On Treating Women in Islam - Khutbah by Nouman Ali Khan
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- One of the most misunderstood ayat of the Quran is in Surah An-Nisa. This is a classic example of how a passage, taken out of context leads to false claims against the word of Allah. In this khutbah, Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan stresses that we can't read aya 34 without considering what came before and after it. He teaches us that the idea of a man's ‘qawama’ over a woman has nothing to do with authority and everything to do with being a constant caretaker and supporter of women. We only need to look at the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and how he treated his wives to learn that hitting was never a part of it.
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I really hope I don’t end up in an emotionally/psychologically abusive marriage.. I pray my future husbands family are also good people. May Allah make me an exceptional wife who’s the coolness of my husbands eyes. Aameen
Ameen
Ameen Ya Rabbih and grant you a righteous children ameen
Hafsa.You poor thing. You will never be able to please a man. Islam is dead wrong. I left it or I would have been dead by now at the hands of my husbands family. In Pakistan a woman dies every day at the hands of her husband or her in-laws. Don't think you can make these people happy, you cannot. It is the religion of Satan.
Detox Lady 😂😂😂😂😭😂😂😭😭😂😭 you’re a joke and a munafiq. I’m sorry but you can never bring Islam down.
Detox Lady please listen before you comment. Thanks
You're the only Pakistani scholar I know who doesn't turn harsh when say something about women.
You really help me understand what Allah actually talks about women.
Subhan Allah
Mahira khan check out mufti menk as well. He's an amazing scholar like him
tariq jamil is also good
Ethereal Fantasy mufti menk isn't Pakistani though.
Mahira khan- Well then just check out Arab or African scholars. There are so many. Don't focus on their race, just what they say.
@True Observation I am not sure that you can back up women being compared to animals by Muhammad PBUH with anything authentic. The concept of a caretaker is related to chivalry, women can work in islam and they can consent to sexual intercourse. I am a muslim woman and I feel empowered by Islam, I am not a sex slave. My culture can oppress me but my religion does not.
Nouman Ali khan.... What a man. Always someone to look up to. May Allah continue to guide us all.
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Sometimes the truth hurts more than a lie.
We should always look up only to Muhammad (peace be upon him), because the person to look up to should be the best of mankind. Thank you brother.
Peace be upon you
Sami Kazan stfu
I wish I could have a father like him.
dont worry. you will have a husband like him...:)
Can I ask you do u belive in men beating their women with toothbrush.
@@StudySavvyy
It's not wrong what's wrong is when you beat your wife till she is black and blue which in Islam is haram(sin) for husband to beat his wife black and blue
@@princesszeldaprincess447 yea right, but should a man beat her anyways be it even a toothbrush?
@@StudySavvyy brother in islam husband have no rights to beat her wife because Hadith says best of you is those who best to his wife.
I feel blessed to be a woman. I will do my utter best to raise my sons to grow up to become real caretakers of their wife... in every single way. This should become commun knowledge, enough of the ridiculous way of cultural abuse of all women, mothers, daughters, sisters.... ENOUGH!!!
Thank you Nouman for all your efforts.
You going to raise your sons to be like Muhammad? Muhammad hit his wife Aisha and laughed when Abu Bakr smacked his wives Aisha and Hafsa. -Sahih Muslim 4:2127 and 9:3506. Going to raise your sons to look down upon women as having half the worth of a man, who can rape their wife because there is no such thing as spousal rape?
You referenced 2 hadiths, the forst one 4:2127, The prophet here is not trying to harm aiesha or discipline her, the hadith clearly displays that Aiesha was simply playing and following the prophet and that is why it is narrated by her in sahih muslim
Aisha reported:
مَا ضَرَبَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ خَادِمًا لَهُ وَلَا امْرَأَةً وَلَا ضَرَبَ بِيَدِهِ شَيْئًا
The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, did not strike a servant or a woman, and he never struck anything with his hand.
Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2328, Grade: Sahih
With the second source, The porphet i believe laughed at the spanking khaadiga's daughter recieved when he the prophet asked for money, so there was simply confusion here, Abu Bakr thought the daughter was asking for money, however she wasn't so it was a you could call a harsh joke, btw a slap to the neck is similar to when a mate slaps you on the back as tough love or whatever.
Also the prophet asked both Abu Bakr and Umar to be kind with their daughters.
A husband no where in islam can force himself on his wife. Pleases show me where you get this absurd claim.
@@redmaple8304 Twins equate to two no? Women are the twins halves of men, doesn't two halves equal one? Men and woman are equal in the eyes of Allah but are created differently.
Well, it doesn't matter because your sacred Koran says wife beating is permissible in Koan 4,34. I quoted Sahih Hadiths too. Another Sahih Hadith shows that Aisha said she has not seen so much suffering as the believing women when Aiha saw a girl beaten green, and instead of Muhammad admonishing her husband for doing so, he told her to go back to him.
Koran 2:223, where it talks about a woman being like land that he can have when and how he wants. And the Sharia Manual, Reliance of the Traveller, which is upheld by the prestigious Sunni University Al Azhar mentions that part of the marriage contract is to provide sex for your husband so even if she don't want to.
And you don't respect women, even if you say a smack is okay. What part of no physical violence on a women do you not understad, Coward? Poor excuse.
Ulfah, what are you talking about, twins? The relationship of a man and womn as dictated in the Koran and by the words of Muhammad is that women is half the worth of a man, that their testiomny is half that of a man's and that she lacks intelligence and religion. Men and Women are only judged as equal on the day of judgement.
You can sense that he practices what he teaches, it's not just in the mind. May Allah keep him straight.
Amen
Subhanallah, everytime I listen to a Khutbah it's as if Allah knew exactly what my heart wanted to hear. I needed this. Shukr to Allah, Shukran Ustadh.
I feel the same
Me too
Same here
Without a single piece of paper to read from... this is true dedication to knowledge
@ interesting, I've never felt two feelings at once before. I felt both hopeful and sad at the moment I finished reading your comment. Hopeful, that one day you will come to realistic terms and notice how not one word you've uttered will ever compare to a word in the Quran, and sad that if you don't, you may forever regret you didn't, and abide in Hell, unless The Merciful has mercy on you. God is good...
@@sylargrey9444 after I read John Higgens comments, I am feeling the same. Interesting.
@@detective01holmes10 thanks detective
@@sylargrey9444 you are welcome
When I fed up with all so called scholar of Islam I try to listen his lecture it's give me peace.thank a lot.
I Don't know why but after listening this khutba i can't stop crying. SUBHAN ALLAH. ALLAH IS THE GREATEST.
and Nouman Ali khan thank you so much for explaining these things so nicely. May Allah bless you with peace and happiness and jannah.
And i wish i can show this video to every man on the earth. I JUST WISH.
May Allah forgive us for every wrong thing we did and we are still doing in our life.
so DONT hurt her, don't change her, DONT try to analyze and DONT expect more than she can give, smile when she make you happy, Let her know when she makes you mad miss her when she's not there- bob marley
DIVORCED ADVICE-
most men arent smart enough to realize the higher you elevate your women, the less available she is for other men, when you break her down, you make her accessible to anyone she thinks will treat her better.
Pique NY Don't doesn't mean when you don't get treated right you start raise your gaze an stare at other men?! Allah doesn't like divorces stop making it a Norm we are not the west with a disgusting 60 percent with woman who aren't sexually satisfied going to start sleeping around normalising divorce culture is not preferable
@@lookattheflowers969 A Divorce is only permissible twice: after that, the parties should either hold Together on equitable terms, or separate with kindness.It is not lawful for you, (Men), to take back any of your gifts (from your wives), except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah.If ye (judges) do indeed fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah, there is no blame on either of them if she give something for her freedom.These are the limits ordained by Allah.so do not transgress them if any do transgress the limits ordained by Allah, such persons wrong (Themselves as well as others). (Surah Al-Baqara, 229)
Pique NY this is SO TRUE !!!
Cant ask her to do anything. Than why married then?
Love this really, really smart. It makes so much sense.
4:44 Powerful verse: الذين جعلوا القرآن عضين _"They took the Quran and tore it to pieces."_
Those who took the Qur'an and tore it to pieces likes to be in hellfire. Allah knows best.
Chills ❤️
is he the only one of his kind.....amazed by him....
Fatima Hasan
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there is salahudin ibn ibrahim in aksa mosque but he speak in arabic :D
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Nouman Ali Khan is 1 of the best to listen to.
Finding this video means so much to me in so many levels. 3 years ago when I was 14 my dad would use this specific aiya to tell me how when I marry I need to be submissive to my husband, would translate the قوامون to men are superior and use that to reflect his relationship with my mother and how she fails as a Muslim women because she wanted a divorce. I was 14 and I didn't think about searching it up and making sure of what the meaning is behind it and took my father's word starting to doubt my religion and faith because of how he would talk terribly of my mother and use this to further his toxic point so we think that my mother was this horrible person and he was right to go live with him.
Cristian here, i have stoped going to chirch when i lost respect for my father.
He said the bible said children should respect and listen to their parants.
But in a very intitled way, wich left a bitter taste in my mouth.
We have similar stories of faults...
@@Miha-dg3cs You are right... People use religion to justify their horrible acts.😢 It's disgusting.
Take care and don't allow anyone to mistreat you. Escape the world is your oyster
Al hamdullilah he repeats this subject and the aya's of the Quran. because without proper tafseer nobody will understand it. As a woman I feel special because God gave us women hope and our rights. Even if a man in your life mistreads you. Rabbi yadhina. Ramadan mubarak if you read this.
God bless you Nauman for these beautiful khutbas you give. You are my sons age and I envy your mother for having a son like you!
+Ayesha Zaidi
Like everthing good, let us say *MAASHALLAH!* The "envy" language is not Islamic way of appreciating something good.
Ayesha, you should appreciate your sons, because they are blessings allah has given you.
Sorry, but that's not fair to your sons! Imagine your mother saying "I wish I had a daughter like that."
Highlight of the week!!!! Alhumdulillah may Allah bless you o uploader and may Allah bless you random scroller!
Screw You Google typical of NAK fanboy to make a joke dua
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SalamWithISLAM
What wrong with you?
Scared of marrying someone..now marriage is so scary..
ma sha allah . ramadan mubarak everyone. im a converted muslim but i am a sinner. im not the perfect example 4 a muslim woman. thats why hmdl the lectures of brother ali nouman khan and mufti menk help me to be a better muslim and help others to understand islam better im the right way. there is no culture difference in islam. its all about allah swt and his will for human kind. hmdl for the knowledge
Masha Allah sister you have Reverted back to Islam Allah is the most merciful the beneficent the All Almighty!
everyone is a sinner
but give ur best and repent
may Allah bless u andmake it easy for u :D
MaaShaAllah. May Allah SWT give you the great reward for your awesome advice, dear Ostadh.
mamun masudur Aslamualeykum, PLEASE check out and subscribe to my channel, for beautiful islamic content! jazakallah (:
May all men and women be granted a beautiful marriage. May we all be granted a character befitting of Ummah of Muhammad. May we all be granted steadfastness in our pursuit for Iman and Allah's blessing.
Ameen
Yet another remarkable, insightful and enlightening speech from brother Nouman. Rarely in recent years has a scholar provided such knowledgeable, well thought out commentary on social issues. Jazakallah.
Ali Bari Aslamualeykum, PLEASE check out and subscribe to my channel, for beautiful islamic content! jazakallah (:
jazakumullah khair. May Allah guide us all ☺
MashAllah. Mind blowing Khutbah. Jazakallahu khairan.
I ask allah to give Nouman Ali what ever he wishs in this Life and the next. Amin
May Allah bless Ustad Nouman Ali Khan. His ability to deliver the teachings of the Quran is outstanding ❤
JazakAllahu Khairan for uploading khutbahs every week.
JazakAllah khair Nouman Ali Khan!
May Allah continue to increase you knowledge and faith. Ameen
I have so much videos of him and Mufti Menk to show my future husband inshallah before getting married if it ever happens haha
Oh this is such a good idea damn 😂
Where r u from?
@Umme Kulsum amiiine
@@soudakizhakkeparambil9740 Senegal
I tried to show one to my husband but he is too lazy to listen to the hole thing, how can I make him realise something I want him to realise? I need advice
Wow i have never heard somebody gave dakwah as great as Nouman does in my country, Indonesia, wow. Prayer to you Nouman
Sub'haanAllah beautiful lecture Ustad NAK.
👍Jazakumullah khoyr ustadz nouman ali khan and Bayyinah team
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I was so lucky to meet him. Great guy
I'm so excited to watch this
Jazak Allahu khairan kaseera.
Alhumdullah, this brother is so enlightening. May Allah continue to bless him.
Ameen
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Your explanations bring so much relief to us! :')
MaaShaAllah. May Allah SWT give you the great reward for your awesome advice
Barakallahou fik nak for all the work you do
JazakaAllah kher brother
Jazakaullahu khairaan brother, may Allah swt reward you. Nice explanations.
*(ما شاء الله تبارك الله)*
* Masha Allāh Tabaraka Allāh,* may Allah reward you, *brother Nouman,* the best.
Ameen
So true
this is such a misunderstood topic in our religion
May Allah guide us all to the truth
Ameen.
I can understand what u say clearly n am so thankful am imagining when rasul aleh salat wasalam talk he was clear n he show everything that even the people that they didn't see they can feel it like they see it mashallah
You explain the subjects so clear and you have sabr hamdulilah to explain it to us. Thank you very much, I really appreciate it. I hope insha Allah, that Allah will help you continuing and develop this sabr and knowledge. Shokran
Much needed guidance! Thank you!!
Alhamdulillah when I heard this I got peace in my heart
share this lecture..
our ummah needs such knowledge such enlightenment both men and women..
most beautiful khutba that i have ever heard . Allah bless you more knowledge.
Ameen
nouman ali khan lectures are comprehensive and realistic. his way of delivering his lecture is very impressive intellectual and efffective.
Jizakallah, Man you inspire me. May Allah bless us all.
Ameen
Nicely explained with amazing analogies.
JazakAllah khair
Wow!We need more on these ...most people don't talk about these matters...so please make more kutbah and videos 🙏
Such a beautiful explanation...
Thanks Ustad to teaching the meaning this specific ayat.
ALMIGHTY ALLAH'S MERCY &BLESSINGS BE WITH U BROTHERS Norman & Mufthi Menk-ALMIGHTY ALLAH'S MERCY AND BLESSINGS Also on The UMMAH For having Speakers like U among Us.ALLAHUAKBAR !
Ameen
inna llaha ya7komo mayashaa . My Allah bless u Nouman
redouane naoui
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Ikr!!! Men treat their wives horribly...I know wives who ask money to buy groceries ..to feed their own children and the husband is like..I don't know ...don't you have that property rent money from the property your parents gave you? They don't take care of the wives when they are pregnant . Like. WTH ...how are you people even human. It makes my blood boil.
I am a brother and you are right
The only good men are men that fear ALLAH THE ALMOGHTY
Thats y u know sister there is a hadees i have read..Hazrat Ali RA said When you marry..marry a man who is god fearing because when he will love you he will honour you and when he will hate you he will not wrong you...when someone truly fears Allah their hearts gets filled up with humility and Allah increases them in consciousness of Him so they are mindful of their words and actions..n when they get slip off as they are humans they humble down and try to apologise and look for fixing things up...May Allah make us good wives to our husbands and may Allah give us god fearing husbands♥️
I can understand dear My own father abuses my mother like anything thats so horrible experience...He keeps on taunting her that she didnt bring anything in dahez...N he makes us beg for every single penny even after having so much money kept in the cupboard..He doesnt Allows my mother to even take 100 rs without his permission..even for essentials n kitchen stuff he will ask ten illogical questions before finally giving money..he makes us cry for fees of our college..even during eid he dont spend on his family with big heart...May Allah swt guide all of us💖
@@fatimakhatri1687 sister, may Allah bless your mother with jannat ul ferdous and knock some sense in your father's head. May Allah protect u all ameen
Jazaakallahu khair
I really would like to have Arabic subtitles for theses khotbah... it's so different in a good true way that I wish everyone could listen and understand this
Jazakallah khair ya ustaz
omer mobashir I've
Nowadays, men are not men anymore, and women are not women anymore, that's why they don't accept this beautiful ayah. May Allah protect us and grant us wonderful relationships where each one is good for the other and behaves according to what pleases Allah سبحانة و تعالى
What do you mean, men aren't men and women aren't women? What are they, then?
yeah, depending on men is the best part of being a female!
Beautiful aya? For telling men to beat their wives?
@@xadam1964No ayah say beat women.
O! our Ustadh Nauman Ali Khan!! May Allah Subhanahu wa T'ala & His beloved Rasoolallah Sallallahu alehe wa alehe wasalam be pleased be with you!!
Ameen
Thanks a lot for this videos !!! Please please if it is possible activate the subtitles in more languages. Not just in English, add them in Arabic and more if its possible. Because this videos are so helpful and valuable that i would love them to touch the live of more people, people that doesn't understand English too. Thank you!!!
Great explanation Sir...hats off
I love his narration ...bcz he make us Understand easily
Allah razı olsun
So so amazingly explained.. Masha Allah Masha Allah...may Allah grant you more knowledge so u can explain more ..masha Allah.
Ameen
You are one of the few scholars that I like to listen to them regarding woman talks in islam
الله یبارکلك ، i have been searching for explanation of this Ayah for Atheists PPL
O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will, and you should not treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the bridal money you have given them. And live with them honorably. If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and God brings a great deal of good through it. (An-Nisaa’ 4:19)
Who else felt very honoured hearing this? sisters?haha :P
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but 1 in 100 of mengive this honour to their women ..
@maria mohib not true!!
I used to think this too until I married into a very good practising family alhamdulilah, he has 5 brothers, all like himself, and brother in laws too, all mashaAllah treating us like queens alhamdulilah.
V different from my own family.......
Very sensitive point...which is often argued...especially in this modern society.. misunderstood meaning of this aayah is criticized badly by falseminds...but ..Maa shaa Allaah...brother..!!!bi fadhli rabbina u pondered the criticism and makes us to realize the "mavadhdhathan and rahmah-bond"through this word of Allaah.The growing,constant love..(qavvaamoon).accepting the talents of other's (fadhdhalna)..good deeds ,piety... honesty.(saslihaath,qaanithaath, haagidhaath).these are the great secrets of the happiest marriage life...All. these diamonds are bounded in this aayath...now we see the glitterings of joy behind this..jazaakumullaahu khairan brother for tackling this sensitive issue and for making it as a crown of islam..!!
Thank you for your clear explanation. I have a request to you, please make a video on the explanation of Islamic rules of property distributions .....there's so much misclarifications people keep on giving us....I believe it will be really helpful if you can kindly make a video on it ....as your way of explaining things is very straightforward. May Allah grant us peace and guide us to the right path.
the besssst MashaAllah
My dad needs to watch this
my mum also needs to watch this
What exactly does ISNA do as an organization ??? As a Muslim growing up in the US for over 20 years...I find it hard to find any personal impact ISNA has provided for me. I think the problem resides within the lack of traditional scholarship ISNA'S board consists of. We need a team of leaders with refined souls to lead the Muslims of America. And i dont really see that with ISNA. Most people on the board try to comform with American values whilst leaving Islamic values. We are facing an identity chrisis as Muslims living in America...and ISNA is confusing the identities of many American Muslims. Id argue ICNA is doing much better work than ISNA is with a smaller team and following. What are your thoughts!??!
JazakAllah Khairan
Ufuk XiYiZi send it to him
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@@azfarthakur7602 As a muslim from the UK I appreciate the dawah from the scholars and speakers from the US. If they are preaching Islam then how can they advocate to follow your desires? They focus on Islam not culture.
Well explained!
ameen... shukran
Thank you for your excellent lecture on this ayah, in which I found an extraordinary whole beauty reconciling mind and heart, feeling and reason.
I also noticed where Allah said "Wa'dribouhonnah...", I don't believe that Allah means "hit them...". This word has many derivatives and meanings and its usage depends a lot on the context. I believe a simple and logical interpretation here in this ayah would mean "to withdraw from them and go on strike to talk to them, respond, listen, etc", until they admit their actions and sincerely ask for an apology. And Allah knows best. Thank you.
MaShaAllah... It's always amazing that how he takes an ayah oh Qu'ran and explains it in a way that you fall in love with Allah and his words.I just feel closeness to Allah after hearing him.May Allah bless him♥️♥️♥️♥️
may allah grant me and all the good girls well informed in deen spouses like this man here
Thank you ustad 😊
"...this is the part of the ayah that is subject to a lot of controversy..." MashaAllah, I didn't hear anything controversial when Ustadh explained it. SubhanAllah
MashaaAllah
hope i can see next part
May Allah swt grant you more wisdom and more knowledge to translate the Aayat of the AlQuran alkareem as it should be translated , beautiful, pure, easy for the heart and mind to except and say" سمعنا وأطعنا غفرانك ربنا وإليك المصير
Ameen
سبحان اللہ
اس سلسلے کو جاری رکھیں دلی دعا ہے اللہ آپ کو کامیانی دے🤲🏽
I really feel like crying 😭😭because I know how much Islam has shown women honor but a lot of men and women don’t see it❤️Alhamdulillah
very nice advice may Allah bless this young man with more knowledge which Will benefit the ummeh .
I would have loved if he give more élaboration and explanation of the part of beating women!! Dribohona means literally something différent otherwise God would never ask to beat women!!!
Ameen
Good work brother
Assalamu alaikum dear ones, I know there is another one similar speech given by Ustadh, I believe in Malaysia. You can look it up, left me speechless, it is called ABUSE OF WOMEN! And yeah, Ustadh, may Allah subhanahu wa ta ala bless you and keep elevating your status on both worlds, you are a precious gift *
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Walikumusalam
This needs to be in Urdu too!!! Please!
Subhan Allah....
Mashaallah keter allahu amthalak
may Allah reward you give you the best in this life and the hereafter.
Ameen
Masha Allah
Where is the second part of this khutbah? Im literally taking notes. MashaAllah NAK is a great teacher.
jazakAllah
Alah protect him,! Thank you