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HOW to know what you want to do in life 🤔 | choose your career
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 22 ก.พ. 2023
- How do you figure out what you want to do with your life? How do you choose a career path? Today I share all the lessons & factors to help you figure out what to do, as well as how I knew what I wanted to do with my life. Embrace the uncertainty, baby. Your journey's just begun 💫
A decade ago, I began this search & struggled so much with this question. Now, I have so much knowledge & wisdom to share. I'm so happy you're here!
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Feeling low became a habit for this generation. The more we grow more we feel this. Sometimes none of the therapy doesn't seems to help. At one point everything feels good but as soon as we start to smile we go sad again for so reasons. I want everyone to be happy in every way they want. I don't know what is life but living fullest with close ones really makes sense.
I agree
This is beautiful.
So true ❤
Very well said. ❤❤❤
Thank you ❤
I'm 25, unemployed and living with my parents. The career I studied was not for me (teaching), and I won't be working on this as it is just not for me. When I had to apply to university I had no idea on what to study, and everyone suggested teaching, I thought I was going to like it through the years, but that never happened, and I now I feel like I just wasted 5 years of my life and I have nothing now. I'm so depressed. A few months ago, I used to be motivated, and started pursuing other career, but I feel so behind and frustrated, I guess I kind of gave up.
Omg I'm also in teaching and I feel exactly the same like you.. I'm still teaching, but I'm suffering everyday. I also didn't pick education major and people encouraged me to study that (I wanted something else), but I'm already in 5th semester.. I don't know what to do now.. I just I can make it by the end of January.
Scary how exactly similar my situation is. I went through the exact same thing as you - except I didn't even finish the teacher programme at uni. I felt like I wasted 4 years and without even any degree to show for it. At least you graduated, which is something you should feel proud of. There are a bunch of career paths you can go from teaching so don't give up!
Same here. I had to go to teaching cause I just loved languages and it was a public college. I even thought that teaching would be a plan B to have money and just literally work, but turns out that to me, the negative parts of a school, is REALLY not worthy it to me, some places are just terrible with teaching and I had VERY BAD and negative experiences with that so I definitely know that maybe that was a sign that that's not for me, specially kindergarten teaching. Bur it is very tough to understand that, cause I thought I WAS the problem for such a long time.
Don't be depressed, time spent trying is never wasted. You are young, I'm 34 and still not sure what I want to do. I thought I found something in my early 20s but I didn't look around enough and try enough avenues. I owned a sub franchise for sales and recruiting with AT&T, I liked it but I was working too much, 60-100hrs a week and it took time away from my children. I traveled and had a lot of neat experiences but I can never get the time back with my children, I tried to build a financial life for them. Now I need to find another way.
I'm reading The Power of Now she showed the book in this video it is really good. Work with the Now as it is, not against it!
I'm in the same state now. I was applying for teaching because my family wanted me to. I wasted many years of my life just focusing on that path only ro realize now that it wasn't for me. Now I feel stuck.
I’m 47 years old & I love your channel. I’m what you would call a “late bloomer.” I’m doing things behind the scenes to create the life I desire. I knew in my 20s that corporate life wasn’t for me, but I was a teen mom & had a family to take care of. So I struggled for years job & school hopping trying to figure things out. The beauty is that all of it is purposeful. I don’t regret a thing. Your channel helps keep me motivated for when I take the big leap AGAIN. Thank you.
Same age as me. And I’m struggling! But you sound awesome ❤
@@ClaraSais thank you. I still struggle too. But I’m determined to live the life I desire & require 💜
Your a herooo
@@PhetteHollins as you should! I'm cheering you on. 👏🏽 You got this!!!!!!! ❤👏🏾🎉
@@mikebluet thank yoooouuuuu 💜
You're really inspiring. I once read something which makes me less anxious: Our society thinks that success is only valid if it's "forever". This is not true, because if you felt happy, fulfilled, and passionate about something, for whatever amount of time, it is valid and it is still a success even if you decide for yourself, that you don't want to do this "forever".
I needed that quote. I'm really trying to live life like that, on my own pace. Live a life that is succesfull to me and not in the eyes of current 'norms' and to not feel my time is wasted but just experience life for myself.
I love your quote trucy and will subscribe to your channel too !
So true!
Also turning 27 this year. Seeing people with the same situation feels like all is not lost and I have a whole community with me in different parts of the world!
Yup were all in this together. I'm turning 27 this year as well and still feel lost from time to time.
Hayyyy band tourning 27 this year, we're in the same hole ! Hope you'll go through it
This video came at the right time, coming from someone who is 23 studying photography at uni, working part time at a bar ( that I dislike) and then doing an internship in social media marketing. I'm feeling a burn out and I'm studying things I love. but even then I have no idea what I want in life. I'm hoping it gets easier over time because right now, I feel like I'm just floating through life
Kinda related to your comment. You've got this! Keep going and keep inspiring 🙌 but take it 1 day at a time. I'm 23 too going 24 soon.
I graduated with a BFA in photo in 2021, turned 24 in September and have been floating ever since graduating…. I’m still burnt out and it’s so frustrating!!
0:12 “How do you know what you want to do with life? You don’t. You figure it out as you go. You follow the curiosity and slowly the answer will reveal itself in time.”
1:42 “You have to be able to follow your heart.”
4:02 “Failures are guiding you in the right direction. It’s ok to fail.”
4:11 “Those were failures that taught me lessons and led me in the right direction.”
6:43 “If you believe the pros outweigh the cons, then you’re willing to stick it through and you’re willing to persuade regardless of how difficult it gets.”
7:37 “What makes me come alive? Where do I light up? What do I have the most energy for?”
6:59 “Find that spark”
7:38 Ask yourself, what makes me come alive? Where do I light up? What do I have the most energy for?”
8:22 “What’s important to you in your life? What is your ideal lifestyle?”
8:44 “it’s so important to know those things or at least start to ask yourself those questions.”
8:47 “Once you have a grand vision, of what you want out of your life, then you can kind of work backwards and be like, okay does this step take me closer or further away from that vision?”
10:30 “Your time is what matters and time is something that you can’t buy back. Time is the most valuable asset in life.”
11:29 “If you are going in a certain direction and it doesn’t feel right, don’t be afraid to start over from scratch.”
12:33 Don’t be afraid if your intuition tells you “oh I went a wrong way.”
13:00 Nothing is ever wasted.
13:14 Everything that you’ve ever done in life, experienced, learned is a part of you now and it can be used towards what you’re meant to do in the future.
14:06 Everything that you experienced prior to now you can use.
This is helpful ❤
Thank u❤
thank you so much❤❤❤❤
Tysm
Thanks
I'll turn 27 this year but I'm still so lost. It feels like I've wasted 10 years of my life pursuing my current career but if I give up this career, I'm not really sure what else I should pursue. I'm just sure that I don't enjoy doing it and I don't really see myself doing it for a long time. I'll definitely reflect on those three questions. Thank you Aileen!
Hi there! Same here. Are you able to pick a new career?
@@Sdego-d9ihi I'm also going through the same thing. I feel out of place, hate my job😭 but can't exit cz i don't know what I want to do next
How did it go?
Same. Did you pick a new career?
Just passed my drivers test this week which was one of my big goals for 2023 and literally thought today now I need to figure out my career/passions and was feeling so lost, so this video came at the perfect timing for me. 🥹 Love your inspiration, positivity & watching your videos✨️🫶🏽
🎉🎉congrats! Вітаємо!
@@cata3350 thank you!
First, congrats! Second, I got my license three days ago and I feel this EXACT way immediately after. I was striving for a license because that was the next step, but now that I’m on that next step I’m realizing I’m shaking on it.
I’m 53 and still don’t know what I want , happiness and health is what I hope for 🤞🏻❤️
🤜🤛
I'm 32 and I don't know either, but how do you know what to do for a living?
@@atlan117 Do something that makes you happy….
Health is wealth
How do I know what that is?
@@atlan117 You will know when you are doing it
as it makes you happy
What to do for a living?
It’s not what living is about
Health is wealth…..
You explained me to the T. I do not want to work in the corporate world because I know that I don’t like that structure at all. I hate waking up to stressing myself out in order to make someone else money, plus the workplace toxicity and toxic managers. It’s just not worth my mental wellbeing. I want to paint, learn about making pottery, travel, visit museums, see different things because I didn’t have the opportunity growing up to do anything but work. Now being 38, I resigned from a call center job. I feel like a ton of bricks off my shoulders, I am so happy, I have energy. I just feel great😊🎉
Proud of youu ❤! What do youu do now for work?
Thank you, I needed this. I turned 30 last year & I've been with this cycle of not knowing what to do with my life throughout my 20's. As someone with a lot of different interest (it can be hard to pick just 1 thing). I decided to dive in to one area at a time & give it the attention it needs to see what fits and what doesn't (like you mentioned in the video). My current focus is Art (painting, digital & traditional), to go along with that I really need to work being consistent.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
i'm still in high school but i feel like that's all i have to think about since it's all everybody asks and wants us to answer. i know for sure i like arts/music but i worry a lot about finding a stable job in the future, earning enough for a living and just making my parents proud or happy with what i end up choosing. I've picked many things over what i like simply because i fear i would have less opportunities in the future. i know i still have lots of time but it's still something that stresses me out daily and to know that you've felt the same but figured it out eventually brings me lots of comfort
Same
Iam in highschool
I love drawing painting (since small ) but i don't see it as a future it's just my hobby tho
I have taken up science and i don't know what i actually want to do
Taking up science was my choice but i don't have further plans
There are so much options or suggestions but I am not sure if that's the one thing I want to do
I can't figure out anything
Same! I am 15 and have always enjoyed drawing/sketching and just art in general. But I fear that if I go down this path I will have less opportunities in future and I won't be able to make enough money to support myself financially. I feel so lost. Again im only 15 but this question keeps stressing me out.
I have to go to college this year and will have to study medical or engineering and i don't know what to do.
@@eshalwaseem2172I’m also 15 turning 16 soon and my dad is always asking telling me to start looking for colleges and that right now is the time to keep switching my interests before I find something that sticks. Sometimes I go to sleep wondering how I am going to find a career im interested in that I will be fulfilled with and that can make enough to support my parents as well. It’s just stressful.
I'm a 16 student in 10th grade I'm still confused about what i want
@@CrochetifyPhia I am in 11th grade ..Yeah I am in the class where nearly entire class is aiming to be doctor ,but not me.I don't want to be doctor and don't know what I want either. I have been depressed for weeks ,but now gave it all on god cuz I am exhausted . After topping in my 10th grade feeling more stressed cuz people expect best frm me
My parents want me to be a doctor ,but I wanna be a businesslady ,watching your videos makes me sure to follow my heart,anyways thank you,even when my family are angry with my choice ,I will do what my heart says me to do❤
I thought your dog was a teddy bear and almost had a heart attack when it got up and moved lol
Thank you! I really needed this, as someone who’s 23 and working a job I absolutely dislike but need to pay for those student loan debts and other expenses I feel like my life isn’t exactly how I’m hoping it would have been but I will definitely take your advice 💕
I’m your friend. I’m 23. I feel you. Even though I’m on the wrong lane, I’ll find the right way and you can do it too. We’re young enough. Everyone is young (at heart) enough to create their dream lives too!
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
Thank you ! I’m 23 and just now really getting to know what I actually like vs what I was trying to do, and I’m starting to take action & try things that excite me eventhough it’s TERRIFYING. I’m getting my basic habits, routines, and finances in order and also practicing complete compassion when I feel self-concious about not being in a “real” job yet.
I loveeeee the focus here on your heart knowing the way❤
Sameeeeeee I agreeeee
Thank you for this. I really have been struggling with this for years. Best wishes to those of us in the same boat ❤
In my early 20s and in the midst of total helplessness. I had no idea with my life but listening to this helped me so much and made my thoughts easier. ❤ thank you for those words.
I really love the concept of understanding what recharges you. And I would like to share something that I have experienced recently: go back to basics. Think about things that made you happy when you were a kid. Think about the activities that you wanted to do after school. And try them again to see if these are things that still bring happiness to your Life! Sometimes these just go, and you don't even realize that you're "losing" a part of your true self!
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
@@dr.christopherjohnson4178 thank you for your comment, I really truly appreciate that! I'm safe :) thank you so much! Just thinking about what changing means. At the moment I'm based in New England, but I'm Italian :)
@@theunplannedproject Can we be friends?
@@theunplannedproject Hello
@@theunplannedproject Are you still here?
In high school I always wanted to get a job in the video industry (TH-cam or Hollywood) but due to my trauma from my dad constantly being laid off and then later being raised by my single mom making only minimum wage, I decided to go to college to get a good stable job. I now have a government job that has amazing work/life balance and pays really well, but I know it's not what I want to do forever. I've finally healed enough of my limiting beliefs/trauma so that I can pursue videography and feel safe doing so, and my current job has been an amazing foundation for enabling me to do this! It pays me well so I can afford expensive video equipment, and it gives me a lot of free time to work on this side hustle. Would never in a million years change getting a degree and getting my current job! I don't regret it for a second, even if it means changing paths later on.
What is your government job if you don't mind sharing?
@@ashamer7776 I'm an environmental scientist for the state of California
Nice job!
Hey people never give up or lose hope on finding a job/career you like! Years ago I was so unhappy with my job and my coworkers. I thought I'd never fit in and find a job that I enjoy. Now I'm in my dream job since last year (Researcher at the University in computer science) with very nice co-workers that I regard as part of my family. Be brave and true to yourself! You got that! ♥️
The timing on finding your channel the other day is insane. These past two weeks I've been pretty depressed because my life isn't anywhere close to where I want it to be, so I decided to look up guided meditation and your video stood out to me to watch. After the meditation I checked out your channel to see this video. Thank you for making this and providing hope for everyone lost like I am. I'm in my mid-30's and feel like my life will never go anywhere, but this gave me the confidence to keep pushing forward.
I'm greatful for this. I'm an artist and a lover of nature. I have been questioning myself what do i want to do with my life.
This video has me in tears. Thank you for validating everything that I have been feeling about my life 💞
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
Im 26 and still figuring this out for myself!
I don't know whether you'll be able to read this, but I want to take you for making this video. I'm at a point where I'm really confused in life right now. You saved me in many ways I didn't even know I could be saved. More power to you.
Hi Aleen (hope I spelt the name right lol), I watched lots of your videos about this topic. I'm 28 and feel lost. I feel my life is not aligned with my soul. I changed paths many times and seeing people with my age having a salary and having a more fulfilling life makes me sad. I would love to be happy and be in peace with myself. I'm ambitious and love the idea to choose a career I truly love but I sometimes feel hopeless. I wish things were different but maybe as you say many times we are where we meant to be.
I don't know if you are ever going to see this comment, but I have been watching your videos for a few years and you've helped me a lot in my path. I've benefited from your content more than anyone else's! just wanted to thank you💙🌊🦋
Im turning 27 and I feel like im just starting in life. starting to grow and explore.
Dear Aileen , I've been watching your videos for so many years , I think I first started watching at 16-17 , a time where I was lost and didn't know what to do after finishing high school. I was lost but found a way that I liked a little bit so I took that way. Pandemic came and life turned upside down. I grew up and now I'm 23 , after trying a certain path I realised I am unhappy.
Nothing has changed since I was 17 , I still want the same things but I lack the bravery and courage to choose to take risks.
I need take action, but I am so fearful of wasting my time. Your video really helped me and gave me comfort though , maybe a sign to finally make the choice to follow my heart?
I wish that next time I comment on a similar video I can tell you that I finally made the brave choice of following my heart and beginning my journey towards my dreams 💕
Sorry for the long text , just needed to get things off my chest in this positive community
I turned 20 not too long ago and I just honestly don’t know what to do, it feels like I need to decide soon like everything’s changing and I won’t be prepared. It’s hard finding the motivation, I don’t want to be stuck. I just genuinely want to live.
Im a really depressed person and I just laughed so hard when you were talking about "if you're avoiding waking up, life, and showing up" That it's a sign you're not meant to be there. And I was just like yeah not suppose to be living life haha
This was just what I needed to hear, I'm tearing up right now. Everything in this life will be okay, we don't need to figure out what we want now, we still have time and not knowing it's completely fine.
Send you all some much love and motivation to keep living and keep experiencing new things!
You are right. Learning from past mistakes, I realized I need a plan B, C, and D if necessary. Life is too short to waste.
Loved this so so much. I've never been that person who's known what they want to do, and I'm trying to get comfortable with that and actually see it as a blessing that I get to try different career paths and I'm open to different opportunities in life.
I have heard a saying that when you think more about "what should I do", the energy you transmit to the universe is full of "I don't know what to do", so the universe will let you immerse yourself in "you don't know what to do". Because we are all part of the cosmic energy, how we treat the opposite energy in us determines how we view the positive energy in our life. Thank you for the video, the energy of many people will become more stable because of this video, stability is the basis of all possibilities, and anxiety in it is the last thing we need.
Thank you so much for this. At 25 years old my life is far less than what I want for myself and I find it difficult to move in the direction of where I want to be. It's a constant struggle when every step forward on a path becomes blocked suddenly. My inner voice says that I am meant for something important and to do something I'm going to be passionate about but I just don't know what it is yet.
I am constantly dreading waking up because I know this current state isn't for me.
Hi there! As a 45 yr old who also was once 25 that feeling comes and goes but one thing is always my go to is I try to go out into nature and listen to my inner self. Heals the heart and mind ❤
@@suzenpope3401 kinda difficult. I can't really go to nature. It's really far away & can't drive. I could always enjoy the nature of the back yard but it's covered in dog poo as we have 7 dogs around here and I'm the only one who cleans it except a few one off occasions every so many months. 😭 Truth is that I have an overcrowded home and am not financially secure enough to be able to leave it.
@@bhsprinkle Im sorry to here that! Are you close to any local park or commons area? I live in the UK and do not drive as well, but we do live near an industrial estate so no matter what I try to get out even its just to see concrete so I can concentrate on my own thoughts plus I even look for funny YouTue videos just to distract my brain.
@@suzenpope3401 it's several streets down and I'm not allowed to walk that far. I live with my sister, her husband, my nephews, my Stepdad, and my Mom.
My mom is quite paranoid. I don't get to go anywhere so even if she eventually allows it,I'm not sure I'd be able to find my way back.
@@suzenpope3401 perhaps using a GPS or something on my phone. But I don't know.
Choosing the right career path was really a hard decision to make. Thank you for sharing this information this really helps a lot especially in considering a career that prioritizes self-care and self-love. 🥰
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
This video was everything I need to heard. Loved the way you expressed yourself by trying to encourage us without ignoring the bad things like our childhood. I’ve been follow you like 3yrs ago and this is the first time one of you videos resonates that much within me. I mean, the others did it, but this has something special. Thank u so much for share your experience. 💕
Wow, this is all what I needed to hear right now. I love synchronicities! I am 39 & can relate to your personality type as well as having tried many different paths only to find what works & what doesn’t. I am still learning how to trust my heart & intuition despite the what-ifs or fears. As a highly creative & sensitive person, I am finally seeing how it’s ok to create my life as I go, just like I do with creative projects. I don’t like the feeling that I’ve “wasted time;” but maybe that doesn’t really exist anyway, because we are constantly able to re-create things. Thanks for the inspiration I needed right now that I’m on the right track, especially if I always follow what lights me up inside. ☁️🤩☁️
recreate things....never thought about it that way! Thank you!
@@rklow2023 you’re welcome! I’m sure the inner child in each of us can help to get back to that playful creative state where mistakes don’t really exist, you know? Just re-create it! I like it! 🤩🙌
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
Thank you so much💜
Your videos always make me feel much better. I'm in my early twenties so this the perfect timing for me🌟
For so long I've felt hopeless watching people around me getting corporate jobs whereas I've craved freedom, slow living and possibility to create.
Thank you for making me realise that I can create my own path, it's such a relief💜
Thank you so much. Your advice relives me from a lot of overthinking and anxiety. You are like an elder sister to me , helping us in all possible ways. Lots of love and respect.
Same here!
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
1)my inner voice doesnt let me work around people i'd prefer to work remote, I like to research things im curious still looking for something what make me feel comfortable
I have been working as a freelancer for a whole year it was a great experience I discovered a lot about myself it’s bringing me closer to what I want in life. I am not even confident whole saying this but following my heart was the reason thank you you have been supportive with your words. I think it’s time to move on to a new experience
How do you start freelancing? Isnt it scary to know if your going to get enough jobs or money?
Aileen you WOULD NOT BELIEVE but recently i have been so stressed about what I wanna do because my 11th is just about to end and after that I'll only have few months to decide what I wanna do.
I've been asking angels to guide me and help me AND YOU POST THIS honestly this feels so aligned (?)
I haven't watched the video yet because I was freaking out at how you posted the exact video i needed.🥺❤️
Love you Aileen!!!💖🙌🏼🥺
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You are so good!
I'm 25 and from Wales, UK. I've been to University twice, both times feeling certain that was the path i wanted to take. Unfortunately they didn't work out and i didn't feel like they were the paths for me. I left my most recent endeavour a little over a year ago now. I'm currently in a very depressed and uncertain place. I hate not having structure in my life as before this i've had plans to do things. At the moment i have no plans but i know i want something more than what i'm doing now. Thinking about what career to take is honestly so draining and i feel a lot of pressure around myself to succeed and to be more. I'd love to be someone who was certain about the life they wanted but i'm not that fortunate. It's very tiring 😮💨
Same! I went to uni then i didnt like my program. I then went into nursing and I dont wanna do it anymore. Now, Im trying to apply to school again for med tech. I hope this works out this time :(
Thank you so much. I'm from India, and over here we basically have to chose our career path at 16,with much less leeway to change subjects than in the West, so O need to become clear about career quite quickly
You're incredibly wise.
Thankyou for your thoughts and experience.
The questions you have asked in the persuit of your dreamlife aren't easy. Finding it can bd very hard. I think many people dont ask these.
I have been on the same path as you while working through being a survivor of C- PTSD. My goal has been to come through this: to realise me. My journey, however, has been different from yours because I didnt try things and I didnt have the right process to come through my condition. Yet, I have began to come through and to find answers and directions. Youre right, the pursuut of finding are dream life isnt easy.
And its true, what we want❤ reveals itself if we go forward and listen along the way to what feels right and what sparks us. Ive recently learned to create something everyday and from there direction and answers reveal itself.
I feel pressure around money. Im much older than you, yet I have learned that doing things just for the money creates problems.
Bless you.
Wow, this came at the right time! I’ve been sitting here at work deep in thought about how unhappy I am with this 8-5 high stress & demand corporate life & wanting to pivot. Subscribed! Thank you 💖 can’t wait to check out your content.
I’m an artist, an illustrator specifically. I’m struggling in college majoring in accounting cause it’s not what I want to do but I fear for the future. I wish I could spend all my time learning how to perfect my craft but I don’t come from money. No career feels right aside from drawing but the job market sucks for creatives.
Finding what we want in life is a long process but worth it. ❤❤❤❤
I absolutely love your channel… from the moment I started watching your videos(maybe half a year ago) I haven’t missed a singe video. And it’s all because of you and the energy you project- making us feel like life is given to us so we can enjoy it no matter who we are and what we want.
Hope you are really happy with what you do 😊
Wow, thank you so much!!
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
Thank you. I needed to watch this. I felt so lost and had no idea what to do while my current career path is different from what I really want to do. But I finally decided to follow the path that sparks my heart.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
Thank you for this video. I am 58 years old and need to start over finding a new path building a new life for myself. Your guidance are relevant even at this age.
26 years old over here! I don't know what to do with my life. I pursued a career that wasn't meant for me. A bachelor in business administration. I'm an introvert and this is a profession for extrovert people. Here i am, i've been struggling with corporate jobs, I don't last nor even a month when i quit, i believe it's because i hate my career!! And here i am, I don't know what to do!! I just know i don't want to work in this field :(
I feel like my spark is being creative. I love the idea of like movies and expressing that through,music,arts,and storys combined to make a great movie so I'd probably benefit from something of the creativity field.
Your timing is just crazily perfect! I was literally feeling like I was somewhat sinking because I tend to overthink a lot on that subject. So I write that comment just to say : thank you infinitely ☺️💖🧡💜💙💚
One big THANK YOU. That's it. This video came at such a right time. I hope everyone reading this finds their way 💜
Lắng nghe tiếng nói bên trong
Sẳn sàng vượt qua khó khăn
Có tầm nhìn về cuộc sống trong mơ
Tôn trọng cuộc sống của chính mình
I've been feeling so lost this month and as if I've lost purpose. It's a negative state because I'm falling behind in my studies. We started a new semester at the beginning of february and I'm so indecisive about my schedule, I know it's not the end of the world but I don't know what to do after graduate and this is my last semester. Any choice I take I'm always having regrets or thinking what if. It's almost like denial or attachment, I'll be sad to leave but at the same time there's so many ppl I don't wanna see anymore. I'm drawn to meet new people, learn about life even though I know the journey will be out of my comfort zone. That is what makes us evolve and expand. It's been raining the past two days with school cancellations, the sun just came out :)) Anyway, I've been stuck in fear, afraid of the future, afraid that I might fail, the time that's passing by fast, afraid I won't change my mom's life for the better. It's all distractions from the present, but it's not easy to focus on the now. Thank you for these insightful videos that you make
This couldn't come in a better time, have been feeling so down about life and not knowing what I want to do, and I haven't even seen the video and I know I will love it!!
Thank you for sharing the experiences that helped shape who you are. It’s so reassuring to know that you won’t always know the answer, and that’s okay ☺️
I have been unsure and lost for a long time regarding career paths as I have many interests knowing which path to follow is difficult for me. However, hearing the ways in which you have found something that resonates with you is really inspiring :)
We all stumble blindly forward. That is ok. As long as you are stumbling forward, it is progress. Do not, stop, keep stumbling blindly.
The only way someone see's success is looking back. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. They are selling you something you don't need.
No one stands at the bottom of the mountain feeling success. They feed drive, hope, faith...... but success is only experienced at the top looking down. You have to blindly, stumble up that mountain first!
Thankyou so much for this wonderful content that you share to us, I've realize so many things after watching this video. I'm in my twenties btw and I don't know what to do with my life, I am afraid of following what my heart tells me because I'm afraid to fail, you really help me and I just cant thank you enough, I promise that from now on I will fulfill what my heart tells me no matter what! Thank you once again.
Now I am in my starting stage of 20s and i really need this.Recently I've been struggling with this thank so much Aileen 💕lots of love from India 😍
Same here!
I'm turning 27 this year and I still feel lost and am trying to figure things out. I regret going to university and doing a degree that doesn't have that many job prospects. I thought I liked it initially and I was adamant to keep going, and fine, I don't regret actually getting that paper. But now I'm going back to school, or hoping to, and am dreading doing midterms all over again. But I'm trying to be more positive about it.
This is so great! This is an area where I hold a lot of tension and, often, pain and discomfort. I love the simplicity and effectiveness of these exercises. It feels like something I can memorize for anytime I need it
On one hand you create familiarity with common emotions/experience, on the other hand you break familiarity and create division by bragging and positionning yourself in the feet of "the one who tried it and can tell" . The constant switch between bonding/dividing is a trait that demonstrate a need for fatherly affection.
Loved listening to this and the encouragement you shared. I don’t know who supported you so you could be given the freedom to pursue your dreams like this. But don’t forget to thank the ones who gave you their back so you had a launch pad to fly from ❤
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
This video is exactly what I needed…
I’m 27 and my brother keeps on telling me “what are you going to do in life” “for career wise on what’s makes you happy” I always feel down overtime I keep hearing it from him from time to time again (thus why I’m always scared to ask for help and had to do thing myself…) and always feel like I’m already a failure as in my 20’s and who failed to my family or friends expectations from me… the worst thing that my friends are already figuring out what to do in life (including my brother of course) while I’m still lose and stuck…
I love art and my brother told that the Ai will take over and can’t go the uni to study, due to my (possibly my ADHD that I didn’t got diagnosed yet)…
(I’m very sorry for a vent comment, I guess I was at a bit of the lowest time in my life since 2023, but recovering slowly…)
Strolled this video at the time when I just need it. I’m now in my early 20s and feel so lost cuz the job I’m doing right now is absolutely boring though I just started it. I’ve thought about quitting a lot of times but still don’t have the courage to really do it. And there is some possibility in this job that it creates my dream life though I have to stick it through before that happens. Like ur advice. It at least makes me feel that I’m not the only one who is struggling and I know no matter how much I dislike this job, it’s gonna work and lead me to where I want to be
I started listening/watching your videos. I learned a lot and hope that I can apply it to myself. I'm in the process of discovering and knowing my worth. I want to be better for myself and thank you for making great videos that inspire me.
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
I study medicine and I’m really struggling thinking about the work after Uni that seems so toxic for the doctors, so I’m really thinking about switching, but I don’t know what to what, maybe engineering, but your video of us really good to at least understand that I’m not alone
Im an engineer but I love drawing more so now im trying so hard to follow my heart. Im loving the journey, sadly we are not rich and my parents are now getting sick because of age so I think ill go back to my professionfor a while. But i will not give up. I know this is the right path for me.
You always post topics at the perfect time 🙌
I know this video was posted a year ago, but honestly, out of all the career advice videos I've watched, this is the best one. Thank you so much for sharing your experience, it was very insightful.
Omg I’m so glad I stumbled upon this video!!!! I have been unemployed for the past 5 months, and also at a time where I changed my career thinking this is the way to go but after working in the industry I absolutely hated it, and still kept going and interviewing for the same industry thinking that it’ll get better. After watching this video you helped me to actually listen to my gut and instincts, I know now that I don’t want to work in the same industry, so I decided to apply to another industry and after the first interview I got the job offer! Now super excited to do what I feel good about. 🎉
i'm so excited for you love! thank you for sharing 🥰 i feel like we inspire one another when we share our stories
Gosh. Thank you so so so SO MUCH. Loved this video. Your voice is so helpful too. I was struggling with so many thoughts related to my career! I am so happy that I have people like me in the world who want to build a dream life rather than doing a 9-5!
Your channel is so awesome 👍 and awe inspiring too ! Thank you so much Aileen !
Turning 27 this March 15 and a perfect timing to watch while having quarter life crisis.
PLEASE could you do a video talking about your success within your career? How did you get to where you are what decisions did you make? I love your videos!
Lavendaire, seriously.. this channel has changed my mindset so muchh!! not my life. im still working on how to fullfill my dream life and how i want to fix it piece by piece. The moment i started watching your videos seriously, i feel this postivtive energy flowing around my body. I as a person am oding well and working more about myself but im surrounded byya negative energy household.
I'm lost at 28, I don't want to pursue corporate work much either, My only academic interest is to be a Dietician, but I don't think I have the intelligence or personality to successfully achieve and live out that career, I don't want any apprenticeship's or blue collar work, just totally lost
Hey! I've been watching your videos for years and you're such a wise and inspiring woman!! Thank you for having made the decision to shine your light🙏 it helps others❤
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?
ILY LAVENDAIRE, IM SO PROUD OF YOU AND THANK YOU FOR THIS!!!!!!!
Thanks so much for this! I'm 20 and still in college doing mt and feel left behind because my college students went on to uni already but I have another two years till I can go and be ready. Nice to know I'm not feeling like I have to rush right
i ended highschool took uni (science), redid the high school exam (1year gone) went to another field (engineering) and finally ended up switching the field lol(sports science) and am 20 too and 1st year uni💜
There was no better timing for this video. Thank you so much Aileen. You always help me find my way back when I'm feeling lost.
I never thought I'd want a job with manual labour. Like breaking my back for my employer to make money off it? no thanks.
Now I've ended up in a job with manual labour by chance just because I needed the money... and I'm loving it.
This is the fittest and healthiest I've ever been and I've put in near zero effort.
Seriously, I'm in better shape than I was when I used a gym 3 days a week and that was a huge struggle for me to motivate myself to do in the first place.
This job was originally something I saw as a stop gap min wage job between uni and a career in research but it's ended up being a pivot point for me to decide field work and/or a complete career change to manual labour is going to be a better fit for me!
i used to say "nothing good comes easy", i hope that everyone know that life requires hard work and effort 😊
I see a lot of people saying 40’s is the best. I’m in my 20’s and it sucks but that’s what keeps me going.
Ahhh love your channel so much! Thank you for being a constant inspiration and for reminding me to trust my intuition ♥️
Watching this right now, 1 year after you posted and this is just what I needed. Thank you so much for making this video🧡
What consumes your mind, controls your life.
Agree! Our mind is really powerful enough.
I'm 28 and I'm still stuck. Dropped out of uni again (biology), and am pursuing music production further. Just need to make a viral track. Run some tiktok ads. And maybe I'll be on my way.
Thank you so much, this video has given me so much strength and guidance, I hope we can all do what intuition brings us!
Thank you so much for again making me see what I can do to find myself. 💕
Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?