My ex was always giving our money to help his family, but had issues with me spending it on myself. Even when times were tough and I was being careful, he would still siphon money to help his siblings. I get why he was doing it, but we were going short anyway, and the fact that he was unhappy about me spending my contribution on myself was a big red flag. Which I ignored for far too long
@@aconsciousrethink we are no longer together. We are civil as we have a child together. He still does his best to control me, usually through changing co-parenting schedules at the last minute. This is usually down to his new wife and her schedule taking precedence over his son. They don't have children together, but she does have family who have priority. Strangely I have just had a text doing just that
My husband does the same thing. He gets so mad at me when I buy a coffee, meanwhile, he has a very unhealthy coffee addiction. Up to 10 coffees in one day. So I quite drinking coffee
Asking you to be careful was not wrong, but giving money to family members was an absolute NO!! He wanted you to be careful with the money so he can give it to his siblings??? I can only imagine how disgusting his family was! Hope you divorced this shitty person
This was a great informative video! My husband puts his mom and my step daughter before me and he has been doing this for years, sometimes I wonder is he even contious about it anymore.🤦🏽♀️
His daughter should be before you but not his mom. Never date a person with kids if you don’t mind not being first, once people kids they are the priority and will get everything at the end.
I've been with my boyfriend for 15 years. I've told him I want marriage for the last 8 years. 😢 I am so sad right now. Because I feel like the third wheel and him and his mom / family's relationship. He wants to go there every other day and I feel so neglected right now and so hurt I don't know what to do. I think I need to leave I just don't even know where to start and it hurts so bad. It also hurts because his family is disrespectful to me any and every time I see them. I don't want to feel this way anymore.
This behaviour is so draining and often times ur boyfriend may think ur trying to separate them from his family when your trying to ask him to put you first as his woman ...
I'm very sorry to hear this. He's not going to marry you and he's going to put other people before you. YOU are supposed to be his immediate family, as his girlfriend. The only time someone's significant other would not come first in someone's life, is when that significant other really isn't significant to them. He's not man material and doesn't understand how a relationship is supposed to work, or just doesn't care. I know it's been 15 years, but if you've talked to him about this and he isn't changing, then I would run if I were you. My husband's family was disrespectful to me so he was happy to go no contact with them. You deserve someone who puts you first. Good luck 😢
I would say break up with him even if he wants to marry you because this dysfunctional behavior between him and his family will not change. Right now atleast you have the option of freedom, but you will regret this decision later on if you choose to stay with him. You deserve a better guy in your life. Don’t undervalue yourself like this. Trust me, life will be so much better when you don’t have to constantly feel like a low priority
Ladies You are new, you are untested. For men who have a strong bond with mom that is their world. Through the darkest of times and struggles .. mom was there like a light to guide us. Never make us forcefully pick… you will lose 9/10 times
This is not only wrong but a very dysfunctional relationship. A mother is supposed to raise her child and make them independent and let them go so that they can have their own family. This is the correct way. Every other woman who fights for her son’s attention with his wife is a whore and not a mother. Some mothers think that their sons are their second husbands. It’s not right! There are plenty of normal men out there who do not have a dysfunctional relationship with their mothers. You are absolutely wrong about losing 9/10. 😂😂 infact a man who doesn’t put you first is a spineless coward. Not even worth being around
@@Taeix how would you like being with a woman that puts her daddy before you all the time? How would you like being with a woman that prefers to have a stronger bond with her daddy than with you and cares more about her daddy's feeling than yours? Would you feel loved being with a woman that's all about her daddy and puts you 2nd, 3rd or 4th in her life and acts like daddy is her husband (her true love) and you are nothing more than her roomate? 🤔
If you cannot say goodbye to the nest you've been raised in just like your father did, you are not a man like he was. If you cannot apply the same care and standard your mother did to you but for your children, you are a bad father. You are a degenerate.
That is the difference between a boy and a man, ladies. When you have a child with a man of this mentality, they will then pick the NEW child over you. No sound logic at all. Then when mom dies and the child leaves the home you are left with bitterness and a broken marriage. Spare yourselves and let them have their manipulative moms.
Ew..I'm sorry he would do that. Never let a man do that again. Tell him how weird it is. Why is his mom on his mind so much around the time you guys have sex? 🤢 🤮
This video isnt getting the number of likes it deserves. Beautifully and articulately spoken.
My ex was always giving our money to help his family, but had issues with me spending it on myself. Even when times were tough and I was being careful, he would still siphon money to help his siblings. I get why he was doing it, but we were going short anyway, and the fact that he was unhappy about me spending my contribution on myself was a big red flag. Which I ignored for far too long
I take it you are no longer together. What is your current relationship like?
@@aconsciousrethink we are no longer together. We are civil as we have a child together. He still does his best to control me, usually through changing co-parenting schedules at the last minute. This is usually down to his new wife and her schedule taking precedence over his son. They don't have children together, but she does have family who have priority.
Strangely I have just had a text doing just that
So who got the custody for your child?
My husband does the same thing. He gets so mad at me when I buy a coffee, meanwhile, he has a very unhealthy coffee addiction. Up to 10 coffees in one day. So I quite drinking coffee
Asking you to be careful was not wrong, but giving money to family members was an absolute NO!! He wanted you to be careful with the money so he can give it to his siblings??? I can only imagine how disgusting his family was! Hope you divorced this shitty person
This was a great informative video! My husband puts his mom and my step daughter before me and he has been doing this for years, sometimes I wonder is he even contious about it anymore.🤦🏽♀️
His daughter should be before you but not his mom. Never date a person with kids if you don’t mind not being first, once people kids they are the priority and will get everything at the end.
Thanks for this video. New Subscriber❤
He is going to spend Christmas without me. I will be all alone 💔
Great video! The best i found so far, masterpiece. Tysm❤
I've been with my boyfriend for 15 years. I've told him I want marriage for the last 8 years. 😢 I am so sad right now. Because I feel like the third wheel and him and his mom / family's relationship. He wants to go there every other day and I feel so neglected right now and so hurt I don't know what to do. I think I need to leave I just don't even know where to start and it hurts so bad. It also hurts because his family is disrespectful to me any and every time I see them. I don't want to feel this way anymore.
This behaviour is so draining and often times ur boyfriend may think ur trying to separate them from his family when your trying to ask him to put you first as his woman ...
I'm very sorry to hear this. He's not going to marry you and he's going to put other people before you. YOU are supposed to be his immediate family, as his girlfriend. The only time someone's significant other would not come first in someone's life, is when that significant other really isn't significant to them. He's not man material and doesn't understand how a relationship is supposed to work, or just doesn't care. I know it's been 15 years, but if you've talked to him about this and he isn't changing, then I would run if I were you. My husband's family was disrespectful to me so he was happy to go no contact with them. You deserve someone who puts you first. Good luck 😢
I would say break up with him even if he wants to marry you because this dysfunctional behavior between him and his family will not change. Right now atleast you have the option of freedom, but you will regret this decision later on if you choose to stay with him. You deserve a better guy in your life. Don’t undervalue yourself like this. Trust me, life will be so much better when you don’t have to constantly feel like a low priority
15 years and no marriage commitment? Girl run. It doesn't take that long. RUN! Much love ❤.
I hope you left.
Husband not being able to do what you spoke of ruins the marriage true intimacy and uniting cannot happen ever.
Ladies
You are new, you are untested.
For men who have a strong bond with mom that is their world. Through the darkest of times and struggles .. mom was there like a light to guide us.
Never make us forcefully pick… you will lose 9/10 times
This is not only wrong but a very dysfunctional relationship. A mother is supposed to raise her child and make them independent and let them go so that they can have their own family. This is the correct way. Every other woman who fights for her son’s attention with his wife is a whore and not a mother. Some mothers think that their sons are their second husbands. It’s not right! There are plenty of normal men out there who do not have a dysfunctional relationship with their mothers. You are absolutely wrong about losing 9/10. 😂😂 infact a man who doesn’t put you first is a spineless coward. Not even worth being around
@@Taeix how would you like being with a woman that puts her daddy before you all the time? How would you like being with a woman that prefers to have a stronger bond with her daddy than with you and cares more about her daddy's feeling than yours? Would you feel loved being with a woman that's all about her daddy and puts you 2nd, 3rd or 4th in her life and acts like daddy is her husband (her true love) and you are nothing more than her roomate? 🤔
If you cannot say goodbye to the nest you've been raised in just like your father did, you are not a man like he was. If you cannot apply the same care and standard your mother did to you but for your children, you are a bad father. You are a degenerate.
That is the difference between a boy and a man, ladies. When you have a child with a man of this mentality, they will then pick the NEW child over you. No sound logic at all. Then when mom dies and the child leaves the home you are left with bitterness and a broken marriage.
Spare yourselves and let them have their manipulative moms.
I've struggled with this for years. He would even call his mom before we would have sex.than after he would also call. It was so disgusting
Ew..I'm sorry he would do that. Never let a man do that again. Tell him how weird it is. Why is his mom on his mind so much around the time you guys have sex? 🤢 🤮
Seriously? I have never heard someone say their man did that. That is so disturbing! I am so sorry.