My husband has abused me to such an extent that I cant explain in short I ask Allah to give me sabr to deal with him and to wait for the day of judgement .....please mothers raise you4r sons well teach them to respect women.....
You should let others aware and show him this video unless he might harm you or get angry.plz search up Islamic lectures on what to do if husband is abusive. Inshallah you find a wonderful man. Try and tell your family what’s going on or even the police and get evidence first.because it is not backbiting at all since you are being affected. May allah grant you patience and a better spouse
Divorce him! I don't think you are getting reply notifications, but, sister, please divorce him! If your nikah gave you the right to talaq, then do a talaq, but if not, then do a khulfa! (A khulfa is the divorce initiated by the woman, by the way). And if he won't agree to the khulfa, then sister, take the divorce that is initiated by the mosque or court! Sister, if you are beaten, then your marriage can be terminated!
I never get involved in comment discussions, but I need to write one thing that I would be extremely grateful if someone passes this to ustadh Nouman himself. I've been one of thousands of women abused in the name of religion. I've been Islamic teacher that was standing out loud against many things that Muslim scholars and Muslim cultures dictate, that are clearly against Islam (my lectures were 90% based on lectures of ustadh Nouman as I am also Bayyinah member) and I lost everything - as ustadh said in the lecture. I've lost my status, my position, my respect, I was insulted in terrible ways and abused tremendously. Now I suffer from PTSD because of Muslim people and I'm a convert myself, working on my degree in Shariah and I must say that I am heart broken. My sickness doesn't allow me from studying Islam anymore, I get panic attacks because of what Muslims have done to me multiple times. And knowing from this lecture that many of those scholars know the truth but don't say it is making me so terribly angry and disappointed! Aren't they afraid of Allah, really?! They tell people to do wrong even though they know it's not true! Thousands of women are being mistreated in the name of Islam and scholars know that but don't support us! Non-Muslims have more empathy for Muslim women (and I experienced that many times) than Muslim scholars - those who are supposed to be the role models... I'm sorry but my broken heart doesn't tell me anything more than that I blame each one of those scholars for not saying the truth YET knowing it! Muslim scholar will be rewarded for even wrong fatwa he gives, but for sure not if he knows the truth but doesn't say it to please people. There are many women who leave Islam because of this and I know many of them. Have mercy upon us... You (men) are supposed to take care of us but all you often do is support each other in wrongdoing even though u know it isn't right and imams / scholars only congratulate you in doing harm. This is ridiculous. May Allah protect women from wrongdoing of men in the name of Islam, ameen.
I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I have a great deal of respect for your courage and conviction in standing up for your right to say what you think. I wish I could help you but I'm not a Muslim man. I'm an atheist. I think what's most sad about your comment is that it is a cry for help and judging by the lack of replies by your fellow Muslims, it's only falling on deaf ears. Good luck to you and be safe.
+mac whirley That's also my feeling. There are not many Muslims who have any idea about psychology and who respect medical influences of Islam on our lives. But I'm glad that no one comments instead of seeing comments like "Fear Allah! You don't have enough faith!" when I talk about medical situation of mine. Especially that it's not about faith itself but about behavior of Muslims and Muslim scholars which is unacceptable and pushes people away from Islam, especially that Prophet (peace be upon him) was all the time talking about being gentle and having best character, ESPECIALLY towards women, but here we have scholars supporting beating just because "people are not ready". No, those scholars are not ready to stand up for real Islam and being ridiculed by orthodox Muslims and Muslims who follow their culture (not Islam itself). These are not people who are not ready, but scholars themselves are scared to say the truth, yet they know very well what's the real Islam. And I will not forgive those people and I will stand against those scholars in front of Allah and for now it's enough for me that He sees the reality and He knows I did all my best and was searching for help anywhere (even here, but as you can see there's no response). And I'm in the worst situation, because I'm a convert and I have no Arab / Pakistani or any other Muslim family who will stand up for me, but I have against me hundreds of men who stand against me supporting each other (also supporting oppressors), just because it's more comfortable for them to admit that women are "lower race" (even though they know it's un-islamic) and on top of that add that Imams allow to beat us! A Muslims MALE will support another MALE Muslims oppressor just because they are the same ethnicity and they won't support the truth no matter how many proofs you give them. Imagine now where I stand in Muslims society along with so many poor Muslims convert sisters who leave Islam just because they are physically AFRAID of Muslim men but love Islam and their lives are broken, like mine. mac whirley thank you with all my heart for your response and may Allah bless you and increase the mercy in your heart which made you respond to my comment.
Assalam u alaikum sister, I pray Allah protects you and gives you the strength to get through all your trials..I am so sorry that you are goin through all of that and I really wish it was something I could do about this all I think I can do is screen shot this comment and send it to nouman's Instagram account and hopefully he opens it..I am going to try that and hopefully it gets to him.. In sha Allah, life will get much better for you.. I'm. A Convert myself of two years and still learning a lot
I just watched it for a second time and I understood a lot more. I come from a background where these Ayas are so misinterpreted... May Allah guide us all.
Does Daraba (َضَرَب) or Edrebuhon (إِضْرِبوهُنْ) really mean “Hit or Beat”?!!! In order to understand what the word “Daraba” or “Edrebuhon” mean, one must understand the Arabic language well and NOT only speak it and read it. In the formal and proper Arabic language (Not the nowadays Slang), when we use the word “Daraba“ for the purpose of “hit” we are obligated to follow this word with the method of hitting in order to be speaking coherently and properly, for example: 1. Hit by a whip/stick = Jalada 2. Hit on the face= Latama 3. Hit on the back of the neck= Safa’a 4. Hit by a fist = Wakaza 5. Hit by a foot= Rakala However, ignorance in the proper use of the language may lead someone to misinterpret the following: 1. (“Daraba” the time between the son and his parents) to mean that (the time hit between the son and his parents), which makes no sense and where the proper translation should have been: (time had SEPARATED the son from his parents). So...one would clearly see that the word “Daraba” here means separated but not hitting as one could wrongly translate. 2.Another example "ضرب حصار" (“Daraba” the surrounding of the dangerous animal). It does not mean (hit the surrounding of the dangerous animal) because that would simply makes no logical sense, and the proper translation would be (SEPARATED the dangerous animal from its surrounding). 3.Another example (“Daraba” his neck) One would translate it as (hit his neck), again, yet another wrong translation, because as we said above, the word “Safa’a” is the proper translation for hitting the neck, and the correct translation for (“Daraba” his neck), is (SEPARATED his head from his body) Hence, one could clearly see that the word “DARABA” DOES NOT MEAN HIT, AS THE VOICE OF IGNORANCE WOULD CLAIM IT TO BE, BUT IT CLEARLY MEANS SEPARATED or simply (set them apart). Now, you can clearly see... that when, The All Mighty, Allah uses the word “Edrebuhon” (this word is the conjugation and the plural form of Daraba), that All Mighty Allah, is telling us to SEPARATE our selves from our wives (as the third and last resort) when the situation is well heated between us, but NOT as the voice of ignorance would translate it to be “beat our wives”. The Quran, throughout, is also using AND following the exact meaning of the word Daraba, as I clearly mentioned and explained above, and I mean, EXACTLY, as I explained above. **(What you are about to read, are only conjugations of the word Daraba) in different versus of the Quran: 1. In Surat 20:77, God is telling prophet Musa in the form of an order to (”Fa’Dreb” for them a road in the sea...” )= separate a road for them by parting the sea. 2. In Surat 2:273, (and those...“Dar’ban” in the land...)=God is telling us about the poor people who can not Travel (move away) in the land... 3. In Surat 73:20, (...and others “Yadreboon” in the land...)=move away (travel) in the land... 4. Surat 57:13, (“Fa Duriba” between them with a wall...)= they were separated by a wall between them... Conclusion: Islam and our Quran are innocent of such a barbaric behavior and to order the beating of the woman who is the mother, the sister, the wife and the daughter.
I really wish find someone to spend my life with will understand this. Because until now, I just found people aroud me using Quran for abusing me verbal and physically. May Allah grant ustad a long life and Jannah for guiding us.
What do you expect them to do? The quran was written by a 7th century man, for other men. That's why s-x slavery is allowed, that's why paradise is a immature male fantasy, that's why the scientific understanding is solidly 7th century echoing the Greeks, that's why you're allowed to hit your wives, that's why women (non-slaves) are supposed to wear portable prisons. Have you delved into surah 66? If not, you should. Check out who recommended 66:5 to Muhammad. Learn the two different hadith explanations for this surah and decide which is real and which is merely metaphorical. Reflect on the rampant misogyny that this reveals.
@@jesan733 I don't think you undestand what I write. And I don't beg you to undertand it too. Just don't debate people experience. I believe you never experienced it in the first place. What you said is doesn't even relate with what I said.
Out of all the videos or lectures that Ustad Nouman has done on this topic, this one here has been done in the most beautiful and logical manner. May ALLAH keep on increasing his knowledge about our beautiful deen and make him successful in this world and Hereafter. Aamin.
Eric Cartman seems like you don't even listen to the lecture and just commented here. If you even listen to the first ten minutes, you'll know there's no such thing as beating women in islam.
I like listening to Nouman Ali Khan but here he's REALLY reaching. My heart goes out to the women all over the world who are victims of male violence, men who are stronger, bigger and more forceful acting like brutes have NO EXCUSE, ever.
Facts? I only know quran and ahadith, are that "facts"? Stories about muhammmed raping and waging wars against innocent people, horrible person, worshiped by blind ignorant big mouths
and no excuses too for women who instigate the violence- if you know men are bigger, stronger and can pound you to dust, dont piss them off. th-cam.com/video/rksKvZoUCPQ/w-d-xo.html
worfoz May I ask what sources you’re using (do not say Quran and Hadith as all the Hadith you’ve witnessed are likely unauthentic and you likely do not understand Arabic enough to find proper translation)
@Aysha Siddiqa - Yes sister Aysha and they are called Covert Narcissists - very sly and manipulative - they know they can go to jail for being physically abuse so they abuse emotionally and psychologically instead because they can get away with it and don’t get to be held accountable for that.
So clear. Avoid hitting women or men. Plan and simple. We all belong to Allah. WE are the slaves of ALLAH. Hitting out of anger is wrong. It has little real benefit for correction. We humans have this tendency to jump to violence. Our egos crave power over others. Control. If you feel like you don't have control in your own life you attempt to control the lives of others. Don't use the Quran to justify your abuse. Know the circumstances behind the ayats. Allah doesn't see everything as black or White. Allah knows there are many different scenarios. And this is a mercy for us. If Allah didn't take into consideration certain factors we would all be in trouble.
Does Daraba (َضَرَب) or Edrebuhon (إِضْرِبوهُنْ) really mean “Hit or Beat”?!!! In order to understand what the word “Daraba” or “Edrebuhon” mean, one must understand the Arabic language well and NOT only speak it and read it. In the formal and proper Arabic language (Not the nowadays Slang), when we use the word “Daraba“ for the purpose of “hit” we are obligated to follow this word with the method of hitting in order to be speaking coherently and properly, for example: 1. Hit by a whip/stick = Jalada 2. Hit on the face= Latama 3. Hit on the back of the neck= Safa’a 4. Hit by a fist = Wakaza 5. Hit by a foot= Rakala However, ignorance in the proper use of the language may lead someone to misinterpret the following: 1. (“Daraba” the time between the son and his parents) to mean that (the time hit between the son and his parents), which makes no sense and where the proper translation should have been: (time had SEPARATED the son from his parents). So...one would clearly see that the word “Daraba” here means separated but not hitting as one could wrongly translate. 2.Another example "ضرب حصار" (“Daraba” the surrounding of the dangerous animal). It does not mean (hit the surrounding of the dangerous animal) because that would simply makes no logical sense, and the proper translation would be (SEPARATED the dangerous animal from its surrounding). 3.Another example (“Daraba” his neck) One would translate it as (hit his neck), again, yet another wrong translation, because as we said above, the word “Safa’a” is the proper translation for hitting the neck, and the correct translation for (“Daraba” his neck), is (SEPARATED his head from his body) Hence, one could clearly see that the word “DARABA” DOES NOT MEAN HIT, AS THE VOICE OF IGNORANCE WOULD CLAIM IT TO BE, BUT IT CLEARLY MEANS SEPARATED or simply (set them apart). Now, you can clearly see... that when, The All Mighty, Allah uses the word “Edrebuhon” (this word is the conjugation and the plural form of Daraba), that All Mighty Allah, is telling us to SEPARATE our selves from our wives (as the third and last resort) when the situation is well heated between us, but NOT as the voice of ignorance would translate it to be “beat our wives”. The Quran, throughout, is also using AND following the exact meaning of the word Daraba, as I clearly mentioned and explained above, and I mean, EXACTLY, as I explained above. **(What you are about to read, are only conjugations of the word Daraba) in different versus of the Quran: 1. In Surat 20:77, God is telling prophet Musa in the form of an order to (”Fa’Dreb” for them a road in the sea...” )= separate a road for them by parting the sea. 2. In Surat 2:273, (and those...“Dar’ban” in the land...)=God is telling us about the poor people who can not Travel (move away) in the land... 3. In Surat 73:20, (...and others “Yadreboon” in the land...)=move away (travel) in the land... 4. Surat 57:13, (“Fa Duriba” between them with a wall...)= they were separated by a wall between them... Conclusion: Islam and our Quran are innocent of such a barbaric behavior and to order the beating of the woman who is the mother, the sister, the wife and the daughter.
There are scholars in the Islamic tradition who have interpreted these verses differently, not allowing any men or husbands to physically punish women. They allow only the state authority for awarding punishment for any misdeeds or crimes. For instance, see the link below: th-cam.com/video/w-dJlPHdo3c/w-d-xo.html
Demanding / expecting obedience from your spouse, and willingness to use force to get it, (however slight), should have no place in marriage. Marriage is about mutual respect and love, not assuming guardianship or expecting obedience.
Ma Sha Allah :) Usthad Nouman always gives the best explanation. Last night I couldn't sleep thinking about this verse after I stumbled across a post. It was heartbreaking to see that interpretation, but now I feel so much better. May Allah bless you for it.
Aysha Disgusting man in the video and you can't see it. 1.- The Quran chapter 4 does not say to beat your wife only if infidelity is discovered. It says to beat one's wife if she does not obey after a warning. But this 21st century interpretation of him pretends to explain a barbaric practice. 2.- Even if you as a man find out your wife is cheating you, you have two options which are more civilised: A.- Giving her a divorce. B.- Reconciling with her and forgiving her. 3.- Being said that for all the stupid people who think beating your wife is alright or is alright in a very extreme situation know this: YOU SHOULD NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE. Stop preaching or justifying domestic violence. That you as a man fear your wife cheating you might require the help of a psychiatrist or a divorce paper. No matter what a holy book says: DO NOT BEAT WOMEN. Period.
Something extremely useful and also which makes sense! I haven't listened to a scholar like him where everything was so well explained and without anything that did not make sense to me. He has explained this topic so beautifully!
Asslamoalikum, Dear brother, My name is wahida and I am a Burmese(Myanmar), currently living in Canada.I use to watch Brother Norman Ali Khan speech,but I can't find the speech related to loosing baby before and after birth or child dying before puberty. I knew that it is a biggest test from ALLAH yet very painful.I miss my baby alot.My baby passed away on 30.03.16 with severe congenital heart disease.He lived with us for 106 days. It will be very greatful if brother Norman Ali khan could make such kind of speech.Thanks alot and apology for my poor English May ALLAH(SWT)rewards your good deeds. Wahida
May Allah give you the strength to heal sister but keep the faith that only Allah knows why things that are out of our control happened. Try to find peace that your baby is in Allah's protection now and not yours, and that this life is short and that you will reunite and be together for eternity InchaAlaah. I will keep you in my prayers🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
The Qur'an is the word of Allah. Everything that exists is His creation. What He says goes. Who are we to question anything? I am not condoning violence and neither is Nouman Ali Khan. He is only translating what is written in the Qur'an. It's also for extreme circumstances. When something like infidelity happens, people lose their minds. It's a matter of the heart. Even people who would normally never harm anyone tend to get angry in situations like this. What if the roles were reversed? If it was about hitting a man because he was being unfaithful, most women if not all, would be more than happy. There are many women that hit men too. Nouman Ali Khan said that people are using Islam and this ayah to abuse women, but he is saying it's not for normal circumstances. It's not his words, it's the word of Allah.
May Allah give every and each muslim, men and women the knowledge that is in Islam. Me and my family including. May Allah grant Brother Nouman, his familiy and the Umma of our prophet (S.A.W.S) in dunya Hasanna and in Akheera Hassana, and may He save us all from nar jahannum. Ameen
I'm ever be grateful to Allah to understand Quran through you, Ustadh. The more i learn, the more i'm proud to be a muslim. May Allah grant you & all the scholars of Ummah who are treasures of the ummah Highest place in Jannat & May Allah bless us to be benefited through you all. Ameen🌟🌛🕌🕋
Qualifications then - honour with responsibilities. If husbands are given a degree higher because of their duties, women as a mother given three times honour then the father as per their enormous responsibilities too. We need to do our duties as humbley as we can to please Allah Swt. Men should follow Islam completely to take this honour given by The God. E.g many men they drink, don't pray, don't read Quran but still demands same respect from the wife given by the Islam, Qawwam was explained beautifully by Nauman Ali Khan, so men should understand that men have enormous responsibility too. Before they even think about hitting they should check whether they are doing their duties of hakkim properly or not. E.g H.Umar was Khalifah ( Hakim /lead er) of his people and he use to make sure that everybody is at peace under his rule.
There's a lot to be confused about in the quran. Have you delved deeply into surah 66? Try it, and ask yourself it these could really be the words of god. Check out the two different background stories, and decide which is more likely. Check out who recommended the wife replacement verse to Muhammad before it was "revealed".
It seems misunderstanding of this ayat has not only broken bridges in marriages but also between different family members. For instance violence from ones inlaws towards their daughter inlaw or a mother's behaviour towards her kids, or abuse between siblings. From violence stems more violence of different range, age & gender...May Allah guide us to good & give us hidayat. ameen
Mashaaallaah, May Allah make us those who benefit from the knowledge of sharia and give us the chance to convey the message. Jazakumu Allahu khayra Bayyinah tv and Ustaad Nouman. May Allah guide us all. Actually I just learned the true meaning of those two Ayahs. Thanks to Allah who made you the sabab for me to open my eyes and look into my self more. Alhamdulillah. Looking forward to take the tafsiir from you. May we meet in Jannah.
in Bangladesh 😅 this one aya is being used everyday, i can't cook so my mom reminds me everyday if i get marry i will be hitted by my in laws and complaints will be made to parents, when i hear it, i say to her, i will leave the in laws and if the abuser is my hubby i will leave him too. so my mom remind me husband has authority over women. i got so confused bcz the islam i believe is always proven right. 😂 well now i need to show her this,,,,🤣🤣🤣
Try to escape islam. It's not healthy, and it's clearly made up. If you want to understand it, dig deeply into surah 66. Who recommended 66:5 to Muhammad? Is this surah mature treatment of your wives? Find both background stories (one is about "honey", one is not) and decide which story you find plausible. Let your moral compass guide you on whether this is the word of a true god.
It's unreal how many women are going through this and all the ummah is in a state of hypocracy when it comes to abuse. In MANY IF NOT MOST cultures only physical abuse is abuse but everything else is fine. Trust me my heart bleeds for myself but more because of the fact that a huge number of Muslim women go through this. Yet every scholar shuts up about this topic along with child abuse. Women aren't property and children aren't property. When we talk about this we are told, "Have Sabr" Ok our Sabr is going to take us to the highest ranks in jannah and your hypocricy is going to take you to the deepest pits of hell. Insha Allah. Ameen.
@Nimra Salahuddin - Sum Ameen. Thank you for speaking up sister. I am thoroughly sick of this hypocrisy just like you. It’s been going on for too long. I have seen, not one, but GENERATIONS of women suffer and stay quiet for fear of disapproval, retaliation, being shamed for not ‘trying harder’ (are you serious!?) as well as OSTRASISM from the community etc. by other families who like to pretend there is no abuse going on (hence it must be the woman’s fault) or they genuinely are ignorant about it because they don’t come from abusive families and have no idea what it’s like. I have bad news for the Muslim Men looking to find wives. You don’t treat women with dignity, respect, kindness and love the way the Quran ordains and the way the prophet instructed (esp. in his Last Sermon ... go read it if you haven’t) then watch these good and patient (but no more Silent) women leave their ABUSIVE Marriages by the droves. They may / may not leave Islam but they will leave the abusive monsters and tyrants. Good Luck with finding and KEEPING another wife (maid and punching bag) after that. You are going to need it (the ‘luck’) along with your bag of lies to dupe the next victim otherwise no one will marry you. No one. Sit and watch your hair turn gray as you reach 60 then 70 and 80 and remain unmarried and childless (they will leave you too) and soon you will be ready to be shipped wearing adult diapers to the nearest Senior Facility near you.
I'm still not convinced from the explanation about the man's reason of hitting his wife out of his "fear" of her infidelity....coz if Sir Nauman said that the man's reaction of hitting is uncontrollable in that situation then how can he control the force with which he decides to hit her... Once you raise your hand, in anger or fear you don't get to plan how hard or light it's gonna be. Besides, when your spouse has reached that point, when you're quite sure about their infidelity, then hitting will only make it worse, wouldn't it?
I agree with you This is a contradiction..the while thing is ALL....EXPLAINED AWAY . ..... Ephesians 5-25. Love your wives as God loves us David Wilkinson Seek God's Face TH-cam 🔥🧡 Best regards for a joyful Eternity 🌈💝💝💝🖤💜💜
Then he should have maintained her, he obviously didn't maintain her emotional well being, if anyone had any idea of women and any man who had any emotional intelligence, he would know his wife needed some TLC... He obviously didn't care enough that much to know what was going on....pretty simple.
May Allah bless all who helped to share this video we need correct Islam to defeat the false accusations on our beautiful religion JAZAKALLAH nouman Ali amazing teacher 👌👍
Don't you think the quran could've been more clear to begin with? Also, the quran could have made a verse to prevent the raids into rural East Africa by muslim arab slave traders, poaching some 10 million young girls and teens for s-x slavery to the arab elites. (This was a consistent practice that enjoyed scholarly support for some 1200 years.) Couldn't Allah have bothered to prevent this? A single sentence would've been enough!
Dear Noman Ali khan, I hope someone deliver this question to you and you get a chance to answer it InshaAllah: Question: If a married man has afairs with another woman, that takes the HELL out of his wife. It is the scariest fear a woman can have in her life. And practically it is always man who has secret affairs , not woman, especially in muslim world. Yet, there is no advice for these suffering women about how to deal with the situation--while men have been given step by step solution to the same problem.
According to Islam men has not to keep secret affairs but should be very open.and should marry openly to his lover.first wife cant do anything.she will have to be still obedient,loyal and faithful otherwise she will go to hell fire.
@@bismakhan5393 no she wont goto hell because if this situation takes a toll on her health because sh cannot take it, she can ask for a divorce. ALLAH is the most merciful, du really think He will allow someone to suffer in a situation which sh has a way out of???? Haraam leads to hell.... Divorce isn't haraam
Understand why guys have affair to begin with. And the senseless women who happily engage in such affairs. Firstly when guys have an affair they are just infatuated by her beauty or body, nothing more. So they want to test drive it and move on. No responsibility. If you feel that is the case ask him to marry her and he will straight away leave her. And your notion is very wrong. Women have just as many affairs they are just better at hiding it.
So just to summarize, the ending of Quran verse 4:34 where it mentions to 'beat' your wife, is not an instruction from Allah swa but rather Allah swa is setting the limits during a situation of passion ex. husband is in fear his wife is cheating on him (after he stops talking to her and leaves her in bed). It is forbidden to put your hands on your wife based on hadith, but if it does occur, and you lost your composure, your limit to strike is of the force of a miswak, or a tap that cannot make the skin go red. Anything beyond that is a sin. This is only for cases where a husband is in fear of his wife's fidelity and not a general rule for all circumstances and situations.
Pelican Fly still doesn't make sense to me lmao. What about the woman? What can she do when she's in fear of her husband committing zina? also, do you really think a husband will lightly tap his wife when he's angry like this? It shouldn't be permitted by any means.....
Peaceful Vibez in the case a woman fears infidelity, God knows that obviously it wouldn't make sense for her to hit him, he could easily hurt her more by physical means and that situation could become very dangerous, very fast. This does not mean the woman should just endure her worry and fear, instead she must seek outside help right away. There's no three step process, it's just get help now. Because a man cpuld threaten or blackmail her if she tried to reason or approach him alone. By having back up and help, it is better for the women and they can have a conversation in a safe environment. Nouman Ali Khan is trying to make the point that scholars shouldn't discourage seeking help from outsiders or social workers especially when they're not muslim, this is what God I'd saying to do so it should be done in those cases. Conversations need to happen about issues like domestic abuse otherwise in the midst of the silencing and oppression of women's voices and their rights, there are people who call themselves scholars but refuse to speak the truth to keep an unjust system running. A system that is corrupt purely because they will have the upper hand and the advantage in saying what is right or wrong. When in islam, it is completely just. That's why conversations and awareness needs to happen.
Aisha Naaz yeah but when a man is angry do you really think he will just lightly "tap" her like with a miswaak? Doesn't seem likely to me.... at all. A man will take advantage... This will give men the justification to hit their wives as "strike" them can be quite subjective and is not measurable. Not every man has studied the tafsir of the verse unfortunately. But thanks! I just hope men didn't take advantage of this ugh.
can i take any video and translate it to turkish and post it on my channel with given credit to bayyinah ? i need a permission about it please respond bayyinah.
+Azamspazam91 inşaAllah brother, hope you enjoyed your time in here, may Allah reward you with goodness for those good actions, i agree with you, i learn a lot from these videos and want to share it, then i realize some of my friends doesnt know english very well, maybe my english is not enough too but i can understand whats going on and with a good effort i believe i can translate pretty well inşaAllah, some of youths are in danger here, many of them atheist or deist, they judge quickly, they see a bad muslim and judge Islam, they dont have much knowledge when they see an ayah they dont see whats behind it, i want them to see these beauties inşaAllah.
I agree, but I don't think they'll mind, you're spreading the deen of Allah, anyways, may Allah reward you for what you're trying to do, and clear your intentions.
Like Mr. Nouman Ali Khan said in this video, women do not need the four steps. Bismillah, When a husband feels like his wife is cheating on him (and he has no proof), the husband needs to take 4 steps: 1. talk & discuss his wife. if it doesn't work, 2. sleep seperately from his wife, if it doesn't work, 3. he can hit her (logically, He cannot hit her to the extreme, there are fiqh (islamic rules) on hitting) finally, if it doesn't work, 4. Get outside help (Advisors) As for woman, when a wife feels like her husband is cheating on her (and she has no proof), the wife needs to take 1 step: 1. Get outside help (Advisors) Why one step for woman? one answer: 1. Scientifically, Man is more stronger in strength compares to woman. If she takes the 4 steps like men do. She might get killed or hit to the extreme by her husband. Allah SWT knows best.
Simple Life i know your comment is old but if a man is stronger than a woman what business does he have to use it to abuse his wife? It makes it worse because the Quran is giving him permission to misuse this power when he already has the advantage. You don’t take a good thing (strength) and then apply it to a low act (hitting women). I find it upsetting that it’s being defended for any reason.
Islam has allowed man to cheat with his wife.man is allowed to hurt his wife's feeling by marrying another young beautiful wife.islam appreciate man to be unfaithful and unloyal to his wife.
why has he claimed that the pain from your spouse cheating is worse for a 'Man' ..................... what exactly is the difference between the heartbreak it causes either sex? and what evidence does he have to suggest it is worse for a man? funny that women are described as being the more 'emotional ones' which of course holds truth, but for some reason not when their cheated on, loooool for sure, please don't tell women their pain is any less, its insulting and ridiculous
+CELEB BIZ He's not saying that men are in more pain than woman when it comes to heartbreak . Cheating is a painful experience for either of the sexes and he is not undermining the pain for either .He is simply saying that men unlike woman and -mind you I am a woman- when they're are heartbroken or discover infidelity, one of men's first reaction is rage, anger and hurt which also explains their nature in such situations and how they can lose their control . However , when woman discover infidelity , one of the emotions they feel is also rage but it doesn't consume them as much as it does with men, and actually they feel more emotionally disturbed than men , but they dont posses a tangible danger , mostly they feel various emotions . So what he is basically talking about is not which sex feels the most pain but rather which one can actually posses AT MOST times tangible danger ( this also doesn't mean that woman are not abusive rather its the overview on most stituations) .Your opinion is respected however I feel that youre missing the entire point he's trying to make :)
+Raniia Eisa Yet that is not at all what he said sister.............he made it sound as if adultery is more difficult for men then it is women, you don't have to be a women to understand that is rubbish, and anyhow, i do not agree with the rage theory either, Men might become more VIOLENT because they 'can' not because, they happen to be more enraged with adultery??? or because rage consumes them more......responding with violence, or not responding with violence does not indicate whether a person feels more or less rage, especially if one sex generally has the ability to prevent acts of violence against them, which men generally do, Rage can take many forms in behaviour, not just violence, have you never heard of 'hell hath no fury like a women scorned' lol,
Moha Amip agreed jazak'allah khair brother Generally CELEB BIZ I believe that he meant that and of course a woman's wrath is even worse than hell's fury ,however I truly believe even with that statement or possibility woman dont actually posses a physical danger as much as men do in most cases and that's the main point.And even though as you mentioned rage shouldn't always result in violence , but they are related to one another and let's not forget that when men are cheated on, they are not only raged but betrayed and feel the heartbreak as well and if rage alone doesn't cause any damage well the other turmoil of emotions do. The statistics of abuse prove otherwise in addition the "crimes of passion" that are on the rise too. Men generally are more possessive ,its their general nature .And I think most woman tend to get revenge in other means but it doesn't snowball to abuse most of the times. Any ways, at the end of the day , its your opinion. And whether we agree or not , abuse is abuse ( in all its forms) and should not be tolerated from either genders ,hence we can all benefit from some points mentioned from the lecture :) and have a nice day :)
Moha Amip perhaps brother you should save the 'attack' advice for yourself, i neither attacked nouman nor did i claim him to be sexist anywhere in my analysis, of his speech.yet you in turn have taken to attacking and insulting me, you should fear Allah before you make such accusations
Raniia Eisa well i agree with what you have just stated, the point i did not agree with was when you said rage consumes men more so then women, because that is just not true. but as you said we can agree to disagree and i respect your opinion also sister when a fellow sister is mocked in front of your eyes, if you truly feared allah, you would come to her defense instead of just thanking the one who attacked her for a compliment they paid you.,
Salaam. Everytime I try to find some advice from the Muslims about abuse, I always find husband's beating their wives up. I need advice about family abuse.
I wish that our ummah would just listen to word of Allah and stop trying to take advantage of or find loopholes in the Quran. You will be judged, do you really think you’re that slick that you’ll just go against the words of Ar-Rahman and get away with it? Wallahi if our ummah was obedient and followed the sunnah of rasoolulah, we’d all be alright.
and followed the sunnah of rasoolulah, we’d all be alright No, you wold end in jail for raping women and a child. it's 2018, 7th century Arab desert laws do not apply here.
Brother Quran was made with such wisdom from the greater Allah. We need wisdom to understand. Thousand of year ago we didn’t understand why people had certain sickness now we know, people didn’t know about genes and mental illness (their understood madness lol but not specific mental illness) people was not able to go to the moon or understand the software. Is obviously Allah grant us to be wiser and wiser and understand things out of cultural traditions. If you take the ayat literally it means you can beat the wife. Do you believe is ok? Would you like your daughter be beat? Niece? Mother? Or any human being?
Brother Quran was made with such wisdom from the greater Allah. Please don't call me brother, it's offensive and rude, like jumping on my lap when we never met before. And there is no allah and no wisdom in the quran, I read it many times abut all i saw was errors, lies , insults and mistakes. Gods don't write books, don't make mistakes, the quran is written by a 7th century Arab and not by allah at all. So no matter what the quran says, it's just the opinion of some uneducated person 1400 years ago. Interesting. But irrelevant. We have this bible, also very interesting book, it tells you to stone your daughter to death when she looks at boys. Or burn her at the stake when her father is a priest of god. Thank goodness Christians don't practice that anymore, in fact they defend human rights and freedom for women and girls, because the Jews told the Christians they stopped applying these laws ages ago, and replaced them so the Christians who eat pork don't live by desert laws from the past BECAUSE NO CHRISTIAN LIVES IN THE DESERT WITH THE LAWS OF MOSES RULING THEM. The lifestyle of muhammed and the rules he applied are history, not wisdom from a greater allah. The quran tells you how to behave when you visit the prophet, muhammed could not tell what annoyed him because he was too shy so his most powerful god alla sent down an aya to help muhammed out. Really. "O you who believe! Do not enter the houses of the Prophet for a meat without waiting for the proper time, unless permission be granted you. But when you are invited, enter, and, when your meal is ended, then disperse; neither lingering for conversation; verily this annoys the Prophet, and he is ashamed before you, but Allah is not ashamed before the truth. And when you ask his wives for any object, ask them from behind a curtain. This is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not for you to hurt Allah’s Messenger, neither to marry his wives after him, ever, verily this is grievous (sin) with Allah." Allah is the messenger of muhammed here, or associate, taking care of muhammeds business like allah is only muhammeds servant... We need wisdom to understand this muhammed is the puppet master and allah is just his puppet, always saying whatever cold help muhammed. Only the wise can understand. Muhammed had dreams he said in which allah ordered him to marry a child and have forced sex with her... Cheers
I was a supporter of nouman Ali khan until I watched this video. Under no circumstances should you hit anyone be it human or animal. I was physically abused and that led to divorce. The fact that he said he can hit her horrified me. If your spouse cheats go find help if it still continues to divorce but don’t you ever hit anyone or anything. Hitting isn’t okay under no circumstances no matter what the person does. Divorce and move on. Also, if anyone hits you call the emergency don’t ever put up with abuse. I regret putting up with it three times trying to save the marriage for the sake of the kid. No! Leave and Allah will see you through.
@RS Personal email - Absolutely correct. I have seen plenty of over-suspicious, over-possessive men with double standards - most of the time they suspect the wife of something they themselves are doing but keep it hidden from her (porn, secret affairs, adultery you name it). There is simply NO EXCUSE for hitting another person. It is ABUSE. PERIOD. The abuser needs to be arrested and put in jail on the very first instance of it. No SECOND CHANCES. Those second chances ARE what perpetuates the abuse cycle. I am glad Muslim women are waking up and not falling for this nonsense & manipulation anymore. It’s MALE-engineered nonsense NOT a God ordained edict. If it is ok to hit a woman if you are suspicious she is having an affair should she (your wife) also chase you with a broom (or machete) if she suspects you are having an affair? What nonsense is that? Rules for thee but not for me. The verse NAK is talking about is about OPEN LEWDNESS (prostitution, pornography, sex trafficking etc) not just a suspicion of adultery because the Quran is clear about allegations of Adultery viz. You have to bring Four Eye Witnesses and they have to swear under oath that they are speaking the Truth. There is no mention of beating your wife / husband in that regard. NAK’s interpretation is not correct. And I’m sorry but I cannot trust the words of a man who does not practice what he preaches. To understand what I am saying please look up NAK’s own history and the scandal he created as a result of his own actions. Not as bad as Prof. Ramadan (some will think and they are right) but still bad enough where it should cause people to completely ABSTAIN from giving any further advise, at least, on MARITAL matters in the future.
Does Daraba (َضَرَب) or Edrebuhon (إِضْرِبوهُنْ) really mean “Hit or Beat”?!!! In order to understand what the word “Daraba” or “Edrebuhon” mean, one must understand the Arabic language well and NOT only speak it and read it. In the formal and proper Arabic language (Not the nowadays Slang), when we use the word “Daraba“ for the purpose of “hit” we are obligated to follow this word with the method of hitting in order to be speaking coherently and properly, for example: 1. Hit by a whip/stick = Jalada 2. Hit on the face= Latama 3. Hit on the back of the neck= Safa’a 4. Hit by a fist = Wakaza 5. Hit by a foot= Rakala However, ignorance in the proper use of the language may lead someone to misinterpret the following: 1. (“Daraba” the time between the son and his parents) to mean that (the time hit between the son and his parents), which makes no sense and where the proper translation should have been: (time had SEPARATED the son from his parents). So...one would clearly see that the word “Daraba” here means separated but not hitting as one could wrongly translate. 2.Another example "ضرب حصار" (“Daraba” the surrounding of the dangerous animal). It does not mean (hit the surrounding of the dangerous animal) because that would simply makes no logical sense, and the proper translation would be (SEPARATED the dangerous animal from its surrounding). 3.Another example (“Daraba” his neck) One would translate it as (hit his neck), again, yet another wrong translation, because as we said above, the word “Safa’a” is the proper translation for hitting the neck, and the correct translation for (“Daraba” his neck), is (SEPARATED his head from his body) Hence, one could clearly see that the word “DARABA” DOES NOT MEAN HIT, AS THE VOICE OF IGNORANCE WOULD CLAIM IT TO BE, BUT IT CLEARLY MEANS SEPARATED or simply (set them apart). Now, you can clearly see... that when, The All Mighty, Allah uses the word “Edrebuhon” (this word is the conjugation and the plural form of Daraba), that All Mighty Allah, is telling us to SEPARATE our selves from our wives (as the third and last resort) when the situation is well heated between us, but NOT as the voice of ignorance would translate it to be “beat our wives”. The Quran, throughout, is also using AND following the exact meaning of the word Daraba, as I clearly mentioned and explained above, and I mean, EXACTLY, as I explained above. **(What you are about to read, are only conjugations of the word Daraba) in different versus of the Quran: 1. In Surat 20:77, God is telling prophet Musa in the form of an order to (”Fa’Dreb” for them a road in the sea...” )= separate a road for them by parting the sea. 2. In Surat 2:273, (and those...“Dar’ban” in the land...)=God is telling us about the poor people who can not Travel (move away) in the land... 3. In Surat 73:20, (...and others “Yadreboon” in the land...)=move away (travel) in the land... 4. Surat 57:13, (“Fa Duriba” between them with a wall...)= they were separated by a wall between them... Conclusion: Islam and our Quran are innocent of such a barbaric behavior and to order the beating of the woman who is the mother, the sister, the wife and the daughter.
Follow the principles indeed. This is honestly what's happening to us people in general, we become part of a thought-mafia and neglect to speak up. I think what's so remarkable about the words coming from mister Nouman Ali Khans mouth, besides the iterative work put in to recieve knowledge and understand it properly (which is extremely commendable and an achievment on its own), that he actually merely speaks up about those things. Many people do this in localised places, they think differently from the mob when it's appropriate, and try to arrive at what's true not what's socially convenient, which usually makes them exceptional as people. In fact, youll find that most protagonists in written, told and visual stories have this attribute, as it's one of if not the most honestly attractive attributes to have.
VrkŞa my only fear is the verse doesn't explicitly say "as hard as stick" Only those who read tafsir may know. Many men will use this to their advantage.... unfortunately
If you could plz give one lecture in Urdu, I will be very grateful. I keep talking about your lectures to my mom and she does not understand a lot in English. It would be helpful, just once.
+Kaniz Fatima Have you checked out Bayyinah TV. There is a section which offers lectures of Ustaadh Nouman Ali Khan in Urdu. www.bayyinah.tv/sp/9942-bayyinah-tv
jazak Allaho khairan for awesome insight Rasoolullaah صلي الله عليه وسلم never hit his wife whereas his khuluq is Quran , just because no such incident occurred in his life no such nushuz from his wife. secondly ALLAAH said that if you dislike a thing about your wives perhaps that will be a source of good for you why didnt Allaah say instead hit them and fix them according to your wishes.. and change that very dislike habit into liked one . subhaanAllaah Quran is clear we just need to be unbiased and see the entire context & sunnah
Also do bayan on fazail amaal followers. My husband divorced me to go to jamaat and look for multiple wives. He says its his right. Iam am shattered!!!
That’s most ridiculous thing heard. The book has not mentioned any of that thing to do. Your ex-husband has made his own fatwa for which he would be accountable if he has said that. Going out in Jammat is for one own islah and to learn the correct Deen not to look out for spouses. Sister I’m sorry to say have never heard of such a view - particularly if he is a genuine jammat guy with pure intention sacrificing his time and wealth to learn the Deen. Also the time spend needs to be in consensus with the spouse and after duly taking care of the needs of the family. Hope that would remove the misconception about the Tabligh Jammat.
السلام عليكم جزاك الله خير عنا خير الجزاء بس عندي تعليق بسيط انا لا اعرف شعب مسلم يضرب الزوجات بحجة الدين ولكن أعرف شواذ من الرجال المسلم والغير المسلم الذين يضربون زوجاتهم وهذا من تربيتهم وخصالهم السيئة وليس لأن الدين سمح لهم ربنا يوفقك ويطرح فيك البركة واستغفر الله واتوب اليه
It’s more like, if a husband catches his wife in the act and he slightly hits her in the heat of the moment, god is giving him a free pass. He won’t punish the husband for losing his cool. The husband still should not even leave a red mark
First he says if you suspect something, talk to them, and if you’re still suspicious, don’t sleep with them, and then if you get overly suspicious and heated, you won’t be punished for slightly hitting. You shouldn’t even leave a red mark. You definitely shouldn’t beat your wife.
@@mayaraafat "and if you get overly suspicious and heated, you won't be punished for slightly hitting" ...I still don't find it okey 🤷 I just don't find it okey to hit women no matter how lightly
And here is the other thing ...she may not even cheat ..the man just gets more and more suspicious ...why should I as a female get hit for man insecurity?
@@mayaraafat nah bruh that's just silly. What if the women actually didn't do anything and gets beaten up wrongly? I'll leave the women period. Why the fuck would i hit her.
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My husband has abused me to such an extent that I cant explain in short I ask Allah to give me sabr to deal with him and to wait for the day of judgement .....please mothers raise you4r sons well teach them to respect women.....
You should let others aware and show him this video unless he might harm you or get angry.plz search up Islamic lectures on what to do if husband is abusive. Inshallah you find a wonderful man. Try and tell your family what’s going on or even the police and get evidence first.because it is not backbiting at all since you are being affected. May allah grant you patience and a better spouse
Sis you can divorce him, it’s halal for a reason
Leave him dammit !
Why are you asking Allah for sabr. You have a right to divorce him. RUN.
Divorce him! I don't think you are getting reply notifications, but, sister, please divorce him! If your nikah gave you the right to talaq, then do a talaq, but if not, then do a khulfa! (A khulfa is the divorce initiated by the woman, by the way). And if he won't agree to the khulfa, then sister, take the divorce that is initiated by the mosque or court! Sister, if you are beaten, then your marriage can be terminated!
I never get involved in comment discussions, but I need to write one thing that I would be extremely grateful if someone passes this to ustadh Nouman himself. I've been one of thousands of women abused in the name of religion. I've been Islamic teacher that was standing out loud against many things that Muslim scholars and Muslim cultures dictate, that are clearly against Islam (my lectures were 90% based on lectures of ustadh Nouman as I am also Bayyinah member) and I lost everything - as ustadh said in the lecture. I've lost my status, my position, my respect, I was insulted in terrible ways and abused tremendously. Now I suffer from PTSD because of Muslim people and I'm a convert myself, working on my degree in Shariah and I must say that I am heart broken. My sickness doesn't allow me from studying Islam anymore, I get panic attacks because of what Muslims have done to me multiple times. And knowing from this lecture that many of those scholars know the truth but don't say it is making me so terribly angry and disappointed! Aren't they afraid of Allah, really?! They tell people to do wrong even though they know it's not true! Thousands of women are being mistreated in the name of Islam and scholars know that but don't support us! Non-Muslims have more empathy for Muslim women (and I experienced that many times) than Muslim scholars - those who are supposed to be the role models... I'm sorry but my broken heart doesn't tell me anything more than that I blame each one of those scholars for not saying the truth YET knowing it! Muslim scholar will be rewarded for even wrong fatwa he gives, but for sure not if he knows the truth but doesn't say it to please people. There are many women who leave Islam because of this and I know many of them. Have mercy upon us... You (men) are supposed to take care of us but all you often do is support each other in wrongdoing even though u know it isn't right and imams / scholars only congratulate you in doing harm. This is ridiculous. May Allah protect women from wrongdoing of men in the name of Islam, ameen.
I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I have a great deal of respect for your courage and conviction in standing up for your right to say what you think. I wish I could help you but I'm not a Muslim man. I'm an atheist. I think what's most sad about your comment is that it is a cry for help and judging by the lack of replies by your fellow Muslims, it's only falling on deaf ears. Good luck to you and be safe.
+mac whirley That's also my feeling. There are not many Muslims who have any idea about psychology and who respect medical influences of Islam on our lives. But I'm glad that no one comments instead of seeing comments like "Fear Allah! You don't have enough faith!" when I talk about medical situation of mine. Especially that it's not about faith itself but about behavior of Muslims and Muslim scholars which is unacceptable and pushes people away from Islam, especially that Prophet (peace be upon him) was all the time talking about being gentle and having best character, ESPECIALLY towards women, but here we have scholars supporting beating just because "people are not ready". No, those scholars are not ready to stand up for real Islam and being ridiculed by orthodox Muslims and Muslims who follow their culture (not Islam itself). These are not people who are not ready, but scholars themselves are scared to say the truth, yet they know very well what's the real Islam. And I will not forgive those people and I will stand against those scholars in front of Allah and for now it's enough for me that He sees the reality and He knows I did all my best and was searching for help anywhere (even here, but as you can see there's no response). And I'm in the worst situation, because I'm a convert and I have no Arab / Pakistani or any other Muslim family who will stand up for me, but I have against me hundreds of men who stand against me supporting each other (also supporting oppressors), just because it's more comfortable for them to admit that women are "lower race" (even though they know it's un-islamic) and on top of that add that Imams allow to beat us! A Muslims MALE will support another MALE Muslims oppressor just because they are the same ethnicity and they won't support the truth no matter how many proofs you give them. Imagine now where I stand in Muslims society along with so many poor Muslims convert sisters who leave Islam just because they are physically AFRAID of Muslim men but love Islam and their lives are broken, like mine. mac whirley thank you with all my heart for your response and may Allah bless you and increase the mercy in your heart which made you respond to my comment.
May Allah ease your pain sister
Ameen, Jazak'Allahu kheir
Assalam u alaikum sister, I pray Allah protects you and gives you the strength to get through all your trials..I am so sorry that you are goin through all of that and I really wish it was something I could do about this all I think I can do is screen shot this comment and send it to nouman's Instagram account and hopefully he opens it..I am going to try that and hopefully it gets to him.. In sha Allah, life will get much better for you.. I'm. A Convert myself of two years and still learning a lot
May ALLAH increase his lifespan, knowledge and intellect even more..The ummah needs ustadh nouman ali khan. He is simply amazing.
آمين ثمه آمين
Amin ya RABB. Indeed HUMANITY needs many of him.
Ameen
Aameen
Allahumma ameen sister.
I just watched it for a second time and I understood a lot more. I come from a background where these Ayas are so misinterpreted... May Allah guide us all.
Does Daraba (َضَرَب) or Edrebuhon (إِضْرِبوهُنْ) really mean “Hit or Beat”?!!!
In order to understand what the word “Daraba” or “Edrebuhon” mean, one must understand the Arabic language well and NOT only speak it and read it.
In the formal and proper Arabic language (Not the nowadays Slang), when we use the word “Daraba“ for the purpose of “hit” we are obligated to follow this word with the method of hitting in order to be speaking coherently and properly, for example:
1. Hit by a whip/stick = Jalada
2. Hit on the face= Latama
3. Hit on the back of the neck= Safa’a
4. Hit by a fist = Wakaza
5. Hit by a foot= Rakala
However, ignorance in the proper use of the language may lead someone to misinterpret the following:
1. (“Daraba” the time between the son and his parents) to mean that
(the time hit between the son and his parents), which makes no sense and where the proper translation should have been: (time had SEPARATED the son from his parents).
So...one would clearly see that the word “Daraba” here means separated but not hitting as one could wrongly translate.
2.Another example "ضرب حصار" (“Daraba” the surrounding of the dangerous animal).
It does not mean (hit the surrounding of the dangerous animal) because that would simply makes no logical sense, and the proper translation would be (SEPARATED the dangerous animal from its surrounding).
3.Another example (“Daraba” his neck)
One would translate it as (hit his neck), again, yet another wrong translation, because as we said above, the word “Safa’a” is the proper translation for hitting the neck, and the correct translation for (“Daraba” his neck), is (SEPARATED his head from his body)
Hence, one could clearly see that the word “DARABA” DOES NOT MEAN HIT, AS THE VOICE OF IGNORANCE WOULD CLAIM IT TO BE, BUT IT CLEARLY MEANS SEPARATED or simply (set them apart).
Now, you can clearly see... that when, The All Mighty, Allah uses the word “Edrebuhon” (this word is the conjugation and the plural form of Daraba), that All Mighty Allah, is telling us to SEPARATE our selves from our wives (as the third and last resort) when the situation is well heated between us, but NOT as the voice of ignorance would translate it to be “beat our wives”.
The Quran, throughout, is also using AND following the exact meaning of the word Daraba, as I clearly mentioned and explained above, and I mean, EXACTLY, as I explained above.
**(What you are about to read, are only conjugations of the word Daraba) in different versus of the Quran:
1. In Surat 20:77, God is telling prophet Musa in the form of an order to (”Fa’Dreb” for them a road in the sea...” )= separate a road for them by parting the sea.
2. In Surat 2:273, (and those...“Dar’ban” in the land...)=God is telling us about the poor people who can not Travel (move away) in the land...
3. In Surat 73:20, (...and others “Yadreboon” in the land...)=move away (travel) in the land...
4. Surat 57:13, (“Fa Duriba” between them with a wall...)= they were separated by a wall between them...
Conclusion: Islam and our Quran are innocent of such a barbaric behavior and to order the beating of the woman who is the mother, the sister, the wife and the daughter.
@@omar9908 thanks for Ur explanation...💕
@@omar9908 May ALLAH increase you in knowledge. Thank you for this beautiful explanation
I really wish find someone to spend my life with will understand this. Because until now, I just found people aroud me using Quran for abusing me verbal and physically. May Allah grant ustad a long life and Jannah for guiding us.
May Allah give you the best
May Allah grant u a loving righteous husband sister
May Allah give you a man who will treat you with respect and gentleness
What do you expect them to do? The quran was written by a 7th century man, for other men. That's why s-x slavery is allowed, that's why paradise is a immature male fantasy, that's why the scientific understanding is solidly 7th century echoing the Greeks, that's why you're allowed to hit your wives, that's why women (non-slaves) are supposed to wear portable prisons.
Have you delved into surah 66? If not, you should. Check out who recommended 66:5 to Muhammad. Learn the two different hadith explanations for this surah and decide which is real and which is merely metaphorical. Reflect on the rampant misogyny that this reveals.
@@jesan733 I don't think you undestand what I write. And I don't beg you to undertand it too. Just don't debate people experience. I believe you never experienced it in the first place.
What you said is doesn't even relate with what I said.
Out of all the videos or lectures that Ustad Nouman has done on this topic, this one here has been done in the most beautiful and logical manner. May ALLAH keep on increasing his knowledge about our beautiful deen and make him successful in this world and Hereafter. Aamin.
+Zuber Molvi Ameen.
Its so sad that some people cant get it
It is so simple but and beautiful the way he explains it
Alhamdu lillah
Ameen!
Ameen
May Allah grant us the mind and heart to head towards learning Quran in a comprehensive way. I am waiting for that day. Make dua for me friends!
Eric Cartman seems like you don't even listen to the lecture and just commented here. If you even listen to the first ten minutes, you'll know there's no such thing as beating women in islam.
I like listening to Nouman Ali Khan but here he's REALLY reaching. My heart goes out to the women all over the world who are victims of male violence, men who are stronger, bigger and more forceful acting like brutes have NO EXCUSE, ever.
Same goes for muhammed who raped many women.
Why are you muhammedfans such hypocrites?
Stop worshiping this rapist and his man made book, idiots.
Worfoz Muhammad is not islam he was the last prophet he was not a rapist just because he married more than once so before u type plz check your facts
Facts? I only know quran and ahadith, are that "facts"?
Stories about muhammmed raping and waging wars against innocent people, horrible person, worshiped by blind ignorant big mouths
and no excuses too for women who instigate the violence- if you know men are bigger, stronger and can pound you to dust, dont piss them off.
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worfoz May I ask what sources you’re using (do not say Quran and Hadith as all the Hadith you’ve witnessed are likely unauthentic and you likely do not understand Arabic enough to find proper translation)
Sometime people hit mentally and emotionally. Which is sometimes much strong than a physical hitting.
Aysha siddika you are right 😢
Its narcissist abuse
Its the worst when people act unjustly and still take away your last place of seeking comfort which is in the remembrance of Allah.
@Aysha Siddiqa - Yes sister Aysha and they are called Covert Narcissists - very sly and manipulative - they know they can go to jail for being physically abuse so they abuse emotionally and psychologically instead because they can get away with it and don’t get to be held accountable for that.
Does not make physical abuse any less bad …
So clear. Avoid hitting women or men. Plan and simple. We all belong to Allah. WE are the slaves of ALLAH. Hitting out of anger is wrong. It has little real benefit for correction. We humans have this tendency to jump to violence. Our egos crave power over others. Control. If you feel like you don't have control in your own life you attempt to control the lives of others. Don't use the Quran to justify your abuse. Know the circumstances behind the ayats. Allah doesn't see everything as black or White. Allah knows there are many different scenarios. And this is a mercy for us. If Allah didn't take into consideration certain factors we would all be in trouble.
Does Daraba (َضَرَب) or Edrebuhon (إِضْرِبوهُنْ) really mean “Hit or Beat”?!!!
In order to understand what the word “Daraba” or “Edrebuhon” mean, one must understand the Arabic language well and NOT only speak it and read it.
In the formal and proper Arabic language (Not the nowadays Slang), when we use the word “Daraba“ for the purpose of “hit” we are obligated to follow this word with the method of hitting in order to be speaking coherently and properly, for example:
1. Hit by a whip/stick = Jalada
2. Hit on the face= Latama
3. Hit on the back of the neck= Safa’a
4. Hit by a fist = Wakaza
5. Hit by a foot= Rakala
However, ignorance in the proper use of the language may lead someone to misinterpret the following:
1. (“Daraba” the time between the son and his parents) to mean that
(the time hit between the son and his parents), which makes no sense and where the proper translation should have been: (time had SEPARATED the son from his parents).
So...one would clearly see that the word “Daraba” here means separated but not hitting as one could wrongly translate.
2.Another example "ضرب حصار" (“Daraba” the surrounding of the dangerous animal).
It does not mean (hit the surrounding of the dangerous animal) because that would simply makes no logical sense, and the proper translation would be (SEPARATED the dangerous animal from its surrounding).
3.Another example (“Daraba” his neck)
One would translate it as (hit his neck), again, yet another wrong translation, because as we said above, the word “Safa’a” is the proper translation for hitting the neck, and the correct translation for (“Daraba” his neck), is (SEPARATED his head from his body)
Hence, one could clearly see that the word “DARABA” DOES NOT MEAN HIT, AS THE VOICE OF IGNORANCE WOULD CLAIM IT TO BE, BUT IT CLEARLY MEANS SEPARATED or simply (set them apart).
Now, you can clearly see... that when, The All Mighty, Allah uses the word “Edrebuhon” (this word is the conjugation and the plural form of Daraba), that All Mighty Allah, is telling us to SEPARATE our selves from our wives (as the third and last resort) when the situation is well heated between us, but NOT as the voice of ignorance would translate it to be “beat our wives”.
The Quran, throughout, is also using AND following the exact meaning of the word Daraba, as I clearly mentioned and explained above, and I mean, EXACTLY, as I explained above.
**(What you are about to read, are only conjugations of the word Daraba) in different versus of the Quran:
1. In Surat 20:77, God is telling prophet Musa in the form of an order to (”Fa’Dreb” for them a road in the sea...” )= separate a road for them by parting the sea.
2. In Surat 2:273, (and those...“Dar’ban” in the land...)=God is telling us about the poor people who can not Travel (move away) in the land...
3. In Surat 73:20, (...and others “Yadreboon” in the land...)=move away (travel) in the land...
4. Surat 57:13, (“Fa Duriba” between them with a wall...)= they were separated by a wall between them...
Conclusion: Islam and our Quran are innocent of such a barbaric behavior and to order the beating of the woman who is the mother, the sister, the wife and the daughter.
There are scholars in the Islamic tradition who have interpreted these verses differently, not allowing any men or husbands to physically punish women. They allow only the state authority for awarding punishment for any misdeeds or crimes. For instance, see the link below:
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He is good scholar . Allah bless him .
abbas mir
Ameen
ameen, and may He also bless all the scholars and khateebs of this wonderful deen
Aameen
first time I heard such a excellent explanation of this particular ayahs, Allah's bless you!
Demanding / expecting obedience from your spouse, and willingness to use force to get it, (however slight), should have no place in marriage. Marriage is about mutual respect and love, not assuming guardianship or expecting obedience.
raphael44ify But it should only be natural that one would seek loyalty in a relationship. Or what use is marriage
raphael44ify
Plz provide an example that would be great
Adam Daniel What do you want an example of?
Madchester 9393 Of course you should be loyal to your spouse. Loyalty isn't the same as demanding obedience.
raphael44ify
An example of the ideal relationship that you described .. also why are you still awake it’s 5:30 am!!!
Ma Sha Allah :) Usthad Nouman always gives the best explanation. Last night I couldn't sleep thinking about this verse after I stumbled across a post. It was heartbreaking to see that interpretation, but now I feel so much better. May Allah bless you for it.
Aysha Disgusting man in the video and you can't see it.
1.- The Quran chapter 4 does not say to beat your wife only if infidelity is discovered. It says to beat one's wife if she does not obey after a warning. But this 21st century interpretation of him pretends to explain a barbaric practice.
2.- Even if you as a man find out your wife is cheating you, you have two options which are more civilised: A.- Giving her a divorce. B.- Reconciling with her and forgiving her.
3.- Being said that for all the stupid people who think beating your wife is alright or is alright in a very extreme situation know this: YOU SHOULD NOT BEAT YOUR WIFE UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCE.
Stop preaching or justifying domestic violence. That you as a man fear your wife cheating you might require the help of a psychiatrist or a divorce paper.
No matter what a holy book says: DO NOT BEAT WOMEN. Period.
Rodolfo Hidalgo why you are commenting the same thing every where before 3 years until now really you Crazy
@@rodhidalgo6789 Tell me one place where he justifies domestic violence. Where in the talk has he justified it?
I am at ease now Alhamdullilah😍✌🏻☺️
This lecture has indeed lifted the boulder! Jazak allah khair Ustad!
Something extremely useful and also which makes sense! I haven't listened to a scholar like him where everything was so well explained and without anything that did not make sense to me. He has explained this topic so beautifully!
I love this lecture. I cried. thank you ustaz.
I have learned alot.
Asslamoalikum,
Dear brother,
My name is wahida and I am a Burmese(Myanmar), currently living in Canada.I use to watch Brother Norman Ali Khan speech,but I can't find the speech related to loosing baby before and after birth or child dying before puberty. I knew that it is a biggest test from ALLAH yet very painful.I miss my baby alot.My baby passed away on 30.03.16 with severe congenital heart disease.He lived with us for 106 days. It will be very greatful if brother Norman Ali khan could make such kind of speech.Thanks alot and apology for my poor English
May ALLAH(SWT)rewards your good deeds.
Wahida
Might Allah give you patience and replace you hurt with happiness.
Ameen
May Allah give you the patience to dela with this.
May Allah give you the strength to heal sister but keep the faith that only Allah knows why things that are out of our control happened. Try to find peace that your baby is in Allah's protection now and not yours, and that this life is short and that you will reunite and be together for eternity InchaAlaah. I will keep you in my prayers🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
The Qur'an is the word of Allah. Everything that exists is His creation. What He says goes. Who are we to question anything? I am not condoning violence and neither is Nouman Ali Khan. He is only translating what is written in the Qur'an. It's also for extreme circumstances. When something like infidelity happens, people lose their minds. It's a matter of the heart. Even people who would normally never harm anyone tend to get angry in situations like this. What if the roles were reversed? If it was about hitting a man because he was being unfaithful, most women if not all, would be more than happy. There are many women that hit men too. Nouman Ali Khan said that people are using Islam and this ayah to abuse women, but he is saying it's not for normal circumstances. It's not his words, it's the word of Allah.
May Allah bless you Nouman Ali Khan and your entire family!!! Beautiful and very profound khutbah!!!!
May Allah give every and each muslim, men and women the knowledge that is in Islam. Me and my family including. May Allah grant Brother Nouman, his familiy and the Umma of our prophet (S.A.W.S) in dunya Hasanna and in Akheera Hassana, and may He save us all from nar jahannum. Ameen
+Vajma Bahir Rasmy Ameen.
Amiin ya rabi jazaka Allah
Aameen. Jazak Allah Khair
ameen
Ameen ya Rabb
So beautifully explained sir
There's a lot to be stressed about, a lot of mental gymnastics to do, if you want to hold on to a 7th century creation in the 21th century.
You made this clear to me
That anger comes out of fear
You are genius
I'm ever be grateful to Allah to understand Quran through you, Ustadh. The more i learn, the more i'm proud to be a muslim.
May Allah grant you & all the scholars of Ummah who are treasures of the ummah Highest place in Jannat & May Allah bless us to be benefited through you all. Ameen🌟🌛🕌🕋
I luv the way yuh explain ...ustad Nouman u make me fell in luv with islam more nd more... jazak ul allah khair kaseera !
Qualifications then - honour with responsibilities.
If husbands are given a degree higher because of their duties, women as a mother given three times honour then the father as per their enormous responsibilities too. We need to do our duties as humbley as we can to please Allah Swt.
Men should follow Islam completely to take this honour given by The God. E.g many men they drink, don't pray, don't read Quran but still demands same respect from the wife given by the Islam,
Qawwam was explained beautifully by Nauman Ali Khan, so men should understand that men have enormous responsibility too. Before they even think about hitting they should check whether they are doing their duties of hakkim properly or not. E.g H.Umar was Khalifah ( Hakim /lead er) of his people and he use to make sure that everybody is at peace under his rule.
Masha Allah barakallahu fiikum jazzakallah brother nouman khan may Allah protect you give you more years n health with cibaada n Taqwa in sha Allah.
+Yang BWI Ameen.
Awesome lecture. May Allah Subhan Allahtala bless him and his family!
luv u nouman Ali Khan keep it up.may Allah reward u d best in dis dunya n akhira jazakallah khair.
great message...i was told this message by mother 20 years bck.Really surprised that she was so accurate.
Thank u noman bhai for truly describing Allah's love for us women other scholars describe Quran as enemy of women
I absolutely love this lectures
ma sha Allah. quite logical conversation. may Allah bless u with health and keep you serving for islam
Just Excellent. Jazakallah. You saved me. I was so confused. Beautifully explained Mr. Nouman Ali Khan.
There's a lot to be confused about in the quran. Have you delved deeply into surah 66? Try it, and ask yourself it these could really be the words of god. Check out the two different background stories, and decide which is more likely. Check out who recommended the wife replacement verse to Muhammad before it was "revealed".
It seems misunderstanding of this ayat has not only broken bridges in marriages but also between different family members. For instance violence from ones inlaws towards their daughter inlaw or a mother's behaviour towards her kids, or abuse between siblings. From violence stems more violence of different range, age & gender...May Allah guide us to good & give us hidayat. ameen
Zajjakillah khairan ustad. May Allah bless you. Such a beautiful interpretation, Alhamdulillah....Ameen
Mashaaallaah, May Allah make us those who benefit from the knowledge of sharia and give us the chance to convey the message. Jazakumu Allahu khayra Bayyinah tv and Ustaad Nouman. May Allah guide us all. Actually I just learned the true meaning of those two Ayahs. Thanks to Allah who made you the sabab for me to open my eyes and look into my self more. Alhamdulillah. Looking forward to take the tafsiir from you. May we meet in Jannah.
I do not think it is ever right for there to be abuse in a relationship
worfoz stfu go watch something else
in Bangladesh 😅 this one aya is being used everyday, i can't cook so my mom reminds me everyday if i get marry i will be hitted by my in laws and complaints will be made to parents,
when i hear it, i say to her, i will leave the in laws and if the abuser is my hubby i will leave him too.
so my mom remind me husband has authority over women. i got so confused bcz the islam i believe is always proven right. 😂 well now i need to show her this,,,,🤣🤣🤣
May Allah bless your mother with good understanding
Yes, do👍
Try to escape islam. It's not healthy, and it's clearly made up. If you want to understand it, dig deeply into surah 66. Who recommended 66:5 to Muhammad? Is this surah mature treatment of your wives? Find both background stories (one is about "honey", one is not) and decide which story you find plausible. Let your moral compass guide you on whether this is the word of a true god.
@@jesan733 How diligently we try to decipher the meaning of poetries but not the verses of the Qur'an!
Ya Allah people really use the beautiful speech of Allah for their ugly behaviors
Best explanation of this verse so far. I aspire to be like Mr Nouman
سلام وعلیکم thank you very much fromyour islamic program جزاکم الله خیر،نعمان علیbrother
Assalamualaikum check out my islamicnvideo on my youtube channel
It's unreal how many women are going through this and all the ummah is in a state of hypocracy when it comes to abuse. In MANY IF NOT MOST cultures only physical abuse is abuse but everything else is fine. Trust me my heart bleeds for myself but more because of the fact that a huge number of Muslim women go through this. Yet every scholar shuts up about this topic along with child abuse. Women aren't property and children aren't property. When we talk about this we are told, "Have Sabr" Ok our Sabr is going to take us to the highest ranks in jannah and your hypocricy is going to take you to the deepest pits of hell. Insha Allah. Ameen.
@Nimra Salahuddin - Sum Ameen. Thank you for speaking up sister. I am thoroughly sick of this hypocrisy just like you. It’s been going on for too long. I have seen, not one, but GENERATIONS of women suffer and stay quiet for fear of disapproval, retaliation, being shamed for not ‘trying harder’ (are you serious!?) as well as OSTRASISM from the community etc. by other families who like to pretend there is no abuse going on (hence it must be the woman’s fault) or they genuinely are ignorant about it because they don’t come from abusive families and have no idea what it’s like. I have bad news for the Muslim Men looking to find wives. You don’t treat women with dignity, respect, kindness and love the way the Quran ordains and the way the prophet instructed (esp. in his Last Sermon ... go read it if you haven’t) then watch these good and patient (but no more Silent) women leave their ABUSIVE Marriages by the droves. They may / may not leave Islam but they will leave the abusive monsters and tyrants. Good Luck with finding and KEEPING another wife (maid and punching bag) after that. You are going to need it (the ‘luck’) along with your bag of lies to dupe the next victim otherwise no one will marry you. No one. Sit and watch your hair turn gray as you reach 60 then 70 and 80 and remain unmarried and childless (they will leave you too) and soon you will be ready to be shipped wearing adult diapers to the nearest Senior Facility near you.
I'm still not convinced from the explanation about the man's reason of hitting his wife out of his "fear" of her infidelity....coz if Sir Nauman said that the man's reaction of hitting is uncontrollable in that situation then how can he control the force with which he decides to hit her... Once you raise your hand, in anger or fear you don't get to plan how hard or light it's gonna be.
Besides, when your spouse has reached that point, when you're quite sure about their infidelity, then hitting will only make it worse, wouldn't it?
I agree with you
This is a contradiction..the while thing is
ALL....EXPLAINED AWAY .
..... Ephesians 5-25. Love your wives as God loves us
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@@spiritmachine1705 don't here. There's plenty of misogynist things in your religion.
These talks are so important because they clear a lot of misconceptions. Thanks @Nouman Ali Khan for all your important work
So instructive as usual💜
Mashaa allah very important lecture. inchaa allah ppl will not only listen but also apply.
thank you 🌹
Thankyou brother the light of the Quran can not be hidden forever.
Thank you for the lesson! May Allah bless you
Then he should have maintained her, he obviously didn't maintain her emotional well being, if anyone had any idea of women and any man who had any emotional intelligence, he would know his wife needed some TLC... He obviously didn't care enough that much to know what was going on....pretty simple.
A completely devoted wife could still be cheated on by her husband. Vice versa applies. Rotten people exists
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11:00 : Men should take care of Women with what they are preferred to provide.
the debate about Men being preferred over Women is wrong.
May Allah grant you with the best in both the worlds, for spreading this word.
May Allah bless all who helped to share this video we need correct Islam to defeat the false accusations on our beautiful religion JAZAKALLAH nouman Ali amazing teacher 👌👍
Don't you think the quran could've been more clear to begin with? Also, the quran could have made a verse to prevent the raids into rural East Africa by muslim arab slave traders, poaching some 10 million young girls and teens for s-x slavery to the arab elites. (This was a consistent practice that enjoyed scholarly support for some 1200 years.) Couldn't Allah have bothered to prevent this? A single sentence would've been enough!
Respect and god bless you
Dear Noman Ali khan, I hope someone deliver this question to you and you get a chance to answer it InshaAllah:
Question: If a married man has afairs with another woman, that takes the HELL out of his wife. It is the scariest fear a woman can have in her life. And practically it is always man who has secret affairs , not woman, especially in muslim world. Yet, there is no advice for these suffering women about how to deal with the situation--while men have been given step by step solution to the same problem.
According to Islam men has not to keep secret affairs but should be very open.and should marry openly to his lover.first wife cant do anything.she will have to be still obedient,loyal and faithful otherwise she will go to hell fire.
Divorce. It’s not rocket science.
@@bismakhan5393 no she wont goto hell because if this situation takes a toll on her health because sh cannot take it, she can ask for a divorce. ALLAH is the most merciful, du really think He will allow someone to suffer in a situation which sh has a way out of???? Haraam leads to hell.... Divorce isn't haraam
@@bismakhan5393 that's according to your understanding of Islam. Correct yourself.
Understand why guys have affair to begin with. And the senseless women who happily engage in such affairs. Firstly when guys have an affair they are just infatuated by her beauty or body, nothing more. So they want to test drive it and move on. No responsibility. If you feel that is the case ask him to marry her and he will straight away leave her.
And your notion is very wrong. Women have just as many affairs they are just better at hiding it.
This is so fascinating . Alhamdulillah islam is so perfect. Jezake’Allah ustadh nouman May Allah bless you more and more.
Thank you so much for all the clarification. May Allah bless you.
So just to summarize, the ending of Quran verse 4:34 where it mentions to 'beat' your wife, is not an instruction from Allah swa but rather Allah swa is setting the limits during a situation of passion ex. husband is in fear his wife is cheating on him (after he stops talking to her and leaves her in bed). It is forbidden to put your hands on your wife based on hadith, but if it does occur, and you lost your composure, your limit to strike is of the force of a miswak, or a tap that cannot make the skin go red. Anything beyond that is a sin. This is only for cases where a husband is in fear of his wife's fidelity and not a general rule for all circumstances and situations.
Pelican Fly still doesn't make sense to me lmao. What about the woman? What can she do when she's in fear of her husband committing zina? also, do you really think a husband will lightly tap his wife when he's angry like this? It shouldn't be permitted by any means.....
Pelican Fly That's not what I've seen other Inman's say.
Peaceful Vibez in the case a woman fears infidelity, God knows that obviously it wouldn't make sense for her to hit him, he could easily hurt her more by physical means and that situation could become very dangerous, very fast. This does not mean the woman should just endure her worry and fear, instead she must seek outside help right away. There's no three step process, it's just get help now. Because a man cpuld threaten or blackmail her if she tried to reason or approach him alone. By having back up and help, it is better for the women and they can have a conversation in a safe environment. Nouman Ali Khan is trying to make the point that scholars shouldn't discourage seeking help from outsiders or social workers especially when they're not muslim, this is what God I'd saying to do so it should be done in those cases. Conversations need to happen about issues like domestic abuse otherwise in the midst of the silencing and oppression of women's voices and their rights, there are people who call themselves scholars but refuse to speak the truth to keep an unjust system running. A system that is corrupt purely because they will have the upper hand and the advantage in saying what is right or wrong. When in islam, it is completely just. That's why conversations and awareness needs to happen.
Aisha Naaz yeah but when a man is angry do you really think he will just lightly "tap" her like with a miswaak? Doesn't seem likely to me.... at all. A man will take advantage... This will give men the justification to hit their wives as "strike" them can be quite subjective and is not measurable. Not every man has studied the tafsir of the verse unfortunately. But thanks! I just hope men didn't take advantage of this ugh.
if he do he'll be asked on the day judgement so do not worry.
can i take any video and translate it to turkish and post it on my channel with given credit to bayyinah ? i need a permission about it please respond bayyinah.
You could contact their appropriate personnel on bayyinahtv.zendesk.com/hc/en-us
+Azamspazam91 inşaAllah brother, hope you enjoyed your time in here, may Allah reward you with goodness for those good actions, i agree with you, i learn a lot from these videos and want to share it, then i realize some of my friends doesnt know english very well, maybe my english is not enough too but i can understand whats going on and with a good effort i believe i can translate pretty well inşaAllah, some of youths are in danger here, many of them atheist or deist, they judge quickly, they see a bad muslim and judge Islam, they dont have much knowledge when they see an ayah they dont see whats behind it, i want them to see these beauties inşaAllah.
Yoppy Halilintar ty i'll try it
I agree, but I don't think they'll mind, you're spreading the deen of Allah, anyways, may Allah reward you for what you're trying to do, and clear your intentions.
they have gave the permission Elhamdülillah
Allah gave this man real power in his words, Mashallah. His bayans have me crying one moment and laughing the other.
بارك الله فيكم .. و جازاكم خيرا كثيرا
Like Mr. Nouman Ali Khan said in this video, women do not need the four steps.
Bismillah,
When a husband feels like his wife is cheating on him (and he has no proof), the husband needs to take 4 steps:
1. talk & discuss his wife.
if it doesn't work,
2. sleep seperately from his wife,
if it doesn't work,
3. he can hit her (logically, He cannot hit her to the extreme, there are fiqh (islamic rules) on hitting)
finally, if it doesn't work,
4. Get outside help (Advisors)
As for woman, when a wife feels like her husband is cheating on her (and she has no proof), the wife needs to take 1 step:
1. Get outside help (Advisors)
Why one step for woman? one answer:
1. Scientifically, Man is more stronger in strength compares to woman. If she takes the 4 steps like men do. She might get killed or hit to the extreme by her husband.
Allah SWT knows best.
Simple Life i know your comment is old but if a man is stronger than a woman what business does he have to use it to abuse his wife? It makes it worse because the Quran is giving him permission to misuse this power when he already has the advantage. You don’t take a good thing (strength) and then apply it to a low act (hitting women). I find it upsetting that it’s being defended for any reason.
Islam has allowed man to cheat with his wife.man is allowed to hurt his wife's feeling by marrying another young beautiful wife.islam appreciate man to be unfaithful and unloyal to his wife.
bisma khan you spread hate everywhere get a life
why has he claimed that the pain from your spouse cheating is worse for a 'Man' ..................... what exactly is the difference between the heartbreak it causes either sex? and what evidence does he have to suggest it is worse for a man?
funny that women are described as being the more 'emotional ones' which of course holds truth, but for some reason not when their cheated on, loooool for sure, please don't tell women their pain is any less, its insulting and ridiculous
+CELEB BIZ He's not saying that men are in more pain than woman when it comes to heartbreak . Cheating is a painful experience for either of the sexes and he is not undermining the pain for either .He is simply saying that men unlike woman and -mind you I am a woman- when they're are heartbroken or discover infidelity, one of men's first reaction is rage, anger and hurt which also explains their nature in such situations and how they can lose their control . However , when woman discover infidelity , one of the emotions they feel is also rage but it doesn't consume them as much as it does with men, and actually they feel more emotionally disturbed than men , but they dont posses a tangible danger , mostly they feel various emotions . So what he is basically talking about is not which sex feels the most pain but rather which one can actually posses AT MOST times tangible danger ( this also doesn't mean that woman are not abusive rather its the overview on most stituations) .Your opinion is respected however I feel that youre missing the entire point he's trying to make :)
+Raniia Eisa Yet that is not at all what he said sister.............he made it sound as if adultery is more difficult for men then it is women, you don't have to be a women to understand that is rubbish,
and anyhow, i do not agree with the rage theory either, Men might become more VIOLENT because they 'can' not because, they happen to be more enraged with adultery??? or because rage consumes them more......responding with violence, or not responding with violence does not indicate whether a person feels more or less rage, especially if one sex generally has the ability to prevent acts of violence against them, which men generally do,
Rage can take many forms in behaviour, not just violence, have you never heard of 'hell hath no fury like a women scorned' lol,
Moha Amip agreed jazak'allah khair brother Generally CELEB BIZ I believe that he meant that and of course a woman's wrath is even worse than hell's fury ,however I truly believe even with that statement or possibility woman dont actually posses a physical danger as much as men do in most cases and that's the main point.And even though as you mentioned rage shouldn't always result in violence , but they are related to one another and let's not forget that when men are cheated on, they are not only raged but betrayed and feel the heartbreak as well and if rage alone doesn't cause any damage well the other turmoil of emotions do. The statistics of abuse prove otherwise in addition the "crimes of passion" that are on the rise too. Men generally are more possessive ,its their general nature .And I think most woman tend to get revenge in other means but it doesn't snowball to abuse most of the times. Any ways, at the end of the day , its your opinion. And whether we agree or not , abuse is abuse ( in all its forms) and should not be tolerated from either genders ,hence we can all benefit from some points mentioned from the lecture :) and have a nice day :)
Moha Amip perhaps brother you should save the 'attack' advice for yourself, i neither attacked nouman nor did i claim him to be sexist anywhere in my analysis, of his speech.yet you in turn have taken to attacking and insulting me, you should fear Allah before you make such accusations
Raniia Eisa well i agree with what you have just stated, the point i did not agree with was when you said rage consumes men more so then women, because that is just not true. but as you said we can agree to disagree and i respect your opinion
also sister when a fellow sister is mocked in front of your eyes, if you truly feared allah, you would come to her defense instead of just thanking the one who attacked her for a compliment they paid you.,
i respect you for this bayyan may allah bless u always
MashALLAH Ustadh Nowman Ali Khan ... May ALLAH bless you with honour and knowledge
Salaam.
Everytime I try to find some advice from the Muslims about abuse, I always find husband's beating their wives up. I need advice about family abuse.
How are they abusing u?
Wa’Alaikumu Salam Warahmatulahi Wabarakatuhu
I wish that our ummah would just listen to word of Allah and stop trying to take advantage of or find loopholes in the Quran. You will be judged, do you really think you’re that slick that you’ll just go against the words of Ar-Rahman and get away with it? Wallahi if our ummah was obedient and followed the sunnah of rasoolulah, we’d all be alright.
and followed the sunnah of rasoolulah, we’d all be alright
No, you wold end in jail for raping women and a child.
it's 2018, 7th century Arab desert laws do not apply here.
Brother Quran was made with such wisdom from the greater Allah. We need wisdom to understand. Thousand of year ago we didn’t understand why people had certain sickness now we know, people didn’t know about genes and mental illness (their understood madness lol but not specific mental illness) people was not able to go to the moon or understand the software.
Is obviously Allah grant us to be wiser and wiser and understand things out of cultural traditions.
If you take the ayat literally it means you can beat the wife. Do you believe is ok? Would you like your daughter be beat? Niece? Mother? Or any human being?
Brother Quran was made with such wisdom from the greater Allah.
Please don't call me brother, it's offensive and rude, like jumping on my lap when we never met before.
And there is no allah and no wisdom in the quran, I read it many times abut all i saw was errors, lies , insults and mistakes.
Gods don't write books, don't make mistakes, the quran is written by a 7th century Arab and not by allah at all.
So no matter what the quran says, it's just the opinion of some uneducated person 1400 years ago.
Interesting.
But irrelevant.
We have this bible, also very interesting book, it tells you to stone your daughter to death when she looks at boys.
Or burn her at the stake when her father is a priest of god.
Thank goodness Christians don't practice that anymore, in fact they defend human rights and freedom for women and girls, because the Jews told the Christians they stopped applying these laws ages ago, and replaced them so the Christians who eat pork don't live by desert laws from the past
BECAUSE NO CHRISTIAN LIVES IN THE DESERT WITH THE LAWS OF MOSES RULING THEM.
The lifestyle of muhammed and the rules he applied are history, not wisdom from a greater allah.
The quran tells you how to behave when you visit the prophet, muhammed could not tell what annoyed him because he was too shy so his most powerful god alla sent down an aya to help muhammed out.
Really.
"O you who believe! Do not enter the houses of the Prophet for a meat without waiting for the proper time, unless permission be granted you. But when you are invited, enter, and, when your meal is ended, then disperse; neither lingering for conversation; verily this annoys the Prophet, and he is ashamed before you, but Allah is not ashamed before the truth. And when you ask his wives for any object, ask them from behind a curtain. This is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not for you to hurt Allah’s Messenger, neither to marry his wives after him, ever, verily this is grievous (sin) with Allah."
Allah is the messenger of muhammed here, or associate, taking care of muhammeds business like allah is only muhammeds servant...
We need wisdom to understand this muhammed is the puppet master and allah is just his puppet, always saying whatever cold help muhammed.
Only the wise can understand.
Muhammed had dreams he said in which allah ordered him to marry a child and have forced sex with her...
Cheers
May Allah keep him firm , finally a heart assuring explanation of this commonly misinterpreted verse. Alhamdulilah
36:00 Physical & emotional abuse to wife, community must take responsibility to get help
I was a supporter of nouman Ali khan until I watched this video. Under no circumstances should you hit anyone be it human or animal. I was physically abused and that led to divorce. The fact that he said he can hit her horrified me. If your spouse cheats go find help if it still continues to divorce but don’t you ever hit anyone or anything. Hitting isn’t okay under no circumstances no matter what the person does. Divorce and move on. Also, if anyone hits you call the emergency don’t ever put up with abuse. I regret putting up with it three times trying to save the marriage for the sake of the kid. No! Leave and Allah will see you through.
@RS Personal email - Absolutely correct. I have seen plenty of over-suspicious, over-possessive men with double standards - most of the time they suspect the wife of something they themselves are doing but keep it hidden from her (porn, secret affairs, adultery you name it). There is simply NO EXCUSE for hitting another person. It is ABUSE. PERIOD. The abuser needs to be arrested and put in jail on the very first instance of it. No SECOND CHANCES. Those second chances ARE what perpetuates the abuse cycle. I am glad Muslim women are waking up and not falling for this nonsense & manipulation anymore. It’s MALE-engineered nonsense NOT a God ordained edict. If it is ok to hit a woman if you are suspicious she is having an affair should she (your wife) also chase you with a broom (or machete) if she suspects you are having an affair? What nonsense is that? Rules for thee but not for me. The verse NAK is talking about is about OPEN LEWDNESS (prostitution, pornography, sex trafficking etc) not just a suspicion of adultery because the Quran is clear about allegations of Adultery viz. You have to bring Four Eye Witnesses and they have to swear under oath that they are speaking the Truth. There is no mention of beating your wife / husband in that regard. NAK’s interpretation is not correct. And I’m sorry but I cannot trust the words of a man who does not practice what he preaches. To understand what I am saying please look up NAK’s own history and the scandal he created as a result of his own actions. Not as bad as Prof. Ramadan (some will think and they are right) but still bad enough where it should cause people to completely ABSTAIN from giving any further advise, at least, on MARITAL matters in the future.
Good for you! Also take the consequences and leave islam.
Very enlightening lecture..
Tabarakallah,what a great explanation !
Ya Allah help me.... I live horrible pain bcz my husband caused me everyday
Fatimah Hussain Q you can take the step brother mention sick help outside.
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She is abused by her husband, she needs help, not anyone telling her to help out others.
U should divorce
@@Smesh1901 i request but him says wont help me economic with 2 kids and that's he's way to control and Dont divorce me
@@worfoz thank you I keep living horrible abuses yet
What about mutual respect you don't hit me.i don't get depressed or abused nor call the cops
rahma djellouli How about you don't hit me and I don't kick you in the balls?
What about: if you stop hitting me you might get your balls back.
Until that time i'll safekeep them in the fridge.
Call the Cops - If the abuser understood RESPECT he wouldn’t be abusing you in the first place.
MashaAllah,excellent interpretation.may Allah guide us to the right path Aameen.
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+abdur bilal Ameen.
Its very beneficial lecture thankyou sir
Cn u do tafseer of surah nisa
Does Daraba (َضَرَب) or Edrebuhon (إِضْرِبوهُنْ) really mean “Hit or Beat”?!!!
In order to understand what the word “Daraba” or “Edrebuhon” mean, one must understand the Arabic language well and NOT only speak it and read it.
In the formal and proper Arabic language (Not the nowadays Slang), when we use the word “Daraba“ for the purpose of “hit” we are obligated to follow this word with the method of hitting in order to be speaking coherently and properly, for example:
1. Hit by a whip/stick = Jalada
2. Hit on the face= Latama
3. Hit on the back of the neck= Safa’a
4. Hit by a fist = Wakaza
5. Hit by a foot= Rakala
However, ignorance in the proper use of the language may lead someone to misinterpret the following:
1. (“Daraba” the time between the son and his parents) to mean that
(the time hit between the son and his parents), which makes no sense and where the proper translation should have been: (time had SEPARATED the son from his parents).
So...one would clearly see that the word “Daraba” here means separated but not hitting as one could wrongly translate.
2.Another example "ضرب حصار" (“Daraba” the surrounding of the dangerous animal).
It does not mean (hit the surrounding of the dangerous animal) because that would simply makes no logical sense, and the proper translation would be (SEPARATED the dangerous animal from its surrounding).
3.Another example (“Daraba” his neck)
One would translate it as (hit his neck), again, yet another wrong translation, because as we said above, the word “Safa’a” is the proper translation for hitting the neck, and the correct translation for (“Daraba” his neck), is (SEPARATED his head from his body)
Hence, one could clearly see that the word “DARABA” DOES NOT MEAN HIT, AS THE VOICE OF IGNORANCE WOULD CLAIM IT TO BE, BUT IT CLEARLY MEANS SEPARATED or simply (set them apart).
Now, you can clearly see... that when, The All Mighty, Allah uses the word “Edrebuhon” (this word is the conjugation and the plural form of Daraba), that All Mighty Allah, is telling us to SEPARATE our selves from our wives (as the third and last resort) when the situation is well heated between us, but NOT as the voice of ignorance would translate it to be “beat our wives”.
The Quran, throughout, is also using AND following the exact meaning of the word Daraba, as I clearly mentioned and explained above, and I mean, EXACTLY, as I explained above.
**(What you are about to read, are only conjugations of the word Daraba) in different versus of the Quran:
1. In Surat 20:77, God is telling prophet Musa in the form of an order to (”Fa’Dreb” for them a road in the sea...” )= separate a road for them by parting the sea.
2. In Surat 2:273, (and those...“Dar’ban” in the land...)=God is telling us about the poor people who can not Travel (move away) in the land...
3. In Surat 73:20, (...and others “Yadreboon” in the land...)=move away (travel) in the land...
4. Surat 57:13, (“Fa Duriba” between them with a wall...)= they were separated by a wall between them...
Conclusion: Islam and our Quran are innocent of such a barbaric behavior and to order the beating of the woman who is the mother, the sister, the wife and the daughter.
How about the hadith?
Very nice and very cleared. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you brother. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Beautiful explanation JAK
Follow the principles indeed. This is honestly what's happening to us people in general, we become part of a thought-mafia and neglect to speak up. I think what's so remarkable about the words coming from mister Nouman Ali Khans mouth, besides the iterative work put in to recieve knowledge and understand it properly (which is extremely commendable and an achievment on its own), that he actually merely speaks up about those things. Many people do this in localised places, they think differently from the mob when it's appropriate, and try to arrive at what's true not what's socially convenient, which usually makes them exceptional as people. In fact, youll find that most protagonists in written, told and visual stories have this attribute, as it's one of if not the most honestly attractive attributes to have.
Still don't get it... why is the man allowed even lightly?
VrkŞa my only fear is the verse doesn't explicitly say "as hard as stick" Only those who read tafsir may know. Many men will use this to their advantage.... unfortunately
I agree with you
My heart is at Ease now💙
Thankyou so much Nouman Ali Khan
If you could plz give one lecture in Urdu, I will be very grateful. I keep talking about your lectures to my mom and she does not understand a lot in English. It would be helpful, just once.
there are Urdu lectures on the site Bayyinah.TV , but you need an account.
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there are some lectures of him in Urdu on youtube
+Kaniz Fatima Have you checked out Bayyinah TV. There is a section which offers lectures of Ustaadh Nouman Ali Khan in Urdu.
www.bayyinah.tv/sp/9942-bayyinah-tv
Bayyinah Institute Jazakallah khair
does anyone know Nouman Ali khan's email. I have an issue I need his opinion on it. JAZAK ALLAH
nouman@bayyinah.com
+Areej Siddiqui www.islamweb.net/emainpage/index.php?page=fatwa&tab=3
you can ask here, there are many ulemah and they answer most questions.
Assalamualaikum check out my islamic video on my youtube channel
i don't know why im crying by his explanation of this ayat
Beautiful explanation
jazak Allaho khairan for awesome insight
Rasoolullaah صلي الله عليه وسلم never hit his wife whereas his khuluq is Quran , just because no such incident occurred in his life no such nushuz from his wife.
secondly ALLAAH said that if you dislike a thing about your wives perhaps that will be a source of good for you why didnt Allaah say instead hit them and fix them according to your wishes.. and change that very dislike habit into liked one . subhaanAllaah Quran is clear we just need to be unbiased and see the entire context & sunnah
Also do bayan on fazail amaal followers. My husband divorced me to go to jamaat and look for multiple wives. He says its his right. Iam am shattered!!!
That’s most ridiculous thing heard. The book has not mentioned any of that thing to do. Your ex-husband has made his own fatwa for which he would be accountable if he has said that. Going out in Jammat is for one own islah and to learn the correct Deen not to look out for spouses. Sister I’m sorry to say have never heard of such a view - particularly if he is a genuine jammat guy with pure intention sacrificing his time and wealth to learn the Deen. Also the time spend needs to be in consensus with the spouse and after duly taking care of the needs of the family. Hope that would remove the misconception about the Tabligh Jammat.
O my god , if spread this lecture to all muslim family life will be happy and meaningful.
Thank you sir to make me understand the ayaat.
السلام عليكم
جزاك الله خير عنا خير الجزاء
بس عندي تعليق بسيط
انا لا اعرف شعب مسلم يضرب الزوجات بحجة الدين
ولكن أعرف شواذ من الرجال المسلم والغير المسلم الذين يضربون زوجاتهم وهذا من تربيتهم وخصالهم السيئة وليس لأن الدين سمح لهم
ربنا يوفقك ويطرح فيك البركة
واستغفر الله واتوب اليه
please translate to Arabic i have so many friends that don't understand this ayah and they don't know english
+Salma Abdullah Understand it yourself and then explain it to them yourself. Or find someone who is an excellent translator in your community.
+Ha L i asked the channel not you..
Love u..u'r my teacher..thanks a lot
Macha’Allah sheikh ! May Allah reward you !
But what if the MAN goes bad? listen at 37:08 -> she's to call for help immediately!
I still don't find okey for a husband hitting wife when he "fears" cheating.
It’s more like, if a husband catches his wife in the act and he slightly hits her in the heat of the moment, god is giving him a free pass. He won’t punish the husband for losing his cool. The husband still should not even leave a red mark
First he says if you suspect something, talk to them, and if you’re still suspicious, don’t sleep with them, and then if you get overly suspicious and heated, you won’t be punished for slightly hitting. You shouldn’t even leave a red mark. You definitely shouldn’t beat your wife.
@@mayaraafat "and if you get overly suspicious and heated, you won't be punished for slightly hitting" ...I still don't find it okey 🤷 I just don't find it okey to hit women no matter how lightly
And here is the other thing ...she may not even cheat ..the man just gets more and more suspicious ...why should I as a female get hit for man insecurity?
@@mayaraafat nah bruh that's just silly. What if the women actually didn't do anything and gets beaten up wrongly? I'll leave the women period. Why the fuck would i hit her.
Salam. GOD bless you always.
I AM so Happy zu hear all of that.... because people did so much wrong
Quran: Cover to Cover