenzie
      @1690mckenzie 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks John Smith. I will.

    • @badwinkles7896
      @badwinkles7896 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      lmfao

  • @BURNOUTRS
    @BURNOUTRS 7 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    I feel like there was a time when this would have been too much for me. it would have been too depressing and it would have served, to me at least, as some sort of grim reminder of the pain and suffering that the worlds seems to be full of.
    Now I can't see how i could have ever been so blind. i want to put it into perspective and say that I've had my own fight with anxiety and depression since I was very young. the above statement is reflective of who i was as a teenager. Now at 22 I see things in a completely different light.
    This video, this song, as Daughter's work most often does, makes me cry. it make me bawl, it makes me feel a sadness so incredibly deep that, paradoxically, it feels empowering. If I've suffered in this way, if so many people that come to these videos have suffered in some way, then it means we need to make a change.
    I no longer feel that this music is willing me to be depressed, instead it should stand as the impetus to spread as much love throughout the world as I can. If you feel saddened by what you see and hear, let that motivate you to do everything you can to make a difference in this world.

    • @deborahpaulenenchehawthorn
      @deborahpaulenenchehawthorn 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Thank you for such powerful and consoling words.I myself currently struggle with depression, anxiety and post traumatic stress. I'm so grateful to be reminded that through the grievances and the hurt I have suffered, there is beauty in the world and I can be an avenue of perpetuation of said beauty.

    • @leviacronym6770
      @leviacronym6770 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lots of people will hear Daughter and automatically call the band's music "depressing" because they don't know what depression really is. Something being depressing is more than just feeling "sad". The only ones, like you and me, that can understand it are those that have gone through depression. So yeah, I get why the happy people would misuse the word, lol. But could this music help enhance people's depression? Maybe, but it doesn't for me personally. As someone that suffers from mental illness, depression being part of it, since I was a teenager (in my 30's now), I can safely say this type of music doesn't depress me at all. If anything, it liberates me. It feels real, and I can relate to it on many levels. If I need a good cry, it's always there and lets me release all of my feelings without hurting myself. No amount of "happy" pop music or banging bad ass metal can ever hope to do an inch of what Daughter and other talented musicians do for me. Music has played an important role in my life, and I honestly believe that without it, I would have killed myself when I was much younger. Obviously, Daughter and other music, is different for everyone, but for me, for someone that has suffered depression, anxiety, and more, since I was a kid, I can say this music is both freeing and comforting for me. But I do think you're right that this music can help motivate you into doing something to make others happy, or just to live your life more fully since tomorrow is never promised to us.

    • @bruh666
      @bruh666 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you for this. I find it strange when people call sad music "depressing" or avoid it for that reason. Sadness isn't a bad emotion and expresing sadness through music can be beneficial.

  • @maggiereedy4079
    @maggiereedy4079 9 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    This song hit me like a ton of bricks. Dementia is such a painful thing to watch a family struggle with. Watching a loved one slip through your fingers. The last thing my sweet Grandmother Viola said to me, with her hands cupping my face was, "You are such a beautiful woman. You look just like my daughter, you should meet her sometime." *sniff

  • @CAPTAIN_CLOCK
    @CAPTAIN_CLOCK 3 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    I've listened to this album countless times over two years. I have just gotten the news that my grandmother has an initial case of Alzheimer's, and it reminded me of this song. I don't know what to do, knowing that I'll have to watch her life come to sitting in silence, letting the pictures soak out of televisions (she really likes to watch TV). Just thought I'd write this down somewhere, to make myself more aware of it.
    Grandmother, I am terribly sorry.

    • @Angel-sd5nc
      @Angel-sd5nc 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Its a beautiful pain, she gave birth the next generations and can now rest in a heaven, she won't be dead here until she's forgotten.

    • @HaleG9
      @HaleG9 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@Angel-sd5nc which will be soon though, like we will all be forgotten soon

    • @Angel-sd5nc
      @Angel-sd5nc ปีที่แล้ว

      @@HaleG9 if there is a god, he'll remember each and everyone of us, so we'd never really be truly forgotten

  • @kike707rodriguez6
    @kike707rodriguez6 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    It's been a few months since my grandmother passed away, and in the last few months she suffered from dementia. This song is very heartbreaking for me, every time I listen to it I always get tears. Thank you Elena for sharing your art with the world, I am lucky to always be able to listen to you, your music has always helped me to remove the sadness that I carry inside, thank you.

  • @NatalieCatMeow233
    @NatalieCatMeow233 9 ปีที่แล้ว +100

    oh my GOD, i expected a sad music video but holy shit not that sad
    this is a beautiful song

    • @frname7665
      @frname7665 9 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      +NatalieCatMeow This video is extremely sad... I think you didn't understand it's meaning haha

    • @NatalieCatMeow233
      @NatalieCatMeow233 9 ปีที่แล้ว

      i did understand it lmao ok

    • @frname7665
      @frname7665 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      NatalieCatMeow
      Then if you think it's not that sad you're stone hearted haha

    • @NatalieCatMeow233
      @NatalieCatMeow233 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      uhm?? i said i didnt expect it to be as sad as it is lmao, you took it the wrong way

    • @frname7665
      @frname7665 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      NatalieCatMeow
      I read "it's not that sad", OK I'm sorry, my mistake hahaha

  • @BlodTussi
    @BlodTussi 8 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    God, this song AND video strikes me hard in the feels. I recently discovered Daughter and I am already obsessed with several songs. I have to say that this video actually makes sense with the music. Can't tell you how many songs have weird, kinda out there videos that don't always correlate to the song itself. But this one works very well. Separately, both are strong, but put together, they make my eyes water. It's so sad, so realistic, and it makes me want to cry. I LOVE this song so much along with Still and Landfill.
    The part in the song/video that gets to me the most is:
    And when it’s dark
    I’ll call out in the night for my mother
    But she isn’t coming back for me
    Cause she’s already gone
    But you will not tell me that
    Cause you know it hurts me every time you say it
    And you know you are doing the right thing
    You must know you are doing the right thing

    • @TheNaughtyvenus
      @TheNaughtyvenus 8 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I was you (in terms of discovering Daughter) few months ago and I have the same to say about this amazing band...including the stuff about some video these days not actually going with the lyrics. I guess I'm old school... My favourites are Youth, Medicine, Still and Smother...

  • @TemenosL
    @TemenosL 9 ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Stop making me cry, Daughter!
    No, really though, keep doing what you do! Elena, Igor, Remi, we love the music you make. (:

  • @Meyour67120
    @Meyour67120 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This band is a gift for mankind.

  • @ericrickard6315
    @ericrickard6315 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is the only music video that makes me bawl my eyes out every time I watch it

  • @anotherdoktor
    @anotherdoktor 8 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    Lyrics for russian guys
    (перевод взял с амальгамы)
    Они заводят детей
    И занимаются любовью,
    По традиции оправдывая это тем,
    Что созданы для продолжения рода.
    А я нахожу успокаивающим,
    Когда сижу в четырех стенах.
    Я лишь боюсь, что однажды
    Сойду с ума.
    Затем я потеряю своих детей,
    Затем я потеряю свою любовь,
    Затем я буду сидеть в тишине,
    Впитывать картинки
    Из телевизора,
    Плывущие по комнате,
    Шепчущие в одно ухо
    И вылетающие из другого.
    Затем я скину одежду
    И пойду гулять,
    Потому что снаружи так хорошо,
    И мне нравится ощущать на себе лучи солнца.
    А когда стемнеет,
    Я буду звать в ночи свою мать
    Но она не вернется за мной,
    Потому что ее уже нет.
    Но я знаю, что ты мне этого не скажешь,
    Потому что ты знаешь, как мне больно это слышать от тебя каждый раз.
    И ты знаешь, что поступаешь правильно,
    Ты должен знать о том, что поступаешь правильно.
    Я потеряла своих детей,
    Я потеряла любовь.
    Я просто сижу в тишине
    И впитываю картинки
    Из телевизора,
    Из телевизора,
    Из телевизора,
    Из телевизора,
    Из телевизора.
    Они заводят детей,
    Все влюблены...
    А я сижу в тишине
    И впитываю картинки...

    • @ladytatakae5869
      @ladytatakae5869 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Спасибо, только хотела зайти туда, а тут! Спасибо!!

    • @panfriedgoblins
      @panfriedgoblins 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You god

  • @BabyGrill103
    @BabyGrill103 8 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I love Elena's voice she makes me belive in angels.

  • @daniellilazcano5805
    @daniellilazcano5805 5 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I remember I used to not like this song, but told myself I'd come back to this. Somehow I knew someday I'll like this song.
    Now that I gave it another try, I wept like a child.
    This is hauntingly beautiful.
    It makes you ponder of things- of life.
    It is a scary feeling. But it reminded me, that I can still feel.
    I can not thank you enough, Daughter. You make me feel things I did not know I am capable of feeling

  • @leviacronym6770
    @leviacronym6770 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    He starts off walking downhill, which is relatively easy for him, but after getting her dress, he has to walk uphill, and it becomes harder for him, as he makes his way back. The symbolism is great there, especially when he walks by a happy couple and right after, has to sit down and rest and he ends up breaking down and crying. Then there's the kids at the end, full of life and happy, kicking trash around, which looks like dust/ash. This video and the music, of course, is just so heart breaking beautiful and meaningful. The pictures, the mementos around the room, and then the empty room...a lot of us can relate to this. I've heard this song and watched this video many times and it never fails to strike me hard in the chest. Judging by all the comments, a lot of people have been just as moved, and some more so than others. Loss is so hard for so many people and Daughter captures it perfectly.

  • @iunnoo
    @iunnoo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I've been missing out on daughter for the last 5 years and I have no excuse but I'm here now and I'm enjoying my stay

  • @ladydaisy99
    @ladydaisy99 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've started crying at the beginning and i can't stop

  • @unicornstasher
    @unicornstasher 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The actress walking by with her bf and beer really did a great job of pulling in the video. Her face conveyed so much in the way of letting us know that she felt bad /was willing to be nice yet was in another world from him. Perfect moment where everyone including the director killed it and actually presented an undertone of emotion that sums up how different the world can be even within the same physical space.

  • @giselledanielle1038
    @giselledanielle1038 9 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Her voice=chills!!

  • @mehera5218
    @mehera5218 9 ปีที่แล้ว +114

    2:55 Anyone notice how the couple walking past have the same face paint as seen on the album cover of 'The Wild Youth'?

    • @mariajuliaferreiragarros8692
      @mariajuliaferreiragarros8692 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      WHAT THE HELL

    • @afecx8249
      @afecx8249 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mariajuliaferreiragarros8692 I mean it’s there own music video.. so yeah lol

    • @mariajuliaferreiragarros8692
      @mariajuliaferreiragarros8692 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@afecx8249 yeaahhh i see it... I love how many references daughter puts in their videos

  • @lunadaana6040
    @lunadaana6040 8 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I've known about this band since the 7th grade and I can't believe they're still so underrated, like what are people listening to? This stuff is beautiful !!

  • @carolshepherd7370
    @carolshepherd7370 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I also as a registered nurse worked with many Alzheimer's dementia folks and even now years later this song really stabs you in the heart what the people or the family that's remaining feels and goes through watching someone disappear right before their eyes but they're still alive

  • @capturesintime639
    @capturesintime639 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    After crying my whole childhood, I sit here, 15. Tearless and free. Because I find the pain soothing, freeing, in a way. Because at least it is the truth.

  • @mushroomburrito
    @mushroomburrito 9 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Find one person that could sing the lyrics "and they're making children, and they're making love, with their old excuses we're built for reproduction" more poetic and beautiful than Elena does... Their music is art

  • @111a-j2z
    @111a-j2z 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    "Cause she's already gone" always makes me cry, I hope I never lose any of my parents, this song makes me imagine how I'd feel and appreciate them more. I hope I die first or something and never feel that way.

  • @danzilla20
    @danzilla20 9 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I never make comments really... But Thank you for coming back to my life again Daughter, the significance of this song being released now is no coincidence. Very moving and so perfect. I see that the kids from Wild Youth EP are all grown up :) Many thanks hope to hear more of your beautiful music.

  • @1312nikolas
    @1312nikolas 8 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This has some seriously good cinematography going on..

  • @pcmood8073
    @pcmood8073 9 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Wasn't enjoying it much the first time I watched the clip.
    But by the second time (Properly listening to the lyrics), it really hit me.
    Aging scares me now more than ever (thanks Daughter).
    Great lyrics, Nice instrumentals.
    Can't wait for the rest of the album xD

  • @JSpyx
    @JSpyx 9 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I shed a tear I love the music, the poetry Daughter produces. This one is once again a story beautifully told. A portrait regarding Alzheimer disease or dementia so I think.
    I'm frozen, the music video elaborated it so well....
    "I’m just fearing one day soon I’ll lose my mind
    Then I’ll lose my children
    Then I’ll lose my love
    Then I’ll sit in silence
    Let the pictures soak"

  • @cgalanowsky
    @cgalanowsky 9 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    One of the better music videos I've seen in my life..direction and cinematography is incredible

    • @Tallster3
      @Tallster3 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      And the new one too!! The director of "Doing the Right Thing" and "Numbers" deserves an award... Absolutely amazing, breath-taking, genius, and beautiful videos (and I can't wait for the third!!)

  • @charliiebrown6121
    @charliiebrown6121 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    My grandmother passed away in march, I lived many years of my childhood in her house, she became a mother to me but I'm glad she is gone now, her last years alive were so difficult due to health issues and a deep depression consequence of my great-grandmother death (her mom). She is no longer suffering here and I thank God for that even it that means not seeing or hugging her anymore.

  • @misan9821
    @misan9821 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I didn't much think about this song being about Alzheimer until I saw the video.
    I was more fond of the idea how this song goes with the main theme of screwed up past and how you passively suffer under all these painful past memories (let the pictures soak). Similar to how daughter portrayed this kind of pain in their song Youth.
    This song is just going one step further in the stages of despair and broken life.
    The apathetic uttering of "Then I'll lose my children, love" only makes it more clear, that the feelings earlier expressed are vanishing away. How through all this pain, you get numb for any kind of feeling and just sit there in silence.
    This song symbolizes heart break over the past so perfectly, that even after the smug feeling in the beginning of the song of "and they're making children with their old excuses" you suddenly have the reveal of how broken of a personality you actually are, you go outside and then the reality dawns on you, you cry for your mother.
    You try so much to revive your alive self of the past, that you go out and see how nice the sun feels, but there are still so many things that make you dead inside.
    Guess every song has a different meaning for everyone. And I see how my opinion on the lyrics only reflects my situation. Funny.

    • @leviacronym6770
      @leviacronym6770 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      You're neither wrong nor right. Music (and poems) have always been meant to be interpreted by the listener/reader. Some musicians understand this and refuse to tell their fans what each song was inspired by, what it means to them personally. Everyone always listens to a song and then wants someone to tell them what it means, what it's about. I just like to listen and feel the music, and come to my own conclusion. I do like to hear other's thoughts on it, which is why I read and commented on yours.

  • @sepilooo
    @sepilooo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This video made me cry hard... and actually appreciate my parents more while they're healthy...

  • @FalsettoSlumber
    @FalsettoSlumber 9 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    My grandmother has Alzheimer's, and whilst it's progressing, she can still remember us. It seems awful, but part of me hopes that her terminal cancer, or her diabetes, takes her first, before she forgets who we are, or who she is. My grandmother is one of the most important people in my life; I based my final year fine art degree show project on my relationship with her, about her memories, and my memories. Without her to inspire me, I would never have passed. Wouldn't be doing a mental health nursing degree to help people in her position. Wouldn't be who I am today.
    This is an excellently done video, I cried my eyes out. Just today, before I watched this, I bought tickets for my partner and I to see Daughter in January, and I'm so very glad I did, if this is what the quality of their new album will be...

  • @amiemurphy6381
    @amiemurphy6381 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I’ve cried to most of Daughters music.. never cried to this song until I just watched the video 🥺🥺🥺🥺

  • @SashaWillems
    @SashaWillems 9 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    litertally crying, such an emotional song x

  • @gshaydullina
    @gshaydullina 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    this song is SO good actually..

  • @xChaiTeaLatte
    @xChaiTeaLatte 9 ปีที่แล้ว +783

    I'm not going to lie, I almost pissed myself out of excitement when this showed up in my subscriptions box.

    • @courtleex
      @courtleex 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      +xChaiTeaLatte I let out a little squeal haha

    • @1690mckenzie
      @1690mckenzie 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      same. it was bad lol

    • @derpyloverkitty5184
      @derpyloverkitty5184 9 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I SMILED THE HELL OUT OF LIFE AND BEGAN DANCING AGGRESIVELY

    • @bryanmcs2434
      @bryanmcs2434 9 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I was not even warned about this... you can imagine how loud was my screaaam

    • @hawkstrike18
      @hawkstrike18 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      +xChaiTeaLatte It was a warm inner smile, for me... felt like I finally meet an old friend again.
      lol, this probably sounds cheesy :s oh well. I _felt_ it.

  • @russiagreeceindata8959
    @russiagreeceindata8959 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I cry every single time I watch this video
    Thank you, the whole team, for existing and for creating this video

  • @kaitlinmadio6645
    @kaitlinmadio6645 9 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is too good not to be playing on repeat 😍

  • @mzhits8981
    @mzhits8981 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I miss that old Daughter 🖤

  • @aly3558
    @aly3558 9 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The face paint on the younger couple is the same as Elena's childhood photo, i.e. the cover for 'The Wild Youth' EP! Can't wait for January 2016 ♥♥

  • @harjaskohli8892
    @harjaskohli8892 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    daughter deserves more, much more subscribers & views , she is so talented, so deep. its always great looking at talents like this.

  • @deniseaviles3394
    @deniseaviles3394 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Daughter never fails to surprise. Love her mind. Love her melancholy. Love her music.

  • @caitlinmarie4220
    @caitlinmarie4220 8 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Crying so hard right now..

  • @songs2tripover4peoplewholi60
    @songs2tripover4peoplewholi60 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    As a teenager i worked taking care of an eldery woman who had Alzheimer's disease and i used to sit at her feet and give her a hair brush to calm her when she would have anxiety. Nothing sums up the experience quite as much as this song does. The first time I heard this song it woke me up , i had fallen asleep watching TH-cam. This song has deep meaning for me and is very much for the purge of emotion and mental healing. It will forever be a favorite of mine. Thank you for putting your hearts in your music.

  • @mermaidvirgin8613
    @mermaidvirgin8613 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Always when I'm listening to their music, I just feel underestanded like I've never felt before. Am I the only one?

  • @cooolpotato
    @cooolpotato 8 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Gorgeous. Daunting. Vulnerable.

  • @deepelements
    @deepelements 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Elena's Voice is the most beautiful thing I've ever heard.

  • @elizabethgrace4353
    @elizabethgrace4353 9 ปีที่แล้ว +270

    I am sitting here clutching onto my Momma who is in stage 6 Alzheimer's and just weeping beyond belief at this.

    • @lucasdelhove1568
      @lucasdelhove1568 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Strength and Guidance

    • @shrekhasgay2785
      @shrekhasgay2785 7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Elizabeth Grace Shit, that would be hell. I send you my condolences.

    • @earthsky2336
      @earthsky2336 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm so SORRYYYYYYYY!!! I love you and her! I could just imagine! My heart goes out to you! Live for her ! Don't ever stop!! I love you

    • @cleverestx
      @cleverestx 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My heart goes out to you and your family.

    • @FaIsALl115
      @FaIsALl115 5 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      I know my comment doesn't mean anything.
      But please stay strong. At least for her.

  • @JoyaLewisTheMusician
    @JoyaLewisTheMusician 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Been obsessed with their music and finally getting around to watching their music videos!

  • @EkaterinaPorSuerte
    @EkaterinaPorSuerte 9 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    It was so worth the wait! I love you so much guys, can't wait to see you again!

  • @Raquel-el8jf
    @Raquel-el8jf 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Daughter's music always bring emotions out of me. Happy, sad, vengeful, whatever. It's always so deep I have to stop what I'm doing and listen, or watch. This video made me cry, I'm not gonna lie. But the fact that her voice, lyrics, and simple projection of something so huge in the span of 6 minutes wows me. Daughter will always be one of my favorites.

  • @mariavogiantzi6955
    @mariavogiantzi6955 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    oh Daughter...another breathtaking song/video..straight to my heart

  • @leeroyjenkins1988
    @leeroyjenkins1988 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This song makes me burst into tears everytime i hear it. So amazingly beautiful and sad

  • @lisigameplay
    @lisigameplay 8 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    And they’re making children
    Everyone’s in love
    and I listen Daughter
    Let the picture(s) soak...

  • @devidpimp3553
    @devidpimp3553 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    2021 is here and this song still be beautiful for me.

  • @edenbosich
    @edenbosich 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I can't really explain what this song means to me, the way it makes me wander through my memories, and some of my deepest fears...
    When I was 8 years old, my aunt passed away from cancer, and I've seen her suffering, she was in pain. Her death has caused the worst feeling that I've ever felt, and, someday, I am going to face this feeling again, and I'm afraid. Maybe, someday, I will have children, and maybe a wife, but, somehow, I feel that I am going to die alone, that I am going to lose my loved ones, and I will have to face this feeling again... But alone. And maybe, near death...

  • @francescofabiocondorelli6779
    @francescofabiocondorelli6779 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The choice of showing some scenes from "Dementia 13" it's brilliant, great video for a very touching song.

  • @lucasvowell8423
    @lucasvowell8423 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    She played this for the first time at Red Rocks yesterday. Very haunting live.

  • @m1ssmaniii
    @m1ssmaniii 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I've literally been re-playing this song over and over again. I cannot wait for their album to be released!!

  • @jvee5322
    @jvee5322 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Im not sure if Daughter is killing me or keeping me alive . So many feelings. I feel too much and not enough is the melody.

  • @primejudicator7817
    @primejudicator7817 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    All day on repeat. The music is mind-blowing.

  • @lovelessdrunkbaby1256
    @lovelessdrunkbaby1256 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Please don't ever stop making music.
    I'm sure your sound warms a lot of hearts around the world. 💟
    Kisses, a fan from Brazil.

  • @YoungJulietTheGiant
    @YoungJulietTheGiant 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Daughter's lyrics are always so tragically beautiful

  • @MiaMoran
    @MiaMoran 9 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    this was so beautiful i am in tears.
    words cannot describe how excited I am for her new album coming in January, so so so excited.

  • @tonnaboy10
    @tonnaboy10 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I just discovered Daughter this week and I’m loving them. Got to listen with headphones and turn it up loud though.

  • @mikemugs7
    @mikemugs7 9 ปีที่แล้ว +184

    My Grandmother had Alzheimer's for 8 years before she died. A couple years in, she didn't even know who her kids were. Wouldn't wish it on anyone

  • @Project-Air
    @Project-Air 9 ปีที่แล้ว

    Beautiful.

  • @WhiteSlift
    @WhiteSlift 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    This is simply a beautiful song.

  • @TatendaLeeroy
    @TatendaLeeroy 9 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    and suddenly that long wait for new music from daughter was all worth it

  • @Rsguide2you
    @Rsguide2you 9 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I love this song. The past few months i've listened to all your music as it is the only thing that keeps me alive. I've had too many suicide attempts the past 6 months every time with the song 'Smother* in my ears. This song is amazing i'm glad you made this and i'm happy i got to hear it before the end. - Tobias

  • @thehorribleperson
    @thehorribleperson 9 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This just made my year awesome...... Gosh JANUARY 2016 I'm coming for you

  • @lokibier
    @lokibier 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    September 2019 still listening to this song in my depressive life. Anyone else?

  • @janetheordinary
    @janetheordinary 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Never fails to make me sob

  • @blumeplants
    @blumeplants 9 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I finally have new Daughter songs to cry to omg THE WAIT WAS SO WORTH IT, we missed you guys so much. THIS SONG IS BEAUT

  • @mohamed_khoudjatelli9349
    @mohamed_khoudjatelli9349 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    this song took me to another world!