Things NOT to Say to Deaf People [CC]
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ก.พ. 2019
- Transcript: docs.google.com/document/d/1a...
For today's video, I decided to act out some of the reactions that hearing people have when I tell them I'm Deaf! Hearing people can have some ridiculous and funny reactions to deaf people. We literally just can't hear, but occasionally hearing people will freak out, not know what to do, or even run away. I hope after this video you have a new perspective on how you interact with deaf people. Like, share, subscribe, and enjoy!!!
DISCLAIMER: I am sharing MY personal experiences as a deaf individual. I aim to be as welcoming as possible, but my point of view does not represent the opinions of everyone in the deaf community. My content reflects my personal opinions, please remember everyone's experiences are diverse.
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Someone once handed me a note "can you read and write?" after i told them I'm deaf. I wrote it down on note "no and no" and gave it to them. They was very bewildered and lost for words. Lol
Good one!
😂
thats HILARIOUS lmao! props to you my friend lol
That's some gang gandndkd
I also feel like you shouldn’t assume someone can read and write though 🤷🏻♀️
Stranger: You don't look deaf
Me: Well you don't look smart
Underrated comment. You’ve got my like lol
Wheeze. 😂
I love your response x1,000,000!!!!! 😆😆😆
I’m using this 😂
😂
“Do you read Braille”
Should have been one of the things on the list.
Or "do you need a wheelchair"?
When I was a child and I first heard the word "deaf", I thought they said "death", and when I would ask people, " How can someone 𝙗𝙚 death?" they would just say things like, "Oh, some people are just born that way." I'm assuming they just thought I couldn't pronounce the -th sound. Lol
“But you’re so pretty!” Lol people are so dumb
Like looks equate to hearing impairments now 🙃
Wish I could love your comment.
I guess only ugly people can be deaf....who knew?
You can only be deaf and ugly hello 😀
My favorite: "You and the dog are both deaf!"
Funny, but I kinda get it. It's a common way people try to connect, so the intent is noble. But yeah, sometimes it's really stretching it.
"No, no; I'm deaf, but I need a seeing eye dog so I don't run into the wall and lose more hearing."
I am just now beginning to learn ASL. As an EMT, I might come across a deaf patient, and they might not be able to write out what is wrong. Thank you for these videos.
I'm a nurse just beginning to learn ASL, too. :)
Massage Therapist here, who also works at Amazon, where there are a number of Deaf coworkers
@@michelleboyle6497 Yea. We dont care.
@@JarthenGreenmeadow I meant to convey that I’m just wanting to learn some ASL for the Deaf who are increasingly in my life, both at my current production job and hopefully as a caring bodyworker. I didn’t mean to be insulting or offensive, sorry.
@@michelleboyle6497 That's really cool that you are learning ASL for that reason. I have a good friend that is in training to become a massage therapist, and I wonder if she has considered doing the same. Thank you for sharing!
I’ve literally had someone tell me my “AirPods” are obviously fake...🙄 I said yeah but the difference is mine at $5000 so🤷🏽♀️
Lmao
lol
@@rbdoublegoodythegoodness2725 She was born with it, and her hearing is getting worse as she grows
@@elevenorjanehopper2080 is it ? Oh man so sorry to hear that , but she can't give up she gotta keep fighting, but how u know this ?
@@rbdoublegoodythegoodness2725 she explains in her surgery for implants video
"I like that you're Deaf but you act like a normal person"
I know the dude meant well but damn
What does that even mean? That’s such a ridiculous thing to say.
@@JoDidntHearYou I mean it's not entirely untrue that some people with major disabilities don't act like a "normal person"
It's rough because first you have to define what a "normal person" is, but a start would be saying the person doesn't let their disability take over/control their life/define them.
It's awfully rude to say to someone, but to act like it's not realistic in any way is kinda wrong.
@@mentalpopcorn2304 I understand what you mean. But most deaf people don’t “act” disabled.
Normal isn't even a thing-
wow it's almost like deaf people are.... people
wait a second here
I loved that “Brave” meme 😂😂
“But you don’t look deaf”
My coworker said this to me.
Heismyrock3
Can you talk
@heismyrock3 they really told u that ?
Wait what..?!
Heismyrock3 lmfao what type of
Jil Jones they sure did!
"My friend's dog is deaf too!"
That's like telling a diabetic person that my friend's cat is diabetic too. 🤣
I’m glad people at my school aren’t that stupid. But I had this really bad friend who would call me stupid for not getting anything what she said right and knew that hurt me and knew I am hard of hearing. I stopped being friends with her.
As a Deaf person myself, really, all of these sayings are just annoying. There was a time when a Hearing employee said, "ohhh. you're hearing impaired. Actually, you know what? I just had a little hearing loss recently because of the very loud music...." I was thinking, "...seriously?" these sayings gotta stop - yet we gotta inform them as well that it's not nice to say those either.
@@ChrissyMarshall_ haha exactly, just NO. keep on spreading awareness!
I think your best response would be; "No, I'm not 'hearing impaired'; I fucking can't HEAR".
The most annoying thing I have ever experienced, is when someone says something and then turns around and says “ Don’t worry about it” and walks off. The other is “ Turn your hearing aids up” . People think hearing aids and cochlear implants make you hear perfectly, but they are wrong.
If somebody is bitching at me, I make a big show of taking my hearing aids out, as I loudly proclaim; "WHAT? WHAT DID YOU SAY? I DIDN'T HEAR YOU....WHAT?"
wow, that’s so disrespectful…i’m so sorry you have to experience that :/ i actually recently found out that cochlear’s don’t make your hearing “perfect”, i absolutely haven’t & wouldnt say something rude or disrespectful about it (idek why anyone would) but i’m so glad i learned that. i’m so excited to be learning asl so i can speak your native language instead of having barriers ! the deaf community is so strong and i commend you all for dealing w all the bs. asl is a beautiful language
@@dokayy
Many people don’t understand what hearing loss or deafness means in full context. There are many different things that can make communication difficult. Cochlear implants are designed to give the implanted person what is considered close to normal hearing. I am quite fortunate that my CI has worked well for me, while for some it doesn’t . They aren’t perfect yes, but are far better than hearing aids. I learned Australian sign language in high school, but don’t use it much today.
I’ve seen deaf people being treated like that too many times. Very annoying.
Chrissy, I hope this hasn’t happened to you. I was actually misdiagnosed as MR as a kid solely due to my speech impairment! I have the last laugh since I have two college degrees. I truly hate that term (and refuse to use it). It took the APA over 40 years to change that term to intellectual disability.
I’m glad you are doing great with showing others that deaf doesn’t mean dumb. It angers me to no end when I see others mistreat people who they think are in the slightest different from them.
I look forward to seeing more from you. 💪👍
Thank you so much for creating awareness. I thoroughly enjoyed the humor and learned valuable things. Really appreciated.
Ditto!
I was walking downtown with a Deaf friend (we were signing) and had someone stop as at the bus stop and start praying for our healing... me and her looked at each other like... “umm.... let’s get out of here.”
Ewwwww 🤢. Ummm, many of us deaf ppl don’t WANT to be “healed”. 😂 a difficult concept for abled ppl to grasp is that we can be totally satisfied in our deafness, we can be content and happy. Oof that sounds like a super sucky situation
@@juliarunn5009 it was. 😬
I am not hard of hearing, but I do use a wheelchair. I had this happen to me when I was waiting in line at a Subway Restaurant. I told them that God doesn't make mistakes, and they just walked away.
@@sisterrose6836 I love it, perfect response 😂
@@sisterrose6836 Imperfection came through man's sin. God did not put you in that wheelchair.
Funny video, loved it.
A coworker of mine was surprised the new deaf coworker could drive. People think the strangest things sometimes.
Lordy.... That is so embarrassing... On behalf of all hearing people with some level of intelligence and respect...I apologise
You know??!.... I had no idea some of us hearies were so damn stupid. Wow.....
I second that.
@@dontmindme.imjustafraidofe9327 😊Cute. x
i third that
@@clairee4939 Uh what?
“But you’re so pretty!”
Well he definitely got that right.
MERIDA WITH THE HEARING AIDS HAD ME SCREAMING
I'm learning ASL and while just now learning the alphabet, I immediately came here because I would never want to intentionally offend someone. Thank you so much for this info. :O) Keep up the good vids and I love your glasses!!
An actual conversation that took place when I was in highschool.
Teacher: "Do you know Sign Language?"
"No."
Teacher: "Then how do you talk?"
"..."
You're kidding, right? Never mind, I KNOW you are not kidding.
@@christygruber2283 I am not deaf but I've recently become interested in signing. After seeing this girls hand fly so rapidly I feel like it's too late or something. I know that's illogical... How hard or easy was it for you to learn in 6th grade? ....I'm 33..and a half lol.
@@AJ-sp7xd I'm 38 and picking it up at a good pace. I wanted to learn when the doctors told me my daughter might be deaf. (11 years ago) I still should've learned even thought she isn't deaf. But I'm glad I'm learning now though.
omg thats so annyoing!!!!! i hate when this happens to me also
That's sorta reasonable tho.
Totally unrelated but your hair looks awesome in this video. Also I got the shirt from your Bonfire campaign and it’s super awesome! It’s really soft and I love the colors and it’s great to know that I’m supporting an amazing Deaf creator!
Yep! I feel you! I’m hard of hearing and I get asked all the time... “Why do you wear hearing aids?”... and I’m like... “Ah...they help me hear...” 😂 it was mostly kids at school... I’ve had them since I was 12.
I've been told somebody else was deafer than I was because he wears hearing aides. I've been asked many times if they could fix my hearing would I get surgery? well I had two surgeries and neither "repaired" my hearing. people always say the same things, nothing new. oh and when they think they are being funny/clever and they say the same stupid jokes, where they replace certain words with swears. jokes on them, I don't hear the difference. they just laugh and I'm perplexed.
You don't need to be deaf to encounter thoughtless people saying thoughtless things.
It almost seems like stupidity is a natural panic response.
I'm happy that I knew these. As a hearing person I want to be respectful to the community and culture. I dont ever want to be 'that guy.'
I politely educate others -ESPECIALLY- about the 'throwing gang signs.' It makes me so mad to hear people say it thinking all of those who are signing are strictly deaf. Keep up the amazing work!
@piztah No it's really just making fun of hang gestures like it's some fun code. Its not meant as in literally gang related. Just a bad joke hearing people think is funny for some reason from my experiences. For the record, I know ASL but am hearing and it's something I hear people say alot surprisingly when they think that no one can hear or understand them.
I'm A hearing person and am new to all this, but I am shocked at the things people have said.
Omfg this vid was amazing. I was face-palming so hard, and not sure whether to laugh my head off or cry my eyes out! XD
I've had people say to me that I can't really be deaf, because I wasn't born that way. Surprise, I have 80% hearing loss in one ear and 70% in the other!
Do people actually say the first one? Like they really associate deafness with being ugly? The only time I've asked people if they are deaf (using voice and ASL at the same time) is to confirm it because they could be mute or have some language processing disorder that makes it difficult for them to communicate. That and I ask if they prefer signing because I know some individuals might not or don't know the langauge. But I've been able to help a couple people at work easily because I understood ASL where no one else did. Anyway, I just found your channel! Love it! Your hair always looks great too btw!
I actually turned off the closed captions so i could try and read your signs. i am currently learning sign language in my public school for my second year and ive been learning mostly self tought for 4 years now and i am wanting to become an interpreter, any advice about the deaf comunity for me?
I just started learning ASL, and these vids are awesome!
Im hearing but I'm learning ASL and the beep scared me every time lol
What beep?
@@slowfire2 0:58 This beep.
@@XurAziX ok, thanks. I rarely use sound on my devices. Might have to turn the sound on and see if I can hear it.
Thanks for your video as I’ve been working on teaching myself ASL for my autism…I worked at a job where the customers would sign to me and I would sign to them yet at the time I didn’t know much yet they were kind enough to teach me so we could small chat whenever I came by to do janitorial duties for them..These were my favorite customers to get to know!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I have been learning online for awhile now as i get opportunity since life can be so busy. From watching Bill Vicars classes and Singed with Heart, youtube has brought me to you. I love your character and energy and just being real. My brother is disabled and we use some sign since he doesn’t speak. Ive always had a love for ASL for a few reasons. I can only imagine how frustrating it must be at times not to be able to communicate (i see that with my brother constantly), and as cheesy as it may sound, i think its a beautiful language. Be blessed, thank you for these tips.
Why was I expecting the gang signs one🤦♀️ I’m sorry for all the comments you get😪 People need to learn to stop being dumb😂 Ily and I’m a huge fan❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for the tips! I'll do my best to do these things or offend someone that's deaf or hard of hearing. When I watch your videos I get inspired and you are a really great person :)
Absolutely love your vids Chrissy.. as I've said, I'm new to learning how to sign but a few times lately I feel like I'm going backwards after watching how fluid & fluent others are..
WOOOOOOW!!!! This was mind blowing. I'm amazed people can be that ignorant/rude.
omg, i am hard of hearing and wer hearing aids, and i can realate to this SO MUCH. i love this channel
💗 Thank you for sharing, Chrissy.
Long ago I wanted to learn ASL, because y think there's people worth knowing who can't hear, so I wanted to speak with them. And you remind me that. Love the way you help us knowing how to approach to the community with respect. ❤️ Love from Mexico.
This video is perfect and much needed ❤ also, I adore your hair 😍 I've always wanted to dye it purple, but for some reason I'm scared 😅
YOU ARE SO DAMN ADORABLE!! thanx for making videos that are so much fun to watch!! :))
Lmao, this was funny and yet informative as well. Thank you for your channel
This is so good. I see what you go thru. And it is ridiculous what most do. Thank you for eye opener
Omg the part where shes like, Can you read my lips and her reaction is so funny
One time I was like “Hey, I’m deaf in my right ear, could you stand on my left side so I can hear you better?” And they were like, “No, I can hear you perfectly” and I was like, “No, no, no, IM deaf in my right ear so if you could just like stand on my left side, it would be easier…” and they said, “But you can talk, you’re not deaf.”
Love your hair. I’ve witnessed hearing ignorant people say all these statements. Hysterical!
Hey I'm new subscriber......I felt like I'm literally hearing you...I mean ur expressions they are just sooo cool and awesome!!!!
Love ya😁
"But she's so pretty" people have also said that about my autistic daughter...that and "she doesn't look autistic". People can be so well meaning but clueless sometimes.
Wow.... The level of ignorance. It's insane.
Great video! It's good you're bringing awareness 😊
I just found this channel, and immediately subscribed. I have meniere's disease, and have been progressively losing my hearing since I was 12 (I'm now 43). I am deaf in one ear, and hard of hearing in the other. Hearing aids won't help me at this point, and I've already started learning ASL in case my hearing goes away completely. One of the most annoying things I get as a HOH person is when I tell someone I'm HOH, they always reply with "What? Hahaha"....
I usually roll my eyes and reply "yeah, haven't heard that one before."
I've also been asked (by family members!!) why I wouldn't get a cochlear implant if my hearing goes away completely. I've been like this most of my life, and don't have a problem with it. It also isn't my job to conform to my hearing family that I only see maybe once a year.
Looking forward to checking out more videos on your channel! 😊👋
I love your hair purple and blue are my favorite colors! I'm an ASL student and I understood you without any captions 😀. Keep on making videos! 🙌💜💙
I was born 85% deaf and I also understood her without captions being deaf is no different than hearing we’re still human beings
@@theelrussiano2584
Amen! Here here.. (glasses clink)
@@theelrussiano2584
Amen! Here here (glasses clink)
@Queen Bea , can u teach me ASL?
@@rbdoublegoodythegoodness2725 It's best to learn from a Deaf native. You don't wanna formally learn from someone who's still learning the language. If you're in a study group, that's different.
i also have a degenerative hearing loss and i hate hate hate when people dont want to know that i cant hear! i always ask will you please face me and speak up... turns around and continues to talk so softly.... oh okay bye then....🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Amazing channel. I am a hearing person, but I appraciate watching people spreading open-mindness
Loved the video it was really funny! Can't believe this has actually happened lol
I can’t believe some of the things people say to people who are Deaf! This is CRAZY. Holy moly. Embarrassing actually. I’m Hearing with some hearing loss which is one of the reasons I learned ASL. I enjoy your videos!
OMG THAT HAIR 😍😍😍
I love your personality, you're hilarious! *clicks subscribe button*
Chrissy.. you are quickly becoming my guru.. (once I finish cringing)
I feel like I've done every single stupid thing that you say not to do!!.. where were your videos before I started learning Auslan??? Lol
Every time I watch.. I sit & wait & watch & then I squint my eyes & cringe.. I think to myself, she's talking about me again.. Ive been learning sign language for ten days & Ive already managed to offend every deaf person in history.. all I wanted to do was learn something new & make some new friends..
Maybe one day it will be funny but at the moment.. I just feel like I'm the worst human being on the planet!!!
Thanks for your vids Chrissy.. you are hilarious!!! I'll get it right eventually..
By the way, I really love your channel's content.
I love that video! I faced that many times in my life.
this ones for the hearing people jumping out of their chairs every time she jump cuts lmao
fr tho love ur work
I'm visually impaired and I've mistaken someone's hearing aid for earpods 😭😂
this is the first video i’ve seen of yours & i laughed when i heard the hearing aid feedback 💀 mine does that all the time lmaoo
you are so bubbly! Love it! :)
You are awesome I hope to see you more of this ❤
Appreciate it. Many hearing people may never interact with a deaf person their whole lives.
I'm trying to pick up ASL and it's really fun, I really love studying languages and sign is a new type of language for me, since I've only learned about spoken languages before. It's also a lot easier for me to pick up. I was always good with choreography in plays because the muscle memory of "when this situation happens, you do this" practiced over and over would make it almost instinctive. It's obviously not the same but my point is that muscle memory kind of brings me some peace of mind to practice it and just get comfortable with it. I also like the fact that you can't really be half paying attention to a conversation, you have to focus or you'll miss something. I think people would say less stupid stuff if every language was like that.
You’re both hilarious and informative 💕
YOUR HAIR IS AWESOME WOW
interesting video, the bizarre things is I am amazed at what people think is appropriate to say yet unsurprised that people think it these thing are ok. May I share this.
This taught me a lot thank you very much I loved it and I will make sure to tell my friends not to say this stuff to anyone who is deaf I don’t want them to get mad at my friends and I don’t my friends to make a mistake
I'm not deaf but I love your vids! Keep being yourself girl!
I'm a hearing person and we have an interpreter at my church. I think ASL is such a beautiful language. I'm trying to learn some conversational signs because my friend has a son who's deaf. Thanks for these videos!
When I saw the one about music my jaw literally dropped. Who thinks it's okay to treat another human being this way??
anyyone who ever says something along the lines of "but you're so pretty! how can you be (insert literally anything)?" can perish
This is awesome! Thanks for the tips
Things not to say to a deaf person: anything
I had to watch you 4 times
You speak so fast. 😰
Thank you for giving me an opportunity to practice reading ASL. ❤️❤️❤️
You right I'm 53 years I have dealt with people like that 🙄. It never gets old. Now when I meet people they wanted to learn sign language but I don't have the space to teach them plus it drives me crazy when they want to only learn cuss words in sign language which I don't agree with that I told them I will teach you basic. They changed mind 🙄
Omg the way you get right into the camera is too immersive haha
Haha ur cute and funny and yeah I had people tell me " you can use your voice don't be afraid"
Another great video! ❤️❤️❤️
You are one funny and interesting girl. You got your thumbs up!
The bullshit one is the one I see most often as a hearing person, so many people think they’re so hilarious just because they “know a bad word in asl” but it’s not even a real sign haha 😆
Thank you for making this haha
Deaf friends tell me 99% of these situations lmao You're not alone!
Lol, this is amazing! Subscribed!
People’s ignorance + lack of impulse control to say the first shit that pops into their brain will never cease to amaze me.
You are so funny! Love this!
I lost it at the Airpods part.
Thank you for this video!
the "i'D kiLl mYsElf" always gets me. WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT TO SOMEONE HOLY FUCK
I have a lovely Deaf coworker and customers ask on a frequent basis if he can read lips. I'm sure he's dealt with that question enough to not even be phased anymore but it sure gets on my nerves... thanks for the video!
I watching this video, went away for a bit, didn't notice it was still playing in the background and.. BEEEEP
NO WAY NO WAY OMG OMG, I LITERALLY JUST READ YOUR LIP :O FIRST TIME, I can finally become friends with a deaf